My mom is convinced I am "infertile" because I had a rabies vaccine when I was a kid cuz I was bit by a mouse. I am not infertile, but in fact asexual, the word she refuses to use because it's not a thing in her mind -_-
By the way, I'm pretty sure giving a child (whether it's your own or someone else's) a popsicle that is contaminated with bodily waste like urine is food tampering, which is illegal. That mother should be in jail.
It reminds me of a r/relationshipadvice where a girl found out her boyfriend had been putting slugs and insects in her food. It might be urine but it's just as gross and abusive. Just ew.
Oh my god yes! That is the most absolutely disgusting thing I have ever heard in my life. Giving children food with your piss in it? I... just WHY??? What nightmare monster of a mother would actually do this?
This was too perfect, when he said "what doesn't kill you, makes you-" my headphones died, making the death sound. Completely accurate when it comes to abusive shitty family.
Not all adults deserve children, but all children deserve good parents. I don't care if I live my life without children, I'll point out mistakes parents make because news flash, being a parent doesn’t mean you know better than everyone.
Honestly I'm deathly afraid of raising children. Like I don't want kids but also I'm afraid that I'll end up like my parents. I don't wanna be like them. But yes I 100% agree with you.
I've had "discussions" with controlling self-absorbed entitled parents at Twitter... horror show! And all I said was that the children doesn't owe them anything they haven't earned. 😅
If I had a penny for every time I've been called selfish for not wanting kids, I'd never have to work another day in my life. They shut up quick when I point out that it's more selfish to have kids you know you can't financially support. That's not the only reason I have for not wanting them, but it's one of the bigger ones.
I think having kids is fine, but when your ready. However, there are some things parents will know non-parents won't know. I do understand from being with others with kids why they act the way they do. You have a kid whose learning and prone to test the limits of a parent, and parents will result to any trick in the book to get a kid to do something. When that fails they do other things. As the kid ages, the punishments have to change as they learn loopholes, get smarter, etc and not every parent knows whats best, while others do. In addition Kids act differently to their parents as well then in front of others with their parents, or around others without their parents. This means that a kid behaving in front of you isn't ness. behaving the same around their parents... Which is why a parent may know more then you do about a kid. And teenagers have puberty hormones which cause them to randomly rebel without warning. I can see where things go wrong, as parents have to deal with a kid. I mean, you can't 100% criticise a parent who has a kid thats out of control, as there may be something even they don't know about the kid, like it has ADHD, ADD or ASD. Or they may know their kids has that and you don't... So theres lots of things to consider. There are some parents that honestly shouldn't have had kids but, not all started out like that. Also, sometimes they had bad upbringing themselves ansd don't know better. Also don't forget... Babies and kids don't come born with the instruction manual. You can't tell whats going to happen or how they'll act. The majority of parents are just trying to control a kid they don't know how to control. And often how they control them works, so you lecturing them doesn't help. :-?
Karen : "Why did you not ask me permission before giving our kid indian food?!" Also Karen :"I'm gonna sneak urine in this kid's food and not tell their parents".
Kid:Mommy this lemonade dosent taste very good! The kids mom:I didn't order you lemonade... The kids dad: 👁_👁 The kids mom: 👁👄👁 Kid: * *confused* *😕? You diddnt????
My mom is one of the antivaxxer/sudoscience people. I have had a history with getting sick very easy and reacting strongly to things and she also keeps her kids extremely isolated so it took me a while to learn to think for myself sadly. When I realized how wrong a lot of the things she was saying where I decided to go get the vaccine myself because I finally was 18, however she had pushed so hard that I was almost guaranteed to die that I genuinely thought I would. When I went to get the vaccine I was fully prepared to die and I was still willing to for the sake if those around me. It was terrifying. I cried for an hour in my car after and was a almost too shaky to even be able to walk in to the building where I got the shot. Turns out I am perfectly fine and didn't even get sick from it.
Welcome to the real world. I hope your mom can come join us too. I'm glad she has someone so brave in her life; she's gonna need someone down the road.
"Reading too much is a problem? I thought it was the other way around" Yes actually, when kids read they learn to think for themselves and will no longer take everything said by their parents at face value and accept it unconditionally.
We did encourage reading, but we had a problem with a kid having their open book on the ground beside the desk, so they could surreptitiously read instead of completing homework. It felt wrong telling him not to read - even if only during that time.
Professional: **Gives information about children based on actual science** Insane parents: “Are you a parent?” Professional: “No, but I have a degree and years of experience in working with children-“ Insane parents: “If you aren’t a parent, you don’t know anything.”
I had a teacher who completely ignored any kid who had claims of abuse because "you arent a parent, you dont know what punishment is correct, you'll learn when you're older". Lady was also trying to convince us of her political views (which werent backed by science or were controversial like 5G causes cancer and "communism and socialism are evil"). She seemed so nice on the outside
These r/InsaneParents always sound like one of two things to me: 1) Hilariously clueless and embarrassingly mistrustlful. 2) Cultish people, who not only lost the plot. They dunked the plot in essential oils, coated it homoeopathy, took a boat to the "edge" of the world, before dropping the plot below the roots of the World Tree.
Regarding the health stuff, I think the predatory nature of US healthcaren`t should be taken into consideration. I would probably be suspicious of it too if I lived in the US.
@@Notmyname1593 That's a fair point. It's hard to imagine for me, after growing up in Germany. Here, homeschooling is outlawed (the pandemic made it into a discussed exception), and health insurance is legally mandatory for all citizens.
Um, every therapist I’ve had- including the one I have now as a matriarch in a blended family - has been very clear that all permissions granted and punishments doled out should only come from the natural parent to avoid friction between the married cpl and lower resentment toward the stepparent to child. A stepparent is not in a position to demand anything of a stepchild unless the entire family have set the expectations together. No one, especially an SO should be allowed to speak to the kids like that. It’s disgusting.
I'm not a fan of generalized statements / rules like that. If that story was about someone where the step parent is the sane one and the natural parent is the control freak, it'd be healthy for the child to take/get guidance from the step parent. If one of the parents is being unreasonable (whether step parent or not) friction may be necessary to resolve the issue, and the child's health/safety/sanity shouldn't be sacrificed to keep some superficial peace between the couple or between either parent and the child. Or in other words: for me, it really depends on the situation, what is good for the child, and granting all parenting responsibility for the natural parent may be a horrbile option, if it's the natural parent that is a bad parent.
@@augustaseptemberova5664 Removing the generalization. Children have trouble thriving if there is a definitive rift between their guardians in how the home should run and the expectations of the children. Based solely on the post at hand, this seems is what is happening in this family
@@draalttom844 i mean, needless and overly harsh punishment is, as the name suggests, needless and/or overly harsh, and definitely shouldn't be given to children. But fair punishment for breaking pre-established rules? That's enterierly necessary and encouraged. If there aren't any rules in the house, then the kid will find it hard to adjust to school and the real world which very much do have rules. And if they don't get punished for breaking the rules, then they won't think there are any consequences for breaking the rules and run into the same problem as with none. Fair punishment for breaking fair rules that they have been made aware of, good. Unfair punishment for breaking unfair rules that you haven't even told them about? Bad. Any punishment for not breaking any rules? Straight up abuse, go to jail, do not pass go, do not collect 200 euros.
It's an act so the abusive parent doesn't play the victim. It's the only way for us to get through it, keep your head low and keep attention off yourself
I can tell you right now, half those kids aren't calm. They put on the mask to be able to get through the day with them, but in private, half those kids are burying it which furthers the trauma _(no fault on them, just a simple observation) _ and the other half are dealing with crying everyday, panic attacks, and the works.
@@InsanityVirus Yeah, sometimes people say they are used to something they have been dealing with for a long time and make it look that way and people beleive them a lot of the time, and it builds up over time. A seperate example would be living on a family farm, I have seen corpses of dead animals and my mom expects me to get used to it and deal with it. I've had several panick attacks because an animals has died in my lap or seeing my baby in a bucket stomach ripped out. She didn't even give me a hug while I was having the obvious panic attack. She expects me to get used to it. I have slowly overtime started holding in my emotions until night time and end up sleep deprived.
A friend recently adoped children and the amount of boxes they had to tick (as a couple) to make sure the kids are well looked after is wonderful. It would be nice if there were the same boxes you had to tick for natural parents but as you say....
well duh, adopted children make money, can't lose financial assets that easily. also i've heard alot of horror stories, its kinda insane how badly children are treated by everyone.
like...people just treating their own children like trash. the legal hoops agencies like CPS has to go through, and the second hand trauma people who work for them go through, for very little pay. its actually atrocious how underfunded CPS employees are. and since they basically have to give parents a notice, parents can strike the fear of god into the child if the child says anything "negative"
How can you give your urine infused lemonade popsicle to someone else’s child? This is why most people don’t allow their children to go to other people’s houses? That’s disgusting. And I have a feeling she’ll be suing if it were to happen to her child. Disgusting
It should be a be criminal offense. Tampering with food is before it gets sold is iirc, but maybe poisoning? Someone has to get all those kids away from her.
@@devent10n this should surely count as bodily harm. Or even child naughty abuse, if there's evidence to argue that it's actually just a disguise for a... "exotic naughty preferences" thing...
I actually had caught up on feelings and almost cried at "There's always someone with bigger problems in the world and that's okay" thing. The thing is, my stepsister is always follows "if you have less problems than mine then you have none" logic, one time she even confronted me when I was crying and started depreciate my problems, telling about her's. I needed to hear that being told, thank you
I truly detest this argument so much. I understand that someone out there might have worse off problems than I do and I hate being reminded of it so often. It was due to that argument that I was unable to actually realize and heal from actual abuse I suffered from that wasn’t overt.
i hope youre alright. your stepsis is entirely wrong, and not acknowledging problems is an abusive and narcissistic (not npd specifically though!) tactic. If you ever want someone to talk to I'm more than happy to just let you vent everything out because that has happened to me, and it made my life an entire hell. I hope your stepsis stops her shite.
Just because someone broke their arm, doesn’t make your broken finger hurt less. That’s the way I think of it, your problems may not be as ‘big’ but they still hurt.
These videos simultaneously make me feel better about my terrible family and feel sad that other people share this trauma. Multiple people have cut ties with my mother (myself included). She insists she's done nothing wrong and is the victim. No self-reflection.
People like that are interesting because they both act like they are center of the world and so smart, and instead have tunnel vision of their own beliefs... A tunnel as wide as the average fishing line.
I can't relate to this sub, but it makes me lose faith in humanity. The level of ignorance required to do some of the things I see on this sub is borderline madness.
omfg at like the 3 min mark i felt that lol just the whole "dont talk to me with that attitude" even if your just frustrated and raise your voice 1 decible higher and then bam "HOW DARE YOU DONT TALK TO ME THAT WAY YIUDUASDDFV"
My parents weren't insane, but they certainly weren't perfect either. I absolutely get a laugh out of these insane parent redditt. I'm glad there is someone out there reading the memes from these individuals. Between the click and one topic, it's like going to a comedy show with past and present comedians. I hope the two of you never stop making meme videos. They are literally the best part of my day.
Please german readers Is there any word on the lines of "Schadenfreude" but instead of getting a kick out of other's suffering You get the realisation that your life doesn't suck as much as you thought, by witnessing other's suffering Cause r/insaneparents give me that
You know, the crazy step mum is one of the few times I believe it’s appropriate to say “shut up, you aren’t my real mum.” Also, wow. I haven’t heard of that kind of bigotry against the Irish (bar by brits) in a long ass time.
That stepmom needs to be reminded that she doesn’t have higher parental rights than the dad… I mean, it’s good if a stepparent wants to help parent, but there’s a huuuuuge difference between “parenting” and “being a controlling and abusive sh*tlord” And unless the parent is being abusive, the stepparent should be following their lead.
I always wondered how on earth my high school didn't flag concerns for child abuse. I found out the other day that the school continuously put in reports until 2014 (when my little brother was 14), but they were never investigated by social workers. Our case is one of the hundreds of cases that are part of an inquiry into that council's social services department failing to protect ANY children for 15 years. They got declared as "incapable of protecting children or vulnerable people" and are now having to bring in experts from around the UK to overhaul the department 😬 It always bugged me wondering how no teachers noticed anything was wrong, but it's a huge comfort to know they did notice and did actually try to help.
What a heartbreaking post. I'm so glad you are here; it sounds as though we could easily have lost you. When I finally got therapy (which is a very manly thing to do - like getting your tires balanced. Yeah. Find a pro.), she had a plaque on the wall that said, "It is never too late to have a happy childhood." I'm living the HECK out of that, at 64. Join me.
@@NiaJustNia Same! I buy myself cute stuffed animals if I find one that really catches my eye, and I got into doll repainting in the last few years. It’s cool because it’s artistic and creative and I can make ones that suit specific things I’m interested in, but also - yay, pretty dolls! 😅😊
The (one of) worst thing in having a InsaneParent™️ is how fast they can 'flip the switch' and turn into a different person, especially if someone else is with you (like a friend). And then you hear stuff like "omg your mom/dad is so cool! I wish I had parent like that!" And you're like "you wouldn't be thinking that if you actually lived here!"
Yup. My dad is the InsaneParent™️, he was the Cool Uncle to my cousins and I was the only one who knew how he really was. Sometimes he was Cool Dad, but usually he didn’t care much about me or my interests unless it made him look good to his fellow rural conservative Christians.
When my younger brother committed suicide our mother at least called us on the phone to let us know. She and he were both living in another state from the rest of the family at the time. I couldn't imagine getting such devastating news in a text message.
