Reading My Asexual Hate Comments (Aphobia/Acephobia)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ต.ค. 2024
- Check out the Sky News documentary to see the comments for yourself (there were many more than what I said here, some which are worse):
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These acephobic people are just weird. Getting upset about whether someone else feels sexual attraction or not as if it in any way affects you personally is just silly.
It's the same reaction one might get for saying they don't drink alcohol. People just feel threatened by someone not wanting/needing something that is popularized to the point of addiction to some other people.
Its the same for all LGBTQ+ Related phobias
@@catarena8031 oh I never thought about it that way. Yeah that makes sense. Like one time I said I don't want to drink alcohol and the person said "oh, so you think you're better than me?!" They're just insecure cause we're seen as more "pure".
I thought another reason people might discriminate against asexuals is because they had a crush on an asexual but got rejected because of that and they took it personally.
Xenophobia is WEIRD, man. That’s what most of it is. Along with other general LGBTQ+ phobias, there’s general xenophobia playing into it.
@Zuko the rabbit REALLY
Not understanding why someone’s mad just because I’m not sexually attracted to people
people thinks that everyone should have a fucking relationship, bitch those people should die in 3:00am
Neither do I.
@Precure Cure Dragon
How rude of that person.
Don't listen to them. =)
There is nothing wrong with you.
cuz those who are upset want to fuck us. and are mad they "cant". i hate it too....
@Precure Cure Dragon Well they obviously do care, if they feel a need to say that they don't care. Frankly, if you're happy that's the main thing. How you not having sex hurts someone who is...yeah, that's crazy talk.
Asexual people: * exist *
Aphobes: Wait that’s illegal
lmao
So true.
Soo true.
Ikr
So true
A normal healthy person: Having sex
"You have no shame"
A normal healthy person:
Not having sex
"What the hell is wrong with you?"
It's because they need a reason to shame anyone who doesn't follow what they want to happen to other people's bodies, they think they're entitled to sex but then act like you're a ''used object" if it's not under their made up rules for someone else's body
Because that's not how it's supposed to be don't you understand? You're supposed to have normative sexual desires that religion and religious communities can use to exploit your feelings and manipulate you into living the way they want you too. When you're ace you completely take away that power and that's not fairrrrrrrrrr.
Society is never happy with anything, tbh.
I never understood hate for asexuals, like we’re literally doing nothing
Exactly!
That's provably the smartest thing ever said
@@acecloud30 indeed it is
Yeah, it's like the hate toward autistic people, they can't help to be this way.
I just wish people could let others live. If it doesn’t affect others then it shouldn’t matter. Also they get mad at asexuals for not being attracted to people but also don’t want them to be attracted to anyone but the opposite cis gender 😒 No one can win. It’s ridiculous
if there something called "sex without love" why people can't believe thing called "love without sex" exists.
👏👏👏👏 well said!
Because they are incapable of love.
@@WhiteScorpio2 that is not true, Stop acting like we don’t have emotions because we do. We love people platonically and romantically, hell we date and want to get married
@WhiteScorpio2 *clap clap* I _love_ this comment! Comedic genius!
@Tired and Chill They're talking about people who have aphobia(the hateful people being discussed in this video)
I'm not sure why people say "asexual people don't contribute to society"
They just dissed themselves by implying their sexual value is the only thing they can offer to society
If they don't want their games, films, books, technology, science-health-related things.....!
What do they think we're doing with all our spare time???
@@Roadent1241 Uh, go on TH-cam binges, sleep 16 hours a day and stare at the ceiling ._.
@@sadlittletroll1738 And that's OK, you don't have to contribute, if you're having a good time XP I don't really contribute much to the world of society in general, I just look after me and my parents and make things for my friends in the little world bubble I have.
Guess that means we can say you are your own society? XP
Lmao 😂
exactly. their argument is so stupid anyway. isaac newton and nikola tesla are both believed to be aroace and they've contributed more to society than i bet any of these aphobes ever could. even if they weren't actually aroace, they were able to contribute to society without having kids. it's crazy how aphobes act like that's impossible
For the person that blamed asexuality on Brexit...they do realize that there's asexuals all over the world, right? Not just in the U.K.?
and long before brexit too
And seriously how are those two related??
Exactly, I'm an asexual in the U.S (Yes, I know it's considered a mental illness in the U.S, which is why I only told my friends)
giannamolnar1 Roblox and more! I'm also in the U.S.
french asexual here ! :3
“Ace people are hyposexual” “Ace people are more pure” - do you hear that? That’s the sound of my Wattpad search history cackling in the distance
Tru. Like I'm probably more than likely somewhere on the ace spectrum but that doesn't mean I'm not a complete degenerate especially when it comes to some of my my little pony stories ;)
I've never related to something so much!😁😁😁
MOOD
The anime fanfic ive read in the past week:😳 👁️👄👁️
✔️ i'm in this and i don't like it
To all the people leaving the planet because it has asexuals on it:
Thank you, we love when the trash takes itself out.
