What Family Secrets Were Revealed When You Became An Adult?

[@autopartsknightrider9606]

Before my mom passed away she told me my father wasn't my father.. that my real dad lives in California with my older brother. Which explains why for years my "father" shunned me and gave all his love to my sister... who was now known as my half sister. After my mom passed away i told both my step father and half sister that I knew the truth... it totally dissolved the family and I moved to Oregon and I live with my 3rs cousin on my mom's side who treats me more like family than living with two fake people... I tried contacting my real father and bio older brother, whom both want nothing to do with me... i like my life the way it is now.. I changed my name and made a happy life with myself...

[@rhodawatkins4516]

It's so good to hear you have a happy life now. Good for you!

[@rondanakamura2655]

Good on you!

[@stpidstuff]

Well the way you punctuated this makes me think that you were/are sad

[@quarkshark9388]

wait did your mother had an affair with your bio dad and had you?

[@Kikilang60]

What is common, mothers tell their children, "Your father abandon us." Children grow up, and find out their father just died. Sometimes they died in a war, and have medals and everything. It's a hard wake up, finding out your mother is passively evil.

[@rhodawatkins4516]

Seems like it would be more common for them to tell the child their father died, rather than have them go through the trauma of thinking they'd been abandoned.

[@Kikilang60]

@@rhodawatkins4516 Being a single mom is more than difficult. I think it feels like they were abandon. Honestly? I think the mother is in a bad place, for a moment, they says the wrong thing. It's easy to do. I've done it. After you've said it, what do you do? People are human.

[@rhodawatkins4516]

@@Kikilang60 True. I don't know how I would have handled that sort of situation. I was born in an unfortunate circumstance as far as my parentage, but I don't think my mother ever hid the truth from me. I think she thought it might serve as a cautionary tale, and I did not wind up pregnant before I was married, thank God, because I know I would have felt like I had let her down terribly if I had done so. I'm so glad that the world is opening up on a lot of issues that used to cause people soul-crushing guilt and even suicidal thoughts and actions, because they didn't follow the rules in the Bible. To me, having to hide a lie for a lifetime would be far worse than just having it out in the open to start with. Just thinking about it now, maybe the knowledge that the main person in my world was not perfect from the beginning helped me to not be so judgmental about the mistakes people make, but to try to see why they make them.

[@blushfaerie]

@@Kikilang60 you correct it? You're supposed to be there for your child not manipulate them into feeling like they have to be there for you because you felt your s/o abandoned you.

[@slyguy8931]

Best way to spit on your dead husband’s memory

[@FlowerFace870]

The lottery isn't a curse people are just stupid with their winnings.

[@anemicleek58]

It also makes family/friends get greedy

[@xxvoid_cowboyxx2586]

AnemicLeek58 nope. It doesn’t make them. They’re just naturally greedy, but since they don’t own that much, you’d think their greed is caused by the new found money. It the whole “Power doesn’t corrupt, it simply reveals a person true personality” argument. Stupid people shouldn’t get ahold of something great cause their stupidity with drive them to their end. Smart people usual,y just use that money smartly, cause they innately know, regardless of how much they have, being smart with money is much better on the long run.

[@miasancto]

True that. If the lottery is only a Million £s spend it carefully and continue working, a million might be a lot of money but it doesn’t last a lifetime.

[@thefiretailedweasel6206]

The lottery isn't a curse, but greed is.

[@breeree2790]

Some people really need the lottery, especially if they aren't doing that well. Not all people are that greedy

[@Wi-Fi-El]

Hasn't been a secret since before I was born, but my family is exiled french royalty. My paternal seven greats grandfather was king Charles X of the Bourbon restoration. Based on the order of succession, I would be 20-25th in line for the now defunct throne, which would probably make me a Duke or Count

[@theDavitos]

well ww1 took two of my royal family out , Russia Family was killed and German king sent into exile to Holland :D , still i am so far away from English that i would need a Army and lot of cutting through the list to stake my claim haha.. dont even remember how many but it is few hundred from the English Queen , still i think Germany and Russian are more interested place to stake a claim at
also we are related through your Saxony great (lot of it) grand mother side (mother of Charles X)

[@cyrilmarasigan7108]

You gotta make sure that you are from paternal line not maternal line and also makes sure you are not illegitimate

[@justanothergamer7918]

Damn thats cool

[@Dabigboii]

welp, sorry man but we gotta finish the job

[@sisternorn6831]

Story heard from my mother's side of the family was that my father's family is descended from the Lost Dauphan of France. Which is not only impossible but real weird.

[@timothylumala1494]

My grandma isn’t my real grandma. She is my great aunt but she adopted my mom when she was in her 20’s after her parents died.

[@sk8noonan]

Same.

[@birb2197]

Same but with my grandpa

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Your great aunt sounds like an angel. :)

[@timothylumala1494]

@@SakuraMoonflower she is

[@magikenn]

The last time I saw my biological father was when I was in second grade. I never knew why and never asked until I was in middle school. My mom wouldn't tell me what happened but told he was abusive. Years later, my long lost sister contacted me on Facebook telling me our father had cerebral palsy and was in a wheelchair. I told my mom this and she said it was total bullcrap. She then revealed to me that he did terrible things to my siblings including my long lost sister who still keeps in touch with him. I was so angry. I don't talk to my sister anymore. Needless to say, it left me with so many unanswered questions. I don't have much memories of him or even remember what he looks like, but I do remember the last time I saw him. I was at my aunt's when he came over and took me to his house. Nobody outside of our immediate family knew what he had done so my aunt let me go with him. My mom wasn't there at the time and nearly had a heart attack when she found out. It took her a few days for her to find out. As far as I remember, he never abused me. He would take me to the park, buy me candy, and watch cartoons with me. After that, I never saw him again.

