Since losing my husband I feel stuck in limbo. Everyday is a challenge but I push through the motions. Everyday I put on my makeup, do my hair, and try to dress nice even when I just want to give up and hibernate. I go out into the world and go through the motions of living. Usually I go for walks, grocery shopping, or to thrift stores . I try to talk to other people and show them kindness because so many people are also just going through the motions too. Every time I leave my house I ask God for grace and to let me be a light to others . Thank you for your voice and heart to help other women , you are a real inspiration .
What a beautiful post Sandra. You certainly are a beacon of hope and light to all with whom you come in contact. Moving forward because you know it’s the right thing to do, even on those days you don’t feel like it is the answer as to why you will eventually be able to enjoy life mire since the loss of your husband. My thoughts are with you and keep shining your light
Dearest Sandra, Thank you for sharing a birds eye view of your life at the moment. Know that you are part of this wonderful community of like minded women so even when you're having a tough day you are simply never alone. Your contribution is heartfelt and l'm certain lots of other ladies are touched by it. We've been there! You are truly valued. Sending you warm hugs from West Africa 🤗
Keep going Sandra Sounds like you are doing some helpful things to cope. It always helps when we can remind ourselves others are grieving too but that doesn't mean to minimise how it can be hard at times personally . Good for you . Sending hugs Ruth
It’s been 10 years since my husband passing . I know exactly how you feel.. I have always had a routine in the morning and continued to do so even durning his sickness. My routine everyday has saved me from major depression ! I’m 70 years young and have had a exercise routine also for over 50 years praise God - my mantra in life for tragic events is This Too will Pass🙏🏻
1) knows her worth and doesn’t operate from a place of neediness 2) loves and respects herself 3) being kind and compassionate to others. 4) self aware and has high emotional intelligence 5) Grounded and maturing -not manipulative 6) not afraid 😱 to speak 🗣 her mind and comes from a place of honesty 7) self care 💇♀️ (both physically, emotionally, and health wise).
I am 30 years old male in South Africa, i have to say its so refreshing to actually have an older woman on youtube sharing their wisdom and experiences.
I love your channel, and I think you are gorgeous, honestly. I have spent my childhood and teens feeling ugly and invisible, then went to getting more attention for my looks in my 20s and now early 30s and I realized that being pretty is just a different kind of invisibility. Just because people look at you doesn't mean they see you.
Thank you so much for the kind compliments. I have to agree with you about whether you’re beautiful, young or old Some people just see right through you and they don’t see you
Thank you Sandra! I have Pure-OCD, and if anyone knows what that disorder entails, it's one of the mental illnesses that makes it hardest to value oneself. On an intellectual level I do know my worth. One of my dreams is to make a great companion to my future husband, but I know VERY well how it feels to be with someone who cannot give back. A lot of people judge me for saying that my dream is to be a good wife, because they think I'll take any man who gives me the time of day, but that's not true. And vice-versa - if I don't truly love someone, he deserves someone who will. Nevertheless, I've got a lot of internal healing to do. I also could use some brushing up on my kindness skills, regardless of my mental illness. 😊
Listen I'm in my early 30's and no matter how young or old you are, the advice in this video is timeless ♡ thank you for being such an amazing, calming presence. I never really had a relationship with a grandma but I can imagine it would be something like this
I’m 45 but I’m subscribing. I’d rather be proactive and prepared early. I’m glad I stumbled on this channel. What a sweet sweet woman. She’s beautiful too.
Thank you , Sandra. This message was much needed at this time in my life. I’ve learned that you have to care for your own self (physically and emotionally) because, sometimes, there is no one else to do that important job. You are your strongest support system. Be an advocate for yourself and others will notice.
Good Afternoon Sandra, I'm smiling because my friend Laine and I recently had this conversation. I'm 72 and she is 76. We laughed about why bother with makeup when running into the grocery store because no one will be paying any attention to us. But, we get the why of it since it's about one's outward physical appearance. We have agreed that our strength is in our self confidence and knowing ourselves and the accomplishments that have brought us to this place in time. You are a true blessing with the uplifting and worthwhile topics you bring to us. Blessings, Diane
And that is so interesting. Thank you so much for sharing your conversation with your friend LAINE. Having a good sense of self is really important, isn’t it
Hello Diane, I'm 64, and I receive daily compliments on my appearance from both women and men--of all ages. I take care of myself and am frequently mistaken for my late 30s. I strive to look my best each day, wearing classic French Chic outfits with 4-inch stiletto heels (no pain from them and can wear them all day). I am not done achieving. I have just earned my third MA degree and am embarking on a brand-new career. My life is just beginning! My strengths lie in my intelligence, tenacity, creativity, resourcefulness, and high energy. P.S. It helps to have a very young boyfriend who is 30 years younger!
Im a 42 y/o nurse who cares for my 92 y/o widowed grandmother. I have given much thought to things I never would have considered as a result of seeing my grandmas life.. Much of your words really resonate with me. So much wisdom people of all ages could benefit from. New subscriber here. Thank you 😊
Welcome Crystal. I really enjoyed hearing about your 92-year-old grandmother and how possibly caring for her has put more thoughts in your mind about aging. Thank you very much for subscribing and I hope by joining this wonderful community of women you will be able to share your thoughts with us often. My daughter-in-law is a NP and I respect the dedication of all nurses to their patients. Thank you again.
I’m 36 and this is the first video I have watched from you. I love everything that you said and find you to be a great role model for all women, any age. You have a new subscriber💕 thank you
I often felt invisible at age 9 in my family. I was the youngest of three kids. Your video helps me to further my understanding of how to grasp true self-worth now as a 60-ish person.Thank you!❤️
Isn’t it interesting how childhood patterns carry on through into adulthood? At least you understand perhaps why being the youngest in the family that you feel the way you do.
I am very isolated where l live on Long Island NY...l am 79 and l believe that l am unique and special...educated , fun 😊 and Yes a high Value woman. I understand the male gender...they are who they are... there's a time for that... I raised my sons by myself from age 7 and 9... I am also aging gracefully...no work done.... I do not have time for men who are in the hunt...l have risen above that base drive... been there done that. I reach out always to others with a high level of EQ. I have always been a woman of substance. Thank you Sandra.
FYI: The man who stopped was ‘on his bike’. Several viewers thought I said something else. He was a man on a bike. I NEVER define anyone by their nationality, religion, race, political ideology or skin color. EVER! In reality he was a man from Connecticut who lives in the neighborhood. Sandra
@@lifewithsandrahart I'm not sure what people thought you said. I can't imagine what they might have thought could have been improper or whatever oh by the way happy birthday to your man. I think some of your positive thinking +faith+gentle persuasion PLUS a pinch of learned loving detachment brought him back to your arms again. Maybe learned loving detachment is part and parcel of the faith walk. To be able to turn it over, even when it may be quite uncomfy IS mastery.
I watched that Netflix Maid series with my college film study eyes. The series has more meaning than what's on the surface: women can be poor communicators, men have a hard time dealing with women with mental issues, men were also abused in their childhood, children are not taught how to resolve stressful situations.
You are absolutely gorgeous, classy and stylish. The young man showed he was typical. He would have been more desirable if he gave his attention equally among the women, valuing women for more than their bodies. The onus is on him. We are at an age where the real value of a man is easy to see.
To me seems more likely that this young man was raised without manners. Basic courtesy involves giving your time and attention to whomever you are with, however you may feel about the person. I am thinking of those younger women who are equally rude e truly comfortable, patient or interested in an older woman's presence -- they see what they may look like if they live long enough and it makes them profoundly uneasy.
Sorry, hit the send button before I finished editing! Just wanted to point out being treated as invisible happens with those younger women who see us and are profoundly uncomfortable with the reality of aging. They are not ready to deal with one day looking like us, or living with the changes aging brings. As understandable as men who consider us invisible, and to my mind another form of rudeness. Used to find them all rather annoying, now they make me chuckle. Stay strong, ladies, we know our own value, and that's what matters!
Sandra - If we as women (and men) truly knew who we were and where our worth comes from we would all live by the Golden Rule and our world would a better place. I believe that the angst in our country right now shows us that so many people are lost and hurting so they reach out and hurt others. Thank you as always for your inspiration.
I absolutely love your channel! My husband passed away in my arms almost a year ago, 48 hours after my birthday. So my birthday is coming up, turning 42 - I really didn't envision this AT all and I know I am still young and have a lifetime ahead of me, but I feel sad. I feel sad that my husband's health and addition struggles got him, I am sad that we are not going to grow up together, I am sad for my 9 year old son growing up without his father and so on. I am just not even sure how to pick myself up, what do I want from life? I don't want to be alone, but I have no drive or desire to go out again. I hope this fog passes, I have to get back on track and get out and conquer the world like I did before I met my husband.
