The second story: as a first time mom I made it clear that me or my hubby will not ask more than once for our baby back. People are really bold because if you refuse you are running the risk of a mom or dad getting physical in order to have their child back. I highly suggest not doing that.
She wouldn't react that way if he reacted to the situation at all. He sees she is struggling with his mom but wont step in to help... I feel like we would get more of a JNMIL story if his wife was writing this post...
totally.. and new parents have every right to hover over their baby.. it's normal to distrust everyone else even if it's the husband or the mother because it's about a little baby
@@smilingchesire5445 no you are absolutely right there.. it's your baby and it's your duty to protect it from everything !! even if afterwards you realize that it was a little over the top but those are the things that keep babies alive
Story 1: I'm so tired of people blaming others for their spouse's creepy behavior. "My husband was _staring_ at our neighbor from the window while she was sitting in her backyard! How DARE she do this!! What a sl*t!!! Making my husband look at her like that!!!!"
Can we please stop referring to not wearing clothes in places we have an expectation of privacy as indecent. If you are in your home or in a part of your property that is screened for privacy how is not wearing anything indecent, someone has to go out of their way to violate your privacy but somehow you are the one in the wrong? This is a huge example of bad thought programming, we need to address this.
I'd have called the cops on them both. The husband for being a Peeping Tom, and violation of privacy and the wife for harassment and slander. I'd also install cameras around the property so WHEN not IF he does it again I'd have proof for the cops.
I swear I've heard the wife's side of the second story! And if I'm correct, there was also a lot of stuff MIL was doing when the husband wasn't around, so he was taking his wife's reactions out of context of the full situation. But regardless, a mom shouldn't have to "ask nicely" for her baby back. If mama says to hand over her baby, then hand over the damn baby.
Hell yeah. I remember a few months back a story on the news of a Mom actually pulling a gun on someone when they didn’t give her baby back, thankfully no one was shot, but the other lady I think got either arrested or cited for attempted kidnapping
I was thinking the same thing. Pretty sure he covered her side of the story a while back and the MIL outright refused to give the baby back for hours at a time.
I know exactly what story you're talking about and remembering how that op described her husband, it all matches up really damn close. Could still be a coincidence but it's still so similar that it's hard not to consider.
By an odd coincidence I am listening to the wife's story right now on a second YT tab on my laptop (rSlash published it Apr. 01, 2022) - or another coincidence that story is almost identical to this one :D (I'm currently bing-watching rSlash).
I gotta say whenever Person A has a disproportionate reaction* to Person B/Person B's behaviour, my first thought is to ask 'what was it that Person B has been doing to Person A?' Too often, Person B (the bully) pokes, and pokes, and pokes at Person A all the while Person A tries to deal with the situation constructively, quietly, reasonably, and appropriately. But Person B keeps poking and poking and poking until Person A finally loses it and responds in a (supposedly) 'too big' way. And they Person B points to Person A with indignation and anger that Person A could treat them (Person B) so badly. And everyone, having only seen the 'too big' response, rallies around in defence of Person B against Person A. And then Person A gets bullied by the group too. So, yeah, having seen this pattern too many times, and having been in Person A's shoes too many times, whenever I see a Person A give a 'too big' response, my first thought is 'what has Person B been doing'? *one that seems out of character for Person A or which genuinely seems too big for the situation at hand, as opposed to Person A having a pattern of reacting that way anyway no matter the situation.
@@SailorMya Umm, a single woman and he looked because she was outside, naked and doing things of a sexual nature with her husband. But hey, it's all the men's fault, as your society typically dictates.
Dog dude is almost certainly trying to neg OP; he wants to lower her self-esteem, but frames it as a "quirky joke" so if she takes offense, he can claim she's too sensitive. Good for OP for not falling for it.
100% This guy probably just started watching dirt bags like Andrew Tate to fill in his own insecurities and thought it was okay to do the crap they advocate for to keep her in the relationship. Rather than talking like a human being.
You notice that he said marriage like it was going to happen whether or not OP wanted it to? Like OP said they'd been dating a while, not years or months but that doesn't mean that she wants to marry the guy, especially if she hasn't met his dog or most likely his family yet. This guy's giving off some VERY creepy and controlling vibes.
"My dog thinks you're ugly" story... Run, don't walk! Run like your life depends on it. What we have here is the beginning of what I suspect would become some pretty horrific conditioning behaviour. How long before "My dog thinks you're ugly" becomes "Even my dog thinks you're ugly, you should be grateful I even bother with you"? OP stated she has self esteem issues. I don't think this situation was a coincidence. Based on that story, I have the opinion the "Boyfriend" sounds very predatory. We can't know for sure, but I am of the opinion that the relationship would become both mentally and physically abusive, very quickly.
How else is a 31 year old jerk going to get a girl, especially a younger lady. He’s probably hoping she hasn’t been dating much and has such a negative self esteem issue where he can condition her to believing this is the norm
Last Story: gotta love how the pampered golden child can do whatever and say whatever she wants, but the second Op defends herself everyone is all “oh how could you” Honestly, i don’t even think what OP said was cruel, she was basically giving her sister the same comment she had given her
@@speedstick8981 I agree. OP needs to have a sit down with her parents and explain some hard truths. Their "baby" girl is 27, has no college degree, a failed business, lives at home, parties with friends and has no intention of changing. If they do not stop enabling her are they going to take care of her for the rest of their lives? If so what is going to happen to her when they die?
Oh man, I’m jealous of the first wife’s confidence. Swimming topless sounds so fun, you go girl. Also neighbors husband is WEEEEIRD. And good for OP for standing up for his wife
@@aaroncousins4750 not if it’s in a private setting, if they do (example: in their own garden like in the story) then the one looking is a criminal because being a peeping Tom is illegal
@@JinxPropaganda im not saying shes in the wrong. But at the end of the day being naked in your garden is a risk, people can see you. For example if i look out kf my window i can see into my neighbours garden. So if you want to do it, you cant exactly be shocked when seen
@@aaroncousins4750 Like in the first story, my neighbours would have to make an effort to see me in my yard. I have good fences so have no problem being out there not fully dressed. If any of my neighbours were to make such an effort it's their own fault if they get an eyeful
The „what’s for dinner” story: OMG! I can see myself saying that to my mate, but my wife? No way! Unless she was in on the joke and liked that kind of humor (there are couples like this out there and that is fine) but she was clearly taken off guard. Disrespectful!
Second Story: If ANYONE had kept me from my baby after I asked them to hand her back over, I would be beyond pissed. That is a cruel thing to do to a new mother, omg no wonder his wife is acting out. If I ask, I'm only asking once before the gloves come off. OP, you're stupid for taking your mother's side over your wife. I hope she's okay.
My best friends sister had her baby 2 weeks ago and I just saw them all today for the first time after my niece being born. I got my fair share of baby cuddles and even had a scare when she threw up after her feed on me. The mum in question even let me in the room for her change and re feed because I was terrified. I handed her right over because I was shaking and scared of her chocking or suffocating herself but I did all the right moves and just had an apparently normal scare. I even got cuddles again after that. As soon as she started fussing I'd ask if she was hungry or just being fussy. I wouldn't even imagine withholding her from her mum. She's a really cute baby, just food motivated and playful.
All I have to say is if the wife wants to do it all herself, then fine. I don't know the wife's side but if I was in her shoes I'd want as much time away from the baby as possible to rest. If all this stuff is happening when the husband isn't at home then the wife can't expect him to swoop in. I think ESH. MIL trying to be too helpful, wife assuming hubby should step in (even when not there?), and hubby for not getting whole story.
About dogman who told OP the dog said she’s ugly: Get away from that man! He is toxic AF. What he’s doing is gaslighting, and testing you to see if you’ll fall for it. DON’T!! Instead of lashing out at you in the calls afterward, at the minimum he should have been on his knees apologizing to you. Drop him!!! 😱
The last story: This is exactly what my parents did with me and my younger sister. She never learned the concept of consequences and has spent her life making the same mistakes because she knows parents will bail her out. Meanwhile I have a lot of therapy and self worth issues. This is emotional neglect, plain and simple. It's abuse.
you are valid and matter just as much as your sister. your parents are shitty parents and you should go out into the world and be the best self you can be. seek your happiness and learn to let those who won't appreciate how good and special you are go. don't let them hold you back, find those who love you for you and hold onto them and love them back. always remember - the blood of the covenant is stronger than the water of the womb.
The "joke" with the dog isn't a joke. That's just demeaning. Op's sister saying they ruined it is just BS. A joke is only funny if everyone is laughing, if you're the only one laughing then it's just cruel.
It's not just that, he's doing the psychiatrist puppet thing. When you're emotionally constipated (usually because of abuse), you hold a doll or toy or actual puppet and "they talk" for you. I wonder if he does this all the time, "My dog thinks you're stupid!" "My dog thinks you should passionately hug me right now!" "My dog thinks you're a bitch! ... Ha-ha, get it? Because he's a dog?!" Actually, that last one would be a "joke" too.
I agree. Also, I disagree with the sister - OP didn't 'ruin the relationship'. Rather, OP dodged a bullet with that butthole of a (hopefully) ex-boyfriend.
Honestly, the dog joke is something I’d pull with friends or SO. Like, “haha my dog thinks you’re ugly you’re not up to her doggie standards :).” But once you upset someone with a joke, you gotta apologize instead of double down! There’s a fine line about making fun with someone and making fun of someone and you need to see when you crossed the line.
How I get is, is that the guy wasn't jocking. Like animals do have opinions, if you could call it that, and he may have just phreased that the dog doesn't like her weirdly
@@sugarkane1571 I agree, OP did overreact a bit in my opinion because the bf is in a relationship with her so he clearly doesn’t think she’s ugly. Plus his dog statement is honestly not something anyone should take seriously. HOWEVER, his reaction to her being offended was waaaaaaay more telling that any insecurities she may have displayed.
My opinion if the trend is discussed between the couple it’s okay. But if not then it’s not. My bf has shown me the trend and I told him if he did that to me I’d be pissed.
@@brirose1521the trend seems so fucking stupid but throwing pot of food to the floor is seriously bitch behavior and so immature. Yes calling your wife a bitch is immature and even abusive but she is a crazybitch for reacting like that
Story 5: Welcome to reality, Olivia. Enjoy your permanent stay. In all seriousness, those parents gotta stop holding her hand and Olivia needs to start getting herself together. OP's message was a bit cruel, but it HAD to be said
Story 2: As a person who is childless, and has only held other peoples babies. As soon as the parent asks for the baby I hand them back no questions, no just a sec… I see it as parents are going to be very protective of their new child. I don’t want to piss off someone who is likely already on a short fuse.
