it's also tacky to tell other parents what to do unless it's reasonable advice edit: this wasn't directed to OP, this was more directed to parents in general
Unpopular opinion: Children didn't CHOOSE to be born, and paying for welfare, food, housing and medical attention is expected for the parents to provide. Kids don't owe their parents anything at all except when they ask for unnecessary expenditures.
That opinion is only unpopular among abusive, narcissistic 'parents'. Everyone else just calls that 'an actual goddamn fact'. Better yet, some places in the world deem it 'a legal duty' that can result in a 'parent' losing custody of their child.
@@hauntedshadowslegacy2826 the "unpopular opinion" part had sarcasm mode on. Though I can't fault you for not seeing that, given how the Internet works and all.
Yep, that about sums it up. Plus, parents are not required to by overpriced clothes and accessories, and parents have every right to say no when their kids ask for the thirtieth toy that week.
Reminds me of people who do favors for others exclusively because they expect something in return, and then start conveniently doing favors for people without asking. Almost like they're just trying to force you into giving them things...
We seriously need to make an entire BINGO board for every time we go through this subreddit. The free space would probably be "What about if I was sick or dying?" to be quite honest.
All these parents of trans people make me really sad because it reminds me of my sister's wife, whose parents went fucking nuclear when she came out as trans. It also makes me appreciate my own mom *(very* religious) who after being simultaneously hit with "I'm bi" and "My boyfriend is my girlfriend" in one conversation only had a brief meltdown blaming herself as a failure before realizing pitying herself is the exact thing she shouldn't be doing right now and instead focused all of her efforts on supporting my sister and her girlfriend.
Your mother is a wonderful person! and your sister's wife.. I hope that she has a better life now! and hope those parents are either trying to be better at some point in her life, orrrrrrr they're completely thrown to the waste side.
Ideally she wouldn't have had the "thinking she's a failure part", but at least nothing worse happened! She even supported you! (I assume the "supporting you" thing happens rarely, my mom's church is a very very very unorthodox church, half their staff is gay, a quarter is trans, and they're very very inclusive. Hopefully all churches start acting like this.) Good on your mom!
My mother acted perfectly normal when I came out as trans at my birthday and then dropped me off at the rotting shack I converted into shelter because she refused to take us in in an emergency when we could pay her for it and then promptly disowned me. She literally mourns my death every year on my birthday and views me as the monster that killed her son (literally me). She claimed to be Wiccan and to support LGBT people right up until it effected her. I wasn't surprised. She had always been a narcissist, violent mess of a person.
You know, many give women in history a lot of crap for how they treated their children but ffs, I have understanding and sympathy towards the Victorian mother who fed her infant opiates to keep it quiet so she could go to work *because she didn't know any better and had no means of knowing*. These women, on the other hand...
As someone once said, there was a time we thought people being stupid was just a lack of access to information. *shake my head* Nope. 9 times out of 10 it's ego related.
@@muddashucka9743 "Pretty sure" is not a particularly strong argument, compared to arguments I've got from actual historians, and no, they didn't know the dangers of it. You can look at the increase in mortality rates after such remedies were introduced, at the advertising of the products and the literacy of most young mothers at the time.
You know you've gone into a deep click hole when you literally like his vids so much you decide to finish studying before watching them so it'll be like a prize for doing it lol
That one lady homeschooling her kid is doing it wrong. I was read to almost every day when I was homeschooled as a child and my mom took my education very seriously. My parents eventually divorced and I had to go to a normal school, but when I tested in and was put into the right grade, I was way ahead of almost everyone in my reading comprehension and math skills. Also history and writing as well. Not all homeschooled kids are behind and not all parents who choose to do it are lazy. That one lady saying homeschool is at their own pace is wrong.
Dude you're lucky. I would have loved that. I'm behind in everything because I was put into program classes for behaviour (I was waiting on an autism diagnosis, because people thought I was intentionally defiant) and have spent most of my life being harrassed and bullied by peers, this last semester being the final straw that led my mother to actually hear me and put me in online schooling. Issue is, I don't have any stay-at-home parent to have done that for me.
My mother apologized for ONE small aspect of her mental abuse of me when I was younger. Not because she's a good person, but because she was distraught that I was trans. When I told her that I accepted her apology, but that I was born trans and she hadnt done anything to make me trans, she began to try and manipulate me by saying "it was incredibly hard for me to say that, and now you won't even listen to me" Honey, I just told you I was trans.
My mother and I apparently have the same mental health struggles but she's never talked to me about it, just tried to force me to try her "suggested" "cures" and "encourage" me to make decisions about my future that are "what I want" and will "make my life better." (They're "suggestions" but she gets mad at me if I don't do them) She also tries to force conversations about stuff like gender and sexuality and how accepting she is if I come out because she found out I was eating lunch with some people who are gay in high school and I once wanted to wear a suit instead of a dress to a formal event. And then she wonders why I don't want to talk to her or hang out with her.
I'm so sorry! Glad you're out tho & living authentically! ❤🌺 My mom did the same, only apologized one time in her life. The reason? Bc the juvenile Judge on our case called her out specifically. Judge said "no matter where we place her(me) they always call her a 'wonder child' bc she behaves so well. This leads me to believe the problem is inside the home, not with your daughter." Mom was mortified. I still had to serve out my time, too. 🥺 Ages 13 to 16, in jail, foster & group homes. Absolutely scarring experiences. She apologized randomly during a car ride a while after that. More than i was ever expecting. 🙄 You know the worst part? I accepted the apology & have continued to speak to her, bc she's such a flaming narcissist that it made *me* feel bad for *her?!* I'm 36 now. Went NC when I was 16 when I moved out, but felt an obligation to speak to her sometimes. Moved 8,000 miles away now, to South India with my husband, finally safe from that sick family. This week finally confronted the fact my father committed CSA against me, sister & cousins. 😭 So I'm going NC from him, obvs, probably forever. So sorry to ramble. 🤦🏼♀️ It's therapeutic to share our stories & show support. Solidarity to all of you. ✊ We don't get to pick our families, unfortunately, but we can adopt new ones! My husband's family is my adoptive family. I now know what a healthy, normal relationship looks like. 🥲 Form new bonds & cut the toxic ones out! Life will be infinitely better for it! Solidarity to all of you, it's gonna be ok. 🥺❤
Gotta love how there are parents that think they should be compensated for giving their children food, like they wouldn't go to prison for child neglect if they let their kids starve.
I know reproduction is considered a human right, but sometimes I wonder if that was a mistake. Parents like that need to be sterilized so they'll never have children again. Or the kids need to be taken as soon as they're born.
As a trans dude i've experienced both sides of the acceptance from my parents. My dad, bless him, is totally confused when it comes to being trans, but he tries his hardest to help me and understand what im going thru. On the other hand, my mom just flat out refused to accept it at all and has long since dropped out of my life. Dont worry my parents are seperated so my dad is much happier now! ❤
Glad to hear your dad is not only doing better but is also trying. I came out as a trans dude pretty young and before I cut contact with my parents, my mom use to say that I ruined her plans and she just wanted grandkids. (she is obsessed with babies but hates actual kids for well being kids) My grandparents are great however and as much as they don't get my name right they do buy me men's stuff and try to use the correct pronouns. I hope you do well and share alot of good memories with you dad.
I get both in just my mother, sometimes she complements my skirts and other times she tells me to take it off and put something proper on when its the same outfit. But I'm just femboy rn, yet to change my name... >.>
You dad seems like a cool guy, it's nice that he's trying his best to understand, I can understand his confusion as well because it also confuses me sometimes
almost the opposite. my mom is confused but shes trying her best, dad doesnt necessarily not accept it but doesnt always try either. almost no one in my family calls me by my name and pronouns, but thats alright with me because im not too dysphoric and they know i dont mind because they arent doing it to hurt me. mom does buy me mens clothes, one of my sisters gets my hair done(shes a stylist) as a guys cut, one sister who split off from almost everyone else for reasons unknown (and frankly dont care, she can do what she wants, was still uncool but its not my business) helped me get a binder twice (first time to begin with second time recently because i severely outgrew it), and the boys just treat me no differently. ive noticed they use my legal name a bit less; even if the name Cameron is a bit much to stomach over Chloe just yet, they call me nicknames to show me theyre tryin. :3
That 5 000 000 $ guy apparently spent over 700 $ a day for his child, for 18 years straight. What a doting father he was. Also that mother with the wedding dress story feels more like some kind of horror story than reality at this point. I can totally picture the scene going on with the BGM becoming more and more sinister as she continues talking.
The average cost to raise a child in the US* is $272,049 over 18 years. This guy thought that meant per year. *According to a US Department of Agriculture study in 2015 adjusted for inflation to 2022.
this isnt a joke when i say this, having and raising children really should require by law a license. the fact that you need one to pull fish out of water but not to raise an entire human being? it just isn't right.
If I need to be literally at risk of dying to legally get a ball of cells taken from my womb, it should absolutely require some sort of classes at least to intentionally put one in there and let it develop.
The other day my mom had doubt, whether or not she was a good parent. Short answer: Yes. After binging a bunch of these videos and an hour on r/insane parents myself, I can conclude: She is loving, selfless and an all in all decent woman. Good I'm happy to not having put up with crap like this.
Hmmmm. My mom is no saint but nowhere near as bad as these parents. She does heavily favor my older brother but since I moved away she is making efforts to treat me better than she was.
My mom tries her best, but sometimes, she is just way too harsh on us. Oh, and also, she threatens to call the cops on me when I get some mountain dew (which she claims for herself) from the fridge.
Totally! My mother keeps saying how nursing home are awful and she don't want to go there (she's only 60 so there is time). One thing is sure: I'll never take her, I'm even going to a smaller house, so I'll have a good excuse ^^
@@John_Weiss oh she will never go in one. I guess one of my siblings will take her. Or she will share her home with a student, against taking care of her. I don't know lol, but that won't be my problem (as I have health and financial issues)
And if someone does have to go into a nursing home, they're not going to get the best treatment unless they have a loving, supportive family that visits a lot. Good luck with that, abusive parents.
I've seen parents do the "I want to be paid back for raising you" thing or the "I carried you and this is the thanks I get" thing, and they completely miss the point: You don't pay it back, you pay it forward. You raising your kids is payment to your parents for raising you, and your kids raising their kids is payment for you raising them. It's never paid back, it's paid forward.
@@gayfrogribbit yeah that sucks, my mom had moments like that too - a good comeback to that is, "How long was grandma in labor with you? How did you pay her back?" - with any luck that'd trigger a light bulb to go of (hopefully).
