What about this? Can we be adults and NOT test each other? Can we just be open and honest adults and communicate what we think? Why are we "testing each other to see how each other operates?" That kills me 😒😒😒. It's a waste of time and is more appropriate for high school kids. As adults, we should get to the point and leave the games behind....
I don't like testing games 🙅🏽♀️ that's why in dating or relationship is good to communicate on the dislikes and likes. it's unhealthy to play games. we both have feelings and emotions, that needs to be respected. 😏 period!
You can respect someone, not play games but understand a man is ALWAYS testing you and checking you out… as you should him. It’s not how it should be, but it’s how it is so be safe out there.
If a man is playing games with you, he doesn't want you. If a man is testing you it's most likely because he wants to see if you really are who you say you are, do you know who you are, are you really who he thinks you are in his mind, are you his dream woman or just another one etc testing isn't bad but if he's testing you based on ignoring you to see how you react, being mean to see how you handle, to lie etc then again he doesn't want you just wants to use you to see what he can and cannot get away with. If he cannot get away with any bad behaviour he will exit if he can get away with everything or most he will use you up, but then you deserve it because you have no self love, no self respect and no boundaries.
Doesn't matter how women are dressed, I dress classy in real life and still attract pigs only looking for one thing. And there are tons of men who post gym and shirtless pics online all the time... Why the double standard? I'm sick of these videos saying men put you in 2 different categories right off the bat. It's like women have to try 10 times harder to attract a man while a man just has to quickly put on deodorant and put a ball cap on to cover their messy hair while being clueless on how to plan a date with a woman and being a real gentleman.
Double standards exist for both sexes. For example: Men opening doors for women, but do women do that for men? Women are not expected to pay for first dates, but men are. Also, I disagree. Men who look messy and not well-dressed don't get women! Women are wising up and want to see men look put together for dates too or for female attention. I know plenty of single men who dress badly and wear baseball caps and don't take care of themselves get rejected by women left and right. And the men who post shirtless pics of themselves on social media are seen as man whores and not taken seriously from women who are looking for serious relationships. In response to men who plan bad dates: I have gone on dates with men who do plan great, fun dates! So I think it depends on how you respond to them and even let them know what sounds fun on a first date, so you can both have a great time. 😊
This video confirms what I have been suspecting all along, most men are shallow and focus on what their eyes see. :-/ Edit: what’s inside is just as important as what’s outside. Why? Because over time, EVERYONE gets wrinkles and eventually dies.
I'm not thrilled about it either. :/ We've all seen it play out in real life, in person. Those are not the ones for us, ultimately. I stopped looking. He'll have to find me one day.
The antidote to making a man fall for you is to always keep in mind, that it's Your movie and you're Always in the Leading Role. Never take him out of Supporting Cast. & It's once he catches you, the thrill is gone. It's like a hunter out in the woods. If a bear layed dead in front of him, the hunter wouldn't take it, he'd set up in another location because the challenge was Gone. Never let a man catch you. Be the mouse and forever he'll be the cat in heat. You win!
@@Travis777 I understand your point of view. I think once most women find someone they like, the focus of their life turns to the partner and the relationship. I think people could keep in the frame they originally were in when they attracted their partner. Most people/women give up their independence, friends, careers, hobbies, etc and make the man everything. There is nothing more unattractive, unsexy and more needy than that. Women can be overly giving creatures and when a woman bends over backwards to drop life and take the title of girlfriend, or wife, their identity is shifted or lost. I think it's a good idea for women to continue being the lead in their own life. And if the guy wants to be the the same in his, that's great, because that's when there will be mutual respect and noone gets taken for granted or advantage of.
God had shown me recently , my relationship , whom claims to be a God follower:(😮 you’ll know him by his fruit. ) yet was not . There was many red flags. I was badly hurt but I knew I’m supposed to be looking for a Jesus per-say . Though I fell, for his deceit, n secrecy I had to choose whom I should follow . 😢 All my days I see women being portrayed as meat ! Men have lost sight to the gift that God made her to be ,and to future generations . It’s the man that makes a woman . Is there any left? that look at the heart n not the outside that fades away over time . The saying “opposite attract “ positive /negative is for the birds. I rather do this life on my own then be with a man that’s deceptive in thoughts n body .
100% agreed! I dress moderately and some men have found me mysterious...I use that word because that's the word that was used. I am an open book which is not always a good idea.