Both OP and his mom are keeping his wife from bonding with her own child. It appears she only gets him when she practically has to pry him out of MIL’s arms to nurse
I’ve been married to my wife for 10 years and have never had the idea or thought to ask her for dinner that way 😳🤦🏽♂️😂😂 Every time that she makes any food or even help me with anything, I’ve always told her thank you and give her a kiss. That’s embarrassing for the wannabe man to say something like that to someone he supposedly loves.
The fact that he is "coping something from the internet!" makes it a lot worst in my opinion. Not only did he not respect her enough to not call her that when she is helping him but chances are, if it really is a thing, he saw the reactions and you cannot say their reactions to being called a b*tch were positive.
@@SailorMya Also, if he lacks the critical thinking skills necessary to conclude that it isn't a good idea to do that then how smart can the guy be? What will happen when an important decision needs to be made or an emergency arises? 😬
Same here hubby and I have been married 10 years. And through ups, downs, fights, hurt feelings, illnesses, and every thing else in marriage “what’s for dinner, b****” has never crossed his lips. This little boy who wants to copy tic toc is obviously not grown enough to be in an adult relationship.
The guy with the dog is a potential red flag - he could use the dog excuse to say (or even do) all kinds of horrible things to his partner, theoretically
Story 5: What OP said was objectively correct and Olivia did sort of invite such a response by insulting OP. It was cruel but OP wasn’t wrong about it either and I think it was needed to bring Olivia back down to Earth.
Pretty much! Oliva is the "Golden Child" and unfortunately the way the Parents and the rest of the Family were reacting. It sounds like everyone including Oliva were just expecting OP to take over taking care of her when their parents no longer can. Oliva never grew up and now she's starting to see that not everything is about her nor that the world revolves around her b/c her friends have moved on in their lives and she never has!
Like I always say, "The truth hurts the most when you're not willing to hear it." She had it coming to her...and worst of all, this is going to catch up to her REALLY fast. I mean, it already is catching up to her.
I couldn’t think of a more polite way of informing her of her behavior. She should’ve gotten this talk 20 years ago. Hopefully this sets precedent that OP will not fund or provide any source of assistance to sister
@@damionlee7658 Because they share the same symptom. The itching of worms causes scooting, same with allergies, general irritation or as you mentioned impaced anal glands.
@@damionlee7658 And sometimes the dog just has an itchy butthole. There is more than one reason for the behavior and worms is in fact one of them. Let me guess, you also think panting is only done when the dog is thirsty and zoomies are only done if the dog gets no exercise. Dog behavior is not that black and white, it's a lot more nuanced than people seem to think.
@@damionlee7658 Because you've made your thoughts pretty obvious and a big part of my job as a doggy daycare attendant and on staff dog behavior expert is having to deal with people like you frequently.
Last story: notice how OP's relatives are the ones that think she was out of line? And those who aren't enabling that behaviour are OP's husband's relatives?
Story 2: "You could ask _nicely."_ It's not _your child_ now is it? You can't take someone else's kid then go "Ask nicely 😌" as a term of giving them back, especially when they already did ask nicely and you refused then had a fit with crocodile tears cause "she was rude 🥺" after 🙄 Edit: It's only a "difficult time 🥺" because you're allowing your mommy to dictate who has the baby and when while you refuse to do anything yourself Story 3: Imagine thinking it's toxic sensitivity and stupid for someone to _~checks notes~_ get upset after being called ugly. It's not a joke if the person it's aimed at doesn't find it funny
Imagine if it were something other than a baby, and someone said the same thing. Like, "Hey, I took your computer. Want it back? Better ask me nicely. What do you mean I'm stealing? Why are you calling the cops? I'm just saying you should ask me nicely, because I really like your computer."
@@SailorMya I actually thought this was a story I heard before but from the perspective of the husband. It wasn't, but the fact that I thought it was really goes to show how many people are having to deal with in-laws crossing boundaries when it comes to babies 😟😓
I can see the humor in dogs saying things using people as mediums. I have a dish towel that says "My dog and I talk shit about you." It's the best dish towel ever.
Ok, but for the story about that TikTok trend: I've been watching some of these videos for research, and it looks like the entire point is for the guy to be nervous (practicing in front of the mirror, stuttering it) because they KNOW she's gonna get pissed, and it oftentimes results in food, shoes, etc being thrown. Therefore, I don't see why OP's (ex) boyfriend is so upset about her throwing pasta sauce on the floor; if he was recording, she would have just given him TikTok gold! Tldr: he literally participated in a trend designed to make your partner pissed and got upset when his partner got pissed. Like, lmao, what a weenie
Because he thought that she will accept it as a great joke as soon as he says "tiktok". So no consquences beside five minut of (funny) anger. It's the same mentality as "it's only a prank, why are you so uptight?".
@@firesong7825 Yes, so I bet that most of tiktok videos is staged and people just pretend to be shocked or angry. OP's boyfriend is too stupid to notice it...
The worst thing a joke can be is unfunny. The second worst thing a joke can be is offensive. The "bitch joke" is both. Story 4: dogs don't have any concept of human beauty. This is confusing me too much for me to be mad.
If the joke's not offensive to somebody, it's not a joke. Comedy is subjective. Just because you don't find something funny, doesn't mean everybody else is supposed to agree with you. My wife and I call each other bitches all the time and have no issues with the word whatsoever. Seems to me that you're suffering from being overly sensitive like the female in the video. The same female in the video that allowed all of her friends to call her a bitch and also called herself a bitch. Make it make sense.
I was gonna say this! I remember the wife’s side was that she kept asking her mil to give the baby back so she could feed him and the mil kept refusing so she ended up yelling at her.
I'm binge-watching rSlash, largely clicking on the next one up on the TH-cam feed. By the strangest coincidence, the next one up on my feed was the wife's side of the story, or at least one that sounds almost identical but from the wife's side. rSlash published it on Apr. 1, 2022. Gotta say, the wife gives a somewhat different version of the story. The husband sounds like the butthole in his own posting, but even more so when the wife explains what the MIL has been doing behind the scenes.
Last story: Okay so from what information OP give Oliva was treated differently simply because she was the 'baby', and not because she had any form of special needs. Yeah Oliva needs a wake up call, its kind of sad that her reaction to her friends moving on with their lives and not having time for her was that instead of thinking that she should try to do something with her life. A fact she needs to learn and learn quick is Mommy and Daddy won't always be able to support her and hold her hand. Hopefully there aren't other family members who are going to coddle her when the parents pass away. OP rightfully sounds like there is no way in heck that they would take on the spoiled brat.
3rd Story: That's so messed up. My partner actually says it often as a joke, because I'm a culinary school student. But we know each other long enough to know for sure that those types of jokes are ok. And if we don't we ask. But we never EVER would just make an offensive joke without knowing if the other is ok with it.
With the third story, hopefully the bf becomes an EX. Like rslash before, it's not so much the time lost with them so much as the time you get back. Also, if you think that tiktok trend is the one to go with for your partner? Yeah, you shouldn't be surprised that you get dumped and shamed
2nd story: So OP is angry at his wife, who gave birth to their child 5 weeks prior, is still recovering physically, and has hormones raging through her body because she was angry at OP's mother for violating her boundaries and keeping her child from her? Yeah, OP is the AH. After I had my baby, a dear friend came in to town two weeks after we left the hospital to visit us and others. she came to spend a whole day and help me. She helped by taking care of the baby so I could take a shower, have a nap, eat an actually hot meal. She even cleaned my kitchen and brought me food. That is how you help. you don't help by upsetting the new mom.
This is how you help. Encouraging the new mom's bonding with her baby. She shouldn't be stressed, especially when she's still breastfeeding. I wish I had a friend like you when I had mine. Doing everything after a c section was torture.
@@paulagoeringer9466 I understand. I was an emergency C-section with nerve damage. My friend, Sarah, is joyously child free, but has made it her goal to be the "cool aunt" that all her chosen nieces and nephews can come to. The advice I've given to everyone who may not have time to give the mom a break is, make a pan or two of food, arrange a time drop it off, put it in the kitchen for them, do a quick coo over the baby and then get the heck out of their way. Spend no more than 10 minutes, and have "something else" you are on the way to so that mom and dad don't feel pressured to entertain.
The girl that created saucing, is absolutely amazing! She Did not allow that man to use excuses instead of owning up to what he did . She was quick on her feet and I loved that story. She did good
Thanks for the stories rslash. Some good ones today. When a mom asks for her baby, there should be no back and forth. A new, first time mom needs affirmation that she's the mom. Have a good morning
"inventing saucing is giving back the same energy" ahhh yes, because saying a naughty word is exactly the same as vandalism and destruction of property.
Story 3: I'm not on tik Tok so I don't know if that's a real trend, but what I do know is that if my boyfriend ever called me a b**** like I would take the food and leave, then dump him by text, just to be the b****he thinks I am. I like how you handled it though OP. Also you're completely right it is disgusting that he just let that food sitting in the floor for hours. Edit: I'm sorry, called her a b**** after she went out of her way to come over to make him a nice meal.
Yeah it is a trend, unfortunately so. It's supposed to get a rise out of the girlfriend/wife with the expense of her feelings. I personally think it feeds into the weaponized incompetence that you typically see with guys who do stuff like this for TikTok clout, in this example, not understanding why such a thing can be very hurtful to a point that it's like talking to a brick wall because to them it's just a joke and in their mind simply saying that will completely pacify the girlfriend/wife.
Same, IDK if it really is a trend but honestly, is he saying that the people in those videos had a positive reaction to being called b*tch!? I kinda want to know if it is now because it sounds made up but a lot of stupid things have spawned from TikTok...
@@LunaP1 You really think it's impossible for someone to make a dark humor joke out of a light reference to old-school abusive relationships? Get over yourself.
The last story, and any other story like that, always hits me in a way no story can. My dad grew up as the non favorite child. He left the house as soon as he could. Now he has two kids, a wife, and a wonderful mother in law. His brother? No kids, a drug addiction, and he lives with his mom. Don’t pick favorites. It drags one kid through hell and makes them tough as nails, and makes the other the cause of that hell.