You are in the grieving process Joanne and it has to follow its course. I lost my husband when my son was about eight years old and my daughters were not yet teens. It was a very difficult time for me and it was such a long time before I even wanted to go out with anyone and date. I had my hands full was just trying to be a good mother and raising my children. My son grew up without his father and it was not a perfect situation, but he found mentors in Boy Scouts and the father of one of his friends kind of took him under his wing. I hope you can find a male role model that he can bond with. It really is important. Thank you so much for sharing
@@lifewithsandrahart Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I am so sorry to hear how difficult it was for you as well. I really understand it, I am just trying to be a good mother and raise my son and everything else that comes with it. I really do believe a strong male model will also help him too, but in the meantime, I am also working on healing my soul as well. Quite a journey for sure!
Hi, . My love and support to you.. Real help/ support/ hope/ compassion. 1. Think survivor....not victim. Faster 2. Recovery.... slow. 1 second, one hr day. 3. No negative friends, family, strangers. None. Toss , no call back, no explanation. 4. Safe help. Hear me a free empathy app 20min free text stranger worldwide 24/7. 5. Support groups. Alanon , family anonymous Grief etc. 6. It's not ok, it's not your fault. ZRO It's a tragedy. 7. Church. Non denominational etc Help you and youth group son. 8. Counseling NOW not later. Online or in personi . I say 1 year. 9. Son counseling now to six mth later 1yr. 10. Limit all contact with husbands family People can hurt/ blame you. Easier then 11. Volunteer anyplace if you can 12. Small pet you and son hampster 1-3 yr Very healing both of you. 13. Tell son the truth. It's a tragedy 14. One two mentors.... friends you love really support you. Call everyday...... 15. Share feeling vulnerable with them only. 16. After you both heal life will restart on its own.... 17. Louis Hay TH-cam free 10 ways to love yourself. 18. I am praying for both of you 19. I'm walking the future with you. Me and my daughter Be blessed psalm 23.
Thank you very much for your wisdom! I am 32 now and started working on myself for 4 years. I grew up in a household where my opinion was not vallued and welcomed. In order to survive and be accepted by my family I had to stay "the good behaving child" way into my adulthood. I struggled with even saying "no", worked very hard to be treated well and never knew unconditional love. The toxic relationships I have attracted pushed me the hard way to get help and finally grow up. I have channeled my "wanting to please urges" into "working on my self energy". It was a hard and lonely road but I can see now, that I am becoming the exact "high value woman" you are talking about in your video. It is very encouraging. I will continue to do my best. Thank you for your video!
And yes, when one feels love with ourselves, others feel it and it's like a virus of goodness that spreads and everyone around us, our neighbors, coworkers, families and even strangers benefit!❤️🙏
As someone who struggles with anxiety and low self-esteem, I find it so comforting to listen to you impart your wisdom. You're like the strong female role model I wish I had in my own life. Also I hope I age as gracefully as you have. You're really beautiful inside and out. Thank you and keep up the wonderful work (:
I really like what you have to say. You say what I am thinking out loud and instead of judging or beating myself up, you put a positive spin on things and remind me I am not alone...aging is a trip and I want to do it gracefully as you are...thank you for the pep talk
Soon to be 39, I don't think it is too early start learning from a beautiful, experienced, witty advanced lady. It wasn't an accident that this video came up my screen. I am absorbing all she said and I want to hear more of her. New subbie🥰
Good morning Sandra... You have no idea how much I needed to hear your words today. It reminded me to keep my power and be noticed. I had a similar experience last week and for a few minutes became invisible in a group of younger women. Then i snapped myself out of it. Lol. You are a blessing!
As usual bright, energetic and positive. It delights me watching you with your sweat gesture, smile and voice. Thank you for sharing us the useful seven principles. Remain blessed, healthy and joyous.
I stumbled across your video randomly and I’m so happy I clicked to watch! I’m also in Miami and I hate it here honestly because of the mass degeneracy I see here and I feel like I do not fit in but I realize I don’t have to fit in, being modest and classy is what sets me apart and I should be proud of it, not embarrassed by it. You are an absolute gem.
Yesterday I came upon your TH-cam channel. Absolutely loved it. Decided to show my 87 year old mother too. She also loved it. Now I'm busy trying to watch as many videos of yours as possible. Loving your sharing of your journey. Thank you for everything you do to make us feel great.
Welcome and thank you so much for being here. I am so happy that both you and your mother join us and our conversations. I hope you have a beautiful day
Thank you, Sandra. I lost my mom two years ago, and when I look at you I would love to call you mom. You are smart, beautiful, sweet, and kind. It sounds you are one of the most generous women, just like my mom you bring out the best in people. Love from Katie 😍
I always look forward to Tuesday mornings when you and I have breakfast together even if it is virtually. You are always a delight to listen to. Thank you for sharing.
Ms. Sandra, I am so incredibly thankful that I stumbled across this video today! Myself & my daughters need women just like you in our lives! I finally took the dive and left my abusive husband of 15years. I did watch the Maid, with him, and I will tell you, the abuse endured in that series was nothing in comparison to what I have, which is why I said, "No More!" Our children, especially our daughters, need to see us take a stand, and reclaim our sense of worth! I'm not entirely certain what the future looks like for myself & my four children, but I do know that I feel FREE and at Peace!!
Thank you for sharing, Sandra. Kindness, compassion are all attributes of our Heavenly Father. We are all precious souls and God loves us so much! Thank you for reminding us of who we are created to be! Victorious!
I am under 60. I found your channel recently and I love it so much! @Life Over Sixty With Sandra You are such a lovely woman with so much savvy life advice. You are an inspiration to me. Glad to be part of your community. God bless you. ♥️
I am thrilled to watch & listen.... finally - at 53 - there is a lady coming up who could be my mum and talks in such a wonderful, wise and beautiful way that feels just HEALING! ("We have to get back living again...!") I am in awe.... thank you! And even: what a powerful sharing! I just left my last boy-friend because I did not feel great or supported during the "C-years"..... my values were hurt so I walked away without any financial support. I do not regret it so far. I know I will survive and one day thrive again too! Thank you being so kind, sharing with us: this is amazing! ( much LOVE from me: just a "Girl" in Berlin/Germany planting flowers with love... ) I feel blessed.....
Yes, The Maid is Excellent. I was in an abusive marriage. Andy McDowell deserves An Award. Personality Disorders are very difficult and sometimes dangerous as it was for me. Yes, Kindness makes such a difference. 🧡 Thank you. So glad that Arthur enjoyed all of our Best Wishes for his Birthday.
I was so impressed with the acting and the character development and actually the whole subject was very real. Arthur was so pleased with all of the nice wishes that were given to him
Sandra..so wise, as always. As far as men are concerned, you can be a woman of the highest "quality", with healthy self-esteem, but, we will still be "invisible". I DO know my worth; however, being a single woman, I've found that we are very often overlooked. Being single will actually increase one's awareness of this fact. Nevertheless, we must value ourselves, no matter what society thinks. Andie McDowell looks great with her silver hair, but, I feel that transition is less painful when you have very thick hair like hers, or, beautiful facial features. Aging is a gift, yes, but it's tough. All your points are well taken. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Stay safe and well. 🙂 Rosemarie 💖
You have so much glow inside out, I’m in middle 30s and wish I had that. It makes a person so beautiful like nothing else. A bit of shiny blush helps and I can almost imitate that happy-glow on the pictures but your glow is so real and it shows.
Thank you Sandra. At minute 5:09 absolutely!! This is one video I need to listen to multiple times. Taking care of ourselves emotionally is hugely important. You are so genuine and helpful to us all 🧡
Sandra, you are such a cool and inspiring woman. As a 17 year old who is looking forward to growing old but doesn't feel like it's necessary at all to speed up the process..... I really admire you, your values, and all the things you've done in your life. I am learning to appreciate the memories and people I've come across so far in life, the current moment and all the opportunities that are heading my way. Your videos will definitely help motivate and encourage that (and so will all the beautiful people of all ages in the comments! Your community is awesome). I only recently found your channel but I will definitely keep on watching. I love you ❤❤
I don’t know how I got here but I’m happy to join this warm welcoming community. Words from a beautiful wise woman. What a first impression. This is the content ALL WOMEN need to here. I appreciate you. Enjoy your life and thanks for reminding me to enjoy mine! 💛
Yes, I saw the series. Outstanding performances and script. A must see. The girl attitude was amazing too. She never give up even tough everything was against her, even her family!! I am driving UBER now and I always keep my conversations positive, no matter what and at the end of the ride how many times people are so happy of having a conversation with me. I am not an idealistic woman, but realistic yes. That's its such a great feeling!!
I enjoyed Maid so much. Nice to know you also liked it. I use Uber a lot and the drivers are really great. Much easier here on the beach than trying to find or pay for parking. Being positive is always a plus. I hope you get rewarded by generous tips! Keep up cheering your customers by positivity.
Hello Sandra, I’m 18 y/o and your videos really helps me not just in learning something about me or society but with learning English too! Your videos have that energy like you are talking with your wise relative. Thank you a ton!
