I actually am not interested in high society or marrying a rich man. But I find your channel AMAZING and a big inspiration in my life. As you said, it's about balance. Your channel is about principles of success and personal transformation, helpful to everybody regardless of end goals.
" my dear elegant ladies" is my favourite sentence these days haha I'm glad you made this video. There are so many people confused about your content and misinterpret your message
People have a tendency to misinterpret things because they don't pay attention to the relevant details and thus file things in buckets they don't belong in. Anna could talk her face off and there would still be people misunderstanding her, because communication is a two-way street regardless of what lazy people like to pretend when trying to blame others for their own shortcomings
The truth is... if you’re drawn to this channel, you’re probably above average in terms of elegance. All the tips you give us are probably intuitive to most of us but you say it with so much grace and elegance that it motivates us to be more mindful of the little details that make us classy. I’ve forwarded a few of your videos to some friends and they just didn’t resonate (it’s obvious why). Thanks for all you do Anna! It makes me want to be better every day. 💖
I would love a video about how to be a lady/well behaved when people are rude and you're facing argue/non-class behavior. Often in such situations, people use it against you if you do not go to the same low level as they are.
What I did is I kept the beautiful side of my personality, but I rounded it off with being softer, being kinder, less or no swearing, eating healthier, exercising, taking care of my hair, skin and nails, dress more modest and more expensive good quality clothes, remembering less is more, less makeup and jewelry, studying hard, working hard, sleeping early to be able to wake up earlier and start my day right, having amazing posture 😊 but its all still ME..
So happy to hear that. I missing the exercise part at the moment. Should add saving as well to the list. Being financially smarts and working towards security is also elegant
Pause, think and ground yourself. In addition, people who’re often trying to rattle you don’t know what to do when you don’t give them “ammo” or are looking for a reaction. Think Miranda (from The Devil wears Prada). Edit: Being assertive is something you learn as a child ie your parents teaching you about boundaries and you being allowed the space to express yourself and discovering your own boundaries. Being unnecessarily aggressive is just another form of a deep seated insecurity and the inability to express yourself outside of anger.
Good advice from all the comments. Mine has always been simpler. 'You do not have to show up for every fight you are invited to'. Genuinely ask yourself if some behaviours are worth reacting to. In the heat of the moment, it's easy to think that it needs 'strong action' when actually walking away is exactly the right response
So glad you made this video. I’ve been seeing so many comments like “I don’t want a rich man but I love your videos”, and those people are sweet, but they’re failing to realize Anna’s channel was never about just bagging a rich man. School of Affluence is about elevating yourself into a more elegant and savvy woman- whether your goal is to become more feminine or date an affluent man etc.
Be the elegant lady. Your child will learn everything from you. That's what my mom did and that's how she raised me, then subconscious on my side and absolutely conscious on hers.
In all reality, you need to lead by example and set them up for success. As much as you can, give them stepping stones. Try to prioritize their education and their learning skills that will allow them to relate well with others in the future and surround them with people you’d be happy to see them imitate.
My mother took my sister and me to high tea starting when I was 5. She modeled lady like behavior all day everyday. She is now 90 and still the most elegant lady I know. When I took her out to dinner the other day she had the sweetest demeanor with our server. That is elegance.
I just love the fact that you inspire women to be the best version of themselves even with this generation of many trends how to remain a classic ... Most people don't really get that.
I am only 21 years old and own my own business. Your channel really helps me to learn to present myself in a way that people would take me seriously, look elegant, yet still keep the young spirit!
Even if I not trying to reach high society,I am actually trying to elevate me because I am from a medium-low background. So your video are such an inspiration: I am 25, I work in a supermarket for 6 years and last year, I decided to go to school in order to have a degree that will allow me to create my own business and have better frequentations. (I am not a native English speaker so don't hesitate to correct me)
I am trying to elevate myself*..so your video is* such an inspiration. I am 25, I've* worked in a supermarket. The corrections have the *asterisk behind them. The rest was fine.
My grandmother was the most elegant women I've ever known, she wasn't from high society. She never worn flat shoes, gym shoes or any form of leisure wear, she glided when she walked and was admired by all. Shes was a humanitarian, those who ever needed her help she was there without question. Shes no longer of this earthly plan, her love is along with her elegance. 😇 l love you gran.
My late grandmother was also an elegant lady. I love wearing broche because of her because i am trying to imitate her look. During her 60's she would still wore 5-7 centimeter high heels. And most importantly she taught me to sit up straight no hunchback. Just like what Anna teaches on her other videos. My condolences for your grandmother. She will be in paradise just like mine.
My grandma is the same! But her story is a bit sad. She'd always wear heels out, dress with the latest fashion, she was always so elegant. But when she got a bit older and couldn't walk in heels she shut herself inside the house and never came out again... She doesn't want the world to see her in any less of a way. My grandpa's death also made her close into herself even more. I'm still trying to find ways to get her out of the house..
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu Hi, as strange as it seems my granmother became a reclusive after the death of her husband all you can do is be supportive, all the best.
At 65, I can no longer wear high heels, but high heels don't necessarily equal elegance. Anna published a video last year on elegant shoes that have low or flat heels.
Audrey Hepburn is a good example of a very elegant and well mannered woman - but who also had a vivid personality! (The example is more old school, but I hope someone gets what I meant by that.)
I went to Finishing School a few decades ago and the goal was to be a good wife, a good hostess, in short everything revolved around getting married and managing the household. When I first saw the School of Affluence I was very curios to see how are you teaching, for example, how to step out of a car?, how to sit?, etc. because that was my experience. Dear Anna I congratulate you for spearheading this transformation you have added contemporary skills and reaching women who otherwise would not have the opportunity to learn this kind of advice. To me being elegant is like knowing several languages, it is knowing how to behave in different scenarios. Today we need skills like networking, how to make a good impression on a business meeting. You offer tools for personal improvement if one wants to use your advice to look for a husband, good. If one wants to be a power house your advice is also on point. I would like to see videos about networking and how to define your personal style. BTW I love your videos. Congratulations!!
I got employed by a high end department store when I was 16 and after university I got employed as a teacher in a wealthy private school. I’ve always been inspired by elegance, have followed sophistication and have also worked very hard which is probably why I ended up in these places. I’m not married to a rich man because I wasn’t interested in rich men when I was dating - I actually refused to date them - but my husband is well educated and articulate which is all I’ve ever wanted in a man. His good looks are a bonus. I came from a lower socioeconomic background where my wonderful father couldn’t work due to chronic illness and my mother did what she could to make ends meet. My parents taught me to think laterally and to follow people who were more skilled and respectable rather than follow the herd and be mediocre. I think your videos are invaluable parenting tools for bringing up girls. I don’t have a daughter but I want my son to be a dignified man who will hopefully marry an elegant lady one day. Thank you!💖
I’ve always enjoyed books and movies about princesses, high court, and aristocracy in general. It’s an interesting culture/history, especially as an American... particularly a Black American- the contrast is fascinating! I’m also curious about the progression and evolution of this demographic in modern times. Where did these people go? I’ve learned that many are hiding in plain sight, and have quite broad associations! Growing up in Florida, and having lived in NYC, with career experience in the hospitality industry, I’ve had the opportunity to observe affluent individuals and families in both casual and formal settings when they are “on” socializing with networking intentions. I can typically tell the difference between someone who is pretending, and someone who genuinely has class. For this reason, it is appealing to me as a young low-income individual from a lower middle-class family, to learn and apply the nuanced behavior that elevates ones persona. Just because I don’t come from these circles doesn’t mean I don’t aspire to enter them one day. Also, just because I came from a modest background doesn’t mean I have to settle there. I think, any woman would be wise to continue elevating her financial status, education, and networking circles- not only for personal benefit, but also for the security of her future! Being upwardly mobile requires a curated skillset I am all too happy to obtain. These videos offer valuable concepts to consider, and a discreet way to discuss topics that might otherwise be taboo in a social setting.
