REASONS WOMEN END UP WITH THE WRONG MEN

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  • @leonrwalkerjr
    @leonrwalkerjr ปีที่แล้ว +74

    They say…”opposites attract” but we never talk about how…”opposites SUBTRACT”…some people just don’t fit in your life and world!

  • @octaviamoore5194
    @octaviamoore5194 ปีที่แล้ว +373

    When i met my husband, i was not physically attracted to him. It was something about him that was off, and i couldn't put my finger on it. I ignored all the signs of a narcissist. Ladies trust your instincts/ discernment. Being married to the wrong person is a nightmare.

    • @10ille99
      @10ille99 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      AND ISSSSSS

    • @kimberly0717
      @kimberly0717 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I understand FULLY!!!! About the attraction, I totally understand that some women AND men are vain. However, there’s the “I’m not very attracted to him” and then the “Oh no, I’m NOT attracted to him”. I’ve dated guys who I wasn’t immediately attracted to, but then I liked them. I’ve dated guys who had me smiling on the train thinking about him. They BOTH did something wrong unfortunately. I’m definitely more open now, but I have to be able to look at you but it’s not the sole importance. I’m looking at inner qualities and character.

    • @nizanayasha7975
      @nizanayasha7975 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I was married to the wrong person for 6 years. I know exactly what you are going through 😢

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Going through this now. Being married to the wrong person is like living in HELL

    • @10ille99
      @10ille99 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@missmarymack3457 Chile, Purgatory. The abyss. The sunken place.

  • @jovon7802
    @jovon7802 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I'm tired of family assuming something is wrong bc I'm not married and never been married at 45. I didn't settle for a reason. I was told to try marriage out one time. I'm thinking, that's the problem we're having in the world today. You shouldn't get married for fun and giggles....

    • @BritTellstheTruth
      @BritTellstheTruth ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hear that!! No settling here, I’m 35, never been married & zero kids!! Praise God. 🎉❤😊

    • @Reclusive_Butterfly
      @Reclusive_Butterfly ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Contrary to belief, Never married is better than being divorced because you married the wrong person. Celebrities make marriage a game. Divorce isn't fun, and mine was uncontested, simple divorce. Im 36, no kids (thankfully in this case), divorced finalized a few months ago from an Abusive, sadistic, narcissist. I was 34 when we married.

    • @lovelymusicnow4404
      @lovelymusicnow4404 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lady your old AF almost 50 years old lol - just buy a dog and live your life in peace. Literally texted a whole paragraph omg

  • @cassandragrayes6149
    @cassandragrayes6149 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    I can surely attest to this. I’m 32 and feel like I wasted 2.5 years of my life trying to change someone and hanging on to their words and not ACTIONS. Ladies, make decisions based on a man’s actions and how they make you feel. Behaviors and their energy does not lie.

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank God it wasn't longer than that. And no children to bond you with him. Prayers for you to have a blessed life going forward ❤

    • @cassandragrayes6149
      @cassandragrayes6149 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@onevenus6040 thank you so much!

    • @moniquetheo4192
      @moniquetheo4192 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I second that👍

  • @joanfolds476
    @joanfolds476 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    This message is needed for this day and age. I am 66, no kids, no husband. I am retired (working part-time) and preparing to return to school this month for my Master's Degree in Developmental Psychology. This message has blessed me!

    • @rosariolopez5078
      @rosariolopez5078 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      God bless you sister ❤What an inspiration 🙌🏼

    • @lamees6911
      @lamees6911 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dear Joan, bless you, darling! Wow! It is rare to find a soulful person with that type of drive, discipline, and determination. I assure you your Masters will be a rough challenging ride, but it is in those challenges and obstacles that you become the woman God intended you to be, and you will shine brighter than any star. Knowledge and grace in itself brings service and wonder. It's not about what you know, it's about how you operate in the world. Keep moving fwd, don't ever give up. Even if it's one skill you're good at, do it exceedingly well. You will leave imprints of love and service to all persons you encounter. Until then, have a fantastic night. Much love and hugs fr Australia, L x

    • @ms.j6989
      @ms.j6989 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations Joan! What a testimony! I am 56 in graduate school for the past 2 years after realizing I was married to the wrong man. I work full time as well, but God has equipped me to do this! He will see you through and you will be amazed how quickly time will fly. These days I am finding that age is no longer a factor for us to do such a rigorous program. My professors are blown away by how students in our age bracket are killing it! Psychology is such a healing profession both for the student and your future clients! I wish you all the best as you begin this process. I have begun clinicals this semester, and all the theory is becoming real! Praise the Lord and thank you for sharing.