[@Zarathustran]

The parents asking kids to pay off debt they claimed to incur raising them is gaslighting and beyond despicable. The daughter who told the mother they hadn’t needed “all that stuff” is absolutely right. It’s the person who spent the money who needed it (probably to compete with a neighbor relative coworker friend etc. who is also a parent). At the very least if she bills her kids for their own support as dependent minor children (or some gift she pretended to freely give) she doesn’t also get credit for having struggled or sacrificed to do it. What a grifter.

[@xxvoid_cowboyxx2586]

The first one made me sad. I don’t know who made the OP believe that, be it a relative and or their mother, but that’s just a sick. It’s like forcing your kid to hate someone innocent. Actually, it is, and it disgusts me that some people wish to see a child hate their father.

[@slyguy8931]

It was probably the mother

[@ebony721]

All I can think about this is: Why? Why would you tell your child such a horrible lie so I grows up hating their own parent?

[@redram5150]

I knew my stepmother didn’t talk to her sister, but never learned why until my mid thirties. She then told me the reason she doesn’t want her sister in her life anymore involves finding out the man she married was a child molester who raped her elementary school aged children. My stepmother was the one who had to call the police because her sister wouldn’t. The man had a really well paying job and she basically pimped her children out to this monster so she could have a comfortable lifestyle and not need to work.
When the police arrived, her sister denied everything at first, but eventually admitted the truth... until her husband’s family arrived and convinced her to go back on what she said “Cus you’ll ruin a man’s life. And he won’t be around to support you any longer”
However, she had already given a sworn statement and the police told her if she changed her mind, her kids would be taken from her and the state would be arresting her for filing a false police report, endangering minors, accessory, child abuse, and anything else they could nail her with.
Her sister then said out loud this is all my step mother’s fault because she won’t have her child molester husband to take care of her anymore, and she shouldn’t have gotten involved.

[@evilarchconservative2952]

The family dynamics of having a molester in the family are almost more dysfunctional than the actual abuse. Which if called RAPE, would immediately have the offender in prison. (In the old days would have been sentenced to the death penalty .)
The worst part about child molesters (and most rapist) is most of them are the nicest people you know.
P.S. So much personal experience.

[@PukingPanda]

One of my uncle’s dad was a Nazi sympathizer. He would celebrate hitlers birthday and get sad at hitler’s death date. He was so angry when my uncle came out with blonde hair but brown eyes. Very odd if you think about the fact my nan was a Moari woman with tan skin, brown eyes and brown hair.

[@commentsiguess1263]

...WTF?

[@danniemikeey579]

My dad was german. My grandfather was too and his grave says he died in ww2. I have no idea if he was a nazi or a good person.

[@CletusSpuckler43]

Yo it’s pronounced Maori... if your from New Zealand im really disappointed 😂

[@screenedat0m]

discovered that my grandpa didn’t just die of being old like I had always been told as a child, he actually had ALS and my poor mom (who was 12-15) had to watch him slowly die. I found this out from a newspaper clipping about him because he was a big member of the town and also his notice of death in another paper from the mid 70s in a box of my moms stuff.
Mom told me my dad was actually adopted when I confided in her how I was worried he would die of cancer since both his parents did, when in reality they weren’t his actual birth parents and he doesn’t know where he even came from or who his biological family was.
Not really a family thing but my dads family moved into a house like 7 months after the two sisters living there had been murdered, and my dad grew up in that house, then raised me in that same house. Not only that but I slept in one of the rooms they died in. (Also they were murdered because they apparently had a ‘treasure’ hidden somewhere in the house, killer was never caught)

[@YanniBarnes]

I found out my father isn't my father when I was 17... my real father's daughter approached me at a laundromat and introduced herself. I knew her dad, but always thought he was just a "family friend".
Also, my grandmother had 6 girls & 1 boy. The boy died at 11 months. She said he had pneumonia, but my mother said he died from starvation because at that time, my grandmother was a deadbeat mother, and left them home without food for days.
Fun times...

[@mcarter99]

My grandads sister fell out with her parents back in the 50s after she went out to Hollywood to persue a career in acting. She would visit my grandad sometimes but never told what caused the falling out with their parents. A couple years ago my aunt got a letter from my great aunts son we never knew about. She had gotten pregnant while unmarried and put the baby up for adoption. Her parents had disowned her for it and she never told anyone else. He had reconnected with her as an adult and eventually found and old letter from my aunt in my great aunts belongings. He even lived in the same town as my other aunt for years and never knew it. My grandad went down to visit him and they keep in touch now. This all happened a few years after my great aunt stopped contacting the family and we weren't even sure she was alive. Turns out her son had moved hetintp a nice nursing home and was taking care of her. She hid the letters and woulnt tell him about her family because she still didnt want them to find out.

[@miasancto]

Some of the ways that the text to speech pronounces words, like Wow as Whoa is just hilarious to me 😂😂😂😂😂

[@jayson1505]

15, zero zero zero

[@aaronglasgow4651]

Grangparents

[@davidparlby2035]

It’s the best part 😂

[@AJDaniels5298]

Reminds me of:
"What does that say, Anaya?"
"¿Wah?"
"No, it's WHO!"
"¿Wah?"
th-cam.com/video/1Mh24z2zGmc/w-d-xo.html

[@BankruptMonkey]

I thought the mafia story was going to be his dad's rich gay lover, boy was that a twist

[@Shakera...]

Lmaooo

[@evalove1994]

What’s the time stamp on it. I’m too lazy to listen to it all 😂

[@mom7275]

I like your version better...

[@bethdibartolomeo2042]

The Toys R Us comment on it cracked me up. XD

[@maximumgames2990]

@@bethdibartolomeo2042 Especially because I'm now picturing it

[@gloomycandy101]

My weird family secret is that my uncle cheated on his wife with his own cousin, but weirder yet, all of his siblings including my dad were actually a bit disappointed when he went back to his wife - she’s abusive, manipulative, and has spent so much of his money that he’ll work until he’s dead trying to pay off those debts.
Makes thinks kinda awkward.

