@@lbfaith I told him I can't keep filling your cup because mines always empty, and I'm ready for something serious with someone who's serious. He didn't fight back or try to work things out, that's when I knew it was done and no regrets. You got this ❤❤❤
@Kira-ze1pn I appreciate your response to my post. However, I meant exactly what I wrote. As one is experiencing, and if their completely present during the experience, then they also have the opportunity to extract the LESSONS and move forward with knowledge. There is no need to reflect on what you already know. Make room for the beautiful things that life has to offer. Life is so much better than good, and so is God.😊
I cried😢 when you were half way through and now I am in prayer....I know, it hurts but I must let go for my sanity. Pray for me this is not easy after 33yrs. Thank you Derrick🎉
Left him I loved him, but being in the long distance, I lost myself...living in his routine and I was stuck inside all day...his jealousy was giving me anxiety...woke up one morning and booked to come back home. Very painful and miss him but in the end I had to save myself.
Ouch! The truth hurts. He kept circling back to me making me feel something was there. Turns out he was using me as a place holder until someone better came along. Everytime he thought he had another female on the hook he ran to them and didn't look back. He had me so confused. I cut contact and moved to a new city!
When you know somethings not for you it’s painful when you make a decision to move forward, it’s painful neither decision to stay, or leave is easy. It’s all about choosing your pain.
Been there, hard to let go after so many years. Always diplomatic without hurting your feelings. There was no disrespect but more distant and change of behavior. Relationships require teamwork, flexibility, compassion and understanding.
I just made that decision after thinking about it for a long time and ended the relationship. And now I'm happier, more peaceful, and loving myself again. I made the right decision and left.
Lord have mercy you are absolutely a blessing, those whom doesn't have brother's here he is, with no strings attached thank you derrick you are saving many women integrity 🙏
This is exactly what happened. I had to set a plan to walk away. It hurted but it's really the best thing I could have done to regain my mental and self-worth. Peace.
Grief is one of the most difficult emotions to feel. There were times I thought un-aliving would be better. But, feeling the emotion, sitting with it, and reminding yourself that it is a normal process will make you more resilient. And, you will make it through.
Realized we were on two very different paths. Pretty sure he tried to see if the grass was greener. Ghosted me Christmas Day. I walked away , spoke my mind, proceeded to block him
I’m here now. Deciding whether to file these divorce papers after a year of separation of marriage facing our 20th year anniversary on February 28th. He has started a relationship during this separation time stating I abandoned him & how he has needs. Telling me he’s not happy just surviving & that he really wants to be with his family & wants me to move across states as he has a warrant here. It’s too much!
.... sadly, "I".. I'm pretty confident I know what's best and needed, though.. I was just trying to be understanding with all he had going on, but sometimes it's not a matter of that..
God protects us. When he remove someone in our life, it's a protection. I'm glad I have finally moved on from my ex. My partner today, we have some issues but I think we still have some hope. I am giving him a chance to make things right🙏
Don’t worry love I am there with you. Yes it is horrible. But what is even worse is staying and waisting more time with someone who does not deserve you. And let me tell you…You are not the one who lost honey. He did!
The reality is the pain reveals how honest and real a person is. Keep being that, but remember that your gifts, what you offer, is not supposed to be exclusive to one person. A gentlemen should be a gentlemen to everyone around him as a gentlewoman should be. The air should not be dark and thick whenever you are around the person you choose to go through life with.
Wow, all of that happened..I fell that you were a fly on the wall seeing this..The pain oh the pain..How long did they not care..Like they never cared..I gave it my best shot and I fell for him..I fell used but I gave myself willingly..Lord help me.
Im driving home from work listening to this all these things have been dine to me its time for me to get a game plan to leave i know he dont care about me he argue with me in front of company i know he does not want me.
Why are there so many screwed up men….? THERE are tons of them!!! I wondered and still do if the good men who would have been fathers volunteered and died in wars… It is rampant and we waste so much of our lives trying to figure men out and repair relationships where we did not cause the problems. These videos are honest and outstanding.