@@gayfrogribbit yeah I had to do that too for the 5 years before she died, sounds like you had a similar "I gave her every opportunity to stop being crazy and she didn't take it" story.
I came out as transgender to my mam when I was 19, incorrectly thinking she'd be cool. Homeless by 21 (got a home now)and she compared me to a rapist for being trans last year, to which I blocked her social media. Now she keeps phoning me to say she wants to 'give the stuff back' I have explicitly stated that I do not want this stuff so give it to charity, but she is more wiling to take it 20 miles to my flat rather than take it to a charity shop (thrift/goodwill store) that is practically next door, trying to make me feel guilty because she 'might become homeless' I'm almost 28, she trashed most my stuff so i have no idea what she's trying to give me and I've lived without it long enough I can say easily that I don't want it
Wow, my mom compared me to a murderer when I told her about my attempts, I was thirteen, moms just love to compare their kids to horrible people don’t they? I hope you’re doing better
Funny thing about that whole "name brand" thing. I live in a ridiculously wealthy area but both my daughters were voted best dressed in their classes from 9th-12th grade. I never bought anything from a retail store that wasn't for a very special occasion. I spent my money at thrift stores, online auctions & searched online for up & coming designers who wanted to practice designing something that I would then purchase for cost of materials & their time. I picked through until I found something unique & cute or a designer I liked, then I spent the few dollars it took after I bought it to have it tailored to fit them. They never looked like any of the other kids & I didn't care so much if they ruined whatever article of clothing somehow. Most people don't realize that rich people look rich because of quality fabric, craftsmanship & then tailoring...mostly, it's the tailoring. It's not really about name brand anything. Most uber rich people don't buy things with super prominent logos anyway. You only need those logos if you need everyone else to know what you have.
it's almost like the Stephen King effect. send in a manuscript with an unknown name on it, it gets roasted. send the same one, but with his name on it, it's harold-ed as the best thing to be written since sliced bread. name brands shouldn't be a defining thing for recognizing good talent or craft.
Funny you mention thrift stores. My mom and I go to a few in our area on the weekends and came out with a literal steal. Brand new (tags still on) NAME BRAND clothes for a few dollars each.
@@chatboulon743 yea my daughters, now 18 & 22 still LOVE thrift stores. They like not having the same exact clothes everyone in the area has currently & they like not supporting the exploitation of people in other countries. I still have relationships with a few of the designers that I formed years ago, some of who you probably know now that I do still purchase from for special occasions. Idk, I retired in my 30s so I didn't want to needlessly waste money when I had the time & abilities to do things differently. My daughters still get asked where they got certain things & I've even had people try to buy the jacket made especially for me by one of those designers when they were hired by a house while I was wearing it several times (a thanks for believing in me gift that I totally didn't expect at all). Almost nothing we have has prominent logos, although some of it can be designer. The girls mix their lace tanktops from Target or Walmart or old band Tshirts from their uncle or late father with jeans they maybe got from an auction & a leather jacket & boots they maybe got from thrift stores but it all fits like it was made for them so it just looks different when they wear it. My best advice for looking well put together that I got from my wealthy parents was find a good tailor. I always did &, even though I spent thousands less than other parents here, my girls always got compliments. Idk I enjoy the hunt maybe?
I dressed my daughter almost entirely from thrift stores the whole time she was growing up. We treated it as a treasure hunt, finding great stuff for a fraction of the price. Considering that she was still growing at age 18, it made much more sense (and was a lot more fun) going into a retail store and paying ridiculous amounts of money for something my daughter would outgrow in six months. All it took for her to look great was some sewing skill and an awareness of the current fashions.
Yup. This is my plan if my mother ever decides it's worth it to follow me a 7+ hour drive away to demand that I "make up with her". I'll call the cops on her ass. I don't care if she's my biological mother. She heard through the grapevine of relatives that I bought a house and looked up my address in public records. That's frikking creepy. If she bothers to use that address even once, you'd best believe there will be legal action.
Oh man, as someone with a psychotic family that has pulled many similar occurrences such as these in the video, talk about traumatic. To this day I want nothing to do with them and have moved to the edges of the USA away from them. I told them if they kept it up I'm leaving the country. Some people are plain psycho and think they are above ethics, morals and law. So much abuse.
This subreddit always reminds me of the big fight I had with my mom, where she told me "well if you hate it here so much, pack your stuff and move out!" Which I did. And now I'm the bad guy apparently.
May I suggest that you keep throwing her statement back at her, followed by, "so I did as you ordered me to." Keep doing it any time she tries to guilt you for doing exactly what she said. And also, much success and prosperity to you living on your own!
My mother did the same thing! Said she was sick of me and was physically packing my bags and throwing me out so I found a place and moved out and she got so angry she harassed and threatened me every single day after.
As someone who is still stuck with emotionally abusive parents: yeah it be like that. Shits insane and the worst part is there is no way you can get help by yourself. There's basically no other choice than enduring it until you can move out, which in the current economy? Ha. Ha...
I'm so sorry you're going through that, it was me for years, I was 28 before I extracted myself from the toxic dynamic and at 30 I cut ties altogether, it's hard, but you'll get there, you don't deserve to be treated that way :(
In the meantime, plan your escape. Plan out what you will need to leave and be on your own. Like, sit down and figure out the details to the nearest dollar. Even if it's not yet feasible to do, you not only have the concrete plan, you can now see exactly what its feasibility is, rather than it being just some vague, "can't be done," idea. And knowing that will help your mental health a bit.
I love my mom but she doesn't understand all the shit that I have been through. Also she is homophobic. I'm bisexual and dating a lesbian currently.she thinks that I wil go to hell when I die but honestly I have thought that i would go to hell when I died ever since I was 5 years old
I relate. My father is pretty similar to this. He tries to understand, but just can’t fully. Thank god my mom understands a lot better and does what she can to help me. I honestly don’t know what I’d do without her
Five million dollars for eighteen years of meals? Do the math. It works out to $253.50 PER MEAL, assuming three meals a day, and accounting for leap years. They must have flown his meals in from Paris every day.
@@insideAdirtyMind various diagnoses, lots of therapy, and trying to avoid all contact... and that was a good result 😆 this subreddit is so good for so many reasons (as long as you're in the right headspace)
Not an excuse for all the horrible parents described here... but the flaw with this argument is that some parents don't really have a choice. It's not like everyone who ever became a parent also planned and wanted to become a parent
@@RUMandNUKA Unless you live in a country where birth control and abortions are not an option, that argument is also flawed. And even then, there's still ways to avoid having kids, by paying attention to menstrual cicles and avoiding having sex on certain days/weeks.
@@iulia.bianca.b Basically women should have total control over their bodies. It's amazing when women have more autonomy, suddenly fewer pregnancies happen, and fewer unexpected / unwanted kids are born into this world! It's almost like magic. When the options are not only available, but also affordable if not FREE (or reimbursed by social security), we end up with fewer problems down the road! It will never be 0, but boy would it lead to more full bellies and more happy childhoods
@@ProbsNotABot Oh no, I don't know wether to feel like the coolest person on earth rn or to rethink my life choices! (Btw people this is a joke I love the Click)
Last year my dad asked me over the phone how was I dealing with the new mask mandate in Italy. They basically prohibited going maskless even in the outdoors. Spoiler alert: I did take it off a few times if I was going up stairs or if I was just going out to take the trash out to the nearest bin. Anyway. I told him it was amazing for me. Because it was getting very cold and having a mask cover my face kept it warm yet breathable. Also the area covered by a mask is the only area I can never cover with anything so it gets really cold. Definitely a plus for me
May I suggest that we all start referring to the southern-states where this is happening as, "The Slave States" from now on? Also, I've heard non-US journalists talk to politicians from the Slave States about the cause of Civil War, and it's _glorious_ to watch as all of the bullsh1t3 excuses are just stripped away. They'll ask innocent questions about what "States Rights" are and how were they being violated, all the while reacting to the hostility from the slave-state politician with a polite, "But I'm not from your country and I've never heard these details. Please help me understand." And the slave-state politician just paints themselves into a logical corner, exposing the lie they've been told and have been repeating for what it is: an empty, nonsensical lie.
@@John_Weiss yeesh how embarrassing for them 😅. And they say we get offended at everything. I’m from the north and we have plenty of bullsh*t here (including our fair share of confederate flags and parents refusing to let their kids learn about racism). I know it’s a lot worse in “the slave states”; I can’t imagine being a teacher in one of those states right now.
@@haleemorgan8076 I'm in the Northeast. And yeah, I also see the racist B.S. here. But it's not being codified into state law, like it is in The Slave States.
from outside the USA(I live in Argentina) I get the impression that northamericans are very obsessed with racism and see racism everywhere, comparable to how they're obsessed with guns equalling freedom. Of course it's a generalization but you get my point. Between BLM and feminism pushing tribalist ideology(understanding reality by groups rather than complex network of complex individuals) that narrative is gaining momentum.
"Don't let them normalize myocarditis like they did Autism." There is so much wrong with this sentence. First, a neurological disorder is very different than a heart disease. Second, the causes are very different. Third, Autism can't be cured while myocarditis can. Fourth, Autism was always normal; it's just that people acted like it wasn't, likely due to lack of knowledge. Fifth, no one is trying to normalize myocarditis, even if it were a result of the vaccine (which it isn't). There is nothing factual about that sentence and there are tons of problems with it.
I can't wait for the statistical analysis showing that myocarditis is one of the aftereffects of a COVID-19 infection. Given that vaccines are either (A) dead-virus; (B) just the outer shell of the virus; or (C) just proteins on that outer shell, any reaction you have to a vaccine you will also get from the virus itself.
@@John_Weiss Not only that, but the reactions will usually be a lot less severe due to it not being a live virus, or if it is a live virus, it is in such a weakened state that your body can easily fight it off.
@@Shugunou Exactly! I only omitted that to keep the focus on the main point: If you have a reaction to the vaccine, the virus itself is going to cause the same reaction. Now, it's possible that one could have an allergic reaction to the "inactive ingredients" in a vaccine, but then you're going to have that same reaction to those same substances _everywhere else you encounter them._ This is why, whenever you get a flu-shot, they ask if you have an egg-allergy. Also, with the mRNA vaccines, the people having a severe-immune-response to them will almost certainly have a near-lethal immune-response to the virus itself. That was actually one of the reasons why the 1919 Influenza Pandemic was so fatal: healthy people's immune systems overreacted to the virus so severely, it ended up killing them.
