How I Overcame Crippling Anxiety about My Grades
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ย. 2022
- Stress and anxiety in school is normal, but the way we choose to deal with it can change everything. I struggled for a long time with anxious thought in med school. I had low confidence in my abilities and saw everything I did as a failure or mistake. If we let it run wild, our mental health can literally consume our mind and make it impossible to stay focused. But with the help of my mentors, peers, and the internet (dr. google), I was able to take a transformative journey to tackle stress and anxiety from my student life. Let's talk about some tips and tools we can use to get ourselves out of that rut. Mental health is king! Spread the word, let's normalize it.
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Sum up
I. Understanding your anxiety
II. Eliminate your anxiety
- distract yourself ❌
- avoid it ❌
- fight it ❌
>> be grateful to yourself ✅
III. Solution
1. Remember that every reaction to anxiety is a choice
2. Chose gratitude
excellent
Ancient Stoicism Philosophy is what helped me overcome my Anxiety, fear, control of emotions and many more. I am still working on it. Virtue is not about perfection. One step at a time.
love stoicism! need to devour more and apply it to school too
@@CajunKoiAcademy you bet! Thanks!
Me too!
do you have any material you’d recommend on these philosophies?
Yeah.
It has taken me 60 years to discover this but I frame it a little different. I have suffered from depression off and on for years. After the pandemic hit I decided I needed more help and signed up with a therapist who specializes in trauma. She taught me techniques to sit with uncomfortable feelings and realize they are not going to consume me. I realized most of my depression and anxiety was caused by avoiding certain feelings and thoughts. Feelings and thoughts pass quicker then I expected when I embraced them. I’ve been able to navigate through some life events that would have devastated me in the past without medication and even on my own (not in therapy). I didn’t get to what you call the gratitude part until after I was able to successfully not freak out from avoiding the feelings for a while. Now I call the gratitude part my sweet spot because it has made me enjoy the different stages of life so much better. I’m glad you discovered this much earlier in life and are spreading the word.
I enjoy the channel a lot. I found it because of going back to school as a senior. I’m always looking for ways to help work full time and study.
Avoiding uncomfortable feelings, that resonates a lot with me and coincidentally my first therapist told me that I had to deal with that, I used to avoid going places and meeting people just because leave my house was too hard. Now I kind of force myself because I know that when I get to the place I'm going to enjoy it. Good luck with your studies.
Thanks so much for sharing this story. It’s amazing to see lifelong learners like yourself go through a transformative journey. My hope for all our rookies (and myself) is to find that sweet spot you mention as soon as possible. Cheers🍻
spent a minute crying once you talked about that perspective shift. I have felt so overwhelmed for so long and most of that is down to exam stress and grades and everything that comes with it. I want to continue to be a high achieving person but I know I'll need the correct mechanisms along the way. Thank you
Hey, I hope you know that you always have cajun koi on your side. You are always welcome to vent here if need be.
Also, I am super glad that this video helped you understand what's going on around your stress. Sometimes, all you need is a shift of your thought process, but my question is, what will you do now?
Great post. Anxiety around exams and especially for doctors is a real issue.
I always found regular exercise and staying organised helped as well starting early.
so many students struggle with anxiety, so any advice like exercise is great
Man, i just want to say thank you. Since this year started, I havent got very good grades like I Used to, and because of that I was really struggling with anxiety, the fear of failing in life even tho my father sacrificed a lot to provide everything for me. My older brother graduated hs last year and he's now in college and doing great, whilst me, who was being considered as the better student by our parents, is struggling now with grades just in high school. This really broke me down, I was overthinking all the time about how I could end up and disappoint the people I love. This video really helped me, Thanks.
You got this at your own pace, rookie.
Forcing to go faster will not only burn yourself out but also make you more upset and unhealthy.
Your progress is more important than the timing of it all so always focus on how far you've come. I am proud of you for making it this far!
It requires great courage to sit with your anxiety. Some of us may need extra tools, like counselling or medication. But it is possible, and it is worth it.
Totally agree! We shouldn’t ignore the benefits of asking others for help. But we also have to do our own internal work
Thanks, Matty! As someone who experiences a heavy deal of anxiety, this video and the stories you've shared are much needed! I'll definitely come back to this every now and then. Thank you and your brother again!
