Girls nowdays will just leave u if u get married to a second as they can now provide for themselves. And the guys that want to marry more than one usually do not live in the way of the sunnah and do it purely out of lust.
Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart? On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice? Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited. If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you! Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
@@keemyseantero3028 Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart? On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice? Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited. If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you! Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
I converted to Islam 27 years ago, and after 23 years of marriage my husband was unfaithful to me for several years, and did not end the affair until I found out about it. He, now has another women back home which I didn’t know about until a few weeks ago, and now wants to marry her and is asking for my consent. I’m deeply hurt and just want a divorce. I’m self sufficient and I would rather be alone than to share my husband with other woman. He for sure would have left me if I had been the unfaithful one.
yes she can take divorce if a woman doesn't like her husband anymore and she is not feeling for him any more. How could someone stay without love and respect with someone. When a woman came to Prophet (PBUH) that my husband loves and he is very righteous but I don't want to live with him because I don't like him and can't fulfil marriage obligations. Prophet (PBUH) asked her to give dowry back whatever she received from her husband and ordered the husband to let her go. In Quran there is clearly mention in the verse that you can't keep any woman by force. Increase your knowledge of Islam. Women has this God given right and no one can take it away from her. And there is a reason behind it because she doesn't love him anymore. You can't force someone to love you. What Hadith are you referring I know where are you coming from but Hadith didn't mention she can't get divorce for whatever reason. It's only for the woman to tell them even though you have this God given right but if you are happy with your husband then think over it. And if you take divorce without any reason then Allah will ask you but In this world divorce will be established. Same Is for men that don't give divorce without any reason if you do then Allah will ask husband too Period !!
@@dr.samanamukhtar5346 that's not always the case. If a woman asks for divorce without a legitimate reason she will be in hellfire. So if a man just felt a little down one day and divorced his wife because he didn't love her it's ok? Yes we know a man can divorce without reason but all men would still say that was not a legitimate reason. Also in that example she was afraid of commiting kufr. Completely different then what you said.
@@shadowstorm5261 Dear just like men can divorce without a legitimate reason and they will be answerable to Allah. Likewise women can take divorce without a legitimate reason but she will be answerable to Allah on the judgement day. There is no Hadith or Quranic Verse prohibiting women from exercising her right. Plus Allah mentions in Quran if you fear that your husbands might not be the person you want to stay with..... Allah used word "fear" which means someone can take in case she is afraid of something.....Not even the actual reason Just in case of fear you have the right. Islam is no the religion what people have made it. Woman is a human being just like man and no one can stay with someone out of love and respect
@@dr.samanamukhtar5346 the prophet ﷺ said that if a woman seeks a divorce from a man with no legitimate reason then she will not smell the fragrance of paradise and that fragrance could be smelled from such and such distance.
In other words, WOMEN..please study hard..work,..make your own income and do NOT rely on men. It's amazing how men use the excuse of religion to have more women to sleep with when he could've been faithful to one..just because something is halal doesnt mean u HAVE to do it..There are weekly fasting, sunnah prayers, sunnah duaas, sunah practices..do men to them? NO. They cherry pick a sunnah that makes them feel good and use that as a holy pillar. To my dear women, before marrying someone,make them write a prenup that u do not accept a second wife. If he does it anyways, then LEAVE. Don't cry over someone who cannot love you.Remember that a man who cannot be fair mentally and financially (and take advantage of women ) will go TO HELL. Islam values women and your justice WILL BE GIVEN TO U ..
@@mariibabyy Yeah. I don't judge housewives at all. But if u have the will to study and work,please please go for it. Women have contributed significantly in the world and we need more of it
After what my ex husband did to me, all of this to me he started calling women b****** and nasty words about women! He's got the audacity to blame women after he did this and more, he did more to me SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah. My ex husband married me but he was talking to girls but he still married me, he didn't provide for me then after a year of marriage he went Pakistan and got married to another girl, then he divorced her. After sometime he got a girl pregnant, he told her a big bag of lies about me and this Muslim girl didn't know about me but he was still with me. I found out and got divorced but he was cheating on her with other girls and she was pregnant, moved her out of London so she dont find out about me. SubhanAllaah Now my husband lied and tricked me into polygamy marriage, I cry and I'm so upset how a man cant lie and trick me into polygamy marriage SubhanAllaah. The other wife dont know about me, he moved her out of London Tooting area to Blackpool in 2019 summer time, so I dont leave him, now he tells me their is no wife "Sakina", I said because you moved her to Blackpool so I cant tell her now and the wife didn't even question him, the mans moved you out of London SubhanAllaah. I'm warning you sisters please!!! Be careful sisters, dont trust noone. Most Muslim brothers have other girls and that's how it is nowadays SubhanAllaah. My was husband had me and her then he was talking to other girls for marriage, he didn't tell these girls he was married with children. He was talking to girls online and his family took him to see other girls at their homes "CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT" you know your son is married with children and your taking him to see other girls for marriage SubhanAllaah. Alot of guys are married or have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children SubhanAllaah Ya Allah so please be careful, be careful. I cry so much because I love him, unconditional love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband. Now I'm suffering with mental health issues, emotional abuse too because he was married I got a infection from him too from him having sex with the wife and that's how I found out he was married to another woman SubhanAllaah. The wife still dont know about me Terrible. Warning th-cam.com/video/mkJF6G-I-Cg/w-d-xo.html
These people will never say anything which can hinder a man from having many wives.Even Allah warned men to marry only one if they cant fulfil the conditions which in theory seem easy but in reality are quite hard,but these people will not warn or discourage a man in any manner.
@will d Why are you so concerned, because your desires might be trampled by truth Allah ordained.Seems your ego is in threat.For me,ego doesnt matter,truth and justice matters for any gender.One gender cannot exploit and abuse islam for their lustful desires making woman a sacrificial sheep.It really hurts hypocrites when woman has knowledge and turns the tables on them.
@will d I think you really are the one who is deficient in knowledge,because this hadith has lot of interpretations but not the one you are claiming.Tables must be turned on hypocrites and knowledge must be used to stop oppression which presently you want to do in name of islam.Look at your dumb question-what knowledge do you have? I think i must ask you-what knowledge do you have other than 4 marraiges and 3 talaq which is the staple knowledge of hypochrites. Do you have any other knowledge other than what you can manipulate for your desires.Looking at your defiance and narcissism, its sure that females in your family are really poor in intelligence and have been serving you like a doormat.Obviously,the beliefs you have regarding woman show how your women are but that limits it to you only.No matter how low you stoop in language-(A muslim protects his tongue and......) a hadith which you might not be aware of,i am not gonna fall to your level.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
She can add the condition on her nikah contract about her husband taking permission in order to marry again. Even Fatima rz did not let Ali rz marry another woman during her lifetime. Prophet sw said "Fatima is a part of me. Whoever hurts her hurts me".
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Dont be a secret wife!!! Yes but nowhere in islam, does it forbid a woman from putting a clause in her marriage contract to not allow her husband to have a second wife.
Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart? On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice? Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited. If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you! Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
As a Muslim woman, I do not object to Allah rule and conditions. Not wanting my husband to have a second wife is only because I want him to myself. I want to be the one he comes home to and he runs to and feels a sense of security and belonging too. May lord is the all knowing and most merciful
@usamasohail3294 It is not haram to want her husband for herself only. This doesn't mean that her husband doesn't have the right to marry others tho. So you can't say that she is following her whims and desires, she didn't say anything haram.
@@AbdulazizKider she did say totally haram... Bcz if Qur'an permit who is she to say no I don't want to follow Qur'an,, Ask her she will definitely appreciate her husband extra marital affairs which is haram ...but she don't want to appreciate POLYGAMy....such kind of negative thinking she have... And her husband isn't a cat or animal she wanted to keep with her.. If they both are agree in single marriage then it is ok .. It is only her opinion.. that's her lust n desire... Who is she to keep her husband with herself... Such kind of negative comments give power to many stupid brainless girls ...who are already weak in following religion,, those girls get false motivation by her cheap comments n will behave like her .
@@letthemsee3841 show me screenshot , or line when I said she is kafir..by my own opinion Yeah she is kafir according to shaik bin baaz I just copied his fatwa .. I didn't give my own fatwa okey.. I already said if her husband wants to have second wife she cannot object her husband's right to marry second.. If her husband doesn't want ..its his choice.. And second mostly important thing as her .. 1) her husband wants second wife with maintaining boths right... Or 2)Her husband wants girlfriend... What she will prefer option 1 or 2 ?? If she prefer option two clearly she is kaafir bcz she is considering zina is better than nikah .. Or If she rejected both option...she thought halaal haraam both are equal according to her ??? Only in accepting option 1 is sign or true Muslim.. And mostly it is sign of good female.. No good female wants her husband to go to hell by keeping girlfriend?? Ask her then decide .. Ask her Other thing is why she cannot tolerate second wife ?? Many of Arabs women and many of Muslim women can tolerate second wife if husband is doing justice between them... So why she spread negativity in internet by saying I will not accept I will not share my husband etc etc.. And stupid do you know divorce is most hatefull thing in islam ?? You prefer divorce is better than living in polygamy with rights of both wives ?? And you say nikah naama show me single verse of Qur'an directly in Qur'an .. Or in hadees?? Only iman Ahmad fiqah allow wife to put such clause in nikah naama ?? If she is follower of imam hanbal .. I don't have problem but imaam abu hanifa didn't say such conditions to keep in marriage contract... And most importantly.. Simple thing is thier .. If she put such clause in nikah naama what is the use of that ?? If someone wants to marry second,,he will ,, he don't care about contract... If someone doesn't want second wife ,,no need to put condition in nikah naama... Why you cannot see simple logic.. Are you 10th fail ??
