Nah. It's more like... There are infinite options out there and it's in your best interest to not burn bridges. I had relatives break up for 5 years, then reconcile, then get back together. If you get back together with an ex you should think of it as a new person (while being mindful to change things so you do not make the same mistakes as last time.)
My wife of 25 years wanted a divorce and moved out leaving me with my 2 kids back in February of this year. I was a mess until mid March, and now I am new and improved. She now reaches out to me constantly, and I am at peace. I am not ever going to take her back, and you shouldn’t go back ever. Value you above all and don’t look back. Just remember you are all you need.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I haven’t worked out in months, so Im starting a 3 month workout program, I’m going on vacation in December. Other than that, I started a new position at my current workplace and met a lot of new people. I’m excited about my future.
Work on yourself, but never ever take back someone who chose to leave you. They are a flight risk. They showed you they are prepared to leave, and if they've done it once surely it's easier for them to do it again. There are billions of people out there. One chance per person per lifetime.
Agreed, but what if they had no choice but to leave? What if the dumpee made the relationship untenable for them? It’s a not a one glove fits all, my friend.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes, true. I made the mistake of moving back to Osaka and my wife of 18 years wanted to stay in Nagoya. Osaka was her hometown. I would go back every month to see her and I hoped that being apart for a short time would help us to value each other and at the same time give us some space to be ourselves. One year later and she wants a divorce. She is the dumper and yet I was the one who left. In Japan it is common for husbands and wives to live temporarily in different cities due to work commitments.
Ah that’s rough and I’m sorry to hear that. Though, I fear the distance is a proxy for a deeper issue. As a married couple, it’s easy to move closer to each other, it’s a simple fix. In my experience, there tends to be deeper issues that have been going on for a long time. I hope you feel better.
I wish I had done the NC sooner I swear guys just do it. I didn't do it she end up kinda breaking up with like again after 3 months. I have been now in NC for like 2 weeks, also she blocked me during my first NC, i am all but confused, but best thing so far has been NC it really is the best strategy to heal. Great content as always
I didn’t say "I love you" much and I'm pretty sure that was one of the factors that led to the breakup. But the thing is, I'm just not the type of person to say that. I express love and affection in other ways. So if me not saying I love you is an issue for someone I'm in a relationship with then I guess that simply comes down to incompatibility. Enjoying and appreciating your videos by the way
@TheLoveFix-Nick yeah like just to put a more positive out look on things also make people appreciate what they do have been a year and I think I found a good one she really look ather me
Do you have a video of the dumper breaking up with you out of anger at the moment after an argument as opposed to them planning it for a while? Is there really a difference how no contact affects either?
This man is a scammer! He is not trying to really help people. He only wants to exploit desperate, sad people. When I was in his group… I was sad over my ex, but then I got better. When I posted how I started feeling better and trying to help & support others, he was hating. Didnt want to see it. After I proved that I was really feeling better and confident, said how I am beautiful woman with money, and how I can do better than my ex… he BLOCKED me from the group. So he only wants HURT people in the group. The group is not about recovery. If you pay him he will only keep getting you to come back and give him money, if you feel better, he can’t get paid. This man is a SCAMMER
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you. I'm slowly getting over covid :) As for the "break-up" I'm in the "relief" phase, so everything is fine. I wish her, you, and myself all the best :) Thank you once again for your work.
Once dumped I just believe it's over. Like really over. I have no patience to manipulate an avoidant to be back with me.
I agree, but we’re not discussing manipulation, and if you did need to manipulate, then it’s little more than a transactional relationship.
Nah. It's more like... There are infinite options out there and it's in your best interest to not burn bridges. I had relatives break up for 5 years, then reconcile, then get back together. If you get back together with an ex you should think of it as a new person (while being mindful to change things so you do not make the same mistakes as last time.)