The last story: That family sounds exactly like mine. I got held accountable and was responsible for *everything* while my sister got to do whatever she wanted. If my sister's chores didn't get done because she went out with her friends instead, it was *my* responsibility to do them on top of my own chores. But if *my* chores didn't get done because I legitimately wasn't feeling well, I was getting yelled at for being "lazy" and "irresponsible". When my sister dropped out of school at 16, it was perfectly okay. But if I were to do that, I'd be digging my own future grave. When my sister also started drinking at 16, "she was just being young and adventurous". If that were me, I'd be the irresponsible and rebellious twit. (Btw I'm 4 years older than my sister; she's 21 now and I'm 25). I also have autism, dyslexia and ADHD so school was very difficult for me, but whenever I didn't understand a certain subject (math was my weakest subject, partially due to my autism and partially due to my dyslexia and ADHD), I was always getting yelled at and told that "I just didn't wanna do the work because I'm lazy" (I was diagnosed with all 3 disorders at 6 years old, so my mom's known for most of life that I have them). It sucks that the younger siblings always get away with everything (oh and my sister doesn't have any disabilities, so I have a pretty good idea what my mother probably resented me for other than my sister being younger).
The last story hits close to home for me. I worked hard in college despite facing a few personal struggles and got grades that didn't go below a B-. My brother, on the other hand, isn't attending college because he doesn't want to put any effort into anything, claiming he doesn't know what he wants to do. I got my ODE Honors Society award when I graduated and I felt proud of the hard work I put into for my Economics minor, cords and all, but when my brother was in high school, he got to graduate despite nearly failing and only got to wear the cords for an advanced class he took because my parents held his hand all the way through. The Creative Writing part also hits close to me. I love to write. I've finished with a first draft of a book, and I'm going to have a piece of writing published this month in a city almanac magazine. But I don't tell my parents because I feel like despite the hard work I put in, it's sometimes not good enough. While my brother gets off his shit scott-free.
Omfg 3rd story irked me. Just cause its hip and cool to do a trend doesn’t mean its safe, either physically or emotionally. He definitely deserves to be dumped
I… disagree. He probably thought it was amusing, and I can understand that. However, instead of saying that even though it was a trend she wasn’t comfortable with it she completely overreacted. She should have taken the time to explain why she wasn’t comfortable with it and I’m willing to bet that he probably would’ve been okay with not being like that again. Considering he said he was okay with doing his own housework, he clearly isn’t being misogynistic and was just trying to poke some fun, albeit very crass fun. My current gf is black, and I’m mix Latino/white (for all intensive purposes I’m white). When I used to do something stupid, she’d call me a “n****r, or say I was acting like one. She wasn’t doing it to be mean, she just thought it was humorous and was just trying to poke fun. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her saying that or talking to me that way, and she understood and never talked like that to me again. I didn’t lose my temper and throw my drink or make a big mess because I had a temper tantrum, I just said it was something I wasn’t comfy with and she changed. OP clearly overrated and instead of trying to say she wasn’t comfy with it made a big mess (literally) and now it’s created conflict. My own butthole score would be: OP 1.5 out of 5 BHs, and boyfriend gets 0.5, maybe one max.
So is nobody going to talk about how she was probably taking out her bad day on him? People who work shitty jobs tend to take it out on their partners, it doesn't matter whether they're male or female.
First Story, NTA: OP is simply warning everyone that this neighbor is invading OP and her wife’s privacy. Not to mention that this lady is trying to lie to everyone else to save their own repuation Second Story, YTA: I don’t get what working have to do with not helping with his own kid? OP’s mom is crossing boundaries and OP is allowing his mom to keep doing this. OP needs to stop being a momma’s boy Third Story, NTA: That is needlessly disrespectful. Who calls their own partner a bitch? What kind of dumbass “trend” is he trying to do? People will do anything for clout it seems. The fact he had the audacity to demand OP to clean the mess when he is the one who caused it. I find what OP did was hilarious Fourth Story, NTA: Literally that is what Michael is doing. He is literally calling OP ugly to her face and is using his dog as an excuse to insult her Fifth Story, NTA: OP’s parents are the worst kind of parents because of their favoritism. With that out of the way, Olivia really can’t judge OP when in a sense she IS the failure of the family because of her parents
@@xKCAZxLEADER Easy. If only one partner works then this partner brings home the money and the other does the housework. If she wants stuff to be split 50/50, she needs to get a job and contribute financially as well.
She tried to save her own reputation only to smash it apart even more. Instead of being an innocent, she became an enabler and defamer in order to protect her way of life.
@@xKCAZxLEADER It doesn't. However, if you are the only one working, you shouldn't have to. You are already supporting your partner monetarily, so the least they can do is make sure that after work you can rest. Where I live, any non-working spouse who expected the working spouse to also help in the home, would be laughed at and seen as nothing but a drain on a productive member of society.
Story 2: The Husband is absolutely the asshole, who gets upset that their partner is on edge and irritable in the days/weeks/months after they give birth? Wtf
@@Josh-th7tm you mean whiny man babies who think "oh no, I have to go to work" is in any way comparable to the exhaustion in the days/weeks/months after giving birth?
Story 1 - OP is in the right warning others about the peeping tom. I don’t know the full setup of your backyard but it does seem like you need more than see through lattice to protect you and your wives privacy.
God the edit of the second story is hilarious! Of course this guy wouldn't listen to the rightful anger/ annoyance of people and tell them to calm down. Anger is an emotion like any other and being angry doesn't mean that someone's viewpoint is invalid. Also, how does he know the whole situation to automatically take his mum's side? He's not there to see why his wife gets so angry so to immediately side against her is odd imo.
Is there a "whole" version of this story or something? Seems like y'all may have heard/read a different story than I did. Grandma comes over to help the family and see the new baby. Grandma holds baby too long(mothers opinion) so mother freaks out and yells at her. Dad asks mother to calm down and she freaks out on him. How tf is he the bad guy?!? Sounds to me like the mother (his wife) has some issues and needs some help releasing some anxiety.
The op in story 1 needs to put in a camera on that side of the property, in case the creep neighbor does that again. Then call the police because creep neighbor deserves to be on the sex offenders registry.
Story One: unfortunately, depending on where you live there might not be anything you can do if they're on their property just peering over and some places might even stick it to you for public indecency (some places having rules about not being "indecent" even through windows). Always check those local laws on what is and isn't enforceable, that would suck to report the neighbor and then be the one scolded by some cop. Same way some criminals break in your house and you have little to no legal standing to defend yourself, you have to flee... 🤦♀️
They have privacy fencing that you have to go out of your way to look over. That does not fall under public indecency and does in fact implicate the neighbor as a peeping Tom. I know exactly what kind of lattice fence op is using and as he described, the only way to look into the yard is to find something to stand on.
@@RiveroftheWither See I had an idea in my mind of lattice fencing, where it's criss cross so technically has some level of "holes" in it. And I know some places really have crummy laws.
@@josephinenelan4204 The holes are covered by thick strips of plastic, if there are any gaps due to shoddy craftsmanship, they're still so small that you would have to be pressed against the fence to see anything.
@@RiveroftheWither I'm not arguing, I'm saying that I had a different picture in my mind and made my comment based on the type of lattice fencing I was picturing. Thank you for informing me there are multiple different kinds, some with way more coverage than others. I still stand by what I said about some places having poop laws that side with creepos over victims.
The only time I make my dog “talk to people” is when I’m like Rupert says “give me that fuckin cheeseburger I’m literally RIGHT here” I don’t insult people LMFAOO that’s so funny
I "talk" for my cats all the time, only I make them say things like "I'm not going to do if if you _want_ me too." (which is backed up by their body language). Then, someone will inevitably say "Are they talking for cats again? Tell them to make me say 'Give me tuna!'," because that's a meme in my house.
On the boyfriend and pasta story, if he told her BEFOREHAND he wanted to do the TikTok meme it would have made things easier. But since he seriously didn't ask to do it beforehand so she wouldn't get upset when it happened (or learned it would upset her and to not do it), he cant communicate properly. He's definitely the A-hole here. Literally asking her would have prevented the entire situation.
For the last one, it reminds me of my ex close friend when OP was talking about Olivia and her friends. My ex friend was just like Olivia in the sense that her parents never pushed her hard enough to be a real adult and always gave her money and she didn't have a real job either. We aren't friends anymore due to that she thought I was ignoring her since I was seeing other people, but in reality I have a very busy life and she knew that.
3rd story from the title alone is a nta and after hearing the story, its a confirmed nta. She should break up with him, I hate that this was because of an effing tik tok
Third story- Yea, no. My husband and I have a very clear understanding about this type of thing. Pull this kind of disrespectful crap, and the only question is what will be ended first, the relationship or the 'prankster' 😵👻🤣
Ugh, there was a tick tock trend where you steal things from your school. It got large enough that they stole bathroom stall doors and toilets. This led my school with practically 0 soap dispensers and with thousands of dollars in damaged property. I was a senior at the time, just after the virus and it was idiot Freshman and Sophomore that did it. It was super annoying and it was the talk of the school. (Me and my friends dissing the people who were doing this stupid stuff) Also, this was in the Washington DC area… like pretty much the CAPITAL OF THE US! And it wasn’t just my school. It was also pretty much all of the schools in the area. This is why I am never touching that cursed app. I’m glad that people like Dan are also posing on TH-cam shorts. Soooo much better than stupid tick tock.
The thing about "trends" is that you DON'T have to mindlessly follow them. My grandfather used to say; "Just because everyone is jumping off a cliff, doesn't mean you have to do it".
Third Story: Man like me and my wife we will insult one another in like offensive ways but we have been together for 10 years, and have always been alright with insulting one another for jokes. This guy said something offensive and got upset when what he said genuinely hurt his girlfriend. Then DOUBLED DOWN on it instead of being an adult and apologizing for it. I have pissed my wife off when I would say a poorly timed joke, but I apologize and we have no bad blood between us from it. Just wow.
Story 2: Story doesn't have full picture in my opinion and probably miscommunication between parties. Everyone should calm down and discuss things like normal human beings.
The parents need to wise up before Olivia bankrupts them, from failing out of college and bankrupts a business in a year. She will be in for a rude awakening when the parents die and OP tells Olivia that she won't get money from OP for anything
I let my mom know if she was coming over to help with my new baby, it was help not to snuggle my newborn all day. Like...yes obviously she can snuggle him, but she's not coming for vacation when I'm postpartum. If that's what she wants thats fine but she'll have to come when I'm healed and the baby's older.
Story 3: Her bf is absolutely in the wrong, but she did do something that fucked up his rug - she could've thrown dinner in the trash, or outside, or other things that didn't potentially cause damage. Just because he was in the wrong doesn't give her carte blanche to do as she pleases. Probably the best thing for her to do imo is to agree to come over, clean the rug as well as she can, and pick up anything that's hers while she's there so she can leave him for good.
I will never understand how people get upset at the person that their partner is creeping on. Cast out the creep and not the lady living her life in her own personal space.