Nya Smith I truly believe success is just a habit away. Learning feminine and mindful habits is something a woman from any background can achieve. There are rich people with no class and poor people with dignity.
I like your concept except for one thing: a 'low' setting doesn't mean low individuals. Living a life in the modesty of a 'low level' it's perfectly good if you have dignity and pride. It's you way of living that put value in you, not how or where you live. I can find gems of people withing poor families and scums within high society. And, from my experience only, high society people know more of what life is but less of who they are, they're interesting and funny when they talk about what they've done or teach you about what they're interested in, but boring when they have to talk just about themselves, because they don't usually know their bare self. I think it's a win win situation if one is able to take the best from the base of the pyramid as from the top of it. I personally value a lot when someone is low class and choose to live a good life in it, without big dreams beside the one to be a better person for himself and his family. For me it's reassuring to have friends like them, they do not want anything, they do not take, only give, and the most precious thing they give you are lessons. :)
Having started my program on School of Affluence I understand your point of view even more. I am so grateful for the effort you put into the program because it explains your message so well. 😘
You are a real diamond on TH-cam land, hard to find, very valuable and appreciated by people, mostly women, shining with elegance, intelligence and charm. 💕 Love you so much.
"Elegance is a mindset...elegance is self-respect" Wow Anna, thank you for this video, it was very clarifying! I just subscribed a week ago and have enjoyed your videos. Spending my whole life catering to narcissists (my mom and ex, in particular) has left me feeling depleted and like I lost who I am. I am in a new place now and am excited to step up my game! A lot of what you teach has resonated with me, however, I admit I was one of your subscribers who was confused and thought that I had to stop being who I am in exchange for etiquette. LOL! I am naturally a happy and expressive person and when I watched some of the videos what came to mind was that I will never be "poised" enough. LOL! I am laughing because now I understand your stance on what Elegance is. Thanks again, Anna, and I would enjoy more sit-down videos in the future along with your teaching videos. ~Annie
Such a shame that no one understands balance anymore. I love this channel and put a lot of your advice to practice AND I ride a dirt bike. You can be elegant and keep true to your personality. Imagine!
You arent alone authenticity is respected. Safe expression is important knowing in reality we are all personally driven different ways because varying biological make up or environmental influence during our upbringing/grooming. I hope Grace will help me maintain learned behavior at my status in life and I continue to achieve.
I thought she did a rendition of A Day In My Life vid. Scour her recent videos. In one, she showed her going to workout, working on laptop,weekend spa massages w/ partner, weekend dinner. I think as long as we’re not requesting intrusion into her private life (lunch w/ friends, or seeing a house tour, etc) that’d be ok. Anna has to walk a fine line between keeping her personal life personal and divulging her background, friends, etc via Q& A videos.
I did not come from wealthy background but my mother taught me etiquette & decorum. She also encouraged hard work, education I am eternally grateful to her for it.
What a wonderful conversation to have and explore. Thank you. My grandparents were from modest mid-west American backgrounds. No where near “high society”. But eventually people from high society will find you no matter your background if you display elegance and good character. To meet elegance is synonymous with self awareness. Choosing to behave in an elegant way can be anyone’s choice and it elevates yourself and people around you. Elegance is to behave admirably.
True, and that's precisely why elegance, good manners, a kind heart and a sharp mind are way more valuable than phisical beauty, that depletes itself over time. A couple days ago, in Italy we had a new governement resettle, and the Minister Bellanova were violently criticised for her appearence (she's overweight and she was wearing an electric blue suit, unlike others who were in black) and the woman replied: " The true elegance is to respect your mood".
Only insecure people find the need to be snobbish. There is a term nouveau riche. Newly rich. People who have money in their families for generations generally are much more humble and down to earth. When I ride with groups I find the people with the oldest trailers and horse vans have the most money.
@@debracannonrndsn2564 Me too. Newly rich and wannabe rich usually have: la puzza sotto il naso (the stink under their noses) and they mind their money more than others.
No one's perfect, but you're pretty close! Your channel is more than a school of affluence. It's a school of opportunity. You give us the opportunity to give ourselves a total make over. You're telling us, no matter what our past or present situation is, we can change if we want to. Not just change our looks - change our entire persona. That's a meaningful goal! If people get confused, you owe it to yourself to sit down and chat with us to clarify. It's good to ask, "What to you ladies want?" but it's also important to ask, "What would I like to say?" That's part of elegance. There is no need for us to be misunderstood. We all have voices. You are teaching us to use our voices in a friendly, non-threatening, articulate way. Bravo!
Well said Anna! I am a 57 yr old boho business owner in Southern California. Ha! Born and raised at the Beach in California (hence the boho style) My mom and grandmother both went through finishing school. I didn't want anything to do with it growing up. I was a daddy's girl and wanted to be outside playing with the boys. But I have noticed over the years what being this way has cost me. I pushed my femininity, self-respect, and a host of other qualities aside. I didn’t embrace my femininity and honestly, didn't get treated very well by men or by women. I am married to a wonderful man who treats me well but relies on me to do it all (because I am strong like a man) I am fed up with that image and ready to level up.
I have learned so much from your videos 1. How to have self-respect and why 2. How to have manners and why 3. How to treat others and why 4. How to present yourself to the world and why that matters 5. How to embrace one’s femininity and what that looks like, etc. Obviously, I am not jet setting and have no desire to. However, all the teaching you provide in this channel are very helpful to me and any female wanting to elevate their life to the next level. Anna, I am so thankful for you, and I appreciate you!
Elegance lies not in the clothes we wear, but in the way we wear them. It isn’t in the way we wield a sword, but in the dialogue we hold that could avoid a war. Elegance is achieved when, having discarded all superfluous things, we discover simplicity and concentration; the simpler the pose, the better; the more sober, the more beautiful. Paulo Coelho
Thank you. Where we are with all the "sexy" emphasis in society, elegance is a necessity. Many don't understand it, because elegance has been far removed over the last decades. So, as the pendulum swings back to it, the understanding of it may take some time. I agree that elegance is a mind set and is exemplified in not so much what we do but how we think. Realizing that "sexiness" is boring and mainstream. Also elegance is exemplified in the "classic women." I used to do color and personality analysis and we discussed 4 fashion types: Natural, classic, dramatic and gamine. I went to a grooming school long ago and we discussed more options. So, elegance can also be exemplified with fashion personality type. The dramatic would have a tendency towards "boho" and excess. So this person would need a way to express their personality while remaining elegant. The same with the other personality types. I say continue with elegance and some of the misunderstanding with iron out as our society begins to understand it more.
I agree with you. I understand that sometimes Anna has to explain yourself because her videos and ideas run counter to today’s culture. Please do a video on what type of general behavior that an elegant lady should expect from a gentleman. Just like society needs more elegant ladies we need more gentlemen too.
@@jessyeheilman571 a pleased genuine "Thank You" shows. sometimes I feel like I am being given empty compliments "Oh I love your your suit." five seconds after you've been introduced doesn't feel very real.
I appreciate this video so very much, because I try to incorporate your tips into my daily life and there were times I felt like oh boy I need to adjust because of the perfect picture of elegance. I'm happy to hear the goal is not to be perfect, but there is accommodation for your personal style. Eg. Eventhough you said when luxury handbags start to patina it is time to get rid of it, I actually like when the leather has a golden patina and I do prefer shorter trench coats at times, so the clarification is nice.
