If my boyfriend told me to get off of a tram at the end of a hiking trail and sit there for two hours by myself, and not offer to wait with me when we get back, see you later dude
For the hiking story: I really don't think OP should be called an AH. She was tossed to the side by her bf after a hike (which can be mentally and physically exhausting sometimes) and he told her to wait, alone, for 2 hours, in the dark? And then she gets punished for taking the only option she was comfortable with? Her bf didn't care about her to offer what K did, and suggested that SHE wait, rather than have K or himself wait instead. K decided to step up and solve the issue, but B never even said "hey, you can sit on my lap instead". He just sat there and accepted the fact, stewed on it, and then blew up at her after the fact.
Yeah i have honestly never disagreed with a take from them this much. even though john did kind of change his mind by the end, it still made me feel kind of upset about his initial reaction.
First of all, her description of "K" not only sounds obviously thirsty af, but it sounds like she's SERIOUSLY describing a freaking anime character ("big eyes, button nose, cute hair" etc.), and that cracks me up way too much. Secondly, it's awkward as hell, but she didn't just unasked, sit on K's lap. He ASKED. She asked her boyfriend for his lap _first_. He said no. OP and/or K either very much want to smash or already secretly are, but that situation, is not OP's fault. The boyfriend could've just let her sit on his lap.
the hike ride one, she is DEFINITELY NOT THE ASSHOLE. girl needs to dump her boyfriend. also K wasnt embarrassed lol he told her to do that. 2 hours is insane, AT NIGHT
Literally could have been a dangerous situation. If B had such a problem he should have stayed w her the 2 hours. Or let her have the seat and wait the 2 hours w K
Why is B inviting K on their dates tho? and telling his GF to get off the ride? Seems like he just wants to spend time with K. Also, the fact that he told her to get off in the middle of nowhere, alone, after hiking all day, putting her in such an unsafe situation...she needs to dump him immediately. He does not care about her at all.
Honestly i think B is in love with K or something, like who can be such an ashole to someone you love, unless he is in his own bubble so much he doesn't understand the dangers, but even in that situation it's weird to left someone you love/like alone in the night to wait for a bus. Even when i'm in the subway and a friend could not get in i wait in the next station for them.
yeah. i really dont think she had any choice but to sit down. being out at night and alone as a woman, especially when its not close to a populated area, is an extremely threatening situation. the fact that B would rather she get off is horrendous.
The only "leaving you while hiking" story I've heard on this show (ON THIS SHOW, ALONE) that is worse than this, is the one where they LITERALLY left the OP INJURED AND IN PAIN ON THE ROAD AND WENT ON WITH THEIR HIKE. And then were _mad_ when she dared to be a little offended by that! (The _very_ worst hiking story I've heard on this show is the one where the guy deliberately "lost" himself and a girl he'd just barely met for FOUR HOURS because he thought she was hot, then proceeded to tell her explicitly about the "biological effects" her appearance had on him. But that's not a LEFT-someone-behind, hiking story. Unfortunately.)
The first story- I think the important thing to note here is that the Son is not going to come back to see dad which says a lot about their relationship. That statement tells me dad hasn't been a good father to the son over the years. One family trip yearly doesn't mean dad is being a father year round.
this exactly. the father seems like an extremely ridged guy and doesnt allow his kids a lot of leeway. He didnt offer any sort of compromise or understanding. and when he did not get his way he threatened the security of his kid's life (because taking his mom to court would 100% throttle the hell out of the kids life). never mind the fact that i highly highly doubt he doesnt understand how custody works. I think that sort of action comes from desperation and giving him the excuse of ignorance is undeserved. at the end of the day even if he was ignorant him being the parent who has gone through custody agreements should know about how it works and his ignorance is still definitely on him.
Honestly, that was the first thing I picked up and was like… Wow if my kids told me that they were never gonna come back to visit me, I would feel really hurt and have to take a step back and look at who I was as a parent
With the first one, I believe the dad does know that he no longer has the right to enforce the custody agreement. I think he's acting purposefully ignorant to try and manipulate them.
I almost died during childbirth and it was difficult for my husband and family to comprehend how serious it was. But I would have never blame my son and it’s not the child’s fault at all. They are hopeless and part of the mother so for the father to do that to their child is crazy. It’s like he was rejecting a part of his wife. She lives in the child. That’s so sad I hate that for him. Sending positivity vibes!!!!
