Ladies-why would you WANT someone like that? So douchey and selfish whether he changes or not. It should be his empathy for humans that makes him stop, not some girl he is challenged by
Bre Klein yes! That’s exactly what I was thinking seeing some of these comments; being so forgiving of these types of guys. It’s true, a girl shouldn’t have to be this special kind of girl for a guy to want to change and be a decent human being. He’s a jackass, a coward and is not deserving of any woman let alone what’s considered a high quality woman in today’s standards. That’s BS. These are games to him regardless, that’s the point and is what should make him unworthy and avoided at all costs.These men deserve what they dish out and this doesn’t happen often enough. I shouldn’t have to go through hoops and fit into this perfect cookie cutter box in order for a man to accept me and not be a shitty person to me. The best scenario is for him to change due to a direct negative effect from his treatment of women ie. realizing too late he lost someone good because of his abusive childish games and living with that pain and remorse a good while. An eye for an eye. THAT’S the realistic way of looking at this not with sympathies for a straight up manipulative fuckboy. And by the way, there’s no way a woman would ever get away with this sort of behavior. She would be considered the worst, a whore, slut, worthless etc. Men are privileged and a lot of them take advantage of the fact society forgives their abhorrent behavior so easily compared to women. We are held to such impossible standards, we can never truly win in this game that shouldn’t have to be one to begin with but a guy can get away with it all plus more; praised for being a shit human being while us women considered the scum of the earth if we ever pulled the same games. It’s nothing short of emotional abuse, it’s a lot more serious than often portrayed. I mean women in this situation will usually end up losing lot of if not all of their self-esteem and self-trust when this happens. It takes a lot of time and therapy to move past that and it’s never something they caused for wanting basic time and respect from someone they’re seeing. Ugh, this just makes me crazy
Truth be told “players” are honestly the best guys in the world…but let me explain because it’s kinda tricky to truly understand at first. In short-really getting a “player” to fall in love will do 2 things: it will truly show whether you really love him & most important it will make you fall in love with yourself for sure. So it can be a win-win for both parties:) These guys are charming, sweet, sexy, & confident. They appear to be every girl’s dream & they know it. BUT all of that is really just a thick armor & mask protecting what’s really inside. Deep down these are the most sensitive guys in the world. When they love they love hard & that can make them vulnerable which is more terrifying than death to them. But it’s also what they want more than anything… So they put up walls around their hearts & use barriers so that women can’t trigger their feelings. They use charm & sweet talk to maintain control, attention, validation & to get their emotional needs met without having to actually fall in love & risk getting hurt. It takes a special & patient woman who is willing to understand him, trust him & to be able to penetrate the walls gently & prove that she’s worthy of him letting her in. I find most of these guys don’t lie with the big stuff. They’ll tell you straight up they’re not looking for a relationship for one reason or another but they’re so charming that women continue to date them thinking & hoping that eventually the guy will fall in love. But that will never happen because these guys can’t fall in love with a girl that allows herself to be an “option.” They need a woman who is genuinely a game changer & who knows not only her worth but his as well & requires it from him before she commits to a relationship….& the truth is it’s always YOUR choice as a woman to decide what YOU want from HIM. That’s the real beauty that women sometimes don’t understand. The key is to see past the mask & speak to who he really is inside & completely open yourself up being vulnerable by telling him exactly why you’re into him while being 100% prepared to walk away calmly when he can’t give you what you want. If your guy works on Wall St compliment how hard working he is. If he’s a police officer tell him how much you admire how brave & manly he is. Never lie though…this is never a game. He has to feel what’s in your heart for his to unlock. Tell him how sexy he is..tell how good he makes you feel when he’s around you. Tell him how amazing he is in bed. Wrap your arms around him & hug him every time you see him, take him by the hand, put your head on his chest, & don’t be afraid of showing your affection. You have to stroke his ego & make him feel good. (Lots of girls think they hate this part but it’s honestly the only way to jumpstart his feelings for you…plus it’s adorable to watch how happy he gets when you compliment him:) You just want to use your emotions as an asset to make him realize that you see who is really is & how amazing you think he is…But then you also have to be extremely firm that you “don’t share well” & like him too much to not have exclusivity. Tell him you would never put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt & say goodbye with a smile :) You HAVE to walk away calmly, friendly, no hard feelings & wish him all the best if he’s not claiming you as his girl. No excuses ever!! He can’t trust, respect, or love a woman who can’t see thru his bullsh*t & require more from him. Don’t be concerned with his response when you do this…The really good “players” will respond either 1 of 3 ways. They will either say, “Ok” & pretend like they don’t care or they might just completely ignore you. Or they might be totally cool with it & wish you the best as well. Don’t react at all if he’s not showing any emotion. They are looking for you to get upset- it’s almost like a little test. Stay calm & don’t show any reaction other than being friendly & wishing him the best!! If a guys gets mad though & tries to insult you he’s not a real “player” & it shows his true character which you shouldn’t want in the first place. Even still don’t react negatively. Say something like, “awww I’m sorry you feel that way but I’m just doing what’s best for me. Best of luck :)” It’s like acting at first & seems scary but it works like magic. Most of the time this process needs to be repeated multiple times but in the process you actually see what he’s really about & whether you REALLY love him, you learn to value yourself, & it allows him to catch GENUINE feelings for you. Treat yourself as the prize by opening up to him without fear by telling him exactly why you’re crazy about him but at the same time having the smarts to walk away when he still can’t commit. He will be fascinated, in shock, & come back enchanted. **Never just believe what a guy tells you until his actions consistently match his words. & don’t be surprised if he starts distancing himself. That’s usually because he’s feeling his feelings which makes him uncomfortable. Never get upset-you’re the prize & he will come back with more intensity. Remember that you as the woman are in control. If you ever feel that he’s not being honest for whatever reason instead of getting angry or upset or stalking his social media, or going through his phone, say something like, “Hey hun. I can just feel that you’re not ready to give me what I’m looking for. I would never want to pressure you in any way but I want you 100% or I can’t have you at all. I know you understand exactly where I’m coming from… I wish you all the best always.”