Should Christians Ever Flirt?
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- Is flirting an option if you like someone? What does the Bible say about flirting? Should Christian be flirty or should this be avoided at all cost?
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Boaz: “Before I met you, I was Ruthless”.
lol, nice!
Hahahaha! That's a good one! 😄👏
That’s such a ruthless joke... 😂
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I believe it's okay to flirt with intention (letting someone know you like them). Flirting just to be flirting (I think) is a waste of time and could be damaging to both parties.
I like how you said this, i agree with "flirting with intention" :)
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger I don't agree with that because that leads to feelings. If your married, that's consider as adultery.
@@Cloudforest811 It's good to be open and clear what is being stated, otherwise it could be interpreted falsely. Sometimes people like @pretty momma have to come forward and question it so all sides of the truth can be revealed so nobody takes it the wrong way. :)
No. Christians shouldn't flirt, tease, dance, or do anything because everything is a sin. It's worldly. And remember you shouldn't love the world or anything in it. People, animals, trees, food are all in the world. So you shouldn't love these things. If you're not reading the bible you're sinning. So you should basically just lock yourself in a room with no windows or doors and just read the bible until you die. Because everything outside of that is a sin. At least that's how some Christians make you feel.
@@newman8180 Bro I was about to say you crazy lol.
THAT THUMBNAIL HAD ME 💀💀
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I love how this pastor really cares about singles and helping them in their walk with God in relationships. Especially cool how he says not to take his advice if we don't feel right about it, but follow our hearts and minds in Jesus and follow where God instructs us (which of course I would do anyway but still cool to hear him say it).
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Yes. It gladens my heart that he says it
Indeed, that part (about following your own understanding of what God wants) was truly great.
Yes...in and with great humility, Ruth laid herself at Boaz's feet offering herself to the one who showed her great favor and knew he would never violate her. She was basically saying that he was her king and in that culture to do that was a sign of complete submission. Boaz was an honorable man and not only offered her his covering, he stopped at nothing to redeem this woman who was a pearl and he treated her like one...precious and valuable.
Thanks for sharing your story!!! I like the authenticity you and your wife share!!
Hey Michelle, that's a great point in "how" Ruth approached Boaz and let him know she was interested. Humility and not "flashy" or "sexy". thanks for sharing!
Boaz is a remarkable man because he rose to the occasion and did what God wanted him to do. Imagine that. We need men to do what God wants them to do in order to fix a lot of what's wrong with society.
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Baby that thumbnail took me OUT !! 😂😂😂😂
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me too X'D
"She just sat a little closer to him than usual to show she was interested...and they're married now." XD
Love you brother. Can't wait to see you in Heaven one day. It will be epic to meet all my favorite Christian TH-camrs. Amen.
If you're being genuine, taking an honest interest in someone, either romantic with the opposite sex or just friendships with those of the same sex, it's called social skills. And I have noticed many singles in the church are lacking in the basics of this.
Thanks brother. This video gave me a lot of hope for finding a beautiful Christian girl 👧
Good luck! :)
Go out to serve - not to find someone, then your focus is in the right place and you will be led into your Blessing. Psalm 23 tells us The LORD is our Shepherd. He leads us into the Best (green luscious fruitful, enjoyable pastures & still peaceful waters) . His Heart was to serve others. To walk with Him focus on how you can make someone else's life better and yours will be better. You reap what you sow - The Bible.
I am so happy to listen to your videos. I have to say I haven’t met or spoken to a man of faith like you for a long time but have prayed for a man like you. My soulmate God has for me. Nice knowing there’s still men of faith out there. Thanks for sharing.
Find a single available person, send some signal (nothing too seductive), get to know them, and then decided whether to be together or not. Noted with thanks and respect. Amen.
This video from the get-go revealed to me that my flirting with a friend was with the wrong intentions. Thanks Mark! God bless you!