(Credit to Connie Glynn for that line.)
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHH🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉
Yeah! There gone!
Fr🤣
David McCrea oh that’s a great one
Great if they're gone that's less ignorance and arrogance in the world
Acephobic people: Asexuality is an attention disorder
Me who is asexual: Leave me be, I wanna play Pokémon and Zelda while I eat food
Am the same way
@@nibwhipdragon 😂😂
Yeah me too. I don't spend all day thinking about sex. I spend all day thinking about video games.
me too but im Pan
Acephobes: They are just making it up for attention!
Me in a school with extremely hateful and LGBTQ+phobic bullies that all target me: ah yes of course bc i want to get their attention so they can beat me up over being asexual thats right
What's hilarious about these hate comments is so many people find sex SO important that they actually feel somehow threatened by those of us who...just...don't feel sexual attraction? I am having trouble wrapping my mind around how my lack of sexual attraction is going to harm anyone other than y'all have one less female not attracted to you anyway...
P.S. I am not vegan (also there anything wrong with being vegan)
It even gets more "funny" if you take libido into account, because so many people seem to think that libido and sexual attraction are the same. Just because biology functions doesn't mean one needs to have the urge to use it, thats nothing different to a person who doesn't want kids.
Sadly, so many people are offendet by stuff that doesn't harm them just because it differs from what they experience themselve or from people they are close to while forgetting that the same result could be achieved to multiple ways.
Its reaaallllyyyyy funny-
Its kind of like the promicuscis girl defending her status by bringing the "good girls " morals down by saying she is boring 😭😭😭😭
Time to move into a nunnery where asexuals don’t have to worry about ridiculed for not being sexual
But they are the ones that get mad when u call them hoes!!!!
Why do people care if we have sex. Like all I hear is don’t have sex until your older. But the second I say I wasn’t planning on it it’s like , WHAT!
I know right, it's so annoying! You know what I think? I think a lot of these people had a crush on an asexual and couldn't date them so now they lash out against us. Like I've turned down a few guys cause I'm ace and now they go around talking bull about asexuality
Such hypocrites.
I think they believe their desire for sex has to be universal otherwise they will feel ashamed for being easily seduced. As soon as you sway from the rule they think their identity is under attack.
“Why is she dressed that way then?”
“Because it’s hot in here and so am I, am I right?”
It's worrying how many of these comments are essentially advocating for corrective rape and genocide. I'm glad you ignore those idiots though. Your work in ace activism is great!
It’s comments like the genocide ones that make me worry about what the future holds
And then these same people say "Asexuals aren't oppressed" and "that's not true" when we tell them about the corrective rape thing
This is fucked up. I’m biromantic asexual and I have received so much hate for it. Biphobia + acephobia really suck and the hate comments that I receive are often contradictory. People will say that I’m both slutty and a sexless weirdo. 🧐
@@NatureLover-pj2qe I’m a bi romantic ace too and I completely understand how you feel
@@NatureLover-pj2qe Aphobia is even worse when its added to something else like that, I'm sorry ♡ I'm just... pure AA, Aro and Ace, and it kind of makes people double down on "so you cant love at all?????" Which isnt a contradiction like bi-aces get, but it's still awful
I'm not vegan, not religious, not attention-seeking, and I want to be a mother some day. I do my annual physical exam with a GP and my body works fine. I've never had a sexually traumatic experience. And none of those points have anything to do with my lack of sexual attraction, which is makes me asexual. I also dress any way I want for nobody's pleasure but my own.
Never have I met anybody who is just, like, me.
I felt this except, I am religious (Pagan but still), I do wanna be a father someday, although I am aromantic. I am not broken, i work fine. Yes I experienced trauma, but it seriously has nothing to do with my sexual attraction. I am not "afraid" of having sex incase my horrible memories come back. I am fine with doing it myself through self pleasure. I am aroace, I am fine...I am absolutely okay! I just dont experience romantic or sexual attraction to anybody at all :) And thats okay!!
Yeah exactly I'm asexual and I never experienced sexual trauma, I'm not religious at all and I'm not seeking attention. I still fall in love and I still want a romantic relationship but only with other females, I'm homoromantic asexual and use gay ace or lesbian ace for short. However I don't want to be a mother someday because it would be too much responsiblity and it's just not I plan on doing.
This hit hard, I’m 15 and in the closet, I’m heteroromantic, but I do want to be a mother one day, what do I do?
Anonymous Girl you can adopt
"Asexuals just want attention"
Nah fam, you got it backwards. We don't want attention. Stop coming onto us.