……And then you walk walk walk with your head held high. He can’t have a relationship with you until he proves he’s trustworthy! He will learn very quickly that you are not one that will be “played” & his respect for you will skyrocket to another level…& so will his feelings for you :) & p.s. he will come back!!! Always use your intuition but see the best in him & talk only to that part of him. The REAL man behind the armor…. But put yourself first & make him fall in love by letting him go every time he can’t give you what you want. Respect his choice & walk away nicely. It’s the walking away without drama that entices these guys-they don’t understand it & sets you apart from other women. As long as he’s attracted to you & you make him feel like no other woman does he will always come back... & he will adore you all the more for giving him the real challenge that he’s looking for. ***Oh & I almost forgot to mention- patience is key!!! These guys don’t give their hearts up easily (they talk like they do but they really don’t. They talk really smooth in the beginning when they don’t have any genuine feelings. You can’t listen to smooth talk because it means nothing…You have to go deeper to see what a guy is really about… The quieter these guys get the better it is because that means they are starting to develop real feelings - which is uncomfortable for them & makes them get a little distant…That’s actually a good thing! Let him have his space so he can figure stuff out.) When he reaches back out again & the charming smooth talk stops that’s when you know that you’re getting closer to seeing the REAL him. I think that the more masculine & stoic they are (soldiers, athletes, firefighters, alpha males, etc) the longer it takes for them to realize their feelings & trust you. You have to walk away ALOT in the beginning & sometimes they stay gone for months before they reach out again…But they always come back more genuinely & with more intensity each time. This is also the part of the process where you decide whether you are really in love with him in the first place. You are both feeling each other out in a legit, genuine way. Once he realizes that you’ve gotten into his soul he won’t fight his feelings anymore. He knows he’s home with you & he will cherish & love you like no other man ever could…..He will be your hero….& you will realize that he was worth every second of the wait :)
Damn bih that’s a novel, you have a valid point but girl who has the time for a man that wears a mask or armor that you have to chisel through for simple human decency.
Indi Genius Thanks for the comment...True its work but it’s always been worth it bc these guys really are the best in every way once you break down the walls. I guess I like a challenge too ;) I figure everything worth it in life takes work & patience. I don’t think love should be any different.
Hiiii!!!! I thought I was the insane one to think like this tbfh. And I honestly agree 100%!!! There are so many different types of players and some more extreme than others but I know a lot of players aren’t meant to be one. They just are for whatever reason. thank you for this comment.
The worst part is that in the beginning, the player acts super nice. They tries to lure you in... And maybe you’re lonely and wants love, and the player sees that vulnerable person. So it’s a sad reality, you gotta keep your eyes open.
I was with a narcissist player . He is a deceiver and manipulative . Likes young and old girls . Once he gets what he wants he will discard and move on to the next supply. Makes my blood boil.
@@scorpionqueen12 same even i like a player whos in the same grade as me and flirted with my sister whos 18 years old n like hes 4 years younger than her....n my sis dont even like him, shes taken💀💖
4 years ago and I was searching for the best answer for my situation and I’ve found it. Thank you for making this video. Sometimes we as women get lost in a man and we end up losing our true self trying to win him over but the reality is continuing to be and love yourself. Putting all that energy you’re putting into that man back into yourself and making your wants want you!
Why would anyone actually want to be with a player? They offer nothing. Don’t make it a challenge to get them to settle for you. That’s not winning Sis.
Well if a man describes himself as a womanizer, cheats everytime, marry a woman and tell her he would not be a player anymore, then cheats on his wife very few months after the wedding.. Run Girls, run!
Players fool around with any kind woman, including married ones, why would a smart free spirit woman would like to get tamed by him, as soon as he gets you in love with him he will be back to be a player.
Women don’t understand that players are created by women. We get hurt and day fuck that, I won’t get hurt anymore. That’s why there are “so many players”
Am be honest I want too give away my player ways for a good woman when the time is right when I get married with one person I won’t even think about no other woman no more than the one woman going too spend the rest of my life with tbh
Why is the hell would you EVER want a player, even if he would reforms for you?? His lies, manipulations and sexual abuse of women should be a huge turn off to you. Don't you have morals? The player is not special, he is a criminal. If you lack morals like the player, you dereve each other! But if you have a heart and a soul: Fuck the player, but not the way he you wants to!! Stay safe put there my dear sisters!
When a player falls in love, they fall hard for their lady. Theres a time where every player, no matter the age, will have to say "Fuck this playing around shit" and grow up and work on himself. A player is never born, it is made from all the hardships and pain he went through that hes had enough of it and decides to become a player. If a lady gives him that tough love that he need or someone that is there for him and take care of him, he will see that. All players are different. Some all it takes is for someone to be there for him through the good and bad times, some need tough love. But once all that armor falls, you will see that he really loves his lady, but cant because hes scared to fall in love cuz he doesnt wanna feel hurt and in pain again. Its the same for ladys. Ladys play hard to get because they wanna see if the man really loves her and if hes still there even through it all, then she will slowly open up to him.
I was never a player. After I broke up with a girl I loved I became one and it wasn’t intentional. The breakup changed me. I didn’t mean to be like this but now I’m in too deep and do it too much. I can’t love anyone the same. Every girl I talk to it always feels like I’m incapable of falling in love again. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
As player myself u ONLY CHANGE WHEN U YOU WANT TO CHANGE within yourself. No one changes for another person, if u "change" for the person then it's never a change bc u will get back to your old self. A player changes when they want to on their own but by being influenced
I said to a player who is after me "are you falling in love with me" and he said back "you could say" then went on to say "There is something so unique and special about you" Please tell me what he meant by that x
@@shannane5171 if his actions match his words then it could mean he really likes u but if he says a bunch of pretty stuff and doesn't make u feel sure of his intentions with u then he's gaslighting u playing u, walk away immediately or you'll suffer to death trust me
my dumb ugly ass ex used me and told my friend that he was using me 😠😠😠😠👊👊👊 he played me and now he's telling everyone that I'm a bad person and I was around a lot of guys when he cheated on me like I think 10 times or more its been more than i year and i still hear people talking about it should I just expose he's ass and tell everyone who he really is or should I just leave it alone and ignore he's comments about me ??
tina toribio He feels you are supeiror to him.Otherwise he wouldn'tbbother.He is guilty of doing these things.He knows he can get a serious relationship.He needs many people because he needs attention to fill up his empty stupid self.