Glad it was helpful Charles :)
Wow, great topic! I say, Flirting(non-vulgar) with intention with A PARTICULAR individual with the idea of letting that person know that you like him (or her if you're a guy) is not bad, as long as you're not degrading yourself and giving the wrong impression. Doing the opposite of that, i.e. flirting for the sake of attention can be all together manipulative...I think this is called being a Tease, which can cause major problems. Now Mark, I think that this topic can get even more complicated when you factor in cultural differences and upbringing-just within the states alone, a Southerner may not define flirting in the same way a Mid-Westerner might. That being said, let's not even get into differences when foreign culture comes into play. I say if you're going to flirt, do so intentionally and with one person in mind, therefore avoiding confusion. This doesn't mean you can't be respectfully social (saying hello with a causal smile, for example), but be obvious with the one you want to relay the message to and go from there. Mark, your example as to how you approached your wife is a perfect example. Kudos to you!
Good stuff here Rose, these are great points
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Thanks Mark! You touch great topics. We're in "the world" but we're not suppose to follow "the world"...your videos are a good guide as to the do's and don't's for Christian singles. God bless!
This actually clarified a lot of points about flirting in general for me, Christian or otherwise! Interesting 👍🏻thank you, Pastor Mark!
Thank you so much Mark! I always had that question in mind and you answered it in a very simple and meaningful way! God bless you!
I love this channel. I was already doing those things so I feel like I did the right thing
So basically the whole point is don't flirt unless you're serious about that person?
I think it's about gauging interest and seeing if there is a connection before fully dating....I think it's helpful to see if you are serious or not....it fits well between friendship and dating
Mark, you are *hilarious!* The story of how you flirted with your wife, and even that thumbnail pic brought a smile to my face. I agree! Share some jokes and more of your personality with the person of the opposite sex, as long as it is with intention to get to know them and leave hints rather than to show off or make yourself filled with pride. Thanks Mark!
❤️🔥❤️🔥 flirting with God in mind.
Being intentional and keeping it Holy at the same time !
Thank you brother for wise counsel
THANK YOU I WAS GETTING NERVOUS!!!
You confirmed what I was thinking! Spot on!
You got me subscribed! Moderation is a magnet and your channel attracted me
Welcome! 👍
Quality thumbnail my man
I like your videos and believe your share sound biblical wisdom. I am however very frustrated at a continued theme (not just here, but overall) of women having to "make the extra step" to show interest. I'm referring to initial contact. I wouldn't categorize my self as traditional, but I don't embrace the "I'm an independent woman and I don' t need men" argument either. As such, I agree that a woman should be responsive if she is actually interested in the man that approaches. Men I've observed both personally (and at a distance) appear to be very insecure and fearful of the POTENTIAL of rejection. It is as if they want the guaranteed slam dunk without taking any risks. What happened to being strong and courageous?
Thank you for some clarity on the issue. This was something I was thinking about, but didn't know where to even look for that in the Bible. It seems There is a lot of discernment, but I would advise if you are a believer, not to flirt with non-believers. Even if you both are single, you are providing a poor Christian testimony, and since you can't commit to a nonbeliever, don't start a flame in someone you know you can't have. I say this from experience and realize the errors of that.
This is a great video
That thumbnail pucker lips face was hilarious 🤭😭🤣, I take this channel seriously, but I click in hurry to laugh.
Very Good Video.
loved the video and u totally agree with you about christian flirting :)
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Love the point about Ruth. I was thinking of this earlier today! Maybe I should bust a move lol
Do it!
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God bless you. I think being Christian like we dont really flirt. Thats more like a worldy ways of bieng.Yes we could let a person know you like them and how you see them. Cause we are adult's. And before we like someone we are attracted to them first. You just have to choose your words wisely. When your going to say something.Getting to know someone is going to let you know. Just how your going to let that person know how you feel and see the person. But your pretty much clear on the message your bringing about flirting being a Christian 👧🏼⛰📙
flirting is how we get to know someone is interested or wish to advance. But you have to draw the line when ur married becuase that relationship should be first.
I had to pause the video just to laugh 😂 when you said I know what your thinking you want this...
God bless you all amen
Remember me !! Lol so that pastor that I like called me over to him on Easter Sunday . He’s dad was preaching and he was standing in the back of auditorium;I was in the Easter play but after the 3rd service which was the last showing ; I got out of my costume and dressed up in my dress and went to watch the sermon the pastor was preaching on . Well there was absolutely no where to sit ;and I was standing all the in the back as well . And that when the pastor son looked over my way and was like I just want to tell you did an amazing job . lol I was smiling and super cheesy and was like thank you !! And so were you lol but he didn’t do anything so I was like you know just for being here . Lol How awkward. I wasn’t trying to flirt but I do like him. We just smiled at each and I just kinda walked away like what the heck just happened. !!
