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Self Care is Self Respect. Obesity is glorified in the media instead of being called out for the slow death it really is. If you don't care about yourself you're not capable of caring about other people. Society in the US is falling into the sewer.
As a doctor I remember having a seminar in psychotherapy, and the professor said - once the patient starts to have an improvement, you can often notice it by how they look. They start making their hair, doing manicure, choosing nice clothes etc. That has really stayed in my mind.
@@lalaithanagreed. I always fret over how to dress when I visit the person who writes my scripts. If I want to up my dose, I show up looking disheveled. Jokes on them.
@@lalaithan Oh my goodness! Thank you! Thank you!👏👏👏. This has been happening to me, & I didn't understand why the Dr kept writing in my file, that "******* is well groomed, she's wearing x....". My friend explained to me what that meant.🤬
It means mentally people are overloaded today. Not a surprise! Raising kids on your own for example, without absolutely anykind of help, except for the one you can pay.
I started a job where everyone dressed sloppy. Instead of a joining this culture, I spent time and effort into each outfit. The results? Everyone stepped up their game. You influence the people you are around. For better or worse.
Honestly same, I recently took a product management class and upon our graduation party, one of my classmates said, and I quote “ when you walked in, I knew I had to get my sh*t together. You always showed up dressed so well I thought you were a VP or an exec of some sort” I haven’t felt so honoured in a while bc I very much do my best to always be presentable.
I sometimes that. In fact I have one friend who was pretty well dressed when I met her. She's gradually become more sloppy, & also wears clothes that are way too young for her & don't for properly.
Me to!! I want to be able to wear beautiful dresses 👗 more often Update: I have a lot of dresses in my closet, I just need to wear them more! Even if it's going out to eat at Red Robin🤣🤣
Sometimes change has to start with one person. Even if no one else dresses properly, one can be the person who does dress with flair. As a nurse, I had to wear a uniform and specific work shoes, so whenever I had the chance, going out for dinner, to a dance, to Church, I dressed as for an occasion. So few people dress up, not even for dinner out these days, which is sad. As long as there are some who won't give in, we have hope.
I'm a woman in my 40s, and I wear dresses more times than not. I'm always told that I'm overdressed, trying too hard, and showing off. I'm literally a middle-aged woman, people still expect me to dress and sweatshirts and yoga pants outside of the gym? Even when casual, you can still be well put together, and clean. This society has gone downhill, and it's disheartening.
Marie Antoinette Was heavily criticized for Dressing sloppy, she didn't like the big tight dresses of that time. Ten years later it was normal to war wider Light dresses.
I’m criticized sometimes for being overdressed at times. I personally think it’s important to look my best when I choose to leave my house, on the same note I don’t tell others how they should dress. I find most of my friends think like me.
Nothing bad at not caring all the times. In this video, Anna talks too much about other people businesses. Try to stick to only caring for yourself (and the person who watches this video) and let a society be casual in peace lol. Being bond to old traditions is nothing that will bring us forward - it is just something we like. I love to dress up and be classy, but hell no.. I wont be mad at people that are brave enough too just not care and live their live as they wish to do..
I learned growing up that it's better to be overdressed than underdressed. This holds true for me. If I'm underdressed, I will feel uncomfortable compared to being overdressed. For me, my confidence shines brighter when I am "overdressed".
I’ve had the same experience! I work from home and lots of my friends/family don’t understand at all why I wear office clothing when I could be working in sweatpants or even pajamas. I just can’t feel productive in lounge clothes though. I saw some videos on “enclothed cognition” though, which made me feel validated lol
@@bta8355 Exactly this. Be overdressed if this is what you like, but why care about what others are doing? Something I find funny is often some of the "always dressed up" people will answer to this question saying: "Because you then project an image society will judge you by" but the entire time the only one being judgemental of your looks is them lol.
I’ve noticed this for a while ignore them most are probably not very attractive, cant dress or a decent weight from my experience they check all those attractive people that dress well will compliment and appreciate what you wear not make fun of it or shame you for overdressing or dressing nice
And many girls are being brought in a most unladylike fashion. Some of the behaviours are shocking! We need some of the old mores and customs to return.@@Lifeoftheparty8290
My form of social rebellion as a teenager was dressing emo (as much as my parents would allow, which was very little). My form of social rebellion as an adult is dressing well.
Btw, my entire family is from Italy and I was taught from a very young age that we don’t go out the door unless we’re well groomed and wearing fashionable clothing. Seamstresses & dry cleaners were, and are, very necessary!
I agree it's good in some ways but also it's a lot of pressure to appear a certain way. I'm not sure I think it's healthy TBH for either extreme. I expect people to respect my choices. I think this desire for authenticity is why social media is full of no makeup or reduced makeup images. We are more than just our appearance.
We absolutely all look the same shopping at Zara or buying Hermes and Chanel. The lack of individuality or originality is all levels. We are even now trying to create false distinctions with that old money that is making everyone put on a beige/tan/cream uniform 😂.
I don't always overdress, but the few times I did, I was treated significantly better by everyone around me. As trivial as it sounds, there are advantages in dressing well.
I agree. People tend to treat me in a much favorable way compared to the few unfortunate times I crawled into the store looking sloppy. I feel better when I dress better
Absolutely! When I put effort into wearing a more classy and matching outfit, I give a clear message to myself and others that I am worthy. I don't just feel better myself, but others treat me better, too.
I Agee too! Today l had a lot of strange men opening doors for me and falling all over themselves to assist me! It's crazy l have dressed stylish my whole life since high school and college days! Suddenly the fashion world has discovered me!🎉😅
People have told me I dress like I’m going to the office. So yes, elegance nowadays is looked as “overdressed” “old looking” or just too formal. I hate it, because I do love wearing dresses and dressing more on the conservative side while still wearing colors I love 💜
I agree. Society standard for dressing is sloppy nowadays. Isn't it sad to see that developing countries can dress better than average Americans? If one can not differentiate their dressing with homeless people clothes. There is something wrong.
if nobody do the effort of looking good, the society will never change. It’s by changing herself we can see change by our friend/family, and after the society by domino effect.
Love what you said about boundaries and inviting too much intimacy. Opposing revealing clothing has nothing to do with prudishness, but rather dignity and class.
My daughter is 24 and dresses absolutely beautifully , very classic style. We live in New Zealand where that is definitely not the norm ( in fact bare feet while shopping and even pyjamas , is quite common) . She loved visiting Italy so much last year where she saw many people beautifully dressed ( like her)
My husband is Italian. We sent our oldest daughter to live in Italy for a year and a half when she was about 19, and she came back a style maven. Hair, clothes, shoes etc. I'd tried showing her about style when she was a teenager but it just never took. Once she lived in the environment, the penny dropped. She dresses with flair still, and her younger sister is finally getting there too.
Your daughter's style of dress, clearly, reflects well and beautifully on the manner in which you, as a parent, have raised and instructed her. Well done.
I couldn't agree more! One thing I would like to add: dressing well, or at least dressing appropriately for the occasion (work, gym, church, whatever) is not only "self-care," but it's also a sign of respect and good manners for the people around you. If I wore a ballgown to a spin class at the gym, everyone would be distracted from their workouts. If I wore something revealing to church or a solemn place like a cemetery, people would be distracted from their serious contemplations. If I wore pajamas to work and everyone else was wearing business casual, that would show them that I don't take their time/space/efforts as seriously as they do. It's about respect: I respect people, even strangers, and as such, I won't wear things that are revealing or that show I'm inconsiderate of what the day may hold.
one of my cousin showed up in front of the church at my grandad's funeral wearing sneakers, a pair of blue jeans and a big red hoodie. I instantly felt disrespected, it was like he couldn't care less about what this day was about...
I'm sorry that happened. But I thank you for sharing because it's a perfect example. Instead of remembering the day that was celebrating the life of a loved one, you remember how someone showed they didn't actually care. 💔@@cl13703
I couldn't agree more. I live in So Cal. There was a recent ban for school students to stop wearing pajamas to school...I'm seriously not kidding. Like others on here, I get criticized for being over dressed. Last Saturday I went to a baby shower wearing a brown satin skirt and a cream sweater. The hostess criticized my attire. My beautiful fashion classy Mom always told me "feathers make the bird". Fashion is powerful and makes a statement. I'm certainly not changing. Great content, Anna. Blessing to all.
Your baby shower outfit sounds beautiful. 🤍. I had a mom ask me why I always looked like I “stepped off the pages of Vogue” in an angry tone as we dropped our kids off at school. She told me that the “rest of us like to get dolled up too!” (Then maybe she should do it?) These kind of comments from others are always a reflection of that persons’ insecurities.
I'm in my 60s and I have always lived in the southern part of the US. We southern girls always dressed to the max for any type of "shower" - I haven't been to one in several years but I have an invitation for one next weekend, I may be shocked at how the dress code has deteriorated.
@@naomidesigns5 Wow! I can't believe she had the nerve to voice her envy like that. I can only imagine it must have been eating her up inside so badly that she had no choice but to spit it out. Some women are truly venomous like snakes. In any case, what is preventing her from dressing well like you do? Probably, an enormous lack of self love masquerading as extremely busy taking care of the kids, the husband and the household. SMH.
I love my comfy dresses but people always react with "why are you so fancy". No, friend this is just a cotton dress thats comfortable and I didn't want to wear jeans. I respect this video so much. I grew up dressing in jeans and hoodies but also love getting dressed up in dresses. Makeup or not, it feels more like how I'd like to present myself to others. It really is a crucial part of self care.
Why don't you like to wear jeans? For me, the texture has become increasingly uncomfortable. Now I tend more toward dress pants, so I look better and feel better.
I love dresses too they are so comfortable! I dislike pants because they hurt!! They tug on my abdomen, dig into my crotch, hurt, are just miserable in general. When I wear dresses I look beautiful, they fit my hourglass shape better, technically it is healthier to allow the lady bits more breathing, and I am more comfortable (I am petite with a small waist but have big hips and a round bum and pants are not made for this shape). Dresses are a win-win! In winter I wear thigh highs instead of tights as again they are more comfortable and allow crotch ventilation. There are all sorts of thigh highs like sweater knit ones for when it is super cold, and taller boots too when it is super cold. I find a layered dress with boots and nice thigh highs that are thicker knit is much warmer than tight yoga pants or jeans.
The jeans they sell to women nowadays would be far less comfortable. "It's comfortable!" is not what they really mean. It's emotionally comfortable to look like everyone else. That's what they mean. I buy my nieces boot cut Levi's because they hate the tight skinny jeans the other kids wear and are all stores want to sell.
One of the things I noticed and was surprised by when I went to Japan earlier this year was how stylish and well dressed everyone was. I don’t think I saw anyone dressing sloppily. I was so impressed. Even more casually dressed people still looked put together and stylish.
Many asian countries are like this still. Even in the Middle East they’re dressed up. Ironically, in the west, where elegant dressing adopted by Asians have started,most people are dressed casually all the time even in office.
@@Deadener. exactly… Americans always wanna put countries like Korea and Japan on a pedestal when it comes to lifestyles and cultures, but don’t realize how judgmental and rude/mean some of them are
I was raised by older parents that lived through the latter part of the Great Derpression. The one thing my mama taught me was, you can be poor, but that is no excuse to be sloppy, dirty and not take care of yourself. My mama was a true elegant lady!!! She refused to wear any clothing that had a fly because she would not dress like a man!
@@Bubbles-od2tv Well, Chanel put the flies for women in France "because the post war" clothing needs... even when the use of trousers were prohibited for women till... around 2013!. Yes!.
@@Sungirl88 🌹I am just 65 in good shape, hahaha... but used to stay nice and dressed always taking care the place I go and the activities to perform. Even to the gym, the sport clothes are just there, not for the streets... People does not take a shower after gym and go wearimg sweated clothes on transport!. i can't believe sometimes how downgraded people could stay for theirself!. Now it is not just for trousers or any other piece, is just for selfcare my dear.
Agree 100%, Anna. I am a 55yo woman living in the U.S., and we are the worst offenders. Much of the time, we as a culture look like we have just rolled out of bed. I live on a homestead but still like to dress like a lady with as much polish as a farm will allow, lol. We can still look and act like a lady. My mother and grandmothers emphasized all of the principles you promote. I greatly appreciate you and your channel.
I agree many US women can look really sloppy, and I do my best to look put together. But this is kind of a trigger for me when the implication is that European women dress so much better. I've lived and traveled in many tropical countries in Asia and South American countries, and you would not believe the skimpy, see-through, disrespectful clothes European women wear in these conservative countries. I've never seen an American woman essentially go naked in indoor office type places in the tropics.I think European women get to hot areas and just decide wearing clothes is optional.
I’ve visited 26 countries. I can say that US is not the worst offender. Have you visited developing countries? In Vietnam, for example, only the upper class can dress like this.
Yes! Same! My grandmother was a farm wife who worked hard inside and out. Her home was always neat and well kept, and so was she! She always looked neat and appropriate whenever she went out, and taught her granddaughters to do the same.😊
I live in Chicago and many people dress very well here.The casual look is more typical for suburbs area which compares to village type of life in Europe or around the world where you don't see Haute Couture in the field either.
You’re 100% correct. As a “mature” woman, I wish it were easier to find nice clothes but stores cater to these messy trends, revealing tight fitting clothes and matronly styles which many older women do not want to wear.
Same I started to buy chinese clothes online. The style is just so much more beautiful. Same goes for Japanese and Korean glothes. The only nice clothes here are sub culture clothes like Gothic clothes or Rockabily
true!!! I find it as an issue, even as a 22 year old, with a love to vintage nd victorian gowns - I would love to wear elegant hats, and princess dresses, but it is not so easy to find and buy them and people ould look at me as I am insane, instead of admiration.
@@Zuzzamma maybe you could find pieces you like at thrift stores or vintage thrift shops. I had a friend that dressed in vintage and she always looked nice , not like she was in a costume.
REAL i went to the mall the other day and literally all they sold was hoodies, sweatshirts, sweat pants, pajamas, yoga pants and leggings, etc, and I noticed the womens clothing wasnt really that feminine to me, it almost looked like mens clothing but fitted for a women..
I grew up having to dress up to go everywhere. My parents are immigrants to the US (now naturalized citizens) and it was customary in their culture to be dressed in a presentable fashion - taking pride in dressing well. This had nothing to do with having a lot of money, because they didn't have much. What they did have, however, was an awareness that one should go out into the world in pressed, clean clothes, always. Dressing well is part of who I am, I don't even have to think about it. It was instilled within me to have high standards in terms of what clothing to wear. Dressing sloppily was simply NOT tolerated. What you said about self care being reflected in your appearance is incredibly important. When one feels good, they put effort into how they look. I think many people in the west are not doing so well, mentally, and it shows. Thank you for speaking on this topic. ❤
Omg...I almost wrote the exact same comment. I grew up the EXACT same way...we would get yelled at and be told to change if we looked sloppy, and now it's stuck with me. Dressing nice is respectful, to me and to the ppl around me.
For years I worked 80 hours a week and was extremely obese, I wore big, dark clothes. I honestly didn’t want to be seen. Moved out the US to a more calming environment I’m at a more healthier weight and am actually pretty stylish. LOL I wholeheartedly AGREE the way we dress has a strong correlation to how we feel and think. 🦋
I agree for me it's the weight. There are definitely larger women who put effort but I'm not one. Clothes aren't about trendy, or stylish..I just need have to wear something clean and unwrinkled. I have a ton of shirts that are same color and shorts, almost like a uniform. I hate it. For the people that are in shape, and if money isn't a concern, no idea what's stopping them.
I agree with you, but I also have to say that plus size clothing is very expensive. And they also don't seem to make it very stylish. Some of it is, but most of it's not.
From what you share causation flows in the other direction when you feel better, you have more energy and attention for self-care and preening. you work 80 hours a week there is very little left for anything else
I started going to university this year. I dress very feminine. Now, in fall, I dress with like a sweater dress with knee-high boots, or a skirt, a sweater, and boots and things like that. I think my clothes are casual, but people look at me kinda weird since they are all wearing sweatpants. Sometimes, I feel a little overdressed. But the reality is, if other people don't want to dress well or at least wear something else rather than sweatpants or jeans, that's not my problem.
Wearing sweatpants is not not dressing well,,contextual is everything,,going to college an studying most of the hours an probably a part time job ,can u say comfortable an confident,,,,it shows what’s important,the studying,,wearing knee high boots ,shows insecurity,look at me look at me ,I am wearing uncomfortable knee high boots with nothing to do an all day to do it,but I’m getting the attention I can’t give my self ,,being a athlete I dress comfortable or like a athlete ,if I go out to dinner with my husband for an hour I might wear knee high boots ,context ,but no not to college classes I don’t want to be looked at ,I want to focus on my studies 🤦♀️
University is now a hot bed of mental health disorders, Marxists and wokery, I’m sure you are a beautiful unicorn in a herd of purple haired frumps. Keep showing them there is an alternative way for an intelligent young woman to present herself to the world.