I’m currently in my first semester of nursing in college, and I’ve been very anxious and stressed out. I haven’t even had any assignments, tests, or exams yet but I always have anxious thoughts. I am an extreme over-thinker and I overthink almost anything. I always worry if I’m capable of doing well and if I’ll still have time to do the things I enjoy. My family has always been supportive of my decisions so I already have little to no pressure from them. I’m very glad that I found this video during this time. I will definitely try your solutions to eliminate my stress and anxiety, thank you.
That part about suppressing the anxiety hit deep. Sometimes I feel like I am just struggling to stifle the anxiety and push through. But that is not sustainable for long. Thank you so much for this video. ❤
You guys are awesome. I’m not a medical student but I’m a nursing student, and your videos have been tremendously helpful to me too. After all, we’re all part of an interdisciplinary team with the goal of better patient outcomes. We can accomplish this by taking better care of ourselves💕
THANK YOU. I start vet school in a month and tonight I felt anxious and overwhelmed with all what I have to do before school starts. I was looking for a solution and your video appeared. You helped me feel better. I switched the thoughts in my mind and I directly felt relieved from this anxiety feeling in my chest. This video is probably one of the most deep and important that you have done so far. I am sure it will help plenty of others. Thank you!
I really don't have enough words to thank you guys, this is the best channel for students on TH-cam, when I see any of your videos I really enjoy it a lot, you've helped me a lot and thousands of students out there, thanks for everything guys 🌱✨
This helps a lot, I've been dealing with heightened anxiety since a bit more than a year, big changes, finished highschool, drivers exam, passed med entrance exam so I'm now in medschool and am on my 2nd week now. But all of these experiences seemed to be just filled with anxiety and I remember little of it being a nice journey. Even now in just the beginning of uni, I felt so anxious because of the whole new social setting, so much information.
All in all I forgot to be grateful this whole year for all that I have accomplished and that the place I'm at now is exactly where I need to be and enjoy, not just get lost in the future / not be grateful for where I am.
Thank you for the insight about this problem which affects so many 🙏
This is the video that I needed now!!! THANK YOU!
Wow, I related to this SO much. Literally turned my day around after watching. 👏🏻
I was worried about my post-graduate entrance result and this vid popped up. You guys motivate me on so many different levels. Your study tricks helped me out a lot as well. Thank you for making such vids.🖤
You got this! We're here for you!
Listening like podcast with my airpods pro.. way smooth & calm. Thanks for offering few tips to tackle anxiety.
Came back to watch this video because I have been feeling some anxiety this start of master's program. I feel behind cause I have been to college in 2 years and a ton of the math I don't remember. I already understand I listen to that voice that anxious and recognize it. I remind myself that I am not the person I was before. I also use stoic philosophy to remind myself to control what can control. The future is something I can't control so don't get anxious about it.
I wish I could give a million hearts to this video and you two brothers ❤️❤️❤️... You guys have no idea how much you've helped me in the past few weeks...
Watching your videos make me feel calm and make my mind clear. You always make videos with easy to understand explanation and about relatable topics.
I am so grateful that I found your channel.❤️
thank you so much this video helped with my anxiety! :D
Thank you Matty for sharing your experience. I went to see my psychologist at school to help me eliminate anxiety because the pressure was so overwhelmed too handle and I cracked. You are right we cannot eliminate the anxiety, we have to work with it. Here are some tips that my psychologist was giving me : 1) take at least 5 min to breathe on daily basis. 2) Doing activity/sports or simply take a walk for 1hr a day. Meditation also helps. And in my opinion having animals companion does helps. Regardless you failed or succeeded, they still love you the same. I have my two cats and they have been very therapeutic for me.
Thanks bro! You're doing great ❤
You guys are one of the best content creators! 🙏🏻
I really needed this while I prepare for my exam because it's stressing me out.
I really needed this right now. Thank you
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*TO EVERYONE 👇🏻👇🏻*
You're the best, always remember this and don't be pressure or intimidated by the success of others.
Everyone has their own success story but different timing 🤔
Don't compare your journey to those whose journey are different from yours....
Time is on your side and your timing is different from theirs.
Just Keep grinding👏🏾, because am very sure one day, you will also be celebrated.