@@usamasohail3294 Wrong. It is not haram to express your preference. Polygamy is not fard, it is a choice, the same way eating dates is a choice and not fard. The prophet pbuh ate dates, it is sunnah to eat like him, however if someone personally doesn't like dates and expresses his preference for not wanting to eat dates, that is not haram. What is haram is to say eating dates is impermissible, likewise, whats haram is to say polygamy is impermissible because now you are making something halal haram. But there is nothing haram about expressing your preference when it comes to something that is sunnah.
Ladies it is very simple..if you have no problem then stay...if you don't want to wait your turn to spend time with your husband then please leave..yes leave.. most women can now provide for themselves. Please dont stay and be unhappy and resentful . Let him practice this halal lifestyle and you can move on.
My ex husband married me but he was talking to girls but he still married me, he didn't provide for me then after a year of marriage he went Pakistan and got married to another girl, then he divorced her. After sometime he got a girl pregnant, he told her a big bag of lies about me and this Muslim girl didn't know about me but he was still with me. I found out and got divorced but he was cheating on her with other girls and she was pregnant, moved her out of London so she dont find out about me. SubhanAllaah Now my husband lied and tricked me into polygamy marriage, I cry and I'm so upset how a man cant lie and trick me into polygamy marriage SubhanAllaah. The other wife dont know about me, he moved her out of London Tooting area to Blackpool in 2019 summer time, so I dont leave him, now he tells me their is no wife "Sakina", I said because you moved her to Blackpool so I cant tell her now and the wife didn't even question him, the mans moved you out of London SubhanAllaah. I'm warning you sisters please!!! Be careful sisters, dont trust noone. Most Muslim brothers have other girls and that's how it is nowadays SubhanAllaah. My was husband had me and her then he was talking to other girls for marriage, he didn't tell these girls he was married with children. He was talking to girls online and his family took him to see other girls at their homes "CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT" you know your son is married with children and your taking him to see other girls for marriage SubhanAllaah. Alot of guys are married or have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children SubhanAllaah Ya Allah so please be careful, be careful. I cry so much because I love him, unconditional love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband. Now I'm suffering with mental health issues, emotional abuse too because he was married I got a infection from him too from him having sex with the wife and that's how I found out he was married to another woman SubhanAllaah. The wife still dont know about me Terrible. Warning th-cam.com/video/mkJF6G-I-Cg/w-d-xo.html
@@JahannamHellfire ya Alllah sister. You have really suffered . I hope that you get help for any issues you are struggling with. There is no shame in that. We have great muslim mental health professionals who you can have sessions with via skype. Time to take care of you my dear sister. May Allah light up your way and reward you for all you have endured Ameen
@@manalmorsi6527 I use my story to warn other sisters because my husband is a cover narcissist and a hypocrite but you wouldn't believe how sweet, kind and charming he is to others you wouldn't believe how fake he is behind closed doors! So sweet and charming to get women in his bed Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah. May Allah swt guide and bless you ameen. They don't want to provide for the wife and children SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah.
@@JahannamHellfire In Shaa Allah sister you are now happy and away from headaches. now you can move on with life and find happiness may Allah reward you in this life and the next.
Yet you cannot divorce a man if he wants to live a halal life, that in turns makes you are hypocrite. Women need to understand that men may want more wives.
WALLAHI, it's so unfair that we have to feel the pain of seeing our husband in someone else's arms. Falling for someone else while we are still here. Even if they treat us equally (which they don't btw) it's so unfair to see him with another woman. If he want to help out the other widow, he can make a charity. He can help her in different ways. But I can't change Allah's rules. He knows better
@@ramsistube3244 damn right girl, they think we are weak and not able move on or live without them.. I told my husband before we got married I don't want to share him with another woman and if he wants that we shouldn't get marry now . the choice he made is to marry me and not to have second wife so in the years coming if he get married to another women then I am out in his life . No body would change my mind kids or without kids
@@akingturtle its not called "weak imaan" its called having feeling and not wanting to share your husband. nowadays a man will marry more than one because of his lust/sexual desires not bcs he wants to help them.
Honestly, not only getting a second wife, but him asking for it is just hurting so much. How does he feel like to share his wife? That's exactly how we feel. I feel bad for the sister wallahi. I'm not telling her to do this but I would divorce him straight away, the second his asked for a second wife. If I'm not enough, then why marry me in the first place.
You can't get a khula if your reason for divorcing your husband is that he wants a second wife UNLESS you have stipulated it in your nikkah beforehand.
thank you for understanding. the men are always trying to get mad at us for being jealous but we have feelings too and we have the right to feel a way. We are the one who have to be the second wife not them
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
What's he supposed to say tho? Her husband wants something halal and she's upset about it. The only one who can give her comfort is Allah and her Husband.
@@kingkatiin2658 ok, so as a woman, who doesn't have an issue with polygyny, there are many factors as to why a woman wouldn't be ok with it. Maybe her husband is failing in some aspect in their own marriage and the thought of him getting another wife is disheartening. Maybe she spent her whole youth building her husband into the man he is today and he's going to be offering this man to another woman when she had to deal with all his flaws for so long. That's disheartening as well. Maybe he doesn't support her when it comes to other things outside of financial or maybe even financial within reasonable means. Just because something is "HALAL" doesn't mean that it's comforting. Yes, as believers, we have to accept what Allah and his messenger have said, but as humans, there can still be feelings that you aren't 100% comfortable with something because of your own human flaws, not because Authoo billah from this but you felt Allah said something wrong. Being told that as a woman, maybe you aren't good enough in the bedroom is not a comfort. As women, we are constantly beating ourselves up about everything, our looks, our performance, our ability our shortcomings and to have it smashed in our faces constantly by men is hurtful and adds to the argument of the west. What about men? They fail to.look.their best for us women. They fail to perform well in the bedroom many times, leaving us to wonder if this is really how sexual intimacy should be? They fail to perform well when it comes to our treatment. They fail to recognize their shortcomings and to up and decide to.marry again is hurtful. So there are other things that need to be addressed here. We all KNOW it's halal. That's not the issue. The issues can be manifold. Why not offer her words if true comfort instead if making her feel worse?
@@TheBlackHijabi91 Well the man you were describing doesn't sound too good of a man. And definitely not someone I would marry my daughter to first off. And to be fair the lady didn't specify why she didn't want her husband getting a second wife. The Prophet PBUH wasn't always rich, there were times where he couldn't afford food and his wives were all nagging him and he almost had to divorce them. And he had to divorce one of his wives because she was too Jealous and even Aisha RA was a very jealous women even tho she was young. So jealousy and it not feeling right is a part of being human. If the situation is as bad as you make it seem then have a heart to heart talk with him and if that doesn't help divorce is halal for a reason.
@@TheBlackHijabi91 Don't get too attached to this dunya, if someone over you is being oppressive or isn't giving you your right InShaAllah you'll get rewarded for your patience by Allah SWT
@@TheBlackHijabi91 Salam Aalaykum~ I understand what you mean by the discomfort but what you have described for a man, isnt a man of sunnah. ‘Ikramah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Verily, I love to beautify myself for my wife, just as I love for her to beautify herself for me, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: They have rights similar to those over them.” (2:228) Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá 14264 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ahmad Shakir Ibn Qudamah said, “Sexual intercourse with one’s wife is an obligation upon the husband as long as he does not have an excuse… It is recommended for him to play with his wife before intercourse, to arouse her desire so she gets enjoyment out of intercourse as he does.” Source: al-Mughnī 7/300-304 The 2 hadith above shows that Muslim men should also beautify themselves for their wives, and that they should even work towards making the wife feel good during sexual intimacy. There are even times where Muslim women asked Prophet Muhammad SAW that their husbands werent having sex with them and the women wanted divorce and the Prophet SAW allowed it. The wife's needs are just as important as the husband and if youre unsatisfied with how your husband treats you then its time you talked with each other. "And if you have reason to fear that you might not act equitably towards orphans, then marry from among [other] women such as are lawful to you - [even] two, or three, or four: but if you have reason to fear that you might not be able to treat them with equal fairness, then [only] one - or [from among] those whom you rightfully posses. This will make it more likely that you will not deviate from the right course." (Surah an Nisaa - Women, 4:3) Allah states in the verse above that if a Muslim man can not treat his wives equally, then for him is allowed only one wife. If a Muslim man cant even proper rights to one wife, how is he going to even get a second wife? If he gives rights to his second wife and not to his first. He is committing a sin. It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (no. 1949). Allah is all wise and just. Allah does not make this deen difficult on anyone. So never think for a moment that Allah favors men over women. It is people who have set high standards for women when it comes to becoming wives. If you find in your husband something that bothers you. Then you definitely have the right to talk to him about it. Of course be patient with him but Allah gave you rights, and your husband has to abide by them~
@@amerahhamdi5232 but it still doesn't change the fact that men will do us wrong. Since its a test, we will take it to get rewarded inshallah (but don't ask about the pain) But what I don't get is that when men go to jannah, they get to have two wives and I'm like I just don't get it! I just don't! When allah (sw) creates a man, why isn't one woman good enough for him. Like why two wives? You can't love to people at the same time! But when I say this, I fear I'm going against allah but still it's what i feel. You don't know how much I get irritated, angry and a feeling to cry I get when I talk about this. Anyway there's nothing I can do about it so.... yeah.
@@omarkhan9515 I have hatred for husbands doing their wives wrong. If you do a woman wrong and she suffered through duniya and when the here after comes you get punished for what you did? Why wouldn't I be greatfull about it if it's what you deserve! You've given what you deserve. Look, still you're level of maturity isn't as equal to your age so please don't talk to me and don't reply to this!
There are more hadiths, i'd like to hear more of them. Also, its not right to be negligent of the first wife's feelings and opress her. Multiple marriages should be something discussed before marriage. Not all women would agree to marry a man under that condition.