Dear Anna, it is not about comfort, in fact it is simply about mass production. For centuries, and still in many non-western countries, people went to taylors to have their clothes customized and unique. But now we have big corporations that want to make huge profits by selling standard sizes and designs to the biggest number of people possible, so that they can make the most profit. So their keywords are cheap, uniform, standard. Then they sell it to us as “comfort”, “modern”, etc, (as marketing) and we believe it, when in fact it just means dull and uncreative, a fixed standard to appeal to the most number of people possible (the average customer, aka the average person in a mass society). Also I think that we have lost the value of beauty as a society.
@@lindatshappat4973 oh there is definitely a standard folks are all SUPER SIZED to the max. Huge, unfit, unkempt and now unwashed. I am not talking the homeless
Similar situation with today’s new architecture. Boring and simple designs with monochrome color schemes. Main reason being it’s cheaper for contractors to use low quality materials and without much detail.
I 100% agree, I won’t leave the house unless I have a proper and stylish outfit. I am usually the most dressed up person, and I am perfectly fine with that. My degree is in fashion design, and I love fine fabrics and creative feminine clothing. Thank you, Anna.
Same! I love being nicely dressed even when I’m home alone. When people comment on how formal I am I explain to them that I’m a fashion designer. I just find it odd that I have to explain to people why I don’t like being super casual.
"Dressing well is an action of self-care, when you put effort into your appearance you actually show yourself that you are worthy of love and respect" ❤️ this is a very good way to put it
I agree about having pride in your appearance. But I don’t think it is limited to a certain style. You can look well put together in a more casual way that is comfy and modern and still not look like a bum. Being overdressed In daily life is as much out of place as being underdressed, in my eyes.
You don't have to look perfect especially all the time...I love being well put together groomed and well polished, hair styled and clothes pristine but.... Even on days I think I'm wearing man repeller apparel I'm still looking good. At least that's what they're saying 😉😏 I remember one day I went out looking anyhow with all brown on and my matching head-tie with the brown shirt and brown skirt with no heels and this guy was standing in the front of the line in front of me with his back turned and I was standing behind him at the register line to purchase gas (a top off or fill up) to prep for a busy week ahead and the guy turned his head towards me just to say your beautiful! And I was thinking in my head I just threw on anything just to run over here to get gas to put in my car and I'm still getting compliments as if I was dressed up as my normal well put together an authentic self. God always surprises me with these beautiful comments by random people, pedestrians, by-passengers. Sometimes I be in my head like I know I'm not supposed to be out here looking random like this but then even at those times when my hair is not done and I have my head wrapped on guys are still shooting comments my way putting a smile on my face! Plus I didn't even think the guy saw me that day because when I walked through the gas station door and was waiting in the back of him in line it looked like there were only a few people in that gas station store. I don't even think that the guy had a chance to catch a glimpse or view of me let alone what I was wearing. I guess my face stuck out over the outfit. 😏🙏👏👑.
You can always wear some casual wear such as a t-shirt and turtleneck. But you can go for a polyester Black turtleneck, and some brown cardigan slacks. It is not being overdressed. But it is called being prideful and prepared. It’s not boastful to put enough effort into your own appearance. And the good News is that you do not have to A FASHIONABLE EXPERT. You don’t have to be a expert at trying to dress up and looking like some film noir crime thriller from the 1940s and 1950s. C’mon, it cannot be that bad. :(. How to put together a public casual outfit: if you’re going to coffeehouses, restaurants, public parks, and festivals Step 1: Purchase a Black Turtleneck (you can find any type of turtleneck at your local retail), it can be polyester, cotton, or wool. Find the Black Turtleneck in your size that can accommodate and compliment your body type. Then BOOM! You found the perfect turtleneck. I’m sure everyone rocks turtlenecks. Even my Mom in the late 1990s use to wear this red turtleneck and some blue jeans. It was so fashionable at the time due to the widespread influence and popularity of turtlenecks with blue jeans from shoes like Friends, Beverly Hills 70210810, Sabrina The Teenage Witch, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Moesha, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Martin, Sister, Sister, Dawson’s Creek, and Clueless. Step 2: Use the Internet to find some inspiration, you can go to these links and websites. It’d be probably useful in terms of finding what is your taste, aesthetic, and overall niche interests. You can use Pinterest, TH-cam, and Instagram for outfit ideas. Just type in the search bar #90sfashionoutfits #90sclothes #thriftingstores #outfitinspo hashtag. Step 3. If you can afford secondhand clothing you can go thrifting if you’d like, it’s optional not that mandatory. It depends on whether your personal style and taste is. We all have different preferences, styles, and tastes. And that’s okay ! :) Everyone just needs to find the correct thing that is best and right for them. We are all unique and have different tastes. That’s what makes us all special. 🩷💞💗💖
So, I used to dress very sloppily mostly because I wanted to be comfortable and didn't want to be vain. Oddly enough, reading Pride and Prejudice changed my mind on this. I realized that another reason that people dress well is to be respectful of each other and of where they are. So, I have decided to start dressing well, but I'm struggling. I don't want to be sexy or sloppy, I would like to just be subtly elegant, and classy, but modern clothes like that just doesn't really exist. Now I have decided to wear more 40s style clothing. All this is to say, I completely agree with you, and am really frustrated with this. I feel like I almost have to wear a costume to be classy and elegant.
You know a great way to find clothing like that is to search online for it. There are so so so so many great online stores out there. There's nothing you can't find online these days. It's easier than ever to find whatever nice clothing you want.
I don't know where you live, however I think most places will have thrift stores and the like. As someone who buys essentially all their clothes t thrift stores, I would highly recommend trying it! You can find some classy stuff especially if you live close to enough to a wealthier area or purposefully go shop there.
It's about finding your style. I think you simply need to keep searching. Suggest trying on clothes in shops, not buying then returning. I'm sure you'll find your 'next level up'.
Absolutely, Anna! My grandmother was a farm wife who worked hard every day, cooked delicious meals for her family, kept the farmhouse looking better than a lot of homes in town, and still made keeping herself neat (as well as healthy) a priority! She always looked elegant and appropriately dressed whenever she went out, and taught her daughters and granddaughters to do the same. I was recently at a family gathering and was admiring one of my cousin's elegant outfits, and it made us start reminiscing! Grandma had self-respect, and it showed. As a result, so did her daughters and granddaughters! I remember more than once getting hired (as well as promoted!) and my supervisor(s) said it was because they appreciated me dressing and acting professionally and appropriately. Thank you, Grandma!😊
My grandmother was the same! How did she do it? Work hard! She often told that she was envied by other women. But she just worked harder than the others. And was good in what she did. And proud of herself. I wish more women were like that. Because of my work I see nearly every week another household. Most homes are dirty and I do not want to even have a cup of coffee. Too dirty.
Anabey, don’t filter yourself for no one… say it how it is. I am tired of this generation not being able to handle the truth. I LOVE YOU AND YOUR CONTENT! Keep going ❤
Madam, this generation is facing more than any prior generation before them. What they need is mentors not judgers. Helpers, not preachers. These kids/young adults are messed up because of the generations prior to them. I'm 59 so I believe I am qualified to say that and we can agree to disagree always. Peace be with you.
What are they facing ? W-Lan-disconnection ? The generation is better off than everyone else before. Statistics show that there are fewer wars, less malnutrition and more education. I'm 33 right now, but discipline has never hurt. I Was able to study whatever I wanted and my grandparents could not afford it, because of financial Instability. So my grandfather had to work since he was 14. But yeah, todays children have too much to handle between tiktok and massconsumption... .
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I honestly it all comes down to one thing that nobody wants to admit. We are just LAZY. People go around creating those elaborated excuses and that's what they are, excuses.
I am not lazy myself. I just want to wear decent jeans and t-shirts to casual places based on my own personal tastes and still look respectful where others including women are dressed similarly. I understand the need to dress modestly in finer places. I just don’t want to give up dressing that way if possible
This is certainly a bizarre trend. What I find baffling is the trend to wear sweatpants and slippers but three pounds of glam makeup in public. I’m a director at a financial company, yet I get criticized by my boss for not wearing jeans to the office. I have yet to cave because I simply don’t feel good about myself when I wear more casual clothes. I agree that everyone can wear what they want, but it’s a narrow, misguided belief to think that sweats or leggings are the only comfortable clothes out there.
Girls wear that becuase they think it makes them look like effortlessly pretty instagram models or, becuase they're insecure about their body so they cover it up baggy clothes and they're insecure about their face so they cover them up in makeup.
Basically anything that fits right that isn't made of garbage fabric is going to be comfortable. I don't like to condemn more casual clothing as "lazy," but I feel like not shopping around to find a few brands that truly fit you well is incredibly lazy. If you can't find a brand or two where everything fits like it was made for you, you haven't looked hard enough. Spend a day going to every store within your price range and just try stuff on. I used to buy jeans from a store that I would *never* buy anything else from, but their jeans were good quality and fit me perfectly. I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't made the effort to go out and try on a million fits from a ton of different stores. I wore that same fit for at least five years. It saves a ton of time in the long run, and it's better than just wearing leggings because the pants at Target don't fit you well, so you just give up. That's lazy and sad.
Ask your boss why you have to conform to the masses and ask if he is anti-self-expression. (You are expressing YOU! You should be FREE to express you!). There's a deeply and stupidly held belief that wearing jeans indicates that a person is a rugged individual. There isn't anything more sheep-like. If someone asks WHY you don't wear jeans, you can always reply that you don't like clichés (!).
My mom always taught me to look decent when going out, even if just to run errands. She would not tolerate me wanting to wear pajamas to school which was the trend at the time. I am so glad she instilled this level of self-awareness in me!
I agree. I have seen this at weddings and funerals. I've seen people wear shorts to funerals. At my father in-laws funeral I was dressed nicely, , tidy, all in black and my husbands grandfather said to me "I think you and I are the only ones dressed up today". We laughed. He wore a beautiful suit that day. 6 months later he passed away and I wore the same outfit again and I knew he'd be happy I'd made the effort. ❤
My 46 year old son and I were just discussing this the other day! (I'm 74). We both are horrified at the outfits so many people are wearing , especially pajamas and slipper! What happened to just trying to look nicely put together? Doesn't have to be designer clothes. So here are two people who agree with you 100%!
@@tnt01 half of my school (including me) show up in pajama pants everyday lmao. but i feel like thats understandable considering its freezing and no one wants to put on proper clothes at 5:30 in the morning
@@whattheshart1 I don't wanna be rude, but how is that understandable, since it's freezing shouldn't you be putting on some tights/nylon socks or whatever and than some thick pants on top. Pajamas usually aren't that warm
I have often questioned whether I was the only person who noticed this trend. I miss the days of elegant feminine attire. What a breath of fresh air to find that that I am not alone.
It's not just casual. Jeans and t-shirts can look very nice and put together. It is the sloppiness. I am tired of seeing buttcracks, nasty greasy hair and jammies at the grocery store. It is just the overall personal sloppiness! I saw a woman recently wearing leggings tshirt and blazer. It was well thought out put together and wrinkle free. She looked fabulous!!! I love looking at 50's movies where people were well-groomed and put together. Thank you. I thought I was the only person who felt this way.
Yes! It's like even the most casual clothes of the past are no longer considered "comfortable enough" somehow because being sloppy is king now. The fact that putting on jeans instead of leggings is almost considered more dressed up is just wild when it feels like that should be the bare minimum for going out in public unless you're headed to the gym or something.
You’re right. Casual clothes absolutely can look well put together. So many people just have a negative mindset and it shows in how they choose to look. It’s not even difficult to look better. The main thing one needs is to learn, which thankfully we can do by simply watching channels like Anna or others. Anna is the best I have seen, but there are other good ones.
Finally! Someone with the same thought as me 😊 I’ve always admired how the older generations dressed so well, from head to toe. They always look so classy and put together. These days, when you try to dress well, you’ll be the odd one out since literally everyone wears the exact same style. 🥺
I dont care how people to choose to dress as long as the important bits are covered and they take care of hygeine. However, what bothers me is how dressing nice is now judged as trying to hard, snobby, shallow, etc.
Discovered during the pandemic that skirts and pantalons were much more comfortable than jeans. High wasted, doesn't fold in my knees, large pockets... I'm not going back.
100% spot on Anna. I was attending a conference a few weeks ago and most of the speakers were wearing sweatpants and t-shirts (these are authors, CEO's and industry leaders) I could not believe it. It has become so acceptable not to look presentable even when you have to speak in front of people because "we need to feel more comfortable or express who we are", which I think is just an excuse
I remember my mum telling me it was important to dress properly, so people would see you have made an effort and you find the occasion important ( I was 10yo and I was going to a birthday party) I feel like adults behave like teenagers now haha
One day at my neighbor's house another person asked me why I was so dressed up. My response was, "I have on black jeans and a cotton blouse. What do you expect me to wear?" For some reason, when I wear those straight-cut black jeans, people think I am "dressed up."
You looked super nice because everyone else was probably dressed in garbage bags. 😂 But a nice pair of jeans with a blouse is a classic. At this point just a pair of proper jeans (not skinny, not oversize, not dragging on the ground, no stains, no holes) with a regular size t-shirt (no oversize or too tight) and a reasonable pair of trainers looks like you're getting ready to go to the opera.
"Dressing well (consciously) is an act of self care"....so true. I know that when i was depressed, and still when i feel bad, i tend to dress sloppy. Upping my hygiene and dressing is actually a step in the good direction; one of more empowerment and selfrepect. Thanks Anna!
As someone living with depression, I fully agree that making the effort to look good and nice is part of self-care because it is just basic self-respect. If I respect myself and other people, I take care of the way I look and dress when I meet other people. Putting together my daily looks is an important part of my routine, and appropriate outfit and look for each occasion, whether office or a cultural event in the evening, helps me get in the appropriate mood.
Great video. Thank you. I was raised by a Puerto Rican mother. She always instilled in us: "We are Puerto Rican, we get dressed up to go to the store to buy milk" 🤭 I appreciate all of your points. I will forever wear dresses and sometimes I feel overdressed in this era, but I don't care. It feels good for me.
I live about 40 minutes from a border town. I’ve noticed other customers who wear nice clothes to go grocery shopping. Thank you for sharing your experience. This gives me some things to think about. 😊
@@eccaetchings5587 People from US border towns are not the same as Puerto Ricans. I know, I know, it seems like all Latinos are the same. Puerto Ricans are US citizens and have a Caribbean Latin background. What I think you're trying to say is that Latinos are more conscientious about their dress. I would agree overall.
Yup. I'm first generation Mexican-American. I love seeing the hispanic ladies at the Mexican grocery stores wearing high heels, cute outfits and a full face of makeup. I love that they care about their appearance.
One reason for casual dressing that I think was overlooked is that in general our population is much larger than previous generations. My weight has fluctuated in my life and I find it much more difficult to dress well when I’m carrying extra weight. We’re a physically unhealthy society and it shows so bad. 😢
I think this has a lot to do with confidence. I’m an average sized person and see very cute clothes in the plus size section of stores often, wishing the same style was sold in my size because it’s often more sophisticated looking, structured and just over all looks more elegant. Even Walmart has good looking plus size women’s clothes (that look better than average size) I think we (especially women) tell ourselves we can’t wear this or that. That doesn’t mean to go out and wear a crop top everywhere (no one should lol) but wearing a dress or blouse or blouse looks nice on everyone.
You can still dress well if overweight, unless you mean obese. Many larger ladies look fabulous in calamitous clothes. And sloppy clothes make a person look bigger.
I couldn't agree with you more, Anna! I work in a law office that has pretty much dispensed with a dress code as we don't have clients coming into the office. As a result, everyone wears jeans most of the time and some of the attorneys even wear shorts in summertime. Everyone, that is, except me. I like to look professional when I am in the office and I do this by wearing dresses, tailored pants, and nice jewelry. The only day I dress down is on Friday as a concession to the relaxed office attire. I feel better about myself when I look nice, and think it conveys an aura of professionalism.
This is interesting because as ‘superficial’ as this message may seem I think it actually goes to a deeper insight of how laxed, lazy, uncaring, unpoliet, and borderline disrespectful our society has become. People are a lot less careless and disrespectful now then ever and it’s just the fact. I can go on and on about this topic because I find it to be a huge issue. Anywho I agree with you I never felt comfortable leaving my house not put together
once a woman told me: "it's easier to like yourself if you make yourself likeable", and I followed her advice, start by looking after your appearance, so when you look in the mirror you can feel good about what you see. I don't look after myself because I want people's approval, I do it because I want to feel proud of myself, so eating healthy, going to the gym, dressing in clothes I like, all that helps with self-esteem.
@@carolalvarez3925 Yes, and some clothing helps us to avoid masculine atittudes or movements... Clothing could enforce our way to move, to act, to be ourselves and to preserve our natural shapes. Under a maxi sweater, who knows what is there?. Hahaha... maybe lack of selfcare...
When I was 12 I was told by so many women in church to stop dressing up so much. I didn't think I was dressing up, I just thought that I was dressed very nicely. I tried dressing the way that they wanted me to, and I felt like garbage, like waking up with unbrushed teeth in the morning.