That last story made me laugh out loud! She's great! I loved how when she finally did understand what was going on, she decided to have some fun with it. I'd be on the floor laughing if I was there😂
If I had a choice between (me, female) waiting for two hours in the dark or sit on someone’s lap, I would sit on anyone’s lap. B should have stepped up from the get go. She wouldn’t have had to sit on anyone’s lap if he didn’t invite K to begin with. He did this to himself. 🤷🏻♀️
Okay the sitting on the lap story- my husband would've never left me alone, he would've stayed with me or offered his own lap- my husband's best friend would've let me have the seat or made room for me to sit between them. Howeverrrr! If my hubs would've left me alone in the dark for 2 hours, I absolutely would've sat on the friends lap bc eff that 😂
Story 5: Actually, my theory is that B IS into K. Who in the right mind would invite their friend to EVERY date they have with their significant other. It's almost like he doesn't like his gf enough and likes his friend more. And when he (B) told OP off, he never mentioned about her feelings, he only cared about his and K's feelings. Seem very sus.
I'd LIKE to go along with that....but I'm not sure, because there's a lot of both rude, insecure and clueless boyfriends out there. He might've just honestly thought it would be okay to be a d!ck to his girlfriend and leave her behind, or thought she wouldn't REALLY sit on K's lap, and SURPRISED PIKACHU FACE? when she did. It's also possible he's fully aware of how good-looking K is, and is bitterly jealous. It's ALSO possible that he might secretly kinda have a crush on K but be completely unable to admit there might be anything other than totally straight about his preferences, or, he hangs out with K because the good-looking guy brings girls over and he can get the leftovers that K doesn't end up dating. There's a lot of ways it could go. (shrug)
Story 3: Imo, the woman deserved to know the truth about the relationship between OP and his father. Because that's the man she married. It says a lot about his character, and could very well be a red flag for her (as it should be). Also, imo, ot wasn't what OP said that ended the marriage. It was the dad's actions and probably also the fact that he'd been lying about it. Lastly. "If you hadn't been born, she'd still be here". The dad can't know that. It's a... nice thought I guess, but we pretty much run the risk of passing away at any minute of the day.
So if anyone doesn't know AWD means that all the wheels move the car at the same time. Rear wheel drive means the back wheels move the car forward and Front wheel drive means the front wheels move the car forward. Hope this helped.
Story #3: It really bothers me that the dad keeps calling the mom "his wife" as if she wasn't his sons mother. He also lost his mom during childbirth and never got to know her.
11:28 I completely feel the same! For example, I don’t like it when my siblings look at christmas lights with my dad and I because they clearly aren’t into christmas lights. If they were into christmas lights i’d be completely okay with them coming.
i highly disagree with john about the lap story. do you know how dangerous it is for women to just simply exist in this world?? let alone in the dark for two hours at night? she could have been r worded, kidnapped, killed, etc., all because her bf was being selfish. also, sitting on someone’s lap is not inherently sexual in the slightest. even if the dude was getting some kind of sexual gratification from it, which i don’t think he was at all, that is HIS problem, not hers.
Exactly. It really stuck me when john called the op an asshole too when arguably sitting down was the only viable choice for her as a woman. I dont know if he realize how much women have to do to protect themselves and how much they have to go out of their way to avoid danger. sitting alone in the dark for 2 hrs, in what i presume to be a less populated area since they just finished a hike, is an absurd option that should not be entertained.
First story: he's the asshole for NOT saying " I'm disappointed you won't be there, but I get it. Have a great time. Let's hang out afterwards so I can hear all about it ". Lack of respect is an asshole move.
I completely marked out when you guys started discussing going to Forbidden Door! My oldest child and I are going and it is the day before my 43rd birthday. Not gonna lie, the idea of watching some amazing wrestling and trying to convince some of my favorite Podcasters to do a meet up in Toronto would make my birthday complete! I'd even make sure to bring John and Sean some fabulous Tim Hortons coffee!
As a mom that dad is absolutely wrong on the first story. His first thought was threat, it wasn’t coming from love but controlling. He is not stupid he is the AH
I don’t comment much on the YT comments, but def had to address this one for the hiking story. Please listen back when I said “everyone sucks” in this situation but explicitly said OP was not the AH. Sean said it best that there’s a solution that everyone could’ve had done once the initial lap sitting situation passed. Also, there was not a single time I ever suggested that it was ok for her to be left behind, and also stated loudly that the BF’s plan was idiotic. Lastly,I implore the rest of the guys for making me understand it more, as to why I ended up fully agreeing with them. I do appreciate the conversation and shedding the light on this topic, because it is important to be talked about!