I'm trying to change! It's hard when you're used to getting all these beautiful women. A women who isn't easy is to us players will definitely make me want to try harder and be more focused on her.
A man or woman who sleeps around is ego driven and does it for validation. Someone with true confidence doesn't have to sleep around. " A woman who isn't easy will make a player try harder?" Quit blaming women for the way you behave and treat others. Your issues are your issues regardless. A good woman will be involved with you one time and dump you so fast bc she will see you have a lot of work to do. A man who sleeps around is not attractive. He is low value and very insecure. Please look inside yourself and take responsibility for your behavior
Many times I have realised in my life that both women and men that are players don't feel worthy and serious themselves.They are just for the show.They don't feel like someone with high standards or ambition would do anything serious with them so they go out with anyone and just switch people like they change clothes just to feel they got the game when in reality no side chick or fuckboy they are using would ever do anything for them when they are in need.
Hey. I agree! I think ive stayed with my guy as long as i have is because i make him do all the calling and persuing and ive tried to breakup with him from the beginning. We've been together 3 years. I say hey, if thats what you want , go for it, but I won't be here when you get back, so you need to make a decision. This peter pan syndrome is for the birds. Ladies stand up to these guys. Its like a job, I was looking when I found this one, I think I can find another one attitude. And look up Sheraseven on here on how not to care, when they get pushy. She has been a tremendous inspiration for me.
I love the home atmosphere and you just welcoming us into your heartfelt advice. I think your series would look even more inviting if you were sitting at the dinner table. Like were friends just sitting across from each other. What do you think?
1. They like attention. It's an ego boost knowing lots of girls want you 2. She's the backup when he dumps currently gf 3. She might be more open to a hookup
So basically, if you don't react to him, then you can change him? Or you show him that you don't play around? Yeah I should look at some more options...
This is great, I decided to ignore this playa playa that I like for a whole week, let's see what happens, he is annoying me because he switches up and always expects the most from me. Ugh I'm over it, I'm gonna give it to this playa, thank you so much
this is kind of funny. this guy tried making me jelous i didnt give in at a first but i slowly did just beacuse this guy he sent over to me was a guy i dated in the past. But he thinks im playing games but i know hes playing games. I dont always text him. i dont give him sex unless i want it. i dont say i love you back. i see him talking to girls in front of me i look away i act like i dont notice. i dont mean to be a player but i come off that way when i dont have trust in that person. and most likey it looks like it kind of making him pissed off. i also block him sometimes to see his reaction to it.
he don't have a choice but to push them to the side because I'll push him to the side he know I don't play and won't play I told him I'm the wrong woman u won't to play games with because I'm grown if we gone be doing things like a grown then act like a grown up
This guy I know loves attention from any women. I didn't know he was a player. I've been out of the dating scene for 20 years. He gave me attention, hugging me everytime he saw me. I asked me out. We had a great time and then he said he wanted to "hang out with me." At this stage for a newly divorced woman, I feel this is a good thing and told him ok. At the end of the date, he walked me to my car and walked away after we talked. I playfully called after him saying "where's my hug?" which is something he's said to me repeatedly. I was shocked when he responded "I don't usually give people hugs" and then ran back to me for a hug. What's up with that? I was helping him with a project so I sent him what I promised a couple of days later. I also sent a text telling him I enjoyed hanging out. I also asked him why he reacted so abruptly when I asked him for a hug. It's been 8 days and no reponse. After watching your video, I believe I have found a player. Im having a friends brunch in 3 weeks should I invite him or let it go.
My bf is Gemini...if he thinks I will change for him to keep him no way Why? First of all im physically attractive, no kids, own my house and have job. He has baggage! He play games I do the same ...
Lmao so funny my guy friend is almost like that. When I start having fun and enjoying myself he start liking like pics more and such. I lose interest ...players are something else
I’m so confuse with my player :( He was a player before he met me. The first two years he held on to his ex…. Then he stopped and clean up his acted… then his parent got divorce and he started to act like a jerk again…. Then last year he started to go back to smoking and drinking then I had to end my engagement because I saw him screen shot girls because I said no to giving him a baby because of his actions….. it’s hard because he been going to therapy and he has seem to slowly change but he still smokes weed and drinks all the time… I’m very confuse
Why would a single guy who finds you attractive enough to get your #, string you along by saying he wants to go out, you agree, but he never makes solid plans?
Cuz he is dating some other girl at the moment. When it doesn't work out he'll start making plans with you. I wouldn't let him put me as a back up. You deserve better.
He's already flaked on you and if you're still entertaining him, this may show that he can treat you this way and you're okay with it. That being said I would let him go and not look back. On another note, *Require him to make plans and follow through and/or tell him if he cannot set dates and following through that you are not interested. Let him know in a calm manner if you like your dates to be planned a week ahead of time, 3 days a head or however you see it so that he doesnt plan and you don't accept sketchy last minute dates. Maybe the next time he mentions a date your reply can be similar to, " I'd enjoy going out on a date with you. If you want to take me out, let your girl know a week ahead and follow through. If this is an issue, maybe it's best we go our separate ways." I've found that being honest, while still showing interest and not having an attitude (or being emotional about it) can help tremendously. And if he doesn't follow through, drop him. Decide how you want to be treated (think of how you'd want a man to treat your daughter), set those standards and make sure they meet those standards. Remain kind, classy and get your point across, with no exceptions. 💜
What happens if a player changes for a girl but she falls for another dude then he's stuck with anguish and tries to flex his seductive muscles and picks up as many girls as possible to get back at her?
It wouldn't work. It's only going to makes her decision to fall for the other guy stronger and the player more cheaper. I would say take that time to heal yourself and focus on your growth, and since you are already on the right path to change, you will find someone who is equally as important to you or more. Then again all of these are just bunch of words if you don't want to commit to your new lifestyle. Well all the very best.