Yes, and it’s about organising our wardrobe. Once we are used to dressing up a certain way, it wouldn’t take a lot of time. It is matter of initial efforts when your wardrobe is messed up that it takes effort to get organised.
My mother once told me the following:"You greet people according to their clothes and say goodbye according to their character." I also feel that fashion nowadays has decreased. I love wearing dresses and looking feminine. Finding clothes like that is nearly impossible. I often have to order retro and vintage clothes from the internet. It is sad that fashion is not a thing anymore among men and women
Yes, vintage is the way to go!!!! The cuts & lines in vintage makes for a very beautiful & tailored look. The "sweat shop schlock" that is available in the stores today are like big baggy tents - "one size fits all" sloppy & totally soulless. I love looking feminine too in my vintage dresses & skirts & blouses. I have a feeling that a renaissance is on the horizon where men & women will want to look better. And common courtesy & common sense prevails. In the mean time, "become the change that you wish to see"❤💘❤
Agree, it simply becomes very difficult with this never-ending oversize trend. And when you're a petite, it makes it extremely difficult to find even one piece that is tailored to your body.
I'm always criticized for being overdressed. I'm 22, but love to dress up. My style is a mix of a highly feminine version of dark academia and cottagecore. I also love to wear dresses and skirts all the time, but I also wear pants when needed to. Whenever I meet up with friends, I often get the "don't dress up too fancy". I always tell them that their "fancy", is simply just my casual.
Good for you. Don't let them discourage you. When I was that age, I felt that people thought that I considered myself better than them because I dressed more 'posh'. Which, of course, was not my intention. Looking back, I think I gave up too early and that, if I persisted, people would have accepted it.
Yes, the same with me. I am doing something with a friend and she says, "You don't have to get dressed up!" I just go ahead and dress how I would normally i.e. with care.
Maybe this would be a good time to produce a video about elegant everyday dressing, the kind that we can wear to do chores, go to the supermarket for example :) I think that's the time when we put on literally whatever seems to be most comfortable. Thank you!
@@tajayatomlinson5298Yes. Dressing for the gym and fitness classes can be a challenge. This summer I learned that what worked for indoor yoga wasn’t what you wore to outdoor Tai Chi. And I‘ve been admiring the running gear of my super stylish neighbour. Would compliment her on the look if she wasn’t whizzing by so fast. Some outfit ideas would be great.
This is why I love it when people FINALLY dress UP to go to the cinema to see Barbie and Oppenheimer. I think people actually miss dressing up, but for some reason there's a kind of scrutiny when they dress up while other people dress so sloppy
We need this video. I live in the Rocky Mountains and yes dress is casual but there's a huge difference between casual and sloppy. I see women who make no effort to look cute or feminine, have the same long stringy hair, no make up and I wonder what happened?
i don’t dress up at all. my fibromyalgia wears me out, i have sensory problems, and no fashion sense. i am happiest in baggy sweats and tshirt that don’t overwhelm my body. i admire ppl who can get themselves done up everyday, y’all look amazing ❤
I understand. I have fibromyalgia, sensory sensitivities and chronic mental issues. I just delight in the art of fashion and am picky to find soft and lovely fabrics.
This is understandable. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 20 years ago. I'm doing much better since then; but when I was suffering at my worst, I did not dress up either. When you are trying to survive chronic illness, that is your main priority. I hope you find some relief and healing. Take this information or leave it but I'm going to tell you how I found relief, it may or may not help you but I'm going to at least try. I believe my fibro was given to me by intensive childhood trauma. I did EMDR, CBT, DBT, and internal family systems. Keep in mind, this took years to accomplish. Once I started feeling some relief I started with minimal exercise, changed my diet, and got into herbal supplements like milk thistle. The only time I get flare ups now is when I am really upset, like when my friend passed away recently. But before that it had been many many, many many years since I had had a flare up. Hopefully this helps.
@@warrax111 fibromyalgia as a term didn’t exist until i think like the 1970s, but it’s symptoms were discussed in medical documents as early as the 1850s if not earlier, i googled that for you. i do have a doctor for it, i don’t know what part of my comment implied i’m doing absolutely nothing about it.
I cannot agree more. I am truly delighted you took the time to do this video. I am a therapist and you're so right self care and appearance has a direct link to mental health. My biggest "head scratcher" is the nude trend!! Why is so much skin is being shown and so much transparency of clothing just leaves me speechless. There is nothing left to the imagination. I tell you, I was raised to always look your best, because you "only have one chance to make a good first impression". Thank you!
Agreed. Women don't realize how important modesty is. I used to work at an airport and was horrified at what I saw. Now I live in a small city in E.Oregon and I am equally horrified.
I love that my husband and I have jobs that allow us to fit in with elegant attire. I believe I have some impact on younger generations as well. As a teacher, kids often tell me I look nice and smell nice and the girls say they want to wear skirts and dresses like me. If they show up dresses a bit nicer for picture day, they are so confident! Girls tend to run up to me and say:"Look! We look the same today!" 🥰❤️ I believe the elegant style will live on. The ones who appreciate it will carry it with them in the future.
I never thought about the fashion trends this way to be honest. And from the beginning I thought I won't agree with you because I love the way it's normal now to spend less time on your look, that faces without makeup grow in popularity, and women have to struggle less trying to achieve the unbelievably high standard to get to be called beautiful. I watched the video to the end though, because your way of talking is very appealing, and you are also very respectful. By the end I must say, I agree with your points! I definitely don't want the classy fashion be the usual norm again, but I'd love to see how this trend rises for those who want to dress up like that, and that you won't feel too different or bothered. What we do need, is the obedience to the dress code in public places. Thank you for the video and new food for thoughts!
In every single picture I have of my mom she looks amazing, and those pictures where taken with an old school camera so there wasn’t always “posing” and no filters or choosing one best out of a hundred selfies. Can you imagine always looking great even in candid shots? That’s saying something! What a great impression to leave for the next generation!
Same. My mother's old photos, she always looked so good, even when she was casual she was wearing a nice pair of flats and nice top and pants and a nice handbag, she always looked good, modest and attractive even when casual.
@@g.970 Heel can be quite damaging to the feet and the body. It is quite reasonable as to why one would not want to wear them practically everyday nowadays.
@@Me-hm6fv no kidding. They are horrible for our feet but my Mom was of that generation who wore heels. I’m not sure they even had dressy flat shoes then , at least not where she lived. In later years she had surgery on her feet. My feet took abuse from 12 years of ballet. To this day I have to wear good shoes with a ton of arch support as I still have super high arches from all that dance. I remember when we’d go to the big city to shop my sister and I were in dresses, hats and gloves. I still like to dress nicely and my sister lives in sweats. 😂
You make a really good point about the whole “don’t look” concept - it’s really hard to ignore. This isn’t just guys looking at women inappropriately, it’s distracting for other women too! To a degree, we are still aware when something is not appropriate, however much we have tried to erase that concept, it still exists, and when someone crosses that line, it makes it incredibly hard to ignore, just in the same way it’s hard to ignore someone doing something random like a handstand in a grocery store or singing in a bookstore. It’s out of place, so it turns heads.
My husband actually brought it to my attention that I was entering a depressive slump and he could tell because I had stopped paying attention to my appearance. I hadn’t even noticed that I was loosing that battle until he said something. I’ve been making myself dress well for work, do my hair, and wear makeup this work week and it actually is making a difference!
And for those wondering, my husband brought it to my attention in a kind and caring way. He asked if I was feeling ok and in no way tried to make me feel bad! He’s a wonderful man that loves me tremendously
@@FeralFeminineI definitely didn’t take that as him criticizing you. It sounds like he pays attention to the things that lots of husbands wouldn’t notice or pay any mind to. He checked in on you to see if you were okay. What an amazing guy! You’re so lucky ❤
Completely understand. He was being caring and observant. I did the same thing when I got depressed. I had to start making conscious efforts to practice self care and what do you know, it did help me feel a bit better
It’s great to know you are loved and cared for by someone that compassionate and attentive. Please take care, that’s a very fortunate person to have in your life.
I hate it. I genuinely would wear a suit and hat every day. I am not saying clothes "cure" depression, but wearing a suit and hat makes you feel so amazing. It's probably the reason why so many people are unhappy nowadays. DRESS UP! The more people do it, the better! Spend more on quality and less on quantity! So what if its £500 for a coat, if its classic and made out of quality materials, it will last a lifetime. As long as you look after it. My great grandad had the same suit he bought in his 20s. The truth is, classic men and women's wear IS comfortable. Love your video! And couldn't agree more. 👌
I went to class with sweatpants on once, many years ago. I have never felt so uncomfortable! My clothes were soft, but I felt sloppy and lazy. I'm happy I've since realised that one can be both comfortable and well dressed.
I agree. In college, the only reason I wore sweatpants to one of my classes is that the gym was much closer to the classroom than to my room. As a fitness-obsessed student, I went to the gym before class to get it out of the way (no time to change or shower-waited until I made it to my room) and then straight to class. I felt embarrassed about my sweatpants. Now I don’t own a pair of sweatpants, and I always shower and make myself look presentable after working out, even if I am just going to the grocery store or post office. Besides, I never know whom I will run into.
Completely agree, I've had a similar experience. I went to the store to buy milk once in the middle of the night and decided to just keep my pajama pants on. Because it was so late I only saw one person, the cashier, and I still felt so embarrassed I never did it again. When I see people in public in pajamas in broad daylight I can't figure out what is going through their heads, it seems like you really have to not care about anything at all to not be embarrassed doing that. Some might say they just don't care what others think, but also it has to be that they don't care what they themselves think either since being sloppy and dirty are usually signs that something is not going right in a person's life. I think our society is very troubled overall.
Aloha beautiful Anna. I so agree with you. I find myself watching more and more old movies from the 1930’s- 1970’s. After that I don’t know what happened but from messy, unattractive, poorly fitting clothes, to obesity epidemic/crisis (mostly due to high carbs, sugar and processed food) to shaved heads, yucky beards, poor posture - so unbelievable. Glad I’m not the only one feeling this. Also, most fashion and looking good is put on women, in my humble opinion. People have just given up on sensible, appropriate conduct and attire and hygiene. Thank you for addressing this issue.
She’s back! Thank you for posting this. Dressing poorly is a reflection of mental health, and if dressing sloppy is the norm in certain cultures, what does it say about our society? We do have access to more resources now more than ever.-It’s really sad.
Personally I don’t find anything wrong with casual clothing as long as it’s worn in a casual setting. Your clothes should be appropriate for whatever it is you are doing. Athletic wear should be worn in the gym. Jeans can be worn when you’re running to the store. But I don’t think either of those things or loungewear should be worn places like the office, concerts, dates, etc. You can wear whatever you want as long as it is appropriate for the occasion.
100 % agree. dressing to the occassion. i was actually shocked to be the only dressed like a CEO for my job orientation while future collegues around me was way too casual for a “business casual” dress code. I am over 40 and everyone around me ( high school seniors/college freshmen) was in jeans and t-shirts, flip flops and sandals too. 🤦🏼♀️🙄😑🤯 don’t they have career week in high schools and colleges that teaches and trains you on the etiquette of a business setting? I remember my career counselor restricting me to no graphic tees, jeans and doc martins for a job interview.😑 however, investing in a decent blazer and a pair of flats uplifted my look on casual fridays. Lol. anyways, this was my personal experience to define dressing up to the occassion. thanks everyone for your time to read my comment. I hope you have an amazing day! 😘😘😘❤️✌️😎
@@nettie_speaks here's where I'm going to sound like the boomer I am. If we have multiple generations dressing like slobs - and we agree that we do - a certain percentage of those people are going to be leaders in companies, with others in HR positions vetting new employee candidates and hiring. So I guess all these slobs will be hiring fellow slobs? All will be covered in nasty tattoos? I know this sounds really cynical, but I don't see how the pendulum can swing back toward any discernable level of elegance when you've got multiple generations lacking the level of self-awareness we're lamenting in this forum.
I love how you didn't make it about people's weight and looks but made this video more broad and inclusive which does push people like me to take this more seriously, thank you
Same experience here for me, went to Japan 🇯🇵 for the first time this spring and the difference from the USA was striking. People actually cared about how they looked and everyone was conscious about how they presented themselves. They also know fashion intimately and everyone dressed with pieces that represented either their unique style or shared social environment. As someone that actively works in the Luxury Fashion Industry and has seen the decline of proper styling in the States, Japan gave me a sense of hope that at least people still cared on that side of the world.
All you ladies in the comments saying you are usually overdressed are inspiring me. I dont have a lot of money to blow (im sure not every single one of you does either) but i want to learn to sew so I can make more dresses and actually put that effort in. Im impressed by all of you so keep it up!!
I'm not trying to demotivate you or something but sewing takes time, a lot of trials and errors and you need to have patience. If you have a full time job or anything it'll get harder for you. But sewing is great. You can get what you want. And if you have procrastination behaviour like me, I would like to make a suggestion, take investments slow. Make your wardrobe piece by piece..
@@juvanit8694 You are right! I love to sew too, but it takes a lot of time and patience and is getting more expensive! Shopping at TJMaxx, Ross, and Marshall’s or even Walmart is working for me!
You are 100% Anna! At the company my husband and I founded, we still insist on true business dress. If employees don’t like it, they can work somewhere else. We have seen that the quality of work is higher quality in proportion with dressing professionally. It is just sad to me to see how much more difficult it is to find a good suit these days without going bespoke which is out of reach for most people. Keep teaching Anna!
And when dressing professionaly their behaviour towards eachother in the company is also more professional? (their way of talking to eachother and their manners)
When I first started my job, I was feeling confident and on top of the world, and I did! I put effort into my appearance. Fast forward to after a year and a half of toxic workplace and bad management, I am still in my pajamas, and have stress health complications. Yes, how someone dresses is very much a reflection of their self care. I know how much I have been neglecting my self care these past few months, and it is so funny how a simple youtube video can help you put stuff like this into sharp clarity. No, hopping into the shower and putting on some nicer clothes isn't going to fix my mental state now that I've put in my two weeks notice. But it is one pebble in the bucket towards regaining my sense of self and my respect for myself and will help me going forward as I begin to apply and interview for another job. So thank you!
My mom always told me it is easier to forgive someone for being “over” dressed than “under” dressed when you go somewhere. 👌 It does not mean causal and cosy clothes are never an option but i tend to go more formal because of this. 🤗
I studied fashion in college. I personally think that there are waaaayyyy too many fashion trends going at once. So lots of people dont know what to wear. So you see women looking super casual in workout clothes all day to straight frumpy, all the way over to the over done look. We see trashy clothes, preppy clothes, space cowgirl, nashville/dallas style, new york street style, boutique mom fashion, southern ritzy, boho/hippie chic, Beach babe, what I call shein style or that look from low end on line stores, hip hop, eclectic, to old lady inspired looks worn by the youth like high schooler or college girls with their mom jeans and clunky tennis shoes and so on. There is just way too much of everything! No one knows what to wear so everyone wears whatever they want nowdays. I hate not knowing what to wear these days!
And really it’s also about too many people influencing the trends. Too many influencers, celebrities, and the like influencing what people wear when oftentimes they are the worst dressers. But it’s who everyone sees in magazines, tv and online so they become a trend. Even though they look like slobs. We need to stop taking our trend advice from young idiot influencers and teens and start dressing like mature adults.
I always hated the pressure of being forced to dress uncomfortably and not look like myself just to make people I don't even like like me better. I don't go out in public over-exposed, but despite your claims every single dress and skirt, every non stretch trouser or blouse, are extremely uncomfortable to me. Yes of course I've tried ones that fit correctly. Now that I don't have to waste my time and money on products I don't need or driving to an office where I'm judged on crap that has nothing to do with my job, I'm not mad about it. Some of the lacking self care issues are mental health related, but judging the mentally ill for their fashion choices is just plain wrong and not helpful, and the opposing rise of so many people fixating on their physical appeal so much that they permanently ruin their bodies with plastic surgery, botox, and fillers instead of accepting themselves is even worse.
You are spot on. As someone who dresses casual, I am doing so because, I admit, I have been in a lazy slump. I have been telling myself that I need to step it up. Like you said, when we step it up, we feel better. I completely agree. This was just in time for the new year!! Thank you :)
I like to dress myself up in dresses and feminine clothing. People around me shame me for “dressing like an old lady” but this is just class. It’s classier to put effort into how you dress.
lol, Zoomer stupid argument, everyone who don't want to degenerate with them, they automaticaly judge him by "old" nonsense. I really appretiate i didnt born in this generation like young. Who is normal, or resists and tries to be, is outsider.
@K_anita. I don't know how old you are, but you really are going to have to try to work out of getting out of that. When you get older, you're going to regret living your life for the opinions of others, who are miserable, and can't even be authentic themselves. I'm 44 years old, and I just lost one of my best friends who was 42 at the time. I'm telling you, life is a lot shorter than you realize, and the last thing you want to do is have regrets because of miserable people's opinions. Please do what makes you happy. You owe it to yourself.