4:06 The MiL I had a MiL "who just wanted to help out" with my new born son. The reality was the fact I was rarely ALLOWED to hold my son and try bonding with him. I was called names and asked what my problem was, while completely ignoring my feelings after I clearly told them what was bothering me. Then they tried gaslighting me by saying I was just being overly sensitive due to hormones. Thankfully they are ex's. I can understand where the new Mom is coming from. It hurts to watch someone else "stealing" (that's what it feels like) your bonding time. Face it, babys eat, sleep, and go to the bathroom. If the grandmother is always feeding & changing the baby, then grandma is stealing that awake time when mom and baby should be bonding.
Story 3 NTA: if he considered calling you a b-word then I suggest you start calling him a bastard everytime you meet him and when he complains say “it’s just a joke”
Story 2: Yeah, OP is clearly the AH as well as the mother. It sounds like his wife has to repeatedly ask his mom to give the baby back to her when it's feeding time or mother-child bonding time. If it's true that his mom is just ignoring her and then shaming her when she raises her voice after being ignored, then it's the mom who is being toxic. I get it, the husband wants her to place nice, so his job is easier, but seriously, he should defend his wife. She has valid concerns and isn't acting out, she's legitimately being ignored.
For the story about the boyfriend who called his girlfriend who had just made him dinner a bitch and then got mad at her for dropping the food on the floor and then was too lazy to clean it up himself -- the girlfriend should tell him that she was trying to reenact the Kevin spills the chilli scene from The Office and she doesn't understand why he didn't think it was funny.
I say the cooking girlfriend is 1/5 AH. For 0/5 AH, she should have thrown the sauce in the kitchen sink, not on the carpet. She is still right that being a b-word tax, that her boyfriend must to suffer and clean up. Also, I would ask the dog owner, isn't that dog the toxic one for judging people or maybe it is just the owner?
Yeah it doesn't matter what he called you damaging personal property is never okay no matter how mad you get if I was renting I would sue you for my security deposit
@@Darkloid21 Why do some people even question if that's accurate or not when the story already said the answer here? I honestly don't get this! Especially since the wife already explained the situation and some people just choose to ignore it?!
Yeah... I mean "I'm nude outside and people look at me!" is a kind of weird take. Also if you change in front of an open window, do you blame the voyer or the exhibitionist? I'd call it more of an "Everyone Sucks Here" though, to be clear, the husband should still be shamed because even if other people are wrong, it doesn't make him right.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa idk, I'm 100% on the side of OP's wife. I mean, they have a fence, that's reasonable enough. I just doubt that the neighbor committed a crime.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa if your house has a window and someone deliberately goes out of their way to look inside (eg. with binoculars) you call them a peeping Tom even if your blinds weren't closed it's not "omg you're standing on the road nude" it's basically if there's a reasonable expectation of privacy, which there is, because they made a fence that would block people's views
They literally describe in detail that with the high lattice fence, it would not be possible to look into the yard unless you went out of your way to. He literally said that someone would need to grab something to stand on to look over. That's what makes it illegal, peeping over private property using privacy fencing is illegal and makes you a peeping Tom.
@@archangel0041 Oh, he is _definitely_ a Peeping Tom. I'm just saying that if your curtains are open... then what did you expect? Like, I can leave my bike on my own front lawn, and anyone who steals it is still a criminal, but... I really shouldn't be surprised? @Ed Acheson Well, I agree with that. When I say "shamed" I mean, still tell everyone he's a Peeping Tom; but he shouldn't be arrested for it. It's kinda one of those "attractive nuisances" like a... well, like having a pool.
Story 1 : NTA.. the neighbor wanted to play with fire well well how the tables have turned.. honestly who cares what you're family thinks op they damn well know they would've done the same..it's honestly is funny what op did.. Story 2 : NEI .. something is missing from here.. there's 3 sides to this story .. Story 3 :NTA.. honestly the boyfriend is lucky he didn't get the dinner plate broken on his head.."tick tock trend" ok op should've established a new trend of smashing dinnerplate on her boyfriend head as a new trend..anyone who calls anyone ( man/women/alien ) the B word doesn't see you as an equal .. op it's over .. Story 4 : NTA.. op you're boyfriend is disgusting coward.. he's using his dog as a way of insulting you without putting his name behind it.. easy for you're idioit sister to say " you should've laughed it off" when she's not the one being insulted ... Story 5 : NTA.. op honestly its time to go NC with the toxic A F Olivia and her parents .. "response was cruel and out of line" why ?? Is Olivia still a 5 year old and can't face life and reality that she really hasn't accomplished anything in life.. without always having a safety net..
The final story is yet another case of don’t dish out of what you can’t take in return. Yes, it’s cruel for OP to say what they said, but as RSlash said, it’s necessary. It’s like a slap of reality for their sister. My verdict: NTA
Third story: I feel like the woman should have gotten a minor butthole score. (Assuming this wasnt discussed previously) Instead of explaining that using that word toward her and that having that attitude is a BIG no-no, she instead decided to drop an ENTIRE pot of sauce on the floor, damaging and probably ruining a rug. She decided that when confronted with hurtful words she would resort to property damage. That's a huge overreaction imo. Though also the fact that the guy didn't clean it up immediately after it happened shows two things: 1) he is willing to die on that hill instead of trying to mend an obvious emotional wound he created with his words. 2) the rug wasn't *that* important to him Still i agree to drop that bozo. He can't see how is actions and words hurt others and apologize and/or attempt to resolve the issue. My scores: woman- 1/5 buttholes, man- 3/5 buttholes Edit: (changed scores) Also, I still agree with everything rslash said but I also think that the lady should have gotten a score. Also, why would you even attempt that "tictok trend" with someone that you have no idea how they will react? I'm almost 5 years into my marriage and wouldn't deliver a bad joke like that.
The second story: as a first time mom I made it clear that me or my hubby will not ask more than once for our baby back. People are really bold because if you refuse you are running the risk of a mom or dad getting physical in order to have their child back. I highly suggest not doing that.
She wouldn't react that way if he reacted to the situation at all. He sees she is struggling with his mom but wont step in to help... I feel like we would get more of a JNMIL story if his wife was writing this post...
totally.. and new parents have every right to hover over their baby.. it's normal to distrust everyone else even if it's the husband or the mother because it's about a little baby
I can respect this. 🙏
I feel so relieved to read this,I was so close to getting physical when I ask for my baby and thought I was insane for feeling that way
@@smilingchesire5445 no you are absolutely right there.. it's your baby and it's your duty to protect it from everything !! even if afterwards you realize that it was a little over the top but those are the things that keep babies alive
Story 1: I'm so tired of people blaming others for their spouse's creepy behavior.
"My husband was _staring_ at our neighbor from the window while she was sitting in her backyard! How DARE she do this!! What a sl*t!!! Making my husband look at her like that!!!!"
It's worse than that, "my husband has to go out of his way to go into a certain spot in the backyard to watch her"
I believe Steve WIlkos used to have a term for that, I think it was "belly rubber".
Can we please stop referring to not wearing clothes in places we have an expectation of privacy as indecent. If you are in your home or in a part of your property that is screened for privacy how is not wearing anything indecent, someone has to go out of their way to violate your privacy but somehow you are the one in the wrong? This is a huge example of bad thought programming, we need to address this.
@@seabass819 sounds like red flags
I'd have called the cops on them both. The husband for being a Peeping Tom, and violation of privacy and the wife for harassment and slander.
I'd also install cameras around the property so WHEN not IF he does it again I'd have proof for the cops.
I swear I've heard the wife's side of the second story! And if I'm correct, there was also a lot of stuff MIL was doing when the husband wasn't around, so he was taking his wife's reactions out of context of the full situation. But regardless, a mom shouldn't have to "ask nicely" for her baby back. If mama says to hand over her baby, then hand over the damn baby.
Hell yeah. I remember a few months back a story on the news of a Mom actually pulling a gun on someone when they didn’t give her baby back, thankfully no one was shot, but the other lady I think got either arrested or cited for attempted kidnapping
I was thinking the same thing. Pretty sure he covered her side of the story a while back and the MIL outright refused to give the baby back for hours at a time.
I know exactly what story you're talking about and remembering how that op described her husband, it all matches up really damn close. Could still be a coincidence but it's still so similar that it's hard not to consider.
By an odd coincidence I am listening to the wife's story right now on a second YT tab on my laptop (rSlash published it Apr. 01, 2022) - or another coincidence that story is almost identical to this one :D (I'm currently bing-watching rSlash).
I gotta say whenever Person A has a disproportionate reaction* to Person B/Person B's behaviour, my first thought is to ask 'what was it that Person B has been doing to Person A?'
Too often, Person B (the bully) pokes, and pokes, and pokes at Person A all the while Person A tries to deal with the situation constructively, quietly, reasonably, and appropriately. But Person B keeps poking and poking and poking until Person A finally loses it and responds in a (supposedly) 'too big' way. And they Person B points to Person A with indignation and anger that Person A could treat them (Person B) so badly. And everyone, having only seen the 'too big' response, rallies around in defence of Person B against Person A. And then Person A gets bullied by the group too.
So, yeah, having seen this pattern too many times, and having been in Person A's shoes too many times, whenever I see a Person A give a 'too big' response, my first thought is 'what has Person B been doing'?
*one that seems out of character for Person A or which genuinely seems too big for the situation at hand, as opposed to Person A having a pattern of reacting that way anyway no matter the situation.
Story 1: Wouldn’t it be a good idea to warn the women of the neighborhood of a peeping tom?
You dont say. Obviously OP is NTA
Aka: "my neighbour is a criminal should I report him" the answer: yes
"My husband is being a creep to other women but I'm going to blame them for making him stray!!!" Umm... Lady you do hear yourself, right!!! LOL
@@SailorMya Umm, a single woman and he looked because she was outside, naked and doing things of a sexual nature with her husband. But hey, it's all the men's fault, as your society typically dictates.
@@SailorMya that's exactly what I thought, why aren't you mad at your husband for looking at other naked women?
Dog dude is almost certainly trying to neg OP; he wants to lower her self-esteem, but frames it as a "quirky joke" so if she takes offense, he can claim she's too sensitive. Good for OP for not falling for it.
100% This guy probably just started watching dirt bags like Andrew Tate to fill in his own insecurities and thought it was okay to do the crap they advocate for to keep her in the relationship. Rather than talking like a human being.
