I have heard that numerous times from many people and it totally makes sense. My outlet has been creativity and I feel the exact same - it’s so important to find something meaningful and important and healthy to replace that with so I really appreciate you taking the time to say that because that will be valuable to others who are reading through these comments
@James Topham I really hope that you make it. Every time you go to get a drink think how scared you were and still are. I really wish you well all children need a dad.
Amazing Dalee! I know how that feels and what we become when influenced by booze or other substances is not indicative of who we truly are so don't take that on as your identity my friend. I wish you nothing but the best, I'm so glad I put it aside and wouldn't change a thing. When I think about opening that door again in my life, I instantly think of how I'd feel the next day and of all the ways booze did not serve me and how it brought me no value and it keeps me strong. You'll look back in a short time and be glad you did this :) You might find this video incredibly helpful: th-cam.com/video/4cYuWLZI5kw/w-d-xo.html
You can do it. What has helped me is having a soda instead of something alcoholic. That way I can go through the motion of drinking without actually drinking. Non alcoholic beer can help if you're a beer guy.
Anxiety, sweats, shakes, agitation, money wasted, head fog, organ pain, joint pain, weakness, insomnia, nausea. Yep sounds like one is better off without it.
@William Miles you got that right. when i was a drinker i mostly avoided all bars cause i had noticed that most all bars had nothing but raging alcoholic assholes looking for a fight and i never got into one single fight cause maybe i do look like the kind of dude who takes no shit from anyone, and i did hear of a situation that took place in batavia, illinois, about 30 years ago, where a hippy type guy was just drinking a beer at a bar in batavia and he was minding his own business and a jock type bigger dude walked up to the hippy guy and started a fight and beat him to the floor pretty badly and the hippy guy left the bar and came back within a half hour with a huge hunting knife and walked up to the jock type bigger dude and plunged the knife into his chest and killed him instantly, wow, cool, cause i would have done the same thing, but, had the hippy guy not even gone into the bar and stayed home to drink his poison he would not be sitting in prison, hmmm, i wonder if i could google the story and find out what happened to the hippy guy......., and now that i see how evil alcohol is i sometimes just want to go to a bar for only a few minutes to just observe people drinking that garbage........peace and pot........!!!!
@@ronvalley1973 I don't live in US but yeah, I don't go in bars anymore for the same reasons; drunken assholes. You help someone and you find yourself with the stupid boyfriend; "why are you talking to her? don't talk to her or I kill you!". All the time !!! Sometimes it's the same as your story, just guys that want to start a fight for no reason. I even took care once of a guy that got punched, just to check if he was alive or conscious and bam, what comes to me red angry as a bull? a pal he called before getting knocked out. The guy was huge and it was impossible to tell him with we had nothing to do with the first fight. A friend of mine is like me, tired of getting into fights or dealing with that kind of stupid situations. Poeple with no brain !
Jan I wish there was something I could say or do to remove that burden for you. I'm at a loss for words as I know how hard it can be and mere words don't do much but I appreciate being willing to be open and honest about that here and I wish nothing but the best for you!
That's 2 unhealthy things get that under wraps. U can do it it's fun and life has so much more meaning. ✌OUT. I would suggest getting a fitbit and walk at lease 30 min daily preferably in the morning. Fitbit cheers you on the more you can do the better. I've been walking since 1/4/2014 and currently at 32,000,000 steps or 16,000 miles. I'm 56
I'd recommend you watching some before and after quitting alcohol vids,and motivational vids,you will be amazed if you haven't seen it already.we must move on from the past and become better people today,otherwise it will consume you.if you by chance,believe in God and His SonJesus and wish to start or build or better your relationship with the Father and His Son,can i recommend to you by watching Troy Black youtube videos (only if you are interested,and if you have another faith,i am sorry if you may or if you do get offended, no force or preasure here,I'm just wondering if this may be of help to you,go well.
100% brother! Was hard to believe while being in it but hearing people say that and articulate on it was one of the biggest things that planted seeds of hope.
If anyone is interested in stopping drinking the best results that I have ever had was with the Sebs Magic Tactic (just google it) without a doubt the most incredible plan that I've tried.
Alcohol is insidious and has absolutely no benefits. I was depressed and anxious before quitting and I feel amazingly better now 7 months later. Best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve incorporated a ketogenic diet and starting intermittent fasting after quitting alcohol. I’m 50 pounds down as of today and feeling amazingly alive every day. Best wishes to you keeping that worthless poison out of your life.
Amazing man! That's awesome to hear, great work! I feel the same. Started something similar to keto and am down almost 20 lbs. Been 45 days - no booze and I feel great :) All the best to you
That’s awesome man!! I’m almost a month sober and I’m genuinely sad that I wasted the last 5 years of my life, but it’s all forward from here! Best of luck man!
Day 7 without drinking. Woke up a week ago and said to myself it’s time. Experienced lots of death in my life and have been struggling to find peace. Found a really good audio book to guide me through the process. This video helped a lot as well. My goal is to slide into 2020 happy, healthy and hopeful. I turn 40 this year. Wish me luck!
Good on you. I think you have the right attitude. I woke up and thought "I think I'll just give ths drinking a break for a while, not stopping permanently ,just a break" That BREAK has so far lasted 12 years with no desire to start again
“ALCOHOL” IS SAID TO COME FROM THE ARABIC TERM “AL-KHUL” WHICH MEANS “BODY-EATING SPIRIT” The root of the issue is why we drink brother . May peace be upon you listen to your soul is never wrong
Amazing work Cat! That post drinking anxiety is the worst and I am glad to see what quitting has done for you. Too much booze does so much harm and messes up our mental state. So true. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and I appreciate the thank you :)
I needed to see this. I spent most of today hungover feeling anxious, worthless and depressed. It’s suddenly dawned upon me that I have to stop cold turkey or else my drinking will ruin me. It’ll be tough. I feel like I’m surrounded by a heavy drinking culture and most of my friends won’t understand. But I know it’s for the best.
A thing that makes alcohol dangerous is that it is acceptable in mainstream society and it's legal everywhere. Im kinda addicted to weed so when I had to travel to where it was illegal, it was harder to get.
I’m 28 I’ve been drinking for 7 years straight! I used it to numb my anxiety! In 7 years I’ve done nothing to better my life ! Today is day 3 no drinking I want to see who I am sober!
I understand what you mean about the anxiety I drink for the same reason. I am of it since the 3rd of January and going to try stay off it. I wish you well.
People that haven't struggled with alcohol have know idea how terrifying it really is. The worst days are the ones when you drink not even because you want to but because the anxiety and dull mood become too much to bear. I know what it's like to be sober and fit. I know what it's like to be an endlessly motivated person with a clear head and tons of optimism. I know what it's like to have a healthy lifestyle with a normal sleep schedule. It's only been about 4 years ago but I miss it so much it seems like a lifetime ago. I'm ready to walk away from this monstrous burden of guilt that I've carried for so long. I watched this video along with some others because I'm mentally prepping myself for a new chapter in my life. Jay if you end up reading this I just wanted to say thank you for your courage and transparency in making this video, you're a motivation.
You nailed it Marshall, it’s hell. I’ve learned the most important lessons about myself, human nature, suffering, trauma, addiction, mental health etc that I’ve ever learned in my life in the last 2 years. We fall into addiction to quiet deep pain most of us have no idea is even there because we’ve learned to suppress it but understanding that that is the root cause helps makes sense of it and helps to facilitate healing. We’ll never be able to take an honest look at ourselves if we hate ourselves for our shortcomings. Understanding and empathy is the only way. I wish you all the best! You are a human being with deeply unmet needs and you are not alone in that in a society that has its priorities so screwed up and backwards and the arrogance to think it’s got it all figured out while depression, anxiety and addiction is skyrocketing as we becoming increasingly lonely. “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
For the last 5 years I’ve been considered a heavy drinker, over the last year I was drinking a 12 pack or more a day I would open a beer in the parking lot of work and drink 3 or 4 on my way home, my brother had to have a liver transplant from alcoholism and now he’s 2 years sober, my dad is an alcoholic as well, I have now been 3 weeks sober and I have never felt better my depression and anxiety are down to very manageable levels, the help of my family and my dog is my accountability partner she depends on me to exercise with her and give her nourishment it’s the best decision I’ve ever made thank you for sharing this video keep them coming we’re all in this together!
So amazing brother, I love this. The anxiety and mental chaos too much booze causes is insane! I don't miss that at all. I love waking up in the morning not feeling like a bag of shit and having it eat at my conscience. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and appreciation. Without comments like this, I wouldn't really care to do more videos but I'm planning on doing some more. Thanks again man, we really are in this together!
I appreciate you man. I went 7 months with out a single drop of alcohol back in 2016, and I felt amazing.. but after that I went back to my old ways unfortunately. Decided I needed to get my shit back together knowing I’m 25 years old right now and I can’t keep drinking my life away. I’m currently at 6 days off alcohol and these videos just help me keep pushing.
This makes me happier than anything! Awesome job brother, 6 days is no small feat! I went 9 & 14 months before but didn't like it and missed booze. This time around has been much different. It took a bit of time but I don't even think about it anymore and the changes in my life have made it so worth it brother. Proud of you for making that decision early! If you ever need to connect, hit me up on Instagram. Would be happy to support!! instagram.com/thejaywoodford/
I drink because I'm anxious. I'm anxious because I drink. Vicious circle. Time for drastic change, not had a drink for a week now and already starting to feel healthier, more focussed, more positive and less anxious.
@@tylerdurden4289 yeah man. I posted this 7 months ago but continued to drink. One night got so wasted i punched a hole in my wall. Was anxious the next 2 days after of course. That was it for me. 7 days clean so far and feel great. I don't even have an urge because im so embarrassed. Good luck
Hi. I destroyed the longest unfamiliar affective relationship I've had. I destroyed my 1999 Beetle Sedan. I drink absinthe and then drive. I was not hurt by the crash, the little car was destroyed. The experience was terrible. I didn't hurt anyone but I could have caused hell on earth for me and others. Incredibly, I didn't stop drinking after that. However, today I'm on 202 days of sobriety. I am not against alcohol. I think alcohol saved my life at some point, but now it can destroy me so I want to continue without drinking. It doesn't matter if you have been without drinking for a day or two or 180 or 200 days or one or many years. We are all the same here enjoying only one day at a time of sobriety and it is possible. You can, we can. One day at a time! Greetings to all from Mexico.
Kyle Really appreciate you saying so, brother. Those were the absolute worst. Some days I thought I was going to die it was so bad. Anytime I think about maybe I could drink again, I just think of that feeling and the urge goes away real fast. Working hard on dealing with the root issues so that this gets permanently fixed otherwise it’s always lurking under the surface. Been an incredibly eye-opening last nine months or so, painful but the best ever
Jay Woodford please be gentle w yourself. You’ve got this. You’re doing your work. The real work. Be very proud of yourself. I pray you’re still doing well and grounded.
I needed this today.. I've realised it's a problem now and it needs to change.. its only damaging my health my sanity and my relationships.. thank you sooooo much.. day 1 starts today..
nyny0pickles I know how that feels and I promise you’ll be looking back in a short period of time and be grateful you made that step. I know it feels like an enormous mountain to climb but it may price to be so much easier than you think - especially if you have compelling reasons to make the change. Really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and it means a lot to me to know what I’ve shared has helped you. All the best on your journey!
Its not easy, especially at first, but stay determined and remember why youre doing it. Life is all about your perception. You can do it especially if you're over the old ways of living.
Yeah i havent touched a drink and oh boy i had a couple urges but i appreciate this video and the improvements and benefits thus far are far more better.