P.S. real talk though, you're gorgeous and asexual and that's amazing 💜💜
Exaaaaccctly, omg, I've told my classmates that I'm asexual panromantic, but they keep shipping me with all the boys in their class and asking who I find the most attractive, literally, I can't even awnser that, like: I'll just say, "well by media standards... So and so is the most conventionally attractive..."
Just stawp. It's making me uncomfortable.
Like I can love people, and I have, but I don't want to fuck people. I can, but I don't (unless say I was with a partner that I really loved and they wanted it, I'd give in a little)
I look at a person and I don't really wanna jump em for sex like most others can, so things like one night stands and all that shiz, driven purely by sexual attraction and shallow connections are just impossible for me.
I can masterbate and all that shiz but that's a physical thing not really the same as wanting to have sex with someone.
It's so nice to know there are other people that understand that complex but simple feeling, it's hard to describe in a way that most people can understand.
@@infinitechibi1496 you don't have to give in to make someone else happy. Don't have sex if you don't want to. If someone pressures you into having sex, that's not healthy.
@@Lis_Kid Exactly!
And don't worry, I don't. I'm just saying their constant pushing makes me uncomfortable sometimes. (I think it would to anybody to be honest).
@@Lis_Kid It's healthy to compromise in a relationship. I feel the exact same way. If I am willing, it's healthy.
Factssssssssss. All facts.
Theres something called "correction rape" where someone will force themselves on to an asexual to "fix" them or show them that they aren't ace its disgusting
If it happens to me Imma beat the brakes off of them em.
@@tmmaster6904 that's true
Yeah, i think it still called rape.
@@sebswede9005 yeah but they claim that they did it to correct them.
I’m ace and I was sexually abused by a girl but I wasn’t raped. I am still traumatized from the abusive relationship and it’s sad knowing that people want to “fix” aces. This is disgusting.
Acephobia is just so weird. Many straight people dont have offspring. We are no different.
Plus asexuals can have children or adopt if they want to! Having no sexual attraction doesn't prevent us from wanting to raise children.
@@HarbingerOfWAH yeah, like sure I don't want to have kids biologically but I would still like to raise some.
@@aragornsonofarathorn2170 Very true, very true. There are so many kids out there without a place to call home :(
@@HarbingerOfWAH I know, it's so sad. I'd like to adopt some one day.
Reproduction is just a pretext. They just get defensive because they're frustrated and insecure.
"Asexuals just want attention"
yeah, last time I checked, you were the ones willing to spend 100$ on drinks just so that an attractive girl would look at you for .05 seconds, not us.
This ^^^
Hear that? That’s the sound of maxed out credit cards just for a shoulder pat
Parents: DONT HAVE SEX! EVER!
Me: Okay, I wont cuz im asexual so..... yeah.. :D
Parents: Wait, no, what do you mean, you need to have sex.
Me:......... What..?
Also, am I the only one that has almost come out to people via card jokes? Like Being overly attached to the Ace of spades of anything else cuz like..... ya.... whoops
I totally get that-oh god. The ace card and symbol is how I express.
oh gods yeah i almost did that once and i-
Well, usually parents like to think their kids are not failures in life.
@@illseeyaonthedarksideofthemoon is having sex the metric for determining success in life? Please expand on this, I'm genuinely curious.
@@illseeyaonthedarksideofthemoon How is having sex equal success????
My best friend since high school recently said this:
Best friend: "asexual? Why can't they just be bi straight or gay like everyone else?"
Me:(someone who isn't out as asexual yet)"...😓"
Basically: you never know who could be asexual so don't be a dingus.
I told my friend I was asexual, they laughed and told me I was wrong. 😤😑
That friend sounds like an a**hole. It's not our choice! We can't "just be like everyone else". And same. Most of my friends have been supportive but I told a guy friend that I was asexual and immediatley he said "most people find LOVE in college." That got me so mad. I told him that we can feel love, just aren't sexually attracted to anyone. He didn't say anything so I said "so, what do you think?" I wanted to know if he supports me but he immediately said "you know, every girl I've met has never seen me as being a boyfriend, they only see friend qualities in me..." And then he went on a big spiel about how no one will date him. Like wtf?! He doesn't talk to me much now. And a few others have said "but you will have sex one day right?" And when I say that I might one day they seem to relax. It's really weird.
My lesbian friend said "EW!" When I said I was asexual. She regularly cheats on her partners. But I'm gross for not wanting sex.
@@sammieboyd6348 Ew ? Lol, it's coming from someone who's probably sexually active, twisted reality.
@@sammieboyd6348 wait, so we're disgusting for NOT wanting to place slimy things inside of us? Ok lol 😂
Funny how people feel the need to stick their nose in your business like this. Lol. I identify as an ace and thankfully I haven’t encountered this personally.