Once he tries to test me, I will reverse it and test him back. He usually fails, almost every time, so that's done. Don't test me if you don't like being tested. Simple. And don't stick around once you've failed the test. Get up and leave.
Personally I Strongly Believe in 'Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks'..People post who they truly are OR are in agreement with.... So on reverse I can tell if I'd get along with a guy from how they present themselves on Social Media OR not.. What they POST and FOLLOW on Social Platforms screams who they truly are... eg, if a guy claims to be a Believer and he's not as open to put it out there maybe coz they wanna 'fit in' with the majority, OR he follows some (provocative persons & pages), then my antenna gets alert! And yes, I know actions do speak louder than words but if other people's opinion worries you about your stand then I wouldn't feel as safe with you! But again people do change, interest change! I did changed!
One of my brothers has always been into provocative looking freely dressed women- he is engaged to his sweetheart now and she fits the bill. The other brother sought out a conservative one and he married her. I’m the sister and I’m conservative for the most part but when it’s time to go out yeah it’s go time want to look hot but don’t want those pics posted it’s a secret 😂
I am going to be myself, men do judge women that dress naked. To each his own but not my style. I believe I don’t have to compete, I believe who is for me he is for me. We must be confident in who we are. Outer appearance does matter, character is huge as well.
My mom tells me if I dressed up more I'd attract a real man 🤦🏻♀️🤣 I just feel comfortable in more flowy, boho-hippie clothing. I am 5'8, 130 lbs and have never liked wearing tight fitting clothing. Soo uncomfortable and i don't like to draw attention on myself like that.
I disagree with your mom. You just have to find a guy who matches your personality. Alot of guys like the bohemian creative types. I do think it's important to dress for certain occasions though. I appreciate a man who knows how to dress up or down for the occasion.
Hahahaha!!! Omg, I bust out laughing with that interlude of open admission to being one of them 🤣 😂 😆 😅. It's the way ya said it, hehe. All jokes aside--I honestly believe in "to each it's own". Guys & gals, for the most part that know what they want will attract & or accept reject based on their own personal standards. It really depends on what they're leading with to be honest. Morality seems to be colored differently by different individuals..."different strokes for different folks". I guess the real question is, what is said man/woman governed by--lust & desires or discipline when seeking? I'd then wonder if said parties are grounded by the teachings of the Creator or self. We're always our best when led by that in which is *Higher* than ourselves 🙃🫠😉❤️. However, that whole moniker when with your spouse "Lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets!?" 😅😂🤣😂 sounds a bit similar lol. Lemme stop lol. Great vid! Thank you for sharing 😁🫡💯💪🏽👏🏽❤️
A lot of men are not concerned with what is fair, only with what they want. They have warped thinking. They think they are entitled to do certain things, but that you don't have the same entitlement. Put yourself first. A man only respects a woman who puts herself & her desires & needs before his anyway - because that's what he would do. Ironic but true. Also, they cheat for the thrill of possibly getting caught n getting a rise out of the one they're supposed to be loyal to kuz it's a game. Stop caring about what he is up to n focus on you. It takes the fun out for him. & It changes everything for you because ur putting love and attention on your self instead of wasting it on him.
- Church (I say this as a Christian woman) - Coffee shops (not Starbucks), but those third-wave coffee shops. You'll meet those serious coffee connoisseurs. Grab a seat with your coffee and see if anyone catches your eye. - Museums or Interactive Museums - At the theatre: Plays or Musicals or Operas - Outdoor festivals or county fairs (there are more men open to approaching you in those type of environments) - Any favorite place you frequent, maybe you'll catch another guy who frequents that place too! I recently went to one of my favorite bakeries and this guy talked to me who was standing in front of me in line.
@@karlad.6506 No prob. But Stephan will most likely not answer any personal questions directly on here. He has never answered any from what I know. However, he posted at the top of the comments section to go directly to his website if you have any personal questions for him to answer.
Women who are provocative online could lose a career opportunity. The interviewer will check it out to check for attitude-positive or negative behavior. On another note, I feel that a woman should dress to be admired; not desired. I wouldn’t want men thinking of doing to me what my husband does solely for me and I solely for him. I don’t have control over what other men think, obviously. But, why dress so there are no hidden treasures? As a woman, I wanted to be mysterious for my husband. I wanted him to enjoy the thrill of finding precious treasures saved only for him. I was worth the wait! We were married nearly 37 years before his passing. Together we went on that first treasure hunt. Those memories have always been precious to me.