@@John_Weiss Damn, I didn't know that. I also thought that you could only get an allergic reaction from active ingredients. I guess if it has eggs in it, it wouldn't matter if it's inactive or not but I never thought of it that way.
@@Shugunou …and it would only need to be one of two specific proteins in common between eggs and a vaccine to trigger someone egg allergy. Of course, if it were one of the proteins that trigger the allergy.
I'm so scared that once I actually come out to my parents as omnisexual and fluidflux theyre gonna be like some of these parents and flip a switch and try to guilttrip me and and send me crazy passive aggressive texts and threaten me with this and that. I'm hoping not and they'll just be disappointed and maybe disrespectful but not straight up threatening my life and living and being super toxic (they already are some) like some of these people
Very much what AK 565 said above! If you have any doubt that you'll be safe and fed after coming out, DON'T do it! I'd recommend listening to "Spectrum" by Boyinaband ft. Minx and Cry.
@@Grandmother628 Depends on the parent or parents' choices, unfortunately. One can then only hope they are merciful to show kindness to the unexpected child or the child is able to have something close to a trusted parental figure with a good moral compass if not.
@@Grandmother628 They could've had an abortion if they didn't want children, or given it up for adoption. Newborns are easy to adopt. I know someone who got an abortion after being sexually assaulted. But that isn't an excuse to abuse children who are defenseless and reliant on you. Edit: no offense, just offering another viewpoint. I'm not trying to be rude.
@@standardhuman8675 Thanks. Basically my mental health recently has been decreasing a lot lately, both because of school and because of home life. After almost calling a hotline recently I decided I needed a small break and "ran away" to a friend's place for 3 days without telling dad. Probably kinda stupid but I really just needed a break. I just came home and he basically just told me to go to my room and we'll talk about it later. He knows I'm having problems by the way, he just kinda ignores it because school is more important to him. Then at some point I giggled a little bit because I was on tiktok to calm me down a little bit and he heard it since I don't have a door and was like "you better not be watching stupid shit right now, I'd advise you to do something that'll put me in somewhat of a good mood" and I'm not sure why but that just kinda caused me to break down. I'm a little better by now due to said distraction and texting the friend who's house I was at but yeah that's basically it
I love the fact that the mother with the kid who wanted his own table assumed that the waitress called the manager over fear for her tip, and not the fact that she was concerned about a relatively unsupervised child being a HUGE liability. Like even if you are sitting in sight of the kid, I would be really concerned about the kid choking, or breaking something, or just causing a mess and the mom being too far away to notice and respond quickly. Restaurant employees aren't babysitters. And have you ever tried to take a five year old's order without the parent there to clarify? What if the kid ordered something more expensive than he could afford? You know mom would throw a fit if her kid ended up ordering like $50 worth of food. What if the kid ordered something he was allergic to? What if the kid ordered something he didn't realize he didn't like? What if the kid ordered something alcoholic and didn't like it when the waitress told him no. Also, everyone else in the restaurant who didn't know what was going on would definitely be concerned. Which means that waitstaff would spend the entire meal explaining and probably reassuring random people that these five year olds sitting alone at a table wouldn't ruin everyone else's evening. I have SO MANY images in my mind of how this could go wrong and lead to parent or child having a tantrum in the middle of the restaurant.
Well, understanding that would have required common sense, which if she had it, would have prevented her from seating her child on a separate table in the first place...
Also how much you guys want to bet that the mother is one of those "Children are too young to know if they're lgbt" types? I have no proof, just that level of hypocrisy seems fitting.
Just wanted to add a personal experience regarding the "learning at their own rate" bit during my time at school I have epilepsy and a learning disorder witch make it hard for me to learn at a mainstream level. We were able to learn at our own rate but we also had a baseline of when we needed our assignments in. Teacher: *Hands out papers* Alright, we're gonna go over (topic/subject) this week and have a test on it next week. If you don't finish on time you can hand it in when you are done and can take the test yourself.
6:20 think about pressure as a fire when you can't move, it needs to be warm enough to keep you alive in the winter, but small enough to allow you to stay.
The Karen who demanded the teacher not to use the word "steal" when talking about her daughters action (and baiscally any other insane parent demanding other people not using certain to describe the actions the parents or their f**k trophies are doing) reminds me often of a post I read/heard about a while back. OP worked at a store that sold toys (I think it was something like a dollar store) and a mother and her was near the checkout area. The mother kept sayign "Octopus! Octopus!" to the kid. When asked about it the mother said she used as a substitute word for "No". Because she "DiD'nT WanT tO raIse HeR ChiLd WiTh aNy NeGatIViTy". Posts like these really, reeeeaaaally makes me want it to be a need for a parenting license before creatures like these breed
Yeah I remember this post... imagine this kid becomming a rapist, victim constantly saying "no" but the kid not getting it cause not knowing what "no" is.... thats of course an extreme example, but still, how can you not teach your kid words like "no"? It's a bsic part of communication. + this is not avoiding "negativity" cause in this case the word octopus becames a negative word.
One time I told my sister that no I wouldn't and couldn't come over to her house which is in the opposite direction of mine as I had exams to study for and a large amount of homework to do, that same day I had also had water spilled on me and told that someone like me shouldn't be able to get lunch. Overall I just wasn't feeling it and I really needed to revise without looking after a 2 year old for 6 hours while managing my social life and studying. She then sent me texts saying that "you're always like this, you just hate me, you just hate -insert nephews name- you just hate our family" she then got on video xall afger spamming me and brought my little nephew over and said "look bub! They dont love you at all!" And made him cry. I was pissed off because im fine with the angry texts but making my nephew the little boy who calls me his older sibling cry just because I said no? Thats over the line. I blocked her and didn't speak to her whenever around her, only my nephew, this poor 2 year old who has no clue what I really going on around him since he's still just 2. She then came over, ordered food after me and my mum cooked dinner left trash everywhere and let him draw on the walls when we were out, she doesn't take any responsibility and I'm sick of it. There isn't really any happy ending since this all just happened after the course of 4 weeks (exams were 3 weeks ago and she came over 4 days ago and refused to leave) Edit: she left this morning after I left for school to get some exam results back, so far I've passed all my exams! Math, french, science, English, it and history! I still have my geography exam to get back so I'm hoping for the best!
Why would I spend thousands of dollars on name brand baby clothes when a baby is going to pee, puke, and poop in and on them, and outgrow them in 3 months? How silly.
My very late 2 cents, on the "learning to read" thing. People go through development stages where they are at the prime (mental) age to learn such things as walking, talking and reading as well! This is basically a window of focus where the person is inherently interested in the subject (Babies, starting to stand up or todlers making "ga ga, goo goo" sounds), qnd with the propper guidance and encouragement from others learns to do that thing! after this window passes the ability to learn these things arent IMPOSIBLE but they are HARDER to learn. (every personndevelops differently and has these developing stages at different times, but if the 8 year old kid mentioned here was neurotypical the parent has made it harder for them to learn how to read.)
Every time I listen to one of these, I find myself wondering why we don't have parenting licenses. If we had them, the country's mental health would probably be way better because these are the kinds of people who would absolutely be rejected from getting one.
when he started to talk about the mother sitting on the bed saying she will stay right there... first image in my head is her getting punched through the door.... satisfying and extremely frustrating
My mother was the creepy type, much like last story. Except hers was clearly fetishizing my bf (we were 15) because he was Asian. saying "oh I want Asian grandbabies", buying me lingerie, and purposely leaving us alone together. One of the MANY reasons I don't speak to her. Hearing Click's response to it definitely helped
Seeling some of these insane parents texts makes me happy that my childhood was pre-internet time and mom was never into "high tech" and was before smart phones.
Damn that mother that didn't wanted her kid to learn about slavery remind me of folks from Portugal that still think till today that they discovered Brazil
But Portugal did discover Brasil. Obviously, Brasil already existed and was inhabited at the time of it's discovery by the portuguese. But Portugal brought this new territory to the attention of the known world. Portugal was the first country that went "Hey, you know there's a whole piece of land west of The Atlantic?"
@@tonyhakston536 who was that guy? From the name, I'm guessing he was a viking, but what are the whos, whats, whens, and wheres? Just asking, as I've never heard of them.
I feel bad for some homeschooled kids getting taught wrong stuff from stupid parents, there's some good parents for homeschooling but if your not teaching them even how to read right away they're probably not gonna end up as well
I relate so hard to these... My father started calling my coworkers when I blocked him, after he issued death threats to me because they forced my friend to tell them I'm gay.
Another win for The Click...and may I mention its growing startling how much this craziness is festering and spreading, like a fungus. Humans..they do suck.
Sometimes Click says something really educational and wholesome, like what he said about children making their own choices and exploring themselves, and I go "Hmm. This would be a really good video to show my parents who could learn a lot from this". Then I remember this is a Click video. Love you Click! Thank you for the awesome messages you sprinkle in as they helped me escape my parents mentality years ago.
I feel like some of these people just wanna feel special, they look at everything going on and think "How can I make this about me?" So they invent conspiracy theories and say they're so much smarter than everyone else and then they think to themselves "Oh yeah, I survived, I'm so smart and special"
Two things I learned from my 9 kids. Number one: The main objective the young ones have with is to get out of them. And number two: When they can outgrow something in less than a month expensive clothing is just a waste of money cuz they don’t they don’t care when young. It takes a while for them to become a clothing snob.
Reading this I got a flashback to that one time I grew out of all my shoes within two months.... My feet haven't grown since 4th grade and I have rather big feet.
We had 5 over 12 years and then as the older ones graduated high school and left we one at time adopted 4 more. We had plenty of time for each one cuz I was a stay at home dad. We decided to do that cuz my wife had a career that took care of us quite well and early on we realized child care quality was a crap shoot that was hard to win. And yes we tried both private and day care style.
You can play video games at any age. My mom just passed away this November at 73 and she has more game systems then us kids. Kicked our butts at WII bowling prior to her cataract surgery a few years back too.
Hello, I wanna say that I've been going through a lot and you really helped me! (and still are) You and OT always light up my day! I recently lost someone who was like a father to me last year, we'd always draw together and he taught me how to fish. You immediately make my day better when you upload. Thank you.
@@Phoenix.Sparkles Nah he would've said something like : "What are you grieving for? Seriously stop crying. I wasn't that cool." that seems more accurate.
