my dad never expected anything from anyone. i think that is skill and he never got angry when others didn't do as he expected even minor. so he was peaceful soul- no matter what happens in the world.
I would love to be like your father. How does he do it? Has he always been like this? It’s more the expectations of those we love than anything else… wonder how he does it… please enlighten us…
I liked what Suresh Bhai said.. we constantly do the begging to change the other person to understand what we want, and to make ourselves feel better.. but if the other person needs to be constantly told, then after a while the begging becomes stale. It’s like beating our heads against a brick wall when you know deep down they won’t really change as they do what’s in their capacity. What I learnt from this is that we shouldn’t lower our capacity because of others and almost compensate by doing much more than before. 😊
Thank you sister Shivani for changing my way of being , thinking , living life to being a more peaceful human being. All you have said should be translated into every language for more people to hear & practice and make this world a better place to live in...
Dear Soul Sister Shivani. I just love listening to you and you enlighten all of us, by opening our eyes to understand perspective that our minds are probably telling us not to look at, perhaps even due to ego. I really loved this particular topic about expectations. Sometimes you do wonder how you can overcome, even the smallest of expectations that you might have of someone who is very close to you and whom you love so much. Sometimes it’s painful and hurtful when we are the sole doers in the relationship. What about when we are depressed and sad? A thought does pop into my mind about why and how the other person says they are thinking of us, yet can’t show it in any meaningful way. Can the thoughts themselves reach each other without any actions? This is what I struggle with to understand, and the tiny little bit of expectation I probably have in the other person, to at least respond to my pain in some way to make me feel better is the gravest mistake I’ve been making. As you rightly said.. our happiness is not derived from the way they behave, but in the way we behave. We can only continue to be the way we are and give and give as much as we know how, even if nothing is reciprocated. It’s actually tough to be honest 😢. But thank you as the topic has opened my heart to understand myself and others a lot more now.
I am so grateful to you Sister Shivani for all this wonderful knowledge. You are awesome. Thanks Suresh ji. This way of thinking has definitely made me happier and a better person.
Dear Sister Shivani, seeing you, listening you I am feeling the great pleasure: if the creation is so beautiful, so how Beautiful is Creator, how beautiful is His Knowledge- the way of creating a new beautiful world!
someone should teach this to my mother... she has a lot of expectations from everyone... she thinks people should read her mind, and do fulfill expectations and if they don't then she gets angry starts arguments.. critisism berating others...all negativity. when I was child I didn't know if this is normal... but that created fear, doubt about myself, anxiety in my mind about what she would say.. and all negative feelings, offcourse angry about her too. now whenever she expects from me, i simply ask, why can't you meet your own expectations? why others have to run for you? and I don't do what she expects... i least care if she gets angry, pouts, criticizes. i have already accepted this and stopped walking on egg shell. i don't get affected if she feels unhappy, i am not responsible for what anyone thinks and feels about me. that way she has stopped now expecting anything from me. Good ridden. Don't feed what doesn't work for us, is big lesson i have learnt be it in personal life or professional. you may also have capacity for meeting expectations, but are we born for that ? everyone is responsible for themselves. if you have expectations you need to have discussion with other person and see if he/ she agrees... she might have expectations for something in return too... there goes negotiation.
This is very enlightening 💯 We should not expect other people to behave/perform based on our own capacity, but rather understand that they will do things based on their own capacity (not mine) 👍😁🤓
May god bless you ... I wish I have known this perspective sooner .... it is never too late I will start from NOW, Accept and Give than expect and receive Thank you.
This seems too simplistic (and almost unrealistic). You want a beautiful life. Everyone wants a beautiful, peaceful life. Say you get married, you have several children, your husband stays home the whole day and doesn't work, your children go hungry, your family faces eviction - you are just supposed to accept that?
my dad never expected anything from anyone. i think that is skill and he never got angry when others didn't do as he expected even minor. so he was peaceful soul- no matter what happens in the world.
I would love to be like your father. How does he do it? Has he always been like this? It’s more the expectations of those we love than anything else… wonder how he does it… please enlighten us…
Sis Shivani's .....heavenly words ....out of this world!!!
I liked what Suresh Bhai said.. we constantly do the begging to change the other person to understand what we want, and to make ourselves feel better.. but if the other person needs to be constantly told, then after a while the begging becomes stale. It’s like beating our heads against a brick wall when you know deep down they won’t really change as they do what’s in their capacity. What I learnt from this is that we shouldn’t lower our capacity because of others and almost compensate by doing much more than before. 😊
20:54 "I think I am proud of myself." ❤️
Thank you sister Shivani for changing my way of being , thinking , living life to being a more peaceful human being. All you have said should be translated into every language for more people to hear & practice and make this world a better place to live in...