I see from the looks of your picture,if that's you, you're negligent first and foremost,to yourself. Also you're oppressing your self by exposing your self to the world the way you do. "We oppress them not,but they oppress them selves" Sura Gaafir.
Where is the comfort in saying "hey, others cheat too, but this cheating is legal so that's good" it still breaks a heart that was supposed to be protected by the husband!
Allah Orders men to be just to their wife and be kind to them, and by a husband taking another woman and the wife hurting, this is not kindness, this is suffering. And this is a sin. Please, I urge every woman to be educated in the quran so she knows her right and her worth.
A women cannot stop him from marrying another but she has the right to divorce. If you cannot except it then leave. Personally i would. And women plz dont feel obligated to stay just bcz its halal doesnt mean u have to accept it. And men while its halal think about the pros and cons and if you are able to fufill ur duty. Allah warned you to stick to one bcz he knows most cannot fufill their duty and this may lead u down a path of sins. Allah Knows best and may he bless us with the best.
Yep that is true. You as a man are committing in a very big thing as a second marriage. And you cant do that without communicating with the first wife in details as why you want to marry again. And if the woman doesn't want to you just cant or if you go your way expect a divorce. Personally im a male but if i was a woman i would divorce him in a second no matter what
You do not have the right to get divorced with the reason being that your husband wants to marry a second wife. Educate yourself on divorce, if you leave him without a valid reason - you are still his wife and you will be until he divorces you. Fear Allah.
@@irfanupwork8851 yes she can take divorce if a woman doesn't like her husband anymore and she is not feeling for him any more. How could someone stay without love and respect with someone. When a woman came to Prophet (PBUH) that my husband loves and he is very righteous but I don't want to live with him because I don't like him and can't fulfil marriage obligations. Prophet (PBUH) asked her to give dowry back whatever she received from her husband and ordered the husband to let her go. In Quran there is clearly mention in the verse that you can't keep any woman by force. Increase your knowledge of Islam. Women has this God given right and no one can take it away from her. And there is a reason behind it because she doesn't love him anymore. You can't force someone to love you. What Hadith are you referring I know where are you coming from but Hadith didn't mention she can't get divorce for whatever reason. It's only for the woman to tell them even though you have this God given right but if you are happy with your husband then think over it. And if you take divorce without any reason then Allah will ask you but In this world divorce will be established. Same Is for men that don't give divorce without any reason if you do then Allah will ask husband too Period !!
Why is it that women have to accept a man for his flaws but if we lack anything a man can go and marry a second wife to fulfill what it is his wife lacks! that’s not fair and times have changed . What if your husband is infertile and we ( women ) want kids why can’t we leave him and marry another man just like a man does to us. And in this generation that we live in today women have rights and can provide for themselves without a man.
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@JahannamHellfire Ok tell me how is a women be able to handle for men. Physically sexually and emotionally. How can she do all that tell me. She is on her period so she can’t have sex with for a week. Men are polygamous by nature.
@@JahannamHellfire salty and whining all the time ur filled with being toxic towards all men. Ur not getting married and i hope u don’t ur gonna ruin the man life by always accusing him of something.🤣🤣🤣🤣
He basically told her that shes lacking and her husband can cheat in a halal way. How is thay comforting? This is why we need female scholars and speakers. Men cant seem to empathise
21 Tips To Help Erase Sins - Prophet Muhammed SAW 1) Repenting(can erase any type of sin) 2) Performing Prayer(only minor sins) 3) Performing Wudhu (ablution)(only minor sins) 4) Attending the Jumu ah Salah (Friday Prayer)(only minor sins) 5) Waiting for Prayer(only minor sins) 6) Doing good deeds(only minor sins) 7) Performing Umrah and Hajj(only minor sins) 8) Saying ‘Ameen’ after the Imam(only minor sins) 9) Calling out Adhaan(only minor sins) 10) Walking to the Prayer Place(only minor sins) 11) Giving charity(only minor sins) 12) Asking forgiveness from others on wronging them(any sin as long as it is something in wronging others, not about your personal sins with Allah(سبحانه و تعالى)) 13) Reciting Salawaat (Blessings) on Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.S)(only minor sins) 14) Being kind to animals(only minor sins) 15) Praising Allah after Eating Food(only minor sins) 16) Removing Obstacles from the Road or Way(only minor sins) 17) Hide Other’s faults and sins(only minor sins) 18) Observing Patience during Hard Times(only minor sins) 19) Making some dhikr(only minor sins) 20) Saying ‘Subhan-Allah’ 100 times(only minor sins) 21) The best duaa for seeking forgiveness is to say : “Allahuma Anta Rabbi, la ilaha illa Anta, khalaqtani wa ana ‘abduka, wa ana ‘ala ‘ahdika wa wa dika mastata tu, a udhu bika min sharri ma sana tu, abu u laka bini matika ‘alayya, wa abu u laka bidhanbi faghfir li, fa innahu la yaghfirudh-dhunuba illa Anta.” (O Allah! You are my Lord. There is no god except You. You have created, I am Your slave, I hold to Your Covenant as far as I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil of what I have done. I acknowledge the favours that You have bestowed upon me and I confess my sins. Pardon me, for none but You has the power to pardon)(all sins can be erased if this dua used with the conditions of repentence there are 5: 1-Repentence is for Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) sincerly 2-Regreting your sin 3-Intending never to do it again 4-Stop doing it 5-Asking Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) for forgiveness, and there are many ways but the best one is mentioned above
Well i think everyone forgot one thing which is EQUALITY. what if the husband CANNOT show any equality between them. Is islam with being UNFAIR? Lies? i think not. My mother stood with my father throughout her years, she sold her gold to pay for his postgraduate studies .. until he married ..my mom was hurt but she is peaceful and invited her over several times to eat by us, her young daughter was kept by us for her to go to her work and slowly after years she had my father doing WHATEVER she wants and started to buy multiple houses for his second wife without my mother even knowing..my mtoher lives few meters away from his second wife which is living in a HUGE modern house with a maid and a driver while my mother is older, living in a broken old small house alone (as my father stays most of his time with his second wife reasoning this as he has meetings there while his second house does not have a huge meeting room).. we keep this a secret from my mother so she won't get hurt as she always defends my father.. is this also OKAY in your eyes? did our prophet not order men to behave well with women, treat them well, be kind before he dies sallalahu alaih wasalam.. i think if you breach men about HOW important it is to behave well and treat their wives right is better than justifying multiple marriages without explaining their responsibility they have on their shoulder when doing so!! we are in constant hurt from my fathers behaviors and injustice towards my mother.. hasbona allah wa nim al wakeel
Sister that’s completely against the religion ! He is breaking the Islamic rules of having 2 wives and sharing wealth . Your mother can get a divorce , please convince her to take him for everything he’s worth ! Disgusting sinner
Oh come on. The negative comments are facts and reminder for the women to be carful. So many man takes many only out of list and are unfair and destroy lives.
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@samsamiii509 Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..? Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it. This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way. I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram! True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women. The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues. There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings. The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view. We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days. Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife. So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
As a few others, I didn’t find the words in this video comforting or educational or fair. This is a tricky situation to be begin with, however saying things like, better he not commit adultery but actually re-marry seems to show a lack of understanding of the woman’s emotional concerns (while paying attention to the man’s).
Exactly sis. Barakallahu feeki. See this is why we need more women scholars and more serious study around women's issues for the male scholars. Allah SWT is The Compassionate and does not just leave His female slaves out to be depressed as this video clearly does. The sister asked for comfort but was given almost a reprimand! Allah help us and guide us.
@@shoxkay you guys should drop that belief anyways because what God would make such a thing legal and not care about the women he created? I'll tell you what God a man pleasing God that don't care about the women's feelings but only men feelings. But the God I serve doesn't allow men to marry multiple women. Also the God I serve says Love your wife and submit to her as she submit to you and both become one flesh spiritually. The God you guys serve is only for men's pleasure. My God is Jesus Christ and he said these things because he know that women only wants to be their mans' only partner he comes home to. If you muslim women would see that Jesus is more than just a prophet he is our lord and savior you guys wouldn't have to deal with men that that feels like you aren't enough. All women deserve to have their own husband. You women are not our play toys or play mates. Y'all have feeling too and the true Christ followers understands we only can be with one women. Doesn't matter how sexually active us men are we can not be with another women to compensate for our strong sexual desires. We have to control ourself and be holy like our heavenly father is holy.
Im sure the emotional concerns are devastating. However adultery is the greatest of the sins. So it makes sense to marry another to avoid that. It is simply allowed by Allah as a halal means
@@umnasaif8875 It is okay to feel this way sister. The mother of the believers, the wives of the prophet ﷺ also felt this way. As long as you maintain patience and have tawakkul in Allah's words, it will be good for you
@@karimtemri1664 no? Your saying he shouldn’t have told her? Divorce is frowned upon in Islam it’s best to prevent it don’t force a women in a relationship she doesn’t want to be in.
Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, said: وأحب له أن يقتصر على واحدة وإن أبيح له أكثر لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً I prefer a man to limit himself to one wife, even though it is permissible for him to marry more, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: If you fear you will not be just, then only one. (4:3) Source: al-Bayān fi madhhab al-Imām al-Shāfiʻī 11/189
Ibn Qudamah writes: والأوْلَى أن لا يَزِيدَ على امرأةٍ واحِدَةٍ ذَكَرَه في المُجَرَّدِ لقولِ اللهِ تعالى فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً ولِقَولِه سُبحانه وَلَنْ تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَنْ تَعْدِلُوا بَينَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ The preference is to not marry more than one wife, as mentioned in Al-Mujarrad, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: If you fear you will not be just, then only one. (4:3) And due to His saying: You will never be able to be just between your wives, even if it is your ardent desire. (4:129) Source: al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr 20/24
Ibn Khatib said: جُمْهُورُ الْأَصْحَابِ اسْتَحَبُّوا أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ The majority of our scholars recommend not marrying more than one wife. Source: al-Inṣāf 8/16
Al-Buhuti writes: وَ يُسْتَحَبُّ أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ إنْ حَصَلَ بِهَا الْإِعْفَافُ لِمَا فِيهِ مِنْ التَّعَرُّضِ لِلْمُحَرَّمِ It is recommended not to marry more than one wife if he can maintain chastity with her, as it might expose him to what is forbidden. Source: Kashshāf al-Qinā’ 5/9
Al-Mawardi writes: وَاسْتَحَبَّ الشَّافِعِيُّ أَنْ يَقْتَصِرَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ وَإِنْ أُبِيحَ لَهُ أَكْثَرُ لِيَأْمَنَ الْجَوْرَ بِالْمَيْلِ إِلَى بَعْضِهِنَّ أَوْ بِالْعَجْزِ عَنْ نَفَقَاتِهِنَّ Al-Shafi’i recommended that a man limit himself to one wife, even though it is permissible for him to marry more, in order to protect himself from wronging them by inclining more to some of them or being unable to spend equally upon them. Source: al-Ḥāwī al-Kabīr 11/417
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@elegancepublicschool8191 i don't have a problem with jealousy. even the wives of the prophet were jealous, like Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her). But I don't know if you have read the other comments, but there are women in this comment section who hate this law (marrying 2,3 or 4 women) and are trying to misuse it, like saying it is only allowed when your first wife gives permission or when you cant get a child with the first wife. they say that these are the only reason polygamy is allowed. this pure batil and nonsense. Also you said "Tell me if polyandry was allowed ... wouldn't you be jealous too?" First of all, what do you mean with "if polyandry was allowed? in Islam this is prohibited and it will never be allowed. even if it is allowed in a western country, as a muslim you can't practice it, because it goes against your religion. so this doesn't make any sense what you are saying. Also it doesn't make any sense for a woman to have 4 husbands. what is the point of this? it is not in the nature of women to have more than 1 husbands. also how do you know who the father of the child is when she is pregnant? are you going to do a DNA test everytime? Also don't compare men and women in this matter. men are more aggressive in nature, so if there was polyandry, there would be without any doubt physical fighting and this is because of testosterone. But the max that can reach with women is jealousy. 99% of the women are only jealous if they are in a polygamous marriage. and as I said earlier, jealousy is natural
@@ibnnader8373 there I edited it and you're right I should've never said it in the first place I mean if someone doesn't like polygyny then they shouldn't follow it instead of objecting what Allah has made halal...
@Touhami so non muslims can't have opinions on islam? It's like saying not to say anything about rules of your country that don't concern you, of sports that you don't practice and so on lol
@Touhami prophet didn’t marry for his lust ! But he married widow and divorce to support them and take responsibility! Understood ! His only virgin wife was Aisha , that marriage was also Allahs decision not his own.
Ik this sounds so messed up but seeing this kind of unfair stuff on muslim women and just the general mindset of muslim cultures makes me very doubtful of islam.. my faith is getting weaker everyday
Think about it. Judaism, Christianity. And islam all belive in polygamy. Not only that islam gives actual rights. Its not like women can be used. If you read the prophecies, the prophet muhhamed gave so many prophecies that came true. So islam is true.
this is clearly unfair .. no one in this world can bear the pain of heart break no one likes to share their love .but men these day theu are misusing Islam and hurting their wives
Our prophet did married many women, but for your kind information, he didn't did it for lust. Most of the wives of prophet Muhammed (peace and blessing be upon him) after khadija (first wife) were either widows or divorcee. And if a man wants to marry a second women out of lust, his just will never end if he will marry 1000 women, because lust is endless. And nowadays marry virgin and younger women in the name of sunnah. 😂
Dont make things very complicated. 1. First sometimes multiple marriage is necessity. All women does not feel about it. 2. It is just permissible not sunnah 3. At the time of marriage you can give condition he should not do another marriage. If he does you can break marriage contract. 4. If you feel really bad to stick in a marriage that you feel you cannot fulfil the responsibility. You can break the contract....so relax...
"It is just permissible not sunnah." Hahaha. Way to go with your zero study of Islamic History. At least know something about Muhammad (ﷺ) himself before saying stuff out of ignorance.
@@saifmustafa665 I am not standing 1 step before becoming KAFIR like some people, If for 97 men 100 women(USA) are there then only 2-3% people can do another marriage. What kind of sunnah only 2% people can do. Sunnah is for whole Ummah. Some people waiting to be Kafir, Idiot and no knowledge of sunnah and world can only talk like this. If just 10 % men do multiple marriages it will break the system
@@redman6790 it isn't cheating but it falls in the same category, when a husband comes to his first wife and tells her he wants to marry again he is blatantly saying that he doesn't feel for her anymore both sexually and emotionally, why else would he want a second wife? (i'm talking in context with todays time mostly men do it for this reason and not to help a widow) and it is EXTREMELY PAINFUL for the first women. As a man YOU don't get to decide whats " more painful" , losing the love of your life with whom you vowed to spend the rest of your life with is far more painful than whatever shitty examples you gave of income and shit.
@@barirahusmani9522 no it can be purely physical. I can be madly in love with a woman but if she has no sexual appetite I would want to marry another so I can fulfill my desires. There is nothing honorable in being celibate or suppressing your desire if you have a halal option
Whoever don't agree with polygamy can freely choose a different religion noones forcing anyone to stay in the religion you're either guided or misguided
This is why you should educate your women so that if something like this happens to them they can opt for divorce and pray to Allah to bless her with another husband for whom she will be enough. Rather than the woman wanting to or uncontrollably commit some form of kufr such as getting attracted to some other man, having an affair to be satisfied herself, despising him, lashing out and killing him oor the second wife or their children or her children or committing suicide or loosing Iman or getting struck with paralysis because of the shock. Also, kindly have it written in the marriage contract before signing it that the woman has the right to take up divorce (khula) in case the husband wants to or takes a second wife for whatever reason or reasons and that he needs your permission, if you say no he has to oblige. Whatever you put in the marriage contract will become valid and legal. Allah has made women with need for loyalty from her husband, and Allah will not put her in hellfire for parting ways for the sake of her (and others around her) wellbeing, sanity and wanting to look for the kind of love she wants to have. Dis Allah say that she needs to stay married to that man under any circumstance? Did Allah say that a woman has no desires of her? Did Allah say any where that a man's desires Trump a woman's desire? Dis Allah say that a woman should have sabr and treat it as her fate and not do anything about it? Didn't Allah give the women the right to part ways from the man for WHATEVER REASON OR REASONS. This is enough for me to know that Allah does no injustice and HE will never ask a woman to live a life of a dead woman, depressed, sick and unhappy. Did Allah say that a woman has to live with a husband even if she's unhappy? She can be unhappy for whatever reason or reasons. Don't tell women what to do. Let them do what they want. If they want to stay,let them, if they want to leave and fine some other man to marry let them, that is besides the point if she succeeds or not, at least she stands a chance. Stop blackmailing woman into staying just because there are men want to fulfill their desires by marrying more. Has Allah said anywhere that a woman should have no desires?
@@potato0269 No she can't as the man marrying another wife is halal and there are no laws to supersede that. For a divorce there has to be a legitimate reason, being jealous or bitter unfortunately isnt a valid reason. You may choose to leave but remember Islam wouldn't accept that divorce.
@@guilhermefernandes6067 I dont remember saying its not halal, and she can ask for divorce or get khula if it affects her mental health then she has every right to leave, whats the point in staying with a person who u no longer love.mental health is a legitimate reason. But a woman who has a problem with it should stipulate that he cant in their marriage contract and then he cant or it annuls the marriage
Alhumdullilah! What can be WHAT CAN BE more sacrificial then Prophet Ibrahim AS without any complaint or crying or without getting emotional (in a questioning manner) before Lord of this entire unverse "Allah Almighty". He was ready to sacrifice ( slaughter ) his beloved son. Oh! Allah make me love you more than anything and to follow the deen of Ibrahim. As he AS was not among mushrikeen.
ima just give an insight from my perspective if anyone finds it beneficial or not. in my opinion a man should be allowed to have more than one wife if 1) he is able to stay just 2) if the wife he already has is okay with it 3)if he could handle a second wife in the first place im not trying to insult anyone here, what im trying to say is be careful because having a second wife means the man needs to be even more responsible. personally i would say that most men in the modern day are unable to handle more than one wife, and this is coming from a guy. but hey what do i know im just a 16 year old
even if shes not ok with it, Islamically he can still go ahead and marry another woman, a woman whos not ok with it should just stipulate it in her marriage contract and the man has to abide by it or it annuls the marriage
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@JahannamHellfire i never said that a woman has no right to object to her husband marrying a second wife, i do support the fact that the wife can object to her husband marrying a second wife. And plus i didnt talk about it in the sense its a sunnah i was talking about it in a case where the husband is a proper practicing muslim who is doing his basic fard and basic sunnah such as fasting in monday and thursday and the 2 rakat before fajr. And i do agree with you we shouldnt change the religion to suit our needs, infact we should focus on trying to follow the religion wether its with us or against us.