You notice that he said marriage like it was going to happen whether or not OP wanted it to? Like OP said they'd been dating a while, not years or months but that doesn't mean that she wants to marry the guy, especially if she hasn't met his dog or most likely his family yet. This guy's giving off some VERY creepy and controlling vibes.
i have a feeling that the reason why op has self esteem issues is because of her sister because of what she said "your stupidity" kinda suspicious
I hate that this was not an instant deal breaker for the OP
@@arandombot792 agreed, the sister sounds toxic
"My dog thinks you're ugly" story... Run, don't walk! Run like your life depends on it.
What we have here is the beginning of what I suspect would become some pretty horrific conditioning behaviour. How long before "My dog thinks you're ugly" becomes "Even my dog thinks you're ugly, you should be grateful I even bother with you"?
OP stated she has self esteem issues. I don't think this situation was a coincidence. Based on that story, I have the opinion the "Boyfriend" sounds very predatory. We can't know for sure, but I am of the opinion that the relationship would become both mentally and physically abusive, very quickly.
Let’s also not forget the red flag that he’s already talking about marriage after dating for only four months.
@@lorilancaster5917 My thoughts exactly, and the same with Daimon's comment. This dude is seriously toxic.
@@Artretha It wasn't even "if we get married" he said WHEN we get married.
Also, this fucker is just assuming they're going to get married at some point? Entitled much?
How else is a 31 year old jerk going to get a girl, especially a younger lady. He’s probably hoping she hasn’t been dating much and has such a negative self esteem issue where he can condition her to believing this is the norm
Last Story: gotta love how the pampered golden child can do whatever and say whatever she wants, but the second Op defends herself everyone is all “oh how could you”
Honestly, i don’t even think what OP said was cruel, she was basically giving her sister the same comment she had given her
agreed. she just matched her energy, and sent it back.
If you can dish it, get ready to take it as well.
I didn't see it as cruel or as a energy match, I saw it as a fact
@@lista2308 not only fact but also the TRUTH......
IMHO it wasn’t cruel enough.
@@speedstick8981 I agree. OP needs to have a sit down with her parents and explain some hard truths. Their "baby" girl is 27, has no college degree, a failed business, lives at home, parties with friends and has no intention of changing. If they do not stop enabling her are they going to take care of her for the rest of their lives? If so what is going to happen to her when they die?
Oh man, I’m jealous of the first wife’s confidence. Swimming topless sounds so fun, you go girl. Also neighbors husband is WEEEEIRD. And good for OP for standing up for his wife
I mean u can do it too, but as evident, dont be shocked if u catch some looking...
@frank ie the story literally involved a person watching her and they are encouraging her confidence?
@@aaroncousins4750 not if it’s in a private setting, if they do (example: in their own garden like in the story) then the one looking is a criminal because being a peeping Tom is illegal
@@JinxPropaganda im not saying shes in the wrong. But at the end of the day being naked in your garden is a risk, people can see you. For example if i look out kf my window i can see into my neighbours garden. So if you want to do it, you cant exactly be shocked when seen
@@aaroncousins4750 Like in the first story, my neighbours would have to make an effort to see me in my yard. I have good fences so have no problem being out there not fully dressed. If any of my neighbours were to make such an effort it's their own fault if they get an eyeful
The „what’s for dinner” story: OMG! I can see myself saying that to my mate, but my wife? No way! Unless she was in on the joke and liked that kind of humor (there are couples like this out there and that is fine) but she was clearly taken off guard. Disrespectful!
her main mistake was to be with a "man" who has a ticktok account.
Second Story: If ANYONE had kept me from my baby after I asked them to hand her back over, I would be beyond pissed. That is a cruel thing to do to a new mother, omg no wonder his wife is acting out. If I ask, I'm only asking once before the gloves come off. OP, you're stupid for taking your mother's side over your wife. I hope she's okay.
My best friends sister had her baby 2 weeks ago and I just saw them all today for the first time after my niece being born. I got my fair share of baby cuddles and even had a scare when she threw up after her feed on me. The mum in question even let me in the room for her change and re feed because I was terrified. I handed her right over because I was shaking and scared of her chocking or suffocating herself but I did all the right moves and just had an apparently normal scare. I even got cuddles again after that. As soon as she started fussing I'd ask if she was hungry or just being fussy. I wouldn't even imagine withholding her from her mum. She's a really cute baby, just food motivated and playful.
Didnt rslash tell the same story but from the wifes POV dew mo ths ago?
@@r.t8463 I was truly thinking the same. He definitely did
@@sydneywright2797 im thinking the husband found the story and tried to spin it in his favor but he still looked like the butthole
All I have to say is if the wife wants to do it all herself, then fine. I don't know the wife's side but if I was in her shoes I'd want as much time away from the baby as possible to rest. If all this stuff is happening when the husband isn't at home then the wife can't expect him to swoop in. I think ESH. MIL trying to be too helpful, wife assuming hubby should step in (even when not there?), and hubby for not getting whole story.
About dogman who told OP the dog said she’s ugly: Get away from that man! He is toxic AF. What he’s doing is gaslighting, and testing you to see if you’ll fall for it. DON’T!! Instead of lashing out at you in the calls afterward, at the minimum he should have been on his knees apologizing to you. Drop him!!! 😱
The last story:
This is exactly what my parents did with me and my younger sister. She never learned the concept of consequences and has spent her life making the same mistakes because she knows parents will bail her out. Meanwhile I have a lot of therapy and self worth issues.
This is emotional neglect, plain and simple. It's abuse.
you are valid and matter just as much as your sister. your parents are shitty parents and you should go out into the world and be the best self you can be. seek your happiness and learn to let those who won't appreciate how good and special you are go. don't let them hold you back, find those who love you for you and hold onto them and love them back. always remember - the blood of the covenant is stronger than the water of the womb.
The "joke" with the dog isn't a joke. That's just demeaning. Op's sister saying they ruined it is just BS. A joke is only funny if everyone is laughing, if you're the only one laughing then it's just cruel.
It's not just that, he's doing the psychiatrist puppet thing. When you're emotionally constipated (usually because of abuse), you hold a doll or toy or actual puppet and "they talk" for you. I wonder if he does this all the time, "My dog thinks you're stupid!" "My dog thinks you should passionately hug me right now!" "My dog thinks you're a bitch! ... Ha-ha, get it? Because he's a dog?!" Actually, that last one would be a "joke" too.
I agree.
Also, I disagree with the sister - OP didn't 'ruin the relationship'. Rather, OP dodged a bullet with that butthole of a (hopefully) ex-boyfriend.
Honestly, the dog joke is something I’d pull with friends or SO. Like, “haha my dog thinks you’re ugly you’re not up to her doggie standards :).” But once you upset someone with a joke, you gotta apologize instead of double down! There’s a fine line about making fun with someone and making fun of someone and you need to see when you crossed the line.
How I get is, is that the guy wasn't jocking. Like animals do have opinions, if you could call it that, and he may have just phreased that the dog doesn't like her weirdly
@@sugarkane1571 I agree, OP did overreact a bit in my opinion because the bf is in a relationship with her so he clearly doesn’t think she’s ugly. Plus his dog statement is honestly not something anyone should take seriously. HOWEVER, his reaction to her being offended was waaaaaaay more telling that any insecurities she may have displayed.
Now we need to start the "saucing" trend just to infuriate the boyfriend even more.
Bf : **sees video of saucing** WTF SERIOUSLY?!
I'd love to see a "sauce-u-mentary" where you get different kinds of rugs and test how each sauce affects them...
@@teddychu1177 yaaaas!
My opinion if the trend is discussed between the couple it’s okay. But if not then it’s not. My bf has shown me the trend and I told him if he did that to me I’d be pissed.
@@brirose1521the trend seems so fucking stupid but throwing pot of food to the floor is seriously bitch behavior and so immature. Yes calling your wife a bitch is immature and even abusive but she is a crazybitch for reacting like that
Story 5: Welcome to reality, Olivia. Enjoy your permanent stay.
In all seriousness, those parents gotta stop holding her hand and Olivia needs to start getting herself together. OP's message was a bit cruel, but it HAD to be said
This👏👏👏
The title immediately made me think of oldest sibling syndrome but yeah the story backs it up completely
I'm the baby of my family and do get everything I want I'd never insult my older siblings.
Honestly I wouldnt even say it was cruel. Olivia invited that response with her idiotic and toxic comment.
Story 2: As a person who is childless, and has only held other peoples babies. As soon as the parent asks for the baby I hand them back no questions, no just a sec… I see it as parents are going to be very protective of their new child. I don’t want to piss off someone who is likely already on a short fuse.
Both OP and his mom are keeping his wife from bonding with her own child. It appears she only gets him when she practically has to pry him out of MIL’s arms to nurse
momma asks for the baby back, hand the baby back
I’ve been married to my wife for 10 years and have never had the idea or thought to ask her for dinner that way 😳🤦🏽♂️😂😂
Every time that she makes any food or even help me with anything, I’ve always told her thank you and give her a kiss. That’s embarrassing for the wannabe man to say something like that to someone he supposedly loves.
The fact that he is "coping something from the internet!" makes it a lot worst in my opinion. Not only did he not respect her enough to not call her that when she is helping him but chances are, if it really is a thing, he saw the reactions and you cannot say their reactions to being called a b*tch were positive.
@@SailorMya Also, if he lacks the critical thinking skills necessary to conclude that it isn't a good idea to do that then how smart can the guy be? What will happen when an important decision needs to be made or an emergency arises? 😬
Gonna go out on a limb and suggest that there is a reason why your marriage has lasted this long (and hopefully much much longer).
Same here hubby and I have been married 10 years. And through ups, downs, fights, hurt feelings, illnesses, and every thing else in marriage “what’s for dinner, b****” has never crossed his lips. This little boy who wants to copy tic toc is obviously not grown enough to be in an adult relationship.
it's a tiktok trend, nobody who's actually attempting it has been married more than a year
The guy with the dog is a potential red flag - he could use the dog excuse to say (or even do) all kinds of horrible things to his partner, theoretically
Story 5: What OP said was objectively correct and Olivia did sort of invite such a response by insulting OP. It was cruel but OP wasn’t wrong about it either and I think it was needed to bring Olivia back down to Earth.
Pretty much! Oliva is the "Golden Child" and unfortunately the way the Parents and the rest of the Family were reacting. It sounds like everyone including Oliva were just expecting OP to take over taking care of her when their parents no longer can.
Oliva never grew up and now she's starting to see that not everything is about her nor that the world revolves around her b/c her friends have moved on in their lives and she never has!
Like I always say, "The truth hurts the most when you're not willing to hear it." She had it coming to her...and worst of all, this is going to catch up to her REALLY fast. I mean, it already is catching up to her.
