I see here in Norway they sell a book by a psychriatist on "how to drink and have fun but control the use" share nonsence in my oppinion.Have a good day
Excellent video Kevin. Sitting outside with my morning coffee watching the sun rise whilst listening to you (and the birdsong). Stopped the alcohol in early January and life is so much better for that decision. It would take too long to mention all the positive changes, but they are all positive. Thanks for sharing your knowledge Kevin. I’m on a new road ......
Yes, I spent many years not knowing how to give up alcohol. It HAD to be genetics! (because I'd tried everything - Doctors, rehab, AA.) But eventually I watched these videos, and thought -It's not genetics or alcoholism, just a stupid-arse habit I was stuck in! One year on, and I'm a different person - much happier and enjoying life. Zero stress. Awesome program HabitsV2, Kevin, and another great video, thank you!
I think it was genetic for me also…ironically me and my dad quit at the same age. 35….My first job was cleaning a bar at 13 unattended and we would get plastered in there. It just became an every weekend thing until I was eventually skipping class to drink because the liquor store didn’t card during weekday mornings lol. Then I still carried a very athletic lifestyle…weight lighting, fighting, even joined the military, nearly got in a fatal accident before basic because I was drunk. Evaded a dui. Started drinking again as soon as I got to AIT…it didn’t affect my health until Covid…until I was sitting around all day drinking not being active….stomach issues started and it got to the point where I realized my stomach was warning me it was time to quit. Because after the stomach is out of wack the liver is next. I drank many 3 to 4 24oz beers a day with some breaks plus liquor on weekends, then the last 5 years I switched to half a pint of hard liquor a day that grew into 1 to 2 pints a day before tapering and quitting 3 weeks ago. So I wasn’t as bad as the two 5ths and gallon a day liquor drinkers but it was still hard to quit. The worst part is I had a lot of good things happened while being a drunk. At my worst with alcohol I landed a 100k/yr job for instance. I’ve maintained corporate jobs since I was 22. I was so bad I’d drink in the morning before work….drink on lunch break and drink on the way home. So I didn’t feel the damage from alcohol until it damaged my health. Looking back alcohol cause far more problems in my life than that…repltionships, opportunities, laziness…I just ignored that stuff because I was making good money. Don’t get me wrong I clawed my way out of rock bottom 3 times..and now I realize I hit rock bottom that many times because of the alcohol.
I really like your videos. I am a 60 year-old man in good health. My dad and grandma were alcoholics, so I married one. We later divorced, but for her first 3 years of sobriety, I quit drinking too - I do not want to be a stumbling block to her. After we divorced, I became the classic “moderate” drinker. On January 3rd of this year I decided to take a break for a minimum of 1 year. Your videos have been really helpful to me & I don’t think I’ll ever get back on the piss again. I’ve always known it’s a slow poison I just don’t need. Coming out of COVID, my small business is a wreck, and I’m changing now and moving onto something new. I don’t know what yet. Anyway, thank you so much for all the good work you’re doing here. I’m very grateful- Don
If you put a highly addictive substance in your body you will get addicted. Whether it's within a few short years or if it takes decades, everyone who drinks alcohol eventually gets worse. The AA mindset is that YOU are broken and hopeless. It give alcohol a free pass. AA also says relapse is a part of recovery...which can be taken as permission to have a relapse because 'I'm broken and it's part of the journey'. Currently I'm 663 days sober and absolutely loving it.