My wife of 25 years wanted a divorce and moved out leaving me with my 2 kids back in February of this year. I was a mess until mid March, and now I am new and improved. She now reaches out to me constantly, and I am at peace. I am not ever going to take her back, and you shouldn’t go back ever. Value you above all and don’t look back. Just remember you are all you need.
Glad to hear you’re doing well. 😊😊💪💪
Wish I could feel the same as you.
I need to level up, it’s almost a year now and I finally feel like myself again.
In what way do you feel you need to level up?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I haven’t worked out in months, so Im starting a 3 month workout program, I’m going on vacation in December. Other than that, I started a new position at my current workplace and met a lot of new people. I’m excited about my future.
Work on yourself, but never ever take back someone who chose to leave you.
They are a flight risk. They showed you they are prepared to leave, and if they've done it once surely it's easier for them to do it again.
There are billions of people out there. One chance per person per lifetime.
Agreed, but what if they had no choice but to leave? What if the dumpee made the relationship untenable for them?
It’s a not a one glove fits all, my friend.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick yes, true. I made the mistake of moving back to Osaka and my wife of 18 years wanted to stay in Nagoya. Osaka was her hometown. I would go back every month to see her and I hoped that being apart for a short time would help us to value each other and at the same time give us some space to be ourselves. One year later and she wants a divorce. She is the dumper and yet I was the one who left. In Japan it is common for husbands and wives to live temporarily in different cities due to work commitments.
Ah that’s rough and I’m sorry to hear that.
Though, I fear the distance is a proxy for a deeper issue. As a married couple, it’s easy to move closer to each other, it’s a simple fix.
In my experience, there tends to be deeper issues that have been going on for a long time.
I hope you feel better.
I wish I had done the NC sooner I swear guys just do it. I didn't do it she end up kinda breaking up with like again after 3 months. I have been now in NC for like 2 weeks, also she blocked me during my first NC, i am all but confused, but best thing so far has been NC it really is the best strategy to heal. Great content as always
Sorry to hear that buddy. The important thing is, you’re doing what is right for you now. You’ve got this.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for all the support!
My pleasure
I didn’t say "I love you" much and I'm pretty sure that was one of the factors that led to the breakup. But the thing is, I'm just not the type of person to say that. I express love and affection in other ways. So if me not saying I love you is an issue for someone I'm in a relationship with then I guess that simply comes down to incompatibility. Enjoying and appreciating your videos by the way
I can appreciate that.
Did you ever discuss this with your ex?
Simply saying" l love you" means nothing. Actions speak louder then words.
Cam you do a video on if your in the right relationship like what are the green flags
I can indeed.
I’m in the middle of making the latest video, but I’ll add it to the list.
Thank you for the suggestion.
@TheLoveFix-Nick yeah like just to put a more positive out look on things also make people appreciate what they do have been a year and I think I found a good one she really look ather me
Do you have a video of the dumper breaking up with you out of anger at the moment after an argument as opposed to them planning it for a while? Is there really a difference how no contact affects either?
That anger in the moment might be the result of resentment buildup in time
This man is a scammer! He is not trying to really help people. He only wants to exploit desperate, sad people. When I was in his group… I was sad over my ex, but then I got better. When I posted how I started feeling better and trying to help & support others, he was hating. Didnt want to see it. After I proved that I was really feeling better and confident, said how I am beautiful woman with money, and how I can do better than my ex… he BLOCKED me from the group. So he only wants HURT people in the group. The group is not about recovery. If you pay him he will only keep getting you to come back and give him money, if you feel better, he can’t get paid. This man is a SCAMMER
Thanks :)
My pleasure. I hope you’re doing okay today. 😊
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I have covid but im fine :D Wish you good and thank you for your work. Greetings from Poland.
Ahhh COVID!
Just what you need when going through a breakup.
Hope you feel well soon.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you. I'm slowly getting over covid :)
As for the "break-up" I'm in the "relief" phase, so everything is fine. I wish her, you, and myself all the best :) Thank you once again for your work.