Thank you for this, Sandra. It is hard for me to relate to some of this, because I am a loner on purpose. My life hasn’t changed much due to C, because I prefer solitude, and only go out if I need something. I also don’t care what people think of me, and aging hasn’t bothered me as much as it does some women. I rather like not having to compete or strive for attention from the opposite sex. It is so freeing! I have had many loves and much passion in my younger life, and have had more than my fair share. I am married, but even if I weren’t, I feel I would be perfectly complete being alone. I hope women will take your advice, and learn to accept themselves for who and what they are. Also, my daughter recently introduced me earlier to The Maid when I was at her house. I want to see the whole series, but I don’t have Netflix. Maybe someday it will be available elsewhere. Andie McDowell’s character is definitely award worthy! I appreciate you, and all of your wisdom❤
I am rather a loner as well, but I do so enjoy being social. I hope you will be able to spend time with your daughter and complete the series. I really appreciate your thoughts on being married and yet being able to be alone if that time ever comes
Interesting story , I recently got on hormones and got on testosterone to keep my muscle mass.. Well it dramatically increased my sex drive which at over 60 with a husband with low to no libido any more was like “ what tha?” I realized just how freeing it had been to not have sex on the brain all the time like when I was younger. There is a certain freedom to not having sex on the brain lol ! don’t get me wrong I enjoyed it and had plenty of it in my younger years but there is a certain freedom that comes without it. I went back to my doctor and told her , “ ok we need to lower the testosterone this time!”
@@tamb7587 Tam, I can relate to that. Up until my 50s, I had an insatiable sex drive, like a man's, and my emotions led me to make some truly horrible decisions regarding men. It seemed that I was always in the throes of heartache, misery and suffering due to my unwise decision spurred by hormones. Now, my sex drive is nil, and I could not be happier. How freeing! What a gift from God! Hooray! I am free to use logic instead of emotion in my daily decisions, to pursue interests, and more. I have just completed a third MA degree at age 64 and am embarking on a brand-new career. Life is just beginning, and I feel younger than I did in my 20s! Natalia
Sandra, this one is so good I am going to watch it again and use it as my "go to" pick-me-up video when I need that boost! Thankyou so much for high-lighting this very important subject. Yes, I think we (of a certain age) have all encountered situations like the one you describe.. Some young men or women may not realise that they are doing it and others would rather eat a live toad than give you the time of day. But as you say that is their problem - not yours! But.. I hope that your doggie walking friends are intelligent and considerate enough to take notice of this man's attitude towards you or anyone else in their company.. As usual thankyou for your great wisdom and insight that make your videos so verrrry watchable. Love and peace to you and Arthur..
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this subject. I think we all are enjoying reading the comments from this video and our personal experiences. Thank you again
I used to feel like that when I’m in a group of people and someone came and didn’t acknowledge me. I used to feel small and unimportant. Now, I really don’t give it a single thought. I know who I am and my value and other people can’t take that away from me.
Love your thoughts about the qualities of being a high value woman. In today's world people are going through so much no one has a perfect life. So if we could just try to take the time to say thank you or a simple smile would make someone day. I always believe that it is better to give than to receive. Thank you for sharing and I would like to wish Arthur a very Happy Birthday.❤️🌺
I can’t wait to get older, there’s such a peace in wisdom that I can’t wait to reach. I just turned 30 in March and really really have been reflecting on how I view the concept of aging and you really offer great perspective on it with your topics. God bless you 💜
I couldn't imagine such a loss. I lost my father in 2017 but I know that's not the same thing. How special to have found the love of your life and have been together for so long. Marriage takes a ton of work, I've never been married either. However, I do know that self care- love and being authentic, genuine, classy, integrity, and honest of course and living with gratitude and being humble is what I've always held myself. I ran across your page and nothing is by accident. Thank you for uploading Sandra. You are so inspiring and God bless you for your time and wisdom you share. 💋😘!
Elizabeth I’m glad you came across my channel and this community. I really enjoyed reading what you have had to say and agree with everything. Thank you so very much for taking the time to share your thoughts with all of us
Thankyou Sandra ,a lovely topic to Ponder on this evening in Australia.Covid certainly has taken a toll on us older Women and our Self Esteem and Confidence with so much Sadness around us it's been hard to hold up our heads be strong and start enjoying life again we are only just coming out of Lockdown and many older Women have told me how difficult it is to get going again .Connect with others and Respect ourselves again I believe being among others like your walks with the dogs is a great start .
You can't happen to imagine what a pleasure it's to learn English with your videos. You always encourage me to go ahead in my life in a positive and happy way. The comunity that follows your channel is very special. They seem so lovely and kind! Glad to be a part of it. God bless every second of you life, forever. You're more and more beautiful to my eyes!
I want to be the high valued woman. Some things I need to work on more, but health care is not one of them. I try to take care of my health. My mother instilled in me to take care of my health because no one else would. I know several women that do not bother to take care of themselves. It’s not that they don’t have insurance or money. It’s really hard for me to understand. Thank you for sharing. 💜Jeanette Turner
Hi Sandra? You are so right! I also watched MAID.....excellent....sorry about? In wrong place! Life is easier when we know who we are, and we value our self worth i am enjoying my senior years, and am grateful for them. Thanks for the visit Sandra....I always look forward to them. Gloria.
Thank you for your posts. I’m enjoying them so much and they are helping me. You’re such a wonderful lady. I’m so glad I found your channel about 3 months ago. I’ve been listening to them every since.
Sandra, you always bring valuable wisdom and knowledge to this channel. Thank you for your encouraging and uplifting videos. I really respect and admire you, sweet lady.
Thanks for putting these topics out there Sandra. I think it’s interesting and funny to observe those that don’t look anymore . It really is just biology. It also makes me ponder my deeper character and makes me grateful that I like myself on the inside. I’m a work in process and keep can improving my EIQ. I’m glad Arthur had a nice birthday 🎂. 😘❤️😊
Hi Sandra. Thank you for always being so thoughtful and lovely. This is such a gentle reminder to me to keep going, keep going out, keep the faith and keep high standards for my own emotional, physical and mental well-being. It can be fatiguing. Have you read "The Four Agreements"? You were echoing them today - be impeccable in your words, don't take anything personally, don't make assumptions and always do your best. These have given me such freedom in off-loading negative experiences. Sending love back to you. xo Karen
Karen, no I have not read “The Four Agreements.” It sounds like something I really would be interested in. Thank you so much for alerting me. I really appreciate your being here in this community
Hi, Sandra. I'm Erika from Philippines. I lost track because of online dating, the last guy I dated online was really toxic yet I stayed with him. But just yesterday, I made my decision and I blocked him. Watching your video today feels like a fresh start to getting back on track. Thank you, Sandra! I'll surely watch all your videos
Every male has a mother. Mum used to say that on occasion. To pretend that my being treated well depends on how much makeup I wear and outfit that a 30 something yo approves of… my 40 yo son treats me well regardless. It’s how he was raised. My daughters have been raised the same. We have learned so much about what illness does and cancer has had a huge influence on our family with who and how. Looking your best may just be that you got a dressing gown on. No matter how ill we don’t expect bad behaviour. I don’t expect it from hormonal men or women either. Age is no barrier to good manners. 💜💙💚
10:30 a nurse once looked at me with kindness, that thing alone gives me hope to try to be kind and have hope again, at that time in my life I was having a very tough time, and that little thing gives me hope and the desire to try to have feith and be good again, i was getting angry and mad at life at that time, i always used to try to be a good human, but at that time it was the first time that my soul feels like it was getting dark and angry, and that little thing give me hope to try to be kind again
What a great message to start the day in the right frame of mind! Thank you so much, Sandra, for lifting us up and giving us courage and inspiration! Sending you all the best wishes for a wonderful week! 😘🤗
How full of life you are just wow i am 45 years old and i started symptoms of menopause like periods problems breast size reduction and i am so much depressed in this situation i didn't realise getting old mean these kind of are problems waiting i feel sometimes so the real life is ended
Your life is just beginning! Watch you were over menopause you will be free to open up a new chapter in your life. It is part of a woman’s life cycle and I hope you can embrace the changes that will come. You will look back and realize that after menopause, a new life begins. Different, but new.
@@lifewithsandrahart thanks dear i lost my mom just before my marriage then i suffered a lot nobody was there to tell me things about life now i am suddenly facing different things in my body my husband don't know any thing i am afraid to tell him he may think i am getting old now
Andi is actually the mother of the young actress who played the maid and I agree she deserves an Emmy for her role. If that young man wanted to impress your walking companions he should have started talking to you. He would have shown more thoughtfulness for all of you as people not objects of affection.
Nancy isn’t it wonderful that she and her daughter could act together in some thing. You’re really right about that young man. Women are impressed by men who are courteous
I find your videos so comforting … I recently lost my mom and we were never very close but your videos are a really lovely source for that energy of a respectable older lady . Lady with a capital L
Out of all of those, speaking my mind has been the most challenging for sure. In this day and age (I am at almost 65) I still struggle with it at times. Not as much. But it's still a work in progress for me.