I am not in an affluent crowd, however I have learnt so much from you in just presenting myself elegantly, my behaviour my conversation, my dress, my body, self respect and confidence. I totally get it , not being affluent does not stop you from being elegant, so to me you are doing a good job. I would encourage everyone to drop the criticality and try to take something positive from your kind and informative channel. Thank you Anna.
I agree on the raising elegant children topic and then also more on overcoming depression/frustration with current life circumstances that aren't about how to necessarily obtain a relationship. I'm married and have a child but am trying to level up.
Dear Anna, the advice you give on being an elegant lady is so precious that I really wish you wouldn't waste this precious time justifying and explaining yourself to those who are purposely stereotyping and misunderstanding what you have to say. Please realise that for every one person criticising and misunderstanding your message there are hundreds of women like me who completely understand and need your advice. Thank you for all you do.
It is so refreshing to see what Anna is bringing to a society that has become devoid of manners, class and a sense of what is proper in women of all ages. We can all learn new things and improve ourselves, no matter the age. There are always detractors in any situation, usually ignoring them will cause them to go away, eventually.
I will be 58 in about a month from now. Very enjoyable content, in my view even the one who doesn't see a need in SCHOOL OF AFFLUENCE, can see it as a SCHOOL OF ELEGANCE
Perhaps a good analogy is that a diamond will always be a diamond, but if it is “refined” in the right way it will maximize the most effective amount of shine, radiance and brilliance. So therefore the diamond will always be a diamond, just a better version of itself💎
1. Interviews with men and women with class, self respect offering tips for the right mindset and challenges to misguided beliefs. 2. Tips for married women as well and how to carry herself with loving, gentle, humble yet bold self confidence inside and outside the home. 3. How the way we dress and carry ourselves impacts who and what we attract.
What I like about you is that your message resonates with woman who want to cultivate poise. I don’t care about being around affluent people I have been around them all my life and they don’t interest me. But being presentable, impeccable manners, kindness, elegance, and poise are important period in dealing with everyone. You teach that and I respect this message and appreciate that you are “ giving away” your important message for the empowerment and support of ALL woman. I feel I influence people wherever I go. People are attracted to poise and when you are confident friendly and composed you influence woman to become better because they can be better. We r a work in progress.
Well said...and I think that your philosophical basis is LESS IS MORE....and I totally agree: To achieve elegance in a SIMPLE but classy way is more than enough.That's the goal.
It is a heartwarming knowing that there is this lady,never get tired of advising ,makes you feel worthy,reminding that you deserve to be respect ,and that's why I love your videos Anna Bay,🥰 as well my sister😊
I am obsessed with your videos. Thank you for doing this! I am teaching my 13yr old daughter from everything I am learning from you. I want her to be a proper young lady and not struggle when she grows up a bit more.
babushka poponick Sad to say that it seems like no one ever showed you about respect, privacy, respect and tolerance. What’s sad is saying “sadly” to being transgender, please be mindful and have a little respect for all people of all sizes, shapes, colors, and *sexuality* be a decent human being by not “joking” about/making comments about such things, no human being needs to be marginalized. Spread love not hate(phobia) ☺️💕
Your daughter will learn a LOT watching you and mimicking what you do, corrections in private if possible. If she likes to read, provide her with booklets, pamphlets, etc that will give her other's points of view and instructions. You are off to a great start with your future elegant and poised daughter. Much success!
@@babushkapoponick3384 completely uncalled for and rude, you are in the right place however. You have a lot to learn and can benefit by remaining silent, observing and listening. Wishing you success at becoming more ladylike.
Anna, I loved this video and it gave me a clearer look at you on a personal level. I used to think of you as someone who's strict or someone who'd say "you should be like this or like that" but that wasn't really the point you were trying to convey. I understood that people are different and I struggle being a perfectionist which isn't a good thing since it leads to frustration if perfectionism wasn't met. When I heard you say being picture perfect (not literally in pictures but also in our behavior) isn't really how we should be, my eyes were opened and people wouldn't want somebody who's manufactured. People want us to be ourselves like what you have always told us, your viewers. You're true to your words and slowly, I will learn from my mistakes and maybe become as elegant, real, and confident as you are.
I think elegance has to do way more with how you carry yourself, how you treat others, you're genuine self. The outside just reflects who you are Inside and how you think of yourself. I love Ana's videos. !!
You are such an inspiration. It is so beautiful to see someone speak honestly about what they want in this life. It is also lovely to see someone teaching these skills. Thankyou for all you do.
A very nice conversation. I always look forward to your posts. A chat now and then would be lovely. Elegance is to remain you while you improve your manner of speaking, becoming well read and to be dressed in appropriate attire for the occasion. To be polite and on time is an asset to becoming elegant.
My non-affluent grandmother taught me the things you are teaching in your videos, and hearing you talk about them makes me feel my Nana is still here - if only in my heart.❤
Hi Ana. I just wanted to add a voice of appreciation for what you are teaching. I am not a young wanna-be jet-setter (I'm 70 - yikes!), happily married for 51 years, and not at all wealthy (never have been), but I have learned quite a bit from you! My mother was a naturally elegant lady, although she, too, was never wealthy. One of the reasons my husband married me was because he saw those qualities in my mother and that she had cared for herself well & behaved elegantly until she died at 82. So I learned the basics from her. However, I am learning and incorporating new patterns from you now. I think it's basically about being respectful and considerate of others and not behaving offensively (even in little areas such as your video of what not to eat). Please continue to help us "up our game". Thank you!!
I appreciate how you stress, "this is not the only valid way - it's just that if you want to be elegant and feminine, this is how to play that game." Embracing femininity and elegance has been a challenge for me because I was raised in an environment where such "frivolity and vanity" was subject to prune-faced disapproval. I don't want to move in high society or be all classy lady all the time, but these videos help me reach a happy medium. They're oddly validating and very educational. I also love your emphasis on how conventional beauty isn't strictly necessary because my gifts are definitely in other areas.
Please never stop what you doing, Ms.Anna. This’s lofty ! It’s clear up alot of thing I feel wrong but can never point out for fews year of dating men or in the common space until I started watch your channel last year, I feel more confident and happier bcuz I know I’m elevate, or at least not make the mistake which make people feel awkward. The relationship and the mans quality get better. The elegance and feminine always willing by the man as long as it’s practice naturally, I admit this. My target not really for reach to high society BUT never lower then my valuable is successful for me, cause of you. What you re doing could change someone’s world forever, specially who have no one to lead on like mother or sister, like me. Thank you, Anna ! *sr for too long if anyone read this all
I'm sorry for the crap you've gotten for being misunderstood. I absolutely love your channel. I was raised in a little backwater po-dunk town in Texas and these are not principles that were ever taught there and now in my older years, I want to do better for myself and, most importantly, so I can raise children that are classy and elegant because I know how it will benefit them. There are always going to be people who hate just to hate but just know you are helping people better their lives and that is a noble calling. I appreciate you and your channel. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Anna, I started watching your videos two days ago and have stayed awake almost all night to learn, learn, learn from them. I think you’re so amazing, thank you for sharing all your knowledge, it is very helpful. Personally I would love to see more teacher-style videos, because you show examples that I can apply to my daily life or shop similar type of elegant clothes that you talk about. Excited for the next video!