The one with “wanting kids to read less” is so relatable to me. My mothers really doesn’t like me reading and crates bs as ‘reasons’ why I shouldn’t read too much. I attempt to teach her what I learn from reading as a way to show her why reading is fine, but she still complains about it. Which is ironic as 10 years old me had to get special class in elementary for reading, as no book ever caught my kid-brain’s attention.
16:07 Yeah, this happened to me within the last month, admittedly. My Dad told me that the only reason he had me (and later my sister) was that he felt guilty that his father's name would die with him, so he talked with my Mom and they both agreed to have me. I was literally told to my face that I exist to be someone else' legacy, and he apparently meant it as a means of comforting me for my "struggles with my gender identity," when it really came across as trying to guilt me into staying what they wanted me to be for their comfort. Joke's on them, I'm trans and don't want kids, so good luck with that legacy there, chief.
I never understand that. The assumption their kids will continue the legacy is so stupid. Not everyone wants or has kids. And anyways, what even is a legacy? It's a social construct. So you can just tell someone "You're my legacy now" and it'd be the same thing. A legacy is not a scientific concept. You don't need kids at all, let alone bio kids, to continue your legacy.
Hayo! trans guy here and I just want to say that your feelings are really valid. Me and my boyfriend actually hopefully will want kids In the future, but of course I'm not getting pregnant or anything, I'm way too uncomfortable for that. Thank you for posting this, you're making other people feel valid. :)
That's sad... My wife and I had kids because we wanted them, but it was really a surprise after 10 years of fertility problems, and I had resigned myself to the idea that we were never going to have kids. I didn't give two shits about my "legacy" then and I don't now. I've got three brothers who have children so it's not like the family name would have died with me.
Frankly, for some folks having children... the ideal of pursuing immorality; both as the child of others, as a parent to children preferred the idea (proposed by my mama) to take the utterly unique qualities with which we are born, enhance upon them as we grow in knowledge, experience to maximize the gift and foibles we are unto ourselves and to share such with one another...always seemed a much kinder, rational approach to human existence. Actually, your legacy will be a more profound one than your father might have ever imagined.
16:16 I was actually subjected to something like this. I have autism so my social skills are rather lacking. During elementary school the women in charge of looking after us during recess would get upset with me because I would sit on a bench and read instead of playing with the other kids. They tried every argument with me to get me to run around and play with the others instead of read, but since I was happier reading by myself (a fact I’m not sure they even got, since it wasn’t a “normal” way for a child to think) none of their arguments ever worked.
Videos like this just make me even more grateful for my very kind, very supportive father. He's never raised his voice at me, we've never had any huge arguments, he treats me like a person unlike the parents in these posts, who treat their children like property. Always there for me when I need him, doesn't downplay my mental illness (he doesn't really understand it, but he's trying to), and he lets me stay in his house completely free while I'm going to college and getting on my own two feet. I'm so very, very sorry to anyone who doesn't have a supportive parent, I hope things get better for you.
@@Everettalla toxic behavior doesn't always have to be negative. You can be too affectionate also, and that's still toxic. If your father isn't respecting your boundaries, that's a red flag. I hope you can find a way to get him to respect your boundaries.
My dad had some interesting punishments. “How late were you? Go outside and lay face down in the grass for that long. I’ll come get you when the time is up.” Was a very good lesson that, for all he knew I was damaged, face down in a ditch somewhere because I didn’t let him know I would be home late and he wanted to instill that in me
To be fair, when my grandparents passed, all three times, my dad just texted me, but I get extremely bad anxiety when talking to people on the phone, so in his case, the text was a respect of my distaste for phone calls. So I do think there are times when texting someone about a death can be appropriate, but specifically if that person doesn't like phone calls. I couldn't imagine having to deal with the extreme anxiety I get being on the phone alongside the trauma of knowing a loved one died, especially if the death was self-inflicted.
My suspicion is that she was too mentally and emotionally fragile to be able to talk over the phone about it. One can be very afraid of letting such pain out, it can feel like if you let the flood of hurt and sadness out it will become an endless stream of pain that you'll drown in. And then "you loose control" and "you need to stay strong" and so on. Also she probably felt what she might have thought of as forbidden anger and other less 'flattering' feelings, and guilt and shame and 'being a failure' and intense sense of being abandoned and rejected and maybe even a disturbing sense of relief e.t.c. You can feel a lot of different things when someone close to you dies, or worse commits suicide, it's not always pretty.
@@stoferb876 with the user calling their mother the person who birthed them I doubt she was a very good person. At the very least she could’ve texted and asked to call and she didn’t seem very caring in her text
one time when my oldest brother was yelling at me for being a failure (I was fresh out of high school and unsuccessfully job hunting) and I was in tears and told him that he was treating me unfairly. his response was that if I couldn't survive verbal abuse from a family member, then I would never survive being in the work force. my mom stood by and watched while this happened. this subreddit is way too relatable.
4:29 This parent is incredibly racist, assuming that "Indian food" is harmful and using "spiciness" to cover up his racism. "Hard on small tummies"??? South Asian _babies_ for the _past 3000 years_ have been weaned on this food. "Hard on small tummies," my azz! The cuisines of India - which is a subcontinent with as much variation as all of Europe - are The Most Amazing foods you will ever taste. Moreover, South India does such incredible things with vegetables that veggies become the delicious stars of the meal! Need to get more vegetables in your diet? Get an Indian cookbook with a lot of vegetable dishes. (And _don't_ even get me started on Indian desserts. They've been growing sugar cane there _for 4000 years_ … they've really mastered how to make sweets!)
yt parent when their kids have food with actual flavour: 😰😰😡😡🤬 I'm glad my parents raised me to try a bit of everything, they really want their child to miss out on the best food ever lmao
Insane Parent: "OMG! I can't believe they would feed my child something so horrendous like curry WITHOUT letting me know first. Their poor tummy! :(" Also Insane Parent: "Better give their children some piss-popsicle without telling anyone, they'll be grateful when I finally tell them tihi"
When I was very sick with covid (the alpha variant in March 2020), my grandpa was close to the end of his life - not to mention prone to worrying too much. Nobody told him that I was seriously sick, and I'm so happy they didn't.
@@aarondermensch The Grandfather may have worried too much then and maybe he could've gotten a heart attack. I guess it seems worded too dumb from the original commenter to make sense since i'm confused now.
I knew a guy named Kale once. He and I lost our lunch boxes in kindergarten. All the girls had a crush on him because he was cute or whatever. Saw him cry after losing his lunchbox though. That was… an experience.
Tfw hearing how “normal parents who care communicate” brings me to tears because i’m still learning that behaving towards someone like this isn’t normal. My childhood wasn’t normal..
I haven't got vaccinated(parents wont let me) but if i did, damn do i want a free gay frog with it. Edit 1: i am only 14, and we live a couple miles outside of town. I cant go anywhere. Sorry. I am hoping that as soon as i get my drivers license i will be able to get one. Edit 2: holy crap this blew up
@@shytendeakatamanoir9740 agreed. My teenage children have all made their own choices and have been supported in the decision regardless of how we feel about it. They are old enough to weigh the pros and cons and possibilities and we have conversations about them if they want to or have concerns or questions. Otherwise it’s their choice and as long as they can say why they do or don’t want it and have a logical reason then it’s supported.
That's the same nonsense that 'bullies feel insecure'. Anyone who habitually hurts others thinks they're _special._ That they're so awesome they have a right to impose their will on others.
@@JoshSweetvale agree to disagree. I seen plenty of bullies who where bullies due to hurt. Even some who where bullied before they became the bully. Plus you dont need to bully people to be misogynistic
Just like how the more vocally homophobic someone is, the more likely they are to be a closeted homosexual. It may or may not be this way, but there have been quite a few public figures preaching against homosexuality and then caught with a gay lover.
the worst part for me is when OP actually apologizes and submits to their parents just because they just want it to stop, it frustrates me that THEY are the ones who have to apologize and i hope that i get their vengeance soon.
25:45 I actually started crying during this response/speech or whatever you call it. I really needed someone to tell me that there's nothing wrong with having feminine traits as a man. This has nothing to do with my parents or anything like that, I've just been struggling with my gender identity lately.
I've had a fair bit of masculine traits as a woman. My mom has always been cool with it, she just says it's ok, I'm just not a girly girl. My father was... less understanding of that. They divorced (no surprise, he kept trying to control her and she is the spirit of defiance lol) and I got to stay with her full time. Once I grew up, he tried really hard to control me too, but I'm also the spirit of defiance. Please go be whoever you want to be. If you want to go wear a dress, wear that dress! Show people how awesome it looks on you. If people give you crap, just keep going and don't quit! The best way to overcome crappy people is to be successful.
Hi! so, I'm going to say this and never doubt it, there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with having feminine or masculine traits regardless of your gender, do whatever feels right for you, whatever makes you feel comfortable with your identity, people don't like it? well too bad for them, they're not you, they shouldn't put their preferences and beliefs over your happiness, remember, you don't have to live for anyone's comfort but your own. Be happy and wear and act however pleases you as long as you don't harm anyone as they do to you :D
Masculinity and femininity are such absurd concepts. It's like saying that, because you have a certain gender, you have a certain personality. What BS! Personality isn't exclusive. If I do something "feminine" (which is a lot), that doesn't make me less of a man. Nor would it for anyone, vice versa for females. Gender and personality are completely different things.
Adoption and fostering. Yet families ask, during wedding receptions (paid for by couple) "when are you going to have kids?" We just spent a fortune for this party and we live in a one bedroom apartment.
@@AC8X i don't think the issue is the system itself but more whose running it, because no one who actually cares about children end up in charge of jobs protecting children. The system could've worked but the lack of care and effort from the people inside failed it.
There just is a big problem with the idea. It would turn into eugenics so fast. If we take the USA as an example, do you think there may be a group of people for whom it will be disproportionaly more difficult to aquire that license? Becasue I think so.
I sometimes use 'because I said so!" as a last resort. IE: "Go brush your teeth" "why?" "So you don't get cavities" "Why?" "So you don't have to get teeth pulled" "Why?" "BECAUSE I SAID SO." But it should never be the first answer.
@@architype84 I don't want to be a parent, because I don't think I will be up to the task, but then people who are absolutely not ready, or want children for the worst reason will still have children. It's kinda disheartening honestly.
So when I was 6-15 my parents would go to conference’s with my teachers. At the end of the conversation my parents would always ask “ is it okay for (deadname) to read for about 12+ hours a day?” To this day I can remember my teachers face but they were actually concerned about it.
I had it the other way around, I had teachers concerned that I was a strange child, reading all the time. Those were their words "strange child". My mom (who heard that line in person) and I still laugh about that now, almost two decades since.
I was lucky, my Mom was pleased about my reading and the school actually had me (and 2 others) be library assistants one year. Gran did not like it. She was the 'appearances' is all that counts, person.....and I was a bookworm tomboy. In my mid 50s and still am lol.
My parents loved that I was a bookworm (bc I was learning stuff, being quiet, and not getting into trouble). But there was one time I was deeply absorbed in a book in the corner of the classroom and my teacher led the whole class out to recess and turned out the light. I didn't notice (the corner was near a window) and she didn't notice she'd left me behind. After a bit I was like "when did it get so dark in here?" looked up, realized everyone was gone...then shrugged and went back to reading. My teacher called a parent-teacher conference because she was worried about it. My dad was like: "Look, when she gets to college that level of concentration will be GOLD. Don't try to train her out of it! If you don't want anyone staying inside during recess then YOU make sure everyone knows its time to go outside." I felt so seen when he shared that story!
I also love reading books a ton, and no one worried about it, but one time everyone else in my class went to lunch except me in elementary school because I completely ignored everything except my book
A friend of mine just came out as part of lgbt* and I was so proud of them that I drew a picture of us holding pride flags and a rainbow in the background and send it to them.🏳️🌈 I don’t know if that was a little much but I was soo happy that they trusted me enough to tell me!
Thats amazing! That kind of acceptance is just the thing most people need, you’re a great friend! I know im late, but im sure they appreciated it a ton :]
I've never heard a parent complain over their kids reading books. They mentioned "real life" in the genre list, too, so I'd assume that means nonfiction. And they claim their kids aren't learning anything..? I'm a little convinced that that might be satire. If it isn't, then jesus christ, I'm concerned for those kids. Edit: I'm getting less and less convinced that this post is satire.
Slightly-political, but remember that only like 5-6 years ago roughly 50% of the American population voted for a candidate who admitted on national television to multiple counts of sexual assault, and had personally bankrupted several companies that he owned/operated either through sheer incompetence as a businessman or intentionally siphoning/funneling the company's profits into his own pocket. And then most of those people went on to vote for him again, with a good chunk parroting the candidate's/president's claim of election fraud when he lost by roughly the same margin he won by 4 years prior. 2016: DT - 304, HC - 227 2020: DT - 232, JB - 306 My point being that almost nothing can safely be taken as satire because even if the instance itself is satire there is a significant portion of the population that genuinely believes/holds the satirical position sincerely and unironically.
@Anthony Hauser ok but that has nothing to do with the first comment and can't be bothered to read your comment because I don't understand a lot of it plus I have learning difficulties so I can't understand a lot of this subject. words go into my mind but I don't understand the meaning of them etc.
@@aliceramdom.s TL;DR I use the Trump presidency to 'prove by example' that regardless of the obviousness of a piece of satire as satirical, real people (and more real people than reasonably expected) sincerely hold what would be a satirical argument or position as though it were not-satire.
They're probably just a narcissist and take their child doing something they feel they ought to do, but somehow can't motivate themselves to do as a personal attack and will go through the weirdest hoops to protect their self-image.