Have a blessed day
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Thank you for opening up about your experience with us. It must have been heavy to carry. I am also an overthinker and when anxiety strikes it can be hard to see past logical reasoning. Tonight I was worried because I felt like I was falling behind. We have about a month left before our board exams and I don’t know how I’m going to fit every subject. After watching this, it gave me a new perspective and helped me to calm down. To you who’s reading this, your feelings are valid and you’re not alone. It isn’t going to be like this forever. You’re gonna make it. I believe in you! Also, get some rest you deserve it.
Huuuuuugs xoxo
Thank you so much for your help, I was struggling with this all weekend, So I decided to do something about it. So I searched this on TH-cam and your video was the first one to come up ☺😁
Glad the video could help! If you need a listening ear or any sort of support, Cajun koi has got you!
Hope you are doing well now?
This is exactly what I needed,um actually I constantly worry about my future ,like doubting myself every time...
you're not alone
Thank you, man, you helped me out.
you guys are jus the best ..ive been struggling with my anxiety which is leading to overeating and oversleeping , which is not helpful btw. GRATITUDE is what I choose and how to act is a choice..Thank you so much!!!
Thank you for posting this! I’m trying to tackle these issues head on now.
I’ve been struggling for years (I’m in University) with this and bcos of covid and myself (for avoiding and distracting myself) and it’s is getting worse. This school year, 3rd time repeating, I can’t even study bcos I feel so anxious every time I think about school. It’s like my heart is in pain so I avoid studying, thinking etc. I’ll probably need to retake the year again since I didn’t study but I’m also hopeful that this will change and get better. Esp since I used to get good grades, my parents are going to kill me.
My final exams are going to start next week & I have so much to do. That freaks me out, i woke up this morning & then I open my books, but then i sleeped again till now just because i couldn't carry all of this anxiety in my mind, the voices that called me with worst things ever & made me see nightmares.
But I just decided to get up, move my body, wash my face, do some grounding exercises (u can find those in utube they really help) & then I searched for this video, this is actually helpful, I though about all of the efforts I put in while this semester & even in these 4 days, sometimes i really need to someone come & pull me out of my mind, thanks for making this video💕
you guys helped me alot, thanks again!
Glad to hear it!
love you bro great work.
I have been handling my anxiety with PMR and self-affirmations. I'm working on it, though it's hard. I was so worried about my anxiety and this video popped out leaving me with high hopes. I will try my best to sit out there .
Identifying what causes stress and anxiety and dealing with it with a good approach is important.
Thank you for this
thank you so much for this video, i appreciate your sharing a lot❤
I am so glad you liked it! If you ever need anyone to talk to. You can vent here without judgement. I got you!
Third year. Needed this. Thanks.
This felt so relatable i thought i was the only one thank you
Remember guys, you should also be grateful for the effort of watching this video 🧡
Anxiety hit me while I was writing an exam. I probably tanked it. I wasn't bad at the subject, the anxiety made it hard to remember and proofread properly. I did feel some anxiety for the next 2 days but I'm confident I won't fail next time, thank god for re-exams. Or else I'd be screwed lol.
you are certainly not alone. it's been a while so if you received your results, this comment is proof that you tried your best. you're right that there is always another chance to retry/start new if things don't go quite as well as you'd hoped.
i feel that way too about a bio exam i did last week, i'm sure i bombed the test after mulling over certain questions but ultimately i don't decide my results so...there's that i guess. if things do go south i can always choose other routes. it's also funny because i thought i was going to do well based on previous scores.
it can be frustrating and scary to feel like you didn't do as well as you would've liked to, but i think that's just about what everyone experiences.
i'm sure you did great, now that it's over you can always start fresh into a new chapter of your life. hope things go great for you, and if you ever feel like this again just remember to give yourself some grace and come back to this video :)
My friend needs this video. She literally forgets all the stuff she learns becuase of her anxiety. Thanks guys
Same happens with me... The exam anxiety makes me forget everything.. and no matter how much I work hard at the end the exam anxiety take over.. and i mess things up..
please share it! we need to spread the word and normalize feeling anxious and stressed
@@CajunKoiAcademy Definitely!
@@agnigoswami4939 You got this man! Don't give up :)
@@diarrhoeaisperfume3380 thanks bro.. good luck 🤞🍀
Anxiety has made me think that I'm going through the worst part of my life so far. Hopefully your tips would be helpful.
A video about perfectionism would be great!