    • @ericawhitfield7876
      @ericawhitfield7876 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ms.j6989Praise Jesus for you too❣️❣️🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @calico-kat-mom6204
      @calico-kat-mom6204 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      well since this was a year ago maybe you're 67 and I'm 67 as well I just started listening to this message August 8th 2024 so I'm just listening my husband divorced me divorce was final in 2023 and I would want to be married again I do have some plans that I want to do some other things but I'm going to be doing that and my purpose is still on the table but I do want to get married again and I want to be a wife

  • @kokoalaska9888
    @kokoalaska9888 ปีที่แล้ว +308

    I just turned 35 today. No kids , No husband, a registered nurse, dropped 100lbs this year , and still finding myself. This message resonates in so many ways. Thank you for this birthday gift. I wrote down notes as reminders to not settle just because I am now 35 and single.😇 Bless you pastor!!!

    • @lanitaykelley8838
      @lanitaykelley8838 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      HAPPY BIRTHDAY Koko

    • @cutedimplelady24
      @cutedimplelady24 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Congrats and Happy belated birthday!
      What is the secret to losing 100 lbs??

    • @ajeedapoetreincarnatedquee1431
      @ajeedapoetreincarnatedquee1431 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You betta werk Queen! Happy birthday & May God bless you with many, many more!🎉🎉🎉

    • @leahv.2537
      @leahv.2537 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Happy birthday, keep those standards high and never lower them for anyone! I believe that God will bless you with the man that's right for you. 🎉☺️

    • @kokoalaska9888
      @kokoalaska9888 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@cutedimplelady24 Portion control, god, and discipline…and I did get the sleeve surgery so that helps😁

  • @tarahbruno3793
    @tarahbruno3793 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I almost married wrong just to say I’m married and have a dual income and I also felt like an old maid at 32 because I wasn’t married . I’m so glad the Lord spoke through my sister who spoke sense into me.I’m single now and trusting God to steer me to the man he truly has For me.

  • @yemedemure414
    @yemedemure414 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    When Pastor says Bae!! He not playing with us 😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

    • @sisterkamilah4373
      @sisterkamilah4373 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      😂😂😂

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love when he says that!!! He’s hilarious 😂

    • @elizakatebingham
      @elizakatebingham 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Amen to that 😂😈🤌

  • @elainesorrell2142
    @elainesorrell2142 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I'm 59 and I haven't been with any one in years , but I don't fret over it , all things in God's time

    • @leonablack3516
      @leonablack3516 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Better to be alone sister than be with the wrong man .
      Peace be with you.

    • @FollowJesus241
      @FollowJesus241 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is great! Just wait on God and if you are meant to marry someday God will bless you with a good man when you least expect it. Put him first and work on you and draw closer to God. God bless you!❤

    • @theonly1258
      @theonly1258 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me exactly, being more intentional and God centered…..following my discernment ..blessings to you

  • @ericawhitfield7876
    @ericawhitfield7876 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Oops, I settled the first time because of age. Don’t get me wrong I did love him, but he wasn’t the one! 36 years old isn’t old. 😂😂. Ladies, I’m 43 years old and divorced now. The next time I get married my husband will be filled with the Holy Spirit and a man that has a prayer life.Who’s with me Sisters?!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @bridgettetraveler658
    @bridgettetraveler658 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Many yrs ago I allowed some very UNGODLY ppl to talk me out of a great relationship & go back to a devil who treated me horribly. I thank GOD everyday I woke up & I realized he wasn't right for me. Now I'm glad I have a good man. We have to know what we want & what we don't want.

  • @juanderuano8969
    @juanderuano8969 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    Fantastic video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times I cant stop thinking about her, I am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but I just cant, I love her so much, I don't know why I am bring this here for, I cant stop thinking about her..

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 ปีที่แล้ว

      wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?.

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Scammer

    • @onevenus6040
      @onevenus6040 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @jackwhittaker215 scammer

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@onevenus6040 yes, because its someone like you that did that too me, i am better now and i have moved on, so go comment somewhere else

  • @allanmartinez7535
    @allanmartinez7535 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @allanmartinez7535
      @allanmartinez7535 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

    • @allanmartinez7535
      @allanmartinez7535 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

  • @amiralove3539
    @amiralove3539 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Anybody else automatically like the video before watching bc you know it’s gonna be top tier?!?!