Spot on. I am happy I could join this great conversation today, I have to watch this again. Very interesting convo. Thanks Sandra, we have to love and value ourselves, for others to value us. Each one of us are beautiful in our own way, and age is just a number. I wouldn’t deem myself selfish, but I value myself and love me and others, they have their rights and I have mine. I hold my head up high and step out in good grace. I will forever love and take the best care of myself. After all I’m an only child. Today’s conversation was well conceded. ❤️ one love honey. ✌🏿💪🏽
I am in the process of discovering my higher self, and I am very proud of the strong woman I becoming. I am thankful that I have realised at the young age of 15 that my existence is valuable. Your videos are really informative, calming, composed and practical. The most important thing I took away fron this conversation is "Don't take it personally". Thankyou. 💞😄
Such an uplifting channel…. Thank you Sandra! Just noticed your title line… “Invisible”is the correct spelling. I was so touched when you brought out your favorite treasure from your bag not long ago. The Bible, God’s Word is so precious to me as well. and contains the faith, hope and love that we and our world so desperately need. 🙏
Great conversation Sandra, so much we need to learn as we travel our journey each one their own, our self worth and understanding often comes later . A lot to unpack :) 🌷
I didn't know who you were until I came across your TH-cam videos which led me to discover and listen to your memoir Behind the Magic Mirror. Thank you for sharing your story, Sandra. You've a beautiful soul and I thank you for sharing it with the world. I thank you for helping me to heal. 🙏 ❤️
Good morning Sandra, it's always good to hear from you especially early in the morning before I start my day, yes covid has somewhat changed my thinking with the lockdown it is not in my chemistry to be isolated, but i make the best of it, I go for my morning walk at always clears my head, I had covid 2 months ago so I look at things a little different, thankful to be alive and not having any after effect, stay well and give my love to Arthur.
Hi there I’m Filipino citizen currently working abroad… I have been following you recently and I love listening to you …I love it so so much …love much from Turkey
Hi Sandra:). I really enjoyed this chat today! You always inspire me with ur thoughts and wisdom. Immediately I thought of an incident I had with my handyman who I hadn’t needed any house repairs in about 3 years. When I greeted him at my door ( hot water heater problems) his first glance at me said it all. You see I had gone fully natural gray from my high maintenance brown w many shades of blond highlights. He usually would flirt w me and hinted about going out-but this was strictly a service call and made it clear if I needed any repairs not to hesitate to call him-lol. I had never had an attraction to him but always was kind and pleasant. But if hair color was that important to him ~I had him pegged all along. I had dinner w my son the other day and right away he complimented me on my haircut and told me my gray hair was beautiful:). Silly little incident w the handyman but it never bothered me and only thought about it after ur video. I have been keeping very busy with even more yard work but feel so good that I could get out and do it with this beautiful cooler weather we have been waiting for. Having new tires and alignment for the trip to NC. So glad to see ur smiling face and to know Arthur enjoyed his birthday:). Sending love and hugs to you both👍😊💕🤗
Thank you for sharing your Handyman story with us Julie. It just shows how shallow some men can be. I’m sure your son is right when he said that your hair is beautiful. That’s why it’s important for all of us to have a strong sense of ourselves. Thank you for sharing and best of luck on your travels to North Carolina
Love your videos, Sandra! Always gives me food for thought. This is something I have been working on for some time personally and I have found that as I have changed it has been difficult to navigate some friendships. Always seems to be a fine balance.
I’m glad to have come across your channel. You have such a healthy outlook on life. I will be 55 years old in two weeks, and it does not bother me. There are so many videos by men who talk about women 30 and up hitting the wall. I pay these men no mind because their opinion does not validate me. Having good health and living life to the fullest is what matters. Also, having a kind heart makes a woman high-value.
Beautiful video!!! Im in my 50's. Ive taken great care of myself and I look in my early 30's. Men of all ages approach me often but when they find out my true age they often seem confused, then grow distant and reject me. 🤷🏼♀️Or they think I'll easily sleep with them. This only started happening when I started telling them I was 50 not 49 ... lol I find it so odd that when they think Im 35 to begin with they are in hot pursuit when they ask my age they turn cold and avoidant. It's as if the word 50 seems to be a trigger them. For a minute I considered lying about my age but that feels ridiculous. The rejection was really hurting my self esteem for a while. Then I thought about it and came to the conclusion that a Man who can not handle knowing my age at 50 wont be able to handle much of anything else in life. I know my worth and my capacity to give, LOVE and be HAPPY. These are weird times. Good Luck out there. Women love yourselves the most-- as people make the wrong partner choices all the time thru faulty decision making. But to the men who reject successful career woman , intellectual women or simply because you thought someone younger and hotter will make you feel better about yourself I hope your ego takes good care of you when you are old and God forbid sick.🤷🏼♀️
A friend dated a guy until he invited her to play tennis. When she beat him, he got angry and wouldn't speak to her again. Hurtful, but if someone can't handle who you are, you're better off without them. As in, "go where you're celebrated, not where you're (sort of) tolerated." Life is a grand adventure at any age at which you find yourself, so it's best to be with happy people. 😊
Thank you Sandra, I sure don't feel like I've been "living" much for the past couple years. Yes, it is time to get back to it again! I agree, not taking things personally is key to having peace of mind. As for getting less attention with age, I wish I hadn't minded the wolf whistles when I was younger lol That's ok, it's biology and I had my time in the sun but still strive to be fantastic for my age and any age I will be blessed to be. Isn't it nice to see a famous actress age naturally? I don't understand the filler/botox craze that doesn't look natural. I always think of how lovely Jessica Tandy looked. And now you :)xo
Yes, Jessica Tandy. What a great actress and a role model for aging gracefully. Thank you so much for inviting all of us of that. Thank you so much for your thoughts and I’m happy you watch today
I really needed to hear this morning- not “living” for the last couple of years.” Over the last couple of weeks, I have been reflecting on just that in my own life. Perhaps through Sandra’s page we can encourage each other!
Since losing my husband I feel stuck in limbo. Everyday is a challenge but I push through the motions. Everyday I put on my makeup, do my hair, and try to dress nice even when I just want to give up and hibernate. I go out into the world and go through the motions of living. Usually I go for walks, grocery shopping, or to thrift stores . I try to talk to other people and show them kindness because so many people are also just going through the motions too. Every time I leave my house I ask God for grace and to let me be a light to others . Thank you for your voice and heart to help other women , you are a real inspiration .
What a beautiful post Sandra. You certainly are a beacon of hope and light to all with whom you come in contact. Moving forward because you know it’s the right thing to do, even on those days you don’t feel like it is the answer as to why you will eventually be able to enjoy life mire since the loss of your husband. My thoughts are with you and keep shining your light
Dearest Sandra,
Thank you for sharing a birds eye view of your life at the moment. Know that you are part of this wonderful community of like minded women so even when you're having a tough day you are simply never alone. Your contribution is heartfelt and l'm certain lots of other ladies are touched by it. We've been there! You are truly valued.
Sending you warm hugs from West Africa 🤗
Keep going Sandra
Sounds like you are doing some helpful things to cope. It always helps when we can remind ourselves others are grieving too but that doesn't mean to minimise how it can be hard at times personally . Good for you . Sending hugs
Ruth
It’s been 10 years since my husband passing . I know exactly how you feel.. I have always had a routine in the morning and continued to do so even durning his sickness. My routine everyday has saved me from major depression ! I’m 70 years young and have had a exercise routine also for over 50 years praise God - my mantra in life for tragic events is This Too will Pass🙏🏻
Dear Sandra, I understand. I lost my husband 3 months ago and can relate to how you feel. I feel lost. Sending peace love and light to you. ☮️❤️☀️.
1) knows her worth and doesn’t operate from a place of neediness
2) loves and respects herself
3) being kind and compassionate to others.
4) self aware and has high emotional intelligence
5) Grounded and maturing -not manipulative
6) not afraid 😱 to speak 🗣 her mind and comes from a place of honesty
7) self care 💇♀️ (both physically, emotionally, and health wise).
Yes exactly.
@@lifewithsandrahart love ❤️ taking notes 📝 and summarizing videos which is my strength 😇
thanks
Thank you ✌🏽
Thank You 💓💞🌺💃
I am 30 years old male in South Africa, i have to say its so refreshing to actually have an older woman on youtube sharing their wisdom and experiences.
I missed this kind of woman in my life. Thank you. I am 36. And I need a support of a wise, kind, successful and experienced woman. ❤🌸
I love your channel, and I think you are gorgeous, honestly. I have spent my childhood and teens feeling ugly and invisible, then went to getting more attention for my looks in my 20s and now early 30s and I realized that being pretty is just a different kind of invisibility. Just because people look at you doesn't mean they see you.
Thank you so much for the kind compliments. I have to agree with you about whether you’re beautiful, young or old Some people just see right through you and they don’t see you
"Just because people look at yku doesn't mean they see you."❤
True, they project all their fantasies onto you, put you on a pedestal and become irritated/disappointed when the real you starts showing
Amen!!!!! Thank you 🙏
@@jancole6910 True, and I want to add: When you start to show your real feelings and not the fake ones. And also your feelings aren’t you.