I couldn’t think of a more polite way of informing her of her behavior. She should’ve gotten this talk 20 years ago. Hopefully this sets precedent that OP will not fund or provide any source of assistance to sister
If the dog was doing what I'm imagining it was, it's not a critic, it's just got worms.
If you're referring to the "Scoot" it isn't worms, it is impacted anal glands. No idea why it became common to think that was caused by worms.
@@damionlee7658 Because they share the same symptom. The itching of worms causes scooting, same with allergies, general irritation or as you mentioned impaced anal glands.
@@damionlee7658 And sometimes the dog just has an itchy butthole. There is more than one reason for the behavior and worms is in fact one of them.
Let me guess, you also think panting is only done when the dog is thirsty and zoomies are only done if the dog gets no exercise. Dog behavior is not that black and white, it's a lot more nuanced than people seem to think.
@@RiveroftheWither oh dear, what an ego you have to make such judgements about what I think based on one comment.
@@damionlee7658 Because you've made your thoughts pretty obvious and a big part of my job as a doggy daycare attendant and on staff dog behavior expert is having to deal with people like you frequently.
Story 1: OP's family seems to be forgetting that neighbor A bad-mouthed OP first, and that A is lucky OP didn't call the cops.
me thinks that OP's family doesn't like his wife very much
Last story: notice how OP's relatives are the ones that think she was out of line? And those who aren't enabling that behaviour are OP's husband's relatives?
Story 2: "You could ask _nicely."_ It's not _your child_ now is it? You can't take someone else's kid then go "Ask nicely 😌" as a term of giving them back, especially when they already did ask nicely and you refused then had a fit with crocodile tears cause "she was rude 🥺" after 🙄
Edit: It's only a "difficult time 🥺" because you're allowing your mommy to dictate who has the baby and when while you refuse to do anything yourself
Story 3: Imagine thinking it's toxic sensitivity and stupid for someone to _~checks notes~_ get upset after being called ugly.
It's not a joke if the person it's aimed at doesn't find it funny
Imagine if it were something other than a baby, and someone said the same thing. Like, "Hey, I took your computer. Want it back? Better ask me nicely. What do you mean I'm stealing? Why are you calling the cops? I'm just saying you should ask me nicely, because I really like your computer."
@@Ikajo Op would probably still find a way to pull the "but she's helping in this difficult time 🥺" card tbh 🤚😭
@@owl7072 Or some other dumb excuse 🙄
I really think if the wife wrote this it would be a JNMIL story instead of an AITA post.
@@SailorMya I actually thought this was a story I heard before but from the perspective of the husband. It wasn't, but the fact that I thought it was really goes to show how many people are having to deal with in-laws crossing boundaries when it comes to babies 😟😓
I can see the humor in dogs saying things using people as mediums.
I have a dish towel that says "My dog and I talk shit about you." It's the best dish towel ever.
hopefully you don't call your partners ugly through your dog and then gaslight them, though
Ok, but for the story about that TikTok trend: I've been watching some of these videos for research, and it looks like the entire point is for the guy to be nervous (practicing in front of the mirror, stuttering it) because they KNOW she's gonna get pissed, and it oftentimes results in food, shoes, etc being thrown. Therefore, I don't see why OP's (ex) boyfriend is so upset about her throwing pasta sauce on the floor; if he was recording, she would have just given him TikTok gold!
Tldr: he literally participated in a trend designed to make your partner pissed and got upset when his partner got pissed. Like, lmao, what a weenie
Because he thought that she will accept it as a great joke as soon as he says "tiktok". So no consquences beside five minut of (funny) anger. It's the same mentality as "it's only a prank, why are you so uptight?".
Throwing food, shoes, etc. over a dark humor joke is a massive overreaction.
@@firesong7825 Yes, so I bet that most of tiktok videos is staged and people just pretend to be shocked or angry. OP's boyfriend is too stupid to notice it...
@@firesong7825 You keep commenting this. I'm starting to assume that you are the boyfriend in this story.
The worst thing a joke can be is unfunny. The second worst thing a joke can be is offensive. The "bitch joke" is both.
Story 4: dogs don't have any concept of human beauty. This is confusing me too much for me to be mad.
If the joke's not offensive to somebody, it's not a joke. Comedy is subjective. Just because you don't find something funny, doesn't mean everybody else is supposed to agree with you. My wife and I call each other bitches all the time and have no issues with the word whatsoever. Seems to me that you're suffering from being overly sensitive like the female in the video. The same female in the video that allowed all of her friends to call her a bitch and also called herself a bitch. Make it make sense.
That's why the dog joke is funny
@@drewtoli2353 I would agree if he'd said she was beautiful. Dogs think everyone is pretty.
Sounds like an excuse to call someone ugly to me
What the dog doing
Story 2 is the husbands side, you read the wife's side a while back 😊
What’s the title tho
@@blaineyeamlak ill try find it
i knew I had heard a similar story in a different Pov!
I was gonna say this! I remember the wife’s side was that she kept asking her mil to give the baby back so she could feed him and the mil kept refusing so she ended up yelling at her.
I'm binge-watching rSlash, largely clicking on the next one up on the TH-cam feed.
By the strangest coincidence, the next one up on my feed was the wife's side of the story, or at least one that sounds almost identical but from the wife's side. rSlash published it on Apr. 1, 2022.
Gotta say, the wife gives a somewhat different version of the story. The husband sounds like the butthole in his own posting, but even more so when the wife explains what the MIL has been doing behind the scenes.
"And then, OP posted an edit."
**Dead air as my phone's youtube app borked.**
"That was one hell of an edit."
OMG the second story!!!! I absolutely HATE when I would "get help" from my parents or inlaws. They aren't helping, they are a hindrance.
Last story: Okay so from what information OP give Oliva was treated differently simply because she was the 'baby', and not because she had any form of special needs. Yeah Oliva needs a wake up call, its kind of sad that her reaction to her friends moving on with their lives and not having time for her was that instead of thinking that she should try to do something with her life. A fact she needs to learn and learn quick is Mommy and Daddy won't always be able to support her and hold her hand. Hopefully there aren't other family members who are going to coddle her when the parents pass away. OP rightfully sounds like there is no way in heck that they would take on the spoiled brat.
"A little kindness can go a long way" to your *WIFE,* too, OP.
3rd Story: That's so messed up. My partner actually says it often as a joke, because I'm a culinary school student. But we know each other long enough to know for sure that those types of jokes are ok. And if we don't we ask. But we never EVER would just make an offensive joke without knowing if the other is ok with it.
With the third story, hopefully the bf becomes an EX. Like rslash before, it's not so much the time lost with them so much as the time you get back. Also, if you think that tiktok trend is the one to go with for your partner? Yeah, you shouldn't be surprised that you get dumped and shamed
2nd story: So OP is angry at his wife, who gave birth to their child 5 weeks prior, is still recovering physically, and has hormones raging through her body because she was angry at OP's mother for violating her boundaries and keeping her child from her? Yeah, OP is the AH.
After I had my baby, a dear friend came in to town two weeks after we left the hospital to visit us and others. she came to spend a whole day and help me. She helped by taking care of the baby so I could take a shower, have a nap, eat an actually hot meal. She even cleaned my kitchen and brought me food. That is how you help. you don't help by upsetting the new mom.
This is how you help. Encouraging the new mom's bonding with her baby. She shouldn't be stressed, especially when she's still breastfeeding. I wish I had a friend like you when I had mine. Doing everything after a c section was torture.
@@paulagoeringer9466 I understand. I was an emergency C-section with nerve damage. My friend, Sarah, is joyously child free, but has made it her goal to be the "cool aunt" that all her chosen nieces and nephews can come to.
The advice I've given to everyone who may not have time to give the mom a break is, make a pan or two of food, arrange a time drop it off, put it in the kitchen for them, do a quick coo over the baby and then get the heck out of their way. Spend no more than 10 minutes, and have "something else" you are on the way to so that mom and dad don't feel pressured to entertain.
@@KellyDVance yes, exactly. In, help and go.
The girl that created saucing, is absolutely amazing! She Did not allow that man to use excuses instead of owning up to what he did . She was quick on her feet and I loved that story. She did good
the irony in the last story is that the sister is yet again trying to get her hand held when she gets insulted lmfao
Thanks for the stories rslash. Some good ones today. When a mom asks for her baby, there should be no back and forth. A new, first time mom needs affirmation that she's the mom. Have a good morning
"inventing saucing is giving back the same energy"
ahhh yes, because saying a naughty word is exactly the same as vandalism and destruction of property.
Story 4: While a dog did commit these horrible problems, it wasn't the dog.
Story 3: I'm not on tik Tok so I don't know if that's a real trend, but what I do know is that if my boyfriend ever called me a b**** like I would take the food and leave, then dump him by text, just to be the b****he thinks I am. I like how you handled it though OP. Also you're completely right it is disgusting that he just let that food sitting in the floor for hours.
Edit: I'm sorry, called her a b**** after she went out of her way to come over to make him a nice meal.
Yeah it is a trend, unfortunately so. It's supposed to get a rise out of the girlfriend/wife with the expense of her feelings. I personally think it feeds into the weaponized incompetence that you typically see with guys who do stuff like this for TikTok clout, in this example, not understanding why such a thing can be very hurtful to a point that it's like talking to a brick wall because to them it's just a joke and in their mind simply saying that will completely pacify the girlfriend/wife.
I wonder how men would react if their gfs started saying to them "Get me a drink, arsehole". After all, it's just a trend, isn't it?
Same, IDK if it really is a trend but honestly, is he saying that the people in those videos had a positive reaction to being called b*tch!? I kinda want to know if it is now because it sounds made up but a lot of stupid things have spawned from TikTok...
I'm on TikTok and I've never heard of that trend💀
@@SS-rd2nv I have and trust me when I say you're lucky you haven't.
Story 3: If he holds the degenerate side of tiktok in good esteem, just leave.
I highly doubt there was tiktok involved and he's just testing how far he can get away with abusing OP.
It's called dark humor.
@@LunaP1 You really think it's impossible for someone to make a dark humor joke out of a light reference to old-school abusive relationships? Get over yourself.
@@firesong7825 Good, now I know EXACTLY what to avoid, now having a better key word for it. Thanks!
"If he holds -the degenerate side of- tiktok in good esteem, just leave."
fixed it for you
The last story, and any other story like that, always hits me in a way no story can. My dad grew up as the non favorite child. He left the house as soon as he could. Now he has two kids, a wife, and a wonderful mother in law. His brother? No kids, a drug addiction, and he lives with his mom. Don’t pick favorites. It drags one kid through hell and makes them tough as nails, and makes the other the cause of that hell.