God is Not DUMB if he wants you to be with someone he will make a way but you need to life for him
But also, faith without works is dead.. 🔑
I was recently trying to tell my friend about not flirting and I feel like I failed in my delivery, but you put this right into perspective!! I'd like to add, don't just flirt bc you are interested in marriage with a person either bc if God doesn't intend for you to marry that person then you are leading someone astray! No matter how great it might seem at the time!
This is good. Thank you Mark. The Bible says “not even a hint@ of sexual immorality. I’ve taken this very seriously as well as saving myself for marriage. I’m not in my 40s and have loved some life so I do have a sense of humor and friends non Christian and some chnstian that makes jokes in this nature. So I laugh at it sometimes. The problem with me is that I am so afraid of coming across seductive or flirtation that I took to extreme and do not “flirt “ at all. So guys never know when I’m interested. It’s such a fine balance.
*now* in 40s
Uh I said Ruth and Boaz comment before even watching this whole video. Haha
😂 we were thinking the same way
I'm only about 6 minutes in and I just had to stop and comment right now. I love your statement "I flirted with my wife!"
You make a lot of valid points here. How do I flirt with someone I'm interested in but he's socially awkward?
Renee i think a nice smile and the right touch if hes socially awkward works. He will get it. i know this is not my page but i had to share
I feel like I’m a statue when it comes to someone I like :/// . . There’s a man that was or I thought was flirting with me but how do I kinda show him that I am as well?. I’m generally a nice person around everyone .. so not sure if the man can tell or not ..
Thank you
That thumbnail made me spit out my sweet tea
Some woman like a little bit of flirting but some not... and it depends who you speaking to
I have a crush on a guy at work for almost 3yrs now but i kept it well hidden that the people around us think i’m just being playful in receiving teasing. They started pairing us up right off the bat. But we’ve been sooo awkward with each other ever since that we never really had a chance to be friends because of the teasing (that still happens up to this day). I’m thinking of inviting him for coffee somewhere far to just have a chance to talk but i’m kinda hesitant coz he might think i’m trying to pursue him or something, given the tension between us. Any advice?
Do you still need the advice?
Can you do a video on depression.
Yes I can, I'll add it to my list
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Did this video ever get made?
...should you depend on other people to tell you what's right or wrong, or listen to that steady, small voice within...?
I don't but really I don't know how. I don't see anything wrong with being friendly and outgoing. How else will you let others know you are interested. I am not even sure what a guy flirting looks or sounds like? Thanks for the tips.
Valerie Hodson I will admit sometimes it is hard to tell since some guys and girls flirt all the time or that’s how the come off.
I'm willing to teach you how to flirt, if you're willing to learn. Here, let's exchange numbers and we can practice sometime... ;)
it looks like hes care free and happy .thats what a flirting guy looks like or sounds .its like we will notice the things others overlook in the person we are interested in. Mark is right a flriting christian should be non sexuall. He can be attracted to u but he should really NOT put much emphasis on that part. maybee just a small you look great type of remark but in a colorfull way. but there are other ways to flirt. a flirter seeks a
positive reaction but if hes really interested He might just be probling to see what u like that u might let him inside your world.
As a girl, i find "friendly, outgoin" is not enough. When it comes to a guy interested in me, i will want him to be fun (has a life, unordinary dates), doing act of service (just a small one like holding your bag is enough), be funny and and smart. Flirting is really for fun, we shouldnt make it a number 1 priority, but it works as "salt" in dates
If youre a girl, you can get him a nickname for him, like sleepyhead if he likes sleeping. Thats the example of smooth flirting to get your man
Years late, so I understand if you never see this.
See how a guy interacts with other girls, and see how he interacts with you- something I and many other guys do.
When I flirt with someone I just want to have fun and joke around
And I'm Goofy and silly. Kind of like gal Gadot. Is natural, don't force it, I just want to show my sence of humor, if a guy catches the hint he'll just go along with it. But I can soo tell when guys are just used to a sexual type of flirting. And I don't do that.