To be frank i think your initial take of everyone sucks implies that bothsides are assholes or at least bare responsibility. Which what I thought was unfair. I don't know if you can say everyone sucks with out implying she should take some of the blame. Shes a victim of the circumstances B put her in. Like Josh said, B wanted her off the bus so how would she then ask to sit on B’s lap after his suggestion. I can guarantee it would not be comfortable to sit on some one’s lap for an hr especially since that person is not her partner. Its a really compromising position to be in especially for a woman but its the only option she was offered and if she had other options I'm sure she would have taken them. When you say she sucks in some way too, the implication is also that she had the choice to do something else but CHOSE to sit on K's lap. And the only other option in the moment was to get off the bus, which is why people in the comments are talking about it as if you suggested that was a viable option. Just because you wouldnt put yourself in the position doesn’t mean she sucks. I apologize if this is too aggressive or pedantic but I think its really important to understand the uncomfortable and awful things women have to tolerate in order to protect themselves from an even worse situation. Women are raised to tolerate being uncomfortable, violated, and not prioritized. They are often actively taught to not advocate for themselves. They some how have to protect themselves from harm and also prevent other people from harming them. Its never an easy situation and they will always be blamed in some way for inciting the bad treatment they are receiving as if they had a choice to not be.
@@dillweeds no it doesn't come off as aggressive at all. Again, I always welcome the conversation. I did just want to set the record straight, because I feel that what I addressed is getting a little twisted. (so hope this doesn't come off as aggressive either, typing is weird lol) I completely agree that she is a victim of circumstance, but I thought it was a reach to insinuate that I'm ok with her being left behind is where I'm getting at especially when a few sentences later, I condemned B's suggestion. I was merely commenting on the awkward situation they were in initially and how at first, I thought everyone could've done a better job at fixing it when the vehicle started moving. And when the rest of the guys explained the situation to me further and how OP pretty much had no choice, then everything clicked as to why I thought they were 100% right. Lastly, while I may never fully relate to all the hardships women has to endure, I feel that as a group we collectively built a brand on advocating for their safety and well-being from many previous stories we covered. While I admittedly had a lapse of judgement with this story, the guys did an amazing job reeling me back in to see the bigger picture, and I think that's what it should be all about when discussing any topic. I don't mind being wrong at all and I'll always be the first to admit it! I just didn't appreciate having my words confused to me potentially wishing malicious harm on someone if that made sense. I'm more than happy to keep the conversation going if you want to reach out to me directly, I just hope you know there was no harm intended with that commentary at all. ☺
@@childishjohnbino I am really grateful for your response and understanding. And I apologize for taking what you said harshly. The reason why i felt comfortable enough commenting on this is because I think you guys are really socially aware and are trying to do your guy's best consistently. And you guys do a lot to listen to the people who follow you guys. I remember when you guys started using trigger warnings more due to people's suggestions and that change was honestly really really cool to see. Thanks again for elaborating. I really appreciate y'alls conversations and willingness to understand. I will continue to look forward to future episodes weekly ^^
@@dillweeds absolutely and thank you for having a healthy discussion with me and being comfortable to share your thoughts. We hope to normalize these types of conversation. ❤
oo, oo, I know the AWD. FWD is front wheel drive, and is when both wheels on the same axle move together. AWD/4WD is when all have power, and can grip the ground independently (which is why they are good for snow and etc.) there’s BWD too (back wheels). thats about all my car-knowledge 😂
Car story...OP: I'm TOTALLY not against feminism or anything, BUT... (proceeds to go out of his way to make sure literally *every single sentence* of the entire story is sexist as hell.) "A WOMAN mechanic" "she bought it from a LADY" "She bought the car because of the COLOR" (which might as well have been: "Women buy things only by if they're cute or fashionable or not, LOL". Totally has "My girlfriend picked her new smartphone because it came in metallic pink and then had to ask me how to turn it on, LOL" vibes.) On a less light note, the dad in the "real reason we were never close" story is a MONSTER. You might think the baby was the reason why your wife is gone and glare at it resentfully for, like, a year--but at SOME point your "Awww, how cute" or at least basic human empathy should've kicked in. You MIGHT say it out loud to the baby a few times when he's too young to understand. At the worst, I can see somebody SECRETLY thinking that for the kids' entire life... ...but you never EVER. *SAY* it!!!! Directly to the kid! Multiple times! When they're plenty old enough to understand! Dude, it's tragic, but that is definitely NOT deliberate fault of someone who was literally a newborn. Have some damn manners and sympathy, and treat your son--or anybody, really--like a person.