[@justarussainyetiwithintern6729]

That Costa Rica surfboard guy is who i aspire to be

[@lauraacevedo1308]

Huh, it's not every day I find my country being mentioned on the first comment lmao

[@lauraacevedo1308]

@@dr.trayaurus3173 2nd world country? Wait what

[@oz_jones]

@@dr.trayaurus3173 warsaw pact isnt anymore, my guy

[@taurusgemini2376]

My mom told me that my granny used to smoke crack and that's why she didn't raise most of my aunts and uncles. I had no idea because she raised my mom, her younger sister as well as me and my brother. But that explains a lot. She's still alive but now a stroke victim so she doesn't walk or talk a lot anymore.

[@jacquelinewithac8668]

My dad is gay and my mom isn’t my biological mother but they’re together because they’re best friends and just decided to be life partners when they were in their late 30’s as neither of them had ever met a significant other that they clicked with in the way they did with each other. Been married 29 years and still very happy

[@GarlicGrinder9]

My mom sat me fown when I was 18 and told me "everything thats been hidden from me" as if who hates who and drama is some sort of family heirloom. I was raised mostly by her so i dont know a lot of my family very well. Not only that but I realized that either indirectly or otherwise she caused or was related to the cause of the drama. I learned that no relationship is worth being offloaded into like a suitcase to fit someones idea that they're a good person.

[@OmicronX-1999]

My cousin on my dad's side killed her boyfriend and got away with it by having her mother and sister beat her up so she could claim she stabbed him in self defence. My dad knows for a fact that it wasn't self defence because she told him so herself.
I have another cousin that I've never met and who has had no contact with the family because he was disowned for being gay when he was a teenager.
My Great Grandfather came home from WWII, went into the kitchen and dropped dead from an aneurysm. My grandmother's memories of WWII were of being evacuated to Wales during the Blitz when she was 4, which is the reason she's always had an attachment to Wales.
My uncle on my mother's side goes by his middle name. His actual first name is Carl, but my Granddad refused to call him that because it sounds too German.
I always kind of knew my dad's family were a little weird growing up, but it turns out that almost all of them were and are crazy in some way, including my dad, and also me. Alcoholism, anxiety and OCD are extremely common on my dad's side. There's also varying degrees of psychosis present, which goes a long way to explain why we all have extremely short, extremely violent tempers.
My dad went to a gun club once and fired an actual revolver. That may not sound like a big deal, but I live in the UK where guns and gun clubs are extremely rare. He also knows guys who can get guns easily if he wants them. My uncle on my mother's side has my Great Granddad's service revolver. I don't know if it's deactivated or not, I've never seen it.
That's about all I can think of off the top of my head.

[@josephsherman5288]

As a fairly active and new sporting shooter (handguns), it's nothing naughty or anything, actually a bit of fun. Like darts on steroids. I highly recommend.

[@beastmaster0934]

That first cousin sounds fucking nuts.

[@AlextheHomo]

I feel bad for your gay cousin. I hope he's okay ❤

[@dergluckliche4973]

They weren't revealed but I discovered two in cleaning out old papers:
My uptight, judgmental maternal grandmother had been married once before my grandfather sometime in the 1930s. Found the divorce decree in a drawer.
In the case of my paternal grandparents' 1970s divorce, there was far more acrimony than had ever been let on. Copies of angry letters and legal correspondence showed it to be a pretty contentious fight which was surprising since my grandmother never spoke ill of my grandfather and was the typical sweet little old lady. I miss her.

[@meganlouise9007]

My aunt's got Abortions in high school, my grandfather is a cross dresser. I don't have a problem with either of these, but they're hypocrites

[@davidh7177]

Abortion is fine in the sense of 'accidents etc' but not as a 'birth control'.
Oh, and your grandfather is hardly hurting anyone is he? 🙂

[@eopujvrswg]

Tell your aunt from me (reveal my name if you want and how you know about me) that she is hands down one of the worst human beings I have ever heard.

[@Deme_Diora666]

John Eaton why?

[@eopujvrswg]

@@Deme_Diora666 Abortion is murder. Im sick of women thinking that they can get away with murder because they are women.

[@eopujvrswg]

@NA NA so basically you should be allowed to not be in prison because your life is shit? Grow up.

[@evalove1994]

That my sister has a different dad, who is my uncle. My dad knew, my mom knew, and my uncle knows. Found out when I was about 21 years old. Uncle didn’t bother and still doesn’t bother to get to know my sister. I hope she knows she’s still loved by those that is still around.

[@katelynnwatson705]

1. My mom was married before my father. Legit was kept a secret until my grandpa slipped up by talking about my parents supposed wedding in the winter but they definitely did NOT get married in the winter but I really found out when I found an old glamour shot of my mom and it had a completely different last name attached to hers that wasn’t her maiden name.
2. I was always told my dad was this horrible person, a liar, lazy, etc and told that was the reason she “left him” when in reality she cheated on him and got pregnant after she talked my dad into having a vasectomy. 🙃 I was 6 when all this happened so tbh I never even added up the dates between their divorce and my twin brothers being born.
3. Said twins still don’t know (at age 14 I may add) that their father is not their father. She refuses to tell them about their dad and let them learn their culture. And tells me I can’t even mention it if I want to be part of the family.
Shit is fucked up yo

[@deszalt4492]

Lottery isn't the curse, greed is. If you're greedy or foolish enough to hang around greedy people, you're doomed to blow it.

[@AMinibot]

Found out that my dad, who never seemed entirely comfortable with me being bi, had a boyfriend during university. Still trying to get my head around how that one works out.

[@Temari0Is0Cool]

I was told my cousin died of a serious asthma attack. Things didn't add up. Was finally told when I got older that he actually overdosed. We still keep the secret from my grandmother.

