Nice video brother! but i feel lead to point out that BOAZ in the book of Ruth, pursured Ruth 1st, repeatedly at that. However, Ruth (note to women) at the right time, made it aware and clear she was available! Also, during the time Boaz was taking interest, Ruth was open to him but she NEVER got distracted. Ruth remained faithful to her duties, responsibilities, and assignments. Ladies! As the man pursues you, be open but ALWAYS stay focus with what God has you doing. Timing is everything. Keep yourself together and dont get so excited that the man of God becomes the center of your heart. Christ is our center! ❤❤ blessings!!
Thank you for this. Well said. I always afraid whether I would loose track when I'm in a relationship because this is what happened in my past. Nowadays, I pray God to keep me strong in him. .
My mom has to ask my dad out for their first date. He was flirting with her constantly but he was just nervous about asking her. He wanted to but he was scared. They have been married for 25 years.
@@mariahconklin4150 what’s funnier to me is that their first date was dinner and seeing Beauty and the Beast. My dad fell asleep during the movie. Only because he was a ER doctor in residency, thus crazy schedules and hours.
In this case, he initiated verbally and physically by flirting and taking that first visible lead. She then supported him back by asking him out (though she could have just made it known she was available and interested in him too which could have given him that momentum and boost to step up and ask for the date.) 😃 The only other thing I could say is that he didn't somewhat fully lead, but some times the lady has to support in a way that helps her guy mature to his full potential and vice versa (ONLY WHEN NECESSARY AND IT FEELS RIGHT FROM THE LORD'S WILL) because not all humans have a childhood where they fully mature to the level they need and with the help of the other person, that the Lord has for us to be with, will of course be there for their partner because the Lord will put it in their heart to know what to do at the right time and on his time. When it comes to marriage, we are here to help bring at least one person to Heaven with us. I am sending blessings to your parents and A Big Congrats to them 😃
This is confirmation for me! I never understood these women just sitting there single interested in someone but refusing to speak bc of the notion of being pursued
@@mariahconklin4150 Yes, I understand. I will recommend just praying about it, because you realize the things you've done in the past that you did wrong, and now you can do better, so you have to trust God and trust yourself that God can work through you so that you don't make the same mistakes again.
Dead Shot yeah right. cz i’ve met this guy, and he’ll talk if i text him first. and some questions is appear. he did text me first. but only once. but for me he’s kinda not good at texting tho and for me when he tried it, kinda out of context, idk if he nervous or something so i was like “hmm ok bla bla”
shine and retreat. This is the best help you can give to activate his manhood, else you'll end up in a relationship where you'll have to take initiative constantly, but hey ... women end up multitasking in advanced relationships anyway: job, children, household, contact to his family members too and so on and so on, so why teaching him that he is also not responsible for initiating your togetherness, sex and mutual endevours?????? Help is insane and leads to frustration on the woman's side on the long run.
This video is very helpful. Growing up on a Pentecostal church, I was made to feel bad for showing a guy any interest. They made it seems like you should just sit there and wait for Prince Charming. I feel like this has robbed me of a lot of my years of dating. Thanks to this video I will try something different!
The reason why the bible didn't address it is bc in the bible they didn't date. I've been in Christ for a few decades now and I have been around a lot of Christian men who were to shy and fearful to approach a woman and they missed out on a potential blessing. I for one don't see a problem with a woman saying hi to a guy or reaching out to him in a friendly way but that's just me. In marriage the husband does not/will not make all the decisions and he also won't make all the decision's in dating either. Nothing wrong w/ a confident woman saying hi or initiating something.
@ Peter Nygren Ummm you clearly did not read my comment. I literally said there is nothing wrong with a woman initiating something or saying hi. The men I mentioned in my comment literally said they were to fearful to approach certain girls b/c they were afraid of rejection. You can't speak for them. So it actually was in those particular guys nature to avoid interaction. I literally have no clue what you are babbling about and you clearly didn't read my comment.
Alright people, play nice. No need to start name calling. Yes, women shouldn't play hard to get, it's mind games, and deception dishonest with what they want. Yes women need to give men strong clues. Yes there's nothing wrong with women being proactive. But when it comes down to it I believe the man must be the one to take all the first steps because if he's not confident enough, he's not ready for a relationship, or she's out of his league. If the girl pursues and initiates everything, she will be fixing and pursuing the rest of the relationship, hoping and waiting for a boy to grow up. When I was in my 20's I was too afraid to talk with women and it didn't matter if they liked me. Now that I'm 35, if I am attracted, I will initiate conversation. If I think it's a good idea to date her I will ask her out. I don't get anxious about it anymore.
@@hannahevans8193 I definitely agree when you said if the woman does everything, he is not ready, but if the man does everything, the woman is not ready to, I respect what you said but this is what I say, if a female wants to pursue a male,and the male is interested, he should also pursue her,and still show her he can lead and is confident aswell,a leader cannot do everything, that includes initiating,so it's fine for basically anyone(regardless of gender) to initiate,a leader does not control, that's controlling, so being a leader, the male can lead the relationship or the pursuit especially when it comes to asking out,but its ok for the female to ask out as long as she didn't do everything in the pursuit, same in reverse, a guy pursuing a girl Is normal already, but it's also fine for the girl to pursue a guy, it shows confidence, and jesus inspires all of us(regardless of gender) to not fear and be confident
Ruth sure did go down to that threashing floor though! 😂😂😂 However Ruth did NOT GO in her own merit, lust, impatience or understanding. There's wisdom in the multiple of COUNSEL. Sister Naomi advised her and knew the cultural rules so context context! prayer and SMILE GURL!
Queen SAAvY so true. She followed her mother in law's advice and God blessed her obedience and her son's name was OBED. Plus she was King David's great grandmother. Talk about blessed!
That’s such a good point! Ruth did not just decide she was going to make a move on Boaz. The one she was in submission to counseled her to go to the threshing floor.
Thanks for this video. I’m 34 and single and believing God for my future husband. I told my friend of 8 years that I liked him. He told me that he wasn’t sure of how he felt about me yet so I was like ok. Wasn’t the answer I was expecting. Fast forward to last month, he finally told me that he liked me and he is attracted to me. That was definitely a shock lol so we’ll see what happens
Actually, she doesn't need to do the actual pursuing, but she can give us shy Christians a hint that she is interested. Thanks Mark always great content.
I really like how you emphasize that it's not something to be ashamed of if you're single at a certain age that "the church" seems to indicate you should be married by.
I’m just scared of being left and heartbroken again, I know I was really clingy in my past relationships and it resulted in them leaving me, my last ex broke up with me and months later, he started dating his “then” girlfriend who’s now his wife. I was bitter and depressed for a long while but I’m just over it now and I wish him the best. I wish I would’ve been a lot less annoying then, I would’ve had a much better chance of being happier but maybe God is just waiting for me to change my mindset and to focus on doing my best to love and serve Him wholeheartedly which is hard but I’m willing to try and take as much advice from Him through you as possible! Thank you brother and God bless you for your encouragement and uplifting videos. :)
It's risky being in love. That's just life. Give God your fear and pain. He will heal you. It's best to be friends first. Brother and sister seeking Christ first. Let God take it from there.