11 days sober right now. I like your videos they’re motivating, real, and comforting for lack of a better word. I’ve been on and off struggling since it’s been a serious problem for about 3 yrs but this year I’m giving it all I got to change not going back
Much love to you my brother! Ive been almost 14 days clean no alcohol! Its been a struggle! Ive been back n forth and forth and back. Seems Im always starting over! I had prayed with a pastor at a church I started attending. We prayed on breaking generational curses in tje name of Jesus. I also had to forgive myself and others who had hurt me. I did that and gave myself a big hug and let me tell you God is doing for me what I could not have done for myself! The pastor prayed may Sharon get sick when she picks up a drink . so a week went by after we prayed. I went to drink and was feeling nausiated, So I ignored it and forced the rest down. Then pured myself another drink, drank 3 sips and was so bloated and uncomfortable. I poured the drink and the whole bottle down the drain! I most recently have had a couple cravings but actually got through it! God has done for me what I could not do for myself!
Sharon that is amazing and thank you so much for taking a moment to share your story and I hope that you continue on strong. I know it’s hard but it’s so worth it. Wishing you nothing but strength and resolve through this
I have been drinking from when i was 19 yrs old,. i dont drink every day but when i drink, i slowly gained the habit of drinking a lot,. Now im 29, for 10 yrs i have been drinking. Last week i was at my friend's place and suddnly i realized that my body was so tired that i was actually not enjoying what i was doing. I'm turning 30 coming November. And i'm 8 days sober now. I am realizing how i have been creating excuses often to booze. once a week i have been drinking and this is the first time in years i have not touched even a drop of it for more than a week. cravings comes often but i think the interval is becoming longer now. Hoping for the best,, Thank you for sharing your experience bro,. Positive Vibes throughout
Thank you so much for saying so and for sharing your story and experience. I know that there are a lot of people who are reading through these comments who are struggling and stories like yours will encourage them and help them know they aren’t alone and that there is hope. Really appreciate you again, for taking the time to contribute to this conversation!
I'm tapering off for a few days until I can handle detox. I was binge drinking wine, champagne and white claws for about 6 months and hardly eating. I'm 5'3 and weigh 115lbs, 26 years old. I had a few episodes of severe anxiety and woke up with paranoia and heart palpitations before doing my research and realizing it was from the alcohol (not my natural state) and I was actually experiencing alcohol withdraw. I think it is a major issue that people who are anxious drink to alleviate it but this only somewhat works in the beginning. It's all fun and games until your brain chemistry is changed. I booked a hotel room on the beach for this Tuesday after I can get in a day of feeling slightly okay, it's going to be a long weekend... I haven't gone more than 2 days sober in 6 months so this will be the longest I have gone in 2020. Thank you for this video, only one person in my life knows how bad it's gotten and I still try to hide it from him because he started working night shifts, but he knows and still loves me even after some "drunk" episodes I have had. It has started to sabotage my school, business and health. This comment is painful to write, but it's my truth and I'm happy I'm acknowledging how this problem crept up into my life and I'm finally doing something about it. I wish the best for everyone else and bless those who are sharing their testimonials on TH-cam. It means more than you realize. Some of us don't need to go all the way down the rabbit hole, we just feel ourselves falling.
Ive been blackout drinking for 30 years ….im 47 ...im quitting on my bday in 3 weeks … ive "quit" probably a thousand times before ...I just get so fucking bored and lonely ...I go to work, then the gym then start drinking Lite Beer, nothing but lite beer ….but I drink 12-15 and blackout. Im divorced, no friends really … don't even want friends ...just wanna lock the door, close the blinds, drink and watch youtube. So fucking unhealthy. 30 years of this madness. Enough. Please god gimmee the fucking willpower to end this cycle of stupidity & self destructiveness once n for all.
Jan why is it that you don’t think you want friends? Is it because most are fake/fair weather friends? I know how that feels if that’s the case but when you connect with people that are real and sincere and good people it makes all the difference I promise you. It’s so life giving. I wish that for you. 💜
I have dreamed of quitting alcohol for many years now. I feel so guilty and shitty, and everything in my life suffers every time I drink. I have been two days no drinks, I threw out all the alcohol in my house, I going to give it my best this time. Thanks MAN
Joseph sorry for the late reply! I hope you're staying strong and will be keeping my eyes open for an update. If you've stumbled, theres no shame here - we've all been there. Looking forward to hearing back brother
I am 1 week sober, after years of drinking, because of this video. Every time I get a craving for beer, I watch this! This man is SO real & does not candy coat anything & I REALLY appreciate that. With that being said, I can't thank you enough!
Jay thank you for being authentic. I quit drinking alcohol and everything is better. I have lots of hope, I’m calm, patient, and very happy. It makes life so much more colorful! 😊
Thank you for the kind words! I love what you said there, "It makes life so much more colorful." That's so true. I first saw your comment days ago and it stuck with me. Alcohol takes the edge off but makes life bland. That's such a true statement you made. I feel 10x better without it as well and good for you on taking that step as well :)
Hi everyone, I’ve been drinking everyday for a decade now and I regret many times. I’ve said/done some horrible things that I’m so ashamed of and wish I could erase them. My life is so empty from drinking. I hear all the time of how much better things get after just quitting for one week but I can’t not even go a night without drinking after work at home alone. I can’t wait to finally kick this habit and get back to my full potential. Thanks for listening to me.
I'm so glad I found this video. I've decided to take a break from alcohol. I'm so glad to hear someone else say they had anxiety attacks after drinking. I've thought I was just crazy and even thought I had a heart condition. I truly believe that it's the alcohol and can't wait to not feel like this anymore. This is day 1 and I'm already feeling on edge but I'm just taking as it comes. I'm sick of it.
Fallon the anxiety is definitely not an uncommon problem from what I hear from others as well. I had it big time and it was awful. It’s been a couple days, I hope you are doing well And I really appreciate you taking a moment to share your struggles and I wish you nothing but the best!
In 2017, I went sober for 10 straight months. It was the best feeling in the world. Then life got the best of me and so I went back to the bottle. My ex-girlfriend left me three days ago, because she had no other choice; and I do not blame her; my alcohol consumption was the big reason why our relationship turned to the worse. I’ve been sober since the minute she left. Your words gave me encouragement to start this long and difficult process again. It wont be an easy task, but I have experienced the reward of eliminating alcoho; and there is nothing like it. Thanks man! You gave me hope. To all the brothers and sisters struggling with this disease, you are not alone. Much love ✌🏼
Thank you for sharing this. It's one of the most honest sobriety videos I've found. I also have issues with self control. I could never have just one. Tonight as I write this, I'm 52 days sober. I have good nights and tough nights where I'm really craving a drink. Tonight is one of those tough nights. When I need a reminder, I always come back to this video. And it helps me level out. Thanks for the inspiration and sharing your journey.
Matt B thank you so much for taking the time to share this with me. There are no words to express how much it means and I’m so happy to hear you’ve gotten this far. I also want you to know what your words have meant to me. I’ve had a real tough few days. A close friend died on Friday (3 days ago), my wife’s grandma died suddenly yesterday. Was having a moment where a bunch of frustrations and the pain of the last few days started to boil over and for an instant, the thought of how good it’d feel to have a drink and forget it all hit my mind and literally that second, I got the notification of your comment. It made me pick myself up and strengthen myself because this fight is bigger than myself and it reminded me that people are counting on me. So I thank you for that. It’s easy to be impacted by something and not say anything but I want you to know how valuable your words have been to me. Thank you brother 🙏 Life has been much better without habitually numbing myself. Thanks for the fuel you’ve provided me to keep going and to also keep sharing.
I am the same as you my friend. I'm the one who got the 1st drink and the last. So I'm trying to have none. Hard going isn't it. 52 days is an achievement, be proud of yourself Matt x
@@augtenth how are you feeling? Do you feel like it's easier now? I'm just worried I'll get a bit further and something will come up and I have that moment of weakness. I've even cancelled events to avoid putting any pressure on myself x
I have a bourbon every night and am healthy as a horse and thriving every year gets better and better it’s your mind if your weak minded you can’t drink but people do
Awesome video man. I've been off that poison in a pretty bottle for 14 days and I feel alive. No more horrendous anxiety at 3 am!! I get more cool stuff in one day these days than I would in a week when I'm in that alcohol cycle!! The drinks industry in some ways more murderous than the cocaine cartel!!! 2019 is a year to be AWAKE Best Alex
Hey guys. Should i cold Turkey if i have panic attacks? Especially hung over? Or is tapering off recommended? Im a daily night drinker who self medicates for anxiety so it could be worse. What would you suggest
Dee A. That’s great! I wish I could say the same. I drank way too much last night and I lashed out on my mom and brother for no real reason. This morning, I feel so depressed and I kind of hate myself for it. I don’t want to feel so low on Christmas. I’ve tried to stop drinking so many times but I don’t know if I’ll ever stop now. 😔
@@christytube1111 you can stop, dont wait if its become a problem, or years could go by. Ive had some hangovers that i thought would make me never drink again but once u forget how bad you felt u might over do it again in the future. I couple days without drinking can bring some good clarity and will power. After i was drinking a lot i took a couple day break and had a beer one night and just a couple sips was giving me anxiety like my body saying noooo. If u can have one or two with friends or maybe to relax in the evening sometimes no problem, but if one is feeling like they need more then its prolly an addiction or a form of escape. When i drank a lot it got to the point where i didnt want to hangout or do stuff without drinking or felt like i wouldnt have fun or enjoy myself until eventually the thought of hanging out without drinking would give me anxiety
Don Birnam I’m actually having a really bad episode right now... i had too much to drink, and now I’m super sick. I hate doing this do myself. I don’t know if I’ll ever stop at this point.
I hear ya with wasted talent. I’m a year and half with no alcohol. I’m more proud of myself than ever. I didn’t believe before but now I do. I’m on a new life journey. Thanks for video. Best of luck to you and your family. 👍🏻✌🏻
"Trading your future". "Zero value". Love it. I've never thought of it that way before. I don't know how old this is but, I love your "shoot straight from the hip" narrative. This was totally worth my time.
Just stumbled across this video, everything you say is spot on the injustice and hatred in the world and inability to switch off without the anxiety and depression brought on by the alcohol, you have just pushed me to knock this on the head. Thankyou so much
My last drink was 14th march 2019. My drinking led to dependency, substances, drink driving, losing my job that I loved, was over weight, was in debt, was making stupid mistakes. I wasnt me, I was a demon. I hope I never touch it again. My saviour was getting back into martial arts and training to exhaustion. I had a boxing fight 2 week ago, I lost, broke my nose but it wasnt about the result was about the recovery and getting to a better place. It's hard to quit. But there is always, ALWAYS a way.
Your flying it colin... i was going same road as you. Would av lost my job and got done for drink driving.. keep that mind busy with the training and martial arts... ul get back on the winning tread soon to .. keep up the good work
@@shaneymac8398 bless you. It's hard isn't it. I relocated to near the beach two weeks ago. Got a new job but the demons don't go away. Good point is I don't know anyone here so will take a massive relapse to get to know them kind of people again. Every morning I have to do visualisation before I get out of bed. I picture two flumes in front of me.... the one is going the way I have been with all the negatives and as soon as you go down it the speed of the water means you cant get back up. The second flume has no running water and is full of nothing, no memories and I don't know where it's going to lead but it means sobriety but I can walk up and down it if I need. So I picture walking away from the nasty flume and walking through the sobriety flume. It works well.
@@colinmoore747 we've all got a past owl son.. no matter wat u do in this life someone will pick at your mistskes and judge but i find its them same people who judge who need to take a good look at themselves. Your the one who has owned up to your mistakes and challenging them head on . It will always b challenging but you know its worth it.. uv seen the life after drink. Nothing should b easy and it isnt.. u say uv moved close to a beach....i live for my Sunday strolls and dip in sea (whenever the waters not -20) ha..find that clears the head massive if i having a bad 1..!!! A good woman 2 has helped... just keep that head busy buddy .. 💪💪💪
Thank you so much for saying so, I really really really appreciate that and that is exactly what my intent has been because I know that so many people are struggling all alone with this and kicking the shit out of themselves for it and I know that when people realize they aren’t the only ones or that there’s not something fundamentally and irreparably messed up about them, that makes healing and moving forward much easier. Huge congratulations on you facing this journey head on and I wish you nothing but the best. Nine months into this and I can tell you it’s been the most beautiful process I’ve ever engaged in. I wouldn’t trade any of it for the world.
