I call them out everytime. I also call them all kinds of horrible things hoping they report me…DARING them to report me so they get exposed as a scammer
So i went though and contacted 1 of these scammers, he wanted me to give him access to a bitcoin wallet so he could "invest" it with 100'% returns in a week.
Story 5: What the peck is wrong with the husband? He calls an excited sister "obsessed", gets into a fight with multiple people on OP's side of the family, lets MIL insult OP and deny her food, and then get mad and try to downplay OP's justified complaints after she walked out of the baby shower I think this is a dealbreaker
I do not agree with insulting someone and embarrassing people for any reason. That said, OP has an unhealthy attitude towards her weight. I struggle with my weight but I've never once thought it was OK to be overweight and unhealthy. Body positivity just seems to be a modern day excuse for greed. People don't feel shame for no reason. Some people feel ashamed for certain things in their life due to religious reasons or upbringing when their behaviour is perfectly natural. Being overweight is not a natural state for our bodies and these attitudes are dangerous.
Story 1: Bye felicia Story 2: I hate the double standard. It was fine for him to publically harass op, but op has to 'talk to him in private' about it. Story 3: Sounds like the dog'll be a lot happier tbh. Story 4: Disagree. It'd be a 0 if they were just upset about getting evicted, but they took it a step further and ruined op's reputation, even sending horrible messages to the son. Story 5: "Get rid of this easily offended mindset?" More like "Get rid of this horrible family."
Completely agree on story 4, no way they are 0/5 for putting the landlords family on blast publicly when they knew this would happen for 22 years. Definitely just butthurt they can't abuse the low rent anymore and that their lack of foresight has put them in this financial situation. I actually don't really like the whole "landlords are awful" thing he pushes here, while there is obviously a power dynamic to some extent there are laws to prevent this, and tennants can be absolutely terrible too.
There's also an update. They were reminded every single renewal of the lease about the son eventually moving in. OP even told them specifically multiple times the same year that the two month eviction notice would be given soon. The tenants purposely chose to ignore the ops warnings until it was too late. They also squandered the time they were renting, because due to how low the rent was for them, they stupidly didn't save ANY money, which they easily could have and should have done, to buy a house. And have op excuse after excuse about why them moving out and finding a home that fit their family was impossible. RSlash bothers me sometimes when he blatantly ignores details in stories for the benefit of the doubt and I wish he would spend more time looking for updates and reading comments, not to mention rereading the stories themselves, before giving judgements.
@@aurorarowley7310 I'm with you, but IDK about "easily" saving up money with six kids involved. However, I agree in that they chose to have six kids... That's basically as good as choosing to not save money. And, really, when it comes to a rented home, who is going to believe that it will last forever? Even people who rent homes as a way to make passive income eventually sell the house. It was foolish of them to think they could just shame OP into letting them rent until THEY were ready to go.
@@aurorarowley7310 IDK sometimes it feels like rSlash misses out details in stories to drive engagement and have people comment more 🤷 maybe I'm just too cynical lol.
That last story: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Honestly it sounds like OP's husband is letting his mom destroy OP's self worth so he can abuse her and get no push back. He is also trying to alienate her from her own family. This is so awful. I hope OP and her son are safe and away from that situation.
Agreed, if your family doesn’t like your family in law, that’s a standard red flag in itself. Your family sees the things you miss when you have the in love rose-tinted glasses on.
@@Musicalsfangirl I want to say it depends on every situation, I'm sure there are times when the opposite is true, your family is being unreasonable and your partner is not. Not that I've ever experienced that, every instance I can think of, both my own experiences and those of family/friends, it's been the abusive, psychotic ex, and the family sees them for what they are. And this one is the same, cut and dried, the husband and his family are toxic douchebags.
While this is possible I have heard enough stories about entitled people fixating on family members babies that I can definitely buy that there was a legitimate issue with the sister that OP was oblivious to.
From what I understand, Dabney doesn't like to encourage divorce in most situations because when people are posting on AITA about their SO, we're only seeing a snapshot of their relationship, so it can be hard to tell what else might be going on or who this person usually is. Like him giving out 5/5 jerk scores, he likes to save the divorce card for the posts he feels most deserve it, rather than telling every single couple going through a rough patch to divorce
Story 1: Sell the husband and get your cat back. Story 3: He dumped OP with a dog she didn’t want and couldn’t take care of in her living conditions, all to punish his ex-wife for… being cheated on? Ew. Story 4: “Cake isn’t an essential food”. Then maybe have more food at a baby shower than cake and juice. Also, his whole family sounds toxic af. Girl, run.
regarding story 4 i was sitting here thinking to myself why mark she marked the husband as DH cause he dont sound like a "darling" or "dear-ish" or any of the usual things regarding it other than one thing "dickhead" which prompted me to say "why are you even married into this family?"
Eating cake every once in a while wouldn't kill you either. You shouldn't become obese while pregnant, but some weight isn't necessarily an issue. Especially if you breastfeed, then your body will slurp up a lot of the body weight. In anyway it can.
though,lawfully everything would heavily depend on their lease contract.personally,if i had a tenant renting a house i plan to give to someone in my family,i would atleast give 6-12 months notice if they had been renting for more than a decade.i'm not gonna blame any of the party for what happened.landlords or land owners have full right whatver they please on their property as long as they abide by the law and they did no hustle or abuse.people do dumb and pathetic things when they get deeply hurt or in like a desperation,specially if you'd been renting on a place for over around 2 decades and gonna get evicted with just 2 months notice.maybe they are at fault for not preparing for this issue or believing they can stay in that place as long as they want,with no regards for what they were told before they started renting.but 2 months would not be enough to find a new place for a family who have 6 kids... normally here in japan,there is 1 month deposit and 1 month advance,which is typical for low budget homes,but they have strong restrictions to protect that property and only for 1-2 person.for much less fortunate people,there are those who have apartments that don't need 1 month advance and/or deposit,but these places are much much more strict for property protection and mostly for 1-2 person only.for those who have well enough paying jobs,these homes have atleast 3 months advance and 1-3 month deposit with less restriction for property protection and would not muchly care how many people live as long as they don't turn the place into a sardines...
First Story, NTA: As someone who treats a pet as a family member, what OP’s husband did was sneaky and wrong. The thing is OP compromised and was willing to give the cat to her cousin but then he does this sneaky act and sold the cat. Wow, he really lied saying he sold Molly. Glad OP is getting rid of this man Second Story, NTA: That is work place harassment and he got what he deserved. That co-worker that defended Michael doesn’t know what they are saying because he humilated OP first but thats ok appearantly Third Story, NTA: I would’ve said YTA if he actually did take care of the dog but the fact he never takes care of the dog at all then I would’ve done the same thing. This dog would not live long under the care of OP’s son Fourth Story, YTA/NTA: If OP broke the lease then obviously they’re TA but if they didn’t then NTA Fifth Story, NTA: What?! She can’t embarass OP’s MIL but the MIL can embarass OP?! Why is OP married into a family like this? OP’s husband is pathetic, his mom constantly insults OP and he blows up at OP?! OP can do way better than this garbage man, his arguement with OP’s sister is stupid and this entire situation is just toxic. Divorce is a must here
Why is it harassment to point out that the boss is giving favourable treatment to someone who is attractive? OP herself says that multiple others were confused about that because they apparently worked for longer and harder than she did, so the possibility of bossman being a Weinstein type is definitely there.
@@CidVeldoril I'm sorry, but some jobs require certain studies qualifications, and could be the case here. If you to fault someone, fault HR that think ALL jobs require a paper that took 5yrs to print but cost a house to.
With the last story, that was absolutely a setup. The MIL is "concerned" about OPs weight, and yet the only food there is cake? So when she gets up to eat the only food there, the MIL makes a public scene and embarrasses OP? 100% intentional. Toxic MIL, toxic husband. Get the hell out OP.
Also pregnant women gain weight? That's just how that process works. Chastising a pregnant lady for putting on weight is a whole other level of bullshit.
The last story: Why did the family in law only have cake and juice, at the baby shower, if they didn't want OP to eat anything fattening? That is a red flag in itself as OP is pregnant which means her caloric needs are far far higher than normal. It sounds like OP's family in law are trying to isolate her from her own family.
They only had cake and juice because they wanted to have the opportunity to make fun of OP again. They intentionally make situations where they would make OP uncomfortable and feel better about themselves while doing it.
I feel so angry about the cake and juice only bit. Like the rest is all toxic but all I see from those 2 words is SUGAR. At least have some non-desert food! Like chips and dip. Or even crockpot cooked meatballs if diets allow(good party food since it stays in the crockpot on the warm setting).
@@luna_theraider Seriously. If the MIL and SIL wanted OP to eat healthier, why not have at least a veggie tray? Either SIL never thought of it or there’s a control element going on here.
As soon as I heard that bit about "passing it along" to the baby, I yelled "DIVORCE!" I don't care if it's a typical thing to say, that just made me lose it.
Story 1: What gets me is that you weren't mean about his hatred for cats you set up a nice home for her, so sending her off to a shelter, then lying that he sold it was so unnecessary that it is deeply concerning.
@CK George1989 a better solution than a shelter was also discussed between them already, giving the cat to a family/ friend is even better but the dude just didnt her to be in any contact with the cat anymore. Which hints of more malicious abusive intents.
I'm a bit perturbed that she was all set to get rid of the cat though, even if it was to an apparent nice home. Pets are for the rest of their lives, and should not be passed from pillar to post. What if the cousin then decided there was some issue and then the poor cat gets rehomed once again. I personally would never have pandered to the AH in the first place.
@CK George1989 The better solution was the one that had already been set up. She had already picked family that lived close by to take the cat and was bringing the cat there the day he got rid of her. He was informed of all this. Instead of just letting the cat be rehomed as the wife had planned, he snuck off to give the cat to a shelter and then lied and said he did something significantly WORSE, that he sold her to strangers off a sketchy site. Yes, things could have been worse for the cat, like killing or abandoning her but even though he didn't abuse the cat, this does show abusive tendencies to OP. What he did wasn't about the cat, it was about hurting and controlling OP. The cat was already taken care of and was moving that day, he didn't need to lift a finger, but he did. He went behind her back to try and ensure that she wouldn't be able to visit the cat and lied, saying he sold her to hurt his wife and dissuade her from looking. That's still vile.
4th story: the tenants absolutely deserve a butthole score. Being upset is beyond understandable, even sharing that upset on social media; however, harassing OP and family, and slandering them in the community crosses a line.
@@tomschmidt5022 I'm happy for you! There's the saying I heard "The more you know your partner, the more you love your cat". With stories like these I get it now ^^
Im a dog guy. But my lil sister found 3 black kittens with emerald eyes, just chilling under my car. I told her if they came to her we could keep em. Me thinking they would instantly run away. She went full disney princess on me tho, and after one kitty kitty kitty from her they all literally ran to her. She looked at me with those, what now eyes? So we got em all fixed and now they all chill out in my yard. Its kind of fun. They follow me where ever i go in almost a perfect line. Its adorable...Now even tho they aren't allowed in my house, if someone girl got rid of Batman, Batman, and Batman, id drop them like theyre hot. And yes, they all are named Batman. They look exactly alike. Seemed easiest.
🤣🤣 I love it id have loved to see your face when they all came to her 😃 im so glad you kept your word and let her keep the kittens but why on earth have they all got the same name ?? Poor things will be so confused when you call them as they wont know which one your talking to lol although it could save time calling one name 😃💕
@@X7Excalibur that's wonderful your post really did make me smile 😃 💕 reminds me of when my aunt inherited my grandads cat the cat he named pain in the arse !! She tried in vain to shorten the name to pain but he wasn't having any of it, so every night she called her cat pepper who came home straight away but after she got pain in the arse you could hear her shouting pepper, pain, pain, pain pain fine pain ine the arse and then he'd come 🤣🤣 it was so funny watching he trying so hard to get him to answer to pain
Story 5: More enablers. The daughter seems to be ignoring that the MIL hugely embarrassed OP. The husband is a horrible person as well, based on this story. Enablers, the lot of them. And as I've said before here, enablers are some of the lowest forms of life out there.
Yeah I would have divorced him the second he back up his mother the moment his mother insult me and my family I would be ok that’s it I am divorcing and YOU WILL NOT have access to the baby
Well, I believe that some people sometimes act harsh and rashly not out of malice but because they have a genuine concern. That being said, I can imagine the mother in law thinking about the upbringings of the son and how a mother with a very poor lifestyle and easily offended attitude would in the end hurt the family. I am just an outsider and so is everyone else reading the reddit post. From personal experience I know that some people write in a way that make the scenario sway more in their own favor and ignore other facets to the the situation. I personally have an obese dad and constantly worry about his health so I try to help him control his diet but he struggles and just like the protagonist of this story he is very easily offended even though I try to be very rational with him. Personally, I can imagine that the MIL just does this out of the same intentions as I care about my dad. Obesity is an epidemic and is the biggest killer in the modern day and age in the western world.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 yo panderer. Did you forgot that the Husband willingly married a fat lady, then when obviously presented his wife to family they said to husband: "ew, no". What did husband did then? Really, if one is a chubby chaser, why go back when you marry one? That dude either is spineless or a mommy dude. And let's take into account the scenario that he got her pregnant before marriage. Why marrying? If this age you can just pay child support and forget about the woman if you don't want to be part of her life & baby's. That dude isn't a man, is just a baby.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 She said MIL bought her Small-size clothes which don't fit because she's pregnant, implying that they would if she wasn't pregnant. She might be one of those people who constantly gets told they're fat because they're 10 pounds over what's considered "normal." It sounds like the husband and MIL are just controlling.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 Yea I believe we have a lot of context missing here. Despite OP claim that she is fine the way she is, she is easily triggered by the mention of someone calling her fat. How do you have a baby shower and only have cake and juice. Then when the main guess for the 1st time goes to eat the only thing available she is immediately told about her weight issues so she get offended and leaves like a child. All she had to say was i am hungry and the baby needs to eat. The only thing here is cake so that is what i am going to eat. Context have to be missing. The child is going to come up in this environment. Rip him/her.