Not a medical student, but I am a graduate student and I have always been everything you described. I will definitely keep these things in mind and these were some very helpful suggestions. Thank you for this video!
That's alright! It applies to all students and learners of all ages and backgrounds. You are seen and supported here!
thanks for this
Thank you so much ,this really helped I was just about to give up my academics and just leave everything as I felt too much pressure .
Hey there! I am sorry that you feel that way and I am glad our video helped.
You always have this space to talk and vent about your anxieties but don't give up, okay! Keep trying. I am rooting for you!
Thanks for this video!
You don't know how of big of a help it was to me!
I know I'm still going to continue feeling anxious as dealing with negative emotions is a personal journey which may be different depending on individuals.
But this video made me feel at peace and I hope that I would be able to apply some principles and not allow the anxiety from keeping me to achieve my goals in the coming exams.
Hey, rookie! I am so glad you feel that way and I am sending you so many positive vibes!
I hope you are doing alright now. If you ever feel overwhelmed, know that I and Cajun Koi have your back.
@@CajunKoiAcademy This means the world to me!!
CajunKoiAcademcy is honestly my favourite TH-cam channel, and it may seem extreme but I was practically noting down every word you said.
Thanks Matty, you're one of the people I look up most to.
Thanks again ♡
Thank you. This helped me a lot
I am the same right now , thanks for your advice
really good fight club reference, punchin "yourself" in the ear while showing tyler durden and the narrator
Dude, I feel connection with you.
Thanks, you save me with this
I am grateful that I found you
This is a great video I loved it the things you said are so much relatble. Love from India 🙏
Thank you so much!!
Thank you!
just what I need
As someone who has a very important exam next week for 3 days I get very anxious thinking am so late to preparing even tho I worked before a bit . Wish me luck
Me too
Mike, matty always divide your video in parts and label the chapters with the timeline of time elapsed. For easy navigation and reference.
shown this after having a day where my car needed a 160 repair that sparked up to 1500... I've only got 1300 and my first year in college w/out a job... safe to say I really wanted to smoke and drink. I'm drunk rn... scared... but depressed.... angry and alone... overwhelmed by emotions... scared to fail school having to pay for those classes if I fall below a C... all my money saved from my old job... gone... I'm scared...
My anxiety is like a depressed child with no filter or inhibitions. Sometimes just have to accept that it’s gonna make a fuss and you just have to grow accustomed to it, validate that it’s real for you but you don’t have to let it run your life. That just because it’s narrowing its focus to the worst possible outcome, doesn’t mean you have to. And like it or not, it is almost never right about everything. My anxiety has zero credibility. And should never be taken absolutely seriously. (Except for actual real life, could seriously kill my meatsuit threats) I let myself feel, freak out if I have to, for a while and then I try to actually figure it out. What is a real threat? How and why? And what isn’t? Often the real threat ends up being solvable.
Thanks ❤️❤️❤️
Thankyou ❤ so much your content is fire, nice hair tho
After watching this i thought to myself 'past me didn't think i'd make it this far' it's so easy to worry about making it to the next phase in the becoming a doctor journey but i think it's really easy to forget how far we've come as well. Like i'm in my dream university in the second year of a course yr 12 me never thought id get into. Thank you so much :)
bro i literally just missed 2 days of school and im now super anxious of what tests i could have missed in those hours that could possibly affect my grade lmAO now im here trying to comfort myself
Sending you good vibes and support, rookie. 🙏🏼
Gave an economics paper and was anxious about it but this helps
great video
Too relatable 🙂
The fact that I cam watch this video will be surprising according to my "busy schedule"
You're the good-looking brother. You get more stress from school than your other brother.
I was capable of completely turning of anxiety about school for a year or so, but it also made me fail that year in school...
Failing is good part atleast u learned how much school year cost to u so u can help new students
MVP QUOTE! 7:31 😭
Always ended up saying to myself to shift my mind. 'You're already did this before'
Law of Gratitude ❤️❤️❤️
i havent finished watching the video yet but i so can relate to the self experimentation part like that's exactly what i am doing now and i am indescribably anxious atp and need to do sth about it. cannot keep half-assing my way to mediocrity
9:03 I just finished high school, and I couldn't wait for it, it was very difficult, but I entered medical school, I'm under a lot of stress just because I'm at the beginning, the problems are just beginning, I can't even persuade myself to start, because it's so hard right now that it's unimaginably difficult to finish it.