    • @yemedemure414
      @yemedemure414 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      All the time!! ❤

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🎉🥰

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No question

    • @MsGigi27
      @MsGigi27 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Always with Bishop Blakes! 😅

    • @Reclusive_Butterfly
      @Reclusive_Butterfly ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, I don't know how I missed this one

  • @travelwithsouthernchick5112
    @travelwithsouthernchick5112 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Only God can change a man!!!! Been there and almost lost myself! Pray for a partner!!!

    • @soulsistar2844
      @soulsistar2844 ปีที่แล้ว

      Only a Male can change into a Man, if he wants to. Woman are GOD. Hopefully yall will become " The High Powered Podcast " Members, yet it's too deep for some to comprehend. Get with the Value, Queens 👑 🎉

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen Sis!

  • @audreyphil9379
    @audreyphil9379 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I was married for 20 years. Divorced now for about three years. I am 46 and will not settle. I settle for the man I was married to because I felt I wasn’t good enough for the man I really wanted. Now I know I am worthy enough to wait for the man I really want and deserve

    • @queeni5212
      @queeni5212 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your comment really is very true.

  • @julianmondesir5599
    @julianmondesir5599 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    Good evening Bishop Blakes, thank you for this teaching! I’m 42, been divorced for a little over a year now, and I am never going to settle again for a relationship🙏🏾.

    • @smileyglitter852
      @smileyglitter852 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Amen Bishop amen. My 2nd husband was a mistake that came out of desperation. I just broke up with a two year situationship... He was a spender and time waster.

  • @Reclusive_Butterfly
    @Reclusive_Butterfly ปีที่แล้ว +9

    🙏🏾🦋 amen. I'm 36, Recently Divorced from an Abusive, sadistic, narcissist. Literally almost lost my life. Never again will i ignore the red flags. Ptsd depression anxiety I'm doing better than i was a year ago. I'm still working on me. I started listening to Pastor Blakes when i was separated from my now ex husband, over a year ago. I'm thankful i found your channel. These messages hit in different ways any stage in your life and help you also understand the "why". Your ministry is needed for women that are "broken" from these relationships and don't know where to begin to get on the path of healing. There are platforms that don't have the woman's core, soul in mind, they are advising based on what a man wants and not what God wants. We cannot settle at any cost.

  • @missstarrynight7736
    @missstarrynight7736 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Dear RC Blakes, thank you so much for this preaching! If you don't mind, I'd like to add three more reasons, and I would LOVE to hear you talking about them one day.
    1) Brainwashing little girls that negative attention = affection. I'm from Poland. Here we have a saying : "Kto się czubi, ten się lubi", which a variant of English: "The quarrels of lovers are the renewal of love." Here in Polish it has a bit different meaning: "If a boy starts a fight with you or is nasty to you, it means he likes you". This saying is usually used in a context of children or tweens/teens, when a girl is treated by a male peer in a rude way, is pranked by him, gets sarcastic, provocative comments from him, is name called or ridiculed etc.
    It normalizes abuse, but also it creates an impression in girls, that bad boys are rude, because just try to get nice girl's attention.
    If he "targets" you, then it means he fights you cute / pretty.
    2) TOXIC, DISRESPECTFUL FATHERS. Well, I love my Dad, but he is a toxic man. He has always been disrespectful to my Mom. He never truly loved her. His father was a misogynist, who hated women and simply saw them only as s*x objects.
    He is a couch potato, lazy, with zero effort, extremely grandiose and opinionated. First to criticize everyone, last to do things. Yes, he is a narcissist. And when I fell in "love", I feel in love with narcissistic psychopath. The relation trap finally ended, but I got terribly emotionally wounded, with CPTSD. I never had any healthy male role model. I am learning from you what is "normal". I am 42, childless and single. I pray for a chance to get a godly husband and be a Mom. God can do it! But my heart aches terribly, because my Dad wasn't raised to love, protect or respect women. that's why I never loved, respect and protected myself from bad people.
    3) Not knowing any decent, normal, godly men. Women raised in toxic families rarely have "access" to healthy people. Our parents have toxic relatives and toxic friends. Sometimes we live in places, when there are simply no available single men. I don't have a single neighbour my age. I don't have a single friend. I have no one to introduce me to a good single guy. And... I don't know what to do. Except from praying. I hope the Lord has the answer I don't have and will become my "Matchmaker".
    I tried to befriend people, but they are usually not interested in creating friendly bonds. They are preoccupied with their lives, or actually, don't need friends. I had wonderful late neighbours - two elderly couples. They were like my real family. Now neighbours don't even know each other, not to mention visiting each other. I don't know when to meet a man. God help me!
    Thanks for amazing teaching pastor! May God bless you abundantly, may He bless lovely Lisa and your whole family!