What does it mean if he tells me that I can leave but than he doesn’t let me leave & just say “I’m not telling you to leave. I’m telling you to leave me the f*ck alone when I’m mad.”
He means exactly what he said lovely ❤ But i hope he doesn’t speak to you cussing like that all the time. If he’s not verbally or emotionally abusive i recommend listening to Dr John Grey on relationships and what men want etc x
This really resonates with me. Thank you for shedding light on these signs-they’re exactly what I needed to hear. Your insights have clarified so much of what I’ve been struggling with and seeking answers to. Experiencing these signs firsthand has been painful, but I now see clearly that I fell for the wrong person. His actions reveal a deep lack of character and moral integrity. 😔 I’m grateful for your guidance, which has helped me move forward stronger, more self-aware, and healed. 💪🌟 Thank you for bringing this to light. 🙏
I finally walked away. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Because it was the first time I was putting myself first, love yourself first ❤️
Wow sis that's lowkey deep when u said " it was hard because it was the first time i was putting myself first" never saw it that was before
I'm dying inside because everything you saying is happening to me right now
Amen❤❤❤
How did that conversation go? I need a push.
@@lbfaith I told him I can't keep filling your cup because mines always empty, and I'm ready for something serious with someone who's serious. He didn't fight back or try to work things out, that's when I knew it was done and no regrets. You got this ❤❤❤
When you leave, remember to look straight ahead and DO NOT, LOOK BACK.
@Kira-ze1pn I appreciate your response to my post. However, I meant exactly what I wrote. As one is experiencing, and if their completely present during the experience, then they also have the opportunity to extract the LESSONS and move forward with knowledge. There is no need to reflect on what you already know. Make room for the beautiful things that life has to offer. Life is so much better than good, and so is God.😊
Yes I have
He left me...I would have never left...God is protecting me.
God's Protection
Devine protection
@@kimberlymoss7070 I'm thankful
So lucky ❤I have to walk away and it’s hurting
@@FeliciaStandsit will be okay.
Loving yourself means breaking your own heart and knowing when to withdraw from a relationship that is not prioritizing you.
He just doesn't answer any of the questions I ask like where have you been. He will not admit or deny my accusations. What do you do then?
I'm there now . Tough!
@micheled2235 exactly and it is breaking me down to my smallest element of being a woman
Yup I’m leaving and my hurt is broken he’s clueless 😢
@@claremondeofthedarkhorses6101 His refusal to answer, is your answer!
I cried😢 when you were half way through and now I am in prayer....I know, it hurts but I must let go for my sanity. Pray for me this is not easy after 33yrs. Thank you Derrick🎉
Lz
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🙏 Until U Pray The Pain Away
I know it's not easy but they don't care about us
Sending hugs 🫂
Left him I loved him, but being in the long distance, I lost myself...living in his routine and I was stuck inside all day...his jealousy was giving me anxiety...woke up one morning and booked to come back home. Very painful and miss him but in the end I had to save myself.
Ouch! The truth hurts. He kept circling back to me making me feel something was there. Turns out he was using me as a place holder until someone better came along. Everytime he thought he had another female on the hook he ran to them and didn't look back. He had me so confused. I cut contact and moved to a new city!
I, I stayed too long waiting on a hope that never came. He eventually left and now wants to come back but I don't miss him enough to go back
I left and finslly got my place. Its a good feeling! They don't change.
When you know somethings not for you it’s painful when you make a decision to move forward, it’s painful neither decision to stay, or leave is easy. It’s all about choosing your pain.
Well said! ❤❤
Yup pick your pain
It will never change these ppl are broken. And u will be broken the longer you stay
After 13 years of marriage and still love him. I will have to walk away so he can stop using hurting words towards me and checked out.
Been there, hard to let go after so many years. Always diplomatic without hurting your feelings. There was no disrespect but more distant and change of behavior.
Relationships require teamwork, flexibility, compassion and understanding.
I just made that decision after thinking about it for a long time and ended the relationship. And now I'm happier, more peaceful, and loving myself again. I made the right decision and left.