I am 4 months sober from drinking alcohol all day everyday since the pandemic and I feel sorry for my family members who still do the same thing. They call me drunk and I still chat with them but it breaks my heart to know that they are poisoning themselves. I don’t even discuss it with them but it does take more patience than us both being drunk lol 😂 I just listen and then say, “oh im getting a call & i’ll call you back “. The good thing is they’ll be blacked out before they can even look for my call. It’s better in the morning when they are just a little tipsy. I can’t believe this was me not that long ago. 😢
You're right on about this topic. Because addiction is a disease, that affects the entire body, but wreaks havoc with the brain and the mind. Our brains are wired to seek and abuse our drug of choice. That wiring might be prone to such activity from birth. But, chronic use will also cause it. I've been off the sauce for 7 ½ years. I had to change everything about the way I viewed alcohol and my relationship with it. The first 6 months were terrifying because I'd never even made a half-effort to stop. After the first year, it got so much easier. I finally had some perspective and some confidence that this could last. Now, 95% of the time I really don't think about alcohol, unless it's reading all the bad news the stuff causes. So, I agree. Alcoholism can be used as an excuse to continue the activity. However, we can come up with a million more excuses if one is taken away from us. The trick is that you have to tip the balance of power. I am NOT powerless over alcohol! Just the opposite. I DO have control unless I give it up and give in. I don't argue with myself over drinking. When that voice speaks, I shut it down immediately.
Fantastic point of view. This really makes sense to me. Why do we have to allow the alcohol to still be part of the picture?? We don’t! Once we decide to get rid of this poison from our lives, that’s where it should go “OUT” and not be part of recovering our being. It’s taken enough time from us already. For me, this approach is a fresh perspective, in an outdated method of recovering (AA) etc. Once we stop drinking, we don’t need to be labelled, have stigma as part of our new life . We should be able to ‘cut the cord’ and harness that energy into our new life and goals. Thanks Kevin, as always, just a great perspective and understanding. I enjoy learning from you 🙏
Good words. I always wonder why people label themselves. Never did like that. I drank for 30 + years but never looked at myself as an "alcoholic" I'm now 2 months no drinking, feel better but have a ways to go as diet plays a big part in overall health also. Your videos are truthful and upfront, no bullshit. I like that. Will continue to watch, still thinking of joining for brain reset.
I think we have to label ourselves something...we should just choose the labels that best suit us and give us more power over our lives. Glad you like the videos Pamela.
Yes Kevin I totally agree. I find that term "Recovering alcoholic".... even decades after the person has quit .... very disdainful. It's like like saying to someone who's survived cancer years after the event that they're a cancer patient. With alcoholism it implies that the person is still has a problem with alcohol. The effect that term can have on the mindset of the person can seriously hold back further personal growth........ I know, I've been an "ex drinker" or these days, a "non drinker" for 10 1/2 years. Great video.
My problem is when I start I can’t stop I go until I pass out or run out I also get abusive to people around me . I just went a week sober for the first time in year so I had 12 beers witch turned in to a 48 hour binge no water sleep or food just alcohol
Oh my goodness I am going through the same. It’s hard for me to keep it together at work. Thank you for sharing. I sure it will pass for you quickly. Routing for you 👍👍
I'm on day four for the hundredth time, and I've been sleeping, working, eating and more sleeping. Hope my energy eventually comes back. 🥲Thanks for the great video! 🥲Much love from Minnesota ♥️🍎
Thank you Kevin. I decided that I will now start calling myself "A Grateful Woman in Recovery" instead of alcoholic. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions.😊
The part that really resonates with me is not labelling of oneself as an alcoholic, and therefore a victim. I stopped smoking after 25 years because i wanted to. The pros of not smoking massively outweighed the cons, but I don’t ever think of myself as a smoker in recovery or anything like that, I just stopped smoking, and using tobacco products. Because of this I didn’t really see it as a huge challenge, it was just a decision that I made. That mindset is everything, and I’d never stopped to think about drinking alcohol in the same way until now. It’s great what you’re doing with your channel Kevin, you are able to tell me things that I guess I always knew deep down at some level, but have never been able to articulate.
Quit for almost 3 years, in part due to your videos - thanks Kevin👍🏻 Drink? By David Nutt explains alcohol is a drug just like any other - however far more addictive and damaging to society then any other illegal drug - when I looked at alcohol from this perspective - I couldn’t keep drinking.