Last story: Even worse than fat shaming OP, I think it is also dangerous for pregnant women to be hungry since the baby also needs nutrients. If I remember it right, the unborn could even starve if the pregnant woman doesnt eat enough
Story 4: If the renters can't afford anything big enough for them, that doesn't make OP a bad person, it makes them a hero for giving them a place they could afford for so long! How about a little appreciation for the years of getting such an affordable place to live!
also they are renting ... which means the renters do no own the property. they could have used the cheap rent to save up for a deposit to purchase their own home, but they didn't. they had more kids than they can realistically afford with that extra money. They always knew they were on borrowed time because the owner could have sold the house or moved in at any time as well. The renters are just choosy beggars essentially and now the gravy train has ended, they are pissed.
That last story, you hit it right. Something is extremely wrong with OPs husband and his family. When a husband does not defend/protect his wife and soon to be newborn...time to exit stage left.
For the last story... are there some, or any, redeeming qualities in this man that make up for his family treating OP like dirt? I couldn't be with someone whose family treated me like that. Smaller plates? Smugly denying food? And the dude doesn't intervene, he takes their side! The heck. They will slowly grind her, her self-esteem, and her happiness down. Please leave the whole toxic family behind, OP. You deserve better.
Holy shit that last story. The poor woman is only now seeing that her husband agrees with his mom about her and refuses to even try and understand her perspective. That kid is so screwed even if they divorce cause that guy is gonna give them eating disorders.
Look, I think that she should show respect to her husband by staying as fit and sexually attractive to him as she is able because fat is fat. However, what the MIL did and how her husband responded was way, way out of line and her leaving what exactly the right thing to do.
@@josephnorris4095 I'm sorry, what??? Do you realize how sexist you sound? She should "respect her husband by staying fit"?? She's PREGNANT. She's not fat there's an entire human being in her stomach. What the fuck is wrong with you?
@@jariccacierra8445 And even if she is a heavier girl normally, being toxic and controlling isn't going to fix that. Maybe don't marry someone you're not attracted to and try to change them? If you're worried about your partners health that's one thing but this crazy misogynist 'woman's duty to stay sexy for her husband' bs is psycho "alpha" incel shit. It kills me that there's such a large group of men backsliding to pre 1900s attitudes towards women. 😒
@@hotarubinariko Bullshit, it shows respect to her husband if she stays at least somewhat attractive for him. Your response with those insulting words clearly show that you do not think it is a wife's responsibility to take care of herself. If she is not physically attractive to her husband after they get married and she gains a lot of weight, it is selfish on her part if she expects otherwise.
The tenants story: OP and her husband were very clear about them only RENTING the house and what their intentions were. They had 22 YEARS to put money aside so they could get a bigger house. It's not OP's fault they didn't spend those 22 **YEARS** saving and preparing for what they knew was coming.
Exactly. Pretty much what these people have done has had a gig of kids they can't afford. And expect other people to subsidize their lifestyle choices. They expect Opie and her family to subsidize the fact that they've had a ton of children can't afford them and expect to live under market rate in a home. And then when they get a two-month notice to evict the property they throw fit and go to Facebook. You want a house you can't be evicted from when you pay your fees buy a house get a mortgage pay your mortgage on time. If not you can't be all surprised Pikachu face when somebody who you're renting from Once you out of their house. As long as they do it legally you have no grounds to complain.
The tenants also had ben there for 22 YEARS. they have 6 kids and the oldest is 19. for all intents and purpuses they were not given something like a two months notice but a 22 years notice. Even before there FIRST kid
agreed bad planning on their part... they've been living on cheap rent for 20 years there's ABSOLUTELY no reason they could not have saved up enough money for down payment on their own house by now. instead they have six children and push your finances to the max, I'd say they were literally taking advantage of the landlord's generosity
@@julibeanbag I read on one of the other comments here that there was an update, and OP said they met with the family every year to sign the lease again, and every time they reminded the family that eventually, they were giving the home to their son. They had PLENTY of notice, 22 years of notice for God's sake! They were irresponsible and petulant, and airing it out on the internet without even trying to stay anonymous is just in poor taste.
Last Story: i REALLLY hope there’s an update that starts with “i’m divorcing my POS husband because he’s a controlling, abusive douchebag.” NTA Op but seriously…RUN
@@akl2k7 Who said it had to be legal‽ Hers is one case where getting far away from the father is important at all costs, and a child shackling them together for decades would be detrimental and devastating. I guess, closed adoption is also a potential option.
@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou Well, getting an illegal abortion, along with being charged with a crime, could require going to a back-alley doctor and could be very dangerous, so it's a terrible idea. Her best bet, if she decides she doesn't want the kid because of being shackled to her husband is the adoption route, but that's only if she absolutely doesn't want the kid. If she does, she should go after him for as much child support as possible and only communicate through lawyers.
I was talking to a guy years ago and he knew I had cats. He told me if we ever lived together I'd come home one day they'd be gone. We never moved beyond the "talking" portion of that relationship. He had a multitude of red flags.
4th story: the tenants or at least the oldest child should get an ah score bc of the message sent to OP's son. Also, yes you can be mad about losing your home. I've lost my home a handful of times, bc of issues outside of my control (I was a kid during every experience), like the landlord wanting to sell the place, or the 08 housing shit. Every time my family could have gone on fb to post about our issues but we didn't, we found a new place and moved. The fact that they didn't even think about doing that and just started complaining on fb about their situation I would say does make them a bit of an ah. 0.5 to 1 out of 5 IMO
Especially if OP isn't lying about telling their tenants that the house was intended for the son when he came of age. They had months to years of advance warning, so I don't really get it
2008 there wasnt any social media to complain to half the world wasnt on the internet yet. op was the bigest AH tho 2 months is not enough notice to give tenants of 22 years
I feel bad for the family in story 4, but they KNEW it wouldn’t be permanent and they’d have to move out eventually. Despite knowing this, they DECIDED to have 6 kids and banked on the hope that OP wouldn’t possibly be “mean” enough to take his house back as originally agreed upon, and “make an entire family homeless”. I might be a AH for saying this, but this is exactly why I don’t think people should have kids unless they own their home outright. In my opinion, there’s just too much instability and risk involved in renting to ever make me feel comfortable raising a child while renting. At least if you own your home, you don’t have to worry about potentially having to move again in a year or 2 for the umpteenth time because the landlord jacked up the price of rent. I feel for the family, I really do. But at the same token they had 22 years of below market rent, that’s plenty of time to make plans for the future or even save to buy a house.
Story 4: They told the tenants when they moved in that the house was always going to be for the son. OP is NTA because they are just enacting their long-term plans and tenants were too lazy to make a contingency. Not OP'S problem.
I think it depends on what the laws are where they are. Where I'm from, it's actually illegal to kick a tenant out that's been at the same place for 10+ years without a 90 day notice, rather than a typical 30 day one. So, if that's the case, then they are 100% in the wrong for kicking them out with a 60 day notice (2 months).
No I think everybody just wants to s*** on landlords. Big conglomerate companies that come in and swoop up apartment buildings after apartment buildings yeah they generally tend to be pretty evil. But these little Ma Pa landlords no not likely. You want somewhere that they can't evict you if you're paying your monthly fee buy a house get a mortgage. Pretty much what they've done is have a pile of kids they can't afford and expect op and her family to subsidize their lifestyle choice.
@@asterross it really depends on the terms of the lease. A month to month lease usually requires a 30 day notice, a six month lease requires a 60 day notice, and a year lease requires a 90 day notice, unless the lease specifies they only get so many days of notice before an eviction. Like if they sign and the lease says they waive the right to an advance notice that the lease is ending.
Rslash every video: I don't like to throw around the word divorce in those videos because we're talking about people's life's and things are nuanced. Also Rslash every video: Dump that guy.
The first story: Imagine being so shitty you hide you hate cats for a year, fake accepting giving it to a family member, to then dump it in a shelter, and lie you sold the cat (probably thinking that way OP wouldn't go after her cat); Good to know OP is reunited again with Molly, while the real problem of this situation is on his way out of OP and Molly's life.
i heard somewhere that people who hate cats tend to be controlling assholes. i could never be with someone who hates cats, and i'm not even a cat person!
It's not even the fact that he doesn't like cats, though that is a red flag for me personally. It's the fact that he lied. HE. FUCKING. LIED. To his WIFE!! Of all people, your wife is the one person you should be MOST honest with! Not the slightest bit ok. And let's be real, if he'd been honest about it, they probably wouldn't have gotten married, which is a GOOD thing! Pets are family, and if someone is against pets, they obviously don't have the same core values as you, so they are the wrong person for you! And hell, on the flip side, if you are clear about not wanting pets, and your partner says that's fine, then one day just comes home with a cat or dog without consulting you and says they lied about being ok with it? Same thing, they're obviously not right for you! Honesty is rule #1 in a healthy, committed relationship. NO EXCEPTIONS.
"before I pass on this easily offended mindset to our son" aaaand that's all the info I need to know. So what I'm hearing is OP's husband wants OP and her son to be okay with abusive, thinly veiled insults? K. OP, get a lawyer or get out while you can, that guy sounds mega toxic. And while you're at it, ask him where he was January 6th too.
there's an update about the eviction story: It’s pretty anticlimactic. Some on here suggested a cash for keys idea. We did talk to a lawyer, and everything with that was above board. So we talked to our tenants. We offered them cash, to leave, and without any damage. There would be no cash if any damage other than wear and tear (and we were in the home in April) was present. They agreed. We negotiated with them, came up with a sum that worked for both parties, and a date. They will be Out November 30th. They will use the cash to add to their current savings for a down payment. But a contract between them and us has been signed. So rather uneventful.
That's good. I was going to post that they deserve at least one butt hole. What they were trying to do may have been legal but that does not make it right.
For the last story: Who throws a baby shower with no food? Who expects the mom to go hours with no food? OP should be very concerned that her husband thinks his family's aggressive and intrusive behavior is fine but has a problem with her standing up for herself. Also his working to cut her off from her own family is just another red flag. At a minimum, OP and husband need counseling. Husband clearly prioritizes his family over his wife and child.
About that landlord story. Yes I can understand someone being upset about being kicked out after so long but if you were told at the very beginning that you're eventually going to get kicked out then it's really the renters fault for not preparing for that situation. I bet you that they thought the landlord wouldn't kick them out after having renters for so long and were outraged when they found out the opposite.
I agree they did have ample time but also I can understand why the tenants are so upset, also does OP even know if their son wants to move into the house at all? I'd ask him and see what the son says, if he does then fine go ahead if not give him the option of taking over the lease as the landlord and collect the rent from them. 🤷♀️
@@jennix8666 I'm assuming the son did want the home, but I'm so confused in that there are much better ways to have gone about this, like at least a year notice would have worked better I would think.
@@lucinda3964 it's never said if he does or not, just that they are giving it to him. If he doesn't maybe he would be willing to continue renting it to them or maybe do a rent to own deal with them if he doesn't want it at all
@@jennix8666 I'm only assuming that he did want it, since he moved home and there is no way his parents didn't say "you're getting the rent house to live in." That's why I was making the assumption on him wanting it. And not only did everyone have 22 yrs to figure things out, the landlords had many opportunities to say "Hey Jr is graduating next year, and we are following through with our original plan of gifting him this home. We will not resign the lease and will need you out a year from now"
"Carlos cheated on his wife with a coworker. I am not judging him." I am TOTALLY judging him. There's no excuse for cheating. And keeping and abusing (neglect is a form of abuse) a dog just to get to his ex is disgusting.
@@ProtonFilms_Mark Still, either way, I still think they were referring to the husband even if he didn't sell it, he still was horrible about it, even when he said he'd compromise.
Story 4: How can it be understandable to hate landlords, whrn they had a landlord who save helped them save a six figuere amount to put up for a house? Sure, there are scummy landlords, but I don't think they dealt with those for 22 years!
I was looking to see if anyone else noticed. The way he acted with her sister sounds like he's trying to isolate OP from her family. Big scary abusive red flags.
I was so excited when my sister had her first baby. I bought baby clothes and blankets, tiny wee baby shoes, and the cutest little bibs for him. I wasn't "obsessed" I was just a sister.
My opinion for the tenant story: The owners gave a verbal notice of 22 years and a paper one of 2 months. They had plenty of notice and knew that it was inevitable.
Yeah I was thinking, 22 years and still renting a large house? Could’ve bought a smaller house and have that close to being paid off. At the 10 year mark, they shoulda asked about converting the lease into a rent to buy. If they owner said no, that would’ve been the cue to get their affairs in order.
@@michaeljackman3272 If you do the math, they wanted October/November to clean up the house and gave them a 2 month notice so that means they gave them notice in July/August. So, no, they didn't kick a family out at Christmas. They just wanted to get the house in order to give it to their son at Christmas.