Multiple marriages, u may say it halal, but you don't know insecurity and tension it creates for the first wife. You are not understanding in the women point of view. It also a way for man to oppress their wives emotionally. For an example if there is any disagreement between 1st wife and husband, the husband will run away to another women for emotional dependence. Multiple marriages also create atmosphere of envy and jealousy between wives, also divorcing the person is not easy. like how alcohol was banned in Islam, polygamy for men should be banned.
exactly this is so basic men know everything but they act dumb in this matter bcz they are selfish and lustful they want to use Islam for their own benefit only they don't care about the rights of their wives
He is saying that it is better to marry than committing zina. It is halal to have multiple wives,the sheikhs words are not confused. My mother will be a second wife,when then man asked her for marriage she was reluctant because of the first wife she doesn't want any hard feelings for her or her children. She wants only happiness for everyone. Even though the man doesn't have to ask permission to take another wife she made him tell his first wife about them. This is the sincerest example that I can give you. My mother has suffered from my fathers past treatment and she knows the heart of a women.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Hypersexually is not a male problem. Women can can be hypersexual too(nymphomania). So, If sexual gratification is the cause of 2nd,3rd or even 4th marriage for a man then what about the women whose husbands can't fulfill their desires .(I don't support polygamy for women though)
The 4th alternative is to learn what love really is and how to love by staying married to the first and only wife. She is given to you from God so that you become a better person, work on your flaws, be patient, be loyal, pray to God to give you strenght, and not be egoistic. How will you achieve these chasing your always changing desires? To the lady who asked the question: unfortunately you married a man who is at the moment immature and egoistic. Be yourself, you are beautiful, important and you are enough for him, he is lucky to have you. He need to learn from own mistakes. Try to reason with him. Do not aree on something that brings you down. We are all here in this world to learn how to love.
Reading the comments really is painful (intellectually). If you’re a Muslim woman and you attribute negative to what your god made permissible (halal) you’re doubtful. In Islam, it’s perfectly fine to marry up to 4 women IF you can adequately provide for all of them mentally and financially as a man.
noones saying its not fine if its practised correctly.Women just feel hurt by it and dont wanna share their man, theres jealousy which is understandable, a woman can stipulate that he not marry any other woman in her marriage contract and he has to abide by that or it annuls the marriage
@@potato0269 it doesn't annul it the second he does it. even if he does it it is not annuled. If he does it the wife has the right to divorce from this point. or she may let it go and continue the marriage
@@shadowstorm5261 it does annul according to islam qa the scholars say this but also assim al hakeem has said she may choose to stay with him if shes okay with it however the marriage was agreed upon WITH that condition so it is rather tricky
@@potato0269 this is from islamqa. They say it doesnt annul it straight away, but she has the right. like I said before. Firstly: If the wife stipulates that her husband should not take another wife, this is a valid condition and he must adhere to it; if he does take another wife, she has the right to annul the marriage contract. That is because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (2721) and Muslim (1418), that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The conditions that are most deserving to be fulfilled are those by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.” And because he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions, except a condition that makes something permissible forbidden or makes something forbidden permissible.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352) and Abu Dawood (3594). It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
@@potato0269 it does not apply automatically. they are given the right to annul once the condition has been broken. This islamqa question was: If she stipulated that he should not take another wife, does he have to adhere to that?
When polygamy is done right it is a beautiful thing of course if she agrees. There are women out there who don’t mind. The man is taking care of women. Salty women always say men don’t marry women who are widowed and who fell in haram but repented and etc. That is why we need polygamy WHEN DONE RIGHT.
OMG!! The comment box is almost filled with extreme feminists as i was concerned. May Allah guide us our Muslim Brothers & Sisters and also help brothers to treat equally their multiple wives.
Shutup y’all don’t need a second wife. Men and women are 50/50 in population.Yall don’t even care about sunnnah. Just for ur desires. I really hope ur not married becuz ill feel bad for ur wife.
Ladies just stipulate in your marriage contract that your husband can’t take another wife, that’s it . It is totally allowed in Islam. And always demand higher mehar and make sure you fully collect the amount.
@Touhami stipulate a condition doesn’t make something haram that is halal ! I know that, it’s just not doing it or staying away from it. If your doctor tell you can’t consume sugar because it may harm doesn’t make sugar haram, you just have to avoid it. And by the way you also can’t change if anything allowed by Islam not anyone. If the wife stipulates that her husband should not take another wife, this is a valid condition and he must adhere to it, That is because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (2721) and Muslim (1418), that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The conditions that are most deserving to be fulfilled are those by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.” And because he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions, Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352) and Abu Dawood (3594). It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
@Touhami yes they can but a woman can also do that. Even if they do put that condition in a man must ask his wife for a second wife. Or divorce and marry another. As time keeps moving forward the stipulation will not exist. Probably in the next few years. Because men will decrease more in number meaning that they will have more partners. There are more women then men already. They just don't realise that
@Touhami bro. Women CAN add that in their nikkah nama that they don't want their man to marry a second time and after that a man CAN NOT marry a second tjme without permission frm the first one and if he does it anyway then it annuls their marriage. Simple. Allah has given men right to marry 4 times but Allah has also given women the right to put conditions in their marriage contract. Islam dods not favor men only.
Why everything is for women. Did men can see his wife with someone else. It’s simple. Gender may different but both had same feeling why they hurt women that much?
I’m really sorry to say to those who are against polygamy, that it’s not for you to dispute. Astaghfirullah. In fact, it can be seen as bad as nullifying our Islam if we reject that that has been made permissible by Allah swt. Authu Billah Allah swt has put this in place, and Allah swt knows best. No, we shouldn’t hurt the feelings of sisters in Islam, or anybody for that matter. Perhaps the shortfall is that we’re seeing it from a personal perspective? That we are using our own emotions as our guide أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله? As believers we want for others what we want for ourselves., otherwise we have no faith. There are tons more women than men in this world, thus, leaving sisters without husbands. Do we we think it’s ok for the Ummah as a whole if we have single sisters struggling on a daily basis, because we’re too focussed on our pride and (perhaps) selfishness? It’s nothing to do with self worth, as many would say sisters in polygamy have none. It’s that they wish for other sisters to feel that same sense of security we all want. But of course, the husband has to be a good Muslim, firstly, then just InshaAllah. May Allah swt help us thrive as an Ummah, and to understand this world is temporary. Allahumma Ameen ya Rabb’Al Al’Ameen
a lot of them say that men "marry the second wife out of lust." - Which is dumb What do the men marry the first wife based on then? because of her good grades? give me a break. it's the same reason as the first and the last wife they marry. all men marry a woman they are attracted to physically. I don't know why that is so hard for some people to understand.
If you’re on Deen it’s bigger than any of that. Yes, there are benefits but none which could ever equate to working towards the Akhira (Ameen) Allahu alam السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
What if the man what’s to marry a second wife in a different country? Have 3 children and wife in another country? How will that man treat both equally?
if the woman agrees on terms that he sees her certain number of times a year or this time of the year then that's ok. it's what they have agreed to Allah knows best
The thing is, if he marries the other woman, her children will have the same rights (in terms of child support and inheritance) as my own children. But if he just have an affair with the other woman without marriage, whatever children comes from that union is illegitimate, and does not have any rights to my husband's money and inheritance. So logically, why would I allow the other woman and her children benefit from my husband's money, by allowing her to marry my husband?
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@Rasmalai see that depends how u look at polygamy does not destroy the marriage it is how the women thinks and looks it as a perspective just because u have jealousy that foes not mean u act on it
@Pareeshy so your just selfish. You would rather he cheats on you and support zina? You would also get the sin. Not easy for some women to find husbands, what is she's divorced or widowed? You are ok with her comitting zina?
@@nor332 he has the same opinion as this scholar. he just dodges the question loads. if he said the same thing (which he would) all the feminists that support him would go crazy These scholars are doing these questions live from all types of questions. Mufti menk just uploads short speeches and holds lectures. no q and a. Its all controlled in a way so he doesn't have to speak on it.
@@shadowstorm5261 he does he calls men out and feminism has nothing to do with women having the right to not wanting to be in a polygamous relationship and have the right to divorce. The man can marry more than one but the woman can divorce and I don’t like sheikhs who shame women who won’t stay in that type of relationship.
To all men out there who say women are so selfish and not accepting her husband having a second wife is lack of imaan.let me tell even the wives of prophet muhammed(pbuh) get jealous of each other.there is an incident where ayisha (pbuh) throw sweets on another wife of muhammed (pbuh)(don't know which wife exactly) just out of jealousy.she saw the other wife giving and sharing sweets with muhammed (saw). And some other incidents.if even they get jealous u men consider it as lack of imaan.then all women in the world is like that.
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 Allah gave men the ability in the quran. What about the companions. And all the scholars you had multiple wives? Are they all bad?
Recent revert here, I was about to get married and he said he wanted monogamy. Then he throws curveball at me saying he doesn’t want monogamy. It’s over. I’m sorry, I’m not denying Allah’s words and rules, I just can’t stand to see the man I love running to some other woman. I’d rather die.
@@happybird7HAHAHAHAHAHAHA GOOD LUCK SHARING A HOUSEHOLD, LET ALONE A HUSBAND! I would rather stay alone my whole life than be a second wife to someone.
I understand what the speaker is describing but I will say the wording is wrong. I believe the speaker needs to look into how he is delivering the words. Also if someone live in a country where polygyny is not permitted by the law of the land there is a different ruling for it I believe.
@Hasib Abdullah i know few ppl that have a second wife. No one is makin a scene of it. What if you have a second wife in a different country. These laws in this country permits adultery and homosexual marriage etc. Im not being extreme, just excersin my basic islamic rights
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Deeds that reward a person equal to hajj if he does them correctly and sincerly 1. Perform Ablution properly and go for each obligatory salat in Masjid 2. After praying salat Fajr in congregation, then wait (15-20 minutes) till after sunrise to perform two superogratory rakat 3. Perform Umrah in the month of Ramadan is equal to Hajj 4. Going to Masjid to learn/teach beneficial knowledge 5. Saying SubhanaLlah 33, AlhamduliLlah 33, Allahu Akbar 33, and then say La ilaha ill-Allah wahdahu la sharika lah, lahu’l-mulk wa lahu’l-hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadir
The problem is most-if not ALL-women's lives revolve around (only) their husband's [life] these days. A man, very early on in the marriage, disconnects from emotional vulnerability or an over-reliance and fixation in his wife, as much as he may 'love' her, he sees himself as a self-reliant individual, not bound to exclusivity. A woman, on the other hand, dedicates herself in perpetuity to this man. If she was to do what he does and separate herself and be self-sufficient, mentally and emotionally, and he then decides to take another wife, it would not disconcert her as much. Society will always disparage women; first wife, second wife, third wife, whatever you choose to be. Just be you. Be your own person.