Love how op completely overlooks his mothers behavior. My mil used to do the same thing and yes hubby defended his mom too.
God forbid he let his mum hold his child lmao
To fix the criminal system we should just get rslash to give them a A-hole score
Lol I don’t think it works like that
With how many asshats there are, rSlash would be handing them out like Halloween candy.
The "what's for dinner tonight" bit is only fun when both parties are in on it and they do some sort of don't disrespect me skit with it.
I feel like I’ve heard the second story from the wife’s perspective somewhere on this channel.
The last story: That family sounds exactly like mine. I got held accountable and was responsible for *everything* while my sister got to do whatever she wanted. If my sister's chores didn't get done because she went out with her friends instead, it was *my* responsibility to do them on top of my own chores. But if *my* chores didn't get done because I legitimately wasn't feeling well, I was getting yelled at for being "lazy" and "irresponsible". When my sister dropped out of school at 16, it was perfectly okay. But if I were to do that, I'd be digging my own future grave. When my sister also started drinking at 16, "she was just being young and adventurous". If that were me, I'd be the irresponsible and rebellious twit. (Btw I'm 4 years older than my sister; she's 21 now and I'm 25). I also have autism, dyslexia and ADHD so school was very difficult for me, but whenever I didn't understand a certain subject (math was my weakest subject, partially due to my autism and partially due to my dyslexia and ADHD), I was always getting yelled at and told that "I just didn't wanna do the work because I'm lazy" (I was diagnosed with all 3 disorders at 6 years old, so my mom's known for most of life that I have them). It sucks that the younger siblings always get away with everything (oh and my sister doesn't have any disabilities, so I have a pretty good idea what my mother probably resented me for other than my sister being younger).
I'm so sorry for you, hope you're doing better now
The last story hits close to home for me. I worked hard in college despite facing a few personal struggles and got grades that didn't go below a B-. My brother, on the other hand, isn't attending college because he doesn't want to put any effort into anything, claiming he doesn't know what he wants to do. I got my ODE Honors Society award when I graduated and I felt proud of the hard work I put into for my Economics minor, cords and all, but when my brother was in high school, he got to graduate despite nearly failing and only got to wear the cords for an advanced class he took because my parents held his hand all the way through.
The Creative Writing part also hits close to me. I love to write. I've finished with a first draft of a book, and I'm going to have a piece of writing published this month in a city almanac magazine. But I don't tell my parents because I feel like despite the hard work I put in, it's sometimes not good enough. While my brother gets off his shit scott-free.
Omfg 3rd story irked me.
Just cause its hip and cool to do a trend doesn’t mean its safe, either physically or emotionally. He definitely deserves to be dumped
I agree during the days my mother’s work my father and I prepare dinner together and we have fun we talk while we cook
I… disagree. He probably thought it was amusing, and I can understand that. However, instead of saying that even though it was a trend she wasn’t comfortable with it she completely overreacted. She should have taken the time to explain why she wasn’t comfortable with it and I’m willing to bet that he probably would’ve been okay with not being like that again. Considering he said he was okay with doing his own housework, he clearly isn’t being misogynistic and was just trying to poke some fun, albeit very crass fun.
My current gf is black, and I’m mix Latino/white (for all intensive purposes I’m white). When I used to do something stupid, she’d call me a “n****r, or say I was acting like one. She wasn’t doing it to be mean, she just thought it was humorous and was just trying to poke fun. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her saying that or talking to me that way, and she understood and never talked like that to me again. I didn’t lose my temper and throw my drink or make a big mess because I had a temper tantrum, I just said it was something I wasn’t comfy with and she changed. OP clearly overrated and instead of trying to say she wasn’t comfy with it made a big mess (literally) and now it’s created conflict. My own butthole score would be: OP 1.5 out of 5 BHs, and boyfriend gets 0.5, maybe one max.
So is nobody going to talk about how she was probably taking out her bad day on him? People who work shitty jobs tend to take it out on their partners, it doesn't matter whether they're male or female.
@@curlyjoe4234 Agreed, she completely overreacted IMO.
@@mtheoverlord7840 i see
First Story, NTA: OP is simply warning everyone that this neighbor is invading OP and her wife’s privacy. Not to mention that this lady is trying to lie to everyone else to save their own repuation
Second Story, YTA: I don’t get what working have to do with not helping with his own kid? OP’s mom is crossing boundaries and OP is allowing his mom to keep doing this. OP needs to stop being a momma’s boy
Third Story, NTA: That is needlessly disrespectful. Who calls their own partner a bitch? What kind of dumbass “trend” is he trying to do? People will do anything for clout it seems. The fact he had the audacity to demand OP to clean the mess when he is the one who caused it. I find what OP did was hilarious
Fourth Story, NTA: Literally that is what Michael is doing. He is literally calling OP ugly to her face and is using his dog as an excuse to insult her
Fifth Story, NTA: OP’s parents are the worst kind of parents because of their favoritism. With that out of the way, Olivia really can’t judge OP when in a sense she IS the failure of the family because of her parents
@@ItsMeBarnaby facts
@@xKCAZxLEADER Easy. If only one partner works then this partner brings home the money and the other does the housework. If she wants stuff to be split 50/50, she needs to get a job and contribute financially as well.
@@CidVeldoril how does working still prevent you from helping at least a bit with your own child? I personally don’t get that
She tried to save her own reputation only to smash it apart even more. Instead of being an innocent, she became an enabler and defamer in order to protect her way of life.
@@xKCAZxLEADER It doesn't. However, if you are the only one working, you shouldn't have to. You are already supporting your partner monetarily, so the least they can do is make sure that after work you can rest. Where I live, any non-working spouse who expected the working spouse to also help in the home, would be laughed at and seen as nothing but a drain on a productive member of society.
Story 2: The Husband is absolutely the asshole, who gets upset that their partner is on edge and irritable in the days/weeks/months after they give birth? Wtf
People in the real world
@@Josh-th7tm you mean whiny man babies who think "oh no, I have to go to work" is in any way comparable to the exhaustion in the days/weeks/months after giving birth?
Yeah that is a monster in law. She is horrible and that husband is horrible
Story 1 - OP is in the right warning others about the peeping tom. I don’t know the full setup of your backyard but it does seem like you need more than see through lattice to protect you and your wives privacy.
God the edit of the second story is hilarious! Of course this guy wouldn't listen to the rightful anger/ annoyance of people and tell them to calm down. Anger is an emotion like any other and being angry doesn't mean that someone's viewpoint is invalid. Also, how does he know the whole situation to automatically take his mum's side? He's not there to see why his wife gets so angry so to immediately side against her is odd imo.
Exactly he better realize that he is going to loose his baby and wife well too bad for him
Is there a "whole" version of this story or something? Seems like y'all may have heard/read a different story than I did. Grandma comes over to help the family and see the new baby. Grandma holds baby too long(mothers opinion) so mother freaks out and yells at her. Dad asks mother to calm down and she freaks out on him. How tf is he the bad guy?!? Sounds to me like the mother (his wife) has some issues and needs some help releasing some anxiety.
The op in story 1 needs to put in a camera on that side of the property, in case the creep neighbor does that again. Then call the police because creep neighbor deserves to be on the sex offenders registry.
Story 3: I love my wife. She wouldn’t mine calling her that as a joke. I still don’t because it doesn’t feel right
Great way to help my not so great day. Thanks rslash
Story 2: Rslash you already covered this!
Remeber? MIL didn't wanna give back the baby for feeding
Story One: unfortunately, depending on where you live there might not be anything you can do if they're on their property just peering over and some places might even stick it to you for public indecency (some places having rules about not being "indecent" even through windows). Always check those local laws on what is and isn't enforceable, that would suck to report the neighbor and then be the one scolded by some cop. Same way some criminals break in your house and you have little to no legal standing to defend yourself, you have to flee... 🤦♀️
They have privacy fencing that you have to go out of your way to look over. That does not fall under public indecency and does in fact implicate the neighbor as a peeping Tom.
I know exactly what kind of lattice fence op is using and as he described, the only way to look into the yard is to find something to stand on.
@@RiveroftheWither See I had an idea in my mind of lattice fencing, where it's criss cross so technically has some level of "holes" in it. And I know some places really have crummy laws.
@@josephinenelan4204 The holes are covered by thick strips of plastic, if there are any gaps due to shoddy craftsmanship, they're still so small that you would have to be pressed against the fence to see anything.
@@RiveroftheWither I'm not arguing, I'm saying that I had a different picture in my mind and made my comment based on the type of lattice fencing I was picturing.
Thank you for informing me there are multiple different kinds, some with way more coverage than others. I still stand by what I said about some places having poop laws that side with creepos over victims.
@@josephinenelan4204 I wasn't arguing either, I was just being informative.
The only time I make my dog “talk to people” is when I’m like Rupert says “give me that fuckin cheeseburger I’m literally RIGHT here” I don’t insult people LMFAOO that’s so funny
I "talk" for my cats all the time, only I make them say things like "I'm not going to do if if you _want_ me too." (which is backed up by their body language). Then, someone will inevitably say "Are they talking for cats again? Tell them to make me say 'Give me tuna!'," because that's a meme in my house.
On the boyfriend and pasta story, if he told her BEFOREHAND he wanted to do the TikTok meme it would have made things easier. But since he seriously didn't ask to do it beforehand so she wouldn't get upset when it happened (or learned it would upset her and to not do it), he cant communicate properly. He's definitely the A-hole here. Literally asking her would have prevented the entire situation.
For the last one, it reminds me of my ex close friend when OP was talking about Olivia and her friends. My ex friend was just like Olivia in the sense that her parents never pushed her hard enough to be a real adult and always gave her money and she didn't have a real job either. We aren't friends anymore due to that she thought I was ignoring her since I was seeing other people, but in reality I have a very busy life and she knew that.
3rd story from the title alone is a nta and after hearing the story, its a confirmed nta. She should break up with him, I hate that this was because of an effing tik tok
Third story- Yea, no. My husband and I have a very clear understanding about this type of thing.
Pull this kind of disrespectful crap, and the only question is what will be ended first, the relationship or the 'prankster' 😵👻🤣
Same here. That (hopefully EX) boyfriend was a complete douche nozzle.
Story 3, Im pretty sure that there was tiktok trend about licking toilet seats...