Kevin, I love your videos. Father of 2 little ones and have gone through the normal struggles. I appreciate your efforts to continue to spread your knowledge and be a mentor for us. Congrats on the 50k! Trying this again.
I love this topic, and you explained it well kev ! The thought process behind the intended meaning of the word acoholic , reminds me of the saying I hold true, " whether you can or you can't, you're correct" , ditch the label and stigma.. great talk , highly agree with your thoughts and beliefs on the matter
Sober for a month after drinking basically from 16-17 years of age wondering why I hadn´t just stopped supplying my body with the toxin hoping for getting on cloud no.9 - now I can see how insane was that. As for the term "alcoholic" - have very similar point of view as you, Kevin: defining youself an alcoholic you´re deliberately making yourself a powerless victim of the totally unjust global conspiracy (the world is cruel, your mama hasn´t been kissing you as much as you wanted, the colleagues at work are jerks, your wife doesn´t love as much as you deserve etc.) and you just can´t do anything about it - just a poor boozer forces by evil powers to react to all the life´s misery by getting smashed in a pub to get some more trouble on top 😁 I prefer saying " I was drinking and just don´t do it anymore" which gives me the power ( I decided not to, I have full control over my habits and life and no dark forces have the power over to seduce me to go back, because I know why I quit. I started it and now I´m pulling a plug on this. Thank you Kevin, your videos have been helping me a lot.
This mantra of "Im an alcoholic!" is quite the same as the "Im a sinner!" that you can find christianity. I used to be a christian so I know how that world is working. In the christian culture you get bashed in to your head that you are worthless human that deserves hell. The only one that can save you from this is Jesus. And you are a sinner your whole life even after you got "saved" as they use to say so you need to repent every they. I havent thought of this before. Being a christian and a drunk at the same time just fules you with shame. And in christianity, the word selfasteem is a big now, now. At least in the more strictly and fundamentalistical dominations.
Why are you trying to talk about alcoholics like its so easy to quit.. you never mention addiction or how the brain rewires from the chemical. "Alcohol is a tool"?
It's simple to quit. It's a binary chioce. Put the alcohol into your mouth or don't. That is the truth, whether you regard yourself as alcoholic or not, whether you call it addiction or habit. The human brain is constantly rewiriing itself, not just in response to this toxic chemical.
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I see here in Norway they sell a book by a psychriatist on "how to drink and have fun but control the use" share nonsence in my oppinion.Have a good day
Excellent video Kevin. Sitting outside with my morning coffee watching the sun rise whilst listening to you (and the birdsong). Stopped the alcohol in early January and life is so much better for that decision. It would take too long to mention all the positive changes, but they are all positive. Thanks for sharing your knowledge Kevin. I’m on a new road ......
That's great to hear Jim...
Like Kevin wouls say "onwards n upwards" 👍
Life isn’t perfect but it’s so much better without alcohol!
What made you decide to stop drinking?
Yes, I spent many years not knowing how to give up alcohol.
It HAD to be genetics! (because I'd tried everything - Doctors, rehab, AA.)
But eventually I watched these videos, and thought -It's not genetics or alcoholism, just a stupid-arse habit I was stuck in!
One year on, and I'm a different person - much happier and enjoying life. Zero stress.
Awesome program HabitsV2, Kevin, and another great video, thank you!
Well done Jeremy. Great to see you reach your first year. It's been a pleasure speaking to you over the year... and longer, right?
I think it was genetic for me also…ironically me and my dad quit at the same age. 35….My first job was cleaning a bar at 13 unattended and we would get plastered in there. It just became an every weekend thing until I was eventually skipping class to drink because the liquor store didn’t card during weekday mornings lol. Then I still carried a very athletic lifestyle…weight lighting, fighting, even joined the military, nearly got in a fatal accident before basic because I was drunk. Evaded a dui. Started drinking again as soon as I got to AIT…it didn’t affect my health until Covid…until I was sitting around all day drinking not being active….stomach issues started and it got to the point where I realized my stomach was warning me it was time to quit. Because after the stomach is out of wack the liver is next. I drank many 3 to 4 24oz beers a day with some breaks plus liquor on weekends, then the last 5 years I switched to half a pint of hard liquor a day that grew into 1 to 2 pints a day before tapering and quitting 3 weeks ago. So I wasn’t as bad as the two 5ths and gallon a day liquor drinkers but it was still hard to quit.