I have a question, I met this girl 1 week ago we started texting I told her my age and it turns out that am 7 years older than her she getting mixed emotions about my age we never had sex she over 21 what should I do should I see other people??? she is saying we see how it goes from what i know of her she is shy and dont want to hurt her any advice
Caylin J. Ano I was thinking that to about the age gap ,I don't know if she in it for fun or she wants a relationship? She wants to get to know me and If I started dating other girls she probably find out am just out of a 9 year relationship about 7 months ago and I have a 7 year old boy to my ex
+Gary Nann Who cares if she finds out, u aren't monogamous. She wants to take it slow, great, u can too while seeing other ppl. I can't read minds, ask her what she wants. My guess is relationship. Don't think too far ahead tho. Good luck! plz like my ques.
U can't. But it's a good sign if he pursues u via skype or phone calls, which might lead to him asking u out on dates, which would lead to figuring out his motives. Good serious signs include: no games, respectfulness, directness, honesty, and chemistry.
A guy that I love seemingly keeps contradicting himself like at the beginning he was running after me when I had no feelings for him but there's a problem happened when I talked to an another guy so he assumed that I dated him, he keeps telling me that I lied and so as he keeps stressing about it and btw we were not even together whatsoever yet he knew that I liked him and was like how come you can see someone and just simply like me? after that i felt it and I fell in love with him and not only just liking him. I told him that I'm interested and his reaction was I'm not ready for sth serious and neither will I consider it for now and not for a while... plus I tried to stop texting because I'm hurt and yet he still texts and calls.. why is he doing that? he doesn't want to be in a relationship and still he keeps doing that and I'm lost
Here is some Red pill knowledge A guy can Change for himself A But not for a woman And a woman can change for herself but not for another man. If you let anyone change you they will lose respect for you because your not being the same person you were when you first got to know each other you end up acting like someone else. Everybody you meet in life has their own personality. And when it comes to being a player woman will choose this type of guy throughout their 20’s because they know they will hit the wall in their 30’s. They are most desired in their 20’s So they have fun sleeping around Enjoying their hoe faze while their still single and eventually. When all of the alphas and players are no longer available then she will choose to settle down with the good man because he is all that she has to choose from. And the only one looking for a relationship.
I like a girl. We spend a lot of time together and text often. However, I'm not getting any clues from her body language that she sees me as more than a friend. My question thus being: Should I tell her how I feel if I think she doesn't feel the same way?
1st try telling her you wanna take her on a date to X on Sat. She says no without resched, u have an answer. If she says yes, have fun, be a gentleman, and don't forget to physically flirt with her to avoid that friend zone. Good luck
Thing is, we've done lots of stuff one-on-one (more than in a group and often on her invitation) but our interactions have been purely platonic up to this point. Will it not freak her out if I suddenly ask her on a date?
+Frederick Tolchard It could. Could also lose or make the friendship awk. But risks like these are healthy. I bet she has an idea that you're into her. Maybe she's waiting for u to "make a move". You'll find out when u go for it! Ask her out on a date. Be yourself with a pinch of tease and flirtation.
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This is so true
He won't change for a girl...he changes because he grew up.
Speak from Experience
Hahahaha. No since he become a player since he grow up.
Nah my dad changed for a girl which is now my mom ;)
Absolutely
EXACTLY!
Ladies-why would you WANT someone like that? So douchey and selfish whether he changes or not. It should be his empathy for humans that makes him stop, not some girl he is challenged by
Bre Klein couldn't agree more!!
Bre Klein yeah
Because some of them are rlly nice and sweet ooof
Bre Klein yes! That’s exactly what I was thinking seeing some of these comments; being so forgiving of these types of guys. It’s true, a girl shouldn’t have to be this special kind of girl for a guy to want to change and be a decent human being. He’s a jackass, a coward and is not deserving of any woman let alone what’s considered a high quality woman in today’s standards. That’s BS. These are games to him regardless, that’s the point and is what should make him unworthy and avoided at all costs.These men deserve what they dish out and this doesn’t happen often enough. I shouldn’t have to go through hoops and fit into this perfect cookie cutter box in order for a man to accept me and not be a shitty person to me. The best scenario is for him to change due to a direct negative effect from his treatment of women ie. realizing too late he lost someone good because of his abusive childish games and living with that pain and remorse a good while. An eye for an eye. THAT’S the realistic way of looking at this not with sympathies for a straight up manipulative fuckboy. And by the way, there’s no way a woman would ever get away with this sort of behavior. She would be considered the worst, a whore, slut, worthless etc. Men are privileged and a lot of them take advantage of the fact society forgives their abhorrent behavior so easily compared to women. We are held to such impossible standards, we can never truly win in this game that shouldn’t have to be one to begin with but a guy can get away with it all plus more; praised for being a shit human being while us women considered the scum of the earth if we ever pulled the same games. It’s nothing short of emotional abuse, it’s a lot more serious than often portrayed. I mean women in this situation will usually end up losing lot of if not all of their self-esteem and self-trust when this happens. It takes a lot of time and therapy to move past that and it’s never something they caused for wanting basic time and respect from someone they’re seeing. Ugh, this just makes me crazy
Coz 99.99% of men are like that..l guess..lol
Truth be told “players” are honestly the best guys in the world…but let me explain because it’s kinda tricky to truly understand at first. In short-really getting a “player” to fall in love will do 2 things: it will truly show whether you really love him & most important it will make you fall in love with yourself for sure. So it can be a win-win for both parties:)
These guys are charming, sweet, sexy, & confident. They appear to be every girl’s dream & they know it. BUT all of that is really just a thick armor & mask protecting what’s really inside. Deep down these are the most sensitive guys in the world. When they love they love hard & that can make them vulnerable which is more terrifying than death to them. But it’s also what they want more than anything…
So they put up walls around their hearts & use barriers so that women can’t trigger their feelings. They use charm & sweet talk to maintain control, attention, validation & to get their emotional needs met without having to actually fall in love & risk getting hurt. It takes a special & patient woman who is willing to understand him, trust him & to be able to penetrate the walls gently & prove that she’s worthy of him letting her in.