I am about 3 months sober , I'm not really counting. But today I had this sudden realization asto how calm and content I am. So I want to let all of you know that it's possible. What helped me quit was Fredrick Nietzsche. He helped me re-evaluate myself and I wanted to share this with all of you.
Shannon Flynn Shannon thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience around this conversation. I’m sorry for the late reply but I would love to know how you were doing since it has been a week since your last comment
30 years drinking everyday, I want the last 30 years of my life to be alcohol free, 5 days sober feeling like I've had a glimpse of what I've missed out on in the last 30 years of this demon sapping my life force. Your video was outstanding and profound, I cried so much as it resonated with my own life, please 🙏 keep sharing,
This is what I needed!! Thank you!! I quit just 2days ago...this being October 2, 2019 and the hangover is now in it's third day. The stress, fog and anxiety is just overwhelming. I've been drinking for several years and pretty much heavily and a lot of the time in the last 5 or so years. I fear that I may have done some damage this time as I've never had that side effects last this long...I'm going to try and get to a meeting today. If this doesn't get any better by tmr, I'm going to seek medical help....Thank you for listening and God Bless...
Matt, thank you so much for sharing your story and your experience and I really hope that you find relief and release from the addiction because I know how horrible it is to be in the grips of it. It’s been over nine months for me and it has been the most fruitful time. Of my life in terms of discovering myself and getting my bearings and so many other amazing things that have happened. It’s also been very painful at times because I’m diving in to figure out what the underlying mental health issues are that were the root of my drinking problem etc. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go over the next while, let’s connect on Instagram, Facebook or TikTok and I would love to hear as you progress and work on this because I promise you it’ll be so worth it
Thanks for sharing your experience man. Im 32 year old man , about 1 & half months into my own journey, and actually putting real effort into changing myself for the better without alcohol. Long story short, things have been getting progressively better and i just wanted to thank you for your words. You gave me some extra inspiration today, keep moving forward, ill be doing the same.
A lot of wisdom Jay. You’re right about not having regrets. Everything I did in the past, including hurting my parents, brothers and sisters, and many others, is what it took for me to get where I am today! Each day in sobriety is an opportunity for me to live to “good purpose”, and I am grateful beyond grateful. My mantra is simple, “Live in the solution, or live in the problem. Best wishes to you!
Thank you for saying so. Not that we don’t face accountability and allow for others to heal from our miss steps but regret doesn’t do anything but to make our chances of success less probable. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here
I really enjoyed this - thank you so much ! I’m on day 2 - I realised i drink to fill the immediate gratification in an effort to be happy. The consequences of my drinking is so detrimental to my life and taking me further away from real happiness. Why do this to myself ? It’s so illogical when I could lose anything that is good in my life. I am scared but feel liberated. I can’t change yesterday but I can own my tomorrow.
Elizabeth, I love this and thank you so much for sharing! Thank you for taking the time to share your story and to give these encouraging words. I really appreciate it. As I have said before, through this process I have learned that addiction is rooted in unresolved suffering and trauma and is not merely a bad choice. There is a route to this issue and we are trying to solve a problem with these behaviors and yes, it doesn’t serve us in the long term but we have to get to the root of what the problem is and that has been the most beautiful process out of everything that I’ve gone through regarding my issues with alcohol. Would love to keep in touch and hear how things go for you during this process so please feel free to connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and or TikTok. Thanks again for taking the time to share, I really appreciate it. I know there are a lot of people who are reading these comments who are suffering in silence as well so you sharing your story will greatly encourage others as well. 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
Great video I'm 60 days sober been an alcoholic most of my life lost everything to it more than once ,but this time I'm actually in it and not wondering when in going to have my next drink. I plan on making sobriety a rest of my life decision,Thanks for sharing your story
Sid that's amazing brother! Thank you for taking the time to share this and for saying thanks. This means the world to me and makes it totally worth it. Wishing you nothing but the best from here on and so glad to hear you've made it this long. Keep going man!
Great video! Really helps. I've been going hard for the past 6 years, decided it's enough. The anxiety is just not worth it, I can't even enter a restaurant sober and enjoy a dinner, I panic and leave, it's all due to my drinking, being hungover 75% of the time is ridiculous. Videos like these are great tools to help with sobriety. Thanks
Really glad to hear that. Please Please please do yourself a favor and watch some videos on the Wim Hof Method. This has dropped my stress, anxiety, worrying etc like crazy. Would have made a much easier last year for me had I know about it.
I searched “stop drinking alcohol” this morning I have been watching videos for three hours, now. I’m a few minutes into this one and what you have already said is completely relatable to me. I’m quitting drinking TODAY. I subbed and am about to binge on your channel. Thank you in advance.
E Sahutske I have no way to express to you how much this means to me. No words. Just really appreciate you saying so and so privileged to be able have helped you in any way. What an amazing honor and thank you for taking the time to tell me this. Please keep in touch! You got this and it’s sooooo worth it, I promise!
I said to myself soooo many times I will stop drinking but I always failed after few days. Im a person who drinks alone out of sadness and not beeing good enough at anything . Having anxiety and depression. But I honestly cant live like this any more. Today I will start my journey as a day number one. For the last two years the alcohol was taking over my life completly. Almost every single day. I feel embaresed about my self. When i drink I do stupid things, my memories are bad cant remember much. I was in a really hard life situation for 2years. But now its over and its all ok im still drinking and it makes me realised that alcohol took over me. I want to do it for my children and for me to be healthy back again and to be better mum. Feeling sooooo sad. Life aint easy. Just dont wanna drink anymore. I hate it when im drunk and next day I always have a really bad feeling in my guts cuz i know its wrong. Just wanna cry..
Very similar to my situation and on day 11, I’m 37 now and been drinking since roughly 16 (with friends at weekends) and most of my life been a weekend drinker, but in the past 2/3 years drinking far too much,basically every night bar when I’m on nightshift. You said something fantastic, I feel as if I’m getting my fire back, that’s exactly how I feel. I need to reset, and plan on doing 40 days and see where I’m at. Fantastic upload and it’s gave me some great inspiration right now.
I quit alcohol two months ago after a bike accident (not alcohol related) which I needed an operation after. It was my wake up call, I have been so mentally clear since then, I'm anxiety free, patient with my family, I can hold a conversation and my mind is up to speed, I can focus at work, I can see a bright future. It's been such a wake up call, I now see alcohol for the poison it really is and how its had such a grip on my life. I didn't think I could socialise without alcohol, I've been to a family gathering and a friends wedding since and had more fun alcohol free than and had better banter than I would have if I had been covering up my social anxiety with beer at the same events. I wake up with energy and plans. I'm so excited for the future now for the first time in a long time as I now realise I can do it without this alcohol crutch, I'm looking forward to my next friends meetings alcohol free. I've also been surprised at how supportive people have been, I thought I'd get an earful of grief but actually people have been very good. My brother got a few zero beers in for me for our family gathering which was a nice thought. Other people will find it awkward that you don't drink but they very quickly (1 drink later) get over it! Thank you Jay for your story, it cements my own new beliefs that I don't need this poison and feel so free now that every situation is based around it.
Colin, thank you so so so much for sharing this. I really don’t have words adequate enough to express how much I appreciate it. I know that there are so many others who are seeing content like this and reading comments like yours and it is giving them hope so I just wanted to thank you for that because that is exactly what is needed so thank you so much for taking the time to share such a thoughtful reply and I’m so grateful that you have found freedom as well! Congratulations brother, that is so awesome
Yeah it’s nasty, and then you realize how much it screws up your brain chemistry and amplifies all kinds of things. It’s just not a good thing to be consistently pumping into your body for many reasons. One of the biggest things I’ve learned through this though is realizing that we do these things because often times there is a lot of unresolved pain, suffering and/or trauma that needs to be dealt with. That’s been a huge process for me that has been incredibly eye-opening and amazing
7 years without alcohol & i don't miss the drama or denial......through hubbies death my kids falling apart accident ptsd pain grief sorrow....life is clear now...alcohol never help any situation really..... with help of others in a program.....it all ok
I’m four days into not drinking. The anxiety part, man I couldn’t deal with it anymore. Waking up at 3:00AM, mind is racing, and I’d drink to dampen that stuff. Then it starts all over. I feel better just in the last four days than I have in a few years. Was sober three days in 2018....two when I was sick, once because I was too disoriented from the bender I just came off of. Keep making videos! This was good.
M Swart amazing man! Keep it up. I know how that feels and it was the worst. Over 2 weeks and I don’t even think about it and I feel so much better in every way. I quit drinking a few years back for 9 months and hated it but since it started to take control as of late, I’m grateful to have that control and stability back. Let me know if I can help in anyway and thank you for the encouraging comment.
Thanks for the video. I’m two weeks sober, I’m not an alcoholic, but was definitely using it as a crutch. I totally relate now to your feeling that you could’ve been doing so much more with your time and money. I struggle with missing that off switch, a way to just take off the edge of all my overthinking. *If anyone is even thinking of telling me to meditate, don’t. I do, and it’s not the same.
Setbacks happen! Making it 5 months shows that anything is possible for you. Imagine a couple of years ago if someone told you you could make it 5 months. I doubt you'd believe them you could even make it 5 days!!
This is EXACTLY what I needed and was looking for this morning!!!! Thank you thank you. I'm on my third week sober (again.) All in all, I've been drinking on and off over 40 years. I'm getting ready to start the Sinclair Method (you can google it- Ted Talks- I highly recommend it. I've gone a lot further down the drinking road than you, but everything you're saying is SO SO true to me this day- it's taken me days to detox (I was able to do it on my own- my husband took my car keys.) I'm finally starting to function closer to my true potential in so many ways. I'm glad you're doing this while you're young- but NEVER PLEASE NEVER not forgive yourself if you relapse. I've done it so many times I can't count.
That makes me so happy that you found value in this Amy. Keep in touch and let me know how it goes! I hear what you're saying - self-condemnation is the killer and need to keep that poison out at all costs. You got this and I'm looking forward to hearing how you're doing. I'm 143 days in and wouldn't trade it for the world. When I think of having a drink, I just see darkness. Everything has gotten better without booze being in control. All the best to you.
I quit drinking on the 1st February 2019. I can’t explain how much better I feel but also how much better my family feel about me. I couldn’t drink alcohol again even if I wanted to. I certainly don’t want the 28lbs of weight back. So many points in your video hit home with me too. Good luck fella. Best wishes to you and your family. Steve. Liverpool UK. Ps. Your point about shutting social media shit off worked for me to.
Amazing man, it's such a contrast isn't it? It was seeing people post about their struggles and the benefits they've experienced that helped me the most I think. So keep sharing your journey too because that's amazing! Congrats and best wishes to you too!
Great video. I was headed down the same road, unfortunately it took the loss of a relationship for me to reset and choose to quit drinking. I’ve been two months, lost a ton of weight, got a lot of energy. When I first quit I watched a lot of TH-cam videos and they helped. Even if only one or two people get something out of this, don’t stop making them.
Huge kudos to turning things around because I can completely understand how easy it would be to not do that. And thank you so much for sharing the benefits that you’ve reaped. I know a lot of people are reading through these comments silently and will read what you had to say and find hope knowing that there is something worthwhile on the other side of booze. I really appreciate your encouraging words and it has been amazing and painful to see how many people are suffering in silence and I feel exactly the same way, if I can help a handful of people change the course of their life through my story and my struggles then it is more than worth it so thank you for saying so!
“How many times do you have to be hungover before you realize this is fucking stupid” I can’t count how many times I’ve said this to myself waking up hungover AF after binge drinking for the weekend. I felt that. Good job brother. Thanks for the motivation
Me too man! Countless times. So often after a tough day I'd pour a drink and think to myself "15 minutes from now it'll be gone." That's the problem. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts and I am so thankful that this has been of value to you.
Way to go man! Day 53 here. Glad I saw your video, another series of videos I’ve found very helpful have been “Alcohol Mastery” with Kevin O’Hara. I’m not looking back, alcohol free is where it’s at
Amazing brother! Glad to hear there is helpful and practical content available like that and thanks for saying so. People need that. Keep going man and thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts!
