I broke up afew weeks ago with a lovely woman who practically wasn't a good fit, I feel so bad from my heart but when I go through the practical list it seems like the right decision; I find breaking up with others is much worse than being broken up with and still feel immense guilt
It’s been nine months since my FA ex left for another after four years with me. We had a mostly good relationship. I am secure with a few FA tendencies myself. I like space also, and kept my own life with friends, family, and activities. His fears are what got to him. He wanted to remain as friends. Nope. I just let him go and moved on. I have almost healed. I am becoming the best version of myself for myself. I realize it would never work. I wish him well.
Same exact timeline and experience for me. I tried friendship but he was too triggering. Told him I can’t do friendship and he ghosted me..right decision. He’ll be avoidant forever if he doesn’t take a real look at his patterns.
I’ve done a lot of work on myself, but how much work is enough? I’ve unpacked my anxious behaviours, worked with an excellent therapist that lead me through it all and I’ve read deep into my psychology. I’m feeling strong and have re-defined myself, self esteem is good. But, I’m still a bit worried about the end or rekindling with my ex, my life is and will be good without her, but after all that I still want her because she is a quality person - “plenty of fish in the sea” yeah, but I seen all the bottom feeders.. and I don’t want to spend all my time comparing girls to her and having to deal with that disappointment. She’s the magical, unicorn whale of my sea(not the size of a whale though).
I disagree there must have been something wrong with this person. Why would you wanna be with someone who discarded you? Remember reading the same book twice can be fun but it doesn't change the ending. Start a new book!
@@Akmal18952 I’m not sure this is something you can technically disagree with, because this is how I feel and what I know about myself and the situation. For the most part I caused the breakup, sure she initiated it, but would I want someone I love to continue to suffer if my behaviours were hurting them? Would she continue hurting herself seeing the man she loved neglect her and after many attempts refuse her support and influence. On the other side I actually respect her strength for walking, because I know how much she loved me(part of why I didn’t see it coming). She had issues, sure, but mostly in reaction to mine. You can read the same book many times and each time develop a better understanding of the story and the intricacies of the characters, that is a fact. I’ve actually read other books, I’ve looked at a lot of others, they’re all boring. I’m actually looking at other books now and they fall short.. People are flawed, we make mistakes everyday and all our lives we grow and learn from those mistakes. Relationships are a constantly evolving thing, emotions and love change and people stumble, people sometimes act from a place of hidden trauma and push away the person they wanted to spend their life with. We can’t expect loved ones to stay and feel lonely because we’re struggling - attraction will drop and they’ll have to leave, now is the time to learn, re-connect and show what their sacrifice produced. There’s no room for pride and a disposable mentality in life for the important things, being honest and humble is a clearer path.
How you ened it has a lot to do with it. If you told her something like you dont agree with the breakup and want to work through it, but accept her decision, you have a chance.
@Akmal18952 because people are people. We look out for ourselves mostly, but we also have the ability to forgive and realize when we have made a mistake.
Paz I gotta say you nailed it. Amazing video and very informative. I’m going through a healing process as well as I broke up with my ex girlfriend back in March of this year. She decided to walk away and she was checked out before pulling the plug. I was devastated and thought to myself if I was the issue and when I looked back I never was the issue. This no contact is tough cause I still think about her and our memories together. I wish I knew the main reason why she left me but I’ll never know. From then I started working on myself and made some big improvements. I’m actually a lot happier now than before. I wish nothing bad upon my ex and I hope she heals and finds her happiness. Thanks for the video as I now know what she’s going through. Cheers mate!
Hey my brother! Thank you so much for your kind words and lovely comment, you’re obviously doing a really good job on your healing journey! I’m proud of you, brother and here for you whenever you wanna talk, much love 🤍
@@canis556 she walked away after being with her for over a year. Did everything I could in that relationship but it wasn’t enough for her. You can give woman the whole world and one day it’s gone just like that.