@K_anita. Women have the opportunity to wear such a variety of clothes and colors, and they don't take advantage of it. In the past, the arrival of spring could be seen on the flowery dresses, light blouses and flowing skirts of young women passing by on the street, we used to talk about spring dresses. Please, don't deprive yourself of wanting to look like a woman and not a mop, take advantage of your youth to wear beautiful clothes.
I completely agree with you. I've been thinking the same thing as I look at old family photos from the 1930s and 1940s. People didn't have much money, but everyone dressed so well. Women wore beautiful dresses, even as casual wear. Nothing fancy or expensive, just elegant, form-fitting, and indicative of honor and respect for oneself and others.
I am a house painter and when I am at work, very often I think that I look better in my work clothes than the majority of the people passing by. All the people in ugly clothes and with bad hair, often very bad manners, too. Poor society, so sad. You are absolutely right to mention it, dear Anna.
I had to move to Argentina for a job 8 years ago and I am working in a city with around 50.000 inhabitants... can you believe that any of the coiffeurs here can't cut my straight hair well?. Even if I tell them how to cut my hair they end as they want and I have to come home, take the scissors and start to give the shape I want... This is not only for clothing, the "culture of the ugly" is at any area of the society, here in Argentina and over the world.
I live in a city and my office has a business casual dress code so it's not like I'm even wearing anything overly fancy, but I often go places after work and wonder if other people even have jobs because so many people look so sloppy that I can't imagine them going to work like that.
@@rosethorn0232 I agree... I have to wear working clothes -I work in roads-, but, when summer and works are quiet or when I know there weren't works at road I wear casual -good pants, good/ casual oxford blouse or any other blouse embroidered and slippers or sandals, a good bag and clean. I can see in my city people do not take care on details... and leggins are the most common clothe -I hate them-, they seem to be "dirty"... 🌹
I recall inviting a friend to have afternoon tea at Claridges. I was really looking forward to it and wore a lovely dress, did my hair and make up. To my surprise, she came along dressed in a baggy sweater and baggy trousers, she didn't make any effort at all. It wasn't the best experience. I was surprised that she was allowed to go in.
We can still look classy in casual wear. I wear a beautiful good quality gym outfit with a trench or a coat, and a pair of white sneakers, and I always look put together. But of course it has its place. And also it all depends on the lifestyle of a person. I personally wear casual most days because I walk to my local cafes every single day to have my coffee, and again I do look put together.
@@fredacharbel7510 Well sweetheart I’m not taking away from what you love and do. This is speaking for my expression and what I like- as well as those that share my opinion. Thanks for stopping by though 💋
I was wearing tracksuit pants while watching this video, waiting for my daughter to wake up to take her to an appointment. After watching this video, I immediately changed into my new white jeans and a nice wool sweater. I felt so much better! Thanks for the reminder about the power of clothing, Anna!
I agree with you. It is very possible to be comfortable and classy. I’m a stay at home mom to 3 small girls and I wear a dress just about everyday. It helps me to feel more productive, beautiful, and I know my children and husband love seeing me in my dresses. Also, I whole heartedly believe that dresses are way more comfortable than pants, yoga pants, shorts, etc. I even dress my girls in dresses just about everyday and they absolutely love it. I’m glad to hear that other people feel the same way about dressing with more class.
I couldnt agree more. The exterior is the clue to the interior. We project our mental state by what we wear. If uou have no sense of fashion, then you are mentally disturbed. It is not superficial to look put together, indeed Jane Austen and Virginia Woolf took fashion and personal appearance very seriously. You would not call these ladies superficial! Keep up the good work Anna Bey!! We need you as a beacon of light in these dark times!!
Hi, I am a Spanish man (from Spain, Europe). You probably didn’t expect me commenting in your video, but the algorithm works in mysterious ways. I work in IT in an European Nordic company and the dress code is beyond sloppy, there are individuals that literally come dressed with a pyjamas, and stink as if they had no shower. I like to dress up myself as it is something I’ve grown with in my family. I was taught to dress comfortable but clean and appropriate for several situations: doctor, travel, work, etc .. but if I come to office with just a dress shirt and my nice dress shoes made in Spain the comments range from “you look like the finance controller” or “are you planning to become the CEO”. It is truly depressing that I’m literally forced to dress like a 12 years old when in reality I would dress like a grown up man. That is the reason I am not coming back to office, I hate fitting into their pyjamas world. Same goes with women, it is really difficult to picture myself dating a woman who, repeatedly, wears leggings and sneakers, I find them totally off. And before you judge me, I am not advocating for high heels, which I understand they can be very hurting and uncomfortable. But I find women in athleisure very unattractive. Even my current partner says that formal attire makes me look very “strict” and she prefers me in sneakers and sweat shirt. And all I do to look “strict” is to wear an Italian sports jacket on top of a T-shirt 😢. I think I will break up with her. Your rant matches 100% my mother’s rant about today’s “pig” trend, as she says repeatedly. And you know what?, you both are right and you can say it LOUD and proud. I root for you Miss.
I love it. "Pajama World" is so funny and so true. Glad to read a gentleman's opinion here. I personally appreciate a man who looks good, and well put together. Keep it up!
A well dressed, well groomed & hygienic man will always get my attention. Stay true to who you are! 😊 And...who the hell wears PJs to work? What is wrong with this world?
@Mokes888 Atheltic wear is amazing for running errands in etc. I agree it's tacky in the workplace but it definitely has it's place in this fast paced modern age. Nothing wrong with a drifit tee and some sleek black leggings for a busy day.
What are you apologizing for Anna? you have nothing to apologize for!..you are right in every point you made!..i truly believe self-care translates into right mindset and well being..ive been watching and following your videos since ive discovered it early this year..and i so regret not finding you early on..ive been leveling up my wardrobe since then..thank you and God bless u
I so agree with this! While i don't really care about what other people wear, i can't express the comfort it brings me when i know ive put together an outfit that makes me feel polished, confident, and at the same time comfortable. Dressing well is absolutely a form of self care and self love ❤
I hate to be _that_ person, but ... sometimes it's maybe not a fashion choice? After a shoulder injury, I found that a lot of the clothes I used to wear just weren't practical. I started looking differently at everything from necklines to arm design to closures to material stretch. It's affected my overall wardrobe, and I have to admit I appreciate the overall casual trend, because I can dress 'functionally' at work without comment.
I love that you talk about other cultures, Anna. I've definitely noticed, here in Canada, that if a Japanese woman or Indian woman wears a dress to go for a walk, everyone is VERY accepting of this. But, if I wear a dress to walk my dog, I get weird looks. We are actually quite afraid to be different, potentially misunderstood. Also, we really need to remember that just because a celebrity is photographed coming out of the gym in cycling shorts, doesn't translate to us (or them) dressing like this ALL day. ♥️🇨🇦
For me it's been about the season of life I was in. I was born in 1960 and actually wore gloves and a hat to kindergarten. I always dressed up until I became a grad student. I was barely getting sleep or had time to eat. Athleisure was my go to, however, on days when I had breathing room, I'd wear a skirt, ballet flats, and made an effort with my hair. Later, in the tech workforce, if someone dressed up, they were asked, "are you going on an interview?" After that, while working from home and raising two young children, I had very few opportunities to dress up. Finally, when the kids were older, I went into a work environment where we dressed up. I loved it. Now, as a retiree, I'm all over the map. Camping in the backwoods with my husband or flying to Paris. We go from flannels and jeans to dressy city wear. I think it all comes down to dressing appropriately. Unfortunately, we all have different interpretations of appropriate.
I was born in '64 and in addition to church, we dressed up for social events like open house at school and birthday parties. I dressed nicely for work in office attire, however as a retiree I will admit that there are days that I can do better. Still, I practice good hygiene and keep myself well-groomed at all times. I also dress appropriately for the situation whether I'm dining out, handling business matters, walking on nature trails, or knee deep in housework. I find that appropriate dress is relative to the circumstances, but good hygiene is essential.
i am so glad you made a video about this!! my mother always taught me to dress well. of course, in grade school, i had peers telling me i was always overdressed or came off as "i think i'm better than everyone else" and got told that i was high maintenance - and that continued into adulthood. so i degraded my style. in high school i was dressing more edgy - i listened to a lot of rock music, so that influenced my clothing style. into adulthood i went back to dressing nicely but ended up getting the same exact comments and i hated it. i couldn't find anyone who just wouldn't comment. so i dressed down again and it was just a lot of jeans/shirts/sneakers and i'm just kind of stuck there right now, trying to get back to how i was raised. the worst of it all was really just being told how high maintenance i was -whatever that even means. because i was maintaining myself; not asking others to maintain my personal lifestyle
My mom and I always talk about this exact topic! Anna I’m so glad you are bringing it to the forefront. It’s so true, there are fabrics and styles of trousers, skirts and dresses that are a lot more comfortable than jeans. I find the clothing and styling is a reflection of a person’s consciousness and how they feel about themselves.
Even employees they are protesting if you ask them to come with clothes, which are comfortable, clean and ironed. People are losing track of what is appropriate on many levels.
@getthekool1758 I agree but also think that snubbing appropriate workplace dress is a by-product of the problems companies have hiring. They'd rather you come in looking like a slob than to have a standard or two, have you leave in a huff because you need to wear a shirt with a collar, and then have to go through the time suck and expense of replacing you. So they choose to impose no basic guidelines, and here we are. As Anna said, people are making excuses for their sloppy appearances in the name of "self-expression. And while we're on the self-expression topic . . . a lot of people might torch me for this, but I absolutely can't stand the tats. It's everywhere. I wish with a return to decent dress people would slow down on the ink. A sleeve of tats isn't equivalent to a sleeve of an actual shirt. LOL!
@@getthekool1758 Dress code depends on the job too, don’t forget. For example, a nurse who is on her feet all day, wearing sneakers, walking back and forth and is wearing scrubs. It may not look professional and neat but scrubs can help protect against cross contamination and wearing tennis shoes or other shoes that aren’t flats/ heels are definitely more comfortable for the nurse (shoes should also be closed toe). Should nurses wear skirts, heels and dresses but disregard their own comfort and possibly patients’ safety just so they can look nice?
@@AlesaGrant What is “appropriate workplace dress”? Construction workers, nurses, biohazard cleaners, in these occupations listed above, try wearing a nice pencil skirt and heels and it is definitely not appropriate for those jobs.
I suspect it has more to do with the general exhaustion people are experiencing. I like dressing up but I have less and less money and getting cute takes a little time I’ve been using to rest or do overtime
It all depends on your style but I like spending money on few versatile and quality pieces of clothing. I can use them for years to come in different ways without having to spend the extra cash to replace some of them. Some fashion pieces should be seen as an investment.
I absolutely agree with you! Thank you so much for bringing up this topic, Anna. It is such a relief to know that I am not the only one thinking this way about people dressing nowadays. It does tell us so much about the way our society thinks and behaves in modern times, lacking style and respect, too. I think everyone should learn from Coco Chanel about how to dress in style.
I’m from a big Mexican city and everyone dresses nice to go out casually and super dressed up for going out and events. I moved to the us and mostly everyone is super dressed down casual/sloppy. Even for work. I started getting lazy too and just recently started dressing nicer again.
I felt the same shock when I was in the US with my alternative clothes back in 2016-2018. In Germany we are used to dress up if we go out to eat or go shopping and go out in general. At the airport I could tell if asians where from the US or from asian countries. Same with europeans, in europe men know how to dress up at least
If there's anyone I could have counted on to finally address this topic, it's Anna. THANK YOU! Dressing presentably these days makes heads turn. People stare. A lot. However, I've chosen to stay unbothered and to stick to my standards. And Anna, thanks a million for bringing up the 'intimate space' conversation. Everyone needs to hear it.
My grandmother was a very classy dresser. She taught me to always look good in my clothes. She had the same outlook as you have. She was also European. I am glad I learned from her.
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Yes. You can be both comfortable and elegant. Just wear real pants, a blouse or a fine knitted top and proper leather shoes.
Self Care is Self Respect. Obesity is glorified in the media instead of being called out for the slow death it really is. If you don't care about yourself you're not capable of caring about other people. Society in the US is falling into the sewer.
As a doctor I remember having a seminar in psychotherapy, and the professor said - once the patient starts to have an improvement, you can often notice it by how they look. They start making their hair, doing manicure, choosing nice clothes etc. That has really stayed in my mind.
On the flip side, I wish doctors didn't judge someone who cares about their appearance as "not sick enough".
@@lalaithanagreed. I always fret over how to dress when I visit the person who writes my scripts. If I want to up my dose, I show up looking disheveled. Jokes on them.
@@lalaithan Oh my goodness! Thank you! Thank you!👏👏👏. This has been happening to me, & I didn't understand why the Dr kept writing in my file, that "******* is well groomed, she's wearing x....". My friend explained to me what that meant.🤬
@@lalaithantrue, like sometimes I feel I shouldn’t dress too nice or they will not think I’m sick 😅
It means mentally people are overloaded today.
Not a surprise! Raising kids on your own for example, without absolutely anykind of help, except for the one you can pay.
I started a job where everyone dressed sloppy. Instead of a joining this culture, I spent time and effort into each outfit. The results? Everyone stepped up their game. You influence the people you are around. For better or worse.
True!
Ooh that sounds great! I would do the same if it happened to me to, it would be nice to have people like you as a coworker
Post 1990s
Honestly same, I recently took a product management class and upon our graduation party, one of my classmates said, and I quote “ when you walked in, I knew I had to get my sh*t together. You always showed up dressed so well I thought you were a VP or an exec of some sort”
I haven’t felt so honoured in a while bc I very much do my best to always be presentable.
I sometimes that. In fact I have one friend who was pretty well dressed when I met her. She's gradually become more sloppy, & also wears clothes that are way too young for her & don't for properly.
It would be amazing if we could dress up in beautiful dresses again and not be seen as “old looking” or “ overdressed”
Me to!! I want to be able to wear beautiful dresses 👗 more often
Update: I have a lot of dresses in my closet, I just need to wear them more! Even if it's going out to eat at Red Robin🤣🤣
Just do it.
Agree JUST DO IT ROMANTICIZE YOUR LIFE ❤️
yeah it feels awkward
Sometimes change has to start with one person. Even if no one else dresses properly, one can be the person who does dress with flair. As a nurse, I had to wear a uniform and specific work shoes, so whenever I had the chance, going out for dinner, to a dance, to Church, I dressed as for an occasion. So few people dress up, not even for dinner out these days, which is sad. As long as there are some who won't give in, we have hope.
I'm a woman in my 40s, and I wear dresses more times than not. I'm always told that I'm overdressed, trying too hard, and showing off. I'm literally a middle-aged woman, people still expect me to dress and sweatshirts and yoga pants outside of the gym? Even when casual, you can still be well put together, and clean. This society has gone downhill, and it's disheartening.
told by who? by degenerates? their words have zero value.
Keep doing what you're doing! They are the ones that are sloppy!!
@@j348011 Always babe 💗 to thine own self be true.
Marie Antoinette Was heavily criticized for Dressing sloppy, she didn't like the big tight dresses of that time.
Ten years later it was normal to war wider Light dresses.
Keep your style! We need values!
I’m criticized sometimes for being overdressed at times. I personally think it’s important to look my best when I choose to leave my house, on the same note I don’t tell others how they should dress. I find most of my friends think like me.
Misery loves company. People who do this kind of comments don´t care living their lives wearing pajamas. 😑
Nothing bad at not caring all the times. In this video, Anna talks too much about other people businesses. Try to stick to only caring for yourself (and the person who watches this video) and let a society be casual in peace lol. Being bond to old traditions is nothing that will bring us forward - it is just something we like. I love to dress up and be classy, but hell no.. I wont be mad at people that are brave enough too just not care and live their live as they wish to do..
I learned growing up that it's better to be overdressed than underdressed. This holds true for me. If I'm underdressed, I will feel uncomfortable compared to being overdressed. For me, my confidence shines brighter when I am "overdressed".
I’ve had the same experience! I work from home and lots of my friends/family don’t understand at all why I wear office clothing when I could be working in sweatpants or even pajamas. I just can’t feel productive in lounge clothes though. I saw some videos on “enclothed cognition” though, which made me feel validated lol
@@bta8355 Exactly this. Be overdressed if this is what you like, but why care about what others are doing?
Something I find funny is often some of the "always dressed up" people will answer to this question saying: "Because you then project an image society will judge you by" but the entire time the only one being judgemental of your looks is them lol.
You are so right. People used to criticize sloppiness but now I get criticized for dressing modestly and classy. It's crazy 😮
Crabs in a bucket mentality!
Ignore them; they're probably jealous.
of what 😂😂 @@barbpecze4456
I’ve noticed this for a while ignore them most are probably not very attractive, cant dress or a decent weight from my experience they check all those attractive people that dress well will compliment and appreciate what you wear not make fun of it or shame you for overdressing or dressing nice
And many girls are being brought in a most unladylike fashion. Some of the behaviours are shocking! We need some of the old mores and customs to return.@@Lifeoftheparty8290
My form of social rebellion as a teenager was dressing emo (as much as my parents would allow, which was very little).