I'm 42 and when you called out my age, I cringed. I don't want to be the one to let him know, but I have turned him away previously so I guess I have to step up my game and do a Ruth. Le sigh...lol. Thanks for the this video. I felt like it was a message specifically for me.
Good advice I'm tired of being single I'm gonna try pursuing my self no ham when one says no the other one I will find a yes, true talk brother God bless
I’ve been praying for God to let me find the right woman who will invite me to pursue her. I trust that the Lord will let us meet in His timing. He is writing this love story, and only He can give me the desires of my heart.
I believe you are confusing pursuing and initiating. pursued; pursuing transitive verb 2 : to find or employ measures to obtain or accomplish I do believe a man should pursue a woman. This is going to show you the amount of motivation and determination a man has at accomplishing the things he wants and or needs in life. If he won't pursue in love you can bet it only goes downhill from there. I do however feel like a woman could initiate a relationship. initiated; initiating transitive verb 1 : to cause or facilitate the beginning of : set going This is totally fine for a woman to do IMO and will still allow her to see the man's motivation level. If a woman initiates and a man doesn't react you know that he isn't interested. If after initiating you begin to chase him you are now pursuing him and he may eventually give in but you as the woman have done all the work in the relationship so don't expect it to change in marriage. That tends to be the problem. Not that a woman pursues a man but then in marriage expects him to take the lead when he never did so in the first place.
This reply is appropriate. The men DO NEED TO PURSUE. WEAK AND SHY AND TIMID MEN ARE NOT APPEALING. GROW SOME BALLS ALREADY. IF YOU CANNOT EVEN ASK A WOMAN OUT HOW ON EARTH ARE YOU GOING TO LEAD ME?
A man is supposed to seek God about who his wife is. When the Holy Spirit reveals her to him, then the man should be confident to pursue her. See how easy that is? 😂
Felisha Davis I think that same principle applies to women although their response may be slightly different than a man's. But I think it is dangerous for a woman to just wait on a guy and do nothing. The husband should lead in marriage but that does not mean a woman can't invite and initiate too in certain ways
Nowhere in the Bible you find any indications on how this whole thing should look like. I think he did a great job in explaining and giving advise. Bless you Bro!
Trisha Britannia true points, when we make dogmatic statements where the Bible doesn't we get into trouble. "Pursuing" in dating is not a direct biblical topic. Thanks for your encouragement and God bless :)
Wow! Mark this video was lit with absolute truths, very good context. We are at different phases of our personal lives and Christian lives at 22, 32 and 42 so advice relationships would definitely vary. I am a totally different person now at age 32 than I was at 25. Thanks so much for this video!
You came into my feeds and now I can't turn u off. I appreciate this message I really do, so many try to control people's hearts, minds, and spirits with this relationship thing. This here was great advice and your very humble in given it. So thanks.
Yessss!!!! 🙌✝️ Amen thank you! Ruths story is inspiring! The holy spirit is working in you! Thank you for doing this. Christian single women out their need this! Thank you JESUS 🙌😊
Great video and I love how you pointed a biblical comparison to Ruth. I've have been single for 4yrs and have watched countless videos on being a single Christian. None of them made me feel comfortable with the desire of wanting a relationship that leads to marriage.
Hi Mark. Just want to say. May God continue His good work through you. Your teachings and advice have helped me so much!!! It helps me with wisdom and changed my perspectives in a positive way. Please continue with this. God bless you.
Great video! Being 41 and single, I can relate to a lot of what you've mentioned. I dont know how to pursue a guy, I should be more proactive and, the key word..."change" my ways and stop being passive. I pray God shows me what I need to change specifically. Your sincerity and honesty really comes through in your videos, and the specific tips you give, lined up with Bible verses are really helpful! May God bless you.
I believe as a Christian woman, that a woman should only pursue a man if she is lead to (by the Holy Ghost). It wasn’t Ruth’s idea to pursue Boaz, but her mother-n-laws, which I believe Naomi was instructed by God. The Bible says “A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing.” I enjoy your videos.
Peter Nygren and you are mean and misguided. You are the one on here shouting at people over and over in caps about how women are "supposed" to lead. All the sister is saying is that women can take the lead if directed to do so by the Holy Spirit. Also, just because someone may interpret a scripture a little differently to us does not make them a heretic.
I'm 35 now, single. This is true. I pursued my ex husband for us to start dating, until he told me that he loved me. That relationship lasted & the dating advice I've been following lately hasn't been working. Watch me go back to my old ways.
Thank you Brother. This was Enlightening and Trying to gather my bearings on this topic. I Truly Appreciate your videos. Thank you brother for your biblical focus on this topic, as I am Singel now and 47 and Been single for 17 years never found my missing rib. By the Will and favor of our Most high God will Compile my Future God fearing husband in his precision timing I Have Faith in My Most high God. Again thank you My brother in Our Lord🙏🏼💙♥️🙏🏼🇸🇪
I think more Christian women should pursue men it will give us a stepping stone most men can’t pick up on social ques and body language and they probably like him but we men will never know unless women take initiative action on letting us men know that they like us 🙏🏾❤️🙌🏾
I’m a Christian shy guy and I don’t know how in the World I can say “I like you” to a woman. Especially after my unlucky history with girls. Now if they at least let me be aware that they feel the same way, then I’d be able to take it from there.
I think when the right one comes along God will make it easy. Don’t stop praying and maybe don’t focus too much on getting a gf, but rather growing closer to God. I get your fear of rejection, have the same. The bible has a nice verse: Psalm 27:1 “What you worry about the most reveals where you trust God the least” - Craig Groeshel. This quote helped me a lot too :) God bless!
I like someone from the ministry.. He is a friend of mine, my boss at work and one of the pastors at our ministry. I like him a lot and I sometimes see myself marrying him. I am usually brave in telling someone how I feel towards them, but with him, I feel so scared... I don't want to ruin my good relationship with him, but I really do like him, a lot..