My mom has scolded me on several occasions but she often apologized or calmly explained her intention and honestly it's one of the reasons I trust her so much
There IS nothing wrong with scolding and establishing bounderies, or even punish Bad behavior in a proportional and well communicated way. But still parenting only really works If respect goes both ways, IT IS the only way respect can Go! Appologisong when one reacted overly emotional or before one Had all the information goes a Long way in establishing respect and Trust!! A child IS their own Person, they need guidance in the good and the Bad, but they still are a Person and being a parent does Not make you above Errors! A Kid that knows why IT should Not do Something or can Trust to BE treated fairly will BE way less likely to act Out!
You know on the Indian food one, a more wholesome twist (which wouldn't have happened on this subreddit) would have been that the parental unit was angry their child had good home made Indian food and they're angry because they weren't invited. :P Sometimes you just want really good food and home made sometimes is the best.
Not all curries are spicy. I think it's a great way to introduce kids to different cultures, and if the parent was that upset, why not ask for the recipe?
@@wonpilspiano I'd get into a heavy argument about "the greatest food ever" but good Indian food is good food. The greatest food ever will vary from person to person. So you are entitled to be wrong 😝
My parents three days before Christmas last year had my dog put down because they "didn't like him anymore" while I was at work. I've had him since he was a puppy and he was only 7 years old. So, yes, I could totally see a mom getting rid of the dog for petty reasons.
I always tell my kid my reasoning, and almost never pull the "Because I said so" because I hated hearing that SO much when I was a child. That is one major way my parenting differs from that of my mom & dad, so in a way, I have them to thank for teaching me what NOT to do if I want a happy and healthy relationship with my kid that isn't based on fear and shame. EDIT: changed wording for clarity
My dad is in his 70s and he still pulls the "because I said so" or "because I want to" crap. I'm in my late 30s. For much of my life, I have had issues with authorities that can't adequately explain their actions or their demands. This is a major reason why.
Sometimes the answer in my house is "because that's what I've decided, and I am allowed to decide that." My teenagers are okay with that, probably because it doesn't come out very often.
16:18 this was an actual thing that happened to me. My parents would take away my books because I would "read too much" and they thought I wouldn't get my chores done. Jokes on them, because I most likely have undiagnosed ADHD, and now struggle to do anything🙃
When I was small, I was a bookworm. My punishment was not being allowed to read. This was one of the things I've been through that I found out that are not normal by telling other people. I had a generally okay childhood, but growing up thinking that everything I do is wrong, really fucked my head up. Your insaneparents videos helped me a lot, Clicky ❤️
hey my parents do this too! they started because whenever they grounded me from videogames/tv i just read a ton of books, removing the weight of the grounding(which i usually deserved) completely lol. now i just try not to get grounded
@@nicor3612 I know that are times we have to be grounded, but taking books is a low blow. In my case, I was grounded because I was reading "too much". In one minute my mom would compliment me for reading, in the other I was punished. That confused me so much.
@@Dehlopesp That, my friend, is what we call emotional abuse...and it is definitely NOT okay. Your parents are using manipulation tactics in order to keep you feeling inadequate and dependant upon them to make every decision in your life. PLEASE find a counselor or therapist or even a really good and trustworthy friend that you can talk to about these issues because you are your own person and NO ONE has the right to dictate your life to this extent, parents or not. There may also be legal avenues you can take as well, research them thoroughly, for your own sake...
I grew up in an abusive household, and was at times afraid of my father. But I'm so glad I didn't have some of the parents that get posted to reddit. My dad had rage issues, but some of those people are absolutely f-ing nuts.
My adoptive mother used to follow me wherever I drove by pulling out with one car between us and ducking in and out of traffic, than park in empty lots and wait to see how long I visited friends.. she'd find out their last name and investigate around town to find out if ANY relative of my friends had EVER been in legal trouble or used alcohol, tobacco, or drugs... And she would constantly threaten to kick me out. Now I'm almost 35 with a mortgage, a child, and paying my own bills she still tries to force me to tell her who my friends are and because I'm trans (which she hates) whether any friends are trans and what their names are... And she wonders why I don't call much and almost never visit to be interrogated and dead named.
You gave an explanation of evolution so much better than every creationist I've heard and followed it by demanding to see the manager of the sun. This is the kind of whiplash I'm here for.
Dang, I'm not the only one. For my 18th birthday my mom changed the locks, and put a big black trash bag of my ugliest clothes outside the door. Nearly froze to death living in my car. Didn't speak for years and there was never trust/love again. "Tough love" philosophy has destroyed a lot of families, too bad it still goes on. Love your family if you can.
Idea: parenting class that is mandatory for every soon to be parent. The class is free, online, and offered at many times so there’s no excuse. You do have to pass multiple tests going over everything from Child safety to abuse. If you don’t go, it’s a ticketable offense which will bring money into the government that can help pay for people to teach these classes. And having these classes done online also means that they can teach millions of people at the same time. It could even be a recorded classes that would be offered in many languages.
Those parents telling you not to share your problems with them are the exact same type of person who would be deeply upset to learn that you dealt with these problems without them later.
I actually have to take a break after the third one. The way that conversation in particular went just boils my blood. I don’t understand how some people in authority demand respect without giving any in return. The feeling of being put down “because” and not being able to do anything about it hits closer to home than I thought it would.
19:30 This is what the argument feels like OP: “That’s a great argument, Mom, but how about you back it up with a source?” The Mom (in her mind): My source is that I made it the frick up! The Mom talking to her child: “Why don’t you look it up yourself?”
Okay not even two minutes into the video and I'm already traumatized. We're coming up on the 1 year anniversary of my brother's suicide, and I've been having more and more mental breakdowns as the day draws closer. Having the police come to your house to tell you that your family member killed themself is one type of trauma, but getting this life-altering news via text is infinitely worse. She doesn't even seem upset about it, that's the shittiest part, though there is a part of me that wants to believe that it's just shock. I myself am guilty of telling my cousins via groupchat that my brother was gone, but I was also messaging them in a panic once the police came to my house because I had realized that we hadn't heard from him in a while. I know it would have been better to call them, but at that point the only person I could think to call was my therapist and just completely shatter. I'm generally not good with phone calls, I only recently got to the point where I can pick up the phone without having a panic attack, but I was a sobbing, screaming wreck, and making a phone call then would have made me puke. While I can understand that it's incredibly difficult to deliver bad news on the phone, I can tell that the mother in that situation had no prior worry about the safety of her child, and it absolutely sickens me to see that such a heartless monster could behave so vile that her child would much rather die than deal with her bullshit any longer. In my eyes, driving someone to the point of suicide is worse than murder, because at least when you kill someone, they finally get to be free. People like this who emotionally abuse their children to the point where they truly see no way out are the scum of the earth and deserve to be imprisoned and punished the same way someone who committed first-degree murder would be, as well as put into solitary confinement so that the true horror of their actions slowly begins to dawn on them and drive them insane, knowing that they fucked up and they don't have anyone to relieve their torment. I'm sorry for the rant, I always get visceral reactions when suicide is involved, and having been on both sides of the matter makes the pain infinitely more agonizing, because I know the pain of what leads up to it, and the void it creates in its aftermath. Please make sure to check up on those you care about. They could be going through the worst time of their life, but not want to burden anyone with their struggles. Make sure that you make them feel that no matter what, they can turn to you for support. You never know what others are going through, so do as much as possible to lift them up the same way you would want someone to lift you up in your darkest times. You could literally save someone's life that way.
I'm so, so sorry. 😢😢 I want you to know: This was not your fault. There was nothing you could do. I speak as someone on the other end of this. Someone interrupted me _before_ I could end myself. I have been living with a depressive mood disorder since I was 7 and it went undiagnosed until I was 23. (I am 52 now.) I can't know what your brother had going on, but I can give you direct insight into what happens with someone who has a depressive mood disorder. First, we all hide it. Not out of shame, but out of self-loathing. We don't know that the thought patterns we're having aren't normal, think we are supposed to feel unhappy all of the time, think we deserve to feel that way. So why bother telling anyone about it. Second: with depressive mood disorders, it's not about feeling sad, but losing the ability to feel happiness, joy, pleasure, fulfillment, hope, and in bad episodes, even lose the ability to feel loved. Third: another aspect of a depressive mood disorder is self-hatred, and a belief that, "I am the Lowest of the Low and Source of All Things Wrong in the Universe." The mood disorder feeds us these feelings. Fourth: any evidence to the contrary, the mood disorder filters out or twists into something negative. As I said, during a very bad episode, the mood disorder will even prevent us from feeling the love others have for us. Fifth: I hope this isn't triggering for you. But I want you to know what I was thinking when I almost committed suicide. The mood disorder had gotten so bad, that I had only one thought in my head: _"MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!_ … " The, well, emotion-noise from the mood disorder was so overwhelming that I was going to Make.It.Stop even if I had to bash in my own skull to do it. I always tell other people, "Forget what you think you know and what pop-culture tells you about suicide. People who go through with killing themselves often have an undiagnosed condition, and are performing the only act left to them that they can use to take control back." It's stopping the mood disorder with the only thing left. Now I have no idea if your brother had a mood disorder, or even a depressive mood disorder, or whether or was undiagnosed. But I _do_ know that _it's not your fault._ And if your brother did have a mood disorder, not only is it not anyone's fault, _he died from the disorder,_ no different than someone who has died from any other disease. I wish you well. Consider scheduling an appointment with your own therapist for the day before, of, or after the 1 year anniversary, because that gives you some extra support at that time. Well, that's what I'd do for myself. In any case, I hope you are able to get through this with all of the support you require. Be well!
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're 100% justified in your dislike of those kind of people (they are really "poopy" people). I hope you'll get the love and support you need and deserve.
@@colorfulliquid5111 honestly I think it's just that society has deemed the appropriate method of conveying important information is through the voice, since throughout history that has been the primary source of information, writing being the second. I think we've been conditioned to feel that written word is impersonal and not as meaningful as spoken word.
@@colorfulliquid5111 There have been psychological studies about the emotional effects of communicating by texting/IM/email and over the phone. With _mundane information,_ not with anything important. The result showed that we have a _need_ to hear other human voices. That there's a psychological benefit to hearing another human. Even when the information is everyday-ordinary. And that should make sense. Humans _evolved_ talking! If anything, language is the defining feature of humans, what distinguishes us from our chimp and bonobo cousins.
That one at 6:22 got me laughing so hard. And then the one at 12:08 literally made me say "HUH?!" The fact she's also giving it to another kid, not even with permission, made my freaking jaw drop. I'm not even kidding. Also, to the Gen X person who was "carrying all the weight for millenials", the only thing you were carrying was a baby for 9 months for absolutely no reason.
@Tom Morrison I'm fairly certain that's considered assault with a bodily fluid still, even though it's frozen...but I'm not a lawyer so don't quote me on that. Could be an entirely different offense, but assault with a bodily fluid gets you like 6 months in jail where I live.
@Tom Morrison And to make matters worse for OP, she admitted to - nay! BRAGGED about - the crime on a public platform, forever memorialized on the interwebs for the whole world to see her sins and confession.. Hopefully Erin's parents see it and press charges.
She isn't Gen-X, b.c. she was born in 1980, which makes _her_ the Millennial. And her kid appears to have been born in the year 2000, making her Gen-Z, not a Millennial. Plus, _no Gen-Xer would _*_ever_*_ say_ something like, "we're carrying all the weight for Millennials." _We_ would complain that Millennials tell Gen-X that we did nothing evil simultaneously acting like they invented everything, including the things that we Gen-X _did_ pave the way for. (Ok, so technically, 1980 and 2000 are the borders between Gen-X and Millennials and between Millennials and Gen-Z, respectively. My husband was born in 1964, which is the border between Baby Boomers and Gen-X, so technically he could be considered a Baby Boomer, but he acts much more like me and my siblings, who are all Gen-X. This woman, however, _acts *nothing* like us Gen-Xers.")
@@John_Weiss Generations do not have such rigidly defined lines. If you ARE to go with any lines of it, Pew Research's lines would be the way to go. 1980 and 2000 are not "borders" in any way (in the context you're using that word), one year would be one generation and the next would be another in this case. Pew Research defines the generations as: The Silent Generation: Born 1928-1945 Baby Boomers: Born 1946-1964 Generation X: Born 1965-1980 Millennials: Born 1981-1996 Generation Z: Born 1997-2012 Generation Alpha: Born 2010-2025 Either you follow their lines or you accept that there are no lines, those are the options that exist. Also, do NOT say "a person from this group would never say this thing I disagree with" because I guarantee you that you would be wrong. It might not be what everyone in the generation thinks...but that would be because "generations" are over-used in society today and they realistically mean nothing.
Yeah, I'm not a lawyer but that seems like a pretty sound case if Erin's parents choose to press charges. Even if they didn't, there's no way they'll let Erin back to that woman's house. She's probably just cost her daughter a friend. And she might be investigated as to whether or not she's fit to keep her own child.
Good grief. I hadnt spoken to my dad is almost 20 years, and my sister STILL insisted on telling me the news on the phone. I knew from her calling that whatever it was was NOT good, since 99% of our communications is by text.
25:40 amazing speech Click! There a difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity. Society needs some masculinity but it's good to see it in people who aren't afraid of feminity.
I am a parent to 3 adults. Due to Covid and the fact my job is working closely with adults with disabilities who are more vulnerable to bad outcomes from Covid, I have often felt rather lonely the last couple of years as our home is legally a long term care facility for the 2 people I am responsible for providing direct supports to living with my husband and I. YetI refuse to try to force my loneliness upon my adult children. We all have our issues and responsibilities, but it is not my children's job to fulfill my social needs or whims. As a result, when we do get together we have a great time as we all enjoy video games and role-playing games. I know that if I really needed them to come and spend time with me that all I really need to do is ask, but as a general rule a parent should not feel entitled to attention and social time with their adult children.