My form of social rebellion as an adult is dressing well.
I like that. I'm with you on that one...along with not drinking.
Exactly my case! I was emo and now I'm Barbie!
dressing well isn't a social rebellion, don't be kidding yourself... you are conforming to what you think society expects from you.
haha this is great
Society has normalized being too causal. It’s to a point where pjs and the sweatpants you sleep in are “okay” to go outside.
Btw, my entire family is from Italy and I was taught from a very young age that we don’t go out the door unless we’re well groomed and wearing fashionable clothing. Seamstresses & dry cleaners were, and are, very necessary!
Same in Germany
Even if you don’t have the money to wear “fashionable clothing,” you can dress nicely and/or classy.
I agree it's good in some ways but also it's a lot of pressure to appear a certain way. I'm not sure I think it's healthy TBH for either extreme. I expect people to respect my choices. I think this desire for authenticity is why social media is full of no makeup or reduced makeup images. We are more than just our appearance.
But that's a good thing, I am from Europe too, and I live in the US, sloppy is what I see all the time, aughg I see no reason to change myself.
Yep, you can tell in Italy ( and Spain)
So basically, people want to rebel by looking different untill they all start looking the same... And the rebellion is getting uglier and sloppier
We absolutely all look the same shopping at Zara or buying Hermes and Chanel. The lack of individuality or originality is all levels. We are even now trying to create false distinctions with that old money that is making everyone put on a beige/tan/cream uniform 😂.
Clever❤
@@Lafemmefutile 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well said!
@@Lafemmefutile yeah definitely i dont understand why 20s olds wanna look like a middle aged middle class career woman?
I don't always overdress, but the few times I did, I was treated significantly better by everyone around me. As trivial as it sounds, there are advantages in dressing well.
I agree. People tend to treat me in a much favorable way compared to the few unfortunate times I crawled into the store looking sloppy. I feel better when I dress better
Always dress well when you travel and dress up when you are shopping for cothes. You will be treated better than expected.
Absolutely! When I put effort into wearing a more classy and matching outfit, I give a clear message to myself and others that I am worthy. I don't just feel better myself, but others treat me better, too.
I'm always asked, "Did you just get off from work?"
I Agee too! Today l had a lot of strange men opening doors for me and falling all over themselves to assist me! It's crazy l have dressed stylish my whole life since high school and college days! Suddenly the fashion world has discovered me!🎉😅
People have told me I dress like I’m going to the office. So yes, elegance nowadays is looked as “overdressed” “old looking” or just too formal. I hate it, because I do love wearing dresses and dressing more on the conservative side while still wearing colors I love 💜
I agree. Society standard for dressing is sloppy nowadays. Isn't it sad to see that developing countries can dress better than average Americans? If one can not differentiate their dressing with homeless people clothes. There is something wrong.
Please don't stop being elegant! It's a fabulous way to be. It sounds like you're surrounded by frumps who are envious of your style.
if nobody do the effort of looking good, the society will never change. It’s by changing herself we can see change by our friend/family, and after the society by domino effect.
I can relate with this. But bro, dressing well also makes me feel well and more confident, so why not?
Please wear a ball gown and report back on reactions! I would love to time travel and wear ball gowns!!
Love what you said about boundaries and inviting too much intimacy. Opposing revealing clothing has nothing to do with prudishness, but rather dignity and class.
My daughter is 24 and dresses absolutely beautifully , very classic style. We live in New Zealand where that is definitely not the norm ( in fact bare feet while shopping and even pyjamas , is quite common) . She loved visiting Italy so much last year where she saw many people beautifully dressed ( like her)
Sydney Aus girl here. Sounds about right here to trust me lol
Italy has some of the best dressed people. Especially Milan.
My husband is Italian. We sent our oldest daughter to live in Italy for a year and a half when she was about 19, and she came back a style maven. Hair, clothes, shoes etc. I'd tried showing her about style when she was a teenager but it just never took. Once she lived in the environment, the penny dropped. She dresses with flair still, and her younger sister is finally getting there too.
Your daughter's style of dress, clearly, reflects well and beautifully on the manner in which you, as a parent, have raised and instructed her. Well done.
Bare feet? Oh my goodness
I couldn't agree more! One thing I would like to add: dressing well, or at least dressing appropriately for the occasion (work, gym, church, whatever) is not only "self-care," but it's also a sign of respect and good manners for the people around you. If I wore a ballgown to a spin class at the gym, everyone would be distracted from their workouts. If I wore something revealing to church or a solemn place like a cemetery, people would be distracted from their serious contemplations. If I wore pajamas to work and everyone else was wearing business casual, that would show them that I don't take their time/space/efforts as seriously as they do. It's about respect: I respect people, even strangers, and as such, I won't wear things that are revealing or that show I'm inconsiderate of what the day may hold.
one of my cousin showed up in front of the church at my grandad's funeral wearing sneakers, a pair of blue jeans and a big red hoodie. I instantly felt disrespected, it was like he couldn't care less about what this day was about...
I'm sorry that happened. But I thank you for sharing because it's a perfect example. Instead of remembering the day that was celebrating the life of a loved one, you remember how someone showed they didn't actually care. 💔@@cl13703
Agree. My kid’s teachers dressed very sloppy, I wish they dressed more professionally. They are role model in many ways, supposedly.
This is exactly how I view it, too. Simple respect for others and respect for myself and husband in the way I dress and present myself.
You are so right!
I couldn't agree more. I live in So Cal. There was a recent ban for school students to stop wearing pajamas to school...I'm seriously not kidding. Like others on here, I get criticized for being over dressed. Last Saturday I went to a baby shower wearing a brown satin skirt and a cream sweater. The hostess criticized my attire. My beautiful fashion classy Mom always told me "feathers make the bird". Fashion is powerful and makes a statement. I'm certainly not changing. Great content, Anna. Blessing to all.
Your baby shower outfit sounds beautiful. 🤍. I had a mom ask me why I always looked like I “stepped off the pages of Vogue” in an angry tone as we dropped our kids off at school. She told me that the “rest of us like to get dolled up too!” (Then maybe she should do it?) These kind of comments from others are always a reflection of that persons’ insecurities.
Let’s just think about the fact that the hostess criticized your nice outfit at a baby shower! Part 2? Manners.
Your outfit sounds lovely
I'm in my 60s and I have always lived in the southern part of the US. We southern girls always dressed to the max for any type of "shower" - I haven't been to one in several years but I have an invitation for one next weekend, I may be shocked at how the dress code has deteriorated.
@@naomidesigns5 Wow! I can't believe she had the nerve to voice her envy like that. I can only imagine it must have been eating her up inside so badly that she had no choice but to spit it out. Some women are truly venomous like snakes. In any case, what is preventing her from dressing well like you do? Probably, an enormous lack of self love masquerading as extremely busy taking care of the kids, the husband and the household. SMH.
I love my comfy dresses but people always react with "why are you so fancy". No, friend this is just a cotton dress thats comfortable and I didn't want to wear jeans. I respect this video so much. I grew up dressing in jeans and hoodies but also love getting dressed up in dresses. Makeup or not, it feels more like how I'd like to present myself to others. It really is a crucial part of self care.
Why don't you like to wear jeans? For me, the texture has become increasingly uncomfortable. Now I tend more toward dress pants, so I look better and feel better.
I love dresses too they are so comfortable! I dislike pants because they hurt!! They tug on my abdomen, dig into my crotch, hurt, are just miserable in general. When I wear dresses I look beautiful, they fit my hourglass shape better, technically it is healthier to allow the lady bits more breathing, and I am more comfortable (I am petite with a small waist but have big hips and a round bum and pants are not made for this shape). Dresses are a win-win! In winter I wear thigh highs instead of tights as again they are more comfortable and allow crotch ventilation. There are all sorts of thigh highs like sweater knit ones for when it is super cold, and taller boots too when it is super cold. I find a layered dress with boots and nice thigh highs that are thicker knit is much warmer than tight yoga pants or jeans.
The jeans they sell to women nowadays would be far less comfortable. "It's comfortable!" is not what they really mean. It's emotionally comfortable to look like everyone else. That's what they mean. I buy my nieces boot cut Levi's because they hate the tight skinny jeans the other kids wear and are all stores want to sell.
One of the things I noticed and was surprised by when I went to Japan earlier this year was how stylish and well dressed everyone was. I don’t think I saw anyone dressing sloppily. I was so impressed. Even more casually dressed people still looked put together and stylish.
Many asian countries are like this still. Even in the Middle East they’re dressed up. Ironically, in the west, where elegant dressing adopted by Asians have started,most people are dressed casually all the time even in office.
@@Deadener. exactly… Americans always wanna put countries like Korea and Japan on a pedestal when it comes to lifestyles and cultures, but don’t realize how judgmental and rude/mean some of them are
@UncrownedGlobe3 That's how Americans used to be before the hippie movement. They're just old-fashioned and they have a different history.
@@Deadener. yes because 40% of our population wouldn't be obese if we were like japan
I was raised by older parents that lived through the latter part of the Great Derpression. The one thing my mama taught me was, you can be poor, but that is no excuse to be sloppy, dirty and not take care of yourself. My mama was a true elegant lady!!! She refused to wear any clothing that had a fly because she would not dress like a man!
I never realised that, a fly is very masculine
@@Bubbles-od2tv Well, Chanel put the flies for women in France "because the post war" clothing needs... even when the use of trousers were prohibited for women till... around 2013!. Yes!.
My grandmother used to say the very same thing! ❤
@@Sungirl88 🌹I am just 65 in good shape, hahaha... but used to stay nice and dressed always taking care the place I go and the activities to perform. Even to the gym, the sport clothes are just there, not for the streets... People does not take a shower after gym and go wearimg sweated clothes on transport!. i can't believe sometimes how downgraded people could stay for theirself!. Now it is not just for trousers or any other piece, is just for selfcare my dear.
@@Sungirl88 🥰🥰
Agree 100%, Anna. I am a 55yo woman living in the U.S., and we are the worst offenders. Much of the time, we as a culture look like we have just rolled out of bed. I live on a homestead but still like to dress like a lady with as much polish as a farm will allow, lol. We can still look and act like a lady. My mother and grandmothers emphasized all of the principles you promote. I greatly appreciate you and your channel.
I agree many US women can look really sloppy, and I do my best to look put together. But this is kind of a trigger for me when the implication is that European women dress so much better. I've lived and traveled in many tropical countries in Asia and South American countries, and you would not believe the skimpy, see-through, disrespectful clothes European women wear in these conservative countries. I've never seen an American woman essentially go naked in indoor office type places in the tropics.I think European women get to hot areas and just decide wearing clothes is optional.
I’ve visited 26 countries. I can say that US is not the worst offender. Have you visited developing countries? In Vietnam, for example, only the upper class can dress like this.
Yes! Same!
My grandmother was a farm wife who worked hard inside and out. Her home was always neat and well kept, and so was she! She always looked neat and appropriate whenever she went out, and taught her granddaughters to do the same.😊
I live in Chicago and many people dress very well here.The casual look is more typical for suburbs area which compares to village type of life in Europe or around the world where you don't see Haute Couture in the field either.
You just reminded me of Green Acres, lol. If Eva Gabor can do it , so can you.
You’re 100% correct. As a “mature” woman, I wish it were easier to find nice clothes but stores cater to these messy trends, revealing tight fitting clothes and matronly styles which many older women do not want to wear.
Same I started to buy chinese clothes online. The style is just so much more beautiful. Same goes for Japanese and Korean glothes. The only nice clothes here are sub culture clothes like Gothic clothes or Rockabily
true!!! I find it as an issue, even as a 22 year old, with a love to vintage nd victorian gowns - I would love to wear elegant hats, and princess dresses, but it is not so easy to find and buy them and people ould look at me as I am insane, instead of admiration.
@@Zuzzamma maybe you could find pieces you like at thrift stores or vintage thrift shops. I had a friend that dressed in vintage and she always looked nice , not like she was in a costume.
As a plus size woman finding fashionable clothing without looking matronly.
REAL i went to the mall the other day and literally all they sold was hoodies, sweatshirts, sweat pants, pajamas, yoga pants and leggings, etc, and I noticed the womens clothing wasnt really that feminine to me, it almost looked like mens clothing but fitted for a women..
I grew up having to dress up to go everywhere. My parents are immigrants to the US (now naturalized citizens) and it was customary in their culture to be dressed in a presentable fashion - taking pride in dressing well. This had nothing to do with having a lot of money, because they didn't have much. What they did have, however, was an awareness that one should go out into the world in pressed, clean clothes, always.
Dressing well is part of who I am, I don't even have to think about it. It was instilled within me to have high standards in terms of what clothing to wear. Dressing sloppily was simply NOT tolerated.
What you said about self care being reflected in your appearance is incredibly important. When one feels good, they put effort into how they look. I think many people in the west are not doing so well, mentally, and it shows.
Thank you for speaking on this topic. ❤
For me being well dressed it's about showing selfrespect and also respect to others. As simple as that.
Agree!
Omg...I almost wrote the exact same comment.
I grew up the EXACT same way...we would get yelled at and be told to change if we looked sloppy, and now it's stuck with me. Dressing nice is respectful, to me and to the ppl around me.
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It does say so much about how you feel about yourself! Well said.
For years I worked 80 hours a week and was extremely obese, I wore big, dark clothes. I honestly didn’t want to be seen. Moved out the US to a more calming environment I’m at a more healthier weight and am actually pretty stylish. LOL I wholeheartedly AGREE the way we dress has a strong correlation to how we feel and think. 🦋
I agree for me it's the weight. There are definitely larger women who put effort but I'm not one. Clothes aren't about trendy, or stylish..I just need have to wear something clean and unwrinkled. I have a ton of shirts that are same color and shorts, almost like a uniform. I hate it. For the people that are in shape, and if money isn't a concern, no idea what's stopping them.
I agree with you, but I also have to say that plus size clothing is very expensive. And they also don't seem to make it very stylish. Some of it is, but most of it's not.
From what you share causation flows in the other direction when you feel better, you have more energy and attention for self-care and preening. you work 80 hours a week there is very little left for anything else
I started going to university this year. I dress very feminine. Now, in fall, I dress with like a sweater dress with knee-high boots, or a skirt, a sweater, and boots and things like that. I think my clothes are casual, but people look at me kinda weird since they are all wearing sweatpants. Sometimes, I feel a little overdressed. But the reality is, if other people don't want to dress well or at least wear something else rather than sweatpants or jeans, that's not my problem.
Stick to your guns!
If they look at you maybe it’s not in a bad way.
Right? Maybe seeing people dressing up or differently will catch other people's attention and they might start dressing differently.@@carmena.g.2448
Wearing sweatpants is not not dressing well,,contextual is everything,,going to college an studying most of the hours an probably a part time job ,can u say comfortable an confident,,,,it shows what’s important,the studying,,wearing knee high boots ,shows insecurity,look at me look at me ,I am wearing uncomfortable knee high boots with nothing to do an all day to do it,but I’m getting the attention I can’t give my self ,,being a athlete I dress comfortable or like a athlete ,if I go out to dinner with my husband for an hour I might wear knee high boots ,context ,but no not to college classes I don’t want to be looked at ,I want to focus on my studies 🤦♀️
University is now a hot bed of mental health disorders, Marxists and wokery, I’m sure you are a beautiful unicorn in a herd of purple haired frumps. Keep showing them there is an alternative way for an intelligent young woman to present herself to the world.
Dear Anna, it is not about comfort, in fact it is simply about mass production. For centuries, and still in many non-western countries, people went to taylors to have their clothes customized and unique. But now we have big corporations that want to make huge profits by selling standard sizes and designs to the biggest number of people possible, so that they can make the most profit. So their keywords are cheap, uniform, standard. Then they sell it to us as “comfort”, “modern”, etc, (as marketing) and we believe it, when in fact it just means dull and uncreative, a fixed standard to appeal to the most number of people possible (the average customer, aka the average person in a mass society). Also I think that we have lost the value of beauty as a society.
The laws regarding standardized sizing in the US ended in 1983 because there is no "standard" body type.
No, more people are just sloppy. I can dress amazing shopping thrift. New items. Huge choice. Designer. Can avoid petroleum materials that are,awful
Spot on. It is the uniform of the mindless.
@@lindatshappat4973 oh there is definitely a standard folks are all SUPER SIZED to the max. Huge, unfit, unkempt and now unwashed. I am not talking the homeless
Similar situation with today’s new architecture. Boring and simple designs with monochrome color schemes. Main reason being it’s cheaper for contractors to use low quality materials and without much detail.
I 100% agree, I won’t leave the house unless I have a proper and stylish outfit. I am usually the most dressed up person, and I am perfectly fine with that. My degree is in fashion design, and I love fine fabrics and creative feminine clothing. Thank you, Anna.
Same! I love being nicely dressed even when I’m home alone. When people comment on how formal I am I explain to them that I’m a fashion designer. I just find it odd that I have to explain to people why I don’t like being super casual.