I love that click does a different intro every video, but also gives a random name weird compliments. It’s just really sweet that he takes the time to do that. ♥️
32:00 denying your child any privacy and just barging into their room whenever you feel like it will turn from bad parenting into child molestation real fast once they reach puberty. That's the hill they choose to die on? 🤢
To be honest, i never realized that a parent allowing there tiny child (7-14) watch horror movies wasnt an okay thing to do because of how normalized my family made it. Apparently to them, me watching horror movies at a young age was cool and a really good reflection of my mother's parenting (but if other parents did this, it was bad) and no one ever believed me, because my mom was "too much of a good mother" My whole local town HATED her. But the people who liked her would go to the ends of the earth to prove HER CHILD wrong because she told them, her lITERAL CHILD was a lair, manipulator because A CHILD was jealous of you- sorry, didnt mean to rant but yea-
The story about exploring who you are made me think about my own journey for a bit. I started having a gender crisis at one point in my life. I kept shifting from label to label because one would feel right for a while, and then I would slowly feel like I screwed up and was confused how I got this wrong. I used to use pinterest to collect pride-based images and I never got around to removing old ones and just added to the mess. It took me a while to realize I was genderfluid and my little collection of pride images was both the evidence and the journey to that realization. I decided to keep them all so that if I ever feel down or unsure about my gender identity, I can look back at the adventure I had and remember those are all me and that only I can truly understand how I feel. I'm thankful for the ones who were understanding that I kept coming back with new identities instead of making me feel like I was making this all up, because now I finally have that answer.
I know this is an older comment, but just wanted to say how glad I am that you figured things out and are feeling comfortable in yourself! AND that you are keeping your Pinterest collection to commemorate & reinforce that journey - great idea. Despite some gradual progress on LGBT+ visibility and acceptance, I do feel understanding of gender & sexuality as spectra rather than as rigid boxes is still often lacking, & people get given way too much sh*t for sometimes taking a while to figure all of it out...? Glad you had some supportive peers along the way. Hope anybody else who's going through a similar journey of questioning & exploration sees your posts and is encouraged by them! 💞
I feel like if you've raised your child well, they'll willingly volunteer to take care of you out of love and not to repay any "debt" to you. Though there are some kids who might be selfish, you can just hope karma's chasing after them and you have enough retirement funds to take care of yourself.
I see aspects of my mother in alot of these posts. When I can afford to move away I'm going to reduce contact as much as possible and, when I can, move to another country. It's astonising to me that she's so lost in her bigotry and toxic bs that everything she does "because she loves me" is why I'm dealing with trauma as an adult
My father was psycho and my sister inherited some of it, I suspect. Between the two of them I think they drove my mother over the edge. In their world I am the psycho one, of course. In their world I had a number of psychsomatic conditions when I was growing up. In my 'psycho' world my 'psychosomatic' conditions show up on x-rays and CT scans and pre-Covid I had a half dozen docs sharing my delusions. Sarcarm aside it's nice to have all these docs assure me I'm not the crazy one... Point: I'm really confident all three of them would pass any parenting exam with flying colors! I°m honestly surprised they aren't anti-vaxxers.
Man I love my mom and all but it's kinda sad it took her me attempting with my life to realize being a blunt mean erratic loonie whenever she's angry ain't the best way to be. Stay strong everyone, shit gets better and you come out stronger
I agree. Being able to leave home and live by your own rules changes everything for the better. My mom could be a genuinely wonderful person: warm, funny, loving, kind... until she wasn't, and the guilt and rage monster took over her body. I had to remind myself that she was dealing with trauma, chronic pain and mental illness, but she never really sought the kind of help that would make any real difference in her life, and never knowing which version of her I was going to get on any given day definitely took its toll.
9:33 ohh no they're teaching her kid something that happened as part of history during history lessons?! THE HORROR!! that's like me, as a german, getting offended because i had to learn and study about the holocaust in school.
“Dressing your kids in off-brand clothes is tacky.”
So is credit card debt, Linda.
Dude, you fucking killed her
it's also tacky to tell other parents what to do unless it's reasonable advice
edit: this wasn't directed to OP, this was more directed to parents in general
Oh dear god I almost choked on my food cause I almost died laughing
Funny thing is many off brand clothing use higher quality material 😂
Fully agree, starter
Unpopular opinion: Children didn't CHOOSE to be born, and paying for welfare, food, housing and medical attention is expected for the parents to provide. Kids don't owe their parents anything at all except when they ask for unnecessary expenditures.
That opinion is only unpopular among abusive, narcissistic 'parents'. Everyone else just calls that 'an actual goddamn fact'. Better yet, some places in the world deem it 'a legal duty' that can result in a 'parent' losing custody of their child.
@@hauntedshadowslegacy2826 the "unpopular opinion" part had sarcasm mode on.
Though I can't fault you for not seeing that, given how the Internet works and all.
Exactly
Yep, that about sums it up. Plus, parents are not required to by overpriced clothes and accessories, and parents have every right to say no when their kids ask for the thirtieth toy that week.
Reminds me of people who do favors for others exclusively because they expect something in return, and then start conveniently doing favors for people without asking. Almost like they're just trying to force you into giving them things...
We seriously need to make an entire BINGO board for every time we go through this subreddit. The free space would probably be "What about if I was sick or dying?" to be quite honest.
upvoted this so anyone can see this and carpe-diem this goldmine of an idea :3
“You’ll be sorry when I’m dead” perhaps
Maybe the free space could be “my house, my rules”
Harassing adult child, withholding lifesaving medical care, "It's to keep them safe,"
Maybe anti vax/ red pilled?
My parents are retired. They spend most of their free time playing video games together. It’s absurdly wholesome.
this is honestly goals
AWWWW THATS SO ADORABLE OF THEMMMMM
I'm just picturing two old people playing Mario Kart, and I love it
All these parents of trans people make me really sad because it reminds me of my sister's wife, whose parents went fucking nuclear when she came out as trans.
It also makes me appreciate my own mom *(very* religious) who after being simultaneously hit with "I'm bi" and "My boyfriend is my girlfriend" in one conversation only had a brief meltdown blaming herself as a failure before realizing pitying herself is the exact thing she shouldn't be doing right now and instead focused all of her efforts on supporting my sister and her girlfriend.
Your mother is a wonderful person! and your sister's wife.. I hope that she has a better life now! and hope those parents are either trying to be better at some point in her life, orrrrrrr they're completely thrown to the waste side.
Ideally she wouldn't have had the "thinking she's a failure part", but at least nothing worse happened! She even supported you!
(I assume the "supporting you" thing happens rarely, my mom's church is a very very very unorthodox church, half their staff is gay, a quarter is trans, and they're very very inclusive. Hopefully all churches start acting like this.)
Good on your mom!
My mother acted perfectly normal when I came out as trans at my birthday and then dropped me off at the rotting shack I converted into shelter because she refused to take us in in an emergency when we could pay her for it and then promptly disowned me. She literally mourns my death every year on my birthday and views me as the monster that killed her son (literally me). She claimed to be Wiccan and to support LGBT people right up until it effected her. I wasn't surprised. She had always been a narcissist, violent mess of a person.
I had too read my “sisters wife,” like 6 times becuse I kept reading it sad tires wife 😅😂
@@kikiblair5132 I hope you're in a better place now!
Having a parent like this probably sucks. I feel bad for these people :(
i have parents like this lol it does fucking suck
I'm so sorry for you
Me too. I was lucky enough to have progressive and non-abusive parents, I can't imagine what these people are going through
Yeah it's pretty much hell. But the internet always helps. (Somehow)
i tend to believe that comedian's comment about why parents have kids in the first place: they lack someone to punish on a daily basis.
You know, many give women in history a lot of crap for how they treated their children but ffs, I have understanding and sympathy towards the Victorian mother who fed her infant opiates to keep it quiet so she could go to work *because she didn't know any better and had no means of knowing*. These women, on the other hand...
As someone once said, there was a time we thought people being stupid was just a lack of access to information. *shake my head* Nope. 9 times out of 10 it's ego related.
I'm pretty sure they did know the effects of opium back then
@@girl1213 I'd say it's more a problem of misinformation/disinformation.
@@muddashucka9743 "Pretty sure" is not a particularly strong argument, compared to arguments I've got from actual historians, and no, they didn't know the dangers of it. You can look at the increase in mortality rates after such remedies were introduced, at the advertising of the products and the literacy of most young mothers at the time.
@@Inlelendri They certainly knew about the health consequences before the start of the opium wars
You know you've gone into a deep click hole when you literally like his vids so much you decide to finish studying before watching them so it'll be like a prize for doing it lol
sorry in advance
mMmMmmMmMMMm cLiCk HoLe
@@omegadragons321 I don't think the sorry in advance did much, but, uh, thanks for the warning I guess? Lol
Ok I'm back people, definitely was worth it lol, also holy hecc! I can't believe Click actually hearted my comment!
Me with gane design xD
i that soo muccch
That one lady homeschooling her kid is doing it wrong. I was read to almost every day when I was homeschooled as a child and my mom took my education very seriously.
My parents eventually divorced and I had to go to a normal school, but when I tested in and was put into the right grade, I was way ahead of almost everyone in my reading comprehension and math skills. Also history and writing as well.
Not all homeschooled kids are behind and not all parents who choose to do it are lazy.
That one lady saying homeschool is at their own pace is wrong.
Dude you're lucky. I would have loved that. I'm behind in everything because I was put into program classes for behaviour (I was waiting on an autism diagnosis, because people thought I was intentionally defiant) and have spent most of my life being harrassed and bullied by peers, this last semester being the final straw that led my mother to actually hear me and put me in online schooling.
Issue is, I don't have any stay-at-home parent to have done that for me.
Yeah I was homeschooled until junior year of highschool and I finished my AA in may I turn 18 in a few days
My mother apologized for ONE small aspect of her mental abuse of me when I was younger. Not because she's a good person, but because she was distraught that I was trans. When I told her that I accepted her apology, but that I was born trans and she hadnt done anything to make me trans, she began to try and manipulate me by saying "it was incredibly hard for me to say that, and now you won't even listen to me"
Honey, I just told you I was trans.
My mother and I apparently have the same mental health struggles but she's never talked to me about it, just tried to force me to try her "suggested" "cures" and "encourage" me to make decisions about my future that are "what I want" and will "make my life better." (They're "suggestions" but she gets mad at me if I don't do them) She also tries to force conversations about stuff like gender and sexuality and how accepting she is if I come out because she found out I was eating lunch with some people who are gay in high school and I once wanted to wear a suit instead of a dress to a formal event.
And then she wonders why I don't want to talk to her or hang out with her.
I'm so sorry! Glad you're out tho & living authentically! ❤🌺 My mom did the same, only apologized one time in her life. The reason? Bc the juvenile Judge on our case called her out specifically. Judge said "no matter where we place her(me) they always call her a 'wonder child' bc she behaves so well. This leads me to believe the problem is inside the home, not with your daughter."
