You don't want to be with an avoidant. It's good that they booted themselves off your life. Consider it as a blessing. Save yourself the heartache and trauma that comes from being with an avoidant.
After dating an avoidant for 6 months, I have decided to walk away. We broke up and got back together every second week and she said she would try, won't happen again but never changed. I'm absolutely fed up with dating her. If I had known what attachment styles were and what avoidant attachment styles were, I would not have started in the first place. Guys, if she ignores your messages not answer the call, or does not return your call in the early stage of the relationship, walk away. People don't change and don't make the same mistakes as I have made.
Never take a women back. She will never respect you and will treat you even worse than before. No matter how much you loved her, if she has hurt you through betrayal then as hard as it is you need to move on. Your confidence that you develop will make you attractive to secure healthy women.Dismissive Avoidant women will try their hardest to hurt you if you live them. It's unreal the levels that they got to. Develop self respect, train yourself in emotional resiliency, heal your own core wounds and then keep moving forward.
These people need to learn to be single. If you wanna be free don’t be with anybody..? Relationships require effort and acountability and responsibility. Why don’t they just swing?
I used to be this kind of guy, the loving and caring kind who would do anything to make his woman happy. The problem is that men are raised by their mothers to love women a certain way and general media also wants us to follow some sort of script. It's all a lie, the rule of thumb is to never get attached to her. In fact, don't get attached to anything other than God because from my experience he is the only one who stays by my side. Very few women are worth loving, it's just not worth it guys.
lol. Why would any man want an ex to miss them? There is a reason they call we call them "Ex". Move on. Most men with a spine won't want an incompatible woman back, their lives are much better without them.
Exactly! Many women are insufferable these days they have no idea who they are and then want to blame their partner for their shortcomings, hence pandemic-level narcissism. Women have also lost most of their nurturing and feminine qualities while trying to compete with men, if I want a man in my life I'll hang out with my male friends because we understand each other without the drama. Women today are extremely conflicted and take their frustrations out on those closest to them, I won't be an emotional whipping post for any women.
Hmm, why would you want her to miss you? Why would you care? Sounds childish, they are your X for a reason, move on and do better with your next choice.
So my wife is in the middle of doing this, anytime I bring up my needs or options that go against her’s, she gets upset. If we argue, or she gets upset because I’m asking what her priorities are, she can’t answer that question, gets upset and shuts down. Arguments, she goes and sleeps in the living room. It’s tough because she’s my wife, I love her, we did get married quickly, but I hate giving up on someone when that’s all she’s experienced her entire life. Her father committed s*icide when she was three, grew up with an older sister and Mom, who’s got an alcohol problem and picks a sister to hate and talk horribly to. I don’t want to just dust my hands, and say “oh well, your loss,” cause I want to be the loyal husband. But she’s asking for space to sort through her emotions, while she’s living in our house we just bought with all her dogs and cats and other pets. I was forced back into my parent’s home twenty minutes away. But the longer she takes this break, or distance to “sort through her feelings,” the less and less I want to go back, because I deserve better, and don’t know if she’ll ever change.
Nope, loyalty only goes so far. Perseverance through trying times with a whole other individual comes under the umbrella of marriage. For the sake of your own sanity man an ultimatum is required. It’s either personal or couples therapy or you walk out the door. Ask yourself this. Do you want to endure this for the rest of your life? Especially when assets become shared when children come into the picture can you really rely on this person?
@@TheXrader123 I ultimately made the decision to walk today. She was gas lighting me saying she wasn’t “avoiding me,” she was just not contacting me, or seeing me for over a week to sort through her feelings. Which am I crazy, not talking or seeing someone and going out of your way to not talk or see someone IS avoiding right? Yeah no, annulment in the process. I’m gonna stay single for awhile
Would it be bad to write a letter to them after 2 months ? I was definitely needy, jealous towards the end. Basically I wrote that I understood and working on myself and leaving the door open and if not I will continue to respect the break up, and hoping them the best.
Plz reply girl tell on call don't call me i am not interested talk to u and already blocked but she call me again after blocking me and said why u don't pic my call yesterday ans tell her problems to me and ask me the solution. What I do want her😐
Im dating an avoidant who is coming out of a 20 yr marriage. I keep asking myself how was this person married for 20yrs she a nightmare must of been such a detached abusive relationship
40 days of No Contact here. I can give a rat's ass if she returns at this point. Her loss, she has come back after bouts of 4 months of No Contact and 47 days of No Contact.
I was with my ex for half a year when she randomly up and ghosted me. I go cold NC from the start. Hear she’s dating someone new a month and a half later. At the 3 month mark of NC while dating her new bf, she starts watching my IG stories even though we don’t follow each other. I messaged her a cordial response and got nothing, so I just blocked her. Any insight from anyone on what’s going on? Kind of feels like her rebound ain’t doing too well
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You don't want to be with an avoidant. It's good that they booted themselves off your life. Consider it as a blessing. Save yourself the heartache and trauma that comes from being with an avoidant.
Of course the issue is you dont recognize the avoidance until its too late.