@@michaeljackman3272 they chose to have those 6 kids when they chose to stay in that house since the oldest kids those tenants got is 19 so it is their fault and not the landlords
I’m so confused/upset by the first story… OP was going to give the cat away THE NEXT DAY…. Why did he take Molly to a shelter and then claim to sell her!!?!? The only reason I can think of is he was actually jealous of his Wife’s love for Molly and not Molly herself. He didn’t want OP to see her ever again…. And living down the street wasn’t good enough… so glad she got the divorce train rolling because that is horrifying behavior!
Story 3: "He cheated on his wife and left her ... I'm not judging him..." I am, OP. That detail is relevant because it strongly suggests that he views commitments as temporary or, at best, negotiable. A dog is a big commitment and he's demonstrating that he doesn't care about the dog since he won't take care of it properly. This is compounded by the fact that he stole the dog in the first place.
Story 4, I'm surprised the son didn't just keep renting it out and slowly increasing the rent so he had passive income. As it is, basically they know they have a really good deal and they're trying to use guilt and community pressure to keep their good deal. You've been basically subsidizing their family for years by not keeping the rent comparable to rent in your area.
That really depends on if he wanted to move out from his parents house. If he stayed (and doesn't pay his parents rent), for sure keep it rented and rake in the money. But if he wanted to move out, and the tenants were paying under market rate, the rent money he gets from them might not even cover his own rent payment. Plus he would be on the hook for maintenance expenses, dealing with the tenants, etc. So if he really wanted to move out, it makes much more sense to just move into the house and save the money he doesn't have to pay on rent or a mortgage.
It's not that he didn't want the cat in the house. He didn't want her to see the cat at all. That's the only thing that makes sense about why he took the cat to the shelter. Glad she ditched the dude and go to the cat back.
The wonderful thing about owning your own property is that you can do whatever you want with it. I'm a renter. I have no rights to the place I rent, it's not mine. Those people had it easy for 22years. They could have saved and bought their own home or offered to buy the current one from the owners, but they did none of that.
I just listened to the landlord part, they 100 percent DO deserve a butthole mark because they're harassing op and are turning people against them. Just because they're renters it doesn't mean they're angels
@@diosilva16 it wasn't a secret that they were going to gift the house, and op said there are many places they can go. I believe the reason they're mad is that they're gonna have to pay more for rent
@@diosilva16 yes after 22 years of the tenants already knowing that the house was meant for OPs son upon graduation. The update makes it even more clear that the father was reminded even earlier that year.
Last story reminded me of a story about my parents. This is the tale they told me. My Mom was a big woman when she had her kids. She was always knew she was a large woman and didn't play no victim card about it. In her early days of motherhood she recalled breaking down crying while eating lunch, making comments about herself being too fat. My Pops was upset wanting to know why she would think this way? Turns out one of the doctors she was seeing was making asshole remarks about her weight. The next visit to that doctor, my dad tagged along. Before the appointment began my dad walked up to the doc, grabbed him by the neck and said "If you ever say anything to my wife about her weight again, you'll be glad you're working in a hospital." Needless to say that was her last appointment with that doctor and got a new one for future visits.
*First OP:* Um, NTA. Moving on... Yay, OP and Molly reunited! *Second OP:* It sucks that Michael got promoted, but he shouldn't have taken it out on OP. He got FAFO'd. OP is NTA. Also, when OP said she dropped her cup, I thought, "which cup?" Am _I_ the butthole? *Third OP:* It's unbelievable that Carlos is punishing his ex-wife for something _he_ did! OP did the right thing by taking the dog back to her ex-DIL. Now the dog will be loved and well taken care of. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* It'd be one thing if OP gave the tenants an eviction notice without warning. However, OP gave them a _22-year notice_ about gifting the house to their son. And IIRC, OP mentioned reminding the tenants about the plan throughout the 22-year stay. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* As a fat woman, monitoring and commenting on people's food choices will _not_ help them lose weight. Speaking for myself, it only made me eat secretly and develop unhealthy relationships with food. One can argue that OP's MIL is concerned for the baby's health, but I doubt one slice of cake will do much damage. OP is NTA, and she should reevaluate her marriage. -I'm curious as to what OP's husband said to her sister.- Wow. OP needs to divorce her husband yesterday.
As a skinny minny IAM triggered by anyone controlling what I eat..especially while pregnant. Had to pause and read the comments because it made me cringe..
2nd story OP is a vapid, empty headed liar. She is omitting several points of information and there is no way she got a promotion in 3 years on skill alone.
The last story actually made me wonder whether or not the woman actually is fat or if she's just in an environment where people call her fat and she's accepted that as gospel. I'm definitely going off my own experiences here as I'm a size 14 (US size 10) but because I was once a size 8-4 (4-0) my family always comment that I'm fat and comment on what I eat which I've learned to just accept/ ignore despite the dysmorphia I experience. However, if you're pregnant it's a whole different ballpark and is already exceptionally difficult to deal with as your body rapidly changes. Also, when it comes between not eating at all and eating "bad" food, there's no such thing as bad food especially when you're pregnant! Regarding the first story though, my Luna is the most annoying cat I know, she's by my side 24/7, loves to give love bites and also meows constantly, however, if anyone hurt her or got rid of her I would be being merciful if I just divorced/ kicked someone out of my life. (I'm also using annoying as an affectionate term😂)
Oh my God I was just wondering that because as someone who struggles with body image thanks to a lovely family who does not help at all. I am a size 4, but since my mother is a size 2, I’m big and ugly.
Story four: they want to guilt trip them to stay because the rent is so low. They are bashing the landlord because they want to keep the cheap rent. You know if they will let them stay they would blow up if the rent goes up. Now they are openly attacking their landlords. Even if they did decide to let people rent the tenants made it hostile. I mean they messaged/ bothered the son about it trying to guilt trip him. They ruined the landlord/tenant relationship.
I recently got a cat. My first pet I've ever owned. Like every pet owner, I'm sure, my biggest fear is dating someone who lies about liking my pet and even abuse them. Cats have it harder because people are more prone to liking dogs than cats. :(
Yeah I think that is a big fear, I have cats and rabbits my boyfriend always jokes around and says stuff like I don't like cats but then will proceed to pick up my cat and pet her. He likes all my animals he will even ask if he can pet my bunnies and say that they are cute. So I guess it depends on the person my boyfriend was honest with me from the start. Hopefully your relationship will be the same.
They knew they were going to get evicted. They knew the house was for their son. They have no reason to be upset. It was always in the plan which they knew about. Blasting them all over social media us immature. They did nothing wrong.
Imagine you're renting an apartment and the landlords say: "But at some point between 18 years and 30 years in the future we're gonna throw you out", are you going to start looking for a new place to live immediately after the 18 years are over just in case that the owners decide that today is the day to throw you out? Absolutely not. You'd expect to be given a reasonable notice ahead of time. You can't find a good home within 2 months, unless you accept that you're gonna go bankrupt or have to drive 2 hours more to and from work every day. Legally the landlords may be in the right, but morally I say they should've given more notice.
@@insu_na Nah, the landlord told them when they moved in that the house was going to eventually go to their son. The renters should have been working on a plan to get into another home from the JUMP instead of waiting for the eviction notice. I'd say 22 years is PLENTY of notice. Putting off the inevitable until last minute when you knew going in that the situation would eventually change and not doing anything to prepare for that change for over two decades is irresponsible to say the least.
@@insu_na You still have EIGHTEEN YEARS TO SAVE UP. You wouldn't go bankrupt if you saved a little each month. Depending on how much they save each month you could look anywhere from 86k to 110k. That's enough to get a nice house. Don't pull this BS of "They're gonna go bankrupt with 2 months notice!" They had at LEAST 18 years notice. They never looked in that 18 years. I've been a renter and have NEVER had an issue with landlords. And when I did, I didn't go on social media and act like an infant when I didn't get my way.
@@insu_na even if you don't start looking for a new house in the first 18 years it still doesn't explain why they wouldn't look for one in the last 4 years they were here and they had more money then the others due to the price being LOWER so at no point can you excuse the way these tenants chose to act like
I hate when people complain that they can't afford a place fir there multiple kids. Nobody forced you to have 6 kids before you had a stable place for them.
Story about the landlord telling the tenants they had to move because of the sun being given the house is simple. They knew well in advance and they had plenty of time to prepare to move and find another place to live. Long-term or not it was spelled out to them at the beginning and when it was fulfilled for their son the tenant shouldn't have raised so much hell
Two months is well in advance? I don't think so. Yeah they were told they would eventually have to move out but that was 22 years ago with no specific time given in all of those 22 years.
@@wingracer1614 Considering most leases (in the US at least) say 30 days notice, 2 months is plenty of notice. Also, they sound like reasonable people. If the tenants had ask for an extra week or two, it sounds like they might have said ok before all the badmouthing.
@@wingracer1614 how about 22 years? They have the explicit understanding when they started running that house that eventually it would go to the Sun. Of course people procrastinate and put things off because you know that's just human nature sometimes. No one is really to blame here it's just they had two months in advance officially to start looking for another place. I had a similar situation only it was a bit shorter time frame for the preparation for it I got a one month notice that my lease would not be renewed and the house would be sold. I found a place within two weeks. I knew the house would eventually be sold when I moved in I did not complain one bit about it. This is entitlement and it's a classic example of entitlement. Not the behavior of the tenants but your reaction. Nobody owes you a thing. Even in a lease agreement nobody owes you a thing. If the terms of the lease are satisfied in the lease is not renewed and it's a month-to-month situation the landlord can basically give you 30 days. Look at it logically without bringing any emotion into it in your world will be a better place
@@russclark5150 I'm not bringing emotion into it, I'm bringing real life experience into it. Yes the owners were well within their rights to do it. That doesn't make it the right thing to do. I've been kicked out on a one month notice before and that is a major pain. In this area, finding another place in that amount of time is impossible. I would have been homeless if not for my mother letting me stay with her for the 6 months it took for a spot to open up. And I only had myself to worry about, I can't imagine trying to do it with a wife and 6 kids without being fairly wealthy. And clearly the owners in the story came to agree because they offered them a cash for keys deal with enough cash involved for the tenants to be able to make a down payment on a new place so everyone is happy now.
So not only were the tenants paying over $1,000 less rent for over 20 years, but they were also told WAY beforehand that this tendency was on a temporary basis and they have the nerve to still get upset. Instead of acting out like a bunch of disgruntled teenagers, maybe they could use the thousands and thousands of dollars their landlord saved them from paying to find a new apartment.
Story 2: screw this one side BS, he called you a bimbo in front of everyone and they didn't say squat. You did nothing wrong, and I bet the reason he got the demoted was because he kept making comments like this, tell his his friend that you'll apologize when he does, and if he actually does say thank you and walk away.
He didn't call her a bimbo, he said she got promoted over her looks, which says MUCH more about the boss than about her. The fact that everyone seemed "upset" about her promotion and how they reacted to the spat would point in that direction. If I were OP, I'd be less angry at Michael and would take a very good look at my interactions with the boss.
Story5: red flags all around, the husband and his side of the family are all assholes, the mom is basically the ringleader and openly shamed op and her husband didn’t defend her and now mommy dearest is awaiting the call of apology that should never come , because she told her son what to do, because she wanted to see op suffer
The tenants story sorry @rSlash but it is one thing to be angry, it is another to drag the landlord on social media and send hateful messages to their son. They should get 2/5 butthole score. They are greedy, they knew what their signed up for and had years to plan and prepare. They are entitled people
How do you plan, 22 years in advance, which place you're going to rent next after the first one throws you out? Particularly when nobody actually told you that it would be 22 years?
@@insu_na They were informed... And yes you don't plan 22 years in advance but if people want to start a family it's better if they live in their own house... They could easily save something on the side and after 22 years they would have enough money to buy their own property especially if their rent was too low. When I was renting apartment I knew it won't be really long term and I should be saving for my own(I don't want house since right now it's easier for me to live in the city). I bought my own after 4 years of saving. The family was taking advantage of the OP.
@@JerziTBoss I half agree with you. I do think they handled it incredibly inappropriately and absolutely should have been saving and planning for when the day came. They might have expected more notice to be fair. Two months is not long and rent in general has more than doubled in many areas. In addition, I don't know where you or they live but as it stands now for me, with a partner with no kids. We could save 22 years and I'm not sure we could afford to stay in our state if we wanted to buy. The housing costs here are in the millions for even shitty properties. We don't know the education/work situation for these people, so we can't assuming buying would be reasonable for them, especially with kids in this economy. Also, I'm sure realizing they will like have to seriously tighten their belts and move in somewhere worse while pay double is a major sting. I currently pay similar rent to this family for a 1 bedroom where the central heating is connected to my landlords unit so we have no control over our own temperature in our home. We get strictly two laundry days and only within their awake hours which are very different from mine and my partners and have to access the laundry by walking outside the house. We also have rats/squirrels living in our walls. We have also sorts of bugs, spiders, and critters getting into our home because it's a poor sealed basement apartment. We've recently taken up saving the salamanders that mistakenly wonder in. Both of our sinks have something broken but still function. And yes, we've told our landlords about all of it but they procrastinate. From talking with others. This is becoming more and more the norm in my area. Meanwhile we still have construction companies building mcmashions that sit empty for years at a time. Gotta love America 🇺🇸
@@insu_na if you have a rent that much lower than what the market charges, you save the difference, you live as if you had the same rent as the rest of the area and you save so that when the son's graduation that you were warned was going to be what triggered your eviction, then because you were smart and not foolishly just blowing that extra money you don't have to look for the next place to rent, you get to look for the house you are going to buy with the money you saved by finding someone who was saving a house for their kid. They stumbled onto an amazing find and they squandered it. Plus they were told at the beginning it hinged up graduation which is something pretty easy to estimate a time range for, it's not like they were told it would be upon marriage or a baby which could happen with way less warning than the multiple years it takes someone to complete college. They had way more than 2 months, and they put their heads up their butts rather than plan for what they knew was coming. Pretty sure people defending them are just as entitled and foolhardy to not properly utilize the blessing that saving that much on rent for that many years would be.