"The problem is most-if not ALL-women's lives revolve around (only) their husband's [life] these days." - What is bad in that? "A man, very early on in the marriage, disconnects from emotional vulnerability or an over-reliance and fixation in his wife" For the most part that isn't true. and if it was, like you said these are the early stages, it would grow and a man would be more connected and can be emotionally vulnerable after some time. Afterall, it takes a while to build complete trust and love. though some people have that from the get-go.
@@shadowstorm5261 It's not bad or wrong at all. My life revolves are my husband, too. I prioritise him and put him first in everything, in all aspects of our life together. Having said that, I give him the space and time he deserves to be himself. I do not expect him to dedicate himself to me the way that I do with him. I'm not sure what your point is, but in my humble opinion, the reason it hurts women or they are against it, is because we never see it coming. If you resign yourself to "he is an amanah from Allah to me, he isn't mine" and dedicate yourself to the purpose of your creation, then it becomes sahal, easy on you.
What do people think, if a wife is not able to have a child (because of genetic problem) and the husband is able to have a child (medically confirmed), do you think he should have the chance of having a second wife? Divorce for the first wife will mean that she will have a difficult life. This is in context of arranged marriage
On the authority of Umm Haani’ bint Abi Taalib (رضي الله عنها). She said: “The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ , walked past me one day so I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, I have become old and weak - or something similar to this - so tell me of a good deed that I can do while I am sitting.’ *He ﷺ said: “Say ‘Subhaan Allaah’ 100 times for it is equivalent to freeing 100 slaves from the offspring of Ismaa‘eel; and say ‘Al-Hamdu li-llaah’ 100 times for it is equivalent to 100 horses saddled with reins ready to carry fighters in the cause of Allaah; and say ‘Allaahu Akbar’ 100 times for it is equivalent to 100 camels slaughtered for the sake of Allaah; and say ‘La Ilaah Illa Allaah’ 100 times.” Ibn Khalaf (the narrator from ‘Aasim) said, “I think he said: ‘…it fills what is between the heavens and the earth, and on that day out of all the deeds that are risen to Allaah, none will be better than yours except for a person who said what you said.’* [(Musnad Ahmad) Al-Munthiri, Al-Haythami, and Al-Albaani classified it as Hasan (good)
It's a delicate matter to be discussed. But the women should know that they can take the taqlid in their nikah contract where the husband would be considered as divorcing the wife if he is to get married to a second. What Allah has ordained has so many wisdom that the small human mind could never comprehend. But Allah has also shown us women the ways to face the situation. Let's not blame Allah, yet learn and study more on the matter. It is his right to get married again and it is also the women's rights to get divorce if she would see it fit. May Allah guide us all. And I also sincerely hope that whenever this question is asked to knowledgeable people on religion matters, they are guided with the clarity of mind and wisdom to tend to it. If women are to be treated lowly.. MasyaAllah what calamities can befall the entire world. May Allah strengthen us in faith and wisdom. Amiin.
If only a woman could marry 4 husbands and the husband had the right of divorce, would you support that? It would fulfill the conditions of your first paragraph
I mean men, if you see us woman being with other men, do you feel calm? We both are human it’s so painful to see someone we love in the arm of someone else, i can never accept the concept of polygamy in Islam. I dont know what reason God allowed it. If it’s for certain conditions, it can have solution without doing polygamy, or if it’s for the sake of war condition, there’s no mentioning in the quran. Means it’s very wide and can be used even for lust. No one would ever want to share their lover to someone else, i want men imagine that. Sometimes this weaken my iman..
It's funny how most women who won't let their husband get a second wife, would have no problem with becoming the second/third/forth wife of a man with very high value, social life, economics, etc..
Yes, if a man like someone that existed during the prophets time, then I would have no problem with it. Now a days, there's no man I respect enough where I will be okay and support his pursuit in a second wife. From dayooths, to mama boys, to abusive/controlling, and very very low emotional intelligence, it's safe to say that Men have lost their way and would be a detriment to their second wife rather than " charity or to help a widow". Men aren't probably marrying for that reason and marrying to fulfill some type of perverted fantasy they have
@@ayahsimrin5026 Your comment alone goes to show you have such an EVIL sick twisted view on men, read back your comment and please heal, no one would write such a hateful comment if they were raised in a loving home with a loving father.
U mad? Does this situation sound familiar? It's the truth, so many women get abused. And men don't like to hear that women are speaking up because they can't control women anymore
If we read tafsir of aayat 3 surah nisa, Allah prohibiting the selfish men to marry orphan girl and giving them advice to marry girl of your choice whether two or three or four only if you are just among them or marry slave girl (without Meher) ( as they don't want to give Meher) or contained with one. It's Highly demotivating not to practise polygamy. Polygamy is highly discouraged in Islam just like slavery, you're allowed to have slaves but not encouraged. As it's mentioned in Hadith prophet ordered men who have multiples wives like 10 give talaq to 6 and have one but they disliked so prophet told them max you can have four by doing justice only. Sheikh here are all promoting Arab Culture not Islam.
islam promoted polygny so you are wrong. Allah starts the verse by saying marry 2, 3 or 4. It was also praised as something righteous so you are wrong. Also islam does promote salavery along with buying and selling slaves. Islam also promotes Freeing slaves in may conditions
@@faridaayafarie7232 "because of others sins REMEMBER that. Have some common sense and better knowledge than talk." the prophet said they are there because they were ungreatful to their husbands. that's why they are there. stop these mental gymnastics
I couldn't understand how come they ask about their rights and when men ask about theirs they go bonkers. No matter what you do they will never be satisfied. Muslim women caught in dual mind here between sharia rights and western culture and they want both.
Mu’adh ibn Anas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites the entire chapter, ‘He is Allah, the One’ (112:1) (Iklas ) ten times, Allah will build a palace for him in Paradise.” Source: Musnad Ahmad 15610 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
@@hammad1210 In Islam huge number if people chose to become terrorist! I hope you don't take that path and start killing innocent kids and women just because they are not Muslims
@@ziyadzvk5871 I'm a Vedic student and religious comparative researcher thankyou 😊 , and I can safely say Sanatan Dharma is the only true Dharma in the face of earth. Everything else is man made and political agenda. Hare Krsna 🙏
If a woman is harsh and treat her husband like a slave. Can we blame the man about asking for a second wife? Muslim women and men should realize their responsibility as a husband and wife before blaming each other. Both have certain rights that Allah (swt) has given to them.
If you look at the comments, the women who don't approve the man to have a second wife and is upset about the verdict and wisdom of the Quran and Sunnah by reverting to their emotions are examples of "Muslim women" brothers to avoid as there are tons of other women who understand their Deen and don't have a problem sharing their husband. All those who talk about their opinions I thank you on telling on yourself and the strength of your imaan. The west really has gotten a grasp on the minds of some Muslim women today espically feminism
I don't want my husband to marry a second time. And it is my right to have that in the marriage certificate. This right is also given by Allah that we can add a clause for the man to not marry a second time.
It’s man’s innate nature to want more than one wife. SubhanAllah I’m convinced their wired that way. Hence in the Quran they are allowed up to four. I will prefer a husband to have feelings for me and me alone but hey this is how it 😅
The prophet (PBUH) was not wired that way. He married one wife for decades and did not remarry until after she had died. And most of those marriages afterwards (when he was 53-56) were for political/war reasons because of his special status, not because of his personal desires or "nature". I am not saying polygamy itself is wrong but its important to note that polygamy was common among the kaffirs at the time they had no limit to how many wives they can take, and Islam came to limit it DOWN to 4 and only make it permissible based upon certain conditions and responsibilities (giving rights to the women)...so that man does not just fall into his greed and lust, or animalistic "innate nature". Most men today do not have what it takes to do polygamy in the way that it has been made permissible. It takes a fair, just, mature, strong and honorable man to handle such a responsibility to make polygamy successful and maintain the balance and peace of such a household.
I am a husband and I spoke to my wife my honest intentions of having a second wife. She soon called my manager, called my school and my relatives. I lost my job and my career all this years I worked so hard to earn halal money. She left me in this state and she will not rest. This is what my wife did to me. If you think this is funny or a joke then remember that Allah is watching you.
even though its a made up story, lets say its real. my brother its good that you decided to take a second wife, now your first wife true colour is known. (note: just because your husband take a second wife doesn't mean you loose all your rights)
@@emma647 easy: she can have divorce yes it will be heartbreaking, I am a man , an my wife is my asset, no man like that. when a man marry other wife, he's not marrying her only, but responsibility too. men and women are not equal, diff in physical and psychologically too
Be happy brother, you saw her real face. Now you’re free and you’ll have better life. If you lost job you’ll find better job inShaAllah. Allah with you and inShaAllah you’ll find strongest iman that wife will never leave you. May Allah gives all of us patience.
Well two things, she can make a contract in her marriage contract saying she doesnt wants a second wife and he has to oblige it that’s unfortunate for guys but this possible, there is nth wrong in polygamy if it’s done right and if the women is getting her due rights and she is just a bit jealous this is not a ligetimate reason to leave but if she fears sins such as not giving him his rights or feeling too much of jealousy she can leave
It's ridiculous that men refer to the last ten years of the prophet and say they want to follow sunnah. The multiple wives in that period of his life were rather strategy than sunnah. If they want real sunnah, why aren't they referring to the 25 years he spent wirh only one wife?