For the 5th story I don't see OP being an asshole like if I was told to get off the ride by my partner and the other guy said to just sit on his lap, I would say yes immediately specially after such a long day of hiking. The fact that the bf didn't even offer to stay with OP or see if she can fit is like very questionable. Why was he so stuck on that solution as if there's nothing else.
the bigot trolling story just reminds me of the movie Hot Rod when Andy Samberg pretends he cant hear the guy say "youre a terrible stunt man!" and then after the guy yells it he laughs and goes "haha i heard you. it was just really mean" ;)
For story 5 B is definitely TA and OP is NTA. First B keeps inviting K on their "dates" and K keeps teasing OP during them. It's not said directly but from the tone of the post it sounds like it's not playful teasing either but malicious. Second B tells OP to wait in a remote area by herself for another ride at night! That's insanely dangerous! As a woman I get uncomfortable doing my 10 minute walk from work to home at night. There is no way I'm waiting at the end of some hiking trail. B put OP in a difficult situation, K was the only one who offered a solution and she took it.
even in a populated area it would still be super scary to walk at night alone, never mind 2 hrs on a hiking trail. if i thought the bf knew better i would go as far as to say thats not only a dangerous suggestion but a malicious one. plus if B minded so much he could have offered up his lap instead.
so say you have a rwd, that means that the rear wheels are what’s powering the movement to your car. so your front wheels are only controlling the direction as the car pushes along. awd is when all of the wheels power the movement of your vehicle. just to try to clear that confusion lol ◡̈
I love their inputs on child related stories. Most of the time they are on point but sometimes they pull out some wild ideas. My 3 year old is HEAVY! Even my 3 month old in his car seat is a lug let alone my long bean of a 3 year old plus the weight of a car seat. Not the point of the story but I do think it’s funny their lack of knowledge on children 😆
Let's see if I remember this stuff, despite not being interested in cars. So you have like 3 kinds of "drive", front wheel, back wheel, or all wheel. You know how when a car gets stuck in say a ditch or mud, and you hit the gas, and only the front wheels spin? I believe that's a front wheel drive. If it's only the back wheels, then it's a back wheel drive. An all wheel drive would be all 4 wheels. I think that's right anyway.
John: I'm obviously very brown Now this is most likely the lighting in the videos, but I've seen several where John looks white. My mom is white, and maybe it's from how much she's been in the sun through the years, but yeah, she can look more brown than John 😅 Meanwhile I'm over here rocking the snow white look 😂 (my dad had darker skin, but since he was adopted, I don't really know where he was from, so I can only say with certainty that I'm 50% white. Mom says that she can't really remember, but thinks he was either from Estonia or Lithuania. One day I'll do a DNA test, since he's passed away)
i have been watching/ listening to yall since last year and I think john missed it this time. I think, 1st of all, the parent in the first story is definitely an asshole. parents dont get to be entitled to their ADULT kids time regardless of how much he WAnts to spend time with his kids. also judging from how the son talks about the father I would gander they dont have a good relationship and I think thats mostly on the father. and in the hike story B is 100% an asshole and the op should not be considered an asshole. I think it would be really helpful to be more considerate of the power dynamics that exist with in these stories and relationships and how the different levels of social power people with in these stories possess can effect their actions as well as how people perceive those actions. (sorry for the run on sentences and I hope this is not hurtful. I still really do enjoy y'alls content and i appreciate all the effort yall put into your content. I have been listening to every episode when it comes out and I say this because i think you guys are one of the more socially conscious podcasts ive seen and its a huge reason why i consistently listen to y'all.)
You totally can leave kids and pets in the car if the AC is on. For story 4, OP is the AH but i think he might be saying his wife does purposely seek out other women for goods and services. It's weird to point that out but it is still an interesting thing to think of.
I think the point of the female mechanic one was that she trusted the one opinion because it's a female. My niece is kind of like this unfortunately lol
If my boyfriend told me to get off of a tram at the end of a hiking trail and sit there for two hours by myself, and not offer to wait with me when we get back, see you later dude
in the dark no less. I'd dump his ass on the spot
For the hiking story: I really don't think OP should be called an AH. She was tossed to the side by her bf after a hike (which can be mentally and physically exhausting sometimes) and he told her to wait, alone, for 2 hours, in the dark? And then she gets punished for taking the only option she was comfortable with? Her bf didn't care about her to offer what K did, and suggested that SHE wait, rather than have K or himself wait instead. K decided to step up and solve the issue, but B never even said "hey, you can sit on my lap instead". He just sat there and accepted the fact, stewed on it, and then blew up at her after the fact.
Yeah i have honestly never disagreed with a take from them this much. even though john did kind of change his mind by the end, it still made me feel kind of upset about his initial reaction.
@@dillweeds same here same here
Agreed these guys don't usually piss me off but this one was hard
also she ASKED her boyfriend to make room and HE SAID NO
First of all, her description of "K" not only sounds obviously thirsty af, but it sounds like she's SERIOUSLY describing a freaking anime character ("big eyes, button nose, cute hair" etc.), and that cracks me up way too much.