I find most of these guys don’t lie with the big stuff. They’ll tell you straight up they’re not looking for a relationship for one reason or another but they’re so charming that women continue to date them thinking & hoping that eventually the guy will fall in love. But that will never happen because these guys can’t fall in love with a girl that allows herself to be an “option.” They need a woman who is genuinely a game changer & who knows not only her worth but his as well & requires it from him before she commits to a relationship….& the truth is it’s always YOUR choice as a woman to decide what YOU want from HIM. That’s the real beauty that women sometimes don’t understand.
The key is to see past the mask & speak to who he really is inside & completely open yourself up being vulnerable by telling him exactly why you’re into him while being 100% prepared to walk away calmly when he can’t give you what you want. If your guy works on Wall St compliment how hard working he is. If he’s a police officer tell him how much you admire how brave & manly he is. Never lie though…this is never a game. He has to feel what’s in your heart for his to unlock. Tell him how sexy he is..tell how good he makes you feel when he’s around you. Tell him how amazing he is in bed. Wrap your arms around him & hug him every time you see him, take him by the hand, put your head on his chest, & don’t be afraid of showing your affection. You have to stroke his ego & make him feel good. (Lots of girls think they hate this part but it’s honestly the only way to jumpstart his feelings for you…plus it’s adorable to watch how happy he gets when you compliment him:) You just want to use your emotions as an asset to make him realize that you see who is really is & how amazing you think he is…But then you also have to be extremely firm that you “don’t share well” & like him too much to not have exclusivity. Tell him you would never put yourself in a situation where you could get hurt & say goodbye with a smile :) You HAVE to walk away calmly, friendly, no hard feelings & wish him all the best if he’s not claiming you as his girl. No excuses ever!! He can’t trust, respect, or love a woman who can’t see thru his bullsh*t & require more from him.
Don’t be concerned with his response when you do this…The really good “players” will respond either 1 of 3 ways. They will either say, “Ok” & pretend like they don’t care or they might just completely ignore you. Or they might be totally cool with it & wish you the best as well. Don’t react at all if he’s not showing any emotion. They are looking for you to get upset- it’s almost like a little test. Stay calm & don’t show any reaction other than being friendly & wishing him the best!! If a guys gets mad though & tries to insult you he’s not a real “player” & it shows his true character which you shouldn’t want in the first place. Even still don’t react negatively. Say something like, “awww I’m sorry you feel that way but I’m just doing what’s best for me. Best of luck :)”
It’s like acting at first & seems scary but it works like magic. Most of the time this process needs to be repeated multiple times but in the process you actually see what he’s really about & whether you REALLY love him, you learn to value yourself, & it allows him to catch GENUINE feelings for you. Treat yourself as the prize by opening up to him without fear by telling him exactly why you’re crazy about him but at the same time having the smarts to walk away when he still can’t commit. He will be fascinated, in shock, & come back enchanted.
**Never just believe what a guy tells you until his actions consistently match his words. & don’t be surprised if he starts distancing himself. That’s usually because he’s feeling his feelings which makes him uncomfortable. Never get upset-you’re the prize & he will come back with more intensity. Remember that you as the woman are in control.
If you ever feel that he’s not being honest for whatever reason instead of getting angry or upset or stalking his social media, or going through his phone, say something like, “Hey hun. I can just feel that you’re not ready to give me what I’m looking for. I would never want to pressure you in any way but I want you 100% or I can’t have you at all. I know you understand exactly where I’m coming from… I wish you all the best always.”……And then you walk walk walk with your head held high. He can’t have a relationship with you until he proves he’s trustworthy! He will learn very quickly that you are not one that will be “played” & his respect for you will skyrocket to another level…& so will his feelings for you :) & p.s. he will come back!!!
Always use your intuition but see the best in him & talk only to that part of him. The REAL man behind the armor…. But put yourself first & make him fall in love by letting him go every time he can’t give you what you want. Respect his choice & walk away nicely. It’s the walking away without drama that entices these guys-they don’t understand it & sets you apart from other women. As long as he’s attracted to you & you make him feel like no other woman does he will always come back... & he will adore you all the more for giving him the real challenge that he’s looking for.
***Oh & I almost forgot to mention- patience is key!!! These guys don’t give their hearts up easily (they talk like they do but they really don’t. They talk really smooth in the beginning when they don’t have any genuine feelings. You can’t listen to smooth talk because it means nothing…You have to go deeper to see what a guy is really about… The quieter these guys get the better it is because that means they are starting to develop real feelings - which is uncomfortable for them & makes them get a little distant…That’s actually a good thing! Let him have his space so he can figure stuff out.) When he reaches back out again & the charming smooth talk stops that’s when you know that you’re getting closer to seeing the REAL him.
I think that the more masculine & stoic they are (soldiers, athletes, firefighters, alpha males, etc) the longer it takes for them to realize their feelings & trust you. You have to walk away ALOT in the beginning & sometimes they stay gone for months before they reach out again…But they always come back more genuinely & with more intensity each time. This is also the part of the process where you decide whether you are really in love with him in the first place. You are both feeling each other out in a legit, genuine way.
Once he realizes that you’ve gotten into his soul he won’t fight his feelings anymore. He knows he’s home with you & he will cherish & love you like no other man ever could…..He will be your hero….& you will realize that he was worth every second of the wait :)
I swear to God...I can't ever thank you enough..
Damn bih that’s a novel, you have a valid point but girl who has the time for a man that wears a mask or armor that you have to chisel through for simple human decency.
Indi Genius Thanks for the comment...True its work but it’s always been worth it bc these guys really are the best in every way once you break down the walls. I guess I like a challenge too ;) I figure everything worth it in life takes work & patience. I don’t think love should be any different.
@@sabrinarios9 Please give me your contact. I love what you wrote and you really have a good point.