[@crazeekids9744]

My grandparents were married for 25 years and had 6 children together. My grandmother died in her 40’s from cancer, and my grandfather remarried 6 months later. Kind of crappy, but some men can’t be alone. Found out as an adult that they had been having an affair for years beforehand.

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Actually it is very common historically for Men to remarry after the death of a spouse. Lots of practical reasons for this. Including Women seeking out such men to marry. He wasn't a cad, simply human.

[@crazeekids9744]

@@evilarchconservative2952 for cheating on his dying wife, and then moving her in with his kids 6 months later, yes he was. The woman then proceeded to erase everything of my grandmother’s from the home and made the children so uncomfortable that they all moved out.

[@Elizabeth-ih2ff]

My dad married twice. I didn’t find this out until the summer of my freshmen year, I am a senior now. He’s had two children with his previous partner both of them I’ve never met before. All I know is that they’re both in college and live in Australia. My dads previous wife called for the divorce because she wasn’t able to handle my dads outgoing personality , decisions , etc. No one was able to hold him down, until he met my mom! :) They’ve been together for about 20+ years so far now!

[@ApocPurpill]

Your hamster is such a cutie

[@Elizabeth-ih2ff]

CS Collecting Thank you!! :D❤️

[@TheMazimai85]

Before the world war (2rd I think) my husband's grand father owned a large part of Poland. But then the war happened. His mother still has the land deeds and her half brother has been looking for it for years to try and sue the country to get it back.
My dad's aunts (baby twins) were killed after pulling a hot pan of water on their heads

[@emilyb5391]

Claim it back! Omg i was in Poland back in 2018, there’s been a lot of families claiming their property back that they lost. You guys should definitely fight for it- i visited a manor that was reclaimed by a Canadian family- the whole area is a tourist site and I believe they planned on keeping it that way

[@Phoebe5448]

Same here! Apparently my bio dad and his family had some land before the war thats now a herring farm. They're trying to claim some of it now.

[@stubscrub]

my dad was a victim of this catholic camp when he was younger they did honorable things to the boys he tried to escape with someone else and the boy ended up dying. They were both 14. I cried for days because my dad is a funny strong guy but alot of the victims are coming forward.

[@novaraine6602]

I just learned recently that my great grand father escaped a contraction camp, where a lot of his family perished. I only knew because I asked our immigration heritage

[@thequeenofangst7371]

My dad left before I was born.
He and my mom had a disagreement with how to raise me. He was 21 and dumb so he left, but visited me until I was three.
I found out just before going into highschool. We have a good relationship and I got three brothers out of it. But yeah I was kinda shocked my mom's ex-husband wasn't my real dad.

[@Amayawolf_01]

I found out a few years ago that my parents almost divorced when my siblings and I were toddlers because she thought he was super selfish/narcissistic/controlling, and that when she brought it up he told her "Fine, you can have custody of our daughters and I'll take our son" so she ended up staying with him to not split us up but demanded he go to therapy instead.
Also found out that one of my grandmas (mom's former stepmother/mother of her two half brothers) forced my mom to quit her job because my dad had fallen asleep while she was at work and my brother and I escaped out to the parking lot to play. Mind you, this woman is crazy and uber religious. She used to foster kids with developmental issues and was extremely toxic and verbally/emotionally abusive to them, but she puts up the front of a kind old lady in public (none of us talk to her anymore, she did some crappy stuff when we were teens that made us hate her and my parents finally cut contact). My mom didn't want to subject us to the torment this woman had put her through growing up, so she went to her boss who was super understanding and comforted her while she was crying. She stayed at home to watch us three kids for the next few years. I don't know if this was before or after they almost got divorced, all I really know about it is that he told her because he worked and then later because he made more money he got to make the financial decisions (usually buying frivolous things when she told him we needed new clothes and other essentials) and she just had to deal with it. I still see those same behaviors directed at us as an adult, but he's at least nice to her for the most part and they don't constantly fight.
I'm happy that staying together "for the kids" ended up with their relationship improving, but his attitude just shifted to us kids instead. I don't know about my siblings, but that messed me up quite a bit and he always blames me for the fact that we don't really get along whenever we fight instead of admitting his own mistakes

[@PukingPanda]

I only found out earlier this year that I had another eldest aunt that died as a kid. Only found out after reading my granddad’s funeral pamphlet which stated her name. My aunt explained to me she only found out a couple years earlier. I guess I understand why my nan would never want to talk about it but odd that she was never mentioned till my grandad died.

[@mztweety1374]

Found out that my grandparents on my moms side never divorced but were separated all my life. This was at my grandads funeral. Guess there was some feeling between them. When we gave her the bad news in the hospital she coded. She lived a couple more years after that. Stubborn old
👵

[@lovinglife8854]

I'm slowly finding out how much of a monster my father is. (stuff he did in the past.)

[@emperorza5777]

Aww man that sucks. I’m kind of feeling the same way towards my mom

[@MisterSisterFister666]

I'm sorry you have to deal with all that

[@koffz-nl2118]

Ive been finding this out since my teens( in 23 now) through my mum. But I still cant seen to not love him.

[@serenitynow85]

If you are finding until now about stuff he did in the past I'm pretty sure he is a different man now

[@grayonthewater]

Ugh yeah I’ve been there

[@mpac418]

My mother wasn't my birth mother. But they were friends. I saw a picture of both of them. She left when I was about 6 month. Found out when I was 22 years old.

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Your "Mom" is a great Woman.

[@twinsgangtv6946]

Did you find your birth mother

[@mpac418]

@@evilarchconservative2952 My mom is awesome.

[@mpac418]

@@twinsgangtv6946 I have recently started looking. No luck. So how do I say this without getting this really confusing. So my father had 6 children (that we know) and each of us are half to each other. So there are 6 mother's in the picture. i have a older sister who lives in another country and I have never met her. Then there is me, my brother who is from a different woman and that is the woman who raised me. Then we have another sister, from a different mother, and another sister from a different mother and a brother from a different mother. He is 26 years old now. i just found out my mother use to sing in a band, and was a doctor. my sister and little brother said that's what my dad said. I told them well, i guess I get all my genes from our dad, because i cant sing for shit, and I am not that smart.....lol

[@smileyfacegummies]

I found out a few months ago that my mom was married to an abusive man before she met my dad. I guess that's my family secret. There's more but I still don't have all the details.