Last story: I get the feeling that OP's husband really wants OP to leave her family behind because only her ILs are the real matter and the bit about claiming that her sister is obsessed just because she's infernal seems like it's really an opportunity for the ILs to finally kick OP's own family out for good because they got a good excuse. I bet they don't want to straight up tell the truth like "I don't want your blood family to be part of our lives because you're my wife and therefore, only my parents and siblings matter because I'm the man". I'm sure you've heard about that stereotype and it seems like OP's husband wants that dream fantasy.
Story 2: Nobody likes a demotion, and he proceeded to take his anger out on OP. No apology needed, that burn was well-deserved. And yeah, there is a sexist environment
Last story: The mother got the wording of "Living with a walrus" from somewhere... Is it possible the husband has been complaining to his mother about OP's weight and maybe not wanting to live with someone that big anymore? That just felt really bizarre to come out like that. Most would say "whale". "cow" or "pig" but no... "walrus" isn't the first animal that comes to mind when I think about people being big...
@@hotarubinariko exactly and if they do have an issue with a bit of distraction, it is usually just stay at the same level, not so extreme as to demote.....being demoted is what they do when the people who make the decision can't agree and some wanted him fired, but they took pity on him and only demoted him. (Otherwise known as special treatment) Clearly that easily offended snowflake has caused actual issues not just his lame excuse of being distracted.
As a cat owner of two cats, one of them meows a lot. She technically belongs to my boyfriend and if I did anything like selling her or giving her up to the shelter I fully expect him to be pissed and to be kicked out to be honest and he would get the same with the other cat who's technically mine. Thankfully we love both of our cats so rehoming them is a last resort if anything
I imagine he said he sold Mollie to a rando on Gumtree so OP would assume the purchase was untraceable and she wouldn’t go looking for her. And if it was a kill shelter like I assume, she would be euthanized without OP knowing it. That’s just sick because he didn’t just want the cat gone or else he would’ve just let family members have her; he wanted OP to never be able to see her again!
The moral of a lot of these stories are "divorce their ass". It baffles me how these people manage to get through a relationship and marry someone without realising they're like this. Except with the landlords, that's as you said, based on the lease.
The last story is plain and simple: OP's response to this insult should have been: "Well, in this case, I am going to raise my son without a grandmother". A divorce is not necessary the answer. However, OP's mother-in-law should remember where her place is.
@@lillylovegood2300 his lack of support, disrespectful behavior towards her family and blatant disregard for her well being in favor of his mother’s opinion unfortunately show that this man isn’t husband material. Can’t save this one and we don’t claim him.
Story 1: Throw the husband in the garbage bin. Spoil the poor kitty and give her anything she likes. Story 2: Throw Michael in the garbage bin too. The coworkers taking his side are also trash. Story 3: Another man for the dumpster!
If anyone was wandering I just checked the eviction story for updates. It all got resolved peacefully but I want to point out that 1) OP said that the tenants switched to a month to month lease 5 years ago so they didn't break it. And 2) The tennants were told about the house being for the son in 2000 when they moved in, in 2018 when the son started uni and in April when op's husband went to do some work there. I would say they are absolutely nta
The landlord story. NTA. They knew that the lease would end when their son turned 22. They got a two month notice to leave, which is more than most municipalities require. Pregnant woman story, NTA. Her husband is ok with his pregnant wife being body shamed? Sounds like he will never have her back
Doesn't DH stand for "dear husband"? Cuz he definitely isn't that. I hate that a kid is gonna be in the middle of this but I would advise op to get out. Totally agree with Rslash. The whole family was working on isolating op from her family.
In the landlord story, the tenants are definitely AHs. Being upset is one thing, slander and ruining a once in a lifetime event for their innocent son is another. Screw those people
I have been a "landlord" for 35 years. I can assure you that the mortgage payments far outweigh the rental payments. Plus there is maintenance, insurance and council rates. You only start earning an income once the mortgage is paid and that can take ten to fifteen years.
OMG that first story hit me so damn hard! I can't believe anyone would do something like that to a pet! OP your (hopefully soon to be ex) husband rots in hell and never gets any happiness in life! What a toxic, sick, and twisted waste of oxygen! I'm glad OP and Molly were reunited and I hope OP and Molly stay safe. Never let Molly go OP. For the son keeping the dog story I was ready to rake OP over the coals just on the title. After hearing the story OP you are not the butthole. I think it's clear that the dog was something he and his ex had together and it is very obvious that he just wanted leverage. You made the right decision to "return" the dog to the ex and I would also boot your son out. If he's making such good money he can most certainly afford a place of his own.
Story 4: NTA. The landlords mentioned that this house was going to eventually be for their child when they moved in. They had 22 wonderful years, and never once in that time did the tenants attempt to purchase the house, which means it isn't theirs to just keep forever or stay indefinitely. It is never okay to just smear landlords because they're doing what they're legally allowed to do. They are legally allowed to ask tenants to vacate because they would like possession back of the house. If you don't want to be forced out of the place you live, don't just milk borrowed time. They could have asked to make a purchase at any point in time and made it lucrative enough that with interest rates and savings, the parents could have taken the kid house shopping.
For the last story, the husband sounds controlling in an abuser kind of way. That may sound extreme, but he is villianizing OP's support network while gaslighting OP's feelings, making her seem invalid for getting offended when someone literally calls her a walrus. He clearly cares about his feelings and his families, but never once tried to support OP or assume that his wife, his pregnant wife, might deserve some respect too. I really hope OP sees this man for what he is, otherwise she and her baby will have to deal with this abuse. Good luck OP.
The tenants have had 22 years to save enough to buy their own place. I doubt they had the discipline to do that. Their failure doesn’t obligate the landlord.
Exactly. If I were blessed with paying way less than market on a place and knew it had about a 2 decade expiration, I would have lived my life as if I had the same rent as the rest of the area, and put that money aside. Imagine planning ahead enough that you could buy a plot of land during one of the economic dips that had happened over the last 2 decades, get some land cheap and then you still have ample warning since unless the kid is a prodigy you know college is going to be at least a couple years. So then that's even time enough to start and fully complete the build without being rushed even.
Plus, they could have used some birth control and not had six kids. They also could have budgeted by allocating the amount needed for paying market rent, paying the rent with that and then putting the extra of that allocation into savings towards a new place. They had 22 years to do all of that.
@@akl2k7 Yea, i'm annoyed at stupid people popping out lots of kids even when it is clearly beyond their means to support such a lifestyle, then blaming the world for their stupidity at not being able to afford to live. As if the world owes them anything for their bad decisions...
@@N0xiety Especially since, looking at the story, the house only had 2 bedrooms in the first place. They should have looked at a new place after child #2, #3 at the latest.
You are wrong about the landlord story. They had 22 years of under market rent to save for the time they knew was coming up. They were told from the beginning that the son would be getting the house when he was an adult. They have no right to bad mouth OP or their son on social media. The renters definitely deserve an AH rank for that
Story 4: I feel like my only gripe is that OP could have given them more time to move out, knowing that they were giving the house to the son after he graduated. But on the other hand, the tenants also knew of the approximate deadline, so they should have been somewhat prepared of what was to come. And they had no right to attack OP's family like that
I mean... They warned them 22 years ahead initially, and most land Lords give only 30 days notice most of the time. 60 days is pretty nice. That is quite a bit of time to find new living arrangements. Also, did they not save anything at all for the past 22 years?
@@ceraunoashe9134 agreed. Plus being told that it would happen upon graduation....it would be foolish to not keep track of the son's age and/or school status, it's not like they were told it would be upon marriage or something statistically less common or harder to guess a time range for the occurrence. They had more warning and prep time than any other human ever has. Lol. Plus a cheaper rent, they should have had enough to buy a house outright by the time this came around.
@@ceraunoashe9134 especially with the rent being so much lower - they had 22 years to save so much more than most rentals would ever allow for + want to play the victims + damage op's reputation? I'm normally v antilandlord, but definitely side w op on this
I have a general hate towards landlords but I don't necessarily think this one is particularly bad. I feel like they should have at least given them regular reminders 2 years in advance so the family can start making plans. 2 months is not nearly enough notice, especially since they knew since they purchased the property specifically for their son so they had a good idea of when they would have to evict the tenants
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I would flat out divorce and file a police report if anyone sold any of my animals. He'd be out on his butt so fast...
Ikr? If you can't trust someone with an animal, they're not going to be helpful if you're ever as helpless as that animal.
Add assault charges. If someone sold one of my pitties, I would end up beating someone to near death with a bat.
Pretty much yeah
Same
Oh yeah, call the cops! Officer, I'd like to report that my husband sold our cat. Hello? HELLO??? You nitwit.
Story 5: What the peck is wrong with the husband? He calls an excited sister "obsessed", gets into a fight with multiple people on OP's side of the family, lets MIL insult OP and deny her food, and then get mad and try to downplay OP's justified complaints after she walked out of the baby shower
I think this is a dealbreaker
Ooo what the peck!?! I love that!
She’s in an abusive relationship, he’s trying to isolate her and let’s her get abused by his family.
Throw the whole husband out, the only excess weight is him and his family
D-I-V-O-R-C-E!
I do not agree with insulting someone and embarrassing people for any reason. That said, OP has an unhealthy attitude towards her weight. I struggle with my weight but I've never once thought it was OK to be overweight and unhealthy. Body positivity just seems to be a modern day excuse for greed. People don't feel shame for no reason. Some people feel ashamed for certain things in their life due to religious reasons or upbringing when their behaviour is perfectly natural. Being overweight is not a natural state for our bodies and these attitudes are dangerous.
Story 1: Bye felicia
Story 2: I hate the double standard. It was fine for him to publically harass op, but op has to 'talk to him in private' about it.
Story 3: Sounds like the dog'll be a lot happier tbh.
Story 4: Disagree. It'd be a 0 if they were just upset about getting evicted, but they took it a step further and ruined op's reputation, even sending horrible messages to the son.
Story 5: "Get rid of this easily offended mindset?" More like "Get rid of this horrible family."
Completely agree on story 4, no way they are 0/5 for putting the landlords family on blast publicly when they knew this would happen for 22 years. Definitely just butthurt they can't abuse the low rent anymore and that their lack of foresight has put them in this financial situation. I actually don't really like the whole "landlords are awful" thing he pushes here, while there is obviously a power dynamic to some extent there are laws to prevent this, and tennants can be absolutely terrible too.
There's also an update. They were reminded every single renewal of the lease about the son eventually moving in. OP even told them specifically multiple times the same year that the two month eviction notice would be given soon. The tenants purposely chose to ignore the ops warnings until it was too late. They also squandered the time they were renting, because due to how low the rent was for them, they stupidly didn't save ANY money, which they easily could have and should have done, to buy a house. And have op excuse after excuse about why them moving out and finding a home that fit their family was impossible. RSlash bothers me sometimes when he blatantly ignores details in stories for the benefit of the doubt and I wish he would spend more time looking for updates and reading comments, not to mention rereading the stories themselves, before giving judgements.
Yessss! So agree in story 4! Is ok to be upset, but when they went after op family they became the AH!!
@@aurorarowley7310 I'm with you, but IDK about "easily" saving up money with six kids involved. However, I agree in that they chose to have six kids... That's basically as good as choosing to not save money. And, really, when it comes to a rented home, who is going to believe that it will last forever? Even people who rent homes as a way to make passive income eventually sell the house. It was foolish of them to think they could just shame OP into letting them rent until THEY were ready to go.
@@aurorarowley7310 IDK sometimes it feels like rSlash misses out details in stories to drive engagement and have people comment more 🤷 maybe I'm just too cynical lol.
That last story: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Honestly it sounds like OP's husband is letting his mom destroy OP's self worth so he can abuse her and get no push back. He is also trying to alienate her from her own family. This is so awful. I hope OP and her son are safe and away from that situation.
she needs to run from that jerk.
Agreed, if your family doesn’t like your family in law, that’s a standard red flag in itself. Your family sees the things you miss when you have the in love rose-tinted glasses on.
@@Musicalsfangirl I want to say it depends on every situation, I'm sure there are times when the opposite is true, your family is being unreasonable and your partner is not. Not that I've ever experienced that, every instance I can think of, both my own experiences and those of family/friends, it's been the abusive, psychotic ex, and the family sees them for what they are. And this one is the same, cut and dried, the husband and his family are toxic douchebags.
While this is possible I have heard enough stories about entitled people fixating on family members babies that I can definitely buy that there was a legitimate issue with the sister that OP was oblivious to.
He's an ass but so is she for ignoring him too. Rslash is a hyprocrite again.
Last story: When Dabney said he didn't like to use the word "divorce" in these videos, I immediately said "Well, I don't mind using it! DIVORCE!"
You don't get a lot of happy stories on AITA after all.