So many misguided women in the comment section trying to change the law of Allah to fit their own desires, if Allah has allowed something then that’s the end of it. There’s no more argument to be had.
@@elsaken2840 Yes they can and if he breaks that , it gives her the right to divorce, doesn’t mean it’s haram for him. And these modern women cannot handle the right Allah gave men to marry for any reason more than once.
Triggered feminists, please understand. Allah is not in need of you. When you are critical of something that Allah has made permissible and what the greatest man that ever lived himself practiced, please imagine yourself in front of Allah and his messenger when you are saying this. And remember it was Iblis who thought he knew better and tried to rationalize why he shouldn't bow to Adam. Don't be one of the arrogant and misguided.
This doesn't have to do with feminism though. The most righteous women, our mothers, such as Aisha RA, felt jealousy towards the prophet SAW. The prophet SAW prevented Ali from marrying another woman with Fatima because he feared that her sadness and pain will tempt her to fall into sin. It is in women's nature to have jealousy for those who they love and to want to be the only loved ones
@@hiok-vj4gt exactly but or prophet saw. still married even he knew our mother Aisha r.a. was jealous. So its not a reason to not get married as our prophet saw. was a living Qur'an.
Men prefer to follow islam of convenience when it comes to remarrying. Nobody cares about providing or nurturing their wife or children But they debate about it proudly and belittle other things like cheating 1st wife and lusting on other women who arent mehram in garb of this provision that they can marry them anytime... Easier said than done Thats y Prophet SAW didn't allow hazrat Ali to remarry He said if fatima is in pain I'll be in pain Means !!??? You willfully are putting your first wife to pain and are justifying it with your saviour of lust "provision for more wives" Unless its an act of charity or some other unavoidable circumstance like not having children its not any big sawaab to marry again ... Rather injustice!!
are you afraid you will be in a polygamous marriage? we men clearly know the responsibility that comes along with this. who said a man will go around and run behind other women? he's a Muslim, he can have his second wife by halal way. why did prophet Muhammad saw didn't allow Ali (r) for that marriage ??/ 😊
Why so much importance is given to men's choices and satisfaction? Why no one speaks about what if the girl is not happy with the man. Why she can't marry multiple men? Why she need to take a divorce and marry second man? Whereas the man need not inform the first wife if he wants to marry second. What an injustice? Seriously. This one partiality makes me think Quran is not fair. Or we have interpretted it wrongly. I accept in olden days when man is the only bread winner they might have married many women. But now the situation has changed. I feel marriage has more meaning than just adjusting and living together for the food. We r not animals. We have emotions. How a man will feel if his wife has multiple husbands??? Emotionally it breaks down the human being. How come Islam normalize this with regard to women? Pls clarify
My husband keeps cheating on me, not physically but she always has some woman on the side, that he flirts with, at first ot was just on phone but now he actually goes out too. When i finfd out he stops and then does it again after few momths. He keeps asking these women to be his second wife. Know that i am a good wifem these are not my words but his words, his parents words his whole family sees that.. I just cannot tolerate a second wife ans i told him i will not stop you from marrying but then i cant live with you. I just cant, i have lived years crying over his nature again and again, i wont for the rest of my life.
keep him so busy in the bedroom that he wont have energy to think about another woman. If he cant keep up you can tell him he cant even satisfy one woman how is he going keep up with 2? Most of you women nowadays dont even know how to make your husbands happy, its so easy if you know it, men are simple. Intimacy, food, obedience, respect and positivity. If you make an effort I garantuee 99% of men would not even think about a 2nd wife and will make you the happiest wife. But feminism teaches you obedience is slavery so you fall for that and create miserable marriages
As salamu Alaikom warahmatulahi wa barrakatu.my husband he want to marry again. He meet the girl from games online.and my husband financially has problem .even our own house we don't have What should I do Jazakhalahu khair
Allah said: And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].} [Quran 4:129] Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law. "I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, 'Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.'" (Bukhari, No. 4887)
Chastity is defined as "controlling oneself from forbidden desires due to the love of Allah The Almighty in response to His command, as well as for seeking His reward in return." Islam has always been keen to establish chastity in the Muslim community and has thus legislated many laws that reduce the strong impact of these desires and control them; it has also encouraged remaining on the straight path and warned against transgressing the defined boundaries by following these base desires. Islam has preserved people’s honor and protected lineages from being mixed. Therefore, fornication and adultery are forbidden and classified as major and destructive sins. Islam has even forbidden everything that could lead to these sins, such as immoral exchange of looks between the two sexes, depraved words, seductive moves, a man and a woman being in seclusion in a room, and anything else which could lead to this awful sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin, and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him)."} [Quran, 17: 32] Islam does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. Allah The Almighty commanded His Messenger to take a pledge from women who entered Islam to refrain from fornication and adultery. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bai`ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children… then accept their pledge."} [Quran, 60: 12] Allah The Almighty made the punishment for these sins vary from lashing to stoning to death, along with the humiliation which results from informing the community of the perpetrators of this sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. [This is for unmarried persons, but if married, the punishment is to stone them to death]."} [Quran, 24: 2] The Prophet set the penalty for adultery and fornication as follows: "If the parties (committing fornication) are unmarried, they should receive a hundred lashes and be put into exile for a year. If they commit adultery after they are married, they should receive a hundred lashes and then be stoned to death." [Muslim] Since Islam has comprehensively forbidden fornication and adultery, it has also blocked all ways that lead to it. It does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it. The evil consequences of fornication and adultery Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Fornication and adultery combine all evils; weakness in commitment to the religion, lack of piety, corruption of manhood and the decrease of praiseworthy jealousy. You will never find an adulterer or fornicator who is pious, fulfils his promises, is truthful in his speech, maintains friendship or has jealousy over his wife; he will be characterised by lies, deception, betrayal, accepting prohibitions and not being mindful of Allah." All these characteristics are consequences of fornication and adultery. There are also other consequences such as: • Incurring the wrath of Allah The Almighty. • Corruption of one's wife and children. • Poverty and gloominess of the face, which will be apparent to people. • Darkness of the heart. • Becoming insignificant in the eyes of people and in the sight of Allah The Almighty. • Loss of the characteristics of chastity and righteousness and becoming known as a sinful, betraying adulterer or fornicator. • Not being classified as a believer in general. • Being decried as an evil person.
It’s a messing how muslim men most of them are not there for his wife his kids yeat he wants another one they want marriage but run away from responsibility I have seen soo money of them doing this
@Touhami no one can do this because in the glorious Quran Almighty Allah said sura nisa 129 “ no matter how much you try you can never do justice among your wives “ . If Allah said that who r you to say !
In my opinion... You should discuss with your 1st wife and her family before marriage about your plans for polygamy... It's Definitely a sunnah... Then why we should hide... Allah knows the best... Else please wait for a little bit... Inshallah we can have as many wives we wish for in Jannah... Its just a matter of sabar.. Alhamdulillah Subhanallah Allah knows his creation better ❤
All this scholar spoke about is the mens right to his sex drive....why didnt he open his mouth and speak up for the womens rights to love and affection daily too and if he wants to follow this he must visit all his wives daily and not leavd her alone every second day....if scholars stopped speaking up only for men then maybe women would have gotten their rights too in polygamy and we would be open to it but we all alone in this practice.
To all the ladies, you are the ones who raise men as a mother you are fine him marrying twice or more but as a wife u don't, kindly fix it it's in your hand raise kids who can sacrifice their feelings for the betterment of others at times.
Girls nowdays will just leave u if u get married to a second as they can now provide for themselves. And the guys that want to marry more than one usually do not live in the way of the sunnah and do it purely out of lust.
Very trueee❤❤❤
Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart?
On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice?
Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited.
If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you!
Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
@@keemyseantero3028 Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart?
On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice?
Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited.
If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you!
Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
Nowadays polygamy is about lust/sexual desires! Terrible
@@JahannamHellfire exactly!!!
I converted to Islam 27 years ago, and after 23 years of marriage my husband was unfaithful to me for several years, and did not end the affair until I found out about it. He, now has another women back home which I didn’t know about until a few weeks ago, and now wants to marry her and is asking for my consent. I’m deeply hurt and just want a divorce. I’m self sufficient and I would rather be alone than to share my husband with other woman. He for sure would have left me if I had been the unfaithful one.
yes she can take divorce if a woman doesn't like her husband anymore and she is not feeling for him any more. How could someone stay without love and respect with someone. When a woman came to Prophet (PBUH) that my husband loves and he is very righteous but I don't want to live with him because I don't like him and can't fulfil marriage obligations. Prophet (PBUH) asked her to give dowry back whatever she received from her husband and ordered the husband to let her go. In Quran there is clearly mention in the verse that you can't keep any woman by force. Increase your knowledge of Islam. Women has this God given right and no one can take it away from her. And there is a reason behind it because she doesn't love him anymore. You can't force someone to love you. What Hadith are you referring I know where are you coming from but Hadith didn't mention she can't get divorce for whatever reason. It's only for the woman to tell them even though you have this God given right but if you are happy with your husband then think over it. And if you take divorce without any reason then Allah will ask you but In this world divorce will be established. Same Is for men that don't give divorce without any reason if you do then Allah will ask husband too Period !!
@@dr.samanamukhtar5346 that's not always the case. If a woman asks for divorce without a legitimate reason she will be in hellfire.
So if a man just felt a little down one day and divorced his wife because he didn't love her it's ok? Yes we know a man can divorce without reason but all men would still say that was not a legitimate reason.
Also in that example she was afraid of commiting kufr. Completely different then what you said.