Vicky Robinson maybe rather than fully telling him you could send some signs like inviting him to do something w you. He will probably see your interest and respond accordingly. If he's not interested it will be less awkward for you both and easier to go back to normal than if you fully share your feelings... just a thought :)
I'm in my early twenties and have no experience in dating whatsoever (haven't been interested in dating before) but I started going to sing in our local choir about two months ago cuz suddenly something woke up in me and I wanted to learn how to sing. And there was this new guy who started learning how to sing at the same time as me, he's also my age, also a christian and has no gf. I thought to myself that it would be super cool if we became friends bc we're same age and both christian (there are no other young guys in the choir), so I started thinking of a way to approach and casually talk to him. It took me couple of weeks but one time after the choir practice I finally had the guts to come to him and we ended up talking for like 15 minutes or so. I got nice vibes from him and felt like he was happy that I came to talk to him, we were (sincerely) smiling to each other and even laughed lightly about some things. I was so excited about my feeling that he was happy to talk to me that I decided to text him (got the number through the choir group chat). But the convo kinda died very fast... I desided to try again later and asked him about his interests, thinking that if that wouldn't fire up an interesting conversation, I would just stop trying. He did tell me about his hobbies and asked about mine too, and I also told mine but after that desided to only text something if he would initiate a topic. Aand, he didn't initiate any topics... so I just desided to give up bc I feel like he's not interested. The problem is that I'm an overthinker and introverted and shy as well so it's just too hard for me to connect with new ppl at first🤦♀️ now I just don't know at all if I should do something about all that. All that texting happened a month ago and I haven't had a chance to meet him since that time because of corona (I just love corona sm😑)
Dude, I'm in more or less the same place and I'm you! Introverted and shy. But I've loved my guy for nearly 10 years now and I don't want to back off now. Reasons I'm gonna see where this goes. He said he doesn't want to hurt me, wanted me not to have hopes about this ending in a relationship and that he can't see himself in one because of his ex. I'm a broken mess but I still love him. So I'm absolutely going to be pursuing and see where this goes because the strong desire in me handy died yet. God will help me here. See how far this goes! At least for the sake of curiosity!
It could be too that he just doesn’t do well with texting. If maybe you set up a time where you call each other or just called him one day, then maybe have a conversation that way too.
Same here sis, got to know a guy in christian camp and i kinda got to know a bit about him when he talked in the group. I was reserved at the time and I’m also an introvert so i didn’t talk to him one on one. After i left the camp i thought why not text him and we texted a bit but after a while i was the only one initiating. I don’t think I’ll initiate anymore, because I think i did everyone i could.
Ok I will give it a try but I will just initiate.. I still want him to pursue a relationship with me.. I believe that a man should lead a woman in a Godly marriage..
What about the Song of Songs. She is definitely pursuing him. I understand the Song of Songs is about our pursuit of God but is discribed as a love relationship between a man and woman. I believe The Song of Songs is a wonderful love story about a love relationship between a man and a woman, as wellas how God wants us to feel about him ,and how he feels about us .
In essence Ruth pursued Boaz , in the song of songs is about God and our pursuit of him , but it is also about the woman pursuing the king . Since the man is the leader the woman is the follower, to follow means to pursue. Also Ester and Xerxes .
Really appreciate your words of wisdom. I haven’t dated in like 5 years.(before my relationship with Jesus) I feel like I’m having to learn how to actually date now, since I wouldn’t call what I did before dating. Just ordered three of your books. 🤗 thanks again!
By simply being only friendly you will be come across as a friend or like his grandma, Women should make a clear statement or move such as a hug, hold his hand, sit very close to him or a kiss on the cheek. If she waits too long another woman will make her move.
Yes, it's good that women should make first move sometimes, and break the ice especially on shy men, should not have to wait till leap years day either to ask a man to marry her.
yes, but proverbs is full of male only verses that relate to females too, it's a book of principles so I wouldn't interpret that verse like that, otherwise you would have to interpret every verse as only to males
It takes two to take a marriage so if the woman doesn't even acknowledge then perhaps she's not ready for marriage just day in there's a difference haha for sure
There is a Christian guy I like. Had a messy first date and have been praying for him since. I feel like I need to wait and then reach out later on. Everything was fine then he fell into a very bad pit of sexual sin after meeting someone else. I’m waiting for the lords timing and following his instructions to sit and wait patiently for now.
I agree with a woman sharing her feelings with a potential spouse, BUT I would be cautious about pursuing or “chasing” after him. I like this guy’s definition of pursuit for a woman. Boaz was a good example but he was already interested in Ruth before she made her sentiments known to him. If a Christian single woman comes in contact with a Christian single man and they interact for a while, I think it is best to DEFINE the relationship. Clarity dispels confusion and misunderstandings. I laughed at the phrase, “Some men are relationally clueless.”😂😂😂
I'm in plentiful support for women taking the initiative or pursuing the men to let the men know that the women really like the men :-D:-D:-D. Of course, this does not change the fact that husbands will be the head of the wives (especially when they is married already) just as the Lord Jesus Christ is the head of the church and God is the head of Christ
I’ve been using the power of invitation 😌 and showing my interest with my actions. I think he’s got the memo ;) a friendship is blooming! And I’ll wait as long as the Lord wills for him to pursue the romantic side of things. I know we both need some in this stage 😊😁 Something I struggle with is personal insecurities. I find myself wondering if he actually notices me “like that” or if he’s just being nice? I think I just need to work out some of the trust issues and lack of self worth I’m dealing with. Because everything is going surprisingly good, great honestly. The Lord’s definitely been using my doubt and impatience to teach me so much about myself and His love for me! It’s such a gorgeous experience :) I feel far more secure in my faith and salvation every single day.
I can’t not pursue a woman, I know that I will be asked out by a woman at anytime that’s why I am learning about real love and real truth with Chip Ingram for my relationship training, in the addition to that message I will lead her to the lord as my role as a man but she will have to commit to me of her own free will
I’m 40. The guy I’m interested, he already knows that I am interested in him, he said that he is interested in me, but he doesn’t make the first step. And for sure I’m not going to do it, is his job to pursue me, I already did my part. What do you think?
Hi Mark, so what would a Christian girl say in order to let a Christian guy know that I like him and would like to date him? How would it be said to where it is not too forward and not too much? Thank you. 😊
Cherie Seguritan my thought would be to invite him out to do something. If you make the effort to individually invite him somewhere or to just go out the two of you, that should be a clear sign to him that you are interested. Nothing wrong with just telling him you like him but inviting him somewhere might be a little less blunt and less awkward if he is not interested....just my thoughts :)
Cherie Seguritan haha, you got to do you :) but yeah, you can always start small and work your way up if needed. It's harder to tone it down once you lay it out there and go full blown :)
Thanks Mark, just wanted to update you I did it and was happy I did, he was kind and said thanks for my sweet note but he is currently interested in someone. He thanked me for my honesty. It felt good to take a role in dating, instead of always waiting....
The second situation applies to me. In the past, a guy liked me, but I had a boyfriend at that time. I liked him too, but just in a manner of friends. One time I finally realized that I liked him as a potential Christian guy that I want to date, and by that time I had broken up with my boyfriend. I tried to reach out to him and, since we were not in the same town at that time, I tried to keep him in touch. I finally let him know my feelings but he didn't respond! I was so anxious but I assumed that his feelings had changed and now he has a girlfriend. At some occasions I actually feel depressed and I regret the fact that I missed my opportunity. But I have been and am still praying for him, and for my future marriage in general. I'm blessed watching to your videos and your advice is great! Keep rocking and God bless.