The worst part is I had a lot of good things happened while being a drunk. At my worst with alcohol I landed a 100k/yr job for instance. I’ve maintained corporate jobs since I was 22. I was so bad I’d drink in the morning before work….drink on lunch break and drink on the way home.
So I didn’t feel the damage from alcohol until it damaged my health. Looking back alcohol cause far more problems in my life than that…repltionships, opportunities, laziness…I just ignored that stuff because I was making good money. Don’t get me wrong I clawed my way out of rock bottom 3 times..and now I realize I hit rock bottom that many times because of the alcohol.
Always seeking a “head change” is how I think about being an addict/alcoholic, such a waste of time
I really like your videos. I am a 60 year-old man in good health. My dad and grandma were alcoholics, so I married one. We later divorced, but for her first 3 years of sobriety, I quit drinking too - I do not want to be a stumbling block to her. After we divorced, I became the classic “moderate” drinker. On January 3rd of this year I decided to take a break for a minimum of 1 year. Your videos have been really helpful to me & I don’t think I’ll ever get back on the piss again. I’ve always known it’s a slow poison I just don’t need. Coming out of COVID, my small business is a wreck, and I’m changing now and moving onto something new. I don’t know what yet. Anyway, thank you so much for all the good work you’re doing here. I’m very grateful- Don
Sorry to hear about your business, Don... It's been a horrible time for many people. All the best of luck with your new venture mate.
I still drink but stopping drinking has definitely been on the mind . I binge watch your videos often .
If you put a highly addictive substance in your body you will get addicted. Whether it's within a few short years or if it takes decades, everyone who drinks alcohol eventually gets worse. The AA mindset is that YOU are broken and hopeless. It give alcohol a free pass. AA also says relapse is a part of recovery...which can be taken as permission to have a relapse because 'I'm broken and it's part of the journey'. Currently I'm 663 days sober and absolutely loving it.
I am 4 months sober from drinking alcohol all day everyday since the pandemic and I feel sorry for my family members who still do the same thing. They call me drunk and I still chat with them but it breaks my heart to know that they are poisoning themselves. I don’t even discuss it with them but it does take more patience than us both being drunk lol 😂 I just listen and then say, “oh im getting a call & i’ll call you back “. The good thing is they’ll be blacked out before they can even look for my call. It’s better in the morning when they are just a little tipsy. I can’t believe this was me not that long ago. 😢
The more I see it the more grateful I am
You're right on about this topic. Because addiction is a disease, that affects the entire body, but wreaks havoc with the brain and the mind. Our brains are wired to seek and abuse our drug of choice. That wiring might be prone to such activity from birth. But, chronic use will also cause it. I've been off the sauce for 7 ½ years. I had to change everything about the way I viewed alcohol and my relationship with it. The first 6 months were terrifying because I'd never even made a half-effort to stop. After the first year, it got so much easier. I finally had some perspective and some confidence that this could last. Now, 95% of the time I really don't think about alcohol, unless it's reading all the bad news the stuff causes. So, I agree. Alcoholism can be used as an excuse to continue the activity. However, we can come up with a million more excuses if one is taken away from us. The trick is that you have to tip the balance of power. I am NOT powerless over alcohol! Just the opposite. I DO have control unless I give it up and give in. I don't argue with myself over drinking. When that voice speaks, I shut it down immediately.
Fantastic point of view. This really makes sense to me. Why do we have to allow the alcohol to still be part of the picture?? We don’t!
Once we decide to get rid of this poison from our lives, that’s where it should go “OUT” and not be part of recovering our being.