Hiiii!!!! I thought I was the insane one to think like this tbfh. And I honestly agree 100%!!! There are so many different types of players and some more extreme than others but I know a lot of players aren’t meant to be one. They just are for whatever reason. thank you for this comment.
Yay! I was picked 😱 thanks so much I really needed this
You are welcome TheBeautyRoom99.
The worst part is that in the beginning, the player acts super nice. They tries to lure you in... And maybe you’re lonely and wants love, and the player sees that vulnerable person. So it’s a sad reality, you gotta keep your eyes open.
I was with a narcissist player . He is a deceiver and manipulative . Likes young and old girls . Once he gets what he wants he will discard and move on to the next supply. Makes my blood boil.
@@scorpionqueen12 same even i like a player whos in the same grade as me and flirted with my sister whos 18 years old n like hes 4 years younger than her....n my sis dont even like him, shes taken💀💖
4 years ago and I was searching for the best answer for my situation and I’ve found it. Thank you for making this video. Sometimes we as women get lost in a man and we end up losing our true self trying to win him over but the reality is continuing to be and love yourself. Putting all that energy you’re putting into that man back into yourself and making your wants want you!
Why would anyone actually want to be with a player? They offer nothing. Don’t make it a challenge to get them to settle for you. That’s not winning Sis.
Well if a man describes himself as a womanizer, cheats everytime, marry a woman and tell her he would not be a player anymore, then cheats on his wife very few months after the wedding.. Run Girls, run!
Players fool around with any kind woman, including married ones, why would a smart free spirit woman would like to get tamed by him, as soon as he gets you in love with him he will be back to be a player.
Women don’t understand that players are created by women. We get hurt and day fuck that, I won’t get hurt anymore. That’s why there are “so many players”
Any body could change that’s if they want too and it gotta be at the right time too
Am be honest I want too give away my player ways for a good woman when the time is right when I get married with one person I won’t even think about no other woman no more than the one woman going too spend the rest of my life with tbh
Why is the hell would you EVER want a player, even if he would reforms for you?? His lies, manipulations and sexual abuse of women should be a huge turn off to you. Don't you have morals? The player is not special, he is a criminal. If you lack morals like the player, you dereve each other! But if you have a heart and a soul: Fuck the player, but not the way he you wants to!! Stay safe put there my dear sisters!
i did this unintentionally just being myself 😂
If more ppl were themselves, the player will become extinct
@@blueblaze9862 💙
Why do some/most men/ women play games? I play games with kids not with adults. Life is too short and my time is too valuable to be wasted.
This video was my absolute favorite and makes perfect sense! Loved it!
You give good advice knows what you are talking about other TH-cam videos never get to the point like you do
When a player falls in love, they fall hard for their lady. Theres a time where every player, no matter the age, will have to say "Fuck this playing around shit" and grow up and work on himself. A player is never born, it is made from all the hardships and pain he went through that hes had enough of it and decides to become a player. If a lady gives him that tough love that he need or someone that is there for him and take care of him, he will see that. All players are different. Some all it takes is for someone to be there for him through the good and bad times, some need tough love. But once all that armor falls, you will see that he really loves his lady, but cant because hes scared to fall in love cuz he doesnt wanna feel hurt and in pain again. Its the same for ladys. Ladys play hard to get because they wanna see if the man really loves her and if hes still there even through it all, then she will slowly open up to him.
I was never a player. After I broke up with a girl I loved I became one and it wasn’t intentional. The breakup changed me. I didn’t mean to be like this but now I’m in too deep and do it too much. I can’t love anyone the same. Every girl I talk to it always feels like I’m incapable of falling in love again. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
Gosh. You are genius. Please make your other videos as long as this. Thank you for helping us navigate the dating world. Bless!
Why do guys obsess over you but play you when you get in a relationship with them ?
As player myself u ONLY CHANGE WHEN U YOU WANT TO CHANGE within yourself. No one changes for another person, if u "change" for the person then it's never a change bc u will get back to your old self. A player changes when they want to on their own but by being influenced
I said to a player who is after me "are you falling in love with me" and he said back "you could say" then went on to say "There is something so unique and special about you" Please tell me what he meant by that x
@@shannane5171 if his actions match his words then it could mean he really likes u but if he says a bunch of pretty stuff and doesn't make u feel sure of his intentions with u then he's gaslighting u playing u, walk away immediately or you'll suffer to death trust me
Tell me how to be one
@@se.i.4393 how to be what?? A player? 💀
my dumb ugly ass ex used me and told my friend that he was using me 😠😠😠😠👊👊👊 he played me and now he's telling everyone that I'm a bad person and I was around a lot of guys when he cheated on me like I think 10 times or more its been more than i year and i still hear people talking about it should I just expose he's ass and tell everyone who he really is or should I just leave it alone and ignore he's comments about me ??
tina toribio He feels you are supeiror to him.Otherwise he wouldn'tbbother.He is guilty of doing these things.He knows he can get a serious relationship.He needs many people because he needs attention to fill up his empty stupid self.
I'm trying to change! It's hard when you're used to getting all these beautiful women. A women who isn't easy is to us players will definitely make me want to try harder and be more focused on her.
A man or woman who sleeps around is ego driven and does it for validation. Someone with true confidence doesn't have to sleep around. " A woman who isn't easy will make a player try harder?" Quit blaming women for the way you behave and treat others. Your issues are your issues regardless. A good woman will be involved with you one time and dump you so fast bc she will see you have a lot of work to do. A man who sleeps around is not attractive. He is low value and very insecure. Please look inside yourself and take responsibility for your behavior
@@dreamer75438 yess!
You’re a bottom less basket. It takes one to know one ✌🏼
I love this video, you explain things so well :)
He got breakup in past , he started doing smoking, having drunked all the time, he don't want to change for me ? Even not for his good
Many times I have realised in my life that both women and men that are players don't feel worthy and serious themselves.They are just for the show.They don't feel like someone with high standards or ambition would do anything serious with them so they go out with anyone and just switch people like they change clothes just to feel they got the game when in reality no side chick or fuckboy they are using would ever do anything for them when they are in need.