Haha, Stephan 😄 says he 👀 at them sexy things 🤣 always honest 💖 I'd say do you, but, personally, there is a time and a place for everything. Be aware of your environment. Also, there is sexy and elegant vs. trashy, and you'll get treated accordingly, unfortunately.
Stephan, I honestly worry for you when you say that it doesn't matter to you if a lady is provocative or not simply coz 'there is more to her' than that... Well, unless you are willing to go through the transformation process with her, then cool.. but I truly doubt if that's what you truly want for a future wife! Iron sharpens iron you know!
Be who you are, if someone meant to be in your life they will be. We are all sexual being, stay true to yourself without wanting validation or demanding from another. Love your self first.
In today's society, being 'multi-faceted', having multiple personality traits - you can be a business woman, a professional, but you can also be sexy, feminine, sensual. You can be a nerd, but still look 'banging'. There are so many amazing successful women who are great at what they do business wise, do workshops, seminars, public speaking to thousands of people around the world and they are incredibly sexy, talk about sex, are very open at the same time. It takes a very secure (certain) man to appreciate a wholesome woman like that. Wearing a bikini/have lingerie pics doesn't make you 'just good for that'. Of course you would have to be an open-minded person and very progressive person / into self development to see that / appreciate that. But of course, some woman will only showcase the provocative side and not tap into the many other amazing parts of themselves (which why we have so many generalisations and assumptions). Having said all of this, I follow a lot of these sort of women on social media and have invested in their programs/courses and have seen their value in all sorts of ways. If you're not exposed or surround yourself with people who have multiple 'rare pairings' - meaning they have opposite rare traits, you're most likely going to judge someone on face value than interested and curious to see/get to know their other sides. Again though, it depends on the woman and her ability to showcase her many sides too.
Being provocative can be good or bad! Depends on the situation and who you represent/serve!🔥 I have respect for my body! I represent GOD not the world! If I choose to be provocative I’ll do that in my home for my husband not for the world to see!💯
You can't say be true to yourself and then say it's more than likely natural to your nature. How about respect either way and why the focus on women how they look? Can we have a video to balance this equation re: how women test men? Because with holding the males gaze sure us one of testing them..to tell if they are purely searching for superficial looks and it sure as hell rules out those you might think are narcissistic
I can appreciate a man who has discretion in that way and prefers to avoid a provocatively dressed woman or a sultry profile for example. How you choose to present yourself in public says a lot about you.
OK so of men are so quick to judge online, I will judge men who don't even make an effort to put proper pics up online, they put their work uniform or don't even look clean or shave to look presentable... I will judge him and think of he looks dirty, if he can't take care of himself and look clean, he will be too lazy to clean the house. 😂😂
Do man need to test their woman when their woman already telling him the truth? Just like when his girlfriend told him that she's at work and when she's home and telling him when she's going out party by herself and showing him everything what she's doing? long distance relationship is really hard specially when man will never believe when their woman telling the truth and keep on believing to someone else rumors 😔🙄
I agree with the phrase "test then invest," (credit to love coach SH) as a method to protect yourself from investing too much too soon and give your power away!
What if a woman doesn't have a social media account....like me. I don't have a Facebook or rather, my Facebook hasn't been used since early 2020. I deleted all friends. My IG have no pictures and I only opened it to go through reels or support businesses other than that, men have felt I was lying or hiding something because they just can't fathom someone not being engaged on social media. I don't have a snapchat, a Twitter account or any other new techno apps to just randomly put videos and pictures on. Im a very private and discreet person and dont feel the need to post every little part of my life online. My 34 yr old cousin came to our house last week and what does she do? We're in my private bedroom with my bonnet on, Whips out her phone and put us all on snapchat, panning my room. I was thoroughly hot! No permission asked. So I many a men have recently started ghosting me because I'm boring I guess 🤷🏾♀️
You don't sound boring, you sound interesting. I also don't do any social media and I know of certain guys that also don't. I'm atypical/non conformist woman...very creative, and social media is boring to me. There will be men who truly appreciate that about you.
Even with a classy profile, I get nasty messages from old men looking for a gold digger and also younger horn dogs🤮You may get a lot of attention posting sexy photos but the attention will be not be what you want if you’re looking for something serious. Share your sexy fun photos with men you’re interested in! Don’t post them to your profile. Although it took me two years to find a quality man online I still don’t regret keeping it clean and classy. Unfortunately it didn’t work out but it was one of my best relationships.