It’s taken enough time from us already. For me, this approach is a fresh perspective, in an outdated method of recovering (AA) etc.
Once we stop drinking, we don’t need to be labelled, have stigma as part of our new life . We should be able to ‘cut the cord’ and harness that energy into our new life and goals.
Thanks Kevin, as always, just a great perspective and understanding. I enjoy learning from you 🙏
Thanks for the kind word SIMO
Good words. I always wonder why people label themselves. Never did like that. I drank for 30 + years but never looked at myself as an "alcoholic" I'm now 2 months no drinking, feel better but have a ways to go as diet plays a big part in overall health also. Your videos are truthful and upfront, no bullshit. I like that. Will continue to watch, still thinking of joining for brain reset.
I think we have to label ourselves something...we should just choose the labels that best suit us and give us more power over our lives. Glad you like the videos Pamela.
Yes Kevin I totally agree. I find that term "Recovering alcoholic".... even decades after the person has quit .... very disdainful. It's like like saying to someone who's survived cancer years after the event that they're a cancer patient. With alcoholism it implies that the person is still has a problem with alcohol. The effect that term can have on the mindset of the person can seriously hold back further personal growth........ I know, I've been an "ex drinker" or these days, a "non drinker" for 10 1/2 years. Great video.
I could listen to you for hours and its all true..thanks bro..
I appreciate that
My problem is when I start I can’t stop I go until I pass out or run out I also get abusive to people around me . I just went a week sober for the first time in year so I had 12 beers witch turned in to a 48 hour binge no water sleep or food just alcohol
All things considered; I would perhaps consider what's going on with all that. It's possible you'd be happier leaving it behind.
Well I’m gonna tell ya , it’s just gonna get worse, ur gonna hurt someone you had no intentions on hurting, idk I know I don’t wanna drink
I am proud of you. I hope, I can do something for myself too.
Same here , today’s day one hard to sleep , I stop for 1 week it takes 3 days to sleep but the binge out for 3 weeks,, but I keep trying
I stopped two weeks ago and the anxiety and restlessness is almost unbearable. Hope that fades...
Oh my goodness I am going through the same. It’s hard for me to keep it together at work. Thank you for sharing. I sure it will pass for you quickly. Routing for you 👍👍
Try Spravato ketamine spray. Cured my addiction to alcohol. I'm 70 days sober now
I'm on day four for the hundredth time, and I've been sleeping, working, eating and more sleeping. Hope my energy eventually comes back. 🥲Thanks for the great video! 🥲Much love from Minnesota ♥️🍎
I hope you are still trying. ❤
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@@mamaJmama wow feels weird to read my old comment, I'm a year sober now and don't miss drinking AT ALL
Thank you Kevin. I decided that I will now start calling myself "A Grateful Woman in Recovery" instead of alcoholic. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions.😊
The part that really resonates with me is not labelling of oneself as an alcoholic, and therefore a victim. I stopped smoking after 25 years because i wanted to. The pros of not smoking massively outweighed the cons, but I don’t ever think of myself as a smoker in recovery or anything like that, I just stopped smoking, and using tobacco products. Because of this I didn’t really see it as a huge challenge, it was just a decision that I made. That mindset is everything, and I’d never stopped to think about drinking alcohol in the same way until now. It’s great what you’re doing with your channel Kevin, you are able to tell me things that I guess I always knew deep down at some level, but have never been able to articulate.
Quit for almost 3 years, in part due to your videos - thanks Kevin👍🏻
Drink? By David Nutt explains alcohol is a drug just like any other - however far more addictive and damaging to society then any other illegal drug - when I looked at alcohol from this perspective - I couldn’t keep drinking.
I like one side of Nutt's work. But he seems to be pushing a 'less harmful' drug these days. As if we need any more intoxicants in our lives.
Kevin, I love your videos. Father of 2 little ones and have gone through the normal struggles. I appreciate your efforts to continue to spread your knowledge and be a mentor for us. Congrats on the 50k! Trying this again.