    • @enumangene6914
      @enumangene6914 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Keep keeping on, working on your personal healing and self growth and someday the right kind of people will find you, no need to chase people, friends, genuine connections, the right partner will come when you're so busy building yourself up, stay blessed Sis💙

    • @cup_o_TMarie
      @cup_o_TMarie ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow what a lovely writing & feel so similar about so much of what you wrote & about trying to find friends to associate with. I find so many shallow people.
      Your life sounds so much like mine.
      You have a deep heart💝Stay that way🙏

    • @naturalfitgirl80
      @naturalfitgirl80 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I love that you brought up those 3 things- bc they are so relevant and this toxicity still exist. I hope he responds. I’m praying for you and that you will receive Godly friendships🙏🏾

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Much love. I've seen this in movies about boys teasing girls when they like them since I was little. Teasing is much different from abuse, though the line can get blurred and I am also 42 and for the last five and a half years I have been in an off on, sometimes helpful sometimes hurtful situationship in which I often tried to teach the guy that not everything is right to tease about if you really love someone. So thanks for sharing from Trinidad and Tobago. 🇹🇹 I hope it isn't too late for me either. I have seen how much I have changed although I am still fighting it.

    • @angelafranklin8388
      @angelafranklin8388 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      NUMBER 2!!!!!!!

  • @lf3554
    @lf3554 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Lack of self awareness on relationship boundaries, standards, not knowing who I was and naivety was my portion. Not ANYMORE!

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I am about to be 50 and fabulous! I refuse to settle. I am single by choice and rocking with my Creator ❤

  • @omowunmirebecca7045
    @omowunmirebecca7045 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm still young though, but all this have happened to me, i always end up choosing the wrong guy, I've stopped dating since last year, because i need things to change, and I'm healing, I'm now focusing more on myself and learning to pursue my goals rather than attaching myself to a man that's not my kind. Thank you pastor for this message🎉

  • @atlantasbarberstylist8658
    @atlantasbarberstylist8658 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oweee I escaped a relationship that almost sent me down the road of depression.. the disrespect was a NO NO AND I HAD TO GO GO!! Tuh!

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank God he gave you the strength to remove yourself from that 🙌🏽. Many of us don’t…God is good!

    • @atlantasbarberstylist8658
      @atlantasbarberstylist8658 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yasssss… I’m still healing right now!! I have my moments but God tho!

  • @SavedRU
    @SavedRU ปีที่แล้ว +11

    -PROVERBS 24:1-2 KJV,
    Be not thou envious against evil men, neither desire to be with them.
    For their heart studieth destruction, and their lips talk of mischief.
    -PROVERBS 24:1-2 AMPLIFIED
    Do not be envious of evil men,
    Nor desire to be with them;
    For their minds plot violence,
    And their lips talk of trouble [for the innocent].

  • @durgalakshmi2793
    @durgalakshmi2793 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This man isn't lying at all. I was desperate to have a family I settle and now I have to seek therapy

  • @LadieTasha
    @LadieTasha ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I got tears in my eyes🤧🤧I just had this convo with my therapist today ain't didn't understand why! Only for you my spiritual father to speak on it!!!!!

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      God’s timing is the best timing❤️

  • @MWisdomWisdom
    @MWisdomWisdom ปีที่แล้ว +2

    IM NOT EVER SETTLING 🙌🏾. IM 37 WITH NO BAGGAGE I WILL CONTINUE TO BE SINGLE BEFORE I SETTLE. I HAVE BEEN HAPPILY CELIBATE FOR 5 YEARS THANK GOD 😊 🙌🏾🙏.

  • @leonrwalkerjr
    @leonrwalkerjr ปีที่แล้ว +7

    A lot of times, their “end goal” isn’t a “good goal” at all.

  • @Ella03434
    @Ella03434 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’m just a baby learning how to communicate at 37 😅😅😅

  • @carolhood3529
    @carolhood3529 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jesus! Jesus! If I had been aware of this information during my marriage!!! I was listening to women of the old 1950-60 mentality. "As long as he ain't hitting you, stay. "" BUT GOD!! I've been delivered for 11 years now. And doing what's needed to heal from that trauma. Thank God for you Pastor Blakes.

  • @never4saken165
    @never4saken165 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Bishop you speaking truth, my former situation down to a “T”. Getting out isn’t as easy as some people think. However, at 1st chance, if God blesses you out, don’t ever look back. 32 yrs with the wrong person & he wasn’t even my husband. Hearing the truth don’t make me mad, it’s CONFIRMATION that He can do just what He said He would do.