Great video man. I relate 100 percent because your story sounds very much like my own; not a full blown alcoholic, not near rock bottom, an outward appearance of keeping it together, being a good dad.... but behind it is this ITCH. An inkling that all is not right. And followed by a belief that unless something changes, things won’t get better; they’ll get worse. It’s funny that you’re about a week in to sobriety when you made this because that’s where I am. I feel great, but there is also this looming void. I realize that I must fill it with joy and some form of contentment or I might fail. But this is life. It’s supposed to humble you. Reaching a state of indifference and hazy bliss is NOT winning. Realizing that, however, may be precisely the first step to a better life and a better future. You seem like an awesome guy. Keep being you and know that you got this.
Man, that hits home big time. That's exactly where I was at too and it eating at me that booze was increasingly in the driver's seat of my life. The void is totally real man and having something meaningful enough to fill that void, I believe, is absolutely crucial. Have you seen the clip on TH-cam where Dr Jordan Peterson and Theo Von talk about alcohol? It's so bang on and practical. Here's the link if you haven't seen it yet: th-cam.com/video/4cYuWLZI5kw/w-d-xo.html It's SOOOOOO good. on I really appreciate your kind words brother and taking the time to share your thoughts. This feedback means everything to me so thank you. We should keep in touch. Would love to hear how your journey is going and I'm keeping in conversation with a number of people who have benefited from this video. Let's connect on Instagram if you're on there: instagram.com/thejaywoodford/
I'm on 24 hours. Thanks for the motivation. My hangover anxiety was too hard to deal with anymore, I totally know how you felt. Wish me luck. How you're still doing good.
Thanks man. I'm going for an indefinite time. I feel so amazing and my mind is so much sharper. Binge drinking is so dumb. Who knows maybe one day I'll learn to drink responsibly, or just not at all.
Just watched your video. Thank you so much. I appreciate your honesty. I am drinking daily and have a extreme anxiety.Starting to affect my health.relationships etc...So tired of the hangovers,the lack of motivation, and not giving a crap about anything. I have a wonderful family and I am not appreciating my blessings. You my friend have given me motivation I need to feel like that Tomorrow is Day 1. Thank you and bless you.
Thank you for saying so Dave, that means a lot and that was my intent. Knowing how many people are struggling and think they’re alone, it’s dangerous and counterproductive. Really appreciate your kind words brother 🙏🙏🙏
That Hangover, 2 steps forward, 3 steps back. Lack of clarity, anxiety, being just "SUB A GAME" its completely not worth it....But we often forget how bad it feels until we do it all again. The worst mistakes, bad decisions, wrong roads I've travelled....always under the influence. Loved this testimony. Thanks
I agree. Hundreds of times. For me, fixing the root was required to stop the cycle otherwise it would have been sheer willpower which is very finite. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience
Craig J. Davies Yep. Been drinking for 50 yrs.....feel fine though. I was just having lapses of memory on bingeing nights I.e. blackouts. So I had to stop!
Craig J. Davies what kind of parallel universe are we living in. I just fell off the wagon10 mins ago because I was assaulted on the street, then came home and my printer chewed up all my paper, the footing of my house has slipped because of heavy rain. I feel this drink is justified and I won’t go crazy. I just need to calm myself down!! Comprendo?!
Yes , this is one of the most truthful things about alcohol. I lost all ambition to support my family , my home upkeep , camping trips and my own hobby ....... Just Stay Away From Alcohol.
You are well on your way to self-destructing yourself with alcohol if : 1. You skip meals and replace them with alcohol , gives you an excuse to start drinking earlier. 2. You don’t have an hangover even if you had quite a bit of drinks the night before. 3. You can never just have a couple of drinks , way past the everything in moderation mindset .. 4. You might be calm and in a good state of mind when you first arrive at the bar , but get aggressive and emotional as you drink more and more throughout the night. 5. You often experience blackouts. 6. You spend the most of your money on drinks. 7. You get extremely defensive when someone argues with you about your drinking habits . 8. You think you can quit anytime you want even though you’ve never done it . 9. You need alcohol to feel more confident in social gatherings . 10. You need alcohol to sleep better .. Majority of the people who posses most of these symptoms are not necessarily alcoholics , but they are psychologically addicted to alcohol , and if left untreated will eventually turn into psychical dependence ... Alcohol is poison , carcinogenic and has ZERO benefits .. Get the poison out of your life today ...
My wife was a alcoholic. I quit to help her quit. Best thing I ever did Turns into a habit. Proud to see people succeed it quitting. Enjoy life much better.
That’s awesome and huge congratulations and kudos for sticking with her through that. For me the realization that there were a lot of deep rooted issues which exacerbated the problem and needed to be dealt with has been a huge part of the process and I don’t think I would’ve been able to stick it out had I not done this work
Jeff Lagneaux thanks for taking the time to comment. I will try my best but I’m super pumped I made the decision to lay it down for the time being. It eats at you deep down when you know it’s starting to control you. Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot.
October 30th 2018 was when i finally admitted to myself that i am an alcoholic.14 months sober. I was allowing the alcohol too slowly kill my body mentally and physically. I am still struggling when i have shit times telling myself that i need a drink to calm down . I allow daily shit to get to me , get wound up,highly strung.Alcohol is not the answer. I go take my dog for a walk and have a good think when that shit thinking comes on .I have full support from my family ,friends and work mates. By watching videos by individuals like yourself really helps me. You say it how it is .I will be checking out your other videos. Best of luck with your journey. Lets all have a great new year in 2020 and thanks again Jay
That’s awesome Jacob! Good for you brother, 14 months is huge and you’re right, the struggle doesn’t just go away but it’s amazing to be able to find better ways of dealing with the shit life throws at us and having the hope that things can be better to push through. All the best to you in your journey as well brother and thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement and for sharing your journey with others. 🙏🙏
When I was younger I would never think of drinking alone Now its crazy All I do anymore is lock myself in my house getting as drunk as possible doing nothing but watching tv by myself and somehow it feels normal now and strangely enjoyable
I know how that feels and there’s a lot of people in the same position. It makes sense when you really look at it but it doesn’t end well. Gotta find something worthwhile to be inspired by and reasons and things worth doing and not letting booze mess up.
Jay, do not let your brain trick you into thinking you can some day go back to drinking. That is a lie you will have to deal with all over again. I did that many years ago and picked up a drink after eight years sober. Within a week I was back drinking like I had never stopped. I have now been completely sober for twenty years. You must declare war on alcohol. I am 73 years old, and have been addicted to alcohol since my twenties. Do not lose faith in yourself. Press on. Good luck.
Elaine this means the world to me to hear. I am sorry for the late reply to your comment. It's been 2 weeks as of now, how are you doing? If I can help in anyway, please feel free to reach out and thanks so much for taking the time to share this with me. It really means a lot!
I've been thinking a lot recently about quitting, I am still very young but I started around 12 drinking heavy which I can now see how much it has effected me. I never wanted to admit that I have a problem but I refuse to live in denial any longer. Your video was amazing honestly!
I am so glad to hear you're willing to acknowledge where you're at. It's such an important step. I know for me one of the most helpful things was seeing other people's stories about how life was actually better without booze and I can attest without question that that is the case so I wanted to share that as encouragement for you and I really appreciate your kind words and taking the time to share your feedback with me. Reach out if I can help in anyway :)
17 yrs drinking everyday . 5 days sober
Keep it up man. I'm 16 years drinking, and on day 1.
Now day 5
Amazing. You can do it. You got this far. You are strong!!!!
You got this . Working out helps
17 years drinking, one year one week sober
I traded in alcohol for working out and it’s unreal how much better my life is.
I have heard that numerous times from many people and it totally makes sense. My outlet has been creativity and I feel the exact same - it’s so important to find something meaningful and important and healthy to replace that with so I really appreciate you taking the time to say that because that will be valuable to others who are reading through these comments
@James Topham I really hope that you make it. Every time you go to get a drink think how scared you were and still are. I really wish you well all children need a dad.
Today is day 1 of my journey. I hate the person I am on alcohol.
Amazing Dalee! I know how that feels and what we become when influenced by booze or other substances is not indicative of who we truly are so don't take that on as your identity my friend. I wish you nothing but the best, I'm so glad I put it aside and wouldn't change a thing. When I think about opening that door again in my life, I instantly think of how I'd feel the next day and of all the ways booze did not serve me and how it brought me no value and it keeps me strong. You'll look back in a short time and be glad you did this :) You might find this video incredibly helpful: th-cam.com/video/4cYuWLZI5kw/w-d-xo.html
You can do it. What has helped me is having a soda instead of something alcoholic. That way I can go through the motion of drinking without actually drinking. Non alcoholic beer can help if you're a beer guy.
Same here! I don’t like who I am when I drink! I just wanna be a better man😕
Same here bro
am at day 7 of my new life , i hate my addiction days i lost girlfriend, studies, trust , money,
Anxiety, sweats, shakes, agitation, money wasted, head fog, organ pain, joint pain, weakness, insomnia, nausea. Yep sounds like one is better off without it.
HI. THAT SUMS UP WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH. GREAT COMMENTS. THANKS. ROBERT.
COULD NOT HAVE PUT IT BETTER. REGARDS. ROBERT.
don't forget not ever waking up again too!
@William Miles you got that right. when i was a drinker i mostly avoided all bars cause i had noticed that most all bars had nothing but raging alcoholic assholes looking for a fight and i never got into one single fight cause maybe i do look like the kind of dude who takes no shit from anyone, and i did hear of a situation that took place in batavia, illinois, about 30 years ago, where a hippy type guy was just drinking a beer at a bar in batavia and he was minding his own business and a jock type bigger dude walked up to the hippy guy and started a fight and beat him to the floor pretty badly and the hippy guy left the bar and came back within a half hour with a huge hunting knife and walked up to the jock type bigger dude and plunged the knife into his chest and killed him instantly, wow, cool, cause i would have done the same thing, but, had the hippy guy not even gone into the bar and stayed home to drink his poison he would not be sitting in prison, hmmm, i wonder if i could google the story and find out what happened to the hippy guy......., and now that i see how evil alcohol is i sometimes just want to go to a bar for only a few minutes to just observe people drinking that garbage........peace and pot........!!!!
@@ronvalley1973 I don't live in US but yeah, I don't go in bars anymore for the same reasons; drunken assholes. You help someone and you find yourself with the stupid boyfriend; "why are you talking to her? don't talk to her or I kill you!". All the time !!! Sometimes it's the same as your story, just guys that want to start a fight for no reason. I even took care once of a guy that got punched, just to check if he was alive or conscious and bam, what comes to me red angry as a bull? a pal he called before getting knocked out. The guy was huge and it was impossible to tell him with we had nothing to do with the first fight. A friend of mine is like me, tired of getting into fights or dealing with that kind of stupid situations. Poeple with no brain !
my issue is drinking alone and living in the past.
Jan I wish there was something I could say or do to remove that burden for you. I'm at a loss for words as I know how hard it can be and mere words don't do much but I appreciate being willing to be open and honest about that here and I wish nothing but the best for you!
Jan Norris I hear you. Same with me. I hope you're doing better
That's 2 unhealthy things get that under wraps. U can do it it's fun and life has so much more meaning. ✌OUT.
I would suggest getting a fitbit and walk at lease 30 min daily preferably in the morning. Fitbit cheers you on the more you can do the better. I've been walking since 1/4/2014 and currently at 32,000,000 steps or 16,000 miles. I'm 56
Drinking alone and living in the past, I've been doing that more and more, it's almost become a safe space but it's so destructive.
I'd recommend you watching some before and after quitting alcohol vids,and motivational vids,you will be amazed if you haven't seen it already.we must move on from the past and become better people today,otherwise it will consume you.if you by chance,believe in God and His SonJesus and wish to start or build or better your relationship with the Father and His Son,can i recommend to you by watching Troy Black youtube videos (only if you are interested,and if you have another faith,i am sorry if you may or if you do get offended, no force or preasure here,I'm just wondering if this may be of help to you,go well.