From what I understand, Dabney doesn't like to encourage divorce in most situations because when people are posting on AITA about their SO, we're only seeing a snapshot of their relationship, so it can be hard to tell what else might be going on or who this person usually is. Like him giving out 5/5 jerk scores, he likes to save the divorce card for the posts he feels most deserve it, rather than telling every single couple going through a rough patch to divorce
Divorce is less offensive to most people than dismemberment and composting.
Story 1: Sell the husband and get your cat back.
Story 3: He dumped OP with a dog she didn’t want and couldn’t take care of in her living conditions, all to punish his ex-wife for… being cheated on? Ew.
Story 4: “Cake isn’t an essential food”. Then maybe have more food at a baby shower than cake and juice. Also, his whole family sounds toxic af. Girl, run.
regarding story 4 i was sitting here thinking to myself why mark she marked the husband as DH cause he dont sound like a "darling" or "dear-ish" or any of the usual things regarding it other than one thing "dickhead" which prompted me to say "why are you even married into this family?"
Story 2: everyone deserves boycott
Selling the husband is honestly the best solution.
"Sell the husband"💀
Eating cake every once in a while wouldn't kill you either. You shouldn't become obese while pregnant, but some weight isn't necessarily an issue. Especially if you breastfeed, then your body will slurp up a lot of the body weight. In anyway it can.
Story 4: They definitely deserve an AH score for slandering OP's family all over social media, regardless of how upset they are.
Agreed.
though,lawfully everything would heavily depend on their lease contract.personally,if i had a tenant renting a house i plan to give to someone in my family,i would atleast give 6-12 months notice if they had been renting for more than a decade.i'm not gonna blame any of the party for what happened.landlords or land owners have full right whatver they please on their property as long as they abide by the law and they did no hustle or abuse.people do dumb and pathetic things when they get deeply hurt or in like a desperation,specially if you'd been renting on a place for over around 2 decades and gonna get evicted with just 2 months notice.maybe they are at fault for not preparing for this issue or believing they can stay in that place as long as they want,with no regards for what they were told before they started renting.but 2 months would not be enough to find a new place for a family who have 6 kids...
normally here in japan,there is 1 month deposit and 1 month advance,which is typical for low budget homes,but they have strong restrictions to protect that property and only for 1-2 person.for much less fortunate people,there are those who have apartments that don't need 1 month advance and/or deposit,but these places are much much more strict for property protection and mostly for 1-2 person only.for those who have well enough paying jobs,these homes have atleast 3 months advance and 1-3 month deposit with less restriction for property protection and would not muchly care how many people live as long as they don't turn the place into a sardines...
I was going to point this out too
They had 22 years to repair their credit and save for a deposit on a house.
@@guardiangibbs2663and not have 6 kids when they knew they wouldn't be able to take care of once the house was given to the son
First Story, NTA: As someone who treats a pet as a family member, what OP’s husband did was sneaky and wrong. The thing is OP compromised and was willing to give the cat to her cousin but then he does this sneaky act and sold the cat. Wow, he really lied saying he sold Molly. Glad OP is getting rid of this man
Second Story, NTA: That is work place harassment and he got what he deserved. That co-worker that defended Michael doesn’t know what they are saying because he humilated OP first but thats ok appearantly
Third Story, NTA: I would’ve said YTA if he actually did take care of the dog but the fact he never takes care of the dog at all then I would’ve done the same thing. This dog would not live long under the care of OP’s son
Fourth Story, YTA/NTA: If OP broke the lease then obviously they’re TA but if they didn’t then NTA
Fifth Story, NTA: What?! She can’t embarass OP’s MIL but the MIL can embarass OP?! Why is OP married into a family like this? OP’s husband is pathetic, his mom constantly insults OP and he blows up at OP?! OP can do way better than this garbage man, his arguement with OP’s sister is stupid and this entire situation is just toxic. Divorce is a must here
He didn't even sell it, he took it to the shelter D: I agree with rSlash. Ditch the husband, keep the cat.
@@thehaveninthehand agreed, this guy is horrible
Why is it harassment to point out that the boss is giving favourable treatment to someone who is attractive? OP herself says that multiple others were confused about that because they apparently worked for longer and harder than she did, so the possibility of bossman being a Weinstein type is definitely there.
@@CidVeldoril OP said that the others *thought* they worked harder and for longer. Nowhere did she say that they actually did.
@@CidVeldoril I'm sorry, but some jobs require certain studies qualifications, and could be the case here.
If you to fault someone, fault HR that think ALL jobs require a paper that took 5yrs to print but cost a house to.
With the last story, that was absolutely a setup. The MIL is "concerned" about OPs weight, and yet the only food there is cake?
So when she gets up to eat the only food there, the MIL makes a public scene and embarrasses OP?
100% intentional. Toxic MIL, toxic husband. Get the hell out OP.
Agreed, MIL knew full well what she was doing, it's not concern, it's malicious and despicable. Disgusting woman.
Also pregnant women gain weight? That's just how that process works. Chastising a pregnant lady for putting on weight is a whole other level of bullshit.
The last story: Why did the family in law only have cake and juice, at the baby shower, if they didn't want OP to eat anything fattening? That is a red flag in itself as OP is pregnant which means her caloric needs are far far higher than normal. It sounds like OP's family in law are trying to isolate her from her own family.
They only had cake and juice because they wanted to have the opportunity to make fun of OP again. They intentionally make situations where they would make OP uncomfortable and feel better about themselves while doing it.
Agreed. So many red flags here.
I’m glad someone else thought about the “pregnant people need more food” part too
I feel so angry about the cake and juice only bit. Like the rest is all toxic but all I see from those 2 words is SUGAR. At least have some non-desert food! Like chips and dip. Or even crockpot cooked meatballs if diets allow(good party food since it stays in the crockpot on the warm setting).
@@luna_theraider Seriously. If the MIL and SIL wanted OP to eat healthier, why not have at least a veggie tray?
Either SIL never thought of it or there’s a control element going on here.
Imagine not wanting to defend the honor of your wife and calling her "easily offended".
"D"H and his entire family is a dishonorable conglomerate of weasels
As soon as I heard that bit about "passing it along" to the baby, I yelled "DIVORCE!" I don't care if it's a typical thing to say, that just made me lose it.
Especially when she's pregnant and got fat shamed and humiliated. What a POS
@@tully6648 D! I! D-I-V! O-R-C-E! *DIVORCE!!!*
@@tully6648 ya sounds to me if he is in that child's life he will verbally abuse it and call it a snowflake or sissy when they fight back
Story 1: What gets me is that you weren't mean about his hatred for cats you set up a nice home for her, so sending her off to a shelter, then lying that he sold it was so unnecessary that it is deeply concerning.
@CK George1989 a better solution than a shelter was also discussed between them already, giving the cat to a family/ friend is even better but the dude just didnt her to be in any contact with the cat anymore.
Which hints of more malicious abusive intents.
I'm a bit perturbed that she was all set to get rid of the cat though, even if it was to an apparent nice home. Pets are for the rest of their lives, and should not be passed from pillar to post. What if the cousin then decided there was some issue and then the poor cat gets rehomed once again.
I personally would never have pandered to the AH in the first place.
@@It-is-me...Melsie I mean she said they were only a few minutes away so she could still visit
@@It-is-me...Melsie whatever the cousins did after is their decision. But she wanted to compromise with her husband and he just went off the rails
@CK George1989 The better solution was the one that had already been set up. She had already picked family that lived close by to take the cat and was bringing the cat there the day he got rid of her. He was informed of all this. Instead of just letting the cat be rehomed as the wife had planned, he snuck off to give the cat to a shelter and then lied and said he did something significantly WORSE, that he sold her to strangers off a sketchy site.
Yes, things could have been worse for the cat, like killing or abandoning her but even though he didn't abuse the cat, this does show abusive tendencies to OP. What he did wasn't about the cat, it was about hurting and controlling OP. The cat was already taken care of and was moving that day, he didn't need to lift a finger, but he did. He went behind her back to try and ensure that she wouldn't be able to visit the cat and lied, saying he sold her to hurt his wife and dissuade her from looking. That's still vile.
4th story: the tenants absolutely deserve a butthole score. Being upset is beyond understandable, even sharing that upset on social media; however, harassing OP and family, and slandering them in the community crosses a line.
Haven't heard the cat story yet, but I can already say who ever sold someone's cat behind their back is an A-hole.
if it were my pet, they also would disappear, permanently.
My last GF tried to convience me to get rid of my cat… i`m currently single (and ofc kept the cat)
@@tomschmidt5022 Exactly, if a significant other tries to make me choose between my pet/pets and them, the pets are staying 100% of the time.
@@tomschmidt5022 I'm happy for you! There's the saying I heard "The more you know your partner, the more you love your cat". With stories like these I get it now ^^
@@Grumphy_Bear As in blocked on everything I hope you mean right?
Im a dog guy. But my lil sister found 3 black kittens with emerald eyes, just chilling under my car. I told her if they came to her we could keep em. Me thinking they would instantly run away. She went full disney princess on me tho, and after one kitty kitty kitty from her they all literally ran to her. She looked at me with those, what now eyes? So we got em all fixed and now they all chill out in my yard. Its kind of fun. They follow me where ever i go in almost a perfect line. Its adorable...Now even tho they aren't allowed in my house, if someone girl got rid of Batman, Batman, and Batman, id drop them like theyre hot. And yes, they all are named Batman. They look exactly alike. Seemed easiest.
Oh I love that they're all named Batman!
🤣🤣 I love it id have loved to see your face when they all came to her 😃 im so glad you kept your word and let her keep the kittens but why on earth have they all got the same name ?? Poor things will be so confused when you call them as they wont know which one your talking to lol although it could save time calling one name 😃💕
@@annied1827
They seen fine. When i walk out with food and say Batman! They all know whats up.
@@Jupiter-T
Because your are a person of culture. Respect. 😉
@@X7Excalibur that's wonderful your post really did make me smile 😃 💕 reminds me of when my aunt inherited my grandads cat the cat he named pain in the arse !! She tried in vain to shorten the name to pain but he wasn't having any of it, so every night she called her cat pepper who came home straight away but after she got pain in the arse you could hear her shouting pepper, pain, pain, pain pain fine pain ine the arse and then he'd come 🤣🤣 it was so funny watching he trying so hard to get him to answer to pain
Story 5: More enablers. The daughter seems to be ignoring that the MIL hugely embarrassed OP. The husband is a horrible person as well, based on this story. Enablers, the lot of them. And as I've said before here, enablers are some of the lowest forms of life out there.
Yeah I would have divorced him the second he back up his mother the moment his mother insult me and my family I would be ok that’s it I am divorcing and YOU WILL NOT have access to the baby
Well, I believe that some people sometimes act harsh and rashly not out of malice but because they have a genuine concern. That being said, I can imagine the mother in law thinking about the upbringings of the son and how a mother with a very poor lifestyle and easily offended attitude would in the end hurt the family. I am just an outsider and so is everyone else reading the reddit post. From personal experience I know that some people write in a way that make the scenario sway more in their own favor and ignore other facets to the the situation. I personally have an obese dad and constantly worry about his health so I try to help him control his diet but he struggles and just like the protagonist of this story he is very easily offended even though I try to be very rational with him. Personally, I can imagine that the MIL just does this out of the same intentions as I care about my dad. Obesity is an epidemic and is the biggest killer in the modern day and age in the western world.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 yo panderer.
Did you forgot that the Husband willingly married a fat lady, then when obviously presented his wife to family they said to husband: "ew, no".
What did husband did then?
Really, if one is a chubby chaser, why go back when you marry one? That dude either is spineless or a mommy dude.
And let's take into account the scenario that he got her pregnant before marriage. Why marrying?
If this age you can just pay child support and forget about the woman if you don't want to be part of her life & baby's.
That dude isn't a man, is just a baby.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 She said MIL bought her Small-size clothes which don't fit because she's pregnant, implying that they would if she wasn't pregnant. She might be one of those people who constantly gets told they're fat because they're 10 pounds over what's considered "normal." It sounds like the husband and MIL are just controlling.
@@theeloquenteccentric8321 Yea I believe we have a lot of context missing here. Despite OP claim that she is fine the way she is, she is easily triggered by the mention of someone calling her fat. How do you have a baby shower and only have cake and juice. Then when the main guess for the 1st time goes to eat the only thing available she is immediately told about her weight issues so she get offended and leaves like a child. All she had to say was i am hungry and the baby needs to eat. The only thing here is cake so that is what i am going to eat. Context have to be missing. The child is going to come up in this environment. Rip him/her.
Last story: Even worse than fat shaming OP, I think it is also dangerous for pregnant women to be hungry since the baby also needs nutrients. If I remember it right, the unborn could even starve if the pregnant woman doesnt eat enough
First it would take nutrients from the mother's body, but once those run out? Yeah.
Story 4: If the renters can't afford anything big enough for them, that doesn't make OP a bad person, it makes them a hero for giving them a place they could afford for so long! How about a little appreciation for the years of getting such an affordable place to live!
also they are renting ... which means the renters do no own the property. they could have used the cheap rent to save up for a deposit to purchase their own home, but they didn't. they had more kids than they can realistically afford with that extra money. They always knew they were on borrowed time because the owner could have sold the house or moved in at any time as well. The renters are just choosy beggars essentially and now the gravy train has ended, they are pissed.
That last story, you hit it right. Something is extremely wrong with OPs husband and his family. When a husband does not defend/protect his wife and soon to be newborn...time to exit stage left.