"Dressing well is an action of self-care, when you put effort into your appearance you actually show yourself that you are worthy of love and respect" ❤️ this is a very good way to put it
Spot on
I love this! Having pride in your appearance is so valuable, and you don’t have to look perfect (or even “fashionable”) to look presentable.
I agree about having pride in your appearance. But I don’t think it is limited to a certain style. You can look well put together in a more casual way that is comfy and modern and still not look like a bum. Being overdressed In daily life is as much out of place as being underdressed, in my eyes.
You don't have to look perfect especially all the time...I love being well put together groomed and well polished, hair styled and clothes pristine but....
Even on days I think I'm wearing man repeller apparel I'm still looking good. At least that's what they're saying 😉😏
I remember one day I went out looking anyhow with all brown on and my matching head-tie with the brown shirt and brown skirt with no heels and this guy was standing in the front of the line in front of me with his back turned and I was standing behind him at the register line to purchase gas (a top off or fill up) to prep for a busy week ahead and the guy turned his head towards me just to say your beautiful! And I was thinking in my head I just threw on anything just to run over here to get gas to put in my car and I'm still getting compliments as if I was dressed up as my normal well put together an authentic self. God always surprises me with these beautiful comments by random people, pedestrians, by-passengers. Sometimes I be in my head like I know I'm not supposed to be out here looking random like this but then even at those times when my hair is not done and I have my head wrapped on guys are still shooting comments my way putting a smile on my face! Plus I didn't even think the guy saw me that day because when I walked through the gas station door and was waiting in the back of him in line it looked like there were only a few people in that gas station store. I don't even think that the guy had a chance to catch a glimpse or view of me let alone what I was wearing. I guess my face stuck out over the outfit. 😏🙏👏👑.
You can always wear some casual wear such as a t-shirt and turtleneck. But you can go for a polyester Black turtleneck, and some brown cardigan slacks. It is not being overdressed. But it is called being prideful and prepared.
It’s not boastful to put enough effort into your own appearance. And the good News is that you do not have to A FASHIONABLE EXPERT. You don’t have to be a expert at trying to dress up and looking like some film noir crime thriller from the 1940s and 1950s.
C’mon, it cannot be that bad. :(.
How to put together a public casual outfit: if you’re going to coffeehouses, restaurants, public parks, and festivals
Step 1: Purchase a Black Turtleneck (you can find any type of turtleneck at your local retail), it can be polyester, cotton, or wool. Find the Black Turtleneck in your size that can accommodate and compliment your body type. Then BOOM! You found the perfect turtleneck. I’m sure everyone rocks turtlenecks. Even my Mom in the late 1990s use to wear this red turtleneck and some blue jeans. It was so fashionable at the time due to the widespread influence and popularity of turtlenecks with blue jeans from shoes like Friends, Beverly Hills 70210810, Sabrina The Teenage Witch, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Moesha, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Martin, Sister, Sister, Dawson’s Creek, and Clueless.
Step 2: Use the Internet to find some inspiration, you can go to these links and websites. It’d be probably useful in terms of finding what is your taste, aesthetic, and overall niche interests. You can use Pinterest, TH-cam, and Instagram for outfit ideas. Just type in the search bar #90sfashionoutfits #90sclothes #thriftingstores #outfitinspo hashtag.
Step 3. If you can afford secondhand clothing you can go thrifting if you’d like, it’s optional not that mandatory. It depends on whether your personal style and taste is. We all have different preferences, styles, and tastes. And that’s okay ! :) Everyone just needs to find the correct thing that is best and right for them.
We are all unique and have different tastes. That’s what makes us all special.
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So, I used to dress very sloppily mostly because I wanted to be comfortable and didn't want to be vain. Oddly enough, reading Pride and Prejudice changed my mind on this. I realized that another reason that people dress well is to be respectful of each other and of where they are. So, I have decided to start dressing well, but I'm struggling. I don't want to be sexy or sloppy, I would like to just be subtly elegant, and classy, but modern clothes like that just doesn't really exist. Now I have decided to wear more 40s style clothing. All this is to say, I completely agree with you, and am really frustrated with this. I feel like I almost have to wear a costume to be classy and elegant.
You know a great way to find clothing like that is to search online for it. There are so so so so many great online stores out there. There's nothing you can't find online these days. It's easier than ever to find whatever nice clothing you want.
I don't know where you live, however I think most places will have thrift stores and the like. As someone who buys essentially all their clothes t thrift stores, I would highly recommend trying it! You can find some classy stuff especially if you live close to enough to a wealthier area or purposefully go shop there.
It's about finding your style. I think you simply need to keep searching. Suggest trying on clothes in shops, not buying then returning. I'm sure you'll find your 'next level up'.
@@Julia-nl3gqyou can find anything online. Affording it is another story.
The English teacher inside my head thanks you for using the word sloppily, instead of the incorrect version in this video.
Anna is dressed casually in this video and looks fresh, clean and put together! Bring it back ladies!!!
Absolutely, Anna!
My grandmother was a farm wife who worked hard every day, cooked delicious meals for her family, kept the farmhouse looking better than a lot of homes in town, and still made keeping herself neat (as well as healthy) a priority! She always looked elegant and appropriately dressed whenever she went out, and taught her daughters and granddaughters to do the same. I was recently at a family gathering and was admiring one of my cousin's elegant outfits, and it made us start reminiscing! Grandma had self-respect, and it showed. As a result, so did her daughters and granddaughters!
I remember more than once getting hired (as well as promoted!) and my supervisor(s) said it was because they appreciated me dressing and acting professionally and appropriately. Thank you, Grandma!😊
How did she do it? Did she have a routine? i imagine all the farmwork gets you all sweaty
@@Bubbles-od2tvmy mom grew up on a farm and back then women always wore dresses,if you wore pants it was appalling. That was 1940 or 50
My grandmother was the same! How did she do it? Work hard! She often told that she was envied by other women. But she just worked harder than the others. And was good in what she did. And proud of herself. I wish more women were like that. Because of my work I see nearly every week another household. Most homes are dirty and I do not want to even have a cup of coffee. Too dirty.
Anabey, don’t filter yourself for no one… say it how it is. I am tired of this generation not being able to handle the truth. I LOVE YOU AND YOUR CONTENT! Keep going ❤
Madam, this generation is facing more than any prior generation before them. What they need is mentors not judgers. Helpers, not preachers. These kids/young adults are messed up because of the generations prior to them. I'm 59 so I believe I am qualified to say that and we can agree to disagree always. Peace be with you.
What are they facing ? W-Lan-disconnection ?
The generation is better off than everyone else before. Statistics show that there are fewer wars, less malnutrition and more education. I'm 33 right now, but discipline has never hurt. I Was able to study whatever I wanted and my grandparents could not afford it, because of financial Instability. So my grandfather had to work since he was 14. But yeah, todays children have too much to handle between tiktok and massconsumption... .
I agree 100%!❤️
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Absolutely agree don't filter anything! This has got to be heard!
I honestly it all comes down to one thing that nobody wants to admit. We are just LAZY. People go around creating those elaborated excuses and that's what they are, excuses.
I am not lazy myself. I just want to wear decent jeans and t-shirts to casual places based on my own personal tastes and still look respectful where others including women are dressed similarly. I understand the need to dress modestly in finer places. I just don’t want to give up dressing that way if possible
And who cares, it's a bunch of noneya LOL
This is certainly a bizarre trend. What I find baffling is the trend to wear sweatpants and slippers but three pounds of glam makeup in public.
I’m a director at a financial company, yet I get criticized by my boss for not wearing jeans to the office. I have yet to cave because I simply don’t feel good about myself when I wear more casual clothes.
I agree that everyone can wear what they want, but it’s a narrow, misguided belief to think that sweats or leggings are the only comfortable clothes out there.
So true. I agree totally. 👍👏👏👏
Exactly!!!!!
Girls wear that becuase they think it makes them look like effortlessly pretty instagram models or, becuase they're insecure about their body so they cover it up baggy clothes and they're insecure about their face so they cover them up in makeup.
Basically anything that fits right that isn't made of garbage fabric is going to be comfortable.
I don't like to condemn more casual clothing as "lazy," but I feel like not shopping around to find a few brands that truly fit you well is incredibly lazy. If you can't find a brand or two where everything fits like it was made for you, you haven't looked hard enough. Spend a day going to every store within your price range and just try stuff on.
I used to buy jeans from a store that I would *never* buy anything else from, but their jeans were good quality and fit me perfectly. I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't made the effort to go out and try on a million fits from a ton of different stores. I wore that same fit for at least five years. It saves a ton of time in the long run, and it's better than just wearing leggings because the pants at Target don't fit you well, so you just give up. That's lazy and sad.
Ask your boss why you have to conform to the masses and ask if he is anti-self-expression. (You are expressing YOU! You should be FREE to express you!). There's a deeply and stupidly held belief that wearing jeans indicates that a person is a rugged individual. There isn't anything more sheep-like.
If someone asks WHY you don't wear jeans, you can always reply that you don't like clichés (!).
My mom always taught me to look decent when going out, even if just to run errands. She would not tolerate me wanting to wear pajamas to school which was the trend at the time. I am so glad she instilled this level of self-awareness in me!
decent. Word so unknown and distant to (de)generation Z.
My mom is the same way. She just turned 80 this past week.
Yes!
That's normal in Germany but now she makes fun of me for wearing thighs, skirts and dresses pretty much every day
I agree. I have seen this at weddings and funerals. I've seen people wear shorts to funerals. At my father in-laws funeral I was dressed nicely, , tidy, all in black and my husbands grandfather said to me "I think you and I are the only ones dressed up today". We laughed. He wore a beautiful suit that day. 6 months later he passed away and I wore the same outfit again and I knew he'd be happy I'd made the effort. ❤
My 46 year old son and I were just discussing this the other day! (I'm 74). We both are horrified at the outfits so many people are wearing , especially pajamas and slipper! What happened to just trying to look nicely put together? Doesn't have to be designer clothes. So here are two people who agree with you 100%!
pajamas in public is so sad.
why does it matter though? everyone is talking about it like we' re all supposed to know
@@tnt01 half of my school (including me) show up in pajama pants everyday lmao. but i feel like thats understandable considering its freezing and no one wants to put on proper clothes at 5:30 in the morning
@@whattheshart1 I don't wanna be rude, but how is that understandable, since it's freezing shouldn't you be putting on some tights/nylon socks or whatever and than some thick pants on top. Pajamas usually aren't that warm
@@_nia1565 nowadays they have been making them pretty thin, but a lot are actually really fuzzy and warm
I have often questioned whether I was the only person who noticed this trend. I miss the days of elegant feminine attire. What a breath of fresh air to find that that I am not alone.
It's not just casual. Jeans and t-shirts can look very nice and put together. It is the sloppiness. I am tired of seeing buttcracks, nasty greasy hair and jammies at the grocery store. It is just the overall personal sloppiness! I saw a woman recently wearing leggings tshirt and blazer. It was well thought out put together and wrinkle free. She looked fabulous!!! I love looking at 50's movies where people were well-groomed and put together. Thank you. I thought I was the only person who felt this way.
Yes! It's like even the most casual clothes of the past are no longer considered "comfortable enough" somehow because being sloppy is king now. The fact that putting on jeans instead of leggings is almost considered more dressed up is just wild when it feels like that should be the bare minimum for going out in public unless you're headed to the gym or something.
You’re right. Casual clothes absolutely can look well put together. So many people just have a negative mindset and it shows in how they choose to look. It’s not even difficult to look better. The main thing one needs is to learn, which thankfully we can do by simply watching channels like Anna or others. Anna is the best I have seen, but there are other good ones.
Finally! Someone with the same thought as me 😊 I’ve always admired how the older generations dressed so well, from head to toe. They always look so classy and put together. These days, when you try to dress well, you’ll be the odd one out since literally everyone wears the exact same style. 🥺
Yep, I see the same thing & I hate it!
I dont care how people to choose to dress as long as the important bits are covered and they take care of hygeine. However, what bothers me is how dressing nice is now judged as trying to hard, snobby, shallow, etc.
Let them think whatever they want. I think a lot of it's jealousy.
Exactly!
Discovered during the pandemic that skirts and pantalons were much more comfortable than jeans. High wasted, doesn't fold in my knees, large pockets... I'm not going back.
100% spot on Anna. I was attending a conference a few weeks ago and most of the speakers were wearing sweatpants and t-shirts (these are authors, CEO's and industry leaders) I could not believe it. It has become so acceptable not to look presentable even when you have to speak in front of people because "we need to feel more comfortable or express who we are", which I think is just an excuse
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Unbelievable 😮
Society is becoming trashier day by day it's kind of sad.
I remember my mum telling me it was important to dress properly, so people would see you have made an effort and you find the occasion important ( I was 10yo and I was going to a birthday party) I feel like adults behave like teenagers now haha
I have seen people dressed casually when they attend a Court trial as jury 😱
@@beautifulplaces2703 Oh good Lord 😬
Dressing classy and elegant never goes out of style. Even if you're considered overdressed, it's still better than dressing sloppy. ♥️
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That's true.❤💯
I agree
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Agree!
I have 3 teenage daughters. We always tell them, "If you want the world to take you seriously, you have to dress seriously."
At work.
@@Mona-nb2py No. Everywhere.
I love that
Amen to that 💯
One day at my neighbor's house another person asked me why I was so dressed up. My response was, "I have on black jeans and a cotton blouse. What do you expect me to wear?" For some reason, when I wear those straight-cut black jeans, people think I am "dressed up."
You looked super nice because everyone else was probably dressed in garbage bags. 😂
But a nice pair of jeans with a blouse is a classic. At this point just a pair of proper jeans (not skinny, not oversize, not dragging on the ground, no stains, no holes) with a regular size t-shirt (no oversize or too tight) and a reasonable pair of trainers looks like you're getting ready to go to the opera.
"Dressing well (consciously) is an act of self care"....so true.
I know that when i was depressed, and still when i feel bad, i tend to dress sloppy. Upping my hygiene and dressing is actually a step in the good direction; one of more empowerment and selfrepect. Thanks Anna!
As someone living with depression, I fully agree that making the effort to look good and nice is part of self-care because it is just basic self-respect. If I respect myself and other people, I take care of the way I look and dress when I meet other people.
Putting together my daily looks is an important part of my routine, and appropriate outfit and look for each occasion, whether office or a cultural event in the evening, helps me get in the appropriate mood.
Great video. Thank you.
I was raised by a Puerto Rican mother. She always instilled in us: "We are Puerto Rican, we get dressed up to go to the store to buy milk" 🤭 I appreciate all of your points. I will forever wear dresses and sometimes I feel overdressed in this era, but I don't care. It feels good for me.
Your Mom sounds wonderful
I live about 40 minutes from a border town. I’ve noticed other customers who wear nice clothes to go grocery shopping. Thank you for sharing your experience. This gives me some things to think about. 😊
@@eccaetchings5587 People from US border towns are not the same as Puerto Ricans. I know, I know, it seems like all Latinos are the same. Puerto Ricans are US citizens and have a Caribbean Latin background. What I think you're trying to say is that Latinos are more conscientious about their dress. I would agree overall.
Yup. I'm first generation Mexican-American. I love seeing the hispanic ladies at the Mexican grocery stores wearing high heels, cute outfits and a full face of makeup. I love that they care about their appearance.
One reason for casual dressing that I think was overlooked is that in general our population is much larger than previous generations. My weight has fluctuated in my life and I find it much more difficult to dress well when I’m carrying extra weight.
We’re a physically unhealthy society and it shows so bad. 😢
I think this has a lot to do with confidence. I’m an average sized person and see very cute clothes in the plus size section of stores often, wishing the same style was sold in my size because it’s often more sophisticated looking, structured and just over all looks more elegant. Even Walmart has good looking plus size women’s clothes (that look better than average size) I think we (especially women) tell ourselves we can’t wear this or that. That doesn’t mean to go out and wear a crop top everywhere (no one should lol) but wearing a dress or blouse or blouse looks nice on everyone.
The physical is just a mirror of the mental, emotional and spiritual - but yes, I agree.
You can still dress well if overweight, unless you mean obese. Many larger ladies look fabulous in calamitous clothes. And sloppy clothes make a person look bigger.
Eating has replaced smoking.
Truthpaste.
I couldn't agree with you more, Anna! I work in a law office that has pretty much dispensed with a dress code as we don't have clients coming into the office. As a result, everyone wears jeans most of the time and some of the attorneys even wear shorts in summertime. Everyone, that is, except me. I like to look professional when I am in the office and I do this by wearing dresses, tailored pants, and nice jewelry. The only day I dress down is on Friday as a concession to the relaxed office attire. I feel better about myself when I look nice, and think it conveys an aura of professionalism.
This is interesting because as ‘superficial’ as this message may seem I think it actually goes to a deeper insight of how laxed, lazy, uncaring, unpoliet, and borderline disrespectful our society has become. People are a lot less careless and disrespectful now then ever and it’s just the fact. I can go on and on about this topic because I find it to be a huge issue. Anywho I agree with you I never felt comfortable leaving my house not put together
Agree! Thank you!