When it comes time when you should make a decision,you already know it's time to go.
Hoping for a change will never happen 😢😢
This just described my soon to be ex husband. I suspected I was just kept around for financial reasons and for someone to pay attention to him.
I know I have to leave, as hard as it is
Derrick this was a very timely message. Thank you
I gotta go. I love but I love me more. Nope, I give up, nowadays you can actually get hurt physically if you get in the way.
Lord have mercy you are absolutely a blessing, those whom doesn't have brother's here he is, with no strings attached thank you derrick you are saving many women integrity 🙏
I have been there! Thank God for strength and guidance to allow me to walk away when I was being taken for granted.
I walked away after holding on for years and the peace I'm experiencing in my life right now is so unreal
Sounds like the peace that passes all understanding😊
Amen. Thank you. Been there for to long..woke up.and went to God.
that's the way to I did it too🙏🏽
Yeah, me too
Hallelujah. God's got our backs, AMEN!
That Part!
This is exactly what happened. I had to set a plan to walk away. It hurted but it's really the best thing I could have done to regain my mental and self-worth. Peace.
Derrick
You're truly a God sent 🙏🏽
For me it got to the point where I would cry my heart out and he would mock me. It was a horrible experience.
I had that happen with my ex husband he would MOCK AND LAUGH AT ME WHEN I WOULD CRY.
It’s a feeling that I wouldn’t want anyone to feel ❤❤❤❤
Been there. Kept holding on to hope that he may change. Was hard to let go everytime. Yes it's been several. The healings were even harder. 💯
Do you think such men can change for good ?
@@jaishriiyer1563 If you're asking about my exes no. Same behavior, different women. But some can. ☺️
I feel this😢 22 years and two kids but I struggling to hold onto myself and know he'll never change.
I left him. He needs to grow up
I'm going through that now
same here 😔
I let go because I deserve better. Thanks ❤
i cant force him to want me
Been here. Was hardest thing ever, to leave. I know god has something better for me.
I've been there before,it took God to help me move on thank got I was one who got away, glory to God, amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm crazy, Even CRAZY PEOPLE GO TO HEAVEN.
Grief is one of the most difficult emotions to feel. There were times I thought un-aliving would be better. But, feeling the emotion, sitting with it, and reminding yourself that it is a normal process will make you more resilient. And, you will make it through.
Realized we were on two very different paths. Pretty sure he tried to see if the grass was greener. Ghosted me Christmas Day. I walked away , spoke my mind, proceeded to block him
I’m here now. Deciding whether to file these divorce papers after a year of separation of marriage facing our 20th year anniversary on February 28th. He has started a relationship during this separation time stating I abandoned him & how he has needs. Telling me he’s not happy just surviving & that he really wants to be with his family & wants me to move across states as he has a warrant here. It’s too much!
Listen carefully, ladies! 💯💯💯
This message is for me! Thank you, Lord for bringing this video to me 🙏🏼
I am moving away and going back to college and move on
I ,I am at that point ,going through that right now
I've just been there...realising I'm only hurting myself.
You are incredible. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are so clear. Its wonderful. So very helpful. Thank you.
Love this video you are so on point ❤
.... sadly, "I".. I'm pretty confident I know what's best and needed, though.. I was just trying to be understanding with all he had going on, but sometimes it's not a matter of that..
Hardest thing I ever did was let him go and regain my power
Thank you so much for confirming. I need to put effort on me.
I Appreciate this Person, but what he doesn't understand about my Situation.."I'm locked up, Can't get me out"
I'm in a better place now. Left after 17 yrs
God protects us. When he remove someone in our life, it's a protection. I'm glad I have finally moved on from my ex. My partner today, we have some issues but I think we still have some hope. I am giving him a chance to make things right🙏
I've Been there and God it was the hardest thing to do and let go
These boots are made for walking.