[@starwolfwing7228]

3:16 can't blame the grandfather for killing them they sold out his wife and kids just for money

[@juliestevens6931]

Mine was not that great, but I did find out that my mom and dad almost divorced when he came back from Vietnam. Apparently he was "catting around" and she told him to stop or leave. He stopped. My head just about exploded. I had no idea.

[@FlowerFace870]

A lot of people in the comments ratting out their families. LOL Thanks because it makes for good readin.

[@billolsen4360]

1:06 Winning the lottery isn't the curse, it's the gambling mindset.

[@Korean_Kitty]

I'm convinced that my Tomodachi Collection islanders are gambling addicts.

[@annana6098]

When I became old enough, there was a whole lot of sexual misconduct I became aware of. The men on my dad's side have some consent issues, it seems. Mom's dad might have been a victim when he was young.

[@kingtaehyung9680]

I don't remember if this was after or before my grandma on my mom's side died (think it was a bit before) but when we went to visit our grandparents my mom and our grandfather ended up having a fight and she started screaming about how he was the reason that grandma was dying so young in the first place since he had been abusing her for years. Apparently he used to push her down the stairs (along with just general beatings), resulting in many broken bones and other injuries. She was in her 60s and she couldn't move without help and had many bodily problems. Apparently my grandfather hates my uncle now because he threatened him with his cutlass (basically a big knife) once when he was beating our grandmother (always knew I loved my uncle). But yh, couldn't see my grandfather the same way after that.
My dad used to abuse us around that time too so it was kinda ironic how it all played out. I've chilled out towards my grandfather (mostly because I haven't seen him in years) but I still hate/really dislike my father.

[@Reginald_Ritmo]

One of my great aunts gave another great aunt a child of hers to raise

[@Seoulview]

My dad did this for his oldest sister, he gave her my older sister

[@rusandifernando2580]

Will be turning 17 nx Wednesday, technically not an adult, bu I sure am worried abt the possibility of a revelation like this 😂

[@grandmaashley]

grandma approved

[@gooey9351]

You are not hero we want
You are hero we need

[@juke414]

Why’d you kill grandpa

[@grandmaashley]

@@juke414 it was an accident ;)

[@justanothergalaxy8379]

Latex Boi we want her tho

[@MisterSisterFister666]

@@grandmaashley 😂😂😂

[@pinkanimositygaming]

I found out from my dad and uncle that they found their mom, my grandma, having sex with a married man when they were kids. When my grandpa found out, he didn’t divorce her. He stayed miserably married to her until the day he died bc he didn’t want to ruin my dad and uncle’s relationship with her. RIP Grandpa. You were too good for a psychotic narcissist like her.

[@em1osmurf]

jewish. lost most family in north europe/holland. didn't make it past that part. sorry. i'm old, and this was upsetting. sorry.

[@rhodawatkins4516]

Glad you survived. Think about things that make you happy. Don't dwell on the sadness.

[@ThatGuyYouArent2]

My great uncle tried to rape my mom, and regularly raped my mom's cousin, when they were kids. Mom's cousin had suffered in silence for years and was an adopted vietnamese refugee. First time he tried it with my mom, she screamed bloody murder. My grandmother and great aunt (not the one married to him) found out, and never told his wife because it would have devastated their sister. She lived and died never knowing. They DID threaten him, however, and said that if they ever caught the slightest hint he did it again, that they would absolutely ruin his life.
It never happened again.

[@shadowsinmymind9]

Thats not right. They should of called the police. Who cares if his wife found out. She deserves to know the truth about her awful husband and it would of stopped him from hurting other girls

[@Sunset553]

I found out that my uncle’s father was not our grandfather. That alone doesn’t seem like a big deal. The true revelation is that one cousin of mine, the son of a different uncle, talks about things that aren’t his business and tells people’s secrets. He had overheard the conversation between my grandparents when one of them was begging the other to never tell my uncle that his father was another man. My grandmother was pregnant when she married.
So my cousin precedes to go tell our uncle himself. And he tells anyone who will listen. He’s a senior citizen now and still talks like a brat.

[@greatgownsbeautifulgowns]

@6:44, the same thing happened to a cousin of mine. ☹
The only difference in her situation is, she went to file paperwork for something, she was trying to get things together for the paperwork-- so then some busybody woman who she's known for years just up and tells her that her mother (who at the time had already died about 10 years before) was NOT really her mother, and that in fact her mother was a pregnant teenager and her father was a married man.
The woman who raised her was actually a friend of her biological mom's family and she and her husband couldn't have children, so they happily took her in and loved and raised her as if she were their own.
My cousin was never the same after she found out that information. She once kind of said something to the effect that she felt like she didn't have a "real" family, but as much as we tried to reassure her that we ARE her family, she was still very hurt and upset. Unfortunately she's an older woman who given the long ago time that she was born, everybody who would have had any information and more of the truth beyond what she already knows is long dead-- e.g. her adopted mother and father, her biological mother and father, relatives around their ages.
I'm not sure if she even went looking for biological siblings or even the children and grandchildren of those siblings because I think she was too hurt to learn any more than what she had already found out.

[@stephaniehowe0973]

My Grandmother was born in Nov my Great Grandparents were married in May.
A Huge deal then

[@AJDaniels5298]

My maternal grandmother is a malignant narcissist who hates my guts because of who my father was. She has said this to my face.

[@AJDaniels5298]

@NA NA Oh, yeah, I've been away from her for about a year now.
She's getting to the point where she wants to talk and make it up to me but I'm not listening.