I am an aromantic asexual and i just wanted to say i appreciate your efforts greatly as an activist
Me too! Hello, fellow aroace!
yo me too🖖 sometimes i feel like everyone around me is saying they kinda get it but in the end they still think i'm weird and i don't exist or something...
hello there fellow aro/ace people!
@@cyndra3792 I don't find you weird, but it's confusing to me how someone could feel no attraction to anyone. Do you feel like no attraction at all? I have so many questions
@@drew2faded I'm gonna speak from my perspective here: The thing is that I do sometimes feel attracted to a person but I don't feel the need to pursue that feeling into a romantic relationship much less into any bed-time activity. For me it'd be fine to just be with that person or just know they're there. I have had crushes on several people but I don't have the urge to be more than just better friends with them.
I'm ace and I'm not a virgin. I'm also an uncle.
Well. I'm not vegan either. I looooooove me some cheese.
@@RobAGabor what's your opinion on burgers?
@@pigeon1923 I like them every once in a while. Sometimes I eat the meatless ones.
Hi uncle
@@J0hnB09 What is there to explain about it? Lack of attraction doesn't equal lack of libido.
“I can’t believe people like this actually exist”
“Why do people like this actually exist seriously”
I’m puzzled too. I never thought it was possible for so many people to be so amazing, lovely, and valid and yet the LGBTQIA+ community continues to prove me wrong every time.
Precure Cure Dragon
ah yes we are hurting the community by being a diverse and accepting part of it, because having more support is a bad thing am i right exclusionists?
Thank you
Let's just call it GSD (Gender and Sexual Diversity) and then it'll be easier to say but just as inclusive.
@@russellfautheree4650 I actually really like that. It makes much more sense than having like thirty letters and making it super confusing.
Isn't the LGBTQIA+ community known for not being inclusive? Like some LGB people don't want transsexuals and asexuals included?
Imagine saying “Bring back Hitler” and thinking you are the good guy/ in the right.
Omfg , why can't people just comprehend the idea that some people ( me included) enjoy other things more than sex.
Yeah! Like if someone likes sports and their friend doesn't, it's ok. But if someone likes sex and their friend doesn't, it's not ok?
Honestly, mood. One of my friends told me that I am ace because I haven't "mentally matured enough"
Bruh you are valid fam, you do you
@@spookiestking9353 aaa thank you!!! :D
@@sunny-ri9fk Of course!!
Ugh i can relate to people your age talking down to you like their older and wiser. Youre 100 percent valid
I would argue the opposite from the bs that person told you. If you wanted to be a bit cheeky, you could respond with "I have ascended past the need to experience earthly desires, mortal." You know, like a power move lol
I don't get it...why everyone hate ace people? Jeez we don't experience sexual attraction ...why is that a reason to hate or bully us? I literally hate people 😑
Please don't hate them. They are sad and screwed up and hating them hurts you, not them anyway. The world is toxic enough, let's not make if more toxic, OK.
I've never understood why people get angry at other people's sexuality.
That being said, my younger brother is ace and if someone harasses him, they're gonna catch these hands.
With their faces. Repeatedly.
Sexuality is an important part of the lives people are "supposed" to live. They're "supposed" to get a job, work there for 30-40 years, get married, have 2-3 kids, retire, and die. LGBTQIA+ people, almost by definition, ignore some part of that script.
@@timothymclean we LGBTQ+ people say we live how we want!
Even some straight cis people don't wanna live like that
I actually had a lesbian friend who said "I couldn't 'come out' as being asexual - because I'm not in the LGBTQ community". I had another friend (who's straight) be completely horrified - and ask me if I've ever had sex - which I found to be completely too personal a question. Now I just don't talk about it. I think a lot of people assume I'm a lesbian - but I'm actually hetero-romantic - but have no partner. I'm amazed at other aces that are able to find partners. LOVE your style btw and thank you for your activism. 💞
You are lgbt tbh a lot of people say aces especially hetroromantic people aren't valid but you are tbh
Considering my asexuality basically ended my last relationship, it makes me irritated when people think asexuality doesn't matter and shouldn't be acknowledged. We are definitely included in LGBTQ+
Edit: Maybe this is especially because I'm mostly heteroromantic; I've been called straight a few times and I'm like, "no, I'm definitely not straight"
"This is what veganism turns you into"
Me: *ace and eating lamb ribs*
same but with a massive chunk of beef
I ate ham this morning
And cake
Jacquelyn Mattera
yeah cake is literally a huge part of ace culture and yet people say that we’re vegan like ???
ThatOneDragonKid ! Thanks. I’m 34 now
I like the "not enough testosterone" comment because I literally inject testosterone on a weekly basis and I'm still ace lolol
I'm a fucking cis girl, I don't wanna take testosterone. Plus, I've been tested TWICE.