Ana, I hope everyone who has ever been quick to judge you watches this video, it gives so much insight into your true personality ❤️ I agree that along the way many people have morphed your message into something it is not. I have a lot of respect for you. As a young teenage girl you inspire me to be elegant, confident and successful!
School Of Affluence, I hit the like button before I even watched the video. Thank you for posting and thank you for your excellent tips and advice you give on how to be elegant.
It’s wonderful to have you making these videos at a time when we no longer know the distinction between a lady and a gentleman. Thank you for your courage.
I just want to say, thank you. Your videos teach me so much. I’m 38 & I was never taught how an elegant lady should carry herself. I naturally have always had an elegant nature but still was lacking in that category. I really appreciate your channel!! I needed this
I would love a video that is related to anything that has to do with us teenage girls, becoming elegant ladies. I am aware of your video that was just for teenage girls but I would appreciate another one. Love your videos Anna❤️
I love that! I must admit I had also started thinking that this elegant model was unattainable, due to my personality. Not that I am aspiring to becoming part of high-society, but I have always liked the thought of becoming more refined and presenting myself better. You are explaining it very well, thank you, Ana!
I have only recently discovered your channel and I love it. Your advice is so down to earth and full of basic common sense. One thing I will add is that I am old enough to not be interested in finding a rich husband, looking for more promotion at work or aspiring to high society, but being elegant and, well groomed and behaving appropriately in any given situation is something that I believe every woman needs to do for herself. Everything else will follow after that.
For me many of the tips have to be tailored quite a bit. I work with food so can't have painted nails, but now I make sure my nails don't look dry and ragged. Which makes me feel prettier. I dress much more causally; I'm currently in college to become a civil engineer. So while keeping comfortable I'm slowly adding in pieces that will transition into a work wardrobe. Trousers instead of jeans. Loose fitting button up shirt vs a t-shirt. Nice ballet flats instead of flip flops. Etc. Also I don't tailor all my clothes but do for pants. I'm a full size larger on bottom then on top and pants have always been difficult. I taught myself how to take in the waist on pants and it's so much better! If you can't sew definitely try a tailor on any problem clothes. I like all the videos 💚 you are an inspiration!
I love that you are teaching elegance. I think it also have elements of inner and outer awareness. This brings in self-reflection and understanding of people. With today's social media and Hollywood, people have lost that elegance and etiquette that historically is part of the social norm. I am glad you are bring it back!
It isn't for another to judge you. They don't know what you have experienced, and could have endured because of your situation. Be true to yourself and authentic, of course taking into account the needs and feelings of any children, and extended family. They may need communication around your decisions.
I am older and already married but really enjoy your elegance talks - it is what is missing in the young women today - and elegance can be empowering - just like self respect - when I see young women dressing like hoes and cursing I know that men AND women do not respect them
I love that you encourage elegance. I love to be a faminine wife and mother. Regardless of wealth or status every woman has the oppertunity to create a beautiful life for herself. That's why I watch.
This video was great. One fault of modern feminism is the push for every woman to go for a position of power. While I think that is fantastic, it is not the right choice for everybody. Your videos and teachings are meant for those who want to improve themselves regarding personal presentation, elegance, and this should all be added on top of our unique personality
I am drawn to this channel because it validates my idea about fashion and make me feel like my style preference is okay. I once stopped being myself, and changed to go with the crowd during my youth. Now, I am way past pleasing others. I want to please myself. I learned more too. I am not interested in high society. I don't intend to meet men from that society. But I am conservative. I am doing this for myself. And it is nice to see that I am not wrong in my preference. I am not 100% elegant. I don't even consider myself as sophisticated. I just want to express myself. But your videos make me feel that my feelings about myself are valid.
I choose to be more elegant, more poised, more confident, more gracious, more kind, more like a Lady... Your advice is vintage and timeless and forward thinking all at the same time. Thank you. Being able to receive constructive criticism and apply it to ones self is a big part of being a lady and elegant imo🥂
I appreciate your insight and do not want you to address the trolls anymore. People like me love to grow and keep moving upwards. Your vlog allows me to realize the message I am sending with my attitude, clothing, and behavior. I appreciate you.🌹💝
I don't know if I understood elegance completely....but I really love your channel I had a party this month and after being inspired by your channel I behaved so differently like I didn't spoke anything foolish or did anything foolish and it was not on my mind it just happened.... It's like I already knew what a elegant lady would do and not only a elegant lady but a better person like- I didn't get involved with my friends talking bad about others.....And yes I think I made myself irresistible for my crush.... Thank you Anna
At first, I was not sure about your message. As I watched and listened to your message, we have more in common than expected. Please keep sharing in with your authenticity and fun way that reflect your values.
I actually am not interested in high society or marrying a rich man. But I find your channel AMAZING and a big inspiration in my life. As you said, it's about balance. Your channel is about principles of success and personal transformation, helpful to everybody regardless of end goals.
A huge and BIG, YES 🙌 So very inspiring.
Same here!
indeed!
Same here.
agreed!
" my dear elegant ladies" is my favourite sentence these days haha I'm glad you made this video. There are so many people confused about your content and misinterpret your message
so much better than "Hi Guys" that EVERY other video blog starts with
I love this too 🥰
me too! it makes me feel good.
People have a tendency to misinterpret things because they don't pay attention to the relevant details and thus file things in buckets they don't belong in. Anna could talk her face off and there would still be people misunderstanding her, because communication is a two-way street regardless of what lazy people like to pretend when trying to blame others for their own shortcomings
The truth is... if you’re drawn to this channel, you’re probably above average in terms of elegance. All the tips you give us are probably intuitive to most of us but you say it with so much grace and elegance that it motivates us to be more mindful of the little details that make us classy. I’ve forwarded a few of your videos to some friends and they just didn’t resonate (it’s obvious why). Thanks for all you do Anna! It makes me want to be better every day. 💖
I would love a video about how to be a lady/well behaved when people are rude and you're facing argue/non-class behavior. Often in such situations, people use it against you if you do not go to the same low level as they are.
Great idea👍
Would very much appreciate this type of video.👏👏
Great video idea
Excellent suggestion
Great suggestion
What I did is I kept the beautiful side of my personality, but I rounded it off with being softer, being kinder, less or no swearing, eating healthier, exercising, taking care of my hair, skin and nails, dress more modest and more expensive good quality clothes, remembering less is more, less makeup and jewelry, studying hard, working hard, sleeping early to be able to wake up earlier and start my day right, having amazing posture 😊 but its all still ME..
Very well said. I think this is the perfect way to go about it.
So happy to hear that. I missing the exercise part at the moment. Should add saving as well to the list. Being financially smarts and working towards security is also elegant
Wow well said
This is perfect.
posture is soo under rated
Can you talk about how to reduce aggression and be softer and more feminine in situations that require strong action?
Think assertive versus aggressive.
Pause, think and ground yourself. In addition, people who’re often trying to rattle you don’t know what to do when you don’t give them “ammo” or are looking for a reaction. Think Miranda (from The Devil wears Prada).
Edit: Being assertive is something you learn as a child ie your parents teaching you about boundaries and you being allowed the space to express yourself and discovering your own boundaries. Being unnecessarily aggressive is just another form of a deep seated insecurity and the inability to express yourself outside of anger.
@@donnaleveron5711 with all respect that's not necessarily helpful to someone who doesnt really know the difference
Good advice from all the comments. Mine has always been simpler. 'You do not have to show up for every fight you are invited to'. Genuinely ask yourself if some behaviours are worth reacting to. In the heat of the moment, it's easy to think that it needs 'strong action' when actually walking away is exactly the right response
Yes please to this.