Thank you Sandra! I have Pure-OCD, and if anyone knows what that disorder entails, it's one of the mental illnesses that makes it hardest to value oneself. On an intellectual level I do know my worth. One of my dreams is to make a great companion to my future husband, but I know VERY well how it feels to be with someone who cannot give back. A lot of people judge me for saying that my dream is to be a good wife, because they think I'll take any man who gives me the time of day, but that's not true. And vice-versa - if I don't truly love someone, he deserves someone who will. Nevertheless, I've got a lot of internal healing to do. I also could use some brushing up on my kindness skills, regardless of my mental illness. 😊
Listen I'm in my early 30's and no matter how young or old you are, the advice in this video is timeless ♡ thank you for being such an amazing, calming presence. I never really had a relationship with a grandma but I can imagine it would be something like this
I’m 45 but I’m subscribing. I’d rather be proactive and prepared early. I’m glad I stumbled on this channel. What a sweet sweet woman. She’s beautiful too.
Welcome and thank you for subscribing! We are never to young or old to want to live a purposeful life!!
Thank you , Sandra. This message was much needed at this time in my life. I’ve learned that you have to care for your own self (physically and emotionally) because, sometimes, there is no one else to do that important job. You are your strongest support system. Be an advocate for yourself and others will notice.
I could not have said it better. Thank you
Good Afternoon Sandra, I'm smiling because my friend Laine and I recently had this conversation. I'm 72 and she is 76. We laughed about why bother with makeup when running into the grocery store because no one will be paying any attention to us. But, we get the why of it since it's about one's outward physical appearance. We have agreed that our strength is in our self confidence and knowing ourselves and the accomplishments that have brought us to this place in time. You are a true blessing with the uplifting and worthwhile topics you bring to us. Blessings, Diane
And that is so interesting. Thank you so much for sharing your conversation with your friend LAINE. Having a good sense of self is really important, isn’t it
Hello Diane,
I'm 64, and I receive daily compliments on my appearance from both women and men--of all ages. I take care of myself and am frequently mistaken for my late 30s. I strive to look my best each day, wearing classic French Chic outfits with 4-inch stiletto heels (no pain from them and can wear them all day). I am not done achieving. I have just earned my third MA degree and am embarking on a brand-new career. My life is just beginning! My strengths lie in my intelligence, tenacity, creativity, resourcefulness, and high energy. P.S. It helps to have a very young boyfriend who is 30 years younger!
@@nataliamiles7109 wow wow am blown away thank you. Love your attitude . Wow
Im a 42 y/o nurse who cares for my 92 y/o widowed grandmother. I have given much thought to things I never would have considered as a result of seeing my grandmas life.. Much of your words really resonate with me. So much wisdom people of all ages could benefit from. New subscriber here. Thank you 😊
Welcome Crystal. I really enjoyed hearing about your 92-year-old grandmother and how possibly caring for her has put more thoughts in your mind about aging. Thank you very much for subscribing and I hope by joining this wonderful community of women you will be able to share your thoughts with us often. My daughter-in-law is a NP and I respect the dedication of all nurses to their patients. Thank you again.
I’m 36 and this is the first video I have watched from you. I love everything that you said and find you to be a great role model for all women, any age. You have a new subscriber💕 thank you
Welcome. So happy to have you here and a part of our caring community!
I often felt invisible at age 9 in my family. I was the youngest of three kids. Your video helps me to further my understanding of how to grasp true self-worth now as a 60-ish person.Thank you!❤️
Isn’t it interesting how childhood patterns carry on through into adulthood? At least you understand perhaps why being the youngest in the family that you feel the way you do.
You’re making me realise… I make my children feel that way. So unintentionally. I feel awful.
I am very isolated where l live on Long Island NY...l am 79 and l believe that l am unique and special...educated , fun 😊 and
Yes a high Value woman.
I understand the male gender...they are who they are... there's a time for that...
I raised my sons by myself from age 7 and 9...
I am also aging gracefully...no work done....
I do not have time for men who are in the hunt...l have risen above that base drive... been there done that.
I reach out always to others with a high level of EQ.
I have always been a woman of substance.
Thank you Sandra.
FYI: The man who stopped was ‘on his bike’. Several viewers thought I said something else. He was a man on a bike. I NEVER define anyone by their nationality, religion, race, political ideology or skin color. EVER! In reality he was a man from Connecticut who lives in the neighborhood. Sandra
I heard man on a bike you said it very clearly. You said he didn't have a dog and he was on a bike
@@michelekurlan2580 Thanks. That’s what I did say. I would never say the other. 💕
@@lifewithsandrahart I'm not sure what people thought you said. I can't imagine what they might have thought could have been improper or whatever oh by the way happy birthday to your man. I think some of your positive thinking +faith+gentle persuasion PLUS a pinch of learned loving detachment brought him back to your arms again. Maybe learned loving detachment is part and parcel of the faith walk. To be able to turn it over, even when it may be quite uncomfy IS mastery.
Thank you for clarifying communication is so important.
Don't know how I missed this, such good, sound advice, thank you kindly! cheers and much love! xoxox
I watched that Netflix Maid series with my college film study eyes. The series has more meaning than what's on the surface: women can be poor communicators, men have a hard time dealing with women with mental issues, men were also abused in their childhood, children are not taught how to resolve stressful situations.
Ann thank you so much for those excellent observations. All points well taken
I loved that series also.
You are absolutely gorgeous, classy and stylish. The young man showed he was typical. He would have been more desirable if he gave his attention equally among the women, valuing women for more than their bodies. The onus is on him. We are at an age where the real value of a man is easy to see.
Couldn't agree more. His behaviour says more about him than it does about whomever he is ignoring.
Thank you so much for your thoughts on this subject. Man truly are Mars and we are very much Venus.
To me seems more likely that this young man was raised without manners. Basic courtesy involves giving your time and attention to whomever you are with, however you may feel about the person. I am thinking of those younger women who are equally rude e truly comfortable, patient or interested in an older woman's presence -- they see what they may look like if they live long enough and it makes them profoundly uneasy.
Sorry, hit the send button before I finished editing! Just wanted to point out being treated as invisible happens with those younger women who see us and are profoundly uncomfortable with the reality of aging. They are not ready to deal with one day looking like us, or living with the changes aging brings. As understandable as men who consider us invisible, and to my mind another form of rudeness. Used to find them all rather annoying, now they make me chuckle. Stay strong, ladies, we know our own value, and that's what matters!
@@anneeinhorn9227 So well expressed! Thanks for that insight.
Sandra - If we as women (and men) truly knew who we were and where our worth comes from we would all live by the Golden Rule and our world would a better place. I believe that the angst in our country right now shows us that so many people are lost and hurting so they reach out and hurt others. Thank you as always for your inspiration.
Susan, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us today about that. Golden rule is so important
I absolutely love your channel! My husband passed away in my arms almost a year ago, 48 hours after my birthday. So my birthday is coming up, turning 42 - I really didn't envision this AT all and I know I am still young and have a lifetime ahead of me, but I feel sad. I feel sad that my husband's health and addition struggles got him, I am sad that we are not going to grow up together, I am sad for my 9 year old son growing up without his father and so on.
I am just not even sure how to pick myself up, what do I want from life? I don't want to be alone, but I have no drive or desire to go out again.
I hope this fog passes, I have to get back on track and get out and conquer the world like I did before I met my husband.
You are in the grieving process Joanne and it has to follow its course. I lost my husband when my son was about eight years old and my daughters were not yet teens. It was a very difficult time for me and it was such a long time before I even wanted to go out with anyone and date. I had my hands full was just trying to be a good mother and raising my children. My son grew up without his father and it was not a perfect situation, but he found mentors in Boy Scouts and the father of one of his friends kind of took him under his wing. I hope you can find a male role model that he can bond with. It really is important. Thank you so much for sharing
May the good God help you dear
Stay strong ...this cloud will also pass 🙏
@@lifewithsandrahart Thank you so much for sharing your experience, I am so sorry to hear how difficult it was for you as well. I really understand it, I am just trying to be a good mother and raise my son and everything else that comes with it. I really do believe a strong male model will also help him too, but in the meantime, I am also working on healing my soul as well. Quite a journey for sure!
Hi,
. My love and support to you..
Real help/ support/ hope/ compassion.
1. Think survivor....not victim. Faster
2. Recovery.... slow. 1 second, one hr day.
3. No negative friends, family, strangers.
None. Toss , no call back, no explanation.
4. Safe help. Hear me a free empathy app
20min free text stranger worldwide 24/7.
5. Support groups. Alanon , family anonymous
Grief etc.
6. It's not ok, it's not your fault. ZRO It's a tragedy.
7. Church. Non denominational etc
Help you and youth group son.
8. Counseling NOW not later. Online or in personi . I say 1 year.
9. Son counseling now to six mth later 1yr.
10. Limit all contact with husbands family
People can hurt/ blame you. Easier then
11. Volunteer anyplace if you can
12. Small pet you and son hampster 1-3 yr
Very healing both of you.