For the last story... are there some, or any, redeeming qualities in this man that make up for his family treating OP like dirt? I couldn't be with someone whose family treated me like that. Smaller plates? Smugly denying food? And the dude doesn't intervene, he takes their side! The heck. They will slowly grind her, her self-esteem, and her happiness down. Please leave the whole toxic family behind, OP. You deserve better.
Holy shit that last story. The poor woman is only now seeing that her husband agrees with his mom about her and refuses to even try and understand her perspective. That kid is so screwed even if they divorce cause that guy is gonna give them eating disorders.
Look, I think that she should show respect to her husband by staying as fit and sexually attractive to him as she is able because fat is fat. However, what the MIL did and how her husband responded was way, way out of line and her leaving what exactly the right thing to do.
@@josephnorris4095 Wow you're gross
@@josephnorris4095 I'm sorry, what??? Do you realize how sexist you sound? She should "respect her husband by staying fit"?? She's PREGNANT. She's not fat there's an entire human being in her stomach. What the fuck is wrong with you?
@@jariccacierra8445 And even if she is a heavier girl normally, being toxic and controlling isn't going to fix that. Maybe don't marry someone you're not attracted to and try to change them? If you're worried about your partners health that's one thing but this crazy misogynist 'woman's duty to stay sexy for her husband' bs is psycho "alpha" incel shit. It kills me that there's such a large group of men backsliding to pre 1900s attitudes towards women. 😒
@@hotarubinariko Bullshit, it shows respect to her husband if she stays at least somewhat attractive for him. Your response with those insulting words clearly show that you do not think it is a wife's responsibility to take care of herself. If she is not physically attractive to her husband after they get married and she gains a lot of weight, it is selfish on her part if she expects otherwise.
Story 1 nta she got rid of the real annoyance. I'm so glad she got her cat back.
I am so glad the woman in the first story got her cat back, Molly didn't deserve that. I hope she gets lots of treats and pets.
The tenants story: OP and her husband were very clear about them only RENTING the house and what their intentions were. They had 22 YEARS to put money aside so they could get a bigger house. It's not OP's fault they didn't spend those 22 **YEARS** saving and preparing for what they knew was coming.
Exactly. Pretty much what these people have done has had a gig of kids they can't afford. And expect other people to subsidize their lifestyle choices. They expect Opie and her family to subsidize the fact that they've had a ton of children can't afford them and expect to live under market rate in a home. And then when they get a two-month notice to evict the property they throw fit and go to Facebook. You want a house you can't be evicted from when you pay your fees buy a house get a mortgage pay your mortgage on time. If not you can't be all surprised Pikachu face when somebody who you're renting from Once you out of their house. As long as they do it legally you have no grounds to complain.
Especially with a rent THAT much lower than the rest of the market...they got an insanely huge discount....to not set money aside was irresponsible.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings i dunno man with 6 kids can you really save up
The tenants also had ben there for 22 YEARS. they have 6 kids and the oldest is 19. for all intents and purpuses they were not given something like a two months notice but a 22 years notice. Even before there FIRST kid
@@jarenpocopio6033 Maybe don't have 6 kids? Especially with only one parent working.
In the landlord story, I would give the tenants a butthole score for taking the problem to the internet and online bulling the son
Agreed, it’s a pretty disrespectful slap in the face if you ask me.
Yeah, especially after they were basically gifted roughly a hundred thousand of dollars by the landlord in rent discounts.
Right? Especially if OP was truthful about telling them the house would eventually go to her son
agreed bad planning on their part...
they've been living on cheap rent for 20 years there's ABSOLUTELY no reason they could not have saved up enough money for down payment on their own house by now.
instead they have six children and push your finances to the max, I'd say they were literally taking advantage of the landlord's generosity
@@julibeanbag I read on one of the other comments here that there was an update, and OP said they met with the family every year to sign the lease again, and every time they reminded the family that eventually, they were giving the home to their son. They had PLENTY of notice, 22 years of notice for God's sake! They were irresponsible and petulant, and airing it out on the internet without even trying to stay anonymous is just in poor taste.
"Oh I'm sorry you're jealous about my healthy relationship with food." *Takes large bite of cake and turns away.*
As a pet owner myself, if my significant other ever sold or got rid of my cat, she would be thrown out in the streets, and divorced.
Last Story: i REALLLY hope there’s an update that starts with “i’m divorcing my POS husband because he’s a controlling, abusive douchebag.”
NTA Op but seriously…RUN
Abortion should most probably be in there somewhere too. Divorce is not enough!
@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou If she's at the point of having a baby shower, chances are she's past the point of being legally able to get an abortion.
@@akl2k7
Who said it had to be legal‽ Hers is one case where getting far away from the father is important at all costs, and a child shackling them together for decades would be detrimental and devastating. I guess, closed adoption is also a potential option.
@@GeorgeVCohea-dw7ou Well, getting an illegal abortion, along with being charged with a crime, could require going to a back-alley doctor and could be very dangerous, so it's a terrible idea.
Her best bet, if she decides she doesn't want the kid because of being shackled to her husband is the adoption route, but that's only if she absolutely doesn't want the kid. If she does, she should go after him for as much child support as possible and only communicate through lawyers.
I hope she doesn’t abort the baby,it never did anything wrong to OP
I was talking to a guy years ago and he knew I had cats. He told me if we ever lived together I'd come home one day they'd be gone. We never moved beyond the "talking" portion of that relationship. He had a multitude of red flags.
Exactly.
I don't get the dislike of cats. Sure, they are not dogs. That's kind of the point.
4th story: the tenants or at least the oldest child should get an ah score bc of the message sent to OP's son. Also, yes you can be mad about losing your home. I've lost my home a handful of times, bc of issues outside of my control (I was a kid during every experience), like the landlord wanting to sell the place, or the 08 housing shit. Every time my family could have gone on fb to post about our issues but we didn't, we found a new place and moved. The fact that they didn't even think about doing that and just started complaining on fb about their situation I would say does make them a bit of an ah. 0.5 to 1 out of 5 IMO
Especially if OP isn't lying about telling their tenants that the house was intended for the son when he came of age. They had months to years of advance warning, so I don't really get it
2008 there wasnt any social media to complain to half the world wasnt on the internet yet. op was the bigest AH tho 2 months is not enough notice to give tenants of 22 years
I feel bad for the family in story 4, but they KNEW it wouldn’t be permanent and they’d have to move out eventually. Despite knowing this, they DECIDED to have 6 kids and banked on the hope that OP wouldn’t possibly be “mean” enough to take his house back as originally agreed upon, and “make an entire family homeless”. I might be a AH for saying this, but this is exactly why I don’t think people should have kids unless they own their home outright. In my opinion, there’s just too much instability and risk involved in renting to ever make me feel comfortable raising a child while renting. At least if you own your home, you don’t have to worry about potentially having to move again in a year or 2 for the umpteenth time because the landlord jacked up the price of rent. I feel for the family, I really do. But at the same token they had 22 years of below market rent, that’s plenty of time to make plans for the future or even save to buy a house.
Story 4: They told the tenants when they moved in that the house was always going to be for the son. OP is NTA because they are just enacting their long-term plans and tenants were too lazy to make a contingency. Not OP'S problem.
Not only that. Since OP charged less rent than would be normal, they likely also didn't WANT to move and continue to mooch off of OP's kindness.
I think it depends on what the laws are where they are. Where I'm from, it's actually illegal to kick a tenant out that's been at the same place for 10+ years without a 90 day notice, rather than a typical 30 day one. So, if that's the case, then they are 100% in the wrong for kicking them out with a 60 day notice (2 months).
@@asterross right, not to mention in some states, the lease's renewal terms have to be very clear
No I think everybody just wants to s*** on landlords. Big conglomerate companies that come in and swoop up apartment buildings after apartment buildings yeah they generally tend to be pretty evil. But these little Ma Pa landlords no not likely. You want somewhere that they can't evict you if you're paying your monthly fee buy a house get a mortgage. Pretty much what they've done is have a pile of kids they can't afford and expect op and her family to subsidize their lifestyle choice.
@@asterross it really depends on the terms of the lease. A month to month lease usually requires a 30 day notice, a six month lease requires a 60 day notice, and a year lease requires a 90 day notice, unless the lease specifies they only get so many days of notice before an eviction. Like if they sign and the lease says they waive the right to an advance notice that the lease is ending.
Rslash every video: I don't like to throw around the word divorce in those videos because we're talking about people's life's and things are nuanced.
Also Rslash every video: Dump that guy.
The first story: Imagine being so shitty you hide you hate cats for a year, fake accepting giving it to a family member, to then dump it in a shelter, and lie you sold the cat (probably thinking that way OP wouldn't go after her cat);
Good to know OP is reunited again with Molly, while the real problem of this situation is on his way out of OP and Molly's life.
i heard somewhere that people who hate cats tend to be controlling assholes. i could never be with someone who hates cats, and i'm not even a cat person!
@@abiean222 usually these people say cats are manipulative animals, I call that 'projecting'
It's not even the fact that he doesn't like cats, though that is a red flag for me personally. It's the fact that he lied. HE. FUCKING. LIED. To his WIFE!! Of all people, your wife is the one person you should be MOST honest with! Not the slightest bit ok. And let's be real, if he'd been honest about it, they probably wouldn't have gotten married, which is a GOOD thing! Pets are family, and if someone is against pets, they obviously don't have the same core values as you, so they are the wrong person for you! And hell, on the flip side, if you are clear about not wanting pets, and your partner says that's fine, then one day just comes home with a cat or dog without consulting you and says they lied about being ok with it? Same thing, they're obviously not right for you! Honesty is rule #1 in a healthy, committed relationship. NO EXCEPTIONS.
"before I pass on this easily offended mindset to our son" aaaand that's all the info I need to know. So what I'm hearing is OP's husband wants OP and her son to be okay with abusive, thinly veiled insults? K.
OP, get a lawyer or get out while you can, that guy sounds mega toxic. And while you're at it, ask him where he was January 6th too.
there's an update about the eviction story: It’s pretty anticlimactic.
Some on here suggested a cash for keys idea. We did talk to a lawyer, and everything with that was above board.
So we talked to our tenants. We offered them cash, to leave, and without any damage. There would be no cash if any damage other than wear and tear (and we were in the home in April) was present. They agreed.
We negotiated with them, came up with a sum that worked for both parties, and a date. They will be Out November 30th. They will use the cash to add to their current savings for a down payment.
But a contract between them and us has been signed.
So rather uneventful.
That's good. I was going to post that they deserve at least one butt hole. What they were trying to do may have been legal but that does not make it right.
Yeah, but all in all probably a good solution. You can't find a good home within just 2 months.
Uneventful can be the best outcome.
@@insu_na they had 22 years to look for a new house
I just think 3 months warning should be the minimum. Especially this time of year.
For the last story: Who throws a baby shower with no food? Who expects the mom to go hours with no food? OP should be very concerned that her husband thinks his family's aggressive and intrusive behavior is fine but has a problem with her standing up for herself. Also his working to cut her off from her own family is just another red flag. At a minimum, OP and husband need counseling. Husband clearly prioritizes his family over his wife and child.
I would divorce my husband for selling my cats that i had before him.
Me too out of my life instantly because in my own home I want to have lots of pets and if my partner do that to heck no get the frick out of my life
Story 4: I’m getting strong vibes that the Husband is slowly trying to isolate OP. Dude isn’t inviting her family and starting stuff with them
About that landlord story. Yes I can understand someone being upset about being kicked out after so long but if you were told at the very beginning that you're eventually going to get kicked out then it's really the renters fault for not preparing for that situation. I bet you that they thought the landlord wouldn't kick them out after having renters for so long and were outraged when they found out the opposite.
2 months notice? after 22 years? its legal yeah but ah move
I agree they did have ample time but also I can understand why the tenants are so upset, also does OP even know if their son wants to move into the house at all? I'd ask him and see what the son says, if he does then fine go ahead if not give him the option of taking over the lease as the landlord and collect the rent from them. 🤷♀️
@@jennix8666 I'm assuming the son did want the home, but I'm so confused in that there are much better ways to have gone about this, like at least a year notice would have worked better I would think.
@@lucinda3964 it's never said if he does or not, just that they are giving it to him. If he doesn't maybe he would be willing to continue renting it to them or maybe do a rent to own deal with them if he doesn't want it at all
@@jennix8666 I'm only assuming that he did want it, since he moved home and there is no way his parents didn't say "you're getting the rent house to live in." That's why I was making the assumption on him wanting it. And not only did everyone have 22 yrs to figure things out, the landlords had many opportunities to say "Hey Jr is graduating next year, and we are following through with our original plan of gifting him this home. We will not resign the lease and will need you out a year from now"
"Carlos cheated on his wife with a coworker. I am not judging him."
I am TOTALLY judging him. There's no excuse for cheating. And keeping and abusing (neglect is a form of abuse) a dog just to get to his ex is disgusting.
Can’t believe someone would sell their cat! If you get a pet it’s your responsibility to take care of it
She didnt sell her cat?? Did you even listen to it
@@aaroncousins4750 I think they were referring to the husband with this comment? wordings weird with it but thats what I think they meant.
@@justherelivingandsurviving the husband didn't sell it either. He probably threw it in the bush.
The only excuse to sell or give your pet away is if you know it could have a better life with someone else.
@@ProtonFilms_Mark Still, either way, I still think they were referring to the husband even if he didn't sell it, he still was horrible about it, even when he said he'd compromise.