So glad you made this video. I’ve been seeing so many comments like “I don’t want a rich man but I love your videos”, and those people are sweet, but they’re failing to realize Anna’s channel was never about just bagging a rich man. School of Affluence is about elevating yourself into a more elegant and savvy woman- whether your goal is to become more feminine or date an affluent man etc.
I know she liked your comment but her channel is literally themed around finding a provider.
I wish you could give some advice for moms who want to raise elegant children x
Be the elegant lady. Your child will learn everything from you. That's what my mom did and that's how she raised me, then subconscious on my side and absolutely conscious on hers.
In all reality, you need to lead by example and set them up for success. As much as you can, give them stepping stones. Try to prioritize their education and their learning skills that will allow them to relate well with others in the future and surround them with people you’d be happy to see them imitate.
Angela Raskovska this includes the media they consume!
My mother took my sister and me to high tea starting when I was 5. She modeled lady like behavior all day everyday. She is now 90 and still the most elegant lady I know. When I took her out to dinner the other day she had the sweetest demeanor with our server. That is elegance.
Teach them manners and etiquette. Emily Post Etiquette book is great.
I like this woman ALOT, my kind of girl 👍
me too, its so relatable to me
Can you do a pice on. Dressing classy being a heavy lady
Totally. I’m so grateful for her experience. It impresses upon people that we didn’t come out of a cave.
I don’t she’s vulgar. I take it back. There is some thought there that is more than a mm thick. However I find the premise sad.
Same she just gets it
I just love the fact that you inspire women to be the best version of themselves even with this generation of many trends how to remain a classic ... Most people don't really get that.
Well said!
I am only 21 years old and own my own business. Your channel really helps me to learn to present myself in a way that people would take me seriously, look elegant, yet still keep the young spirit!
Even if I not trying to reach high society,I am actually trying to elevate me because I am from a medium-low background. So your video are such an inspiration: I am 25, I work in a supermarket for 6 years and last year, I decided to go to school in order to have a degree that will allow me to create my own business and have better frequentations.
(I am not a native English speaker so don't hesitate to correct me)
You have made an excellent start, wishing you much success!
@lau rine You are going to be successful beyond your imagination 💗
I am trying to elevate myself*..so your video is* such an inspiration. I am 25, I've* worked in a supermarket. The corrections have the *asterisk behind them. The rest was fine.
Congratulations girly! You will be great, ask God to guide you and believe that he will! ❤️
Pray and prepare 😊
❤
My grandmother was the most elegant women I've ever known, she wasn't from high society. She never worn flat shoes, gym shoes or any form of leisure wear, she glided when she walked and was admired by all. Shes was a humanitarian, those who ever needed her help she was there without question. Shes no longer of this earthly plan, her love is along with her elegance. 😇 l love you gran.
My late grandmother was also an elegant lady. I love wearing broche because of her because i am trying to imitate her look. During her 60's she would still wore 5-7 centimeter high heels. And most importantly she taught me to sit up straight no hunchback. Just like what Anna teaches on her other videos. My condolences for your grandmother. She will be in paradise just like mine.
@@isabellakindangen86 Thanks for your reply sharing the love for our grandmother 💞
My grandma is the same! But her story is a bit sad. She'd always wear heels out, dress with the latest fashion, she was always so elegant. But when she got a bit older and couldn't walk in heels she shut herself inside the house and never came out again... She doesn't want the world to see her in any less of a way. My grandpa's death also made her close into herself even more. I'm still trying to find ways to get her out of the house..
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu Hi, as strange as it seems my granmother became a reclusive after the death of her husband all you can do is be supportive, all the best.
At 65, I can no longer wear high heels, but high heels don't necessarily equal elegance. Anna published a video last year on elegant shoes that have low or flat heels.
Audrey Hepburn is a good example of a very elegant and well mannered woman - but who also had a vivid personality! (The example is more old school, but I hope someone gets what I meant by that.)
my all time idol
Also her soul was good and beautiful
Yes Audrey Hepburn... she was losing me with the Kate Middleton.
itchycoopark2 why Kate middleton?
Mine is Jackie Kennedy, Kate Middleton and Audrey Hepburn!
"Refinement" is the key. That's right!
I went to Finishing School a few decades ago and the goal was to be a good wife, a good hostess, in short everything revolved around getting married and managing the household. When I first saw the School of Affluence I was very curios to see how are you teaching, for example, how to step out of a car?, how to sit?, etc. because that was my experience. Dear Anna I congratulate you for spearheading this transformation you have added contemporary skills and reaching women who otherwise would not have the opportunity to learn this kind of advice. To me being elegant is like knowing several languages, it is knowing how to behave in different scenarios. Today we need skills like networking, how to make a good impression on a business meeting. You offer tools for personal improvement if one wants to use your advice to look for a husband, good. If one wants to be a power house your advice is also on point. I would like to see videos about networking and how to define your personal style. BTW I love your videos. Congratulations!!
I got employed by a high end department store when I was 16 and after university I got employed as a teacher in a wealthy private school. I’ve always been inspired by elegance, have followed sophistication and have also worked very hard which is probably why I ended up in these places. I’m not married to a rich man because I wasn’t interested in rich men when I was dating - I actually refused to date them - but my husband is well educated and articulate which is all I’ve ever wanted in a man. His good looks are a bonus.
I came from a lower socioeconomic background where my wonderful father couldn’t work due to chronic illness and my mother did what she could to make ends meet. My parents taught me to think laterally and to follow people who were more skilled and respectable rather than follow the herd and be mediocre. I think your videos are invaluable parenting tools for bringing up girls. I don’t have a daughter but I want my son to be a dignified man who will hopefully marry an elegant lady one day. Thank you!💖
I’ve always enjoyed books and movies about princesses, high court, and aristocracy in general. It’s an interesting culture/history, especially as an American... particularly a Black American- the contrast is fascinating! I’m also curious about the progression and evolution of this demographic in modern times. Where did these people go? I’ve learned that many are hiding in plain sight, and have quite broad associations!
Growing up in Florida, and having lived in NYC, with career experience in the hospitality industry, I’ve had the opportunity to observe affluent individuals and families in both casual and formal settings when they are “on” socializing with networking intentions. I can typically tell the difference between someone who is pretending, and someone who genuinely has class. For this reason, it is appealing to me as a young low-income individual from a lower middle-class family, to learn and apply the nuanced behavior that elevates ones persona. Just because I don’t come from these circles doesn’t mean I don’t aspire to enter them one day. Also, just because I came from a modest background doesn’t mean I have to settle there. I think, any woman would be wise to continue elevating her financial status, education, and networking circles- not only for personal benefit, but also for the security of her future! Being upwardly mobile requires a curated skillset I am all too happy to obtain. These videos offer valuable concepts to consider, and a discreet way to discuss topics that might otherwise be taboo in a social setting.
THATS RIGHT!!!
Nya Smith I truly believe success is just a habit away. Learning feminine and mindful habits is something a woman from any background can achieve. There are rich people with no class and poor people with dignity.
Well said!
Well said. Can you tell me a few books or movies you have found helpful
I like your concept except for one thing: a 'low' setting doesn't mean low individuals. Living a life in the modesty of a 'low level' it's perfectly good if you have dignity and pride. It's you way of living that put value in you, not how or where you live. I can find gems of people withing poor families and scums within high society. And, from my experience only, high society people know more of what life is but less of who they are, they're interesting and funny when they talk about what they've done or teach you about what they're interested in, but boring when they have to talk just about themselves, because they don't usually know their bare self. I think it's a win win situation if one is able to take the best from the base of the pyramid as from the top of it. I personally value a lot when someone is low class and choose to live a good life in it, without big dreams beside the one to be a better person for himself and his family. For me it's reassuring to have friends like them, they do not want anything, they do not take, only give, and the most precious thing they give you are lessons. :)
I sincerely appreciate your message: "refinement!" I interpret that as being the best version of yourself.