Ugh, there was a tick tock trend where you steal things from your school. It got large enough that they stole bathroom stall doors and toilets. This led my school with practically 0 soap dispensers and with thousands of dollars in damaged property. I was a senior at the time, just after the virus and it was idiot Freshman and Sophomore that did it. It was super annoying and it was the talk of the school. (Me and my friends dissing the people who were doing this stupid stuff) Also, this was in the Washington DC area… like pretty much the CAPITAL OF THE US! And it wasn’t just my school. It was also pretty much all of the schools in the area. This is why I am never touching that cursed app. I’m glad that people like Dan are also posing on TH-cam shorts. Soooo much better than stupid tick tock.
There's a tiktok trend about cooking chicken in nyquil...wonder how that jerk would feel if she cooked that dangerous shit for him...
Story 4: dogs think all humans look weird, and don't care. It was an excuse.
Story 3: This boyfriend wouldn't be taking tips from someone going by the name of Andrew Tate, would he?
😡 we don’t talk about that….thing here
There's this thing called dark humor. You might not have heard of it.
@@firesong7825 Can you not be an abuser apologist?
@@firesong7825 If you are saying that calling your partner a bitch as a joke you have missed the mark massively on what dark humour is.
@@firesong7825 allegations of human traffiking and blatent misogyny aren't dark humor
The thing about "trends" is that you DON'T have to mindlessly follow them. My grandfather used to say; "Just because everyone is jumping off a cliff, doesn't mean you have to do it".
that last story omg. "perfectly balanced, as all things should be"
Story 3: I don’t get how a grown man think that’s a joke, that’s not a joke that’s flat out disrespectful lol.
3rd Story, I kept waiting for the reveal that she dumped the manchild.
Third Story: Man like me and my wife we will insult one another in like offensive ways but we have been together for 10 years, and have always been alright with insulting one another for jokes. This guy said something offensive and got upset when what he said genuinely hurt his girlfriend. Then DOUBLED DOWN on it instead of being an adult and apologizing for it.
I have pissed my wife off when I would say a poorly timed joke, but I apologize and we have no bad blood between us from it. Just wow.
Story 2: Story doesn't have full picture in my opinion and probably miscommunication between parties. Everyone should calm down and discuss things like normal human beings.
The parents need to wise up before Olivia bankrupts them, from failing out of college and bankrupts a business in a year. She will be in for a rude awakening when the parents die and OP tells Olivia that she won't get money from OP for anything
“saying ‘what’s for dinner tonight b****’ was a TikTok trend” of course it had to be TikTok, yuck.
It must be on "mean white men" TikTok cause i haven't heard of this trend at all lol
I let my mom know if she was coming over to help with my new baby, it was help not to snuggle my newborn all day. Like...yes obviously she can snuggle him, but she's not coming for vacation when I'm postpartum. If that's what she wants thats fine but she'll have to come when I'm healed and the baby's older.
Story 3: Her bf is absolutely in the wrong, but she did do something that fucked up his rug - she could've thrown dinner in the trash, or outside, or other things that didn't potentially cause damage. Just because he was in the wrong doesn't give her carte blanche to do as she pleases.
Probably the best thing for her to do imo is to agree to come over, clean the rug as well as she can, and pick up anything that's hers while she's there so she can leave him for good.
I will never understand how people get upset at the person that their partner is creeping on. Cast out the creep and not the lady living her life in her own personal space.
Im surprised you didn't just say no and move on after just reading the third title. I would just say We're done right there and walk away.
4:06 The MiL
I had a MiL "who just wanted to help out" with my new born son.
The reality was the fact I was rarely ALLOWED to hold my son and try bonding with him. I was called names and asked what my problem was, while completely ignoring my feelings after I clearly told them what was bothering me. Then they tried gaslighting me by saying I was just being overly sensitive due to hormones.
Thankfully they are ex's.
I can understand where the new Mom is coming from. It hurts to watch someone else "stealing" (that's what it feels like) your bonding time. Face it, babys eat, sleep, and go to the bathroom. If the grandmother is always feeding & changing the baby, then grandma is stealing that awake time when mom and baby should be bonding.
Story 3 NTA: if he considered calling you a b-word then I suggest you start calling him a bastard everytime you meet him and when he complains say “it’s just a joke”
Exactly honestly I would have left him right away
Story 2: Yeah, OP is clearly the AH as well as the mother. It sounds like his wife has to repeatedly ask his mom to give the baby back to her when it's feeding time or mother-child bonding time. If it's true that his mom is just ignoring her and then shaming her when she raises her voice after being ignored, then it's the mom who is being toxic. I get it, the husband wants her to place nice, so his job is easier, but seriously, he should defend his wife. She has valid concerns and isn't acting out, she's legitimately being ignored.
First story NTA but I get the police involved
For the story about the boyfriend who called his girlfriend who had just made him dinner a bitch and then got mad at her for dropping the food on the floor and then was too lazy to clean it up himself -- the girlfriend should tell him that she was trying to reenact the Kevin spills the chilli scene from The Office and she doesn't understand why he didn't think it was funny.
That was so sad, RIP Kevin's chili!
Good morning everyone have a great day.
You to:D
Afternoon from Scotland 🏴
And a good morning to you! Thanks for the good vibes.
@@paulaneilson5110 well then good afternoon
I say the cooking girlfriend is 1/5 AH. For 0/5 AH, she should have thrown the sauce in the kitchen sink, not on the carpet. She is still right that being a b-word tax, that her boyfriend must to suffer and clean up.
Also, I would ask the dog owner, isn't that dog the toxic one for judging people or maybe it is just the owner?
3rd story : both OP and her boyfriend are immature... like seriously
What did OP mean by "it's for the girls", is she implying that only girls can call themselves and each other bit*h?
definitely a reminder for why I do not care for tiktok or its stupid "trends"
Suffered a minor back injury yesterday from rollerskate derby practice so this video is much needed
I'll assume you mean the horse race kind of derby and not the demolition kind. Correct?
@@forthemysterians7630 Roller derby as in tackling people while rollerskating
@@francescaperron2003 so basically the demolition kind got it
Ouch wishin u a speedy recovery!
@@Jadeelmao Thank you!
Yeah it doesn't matter what he called you damaging personal property is never okay no matter how mad you get if I was renting I would sue you for my security deposit
I disagree with Rslash on the second story, sounds like too little information to make such a judgment.
Yeah, sounds like the possibility of his wife denying any help whatsoever and just wanting to hold the baby all the time
People did you not hear OP saying his wife DID ask nicely but his mom DIDN'T listen?!
@@MartialArtswithLucyLu Can't be sure that's accurate
@@Darkloid21 Why do some people even question if that's accurate or not when the story already said the answer here? I honestly don't get this! Especially since the wife already explained the situation and some people just choose to ignore it?!
@@MartialArtswithLucyLu Because people can and do lie to save face or look good and I doubt the wife asked nicely.
I would've also added that bit about the neighbor's wife verbally harassing OP's wife
Story 1: if he can see it from his own property, it's probably not illegal. Creepy yes, but probably not illegal.
Yeah... I mean "I'm nude outside and people look at me!" is a kind of weird take. Also if you change in front of an open window, do you blame the voyer or the exhibitionist? I'd call it more of an "Everyone Sucks Here" though, to be clear, the husband should still be shamed because even if other people are wrong, it doesn't make him right.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa idk, I'm 100% on the side of OP's wife. I mean, they have a fence, that's reasonable enough. I just doubt that the neighbor committed a crime.
@@Wendy_O._Koopa if your house has a window and someone deliberately goes out of their way to look inside (eg. with binoculars) you call them a peeping Tom even if your blinds weren't closed
it's not "omg you're standing on the road nude"
it's basically if there's a reasonable expectation of privacy, which there is, because they made a fence that would block people's views
They literally describe in detail that with the high lattice fence, it would not be possible to look into the yard unless you went out of your way to. He literally said that someone would need to grab something to stand on to look over. That's what makes it illegal, peeping over private property using privacy fencing is illegal and makes you a peeping Tom.
@@archangel0041 Oh, he is _definitely_ a Peeping Tom. I'm just saying that if your curtains are open... then what did you expect? Like, I can leave my bike on my own front lawn, and anyone who steals it is still a criminal, but... I really shouldn't be surprised?
@Ed Acheson Well, I agree with that. When I say "shamed" I mean, still tell everyone he's a Peeping Tom; but he shouldn't be arrested for it. It's kinda one of those "attractive nuisances" like a... well, like having a pool.
Something about saying jokey before joke or adding y to any word and put that before the word makes it 1000000x funnier
Story 1 : NTA.. the neighbor wanted to play with fire well well how the tables have turned.. honestly who cares what you're family thinks op they damn well know they would've done the same..it's honestly is funny what op did..
Story 2 : NEI .. something is missing from here.. there's 3 sides to this story ..
Story 3 :NTA.. honestly the boyfriend is lucky he didn't get the dinner plate broken on his head.."tick tock trend" ok op should've established a new trend of smashing dinnerplate on her boyfriend head as a new trend..anyone who calls anyone ( man/women/alien ) the B word doesn't see you as an equal .. op it's over ..
Story 4 : NTA.. op you're boyfriend is disgusting coward.. he's using his dog as a way of insulting you without putting his name behind it.. easy for you're idioit sister to say " you should've laughed it off" when she's not the one being insulted ...
Story 5 : NTA.. op honestly its time to go NC with the toxic A F Olivia and her parents .. "response was cruel and out of line" why ?? Is Olivia still a 5 year old and can't face life and reality that she really hasn't accomplished anything in life.. without always having a safety net..
The final story is yet another case of don’t dish out of what you can’t take in return.
Yes, it’s cruel for OP to say what they said, but as RSlash said, it’s necessary. It’s like a slap of reality for their sister.
My verdict: NTA
Third story: I feel like the woman should have gotten a minor butthole score. (Assuming this wasnt discussed previously) Instead of explaining that using that word toward her and that having that attitude is a BIG no-no, she instead decided to drop an ENTIRE pot of sauce on the floor, damaging and probably ruining a rug. She decided that when confronted with hurtful words she would resort to property damage. That's a huge overreaction imo. Though also the fact that the guy didn't clean it up immediately after it happened shows two things: 1) he is willing to die on that hill instead of trying to mend an obvious emotional wound he created with his words.
2) the rug wasn't *that* important to him
Still i agree to drop that bozo. He can't see how is actions and words hurt others and apologize and/or attempt to resolve the issue.
My scores: woman- 1/5 buttholes, man- 3/5 buttholes
Edit: (changed scores) Also, I still agree with everything rslash said but I also think that the lady should have gotten a score. Also, why would you even attempt that "tictok trend" with someone that you have no idea how they will react? I'm almost 5 years into my marriage and wouldn't deliver a bad joke like that.
Story 5: Hey! My name's Olivia! This is not a good representation of my name-brethren!