7 years of drinking alcohol its my 4 days being sober pray for me😇
My life is just simply better without alcohol.
100% brother! Was hard to believe while being in it but hearing people say that and articulate on it was one of the biggest things that planted seeds of hope.
I’ve still got my problems but I’m a lot better off without drinking. Always amplified my depression by at least 100.
Yeah, that’s not to say it doesn’t get boring, but it sure beats being sick and drunk.
Wow Dude78 I want to stop pls help me
If anyone is interested in stopping drinking the best results that I have ever had was with the Sebs Magic Tactic (just google it) without a doubt the most incredible plan that I've tried.
I'm trying hard to stop, loneliness is my main trigger but I'm not going to give up.
Same here. It's a substitute for having friends and connections with people. A really shit substitute.
@@cmhardin37 do Vipassana Meditation.
Im also lonely and alcoholic.
Vipassana helps a lot.
th-cam.com/video/eKPRgWqKmM4/w-d-xo.html
If you drink you can go out. No one wants to be sober around drinking so yeah, social or sober...
Get a dog, seriously
Alcohol is insidious and has absolutely no benefits. I was depressed and anxious before quitting and I feel amazingly better now 7 months later. Best decision I’ve ever made. I’ve incorporated a ketogenic diet and starting intermittent fasting after quitting alcohol. I’m 50 pounds down as of today and feeling amazingly alive every day. Best wishes to you keeping that worthless poison out of your life.
Amazing man! That's awesome to hear, great work! I feel the same. Started something similar to keto and am down almost 20 lbs. Been 45 days - no booze and I feel great :) All the best to you
That’s awesome man!! I’m almost a month sober and I’m genuinely sad that I wasted the last 5 years of my life, but it’s all forward from here! Best of luck man!
Fair play to you, I wish I had your strength! You've done so well x
How much were you drinking mate.
I feel the same. Somehow everything works together in the end and nothing seems to be a waste when we start fixing what is broken
Day 7 without drinking. Woke up a week ago and said to myself it’s time. Experienced lots of death in my life and have been struggling to find peace. Found a really good audio book to guide me through the process. This video helped a lot as well. My goal is to slide into 2020 happy, healthy and hopeful. I turn 40 this year. Wish me luck!
I used to get massive anxiety for the next couple of days after a heavy session, i'm 83 days sober today and my life is so much better.
Me too. Just brutal. Feels like you’re gonna die. Awesome work Terry! 83 days is no small feat!
Good on you. I think you have the right attitude. I woke up and thought "I think I'll just give ths drinking a break for a while, not stopping permanently ,just a break" That BREAK has so far lasted 12 years with no desire to start again
the anxiety is your soul begging you to stop
Woah.
My soul is begging me to stop then....
So true
Woah those words are hitting hard
Nailed it. Damn. I'm 3 days sober rn wish me luck
“ALCOHOL” IS SAID TO COME FROM THE ARABIC TERM “AL-KHUL” WHICH MEANS “BODY-EATING SPIRIT”
The root of the issue is why we drink brother .
May peace be upon you
listen to your soul is never wrong
i stopped drinking 2 months ago anxiety and anger are gone.. my skin looks amazing everything is better keep it up thank you for the video
Amazing work Cat! That post drinking anxiety is the worst and I am glad to see what quitting has done for you. Too much booze does so much harm and messes up our mental state. So true. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and I appreciate the thank you :)
Tossing out anxiety AND anger?!? Sounds worth it to me. I'm excited to see what comes of this change. I hope you're doing well ☺️
Highly groomed
I needed to see this. I spent most of today hungover feeling anxious, worthless and depressed. It’s suddenly dawned upon me that I have to stop cold turkey or else my drinking will ruin me. It’ll be tough. I feel like I’m surrounded by a heavy drinking culture and most of my friends won’t understand. But I know it’s for the best.
A thing that makes alcohol dangerous is that it is acceptable in mainstream society and it's legal everywhere. Im kinda addicted to weed so when I had to travel to where it was illegal, it was harder to get.
I’m 28 I’ve been drinking for 7 years straight! I used it to numb my anxiety! In 7 years I’ve done nothing to better my life ! Today is day 3 no drinking I want to see who I am sober!
you made the right choice. life without alcohol is an amazing journey!
I understand what you mean about the anxiety I drink for the same reason. I am of it since the 3rd of January and going to try stay off it. I wish you well.
People that haven't struggled with alcohol have know idea how terrifying it really is. The worst days
are the ones when you drink not even because you want to but because the anxiety and dull mood
become too much to bear. I know what it's like to be sober and fit. I know what it's like to be an
endlessly motivated person with a clear head and tons of optimism. I know what it's like to have
a healthy lifestyle with a normal sleep schedule. It's only been about 4 years ago but I miss it so
much it seems like a lifetime ago. I'm ready to walk away from this monstrous burden of guilt that
I've carried for so long. I watched this video along with some others because I'm mentally prepping
myself for a new chapter in my life. Jay if you end up reading this I just wanted to say thank you
for your courage and transparency in making this video, you're a motivation.
You nailed it Marshall, it’s hell. I’ve learned the most important lessons about myself, human nature, suffering, trauma, addiction, mental health etc that I’ve ever learned in my life in the last 2 years. We fall into addiction to quiet deep pain most of us have no idea is even there because we’ve learned to suppress it but understanding that that is the root cause helps makes sense of it and helps to facilitate healing. We’ll never be able to take an honest look at ourselves if we hate ourselves for our shortcomings. Understanding and empathy is the only way. I wish you all the best! You are a human being with deeply unmet needs and you are not alone in that in a society that has its priorities so screwed up and backwards and the arrogance to think it’s got it all figured out while depression, anxiety and addiction is skyrocketing as we becoming increasingly lonely.
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
For the last 5 years I’ve been considered a heavy drinker, over the last year I was drinking a 12 pack or more a day I would open a beer in the parking lot of work and drink 3 or 4 on my way home, my brother had to have a liver transplant from alcoholism and now he’s 2 years sober, my dad is an alcoholic as well, I have now been 3 weeks sober and I have never felt better my depression and anxiety are down to very manageable levels, the help of my family and my dog is my accountability partner she depends on me to exercise with her and give her nourishment it’s the best decision I’ve ever made thank you for sharing this video keep them coming we’re all in this together!
So amazing brother, I love this. The anxiety and mental chaos too much booze causes is insane! I don't miss that at all. I love waking up in the morning not feeling like a bag of shit and having it eat at my conscience. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and appreciation. Without comments like this, I wouldn't really care to do more videos but I'm planning on doing some more. Thanks again man, we really are in this together!
Aww, I love that your dog is your accountability partner. I wish you the best.
Nate Doe did your liver ever get bloated? I was drinking a 6 pack everyday, sometimes even 10 beers. For 2 years straight
I appreciate you man. I went 7 months with out a single drop of alcohol back in 2016, and I felt amazing.. but after that I went back to my old ways unfortunately. Decided I needed to get my shit back together knowing I’m 25 years old right now and I can’t keep drinking my life away. I’m currently at 6 days off alcohol and these videos just help me keep pushing.
This makes me happier than anything! Awesome job brother, 6 days is no small feat! I went 9 & 14 months before but didn't like it and missed booze. This time around has been much different. It took a bit of time but I don't even think about it anymore and the changes in my life have made it so worth it brother. Proud of you for making that decision early! If you ever need to connect, hit me up on Instagram. Would be happy to support!! instagram.com/thejaywoodford/
Jay Woodford definitely brother, thank you for the motivation
Thank you for taking the time to share bro, no words to express how much that means and I wish you nothing but success on this journey!
Just a speed bump brother!! I’ve been sober for almost a month and never felt this good
Nate Guerra that’s fuckin awesome good for you brotha. 19 days so far and still going strong
So real. Anxiety is why we all drink
That's definitely a big part of it I'd bet!
It makes my anxiety so bad the day after. Minds racing!
Alcohol issues are now a thing of my past....88 day's in and that's it for me.. no more ever again.
I drink because I'm anxious. I'm anxious because I drink. Vicious circle.
Time for drastic change, not had a drink for a week now and already starting to feel healthier, more focussed, more positive and less anxious.
@@tylerdurden4289 yeah man. I posted this 7 months ago but continued to drink. One night got so wasted i punched a hole in my wall. Was anxious the next 2 days after of course. That was it for me. 7 days clean so far and feel great. I don't even have an urge because im so embarrassed. Good luck
Hi. I destroyed the longest unfamiliar affective relationship I've had. I destroyed my 1999 Beetle Sedan. I drink absinthe and then drive. I was not hurt by the crash, the little car was destroyed. The experience was terrible. I didn't hurt anyone but I could have caused hell on earth for me and others. Incredibly, I didn't stop drinking after that. However, today I'm on 202 days of sobriety. I am not against alcohol. I think alcohol saved my life at some point, but now it can destroy me so I want to continue without drinking.
It doesn't matter if you have been without drinking for a day or two or 180 or 200 days or one or many years. We are all the same here enjoying only one day at a time of sobriety and it is possible. You can, we can. One day at a time! Greetings to all from Mexico.
Dude. When I watched this I literally saw myself, especially when you said anxiety hangovers. Good luck, and stay sober.
Kyle Really appreciate you saying so, brother. Those were the absolute worst. Some days I thought I was going to die it was so bad. Anytime I think about maybe I could drink again, I just think of that feeling and the urge goes away real fast. Working hard on dealing with the root issues so that this gets permanently fixed otherwise it’s always lurking under the surface. Been an incredibly eye-opening last nine months or so, painful but the best ever
Jay Woodford please be gentle w yourself. You’ve got this. You’re doing your work. The real work. Be very proud of yourself. I pray you’re still doing well and grounded.
That anxiety can last days too. Fair play Jay. Very good video. Onwards and upwards
I needed this today.. I've realised it's a problem now and it needs to change.. its only damaging my health my sanity and my relationships.. thank you sooooo much.. day 1 starts today..
nyny0pickles I know how that feels and I promise you’ll be looking back in a short period of time and be grateful you made that step. I know it feels like an enormous mountain to climb but it may price to be so much easier than you think - especially if you have compelling reasons to make the change. Really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and it means a lot to me to know what I’ve shared has helped you.
All the best on your journey!
I'm on day 10 myself. How is your journey going?
Its not easy, especially at first, but stay determined and remember why youre doing it. Life is all about your perception. You can do it especially if you're over the old ways of living.
Proud of you! Im done drinking for life! 12 days and counting for ever
Kela Dyer thank you so much and same to you! All the best to you on your journey 💜
Yeah i havent touched a drink and oh boy i had a couple urges but i appreciate this video and the improvements and benefits thus far are far more better.
@@TheKe1a how are you finding it now Kela? What do you think are the worse triggers?
you made the right choice. life without alcohol is an amazing journey!
11 days sober right now. I like your videos they’re motivating, real, and comforting for lack of a better word. I’ve been on and off struggling since it’s been a serious problem for about 3 yrs but this year I’m giving it all I got to change not going back
Well you be well over a month if you stuck with it
Much love to you my brother! Ive been almost 14 days clean no alcohol! Its been a struggle! Ive been back n forth and forth and back. Seems Im always starting over! I had prayed with a pastor at a church I started attending. We prayed on breaking generational curses in tje name of Jesus. I also had to forgive myself and others who had hurt me. I did that and gave myself a big hug and let me tell you God is doing for me what I could not have done for myself! The pastor prayed may Sharon get sick when she picks up a drink . so a week went by after we prayed. I went to drink and was feeling nausiated, So I ignored it and forced the rest down. Then pured myself another drink, drank 3 sips and was so bloated and uncomfortable. I poured the drink and the whole bottle down the drain! I most recently have had a couple cravings but actually got through it! God has done for me what I could not do for myself!
Sharon that is amazing and thank you so much for taking a moment to share your story and I hope that you continue on strong. I know it’s hard but it’s so worth it. Wishing you nothing but strength and resolve through this
I am from India.i loss money of drinking and wake up guilty every next day.