@Aguest Most of us have, it's common for teens to get blood work and examinations done at some point to make sure puberty is doing it's thing.
I have a high libido, as a cis/ace male it is like a curse!
@@timnewman1172for sure! i’m definitely on the ace spectrum but my libido is so whacked that that i might actually be fully asexual and not able to tell
@@timnewman1172why's it a curse
People are getting worked up over others not wanting a sexual relationship. I’m doneeeeeee!
(I’m Asexual)
Same here! 💯
I love your black lipstick
A Haak, the real moral of the video.. How cool that lipstick is!!
Me too
ikr ? it suits her so well ! :D ( sorry if my english is bad btw i'm not english. ^^" )
@@a_little_demon that was really good English except its suits, not suit :D
@@screwtapee oh okay ! thanks ! I will correct my mistake ! ^^
I got called ugly for saying I was asexual. It's just- I didn't realize that my sexuality had any bearing on my looks. Also, I get told "You're too young to know!" I'm almost an adult, people at my age have sex all the time and I don't wish to be a part of it... EVER
This was only slightly depressing but your positive attitude and strength in not being affected by these rude comments helped me keep in good spirits
Sounds like Asexual Bingo needs to be updated with a new card to play on!
Perks of being asexual: You have a distinctly lower chance of being murdered by a revenant in a hockey mask.
Con of being an asexual: getting murdered or worse by one of these pricks who left a comment on her Facebook...
Not in my case if you catch my drift
@Cloudy yk thats a jason reference right
Or most slashers if they target those who waste their time doing that instead of doing their job XD
I don't get the reference. Someone please explain (; - ;)
I hate how people say this crap, it's stupid and makes me want to cry because of how people say these fake things and we are just people that don't want our no no square touched
I just found out asexual is a thing and I am 31 currently. When I saw a video being recommended on TH-cam. I clicked on it out of curiosity. Never heard of it before and I like learning. My whole damn life just made sense. I was always told that something was wrong with me when I didn’t show any sexual desire or that I didn’t freak out over someone being “attractive”. I have had sex. I was coerced into and even raped at one point and my ex managed to convince my young, naïve, and sheltered self that what they did wasn’t rape. I felt disgusted every single time. I wasn’t raised with “sex was bad” either. I always heard these growing up and I told people I wasn’t interested in sex. So, in ordered to not feel isolated, I pretended that I was interested and talked about it. Cause I swear, it’s what most people only ever talk about and are interested in. Oh, a high action pack movie where every night die, got to force in a sex scene, people kissing, or getting married in the climate of the action. Most movies force sex into them. Why? Honestly, being so obsessed with sex seems very unhealthy since obsessing over anything IS suppose to be unhealthy, unless it’s sex.
I am glad to come across this video though. I am working on a comic and my main character is asexual. Totally going to have these comments show up. Some of these I never heard of before. It’s always either I am a virgin, something is medically wrong with me, or that i just haven’t met the right person yet.
So sorry for what you went through. It wasn’t your fault in any way and just reflects the majority of society, really.
Good luck with your comic though! It sounds awesome 🖤🤍💜
Im only 22 but I also identify as asexual and i hate the redundant sex scenes :D
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It resonates a lot with me! Excited to hear about your comic! That sounds so cool! :D
Tbh, the only thing that surprised me about this vid was the lack of comments making "jokes" about asexual reproduction
now begins my mitosis
Speak of the devil, my time has come, I will now split in two
@@mollymoonfan5939 turns into sponge.
"It's just a phase."
"You just have to find the right person."
"It is all natural, you will feel it too."
And mostly:
"You can't wear [random "sexy" piece of clothing] if you don't want sex."
I hate such sentences so much by now, makes me feel like the allosexuals don't want to understand all of that ace stuff. But then it makes me very happy to see that people like you actually fight for us all ^^ lots of love 💜
Edit: i also just remembered that I used to have an asexual character in a roleplay (she's gray ace now cuz i got sick of his comments about her being ace) and she has a boyfriend in that rp and literally the first thing my rp partner said was "they will never be as close as the other couples"... I don't understand allosexuals :')
demiacearo here i unironically like made dresses! (Demi boi nb too)
people can be really evil and disgusting at times.
How can you get mad about someone that doesn't feel sexual attraction??? Jeez, these acephobes are whack!!
Hah 😂
"What's your sexuality?"
"A sign of armageddon."
"People want to be special"
Bruh, a label is used to make a person feel normal tf
A lot of these hate comments make the term virgin an insult. How is it an insult? I'm actually proud of it in a way. 😅😅
Ye Mann, I’m anticipating the day I can make 40 year old virgin jokes about myself
Same lmao.