That's just true.
A lot More careless and disrespectful, but yes, I absolutely agree with you.
once a woman told me: "it's easier to like yourself if you make yourself likeable", and I followed her advice, start by looking after your appearance, so when you look in the mirror you can feel good about what you see. I don't look after myself because I want people's approval, I do it because I want to feel proud of myself, so eating healthy, going to the gym, dressing in clothes I like, all that helps with self-esteem.
I totally agree with you!
I agree. When I like the way I'm dressed, I feel so much better.
@@carolalvarez3925 Yes, and some clothing helps us to avoid masculine atittudes or movements... Clothing could enforce our way to move, to act, to be ourselves and to preserve our natural shapes. Under a maxi sweater, who knows what is there?. Hahaha... maybe lack of selfcare...
I’m always criticized for being overdressed but it’s not hard to look put together. Wearing a dress is the easiest outfit and so comfortable.
Yes right! A comfy dress isn’t any less comfy than sweatpants!
When I was 12 I was told by so many women in church to stop dressing up so much. I didn't think I was dressing up, I just thought that I was dressed very nicely. I tried dressing the way that they wanted me to, and I felt like garbage, like waking up with unbrushed teeth in the morning.
A dress or skirt are literally more comfy than wearing pants!
Yes!
Yes, and it’s about organising our wardrobe. Once we are used to dressing up a certain way, it wouldn’t take a lot of time. It is matter of initial efforts when your wardrobe is messed up that it takes effort to get organised.
My mother once told me the following:"You greet people according to their clothes and say goodbye according to their character."
I also feel that fashion nowadays has decreased. I love wearing dresses and looking feminine. Finding clothes like that is nearly impossible. I often have to order retro and vintage clothes from the internet. It is sad that fashion is not a thing anymore among men and women
Yes, vintage is the way to go!!!! The cuts & lines in vintage makes for a very beautiful & tailored look. The "sweat shop schlock" that is available in the stores today are like big baggy tents - "one size fits all" sloppy & totally soulless. I love looking feminine too in my vintage dresses & skirts & blouses. I have a feeling that a renaissance is on the horizon where men & women will want to look better. And common courtesy & common sense prevails. In the mean time, "become the change that you wish to see"❤💘❤
Agree, it simply becomes very difficult with this never-ending oversize trend. And when you're a petite, it makes it extremely difficult to find even one piece that is tailored to your body.
I'm always criticized for being overdressed. I'm 22, but love to dress up. My style is a mix of a highly feminine version of dark academia and cottagecore. I also love to wear dresses and skirts all the time, but I also wear pants when needed to.
Whenever I meet up with friends, I often get the "don't dress up too fancy". I always tell them that their "fancy", is simply just my casual.
Yes! I'm 21 and have a style similar to yours, and I also have the same experiences.
Good for you. Don't let them discourage you.
When I was that age, I felt that people thought that I considered myself better than them because I dressed more 'posh'. Which, of course, was not my intention.
Looking back, I think I gave up too early and that, if I persisted, people would have accepted it.
Hold on to your style. You dressing up the way you want doesn’t take anything away from others. 😊
Keep it up! It's just that you dressing "fancy" makes them look sloppy. That's their issue, not yours :)
Yes, the same with me. I am doing something with a friend and she says, "You don't have to get dressed up!" I just go ahead and dress how I would normally i.e. with care.
Maybe this would be a good time to produce a video about elegant everyday dressing, the kind that we can wear to do chores, go to the supermarket for example :)
I think that's the time when we put on literally whatever seems to be most comfortable.
Thank you!
I agree, I would love to see this kind of content!
Those types of videos are half of what is in this channel.
Yea!! Maybe some elegant gym clothes as well.
This video made me really do a self introspection lol
I second that! I take transatlantic flights and I would love some good ideas to feel comfortable but still put together!
@@tajayatomlinson5298Yes. Dressing for the gym and fitness classes can be a challenge. This summer I learned that what worked for indoor yoga wasn’t what you wore to outdoor Tai Chi. And I‘ve been admiring the running gear of my super stylish neighbour. Would compliment her on the look if she wasn’t whizzing by so fast. Some outfit ideas would be great.
This is why I love it when people FINALLY dress UP to go to the cinema to see Barbie and Oppenheimer. I think people actually miss dressing up, but for some reason there's a kind of scrutiny when they dress up while other people dress so sloppy
People used to dress up to fly on airplanes, but now... 🙄🙄 I'm embarrassed for them.
@@FOX007-um1wr Right! 'Airport fashion' is now just athleisure or hoodies+sweatpants+crocs🙄
“For some reason” = lots of planned psychological stuff going on in the background that Everyone Adopts. Nothing is Organic anymore
We need this video. I live in the Rocky Mountains and yes dress is casual but there's a huge difference between casual and sloppy. I see women who make no effort to look cute or feminine, have the same long stringy hair, no make up and I wonder what happened?
i don’t dress up at all. my fibromyalgia wears me out, i have sensory problems, and no fashion sense. i am happiest in baggy sweats and tshirt that don’t overwhelm my body. i admire ppl who can get themselves done up everyday, y’all look amazing ❤
I understand. I have fibromyalgia, sensory sensitivities and chronic mental issues. I just delight in the art of fashion and am picky to find soft and lovely fabrics.
This is understandable. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 20 years ago. I'm doing much better since then; but when I was suffering at my worst, I did not dress up either. When you are trying to survive chronic illness, that is your main priority. I hope you find some relief and healing.
Take this information or leave it but I'm going to tell you how I found relief, it may or may not help you but I'm going to at least try.
I believe my fibro was given to me by intensive childhood trauma. I did EMDR, CBT, DBT, and internal family systems. Keep in mind, this took years to accomplish. Once I started feeling some relief I started with minimal exercise, changed my diet, and got into herbal supplements like milk thistle.
The only time I get flare ups now is when I am really upset, like when my friend passed away recently. But before that it had been many many, many many years since I had had a flare up. Hopefully this helps.
Me too I think I have it. Healthy choices I need to.
guess people from the past didnt have your disease. it's time to do something with it, aren't you?
@@warrax111 fibromyalgia as a term didn’t exist until i think like the 1970s, but it’s symptoms were discussed in medical documents as early as the 1850s if not earlier, i googled that for you. i do have a doctor for it, i don’t know what part of my comment implied i’m doing absolutely nothing about it.
I cannot agree more. I am truly delighted you took the time to do this video. I am a therapist and you're so right self care and appearance has a direct link to mental health. My biggest "head scratcher" is the nude trend!! Why is so much skin is being shown and so much transparency of clothing just leaves me speechless. There is nothing left to the imagination. I tell you, I was raised to always look your best, because you "only have one chance to make a good first impression". Thank you!
Agreed. Women don't realize how important modesty is. I used to work at an airport and was horrified at what I saw. Now I live in a small city in E.Oregon and I am equally horrified.
I love that my husband and I have jobs that allow us to fit in with elegant attire.
I believe I have some impact on younger generations as well. As a teacher, kids often tell me I look nice and smell nice and the girls say they want to wear skirts and dresses like me. If they show up dresses a bit nicer for picture day, they are so confident! Girls tend to run up to me and say:"Look! We look the same today!" 🥰❤️ I believe the elegant style will live on. The ones who appreciate it will carry it with them in the future.
So cute!
I'm hoping more young women 12-30 wear more skirts/dresses again, in classy lengths
That's amazing!
I never thought about the fashion trends this way to be honest. And from the beginning I thought I won't agree with you because I love the way it's normal now to spend less time on your look, that faces without makeup grow in popularity, and women have to struggle less trying to achieve the unbelievably high standard to get to be called beautiful.
I watched the video to the end though, because your way of talking is very appealing, and you are also very respectful. By the end I must say, I agree with your points! I definitely don't want the classy fashion be the usual norm again, but I'd love to see how this trend rises for those who want to dress up like that, and that you won't feel too different or bothered. What we do need, is the obedience to the dress code in public places.
Thank you for the video and new food for thoughts!
In every single picture I have of my mom she looks amazing, and those pictures where taken with an old school camera so there wasn’t always “posing” and no filters or choosing one best out of a hundred selfies. Can you imagine always looking great even in candid shots? That’s saying something! What a great impression to leave for the next generation!
Same. My mother's old photos, she always looked so good, even when she was casual she was wearing a nice pair of flats and nice top and pants and a nice handbag, she always looked good, modest and attractive even when casual.
Same here and yet she didnt have a lot of money, i flounder and wish i had her style
My Mom was the same. She always wore a dress, heels and her red lipstick…..unless we were camping in the woods.
@@g.970 Heel can be quite damaging to the feet and the body. It is quite reasonable as to why one would not want to wear them practically everyday nowadays.
@@Me-hm6fv no kidding. They are horrible for our feet but my Mom was of that generation who wore heels. I’m not sure they even had dressy flat shoes then , at least not where she lived. In later years she had surgery on her feet. My feet took abuse from 12 years of ballet. To this day I have to wear good shoes with a ton of arch support as I still have super high arches from all that dance. I remember when we’d go to the big city to shop my sister and I were in dresses, hats and gloves. I still like to dress nicely and my sister lives in sweats. 😂
You make a really good point about the whole “don’t look” concept - it’s really hard to ignore. This isn’t just guys looking at women inappropriately, it’s distracting for other women too! To a degree, we are still aware when something is not appropriate, however much we have tried to erase that concept, it still exists, and when someone crosses that line, it makes it incredibly hard to ignore, just in the same way it’s hard to ignore someone doing something random like a handstand in a grocery store or singing in a bookstore. It’s out of place, so it turns heads.
My husband actually brought it to my attention that I was entering a depressive slump and he could tell because I had stopped paying attention to my appearance. I hadn’t even noticed that I was loosing that battle until he said something. I’ve been making myself dress well for work, do my hair, and wear makeup this work week and it actually is making a difference!
And for those wondering, my husband brought it to my attention in a kind and caring way. He asked if I was feeling ok and in no way tried to make me feel bad! He’s a wonderful man that loves me tremendously
Great. It does help you feel better, but it's not the most important thing. You sound terrific no matter what you wear - slump or no slump.
@@FeralFeminineI definitely didn’t take that as him criticizing you. It sounds like he pays attention to the things that lots of husbands wouldn’t notice or pay any mind to. He checked in on you to see if you were okay. What an amazing guy! You’re so lucky ❤
Completely understand. He was being caring and observant. I did the same thing when I got depressed. I had to start making conscious efforts to practice self care and what do you know, it did help me feel a bit better
It’s great to know you are loved and cared for by someone that compassionate and attentive. Please take care, that’s a very fortunate person to have in your life.
I hate it. I genuinely would wear a suit and hat every day. I am not saying clothes "cure" depression, but wearing a suit and hat makes you feel so amazing. It's probably the reason why so many people are unhappy nowadays. DRESS UP! The more people do it, the better!
Spend more on quality and less on quantity! So what if its £500 for a coat, if its classic and made out of quality materials, it will last a lifetime. As long as you look after it.
My great grandad had the same suit he bought in his 20s. The truth is, classic men and women's wear IS comfortable.
Love your video! And couldn't agree more. 👌
I went to class with sweatpants on once, many years ago. I have never felt so uncomfortable! My clothes were soft, but I felt sloppy and lazy. I'm happy I've since realised that one can be both comfortable and well dressed.
I agree. In college, the only reason I wore sweatpants to one of my classes is that the gym was much closer to the classroom than to my room. As a fitness-obsessed student, I went to the gym before class to get it out of the way (no time to change or shower-waited until I made it to my room) and then straight to class. I felt embarrassed about my sweatpants. Now I don’t own a pair of sweatpants, and I always shower and make myself look presentable after working out, even if I am just going to the grocery store or post office. Besides, I never know whom I will run into.
Completely agree, I've had a similar experience. I went to the store to buy milk once in the middle of the night and decided to just keep my pajama pants on. Because it was so late I only saw one person, the cashier, and I still felt so embarrassed I never did it again.
When I see people in public in pajamas in broad daylight I can't figure out what is going through their heads, it seems like you really have to not care about anything at all to not be embarrassed doing that. Some might say they just don't care what others think, but also it has to be that they don't care what they themselves think either since being sloppy and dirty are usually signs that something is not going right in a person's life. I think our society is very troubled overall.
Aloha beautiful Anna. I so agree with you. I find myself watching more and more old movies from the 1930’s- 1970’s. After that I don’t know what happened but from messy, unattractive, poorly fitting clothes, to obesity epidemic/crisis (mostly due to high carbs, sugar and processed food) to shaved heads, yucky beards, poor posture - so unbelievable. Glad I’m not the only one feeling this. Also, most fashion and looking good is put on women, in my humble opinion. People have just given up on sensible, appropriate conduct and attire and hygiene. Thank you for addressing this issue.
She’s back! Thank you for posting this. Dressing poorly is a reflection of mental health, and if dressing sloppy is the norm in certain cultures, what does it say about our society? We do have access to more resources now more than ever.-It’s really sad.
Personally I don’t find anything wrong with casual clothing as long as it’s worn in a casual setting. Your clothes should be appropriate for whatever it is you are doing. Athletic wear should be worn in the gym. Jeans can be worn when you’re running to the store. But I don’t think either of those things or loungewear should be worn places like the office, concerts, dates, etc. You can wear whatever you want as long as it is appropriate for the occasion.
My thoughts exactly 👍👍
100 % agree. dressing to the occassion. i was actually shocked to be the only dressed like a CEO for my job orientation while future collegues around me was way too casual for a “business casual” dress code. I am over 40 and everyone around me ( high school seniors/college freshmen) was in jeans and t-shirts, flip flops and sandals too. 🤦🏼♀️🙄😑🤯 don’t they have career week in high schools and colleges that teaches and trains you on the etiquette of a business setting? I remember my career counselor restricting me to no graphic tees, jeans and doc martins for a job interview.😑 however, investing in a decent blazer and a pair of flats uplifted my look on casual fridays. Lol. anyways, this was my personal experience to define dressing up to the occassion.
thanks everyone for your time to read my comment. I hope you have an amazing day! 😘😘😘❤️✌️😎
@@nettie_speaks here's where I'm going to sound like the boomer I am. If we have multiple generations dressing like slobs - and we agree that we do - a certain percentage of those people are going to be leaders in companies, with others in HR positions vetting new employee candidates and hiring. So I guess all these slobs will be hiring fellow slobs? All will be covered in nasty tattoos?
I know this sounds really cynical, but I don't see how the pendulum can swing back toward any discernable level of elegance when you've got multiple generations lacking the level of self-awareness we're lamenting in this forum.
I love how you didn't make it about people's weight and looks but made this video more broad and inclusive which does push people like me to take this more seriously, thank you
When i traveled to Japan, the difference in clothing was so visible. Everyone was so well put together. I really liked that. It looks so much better
Good! I've been wanting to visit Tokyo and would be really happy to see people on the streets who give a flip about the image they're projecting.
All the ones that would've been sloppy either committed suicide or haven't left their house in years, so consider that.
Same experience here for me, went to Japan 🇯🇵 for the first time this spring and the difference from the USA was striking. People actually cared about how they looked and everyone was conscious about how they presented themselves. They also know fashion intimately and everyone dressed with pieces that represented either their unique style or shared social environment. As someone that actively works in the Luxury Fashion Industry and has seen the decline of proper styling in the States, Japan gave me a sense of hope that at least people still cared on that side of the world.
Same when I go to Italy or Mexico. I would go just to see well-dressed people
All you ladies in the comments saying you are usually overdressed are inspiring me. I dont have a lot of money to blow (im sure not every single one of you does either) but i want to learn to sew so I can make more dresses and actually put that effort in. Im impressed by all of you so keep it up!!
I'm not trying to demotivate you or something but sewing takes time, a lot of trials and errors and you need to have patience. If you have a full time job or anything it'll get harder for you. But sewing is great. You can get what you want. And if you have procrastination behaviour like me, I would like to make a suggestion, take investments slow. Make your wardrobe piece by piece..
@@juvanit8694 Jelous behavior doesn't take you no where.
@@purpleflowers92 I do sewing, it's really tiring. So for me, it caused unnecessary expenses. So I made a suggestion. What is wrong with that?
@@juvanit8694 Your breaking down someones dream!
@@juvanit8694 You are right!
I love to sew too, but it takes a lot of time and patience and is getting more expensive!
Shopping at TJMaxx, Ross, and Marshall’s or even Walmart is working for me!
You are 100% Anna! At the company my husband and I founded, we still insist on true business dress. If employees don’t like it, they can work somewhere else. We have seen that the quality of work is higher quality in proportion with dressing professionally. It is just sad to me to see how much more difficult it is to find a good suit these days without going bespoke which is out of reach for most people. Keep teaching Anna!