@@Alimck333 Most women get jealous of the attention these other women get on social media...and a lot feel the need to change...or question those dudes thar give them attention....like why yall not giving me attention too. And most of those men, I'm sure they wouldn't really want attention to if they knew, but Whatever
@@jayc5756 agree some women get jealous but some men can objectify women and that can speak for itself. Mature women realise they don't have to be an ig model and also that it is totally fine if they choose to present in a way that feels right for them (we all have choice). However, judgements on either will come and this can't be avoided.. media, social media has been founded upon objectification and the "male gaze".. look into the theory, its an interesting read and says alot for conditioning of both men and women
@@jayc5756 if women are getting jealous of attention that other women are getting on social media, then that's their own self esteem issue that was probably already there before social media blew up
It takes a level of arrogance to believe that you can test someone. The problem with testing a person is that you don’t know what motivated their actions. It’s like grading a math test that only has the equation and answer. You see their answer but can’t see the work that led to the right or wrong answer. Since only God knows the motives and intentions of the heart, it’s arrogant to think that you can test that person and then rightly judge their responses.
That's why most blacks aren't married now lol. People test others when they should test themselves. The same thing your testing her about is probably the same thing she's not interested in a man for🤷🏾♀️ we look for the exact same thing in a sense.
And the fact that they fall for looks pretty much only says to me that they really aren’t worth the trouble and I love men not to mention controlling men soooo bad so many like that women do have brains too
I'm a Mormon and that's why I hardly ever take full body picks. Michael Baisden were upset with me because I didn't pose with a full body pic. And I felt really offended about it. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches us that we should cover our bodies and that we practice chastity and are taught chastity. Now I know I talk sexually sometimes but I still respect orders given by the Bishop of the church. Other men are not allowed to come to our house alone unless our husbands are present. They send the sisters to my house, not the elders which are brothers in Christ. Men are not welcome in the homes of single Mormon women at all.
I agree with this... A lady in the streets and freak in the bedroom. No need for everyone in the WWW to see all of you. Some parts of your life, character and personality, especially the sexual side of you, should be reserved for that special person.
the whole ‘who men will / won’t wife up’ stuff is all bs in my respectful opinion. Men seem to wife whoever they fall in love with no matter what you looking like. There are Instagram models who are married and there are conservative women who are married.
This is auction block trash why as women are we putting ourselves on display like things online. We should always be true to ourselves. Bottom line men will judge you no matter what you do. If they are not searching with their hearts you should be ok not passing their BS test. IJS
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What about this? Can we be adults and NOT test each other? Can we just be open and honest adults and communicate what we think? Why are we "testing each other to see how each other operates?" That kills me 😒😒😒. It's a waste of time and is more appropriate for high school kids. As adults, we should get to the point and leave the games behind....
Right!!
Very much AGREED✨
You said my mind
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We all need to choose what’s best for us. Being analytical and observe the other is important for both women and men. 1:04
I don't like testing games 🙅🏽♀️ that's why in dating or relationship is good to communicate on the dislikes and likes. it's unhealthy to play games. we both have feelings and emotions, that needs to be respected. 😏 period!
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Testing is necessary at times, to see who a person is at their cire
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You can respect someone, not play games but understand a man is ALWAYS testing you and checking you out… as you should him. It’s not how it should be, but it’s how it is so be safe out there.
If a man is playing games with you, he doesn't want you. If a man is testing you it's most likely because he wants to see if you really are who you say you are, do you know who you are, are you really who he thinks you are in his mind, are you his dream woman or just another one etc testing isn't bad but if he's testing you based on ignoring you to see how you react, being mean to see how you handle, to lie etc then again he doesn't want you just wants to use you to see what he can and cannot get away with. If he cannot get away with any bad behaviour he will exit if he can get away with everything or most he will use you up, but then you deserve it because you have no self love, no self respect and no boundaries.
Doesn't matter how women are dressed, I dress classy in real life and still attract pigs only looking for one thing. And there are tons of men who post gym and shirtless pics online all the time... Why the double standard? I'm sick of these videos saying men put you in 2 different categories right off the bat. It's like women have to try 10 times harder to attract a man while a man just has to quickly put on deodorant and put a ball cap on to cover their messy hair while being clueless on how to plan a date with a woman and being a real gentleman.
Double standards exist for both sexes. For example: Men opening doors for women, but do women do that for men? Women are not expected to pay for first dates, but men are.