  • @esaie4110
    @esaie4110 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I felt that. I was pressured by my family and friends. When are you get married etc your getting... when are you going to have kids at 40 ? Met my narc husband and got married... now i filed for divorce. I wish i hadn't fall for that crap of your getting old... i regret it... Now i have to deal with the consequences of choices. Healing etc...

  • @nicolematt633
    @nicolematt633 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is a good word. It's true that if you pick before you know what you need, you may choose the wrong man (with the wrong qualities or character traits). Now, at 40+, attractive is kindness, honesty, empathy, listening, leadership, self-awareness, good business or social etiquette, etc!! Not abs or what car he drives.. I think recognizing your true needs (love, kindness, empathy..); And if you are agreeable, there is a need for boundaries - to say No at times. If you can not set some boundaries early in the relationship, you will often struggle or resent that you tolerated too much. ❤

  • @karenhowells6030
    @karenhowells6030 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    No settling for any dude. Fixing faulty people aren't my thing. Best to stay single and at peace and wait for the right person.

  • @daphenernorwood
    @daphenernorwood ปีที่แล้ว +48

    This message was so timely and the sound quality was excellent (congratulations on the new equipment 🎉). The example you made about Leah seeking Jacob’s approval really struck home. Often times, in wrong relationships, women are just little girls seeking the approval they never received from their earthly father. But if we are obedient to God, through Christ Jesus, we have all the approval we will ever need. Thank you Pastor Blakes and Lady Lisa for all that you do.

    • @DeeToTheEl4
      @DeeToTheEl4 ปีที่แล้ว

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @indyd9322
    @indyd9322 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I wish I had heard this message 20 years ago. But at least I'm hearing it now.
    Also, always trust your gut, ladies. If a guy feels off, trust that feeling.

  • @katielindsey5674
    @katielindsey5674 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Because it is tons of wrong men out there.

  • @intentionalgreatness
    @intentionalgreatness ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yep. You're attracted to your "type" and 9/10 he's not the right man. There's the man you want and the man that is gonna give you the life you want. Pick one.

  • @tamaranaomi1962
    @tamaranaomi1962 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Not the nasty men…😂
    Pastor Blakes never disappoints…😂

    • @MsGigi27
      @MsGigi27 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Never! 😂

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂😂😂, right!!!

  • @felisamccall-smith4478
    @felisamccall-smith4478 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I settled for 20 years in a toxic mess. 1 year divorced and learning to love myself again. Never settling again.

  • @lalaheart76
    @lalaheart76 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I fall in the category of women that are told they are running out if time, they are left over. Sometimes i feel like settling... because of the society. The pressure is too much. Am 41 no kids, have my life together only thing missing is a man that i can do life with.
    Pray for me.

  • @janellamurphy5665
    @janellamurphy5665 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Good evening Bishop Blakes watching from Massachusetts. I love your teachings my Spiritual Dad❤. I really needed to keep adjusting my queenly crown Amen!!!!! Not settling period💯💯💯💯🖐🏾🖐🏾🖐🏾!! I will rather wait until God sends me my husband. I am complete as a single with God💯💯💯💯🙋🏿‍♀️

  • @Jeniffer61867
    @Jeniffer61867 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Pls do a video on what's the Karma of those men who hurt nice women who loved them but those men played them

  • @bettyburr5427
    @bettyburr5427 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you, Bishop Blake. I lost my dear, sweet, loving soul mate/ husband 14 years ago. Im blessed to be on the other side of my grief. I'm now 58yrs old and have dated a couple.of guys in the last 9yrs and I thank God and the Holy Spirit for emding those relationships. Im at me best self, life gets greater later, and im A-ok remaiming a widow until God say otherwise

  • @susanakaan810
    @susanakaan810 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Life can be great with just you and God yes.
    When a woman thinks that she can change a man, the only one that changes is her yes .
    When you choose before you know what you need, it's a disaster yes
    When you allow other people to set up your relationship yes, 😀
    This is great, thank you Bishop.

  • @olexkaymartin2364
    @olexkaymartin2364 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Bishop you read my life from number 1 to the end

    • @10ille99
      @10ille99 ปีที่แล้ว

      Didn't he though?!!! 😮🫣

  • @kyerastewart5698
    @kyerastewart5698 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This has happened to me. I was not healed and I thought a relationship was going to make everything better. I settled for a relationship for 13 years. No ring 💍 no marriage but we brought a house together.