We'll beat it brother, don't give up!
@@lovechild8185 Coping up brother, Bravo!!!
I have been drinking from when i was 19 yrs old,. i dont drink every day but when i drink, i slowly gained the habit of drinking a lot,. Now im 29, for 10 yrs i have been drinking. Last week i was at my friend's place and suddnly i realized that my body was so tired that i was actually not enjoying what i was doing. I'm turning 30 coming November. And i'm 8 days sober now. I am realizing how i have been creating excuses often to booze. once a week i have been drinking and this is the first time in years i have not touched even a drop of it for more than a week. cravings comes often but i think the interval is becoming longer now. Hoping for the best,, Thank you for sharing your experience bro,. Positive Vibes throughout
Thank you so much for saying so and for sharing your story and experience. I know that there are a lot of people who are reading through these comments who are struggling and stories like yours will encourage them and help them know they aren’t alone and that there is hope. Really appreciate you again, for taking the time to contribute to this conversation!
I'm tapering off for a few days until I can handle detox. I was binge drinking wine, champagne and white claws for about 6 months and hardly eating. I'm 5'3 and weigh 115lbs, 26 years old. I had a few episodes of severe anxiety and woke up with paranoia and heart palpitations before doing my research and realizing it was from the alcohol (not my natural state) and I was actually experiencing alcohol withdraw. I think it is a major issue that people who are anxious drink to alleviate it but this only somewhat works in the beginning. It's all fun and games until your brain chemistry is changed. I booked a hotel room on the beach for this Tuesday after I can get in a day of feeling slightly okay, it's going to be a long weekend... I haven't gone more than 2 days sober in 6 months so this will be the longest I have gone in 2020. Thank you for this video, only one person in my life knows how bad it's gotten and I still try to hide it from him because he started working night shifts, but he knows and still loves me even after some "drunk" episodes I have had. It has started to sabotage my school, business and health. This comment is painful to write, but it's my truth and I'm happy I'm acknowledging how this problem crept up into my life and I'm finally doing something about it. I wish the best for everyone else and bless those who are sharing their testimonials on TH-cam. It means more than you realize. Some of us don't need to go all the way down the rabbit hole, we just feel ourselves falling.
Ive been blackout drinking for 30 years ….im 47 ...im quitting on my bday in 3 weeks … ive "quit" probably a thousand times before ...I just get so fucking bored and lonely ...I go to work, then the gym then start drinking Lite Beer, nothing but lite beer ….but I drink 12-15 and blackout. Im divorced, no friends really … don't even want friends ...just wanna lock the door, close the blinds, drink and watch youtube. So fucking unhealthy. 30 years of this madness. Enough. Please god gimmee the fucking willpower to end this cycle of stupidity & self destructiveness once n for all.
Jan why is it that you don’t think you want friends? Is it because most are fake/fair weather friends? I know how that feels if that’s the case but when you connect with people that are real and sincere and good people it makes all the difference I promise you. It’s so life giving. I wish that for you. 💜
I love it man, I'm starting my April alcohol free challenge... let's do it people, for ourselves and our family.
Do it brother! So worth it. Thank you for the feedback
I have dreamed of quitting alcohol for many years now. I feel so guilty and shitty, and everything in my life suffers every time I drink. I have been two days no drinks, I threw out all the alcohol in my house, I going to give it my best this time. Thanks MAN
Joseph sorry for the late reply! I hope you're staying strong and will be keeping my eyes open for an update. If you've stumbled, theres no shame here - we've all been there. Looking forward to hearing back brother
I am 1 week sober, after years of drinking, because of this video. Every time I get a craving for beer, I watch this!
This man is SO real & does not candy coat anything & I REALLY appreciate that.
With that being said, I can't thank you enough!
Good luck brother, I’ve decided to stop drinking, sick of the depression and anxiety the following days
you made the right choice mark! life without alcohol is an amazing journey!
I go to detox on 1-2-2020 Wish me luck.
U can do it bro. Peace love
Best to you. We can do this! 🦋
John Lawlor sweet! Keep us updated!
John Lawlor Good luck, John!
hope you're doing well john! congrats on taking a step forward to detox
Jay thank you for being authentic. I quit drinking alcohol and everything is better. I have lots of hope, I’m calm, patient, and very happy. It makes life so much more colorful! 😊
Thank you for the kind words! I love what you said there, "It makes life so much more colorful." That's so true. I first saw your comment days ago and it stuck with me. Alcohol takes the edge off but makes life bland. That's such a true statement you made. I feel 10x better without it as well and good for you on taking that step as well :)
Hi everyone, I’ve been drinking everyday for a decade now and I regret many times. I’ve said/done some horrible things that I’m so ashamed of and wish I could erase them. My life is so empty from drinking. I hear all the time of how much better things get after just quitting for one week but I can’t not even go a night without drinking after work at home alone. I can’t wait to finally kick this habit and get back to my full potential. Thanks for listening to me.
I'm so glad I found this video. I've decided to take a break from alcohol. I'm so glad to hear someone else say they had anxiety attacks after drinking. I've thought I was just crazy and even thought I had a heart condition. I truly believe that it's the alcohol and can't wait to not feel like this anymore. This is day 1 and I'm already feeling on edge but I'm just taking as it comes. I'm sick of it.
Fallon the anxiety is definitely not an uncommon problem from what I hear from others as well. I had it big time and it was awful. It’s been a couple days, I hope you are doing well And I really appreciate you taking a moment to share your struggles and I wish you nothing but the best!
In 2017, I went sober for 10 straight months. It was the best feeling in the world. Then life got the best of me and so I went back to the bottle. My ex-girlfriend left me three days ago, because she had no other choice; and I do not blame her; my alcohol consumption was the big reason why our relationship turned to the worse. I’ve been sober since the minute she left. Your words gave me encouragement to start this long and difficult process again. It wont be an easy task, but I have experienced the reward of eliminating alcoho; and there is nothing like it. Thanks man! You gave me hope. To all the brothers and sisters struggling with this disease, you are not alone. Much love ✌🏼
Thank you for sharing this. It's one of the most honest sobriety videos I've found. I also have issues with self control. I could never have just one. Tonight as I write this, I'm 52 days sober. I have good nights and tough nights where I'm really craving a drink. Tonight is one of those tough nights. When I need a reminder, I always come back to this video. And it helps me level out. Thanks for the inspiration and sharing your journey.
Matt B thank you so much for taking the time to share this with me. There are no words to express how much it means and I’m so happy to hear you’ve gotten this far.
I also want you to know what your words have meant to me. I’ve had a real tough few days. A close friend died on Friday (3 days ago), my wife’s grandma died suddenly yesterday. Was having a moment where a bunch of frustrations and the pain of the last few days started to boil over and for an instant, the thought of how good it’d feel to have a drink and forget it all hit my mind and literally that second, I got the notification of your comment. It made me pick myself up and strengthen myself because this fight is bigger than myself and it reminded me that people are counting on me. So I thank you for that. It’s easy to be impacted by something and not say anything but I want you to know how valuable your words have been to me.
Thank you brother 🙏 Life has been much better without habitually numbing myself. Thanks for the fuel you’ve provided me to keep going and to also keep sharing.
Keep in there dude. Time really does iron out the creases if you'll allow it to. Trust me.
I am the same as you my friend. I'm the one who got the 1st drink and the last. So I'm trying to have none. Hard going isn't it. 52 days is an achievement, be proud of yourself Matt x
Tomorrow is 100 days for me. Still grinding.
@@augtenth how are you feeling? Do you feel like it's easier now? I'm just worried I'll get a bit further and something will come up and I have that moment of weakness. I've even cancelled events to avoid putting any pressure on myself x
"Show me a single person that says alcohol is good??....... And if they do, its because they're drunk" !!
That's just about everyone in Australia!
I have a bourbon every night and am healthy as a horse and thriving every year gets better and better it’s your mind if your weak minded you can’t drink but people do
Its nice in social situations like birthdays you dont want to go to but have to. Then a couple of glasses wine makes it all a little better
It's the anxiety that cripples me the next day to. That's why I'm here.
same
Same here
Me too
same here dude. its unbearable.
Me too
Awesome video man. I've been off that poison in a pretty bottle for 14 days and I feel alive. No more horrendous anxiety at 3 am!! I get more cool stuff in one day these days than I would in a week when I'm in that alcohol cycle!! The drinks industry in some ways more murderous than the cocaine cartel!!! 2019 is a year to be AWAKE Best Alex
Thank you very much :) It's been 45 days now and I wouldn't change it for the world!
Alex how are you keepin' brother?
Alex Dew thanks for sharing.
Hey guys. Should i cold Turkey if i have panic attacks? Especially hung over? Or is tapering off recommended? Im a daily night drinker who self medicates for anxiety so it could be worse. What would you suggest
Thank you for saying so brother! Wish you nothing but success in this process
First time in a few years going to bed on xmas eve sober last night 🙏 Woke up this morning with no hangover or guilt! Merry Xmas!!!
Dee A. That’s great! I wish I could say the same. I drank way too much last night and I lashed out on my mom and brother for no real reason. This morning, I feel so depressed and I kind of hate myself for it. I don’t want to feel so low on Christmas. I’ve tried to stop drinking so many times but I don’t know if I’ll ever stop now. 😔
@@christytube1111 you can stop, dont wait if its become a problem, or years could go by. Ive had some hangovers that i thought would make me never drink again but once u forget how bad you felt u might over do it again in the future. I couple days without drinking can bring some good clarity and will power. After i was drinking a lot i took a couple day break and had a beer one night and just a couple sips was giving me anxiety like my body saying noooo. If u can have one or two with friends or maybe to relax in the evening sometimes no problem, but if one is feeling like they need more then its prolly an addiction or a form of escape. When i drank a lot it got to the point where i didnt want to hangout or do stuff without drinking or felt like i wouldnt have fun or enjoy myself until eventually the thought of hanging out without drinking would give me anxiety
Don Birnam thanks for this. I’m going out tonight and I feel really tempted to drink but I don’t want to cave. I’ll stay strong ❤️
@@christytube1111 np take care, you can do it : ) follow your passions and heart
Don Birnam I’m actually having a really bad episode right now... i had too much to drink, and now I’m super sick. I hate doing this do myself. I don’t know if I’ll ever stop at this point.
I hear ya with wasted talent. I’m a year and half with no alcohol. I’m more proud of myself than ever. I didn’t believe before but now I do. I’m on a new life journey. Thanks for video. Best of luck to you and your family. 👍🏻✌🏻
"Trading your future". "Zero value". Love it. I've never thought of it that way before. I don't know how old this is but, I love your "shoot straight from the hip" narrative.
This was totally worth my time.
Thank you saying so. Really appreciate you taking a moment to say so, that’s very encouraging and helpful so thank you
Man....it's like you picked the words out of my head. Very well said. Thank you for posting this. It is more inspirational than you know. Good job.
Just stumbled across this video, everything you say is spot on the injustice and hatred in the world and inability to switch off without the anxiety and depression brought on by the alcohol, you have just pushed me to knock this on the head. Thankyou so much
My last drink was 14th march 2019. My drinking led to dependency, substances, drink driving, losing my job that I loved, was over weight, was in debt, was making stupid mistakes. I wasnt me, I was a demon. I hope I never touch it again. My saviour was getting back into martial arts and training to exhaustion. I had a boxing fight 2 week ago, I lost, broke my nose but it wasnt about the result was about the recovery and getting to a better place. It's hard to quit. But there is always, ALWAYS a way.
Your flying it colin... i was going same road as you. Would av lost my job and got done for drink driving.. keep that mind busy with the training and martial arts... ul get back on the winning tread soon to .. keep up the good work
@@shaneymac8398 bless you. It's hard isn't it. I relocated to near the beach two weeks ago. Got a new job but the demons don't go away. Good point is I don't know anyone here so will take a massive relapse to get to know them kind of people again. Every morning I have to do visualisation before I get out of bed. I picture two flumes in front of me.... the one is going the way I have been with all the negatives and as soon as you go down it the speed of the water means you cant get back up. The second flume has no running water and is full of nothing, no memories and I don't know where it's going to lead but it means sobriety but I can walk up and down it if I need. So I picture walking away from the nasty flume and walking through the sobriety flume. It works well.