Also, I disagree. Men who look messy and not well-dressed don't get women! Women are wising up and want to see men look put together for dates too or for female attention. I know plenty of single men who dress badly and wear baseball caps and don't take care of themselves get rejected by women left and right. And the men who post shirtless pics of themselves on social media are seen as man whores and not taken seriously from women who are looking for serious relationships.
In response to men who plan bad dates: I have gone on dates with men who do plan great, fun dates! So I think it depends on how you respond to them and even let them know what sounds fun on a first date, so you can both have a great time. 😊
This video confirms what I have been suspecting all along, most men are shallow and focus on what their eyes see. :-/ Edit: what’s inside is just as important as what’s outside. Why? Because over time, EVERYONE gets wrinkles and eventually dies.
I'm not thrilled about it either. :/ We've all seen it play out in real life, in person. Those are not the ones for us, ultimately. I stopped looking. He'll have to find me one day.
The antidote to making a man fall for you is to always keep in mind, that it's Your movie and you're Always in the Leading Role. Never take him out of Supporting Cast. & It's once he catches you, the thrill is gone. It's like a hunter out in the woods. If a bear layed dead in front of him, the hunter wouldn't take it, he'd set up in another location because the challenge was Gone. Never let a man catch you. Be the mouse and forever he'll be the cat in heat. You win!
@@Travis777 I understand your point of view. I think once most women find someone they like, the focus of their life turns to the partner and the relationship. I think people could keep in the frame they originally were in when they attracted their partner. Most people/women give up their independence, friends, careers, hobbies, etc and make the man everything. There is nothing more unattractive, unsexy and more needy than that. Women can be overly giving creatures and when a woman bends over backwards to drop life and take the title of girlfriend, or wife, their identity is shifted or lost. I think it's a good idea for women to continue being the lead in their own life. And if the guy wants to be the the same in his, that's great, because that's when there will be mutual respect and noone gets taken for granted or advantage of.
God had shown me recently , my relationship , whom claims to be a God follower:(😮 you’ll know him by his fruit. ) yet was not . There was many red flags. I was badly hurt but I knew I’m supposed to be looking for a Jesus per-say .
Though I fell, for his deceit, n secrecy I had to choose whom I should follow . 😢
All my days I see women being portrayed as meat ! Men have lost sight to the gift that God made her to be ,and to future generations .
It’s the man that makes a woman .
Is there any left? that look at the heart n not the outside that fades away over time . The saying “opposite attract “ positive /negative is for the birds.
I rather do this life on my own then be with a man that’s deceptive in thoughts n body .
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When he said he's one of those guys I almost choked on my taquito. 🤣🤣 I mean how real can you be? Luv it very transparent
💯 agree ❤️. A woman doesn't have to dress provocative to look sexy.
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Exactly 👌👌👌
100% agreed! I dress moderately and some men have found me mysterious...I use that word because that's the word that was used. I am an open book which is not always a good idea.
Once he tries to test me, I will reverse it and test him back. He usually fails, almost every time, so that's done.
Don't test me if you don't like being tested. Simple.
And don't stick around once you've failed the test. Get up and leave.
We are making the process of getting to know each other too complicated.
I agree with being true to who you are and having a balance! ✨❤️😌
Yes indeed✨
Personally I Strongly Believe in 'Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks'..People post who they truly are OR are in agreement with....
So on reverse I can tell if I'd get along with a guy from how they present themselves on Social Media OR not..
What they POST and FOLLOW on Social Platforms screams who they truly are... eg, if a guy claims to be a Believer and he's not as open to put it out there maybe coz they wanna 'fit in' with the majority, OR he follows some (provocative persons & pages), then my antenna gets alert!
And yes, I know actions do speak louder than words but if other people's opinion worries you about your stand then I wouldn't feel as safe with you!
But again people do change, interest change! I did changed!
I dated a guy for a few months, and then once I saw his social media, it was all porn stars, and only fans…... a complete turn off.
Ikr!! Glad you found out sooner!
One of my brothers has always been into provocative looking freely dressed women- he is engaged to his sweetheart now and she fits the bill. The other brother sought out a conservative one and he married her. I’m the sister and I’m conservative for the most part but when it’s time to go out yeah it’s go time want to look hot but don’t want those pics posted it’s a secret 😂
I totally agree with you. Balance is key
I am going to be myself, men do judge women that dress naked. To each his own but not my style. I believe I don’t have to compete, I believe who is for me he is for me. We must be confident in who we are. Outer appearance does matter, character is huge as well.