Story 4: How can it be understandable to hate landlords, whrn they had a landlord who save helped them save a six figuere amount to put up for a house? Sure, there are scummy landlords, but I don't think they dealt with those for 22 years!
Exactly
I think rslash has a bit of a hate-on for landlords. Lol
The last story gives major red flags. Isn't it a thing for abusers to isolate a person from family and other relationships?
Exactly! That's what I was thinking, OP needs to run!
I was looking to see if anyone else noticed. The way he acted with her sister sounds like he's trying to isolate OP from her family. Big scary abusive red flags.
I was so excited when my sister had her first baby. I bought baby clothes and blankets, tiny wee baby shoes, and the cutest little bibs for him. I wasn't "obsessed" I was just a sister.
My opinion for the tenant story:
The owners gave a verbal notice of 22 years and a paper one of 2 months.
They had plenty of notice and knew that it was inevitable.
It irked me when he didn't give them a butthole score, they're harassing op they do deserve a butthole score
Yeah I was thinking, 22 years and still renting a large house? Could’ve bought a smaller house and have that close to being paid off. At the 10 year mark, they shoulda asked about converting the lease into a rent to buy. If they owner said no, that would’ve been the cue to get their affairs in order.
I agree. At the same time though kicking a family out with 6 kids at Christmas.
@@michaeljackman3272 If you do the math, they wanted October/November to clean up the house and gave them a 2 month notice so that means they gave them notice in July/August. So, no, they didn't kick a family out at Christmas. They just wanted to get the house in order to give it to their son at Christmas.
@@michaeljackman3272 they chose to have those 6 kids when they chose to stay in that house since the oldest kids those tenants got is 19 so it is their fault and not the landlords
I’m so confused/upset by the first story… OP was going to give the cat away THE NEXT DAY…. Why did he take Molly to a shelter and then claim to sell her!!?!? The only reason I can think of is he was actually jealous of his Wife’s love for Molly and not Molly herself. He didn’t want OP to see her ever again…. And living down the street wasn’t good enough… so glad she got the divorce train rolling because that is horrifying behavior!
Story 3: "He cheated on his wife and left her ... I'm not judging him..." I am, OP. That detail is relevant because it strongly suggests that he views commitments as temporary or, at best, negotiable. A dog is a big commitment and he's demonstrating that he doesn't care about the dog since he won't take care of it properly. This is compounded by the fact that he stole the dog in the first place.
Agreed.
There is definitely a correlation.
Same goes in the other direction too. It's a litmus test almost.
Story 4, I'm surprised the son didn't just keep renting it out and slowly increasing the rent so he had passive income. As it is, basically they know they have a really good deal and they're trying to use guilt and community pressure to keep their good deal. You've been basically subsidizing their family for years by not keeping the rent comparable to rent in your area.
That really depends on if he wanted to move out from his parents house. If he stayed (and doesn't pay his parents rent), for sure keep it rented and rake in the money. But if he wanted to move out, and the tenants were paying under market rate, the rent money he gets from them might not even cover his own rent payment. Plus he would be on the hook for maintenance expenses, dealing with the tenants, etc. So if he really wanted to move out, it makes much more sense to just move into the house and save the money he doesn't have to pay on rent or a mortgage.
It's not that he didn't want the cat in the house. He didn't want her to see the cat at all. That's the only thing that makes sense about why he took the cat to the shelter. Glad she ditched the dude and go to the cat back.
The wonderful thing about owning your own property is that you can do whatever you want with it. I'm a renter. I have no rights to the place I rent, it's not mine. Those people had it easy for 22years. They could have saved and bought their own home or offered to buy the current one from the owners, but they did none of that.
I just listened to the landlord part, they 100 percent DO deserve a butthole mark because they're harassing op and are turning people against them. Just because they're renters it doesn't mean they're angels
2 months notice? after 22 years?
@@diosilva16 it wasn't a secret that they were going to gift the house, and op said there are many places they can go. I believe the reason they're mad is that they're gonna have to pay more for rent
@@diosilva16 yes after 22 years of the tenants already knowing that the house was meant for OPs son upon graduation. The update makes it even more clear that the father was reminded even earlier that year.
rSlash's baby voice about Michael is the exact voice I use when people piss me off on the road
The behavior from the husband in the first story is definitely divorce worthy. I’m glad Molly was found and is safe.
Last story reminded me of a story about my parents. This is the tale they told me.
My Mom was a big woman when she had her kids. She was always knew she was a large woman and didn't play no victim card about it.
In her early days of motherhood she recalled breaking down crying while eating lunch, making comments about herself being too fat. My Pops was upset wanting to know why she would think this way? Turns out one of the doctors she was seeing was making asshole remarks about her weight.
The next visit to that doctor, my dad tagged along. Before the appointment began my dad walked up to the doc, grabbed him by the neck and said "If you ever say anything to my wife about her weight again, you'll be glad you're working in a hospital."
Needless to say that was her last appointment with that doctor and got a new one for future visits.
*First OP:* Um, NTA. Moving on...
Yay, OP and Molly reunited!
*Second OP:* It sucks that Michael got promoted, but he shouldn't have taken it out on OP. He got FAFO'd. OP is NTA. Also, when OP said she dropped her cup, I thought, "which cup?" Am _I_ the butthole?
*Third OP:* It's unbelievable that Carlos is punishing his ex-wife for something _he_ did! OP did the right thing by taking the dog back to her ex-DIL. Now the dog will be loved and well taken care of. OP is NTA.
*Fourth OP:* It'd be one thing if OP gave the tenants an eviction notice without warning. However, OP gave them a _22-year notice_ about gifting the house to their son. And IIRC, OP mentioned reminding the tenants about the plan throughout the 22-year stay. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* As a fat woman, monitoring and commenting on people's food choices will _not_ help them lose weight. Speaking for myself, it only made me eat secretly and develop unhealthy relationships with food. One can argue that OP's MIL is concerned for the baby's health, but I doubt one slice of cake will do much damage. OP is NTA, and she should reevaluate her marriage. -I'm curious as to what OP's husband said to her sister.- Wow. OP needs to divorce her husband yesterday.
As a skinny minny IAM triggered by anyone controlling what I eat..especially while pregnant. Had to pause and read the comments because it made me cringe..
2nd story OP is a vapid, empty headed liar. She is omitting several points of information and there is no way she got a promotion in 3 years on skill alone.
The last story actually made me wonder whether or not the woman actually is fat or if she's just in an environment where people call her fat and she's accepted that as gospel. I'm definitely going off my own experiences here as I'm a size 14 (US size 10) but because I was once a size 8-4 (4-0) my family always comment that I'm fat and comment on what I eat which I've learned to just accept/ ignore despite the dysmorphia I experience. However, if you're pregnant it's a whole different ballpark and is already exceptionally difficult to deal with as your body rapidly changes. Also, when it comes between not eating at all and eating "bad" food, there's no such thing as bad food especially when you're pregnant!
Regarding the first story though, my Luna is the most annoying cat I know, she's by my side 24/7, loves to give love bites and also meows constantly, however, if anyone hurt her or got rid of her I would be being merciful if I just divorced/ kicked someone out of my life. (I'm also using annoying as an affectionate term😂)
Considering she could fit into a small before getting pregnant, I'd say it's just the environment saying she's fat without her actually being fat.
Oh my God I was just wondering that because as someone who struggles with body image thanks to a lovely family who does not help at all. I am a size 4, but since my mother is a size 2, I’m big and ugly.
OH THANK GOD THE KITTY WAS OK I WOULD HAVE BEEN BAWLING MY EYES OUT THE REST OF THE DAY IF ANYTHING HAPPENED TO THAT POOR CAT
Story four: they want to guilt trip them to stay because the rent is so low. They are bashing the landlord because they want to keep the cheap rent. You know if they will let them stay they would blow up if the rent goes up. Now they are openly attacking their landlords. Even if they did decide to let people rent the tenants made it hostile. I mean they messaged/ bothered the son about it trying to guilt trip him. They ruined the landlord/tenant relationship.
Story 1, yeah, NTA, he sold your cat, he wouldn’t have made it out alive if he did that to the wrong person
I recently got a cat. My first pet I've ever owned. Like every pet owner, I'm sure, my biggest fear is dating someone who lies about liking my pet and even abuse them. Cats have it harder because people are more prone to liking dogs than cats. :(
Yeah I think that is a big fear, I have cats and rabbits my boyfriend always jokes around and says stuff like I don't like cats but then will proceed to pick up my cat and pet her. He likes all my animals he will even ask if he can pet my bunnies and say that they are cute. So I guess it depends on the person my boyfriend was honest with me from the start. Hopefully your relationship will be the same.
They knew they were going to get evicted. They knew the house was for their son. They have no reason to be upset. It was always in the plan which they knew about. Blasting them all over social media us immature. They did nothing wrong.
Imagine you're renting an apartment and the landlords say: "But at some point between 18 years and 30 years in the future we're gonna throw you out", are you going to start looking for a new place to live immediately after the 18 years are over just in case that the owners decide that today is the day to throw you out? Absolutely not. You'd expect to be given a reasonable notice ahead of time. You can't find a good home within 2 months, unless you accept that you're gonna go bankrupt or have to drive 2 hours more to and from work every day. Legally the landlords may be in the right, but morally I say they should've given more notice.
@@insu_na how long is a reasonable notice to you?
@@insu_na Nah, the landlord told them when they moved in that the house was going to eventually go to their son. The renters should have been working on a plan to get into another home from the JUMP instead of waiting for the eviction notice. I'd say 22 years is PLENTY of notice. Putting off the inevitable until last minute when you knew going in that the situation would eventually change and not doing anything to prepare for that change for over two decades is irresponsible to say the least.
@@insu_na You still have EIGHTEEN YEARS TO SAVE UP. You wouldn't go bankrupt if you saved a little each month. Depending on how much they save each month you could look anywhere from 86k to 110k. That's enough to get a nice house. Don't pull this BS of "They're gonna go bankrupt with 2 months notice!" They had at LEAST 18 years notice. They never looked in that 18 years. I've been a renter and have NEVER had an issue with landlords. And when I did, I didn't go on social media and act like an infant when I didn't get my way.
@@insu_na even if you don't start looking for a new house in the first 18 years it still doesn't explain why they wouldn't look for one in the last 4 years they were here and they had more money then the others due to the price being LOWER so at no point can you excuse the way these tenants chose to act like
I hate when people complain that they can't afford a place fir there multiple kids. Nobody forced you to have 6 kids before you had a stable place for them.
Exactly
Story about the landlord telling the tenants they had to move because of the sun being given the house is simple. They knew well in advance and they had plenty of time to prepare to move and find another place to live. Long-term or not it was spelled out to them at the beginning and when it was fulfilled for their son the tenant shouldn't have raised so much hell
I find it super weird how r slash has been loud and proud about retiring early, investing, making money, etc but snivels on every landlord story.
Two months is well in advance? I don't think so. Yeah they were told they would eventually have to move out but that was 22 years ago with no specific time given in all of those 22 years.
@@wingracer1614 Considering most leases (in the US at least) say 30 days notice, 2 months is plenty of notice. Also, they sound like reasonable people. If the tenants had ask for an extra week or two, it sounds like they might have said ok before all the badmouthing.
@@wingracer1614 how about 22 years? They have the explicit understanding when they started running that house that eventually it would go to the Sun. Of course people procrastinate and put things off because you know that's just human nature sometimes. No one is really to blame here it's just they had two months in advance officially to start looking for another place. I had a similar situation only it was a bit shorter time frame for the preparation for it I got a one month notice that my lease would not be renewed and the house would be sold. I found a place within two weeks. I knew the house would eventually be sold when I moved in I did not complain one bit about it. This is entitlement and it's a classic example of entitlement. Not the behavior of the tenants but your reaction. Nobody owes you a thing. Even in a lease agreement nobody owes you a thing. If the terms of the lease are satisfied in the lease is not renewed and it's a month-to-month situation the landlord can basically give you 30 days. Look at it logically without bringing any emotion into it in your world will be a better place
@@russclark5150 I'm not bringing emotion into it, I'm bringing real life experience into it. Yes the owners were well within their rights to do it. That doesn't make it the right thing to do. I've been kicked out on a one month notice before and that is a major pain. In this area, finding another place in that amount of time is impossible. I would have been homeless if not for my mother letting me stay with her for the 6 months it took for a spot to open up. And I only had myself to worry about, I can't imagine trying to do it with a wife and 6 kids without being fairly wealthy. And clearly the owners in the story came to agree because they offered them a cash for keys deal with enough cash involved for the tenants to be able to make a down payment on a new place so everyone is happy now.
So not only were the tenants paying over $1,000 less rent for over 20 years, but they were also told WAY beforehand that this tendency was on a temporary basis and they have the nerve to still get upset. Instead of acting out like a bunch of disgruntled teenagers, maybe they could use the thousands and thousands of dollars their landlord saved them from paying to find a new apartment.
Keep the cat. You can trust it more than the husband
I love when rslash mocks in a child talk tone. It adds the perfect touch of comedy
Story 2: screw this one side BS, he called you a bimbo in front of everyone and they didn't say squat. You did nothing wrong, and I bet the reason he got the demoted was because he kept making comments like this, tell his his friend that you'll apologize when he does, and if he actually does say thank you and walk away.
1000% facts
Facts
He didn't call her a bimbo, he said she got promoted over her looks, which says MUCH more about the boss than about her. The fact that everyone seemed "upset" about her promotion and how they reacted to the spat would point in that direction. If I were OP, I'd be less angry at Michael and would take a very good look at my interactions with the boss.