I never understood that as an insult it seems to only be targeted towards males.
Acephobes: You just want attention
Also acephobes: Spend their entire life savings just so a girl streamer can say their name for 5 seconds
Lmao
I don’t know why it’s so hard for people to understand asexuality. Personally, I’m not ace. However, I’m not stupid. Literally, look at any gender you aren’t sexually attracted to (unless you’re pan). It’s not that hard to imagine not experiencing sexual attraction.
LITERALLY. also consent, im pretty sure these acephobes wouldnt want people to constantly go "wdym you dont want to fuck that person?? you NEED to have sex." like hello???? do they not hurt how weird (and slightly r*pey) of a sentence "YOU NEED TO HAVE SEX" is even out-of-context to being ace???
Thank you, you're a great person. We appreciate you!
wow wow WOW!! ya I tried the pineapple once, it was rough.....JOKIIIIING!!!! LMMFAO ugh those are some of the most ridiculous comments EVER, it's like people are offended because Asexual people don't want to have sex....with them. lol I'm 40 and I was never the typical girly girl, I wasn't into boys or girls, or going out on dates or the typical HS stuff. I grew up being called a prude, or a tease, or being told well if we do it, you'll feel better, or it will 'fix' you ugh like no! I grew up knowing I was different and being treated like I was some sort of thing that people needed to fix, even now my step mother feels I just haven't found 'the right guy' YET, and tries to get me to meet some of her church friends, and I'm like oh FFS, anyhow ya people now a days are complete morons, and are offended by literally EVERYTHING, even stuff that has nothing to do with them or affects their lives IN ANY WAY. plus I'm a meat eating, non virgin proud Asexual weirdo lady and by the way, you are sexy AF, own it, love it, and stay a sassy bitch, I mean that in a nice way ;)
I'm in my 40's as well can't believe the entitlement of these assholes. People really feel the need to tell people how to live their life. Insecure assholes you wouldn't even pick even if you were out having sex. Mad cuz were not wasting our time on their stupid asses.
I'm sorry, this has nothing to do with the topic of conversation, but do you happen to be That One Cool Aunt™️?
“I won’t let them bother me” is a powerful quote and would make good merch someday...
“Mad Psychiatrist’s Revenge” is the name of my new prog rock band.
That sounds awesome!
I just want to start this comment off by saying thank you. You have no idea how much it means to me to see someone with access to a public platform using it to actually support those with similar identities to your own. I'm Asexual and Aromantic, and it really hurts to see so much hate being spread throughout spaces on the internet. So thank you for staying strong despite everything everyone throws at you, and keep being amazing!
I just found your channel and I’m in love ^^ I’m asexual too and it’s great to be able to watch such a confident, positive person. Thank you Yasmin!
I’m already scared from the thumbnail alone
Imagine hating someone for not having sexual attraction🤦♀️...what is our world coming to...
Nonsexuals have a right to dress sexy if we want.
I'm up for it to be honest.
What's "funny" is that I'm asexual and vegan, and honestly WHAT DO ONE THING HAS TO DO WITH THE OTHER? lol I don't get it
It's 'cuz meat and sex are what keep a lot of people sane, and they don't know how to live without them. God I love chicken. I could never give that up.
I do know one Ace Vegan. The rest aren't.
Same but i was asexual waaay before I was vegetarian/vegan... which in my case completely discredits the theory that veganism causes asexuality
I became vegetarian after I found out I was asexual.
Same
Yo why are people mad at us for not wanting sex? Like? Listen it's one less person to try to steal your girl why're you mad?
At 4:19 "I am *not* boring, but I am kind of weird, I'll give you that!"
I'm beginning to like you based solely on that remark! You go girl!
"Sex before marriage is bad! Don't do it!"
"Whatever. I dont want sex at all."
"Wait no! That's illegal!"
6:21 "I can't keep up with the world" the term asexuality was coined in 1977. I wouldn't say that's very new.
Thanks for always raising awareness about asexuality 💜 you really inspire me!
hey, i think the algorithm has finally figured out i’m ace. not sure if that’s a good thing, though. computers these days are learning too fast, like damn.
who needs sex when you can bake an entire cake for yourself that you don’t have to share with anyone?
looks like youll be sharing that cake
It took me a loooong time (at age 36) to figure out that i was asexual. I honestly felt something in me was broken but i knew i wasnt like the other girls. I did have a few crushes in high school but i destinctly remember, when i was about 12 wishing there was a third option outside male and female. I was a teen in the ninties and grew up in rural australia, terms asexual, non binary, etc did not exist in my vocabulary and so i could understand what i felt.
🥰🥰 good for you!!
I'm laughing at this, like, "IM MAD YOU DONT HAVE SEX, WE'RE ALL DOOMED, THIS IS SUCH A PROBLEM, YOU VEGANS!"