I have learning difficulties and I personally hate it when people chose to generalish and call people with learning difficulties/special needs "disabilitys/disabilities"
@@aliceramdom.s thank you for sharing your opinion with me. I use the terminology that the company I contract for dictates, but I often advocate for asking what each individual prefers to be used and use that. Neither of the two people I assist have expressed a preference so I use the terminology I am given, for now. Thanks again. 😊
@@aliceramdom.s It sucks that you dislike it personally, but disabled is by and large the preferred term for people for all kinds of issues that fall under that umbrella. If you dislike it for yourself personally, then you can ask the people in your life to use the language you prefer, but when people aren't talking to or about you, they're going to use the language that we (the majority of disabled people) prefer.
34:28 I needed to hear that. I have an issue with canceling my pain because my mom, who has MS, goes through much more pain than me. I keep finding myself constantly telling myself, "this is nothing compared to what your mom has to deal with" then sucking it up and walking off without telling anyone. I also feel quite selfish telling people my problems, like "hey everyone, pay attention to me and how much my back hurts, stop what you're doing and help me immediately" even though I am well aware that I am not like that.
The monkey rant YES THANK YOU, I'm so glad you went on that right because when people think "we came from monkes" I want to slam my head against the wall to make it hurt just a little bit less. Common ancestors not our ancestor directly
I like retorting: "You're right, we didn't come from monkeys. We share over 90% of our DNA with the other 4 species¹ of Great Apes. So, no, humans aren't monkeys, We _Are _*_Apes._* ¹("The other 4 species" being Chimpanzees, Bonobos, Gorillas, and Orangutans.)
Possibly but also it could be saying the mom will try and make it seem like Willow is a stalker and intruding on private property. Weird of them to just mention that with no context tho
My mom used to threaten my bf with stalking charges. We were the same age and were even in some of the same classes (and we had the same lunch period) She claimed it was because she didn’t want me to be a teenage mom, but then she went on to be just as weird about my relationships when I was an adult… It sounds more like extremely controlling parents to me.
Watching these stories does not make me lose braincells... It just makes me lose more and more of what little faith I have in our species while at the same time I'm getting more amazed we survived for over 200 thousand years...
Knowing how I turned out with a good parent I do not wanna think about how I would turn out if I had to deal with stuff like this. All the love to the people who has/had to deal with parents like these. You are stronger than I'll ever will be.
My mom used to be worried that I would be alone, especially after I told her that I wouldn't have kids for health reasons. Think she misses those worries now that I'm marrying a woman who will carry our babies.
My parents had a problem with my sister and me. We were reading too much as well. The problem was that we would read instead of sleeping. They solved it by flipping the fuse to our room and confiscating our pocket lights by bedtime 😂
@@hellmark6666 fun times. But other than that my parents encouraged reading a lot (e.g. they gave us a budget at the bookshop for "holiday reading" every summer)
Best advice I ever got in high school. “Never accept ‘because I said so’ as an answer, not even from your parents.” Of course they never said what to do if your maternal unit(my grandmother) takes that as an insult and plays the victim to manipulate your paternal unit into pinning you to a wall and threatening you with physical violence.
Oh btw! leech therapy is still a thing, mostly as an anticoagulant (ie, to keep blood flowing instead of scabbing up), there's a couple of reasons why you want this in a medical setting such as during certain surgeries or procedures that is to say... it's used in tandem with modern medicine, which is how a lot of "old" medicine is still in use. because sometimes folks were right! they couldn't explain how what they did work, but it worked regardless. here in the future, we know now what happened that made some things work and other things... not. so we know which ones are actually worthwhile.
That reading one hits home. Reading was my primary hobby/coping mechanism growing up since we usually weren't allowed to play with other kids, were homeschooled, and video game time was extremely limited. No tv, only family movies. My dad sometimes punished me by banning me from books for a week or two. Once he burned my favorite book series because I was "too addicted", and once he attacked my book with a drill. Fun times.
Online cults are definitely a thing. There's less of a control aspect but you kind of do it to yourself if that makes sense. You keep yourself in a cultlike mindset and it's very difficult to leave. Andey Fellowes here on TH-cam has some interesting videos about the cult he used to be a part of, how he ended up there, how he ended up leaving, and the damage that cult did to his life.
Look no further than the pseudomedicine-groups. From Jilly's poop cult to the bleach-church there is some toxic panacea for everyone. (And I really mean it. Pee and cyanide and so on . There is just so much going on under the guise of free speech behind closed doors in facebook groups and so on.)
Even some vegans are forming cults, like raw vegans. They shamed a woman for being concerned when she lost her period (due to malnutrition) and threatened her when she spoke up about it. The weirdest things can drag you into cult-like environment, even innocent things like vegetarian diets.... I just wanted a good recipe!
I've read the book from 32:12, it was a sort of science fiction book about people putting Muslims in concentration camps. The main character was, like they said, an activist. They were horribly mistreated in the camps. In my opinion it was a good book and I would recommend it!
Seeing an r/insaneparents video after I finally moved out of my abusive household is crazy to me. Because now I can laugh about this nonsense w/o worrying about my family asking me why I’m laughing so hard.
As someone with what I call a “Disney stepmother”, it is absolutely mentally exhausting, and those people should be single for life. -Gideon (in case you decide to say hi)
I used to know a young man who said he always carried a knife "just to scare off attackers". Problem is: one day he's going to meet someone who isn't scared off, and he's either going to have to use it on them or have them take it off him and use it on him.
As a gay man im grateful that I have a wonderful and accepting family and I just want to hold a softie and make him feel safe and hopefully add him to my loving family
I am very much of the mind that everyone’s feelings are valid. Recently, I had a friend tell me that she was just so tired lately, but that she was sure it didn’t compare to me since I’m a mom and my daughter is special needs. I cut that off REAL quick. I told her she is allowed to be tired. That it’s not a competition. We all have our own struggles and our own problems. Mine aren’t bigger or worse than hers just because of my circumstances. My tiredness is related to my life, just as hers is. Some people really need to stop comparing their problems. Kids can be tired and stressed just as much as adults. They can be sad, angry, worried. Just because they’re a child doesn’t mean they have “nothing to stress about.” Those are the kids that need us the most. I want to stop the mentality of “some people have it worse so mine isn’t that bad.” Everyone deserves to be cared about and listened to when they need it most. Well, most people. Some people are probably better off blathering into a void. 👀
My mom has a power trip so anytime anyone refuses to do something she says or mildly disagrees with her she proceeds to scream at us saying we've been "so disrespectful towards her all day" meanwhile it's actually that she's constantly disrespectful
My mom and my brother make fun of me because I got ptsd from my brother and he always says "i got beaten up more than you" after he sends me down a panic attack and your videos helps out a bunch i kinda see you as a parental figure and tbh you're better than any i have and these videos are my therapy
@@thisisauniquename Most people do, sadly. When disabled (regardless of disability and ESPECIALLY with mental disability,) people typically just tell us "just get over it". It's stupid and annoying...
I feel so annoyed at these but what got me the most is the parent complaining about the kids reading... Reading was my coping mechanism during some tough years so I'm ready to fight that parent about it because clearly the kid is going through shit if they read 6h a day!!
Same here. My parents wanted me to go outside and stop reading to take some fresh air... Well i went sometimes read outside. (Didnt like it because of the sun on the page -im realizing it was just luminosity sensitivity wait- afraid of bugs, and noises, but well, when it was the only way to continue without being bothered...)
these videos make me feel very grateful for my general home life, although my family still could sometimes be featured in one of these no problem lol. it makes me so mad that kids are supposed to just respect any and all adults, but specially parents, as authorities when they barely respect us as human beings, and have done nothing to deserve that kind of appreciation. i got a free gay frog with my booster shot (i wish... frogs are lovely)
Was having a mental breakdown and started watching this to distract myself, and I actually managed to give myself another headache from laughing, thank you mister The Click 👍❤️ /pos
Nice video, Click. If anyone's parents treat them like this, call the parents by their first names exclusively because they don't deserve to referred as parents anymore. Like, if your mom and dad blame you for their problems and force you to hang around their dramatic butts like a waitor then congratulations, your mom and dad have been demoted to Bill and Margaret.
My mom is convinced I am "infertile" because I had a rabies vaccine when I was a kid cuz I was bit by a mouse. I am not infertile, but in fact asexual, the word she refuses to use because it's not a thing in her mind -_-
Welcome Ace.
bruh ur mom has a brain the size of a rat’s eye
also congratulations!
F for my fellow ace
Hi fellow ace
Love how she doesn't believe that someone can not want/desire sex. I'm not ace myself, but damn.
By the way, I'm pretty sure giving a child (whether it's your own or someone else's) a popsicle that is contaminated with bodily waste like urine is food tampering, which is illegal. That mother should be in jail.
Child abuse.
Assault.
its also a federal crime for an adult to allow a minor child to come in contact with bodily waste knowingly if the waste is not of the minor child's.
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It reminds me of a r/relationshipadvice where a girl found out her boyfriend had been putting slugs and insects in her food. It might be urine but it's just as gross and abusive. Just ew.
Oh my god yes! That is the most absolutely disgusting thing I have ever heard in my life. Giving children food with your piss in it? I... just WHY??? What nightmare monster of a mother would actually do this?
This was too perfect, when he said "what doesn't kill you, makes you-" my headphones died, making the death sound. Completely accurate when it comes to abusive shitty family.
What doesn't kill you kills you?
What doesnt kill you, mutates and comes back to kill you again
"What doesn't kill you" *OOF*
what doesn’t kill you changes and affects you in ways you never could’ve anticipated❤️
Not all adults deserve children, but all children deserve good parents.
I don't care if I live my life without children, I'll point out mistakes parents make because news flash, being a parent doesn’t mean you know better than everyone.
"You're not a parent?! How *DARE* you have common sense while telling me I'm raising my children like a lunatic!"
Honestly I'm deathly afraid of raising children. Like I don't want kids but also I'm afraid that I'll end up like my parents. I don't wanna be like them. But yes I 100% agree with you.
I've had "discussions" with controlling self-absorbed entitled parents at Twitter... horror show! And all I said was that the children doesn't owe them anything they haven't earned. 😅
If I had a penny for every time I've been called selfish for not wanting kids, I'd never have to work another day in my life. They shut up quick when I point out that it's more selfish to have kids you know you can't financially support. That's not the only reason I have for not wanting them, but it's one of the bigger ones.
I think having kids is fine, but when your ready.
However, there are some things parents will know non-parents won't know. I do understand from being with others with kids why they act the way they do. You have a kid whose learning and prone to test the limits of a parent, and parents will result to any trick in the book to get a kid to do something. When that fails they do other things.
As the kid ages, the punishments have to change as they learn loopholes, get smarter, etc and not every parent knows whats best, while others do. In addition Kids act differently to their parents as well then in front of others with their parents, or around others without their parents. This means that a kid behaving in front of you isn't ness. behaving the same around their parents... Which is why a parent may know more then you do about a kid. And teenagers have puberty hormones which cause them to randomly rebel without warning.
I can see where things go wrong, as parents have to deal with a kid. I mean, you can't 100% criticise a parent who has a kid thats out of control, as there may be something even they don't know about the kid, like it has ADHD, ADD or ASD. Or they may know their kids has that and you don't... So theres lots of things to consider.
There are some parents that honestly shouldn't have had kids but, not all started out like that. Also, sometimes they had bad upbringing themselves ansd don't know better. Also don't forget... Babies and kids don't come born with the instruction manual. You can't tell whats going to happen or how they'll act. The majority of parents are just trying to control a kid they don't know how to control. And often how they control them works, so you lecturing them doesn't help. :-?
Karen : "Why did you not ask me permission before giving our kid indian food?!"
Also Karen :"I'm gonna sneak urine in this kid's food and not tell their parents".
Well that was a different karen but yeah it's extremely dumb
Kid:Mommy this lemonade dosent taste very good!
The kids mom:I didn't order you lemonade...
The kids dad: 👁_👁
The kids mom: 👁👄👁
Kid: * *confused* *😕? You diddnt????
I like how everyone assumed the karen was female.
@@leiajiang7877 I mean that's the most common depiction of a karen
Like what are they so mad about their kid is being introduced to true flavour XD
My mom is one of the antivaxxer/sudoscience people. I have had a history with getting sick very easy and reacting strongly to things and she also keeps her kids extremely isolated so it took me a while to learn to think for myself sadly. When I realized how wrong a lot of the things she was saying where I decided to go get the vaccine myself because I finally was 18, however she had pushed so hard that I was almost guaranteed to die that I genuinely thought I would. When I went to get the vaccine I was fully prepared to die and I was still willing to for the sake if those around me. It was terrifying. I cried for an hour in my car after and was a almost too shaky to even be able to walk in to the building where I got the shot. Turns out I am perfectly fine and didn't even get sick from it.
Welcome to the real world. I hope your mom can come join us too. I'm glad she has someone so brave in her life; she's gonna need someone down the road.
And people think parents are smarter than their kids
You're so brave. I'm proud of you 💜
*Pseudoscience
Wait wait I love your profile picture-
"Reading too much is a problem? I thought it was the other way around" Yes actually, when kids read they learn to think for themselves and will no longer take everything said by their parents at face value and accept it unconditionally.