🌈⭐️🦋🌻 Even though this video is from 4 years ago, I still find it very useful and helpful for these days. I love the story of Ruth and Boaz, it’s one of my favorite stories in the Bible! Do you also have any of this help available for ages 50+ 🌈🦋ThankYou
Hmm hm. Will women place themselves to be seen? That is the question. Some think the church is the only place to meet men. Sadly, most will stay single with this mindset.
Thank you, Mark for another video! Is there a way you can let a guy know without losing your friendship with the person? And what age should you be? My mentor said the older the better because you gain more wisdom in Christ, but at the same time I don't want to wait to long in case if he were to develop a relationship with another girl.
Back in the day, women didn't leave it to chance. Be it the proverbial "dropping a handkerchief" or just flirting with a man.... Men sometimes are just clueless. When I asked my grandma about how she and my grandfather got together - she would give a smart smile and say "I let him chase me til I caught him." She knew what she was doing!
Thanks for being honest Peter. I just want to encourage and let u know that there are still good Christian women out there. the Lord will lead you to the right one
Hey Mark. Do you agree of the term "1x relationship for life?". Because of this term in my church every time a guy likes a girl he wants to be sure she's the one, considering leader's opinion a lot, and FRIENDZONING THE GIRL FOR 1 OR 2 YEARS bcause he wants to make sure she's the one or not. I am trully not agree of this. I think thats sort of evil, leaving the girl hanging in uncertainty for a really long time. Even douchebags are less douche than this kind of behavior. Do you agree if a guy starts pursuing a girl, he has to make sure she's the one by pursuing for a long time, friendzoning the girl in uncertainty for the reason "wants to know her a lot"?
Can a guy help me out here? I think this guy at church is cute. So I introduced myself. And I ended up talking to him again. I wasn’t sure if he was just being nice, but he said we should hang out and asked for my number. He text me and we messaged for a bit but all his answers were closed ended. So I didn’t wanna keep going. Idk what to do. Want him to talk to me and maybe ask me out so we can get to know each other. But don’t know if he’s even interested. I don’t wanna be the one pursuing. What should I do?
@wagr3z Hello, so I kid you not… this guy and I are now married! We’ve been married for almost 8 months and we’re expecting our first baby. I guess he was interested after all 😂 it was all God. It was really meant to be. So I hope this gives others hope.
My confidence was always very low concerning approaching women. Not to say i never spoke to women or didn't have an occasional date. But i always felt that i wasn't going to be any better for it if i couldn't break the cycle. There always lied the fear or rejection. Not as if ive never been approached before but 90% of the time they were always the ones i had no interest in eventhough I would still treat them with respect.
What about in Genesis when God said "let us make man in our own image". When God first created the human race we were considered man until Adam waa put into a deep sleep and God created the woman out of his rib. If the word of God says there is no male or female for we are all one in Christ Jesus. I have never pursued a man. However if a woman she be interested in a man and then allow him to lead, I believe this will be okay. I am a devout Christian and I have been very much interested in a specific none Christian man for a couple years and we have a lot in common so much so that he requested me to mentor him for business and I teach business based on the word of God and I pray that God converts his heart so he submits himself to the will of God and become saved. Give me your feedback on this.
Nice video brother! but i feel lead to point out that BOAZ in the book of Ruth, pursured Ruth 1st, repeatedly at that. However, Ruth (note to women) at the right time, made it aware and clear she was available! Also, during the time Boaz was taking interest, Ruth was open to him but she NEVER got distracted. Ruth remained faithful to her duties, responsibilities, and assignments. Ladies! As the man pursues you, be open but ALWAYS stay focus with what God has you doing. Timing is everything. Keep yourself together and dont get so excited that the man of God becomes the center of your heart. Christ is our center! ❤❤ blessings!!
Read the book of Ruth for tips and insight. Love yall!!
Very wise
Very true, thank you.
Thank you for this. Well said. I always afraid whether I would loose track when I'm in a relationship because this is what happened in my past. Nowadays, I pray God to keep me strong in him. .
Proverbs 18 and verse 22 praise God🙌🙌🙌🙏
The women I'm with pursued me and I took over. Currently engaged to be married October 3rd 2020
How's the marriage going?
❤ its scary sometimes if rejected..you never know
My mom has to ask my dad out for their first date. He was flirting with her constantly but he was just nervous about asking her. He wanted to but he was scared. They have been married for 25 years.
Aw that’s cute
@@mariahconklin4150 what’s funnier to me is that their first date was dinner and seeing Beauty and the Beast. My dad fell asleep during the movie. Only because he was a ER doctor in residency, thus crazy schedules and hours.
In this case, he initiated verbally and physically by flirting and taking that first visible lead. She then supported him back by asking him out (though she could have just made it known she was available and interested in him too which could have given him that momentum and boost to step up and ask for the date.) 😃
The only other thing I could say is that he didn't somewhat fully lead, but some times the lady has to support in a way that helps her guy mature to his full potential and vice versa (ONLY WHEN NECESSARY AND IT FEELS RIGHT FROM THE LORD'S WILL) because not all humans have a childhood where they fully mature to the level they need and with the help of the other person, that the Lord has for us to be with, will of course be there for their partner because the Lord will put it in their heart to know what to do at the right time and on his time.
When it comes to marriage, we are here to help bring at least one person to Heaven with us. I am sending blessings to your parents and A Big Congrats to them 😃
This is confirmation for me! I never understood these women just sitting there single interested in someone but refusing to speak bc of the notion of being pursued
SingPray Luv I agree with you there I never been in a Godly relationship in my life
That's why I'm still single tbh
But see with me I have to wait because then I’ll message the guy way too much and seem clingy and that was the old me I don’t want to be that way
@@mariahconklin4150 Yes, I understand. I will recommend just praying about it, because you realize the things you've done in the past that you did wrong, and now you can do better, so you have to trust God and trust yourself that God can work through you so that you don't make the same mistakes again.
I think women should give guys some help. Especially shy guys
Dead Shot yeah right. cz i’ve met this guy, and he’ll talk if i text him first. and some questions is appear. he did text me first. but only once. but for me he’s kinda not good at texting tho and for me when he tried it, kinda out of context, idk if he nervous or something so i was like “hmm ok bla bla”
shine and retreat. This is the best help you can give to activate his manhood, else you'll end up in a relationship where you'll have to take initiative constantly, but hey ... women end up multitasking in advanced relationships anyway: job, children, household, contact to his family members too and so on and so on, so why teaching him that he is also not responsible for initiating your togetherness, sex and mutual endevours?????? Help is insane and leads to frustration on the woman's side on the long run.
Ain't nothing gone stop even a shy man, if he really truly wants her.
@@francieodendahl9351 Oh really? Why's that?