13. Tell son the truth. It's a tragedy
14. One two mentors.... friends you love really support you. Call everyday......
15. Share feeling vulnerable with them only.
16. After you both heal life will restart on its own....
17. Louis Hay TH-cam free 10 ways to love yourself.
18. I am praying for both of you
19. I'm walking the future with you.
Me and my daughter
Be blessed psalm 23.
Thank you very much for your wisdom!
I am 32 now and started working on myself for 4 years. I grew up in a household where my opinion was not vallued and welcomed. In order to survive and be accepted by my family I had to stay "the good behaving child" way into my adulthood.
I struggled with even saying "no", worked very hard to be treated well and never knew unconditional love.
The toxic relationships I have attracted pushed me the hard way to get help and finally grow up. I have channeled my "wanting to please urges" into "working on my self energy". It was a hard and lonely road but I can see now, that I am becoming the exact "high value woman" you are talking about in your video.
It is very encouraging. I will continue to do my best. Thank you for your video!
And yes, when one feels love with ourselves, others feel it and it's like a virus of goodness that spreads and everyone around us, our neighbors, coworkers, families and even strangers benefit!❤️🙏
Thank you for your excellent thoughts
As someone who struggles with anxiety and low self-esteem, I find it so comforting to listen to you impart your wisdom. You're like the strong female role model I wish I had in my own life. Also I hope I age as gracefully as you have. You're really beautiful inside and out. Thank you and keep up the wonderful work (:
I really like what you have to say. You say what I am thinking out loud and instead of judging or beating myself up, you put a positive spin on things and remind me I am not alone...aging is a trip and I want to do it gracefully as you are...thank you for the pep talk
Thank you so much Lisa
Soon to be 39, I don't think it is too early start learning from a beautiful, experienced, witty advanced lady. It wasn't an accident that this video came up my screen. I am absorbing all she said and I want to hear more of her. New subbie🥰
Good morning Sandra... You have no idea how much I needed to hear your words today. It reminded me to keep my power and be noticed. I had a similar experience last week and for a few minutes became invisible in a group of younger women. Then i snapped myself out of it. Lol. You are a blessing!
We all have those invisible moments, don’t we!😊 We just have to remember it’s their problem not ours.
Ok
@@lifewithsandrahart ,
I always think to myself in situations like this, ‘they will be lucky to someday live as long as I have,’ and smile.
Im 35 and really struggling lately with fears of becoming invisible and this really helped me.
As usual bright, energetic and positive. It delights me watching you with your sweat gesture, smile and voice. Thank you for sharing us the useful seven principles. Remain blessed, healthy and joyous.
Thank you so much
I stumbled across your video randomly and I’m so happy I clicked to watch! I’m also in Miami and I hate it here honestly because of the mass degeneracy I see here and I feel like I do not fit in but I realize I don’t have to fit in, being modest and classy is what sets me apart and I should be proud of it, not embarrassed by it. You are an absolute gem.
I’m hoping it will go back to what it was!!! I agree 100%
Yesterday I came upon your TH-cam channel. Absolutely loved it. Decided to show my 87 year old mother too. She also loved it. Now I'm busy trying to watch as many videos of yours as possible. Loving your sharing of your journey. Thank you for everything you do to make us feel great.
Welcome and thank you so much for being here. I am so happy that both you and your mother join us and our conversations. I hope you have a beautiful day
Thank you, Sandra. I lost my mom two years ago, and when I look at you I would love to call you mom. You are smart, beautiful, sweet, and kind. It sounds you are one of the most generous women, just like my mom you bring out the best in people. Love from Katie 😍
I always look forward to Tuesday mornings when you and I have breakfast together even if it is virtually. You are always a delight to listen to. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much
Ms. Sandra,
I am so incredibly thankful that I stumbled across this video today!
Myself & my daughters need women just like you in our lives!
I finally took the dive and left my abusive husband of 15years.
I did watch the Maid, with him, and I will tell you, the abuse endured in that series was nothing in comparison to what I have, which is why I said, "No More!" Our children, especially our daughters, need to see us take a stand, and reclaim our sense of worth!
I'm not entirely certain what the future looks like for myself & my four children, but I do know that I feel FREE and at Peace!!
Welcome. I’m so happy to have you!
Thank you for sharing, Sandra. Kindness, compassion are all attributes of our Heavenly Father. We are all precious souls and God loves us so much! Thank you for reminding us of who we are created to be! Victorious!
I am under 60. I found your channel recently and I love it so much! @Life Over Sixty With Sandra You are such a lovely woman with so much savvy life advice. You are an inspiration to me. Glad to be part of your community. God bless you. ♥️
The Maid is fantastic. I think many of us can relate. Really neat they’re mother and daughter in real life and on screen. Thanks Sandra!
That is such an interesting fact. So well acted
I am thrilled to watch & listen.... finally - at 53 - there is a lady coming up who could be my mum and talks in such a wonderful, wise and beautiful way that feels just HEALING! ("We have to get back living again...!") I am in awe.... thank you! And even: what a powerful sharing! I just left my last boy-friend because I did not feel great or supported during the "C-years"..... my values were hurt so I walked away without any financial support. I do not regret it so far. I know I will survive and one day thrive again too! Thank you being so kind, sharing with us: this is amazing! ( much LOVE from me: just a "Girl" in Berlin/Germany planting flowers with love... ) I feel blessed.....
Yes, The Maid is Excellent. I was in an abusive marriage. Andy McDowell deserves
An Award. Personality Disorders are very difficult and sometimes dangerous as it was for me. Yes, Kindness makes such a difference. 🧡 Thank you. So glad that Arthur enjoyed all of our Best Wishes for his Birthday.
I was so impressed with the acting and the character development and actually the whole subject was very real. Arthur was so pleased with all of the nice wishes that were given to him
Wow, I just had my 40th birthday and listening to you has really opened my eyes and heart to the realities of self. Thank you very much
Sandra..so wise, as always. As far as men are concerned, you can be a woman of the highest "quality", with healthy self-esteem, but, we will still be "invisible". I DO know my worth; however, being a single woman, I've found that we are very often overlooked. Being single will actually increase one's awareness of this fact. Nevertheless, we must value ourselves, no matter what society thinks. Andie McDowell looks great with her silver hair, but, I feel that transition is less painful when you have very thick hair like hers, or, beautiful facial features. Aging is a gift, yes, but it's tough. All your points are well taken. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Stay safe and well. 🙂 Rosemarie 💖
Thanks so much Rosemarie. As always your thoughts are so insightful and very true. Thanks so much
I am 30. I love to hear from wiser woman, there is so much to learn from them 💗💗💗
Thank you very much
You have so much glow inside out, I’m in middle 30s and wish I had that. It makes a person so beautiful like nothing else. A bit of shiny blush helps and I can almost imitate that happy-glow on the pictures but your glow is so real and it shows.
Thank you Sandra. At minute 5:09 absolutely!! This is one video I need to listen to multiple times. Taking care of ourselves emotionally is hugely important. You are so genuine and helpful to us all 🧡
Thank you again
How do we take care of our self emotionally
Sandra, I want to be like you when I grow up! With practice, I am on my way to being kinder and softer.
Thank you for sharing this ♡
You're absolutely beautiful my friend,such a bright light with such wisdom to impart xx
Happy birthday to Arthur 🎉
What a significant milestone!!
Xx
Thank you ever so much
Thank you. I always thought there was something wrong with me because I love myself but also love others very much. Now I see I'm not the only one.
Sandra, you are such a cool and inspiring woman. As a 17 year old who is looking forward to growing old but doesn't feel like it's necessary at all to speed up the process..... I really admire you, your values, and all the things you've done in your life. I am learning to appreciate the memories and people I've come across so far in life, the current moment and all the opportunities that are heading my way. Your videos will definitely help motivate and encourage that (and so will all the beautiful people of all ages in the comments! Your community is awesome). I only recently found your channel but I will definitely keep on watching. I love you ❤❤
I don’t know how I got here but I’m happy to join this warm welcoming community. Words from a beautiful wise woman. What a first impression. This is the content ALL WOMEN need to here. I appreciate you. Enjoy your life and thanks for reminding me to enjoy mine! 💛
Yes, I saw the series. Outstanding performances and script. A must see. The girl attitude was amazing too. She never give up even tough everything was against her, even her family!!
I am driving UBER now and I always keep my conversations positive, no matter what and at the end of the ride how many times people are so happy of having a conversation with me. I am not an idealistic woman, but realistic yes. That's its such a great feeling!!
I enjoyed Maid so much. Nice to know you also liked it. I use Uber a lot and the drivers are really great. Much easier here on the beach than trying to find or pay for parking. Being positive is always a plus. I hope you get rewarded by generous tips! Keep up cheering your customers by positivity.
Hello Sandra, I’m 18 y/o and your videos really helps me not just in learning something about me or society but with learning English too! Your videos have that energy like you are talking with your wise relative. Thank you a ton!