So I need to know what flirtig is. A friend of mine likes me. He always comments about my profile pictures. That is it nice or I look cute. Is that flirting????
Not sure, but if I had to guess I would say yes,
I probably watch too much news but men risk a lot even in trying to flirt. If the woman considers it an unwanted advance (and the 80/20 rule says she most likely will) then any man is opening themselves up to getting the creepy label at best (and we all know women talk about this stuff together) and sexual harassment charges at worst.
If a flirty behavior is creating lustful images or movies in the other person's mind then its stumbling them and unloving :( as its leading them to sin. Sad because flirting is meant as a sign of affection at times.
I have a question Pastor Mark, I hope you have time to answer.
At what point in the relationship can one use fond names like "sugar", "baby" or whatever one chooses?
I want to know too
@@emilia1650 Well I don't think an answer is coming anytime soon. 😊
Probably when you're married to her.
Well, I do not want to flirt, that's totally the wrong thing to do, according to me, I do not want to come off as that to the guy I have hurt in the past and to other guys who know me. Thanks for the advice, though!
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Sandra Van Den Driesen how is flirting the wrong thing to do? He's been specific in that you only do it with actual intention towards an individual that you would want to date. If you don't open yourself to that possibility, you will most likely remain single.
Didn't Ruth kinda flirt with Boaz in the bible? I think flirting is fine as long as it's leading to just letting someone know you like them and ya I like to flirt but definitely not with everyone. Like I don't want to date everyone that's only reserved for the few the proud the man I like lol
Dios trabaja en silencio y los tiempos de Dios no son los nuestros. Cuando me gustaba alguien también oraba y le pedía que me diera señales de si él era el indicado, al final yo SOLA me di cuenta que no lo era y Dios durante ese poseso protegió mi corazón porque no terminé dolida. Dios si escucha tu oración Mary, el problema es que poco menos queremos que baje un angel de los cielos y nos de la respuesta, pero muchas veces con pequeños gestos, observaciones, comentarios, advertencias que nos dan y por ese "bichito" que nos pica cuando algo no esta bien, es suficiente si esa persona es o NO indicada. No dejes todo el trabajo a Dios, también pon de tu parte y se sabia en decidir, pues cuando uno esta enamorada, aun orando DIOS no hará nada pues tu ya has puesto tu emociones sobre su voluntad
Yeah. Remember that time she put on some perfume and uncovered his "feet"? Not as innocent as it seems.
I used to work at a gas station and talk to a woman who drove the potato chip delivery truck. People accused me of "flirting" with her. I basically craved being able to talk to women.
I got this tonight 😗
And my reaction was this 🤔
Not sure what to think about that…I thought Christians weren’t supposed to flirt. 🤷♀️😱
Don't flirt with me. Be straight up. "I think you are attractive are you single"? Something like that. We have to remember that Mark was what 19 when he met his wife. So I get flirting for him at that age..... He was not like a 35 or 40 year old man.
There is nothing wrong with flirting if done respectfully you are merely letting the other person know you are interested in them.
And if you can do so in a clean and cute clever way than do so. Just be understanding if the other does not flirt back than stop.
I am turning 30 and i am interested in a 34 women and am trying to come up with a clever and sweet way of letting her know i like her. Nothing wrong with complimenting some ones hair but be careful when giving compliments not to say anything sexual.
Great advice, I was definitely thinking about Ruth and Boaz.
In a lighter note, how would you apply Jacob kissing Rachel at first sight. 😆 Good advice?? See woman, then go for Her LOL.
Hahah, It only gets worse when you keep reading and he ends up marrying Rachel's sister first....probably not the best blueprint for relational success :)
Should Christians Ever Flirt? Only if they're good at it. ;)
Don't even joke about it please. :)
That statement is a seed that gets planted. If someone doesn't know you're joking, it may validate their opinion, and they move on. Pride and false intentions come from that mindset.
Well to be honest I do not even know how to flirt. There is no point for me to take part in this. I am straight forward if I like someone they will know right away. I think for me is honest and true. Most off all straight to the point. But to each its own.
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Flirting with the one that moves you and you feel like God directed you to is not sinful. Don't flirt in a worldly way. Giving compliments that let them know that you see them, no problem. Flirting with multiple people, bad idea. Be focused. I realize that people flirt with multiple people because they don't want to put themselves at risk emotionally. The problem is, these people you are flirting with see the others you flirt with. One of those people might have feelings forming and be completely turned off and confused. They could think you were singling them out but then you go and flirt in the same way with others.