Judging by some of these posts, the fact that my i.p. encouraged me to read looks to have been a blessing amidst everything else
This just sounds like the plot of the first half of 'Matilda.' :v
*laughs in Ray Bradbury*
We did encourage reading, but we had a problem with a kid having their open book on the ground beside the desk, so they could surreptitiously read instead of completing homework. It felt wrong telling him not to read - even if only during that time.
@@ifoundthisoldbook...8621 That sort of thing makes sense. Homework first, then leisure reading.
Professional: **Gives information about children based on actual science**
Insane parents: “Are you a parent?”
Professional: “No, but I have a degree and years of experience in working with children-“
Insane parents: “If you aren’t a parent, you don’t know anything.”
Aaand then we have the bystanders
@@ultimatewolfgaming4171 and us children who know more than the Insane Parents
@@dustorm5012 yep-
I had a teacher who completely ignored any kid who had claims of abuse because "you arent a parent, you dont know what punishment is correct, you'll learn when you're older". Lady was also trying to convince us of her political views (which werent backed by science or were controversial like 5G causes cancer and "communism and socialism are evil"). She seemed so nice on the outside
@@raseri8497 wow, I'm sorry.
The dad hating it when his kids read just feels like something out of the movie Matilda.
Yep,that sounds correct P.S. Matilda was a book before it was a movie
@@DragonloverWVwell you better not frickin read it!
@@DragonloverWV I both read the book and saw the movie. It’s one of my favorite movies of the 90’s.
Sounds like extream insecurity and inferiority complex
never read the boock but the movie was gold
These r/InsaneParents always sound like one of two things to me:
1) Hilariously clueless and embarrassingly mistrustlful.
2) Cultish people, who not only lost the plot. They dunked the plot in essential oils, coated it homoeopathy, took a boat to the "edge" of the world, before dropping the plot below the roots of the World Tree.
The edge of the hollow world. Get your facts straight.
Thank you.
Regarding the health stuff, I think the predatory nature of US healthcaren`t should be taken into consideration. I would probably be suspicious of it too if I lived in the US.
@@Notmyname1593 That's a fair point.
It's hard to imagine for me, after growing up in Germany. Here, homeschooling is outlawed (the pandemic made it into a discussed exception), and health insurance is legally mandatory for all citizens.
Sad thing is that these people are real.
Um, every therapist I’ve had- including the one I have now as a matriarch in a blended family - has been very clear that all permissions granted and punishments doled out should only come from the natural parent to avoid friction between the married cpl and lower resentment toward the stepparent to child.
A stepparent is not in a position to demand anything of a stepchild unless the entire family have set the expectations together. No one, especially an SO should be allowed to speak to the kids like that. It’s disgusting.
That’s horrid
I'm not a fan of generalized statements / rules like that. If that story was about someone where the step parent is the sane one and the natural parent is the control freak, it'd be healthy for the child to take/get guidance from the step parent.
If one of the parents is being unreasonable (whether step parent or not) friction may be necessary to resolve the issue, and the child's health/safety/sanity shouldn't be sacrificed to keep some superficial peace between the couple or between either parent and the child.
Or in other words: for me, it really depends on the situation, what is good for the child, and granting all parenting responsibility for the natural parent may be a horrbile option, if it's the natural parent that is a bad parent.
No one can punish a child dont get a kid if you have narcistic needs to make your kid suffer
@@augustaseptemberova5664 Removing the generalization. Children have trouble thriving if there is a definitive rift between their guardians in how the home should run and the expectations of the children. Based solely on the post at hand, this seems is what is happening in this family
@@draalttom844 i mean, needless and overly harsh punishment is, as the name suggests, needless and/or overly harsh, and definitely shouldn't be given to children. But fair punishment for breaking pre-established rules? That's enterierly necessary and encouraged. If there aren't any rules in the house, then the kid will find it hard to adjust to school and the real world which very much do have rules. And if they don't get punished for breaking the rules, then they won't think there are any consequences for breaking the rules and run into the same problem as with none.
Fair punishment for breaking fair rules that they have been made aware of, good.
Unfair punishment for breaking unfair rules that you haven't even told them about? Bad.
Any punishment for not breaking any rules? Straight up abuse, go to jail, do not pass go, do not collect 200 euros.
the fact that these kids can keep calm while their parents are putting so much stress on then genuinely amazes me
Think thats partly a dissociation on the child's part. Having an emotionally unstable parent can affect you in so many ways
It's an act so the abusive parent doesn't play the victim. It's the only way for us to get through it, keep your head low and keep attention off yourself
I can tell you right now, half those kids aren't calm. They put on the mask to be able to get through the day with them, but in private, half those kids are burying it which furthers the trauma _(no fault on them, just a simple observation) _ and the other half are dealing with crying everyday, panic attacks, and the works.
@@ArtisanYozorareal
@@InsanityVirus Yeah, sometimes people say they are used to something they have been dealing with for a long time and make it look that way and people beleive them a lot of the time, and it builds up over time. A seperate example would be living on a family farm, I have seen corpses of dead animals and my mom expects me to get used to it and deal with it. I've had several panick attacks because an animals has died in my lap or seeing my baby in a bucket stomach ripped out. She didn't even give me a hug while I was having the obvious panic attack. She expects me to get used to it. I have slowly overtime started holding in my emotions until night time and end up sleep deprived.
A friend recently adoped children and the amount of boxes they had to tick (as a couple) to make sure the kids are well looked after is wonderful. It would be nice if there were the same boxes you had to tick for natural parents but as you say....
well duh, adopted children make money, can't lose financial assets that easily.
also i've heard alot of horror stories, its kinda insane how badly children are treated by everyone.
like...people just treating their own children like trash. the legal hoops agencies like CPS has to go through, and the second hand trauma people who work for them go through, for very little pay. its actually atrocious how underfunded CPS employees are. and since they basically have to give parents a notice, parents can strike the fear of god into the child if the child says anything "negative"
@@kaiseremotion854 i make money?? i havent gotten a dollar in my life
How can you give your urine infused lemonade popsicle to someone else’s child? This is why most people don’t allow their children to go to other people’s houses? That’s disgusting. And I have a feeling she’ll be suing if it were to happen to her child. Disgusting
of course not i think it is illegal to give it to anyone without them knowing
It should be a be criminal offense. Tampering with food is before it gets sold is iirc, but maybe poisoning? Someone has to get all those kids away from her.
@@devent10n this should surely count as bodily harm.
Or even child naughty abuse, if there's evidence to argue that it's actually just a disguise for a... "exotic naughty preferences" thing...
besides, urine and poop are basically out body's trash. What out body doesn't want it gets "thrown away".
I really hope she gets sued. It's disgusting
I actually had caught up on feelings and almost cried at "There's always someone with bigger problems in the world and that's okay" thing. The thing is, my stepsister is always follows "if you have less problems than mine then you have none" logic, one time she even confronted me when I was crying and started depreciate my problems, telling about her's. I needed to hear that being told, thank you
I truly detest this argument so much. I understand that someone out there might have worse off problems than I do and I hate being reminded of it so often. It was due to that argument that I was unable to actually realize and heal from actual abuse I suffered from that wasn’t overt.
i hope youre alright. your stepsis is entirely wrong, and not acknowledging problems is an abusive and narcissistic (not npd specifically though!) tactic. If you ever want someone to talk to I'm more than happy to just let you vent everything out because that has happened to me, and it made my life an entire hell. I hope your stepsis stops her shite.
@@Laced_With_Acid that's really sweet of you, really, thank you! I'm doing somehow better now though, thank you for your concern
@@donmin7349 ofc! if you ever want anyone to talk to and randomly come back to this, just lmk! i'm rlly happy to hear youre doing a lot better :)
Just because someone broke their arm, doesn’t make your broken finger hurt less. That’s the way I think of it, your problems may not be as ‘big’ but they still hurt.
These videos simultaneously make me feel better about my terrible family and feel sad that other people share this trauma. Multiple people have cut ties with my mother (myself included). She insists she's done nothing wrong and is the victim. No self-reflection.
r/raisedbynarcissists
Your people are here
People like that are interesting because they both act like they are center of the world and so smart, and instead have tunnel vision of their own beliefs... A tunnel as wide as the average fishing line.
Sounds like my mom. I hope you're doing better now without her 💜
I can't relate to this sub, but it makes me lose faith in humanity. The level of ignorance required to do some of the things I see on this sub is borderline madness.
omfg at like the 3 min mark i felt that lol just the whole "dont talk to me with that attitude" even if your just frustrated and raise your voice 1 decible higher and then bam "HOW DARE YOU DONT TALK TO ME THAT WAY YIUDUASDDFV"
My parents weren't insane, but they certainly weren't perfect either. I absolutely get a laugh out of these insane parent redditt. I'm glad there is someone out there reading the memes from these individuals. Between the click and one topic, it's like going to a comedy show with past and present comedians. I hope the two of you never stop making meme videos. They are literally the best part of my day.
Mine were the ideal version of these parents , i lived in hell , i was so thankful for going back to foster home
Please german readers
Is there any word on the lines of "Schadenfreude" but instead of getting a kick out of other's suffering
You get the realisation that your life doesn't suck as much as you thought, by witnessing other's suffering
Cause r/insaneparents give me that
ok
@@matheussanthiago9685 right
Ah that’s very nice of you. :)
You know, the crazy step mum is one of the few times I believe it’s appropriate to say “shut up, you aren’t my real mum.”
Also, wow. I haven’t heard of that kind of bigotry against the Irish (bar by brits) in a long ass time.
That stepmom needs to be reminded that she doesn’t have higher parental rights than the dad… I mean, it’s good if a stepparent wants to help parent, but there’s a huuuuuge difference between “parenting” and “being a controlling and abusive sh*tlord”
And unless the parent is being abusive, the stepparent should be following their lead.
I was like: "What did we (Irish) do??" 😭
@@Georgemillseyy in the eyes of the brits...the troubles probably, or the patato famine
@@guilhermecastro9893 the potato famine-
@@unfunnykhoi5913 even though that dosnt start anywhere near ireland but ya
I always wondered how on earth my high school didn't flag concerns for child abuse. I found out the other day that the school continuously put in reports until 2014 (when my little brother was 14), but they were never investigated by social workers. Our case is one of the hundreds of cases that are part of an inquiry into that council's social services department failing to protect ANY children for 15 years. They got declared as "incapable of protecting children or vulnerable people" and are now having to bring in experts from around the UK to overhaul the department 😬
It always bugged me wondering how no teachers noticed anything was wrong, but it's a huge comfort to know they did notice and did actually try to help.
What a heartbreaking post. I'm so glad you are here; it sounds as though we could easily have lost you. When I finally got therapy (which is a very manly thing to do - like getting your tires balanced. Yeah. Find a pro.), she had a plaque on the wall that said, "It is never too late to have a happy childhood." I'm living the HECK out of that, at 64. Join me.
@@intercat4907 Same! I wear colourful clothes and have started working in a primary school. I do the things that make me happy now
@@NiaJustNia Same! I buy myself cute stuffed animals if I find one that really catches my eye, and I got into doll repainting in the last few years.
It’s cool because it’s artistic and creative and I can make ones that suit specific things I’m interested in, but also - yay, pretty dolls! 😅😊
The (one of) worst thing in having a InsaneParent™️ is how fast they can 'flip the switch' and turn into a different person, especially if someone else is with you (like a friend). And then you hear stuff like "omg your mom/dad is so cool! I wish I had parent like that!" And you're like "you wouldn't be thinking that if you actually lived here!"
Yup. My dad is the InsaneParent™️, he was the Cool Uncle to my cousins and I was the only one who knew how he really was. Sometimes he was Cool Dad, but usually he didn’t care much about me or my interests unless it made him look good to his fellow rural conservative Christians.
Exactly!
When my younger brother committed suicide our mother at least called us on the phone to let us know. She and he were both living in another state from the rest of the family at the time. I couldn't imagine getting such devastating news in a text message.
The one with “wanting kids to read less” is so relatable to me. My mothers really doesn’t like me reading and crates bs as ‘reasons’ why I shouldn’t read too much. I attempt to teach her what I learn from reading as a way to show her why reading is fine, but she still complains about it. Which is ironic as 10 years old me had to get special class in elementary for reading, as no book ever caught my kid-brain’s attention.
Wtf!! Some parents BEG for their kid to read a book, what's wrong with your mom...
16:07 Yeah, this happened to me within the last month, admittedly. My Dad told me that the only reason he had me (and later my sister) was that he felt guilty that his father's name would die with him, so he talked with my Mom and they both agreed to have me. I was literally told to my face that I exist to be someone else' legacy, and he apparently meant it as a means of comforting me for my "struggles with my gender identity," when it really came across as trying to guilt me into staying what they wanted me to be for their comfort. Joke's on them, I'm trans and don't want kids, so good luck with that legacy there, chief.
I never understand that. The assumption their kids will continue the legacy is so stupid. Not everyone wants or has kids. And anyways, what even is a legacy? It's a social construct. So you can just tell someone "You're my legacy now" and it'd be the same thing. A legacy is not a scientific concept. You don't need kids at all, let alone bio kids, to continue your legacy.
Hayo! trans guy here and I just want to say that your feelings are really valid. Me and my boyfriend actually hopefully will want kids In the future, but of course I'm not getting pregnant or anything, I'm way too uncomfortable for that. Thank you for posting this, you're making other people feel valid. :)
That's sad... My wife and I had kids because we wanted them, but it was really a surprise after 10 years of fertility problems, and I had resigned myself to the idea that we were never going to have kids. I didn't give two shits about my "legacy" then and I don't now. I've got three brothers who have children so it's not like the family name would have died with me.
Bossing out here with the trans umbrella!