13 years together never apart and got along well,, she was pulled in on dating sites and had to see what she was missing, 5 months later tried to come back and I just couldn't take a woman back that left me once the trust was broken.
Mine broke up with me 6 mo ago and rebounded with some stranger on a cruise 4 mo after our break up. Currently posting pictures of his new girlfriend who looks like me
Don’t pay attention to this, it’s not real and this relationship will definitely fail. Not sure if you watched my other videos on rebound relationships, but in case you haven’t I talk about this extensively so make sure you check them out to learn more. Also, this is your time now! Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this! Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix Use the coupon code HEAL to get 50% OFF! (72 hours time-limit)
It’s so hard damn hard bro, genuinely cared about her that much was good for a few years started to go down hill for a bit then she just went mia and didn’t talk or see me for a month, not a word then I find out through facebook she was engaged to her “friend” never felt more pain than that ever before in my life. It happened years ago and I’ve just never been able to pick myself back up, not one to make excuses but it genuinely broke my soul. I went radio silence maybe a month after it happened and I still am radio silence as I type this I just withdrew from life completely, she messaged me on snap a few months ago aswell but I haven’t opened it because I know I’m still a broken soul and it’ll only make it worse pretending like there’s a chance still after all this time.
@@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan my heart goes out to you. My boyfriend left me a couple of months ago. Completely blindsided me and then abandoned me. He stayed in touch for about two or three weeks and even asked me out to lunch a couple of times and acted like we were still together, but now he’s gone completely ghost. I think he has found somebody else on the rebound. I know it won’t last because he hasn’t healed, but I’m still so wounded. I too, feel like I will never be the same person again. This Heartbreak was the worst ever. He said he was a broken man and I am a wounded woman and that we both need to work on ourselves. Well I would agree, but I thought we Could work on things together as a couple. We could get separate counseling and couples counseling, but quite frankly, I don’t think he was ever as invested in this relationship as I was. He never wanted a forever commitment. Anyway, I’m so sorry that you had to go through this heartbreak and I hope that both you and I find peace again one day.
Dude this was exactly what happened to me bro. I definitely don’t hate them. But I left giving her the space/break up she wanted . I hope she felt that energy. Been no contact for 1 week and a half. I hope this happens, but I won’t hold onto this. I will still workout and eat right and do me.
Thank you so much for you acknowledgment my friend! I appreciate it a ton 🙏🏽 If you have any questions or video suggestions please let me know, I GOT YOU, stay strong 💪🏽
I had an ex that treated me like trash cheated on me as well to my face then came back after 4 yrs but the memories were there still I couldn't take him back
Just literally just happened today as we speak she emailed me asking for something she forgot to get when she moved out I been in Nc for almost a month
Mine dropped off my remaining things to me last night. Bruh, it hit me so hard this morning. Best of luck on your journey. This is gonna be tough for us
@@Juice1990s We've been having issues a few months. But it just recently ended. HOWEVER, she texted me earlier saying she wanted to stop by " and talk" because when she dropped my stuff off last night it didn't go " as she'd hoped" lol So this evening within 20 minutes of talking, the kissing all in front of the apt complex. I mean the movie kissing 😂 Boobs out and all and ended up in my apartment for the finish lol. She walking back to her car with all that this means nothing bs lol. In my head knowing her, that was bs even though I'm still keeping it distant going forward. But we kissed again and she stared at me blushing and pulled off. I'm glad it ended it this way because I made sure I put in workkkkkk 💪🏾💥💥😂 I know she open again. All that angry stuff was M.I.A all because I gave her an oil change lol
What about a breakup with a married woman, this woman fell in love with me, and i was against It, but fell in love to ( i could not resist it anymore. Than we started the affaire, and now 7 months later i felt alot of red flags the last few weeks and she broke up. But i really like her, she said that she loves me but loves her husband to. She broke up and blocked me i did not contact her. What to do to get her in my life?
we only have to deal with ourselves when the problem was in us, but what is the case if they were imature enough and didn't want to talk about what they were doing wrong in the relationthip, they didn't like to face their mistakes or not have enough empathy with the partner. kind of a selfish person .... ?