Having started my program on School of Affluence I understand your point of view even more. I am so grateful for the effort you put into the program because it explains your message so well. 😘
You are a real diamond on TH-cam land, hard to find, very valuable and appreciated by people, mostly women, shining with elegance, intelligence and charm. 💕 Love you so much.
"Elegance is a mindset...elegance is self-respect" Wow Anna, thank you for this video, it was very clarifying! I just subscribed a week ago and have enjoyed your videos. Spending my whole life catering to narcissists (my mom and ex, in particular) has left me feeling depleted and like I lost who I am. I am in a new place now and am excited to step up my game! A lot of what you teach has resonated with me, however, I admit I was one of your subscribers who was confused and thought that I had to stop being who I am in exchange for etiquette. LOL! I am naturally a happy and expressive person and when I watched some of the videos what came to mind was that I will never be "poised" enough. LOL! I am laughing because now I understand your stance on what Elegance is. Thanks again, Anna, and I would enjoy more sit-down videos in the future along with your teaching videos. ~Annie
This reminds me of the 80/20 rule. Majority general principles and rules, with the remainder being flexible
Such a shame that no one understands balance anymore. I love this channel and put a lot of your advice to practice AND I ride a dirt bike. You can be elegant and keep true to your personality. Imagine!
You arent alone authenticity is respected. Safe expression is important knowing in reality we are all personally driven different ways because varying biological make up or environmental influence during our upbringing/grooming. I hope Grace will help me maintain learned behavior at my status in life and I continue to achieve.
I would LOVE to see a “day in my life” vlog 😍 let us follow you for a day!
Yes please
Yes great idea
Yes please
I thought she did a rendition of A Day In My Life vid. Scour her recent videos. In one, she showed her going to workout, working on laptop,weekend spa massages w/ partner, weekend dinner. I think as long as we’re not requesting intrusion into her private life (lunch w/ friends, or seeing a house tour, etc) that’d be ok. Anna has to walk a fine line between keeping her personal life personal and divulging her background, friends, etc via Q& A videos.
Yes please!!!
I did not come from wealthy background but my mother taught me etiquette & decorum. She also encouraged hard work, education I am eternally grateful to her for it.
What a wonderful conversation to have and explore. Thank you. My grandparents were from modest mid-west American backgrounds. No where near “high society”. But eventually people from high society will find you no matter your background if you display elegance and good character. To meet elegance is synonymous with self awareness. Choosing to behave in an elegant way can be anyone’s choice and it elevates yourself and people around you. Elegance is to behave admirably.
People will always find something to fault find. Do not worry about it. Elegance is refinement and like fine wine becomes better with age.
True, and that's precisely why elegance, good manners, a kind heart and a sharp mind are way more valuable than phisical beauty, that depletes itself over time. A couple days ago, in Italy we had a new governement resettle, and the Minister Bellanova were violently criticised for her appearence (she's overweight and she was wearing an electric blue suit, unlike others who were in black) and the woman replied: " The true elegance is to respect your mood".
You look so elegant ma.
Only insecure people find the need to be snobbish. There is a term nouveau riche. Newly rich. People who have money in their families for generations generally are much more humble and down to earth. When I ride with groups I find the people with the oldest trailers and horse vans have the most money.
@@debracannonrndsn2564 Me too. Newly rich and wannabe rich usually have: la puzza sotto il naso (the stink under their noses) and they mind their money more than others.
No one's perfect, but you're pretty close! Your channel is more than a school of affluence. It's a school of opportunity. You give us the opportunity to give ourselves a total make over. You're telling us, no matter what our past or present situation is, we can change if we want to. Not just change our looks - change our entire persona. That's a meaningful goal! If people get confused, you owe it to yourself to sit down and chat with us to clarify. It's good to ask, "What to you ladies want?" but it's also important to ask, "What would I like to say?" That's part of elegance. There is no need for us to be misunderstood. We all have voices. You are teaching us to use our voices in a friendly, non-threatening, articulate way. Bravo!
Well said Anna! I am a 57 yr old boho business owner in Southern California. Ha! Born and raised at the Beach in California (hence the boho style) My mom and grandmother both went through finishing school. I didn't want anything to do with it growing up. I was a daddy's girl and wanted to be outside playing with the boys. But I have noticed over the years what being this way has cost me. I pushed my femininity, self-respect, and a host of other qualities aside. I didn’t embrace my femininity and honestly, didn't get treated very well by men or by women. I am married to a wonderful man who treats me well but relies on me to do it all (because I am strong like a man) I am fed up with that image and ready to level up.
I have learned so much from your videos 1. How to have self-respect and why 2. How to have manners and why 3. How to treat others and why 4. How to present yourself to the world and why that matters 5. How to embrace one’s femininity and what that looks like, etc. Obviously, I am not jet setting and have no desire to. However, all the teaching you provide in this channel are very helpful to me and any female wanting to elevate their life to the next level. Anna, I am so thankful for you, and I appreciate you!
I love your personality. and you're never vulgar, like a role model. :)
Elegance lies not in the clothes we wear, but in the way we wear them.
It isn’t in the way we wield a sword, but in the dialogue we hold that could avoid a war.
Elegance is achieved when, having discarded all superfluous things, we discover simplicity and concentration; the simpler the pose, the better; the more sober, the more beautiful.
Paulo Coelho
I love how reserved your approach is.
Elegance is a mindset, self-respect and reducing bad habits
Thank you. Where we are with all the "sexy" emphasis in society, elegance is a necessity. Many don't understand it, because elegance has been far removed over the last decades. So, as the pendulum swings back to it, the understanding of it may take some time. I agree that elegance is a mind set and is exemplified in not so much what we do but how we think. Realizing that "sexiness" is boring and mainstream. Also elegance is exemplified in the "classic women." I used to do color and personality analysis and we discussed 4 fashion types: Natural, classic, dramatic and gamine. I went to a grooming school long ago and we discussed more options. So, elegance can also be exemplified with fashion personality type. The dramatic would have a tendency towards "boho" and excess. So this person would need a way to express their personality while remaining elegant. The same with the other personality types. I say continue with elegance and some of the misunderstanding with iron out as our society begins to understand it more.
I prefer your educational (teacher’s hat) videos. I do understand and appreciate this video.
I agree with you. I understand that sometimes Anna has to explain yourself because her videos and ideas run counter to today’s culture. Please do a video on what type of general behavior that an elegant lady should expect from a gentleman. Just like society needs more elegant ladies we need more gentlemen too.
Please do a video on how to handle compliments elegantly 🙏
say thank you
Yes please!
Zoe W Excellent idea!
Yes, often I feel awkward and saying thank you is so flat.
@@jessyeheilman571 a pleased genuine "Thank You" shows. sometimes I feel like I am being given empty compliments "Oh I love your your suit." five seconds after you've been introduced doesn't feel very real.
Your top is very elegant! Simple yet chic
"Elegance is a mindset" 👏👏👏
Couldn’t agree more! Love that you are promoting more self respect, having class and consideration. Elegance = strength.
I appreciate this video so very much, because I try to incorporate your tips into my daily life and there were times I felt like oh boy I need to adjust because of the perfect picture of elegance. I'm happy to hear the goal is not to be perfect, but there is accommodation for your personal style. Eg. Eventhough you said when luxury handbags start to patina it is time to get rid of it, I actually like when the leather has a golden patina and I do prefer shorter trench coats at times, so the clarification is nice.