@@colinmoore747 we've all got a past owl son.. no matter wat u do in this life someone will pick at your mistskes and judge but i find its them same people who judge who need to take a good look at themselves. Your the one who has owned up to your mistakes and challenging them head on . It will always b challenging but you know its worth it.. uv seen the life after drink. Nothing should b easy and it isnt.. u say uv moved close to a beach....i live for my Sunday strolls and dip in sea (whenever the waters not -20) ha..find that clears the head massive if i having a bad 1..!!! A good woman 2 has helped... just keep that head busy buddy .. 💪💪💪
@@shaneymac8398 🙏🙏🙏🤽♂️🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝
This was a very open and real approach to quitting alcohol. Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable to help the rest of us. Day 3!
Thank you so much for saying so, I really really really appreciate that and that is exactly what my intent has been because I know that so many people are struggling all alone with this and kicking the shit out of themselves for it and I know that when people realize they aren’t the only ones or that there’s not something fundamentally and irreparably messed up about them, that makes healing and moving forward much easier. Huge congratulations on you facing this journey head on and I wish you nothing but the best. Nine months into this and I can tell you it’s been the most beautiful process I’ve ever engaged in. I wouldn’t trade any of it for the world.
I am about 3 months sober , I'm not really counting. But today I had this sudden realization asto how calm and content I am. So I want to let all of you know that it's possible. What helped me quit was Fredrick Nietzsche. He helped me re-evaluate myself and I wanted to share this with all of you.
I was recently hospitalized for pancreatitis and I know drinking was a problem. Never again....I'm done forever. Thanks for this video!
Shannon Flynn Shannon thank you so much for taking the time to share your experience around this conversation. I’m sorry for the late reply but I would love to know how you were doing since it has been a week since your last comment
Still sober and feeling great!! I never want to have that happen to me ever again.
Really like the video! #real
you made the right choice shan! life without alcohol is an amazing journey!
30 years drinking everyday, I want the last 30 years of my life to be alcohol free, 5 days sober feeling like I've had a glimpse of what I've missed out on in the last 30 years of this demon sapping my life force. Your video was outstanding and profound, I cried so much as it resonated with my own life, please 🙏 keep sharing,
This is what I needed!! Thank you!! I quit just 2days ago...this being October 2, 2019 and the hangover is now in it's third day. The stress, fog and anxiety is just overwhelming. I've been drinking for several years and pretty much heavily and a lot of the time in the last 5 or so years. I fear that I may have done some damage this time as I've never had that side effects last this long...I'm going to try and get to a meeting today. If this doesn't get any better by tmr, I'm going to seek medical help....Thank you for listening and God Bless...
Matt, thank you so much for sharing your story and your experience and I really hope that you find relief and release from the addiction because I know how horrible it is to be in the grips of it. It’s been over nine months for me and it has been the most fruitful time. Of my life in terms of discovering myself and getting my bearings and so many other amazing things that have happened. It’s also been very painful at times because I’m diving in to figure out what the underlying mental health issues are that were the root of my drinking problem etc. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go over the next while, let’s connect on Instagram, Facebook or TikTok and I would love to hear as you progress and work on this because I promise you it’ll be so worth it
Thanks for sharing your experience man. Im 32 year old man , about 1 & half months into my own journey, and actually putting real effort into changing myself for the better without alcohol. Long story short, things have been getting progressively better and i just wanted to thank you for your words. You gave me some extra inspiration today, keep moving forward, ill be doing the same.
A lot of wisdom Jay. You’re right about not having regrets. Everything I did in the past, including hurting my parents, brothers and sisters, and many others, is what it took for me to get where I am today! Each day in sobriety is an opportunity for me to live to “good purpose”, and I am grateful beyond grateful. My mantra is simple, “Live in the solution, or live in the problem. Best wishes to you!
Thank you for saying so. Not that we don’t face accountability and allow for others to heal from our miss steps but regret doesn’t do anything but to make our chances of success less probable. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here
I really enjoyed this - thank you so much ! I’m on day 2 - I realised i drink to fill the immediate gratification in an effort to be happy. The consequences of my drinking is so detrimental to my life and taking me further away from real happiness. Why do this to myself ? It’s so illogical when I could lose anything that is good in my life.
I am scared but feel liberated. I can’t change yesterday but I can own my tomorrow.
Elizabeth, I love this and thank you so much for sharing! Thank you for taking the time to share your story and to give these encouraging words. I really appreciate it. As I have said before, through this process I have learned that addiction is rooted in unresolved suffering and trauma and is not merely a bad choice. There is a route to this issue and we are trying to solve a problem with these behaviors and yes, it doesn’t serve us in the long term but we have to get to the root of what the problem is and that has been the most beautiful process out of everything that I’ve gone through regarding my issues with alcohol. Would love to keep in touch and hear how things go for you during this process so please feel free to connect with me on Facebook, Instagram and or TikTok. Thanks again for taking the time to share, I really appreciate it. I know there are a lot of people who are reading these comments who are suffering in silence as well so you sharing your story will greatly encourage others as well. 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
Great video I'm 60 days sober been an alcoholic most of my life lost everything to it more than once ,but this time I'm actually in it and not wondering when in going to have my next drink. I plan on making sobriety a rest of my life decision,Thanks for sharing your story
Sid that's amazing brother! Thank you for taking the time to share this and for saying thanks. This means the world to me and makes it totally worth it. Wishing you nothing but the best from here on and so glad to hear you've made it this long. Keep going man!
you made the right choice Sid! life without alcohol is an amazing journey!
Great video! Really helps. I've been going hard for the past 6 years, decided it's enough. The anxiety is just not worth it, I can't even enter a restaurant sober and enjoy a dinner, I panic and leave, it's all due to my drinking, being hungover 75% of the time is ridiculous. Videos like these are great tools to help with sobriety. Thanks
Really glad to hear that. Please
Please please do yourself a favor and watch some videos on the Wim Hof Method. This has dropped my stress, anxiety, worrying etc like crazy. Would have made a much easier last year for me had I know about it.
I searched “stop drinking alcohol” this morning
I have been watching videos for three hours, now.
I’m a few minutes into this one and what you have already
said is completely relatable to me.
I’m quitting drinking TODAY.
I subbed and am about to binge on your channel.
Thank you in advance.
E Sahutske I have no way to express to you how much this means to me. No words. Just really appreciate you saying so and so privileged to be able have helped you in any way. What an amazing honor and thank you for taking the time to tell me this. Please keep in touch! You got this and it’s sooooo worth it, I promise!
I said to myself soooo many times I will stop drinking but I always failed after few days. Im a person who drinks alone out of sadness and not beeing good enough at anything . Having anxiety and depression. But I honestly cant live like this any more. Today I will start my journey as a day number one. For the last two years the alcohol was taking over my life completly. Almost every single day. I feel embaresed about my self. When i drink I do stupid things, my memories are bad cant remember much. I was in a really hard life situation for 2years. But now its over and its all ok im still drinking and it makes me realised that alcohol took over me. I want to do it for my children and for me to be healthy back again and to be better mum. Feeling sooooo sad. Life aint easy. Just dont wanna drink anymore. I hate it when im drunk and next day I always have a really bad feeling in my guts cuz i know its wrong. Just wanna cry..
Very similar to my situation and on day 11, I’m 37 now and been drinking since roughly 16 (with friends at weekends) and most of my life been a weekend drinker, but in the past 2/3 years drinking far too much,basically every night bar when I’m on nightshift.
You said something fantastic, I feel as if I’m getting my fire back, that’s exactly how I feel.
I need to reset, and plan on doing 40 days and see where I’m at.
Fantastic upload and it’s gave me some great inspiration right now.
I quit alcohol two months ago after a bike accident (not alcohol related) which I needed an operation after. It was my wake up call, I have been so mentally clear since then, I'm anxiety free, patient with my family, I can hold a conversation and my mind is up to speed, I can focus at work, I can see a bright future. It's been such a wake up call, I now see alcohol for the poison it really is and how its had such a grip on my life. I didn't think I could socialise without alcohol, I've been to a family gathering and a friends wedding since and had more fun alcohol free than and had better banter than I would have if I had been covering up my social anxiety with beer at the same events. I wake up with energy and plans. I'm so excited for the future now for the first time in a long time as I now realise I can do it without this alcohol crutch, I'm looking forward to my next friends meetings alcohol free. I've also been surprised at how supportive people have been, I thought I'd get an earful of grief but actually people have been very good. My brother got a few zero beers in for me for our family gathering which was a nice thought. Other people will find it awkward that you don't drink but they very quickly (1 drink later) get over it! Thank you Jay for your story, it cements my own new beliefs that I don't need this poison and feel so free now that every situation is based around it.
Colin, thank you so so so much for sharing this. I really don’t have words adequate enough to express how much I appreciate it. I know that there are so many others who are seeing content like this and reading comments like yours and it is giving them hope so I just wanted to thank you for that because that is exactly what is needed so thank you so much for taking the time to share such a thoughtful reply and I’m so grateful that you have found freedom as well! Congratulations brother, that is so awesome
Hey, Jay. Hope you are staying sober. I’m at 21 years now without a drink. No regrets at all.
This is so me. Always been a drinker, but when my dad passed it just spiraled...I feel like a bad parent, bad spouse, bad employee.... I'm sick of it
Amazing, I went through the same thing. Scary thoughts, anxiety, hangover etc... Feeling so much better without the poison.
Yeah it’s nasty, and then you realize how much it screws up your brain chemistry and amplifies all kinds of things. It’s just not a good thing to be consistently pumping into your body for many reasons. One of the biggest things I’ve learned through this though is realizing that we do these things because often times there is a lot of unresolved pain, suffering and/or trauma that needs to be dealt with. That’s been a huge process for me that has been incredibly eye-opening and amazing
7 years without alcohol & i don't miss the drama or denial......through hubbies death my kids falling apart accident ptsd pain grief sorrow....life is clear now...alcohol never help any situation really..... with help of others in a program.....it all ok
I’m four days into not drinking. The anxiety part, man I couldn’t deal with it anymore. Waking up at 3:00AM, mind is racing, and I’d drink to dampen that stuff. Then it starts all over. I feel better just in the last four days than I have in a few years. Was sober three days in 2018....two when I was sick, once because I was too disoriented from the bender I just came off of.
Keep making videos! This was good.
M Swart amazing man! Keep it up. I know how that feels and it was the worst. Over 2 weeks and I don’t even think about it and I feel so much better in every way. I quit drinking a few years back for 9 months and hated it but since it started to take control as of late, I’m grateful to have that control and stability back. Let me know if I can help in anyway and thank you for the encouraging comment.
Seems 3am is always involved with alcohol. As its the witching hour. Where demonic spirits can torment you.
Keep your head up. God bless you
Thanks for the video. I’m two weeks sober, I’m not an alcoholic, but was definitely using it as a crutch. I totally relate now to your feeling that you could’ve been doing so much more with your time and money. I struggle with missing that off switch, a way to just take off the edge of all my overthinking.
*If anyone is even thinking of telling me to meditate, don’t. I do, and it’s not the same.
I was 5 months sober....until last week. Anxiety came back, lower energy, more mood swings. Not good for me man not good
It doesn't take your 5 months sober away, Use this as a reminder as to why you was quitting in the first place. Its not over by any means
You can sort it out mate. Dont beat yourself up, you did 5 months. Everyone has blips.
Setbacks happen! Making it 5 months shows that anything is possible for you. Imagine a couple of years ago if someone told you you could make it 5 months. I doubt you'd believe them you could even make it 5 days!!
Thanks you brother I'm 5 days stronger and I feel amazing. I'm more into my responsibilities. I no longer look at life as one big party.