It’s been 5 months of no contact and I haven’t heard anything from him. He also just recently deleted my mom off social media after she posted a photo with me in it. What does this mean?
@@Chloeeee2215 it’s a psychological game. The image might of triggered some unresolved feelings. If your mom has been added this whole time till she posted you she tell you everything.
Thank you I will watch the others as well . My question is I have been in a relationship with much younger woman she is a mother of 11 years old boy we have been togetherfor 9 years but the last , 2 years she was having an affair with a man my age when I found out we broke up few months later she apologize and I toke her back Last month she wanted to leave because of her lost feeling I asked her did she start seeing the other man she said yes . It's breaking me apart . How should I go by it ? Thank you paz
@jackjames5694 I can totally understand why it’s breaking you apart, my dear friend, but unfortunately, the only answer that I can give you is to move on since she no longer have romantic feeling for you and she moved on with another man…
Ya he was cheating on me with his ex….i had a good reason for my anxiety to be triggered…he knew i had exes go back to their exes after me….and he did it to me with a remix
Putting a 6 mo to a year time-line on healing and moving on from a failed 10+ year marriage seems unprofessional and very generalizing. Something to consider as a supposed professional relationship coach. And I definitely like much of your teachings and advice! 🙏
My ex reacted to my picture with a song few days back and that got me kinda confused. He’s been reaching out lately by commenting on my WhatsApp stories anytime I post my pictures but this last time he reacted with a song telling me how beautiful I am and he’d like to be teased by me. I just kept wondering why he chose to send a song when he could have just simply comment on the picture as he’s been doing. I really don’t know if I should take his action as him trying to get back or he’s just simply bread-crumbing me! And yeah he told me he’d be in my city soon and he’d let me know once he lands in. Are this signs of him trying to mend what he broke or what???
He’s temperature checking, especially since he’ll be coming to your area soon. A real reach out is him calling and having a real conversation. Match energy, don’t show your hand. Trust.
I’m so confused. She was the anxious one. She was constantly initiating conversations throughout the day. Then out of the blue dumped me. I was devastated. I am the type who doesn’t need to communicate between dates. What’s the point I’m going to see you Friday. I really don’t get women.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
Breakup is like having an open heart surgery without anaesthetic especially when it wasn’t your fault and the dumper sleeps with another partner
Amen!!!
I don't need to work on myself and why would anyone want to take back a covert narc, dumper, cheater and liar? Slam the door in their face, move on.
@@calvin-coohey2112 the fact you attracted this kind of people and ignored the red flag are clear sign you need something to be fixed
@@AnJing-kl9hi Where exactly in my comment does it say I had relationships with these types of people?
I broke up afew weeks ago with a lovely woman who practically wasn't a good fit, I feel so bad from my heart but when I go through the practical list it seems like the right decision; I find breaking up with others is much worse than being broken up with and still feel immense guilt
It’s been nine months since my FA ex left for another after four years with me. We had a mostly good relationship. I am secure with a few FA tendencies myself. I like space also, and kept my own life with friends, family, and activities. His fears are what got to him. He wanted to remain as friends. Nope. I just let him go and moved on. I have almost healed. I am becoming the best version of myself for myself. I realize it would never work. I wish him well.
Same exact timeline and experience for me. I tried friendship but he was too triggering. Told him I can’t do friendship and he ghosted me..right decision. He’ll be avoidant forever if he doesn’t take a real look at his patterns.