Secondly, it's awkward as hell, but she didn't just unasked, sit on K's lap. He ASKED. She asked her boyfriend for his lap _first_. He said no. OP and/or K either very much want to smash or already secretly are, but that situation, is not OP's fault. The boyfriend could've just let her sit on his lap.
the hike ride one, she is DEFINITELY NOT THE ASSHOLE. girl needs to dump her boyfriend. also K wasnt embarrassed lol he told her to do that. 2 hours is insane, AT NIGHT
basically a horror movie situation
Literally could have been a dangerous situation. If B had such a problem he should have stayed w her the 2 hours. Or let her have the seat and wait the 2 hours w K
Why is B inviting K on their dates tho? and telling his GF to get off the ride? Seems like he just wants to spend time with K.
Also, the fact that he told her to get off in the middle of nowhere, alone, after hiking all day, putting her in such an unsafe situation...she needs to dump him immediately. He does not care about her at all.
Honestly i think B is in love with K or something, like who can be such an ashole to someone you love, unless he is in his own bubble so much he doesn't understand the dangers, but even in that situation it's weird to left someone you love/like alone in the night to wait for a bus. Even when i'm in the subway and a friend could not get in i wait in the next station for them.
yeah. i really dont think she had any choice but to sit down. being out at night and alone as a woman, especially when its not close to a populated area, is an extremely threatening situation. the fact that B would rather she get off is horrendous.
The only "leaving you while hiking" story I've heard on this show (ON THIS SHOW, ALONE) that is worse than this, is the one where they LITERALLY left the OP INJURED AND IN PAIN ON THE ROAD AND WENT ON WITH THEIR HIKE. And then were _mad_ when she dared to be a little offended by that!
(The _very_ worst hiking story I've heard on this show is the one where the guy deliberately "lost" himself and a girl he'd just barely met for FOUR HOURS because he thought she was hot, then proceeded to tell her explicitly about the "biological effects" her appearance had on him. But that's not a LEFT-someone-behind, hiking story. Unfortunately.)
The first story- I think the important thing to note here is that the Son is not going to come back to see dad which says a lot about their relationship. That statement tells me dad hasn't been a good father to the son over the years. One family trip yearly doesn't mean dad is being a father year round.
this exactly. the father seems like an extremely ridged guy and doesnt allow his kids a lot of leeway. He didnt offer any sort of compromise or understanding. and when he did not get his way he threatened the security of his kid's life (because taking his mom to court would 100% throttle the hell out of the kids life). never mind the fact that i highly highly doubt he doesnt understand how custody works. I think that sort of action comes from desperation and giving him the excuse of ignorance is undeserved. at the end of the day even if he was ignorant him being the parent who has gone through custody agreements should know about how it works and his ignorance is still definitely on him.
Honestly, that was the first thing I picked up and was like… Wow if my kids told me that they were never gonna come back to visit me, I would feel really hurt and have to take a step back and look at who I was as a parent
yeah especially when OP emphasises that HE loves the trip so much and i feel like he never asked the kids if they wanted to go or actually enjoyed it
With Sean’s new high resolusean camera, we can fully appreciate the fade and the sleeping meow with the relaxed ears 😭
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Did Sean just say kids go in baskets in the car? 😂😂😂😂😂
I assume he was thinking about the infant carseats that have the detachable base😂
With the first one, I believe the dad does know that he no longer has the right to enforce the custody agreement. I think he's acting purposefully ignorant to try and manipulate them.
For the 3 story I am so beyond sure that if the mother could see how this man treated her son she’d be disgusted.
1000%
I almost died during childbirth and it was difficult for my husband and family to comprehend how serious it was. But I would have never blame my son and it’s not the child’s fault at all. They are hopeless and part of the mother so for the father to do that to their child is crazy. It’s like he was rejecting a part of his wife. She lives in the child. That’s so sad I hate that for him. Sending positivity vibes!!!!