[@AJDaniels5298]

@NA NA
She's basically the witch from Hansel and Gretel except her house is made of house and she doesn't want to eat me, so she tries to bribe me with sweets on occasion.
It makes me mad because my pride won't let me accept it and she sent me HOMEMADE DIVINITY last X-Mas.
I feel like, if I accept her gifts, it's like I'm accepting her apologies and calling a truce when I'm not!
If she wants civility between us, we have to come to a neutral point, sit down, and speak about this at great length.
I wish she WOULD come down off her high horse and talk to me about this like civilized adults instead of feuding with me like the Hatfields and McCoys but every argument is a battle to be won or lost in her mind, in my experience.
Even after all this BS, I MISS my Nana!
She's not even worthy of that nickname anymore and it makes me sick to look around my house at all my family photos or participate in the family group FB chat when I know she's there, watching me and trying to get whatever information about me that she can so she can spread it all over her and her friends' stupid gossip chain.
Fucking small town bullshit!

[@AJDaniels5298]

@NA NA I find it funny that they do all this talking behind my back about what I do and who I talk to, etc., when I'm literally just sitting here, playing Animal Crossing and all the people she thinks I'm "involved with" are my damn villagers!

[@miasancto]

For crying out loud don’t quite your job if you win the Lottery, a million £s doesn’t last a lifetime and even the new “set for life” which allows the winner to earn 10k a month for 30 years, doesn’t set you up for life, it’s a way to pay your bills/rent and to buy your weekly shopping aka your food shop, not for you to spend 2k on makeup, clothes and other stuff. If you win the Lottery only use it on your essentials like, food, water and your bills, continue working and and don’t over spend. (Set for life is a UK or Britain only thing, I am not sure if it exist in other countries)

[@graemehunter4395]

My grandfather had been battling cancer for years, but I was told this when I was 14

[@haili9704]

If you win the lottery, you tell NO ONE

[@meghanmckenzie5273]

My older's best friend hanged himself in my brother's backyard while he was in the kitchen. My brother found him. T_T My niece found the letter.

[@taylorhanson04]

My grandfathers best friend was having an affair with a woman from church and got her pregnant. He made her put the baby boy up for adoption bc he was married and didn’t want his wife (my grandmothers best friend) to find out. The baby was adopted by a local family and grew up to marry my aunt. He beat the living dog shit out of her and almost killed her multiple times, she even had to have brain surgery. The one good thing to come out of this was my grandfather got into politics and ended up passing stalking/domestic violence laws in our state. The best friends wife still doesn’t know to this day, almost 60 years later.

[@jackcasey7037]

Not really much other than the fact that my parents went from meeting each other (when my dad sold my mom a car!) to being engaged within six weeks. They just celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary.

[@queenkatma]

When I turned 21 I was told that my grandfather was sold as a slave. He was born to an Aboriginal couple who sold him to a pig farm, where he was forced to work as a child. The pig farm then sold him to a very mentally disturbed couple who kept being denied adoption because they were both mentally unstable and abusive. Nobody in the family knew any of this except my mother who, when she was 21, dug into his history because she was curious about his adoption. She had tons of paperwork proving all of this, like the medical files and police reports about my great-grandparents. The rest of my family still denies it. Apparently, unfortunately, this is very common for Metis people to find out this sort of hidden heritage.

[@whtxombi4955]

That my Great Grandfather had a whole other family living in San Francisco... wife, kids, everything.

[@loveshoves1825]

That my grandfather served 15 yrs in prison for killing a man during a bar fight when he was 16. Sweetest man you'd ever meet and he still doesn't like to talk about that night.

[@felicitybywater8012]

"the crazies in the family have made it easy to detach".
Yep. Same.

[@unclefranklin4575]

My Grandma cheated on her husband with his brother, who is probably my biological grandpa, because he found out after my mom was born that he was most likely infertile. My grandma would lose her mind if she knew I knew this.

[@twinsgangtv6946]

What happen

[@Lucas-jm6tx]

I found out my great grandparents were half brother and sister. Same mom, different dads. Great grandad was born out of wedlock, was sent to live with someone else as their son so it wouldn’t be found out that he’s a bastard. Great grandmother was not born out of wedlock and was raised by her mother. Great grandmother gets to 16, moves out, cuts ties with her family for reasons I still don’t know, meets great grandfather and they marry. Their mother knew about the wedding and tried to stop it, but never said why, she didn’t succeed. Great grandparents had the same last name and just thought it was a funny coincidence. They never found out, my grandmother (their third child) found out when researching her family tree, she told my mum, mum told me and my sister. Grandmother doesn’t know my sister and I know about it.

[@someonesomewhere9115]

In my family, the biggest secret I know is that my uncle was married to another woman (no kids from that marriage). Not that scandalous, but his kids from the second marriage (14 and 11) have no clue.
My dads aunt and cousin were hoarders who died in an accidental fire when they smoked in their house one day. Again, not too scandalous but I just recently learned about that.
My best friends grandparents divorced when her mom was little because the grandmother had an affair. Somehow the mom found out when she was very little and when she asked the grandma about it (age 7 at the time) she was yelled at never to talk about it again. I don’t remember what exactly was said but for the next twenty-five years she took it to mean that her parents’ divorce was her fault and only realized that it wasn’t when she went to therapy in her 30s.

[@biggraydog1652]

I was about 20 when I finally found out how my grandfather died. He had passed long before I was born and my mother told me that he died in an accident (I assumed car accident). My grandmother and others in the family never really talked about him. My mother finally told me the truth. Turns out, he had a psychotic break and killed himself.

[@paint1016]

My dad wasnt my dad. 30 years old everyone new but me. Thanks family for making me dislike someone who didnt deserve it

[@DDLAFFEY724]

Hell if I got a $1000 race car set I’d join the mafia

[@Shakera...]

Even if you regret it later?