Well I just failed my exams that was scheduled today (3) and I just finished crying and now im here-
Kukrhukookoo!!!!! You are my favourite hen.
thank you for this video im currently anxious abt my admission letter. I got excepted to a college but the college my bf got accepted is really far from it. I applied to a lot of colleges near him but i have to wait before they give me their admission letter. It just sucks I'm on ldr with him and I was hoping to go to the same college or attend college at the same state as him. All i can do right now is wait and it's pretty anxious
Hey, so Im behind on some subjects and i was a good student some years back, but know it seems impossibile to remember everything and i always get so anxious about dissapointing my parents who sacrificed a lot for me and about my future. I REALLY feel like a failure
The only problem on the solution is "don't be impulsive", because I have Adhd, so... pretty hard, I got some meds ( not totally confirmed yet that I need them or have adhd) and they work :)
But without them, study is like putting your hand and working with the most disgusting thing u can imagine (my body just says no... ah and for me is a root body I don't want to stick my hand to it, the feeling of studing is the same as touching a dead rotten body...)
All the rest of the video is related and... what I do to stop my anxiety, hmm, I do basic whelfare (play games, clean the house, SPECIALLY BATH TIME, study and try to sleeep correctly) and sometimes I just embrace being anxious and sad for 30minutes until I get back to myself
Thank you for the video, I'll try your strategy ( I used it before, when I was studing hard to enter college, but somehow it lost itself and I didn't feel like studying enough anymore (because other med vet students seeems to study their life out))
So yeah... thank you very much ;)
TYSM
What a perfect moment for this video to drop for me 🥲
LOVE to hear that, hope you enjoyed it
Can you talk about ashwagandha? As long as you’re a medical student and it helps to overcome stress and anxiety
Like I mean that anxiety gets so bad to the point that it makes me become stupid and affects my thoughts too
Hey i just saw ur video about processed food for 30days and you mentioned something about sodas like that they make your glucose spike higher or something and i was wondering what the difference is between like coca cola and coca cola zero is the zero really healthier and how healthy etc
hello im an 13 yrs old boy who struggling at school. i watched the video and not just understand ur past but way that i can control it. thought the fact that our school system sucks. im here to go on hight school then just finish my school then find a job etc. and die peacifully. ill somehow will gonna end recycling my hight school if i can defeat middle school.
Take each day as it comes. Work on your skills and pla each day so you improve 1% every day. You can do this just take each minute as it comes.
Hi, I have a question. What if anxiety controls someone, like it gets so worse that it becomes a cycle? Like anxiety can last for months, or even a year. Sorry I can't explain what happens when I go through anxiety. I just can't put it to words. Can you please make a video or give tips ? Thanks
Nice vedio bro!! Can you give me tips now because i have my 3 entrance exams in just 4 months and I'm still not well prepared! I have backlogs ! And this stress is getting higher !
Or
Please once make Vedio for students who struggle with lot of backlogs
ahh good luck with prep! it can be very stressful. Yes we are working on a video series about keeping up or catching up when behind
@@CajunKoiAcademy yes thanks so much sir ❣️
I'ma be honest it really depends on the kind of anxiety I have. If it's out of an irrational fear, like that I'ma die outta no where or bc I feel sick, a distraction works very well. When it comes to school things, yeah I just kinda sit with it, I'm the kind of person to be like "fuck I'm so screwed this is so hard" or "I can't do it anymore" and do it anyway. Even at the gym my friend makes fun of me bc I'm like "I CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE" and do it anyway, and she like "but you just did it!" Lmao. I'ma complainer but get it done.
i get scores and i never like them .i can even get a 90 and wonder why i did not get 100.makes me so stressed.
I have maths exam in a week. My normal grades without anxiety is As however as soon as i think about how ill do compare myself to others and just get constant pressure from teachers and parents I just break down mentally especially form where I came from mental health is dismissed and not taken seriously. I try to cheer up and know that I will pass but anxiety is just stronger which makes me have lower grades than expected. I can’t even sleep or eat and I feel like I’m in a hole. And this video did not help any suggestions?
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I like dr Ken
So relatable with gcses coming up
I mean this helped get rid of it, now I just figure how to get rid of procrastination 😅
Real