"I don't want to have sex"
Person 1: "OMG you seriously think that's weird enough to make a label about?"
Person 2: "What kind of freak doesn't want sex?"
If someone gives up sex to be a nun, monk or priest, no big deal.
But someone says they just don't have sexual attraction/don't want to have sex.... suddenly it's a problem.
Gods, you are my inspiration I want to be an ace activist just like you at some point in the near future.
Yes QUEEN!! I've seen so many assumptions made about us. I've seen a lot of people equating asexuality and pedophilia (because... not being sexually attracted to anyone... makes you sexually attracted to children...? I don't get it other than the fact that hey I was molested as a kid, it's SO nice to hear I'm a molester because I'm different, that's not homophobic rhetoric 101 at all!) and I've read comments about wanting to round us up and put us in concentration camps... at this point I'm entirely hate-proof. It used to get to me, now I'm like, whatever. Because ultimately these poor sods are just insecure manchildren who are just jealous of other people being happy and confident with themselves. Thoughts and prayers for them lmao
I think the assumption there it that we MUST be lying. That no one could really be asexual so it must be something really shameful (like paedophilia or bestiality) or otherwise we wouldn't say it. Which is gross. I also feel like this is why so many of us get pegged as 'secretly gay'.
It's so disgusting that people think like that. I watched a BuzzFeed video on things to not say to asexuals and the comment section was so toxic. Like this guy said that "asexual people have to be put in mental hospitals and strapped to chairs and taught biology" like wtf? I know how biology works, I just don't want sex? So weird. Most of them have probably been rejected by their asexual crush or something.
@@aragornsonofarathorn2170 I bet that nearly all of them also think that sexual attraction and libido are the same. Like, most people I met where fine when asexuals also lacked a libido, but they couldn't wrap their head around people like me that may have a libido but don't feel sexual attraction - so don't want to live out their libido with anyone. I even had people (mostly guys, but also some girls) getting mad at me when they asked me what I do when my libido kicks in and I said I just ignore it because It's just a biochemical reation of my body. They didn't understand how I could possible dare to ignore it, guess they were one of the kind that lacked the self-restraint to ignore their own.
you don't even have to state you're ace. It's enough to say you are not interested in anything beyond friendship, and the hate begins. Especially if you're an attractive female. Probably because all the losers who are hitting on us in vain take it as a personal insult/threat.
One thing some people like to bring up when I explain my asexuality is that I’m on medication that kills my sex drive/libido. Then they refuse to believe that I identified as asexual at least a year before beginning that medication. And another thing some people like bring up is that I’m conventionally unattractive, and would probably struggle to find a sexual partner if I did want to seek one out, saying I’m using this as an excuse to not “improve” my appearance. I feel genuinely tired when my own friends (several of whom are LGBTQ+ themselves) scoff and roll their eyes when I explain my sexuality (in situations where it’s brought up). I’m very glad that there is a support community for this identity.
“This is what veganism turns you into”
Me, a vegan asexual: 👁👄👁
Me who loves meat replaying to this comment : 😅
Me an asexual who just ate bacon 👁️👄👁️
Person:
Sex👍
"God what a slut"
Person:
No sex
"So you don't like your life? Be abit more wild will you."
"They're just seeking attention"
Why are you obsessed with us
Exactly! They make hate comments so people respond to them, hence giving THEM attention because it’s truly them who wants attention, not us
They do be projecting
“They’re just seeking attention.”
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“WHY ARE YOU IGNORING US??”
My depressed/ace self laughing at the ignorance
*also Jewish and damn on that Hitler one. That’s messed up
"No better than a tree" Trees are awesome, what's your point?
People hating most LGBT+ people for "being perverts"
Also het and LGBT+ allos: "hOw CaN yOu NoT sEx?!"
...Really? >.>
I sometimes wished I was a nun so people would stop asking me when I'll get a boyfriend and so I'll be able to stay quietly and comfortably somewhere deep in my closetXD
in many cultures, being chaste (unless married) was the norm and regarded highly. In some it is still. The modern amoral western culture is gross and perverted with its fixation on carnal lust.
Our attraction is our own. We don't need to justify it towards anyone.
They seem to think all asexuals are aromantic, I’m sure some are, but I’m not, I’m very attracted to women, platonically/emotionally, just not sexually.
I am aromantic, but in some periods of my life not asexual. People don't get that either.
But to be honest I would prefer to be asexual as well
Lol I'm both but my stupid ass through they where the same at one point
As an ace, gotta say aesthetics are on point. I think a lot of those twats are oblivious to the fact people can desire a look without it meaning anything else. Sometime ya just wanna look cute 👌
The fact that they assume every asexual is also a virgin is hilarious I know plenty who have tried things and are just as asexual as they were before if not MORE so.