Update two weeks later and I'm loving it
Thanks awesome
This is EXACTLY what I needed and was looking for this morning!!!! Thank you thank you. I'm on my third week sober (again.) All in all, I've been drinking on and off over 40 years. I'm getting ready to start the Sinclair Method (you can google it- Ted Talks- I highly recommend it. I've gone a lot further down the drinking road than you, but everything you're saying is SO SO true to me this day- it's taken me days to detox (I was able to do it on my own- my husband took my car keys.) I'm finally starting to function closer to my true potential in so many ways. I'm glad you're doing this while you're young- but NEVER PLEASE NEVER not forgive yourself if you relapse. I've done it so many times I can't count.
That makes me so happy that you found value in this Amy. Keep in touch and let me know how it goes! I hear what you're saying - self-condemnation is the killer and need to keep that poison out at all costs. You got this and I'm looking forward to hearing how you're doing.
I'm 143 days in and wouldn't trade it for the world. When I think of having a drink, I just see darkness. Everything has gotten better without booze being in control. All the best to you.
How is it going? Day 3 for me. 🤞
Hope you are still on the right track man. I am on day 5 and feeling more positive about it now than ever in my life. Wish me luck!
I'm drinking while I watch this, definitely need a change
Your here because deep inside you know you need this and you can do this. Let us know when you start. Wish you the best.
Are you still drinking..?
@@cptings3396 two weeks no booze
@@ryleyj7434 good man, do you feel better..?
I quit drinking on the 1st February 2019. I can’t explain how much better I feel but also how much better my family feel about me. I couldn’t drink alcohol again even if I wanted to. I certainly don’t want the 28lbs of weight back. So many points in your video hit home with me too. Good luck fella. Best wishes to you and your family. Steve. Liverpool UK. Ps. Your point about shutting social media shit off worked for me to.
Amazing man, it's such a contrast isn't it? It was seeing people post about their struggles and the benefits they've experienced that helped me the most I think. So keep sharing your journey too because that's amazing! Congrats and best wishes to you too!
Great video. I was headed down the same road, unfortunately it took the loss of a relationship for me to reset and choose to quit drinking. I’ve been two months, lost a ton of weight, got a lot of energy. When I first quit I watched a lot of TH-cam videos and they helped. Even if only one or two people get something out of this, don’t stop making them.
Huge kudos to turning things around because I can completely understand how easy it would be to not do that. And thank you so much for sharing the benefits that you’ve reaped. I know a lot of people are reading through these comments silently and will read what you had to say and find hope knowing that there is something worthwhile on the other side of booze.
I really appreciate your encouraging words and it has been amazing and painful to see how many people are suffering in silence and I feel exactly the same way, if I can help a handful of people change the course of their life through my story and my struggles then it is more than worth it so thank you for saying so!
“How many times do you have to be hungover before you realize this is fucking stupid” I can’t count how many times I’ve said this to myself waking up hungover AF after binge drinking for the weekend. I felt that. Good job brother. Thanks for the motivation
Me too man! Countless times. So often after a tough day I'd pour a drink and think to myself "15 minutes from now it'll be gone." That's the problem. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts and I am so thankful that this has been of value to you.
Way to go man! Day 53 here. Glad I saw your video, another series of videos I’ve found very helpful have been “Alcohol Mastery” with Kevin O’Hara. I’m not looking back, alcohol free is where it’s at
Amazing brother! Glad to hear there is helpful and practical content available like that and thanks for saying so. People need that. Keep going man and thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts!
You got this
good video jay, im 2month sober now after 15yrs of drinking.life is good and better.i will never drink again
Great video man. I relate 100 percent because your story sounds very much like my own; not a full blown alcoholic, not near rock bottom, an outward appearance of keeping it together, being a good dad.... but behind it is this ITCH. An inkling that all is not right. And followed by a belief that unless something changes, things won’t get better; they’ll get worse.
It’s funny that you’re about a week in to sobriety when you made this because that’s where I am. I feel great, but there is also this looming void. I realize that I must fill it with joy and some form of contentment or I might fail. But this is life. It’s supposed to humble you. Reaching a state of indifference and hazy bliss is NOT winning. Realizing that, however, may be precisely the first step to a better life and a better future.
You seem like an awesome guy. Keep being you and know that you got this.
Man, that hits home big time. That's exactly where I was at too and it eating at me that booze was increasingly in the driver's seat of my life.
The void is totally real man and having something meaningful enough to fill that void, I believe, is absolutely crucial. Have you seen the clip on TH-cam where Dr Jordan Peterson and Theo Von talk about alcohol? It's so bang on and practical. Here's the link if you haven't seen it yet: th-cam.com/video/4cYuWLZI5kw/w-d-xo.html
It's SOOOOOO good.
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I really appreciate your kind words brother and taking the time to share your thoughts. This feedback means everything to me so thank you. We should keep in touch. Would love to hear how your journey is going and I'm keeping in conversation with a number of people who have benefited from this video. Let's connect on Instagram if you're on there: instagram.com/thejaywoodford/
A Lightworker Awakening.
Thank you for being here at this amazing time.
With All My Respect.
I'm on 24 hours. Thanks for the motivation. My hangover anxiety was too hard to deal with anymore, I totally know how you felt. Wish me luck. How you're still doing good.
5 days now!
Thanks man. I'm going for an indefinite time. I feel so amazing and my mind is so much sharper. Binge drinking is so dumb. Who knows maybe one day I'll learn to drink responsibly, or just not at all.
Just watched your video. Thank you so much. I appreciate your honesty. I am drinking daily and have a extreme anxiety.Starting to affect my health.relationships etc...So tired of the hangovers,the lack of motivation, and not giving a crap about anything. I have a wonderful family and I am not appreciating my blessings. You my friend have given me motivation I need to feel like that Tomorrow is Day 1. Thank you and bless you.
I appreciate this Jay, the vulnerability and honesty is refreshing. Thank You
Thank you for saying so Dave, that means a lot and that was my intent. Knowing how many people are struggling and think they’re alone, it’s dangerous and counterproductive.
Really appreciate your kind words brother 🙏🙏🙏
That Hangover, 2 steps forward, 3 steps back. Lack of clarity, anxiety, being just "SUB A GAME" its completely not worth it....But we often forget how bad it feels until we do it all again. The worst mistakes, bad decisions, wrong roads I've travelled....always under the influence. Loved this testimony. Thanks
I agree. Hundreds of times. For me, fixing the root was required to stop the cycle otherwise it would have been sheer willpower which is very finite. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience
I gave up drinking Sunday 17th November 2019 and I have no intention of going back to that filth. I am now on day 19.
Craig J. Davies me too!
@@AllIn1Studio You gave up on the same date as I did?
Craig J. Davies Yep. Been drinking for 50 yrs.....feel fine though. I was just having lapses of memory on bingeing nights I.e. blackouts. So I had to stop!
@@AllIn1Studio Good for you, I am happy for you, where as for me, I have fallen off the wagon again, I'm lonely.
Craig J. Davies what kind of parallel universe are we living in. I just fell off the wagon10 mins ago because I was assaulted on the street, then came home and my printer chewed up all my paper, the footing of my house has slipped because of heavy rain. I feel this drink is justified and I won’t go crazy. I just need to calm myself down!! Comprendo?!
Yes , this is one of the most truthful things about alcohol. I lost all ambition to support my family , my home upkeep , camping trips and my own hobby ....... Just Stay Away From Alcohol.
You are well on your way to self-destructing yourself with alcohol if :
1. You skip meals and replace them with alcohol , gives you an excuse to start drinking earlier.
2. You don’t have an hangover even if you had quite a bit of drinks the night before.
3. You can never just have a couple of drinks , way past the everything in moderation mindset ..
4. You might be calm and in a good state of mind when you first arrive at the bar , but get aggressive and emotional as you drink more and more throughout the night.
5. You often experience blackouts.
6. You spend the most of your money on drinks.
7. You get extremely defensive when someone argues with you about your drinking habits .
8. You think you can quit anytime you want even though you’ve never done it .
9. You need alcohol to feel more confident in social gatherings .
10. You need alcohol to sleep better ..
Majority of the people who posses most of these symptoms are not necessarily alcoholics , but they are psychologically addicted to alcohol , and if left untreated will eventually turn into psychical dependence ...
Alcohol is poison , carcinogenic and has ZERO benefits .. Get the poison out of your life today ...
100%
Even worse, I brewed my own :p
Great video. I'm a functional alcoholic. I black out every night. Today is my first day. Very nervous. I needed to hear this today!
i really needed this today! thanks brother
I really appreciate you taking the time to say as much! I need that as well so thank you. Stay strong brother :)
Day one for me. Congratulations!
I grew up with Alcohol all around me. I used to drink every day. Now once a week. I feel so much better.
@@perthwatchgirl I used to drink up to 12 beers every day. Now one 6 pack on Saturday night.
@@perthwatchgirl no it does not bother me.
The only problem with that is, when the shit hits the fan it's so easy to bring that drinking into other days of the week. All the best though!
My wife was a alcoholic. I quit to help her quit. Best thing I ever did
Turns into a habit. Proud to see people succeed it quitting. Enjoy life much better.
That’s awesome and huge congratulations and kudos for sticking with her through that. For me the realization that there were a lot of deep rooted issues which exacerbated the problem and needed to be dealt with has been a huge part of the process and I don’t think I would’ve been able to stick it out had I not done this work
Thanks for sharing your story bro. I can totally relate. I would love to see future videos about your progress. All the best! Happy New Year
Jeff Lagneaux thanks for taking the time to comment. I will try my best but I’m super pumped I made the decision to lay it down for the time being. It eats at you deep down when you know it’s starting to control you. Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot.
October 30th 2018 was when i finally admitted to myself that i am an alcoholic.14 months sober. I was allowing the alcohol too slowly kill my body mentally and physically. I am still struggling when i have shit times telling myself that i need a drink to calm down . I allow daily shit to get to me , get wound up,highly strung.Alcohol is not the answer. I go take my dog for a walk and have a good think when that shit thinking comes on .I have full support from my family ,friends and work mates. By watching videos by individuals like yourself really helps me. You say it how it is .I will be checking out your other videos. Best of luck with your journey. Lets all have a great new year in 2020 and thanks again Jay
That’s awesome Jacob! Good for you brother, 14 months is huge and you’re right, the struggle doesn’t just go away but it’s amazing to be able to find better ways of dealing with the shit life throws at us and having the hope that things can be better to push through. All the best to you in your journey as well brother and thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement and for sharing your journey with others. 🙏🙏
When I was younger I would never think of drinking alone Now its crazy All I do anymore is lock myself in my house getting as drunk as possible doing nothing but watching tv by myself and somehow it feels normal now and strangely enjoyable
I know how that feels and there’s a lot of people in the same position. It makes sense when you really look at it but it doesn’t end well. Gotta find something worthwhile to be inspired by and reasons and things worth doing and not letting booze mess up.
Jay, do not let your brain trick you into thinking you can some day go back to drinking. That is a lie you will have to deal with all over again. I did that many years ago and picked up a drink after eight years sober. Within a week I was back drinking like I had never stopped. I have now been completely sober for twenty years. You must declare war on alcohol. I am 73 years old, and have been addicted to alcohol since my twenties. Do not lose faith in yourself. Press on. Good luck.
Thank you, I appreciate this. It’s been over a year now and going strong 💪
thank you Jay, im in day #1 ...your talk is helping me so much to get motivated to change.
Elaine this means the world to me to hear. I am sorry for the late reply to your comment. It's been 2 weeks as of now, how are you doing? If I can help in anyway, please feel free to reach out and thanks so much for taking the time to share this with me. It really means a lot!
I've been thinking a lot recently about quitting, I am still very young but I started around 12 drinking heavy which I can now see how much it has effected me. I never wanted to admit that I have a problem but I refuse to live in denial any longer. Your video was amazing honestly!
I am so glad to hear you're willing to acknowledge where you're at. It's such an important step. I know for me one of the most helpful things was seeing other people's stories about how life was actually better without booze and I can attest without question that that is the case so I wanted to share that as encouragement for you and I really appreciate your kind words and taking the time to share your feedback with me. Reach out if I can help in anyway :)