My mom tells me if I dressed up more I'd attract a real man 🤦🏻♀️🤣 I just feel comfortable in more flowy, boho-hippie clothing. I am 5'8, 130 lbs and have never liked wearing tight fitting clothing. Soo uncomfortable and i don't like to draw attention on myself like that.
I agree
I disagree with your mom. You just have to find a guy who matches your personality. Alot of guys like the bohemian creative types. I do think it's important to dress for certain occasions though. I appreciate a man who knows how to dress up or down for the occasion.
What I heard from this video was, you need to respect the company your in and know yourself, how, when and what to wear and how you behave 😊
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Hahahaha!!! Omg, I bust out laughing with that interlude of open admission to being one of them 🤣 😂 😆 😅. It's the way ya said it, hehe. All jokes aside--I honestly believe in "to each it's own". Guys & gals, for the most part that know what they want will attract & or accept reject based on their own personal standards. It really depends on what they're leading with to be honest. Morality seems to be colored differently by different individuals..."different strokes for different folks". I guess the real question is, what is said man/woman governed by--lust & desires or discipline when seeking? I'd then wonder if said parties are grounded by the teachings of the Creator or self. We're always our best when led by that in which is *Higher* than ourselves 🙃🫠😉❤️.
However, that whole moniker when with your spouse "Lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets!?" 😅😂🤣😂 sounds a bit similar lol. Lemme stop lol. Great vid! Thank you for sharing 😁🫡💯💪🏽👏🏽❤️
But what if you are faithful ,loyal, and honest and he cheats how can he judge you then
A lot of men are not concerned with what is fair, only with what they want. They have warped thinking. They think they are entitled to do certain things, but that you don't have the same entitlement. Put yourself first. A man only respects a woman who puts herself & her desires & needs before his anyway - because that's what he would do. Ironic but true. Also, they cheat for the thrill of possibly getting caught n getting a rise out of the one they're supposed to be loyal to kuz it's a game. Stop caring about what he is up to n focus on you. It takes the fun out for him. & It changes everything for you because ur putting love and attention on your self instead of wasting it on him.
Stay true to yourself!
Can you talk about places we can run into men that foster casual/organic conversation? Por favor 😢😢
- Church (I say this as a Christian woman)
- Coffee shops (not Starbucks), but those third-wave coffee shops. You'll meet those serious coffee connoisseurs. Grab a seat with your coffee and see if anyone catches your eye.
- Museums or Interactive Museums
- At the theatre: Plays or Musicals or Operas
- Outdoor festivals or county fairs (there are more men open to approaching you in those type of environments)
- Any favorite place you frequent, maybe you'll catch another guy who frequents that place too! I recently went to one of my favorite bakeries and this guy talked to me who was standing in front of me in line.
@@magnificalux no offense, but the question was for Stephan.
@@karlad.6506 No prob. But Stephan will most likely not answer any personal questions directly on here. He has never answered any from what I know. However, he posted at the top of the comments section to go directly to his website if you have any personal questions for him to answer.
God bless you Bro. Stephan! Thank you!
Women who are provocative online could lose a career opportunity. The interviewer will check it out to check for attitude-positive or negative behavior.
On another note, I feel that a woman should dress to be admired; not desired. I wouldn’t want men thinking of doing to me what my husband does solely for me and I solely for him. I don’t have control over what other men think, obviously. But, why dress so there are no hidden treasures? As a woman, I wanted to be mysterious for my husband. I wanted him to enjoy the thrill of finding precious treasures saved only for him. I was worth the wait! We were married nearly 37 years before his passing. Together we went on that first treasure hunt. Those memories have always been precious to me.
Your laughter is so contagious😄😄😅
Haha, Stephan 😄 says he 👀 at them sexy things 🤣 always honest 💖
I'd say do you, but, personally, there is a time and a place for everything. Be aware of your environment. Also, there is sexy and elegant vs. trashy, and you'll get treated accordingly, unfortunately.
Stephan, I honestly worry for you when you say that it doesn't matter to you if a lady is provocative or not simply coz 'there is more to her' than that... Well, unless you are willing to go through the transformation process with her, then cool.. but I truly doubt if that's what you truly want for a future wife!
Iron sharpens iron you know!
As the grown man that he is I’m sure he knows what he wants. Just because you don’t agree with it doesn’t mean his mind will change.
No judgement whatsoever! It all come from a good place coz I care and ofcos everyone is obliged to their own decisions in life!