If we do not find the appeal/do not have the need(or are repulsed by the very idea) of something why on EARTH would we do it? Like big brains people big brains
To all of the people saying that asexuality is just some stupid trend: three of the most powerful goddesses in Greek mythology, from over *3,000 year's ago* , are aroace. Athena, Artemis, and Hestia.
Artemis even runs an aroace hunting club lol.
I remember watching that Sky News segment on TH-cam and then getting angry at the comment section. They were vicious. It happens all the time and it never stops frustrating me. I love your black lipstick and your style. Just found your channel while parsing through asexual vids on this site. Keep doing what you're doing. People really do need to be educated about us. I swear no one in Virginia, USA knows what asexuality is. I've certainly never met another black female one. I'll be following you on Twitter!
Imagine being mad at someone for not liking pizza and demanding that they need to like it or claiming they are just lying cuz they can’t get pizza… 🙄
It's like when people on the internet are shocked that I could never get into certain TV shows, movies, or video games that have a large fanbase. Like...dude...it's my personal taste. I have legitimate reasons to have no interest. Does nothing for me. Same thing with being asexual and/or aromantic. It's not for everyone just because it's what is popular with the majority!
OK, I just have to make another comment. I'm an old, white lady (an american - small "a" intentional) - an ace, and want to take issue with all the "millennial" comments you got. I'm old - and ace. Finally - you are GORGEOUS - so all those hate comments on your appearance are just absurd. Plus, I love your style too. 💞
Awww, this is so wholesome 😊
~a baby Ace-spec
As a straight one I am fascigusted by people who get angry about other peoples sexual orientation. Why can someone being mad about the kind of sexual attraction another person feels, or in cases of aces don't feel? Guess their feel their way of living threatened? Or is it easier to hate someone instead of thinking about their perspective? (Not from my perspective I find hating someone is way to exhausting) Anyway don't let anybody pull you down folks and keep on living (*insert ace-flag-emoji here. I couldn't find it*)
them: you only think you're ace because you haven't had sex
me, who had no idea i was ace until i had sex: Oh, I don't think so.
Aces: existing
Allos: WHY WON'T THEY BREED!?!
Ha! I can show this to all my friends that said aphobes aren't a thing and say to them in your faces!!!
Tbh if the whole world was ace and aro it would be way better
@@tmmaster6904 AGREED
there will be no such thing as overpopulation and human species will die out quickly! WRITE IT DOWN!
I wish we could preform mitosis
Whyyyy are people so provoked by someone who doesn't want to have sex?! If that triggers them to write hate comments then they have serious issues.
I’ve seen the argument that asexuals/aromatic that we don’t feel love, like you know there’s more to love than just romantic and sexual love, like do you sexually love your mom? Romantic love towards your mom? No you don’t. all I feel is platonic love towards people, is it that hard to understand?
Hey, I'm bi, I will never fully get what it's like to be asexual but I don't feel the need to hate you... Like why would I, you're literally just not doing anything, would've never thought people have a problem with this😂😂 glad I watched this now tho, stay strong, you do you❤️
Thank you! 💜 Actually you do know what it's like to not feel sexual attraction (even if you're bisexual), otherwise you would be sexually attracted to EVERY human being. But I assume that there are people out there you are not sexually attracted to. Asexuals just don't feel sexual attraction to anyone. It's as simple as that.
@@alexsauerbach105 OK yea that actually makes a lot of sense. I just thought I'd never fully understand but you're so right. Thank you so much for the response❤️
Thanks man I already have enough people hating me for many things lol
“That black girl is ugly” Said to the woman who could literally be a model
just realize that I´m asexual and let me tell you it feels lonely, I don't even know how too tell anyone.
I always loved the idea of having a family, child, someone to love, and I know aseexual couple are a thing but to be honest I think it is going to be so hard, almost impossible to find someone willing to be with me. I fell desolation and sadness
Aw. Let me a random TH-cam commenter help you out. You could foster children without being in a relationship with somebody, although caring for children alone is hard. Also if you like children you could be a teacher or work at a daycare, both difficult but important jobs. You would have a family that way. You can still love and be loved. Take care and love yourself. Don't despair. Have a good day
Also don't discount the friendships you have. I think platonic love is the most beautiful thing!😍
You’re not alone ❤️
We all support you :)
I'm asexual too and I support you. I would love to have an asexual partner. I think I would prefer a platonic one even though I'm not aro. Kinda like a close friend who I live with and we can adopt kids together and get married.
Same, you're not alone. Let's start an asexual dating site.
Parents: “Don’t have s*x until you are married.”
Me, ace: “......Okay.....”
Also my parents: “So when are you getting married and having kids?”