Never take advice from a woman. Get your advice from the older men. Back when men were men. Or ask me
This is so good! I actually did the pursuing at first and then allowed him to take over and it actually is going really well !
nice!!
How's that going now?
How is it now?
@@niriaantonio9097 we are engaged 😉
@@grodriguez18 aww congratulations :)
I told my guy that I‘m interested and let him decide what to do with this information😊Ruth‘s my girl🙌🏽
God bless!
This video is very helpful. Growing up on a Pentecostal church, I was made to feel bad for showing a guy any interest. They made it seems like you should just sit there and wait for Prince Charming. I feel like this has robbed me of a lot of my years of dating. Thanks to this video I will try something different!
I'm so glad this was helpful!
The reason why the bible didn't address it is bc in the bible they didn't date. I've been in Christ for a few decades now and I have been around a lot of Christian men who were to shy and fearful to approach a woman and they missed out on a potential blessing. I for one don't see a problem with a woman saying hi to a guy or reaching out to him in a friendly way but that's just me. In marriage the husband does not/will not make all the decisions and he also won't make all the decision's in dating either. Nothing wrong w/ a confident woman saying hi or initiating something.
Well said, I agree
@ Peter Nygren Ummm you clearly did not read my comment. I literally said there is nothing wrong with a woman initiating something or saying hi. The men I mentioned in my comment literally said they were to fearful to approach certain girls b/c they were afraid of rejection. You can't speak for them. So it actually was in those particular guys nature to avoid interaction. I literally have no clue what you are babbling about and you clearly didn't read my comment.
Alright people, play nice. No need to start name calling. Yes, women shouldn't play hard to get, it's mind games, and deception dishonest with what they want. Yes women need to give men strong clues. Yes there's nothing wrong with women being proactive. But when it comes down to it I believe the man must be the one to take all the first steps because if he's not confident enough, he's not ready for a relationship, or she's out of his league. If the girl pursues and initiates everything, she will be fixing and pursuing the rest of the relationship, hoping and waiting for a boy to grow up. When I was in my 20's I was too afraid to talk with women and it didn't matter if they liked me. Now that I'm 35, if I am attracted, I will initiate conversation. If I think it's a good idea to date her I will ask her out. I don't get anxious about it anymore.
"And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell." - Jesus
@@hannahevans8193 I definitely agree when you said if the woman does everything, he is not ready, but if the man does everything, the woman is not ready to, I respect what you said but this is what I say, if a female wants to pursue a male,and the male is interested, he should also pursue her,and still show her he can lead and is confident aswell,a leader cannot do everything, that includes initiating,so it's fine for basically anyone(regardless of gender) to initiate,a leader does not control, that's controlling, so being a leader, the male can lead the relationship or the pursuit especially when it comes to asking out,but its ok for the female to ask out as long as she didn't do everything in the pursuit, same in reverse, a guy pursuing a girl Is normal already, but it's also fine for the girl to pursue a guy, it shows confidence, and jesus inspires all of us(regardless of gender) to not fear and be confident
Ruth sure did go down to that threashing floor though! 😂😂😂
However Ruth did NOT GO in her own merit, lust, impatience or understanding. There's wisdom in the multiple of COUNSEL. Sister Naomi advised her and knew the cultural rules so context context!
prayer and SMILE GURL!
Queen SAAvY so true. She followed her mother in law's advice and God blessed her obedience and her son's name was OBED. Plus she was King David's great grandmother. Talk about blessed!
🤣🤣🤣🤣👌👌👌👌 this comment! Lol
That’s such a good point! Ruth did not just decide she was going to make a move on Boaz. The one she was in submission to counseled her to go to the threshing floor.
Thanks for this video. I’m 34 and single and believing God for my future husband. I told my friend of 8 years that I liked him. He told me that he wasn’t sure of how he felt about me yet so I was like ok. Wasn’t the answer I was expecting. Fast forward to last month, he finally told me that he liked me and he is attracted to me. That was definitely a shock lol so we’ll see what happens
God bless you dear!🙂
Your comment is actually my now story.. I now like my 8 year friend and brother and I'm afraid of he doesn't like me or what
Any updates?
update?😄
Actually, she doesn't need to do the actual pursuing, but she can give us shy Christians a hint that she is interested. Thanks Mark always great content.
Right!!!!
I really like how you emphasize that it's not something to be ashamed of if you're single at a certain age that "the church" seems to indicate you should be married by.
I never pursue anyone, I'm an introvert and old soul.. Let the man pursue you. Well that's just me!
That's fine
I’m just scared of being left and heartbroken again, I know I was really clingy in my past relationships and it resulted in them leaving me, my last ex broke up with me and months later, he started dating his “then” girlfriend who’s now his wife. I was bitter and depressed for a long while but I’m just over it now and I wish him the best. I wish I would’ve been a lot less annoying then, I would’ve had a much better chance of being happier but maybe God is just waiting for me to change my mindset and to focus on doing my best to love and serve Him wholeheartedly which is hard but I’m willing to try and take as much advice from Him through you as possible! Thank you brother and God bless you for your encouragement and uplifting videos. :)
I hope you are doing well sister. There's a book called women who love too much by Robin Norwood. It helped me a lot to stop being as clingy.
It's risky being in love. That's just life. Give God your fear and pain. He will heal you. It's best to be friends first. Brother and sister seeking Christ first. Let God take it from there.
I like how you teach everything biblically
I'm 42 and when you called out my age, I cringed. I don't want to be the one to let him know, but I have turned him away previously so I guess I have to step up my game and do a Ruth. Le sigh...lol. Thanks for the this video. I felt like it was a message specifically for me.
Answer: Yes. Let him know you are interested in him and make it clear. But if he is, or becomes hesitant let the matter drop.
Good advice I'm tired of being single I'm gonna try pursuing my self no ham when one says no the other one I will find a yes, true talk brother God bless
I’ve been praying for God to let me find the right woman who will invite me to pursue her. I trust that the Lord will let us meet in His timing. He is writing this love story, and only He can give me the desires of my heart.
Yessss Mark🙌🙌🙌!!!! The Ruth and boaz story is exactly what I told my friend the other day how Ruth strategized 😉🙏🏼!
I believe you are confusing pursuing and initiating.
pursued; pursuing
transitive verb
2
: to find or employ measures to obtain or accomplish
I do believe a man should pursue a woman. This is going to show you the amount of motivation and determination a man has at accomplishing the things he wants and or needs in life. If he won't pursue in love you can bet it only goes downhill from there. I do however feel like a woman could initiate a relationship.
initiated; initiating
transitive verb
1
: to cause or facilitate the beginning of : set going
This is totally fine for a woman to do IMO and will still allow her to see the man's motivation level. If a woman initiates and a man doesn't react you know that he isn't interested. If after initiating you begin to chase him you are now pursuing him and he may eventually give in but you as the woman have done all the work in the relationship so don't expect it to change in marriage. That tends to be the problem. Not that a woman pursues a man but then in marriage expects him to take the lead when he never did so in the first place.