Mom was mortified. I still had to serve out my time, too. 🥺 Ages 13 to 16, in jail, foster & group homes. Absolutely scarring experiences. She apologized randomly during a car ride a while after that. More than i was ever expecting. 🙄
You know the worst part? I accepted the apology & have continued to speak to her, bc she's such a flaming narcissist that it made *me* feel bad for *her?!*
I'm 36 now. Went NC when I was 16 when I moved out, but felt an obligation to speak to her sometimes. Moved 8,000 miles away now, to South India with my husband, finally safe from that sick family. This week finally confronted the fact my father committed CSA against me, sister & cousins. 😭
So I'm going NC from him, obvs, probably forever.
So sorry to ramble. 🤦🏼♀️ It's therapeutic to share our stories & show support. Solidarity to all of you. ✊ We don't get to pick our families, unfortunately, but we can adopt new ones! My husband's family is my adoptive family. I now know what a healthy, normal relationship looks like. 🥲
Form new bonds & cut the toxic ones out! Life will be infinitely better for it! Solidarity to all of you, it's gonna be ok. 🥺❤
Gotta love how there are parents that think they should be compensated for giving their children food, like they wouldn't go to prison for child neglect if they let their kids starve.
I know reproduction is considered a human right, but sometimes I wonder if that was a mistake. Parents like that need to be sterilized so they'll never have children again. Or the kids need to be taken as soon as they're born.
What nicer way to say "I never gave a fuck about you, I just did it so I could have a slave when I was older", yk?😂
the only compensation they should even think of is seeing their children have a good life, and being happy for them the way they are.
@@kirillzakharov7336 unfortunately some of them see their kids as a way to get money (or as their respawn)
As a trans dude i've experienced both sides of the acceptance from my parents. My dad, bless him, is totally confused when it comes to being trans, but he tries his hardest to help me and understand what im going thru. On the other hand, my mom just flat out refused to accept it at all and has long since dropped out of my life. Dont worry my parents are seperated so my dad is much happier now! ❤
Glad to hear your dad is not only doing better but is also trying. I came out as a trans dude pretty young and before I cut contact with my parents, my mom use to say that I ruined her plans and she just wanted grandkids. (she is obsessed with babies but hates actual kids for well being kids) My grandparents are great however and as much as they don't get my name right they do buy me men's stuff and try to use the correct pronouns. I hope you do well and share alot of good memories with you dad.
So long it works
I get both in just my mother, sometimes she complements my skirts and other times she tells me to take it off and put something proper on when its the same outfit. But I'm just femboy rn, yet to change my name... >.>
You dad seems like a cool guy, it's nice that he's trying his best to understand, I can understand his confusion as well because it also confuses me sometimes
almost the opposite. my mom is confused but shes trying her best, dad doesnt necessarily not accept it but doesnt always try either. almost no one in my family calls me by my name and pronouns, but thats alright with me because im not too dysphoric and they know i dont mind because they arent doing it to hurt me. mom does buy me mens clothes, one of my sisters gets my hair done(shes a stylist) as a guys cut, one sister who split off from almost everyone else for reasons unknown (and frankly dont care, she can do what she wants, was still uncool but its not my business) helped me get a binder twice (first time to begin with second time recently because i severely outgrew it), and the boys just treat me no differently. ive noticed they use my legal name a bit less; even if the name Cameron is a bit much to stomach over Chloe just yet, they call me nicknames to show me theyre tryin. :3
That 5 000 000 $ guy apparently spent over 700 $ a day for his child, for 18 years straight. What a doting father he was.
Also that mother with the wedding dress story feels more like some kind of horror story than reality at this point. I can totally picture the scene going on with the BGM becoming more and more sinister as she continues talking.
I was thinking the mom engage in some covert incest, through her kids partners...
sounds cheap in comparison to what Diaper Donnie Bunker Boy's dad paid in attention to him :/
761 dollars a day... man if he spent that much for himself his wife and atleast 1 kid, that man must be making 830k a year
The average cost to raise a child in the US* is $272,049 over 18 years. This guy thought that meant per year.
*According to a US Department of Agriculture study in 2015 adjusted for inflation to 2022.
Now back to our lifetime movie premier "They Mate"
this isnt a joke when i say this, having and raising children really should require by law a license. the fact that you need one to pull fish out of water but not to raise an entire human being? it just isn't right.
If I need to be literally at risk of dying to legally get a ball of cells taken from my womb, it should absolutely require some sort of classes at least to intentionally put one in there and let it develop.
The other day my mom had doubt, whether or not she was a good parent. Short answer: Yes. After binging a bunch of these videos and an hour on r/insane parents myself, I can conclude: She is loving, selfless and an all in all decent woman. Good I'm happy to not having put up with crap like this.
Hmmmm. My mom is no saint but nowhere near as bad as these parents. She does heavily favor my older brother but since I moved away she is making efforts to treat me better than she was.
My mom tries her best, but sometimes, she is just way too harsh on us. Oh, and also, she threatens to call the cops on me when I get some mountain dew (which she claims for herself) from the fridge.
Insane parent: ( *is abusive* )
Child: so you have chosen nursing home
Totally! My mother keeps saying how nursing home are awful and she don't want to go there (she's only 60 so there is time). One thing is sure: I'll never take her, I'm even going to a smaller house, so I'll have a good excuse ^^
Not only nursing home, but the cheapest, shoddiest nursing home you can find.
@@John_Weiss oh she will never go in one. I guess one of my siblings will take her. Or she will share her home with a student, against taking care of her. I don't know lol, but that won't be my problem (as I have health and financial issues)
And if someone does have to go into a nursing home, they're not going to get the best treatment unless they have a loving, supportive family that visits a lot. Good luck with that, abusive parents.
@@kristinewalberg2938 Karma's a bit¢h
I've seen parents do the "I want to be paid back for raising you" thing or the "I carried you and this is the thanks I get" thing, and they completely miss the point: You don't pay it back, you pay it forward. You raising your kids is payment to your parents for raising you, and your kids raising their kids is payment for you raising them. It's never paid back, it's paid forward.
My favourite it my abusive mother who used to use the fact that my labour took 18 hours to guilt me into agreeing with her or doing something for her.
@@gayfrogribbit yeah that sucks, my mom had moments like that too - a good comeback to that is, "How long was grandma in labor with you? How did you pay her back?" - with any luck that'd trigger a light bulb to go of (hopefully).
raising ur child is literally the bare minimum and in this essay i will
@@colonelb lol I mean I kind of dropped her from my life a while ago so missed that opportunity for a snarky comeback-
@@gayfrogribbit yeah I had to do that too for the 5 years before she died, sounds like you had a similar "I gave her every opportunity to stop being crazy and she didn't take it" story.
At this point, we could turn this subreddit into a drinking game and I'd call it Gin & Toxic.
I'm not sure how many of us have livers that could survive that unfortunately
We wanna laugh, not die of alcohol poisoning
Intoxicating incoming
99.99% certain only Andre the giant would survive that game
My guy, if you wanna kill a big amount of people there are less convoluted ways to do that...
" Don't say stealing!"
"How does 'clandestinely procuring for unethical purposes' sound?"
"surreptitiously possessing without consent"
“Theft”
I came out as transgender to my mam when I was 19, incorrectly thinking she'd be cool. Homeless by 21 (got a home now)and she compared me to a rapist for being trans last year, to which I blocked her social media. Now she keeps phoning me to say she wants to 'give the stuff back' I have explicitly stated that I do not want this stuff so give it to charity, but she is more wiling to take it 20 miles to my flat rather than take it to a charity shop (thrift/goodwill store) that is practically next door, trying to make me feel guilty because she 'might become homeless'
I'm almost 28, she trashed most my stuff so i have no idea what she's trying to give me and I've lived without it long enough I can say easily that I don't want it
My advice: invite her to your house, knock her out, bury her, and boom. No more toxic mother.
Sorry you had such a horrid experience, but glad you're (mostly) out of her reach now. Hope you're feeling comfortable in your body
That woman belongs in a mental asylum.
Wow, my mom compared me to a murderer when I told her about my attempts, I was thirteen, moms just love to compare their kids to horrible people don’t they? I hope you’re doing better
@@Lalaland666-k3xMy mom called me a shooter or murderer all because i watch funny FPS game compilations. Yeah, moms do love to do that.
Funny thing about that whole "name brand" thing. I live in a ridiculously wealthy area but both my daughters were voted best dressed in their classes from 9th-12th grade. I never bought anything from a retail store that wasn't for a very special occasion.
I spent my money at thrift stores, online auctions & searched online for up & coming designers who wanted to practice designing something that I would then purchase for cost of materials & their time. I picked through until I found something unique & cute or a designer I liked, then I spent the few dollars it took after I bought it to have it tailored to fit them. They never looked like any of the other kids & I didn't care so much if they ruined whatever article of clothing somehow. Most people don't realize that rich people look rich because of quality fabric, craftsmanship & then tailoring...mostly, it's the tailoring. It's not really about name brand anything. Most uber rich people don't buy things with super prominent logos anyway. You only need those logos if you need everyone else to know what you have.
it's almost like the Stephen King effect. send in a manuscript with an unknown name on it, it gets roasted. send the same one, but with his name on it, it's harold-ed as the best thing to be written since sliced bread.
name brands shouldn't be a defining thing for recognizing good talent or craft.
Funny you mention thrift stores. My mom and I go to a few in our area on the weekends and came out with a literal steal. Brand new (tags still on) NAME BRAND clothes for a few dollars each.
@@chatboulon743 yea my daughters, now 18 & 22 still LOVE thrift stores. They like not having the same exact clothes everyone in the area has currently & they like not supporting the exploitation of people in other countries. I still have relationships with a few of the designers that I formed years ago, some of who you probably know now that I do still purchase from for special occasions.
Idk, I retired in my 30s so I didn't want to needlessly waste money when I had the time & abilities to do things differently. My daughters still get asked where they got certain things & I've even had people try to buy the jacket made especially for me by one of those designers when they were hired by a house while I was wearing it several times (a thanks for believing in me gift that I totally didn't expect at all). Almost nothing we have has prominent logos, although some of it can be designer. The girls mix their lace tanktops from Target or Walmart or old band Tshirts from their uncle or late father with jeans they maybe got from an auction & a leather jacket & boots they maybe got from thrift stores but it all fits like it was made for them so it just looks different when they wear it. My best advice for looking well put together that I got from my wealthy parents was find a good tailor. I always did &, even though I spent thousands less than other parents here, my girls always got compliments. Idk I enjoy the hunt maybe?