  • @melaniegenuinely
    @melaniegenuinely ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ok I see 15min in imma have to break out my notebook and pen on this one because the way Bishop is teaching tonight is giving me clarity about a person I’ve been praying about. Thank You Lord for caring about me to guide me into the right path.

  • @JC-tz8vi
    @JC-tz8vi ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I not only like this video, I love this video! RC Blake, I thank you for your service. Peace be with you and your family.

  • @nizanayasha7975
    @nizanayasha7975 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The intro song NEVER gets old ‼️‼️
    Thank you so much Mr.Blake’s for being the father figure I never had❤

  • @SamanthaSmith-ev4oe
    @SamanthaSmith-ev4oe ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Healing, humor and the Holy Spirit. I love Pastor Blakes' messages. A true father expressing the love of God to his daughters.

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    44:37 - his disapproval of you is the web he keeps you caught up in . 👏 so wisely explained, thank you❤

  • @greaterishe7197
    @greaterishe7197 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This teaching has so much VALUE 👑

  • @LaTashala1080
    @LaTashala1080 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    THIS WAS POWERFUL AND EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED CONFIRMATION ON🙏🏾‼️ BISHOP, YOUR WISDOM IS PHENOMENAL 🙏🏾‼️

  • @kristyduong1461
    @kristyduong1461 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Pastor Blake. You make me feel that I have hope to find the right man out there. I’m 49 and divorced 5 year ago, and had been on date for 2 times. But you are so right, I will wait and heal and make sure I take care myself to be better first than the right man will come🙏🙏🙏

  • @leamiller3148
    @leamiller3148 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Mr. RC Blake's... You're Bible studies and your advice has truly helped me... I was finally able to break away from a 5yr very very abusive relationship, physical and mental.... It taught me to stay to feel that maybe I'm not a waste of Gods time and maybe I am worth following through with the commandment of getting baptized... I finally got baptized this Sunday ... I cried when it was my turn as I was scared and felt I still want worth it but I did it 😊 ... You make more of an impact than you realize... I depend on your studies... And listen to several of your studies every day ....

    • @MissAngieA
      @MissAngieA ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations on your baptism and may your fresh start be full of joy ❤

  • @barbarad3963
    @barbarad3963 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dr. Blake, I listen to you often. Keep preaching because you are telling the truth. I chose the wrong man when I was to young to know what I needed. I have been divorced for 44 years I did not settle for less. I talk to God every day and say your will not mine.

  • @debbiefoucha2679
    @debbiefoucha2679 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thanks for sharing this was a very good lesson much needed we have to know your worth

  • @keciabrown8321
    @keciabrown8321 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The video was great as always! Liked and shared!
    My only gripe is when Bishop Blakes mentioned about, if you haven't experienced a relationship, etc., you not the one too listen to, in regards to advice. I think I give good advice and have been blessed by God with it. I try to give people wise and Godly counsel. I get Bishop said also, listen for wisdom when people speak.

  • @vanessahoward9773
    @vanessahoward9773 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for the message. It was so powerful so on points I’m coming out of a narcissistic relationship. Keep me in your prayers y’all love you all. Thank you so much Pastor your ministry and your teachings are a blessing to the world. May God continue to richly bless you and your wife and family.

  • @FrankiesXpress
    @FrankiesXpress ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This message is fire. Just like my dad use to say, “you shot straight from the hip”❤

  • @lwarfield52
    @lwarfield52 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love this! Thank you Bishop and First Lady Lisa. 😊💖

  • @Faith_First
    @Faith_First ปีที่แล้ว +19

    “He’s a good man, Savannah. A GOOD man. He’s just in a bad situation right now and he’s trying to get out of it!” 😂😂
    - Waiting To Exhale

    • @missstarrynight7736
      @missstarrynight7736 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Good Lord, I heard something similar. I was told my extremely emotionally abusive ex bf's best friends, that he is "a guy who has a heart of gold", who would definitely marry me. If they meant his heart is cold, without any feelings and focused on materialism, then I could agree. One of these people told me, after I broke up with my ex, that he knows the guy is toxic, unfaithful and was always a mismatch to me. I wonder why this man did it to me. Why to lie and "recommend" his buddy as a good guy, yet a bit in a bad situation, and not to say: "Run for your life, girl, he's an abuser!" :-/ Why people do such things?

    • @Bri-nc8yp
      @Bri-nc8yp ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I read that in my slavery southern mammy voice. Like I was on the plantation picking cotton.😂😂
      The things women tell ourselves to stay in these one sided relationships. SAD!