Well done 👏
@@sadiqua7Don’t waste your time befriending your ex
I’ve done a lot of work on myself, but how much work is enough? I’ve unpacked my anxious behaviours, worked with an excellent therapist that lead me through it all and I’ve read deep into my psychology. I’m feeling strong and have re-defined myself, self esteem is good. But, I’m still a bit worried about the end or rekindling with my ex, my life is and will be good without her, but after all that I still want her because she is a quality person - “plenty of fish in the sea” yeah, but I seen all the bottom feeders.. and I don’t want to spend all my time comparing girls to her and having to deal with that disappointment. She’s the magical, unicorn whale of my sea(not the size of a whale though).
I feel this so much 😢
I disagree there must have been something wrong with this person. Why would you wanna be with someone who discarded you? Remember reading the same book twice can be fun but it doesn't change the ending. Start a new book!
@@Akmal18952 I’m not sure this is something you can technically disagree with, because this is how I feel and what I know about myself and the situation.
For the most part I caused the breakup, sure she initiated it, but would I want someone I love to continue to suffer if my behaviours were hurting them? Would she continue hurting herself seeing the man she loved neglect her and after many attempts refuse her support and influence. On the other side I actually respect her strength for walking, because I know how much she loved me(part of why I didn’t see it coming). She had issues, sure, but mostly in reaction to mine.
You can read the same book many times and each time develop a better understanding of the story and the intricacies of the characters, that is a fact. I’ve actually read other books, I’ve looked at a lot of others, they’re all boring. I’m actually looking at other books now and they fall short..
People are flawed, we make mistakes everyday and all our lives we grow and learn from those mistakes. Relationships are a constantly evolving thing, emotions and love change and people stumble, people sometimes act from a place of hidden trauma and push away the person they wanted to spend their life with. We can’t expect loved ones to stay and feel lonely because we’re struggling - attraction will drop and they’ll have to leave, now is the time to learn, re-connect and show what their sacrifice produced. There’s no room for pride and a disposable mentality in life for the important things, being honest and humble is a clearer path.
How you ened it has a lot to do with it. If you told her something like you dont agree with the breakup and want to work through it, but accept her decision, you have a chance.
@Akmal18952 because people are people. We look out for ourselves mostly, but we also have the ability to forgive and realize when we have made a mistake.
Paz I gotta say you nailed it. Amazing video and very informative. I’m going through a healing process as well as I broke up with my ex girlfriend back in March of this year. She decided to walk away and she was checked out before pulling the plug. I was devastated and thought to myself if I was the issue and when I looked back I never was the issue. This no contact is tough cause I still think about her and our memories together. I wish I knew the main reason why she left me but I’ll never know. From then I started working on myself and made some big improvements. I’m actually a lot happier now than before. I wish nothing bad upon my ex and I hope she heals and finds her happiness. Thanks for the video as I now know what she’s going through. Cheers mate!
Hey my brother! Thank you so much for your kind words and lovely comment, you’re obviously doing a really good job on your healing journey! I’m proud of you, brother and here for you whenever you wanna talk, much love 🤍
She walked away or you broke up with her? Doesn't make sense to be honest
@@canis556 she walked away after being with her for over a year. Did everything I could in that relationship but it wasn’t enough for her. You can give woman the whole world and one day it’s gone just like that.
Heal so you can help others heal sounds like a worthy reason to get out of a rut.
YES My friend!
13 years together never apart and got along well,, she was pulled in on dating sites and had to see what she was missing, 5 months later tried to come back and I just couldn't take a woman back that left me once the trust was broken.
Mine broke up with me 6 mo ago and rebounded with some stranger on a cruise 4 mo after our break up. Currently posting pictures of his new girlfriend who looks like me
Don’t pay attention to this, it’s not real and this relationship will definitely fail.
Not sure if you watched my other videos on rebound relationships, but in case you haven’t I talk about this extensively so make sure you check them out to learn more.
Also, this is your time now!
Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this!
Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
Use the coupon code HEAL to get 50% OFF! (72 hours time-limit)
My ex gf dropped off my remaining things last night. That was painful. Especially when I woke up and looked at the bags. This is gonna be hard
It’s so hard damn hard bro, genuinely cared about her that much was good for a few years started to go down hill for a bit then she just went mia and didn’t talk or see me for a month, not a word then I find out through facebook she was engaged to her “friend” never felt more pain than that ever before in my life. It happened years ago and I’ve just never been able to pick myself back up, not one to make excuses but it genuinely broke my soul. I went radio silence maybe a month after it happened and I still am radio silence as I type this I just withdrew from life completely, she messaged me on snap a few months ago aswell but I haven’t opened it because I know I’m still a broken soul and it’ll only make it worse pretending like there’s a chance still after all this time.
@@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan my heart goes out to you. My boyfriend left me a couple of months ago. Completely blindsided me and then abandoned me. He stayed in touch for about two or three weeks and even asked me out to lunch a couple of times and acted like we were still together, but now he’s gone completely ghost. I think he has found somebody else on the rebound. I know it won’t last because he hasn’t healed, but I’m still so wounded. I too, feel like I will never be the same person again. This Heartbreak was the worst ever. He said he was a broken man and I am a wounded woman and that we both need to work on ourselves. Well I would agree, but I thought we Could work on things together as a couple. We could get separate counseling and couples counseling, but quite frankly, I don’t think he was ever as invested in this relationship as I was. He never wanted a forever commitment. Anyway, I’m so sorry that you had to go through this heartbreak and I hope that both you and I find peace again one day.
Dude this was exactly what happened to me bro. I definitely don’t hate them. But I left giving her the space/break up she wanted . I hope she felt that energy. Been no contact for 1 week and a half.
I hope this happens, but I won’t hold onto this. I will still workout and eat right and do me.
Great video, can u do a video if u have a child with ur ex, the stages u go through , plz an thanks 🙏🏽
I really like This..I actually Enjoyed watching this I really liked this no cap learnt alot
Thank you so much for you acknowledgment my friend! I appreciate it a ton 🙏🏽
If you have any questions or video suggestions please let me know, I GOT YOU, stay strong 💪🏽
"mine " has been faster, 25 years together, she dumped me, (of course, was all my fault) after 2 months, she is already see someone else. 😅
I had an ex that treated me like trash cheated on me as well to my face then came back after 4 yrs but the memories were there still I couldn't take him back
Just literally just happened today as we speak she emailed me asking for something she forgot to get when she moved out I been in Nc for almost a month
Mine dropped off my remaining things to me last night. Bruh, it hit me so hard this morning. Best of luck on your journey. This is gonna be tough for us
@@mrkeitt man I can only imagine mines still got stuff in my apartment she low key email me asking did she forget something last week
@@Juice1990s Bruh I'm sick lol
@@mrkeitt when did y’all break up bro lol
@@Juice1990s We've been having issues a few months. But it just recently ended. HOWEVER, she texted me earlier saying she wanted to stop by " and talk" because when she dropped my stuff off last night it didn't go " as she'd hoped" lol So this evening within 20 minutes of talking, the kissing all in front of the apt complex. I mean the movie kissing 😂 Boobs out and all and ended up in my apartment for the finish lol. She walking back to her car with all that this means nothing bs lol. In my head knowing her, that was bs even though I'm still keeping it distant going forward. But we kissed again and she stared at me blushing and pulled off. I'm glad it ended it this way because I made sure I put in workkkkkk 💪🏾💥💥😂 I know she open again. All that angry stuff was M.I.A all because I gave her an oil change lol
If he breaks no contact , I won’t answer , I wish him well though ❤
Amazing 🙏🏽
What about a breakup with a married woman, this woman fell in love with me, and i was against
It, but fell in love to ( i could not resist it anymore. Than we started the affaire, and now 7 months later i felt alot of red flags the last few weeks and she broke up.
But i really like her, she said that she loves me but loves her husband to.
She broke up and blocked me i did not contact her.
What to do to get her in my life?