So happy to have you here!
Thank you for this, Sandra. It is hard for me to relate to some of this, because I am a loner on purpose. My life hasn’t changed much due to C, because I prefer solitude, and only go out if I need something. I also don’t care what people think of me, and aging hasn’t bothered me as much as it does some women. I rather like not having to compete or strive for attention from the opposite sex. It is so freeing! I have had many loves and much passion in my younger life, and have had more than my fair share. I am married, but even if I weren’t, I feel I would be perfectly complete being alone. I hope women will take your advice, and learn to accept themselves for who and what they are. Also, my daughter recently introduced me earlier to The Maid when I was at her house. I want to see the whole series, but I don’t have Netflix. Maybe someday it will be available elsewhere. Andie McDowell’s character is definitely award worthy! I appreciate you, and all of your wisdom❤
I am rather a loner as well, but I do so enjoy being social. I hope you will be able to spend time with your daughter and complete the series. I really appreciate your thoughts on being married and yet being able to be alone if that time ever comes
Interesting story , I recently got on hormones and got on testosterone to keep my muscle mass.. Well it dramatically increased my sex drive which at over 60 with a husband with low to no libido any more was like “ what tha?” I realized just how freeing it had been to not have sex on the brain all the time like when I was younger. There is a certain freedom to not having sex on the brain lol ! don’t get me wrong I enjoyed it and had plenty of it in my younger years but there is a certain freedom that comes without it. I went back to my doctor and told her , “ ok we need to lower the testosterone this time!”
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Tam, I can relate to that. Up until my 50s, I had an insatiable sex drive, like a man's, and my emotions led me to make some truly horrible decisions regarding men. It seemed that I was always in the throes of heartache, misery and suffering due to my unwise decision spurred by hormones. Now, my sex drive is nil, and I could not be happier. How freeing! What a gift from God! Hooray! I am free to use logic instead of emotion in my daily decisions, to pursue interests, and more. I have just completed a third MA degree at age 64 and am embarking on a brand-new career. Life is just beginning, and I feel younger than I did in my 20s!
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This lady can take her time and say what ever she wants. I’ll listen.
LOL! Thanks so much
Sandra, this one is so good I am going to watch it again and use it as my "go to" pick-me-up video when I need that boost!
Thankyou so much for high-lighting this very important subject. Yes, I think we (of a certain age) have all encountered situations like the one you describe..
Some young men or women may not realise that they are doing it and others would rather eat a live toad than give you the time of day. But as you say that
is their problem - not yours!
But.. I hope that your doggie walking friends are intelligent and considerate enough to take notice of this man's attitude towards you or anyone else in their company..
As usual thankyou for your great wisdom and insight that make your videos so verrrry watchable.
Love and peace to you and Arthur..
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this subject. I think we all are enjoying reading the comments from this video and our personal experiences. Thank you again
I used to feel like that when I’m in a group of people and someone came and didn’t acknowledge me. I used to feel small and unimportant. Now, I really don’t give it a single thought. I know who I am and my value and other people can’t take that away from me.
Love your thoughts about the qualities of being a high value woman. In today's world people are going through so much no one has a perfect life. So if we could just try to take the time to say thank you or a simple smile would make someone day. I always believe that it is better to give than to receive.
Thank you for sharing and I would like to wish Arthur a very Happy Birthday.❤️🌺
Thank you ever so much
A mentor as wise as you...ALL young women and men NEED to listen to what you have to share. Precious 🥰
I can’t wait to get older, there’s such a peace in wisdom that I can’t wait to reach. I just turned 30 in March and really really have been reflecting on how I view the concept of aging and you really offer great perspective on it with your topics. God bless you 💜
I couldn't imagine such a loss. I lost my father in 2017 but I know that's not the same thing. How special to have found the love of your life and have been together for so long. Marriage takes a ton of work, I've never been married either. However, I do know that self care- love and being authentic, genuine, classy, integrity, and honest of course and living with gratitude and being humble is what I've always held myself.
I ran across your page and nothing is by accident.
Thank you for uploading Sandra. You are so inspiring and God bless you for your time and wisdom you share.
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Elizabeth I’m glad you came across my channel and this community. I really enjoyed reading what you have had to say and agree with everything. Thank you so very much for taking the time to share your thoughts with all of us
Thankyou Sandra ,a lovely topic to Ponder on this evening in Australia.Covid certainly has taken a toll on us older Women and our Self Esteem and Confidence with so much Sadness around us it's been hard to hold up our heads be strong and start enjoying life again we are only just coming out of Lockdown and many older Women have told me how difficult it is to get going again .Connect with others and Respect ourselves again I believe being among others like your walks with the dogs is a great start .
I am happy that you enjoyed this topic
You can't happen to imagine what a pleasure it's to learn English with your videos. You always encourage me to go ahead in my life in a positive and happy way.
The comunity that follows your channel is very special. They seem so lovely and kind! Glad to be a part of it.
God bless every second of you life, forever.
You're more and more beautiful to my eyes!
I want to be the high valued woman. Some things I need to work on more, but health care is not one of them. I try to take care of my health. My mother instilled in me to take care of my health because no one else would. I know several women that do not bother to take care of themselves. It’s not that they don’t have insurance or money. It’s really hard for me to understand. Thank you for sharing. 💜Jeanette Turner
In care of our self is extremely important. Your mother instilled a good value in you
Hi Sandra? You are so right! I also watched MAID.....excellent....sorry about? In wrong place! Life is easier when we know who we are, and we value our self worth i am enjoying my senior years, and am grateful for them. Thanks for the visit Sandra....I always look forward to them. Gloria.
Thanks Gloria. Wasn’t it a great series
Thank you for your posts. I’m enjoying them so much and they are helping me. You’re such a wonderful lady. I’m so glad I found your channel about 3 months ago. I’ve been listening to them every since.
Vicky I am so happy to have you here
Sandra, you are sunshine and a breath of fresh air. Wisdom and gentleness are your gifts among many other. You are greatly blessed.
Sandra, you always bring valuable wisdom and knowledge to this channel. Thank you for your encouraging and uplifting videos. I really respect and admire you, sweet lady.
That’s so kind of you to say Pamela. Thank you very much for watching and being here
Exactly why I need space from people, because people are not good enough. People simply don't have a pure spirit like God has that restores my soul
Thanks for putting these topics out there Sandra. I think it’s interesting and funny to observe those that don’t look anymore . It really is just biology.
It also makes me ponder my deeper character and makes me grateful that I like myself on the inside. I’m a work in process and keep can improving my EIQ.
I’m glad Arthur had a nice birthday 🎂.
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Embrace who you are and that’s the most important thing I can share. Strong sense of self
I just found you. I recently turned 56. You’re beautiful and such an inspiration! These principles are so true and worthy to live by. Thank you!
Welcome and thanks so much!
Hi Sandra. Thank you for always being so thoughtful and lovely. This is such a gentle reminder to me to keep going, keep going out, keep the faith and keep high standards for my own emotional, physical and mental well-being. It can be fatiguing. Have you read "The Four Agreements"? You were echoing them today - be impeccable in your words, don't take anything personally, don't make assumptions and always do your best. These have given me such freedom in off-loading negative experiences. Sending love back to you. xo Karen
Karen, no I have not read “The Four Agreements.” It sounds like something I really would be interested in. Thank you so much for alerting me. I really appreciate your being here in this community
That is such a great book. Thank you for reminding me of it!
Hi, Sandra. I'm Erika from Philippines. I lost track because of online dating, the last guy I dated online was really toxic yet I stayed with him. But just yesterday, I made my decision and I blocked him. Watching your video today feels like a fresh start to getting back on track. Thank you, Sandra! I'll surely watch all your videos
Good for you!!
Sandra, thank you for your wisdom and your advice. This was a very special video and so needed by so many of us! Can't wait to watch Maid. 💞
It is a wonderful series. You will like it
You are indeed a high value woman, Sandra. And please know that you add value to our lives always. God bless you and your bright spirit.
Thank you very much and I really appreciate it
Every male has a mother. Mum used to say that on occasion. To pretend that my being treated well depends on how much makeup I wear and outfit that a 30 something yo approves of… my 40 yo son treats me well regardless. It’s how he was raised. My daughters have been raised the same. We have learned so much about what illness does and cancer has had a huge influence on our family with who and how. Looking your best may just be that you got a dressing gown on. No matter how ill we don’t expect bad behaviour. I don’t expect it from hormonal men or women either. Age is no barrier to good manners. 💜💙💚
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a nurse once looked at me with kindness, that thing alone gives me hope to try to be kind and have hope again, at that time in my life I was having a very tough time, and that little thing gives me hope and the desire to try to have feith and be good again, i was getting angry and mad at life at that time, i always used to try to be a good human, but at that time it was the first time that my soul feels like it was getting dark and angry, and that little thing give me hope to try to be kind again
I binge watched Maid. Found out Andi’s real daughter plays her daughter in the series. Maid is a true story she wrote her memoir years before.