Excellent
We'll put.
This reply is appropriate. The men DO NEED TO PURSUE. WEAK AND SHY AND TIMID MEN ARE NOT APPEALING. GROW SOME BALLS ALREADY. IF YOU CANNOT EVEN ASK A WOMAN OUT HOW ON EARTH ARE YOU GOING TO LEAD ME?
@@tallartist You are not that important.
Really insightful! Thank you for breaking it down!
A man is supposed to seek God about who his wife is. When the Holy Spirit reveals her to him, then the man should be confident to pursue her. See how easy that is? 😂
Felisha Davis I think that same principle applies to women although their response may be slightly different than a man's. But I think it is dangerous for a woman to just wait on a guy and do nothing. The husband should lead in marriage but that does not mean a woman can't invite and initiate too in certain ways
Nowhere in the Bible you find any indications on how this whole thing should look like. I think he did a great job in explaining and giving advise. Bless you Bro!
Trisha Britannia true points, when we make dogmatic statements where the Bible doesn't we get into trouble. "Pursuing" in dating is not a direct biblical topic. Thanks for your encouragement and God bless :)
You are very welcome. Bless and keep up the good work for the LORD! I saw you on a stage in front of a huge audience! (impression)
Agreed. He did a great job.
And if it doesn't work, you can move on with your life...
Thanks for sharing this, it was a relief to listen to this message. Next month I am turning 40. Greetings from Hungary
Wow! Mark this video was lit with absolute truths, very good context. We are at different phases of our personal lives and Christian lives at 22, 32 and 42 so advice relationships would definitely vary. I am a totally different person now at age 32 than I was at 25. Thanks so much for this video!
Oops! I am 34 now, lol! I can't even remember my own age
Speaking for myself it does not matter who pursue who as long I'm honest with her and she is honest with me. We can go from there.
You came into my feeds and now I can't turn u off. I appreciate this message I really do, so many try to control people's hearts, minds, and spirits with this relationship thing. This here was great advice and your very humble in given it. So thanks.
Nice to meet you Rolaine! I'm really glad you are enjoying the content and I appreciate your encouragement, God bless :)
This is my first time listening to your sermons . Your pretty awesome.May God continue to bless your ministry.
Yessss!!!! 🙌✝️ Amen thank you! Ruths story is inspiring! The holy spirit is working in you! Thank you for doing this. Christian single women out their need this! Thank you JESUS 🙌😊
ericka a so glad this was helpful to you! Thanks for your encouragement:)
Great video and I love how you pointed a biblical comparison to Ruth. I've have been single for 4yrs and have watched countless videos on being a single Christian. None of them made me feel comfortable with the desire of wanting a relationship that leads to marriage.
A godly man who seeks a godly wife will pursue. Otherwise no.
Excellent teachings! Thank God for your ministry! Hallelujah
Hi Mark. Just want to say. May God continue His good work through you. Your teachings and advice have helped me so much!!! It helps me with wisdom and changed my perspectives in a positive way. Please continue with this. God bless you.
So glad the videos have been helpful to you!
Great video! Being 41 and single, I can relate to a lot of what you've mentioned. I dont know how to pursue a guy, I should be more proactive and, the key word..."change" my ways and stop being passive. I pray God shows me what I need to change specifically. Your sincerity and honesty really comes through in your videos, and the specific tips you give, lined up with Bible verses are really helpful! May God bless you.
I am very old fashioned, very vintage. I like to be pursued instead of pursuing.
I believe as a Christian woman, that a woman should only pursue a man if she is lead to (by the Holy Ghost). It wasn’t Ruth’s idea to pursue Boaz, but her mother-n-laws, which I believe Naomi was instructed by God. The Bible says “A man who finds a wife, finds a good thing.” I enjoy your videos.
Peter Nygren and you are mean and misguided. You are the one on here shouting at people over and over in caps about how women are "supposed" to lead. All the sister is saying is that women can take the lead if directed to do so by the Holy Spirit.
Also, just because someone may interpret a scripture a little differently to us does not make them a heretic.
I'm 35 now, single. This is true. I pursued my ex husband for us to start dating, until he told me that he loved me. That relationship lasted & the dating advice I've been following lately hasn't been working. Watch me go back to my old ways.
Mark, always coming in clutch 😌👏🏾
Thank you Brother. This was Enlightening and Trying to gather my bearings on this topic. I Truly Appreciate your videos. Thank you brother for your biblical focus on this topic, as I am Singel now and 47 and Been single for 17 years never found my missing rib. By the Will and favor of our Most high God will Compile my Future God fearing husband in his precision timing I Have Faith in My Most high God. Again thank you My brother in Our Lord🙏🏼💙♥️🙏🏼🇸🇪
Excellent points!
Thanks and God bless!
I think more Christian women should pursue men it will give us a stepping stone most men can’t pick up on social ques and body language and they probably like him but we men will never know unless women take initiative action on letting us men know that they like us 🙏🏾❤️🙌🏾
Ruth did it with Boaz!
I’m a Christian shy guy and I don’t know how in the World I can say “I like you” to a woman. Especially after my unlucky history with girls. Now if they at least let me be aware that they feel the same way, then I’d be able to take it from there.
I think when the right one comes along God will make it easy. Don’t stop praying and maybe don’t focus too much on getting a gf, but rather growing closer to God.
I get your fear of rejection, have the same. The bible has a nice verse: Psalm 27:1
“What you worry about the most reveals where you trust God the least” - Craig Groeshel. This quote helped me a lot too :)
God bless!
I like someone from the ministry.. He is a friend of mine, my boss at work and one of the pastors at our ministry. I like him a lot and I sometimes see myself marrying him. I am usually brave in telling someone how I feel towards them, but with him, I feel so scared... I don't want to ruin my good relationship with him, but I really do like him, a lot..
Vicky Robinson maybe rather than fully telling him you could send some signs like inviting him to do something w you. He will probably see your interest and respond accordingly. If he's not interested it will be less awkward for you both and easier to go back to normal than if you fully share your feelings... just a thought :)
Thank you...😊 I recently found your channel and started watching your videos...thank you for your words..😊 God bless you.
Vicky Robinson God bless you too!