Sometimes being rich is all about not spending money.
I dressed my daughter almost entirely from thrift stores the whole time she was growing up. We treated it as a treasure hunt, finding great stuff for a fraction of the price. Considering that she was still growing at age 18, it made much more sense (and was a lot more fun) going into a retail store and paying ridiculous amounts of money for something my daughter would outgrow in six months. All it took for her to look great was some sewing skill and an awareness of the current fashions.
"You owe me 5 million dollars because *I decided to have you* " is essentially what's being told here
More like "You owe me 5 million dollars because I couldn't convince your mother to abort" ahaha
"I will sit on your porch in a lawn chair and wait for you." Restraining order
Yup. This is my plan if my mother ever decides it's worth it to follow me a 7+ hour drive away to demand that I "make up with her". I'll call the cops on her ass. I don't care if she's my biological mother. She heard through the grapevine of relatives that I bought a house and looked up my address in public records. That's frikking creepy. If she bothers to use that address even once, you'd best believe there will be legal action.
*law and order DUN-DUN*
They seriously just declared siege on a house, I think some people may take the concept that your home is your castle a little too seriously XD
I love how none of these parents know how to form a sentence. It really says a lot about this mindset.
Oh man, as someone with a psychotic family that has pulled many similar occurrences such as these in the video, talk about traumatic. To this day I want nothing to do with them and have moved to the edges of the USA away from them. I told them if they kept it up I'm leaving the country. Some people are plain psycho and think they are above ethics, morals and law. So much abuse.
This subreddit always reminds me of the big fight I had with my mom, where she told me "well if you hate it here so much, pack your stuff and move out!"
Which I did. And now I'm the bad guy apparently.
May I suggest that you keep throwing her statement back at her, followed by, "so I did as you ordered me to."
Keep doing it any time she tries to guilt you for doing exactly what she said.
And also, much success and prosperity to you living on your own!
Wtf is this logic, she tells you to do some, you do that thing and you're ungrateful ?? Some parents are crazy
"Hold on, this operation was your idea-"
@@echiko4932 this. This right here. Forbidden language to parents ig 🤷🏻♀️
My mother did the same thing! Said she was sick of me and was physically packing my bags and throwing me out so I found a place and moved out and she got so angry she harassed and threatened me every single day after.
I love how he does different intros all the time, they're so entertaining!
how does he do it everytime
Also the game theorists channel, the intro is always in the game's style and always look so cool, i really appreciate when they do that
His intros are absolute gold. 👌
First 15 seconds to capture your viewers attention
Always gotta keep it fresh
MaxMoeFoe has great intros as well
Yup, everytime i'm like ''will it be me this time ?'' but then i remember that i have a Breizh name and there is no way he pick it 🤣
As someone who is still stuck with emotionally abusive parents: yeah it be like that.
Shits insane and the worst part is there is no way you can get help by yourself. There's basically no other choice than enduring it until you can move out, which in the current economy? Ha. Ha...
I'm so sorry you're going through that, it was me for years, I was 28 before I extracted myself from the toxic dynamic and at 30 I cut ties altogether, it's hard, but you'll get there, you don't deserve to be treated that way :(
there could be soulutuions, depending on where you are from and how old you are..i was lucky and got out at 17, it will get better
In the meantime, plan your escape. Plan out what you will need to leave and be on your own. Like, sit down and figure out the details to the nearest dollar. Even if it's not yet feasible to do, you not only have the concrete plan, you can now see exactly what its feasibility is, rather than it being just some vague, "can't be done," idea. And knowing that will help your mental health a bit.
I love my mom but she doesn't understand all the shit that I have been through. Also she is homophobic. I'm bisexual and dating a lesbian currently.she thinks that I wil go to hell when I die but honestly I have thought that i would go to hell when I died ever since I was 5 years old
Don t worry, ive got 5 years
Has anxiety disorder: “Father can you make my haircut appointment please?”
Father: “yOu KnOw I uSeD tO bE sHy ToO. yOu JuSt NeEd PrAcTiCe”
I relate. My father is pretty similar to this. He tries to understand, but just can’t fully. Thank god my mom understands a lot better and does what she can to help me. I honestly don’t know what I’d do without her
Five million dollars for eighteen years of meals? Do the math. It works out to $253.50 PER MEAL, assuming three meals a day, and accounting for leap years. They must have flown his meals in from Paris every day.
i feel sorry for the kids who have to deal with these parents
I wonder what happens to them when they become adults....if they survive
We survive, mostly
Ha didn't read first comment
@@snufal hope you're coping ok m8
@@insideAdirtyMind various diagnoses, lots of therapy, and trying to avoid all contact... and that was a good result 😆 this subreddit is so good for so many reasons (as long as you're in the right headspace)
I saw the thumbnail... Don't bring children into this world unless you're prepared to fund them for life.
Not an excuse for all the horrible parents described here... but the flaw with this argument is that some parents don't really have a choice. It's not like everyone who ever became a parent also planned and wanted to become a parent
@@RUMandNUKA Unless you live in a country where birth control and abortions are not an option, that argument is also flawed. And even then, there's still ways to avoid having kids, by paying attention to menstrual cicles and avoiding having sex on certain days/weeks.
@@iulia.bianca.b Basically women should have total control over their bodies. It's amazing when women have more autonomy, suddenly fewer pregnancies happen, and fewer unexpected / unwanted kids are born into this world! It's almost like magic. When the options are not only available, but also affordable if not FREE (or reimbursed by social security), we end up with fewer problems down the road! It will never be 0, but boy would it lead to more full bellies and more happy childhoods
There's people out there who believe EVERYONE should be a parent..
Mine are prepared to do it for 18 years and then double the guilt tripping over the money. It's very fun in my household :)
Ah yes, another video dedicated to laughing at stupid people
It's perfection
Thanks Click :)
Why did I hear click read that?
@@ProbsNotABot Now that you've said it...
I can totally hear it
@@Purple_SweaterOh no. You're turning into him! RUUUUNNNNNNN
@@ProbsNotABot Y’all don’t have brains that automatically read random stuff in a random TH-camr’s voice, as if they’re the one reading it?
@@ProbsNotABot Oh no, I don't know wether to feel like the coolest person on earth rn or to rethink my life choices!
(Btw people this is a joke I love the Click)
Last year my dad asked me over the phone how was I dealing with the new mask mandate in Italy. They basically prohibited going maskless even in the outdoors. Spoiler alert: I did take it off a few times if I was going up stairs or if I was just going out to take the trash out to the nearest bin. Anyway. I told him it was amazing for me. Because it was getting very cold and having a mask cover my face kept it warm yet breathable. Also the area covered by a mask is the only area I can never cover with anything so it gets really cold. Definitely a plus for me
11:50
My mother used to say "You'll be sorry when I'm dead"
She was mistaken
While I couldn't agree with this statement two weeks ago, I certainly can now.
Teacher: today we are going to learn about racism.
White conservative parents: hOw dArE yOu pOisOn my child’s mind with fActS!!
May I suggest that we all start referring to the southern-states where this is happening as, "The Slave States" from now on?
Also, I've heard non-US journalists talk to politicians from the Slave States about the cause of Civil War, and it's _glorious_ to watch as all of the bullsh1t3 excuses are just stripped away.
They'll ask innocent questions about what "States Rights" are and how were they being violated, all the while reacting to the hostility from the slave-state politician with a polite, "But I'm not from your country and I've never heard these details. Please help me understand." And the slave-state politician just paints themselves into a logical corner, exposing the lie they've been told and have been repeating for what it is: an empty, nonsensical lie.
@@John_Weiss yeesh how embarrassing for them 😅. And they say we get offended at everything. I’m from the north and we have plenty of bullsh*t here (including our fair share of confederate flags and parents refusing to let their kids learn about racism). I know it’s a lot worse in “the slave states”; I can’t imagine being a teacher in one of those states right now.
@@haleemorgan8076 I'm in the Northeast. And yeah, I also see the racist B.S. here. But it's not being codified into state law, like it is in The Slave States.
@@John_Weiss yep I hope the slave states soon come to their senses.
from outside the USA(I live in Argentina) I get the impression that northamericans are very obsessed with racism and see racism everywhere, comparable to how they're obsessed with guns equalling freedom. Of course it's a generalization but you get my point.
Between BLM and feminism pushing tribalist ideology(understanding reality by groups rather than complex network of complex individuals) that narrative is gaining momentum.
Welcome to the next episode of insane parents! Today we're going to look at a parent who... oh. OH GOD NO!
Lol
"Don't let them normalize myocarditis like they did Autism." There is so much wrong with this sentence. First, a neurological disorder is very different than a heart disease. Second, the causes are very different. Third, Autism can't be cured while myocarditis can. Fourth, Autism was always normal; it's just that people acted like it wasn't, likely due to lack of knowledge. Fifth, no one is trying to normalize myocarditis, even if it were a result of the vaccine (which it isn't). There is nothing factual about that sentence and there are tons of problems with it.
I can't wait for the statistical analysis showing that myocarditis is one of the aftereffects of a COVID-19 infection.
Given that vaccines are either (A) dead-virus; (B) just the outer shell of the virus; or (C) just proteins on that outer shell, any reaction you have to a vaccine you will also get from the virus itself.
@@John_Weiss Not only that, but the reactions will usually be a lot less severe due to it not being a live virus, or if it is a live virus, it is in such a weakened state that your body can easily fight it off.
@@Shugunou Exactly!
I only omitted that to keep the focus on the main point: If you have a reaction to the vaccine, the virus itself is going to cause the same reaction.
Now, it's possible that one could have an allergic reaction to the "inactive ingredients" in a vaccine, but then you're going to have that same reaction to those same substances _everywhere else you encounter them._ This is why, whenever you get a flu-shot, they ask if you have an egg-allergy.
Also, with the mRNA vaccines, the people having a severe-immune-response to them will almost certainly have a near-lethal immune-response to the virus itself. That was actually one of the reasons why the 1919 Influenza Pandemic was so fatal: healthy people's immune systems overreacted to the virus so severely, it ended up killing them.
@@John_Weiss Damn, I didn't know that. I also thought that you could only get an allergic reaction from active ingredients. I guess if it has eggs in it, it wouldn't matter if it's inactive or not but I never thought of it that way.
@@Shugunou …and it would only need to be one of two specific proteins in common between eggs and a vaccine to trigger someone egg allergy. Of course, if it were one of the proteins that trigger the allergy.