[@andrewz4401]

@@Shakera... well hell yeah you could get another set

[@l.elizabethcincotta2878]

My great aunt was the only girl in her family to go to college. She was raped by her closet-lesbian roommate and dropped out.

[@shadowsinmymind9]

Wtf? That's awful

[@l.elizabethcincotta2878]

@@shadowsinmymind9 Yeah.... this was back in the 40s/50s so it wasn't common to be openly gay but still.......

[@noobboon2579]

I found out my parentts are cousins and knew each other since childhood.
I was around 20 years old when it was revealed.

[@gaonemokete]

Is it weird that i read this while saying..... SWEET HOME ALABAMA😂😂

[@Cthulu1985]

@@gaonemokete It isn't. I sang it as well... #MayTheGodsForgiveMe

[@shadowsinmymind9]

This happens more than often than people think

[@oz_jones]

@@gaonemokete #justpakistanthings

[@jaredcrabb]

Apparently my dads mom married her cousin, so sweet home colorado:D

[@seraphinaedan1033]

I found out that my dad gave my mom HPV when they first started dating

[@danieljarrelljr5640]

Here's one, my dad's mom had a daughter out of wedlock, her mom raised her telling everyone they were sisters. Bet you guessed who the dad was. Still sick over finding that out.

[@twinsgangtv6946]

Who's the dad

[@simonkennedy6116]

After my mother developed alcohol related dementia, I found out that my grand mother was really my great aunt because my grandfather had an affair with her sister. She brought the child to term and my mother was raised in the family. I can see now that they were always cold to each other and the birth mother was always sad around us

[@twinsgangtv6946]

What about now

[@simonkennedy6116]

@@twinsgangtv6946 Nothing's changed, my grandparents are long gone and my mother can't remember what happened 5 minutes ago

[@babyboyriley8214]

I grew up in care I have alot
- I have 13 siblings
-my second oldest brother is a pedo
-my mom tried drowning my sister when she was 2
- my brothers twin was murdered at 13 months
- my mom "bought" a kid but I had to raise him until I had to abandon him in the ER
- I thought my sister was my mom untill I was 8
- my twin was kicked in the head causing brain damage
- my bio uncle kicked me off the roof multiple times
- my case worker lost over 8 yrs of my paperwork but I'm 80% sure my bio mom stole it
So much more but I have Terrible memory

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Dang you had it rough you are lucky that you didn't end up in the juvenile justice system.
While imperfect in the day...I think it is time to seriously consider a return to the "Orphanage House" system with what we know today. Properly done this could provide kids everything a "large" family has, House Parents, education, counseling, tough love (so much different than abusive "tough love"), a transitional program as kids approach adulthood (working with high schools that offer Associates Degrees or Technical skills would be great)...
...AND NOT RETURNING KIDS "HOME" after parents just successfully complete a few months of counseling.

[@tHICKnICKdIGGER]

Winning the lottery is 1 curse I’d love to experience.

[@YoutuberGrudge]

After 3 years of marriage my mom cheated, got pregnant and had twins; witheld that information from my father. I didn't learn this until almost 22. She only was forced to tell me after my boyfriend figured it out and called her out on it.

[@shadowchrome_5226]

You have been kissed by
You have been struck by
*JAMES CHARLES*

[@lusharaafton1081]

No.

[@MisterSisterFister666]

No.

[@daratheresa]

No.

[@josephsherman5288]

Hey sisters!

[@tenkoshimura4882]

To be fair, the adults that sold out their neighbors deserved it. The kids probably didn't.

[@xxmaplesyrupchuggerxx5541]

Almost every single man in my Family have fought in died in every Major war in the past 150 years. Abraham G. -1861 Wilson’s Creek. William S. -1898 San Juan Hill. John B. -1917 Ypres. Larry B. -1942 Midway Atoll. Walter K. -1953 Christmas hill, Korea. The only survivor is my Grandfather Bruce who beat my father after he came back from Vietnam.

[@JohnSmith-nj9qo]

I found out that my grandfather who died before I was born didn't die from cancer, but was instead an alcoholic who wound up blowing his head off with a shotgun. Apparently my uncle was the first to find the body.

[@rionthemagnificent2971]

My grandma dated a Pedophiliac Necrophile before she dated my grandad.. Nobody knew it about this man, until a high profile family had a young daughter die in an accident and a co-worker at the morgue walked in him balls deep in this dead teenager and proceeded to beat the everloving shit out of him. My Grandma left him after she heard about why he came home battered up and bloody. Needless to say the well known family pressed charges and the man went to a penitentiary for a while, and my grandad found him in a bar one time on one of his many drinking binges (as he was a WW2 vet and used Alcohol to treat his PTSD since nobody talked about PTSD back then), and promptly kicked his ass for good measure.

[@rnfrog8661]

So, my mom tells me that she was r***d when she was in the 5th grade by her mother's brother. She never told anyone beside my father (before they married), and me. It's really upsetting me and I'm mad. Like, even her mom (her father, my grandpa, died a few years before this) doesn't know it. And everyone thinks that the asshole is a nice and kind. Even at that time, he tried for the second time but my mom fights back.
Damn, I'm still angry.

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Similar situation except our Uncle molested 3 kids at the same time. The aftermath when it came out roughly 18 years later was even more dysfunctional.

[@alisiaguzman6511]

I didn’t know my grandpa was my biological grandpa till I was about 12...I noticed my mom always called him by his first name but my dad called his biological mom by her first name so thought nothing of it my whole life till my grandma one day mentioned my moms biological dad...I never really said anything till I was about 16 because it didn’t matter to me my grandma and grandpa were married before I was born and he treated me like his biological grandkid so never really bothered me...he passed in January 2016 he was a good guy very smart I miss him a lot...also found out my biological grandpa was adopted a few years back...I have more but I don’t think my parents would appreciate me saying the family stuff but that’s like the basic stuff pretty much...oh and my biological grandpa died when I was a few months old my mom said she took me to meet him once before he passed but ya that’s about it

[@przemekkozlowski7835]

I recently found out that my maternal grandfather's brother was a senior member of the Polish communist secret police. He supposedly had a really nasty reputation and years later my mother was afraid to mention her maiden name to people in case they knew someone the guy might have "interrogated". My mother has not had real contact with that side of the family for 60 years so it never came up till recently.