Hey. I agree! I think ive stayed with my guy as long as i have is because i make him do all the calling and persuing and ive tried to breakup with him from the beginning. We've been together 3 years. I say hey, if thats what you want , go for it, but I won't be here when you get back, so you need to make a decision. This peter pan syndrome is for the birds. Ladies stand up to these guys. Its like a job, I was looking when I found this one, I think I can find another one attitude. And look up Sheraseven on here on how not to care, when they get pushy. She has been a tremendous inspiration for me.
Yes it helped! Life is good and he knows it. Enjoy.
Awesome video! See your face makes a big difference. Your new videos are missing this. Please bring your face back.
I love the home atmosphere and you just welcoming us into your heartfelt advice. I think your series would look even more inviting if you were sitting at the dinner table. Like were friends just sitting across from each other. What do you think?
I think players want to have the last laugh. So they chase the woman who they can't control. Because it IS all about control
you are really great at what you do. well done, truly admire your work.
after settling down they will start playing again, coz a a dog tail can never stop wagging
Karma is real .
How do you end the cycle with a player?
stop playing the game and play life (pun) with a diff guy
hayl.k you don't they get hiv or std in the end.
Block.
stop sleeping with him
I am confused if my ex is a player or a narcissist. He never shows remorse in any hurt he gave me.
Run baby run as far as you can go. True love won't give you mixed feeling
I'm that special kind of girl..
Goodluck
Then why are you watching this video?
To confirm she is not like that with every guy @@colleenc.9590
Thanks, I will rather be myself.
Why do men not want women to move on even if they moved on????
1. They like attention. It's an ego boost knowing lots of girls want you 2. She's the backup when he dumps currently gf 3. She might be more open to a hookup
+Caylin J.
If if you don't want them they still try to stop you from moving on, I want to know why???
+Naturegirl121 Who is "they"? Specify a gender specific noun
+Caylin J. Men
+Naturegirl121 I still stand by my generalized list. But I'll add 4. They can be selfish a**holes. 5. They still like/love you, can't let go.
Mauve you can get a player to fall this way, but not to be a committed boyfriend. Don't step into toxic dynamics
So basically, if you don't react to him, then you can change him? Or you show him that you don't play around? Yeah I should look at some more options...
Why are people even watching these videos if this isn't what you're looking for? Smh People are here for whatever reasons. Its great advice 💯
This is great, I decided to ignore this playa playa that I like for a whole week, let's see what happens, he is annoying me because he switches up and always expects the most from me. Ugh I'm over it, I'm gonna give it to this playa, thank you so much
Amalia A hope You feel Great!
May Beni lol thank you, the playa has been tamed lol
Very short and on point thanks
This is a really good advice. Thanks for Sharing. 😊👍🏻
this is kind of funny. this guy tried making me jelous i didnt give in at a first but i slowly did just beacuse this guy he sent over to me was a guy i dated in the past. But he thinks im playing games but i know hes playing games. I dont always text him. i dont give him sex unless i want it. i dont say i love you back. i see him talking to girls in front of me i look away i act like i dont notice. i dont mean to be a player but i come off that way when i dont have trust in that person. and most likey it looks like it kind of making him pissed off. i also block him sometimes to see his reaction to it.
the audio is super low
I want a girlfriend but all of the girls I know have boyfriends or don't like me in that way. What should I do?
Meet new girls... try online dating
+Caylin J. Not a bad idea. Maybe I'll do that.
Get a make over.
he don't have a choice but to push them to the side because I'll push him to the side he know I don't play and won't play I told him I'm the wrong woman u won't to play games with because I'm grown if we gone be doing things like a grown then act like a grown up
This guy I know loves attention from any women. I didn't know he was a player. I've been out of the dating scene for 20 years. He gave me attention, hugging me everytime he saw me. I asked me out. We had a great time and then he said he wanted to "hang out with me." At this stage for a newly divorced woman, I feel this is a good thing and told him ok. At the end of the date, he walked me to my car and walked away after we talked. I playfully called after him saying "where's my hug?" which is something he's said to me repeatedly. I was shocked when he responded "I don't usually give people hugs" and then ran back to me for a hug. What's up with that? I was helping him with a project so I sent him what I promised a couple of days later. I also sent a text telling him I enjoyed hanging out. I also asked him why he reacted so abruptly when I asked him for a hug. It's been 8 days and no reponse.
After watching your video, I believe I have found a player. Im having a friends brunch in 3 weeks should I invite him or let it go.
Wtf... were you searching for a player.
That's was brilliant I really needed to hear this
thank you for looking out for us... looking out for other people :)
i Am addicted to your videos
My bf is Gemini...if he thinks I will change for him to keep him no way Why? First of all im physically attractive, no kids, own my house and have job. He has baggage! He play games I do the same ...
Does high school dating could last long?
Lmao so funny my guy friend is almost like that. When I start having fun and enjoying myself he start liking like pics more and such. I lose interest ...players are something else
Love this channel and your advices 😁
This guy is bad for my business lol 😂
I’m so confuse with my player :(
He was a player before he met me. The first two years he held on to his ex….
Then he stopped and clean up his acted… then his parent got divorce and he started to act like a jerk again…. Then last year he started to go back to smoking and drinking then I had to end my engagement because I saw him screen shot girls because I said no to giving him a baby because of his actions….. it’s hard because he been going to therapy and he has seem to slowly change but he still smokes weed and drinks all the time… I’m very confuse
Your videos are very good.
You're really good at what you do menn. I love you for that.
Why would a single guy who finds you attractive enough to get your #, string you along by saying he wants to go out, you agree, but he never makes solid plans?
Cuz he is dating some other girl at the moment. When it doesn't work out he'll start making plans with you. I wouldn't let him put me as a back up. You deserve better.