I am not in an affluent crowd, however I have learnt so much from you in just presenting myself elegantly, my behaviour my conversation, my dress, my body, self respect and confidence. I totally get it , not being affluent does not stop you from being elegant, so to me you are doing a good job. I would encourage everyone to drop the criticality and try to take something positive from your kind and informative channel. Thank you Anna.
Exactly, you giving us a base line/foundation that we have to add our own personality.
I think more of these "casual chit chat" videos would be wonderful
Maya Harper Hi, i agree with your suggestion.
I think a good mix of causal talking and teaching good examples about specific topics.
Love
/ Grace
only if a lot shorter perhaps
Talk about the weather, the city, recent events, comment a bit on recent News, "How is Nancy doing, have you heard from her?"
Be charming, be polite.
I agree on the raising elegant children topic and then also more on overcoming depression/frustration with current life circumstances that aren't about how to necessarily obtain a relationship. I'm married and have a child but am trying to level up.
Dear Anna, the advice you give on being an elegant lady is so precious that I really wish you wouldn't waste this precious time justifying and explaining yourself to those who are purposely stereotyping and misunderstanding what you have to say. Please realise that for every one person criticising and misunderstanding your message there are hundreds of women like me who completely understand and need your advice. Thank you for all you do.
I’m 66, I enjoy listening You. I’m wondering how many of your viewers are older woman ?
It is so refreshing to see what Anna is bringing to a society that has become devoid of manners, class and a sense of what is proper in women of all ages. We can all learn new things and improve ourselves, no matter the age. There are always detractors in any situation, usually ignoring them will cause them to go away, eventually.
I'm 62 and I love watching them!
I’m almost 68. I’m a widow and always looking for was to improve myself. I think Anna does a great job.,
I will be 58 in about a month from now. Very enjoyable content, in my view even the one who doesn't see a need in SCHOOL OF AFFLUENCE, can see it as a SCHOOL OF ELEGANCE
Denise Adorian 50 and I’m fascinated and impressed by her content and knowledge at such a young age.
Perhaps a good analogy is that a diamond will always be a diamond, but if it is “refined” in the right way it will maximize the most effective amount of shine, radiance and brilliance. So therefore the diamond will always be a diamond, just a better version of itself💎
1. Interviews with men and women with class, self respect offering tips for the right mindset and challenges to misguided beliefs.
2. Tips for married women as well and how to carry herself with loving, gentle, humble yet bold self confidence inside and outside the home.
3. How the way we dress and carry ourselves impacts who and what we attract.
What I like about you is that your message resonates with woman who want to cultivate poise. I don’t care about being around affluent people I have been around them all my life and they don’t interest me. But being presentable, impeccable manners, kindness, elegance, and poise are important period in dealing with everyone. You teach that and I respect this message and appreciate that you are “ giving away” your important message for the empowerment and support of ALL woman. I feel I influence people wherever I go. People are attracted to poise and when you are confident friendly and composed you influence woman to become better because they can be better. We r a work in progress.
Well said...and I think that your philosophical basis is LESS IS MORE....and I totally agree:
To achieve elegance in a SIMPLE but classy way is more than enough.That's the goal.
It is a heartwarming knowing that there is this lady,never get tired of advising ,makes you feel worthy,reminding that you deserve to be respect ,and that's why I love your videos Anna Bay,🥰 as well my sister😊
I am obsessed with your videos. Thank you for doing this!
I am teaching my 13yr old daughter from everything I am learning from you. I want her to be a proper young lady and not struggle when she grows up a bit more.
Karla Monreal sad to say shes a transgender
babushka poponick The hell is going on with you? Let’s not be transphobic that’s not cute. Sad to say you’re pretty stupid.
babushka poponick Sad to say that it seems like no one ever showed you about respect, privacy, respect and tolerance. What’s sad is saying “sadly” to being transgender, please be mindful and have a little respect for all people of all sizes, shapes, colors, and *sexuality* be a decent human being by not “joking” about/making comments about such things, no human being needs to be marginalized. Spread love not hate(phobia) ☺️💕
Your daughter will learn a LOT watching you and mimicking what you do, corrections in private if possible. If she likes to read, provide her with booklets, pamphlets, etc that will give her other's points of view and instructions. You are off to a great start with your future elegant and poised daughter. Much success!
@@babushkapoponick3384 completely uncalled for and rude, you are in the right place however. You have a lot to learn and can benefit by remaining silent, observing and listening. Wishing you success at becoming more ladylike.
Anna, I loved this video and it gave me a clearer look at you on a personal level. I used to think of you as someone who's strict or someone who'd say "you should be like this or like that" but that wasn't really the point you were trying to convey. I understood that people are different and I struggle being a perfectionist which isn't a good thing since it leads to frustration if perfectionism wasn't met. When I heard you say being picture perfect (not literally in pictures but also in our behavior) isn't really how we should be, my eyes were opened and people wouldn't want somebody who's manufactured. People want us to be ourselves like what you have always told us, your viewers. You're true to your words and slowly, I will learn from my mistakes and maybe become as elegant, real, and confident as you are.
I love elegance don’t ever stop teaching it ❤️❤️❤️ I love all your videos whatever you choose to vlog about is fine with me 🧡🧡🧡
You sound so honest and vulnerable about who you really are and I appreciate that :)
I think elegance has to do way more with how you carry yourself, how you treat others, you're genuine self. The outside just reflects who you are Inside and how you think of yourself. I love Ana's videos. !!
Agreed! Great comment!
You are such an inspiration. It is so beautiful to see someone speak honestly about what they want in this life. It is also lovely to see someone teaching these skills. Thankyou for all you do.
A very nice conversation. I always look forward to your posts. A chat now and then would be lovely. Elegance is to remain you while you improve your manner of speaking, becoming well read and to be dressed in appropriate attire for the occasion. To be polite and on time is an asset to becoming elegant.
My non-affluent grandmother taught me the things you are teaching in your videos, and hearing you talk about them makes me feel my Nana is still here - if only in my heart.❤
I love how Anna uses the same picture in her thumbnail 😂 She’s so adorable!💜
Hi Ana. I just wanted to add a voice of appreciation for what you are teaching. I am not a young wanna-be jet-setter (I'm 70 - yikes!), happily married for 51 years, and not at all wealthy (never have been), but I have learned quite a bit from you! My mother was a naturally elegant lady, although she, too, was never wealthy. One of the reasons my husband married me was because he saw those qualities in my mother and that she had cared for herself well & behaved elegantly until she died at 82. So I learned the basics from her. However, I am learning and incorporating new patterns from you now. I think it's basically about being respectful and considerate of others and not behaving offensively (even in little areas such as your video of what not to eat). Please continue to help us "up our game". Thank you!!
LOVING this hairstyle on you Anna! Really enhances your gorgeous cheekbones.🌸
I appreciate how you stress, "this is not the only valid way - it's just that if you want to be elegant and feminine, this is how to play that game." Embracing femininity and elegance has been a challenge for me because I was raised in an environment where such "frivolity and vanity" was subject to prune-faced disapproval. I don't want to move in high society or be all classy lady all the time, but these videos help me reach a happy medium. They're oddly validating and very educational. I also love your emphasis on how conventional beauty isn't strictly necessary because my gifts are definitely in other areas.
I have never clicked faster in my life
Me too 😁
The word "classy". Let's find another word.
Please never stop what you doing, Ms.Anna. This’s lofty !