"Your husband or wife will"
Well at least he's supportive in that regard, can't say otherwise about literal health issues
I'm so scared that once I actually come out to my parents as omnisexual and fluidflux theyre gonna be like some of these parents and flip a switch and try to guilttrip me and and send me crazy passive aggressive texts and threaten me with this and that. I'm hoping not and they'll just be disappointed and maybe disrespectful but not straight up threatening my life and living and being super toxic (they already are some) like some of these people
My advice is to move far away and be financially independent before you tell them anything.
Very much what AK 565 said above! If you have any doubt that you'll be safe and fed after coming out, DON'T do it! I'd recommend listening to "Spectrum" by Boyinaband ft. Minx and Cry.
Omniscient and flex-tape? Did I miss a page in the manual could someone please explain
@@twistedthe1 Lol
@@twistedthe1 i think omnisexual is just another word for pansexual or similar and the other is probably similar to genderfluid bit late
The wedding dress lady would've given me the urge to escape through the nearest window right that minute.
Yep. I would've been walking home before the end of the conversation.
Your children don't "owe you" because you raised them. You voluntarily CHOSE to have them. They had no choice. 🤦⁉️🧐
And if they DIDN'T choose?
Most cases yes, though not all people had a choice in all cases...
@@Grandmother628 Depends on the parent or parents' choices, unfortunately.
One can then only hope they are merciful to show kindness to the unexpected child or the child is able to have something close to a trusted parental figure with a good moral compass if not.
@@Grandmother628 They could've had an abortion if they didn't want children, or given it up for adoption. Newborns are easy to adopt. I know someone who got an abortion after being sexually assaulted. But that isn't an excuse to abuse children who are defenseless and reliant on you. Edit: no offense, just offering another viewpoint. I'm not trying to be rude.
@@hollyhayes9640 uh no those aren't always options. My mother didn't want me or my brother, my father did, and being the man, he won that argument
Totally not watching this while having a breakdown about my dad and writing "I hate you" over and over to distract myself from said breakdown lol
:(
you doing ok? im here if ya wanna talk about it
We love you.
@@standardhuman8675 Thanks. Basically my mental health recently has been decreasing a lot lately, both because of school and because of home life. After almost calling a hotline recently I decided I needed a small break and "ran away" to a friend's place for 3 days without telling dad. Probably kinda stupid but I really just needed a break. I just came home and he basically just told me to go to my room and we'll talk about it later. He knows I'm having problems by the way, he just kinda ignores it because school is more important to him. Then at some point I giggled a little bit because I was on tiktok to calm me down a little bit and he heard it since I don't have a door and was like "you better not be watching stupid shit right now, I'd advise you to do something that'll put me in somewhat of a good mood" and I'm not sure why but that just kinda caused me to break down. I'm a little better by now due to said distraction and texting the friend who's house I was at but yeah that's basically it
I hope you are ok
I love the fact that the mother with the kid who wanted his own table assumed that the waitress called the manager over fear for her tip, and not the fact that she was concerned about a relatively unsupervised child being a HUGE liability. Like even if you are sitting in sight of the kid, I would be really concerned about the kid choking, or breaking something, or just causing a mess and the mom being too far away to notice and respond quickly. Restaurant employees aren't babysitters. And have you ever tried to take a five year old's order without the parent there to clarify? What if the kid ordered something more expensive than he could afford? You know mom would throw a fit if her kid ended up ordering like $50 worth of food. What if the kid ordered something he was allergic to? What if the kid ordered something he didn't realize he didn't like? What if the kid ordered something alcoholic and didn't like it when the waitress told him no. Also, everyone else in the restaurant who didn't know what was going on would definitely be concerned. Which means that waitstaff would spend the entire meal explaining and probably reassuring random people that these five year olds sitting alone at a table wouldn't ruin everyone else's evening. I have SO MANY images in my mind of how this could go wrong and lead to parent or child having a tantrum in the middle of the restaurant.
Well, understanding that would have required common sense, which if she had it, would have prevented her from seating her child on a separate table in the first place...
Yeah, he’s five, she’s not gonna embarrass him by sitting with them.
Also how much you guys want to bet that the mother is one of those "Children are too young to know if they're lgbt" types? I have no proof, just that level of hypocrisy seems fitting.
@@HobGungan sadly I have no doubt you are most likely right about that.
all of this and also….. “date”. he’s not on a date he is 5
I never thought I'd come out of today thinking that more parents should have their kids taken away.
If a parent acts like you owe them millions just ask them for the receipts for that invoice
Plus, clothing your child is a collosal money sink seeing as they outgrow them very quickly. Buying branded stuff is the most pointless 💩
Just wanted to add a personal experience regarding the "learning at their own rate" bit during my time at school
I have epilepsy and a learning disorder witch make it hard for me to learn at a mainstream level. We were able to learn at our own rate but we also had a baseline of when we needed our assignments in.
Teacher: *Hands out papers* Alright, we're gonna go over (topic/subject) this week and have a test on it next week. If you don't finish on time you can hand it in when you are done and can take the test yourself.
Well, good for you. That school is based.
ah i love it when parents value things they read online more than their children's own safety
6:20 think about pressure as a fire when you can't move, it needs to be warm enough to keep you alive in the winter, but small enough to allow you to stay.
click really made up a better storyline than most criminal shows and he did it in a few seconds a true legend
The Karen who demanded the teacher not to use the word "steal" when talking about her daughters action (and baiscally any other insane parent demanding other people not using certain to describe the actions the parents or their f**k trophies are doing) reminds me often of a post I read/heard about a while back. OP worked at a store that sold toys (I think it was something like a dollar store) and a mother and her was near the checkout area. The mother kept sayign "Octopus! Octopus!" to the kid. When asked about it the mother said she used as a substitute word for "No". Because she "DiD'nT WanT tO raIse HeR ChiLd WiTh aNy NeGatIViTy". Posts like these really, reeeeaaaally makes me want it to be a need for a parenting license before creatures like these breed
Yeah I remember this post... imagine this kid becomming a rapist, victim constantly saying "no" but the kid not getting it cause not knowing what "no" is.... thats of course an extreme example, but still, how can you not teach your kid words like "no"? It's a bsic part of communication. + this is not avoiding "negativity" cause in this case the word octopus becames a negative word.
@@toongrowner1 Yeah. Imagine the kid later in life going to the aquarium. That'll be a mindfuck
I'll side with the teacher on that one that was stealing.
@@ignisshadowflame1027 I think anyone with a functioning brain and common sense do it too
In the future
"My safe word is octopus"
One time I told my sister that no I wouldn't and couldn't come over to her house which is in the opposite direction of mine as I had exams to study for and a large amount of homework to do, that same day I had also had water spilled on me and told that someone like me shouldn't be able to get lunch. Overall I just wasn't feeling it and I really needed to revise without looking after a 2 year old for 6 hours while managing my social life and studying. She then sent me texts saying that "you're always like this, you just hate me, you just hate -insert nephews name- you just hate our family" she then got on video xall afger spamming me and brought my little nephew over and said "look bub! They dont love you at all!" And made him cry. I was pissed off because im fine with the angry texts but making my nephew the little boy who calls me his older sibling cry just because I said no? Thats over the line. I blocked her and didn't speak to her whenever around her, only my nephew, this poor 2 year old who has no clue what I really going on around him since he's still just 2. She then came over, ordered food after me and my mum cooked dinner left trash everywhere and let him draw on the walls when we were out, she doesn't take any responsibility and I'm sick of it. There isn't really any happy ending since this all just happened after the course of 4 weeks (exams were 3 weeks ago and she came over 4 days ago and refused to leave)
Edit: she left this morning after I left for school to get some exam results back, so far I've passed all my exams! Math, french, science, English, it and history! I still have my geography exam to get back so I'm hoping for the best!
Good luck with the exams!
Unfortunate that this situation happened/is happening, but your username is very based
Well done, if you can achieve this much with all the stress just imagine how much more you can achieve without it in the future.
@@sallyphilpin4939 Well said. I hope OP has gotten away from that sister but found a way to send love to the innocent nephew.
Why would I spend thousands of dollars on name brand baby clothes when a baby is going to pee, puke, and poop in and on them, and outgrow them in 3 months? How silly.
My very late 2 cents, on the "learning to read" thing.
People go through development stages where they are at the prime (mental) age to learn such things as walking, talking and reading as well! This is basically a window of focus where the person is inherently interested in the subject (Babies, starting to stand up or todlers making "ga ga, goo goo" sounds), qnd with the propper guidance and encouragement from others learns to do that thing!
after this window passes the ability to learn these things arent IMPOSIBLE but they are HARDER to learn.
(every personndevelops differently and has these developing stages at different times, but if the 8 year old kid mentioned here was neurotypical the parent has made it harder for them to learn how to read.)
I feel so bad for the ex boyfriend in the longer story that he has to deal with a mother like that ...
He is 20... time to move out (like his sister).
I swear people need to go through several tests before being able to have kids...
On a yearly..
No, Monthly..
No, daily basis!
Aka Eugenics
And not to be allowed to reproduce unless they score at least 80% on a nationally set and moderated exam.
Well not being able to have kids solved my problem. Didnt want kids coming from me. Maybe I will adopt.
I wish it was feasible but such a system would be ripe with prejudice and abuse. This we are left shouting our despair to the sky during every video.
“This is the 18th and last time I am asking you for my money back. If you do not comply, then I will be forced to take action against Mr. Stuffy.”
Wait. You kidnapped Mr. Stuffy? I will have the cash for you tomorrow.
if parents really think "it's just a phase", then why do they get completely bonkers about it?
Every time I listen to one of these, I find myself wondering why we don't have parenting licenses. If we had them, the country's mental health would probably be way better because these are the kinds of people who would absolutely be rejected from getting one.
when he started to talk about the mother sitting on the bed saying she will stay right there... first image in my head is her getting punched through the door.... satisfying and extremely frustrating
Asian parents will literally guilt trip you for recognising their behaviour is toxic :)
Or shut down when you call them out for their Boomer tactics because they don't understand how else to approach you.
@@RaeneTheFaerie that’s why my answer to that is “don’t”
I mean, white parents definitely do that to. Source: parents
I don’t think that’s exclusively Asian parents. I think that’s just all abusive parents regardless of race
@@connergoessupersonic It's especially common in asian parents, though. Just take a trip down r/AsianParentStories.
You have to pass a test to drive a car but they'll let any idiot be a parent. This seems wrong to me.