After dating an avoidant for 6 months, I have decided to walk away. We broke up and got back together every second week and she said she would try, won't happen again but never changed. I'm absolutely fed up with dating her. If I had known what attachment styles were and what avoidant attachment styles were, I would not have started in the first place. Guys, if she ignores your messages not answer the call, or does not return your call in the early stage of the relationship, walk away. People don't change and don't make the same mistakes as I have made.
i dated N AVOIdent sio diccicult when llove amazing but when they cumunicate its hartd
We know what an avoidant is and thry need to hear most of this. We need more on how to deal with them and pull them closer
Regain your Power by being free, and having your own endeavors. That will drive them crazy and submit. Just don’t abuse the tactics
Never take a women back. She will never respect you and will treat you even worse than before. No matter how much you loved her, if she has hurt you through betrayal then as hard as it is you need to move on. Your confidence that you develop will make you attractive to secure healthy women.Dismissive Avoidant women will try their hardest to hurt you if you live them. It's unreal the levels that they got to. Develop self respect, train yourself in emotional resiliency, heal your own core wounds and then keep moving forward.
These people need to learn to be single.
If you wanna be free don’t be with anybody..?
Relationships require effort and acountability and responsibility.
Why don’t they just swing?
I used to be this kind of guy, the loving and caring kind who would do anything to make his woman happy. The problem is that men are raised by their mothers to love women a certain way and general media also wants us to follow some sort of script. It's all a lie, the rule of thumb is to never get attached to her. In fact, don't get attached to anything other than God because from my experience he is the only one who stays by my side. Very few women are worth loving, it's just not worth it guys.
"Don't get attached to anything other than GOD"!! Best statement ever. Have a great day!!!
Thank you for this i really appreciate it! It relives my anxious anxiety 😞🙏
Thank you Christine for this great advices! I like how you bring up your arguments.
You’re real for this Christie thank you.
lol. Why would any man want an ex to miss them? There is a reason they call we call them "Ex". Move on. Most men with a spine won't want an incompatible woman back, their lives are much better without them.
Exactly! Many women are insufferable these days they have no idea who they are and then want to blame their partner for their shortcomings, hence pandemic-level narcissism. Women have also lost most of their nurturing and feminine qualities while trying to compete with men, if I want a man in my life I'll hang out with my male friends because we understand each other without the drama. Women today are extremely conflicted and take their frustrations out on those closest to them, I won't be an emotional whipping post for any women.
This is the best point made. You nailed it!
Hi Christie❤❤
Me and my ex are still in no contact.
It stopped on its own
Hmm, why would you want her to miss you? Why would you care? Sounds childish, they are your X for a reason, move on and do better with your next choice.
I don't think anybody should do that. And I don't think anybody should teach someone else how to do it either.
So my wife is in the middle of doing this, anytime I bring up my needs or options that go against her’s, she gets upset. If we argue, or she gets upset because I’m asking what her priorities are, she can’t answer that question, gets upset and shuts down. Arguments, she goes and sleeps in the living room.
It’s tough because she’s my wife, I love her, we did get married quickly, but I hate giving up on someone when that’s all she’s experienced her entire life. Her father committed s*icide when she was three, grew up with an older sister and Mom, who’s got an alcohol problem and picks a sister to hate and talk horribly to.
I don’t want to just dust my hands, and say “oh well, your loss,” cause I want to be the loyal husband. But she’s asking for space to sort through her emotions, while she’s living in our house we just bought with all her dogs and cats and other pets. I was forced back into my parent’s home twenty minutes away. But the longer she takes this break, or distance to “sort through her feelings,” the less and less I want to go back, because I deserve better, and don’t know if she’ll ever change.
Nope, loyalty only goes so far. Perseverance through trying times with a whole other individual comes under the umbrella of marriage. For the sake of your own sanity man an ultimatum is required. It’s either personal or couples therapy or you walk out the door. Ask yourself this. Do you want to endure this for the rest of your life? Especially when assets become shared when children come into the picture can you really rely on this person?
@@TheXrader123 I ultimately made the decision to walk today. She was gas lighting me saying she wasn’t “avoiding me,” she was just not contacting me, or seeing me for over a week to sort through her feelings. Which am I crazy, not talking or seeing someone and going out of your way to not talk or see someone IS avoiding right? Yeah no, annulment in the process. I’m gonna stay single for awhile
80 days no contact. She’s gone. I’m forgotten.
Liked a post but it felt like a breadcrumb
Nope, no sexless robots needed
Would it be bad to write a letter to them after 2 months ? I was definitely needy, jealous towards the end. Basically
I wrote that I understood and working on myself and leaving the door open and if not I will continue to respect the break up, and hoping them the best.
Please don’t do it. It’ll make it worse
yeah honestly after watching this fuck that LOL ur right i dont want that
My ex can’t make a relationship last more than 5mo. How will she ever end up married (if she doesn’t get therapy)?
Same question😢
Plz reply girl tell on call don't call me i am not interested talk to u and already blocked but she call me again after blocking me and said why u don't pic my call yesterday ans tell her problems to me and ask me the solution. What I do want her😐
Hey, can I edit your short videos? I will definitely improve the current quality. You just have to say yes.
Im dating an avoidant who is coming out of a 20 yr marriage. I keep asking myself how was this person married for 20yrs she a nightmare must of been such a detached abusive relationship
40 days of No Contact here. I can give a rat's ass if she returns at this point. Her loss, she has come back after bouts of 4 months of No Contact and 47 days of No Contact.
I was with my ex for half a year when she randomly up and ghosted me. I go cold NC from the start. Hear she’s dating someone new a month and a half later. At the 3 month mark of NC while dating her new bf, she starts watching my IG stories even though we don’t follow each other. I messaged her a cordial response and got nothing, so I just blocked her. Any insight from anyone on what’s going on?
Kind of feels like her rebound ain’t doing too well
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