That last story made me laugh out loud! She's great! I loved how when she finally did understand what was going on, she decided to have some fun with it. I'd be on the floor laughing if I was there😂
I'm so proud of the new (ex) wife from the 3rd story for leaving that awful man. And for telling the kid that she was sorry, really great of her
Yeah she was clearly a good person. Way out of his league lol
If I had a choice between (me, female) waiting for two hours in the dark or sit on someone’s lap, I would sit on anyone’s lap. B should have stepped up from the get go. She wouldn’t have had to sit on anyone’s lap if he didn’t invite K to begin with. He did this to himself. 🤷🏻♀️
Okay the sitting on the lap story- my husband would've never left me alone, he would've stayed with me or offered his own lap- my husband's best friend would've let me have the seat or made room for me to sit between them. Howeverrrr! If my hubs would've left me alone in the dark for 2 hours, I absolutely would've sat on the friends lap bc eff that 😂
Story 5: Actually, my theory is that B IS into K. Who in the right mind would invite their friend to EVERY date they have with their significant other. It's almost like he doesn't like his gf enough and likes his friend more. And when he (B) told OP off, he never mentioned about her feelings, he only cared about his and K's feelings. Seem very sus.
interesting take, he wasn't jealous of k for flirting with his girlfriend he was jealous of his girlfriend for being able to sit on Kay's lap 😂
I'd LIKE to go along with that....but I'm not sure, because there's a lot of both rude, insecure and clueless boyfriends out there. He might've just honestly thought it would be okay to be a d!ck to his girlfriend and leave her behind, or thought she wouldn't REALLY sit on K's lap, and SURPRISED PIKACHU FACE? when she did. It's also possible he's fully aware of how good-looking K is, and is bitterly jealous. It's ALSO possible that he might secretly kinda have a crush on K but be completely unable to admit there might be anything other than totally straight about his preferences, or, he hangs out with K because the good-looking guy brings girls over and he can get the leftovers that K doesn't end up dating.
There's a lot of ways it could go. (shrug)
Story 3: Imo, the woman deserved to know the truth about the relationship between OP and his father. Because that's the man she married.
It says a lot about his character, and could very well be a red flag for her (as it should be).
Also, imo, ot wasn't what OP said that ended the marriage. It was the dad's actions and probably also the fact that he'd been lying about it.
Lastly. "If you hadn't been born, she'd still be here". The dad can't know that. It's a... nice thought I guess, but we pretty much run the risk of passing away at any minute of the day.
So if anyone doesn't know AWD means that all the wheels move the car at the same time. Rear wheel drive means the back wheels move the car forward and Front wheel drive means the front wheels move the car forward. Hope this helped.
Oh it made me and my family cry. Thank you so much for doing the shout-out. Love you guys.
Absolutely! Congratulations!! 🎉🎉😊😊
Sean's camera is crispy as hell
Story #3: It really bothers me that the dad keeps calling the mom "his wife" as if she wasn't his sons mother. He also lost his mom during childbirth and never got to know her.
11:28 I completely feel the same! For example, I don’t like it when my siblings look at christmas lights with my dad and I because they clearly aren’t into christmas lights. If they were into christmas lights i’d be completely okay with them coming.
i highly disagree with john about the lap story. do you know how dangerous it is for women to just simply exist in this world?? let alone in the dark for two hours at night? she could have been r worded, kidnapped, killed, etc., all because her bf was being selfish.
also, sitting on someone’s lap is not inherently sexual in the slightest. even if the dude was getting some kind of sexual gratification from it, which i don’t think he was at all, that is HIS problem, not hers.
Exactly. It really stuck me when john called the op an asshole too when arguably sitting down was the only viable choice for her as a woman. I dont know if he realize how much women have to do to protect themselves and how much they have to go out of their way to avoid danger. sitting alone in the dark for 2 hrs, in what i presume to be a less populated area since they just finished a hike, is an absurd option that should not be entertained.
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First story: he's the asshole for NOT saying " I'm disappointed you won't be there, but I get it. Have a great time. Let's hang out afterwards so I can hear all about it ". Lack of respect is an asshole move.
I completely marked out when you guys started discussing going to Forbidden Door! My oldest child and I are going and it is the day before my 43rd birthday. Not gonna lie, the idea of watching some amazing wrestling and trying to convince some of my favorite Podcasters to do a meet up in Toronto would make my birthday complete! I'd even make sure to bring John and Sean some fabulous Tim Hortons coffee!
As a mom that dad is absolutely wrong on the first story. His first thought was threat, it wasn’t coming from love but controlling. He is not stupid he is the AH
I don’t comment much on the YT comments, but def had to address this one for the hiking story.
Please listen back when I said “everyone sucks” in this situation but explicitly said OP was not the AH. Sean said it best that there’s a solution that everyone could’ve had done once the initial lap sitting situation passed.
Also, there was not a single time I ever suggested that it was ok for her to be left behind, and also stated loudly that the BF’s plan was idiotic. Lastly,I implore the rest of the guys for making me understand it more, as to why I ended up fully agreeing with them. I do appreciate the conversation and shedding the light on this topic, because it is important to be talked about!
To be frank i think your initial take of everyone sucks implies that bothsides are assholes or at least bare responsibility. Which what I thought was unfair. I don't know if you can say everyone sucks with out implying she should take some of the blame.