Let's face it micheal said that probably because he's an insecure sexist, bet you that was the "circumstances" he was demoted for
@@CidVeldoril Dude, I'm quite sure that the boss didn't give her the promotion because of her looks and yes he did basically call her a bimbo
Story5: red flags all around, the husband and his side of the family are all assholes, the mom is basically the ringleader and openly shamed op and her husband didn’t defend her and now mommy dearest is awaiting the call of apology that should never come , because she told her son what to do, because she wanted to see op suffer
The tenants story sorry @rSlash but it is one thing to be angry, it is another to drag the landlord on social media and send hateful messages to their son. They should get 2/5 butthole score.
They are greedy, they knew what their signed up for and had years to plan and prepare. They are entitled people
How do you plan, 22 years in advance, which place you're going to rent next after the first one throws you out? Particularly when nobody actually told you that it would be 22 years?
@@insu_na try and listen to the story. They were informed. They stayed because the rent was low.
Also, how do you not plan in 22yrs?
@@insu_na They were informed... And yes you don't plan 22 years in advance but if people want to start a family it's better if they live in their own house... They could easily save something on the side and after 22 years they would have enough money to buy their own property especially if their rent was too low.
When I was renting apartment I knew it won't be really long term and I should be saving for my own(I don't want house since right now it's easier for me to live in the city). I bought my own after 4 years of saving.
The family was taking advantage of the OP.
@@JerziTBoss I half agree with you. I do think they handled it incredibly inappropriately and absolutely should have been saving and planning for when the day came. They might have expected more notice to be fair. Two months is not long and rent in general has more than doubled in many areas. In addition, I don't know where you or they live but as it stands now for me, with a partner with no kids. We could save 22 years and I'm not sure we could afford to stay in our state if we wanted to buy. The housing costs here are in the millions for even shitty properties. We don't know the education/work situation for these people, so we can't assuming buying would be reasonable for them, especially with kids in this economy. Also, I'm sure realizing they will like have to seriously tighten their belts and move in somewhere worse while pay double is a major sting. I currently pay similar rent to this family for a 1 bedroom where the central heating is connected to my landlords unit so we have no control over our own temperature in our home. We get strictly two laundry days and only within their awake hours which are very different from mine and my partners and have to access the laundry by walking outside the house. We also have rats/squirrels living in our walls. We have also sorts of bugs, spiders, and critters getting into our home because it's a poor sealed basement apartment. We've recently taken up saving the salamanders that mistakenly wonder in. Both of our sinks have something broken but still function. And yes, we've told our landlords about all of it but they procrastinate. From talking with others. This is becoming more and more the norm in my area. Meanwhile we still have construction companies building mcmashions that sit empty for years at a time. Gotta love America 🇺🇸
@@insu_na if you have a rent that much lower than what the market charges, you save the difference, you live as if you had the same rent as the rest of the area and you save so that when the son's graduation that you were warned was going to be what triggered your eviction, then because you were smart and not foolishly just blowing that extra money you don't have to look for the next place to rent, you get to look for the house you are going to buy with the money you saved by finding someone who was saving a house for their kid. They stumbled onto an amazing find and they squandered it. Plus they were told at the beginning it hinged up graduation which is something pretty easy to estimate a time range for, it's not like they were told it would be upon marriage or a baby which could happen with way less warning than the multiple years it takes someone to complete college. They had way more than 2 months, and they put their heads up their butts rather than plan for what they knew was coming.
Pretty sure people defending them are just as entitled and foolhardy to not properly utilize the blessing that saving that much on rent for that many years would be.
Last story: I get the feeling that OP's husband really wants OP to leave her family behind because only her ILs are the real matter and the bit about claiming that her sister is obsessed just because she's infernal seems like it's really an opportunity for the ILs to finally kick OP's own family out for good because they got a good excuse. I bet they don't want to straight up tell the truth like "I don't want your blood family to be part of our lives because you're my wife and therefore, only my parents and siblings matter because I'm the man". I'm sure you've heard about that stereotype and it seems like OP's husband wants that dream fantasy.
Story 2: Nobody likes a demotion, and he proceeded to take his anger out on OP. No apology needed, that burn was well-deserved. And yeah, there is a sexist environment
Last story: The mother got the wording of "Living with a walrus" from somewhere... Is it possible the husband has been complaining to his mother about OP's weight and maybe not wanting to live with someone that big anymore? That just felt really bizarre to come out like that. Most would say "whale". "cow" or "pig" but no... "walrus" isn't the first animal that comes to mind when I think about people being big...
Story 2 - NTA. She should go to HR. "So Michael started talking about my boobs in a public setting. It made me extremely uncomfortable."
Something tells me his demotion might not have been due to hard times... just saying. Most companies don't care if your a bit distracted for a bit.
@@hotarubinariko exactly and if they do have an issue with a bit of distraction, it is usually just stay at the same level, not so extreme as to demote.....being demoted is what they do when the people who make the decision can't agree and some wanted him fired, but they took pity on him and only demoted him. (Otherwise known as special treatment)
Clearly that easily offended snowflake has caused actual issues not just his lame excuse of being distracted.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings and there's no way that vapid op could have been promoted in just 3 years.
As a cat owner of two cats, one of them meows a lot. She technically belongs to my boyfriend and if I did anything like selling her or giving her up to the shelter I fully expect him to be pissed and to be kicked out to be honest and he would get the same with the other cat who's technically mine. Thankfully we love both of our cats so rehoming them is a last resort if anything
A lot of these stories tend to be either "I dodged someone's knife aita?" Or "I tried to stab someone because he ate my cake aita?"
I had a choice between my partner and my cat a number of years ago. I chose the cat. I’ve been so much happier since!
The Husband In The First Story Is A Horrible Person, I'm So Glad She Dumped The Trash And Got Her Cat Back.
I love how rslash always says it's not his place to tell people to break up with each other yet he does it at least once a week.
I imagine he said he sold Mollie to a rando on Gumtree so OP would assume the purchase was untraceable and she wouldn’t go looking for her. And if it was a kill shelter like I assume, she would be euthanized without OP knowing it.
That’s just sick because he didn’t just want the cat gone or else he would’ve just let family members have her; he wanted OP to never be able to see her again!
The moral of a lot of these stories are "divorce their ass". It baffles me how these people manage to get through a relationship and marry someone without realising they're like this.
Except with the landlords, that's as you said, based on the lease.
The last story is plain and simple:
OP's response to this insult should have been: "Well, in this case, I am going to raise my son without a grandmother".
A divorce is not necessary the answer. However, OP's mother-in-law should remember where her place is.
Nah, that mama's boy would steal the kid and take em to see his mom. Because he defends her behavior.
@@lillylovegood2300 his lack of support, disrespectful behavior towards her family and blatant disregard for her well being in favor of his mother’s opinion unfortunately show that this man isn’t husband material. Can’t save this one and we don’t claim him.
I was a landlord for 6 years. I can definitely see why some landlords are the way they are
Story 1: Throw the husband in the garbage bin. Spoil the poor kitty and give her anything she likes.
Story 2: Throw Michael in the garbage bin too. The coworkers taking his side are also trash.
Story 3: Another man for the dumpster!
Add the husband from story 5, too!
@@animeotaku307 Not just the husband, his family can join him too
@@KiraMermaid Huge agree!
OP from story 2 is lying or hiding a lot of information from what really happened.
@@ezekial7028 also why was Rslash saying that was sexual harassment, do you have any clue?
If anyone was wandering I just checked the eviction story for updates. It all got resolved peacefully but I want to point out that
1) OP said that the tenants switched to a month to month lease 5 years ago so they didn't break it.
And
2) The tennants were told about the house being for the son in 2000 when they moved in, in 2018 when the son started uni and in April when op's husband went to do some work there.
I would say they are absolutely nta
Story 2: He acted stupidly. He got called stupid. NTA
The landlord story. NTA. They knew that the lease would end when their son turned 22. They got a two month notice to leave, which is more than most municipalities require. Pregnant woman story, NTA. Her husband is ok with his pregnant wife being body shamed? Sounds like he will never have her back
Doesn't DH stand for "dear husband"? Cuz he definitely isn't that. I hate that a kid is gonna be in the middle of this but I would advise op to get out. Totally agree with Rslash. The whole family was working on isolating op from her family.
DH is dear husband. dh is damned husband.
Honestly, I just thought it stands for "d*ckhead" 🤷🏼♀️
I assume in this instance or stands for "Douchebag Husband", or possibly even simply "Dick Head"
In the landlord story, the tenants are definitely AHs. Being upset is one thing, slander and ruining a once in a lifetime event for their innocent son is another. Screw those people
I would give the tenants 1.5/5 buttholes. They're slandering OP for following through
I have been a "landlord" for 35 years. I can assure you that the mortgage payments far outweigh the rental payments. Plus there is maintenance, insurance and council rates. You only start earning an income once the mortgage is paid and that can take ten to fifteen years.
OMG that first story hit me so damn hard! I can't believe anyone would do something like that to a pet! OP your (hopefully soon to be ex) husband rots in hell and never gets any happiness in life! What a toxic, sick, and twisted waste of oxygen! I'm glad OP and Molly were reunited and I hope OP and Molly stay safe. Never let Molly go OP.
For the son keeping the dog story I was ready to rake OP over the coals just on the title. After hearing the story OP you are not the butthole. I think it's clear that the dog was something he and his ex had together and it is very obvious that he just wanted leverage. You made the right decision to "return" the dog to the ex and I would also boot your son out. If he's making such good money he can most certainly afford a place of his own.
4th story..now you gotta worry how much damage the tenants are gonna do before they move out.
Story 4: NTA. The landlords mentioned that this house was going to eventually be for their child when they moved in. They had 22 wonderful years, and never once in that time did the tenants attempt to purchase the house, which means it isn't theirs to just keep forever or stay indefinitely.
It is never okay to just smear landlords because they're doing what they're legally allowed to do. They are legally allowed to ask tenants to vacate because they would like possession back of the house. If you don't want to be forced out of the place you live, don't just milk borrowed time. They could have asked to make a purchase at any point in time and made it lucrative enough that with interest rates and savings, the parents could have taken the kid house shopping.
For the last story, the husband sounds controlling in an abuser kind of way. That may sound extreme, but he is villianizing OP's support network while gaslighting OP's feelings, making her seem invalid for getting offended when someone literally calls her a walrus. He clearly cares about his feelings and his families, but never once tried to support OP or assume that his wife, his pregnant wife, might deserve some respect too.
I really hope OP sees this man for what he is, otherwise she and her baby will have to deal with this abuse. Good luck OP.
The tenants have had 22 years to save enough to buy their own place. I doubt they had the discipline to do that. Their failure doesn’t obligate the landlord.
Exactly. If I were blessed with paying way less than market on a place and knew it had about a 2 decade expiration, I would have lived my life as if I had the same rent as the rest of the area, and put that money aside. Imagine planning ahead enough that you could buy a plot of land during one of the economic dips that had happened over the last 2 decades, get some land cheap and then you still have ample warning since unless the kid is a prodigy you know college is going to be at least a couple years. So then that's even time enough to start and fully complete the build without being rushed even.
Plus, they could have used some birth control and not had six kids. They also could have budgeted by allocating the amount needed for paying market rent, paying the rent with that and then putting the extra of that allocation into savings towards a new place. They had 22 years to do all of that.
@@akl2k7 Yea, i'm annoyed at stupid people popping out lots of kids even when it is clearly beyond their means to support such a lifestyle, then blaming the world for their stupidity at not being able to afford to live. As if the world owes them anything for their bad decisions...
@@N0xiety Especially since, looking at the story, the house only had 2 bedrooms in the first place. They should have looked at a new place after child #2, #3 at the latest.
You are wrong about the landlord story. They had 22 years of under market rent to save for the time they knew was coming up. They were told from the beginning that the son would be getting the house when he was an adult. They have no right to bad mouth OP or their son on social media. The renters definitely deserve an AH rank for that
Story 4: I feel like my only gripe is that OP could have given them more time to move out, knowing that they were giving the house to the son after he graduated. But on the other hand, the tenants also knew of the approximate deadline, so they should have been somewhat prepared of what was to come. And they had no right to attack OP's family like that
I mean... They warned them 22 years ahead initially, and most land Lords give only 30 days notice most of the time. 60 days is pretty nice. That is quite a bit of time to find new living arrangements. Also, did they not save anything at all for the past 22 years?
@@ceraunoashe9134 agreed. Plus being told that it would happen upon graduation....it would be foolish to not keep track of the son's age and/or school status, it's not like they were told it would be upon marriage or something statistically less common or harder to guess a time range for the occurrence. They had more warning and prep time than any other human ever has. Lol. Plus a cheaper rent, they should have had enough to buy a house outright by the time this came around.
@@ceraunoashe9134 especially with the rent being so much lower - they had 22 years to save so much more than most rentals would ever allow for + want to play the victims + damage op's reputation? I'm normally v antilandlord, but definitely side w op on this
They had 22 years to look for a new house while they could save money thanks to the rent being Lower than the average what else do you want op to do?
@@ceraunoashe9134 I have arrived to agree lol can’t help it. The lack of accountability on the tenants is baffling.
I have a general hate towards landlords but I don't necessarily think this one is particularly bad. I feel like they should have at least given them regular reminders 2 years in advance so the family can start making plans. 2 months is not nearly enough notice, especially since they knew since they purchased the property specifically for their son so they had a good idea of when they would have to evict the tenants