[@MaryArts]

That my mother was cheating with multiple guys. There was a time, were my parents didn't know my bro was actually our father's child. But he is. The worst part, our father should have never had children. He beat him to the hospital, when my bro was only 4 years old and our relatives were visiting. I only heard this, when I was 21 years old. Until then my relatives said, they didn't know that my father was so aggressive.
It isn't a secret to me that he hit us, but hearing that he assaulted a 4 year old was too much. The worst part: no one helped. No one friggin helped and I will never pamper anyone in our family or will ever think they are a nice person. Cause now that my brother is severly mentally ill and a loss for society, they say, they are worried.

[@TJDious]

Found out at about 16 that my great uncle was my grandma's first husband. As in she divorced him and married his brother. First marriage lasted less than a year, second lasted 50. Guess she got it right the second time.
PS her sister was married 4 times, twice to the same guy.

[@hoydenuwell8474]

Found out my dad was the bastard child, Grandpa was in Vietnam at the time. Always wondered why he treated us so different.

[@Rayhaku808]

Two things
1. I was originally intended to be aborted.
2. I was conceived outside of marriage, and my grandparents had my parents wed earlier so I wouldn't know.
Christians can be driven to the extremes sometimes to save face. I may still be a Christian today if I was told earlier. My mother and grandparents refused to say anything even after I nonchalantly brought it up. I appreciate my dad's honesty with me.

[@erraticonteuse]

My mom was married once before my dad. She married the guy she happened to be dating when she graduated high school because she had no other plans (even though both my grandparents had college degrees, they never encouraged my mom or two of her sisters to go to college. The third sister they did because she had a cleft palate and they assumed she would never marry, but they only saved/paid for their one son's college.) Anyway, about a year into the marriage she realized she made a huge mistake and moved back in with her parents. She also left the Catholic Church at this point, because when she did the "right" thing and consulted with her priest about how unhappy she was and how her husband was a jerk, she got some long rambly story about the priest's sister who married a jerk, but he eventually came around and apologized *on his deathbed* for being a jerk. That's when my mom was like, "Wait a minute, you can't even get married, who are you to be considered an authority on marital problems?" I was always a little curious why we were raised Methodist when my dad rarely came to church with us, so it wasn't like he cared more about religion than my mom did.
But I also later found out that my dad has a bit of a grudge against Catholics, because in the town where he grew up, the *public schools* were *segregated by religion* and the Catholics got the good schools and the Protestants got the bad schools. This eventually ended when *some other town doing the same thing* got sued and the court was like "Guys, even ignoring the blatant First Amendment violations here, the whole Brown v. Board 'separate is not equal' thing didn't just apply to black kids, you know?"

[@WPUpioneer]

My dad had a cousin that had invented something that made her a whole ton of money. To the point she was able to buy an original Picasso. No idea what specifically she invented but I know it had to do with subway cars

[@hgriffithshlg]

My entire family knew my grandma as Marguerite. She used to tell my sister and I that she was named after the flowers in her parents‘ garden. After she passed, one bank account was under the name of Margret which we all assumed was a typo when the account was created. Nope, her birth certificate says that she was actually called Margret, and she made up a more interesting name for herself at some point - my grandad didn’t even know!

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Lovely story. I assume she didn't have any siblings who could have told the story of the name change. I would be tempted to find any members of her high school class who might know the story.

[@hgriffithshlg]

@@evilarchconservative2952 She was actually one of seven, and youngest but one! All of them had passed by the time we found out so there was no-one to ask unfortunately. Another thing is, she actually went by her middle name Joan her whole life, so I don’t know if anyone would’ve noticed? Not sure, she would’ve been 88 this year so it’s pretty unlikely we’ll ever find out since there’s no one still around to ask

[@isdelespinoza7410]

One of my half brothers might not be my half brother (dad side) his mom was seen with another guy before she was pregnant. My little brother has the same red hair as the guy his mom was seen with. My dad doesn’t care nor do I but our dad keeps making excuses as to why he was born with red hair when our dad has black hair.

[@isdelespinoza7410]

NA NA how did you find that out?

[@evilarchconservative2952]

Red hair is a recessive trait. Both parents have to have that recessive trait in order to have a child with red hair.
Proud Redhead...Both parents had brown hair.

[@caseyrouse9116]

Found out the only reason my grandparents met was because my gran fell in love with a catholic and my Protestant Scottish family forbid her so she moved to England to be with him. She got a cleaning job at the place my grandad worked and the rest is history 🙂
Also my other grandad supposedly cheated on my nan so to get back at him she cheated on him with another man 😂
And my dad accidentally Knocked up a super catholic girl and decided he was going to stay with her but her mum refused to let them get married and keep the child. So the kid was sent off for adoption and my dad moved and got a job in the same mattress factory as my mum
I wouldn’t be shocked if there were more I didn’t know. I love my family but they aren’t the best people in the world

[@havanadaurcy1321]

It was just revealed to me that my uncle died of a heart attack and had to be revived when being worked on his nose (Cancer). He will just let it flow he feels.

[@danieljarrelljr5640]

And then there was the fact I went thru school and graduated with my half sister unknowingly. Told after I got out of there.

[@the_americangamer4296]

My mom's oldest sister and her kid (the oldest grandchild) are estranged from the rest of the family. They haven't been to any family gathering at all in the last few years except for my grandmother's funeral. I'm afraid of asking my mother or any of her other siblings, so next family gathering, I think I'll ask one of my older cousins and see if they know why.

[@twinsgangtv6946]

Did you find out