I'm in my early twenties and have no experience in dating whatsoever (haven't been interested in dating before) but I started going to sing in our local choir about two months ago cuz suddenly something woke up in me and I wanted to learn how to sing. And there was this new guy who started learning how to sing at the same time as me, he's also my age, also a christian and has no gf. I thought to myself that it would be super cool if we became friends bc we're same age and both christian (there are no other young guys in the choir), so I started thinking of a way to approach and casually talk to him. It took me couple of weeks but one time after the choir practice I finally had the guts to come to him and we ended up talking for like 15 minutes or so. I got nice vibes from him and felt like he was happy that I came to talk to him, we were (sincerely) smiling to each other and even laughed lightly about some things. I was so excited about my feeling that he was happy to talk to me that I decided to text him (got the number through the choir group chat). But the convo kinda died very fast... I desided to try again later and asked him about his interests, thinking that if that wouldn't fire up an interesting conversation, I would just stop trying. He did tell me about his hobbies and asked about mine too, and I also told mine but after that desided to only text something if he would initiate a topic. Aand, he didn't initiate any topics... so I just desided to give up bc I feel like he's not interested. The problem is that I'm an overthinker and introverted and shy as well so it's just too hard for me to connect with new ppl at first🤦♀️ now I just don't know at all if I should do something about all that. All that texting happened a month ago and I haven't had a chance to meet him since that time because of corona (I just love corona sm😑)
Dude, I'm in more or less the same place and I'm you! Introverted and shy. But I've loved my guy for nearly 10 years now and I don't want to back off now. Reasons I'm gonna see where this goes. He said he doesn't want to hurt me, wanted me not to have hopes about this ending in a relationship and that he can't see himself in one because of his ex. I'm a broken mess but I still love him. So I'm absolutely going to be pursuing and see where this goes because the strong desire in me handy died yet. God will help me here. See how far this goes! At least for the sake of curiosity!
It could be too that he just doesn’t do well with texting. If maybe you set up a time where you call each other or just called him one day, then maybe have a conversation that way too.
Same here sis, got to know a guy in christian camp and i kinda got to know a bit about him when he talked in the group. I was reserved at the time and I’m also an introvert so i didn’t talk to him one on one. After i left the camp i thought why not text him and we texted a bit but after a while i was the only one initiating. I don’t think I’ll initiate anymore, because I think i did everyone i could.
Ok I will give it a try but I will just initiate..
I still want him to pursue a relationship with me.. I believe that a man should lead a woman in a Godly marriage..
Thank you Mark for this video! So helpful! Loved it. ❤
Boaz got his woman 😂❤ great advice as always.
Thank you for giving us an answer on this! Is very helpful and mind-opening!
What about the Song of Songs. She is definitely pursuing him.
I understand the Song of Songs is about our pursuit of God but is discribed as a love relationship between a man and woman.
I believe The Song of Songs is a wonderful love story about a love relationship between a man and a woman, as wellas how God wants us to feel about him ,and how he feels about us .
In essence Ruth pursued Boaz , in the song of songs is about God and our pursuit of him , but it is also about the woman pursuing the king . Since the man is the leader the woman is the follower, to follow means to pursue.
Also Ester and Xerxes .
Really appreciate your words of wisdom. I haven’t dated in like 5 years.(before my relationship with Jesus) I feel like I’m having to learn how to actually date now, since I wouldn’t call what I did before dating. Just ordered three of your books. 🤗 thanks again!
Me too
By simply being only friendly you will be come across as a friend or like his grandma,
Women should make a clear statement or move such as a hug, hold his hand, sit very close to him or a kiss on the cheek.
If she waits too long another woman will make her move.
Yes, it's good that women should make first move sometimes, and break the ice especially on shy men, should not have to wait till leap years day either to ask a man to marry her.
I read an article that said a woman should tell a man "If you asked me out, I'd definitely say 'Yes' !" .
Very helpful
Shanese the minister thanks, God bless!
I want to add that biblically and spiritually the Lord did say, "A man that finds a woman is a good thing" 🙏 😃 👍💘 💙 🌹💍 🙏
Thanks for the video.
yes, but proverbs is full of male only verses that relate to females too, it's a book of principles so I wouldn't interpret that verse like that, otherwise you would have to interpret every verse as only to males
It takes two to take a marriage so if the woman doesn't even acknowledge then perhaps she's not ready for marriage just day in there's a difference haha for sure
There is a Christian guy I like. Had a messy first date and have been praying for him since. I feel like I need to wait and then reach out later on. Everything was fine then he fell into a very bad pit of sexual sin after meeting someone else. I’m waiting for the lords timing and following his instructions to sit and wait patiently for now.
This was really helpful!! Thanks so much! Know I got it a little clearer in my mind of what is possible and not
This is really good advice! Thank you so much!! I've been taught the opposite and it's got me nowhere. This really frees me up.
I agree with a woman sharing her feelings with a potential spouse, BUT I would be cautious about pursuing or “chasing” after him. I like this guy’s definition of pursuit for a woman. Boaz was a good example but he was already interested in Ruth before she made her sentiments known to him. If a Christian single woman comes in contact with a Christian single man and they interact for a while, I think it is best to DEFINE the relationship. Clarity dispels confusion and misunderstandings. I laughed at the phrase, “Some men are relationally clueless.”😂😂😂
I'm affraid to tell him that I like him since he is so mature. I'm only 21 and he is 28.
Same here. He is 5 years older than me😶
Wow... Girls this mean nothing...
These tips are great for an average to good looking person who seeks God first.
I think I'm gonna go pursue this Christian man now ☺️
Hey, any update on how it went
If he doesn't get it if he hasn't noticed a girl! Its because he's not that into you.
Maite Perez not always true
@@LindseyDara right. I've been passive when I've been incredibly attracted to someone.
I'm in plentiful support for women taking the initiative or pursuing the men to let the men know that the women really like the men :-D:-D:-D. Of course, this does not change the fact that husbands will be the head of the wives (especially when they is married already) just as the Lord Jesus Christ is the head of the church and God is the head of Christ
I’ve been using the power of invitation 😌 and showing my interest with my actions. I think he’s got the memo ;) a friendship is blooming! And I’ll wait as long as the Lord wills for him to pursue the romantic side of things. I know we both need some in this stage 😊😁
Something I struggle with is personal insecurities. I find myself wondering if he actually notices me “like that” or if he’s just being nice? I think I just need to work out some of the trust issues and lack of self worth I’m dealing with. Because everything is going surprisingly good, great honestly. The Lord’s definitely been using my doubt and impatience to teach me so much about myself and His love for me! It’s such a gorgeous experience :) I feel far more secure in my faith and salvation every single day.
I can’t not pursue a woman, I know that I will be asked out by a woman at anytime that’s why I am learning about real love and real truth with Chip Ingram for my relationship training, in the addition to that message I will lead her to the lord as my role as a man but she will have to commit to me of her own free will
Thank you 🙏🏽 God bless y’all
God bless you too!
I’m 40. The guy I’m interested, he already knows that I am interested in him, he said that he is interested in me, but he doesn’t make the first step. And for sure I’m not going to do it, is his job to pursue me, I already did my part. What do you think?
I think you should have a chat with him and ask if he wants to take things further
Prideful...
Ladies please don't follow me to my car uninvited.. that's weird
Hi Mark, so what would a Christian girl say in order to let a Christian guy know that I like him and would like to date him?