Frankly, for some folks having children... the ideal of pursuing immorality; both as the child of others, as a parent to children preferred the idea (proposed by my mama) to take the utterly unique qualities with which we are born, enhance upon them as we grow in knowledge, experience to maximize the gift and foibles we are unto ourselves and to share such with one another...always seemed a much kinder, rational approach to human existence. Actually, your legacy will be a more profound one than your father might have ever imagined.
16:16 I was actually subjected to something like this. I have autism so my social skills are rather lacking. During elementary school the women in charge of looking after us during recess would get upset with me because I would sit on a bench and read instead of playing with the other kids. They tried every argument with me to get me to run around and play with the others instead of read, but since I was happier reading by myself (a fact I’m not sure they even got, since it wasn’t a “normal” way for a child to think) none of their arguments ever worked.
Videos like this just make me even more grateful for my very kind, very supportive father. He's never raised his voice at me, we've never had any huge arguments, he treats me like a person unlike the parents in these posts, who treat their children like property. Always there for me when I need him, doesn't downplay my mental illness (he doesn't really understand it, but he's trying to), and he lets me stay in his house completely free while I'm going to college and getting on my own two feet. I'm so very, very sorry to anyone who doesn't have a supportive parent, I hope things get better for you.
right
My dad is almost overly nice, but he’s not very respectful of my boundaries-im not one for hugs unless in giving them. It makes me uncomfortable.
@@Everettalla toxic behavior doesn't always have to be negative. You can be too affectionate also, and that's still toxic. If your father isn't respecting your boundaries, that's a red flag. I hope you can find a way to get him to respect your boundaries.
My dad had some interesting punishments.
“How late were you? Go outside and lay face down in the grass for that long. I’ll come get you when the time is up.”
Was a very good lesson that, for all he knew I was damaged, face down in a ditch somewhere because I didn’t let him know I would be home late and he wanted to instill that in me
My parents are literally this subreddit. I’m going to have a good college essay doe 😏😏
To be fair, when my grandparents passed, all three times, my dad just texted me, but I get extremely bad anxiety when talking to people on the phone, so in his case, the text was a respect of my distaste for phone calls. So I do think there are times when texting someone about a death can be appropriate, but specifically if that person doesn't like phone calls. I couldn't imagine having to deal with the extreme anxiety I get being on the phone alongside the trauma of knowing a loved one died, especially if the death was self-inflicted.
My suspicion is that she was too mentally and emotionally fragile to be able to talk over the phone about it. One can be very afraid of letting such pain out, it can feel like if you let the flood of hurt and sadness out it will become an endless stream of pain that you'll drown in. And then "you loose control" and "you need to stay strong" and so on. Also she probably felt what she might have thought of as forbidden anger and other less 'flattering' feelings, and guilt and shame and 'being a failure' and intense sense of being abandoned and rejected and maybe even a disturbing sense of relief e.t.c. You can feel a lot of different things when someone close to you dies, or worse commits suicide, it's not always pretty.
A cheer to your dad for getting it right. Some of us do try to pay attention. And condolences to you both on the grandparents passing.
Fantastic way to miss the fucking point
@@Anonymous-kp3jf Abuse is not the best response here. Reconsider your post? Especially since you are "anonymous" and safe.
@@stoferb876 with the user calling their mother the person who birthed them I doubt she was a very good person. At the very least she could’ve texted and asked to call and she didn’t seem very caring in her text
one time when my oldest brother was yelling at me for being a failure (I was fresh out of high school and unsuccessfully job hunting) and I was in tears and told him that he was treating me unfairly. his response was that if I couldn't survive verbal abuse from a family member, then I would never survive being in the work force. my mom stood by and watched while this happened.
this subreddit is way too relatable.
Thats depressing. He literally admited to verbal abuse. And your mom did nothing...
4:29 This parent is incredibly racist, assuming that "Indian food" is harmful and using "spiciness" to cover up his racism.
"Hard on small tummies"??? South Asian _babies_ for the _past 3000 years_ have been weaned on this food. "Hard on small tummies," my azz!
The cuisines of India - which is a subcontinent with as much variation as all of Europe - are The Most Amazing foods you will ever taste. Moreover, South India does such incredible things with vegetables that veggies become the delicious stars of the meal!
Need to get more vegetables in your diet? Get an Indian cookbook with a lot of vegetable dishes.
(And _don't_ even get me started on Indian desserts. They've been growing sugar cane there _for 4000 years_ … they've really mastered how to make sweets!)
Indian parents be like: why is my child fitter than yours then 👁👄👁
Lol
yt parent when their kids have food with actual flavour: 😰😰😡😡🤬
I'm glad my parents raised me to try a bit of everything, they really want their child to miss out on the best food ever lmao
@@TRexRAWWR1 'TH-cam parents when they are kids...'?
@@RaeneTheFaerie i've been relying on outo correct since i grew my nails out u right lmao
Oh damn also yt means white
Insane Parent: "OMG! I can't believe they would feed my child something so horrendous like curry WITHOUT letting me know first. Their poor tummy! :("
Also Insane Parent: "Better give their children some piss-popsicle without telling anyone, they'll be grateful when I finally tell them tihi"
i like the idea that every parent in this video is the same person
Omg, I read this during an ad at the beginning. I'm scared about proceeding now.
like how tf would pissicles improve cognitive abilities or get them anywhere in life
Tihi is an acronym
🤣
When I was very sick with covid (the alpha variant in March 2020), my grandpa was close to the end of his life - not to mention prone to worrying too much. Nobody told him that I was seriously sick, and I'm so happy they didn't.
What do you mean by that
@@aarondermenschPretty sure they left out the seriously part so he doesn‘t worry even more
@@nimoph but what do they mean by "nobody told him that I was seriously sick, and I'm so happy they didn't"
@@aarondermensch The Grandfather may have worried too much then and maybe he could've gotten a heart attack. I guess it seems worded too dumb from the original commenter to make sense since i'm confused now.
@@aarondermenschI think they meant that as his grandad was dying he didn't want him to spend his last days being worried sick about him.
Insane parents, Karens and choosing beggars get my blood boiling, every single time! 😁
yeah those guys are just stupid
@@Techy404 They overlap quite nicely too.. Karen and male Karen are insane parents and choosing beggars too.. 😁
@@einienj3281 exactly, also someone really needs to teach correlation ≠ causation to them
@@Techy404 Totally!
@@einienj3281 also like, we have met again, how are you doing?
I knew a guy named Kale once. He and I lost our lunch boxes in kindergarten. All the girls had a crush on him because he was cute or whatever. Saw him cry after losing his lunchbox though. That was… an experience.
Did you two ever get them back?
@@Gloomdrake I did, but can’t remember if he did.
@@inkyraven3586 ..wait... Hol up
Very suspecious possibilities can be made from the given info
@@Rio_SenpaiYT What's the hol up? (this is genuine, I'm am a dull spoon)
Tfw hearing how “normal parents who care communicate” brings me to tears because i’m still learning that behaving towards someone like this isn’t normal. My childhood wasn’t normal..
I haven't got vaccinated(parents wont let me) but if i did, damn do i want a free gay frog with it.
Edit 1: i am only 14, and we live a couple miles outside of town. I cant go anywhere. Sorry. I am hoping that as soon as i get my drivers license i will be able to get one.
Edit 2: holy crap this blew up
if you are older enough you can get it on your own without your folks knowing
Go get it secretly
Aww, why didn't I get a gay frog with my vaccine? My disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined.
In all seriousness, I'm sorry for you.
@@lavender3609 I didn't get free 5G either. I feel like I was scammed :(.
But yeah, stopping your kids from getting vaccine is all kind of wrong
@@shytendeakatamanoir9740 agreed. My teenage children have all made their own choices and have been supported in the decision regardless of how we feel about it. They are old enough to weigh the pros and cons and possibilities and we have conversations about them if they want to or have concerns or questions. Otherwise it’s their choice and as long as they can say why they do or don’t want it and have a logical reason then it’s supported.
I have this theory that the more misogynistic you are, the less secure you feel in your own masculinity/femininity
That's the same nonsense that 'bullies feel insecure'.
Anyone who habitually hurts others thinks they're _special._ That they're so awesome they have a right to impose their will on others.
@@JoshSweetvale agree to disagree. I seen plenty of bullies who where bullies due to hurt. Even some who where bullied before they became the bully. Plus you dont need to bully people to be misogynistic
Or misandristic. The people on FDS are something else.
@@crazymissdaisy The only cure for a bigot is boundaries. If you don't punch Nazis, Nazis will punch you.
Just like how the more vocally homophobic someone is, the more likely they are to be a closeted homosexual. It may or may not be this way, but there have been quite a few public figures preaching against homosexuality and then caught with a gay lover.
the worst part for me is when OP actually apologizes and submits to their parents just because they just want it to stop, it frustrates me that THEY are the ones who have to apologize and i hope that i get their vengeance soon.
25:45 I actually started crying during this response/speech or whatever you call it. I really needed someone to tell me that there's nothing wrong with having feminine traits as a man. This has nothing to do with my parents or anything like that, I've just been struggling with my gender identity lately.
Same bro.
I've had a fair bit of masculine traits as a woman. My mom has always been cool with it, she just says it's ok, I'm just not a girly girl. My father was... less understanding of that. They divorced (no surprise, he kept trying to control her and she is the spirit of defiance lol) and I got to stay with her full time. Once I grew up, he tried really hard to control me too, but I'm also the spirit of defiance. Please go be whoever you want to be. If you want to go wear a dress, wear that dress! Show people how awesome it looks on you. If people give you crap, just keep going and don't quit! The best way to overcome crappy people is to be successful.
I love my husband's "feminine" traits. I don't think I could be married to a macho man.
Hi! so, I'm going to say this and never doubt it, there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with having feminine or masculine traits regardless of your gender, do whatever feels right for you, whatever makes you feel comfortable with your identity, people don't like it? well too bad for them, they're not you, they shouldn't put their preferences and beliefs over your happiness, remember, you don't have to live for anyone's comfort but your own. Be happy and wear and act however pleases you as long as you don't harm anyone as they do to you :D
Masculinity and femininity are such absurd concepts. It's like saying that, because you have a certain gender, you have a certain personality. What BS! Personality isn't exclusive. If I do something "feminine" (which is a lot), that doesn't make me less of a man. Nor would it for anyone, vice versa for females. Gender and personality are completely different things.
Your license idea always reminds me of the fact that basically this exact thing is required for adoption. The idea exists!
Adoption and fostering.
Yet families ask, during wedding receptions (paid for by couple) "when are you going to have kids?"
We just spent a fortune for this party and we live in a one bedroom apartment.
Yeah, but the system is super flawed, so it’s a case in point for why the idea doesn’t really work the way it should
@@AC8X i don't think the issue is the system itself but more whose running it, because no one who actually cares about children end up in charge of jobs protecting children. The system could've worked but the lack of care and effort from the people inside failed it.
There just is a big problem with the idea. It would turn into eugenics so fast. If we take the USA as an example, do you think there may be a group of people for whom it will be disproportionaly more difficult to aquire that license? Becasue I think so.
This youtube channel is probably indirectly developing parental figures for the future while being hilarious asf but I love it
I sometimes use 'because I said so!" as a last resort. IE:
"Go brush your teeth"
"why?"
"So you don't get cavities"
"Why?"
"So you don't have to get teeth pulled"
"Why?"
"BECAUSE I SAID SO."
But it should never be the first answer.
Why the caps tho
Parents like these are why my bloodline will die with me.
its so sad people like me don't want to become a parents because of not wanting to be like this kind of parent
@@architype84 I don't want to be a parent, because I don't think I will be up to the task, but then people who are absolutely not ready, or want children for the worst reason will still have children. It's kinda disheartening honestly.
Yeah
You: Gets the Vax
You: dies 60 yrs later
Karen: It's the Vax fault😤
I mean, to be fair, she could think that the danger is gradual, but still, very stupid.
So when I was 6-15 my parents would go to conference’s with my teachers. At the end of the conversation my parents would always ask “ is it okay for (deadname) to read for about 12+ hours a day?” To this day I can remember my teachers face but they were actually concerned about it.
Sounds like something my adopted mom would say
I had it the other way around, I had teachers concerned that I was a strange child, reading all the time. Those were their words "strange child". My mom (who heard that line in person) and I still laugh about that now, almost two decades since.
I was lucky, my Mom was pleased about my reading and the school actually had me (and 2 others) be library assistants one year. Gran did not like it. She was the 'appearances' is all that counts, person.....and I was a bookworm tomboy. In my mid 50s and still am lol.
My parents loved that I was a bookworm (bc I was learning stuff, being quiet, and not getting into trouble).
But there was one time I was deeply absorbed in a book in the corner of the classroom and my teacher led the whole class out to recess and turned out the light. I didn't notice (the corner was near a window) and she didn't notice she'd left me behind. After a bit I was like "when did it get so dark in here?" looked up, realized everyone was gone...then shrugged and went back to reading. My teacher called a parent-teacher conference because she was worried about it. My dad was like: "Look, when she gets to college that level of concentration will be GOLD. Don't try to train her out of it! If you don't want anyone staying inside during recess then YOU make sure everyone knows its time to go outside."
I felt so seen when he shared that story!
I also love reading books a ton, and no one worried about it, but one time everyone else in my class went to lunch except me in elementary school because I completely ignored everything except my book
A friend of mine just came out as part of lgbt* and I was so proud of them that I drew a picture of us holding pride flags and a rainbow in the background and send it to them.🏳️🌈
I don’t know if that was a little much but I was soo happy that they trusted me enough to tell me!
Tell him that random furry from internet congratulates him
You are a Good Friend. We ❤️ our allies.
@@floweytheflower7152 😂 maybe I will!