And when dressing professionaly their behaviour towards eachother in the company is also
more professional? (their way of talking to eachother and their manners)
I've read articles linking super casual dress with less productivity
When I first started my job, I was feeling confident and on top of the world, and I did! I put effort into my appearance. Fast forward to after a year and a half of toxic workplace and bad management, I am still in my pajamas, and have stress health complications.
Yes, how someone dresses is very much a reflection of their self care.
I know how much I have been neglecting my self care these past few months, and it is so funny how a simple youtube video can help you put stuff like this into sharp clarity.
No, hopping into the shower and putting on some nicer clothes isn't going to fix my mental state now that I've put in my two weeks notice. But it is one pebble in the bucket towards regaining my sense of self and my respect for myself and will help me going forward as I begin to apply and interview for another job.
So thank you!
My mom always told me it is easier to forgive someone for being “over” dressed than “under” dressed when you go somewhere. 👌 It does not mean causal and cosy clothes are never an option but i tend to go more formal because of this. 🤗
I studied fashion in college. I personally think that there are waaaayyyy too many fashion trends going at once. So lots of people dont know what to wear. So you see women looking super casual in workout clothes all day to straight frumpy, all the way over to the over done look. We see trashy clothes, preppy clothes, space cowgirl, nashville/dallas style, new york street style, boutique mom fashion, southern ritzy, boho/hippie chic, Beach babe, what I call shein style or that look from low end on line stores, hip hop, eclectic, to old lady inspired looks worn by the youth like high schooler or college girls with their mom jeans and clunky tennis shoes and so on. There is just way too much of everything! No one knows what to wear so everyone wears whatever they want nowdays. I hate not knowing what to wear these days!
There is too much EVERYTHING out there, and all at once. No structure - that's the problem.
Don’t dress for trends. Dress for what works for *you.* Honestly, that *is* the trend these days, and I love it.
And really it’s also about too many people influencing the trends. Too many influencers, celebrities, and the like influencing what people wear when oftentimes they are the worst dressers. But it’s who everyone sees in magazines, tv and online so they become a trend. Even though they look like slobs. We need to stop taking our trend advice from young idiot influencers and teens and start dressing like mature adults.
@@anitathompson326 yes! You are right about all of it. The people arent great influences and that is definitely a big part of the problem.
You studied fashion and still don't know what to wear? -You wasted your time in a college!
I always hated the pressure of being forced to dress uncomfortably and not look like myself just to make people I don't even like like me better. I don't go out in public over-exposed, but despite your claims every single dress and skirt, every non stretch trouser or blouse, are extremely uncomfortable to me. Yes of course I've tried ones that fit correctly. Now that I don't have to waste my time and money on products I don't need or driving to an office where I'm judged on crap that has nothing to do with my job, I'm not mad about it. Some of the lacking self care issues are mental health related, but judging the mentally ill for their fashion choices is just plain wrong and not helpful, and the opposing rise of so many people fixating on their physical appeal so much that they permanently ruin their bodies with plastic surgery, botox, and fillers instead of accepting themselves is even worse.
You are spot on. As someone who dresses casual, I am doing so because, I admit, I have been in a lazy slump. I have been telling myself that I need to step it up. Like you said, when we step it up, we feel better. I completely agree.
This was just in time for the new year!! Thank you :)
I like to dress myself up in dresses and feminine clothing. People around me shame me for “dressing like an old lady” but this is just class. It’s classier to put effort into how you dress.
Yep relatable. But I think it's just jealousy to be honest with you.
lol, Zoomer stupid argument, everyone who don't want to degenerate with them, they automaticaly judge him by "old" nonsense. I really appretiate i didnt born in this generation like young. Who is normal, or resists and tries to be, is outsider.
They're jealous
@K_anita. I don't know how old you are, but you really are going to have to try to work out of getting out of that. When you get older, you're going to regret living your life for the opinions of others, who are miserable, and can't even be authentic themselves. I'm 44 years old, and I just lost one of my best friends who was 42 at the time. I'm telling you, life is a lot shorter than you realize, and the last thing you want to do is have regrets because of miserable people's opinions. Please do what makes you happy. You owe it to yourself.
@K_anita. Women have the opportunity to wear such a variety of clothes and colors, and they don't take advantage of it. In the past, the arrival of spring could be seen on the flowery dresses, light blouses and flowing skirts of young women passing by on the street, we used to talk about spring dresses.
Please, don't deprive yourself of wanting to look like a woman and not a mop, take advantage of your youth to wear beautiful clothes.
I completely agree with you. I've been thinking the same thing as I look at old family photos from the 1930s and 1940s. People didn't have much money, but everyone dressed so well. Women wore beautiful dresses, even as casual wear. Nothing fancy or expensive, just elegant, form-fitting, and indicative of honor and respect for oneself and others.
It helped that they also weren't all enormously fat.
I am a house painter and when I am at work, very often I think that I look better in my work clothes than the majority of the people passing by. All the people in ugly clothes and with bad hair, often very bad manners, too. Poor society, so sad. You are absolutely right to mention it, dear Anna.
I had to move to Argentina for a job 8 years ago and I am working in a city with around 50.000 inhabitants... can you believe that any of the coiffeurs here can't cut my straight hair well?. Even if I tell them how to cut my hair they end as they want and I have to come home, take the scissors and start to give the shape I want... This is not only for clothing, the "culture of the ugly" is at any area of the society, here in Argentina and over the world.
I live in a city and my office has a business casual dress code so it's not like I'm even wearing anything overly fancy, but I often go places after work and wonder if other people even have jobs because so many people look so sloppy that I can't imagine them going to work like that.
@@rosethorn0232 I agree... I have to wear working clothes -I work in roads-, but, when summer and works are quiet or when I know there weren't works at road I wear casual -good pants, good/ casual oxford blouse or any other blouse embroidered and slippers or sandals, a good bag and clean. I can see in my city people do not take care on details... and leggins are the most common clothe -I hate them-, they seem to be "dirty"... 🌹
I recall inviting a friend to have afternoon tea at Claridges. I was really looking forward to it and wore a lovely dress, did my hair and make up. To my surprise, she came along dressed in a baggy sweater and baggy trousers, she didn't make any effort at all. It wasn't the best experience. I was surprised that she was allowed to go in.
Hi Anna,
I STAND WITH CLASSY WEAR OVER CASUAL WEAR. Thank you for your videos 😉🥰🥰🥰. Continue shedding the light we need 💕
We can still look classy in casual wear. I wear a beautiful good quality gym outfit with a trench or a coat, and a pair of white sneakers, and I always look put together.
But of course it has its place. And also it all depends on the lifestyle of a person. I personally wear casual most days because I walk to my local cafes every single day to have my coffee, and again I do look put together.
@@fredacharbel7510 Well sweetheart I’m not taking away from what you love and do. This is speaking for my expression and what I like- as well as those that share my opinion. Thanks for stopping by though 💋
I was wearing tracksuit pants while watching this video, waiting for my daughter to wake up to take her to an appointment. After watching this video, I immediately changed into my new white jeans and a nice wool sweater. I felt so much better! Thanks for the reminder about the power of clothing, Anna!
I agree with you. It is very possible to be comfortable and classy. I’m a stay at home mom to 3 small girls and I wear a dress just about everyday. It helps me to feel more productive, beautiful, and I know my children and husband love seeing me in my dresses. Also, I whole heartedly believe that dresses are way more comfortable than pants, yoga pants, shorts, etc. I even dress my girls in dresses just about everyday and they absolutely love it. I’m glad to hear that other people feel the same way about dressing with more class.
I couldnt agree more. The exterior is the clue to the interior. We project our mental state by what we wear. If uou have no sense of fashion, then you are mentally disturbed. It is not superficial to look put together, indeed Jane Austen and Virginia Woolf took fashion and personal appearance very seriously. You would not call these ladies superficial! Keep up the good work Anna Bey!! We need you as a beacon of light in these dark times!!
Hi, I am a Spanish man (from Spain, Europe). You probably didn’t expect me commenting in your video, but the algorithm works in mysterious ways. I work in IT in an European Nordic company and the dress code is beyond sloppy, there are individuals that literally come dressed with a pyjamas, and stink as if they had no shower. I like to dress up myself as it is something I’ve grown with in my family. I was taught to dress comfortable but clean and appropriate for several situations: doctor, travel, work, etc .. but if I come to office with just a dress shirt and my nice dress shoes made in Spain the comments range from “you look like the finance controller” or “are you planning to become the CEO”. It is truly depressing that I’m literally forced to dress like a 12 years old when in reality I would dress like a grown up man. That is the reason I am not coming back to office, I hate fitting into their pyjamas world.
Same goes with women, it is really difficult to picture myself dating a woman who, repeatedly, wears leggings and sneakers, I find them totally off. And before you judge me, I am not advocating for high heels, which I understand they can be very hurting and uncomfortable. But I find women in athleisure very unattractive.
Even my current partner says that formal attire makes me look very “strict” and she prefers me in sneakers and sweat shirt. And all I do to look “strict” is to wear an Italian sports jacket on top of a T-shirt 😢. I think I will break up with her.
Your rant matches 100% my mother’s rant about today’s “pig” trend, as she says repeatedly. And you know what?, you both are right and you can say it LOUD and proud. I root for you Miss.
I love it. "Pajama World" is so funny and so true. Glad to read a gentleman's opinion here. I personally appreciate a man who looks good, and well put together. Keep it up!
A well dressed, well groomed & hygienic man will always get my attention.
Stay true to who you are! 😊
And...who the hell wears PJs to work? What is wrong with this world?
thanks for sharing your opinion
@Mokes888 Atheltic wear is amazing for running errands in etc. I agree it's tacky in the workplace but it definitely has it's place in this fast paced modern age. Nothing wrong with a drifit tee and some sleek black leggings for a busy day.
this is depressing mister. pig trend is shit indeed
As Karl Lagerfeld said, "Sweatpants are a sign of defeat. You lost control of your life, so you bought some sweatpants." Great video!
Lol
I love that!
Savage haha
And yet he sells sweatpants
I love this quote
What are you apologizing for Anna? you have nothing to apologize for!..you are right in every point you made!..i truly believe self-care translates into right mindset and well being..ive been watching and following your videos since ive discovered it early this year..and i so regret not finding you early on..ive been leveling up my wardrobe since then..thank you and God bless u
I so agree with this! While i don't really care about what other people wear, i can't express the comfort it brings me when i know ive put together an outfit that makes me feel polished, confident, and at the same time comfortable. Dressing well is absolutely a form of self care and self love ❤
I hate to be _that_ person, but ... sometimes it's maybe not a fashion choice? After a shoulder injury, I found that a lot of the clothes I used to wear just weren't practical. I started looking differently at everything from necklines to arm design to closures to material stretch. It's affected my overall wardrobe, and I have to admit I appreciate the overall casual trend, because I can dress 'functionally' at work without comment.
I love that you talk about other cultures, Anna. I've definitely noticed, here in Canada, that if a Japanese woman or Indian woman wears a dress to go for a walk, everyone is VERY accepting of this. But, if I wear a dress to walk my dog, I get weird looks. We are actually quite afraid to be different, potentially misunderstood.
Also, we really need to remember that just because a celebrity is photographed coming out of the gym in cycling shorts, doesn't translate to us (or them) dressing like this ALL day.
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Very true
So relatable!
this can not be true???? how??? dresses are very welcome in our country, but thanks to the cold weather it is difficult in winter time.
Just be yourself. If a nice dress fits you ok and you feel yourself well, go on that... and let them fall on their backs... hahaha...🌹
I live in Canada. No one cares how other people look!
For me it's been about the season of life I was in. I was born in 1960 and actually wore gloves and a hat to kindergarten. I always dressed up until I became a grad student. I was barely getting sleep or had time to eat. Athleisure was my go to, however, on days when I had breathing room, I'd wear a skirt, ballet flats, and made an effort with my hair. Later, in the tech workforce, if someone dressed up, they were asked, "are you going on an interview?" After that, while working from home and raising two young children, I had very few opportunities to dress up. Finally, when the kids were older, I went into a work environment where we dressed up. I loved it. Now, as a retiree, I'm all over the map. Camping in the backwoods with my husband or flying to Paris. We go from flannels and jeans to dressy city wear. I think it all comes down to dressing appropriately. Unfortunately, we all have different interpretations of appropriate.
😊wow I enjoyed reading your comment. Greetings from Europe
I was born in '64 and in addition to church, we dressed up for social events like open house at school and birthday parties. I dressed nicely for work in office attire, however as a retiree I will admit that there are days that I can do better. Still, I practice good hygiene and keep myself well-groomed at all times. I also dress appropriately for the situation whether I'm dining out, handling business matters, walking on nature trails, or knee deep in housework. I find that appropriate dress is relative to the circumstances, but good hygiene is essential.
i am so glad you made a video about this!! my mother always taught me to dress well. of course, in grade school, i had peers telling me i was always overdressed or came off as "i think i'm better than everyone else" and got told that i was high maintenance - and that continued into adulthood. so i degraded my style. in high school i was dressing more edgy - i listened to a lot of rock music, so that influenced my clothing style. into adulthood i went back to dressing nicely but ended up getting the same exact comments and i hated it. i couldn't find anyone who just wouldn't comment. so i dressed down again and it was just a lot of jeans/shirts/sneakers and i'm just kind of stuck there right now, trying to get back to how i was raised.
the worst of it all was really just being told how high maintenance i was -whatever that even means. because i was maintaining myself; not asking others to maintain my personal lifestyle
My mom and I always talk about this exact topic! Anna I’m so glad you are bringing it to the forefront. It’s so true, there are fabrics and styles of trousers, skirts and dresses that are a lot more comfortable than jeans. I find the clothing and styling is a reflection of a person’s consciousness and how they feel about themselves.
Totally agree with you. People are walking around looking like they just fell out of bed or worse. Glad to have your voice on this issue. Xx
Even employees they are protesting if you ask them to come with clothes, which are comfortable, clean and ironed. People are losing track of what is appropriate on many levels.
@getthekool1758 I agree but also think that snubbing appropriate workplace dress is a by-product of the problems companies have hiring. They'd rather you come in looking like a slob than to have a standard or two, have you leave in a huff because you need to wear a shirt with a collar, and then have to go through the time suck and expense of replacing you. So they choose to impose no basic guidelines, and here we are. As Anna said, people are making excuses for their sloppy appearances in the name of "self-expression.
And while we're on the self-expression topic . . . a lot of people might torch me for this, but I absolutely can't stand the tats. It's everywhere. I wish with a return to decent dress people would slow down on the ink. A sleeve of tats isn't equivalent to a sleeve of an actual shirt. LOL!
@@getthekool1758 Dress code depends on the job too, don’t forget. For example, a nurse who is on her feet all day, wearing sneakers, walking back and forth and is wearing scrubs. It may not look professional and neat but scrubs can help protect against cross contamination and wearing tennis shoes or other shoes that aren’t flats/ heels are definitely more comfortable for the nurse (shoes should also be closed toe). Should nurses wear skirts, heels and dresses but disregard their own comfort and possibly patients’ safety just so they can look nice?
@@AlesaGrant What is “appropriate workplace dress”? Construction workers, nurses, biohazard cleaners, in these occupations listed above, try wearing a nice pencil skirt and heels and it is definitely not appropriate for those jobs.
I suspect it has more to do with the general exhaustion people are experiencing. I like dressing up but I have less and less money and getting cute takes a little time I’ve been using to rest or do overtime
I agree, some of us ain’t got time to dress up and be fancy
Lol, people still find plenty of time to play video games, watch reality tv or be in the club though.
It all depends on your style but I like spending money on few versatile and quality pieces of clothing. I can use them for years to come in different ways without having to spend the extra cash to replace some of them. Some fashion pieces should be seen as an investment.
I absolutely agree with you! Thank you so much for bringing up this topic, Anna. It is such a relief to know that I am not the only one thinking this way about people dressing nowadays. It does tell us so much about the way our society thinks and behaves in modern times, lacking style and respect, too. I think everyone should learn from Coco Chanel about how to dress in style.
I’m from a big Mexican city and everyone dresses nice to go out casually and super dressed up for going out and events. I moved to the us and mostly everyone is super dressed down casual/sloppy. Even for work. I started getting lazy too and just recently started dressing nicer again.
My roommate in college was Mexican and you all do dress very nice also!
Bring your Mexican culture into the US/ Canada and influence the culture to "dress up."
I felt the same shock when I was in the US with my alternative clothes back in 2016-2018. In Germany we are used to dress up if we go out to eat or go shopping and go out in general. At the airport I could tell if asians where from the US or from asian countries. Same with europeans, in europe men know how to dress up at least
@@Cuteemogirl94l'm in the UK. We're a lost cause!!!!
If there's anyone I could have counted on to finally address this topic, it's Anna. THANK YOU! Dressing presentably these days makes heads turn. People stare. A lot. However, I've chosen to stay unbothered and to stick to my standards. And Anna, thanks a million for bringing up the 'intimate space' conversation. Everyone needs to hear it.
Yes!
My grandmother was a very classy dresser. She taught me to always look good in my clothes. She had the same outlook as you have. She was also European. I am glad I learned from her.