STILL A BIT THERE. I'm beginning to feel some relief in the process too
I. I am getting divorced now. Horrible.
The ex husband did everything mentioned to me in this video and I'm now divorced
Don’t worry love I am there with you. Yes it is horrible. But what is even worse is staying and waisting more time with someone who does not deserve you. And let me tell you…You are not the one who lost honey. He did!
The "final" validation that's probably already come and gone many times before.
My ex told me if I left him he would kill himself. what a mean card to play
I never look back,I know my worth,
I, I, I, I........I am currently there now. N I'm super 😮 scared 😢
Thank you. Hit every pain point. I turned this up loud so he coukd hear it too. No more denial. Im gone
The reality is the pain reveals how honest and real a person is. Keep being that, but remember that your gifts, what you offer, is not supposed to be exclusive to one person. A gentlemen should be a gentlemen to everyone around him as a gentlewoman should be. The air should not be dark and thick whenever you are around the person you choose to go through life with.
“ If you want to leave, then leave.”
If he told me this, it would be easy for me to walk out the door.
Finally pulled enough strength to finally walk away.
Wow, all of that happened..I fell that you were a fly on the wall seeing this..The pain oh the pain..How long did they not care..Like they never cared..I gave it my best shot and I fell for him..I fell used but I gave myself willingly..Lord help me.
There's lots of grief, and more relief.
I'm here as you speak 😢
I'm still talking to my ex boyfriend but I know I need to let go and just walk away
I 💁🏾♀️ and I am literally here now 😢
Im driving home from work listening to this all these things have been dine to me its time for me to get a game plan to leave i know he dont care about me he argue with me in front of company i know he does not want me.
I had that and got a divorce after 23 years of trying everything.
Thank you for this.
Great message praying 🙏
I walked away. It’s been so hard for me to heal. One day at a time I’m going forward
Leaving is the hardest thing to do
I'm there right now and its painful 💔
Ive been there before,GOD helped me after 9 times of being discarded ,i finally walked away.
This is a blessing but just need to heal. Before even thinking about something else.
Yea that’s kool sis that’s the right thing to do
❤❤❤❤❤Thank you so much.... sending you love from Luanda Angola Africa
I am Healing now.
It's the hardest thing to walk, your heart says no but your brain says really girl, what's wrong with you.....i walked
Why are there so many screwed up men….?
THERE are tons of them!!!
I wondered and still do if the good men who would have been fathers volunteered and died in wars…
It is rampant and we waste so much of our lives trying to figure men out and repair relationships where we did not cause the problems.
These videos are honest and outstanding.
Been there too many times, never again
Bless you brother
Listening ❤❤❤
Hurtful to hear these things, but I needed to hear this. Every word you said is so true...
Great message
I'm there now. at the crossroads. rock and a hard place
He is not a good getter lazy lay around and smoking weed and not helping his self
What does it mean if he tells me that I can leave but than he doesn’t let me leave & just say “I’m not telling you to leave. I’m telling you to leave me the f*ck alone when I’m mad.”
He means exactly what he said lovely ❤
But i hope he doesn’t speak to you cussing like that all the time. If he’s not verbally or emotionally abusive i recommend listening to Dr John Grey on relationships and what men want etc x
I am there now
This really resonates with me. Thank you for shedding light on these signs-they’re exactly what I needed to hear. Your insights have clarified so much of what I’ve been struggling with and seeking answers to. Experiencing these signs firsthand has been painful, but I now see clearly that I fell for the wrong person. His actions reveal a deep lack of character and moral integrity. 😔 I’m grateful for your guidance, which has helped me move forward stronger, more self-aware, and healed. 💪🌟 Thank you for bringing this to light. 🙏
This is 💯 ladies!
Facts!!!!
I'm right where you are talking about. I have really listened , and HEARD everything. And i feel the strength now. Thank you!!
❤ never as easy as “just leave”
“I “ yep. More than once. External reason gives me the boost I need.
Yeah, there’s this time when I should’ve left a many times but I stayed
IIIII!!!! Blank stare! Exactly! Talking to a wall! He shows no thought.
Thank you for your wonderful videos 👍💯
Thank you so much