Dear Soul Sister Shivani. I just love listening to you and you enlighten all of us, by opening our eyes to understand perspective that our minds are probably telling us not to look at, perhaps even due to ego. I really loved this particular topic about expectations. Sometimes you do wonder how you can overcome, even the smallest of expectations that you might have of someone who is very close to you and whom you love so much. Sometimes it’s painful and hurtful when we are the sole doers in the relationship. What about when we are depressed and sad? A thought does pop into my mind about why and how the other person says they are thinking of us, yet can’t show it in any meaningful way. Can the thoughts themselves reach each other without any actions? This is what I struggle with to understand, and the tiny little bit of expectation I probably have in the other person, to at least respond to my pain in some way to make me feel better is the gravest mistake I’ve been making. As you rightly said.. our happiness is not derived from the way they behave, but in the way we behave. We can only continue to be the way we are and give and give as much as we know how, even if nothing is reciprocated. It’s actually tough to be honest 😢. But thank you as the topic has opened my heart to understand myself and others a lot more now.
thank you sister Shivani for this wonderful lesson on life science,it is truly eye opening
I am so grateful to you Sister Shivani for all this wonderful knowledge. You are awesome. Thanks Suresh ji. This way of thinking has definitely made me happier and a better person.
So amazing !!! no words can explain this beautiful insights
SO important!
Dear Sister Shivani, seeing you, listening you I am feeling the great pleasure: if the creation is so beautiful, so how Beautiful is Creator, how beautiful is His Knowledge- the way of creating a new beautiful world!
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tooo gooood:) some day even i wud inspire ppl
Thank you Sister Shivani for such enlightenment 😅
someone should teach this to my mother... she has a lot of expectations from everyone... she thinks people should read her mind, and do fulfill expectations and if they don't then she gets angry starts arguments.. critisism berating others...all negativity. when I was child I didn't know if this is normal... but that created fear, doubt about myself, anxiety in my mind about what she would say.. and all negative feelings, offcourse angry about her too. now whenever she expects from me, i simply ask, why can't you meet your own expectations? why others have to run for you? and I don't do what she expects... i least care if she gets angry, pouts, criticizes. i have already accepted this and stopped walking on egg shell. i don't get affected if she feels unhappy, i am not responsible for what anyone thinks and feels about me. that way she has stopped now expecting anything from me. Good ridden. Don't feed what doesn't work for us, is big lesson i have learnt be it in personal life or professional. you may also have capacity for meeting expectations, but are we born for that ? everyone is responsible for themselves. if you have expectations you need to have discussion with other person and see if he/ she agrees... she might have expectations for something in return too... there goes negotiation.
Trying to change other people
Expecting them to change
Rejecting them for what they are
Blocking own energy of happiness
Thanks Shivani Didi ji for your wonderful comments.
Om 😊 🕉 Shanti. Thank you so much sister Shivani
You are amazing Sister Shivani!
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This is very enlightening 💯 We should not expect other people to behave/perform based on our own capacity, but rather understand that they will do things based on their own capacity (not mine) 👍😁🤓
Even expectations with ourselves and not fulfilling it create hurt in self.
I think I am proud of myself
Sir your line change my life
Thank you shiv baba
Om Shaanti, Thanks.
Just brilliant :-)
fantastic
agar har koi shivani ji ki tarah sochne lage to kasam se duniya jannat ban jayegi. P.S I am not expecting anything from this world.
Thank u. Very useful.🙏
OM SHANTI SISTER & SIR ... 🥀🥀🙏🙏
Very nce God bless u both.
Sister it is easy said than done... So please tell how to implement on real ground
Nice one 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Om Shanti..
Great ❤️🔥🎉🙏👍
🙏🏻🌹🌹OM SHANTI 🌹🌹🙏🏻
Very Excellent Sister
I love all your videos and all the spiritual messages you teach thank you God Bless you both 🙏🥳
Thank you
May god bless you ... I wish I have known this perspective sooner .... it is never too late I will start from NOW, Accept and Give than expect and receive Thank you.
Amazing
Marvelous 😍😍😍
More videos required from you for happiness please provide more and more
just awesome...:-)
எதிர்பார்ப்பு என்றால்????
புரிகிறது Baghini....
எதிர்பார்ப்பில்லா கர்மாக்கள்
சேவைகள்......
என்று புரிகிறது Baghini
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This is so good... listening to Sister Shivani is so much peace. Hope I will be able to inculcate her teachings and sayings atleast 50%.
Suresh oberoi made me laugh so much @ 18:23 and it's so true
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Sheesh Oberai Ji probably will be relative of *Bramha Baba* in any birth. Though both are from sindh and sindhies.
Is responsibility an expectation?
This seems too simplistic (and almost unrealistic).
You want a beautiful life. Everyone wants a beautiful, peaceful life.
Say you get married, you have several children, your husband stays home the whole day and doesn't work, your children go hungry, your family faces eviction - you are just supposed to accept that?
Good afternoon ❤❤ Shivani your picefullsoul your laitmaetsoul your nolegefullsoul your divainsoul your avredisoul wohyou ilove sweetheart omsanti
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