He's already flaked on you and if you're still entertaining him, this may show that he can treat you this way and you're okay with it. That being said I would let him go and not look back. On another note, *Require him to make plans and follow through and/or tell him if he cannot set dates and following through that you are not interested. Let him know in a calm manner if you like your dates to be planned a week ahead of time, 3 days a head or however you see it so that he doesnt plan and you don't accept sketchy last minute dates. Maybe the next time he mentions a date your reply can be similar to, " I'd enjoy going out on a date with you. If you want to take me out, let your girl know a week ahead and follow through. If this is an issue, maybe it's best we go our separate ways." I've found that being honest, while still showing interest and not having an attitude (or being emotional about it) can help tremendously. And if he doesn't follow through, drop him. Decide how you want to be treated (think of how you'd want a man to treat your daughter), set those standards and make sure they meet those standards. Remain kind, classy and get your point across, with no exceptions. 💜
thanks so much this help me a lot
Is it too late to start after not being that way in the beginning
What happens if a player changes for a girl but she falls for another dude then he's stuck with anguish and tries to flex his seductive muscles and picks up as many girls as possible to get back at her?
It wouldn't work. It's only going to makes her decision to fall for the other guy stronger and the player more cheaper. I would say take that time to heal yourself and focus on your growth, and since you are already on the right path to change, you will find someone who is equally as important to you or more. Then again all of these are just bunch of words if you don't want to commit to your new lifestyle. Well all the very best.
So helpful. Thank u 🙏🏽
awesome answer
I have a question,
I met this girl 1 week ago we started texting I told her my age and it turns out that am 7 years older than her she getting mixed emotions about my age we never had sex she over 21 what should I do should I see other people??? she is saying we see how it goes from what i know of her she is shy and dont want to hurt her any advice
Dunno why 7yrs is a big deal to her at 21, weird. Date other girls while seeing her too. Figure who's best for you
Caylin J. Ano I was thinking that to about the age gap ,I don't know if she in it for fun or she wants a relationship? She wants to get to know me and If I started dating other girls she probably find out am just out of a 9 year relationship about 7 months ago and I have a 7 year old boy to my ex
+Gary Nann Who cares if she finds out, u aren't monogamous. She wants to take it slow, great, u can too while seeing other ppl. I can't read minds, ask her what she wants. My guess is relationship. Don't think too far ahead tho. Good luck! plz like my ques.
+Caylin J. cheers your right don't wanna come off needy she be seeing other guys too when she goes out
+Caylin J. cheers your right don't wanna come off needy she be seeing other guys too when she goes out
That was like a sermon ! 👍
Very well put
Well said
U on point.Thank you.
I love this video
The only change he changes is the change in his pockets
Is it ok to "casually kiss" a girl in a lower grade than me even if I'm not looking to be in a relationship with her?
noo
why dont you ask Her if its ok with her?
How can I get in contact with you?
May I ask is a player someone who tries it on with girls even if they are in the same location?
why did a boy from the past come back?
You're good...
Player Boy met a Real Chik...😂
how to get an older guy accept my age? (I'm 32, he's 50)
That's a huge ass gap holy shit
I know a couple that married when he was 35 and she was 19. Still happily married with two kids.
Excellent advice!
Can a younger man fall in love with an older woman?
You can't control who you fall in love with
It's means we are not meant to be 4 each other
Why's it so quite?
How do you know if a guy is serious about you when talking online?
U can't. But it's a good sign if he pursues u via skype or phone calls, which might lead to him asking u out on dates, which would lead to figuring out his motives. Good serious signs include: no games, respectfulness, directness, honesty, and chemistry.
Caylin J. Thank you. :)
I NEEDED THIS. IMMNA BE THAT GIRL
If I reacted can I still redeem myself?
Can that still after we’ve had sex and being desperate after breakup? Can I still change him?
A guy that I love seemingly keeps contradicting himself like at the beginning he was running after me when I had no feelings for him but there's a problem happened when I talked to an another guy so he assumed that I dated him, he keeps telling me that I lied and so as he keeps stressing about it and btw we were not even together whatsoever yet he knew that I liked him and was like how come you can see someone and just simply like me? after that i felt it and I fell in love with him and not only just liking him. I told him that I'm interested and his reaction was I'm not ready for sth serious and neither will I consider it for now and not for a while... plus I tried to stop texting because I'm hurt and yet he still texts and calls..
why is he doing that? he doesn't want to be in a relationship and still he keeps doing that and I'm lost
Stay away from him , his playing games and once he gets your cooky he won’t never text nor call you try’s me
yep. they. will. play
U like. a. piano
and. by. the. it. will
not. change. as. they. get. old. .
Thanks for info...
player is always a player
Here is some Red pill knowledge
A guy can Change for himself
A But not for a woman
And a woman can change for herself but not for another man.
If you let anyone change you they will lose respect for you because your not being the same person you were when you first got to know each other you end up acting like someone else.
Everybody you meet in life has their own personality.
And when it comes to being a player woman will choose this type of guy throughout their 20’s because they know they will hit the wall in their 30’s.
They are most desired in their 20’s
So they have fun sleeping around
Enjoying their hoe faze while their still single and eventually. When all of the alphas and players are no longer available then she will choose to settle down with the good man because he is all that she has to choose from.
And the only one looking for a relationship.
This video makes me feel better... 😂
True shit!
I'm a player fuck love 😂
❤true.
I like a girl. We spend a lot of time together and text often. However, I'm not getting any clues from her body language that she sees me as more than a friend. My question thus being: Should I tell her how I feel if I think she doesn't feel the same way?
1st try telling her you wanna take her on a date to X on Sat. She says no without resched, u have an answer. If she says yes, have fun, be a gentleman, and don't forget to physically flirt with her to avoid that friend zone. Good luck
Thing is, we've done lots of stuff one-on-one (more than in a group and often on her invitation) but our interactions have been purely platonic up to this point. Will it not freak her out if I suddenly ask her on a date?
+Frederick Tolchard It could. Could also lose or make the friendship awk. But risks like these are healthy. I bet she has an idea that you're into her. Maybe she's waiting for u to "make a move". You'll find out when u go for it! Ask her out on a date. Be yourself with a pinch of tease and flirtation.
I'm worried about that because I do also cherish her friendship. Damned if I do, damned if I don't I guess...
Do you ever answer these comments?
I like that .... Good advice for those that are attempting to change a mans ways .
thank you so so much