Very interesting. Thank you for sharing that with us all today. Thank you again
My goodness. Not only is she stunning, she is wise and hip with the time/technology. Very inspirational!
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Welcome! So happy to have you in our community of awesome women who want to lead a purposeful life. Nice to have you.
Thank you for sharing about “The Maid”. I Will watch it…. These 7 ideas are so true! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻. As always, you are spot on❣️
What a great message to start the day in the right frame of mind! Thank you so much, Sandra, for lifting us up and giving us courage and inspiration! Sending you all the best wishes for a wonderful week! 😘🤗
Thank you Nova.
How full of life you are just wow i am 45 years old and i started symptoms of menopause like periods problems breast size reduction and i am so much depressed in this situation i didn't realise getting old mean these kind of are problems waiting i feel sometimes so the real life is ended
Your life is just beginning! Watch you were over menopause you will be free to open up a new chapter in your life. It is part of a woman’s life cycle and I hope you can embrace the changes that will come. You will look back and realize that after menopause, a new life begins. Different, but new.
@@lifewithsandrahart thanks dear i lost my mom just before my marriage then i suffered a lot nobody was there to tell me things about life now i am suddenly facing different things in my body my husband don't know any thing i am afraid to tell him he may think i am getting old now
Andi is actually the mother of the young actress who played the maid and I agree she deserves an Emmy for her role.
If that young man wanted to impress your walking companions he should have started talking to you. He would have shown more thoughtfulness for all of you as people not objects of affection.
Nancy isn’t it wonderful that she and her daughter could act together in some thing. You’re really right about that young man. Women are impressed by men who are courteous
I find your videos so comforting … I recently lost my mom and we were never very close but your videos are a really lovely source for that energy of a respectable older lady . Lady with a capital L
What a way to start my day!! Thank you the wisdom. ♥️
Thank you for watching today
Out of all of those, speaking my mind has been the most challenging for sure. In this day and age (I am at almost 65) I still struggle with it at times. Not as much. But it's still a work in progress for me.
Spot on. I am happy I could join this great conversation today, I have to watch this again. Very interesting convo. Thanks Sandra, we have to love and value ourselves, for others to value us. Each one of us are beautiful in our own way, and age is just a number. I wouldn’t deem myself selfish, but I value myself and love me and others, they have their rights and I have mine. I hold my head up high and step out in good grace. I will forever love and take the best care of myself. After all I’m an only child. Today’s conversation was well conceded. ❤️ one love honey. ✌🏿💪🏽
Thank you Prudence
Is your hair pink?! I love that! 💕It looks great on you 😌.
I am in the process of discovering my higher self, and I am very proud of the strong woman I becoming. I am thankful that I have realised at the young age of 15 that my existence is valuable. Your videos are really informative, calming, composed and practical. The most important thing I took away fron this conversation is "Don't take it personally". Thankyou. 💞😄
Such an uplifting channel…. Thank you Sandra!
Just noticed your title line… “Invisible”is the correct spelling.
I was so touched when you brought out your favorite treasure from your bag not long ago. The Bible, God’s Word is so precious to me as well. and contains the faith, hope and love that we and our world so desperately need.
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Thank you ever so much for that Jeanette
Thank you so much! I am so inspired! You are one of a kind!
Great conversation Sandra, so much we need to learn as we travel our journey each one their own, our self worth and understanding often comes later . A lot to unpack :) 🌷
So true. Thank you
I didn't know who you were until I came across your TH-cam videos which led me to discover and listen to your memoir Behind the Magic Mirror. Thank you for sharing your story, Sandra. You've a beautiful soul and I thank you for sharing it with the world. I thank you for helping me to heal. 🙏 ❤️
Good morning Sandra, it's always good to hear from you especially early in the morning before I start my day, yes covid has somewhat changed my thinking with the lockdown it is not in my chemistry to be isolated, but i make the best of it, I go for my morning walk at always clears my head, I had covid 2 months ago so I look at things a little different, thankful to be alive and not having any after effect, stay well and give my love to Arthur.
Covid has changed a lot for all of us, hasn’t it. I’m hoping that we are coming out of it with a better perspective of where our priorities lie
absolutely delighted to find your Channel. I am 33 years old & gradually learning to live & understand myself.
Great words for thought. Thank you for sharing!
You so much Barb
Hi there I’m Filipino citizen currently working abroad…
I have been following you recently and I love listening to you …I love it so so much …love much from Turkey
Invaluable message especially now! Am sharing this with my wonderful daughters. 😊
Thank you Charlotte
i'm 32 years old and im new here and im super happy that i run into your channel. Greetings from Netherlands
Welcome!
Hi Sandra:). I really enjoyed this chat today! You always inspire me with ur thoughts and wisdom. Immediately I thought of an incident I had with my handyman who I hadn’t needed any house repairs in about 3 years. When I greeted him at my door ( hot water heater problems) his first glance at me said it all. You see I had gone fully natural gray from my high maintenance brown w many shades of blond highlights. He usually would flirt w me and hinted about going out-but this was strictly a service call and made it clear if I needed any repairs not to hesitate to call him-lol. I had never had an attraction to him but always was kind and pleasant. But if hair color was that important to him ~I had him pegged all along. I had dinner w my son the other day and right away he complimented me on my haircut and told me my gray hair was beautiful:). Silly little incident w the handyman but it never bothered me and only thought about it after ur video. I have been keeping very busy with even more yard work but feel so good that I could get out and do it with this beautiful cooler weather we have been waiting for. Having new tires and alignment for the trip to NC. So glad to see ur smiling face and to know Arthur enjoyed his birthday:). Sending love and hugs to you both👍😊💕🤗
Thank you for sharing your Handyman story with us Julie. It just shows how shallow some men can be. I’m sure your son is right when he said that your hair is beautiful. That’s why it’s important for all of us to have a strong sense of ourselves. Thank you for sharing and best of luck on your travels to North Carolina
i feel happy when i see beautiful and intellectual women at your age, it seems clear that talks with you are never boring. such wonderful wisdom!
Thanks for letting me know.
Love your videos, Sandra! Always gives me food for thought. This is something I have been working on for some time personally and I have found that as I have changed it has been difficult to navigate some friendships. Always seems to be a fine balance.
Thank you very much. True friends will stay with you for the good and the bad and any changes you may have in your life
I’m glad to have come across your channel. You have such a healthy outlook on life. I will be 55 years old in two weeks, and it does not bother me. There are so many videos by men who talk about women 30 and up hitting the wall.
I pay these men no mind because their opinion does not validate me. Having good health and living life to the fullest is what matters. Also, having a kind heart makes a woman high-value.
Beautiful video!!!
Im in my 50's. Ive taken great care of myself and I look in my early 30's.
Men of all ages approach me often but when they find out my true age they often seem confused, then grow distant and reject me. 🤷🏼♀️Or they think I'll easily sleep with them.
This only started happening when I started telling them I was 50 not 49 ... lol
I find it so odd that when they think Im 35 to begin with they are in hot pursuit when they ask my age they turn cold and avoidant.
It's as if the word 50 seems to be a trigger them.
For a minute I considered lying about my age but that feels ridiculous. The rejection was really hurting my self esteem for a while.
Then I thought about it and came to the conclusion that a Man who can not handle knowing my age at 50 wont be able to handle much of anything else in life.
I know my worth and my capacity to give, LOVE and be HAPPY.
These are weird times. Good Luck out there.
Women love yourselves the most-- as people make the wrong partner choices all the time thru faulty decision making.
But to the men who reject successful career woman , intellectual women or simply because you thought someone younger and hotter will make you feel better about yourself I hope your ego takes good care of you when you are old and God forbid sick.🤷🏼♀️
A friend dated a guy until he invited her to play tennis. When she beat him, he got angry and wouldn't speak to her again. Hurtful, but if someone can't handle who you are, you're better off without them. As in, "go where you're celebrated, not where you're (sort of) tolerated." Life is a grand adventure at any age at which you find yourself, so it's best to be with happy people. 😊
@@reneerayl3526 Point well taken🙌🏻😀
You are the kindest woman I have ever met in my life... Thank you.
Thank you Sandra, I sure don't feel like I've been "living" much for the past couple years. Yes, it is time to get back to it again! I agree, not taking things personally is key to having peace of mind. As for getting less attention with age, I wish I hadn't minded the wolf whistles when I was younger lol That's ok, it's biology and I had my time in the sun but still strive to be fantastic for my age and any age I will be blessed to be. Isn't it nice to see a famous actress age naturally? I don't understand the filler/botox craze that doesn't look natural. I always think of how lovely Jessica Tandy looked. And now you :)xo
Yes, Jessica Tandy. What a great actress and a role model for aging gracefully. Thank you so much for inviting all of us of that. Thank you so much for your thoughts and I’m happy you watch today
I really needed to hear this morning- not “living” for the last couple of years.” Over the last couple of weeks, I have been reflecting on just that in my own life. Perhaps through Sandra’s page we can encourage each other!