    • @10ille99
      @10ille99 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ​@@Bri-nc8ypit's BONDAGE. mentally and emotionally conditioned to ABUSE and NORMALIZE it. Sad and sick.

    • @csmith2484
      @csmith2484 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This!!! I remember that part and was like "Momma noooo, no ma'am!!"

    • @Faith_First
      @Faith_First ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@csmith2484 I know right. Generational trauma, the mama was encouraging Savannah to settle for a married man 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @kurstinbridges8038
    @kurstinbridges8038 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you. I needed to hear this. I married a Narcissist but I knew deep down he wasn't right for me. I settled. I am paying for it now.He assaulted me then left. Had to nerve to show up in court with another woman. I am healing but glad I am getting out of this relationship. Lesson learned. I hope whoever watches you take the advice. You have been a great help to me. Thank you!!!!!❤

    • @joi5787
      @joi5787 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bless you Sis, may God heal your heart! 💛

    • @kurstinbridges8038
      @kurstinbridges8038 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@joi5787 Thank you sis. I am healing. One day at a time. God is still good. ❤️

    • @louiseseaman-4903
      @louiseseaman-4903 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bless you. I hope you feel a peace & are able to let go.
      I too made the same mistake & married a narcissist. please dont blame yourself they manipulate & control & are very convincing. next time when we have a gut feeling something isn't right we have to walk away. having discernment

  • @InnaDeep
    @InnaDeep ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Bishop this is so true!!! I met my husband when I was 13, not in a romantic way. I moved away and we reconnected when I was 25. In that time I dated "my type," & ended up leaving those 2 relationships. My husband was not physically "my type," although he is tall and handsome. He is definitely the man I NEEDED! None of my types were even half the man he is. We have been married for almost 17 years. Sidenote: When you say praise the Lord like that it takes me out EVERY time!! 😂 Got me saying it when I really want to say something else!! 😂

  • @lotusflower7364
    @lotusflower7364 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is great content! You’re preaching the truth! 🙏🏽..So very thankful for you and Lisa Blakes 🤗💃🏻🤗🙏🏽!

  • @veonaify
    @veonaify ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pastor women who get mad at what you are saying are not able to deal with the truth about themselves I'm sure you know that already. Pastor keep on telling the truth no matter who can't handle the truth

  • @LaRochePosayStyist
    @LaRochePosayStyist ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have leveled-up my values,, and behavior since listening to your podcasts daily. Thanks so much. God didn't want me to continue down the path I was on, so I ran into your page.

  • @mjgasmin3439
    @mjgasmin3439 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Bishop. I need to hear this. I'm on the healing process right now. This video will really help me a lot to move on, better myself and heal. God bless ❤❤❤

  • @courtneyweeks5573
    @courtneyweeks5573 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love listening to you RC, your podcast is helping me be the woman of MY DREAMS ❤

  • @KimberlyBrooks-Brame
    @KimberlyBrooks-Brame หลายเดือนก่อน

    I Tried to change men in my relationships and no one changed but me. I am now accepting the fact that I can only change myself. God has changed me for the better. I love your videos. Wish I heard them 20 years ago

  • @chriswalls5831
    @chriswalls5831 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They end up with the wrong one but I'm staying solo waiting to see what's out there

  • @roslynkelley-world8692
    @roslynkelley-world8692 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow! This is so true. Bishop teach us because we need it l was once married for a total of 15 years and together for a total of 20 years l picked the wrong person for my husband so, if l am blessed to get married again l will let God choose my next husband l learned the hard way. ❤️ 🙏

  • @janellamurphy5665
    @janellamurphy5665 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    REAL TRUTH TALK!!!! AMEN🖐🏾🖐🏾🖐🏾🖐🏾🙋🏿‍♀️ Speaking according to God's Word📖

  • @leonrwalkerjr
    @leonrwalkerjr ปีที่แล้ว +4

    After 35, some settle and give up.

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว

      I did settle. I did think I was running out of time. But I didn't think I had no identity without a man. I just thought it was a waste of my womanhood to be single and childless when I was born fertile and fiercely maternal.