….this is so crazy 😂 “can you flirt” 😂💀😂💀😂
Random question, what are you and your wife's MBTI's?
me = intj Bethany= isfj
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No, you should communicate your attraction telepathically. (/sarcasm)
His face on the beginning of this video is hilarious! Why do guys do that? 🤪
Pastor Mark Some of the symbolism on Ruth got me too. What’s with the “feet holding” is it to show a definite longing or need like a kid will grab and hold a parents ankle?
I think a better word is banter. Flirting seems sexual. Banter is non sexual. And lighthearted. That's what I call it anyway.
😂😂😂I laugh alot hearing this
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Can someone pray for me I sin all the time and sometimes I can’t control my self
I will. Please receive the Lord Jesus as your Savior and ask Him to fill you with His Spirit. Get connected with a Holy Bible preaching/teaching church. When you realize how much He loves you and who you are in Him, you will use your authority over all wickedness to exercise self-control. He loves you so much. Walk in your victory in Christ. Ask Him to help you find your spouse.
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If you are truely Christ focused, attracting will definitely NOT be a problem for you!
It’s a natural thing to think lustful thoughts , still sin though . So flirting is sin as well really .
Just 🛑 being a downer.
Pleya😉.
What do you mean flirting in a way that you don't think is sinful? I thought everything you do is supposed to be filtered by the bible and God. And the Christians believe basically everything is a sin. So flirting is a sin too. So is dancing, sports, eating, breathing, bathing basically being a human being.
I'm a Christian and I don't believe everything is a sin. Perhaps you need to meet different Christians
you look like jake gylenhall haha
JennDen THAT’S who he looks like!! lol i just couldn’t place him
Drunk off food! Lol
AMEN!!!
how can friends , family and the church help singles
I think it starts by everyone being aware of what that person needs. They should ask and the person should tell them. Some want to be set up on dates and some just want to be included in social events...so the way they help should be based on what the person needs from them
I think the churches, especially where I live, need to form and keep single Bible studies and single events. They are so 'worried' about people sinning that they do not serve the single community at all but push it back and away instead of addressing and helping. They ignore it, think it will go away and treat singles like they are leopards. It's hard to find a good church that cares about the single community, especially for older singles.
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger much appreciated (sorry for the late response, notification were off)
For heavens sake of course flirting isn't a sin if you're single....this is really heading in the direction of legalism
So long story cut short royal priests do not act cheap, just be yourself with dignity? Goofy at some appropriate level?? But being honest about feelings??? IDK. Congrats to you, your wife and your mate who got married!!!
Christians can meet by words,etc.
These silent presents,fake romantism,love from 1st sign,gazes,etc....are meaningless.Brotherhood,friendship ,sisterhood ,openness is better.
They so many bad thins in the Bible I dont think filt is bad thing
Just don't 😁
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO and finally NO. You know what it leads too.
I flirt with you all night long I love you Micque.
I don’t feel comfortable with flirting with a guy, nor do I desire a guy to flirt with me, especially in a seductive way. I’m too old for playing games with grown boys!!! #RealChik247
"Don't Play games wth grown boys" I like that, sounds like a good video title :)
There is a christan woman who wants to adopt my husbands children. And i have never met this woman. She took my husband to church. Now this womam called my husband on fathers day which is okay but to ask him to go out amd hes married. And STILL haven't met the wife, because she doesn't or even invite the wife. She is trying to win his heart and knows his weaknesses. Is she a christan? Is she disrespectful? Is she trying to win the husband. Why is she doing all of this? And he doesn't even want this older woman and hes 33yrs.
Sorry there's no 'Holy Flirting'. Flirting for a Christian is vain and is different from communicating interest or fondness for someone. There's so many ways to let someone know you like them without flirting.
Anndie Stephen proof?
Like what exactly? I'm not being facetious; I genuinely want to know the answer. I'm a woman and if a guy seems to be sending out signals that he likes me, how would I signal back or respond to him? I suppose that I could just ask him outright if he likes me, but that seems like a good way to get embarrassed and/or make things awkward.