How would it be said to where it is not too forward and not too much? Thank you. 😊
Cherie Seguritan my thought would be to invite him out to do something. If you make the effort to individually invite him somewhere or to just go out the two of you, that should be a clear sign to him that you are interested. Nothing wrong with just telling him you like him but inviting him somewhere might be a little less blunt and less awkward if he is not interested....just my thoughts :)
Good idea... I was thinking the being blunt approach. Lol might be too much.
Thank you for your advice!
Cherie Seguritan haha, you got to do you :) but yeah, you can always start small and work your way up if needed. It's harder to tone it down once you lay it out there and go full blown :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger haha, very true!! Thanks your awesome!
Thanks Mark, just wanted to update you I did it and was happy I did, he was kind and said thanks for my sweet note but he is currently interested in someone. He thanked me for my honesty. It felt good to take a role in dating, instead of always waiting....
This is Wonderful
The second situation applies to me. In the past, a guy liked me, but I had a boyfriend at that time. I liked him too, but just in a manner of friends. One time I finally realized that I liked him as a potential Christian guy that I want to date, and by that time I had broken up with my boyfriend. I tried to reach out to him and, since we were not in the same town at that time, I tried to keep him in touch. I finally let him know my feelings but he didn't respond! I was so anxious but I assumed that his feelings had changed and now he has a girlfriend. At some occasions I actually feel depressed and I regret the fact that I missed my opportunity. But I have been and am still praying for him, and for my future marriage in general.
I'm blessed watching to your videos and your advice is great! Keep rocking and God bless.
Thanks for sharing Sandra and I'm blessed to hear this channel is useful to you :)
🌈⭐️🦋🌻 Even though this video is from 4 years ago, I still find it very useful and helpful for these days. I love the story of Ruth and Boaz, it’s one of my favorite stories in the Bible! Do you also have any of this help available for ages 50+
🌈🦋ThankYou
Did not Boaz take notice of her in the field...
He did, yes
Hmm hm. Will women place themselves to be seen? That is the question. Some think the church is the only place to meet men. Sadly, most will stay single with this mindset.
This true and you all time as am just learning to be christian girl with my boyfirend
Thank you, Mark for another video! Is there a way you can let a guy know without losing your friendship with the person? And what age should you be? My mentor said the older the better because you gain more wisdom in Christ, but at the same time I don't want to wait to long in case if he were to develop a relationship with another girl.
Now its clear. I’m gonna make the first move! 🥺
I listen all ur preaches... recently become yr subscriber
That's great to hear, welcome :)
Excellent, sound advice. very good!
Back in the day, women didn't leave it to chance. Be it the proverbial "dropping a handkerchief" or just flirting with a man.... Men sometimes are just clueless. When I asked my grandma about how she and my grandfather got together - she would give a smart smile and say "I let him chase me til I caught him." She knew what she was doing!
I told a guy I liked him and he likes me....but he hasn't pursued me. Confused.
He's just not that into you.
Peter Nygren why is it her job to pursue? She already told him she liked him?
Peter Nygren This is spot on. I think your truth is too much for some. But to the seasoned man, this is music to my ears.
Peter Nygren What fo you mean by this lol? Please elaborate😃
Thanks for being honest Peter. I just want to encourage and let u know that there are still good Christian women out there. the Lord will lead you to the right one
One thing I can definitely say, we don't get hints! Tell us you like us please :)
The ad before the video ..” three ways the compliment a guy to make him fall for you ..loooool”
O boy, unfortunately I don't control what ads YT puts on the videos . . . I hope they are not too bad.
I'm loving your videos.....gosh wish I saw this earlier ....God bless u
Thanks for the encouragement Rosie, I'm so glad you found the channel :)
This video was enlightening.
Hey Mark. Do you agree of the term "1x relationship for life?". Because of this term in my church every time a guy likes a girl he wants to be sure she's the one, considering leader's opinion a lot, and FRIENDZONING THE GIRL FOR 1 OR 2 YEARS bcause he wants to make sure she's the one or not.
I am trully not agree of this. I think thats sort of evil, leaving the girl hanging in uncertainty for a really long time. Even douchebags are less douche than this kind of behavior.
Do you agree if a guy starts pursuing a girl, he has to make sure she's the one by pursuing for a long time, friendzoning the girl in uncertainty for the reason "wants to know her a lot"?
I believe you are referring to a "courting" model which I discuss more about here: th-cam.com/video/8jmr0O9zDqQ/w-d-xo.html
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger oh never thought about that. Thanks! I'll see the video
We were feeling each other so we kinda both felt the vibes,he was shy to pursue,right SLY🤗😉
Can a guy help me out here?
I think this guy at church is cute. So I introduced myself. And I ended up talking to him again. I wasn’t sure if he was just being nice, but he said we should hang out and asked for my number.
He text me and we messaged for a bit but all his answers were closed ended. So I didn’t wanna keep going.
Idk what to do. Want him to talk to me and maybe ask me out so we can get to know each other. But don’t know if he’s even interested.
I don’t wanna be the one pursuing. What should I do?
Hi, any news?
@wagr3z
Hello, so I kid you not… this guy and I are now married! We’ve been married for almost 8 months and we’re expecting our first baby.
I guess he was interested after all 😂 it was all God. It was really meant to be. So I hope this gives others hope.
And my comment says 1 year ago but it’s been about 1 yr and 8 months since I had written that post.
My confidence was always very low concerning approaching women. Not to say i never spoke to women or didn't have an occasional date. But i always felt that i wasn't going to be any better for it if i couldn't break the cycle. There always lied the fear or rejection. Not as if ive never been approached before but 90% of the time they were always the ones i had no interest in eventhough I would still treat them with respect.
Keep your hear up bro.. you will find her in jesus name
This helped me so much thank you
Totally agree...
Virginia Lacar amen
What about in Genesis when God said "let us make man in our own image". When God first created the human race we were considered man until Adam waa put into a deep sleep and God created the woman out of his rib. If the word of God says there is no male or female for we are all one in Christ Jesus.
I have never pursued a man. However if a woman she be interested in a man and then allow him to lead, I believe this will be okay. I am a devout Christian and I have been very much interested in a specific none Christian man for a couple years and we have a lot in common so much so that he requested me to mentor him for business and I teach business based on the word of God and I pray that God converts his heart so he submits himself to the will of God and become saved.
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Anne Johnson Genesis 1:27 "So God created man in his own image,in the image of God he created him;male and female he created them."
I knew you would talk about Ruth 😁,, when you said you'll give examples from the Bible.
Ruth did Not pursue Boaz until After he saw her in the fields!!!! He saw her FIRST!!!
he did not even approach her. he went and asked someone else about her. he did absolutely NOTHING other than ask around. She had to go to him.
very useful
Amen, I'm so glad it was helpful to you :)
Amen..finally! :-)