THATS SO SIMPLE AND NICE 😭✨
Thats amazing! That kind of acceptance is just the thing most people need, you’re a great friend! I know im late, but im sure they appreciated it a ton :]
Yes! If you're struggling at all, in any capacity, any amount, for any reason, and you want to seek help, do it! I wish more people voiced this. 💕
Gayvid-19 is true. I was a betatester 37 years ago, now I am gay.
LoL
OMG, you too?
In my case, it made me so gay, it went back in time and made me come out in 1992!
A friend of mine recently confessed she got half of that virus
@@Sr_ECO Wait, huh?
@@YouveBeenMegged covid 8
I've never heard a parent complain over their kids reading books. They mentioned "real life" in the genre list, too, so I'd assume that means nonfiction. And they claim their kids aren't learning anything..? I'm a little convinced that that might be satire. If it isn't, then jesus christ, I'm concerned for those kids.
Edit: I'm getting less and less convinced that this post is satire.
Slightly-political, but remember that only like 5-6 years ago roughly 50% of the American population voted for a candidate who admitted on national television to multiple counts of sexual assault, and had personally bankrupted several companies that he owned/operated either through sheer incompetence as a businessman or intentionally siphoning/funneling the company's profits into his own pocket. And then most of those people went on to vote for him again, with a good chunk parroting the candidate's/president's claim of election fraud when he lost by roughly the same margin he won by 4 years prior.
2016: DT - 304, HC - 227
2020: DT - 232, JB - 306
My point being that almost nothing can safely be taken as satire because even if the instance itself is satire there is a significant portion of the population that genuinely believes/holds the satirical position sincerely and unironically.
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@Anthony Hauser ok but that has nothing to do with the first comment and can't be bothered to read your comment because I don't understand a lot of it plus I have learning difficulties so I can't understand a lot of this subject. words go into my mind but I don't understand the meaning of them etc.
@@aliceramdom.s TL;DR
I use the Trump presidency to 'prove by example' that regardless of the obviousness of a piece of satire as satirical, real people (and more real people than reasonably expected) sincerely hold what would be a satirical argument or position as though it were not-satire.
They're probably just a narcissist and take their child doing something they feel they ought to do, but somehow can't motivate themselves to do as a personal attack and will go through the weirdest hoops to protect their self-image.
My mom has scolded me on several occasions but she often apologized or calmly explained her intention and honestly it's one of the reasons I trust her so much
There IS nothing wrong with scolding and establishing bounderies, or even punish Bad behavior in a proportional and well communicated way. But still parenting only really works If respect goes both ways, IT IS the only way respect can Go!
Appologisong when one reacted overly emotional or before one Had all the information goes a Long way in establishing respect and Trust!! A child IS their own Person, they need guidance in the good and the Bad, but they still are a Person and being a parent does Not make you above Errors!
A Kid that knows why IT should Not do Something or can Trust to BE treated fairly will BE way less likely to act Out!
You know on the Indian food one, a more wholesome twist (which wouldn't have happened on this subreddit) would have been that the parental unit was angry their child had good home made Indian food and they're angry because they weren't invited. :P Sometimes you just want really good food and home made sometimes is the best.
I'd be upset too. Like give me some 😫
Not all curries are spicy. I think it's a great way to introduce kids to different cultures, and if the parent was that upset, why not ask for the recipe?
Like who gets mad at Indian food?? The greatest food ever!
right
@@wonpilspiano I'd get into a heavy argument about "the greatest food ever" but good Indian food is good food. The greatest food ever will vary from person to person. So you are entitled to be wrong 😝
I mean... I was bisexual already before getting vaccinated, so what are they on about?
lol
Maybe you will start dating more boys than girls, like a 1-3 proportion? 🤔
I can only say one thing "femboys"
Sadly, this kind of person probably thinks you will become homosexual. Like levelling up or something.
_double bisexual_
My parents three days before Christmas last year had my dog put down because they "didn't like him anymore" while I was at work. I've had him since he was a puppy and he was only 7 years old. So, yes, I could totally see a mom getting rid of the dog for petty reasons.
I always tell my kid my reasoning, and almost never pull the "Because I said so" because I hated hearing that SO much when I was a child.
That is one major way my parenting differs from that of my mom & dad, so in a way, I have them to thank for teaching me what NOT to do if I want a happy and healthy relationship with my kid that isn't based on fear and shame.
EDIT: changed wording for clarity
My dad is in his 70s and he still pulls the "because I said so" or "because I want to" crap.
I'm in my late 30s. For much of my life, I have had issues with authorities that can't adequately explain their actions or their demands. This is a major reason why.
Sometimes the answer in my house is "because that's what I've decided, and I am allowed to decide that." My teenagers are okay with that, probably because it doesn't come out very often.
16:18 this was an actual thing that happened to me. My parents would take away my books because I would "read too much" and they thought I wouldn't get my chores done. Jokes on them, because I most likely have undiagnosed ADHD, and now struggle to do anything🙃
When I was small, I was a bookworm. My punishment was not being allowed to read. This was one of the things I've been through that I found out that are not normal by telling other people. I had a generally okay childhood, but growing up thinking that everything I do is wrong, really fucked my head up. Your insaneparents videos helped me a lot, Clicky ❤️
@PridefulWolf #09 i'm sorry :(
I'm so glad my parents never used that as a punishment. I was a voracious reader and got bored if I didn't have anything to read.
hey my parents do this too! they started because whenever they grounded me from videogames/tv i just read a ton of books, removing the weight of the grounding(which i usually deserved) completely lol. now i just try not to get grounded
@@nicor3612 I know that are times we have to be grounded, but taking books is a low blow. In my case, I was grounded because I was reading "too much". In one minute my mom would compliment me for reading, in the other I was punished. That confused me so much.
@@Dehlopesp That, my friend, is what we call emotional abuse...and it is definitely NOT okay. Your parents are using manipulation tactics in order to keep you feeling inadequate and dependant upon them to make every decision in your life.
PLEASE find a counselor or therapist or even a really good and trustworthy friend that you can talk to about these issues because you are your own person and NO ONE has the right to dictate your life to this extent, parents or not. There may also be legal avenues you can take as well, research them thoroughly, for your own sake...
I grew up in an abusive household, and was at times afraid of my father. But I'm so glad I didn't have some of the parents that get posted to reddit. My dad had rage issues, but some of those people are absolutely f-ing nuts.
My adoptive mother used to follow me wherever I drove by pulling out with one car between us and ducking in and out of traffic, than park in empty lots and wait to see how long I visited friends.. she'd find out their last name and investigate around town to find out if ANY relative of my friends had EVER been in legal trouble or used alcohol, tobacco, or drugs... And she would constantly threaten to kick me out. Now I'm almost 35 with a mortgage, a child, and paying my own bills she still tries to force me to tell her who my friends are and because I'm trans (which she hates) whether any friends are trans and what their names are... And she wonders why I don't call much and almost never visit to be interrogated and dead named.
You gave an explanation of evolution so much better than every creationist I've heard and followed it by demanding to see the manager of the sun. This is the kind of whiplash I'm here for.
Dang, I'm not the only one. For my 18th birthday my mom changed the locks, and put a big black trash bag of my ugliest clothes outside the door. Nearly froze to death living in my car. Didn't speak for years and there was never trust/love again. "Tough love" philosophy has destroyed a lot of families, too bad it still goes on. Love your family if you can.
Idea: parenting class that is mandatory for every soon to be parent. The class is free, online, and offered at many times so there’s no excuse. You do have to pass multiple tests going over everything from Child safety to abuse. If you don’t go, it’s a ticketable offense which will bring money into the government that can help pay for people to teach these classes. And having these classes done online also means that they can teach millions of people at the same time. It could even be a recorded classes that would be offered in many languages.
Those parents telling you not to share your problems with them are the exact same type of person who would be deeply upset to learn that you dealt with these problems without them later.
I actually have to take a break after the third one. The way that conversation in particular went just boils my blood. I don’t understand how some people in authority demand respect without giving any in return. The feeling of being put down “because” and not being able to do anything about it hits closer to home than I thought it would.
Yeah, seriously. Growing up if ANY adult talked to me like that, they better have brought their boxing gloves...
You have to remember those times when you get to put them down for the last time. (Funerals) because they are dead.
19:30 This is what the argument feels like
OP: “That’s a great argument, Mom, but how about you back it up with a source?”
The Mom (in her mind): My source is that I made it the frick up!
The Mom talking to her child: “Why don’t you look it up yourself?”
Okay not even two minutes into the video and I'm already traumatized. We're coming up on the 1 year anniversary of my brother's suicide, and I've been having more and more mental breakdowns as the day draws closer. Having the police come to your house to tell you that your family member killed themself is one type of trauma, but getting this life-altering news via text is infinitely worse. She doesn't even seem upset about it, that's the shittiest part, though there is a part of me that wants to believe that it's just shock. I myself am guilty of telling my cousins via groupchat that my brother was gone, but I was also messaging them in a panic once the police came to my house because I had realized that we hadn't heard from him in a while. I know it would have been better to call them, but at that point the only person I could think to call was my therapist and just completely shatter. I'm generally not good with phone calls, I only recently got to the point where I can pick up the phone without having a panic attack, but I was a sobbing, screaming wreck, and making a phone call then would have made me puke. While I can understand that it's incredibly difficult to deliver bad news on the phone, I can tell that the mother in that situation had no prior worry about the safety of her child, and it absolutely sickens me to see that such a heartless monster could behave so vile that her child would much rather die than deal with her bullshit any longer. In my eyes, driving someone to the point of suicide is worse than murder, because at least when you kill someone, they finally get to be free. People like this who emotionally abuse their children to the point where they truly see no way out are the scum of the earth and deserve to be imprisoned and punished the same way someone who committed first-degree murder would be, as well as put into solitary confinement so that the true horror of their actions slowly begins to dawn on them and drive them insane, knowing that they fucked up and they don't have anyone to relieve their torment.
I'm sorry for the rant, I always get visceral reactions when suicide is involved, and having been on both sides of the matter makes the pain infinitely more agonizing, because I know the pain of what leads up to it, and the void it creates in its aftermath.
Please make sure to check up on those you care about. They could be going through the worst time of their life, but not want to burden anyone with their struggles. Make sure that you make them feel that no matter what, they can turn to you for support. You never know what others are going through, so do as much as possible to lift them up the same way you would want someone to lift you up in your darkest times. You could literally save someone's life that way.
I'm so, so sorry. 😢😢
I want you to know: This was not your fault. There was nothing you could do.
I speak as someone on the other end of this. Someone interrupted me _before_ I could end myself. I have been living with a depressive mood disorder since I was 7 and it went undiagnosed until I was 23. (I am 52 now.) I can't know what your brother had going on, but I can give you direct insight into what happens with someone who has a depressive mood disorder.
First, we all hide it. Not out of shame, but out of self-loathing.
We don't know that the thought patterns we're having aren't normal, think we are supposed to feel unhappy all of the time, think we deserve to feel that way. So why bother telling anyone about it.
Second: with depressive mood disorders, it's not about feeling sad, but losing the ability to feel happiness, joy, pleasure, fulfillment, hope, and in bad episodes, even lose the ability to feel loved.
Third: another aspect of a depressive mood disorder is self-hatred, and a belief that, "I am the Lowest of the Low and Source of All Things Wrong in the Universe." The mood disorder feeds us these feelings.
Fourth: any evidence to the contrary, the mood disorder filters out or twists into something negative. As I said, during a very bad episode, the mood disorder will even prevent us from feeling the love others have for us.
Fifth: I hope this isn't triggering for you. But I want you to know what I was thinking when I almost committed suicide. The mood disorder had gotten so bad, that I had only one thought in my head:
_"MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!MakeItSTOP!!!_ … "
The, well, emotion-noise from the mood disorder was so overwhelming that I was going to Make.It.Stop even if I had to bash in my own skull to do it.
I always tell other people, "Forget what you think you know and what pop-culture tells you about suicide. People who go through with killing themselves often have an undiagnosed condition, and are performing the only act left to them that they can use to take control back." It's stopping the mood disorder with the only thing left.
Now I have no idea if your brother had a mood disorder, or even a depressive mood disorder, or whether or was undiagnosed. But I _do_ know that _it's not your fault._
And if your brother did have a mood disorder, not only is it not anyone's fault, _he died from the disorder,_ no different than someone who has died from any other disease.
I wish you well. Consider scheduling an appointment with your own therapist for the day before, of, or after the 1 year anniversary, because that gives you some extra support at that time. Well, that's what I'd do for myself. In any case, I hope you are able to get through this with all of the support you require.
Be well!
I'm so sorry for your loss. You're 100% justified in your dislike of those kind of people (they are really "poopy" people). I hope you'll get the love and support you need and deserve.
@@colorfulliquid5111 honestly I think it's just that society has deemed the appropriate method of conveying important information is through the voice, since throughout history that has been the primary source of information, writing being the second. I think we've been conditioned to feel that written word is impersonal and not as meaningful as spoken word.
@@colorfulliquid5111 There have been psychological studies about the emotional effects of communicating by texting/IM/email and over the phone. With _mundane information,_ not with anything important.
The result showed that we have a _need_ to hear other human voices. That there's a psychological benefit to hearing another human. Even when the information is everyday-ordinary.
And that should make sense. Humans _evolved_ talking! If anything, language is the defining feature of humans, what distinguishes us from our chimp and bonobo cousins.
That one at 6:22 got me laughing so hard. And then the one at 12:08 literally made me say "HUH?!" The fact she's also giving it to another kid, not even with permission, made my freaking jaw drop. I'm not even kidding. Also, to the Gen X person who was "carrying all the weight for millenials", the only thing you were carrying was a baby for 9 months for absolutely no reason.