You can do it! If there was any particular type of person I want to help above all others, it's parents with young kids... Best of luck to you Eric.
Very encouraging and truthful, thanks!
You are so welcome
Hands down one of the best videos I’ve seen in awhile. Great content, thank you!!!
I love this topic, and you explained it well kev ! The thought process behind the intended meaning of the word acoholic , reminds me of the saying I hold true, " whether you can or you can't, you're correct" , ditch the label and stigma.. great talk , highly agree with your thoughts and beliefs on the matter
Absolutely
After detoxing (if you have been dangerously drinking), you are no longer an alcoholic- unless you start again of course.
Great video, Kevin! Thank you for sharing.
Excellent video. One of the best ones I’ve seen/listened to so far. Thank you
👋👋👋 great message this evening 👋
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Sober for a month after drinking basically from 16-17 years of age wondering why I hadn´t just stopped supplying my body with the toxin hoping for getting on cloud no.9 - now I can see how insane was that. As for the term "alcoholic" - have very similar point of view as you, Kevin: defining youself an alcoholic you´re deliberately making yourself a powerless victim of the totally unjust global conspiracy (the world is cruel, your mama hasn´t been kissing you as much as you wanted, the colleagues at work are jerks, your wife doesn´t love as much as you deserve etc.) and you just can´t do anything about it - just a poor boozer forces by evil powers to react to all the life´s misery by getting smashed in a pub to get some more trouble on top 😁 I prefer saying " I was drinking and just don´t do it anymore" which gives me the power ( I decided not to, I have full control over my habits and life and no dark forces have the power over to seduce me to go back, because I know why I quit. I started it and now I´m pulling a plug on this. Thank you Kevin, your videos have been helping me a lot.
So good. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you again. It is sad people continue to call themselves alcoholics when in reality we can call ourselves ex alcoholics.
So true! Thanks
You are so welcome!
Calling yourself an 'alcoholic' is dangerous
Fantastic video, you are helping me no end getting through the first week😘
So good. So, so good. Thank you!
Thank you Kevin, and Happy New Year. I really like your videos
What a great video. Thank you for posting
Well said Kevin,makes alot of sense👌
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So what's you're best advice? Meetings, groups, etc?
Thank you. I sent this to my husband.
I guess, I need to find some happiness.
Excellent!
Brilliant video thankyou
Thank you
Thanks this makes me look at booze in whole different way please send more content like this!
Thought inspiring.Alcohol user not Alcoholic
Love listening not quite there but your amazing.
I appreciate that!
I binge drink and cannot function I have even not turned up to work on many occasions
Im not an alcoholic, but im addicted to soda wich is a drug (the caffeine, the sugar) i want change.
Rob halford? From Judas Priest? R u two brothers? Haha
Now that’s 🤘🏻 🎸 heavy metal
3 years and counting (:
12 step fellowship.s can become very abusive
Can't they just!
beer's ok tho
Where is your life going Kevin?
In what way?
This mantra of "Im an alcoholic!" is quite the same as the "Im a sinner!" that you can find christianity.
I used to be a christian so I know how that world is working.
In the christian culture you get bashed in to your head that you are worthless human that deserves hell.
The only one that can save you from this is Jesus.
And you are a sinner your whole life even after you got "saved" as they use to say so you need to repent every they.
I havent thought of this before. Being a christian and a drunk at the same time just fules you with shame.
And in christianity, the word selfasteem is a big now, now. At least in the more strictly and fundamentalistical dominations.
Why are you trying to talk about alcoholics like its so easy to quit.. you never mention addiction or how the brain rewires from the chemical. "Alcohol is a tool"?
It's simple to quit. It's a binary chioce. Put the alcohol into your mouth or don't. That is the truth, whether you regard yourself as alcoholic or not, whether you call it addiction or habit. The human brain is constantly rewiriing itself, not just in response to this toxic chemical.
Very well said . And I stuck listening to you