Be who you are, if someone meant to be in your life they will be. We are all sexual being, stay true to yourself without wanting validation or demanding from another. Love your self first.
In today's society, being 'multi-faceted', having multiple personality traits - you can be a business woman, a professional, but you can also be sexy, feminine, sensual. You can be a nerd, but still look 'banging'. There are so many amazing successful women who are great at what they do business wise, do workshops, seminars, public speaking to thousands of people around the world and they are incredibly sexy, talk about sex, are very open at the same time. It takes a very secure (certain) man to appreciate a wholesome woman like that. Wearing a bikini/have lingerie pics doesn't make you 'just good for that'. Of course you would have to be an open-minded person and very progressive person / into self development to see that / appreciate that. But of course, some woman will only showcase the provocative side and not tap into the many other amazing parts of themselves (which why we have so many generalisations and assumptions). Having said all of this, I follow a lot of these sort of women on social media and have invested in their programs/courses and have seen their value in all sorts of ways. If you're not exposed or surround yourself with people who have multiple 'rare pairings' - meaning they have opposite rare traits, you're most likely going to judge someone on face value than interested and curious to see/get to know their other sides. Again though, it depends on the woman and her ability to showcase her many sides too.
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Being provocative can be good or bad! Depends on the situation and who you represent/serve!🔥
I have respect for my body! I represent GOD not the world! If I choose to be provocative I’ll do that in my home for my husband not for the world to see!💯
AMEN MY SISTER....its OK to be provocative at home for your husband and husband alone.
@@oneilfarquharson-ifearthel3253, Yes Sir!
You can't say be true to yourself and then say it's more than likely natural to your nature. How about respect either way and why the focus on women how they look? Can we have a video to balance this equation re: how women test men? Because with holding the males gaze sure us one of testing them..to tell if they are purely searching for superficial looks and it sure as hell rules out those you might think are narcissistic
Well said my G!
Thanks 🙏🏽
Agree brother.
I can appreciate a man who has discretion in that way and prefers to avoid a provocatively dressed woman or a sultry profile for example. How you choose to present yourself in public says a lot about you.
Lmfao omg ily hahahah you always crack me up 😂 every video u never cease ta make me LOL😅
You daa bomb Stephan😎😋😆
I think you can immediately know if someone it's for you, but the problem is it the right time for you
OK so of men are so quick to judge online, I will judge men who don't even make an effort to put proper pics up online, they put their work uniform or don't even look clean or shave to look presentable... I will judge him and think of he looks dirty, if he can't take care of himself and look clean, he will be too lazy to clean the house. 😂😂
I agree 💯
Do man need to test their woman when their woman already telling him the truth? Just like when his girlfriend told him that she's at work and when she's home and telling him when she's going out party by herself and showing him everything what she's doing? long distance relationship is really hard specially when man will never believe when their woman telling the truth and keep on believing to someone else rumors 😔🙄
Just do you, we ain't the same
Wow. Those were some really good points there, Stephan. Hmm... :)
You look handsome stephan 😍😍
The comments explain Alot
I agree with the phrase "test then invest," (credit to love coach SH) as a method to protect yourself from investing too much too soon and give your power away!
Axed - if a man axed me, I am sure it would be quite scary!
What if a woman doesn't have a social media account....like me. I don't have a Facebook or rather, my Facebook hasn't been used since early 2020. I deleted all friends. My IG have no pictures and I only opened it to go through reels or support businesses other than that, men have felt I was lying or hiding something because they just can't fathom someone not being engaged on social media. I don't have a snapchat, a Twitter account or any other new techno apps to just randomly put videos and pictures on. Im a very private and discreet person and dont feel the need to post every little part of my life online. My 34 yr old cousin came to our house last week and what does she do? We're in my private bedroom with my bonnet on, Whips out her phone and put us all on snapchat, panning my room. I was thoroughly hot! No permission asked. So I many a men have recently started ghosting me because I'm boring I guess 🤷🏾♀️
Men were meeting and dating women way before social media. Since the beginning of time 🙂 So you're fine.
U need a man like u. My sistsr has no socia media, nor her husband
You don't sound boring, you sound interesting. I also don't do any social media and I know of certain guys that also don't. I'm atypical/non conformist woman...very creative, and social media is boring to me. There will be men who truly appreciate that about you.
Merry Christmas!
Man test is a mind game...my husband never play such games where u have to test woman
I rather be conservative.