@Tom Morrison I'm fairly certain that's considered assault with a bodily fluid still, even though it's frozen...but I'm not a lawyer so don't quote me on that. Could be an entirely different offense, but assault with a bodily fluid gets you like 6 months in jail where I live.
@Tom Morrison And to make matters worse for OP, she admitted to - nay! BRAGGED about - the crime on a public platform, forever memorialized on the interwebs for the whole world to see her sins and confession.. Hopefully Erin's parents see it and press charges.
She isn't Gen-X, b.c. she was born in 1980, which makes _her_ the Millennial. And her kid appears to have been born in the year 2000, making her Gen-Z, not a Millennial.
Plus, _no Gen-Xer would _*_ever_*_ say_ something like, "we're carrying all the weight for Millennials." _We_ would complain that Millennials tell Gen-X that we did nothing evil simultaneously acting like they invented everything, including the things that we Gen-X _did_ pave the way for.
(Ok, so technically, 1980 and 2000 are the borders between Gen-X and Millennials and between Millennials and Gen-Z, respectively. My husband was born in 1964, which is the border between Baby Boomers and Gen-X, so technically he could be considered a Baby Boomer, but he acts much more like me and my siblings, who are all Gen-X. This woman, however, _acts *nothing* like us Gen-Xers.")
@@John_Weiss Generations do not have such rigidly defined lines. If you ARE to go with any lines of it, Pew Research's lines would be the way to go. 1980 and 2000 are not "borders" in any way (in the context you're using that word), one year would be one generation and the next would be another in this case. Pew Research defines the generations as:
The Silent Generation: Born 1928-1945
Baby Boomers: Born 1946-1964
Generation X: Born 1965-1980
Millennials: Born 1981-1996
Generation Z: Born 1997-2012
Generation Alpha: Born 2010-2025
Either you follow their lines or you accept that there are no lines, those are the options that exist.
Also, do NOT say "a person from this group would never say this thing I disagree with" because I guarantee you that you would be wrong. It might not be what everyone in the generation thinks...but that would be because "generations" are over-used in society today and they realistically mean nothing.
Yeah, I'm not a lawyer but that seems like a pretty sound case if Erin's parents choose to press charges. Even if they didn't, there's no way they'll let Erin back to that woman's house. She's probably just cost her daughter a friend. And she might be investigated as to whether or not she's fit to keep her own child.
Good grief. I hadnt spoken to my dad is almost 20 years, and my sister STILL insisted on telling me the news on the phone. I knew from her calling that whatever it was was NOT good, since 99% of our communications is by text.
25:40 amazing speech Click! There a difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity. Society needs some masculinity but it's good to see it in people who aren't afraid of feminity.
I agree. Nothing wrong with a man expressing femininity.
Nothing better than a face mask and a skirt when it's too warm at night.
I am a parent to 3 adults. Due to Covid and the fact my job is working closely with adults with disabilities who are more vulnerable to bad outcomes from Covid, I have often felt rather lonely the last couple of years as our home is legally a long term care facility for the 2 people I am responsible for providing direct supports to living with my husband and I.
YetI refuse to try to force my loneliness upon my adult children. We all have our issues and responsibilities, but it is not my children's job to fulfill my social needs or whims. As a result, when we do get together we have a great time as we all enjoy video games and role-playing games. I know that if I really needed them to come and spend time with me that all I really need to do is ask, but as a general rule a parent should not feel entitled to attention and social time with their adult children.
I have learning difficulties and I personally hate it when people chose to generalish and call people with learning difficulties/special needs "disabilitys/disabilities"
@@aliceramdom.s thank you for sharing your opinion with me. I use the terminology that the company I contract for dictates, but I often advocate for asking what each individual prefers to be used and use that. Neither of the two people I assist have expressed a preference so I use the terminology I am given, for now. Thanks again. 😊
@@aliceramdom.s It sucks that you dislike it personally, but disabled is by and large the preferred term for people for all kinds of issues that fall under that umbrella. If you dislike it for yourself personally, then you can ask the people in your life to use the language you prefer, but when people aren't talking to or about you, they're going to use the language that we (the majority of disabled people) prefer.
34:28 I needed to hear that. I have an issue with canceling my pain because my mom, who has MS, goes through much more pain than me. I keep finding myself constantly telling myself, "this is nothing compared to what your mom has to deal with" then sucking it up and walking off without telling anyone. I also feel quite selfish telling people my problems, like "hey everyone, pay attention to me and how much my back hurts, stop what you're doing and help me immediately" even though I am well aware that I am not like that.
The monkey rant YES THANK YOU, I'm so glad you went on that right because when people think "we came from monkes" I want to slam my head against the wall to make it hurt just a little bit less. Common ancestors not our ancestor directly
I like retorting: "You're right, we didn't come from monkeys. We share over 90% of our DNA with the other 4 species¹ of Great Apes. So, no, humans aren't monkeys, We _Are _*_Apes._*
¹("The other 4 species" being Chimpanzees, Bonobos, Gorillas, and Orangutans.)
I’m still trying to get over the Irish rant. Wtf even was that?
@@John_Weiss You're telling me I can't return to monke? I have been lied to!
5:45 “threatening to call the cops if I go near him”
Sounds like Willow’s boyfriend is a child and Willow is not.
Possibly but also it could be saying the mom will try and make it seem like Willow is a stalker and intruding on private property. Weird of them to just mention that with no context tho
My mom used to threaten my bf with stalking charges. We were the same age and were even in some of the same classes (and we had the same lunch period)
She claimed it was because she didn’t want me to be a teenage mom, but then she went on to be just as weird about my relationships when I was an adult…
It sounds more like extremely controlling parents to me.
If they ever try to make a parenting license, we'll find out just how many abusive parents we have just by how many people scream.
12:24 "pisses me off" such a great pun.
Watching these stories does not make me lose braincells...
It just makes me lose more and more of what little faith I have in our species while at the same time I'm getting more amazed we survived for over 200 thousand years...
Knowing how I turned out with a good parent I do not wanna think about how I would turn out if I had to deal with stuff like this. All the love to the people who has/had to deal with parents like these. You are stronger than I'll ever will be.
My mom used to be worried that I would be alone, especially after I told her that I wouldn't have kids for health reasons. Think she misses those worries now that I'm marrying a woman who will carry our babies.
Congrats 👏🏻
@@CountessJJ Thanks. We already have a few names picked out.
Oh wow! That's amazing! Good for you :)
@@UwUYT Thanks!
@@deathsecretary2055 I bet your children will be beautiful ☺️
My parents had a problem with my sister and me. We were reading too much as well. The problem was that we would read instead of sleeping. They solved it by flipping the fuse to our room and confiscating our pocket lights by bedtime 😂
Same
@@hellmark6666 fun times.
But other than that my parents encouraged reading a lot (e.g. they gave us a budget at the bookshop for "holiday reading" every summer)
Instead of just talking? Shitty parents
thats mean
@@bearo8 lol
I like that this is a self-help channel disguised as an enjoyment channel
IT kinda really IS with how validating He is
"This is like a zombie apocalypse- but it's not even entertaining!!"
1:01
-Best description of the catchable-crown I've ever heard! 😅
That girl deciding to not have any children is smart. The world they would be growing up in is going to be pretty crappy.
ture
yeah also because generational trauma exists
Best advice I ever got in high school. “Never accept ‘because I said so’ as an answer, not even from your parents.” Of course they never said what to do if your maternal unit(my grandmother) takes that as an insult and plays the victim to manipulate your paternal unit into pinning you to a wall and threatening you with physical violence.
Oh btw! leech therapy is still a thing, mostly as an anticoagulant (ie, to keep blood flowing instead of scabbing up), there's a couple of reasons why you want this in a medical setting such as during certain surgeries or procedures
that is to say... it's used in tandem with modern medicine, which is how a lot of "old" medicine is still in use. because sometimes folks were right! they couldn't explain how what they did work, but it worked regardless. here in the future, we know now what happened that made some things work and other things... not. so we know which ones are actually worthwhile.
And maggots, used to remove dead tissue.
Yes give your child the toxic waste that comes out of your body
In more than a literal sense
sounds yummy🤣
Ooh, yummy! Piss popsicles!!!
That reading one hits home. Reading was my primary hobby/coping mechanism growing up since we usually weren't allowed to play with other kids, were homeschooled, and video game time was extremely limited. No tv, only family movies. My dad sometimes punished me by banning me from books for a week or two. Once he burned my favorite book series because I was "too addicted", and once he attacked my book with a drill. Fun times.
25:55 "neither is also good!" that made me really happy, as someone's who's gender expression is mostly neutral :)
Online cults are definitely a thing. There's less of a control aspect but you kind of do it to yourself if that makes sense. You keep yourself in a cultlike mindset and it's very difficult to leave. Andey Fellowes here on TH-cam has some interesting videos about the cult he used to be a part of, how he ended up there, how he ended up leaving, and the damage that cult did to his life.
*dice flash backs*
Look no further than the pseudomedicine-groups. From Jilly's poop cult to the bleach-church there is some toxic panacea for everyone. (And I really mean it. Pee and cyanide and so on . There is just so much going on under the guise of free speech behind closed doors in facebook groups and so on.)
Even some vegans are forming cults, like raw vegans. They shamed a woman for being concerned when she lost her period (due to malnutrition) and threatened her when she spoke up about it. The weirdest things can drag you into cult-like environment, even innocent things like vegetarian diets.... I just wanted a good recipe!
I've read the book from 32:12, it was a sort of science fiction book about people putting Muslims in concentration camps. The main character was, like they said, an activist. They were horribly mistreated in the camps. In my opinion it was a good book and I would recommend it!
Seeing an r/insaneparents video after I finally moved out of my abusive household is crazy to me. Because now I can laugh about this nonsense w/o worrying about my family asking me why I’m laughing so hard.
Lol. You might be the only person who has complemented me in days. I might cry. Thank You Cliccy
hi, you're awesome!
@@golwenlothlindel thank you. You are awesome too (-:
You're worth the world and can do anything you put your mind to. All of us are and can and we all deserve to be reminded of it.
Your name is very nice, I hope you have great time ahead of you
As someone with what I call a “Disney stepmother”, it is absolutely mentally exhausting, and those people should be single for life.
-Gideon (in case you decide to say hi)
I used to know a young man who said he always carried a knife "just to scare off attackers".
Problem is: one day he's going to meet someone who isn't scared off, and he's either going to have to use it on them or have them take it off him and use it on him.
As a gay man im grateful that I have a wonderful and accepting family and I just want to hold a softie and make him feel safe and hopefully add him to my loving family
I am very much of the mind that everyone’s feelings are valid. Recently, I had a friend tell me that she was just so tired lately, but that she was sure it didn’t compare to me since I’m a mom and my daughter is special needs. I cut that off REAL quick. I told her she is allowed to be tired. That it’s not a competition. We all have our own struggles and our own problems. Mine aren’t bigger or worse than hers just because of my circumstances. My tiredness is related to my life, just as hers is.
Some people really need to stop comparing their problems. Kids can be tired and stressed just as much as adults. They can be sad, angry, worried. Just because they’re a child doesn’t mean they have “nothing to stress about.” Those are the kids that need us the most. I want to stop the mentality of “some people have it worse so mine isn’t that bad.” Everyone deserves to be cared about and listened to when they need it most.
Well, most people. Some people are probably better off blathering into a void. 👀
Lol
My mom has a power trip so anytime anyone refuses to do something she says or mildly disagrees with her she proceeds to scream at us saying we've been "so disrespectful towards her all day" meanwhile it's actually that she's constantly disrespectful
That sounds like a dictatorship but instead of genocide its screaming
sounds nice🤣
My mom and my brother make fun of me because I got ptsd from my brother and he always says "i got beaten up more than you" after he sends me down a panic attack and your videos helps out a bunch i kinda see you as a parental figure and tbh you're better than any i have and these videos are my therapy
Who tf makes fun of someone for having PTSD? I'm so sorry
@@thisisauniquename Most people do, sadly. When disabled (regardless of disability and ESPECIALLY with mental disability,) people typically just tell us "just get over it". It's stupid and annoying...
I feel so annoyed at these but what got me the most is the parent complaining about the kids reading... Reading was my coping mechanism during some tough years so I'm ready to fight that parent about it because clearly the kid is going through shit if they read 6h a day!!
Same here. My parents wanted me to go outside and stop reading to take some fresh air... Well i went sometimes read outside. (Didnt like it because of the sun on the page -im realizing it was just luminosity sensitivity wait- afraid of bugs, and noises, but well, when it was the only way to continue without being bothered...)
Huh? Kids enjoy entertainment, it doesn’t mean they’re going through shit. It’s no different than a kid who likes movies or shows or video games.
The urine popsicle one: that's illegal and can carry jail time
these videos make me feel very grateful for my general home life, although my family still could sometimes be featured in one of these no problem lol. it makes me so mad that kids are supposed to just respect any and all adults, but specially parents, as authorities when they barely respect us as human beings, and have done nothing to deserve that kind of appreciation. i got a free gay frog with my booster shot (i wish... frogs are lovely)
Was having a mental breakdown and started watching this to distract myself, and I actually managed to give myself another headache from laughing, thank you mister The Click 👍❤️ /pos
Nice video, Click.
If anyone's parents treat them like this, call the parents by their first names exclusively because they don't deserve to referred as parents anymore.
Like, if your mom and dad blame you for their problems and force you to hang around their dramatic butts like a waitor then congratulations, your mom and dad have been demoted to Bill and Margaret.