  • @meli7315
    @meli7315 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Faith move mountains 🏔️ 🤍🕯️love and light to you all

  • @semanisa9611
    @semanisa9611 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I cried watching this....because I needed to hear this. Broke my heart

  • @keroneyoung5293
    @keroneyoung5293 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why he said “praise the Lord” like that!! His wife’s Jamaican accent is rubbing off. 😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️

    • @nzingahoney
      @nzingahoney ปีที่แล้ว

      Caribbean t the world 🇹🇹 Tony Gaskins wife Jamaican too he s be talking about ackee and saltfish in his lives 😂

  • @patrciakavini
    @patrciakavini ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for the message Bishop, it really blessed me in my soul and was healing to hear. You remind me to not settle for less than I desire and to prepare myself for all of what God wants for me! Can't wait to leave a message one day with a praise report that I'm in a committed, marriage minded relationship with the one God is prepared for me.

  • @user-lm6xm3or4u
    @user-lm6xm3or4u ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like the fact that you’re so good at extracting the gems from the scriptures RCBlakes.😊

  • @alexismatthews3486
    @alexismatthews3486 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Another right on time lesson. AMEN!

  • @fredajohnson506
    @fredajohnson506 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow that's was deep conversation about this topic but definitely wisdom young as well older woman's needs to obtain the wisdom that's I'm learning from you ii wish could found out in my twenties before got married then would avoid lot heartbreak and sleepless nite as well RC Blake's you always have some awesome teachings

  • @lennieross7037
    @lennieross7037 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are telling the truth, I was in a toxic situation ship , thank you for this message

  • @francinarollox2100
    @francinarollox2100 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are my father, I begin listening to you 2 yrs ago and boy your truth was real, I uses to cry to know I never know, I felt like I found dimond.
    Thank God for you and your honesty, your openess sets me free.
    Still listening, learning and growing.
    May God continue to bless you, your family and your ministries in Jesus Mighty Name AMEN!!!

  • @feliciawills1104
    @feliciawills1104 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank You for this message ❤️

  • @intentionalgreatness
    @intentionalgreatness ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Calgon take me away"😂. "Flesh shaking on your bones"😂😂😂😂😂. Man thats too real. Thanks for keeping it real with us.🙏

  • @Sparkle-ts5gi
    @Sparkle-ts5gi ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so very much for this message!

  • @raneesroom
    @raneesroom ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A lot of us just had bad examples and have had to figure it out.

  • @cup_o_TMarie
    @cup_o_TMarie ปีที่แล้ว +4

    💓🙏🤩Fantastic quality video & beautiful content👏

  • @TheTabbym
    @TheTabbym ปีที่แล้ว +4

    very informative, wish i heard this when i was a little younger...

  • @marciaw4563
    @marciaw4563 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hear everything you are saying. Your videos helped me let go of a male who I thought I could change, i allowed him to come I to my house and use my car as if he was paying the note. Did not pay a bill or any of that. I heard a voice one morning tell" you can not change him only I can." I took away the cable, told him if he couldn't pay for anything I needfor my car for inspection he would not be driving anymore. Well I needed some things for inspection, no money no car. He could not drive my car. The more I watched your videos the emotions went away. I gave him 30 days. April 1sthe was out and I never turned back. I'm happy/content. Now I have a Deacon showing interest. He moved out of town for some years and now he is back and a wife came with him. She came to church a few times and I didn't see her any more. So he pulls me to the side after Bible Study expressing his interest telling me he is now divorced. RED FLAG for me. I told him I'm not interested I'm content and he needs to work on his self like I am working on myself. I do not want to be bothered with the bull. Thank you Pastor Blakes

  • @Breakthrough9
    @Breakthrough9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This message was a blessing. ❤

  • @deyshaottley184
    @deyshaottley184 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was fire!!! Absolutely golden!!! Thank you Bishop! God bless you!

  • @GM-jm1cu
    @GM-jm1cu ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Truly a passion for you!!! Your messages have helped me in soooooooo many ways! Thank you Pastor 😊

  • @GodsDisciple
    @GodsDisciple ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I LOVE WHEN PASTOR SAYA, BAE, BAE ,BAE 😂😂😂. THAT MEANS, LISTEN 🎶, LISTEN, LISTEN NOW 🎶 CHILD ❤❤❤

  • @MoralOrder1
    @MoralOrder1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great teaching! It’s really sad for it to be this hard for a woman to be found by the right man though. Black women have it so hard finding suitable partners.

  • @chikFromMTL
    @chikFromMTL ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for the teaching Bishop 🙌🏾

  • @Seemidarling
    @Seemidarling ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Bishop for your precious words of wisdom. ❤you’re helping me in so many ways.

  • @laurendelane6361
    @laurendelane6361 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Even if we don't shoot our shot. We are still open to rejection when they don't call us after sex or they just go cold in the middle of a relationship

  • @Katema16
    @Katema16 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Powerful!! And a big Amen to that prayer🙏