Even with a classy profile, I get nasty messages from old men looking for a gold digger and also younger horn dogs🤮You may get a lot of attention posting sexy photos but the attention will be not be what you want if you’re looking for something serious. Share your sexy fun photos with men you’re interested in! Don’t post them to your profile. Although it took me two years to find a quality man online I still don’t regret keeping it clean and classy. Unfortunately it didn’t work out but it was one of my best relationships.
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Great video
Women need to be true to themselves and not flaunt yourself for attention. Be comfortable in your skin.
I don’t need to be tested by no man.
What’s wrong with just communicating and getting to know one another?! Some women are just versatile as I am,.
I wonder why he's not married?
Being secure is sexy 👌🏾 both ways .
Cause women Always looking for attention unfortunately. SMH! 🤦♂️
No, not all because we are testing men too
@@Alimck333 Most women get jealous of the attention these other women get on social media...and a lot feel the need to change...or question those dudes thar give them attention....like why yall not giving me attention too. And most of those men, I'm sure they wouldn't really want attention to if they knew, but Whatever
@@jayc5756 agree some women get jealous but some men can objectify women and that can speak for itself. Mature women realise they don't have to be an ig model and also that it is totally fine if they choose to present in a way that feels right for them (we all have choice). However, judgements on either will come and this can't be avoided.. media, social media has been founded upon objectification and the "male gaze".. look into the theory, its an interesting read and says alot for conditioning of both men and women
@@jayc5756 if women are getting jealous of attention that other women are getting on social media, then that's their own self esteem issue that was probably already there before social media blew up
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It takes a level of arrogance to believe that you can test someone. The problem with testing a person is that you don’t know what motivated their actions. It’s like grading a math test that only has the equation and answer. You see their answer but can’t see the work that led to the right or wrong answer. Since only God knows the motives and intentions of the heart, it’s arrogant to think that you can test that person and then rightly judge their responses.
People NEED TO ACT like an adult & COMMUNICATE WITH EACH OTHER "exactly" WHAT THEY NEED & ARE LOOKING FOR. 🤔🤔🤔
Move over Derrick Jackson...that no good playa who left his wife fir an IG Model
But she not a keeper..Lady in the street.
Freak in the sheets.
Testing is not big D energy. Don’t care if you meet online, just say what’s up!!
That's why most blacks aren't married now lol. People test others when they should test themselves. The same thing your testing her about is probably the same thing she's not interested in a man for🤷🏾♀️ we look for the exact same thing in a sense.
And the fact that they fall for looks pretty much only says to me that they really aren’t worth the trouble and I love men not to mention controlling men soooo bad so many like that women do have brains too
I wish I knew this years ago
I'm a Mormon and that's why I hardly ever take full body picks. Michael Baisden were upset with me because I didn't pose with a full body pic. And I felt really offended about it. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches us that we should cover our bodies and that we practice chastity and are taught chastity. Now I know I talk sexually sometimes but I still respect orders given by the Bishop of the church. Other men are not allowed to come to our house alone unless our husbands are present. They send the sisters to my house, not the elders which are brothers in Christ. Men are not welcome in the homes of single Mormon women at all.
I agree with this... A lady in the streets and freak in the bedroom. No need for everyone in the WWW to see all of you. Some parts of your life, character and personality, especially the sexual side of you, should be reserved for that special person.
I think it’s a thin line. Personality wise I think I can be provocative but no one would ever know. I like to dress tastefully sexy
Can a guy pretend not to be financially okay in a new relationship but he is okay financially?
Damn men...lol
Men are hilarious and to add insult you’re one of those guys. Men and their game playing
I like dressing sexy because I like the way I look in it. Sometimes its good to look snatched.
I would help to let us be
U'd look better if u beard was shorter...
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the whole ‘who men will / won’t wife up’ stuff is all bs in my respectful opinion. Men seem to wife whoever they fall in love with no matter what you looking like. There are Instagram models who are married and there are conservative women who are married.
Come on - you contradict yourself man now
Provocative provately with my man.
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I don’t get the men testing women. Honestly Stephen, you are always great but this video? No!
This is auction block trash why as women are we putting ourselves on display like things online. We should always be true to ourselves. Bottom line men will judge you no matter what you do. If they are not searching with their hearts you should be ok not passing their BS test. IJS
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What planet are you buddy. Your so wrong
I'm done with games and that includes "testing".
Have you seen the fuxxing men out here dude, please stop, broke down, canes, medications, no retirement, no vehicle, no insurance NOTHING man nothing