My mother was the creepy type, much like last story. Except hers was clearly fetishizing my bf (we were 15) because he was Asian. saying "oh I want Asian grandbabies", buying me lingerie, and purposely leaving us alone together.
One of the MANY reasons I don't speak to her. Hearing Click's response to it definitely helped
23:36 "Your husband or wife will" how progressive of them, actually
r/unintentionalally
Seeling some of these insane parents texts makes me happy that my childhood was pre-internet time and mom was never into "high tech" and was before smart phones.
Damn that mother that didn't wanted her kid to learn about slavery remind me of folks from Portugal that still think till today that they discovered Brazil
But Portugal did discover Brasil. Obviously, Brasil already existed and was inhabited at the time of it's discovery by the portuguese. But Portugal brought this new territory to the attention of the known world. Portugal was the first country that went "Hey, you know there's a whole piece of land west of The Atlantic?"
@@ritamartins3996 Leif the Lucky says hi
@@tonyhakston536 who was that guy? From the name, I'm guessing he was a viking, but what are the whos, whats, whens, and wheres? Just asking, as I've never heard of them.
@@tonyhakston536 Ok, but he went to Canada, not Brazil
Imagine being an elitist and not knowing how Gabbana is spelled.
Maybe she bought fakes ;)
I feel bad for some homeschooled kids getting taught wrong stuff from stupid parents, there's some good parents for homeschooling but if your not teaching them even how to read right away they're probably not gonna end up as well
Just want to say that I was feeling really alone and scared today, and your video really helped me feel safer and happier.
I relate so hard to these...
My father started calling my coworkers when I blocked him, after he issued death threats to me because they forced my friend to tell them I'm gay.
@@June_Yue I'm out of the home, safe and self sufficient. So...
2:37 - This man does realize that when his child dies, he has to pay for the funeral right? 💀
Another win for The Click...and may I mention its growing startling how much this craziness is festering and spreading, like a fungus. Humans..they do suck.
For the record, I am 48 and still play games
I know, right? At this point, I'd be happy with a major-asteroid strike, or even better, a gamma-ray-burst pointed right at the planet.
@@SMDoktorPepper I'm 60 and still play game. It's fun and relaxing, and that's not something we outgrow.
Games, I meant. I'm up past my bedtime.
This might sound cringe but I watch your videos whenever I have a panic attack. Something about your chaotic energy always cheers me up ❤️
Sometimes Click says something really educational and wholesome, like what he said about children making their own choices and exploring themselves, and I go "Hmm. This would be a really good video to show my parents who could learn a lot from this". Then I remember this is a Click video.
Love you Click! Thank you for the awesome messages you sprinkle in as they helped me escape my parents mentality years ago.
7:20 MA’AM. YOU ARE IN A *HOSPITAL.* THE VERY BUILDING YOU ARE IN IS *LITERALLY AN ENVIRONMENT MEANT FOR HEALING AND RECOVERY.*
I feel like some of these people just wanna feel special, they look at everything going on and think "How can I make this about me?" So they invent conspiracy theories and say they're so much smarter than everyone else and then they think to themselves "Oh yeah, I survived, I'm so smart and special"
Nailed it!
Two things I learned from my 9 kids. Number one: The main objective the young ones have with is to get out of them. And number two: When they can outgrow something in less than a month expensive clothing is just a waste of money cuz they don’t they don’t care when young. It takes a while for them to become a clothing snob.
Reading this I got a flashback to that one time I grew out of all my shoes within two months....
My feet haven't grown since 4th grade and I have rather big feet.
Ever heard of condoms?
@@xaga8794 Some people can have a lot of kids and still be successful at parenting. It's the ones that have one kid and can't raise it properly. Lol
@@chatboulon743 Having that many kids is inherently abusive. It is impossible to give each kid the love attention they need. Also 🤮.
We had 5 over 12 years and then as the older ones graduated high school and left we one at time adopted 4 more. We had plenty of time for each one cuz I was a stay at home dad. We decided to do that cuz my wife had a career that took care of us quite well and early on we realized child care quality was a crap shoot that was hard to win. And yes we tried both private and day care style.
At least the father at 23:30 is LGBT positive! "Your Husband or wife will", a bit of positivity.
You can play video games at any age. My mom just passed away this November at 73 and she has more game systems then us kids. Kicked our butts at WII bowling prior to her cataract surgery a few years back too.
I can't believe parents like that exist.
that's just sad.
Horrifying, really.
My parents make those look pretty chill
Leaded gas was invented in the 1920s. The boomers grew up in the lead poisoning era. No wonder they're so stubborn and stupid!
Hello, I wanna say that I've been going through a lot and you really helped me! (and still are) You and OT always light up my day! I recently lost someone who was like a father to me last year, we'd always draw together and he taught me how to fish. You immediately make my day better when you upload. Thank you.
That's so sad :( Fight through it, that's what he would have wanted I'm sure
@@Phoenix.Sparkles Nah he would've said something like : "What are you grieving for? Seriously stop crying. I wasn't that cool." that seems more accurate.
@@Noaspi he seemed to be an amazing person, stay strong, you got this❤️
@@mitchystuff Aww thank you.
@@Phoenix.Sparkles Thanksss.
I love that click does a different intro every video, but also gives a random name weird compliments. It’s just really sweet that he takes the time to do that. ♥️
32:00 denying your child any privacy and just barging into their room whenever you feel like it will turn from bad parenting into child molestation real fast once they reach puberty.
That's the hill they choose to die on? 🤢
*can, not necessarily will
To be honest, i never realized that a parent allowing there tiny child (7-14) watch horror movies wasnt an okay thing to do because of how normalized my family made it. Apparently to them, me watching horror movies at a young age was cool and a really good reflection of my mother's parenting (but if other parents did this, it was bad) and no one ever believed me, because my mom was "too much of a good mother"
My whole local town HATED her. But the people who liked her would go to the ends of the earth to prove HER CHILD wrong because she told them, her lITERAL CHILD was a lair, manipulator because A CHILD was jealous of you-
sorry, didnt mean to rant but yea-
@LongJohn Silver it is when my partner literally had me watching Chucky, Jason, etc at a young age and it was a problem
Fun fact: The Apollo 10 lunar and command modules were named Snoopy and Charlie Brown!
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These videos simultaneously make me feel better about my terrible family and feel sad that other people share this trauma.
Same. It helps me see mince could be worse but it also has opposite effect because similar things in this video happened to me and it reminds me of it
Very much same
The story about exploring who you are made me think about my own journey for a bit. I started having a gender crisis at one point in my life. I kept shifting from label to label because one would feel right for a while, and then I would slowly feel like I screwed up and was confused how I got this wrong. I used to use pinterest to collect pride-based images and I never got around to removing old ones and just added to the mess. It took me a while to realize I was genderfluid and my little collection of pride images was both the evidence and the journey to that realization. I decided to keep them all so that if I ever feel down or unsure about my gender identity, I can look back at the adventure I had and remember those are all me and that only I can truly understand how I feel. I'm thankful for the ones who were understanding that I kept coming back with new identities instead of making me feel like I was making this all up, because now I finally have that answer.
I know this is an older comment, but just wanted to say how glad I am that you figured things out and are feeling comfortable in yourself! AND that you are keeping your Pinterest collection to commemorate & reinforce that journey - great idea.
Despite some gradual progress on LGBT+ visibility and acceptance, I do feel understanding of gender & sexuality as spectra rather than as rigid boxes is still often lacking, & people get given way too much sh*t for sometimes taking a while to figure all of it out...? Glad you had some supportive peers along the way. Hope anybody else who's going through a similar journey of questioning & exploration sees your posts and is encouraged by them! 💞
I feel like if you've raised your child well, they'll willingly volunteer to take care of you out of love and not to repay any "debt" to you.
Though there are some kids who might be selfish, you can just hope karma's chasing after them and you have enough retirement funds to take care of yourself.
I see aspects of my mother in alot of these posts. When I can afford to move away I'm going to reduce contact as much as possible and, when I can, move to another country. It's astonising to me that she's so lost in her bigotry and toxic bs that everything she does "because she loves me" is why I'm dealing with trauma as an adult
Much empathy. Here's hoping that move has either already happened, or will soon. Hang in there, friendo.
Wearing brand clothes is so 2010s, wearing very questionable or weirdly combined clothes is 2020s
Fun fact: grilled cheese is called tosti in the Netherlands
Cool
YES I love them. Tosti met kaas en salami
We call it "Hot mix" over here :D
Hey yosti waar is die tosti
I love that! It sounds so cute. I wanna tosti
Judge Judy said that should be tests before getting kids.
Cliccy Thiccy Wiccy wishes a license for getting kids.
Me saying yes to both
My father was psycho and my sister inherited some of it, I suspect. Between the two of them I think they drove my mother over the edge. In their world I am the psycho one, of course. In their world I had a number of psychsomatic conditions when I was growing up. In my 'psycho' world my 'psychosomatic' conditions show up on x-rays and CT scans and pre-Covid I had a half dozen docs sharing my delusions. Sarcarm aside it's nice to have all these docs assure me I'm not the crazy one...
Point: I'm really confident all three of them would pass any parenting exam with flying colors!
I°m honestly surprised they aren't anti-vaxxers.
24:37 Im not going to overshare, but it means a lot that you said this Click. Thank you.
31:54
You know Click cant believe what he's reading whenever he says "Oh my god what the hell" instead of "What the frick (or hecc)"
Happy birthday! Enjoy your nice, big slice of debt cake! (The frosting is guilt flavored)
Man I love my mom and all but it's kinda sad it took her me attempting with my life to realize being a blunt mean erratic loonie whenever she's angry ain't the best way to be.
Stay strong everyone, shit gets better and you come out stronger
I agree. Being able to leave home and live by your own rules changes everything for the better. My mom could be a genuinely wonderful person: warm, funny, loving, kind... until she wasn't, and the guilt and rage monster took over her body. I had to remind myself that she was dealing with trauma, chronic pain and mental illness, but she never really sought the kind of help that would make any real difference in her life, and never knowing which version of her I was going to get on any given day definitely took its toll.
9:33 ohh no they're teaching her kid something that happened as part of history during history lessons?! THE HORROR!!
that's like me, as a german, getting offended because i had to learn and study about the holocaust in school.
How are people supposed to do better if they're never taught about the things that went wrong?
And Germany actually teaches about this in school. More than some can say.
Click is such a good voice actor that when he got to "you've survived a mental warfare bc you didn't get the vaccine" post I almost punched a wall
the dad calling the kid absent reminds me of when my bio dad called me abusive 😭 like dude I was a child with mental issues