It’s clear up alot of thing I feel wrong but can never point out for fews year of dating men or in the common space until I started watch your channel last year, I feel more confident and happier bcuz I know I’m elevate, or at least not make the mistake which make people feel awkward. The relationship and the mans quality get better. The elegance and feminine always willing by the man as long as it’s practice naturally, I admit this. My target not really for reach to high society BUT never lower then my valuable is successful for me, cause of you. What you re doing could change someone’s world forever, specially who have no one to lead on like mother or sister, like me. Thank you, Anna !
*sr for too long if anyone read this all
I'm sorry for the crap you've gotten for being misunderstood. I absolutely love your channel. I was raised in a little backwater po-dunk town in Texas and these are not principles that were ever taught there and now in my older years, I want to do better for myself and, most importantly, so I can raise children that are classy and elegant because I know how it will benefit them. There are always going to be people who hate just to hate but just know you are helping people better their lives and that is a noble calling. I appreciate you and your channel. ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Anna, I started watching your videos two days ago and have stayed awake almost all night to learn, learn, learn from them. I think you’re so amazing, thank you for sharing all your knowledge, it is very helpful. Personally I would love to see more teacher-style videos, because you show examples that I can apply to my daily life or shop similar type of elegant clothes that you talk about.
Excited for the next video!
I am married and moving to a new city. How to make friends in a new city in elevated circles with a middle class budget?
Ana, I hope everyone who has ever been quick to judge you watches this video, it gives so much insight into your true personality ❤️ I agree that along the way many people have morphed your message into something it is not. I have a lot of respect for you. As a young teenage girl you inspire me to be elegant, confident and successful!
School Of Affluence, I hit the like button before I even watched the video. Thank you for posting and thank you for your excellent tips and advice you give on how to be elegant.
It’s wonderful to have you making these videos at a time when we no longer know the distinction between a lady and a gentleman. Thank you for your courage.
I’d love more videos like this 💕
You are such an inspiration and I think it is very good that you said ‘nobody is perfect’.
I just want to say, thank you. Your videos teach me so much. I’m 38 & I was never taught how an elegant lady should carry herself. I naturally have always had an elegant nature but still was lacking in that category. I really appreciate your channel!! I needed this
I would love a video that is related to anything that has to do with us teenage girls, becoming elegant ladies. I am aware of your video that was just for teenage girls but I would appreciate another one. Love your videos Anna❤️
I think this is one of my favorite SoA videos. There’s a fine line between graceful elegance and refinement, and prejudgment snobbery. Thank you.
Heard on another TH-camr's channel recently: "Never give up your authenticity for approval."
I love it when you do these personal videos! The teaching style videos are great and necessary but I think these end up being my favorites!
I actually saw the daily mail article about you on my snapchat feed. However unlike the other articles, the snapchat excerpt was very kind.
I love that! I must admit I had also started thinking that this elegant model was unattainable, due to my personality. Not that I am aspiring to becoming part of high-society, but I have always liked the thought of becoming more refined and presenting myself better. You are explaining it very well, thank you, Ana!
Hello, Ana! I’d love to see more videos on mixing in elegant pieces with what you already have.
PS, I love your top!
I have only recently discovered your channel and I love it. Your advice is so down to earth and full of basic common sense. One thing I will add is that I am old enough to not be interested in finding a rich husband, looking for more promotion at work or aspiring to high society, but being elegant and, well groomed and behaving appropriately in any given situation is something that I believe every woman needs to do for herself. Everything else will follow after that.
You are an elegant woman in which is poised and deliberate. I think all your videos are with purpose to empower women.
For me many of the tips have to be tailored quite a bit. I work with food so can't have painted nails, but now I make sure my nails don't look dry and ragged. Which makes me feel prettier. I dress much more causally; I'm currently in college to become a civil engineer. So while keeping comfortable I'm slowly adding in pieces that will transition into a work wardrobe. Trousers instead of jeans. Loose fitting button up shirt vs a t-shirt. Nice ballet flats instead of flip flops. Etc.
Also I don't tailor all my clothes but do for pants. I'm a full size larger on bottom then on top and pants have always been difficult. I taught myself how to take in the waist on pants and it's so much better! If you can't sew definitely try a tailor on any problem clothes.
I like all the videos 💚 you are an inspiration!
I would love a video about teenage fashion and how to look classy as a teenager thank you 🙏
Yesssss💯💯💯💯
I love that you are teaching elegance. I think it also have elements of inner and outer awareness. This brings in self-reflection and understanding of people. With today's social media and Hollywood, people have lost that elegance and etiquette that historically is part of the social norm. I am glad you are bring it back!
I would love to hear from you about widows who are starting over in life
I should make that video myself. Sorry to hear that as I too am a widow of 5 years now.
Isn't bad etiquette to start dating months after your spouse passes away?
Summer Rose 🌷 they didn’t say months after?
Sorry for your loss! I hope you start over and find plenty happiness!
It isn't for another to judge you. They don't know what you have experienced, and could have endured because of your situation. Be true to yourself and authentic, of course taking into account the needs and feelings of any children, and extended family. They may need communication around your decisions.
I am older and already married but really enjoy your elegance talks - it is what is missing in the young women today - and elegance can be empowering - just like self respect - when I see young women dressing like hoes and cursing I know that men AND women do not respect them
I like you Anna.thanks for your advices.i ll have it in my mind and attitude as well.😍Androniki
I love that you encourage elegance. I love to be a faminine wife and mother. Regardless of wealth or status every woman has the oppertunity to create a beautiful life for herself. That's why I watch.
I love your casual chit-chat videos. Do more, please!
You are the epitome of Class and elegance! So refreshing to see a refined, proper young lady!
This video was great. One fault of modern feminism is the push for every woman to go for a position of power. While I think that is fantastic, it is not the right choice for everybody. Your videos and teachings are meant for those who want to improve themselves regarding personal presentation, elegance, and this should all be added on top of our unique personality
I am drawn to this channel because it validates my idea about fashion and make me feel like my style preference is okay. I once stopped being myself, and changed to go with the crowd during my youth. Now, I am way past pleasing others. I want to please myself. I learned more too. I am not interested in high society. I don't intend to meet men from that society. But I am conservative. I am doing this for myself. And it is nice to see that I am not wrong in my preference. I am not 100% elegant. I don't even consider myself as sophisticated. I just want to express myself. But your videos make me feel that my feelings about myself are valid.
I choose to be more elegant, more poised, more confident, more gracious, more kind, more like a Lady...
Your advice is vintage and timeless and forward thinking all at the same time. Thank you.
Being able to receive constructive criticism and apply it to ones self is a big part of being a lady and elegant imo🥂
I appreciate your insight and do not want you to address the trolls anymore. People like me love to grow and keep moving upwards. Your vlog allows me to realize the message I am sending with my attitude, clothing, and behavior. I appreciate you.🌹💝
Could you maybe do a video on what to wear at home if you wanna still look beautiful and elegant?😊
I don't know if I understood elegance completely....but I really love your channel I had a party this month and after being inspired by your channel I behaved so differently like I didn't spoke anything foolish or did anything foolish and it was not on my mind it just happened.... It's like I already knew what a elegant lady would do and not only a elegant lady but a better person like- I didn't get involved with my friends talking bad about others.....And yes I think I made myself irresistible for my crush....
Thank you Anna
Yes! More personal videos please. I can't wait to join your online program!
Investing on yourself it's the best investment :)
At first, I was not sure about your message. As I watched and listened to your message, we have more in common than expected. Please keep sharing in with your authenticity and fun way that reflect your values.