Shes a victim of the circumstances B put her in. Like Josh said, B wanted her off the bus so how would she then ask to sit on B’s lap after his suggestion. I can guarantee it would not be comfortable to sit on some one’s lap for an hr especially since that person is not her partner. Its a really compromising position to be in especially for a woman but its the only option she was offered and if she had other options I'm sure she would have taken them.
When you say she sucks in some way too, the implication is also that she had the choice to do something else but CHOSE to sit on K's lap. And the only other option in the moment was to get off the bus, which is why people in the comments are talking about it as if you suggested that was a viable option. Just because you wouldnt put yourself in the position doesn’t mean she sucks.
I apologize if this is too aggressive or pedantic but I think its really important to understand the uncomfortable and awful things women have to tolerate in order to protect themselves from an even worse situation. Women are raised to tolerate being uncomfortable, violated, and not prioritized. They are often actively taught to not advocate for themselves. They some how have to protect themselves from harm and also prevent other people from harming them. Its never an easy situation and they will always be blamed in some way for inciting the bad treatment they are receiving as if they had a choice to not be.
@@dillweeds no it doesn't come off as aggressive at all. Again, I always welcome the conversation. I did just want to set the record straight, because I feel that what I addressed is getting a little twisted. (so hope this doesn't come off as aggressive either, typing is weird lol)
I completely agree that she is a victim of circumstance, but I thought it was a reach to insinuate that I'm ok with her being left behind is where I'm getting at especially when a few sentences later, I condemned B's suggestion. I was merely commenting on the awkward situation they were in initially and how at first, I thought everyone could've done a better job at fixing it when the vehicle started moving. And when the rest of the guys explained the situation to me further and how OP pretty much had no choice, then everything clicked as to why I thought they were 100% right.
Lastly, while I may never fully relate to all the hardships women has to endure, I feel that as a group we collectively built a brand on advocating for their safety and well-being from many previous stories we covered. While I admittedly had a lapse of judgement with this story, the guys did an amazing job reeling me back in to see the bigger picture, and I think that's what it should be all about when discussing any topic. I don't mind being wrong at all and I'll always be the first to admit it! I just didn't appreciate having my words confused to me potentially
wishing malicious harm on someone if that made sense.
I'm more than happy to keep the conversation going if you want to reach out to me directly, I just hope you know there was no harm intended with that commentary at all. ☺
@@childishjohnbino I am really grateful for your response and understanding. And I apologize for taking what you said harshly.
The reason why i felt comfortable enough commenting on this is because I think you guys are really socially aware and are trying to do your guy's best consistently. And you guys do a lot to listen to the people who follow you guys.
I remember when you guys started using trigger warnings more due to people's suggestions and that change was honestly really really cool to see. Thanks again for elaborating. I really appreciate y'alls conversations and willingness to understand. I will continue to look forward to future episodes weekly ^^
@@dillweeds absolutely and thank you for having a healthy discussion with me and being comfortable to share your thoughts. We hope to normalize these types of conversation. ❤
oo, oo, I know the AWD. FWD is front wheel drive, and is when both wheels on the same axle move together. AWD/4WD is when all have power, and can grip the ground independently (which is why they are good for snow and etc.) there’s BWD too (back wheels). thats about all my car-knowledge 😂
Car story...OP: I'm TOTALLY not against feminism or anything, BUT...
(proceeds to go out of his way to make sure literally *every single sentence* of the entire story is sexist as hell.)
"A WOMAN mechanic" "she bought it from a LADY" "She bought the car because of the COLOR" (which might as well have been: "Women buy things only by if they're cute or fashionable or not, LOL". Totally has "My girlfriend picked her new smartphone because it came in metallic pink and then had to ask me how to turn it on, LOL" vibes.)
On a less light note, the dad in the "real reason we were never close" story is a MONSTER. You might think the baby was the reason why your wife is gone and glare at it resentfully for, like, a year--but at SOME point your "Awww, how cute" or at least basic human empathy should've kicked in. You MIGHT say it out loud to the baby a few times when he's too young to understand. At the worst, I can see somebody SECRETLY thinking that for the kids' entire life...
...but you never
EVER.
*SAY* it!!!! Directly to the kid! Multiple times! When they're plenty old enough to understand!
Dude, it's tragic, but that is definitely NOT deliberate fault of someone who was literally a newborn. Have some damn manners and sympathy, and treat your son--or anybody, really--like a person.
For story 3 I'd say : TW death in childbirth, child abandonment and emotional abuse.