When you say missing. Should you block them, Especially when they have monkey branched?
Yes my friend! Exactly!
Sorry i missed the part wherr u said hopeless if they already got someone
Yeah this is my personal belief, no second chance if this happens…
Hey do some live, we would like it
I was actually thinking about this! Now that you’ve asked, I will do this 🙏🏽
What are a few topics you would like me to cover?
we only have to deal with ourselves when the problem was in us, but what is the case if they were imature enough and didn't want to talk about what they were doing wrong in the relationthip, they didn't like to face their mistakes or not have enough empathy with the partner. kind of a selfish person .... ?
It’s been 5 months of no contact and I haven’t heard anything from him. He also just recently deleted my mom off social media after she posted a photo with me in it. What does this mean?
Means he still loves you but avoiding to reach out
@@nogocheese1549 how does it mean he still loves me? Doesn’t it mean the opposite since he deleted my mom? Please let me know your opinion 🙏
@@Chloeeee2215 it’s a psychological game. The image might of triggered some unresolved feelings. If your mom has been added this whole time till she posted you she tell you everything.
@@nogocheese1549 thank you so much for the explanation! Do you think I should reach out to him or should I stay in no contact
If he didn’t still have feelings for you the picture wouldn’t have bothered him @nogocheese1549 is right
Pain.
🙏
hi paz any video on monkey branching relationships ? thank you
Hey brother there you go!
14 Reasons WHY Monkey Branching Relationships ALWAYS FAIL!
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I got many more on my channel, go and check them out ;)
Thank you I will watch the others as well .
My question is I have been in a relationship with much younger woman she is a mother of 11 years old boy we have been togetherfor 9 years but the last , 2 years she was having an affair with a man my age when I found out we broke up few months later she apologize and I toke her back
Last month she wanted to leave because of her lost feeling I asked her did she start seeing the other man she said yes .
It's breaking me apart . How should I go by it ?
Thank you paz
@jackjames5694 I can totally understand why it’s breaking you apart, my dear friend, but unfortunately, the only answer that I can give you is to move on since she no longer have romantic feeling for you and she moved on with another man…
@PazGoldmanOfficial thank you so much . I am watching your videos. I hope to feel better ...
Ya he was cheating on me with his ex….i had a good reason for my anxiety to be triggered…he knew i had exes go back to their exes after me….and he did it to me with a remix
Putting a 6 mo to a year time-line on healing and moving on from a failed 10+ year marriage seems unprofessional and very generalizing. Something to consider as a supposed professional relationship coach. And I definitely like much of your teachings and advice! 🙏
My ex reacted to my picture with a song few days back and that got me kinda confused. He’s been reaching out lately by commenting on my WhatsApp stories anytime I post my pictures but this last time he reacted with a song telling me how beautiful I am and he’d like to be teased by me. I just kept wondering why he chose to send a song when he could have just simply comment on the picture as he’s been doing. I really don’t know if I should take his action as him trying to get back or he’s just simply bread-crumbing me! And yeah he told me he’d be in my city soon and he’d let me know once he lands in. Are this signs of him trying to mend what he broke or what???
He’s temperature checking, especially since he’ll be coming to your area soon. A real reach out is him calling and having a real conversation. Match energy, don’t show your hand. Trust.
i doubt they realize that ive left them alone when they monkey branched after a 22 yr relationship
I have a business with my ex - it’s hell. Pretty sure she only reaches out because of the business…lol. I just want the both of us to have some space.
I’m so confused. She was the anxious one. She was constantly initiating conversations throughout the day. Then out of the blue dumped me. I was devastated. I am the type who doesn’t need to communicate between dates. What’s the point I’m going to see you Friday. I really don’t get women.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@WallaceM.Hilliarddude just let her go
why he doesnt let me go, after we broke up?
Because he loves you how long have you guys dated ?
What kind of question is that? He clearly loves you
@@Cutthroat__😅