For the 5th story I don't see OP being an asshole like if I was told to get off the ride by my partner and the other guy said to just sit on his lap, I would say yes immediately specially after such a long day of hiking. The fact that the bf didn't even offer to stay with OP or see if she can fit is like very questionable. Why was he so stuck on that solution as if there's nothing else.
the bigot trolling story just reminds me of the movie Hot Rod when Andy Samberg pretends he cant hear the guy say "youre a terrible stunt man!" and then after the guy yells it he laughs and goes "haha i heard you. it was just really mean" ;)
Okay first of all Low key sexism. Second of all, association of women drivers would be fire😂😂😂
Nothing like an AITA episode for my birthday 🥰
Happy birthday 🎂🎂
For story 5 B is definitely TA and OP is NTA. First B keeps inviting K on their "dates" and K keeps teasing OP during them. It's not said directly but from the tone of the post it sounds like it's not playful teasing either but malicious. Second B tells OP to wait in a remote area by herself for another ride at night! That's insanely dangerous! As a woman I get uncomfortable doing my 10 minute walk from work to home at night. There is no way I'm waiting at the end of some hiking trail. B put OP in a difficult situation, K was the only one who offered a solution and she took it.
even in a populated area it would still be super scary to walk at night alone, never mind 2 hrs on a hiking trail. if i thought the bf knew better i would go as far as to say thats not only a dangerous suggestion but a malicious one. plus if B minded so much he could have offered up his lap instead.
so say you have a rwd, that means that the rear wheels are what’s powering the movement to your car. so your front wheels are only controlling the direction as the car pushes along. awd is when all of the wheels power the movement of your vehicle. just to try to clear that confusion lol ◡̈
I love their inputs on child related stories. Most of the time they are on point but sometimes they pull out some wild ideas.
My 3 year old is HEAVY! Even my 3 month old in his car seat is a lug let alone my long bean of a 3 year old plus the weight of a car seat. Not the point of the story but I do think it’s funny their lack of knowledge on children 😆
Let's see if I remember this stuff, despite not being interested in cars.
So you have like 3 kinds of "drive", front wheel, back wheel, or all wheel.
You know how when a car gets stuck in say a ditch or mud, and you hit the gas, and only the front wheels spin?
I believe that's a front wheel drive. If it's only the back wheels, then it's a back wheel drive.
An all wheel drive would be all 4 wheels.
I think that's right anyway.
Just realized how LONG Johns nails are 🫢
John: I'm obviously very brown
Now this is most likely the lighting in the videos, but I've seen several where John looks white.
My mom is white, and maybe it's from how much she's been in the sun through the years, but yeah, she can look more brown than John 😅
Meanwhile I'm over here rocking the snow white look 😂 (my dad had darker skin, but since he was adopted, I don't really know where he was from, so I can only say with certainty that I'm 50% white. Mom says that she can't really remember, but thinks he was either from Estonia or Lithuania. One day I'll do a DNA test, since he's passed away)
i have been watching/ listening to yall since last year and I think john missed it this time.
I think, 1st of all, the parent in the first story is definitely an asshole. parents dont get to be entitled to their ADULT kids time regardless of how much he WAnts to spend time with his kids. also judging from how the son talks about the father I would gander they dont have a good relationship and I think thats mostly on the father.
and in the hike story B is 100% an asshole and the op should not be considered an asshole. I think it would be really helpful to be more considerate of the power dynamics that exist with in these stories and relationships and how the different levels of social power people with in these stories possess can effect their actions as well as how people perceive those actions.
(sorry for the run on sentences and I hope this is not hurtful. I still really do enjoy y'alls content and i appreciate all the effort yall put into your content. I have been listening to every episode when it comes out and I say this because i think you guys are one of the more socially conscious podcasts ive seen and its a huge reason why i consistently listen to y'all.)
You totally can leave kids and pets in the car if the AC is on. For story 4, OP is the AH but i think he might be saying his wife does purposely seek out other women for goods and services. It's weird to point that out but it is still an interesting thing to think of.
Story#6 is the funniest shit ever.
He really loves beach camping, so he forces it on his kids.
His son called him abusive.
There has to be more to it, but he is definitely the asshole.
I feel like sitting on another persons lap is very overrated here.
YTA for burying the title story at the end. Don't clickbait.
3 yr olds are heavy! Even 10 month olds can be too heavy for the baby carrier… 😂😂🤣 U guys are def not around toddlers (lucky!) 🤪 they’re tyrants!😅
JEBUS!!!
In Nebraska, age of majority is not until you are 19 🤷🏽♀️
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I think the point of the female mechanic one was that she trusted the one opinion because it's a female. My niece is kind of like this unfortunately lol
My other comment was deleted. Why?