@@shadowstorm5261 Dear just like men can divorce without a legitimate reason and they will be answerable to Allah. Likewise women can take divorce without a legitimate reason but she will be answerable to Allah on the judgement day. There is no Hadith or Quranic Verse prohibiting women from exercising her right. Plus Allah mentions in Quran if you fear that your husbands might not be the person you want to stay with..... Allah used word "fear" which means someone can take in case she is afraid of something.....Not even the actual reason Just in case of fear you have the right. Islam is no the religion what people have made it. Woman is a human being just like man and no one can stay with someone out of love and respect
@@dr.samanamukhtar5346 the prophet ﷺ said that if a woman seeks a divorce from a man with no legitimate reason then she will not smell the fragrance of paradise and that fragrance could be smelled from such and such distance.
@@robthebob4586 Having a second wife is a legitimate reason.
In other words, WOMEN..please study hard..work,..make your own income and do NOT rely on men. It's amazing how men use the excuse of religion to have more women to sleep with when he could've been faithful to one..just because something is halal doesnt mean u HAVE to do it..There are weekly fasting, sunnah prayers, sunnah duaas, sunah practices..do men to them? NO. They cherry pick a sunnah that makes them feel good and use that as a holy pillar. To my dear women, before marrying someone,make them write a prenup that u do not accept a second wife. If he does it anyways, then LEAVE. Don't cry over someone who cannot love you.Remember that a man who cannot be fair mentally and financially (and take advantage of women ) will go TO HELL. Islam values women and your justice WILL BE GIVEN TO U ..
Thank you. I wanted to be a housewife but now I see I shouldn’t rely on anyone
@@mariibabyy Yeah. I don't judge housewives at all. But if u have the will to study and work,please please go for it. Women have contributed significantly in the world and we need more of it
Dont trust the men nowadays!!! They use women I swear...
Well said💯
After what my ex husband did to me, all of this to me he started calling women b****** and nasty words about women! He's got the audacity to blame women after he did this and more, he did more to me SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah. My ex husband married me but he was talking to girls but he still married me, he didn't provide for me then after a year of marriage he went Pakistan and got married to another girl, then he divorced her. After sometime he got a girl pregnant, he told her a big bag of lies about me and this Muslim girl didn't know about me but he was still with me. I found out and got divorced but he was cheating on her with other girls and she was pregnant, moved her out of London so she dont find out about me. SubhanAllaah
Now my husband lied and tricked me into polygamy marriage, I cry and I'm so upset how a man cant lie and trick me into polygamy marriage SubhanAllaah. The other wife dont know about me, he moved her out of London Tooting area to Blackpool in 2019 summer time, so I dont leave him, now he tells me their is no wife "Sakina", I said because you moved her to Blackpool so I cant tell her now and the wife didn't even question him, the mans moved you out of London SubhanAllaah.
I'm warning you sisters please!!!
Be careful sisters, dont trust noone. Most Muslim brothers have other girls and that's how it is nowadays SubhanAllaah. My was husband had me and her then he was talking to other girls for marriage, he didn't tell these girls he was married with children.
He was talking to girls online and his family took him to see other girls at their homes "CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT" you know your son is married with children and your taking him to see other girls for marriage SubhanAllaah.
Alot of guys are married or have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children SubhanAllaah Ya Allah so please be careful, be careful. I cry so much because I love him, unconditional love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband.
Now I'm suffering with mental health issues, emotional abuse too because he was married I got a infection from him too from him having sex with the wife and that's how I found out he was married to another woman SubhanAllaah. The wife still dont know about me Terrible. Warning th-cam.com/video/mkJF6G-I-Cg/w-d-xo.html
These people will never say anything which can hinder a man from having many wives.Even Allah warned men to marry only one if they cant fulfil the conditions which in theory seem easy but in reality are quite hard,but these people will not warn or discourage a man in any manner.
@will d Why are you so concerned, because your desires might be trampled by truth Allah ordained.Seems your ego is in threat.For me,ego doesnt matter,truth and justice matters for any gender.One gender cannot exploit and abuse islam for their lustful desires making woman a sacrificial sheep.It really hurts hypocrites when woman has knowledge and turns the tables on them.
@will d I think you really are the one who is deficient in knowledge,because this hadith has lot of interpretations but not the one you are claiming.Tables must be turned on hypocrites and knowledge must be used to stop oppression which presently you want to do in name of islam.Look at your dumb question-what knowledge do you have?
I think i must ask you-what knowledge do you have other than 4 marraiges and 3 talaq which is the staple knowledge of hypochrites. Do you have any other knowledge other than what you can manipulate for your desires.Looking at your defiance and narcissism, its sure that females in your family are really poor in intelligence and have been serving you like a doormat.Obviously,the beliefs you have regarding woman show how your women are but that limits it to you only.No matter how low you stoop in language-(A muslim protects his tongue and......) a hadith which you might not be aware of,i am not gonna fall to your level.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@asmaaziz6380 Do not argue with a Barking Dog , you will always lose.
@@omarkhan9515 who is the barking dog here,one who is stating the facts or one who is suppressing them?
She can add the condition on her nikah contract about her husband taking permission in order to marry again. Even Fatima rz did not let Ali rz marry another woman during her lifetime. Prophet sw said "Fatima is a part of me. Whoever hurts her hurts me".
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
These Muslim men dont fear Allah swt so they don't care who they hurt, make lots of duaa for what you want! Dont trust Muslim brothers! Do duaa
Dont be a secret wife!!! Yes but nowhere in islam, does it forbid a woman from putting a clause in her marriage contract to not allow her husband to have a second wife.
Quran has forbidden a man to marry again and have only one wife, if he has a shadow of doubt that he wont be able to do justice. Now tell me what justice is quran talking about? To give first and second wife equal material posessions? Because even if the first wife is given all the financial support, house and everything and she still feels pain of betrayal in her heart then that is injustice to her, keeping her uninformed is also injustice. So is this justice according to quran?, to give her posession and not care about the deep hurt in her heart?
On the contrary islam promotes 'the best of you is the one who is best to his wife' so is her heart and feelings inportant in islam or not? Justice is when you bring peace to someone when they have been wronged. If a woman is hurt even after been given everything that means injustice has been done to her heart and as a muslim I am asking all the muslims, does quran promote this type of justice? Is this justice or pseudo justice?
Please share this knowledge with everyone. Because some lustful men, interpret quran to make it convenient for them to follow their own lust. While quran is just with women. We don't have to resort to feminism for our rights...islam has secured them for us, most men hate this because they dont marry rape victims, old women, mothers, divorcee in second marriage like our prophet muhammad but they marry younger than them, white skin, virgins, and call it sunnah of prophet. And say men are allowwed because they have more lust, shamelessly implying that our Prophet Muhammad was a lustful man because he had more wives than whats limited.
If men have lust problems then it cant be solved with second or third or fourth marriage because lust is endless. Men (and women also) please get of your porn addictions, YT channels like NoFap will help you!
Quran has not done injustice to you ladies but its lustful mens perception and twisting of meanings that have brought misunderstanding and pain to you. Anyone who wrongly interprets quran for his/her own vices will secure a permanent place in Allahs Eternal hell!! And they will surely feel the punishment of it in duniya itself through all the difficulties they will face. May Allah Guide Us All.
@@JahannamHellfire generalizing again clown🤡
As a Muslim woman, I do not object to Allah rule and conditions.
Not wanting my husband to have a second wife is only because I want him to myself. I want to be the one he comes home to and he runs to and feels a sense of security and belonging too.
May lord is the all knowing and most merciful
There is no benefits if you follow islam according to your will n desire
@usamasohail3294 It is not haram to want her husband for herself only. This doesn't mean that her husband doesn't have the right to marry others tho. So you can't say that she is following her whims and desires, she didn't say anything haram.
@@AbdulazizKider she did say totally haram... Bcz if Qur'an permit who is she to say no I don't want to follow Qur'an,,
Ask her she will definitely appreciate her husband extra marital affairs which is haram ...but she don't want to appreciate POLYGAMy....such kind of negative thinking she have...
And her husband isn't a cat or animal she wanted to keep with her..
If they both are agree in single marriage then it is ok ..
It is only her opinion.. that's her lust n desire... Who is she to keep her husband with herself... Such kind of negative comments give power to many stupid brainless girls ...who are already weak in following religion,, those girls get false motivation by her cheap comments n will behave like her .
@@letthemsee3841 show me screenshot , or line when I said she is kafir..by my own opinion
Yeah she is kafir according to shaik bin baaz I just copied his fatwa ..
I didn't give my own fatwa okey..
I already said if her husband wants to have second wife she cannot object her husband's right to marry second..
If her husband doesn't want ..its his choice..
And second mostly important thing as her ..
1) her husband wants second wife with maintaining boths right...
Or
2)Her husband wants girlfriend...
What she will prefer option 1 or 2 ??
If she prefer option two clearly she is kaafir bcz she is considering zina is better than nikah ..
Or
If she rejected both option...she thought halaal haraam both are equal according to her ???
Only in accepting option 1 is sign or true Muslim..
And mostly it is sign of good female..
No good female wants her husband to go to hell by keeping girlfriend??
Ask her then decide ..
Ask her
Other thing is why she cannot tolerate second wife ?? Many of Arabs women and many of Muslim women can tolerate second wife if husband is doing justice between them...
So why she spread negativity in internet by saying I will not accept I will not share my husband etc etc..
And stupid do you know divorce is most hatefull thing in islam ??
You prefer divorce is better than living in polygamy with rights of both wives ??
And you say nikah naama show me single verse of Qur'an directly in Qur'an ..
Or in hadees??
Only iman Ahmad fiqah allow wife to put such clause in nikah naama ?? If she is follower of imam hanbal ..
I don't have problem but imaam abu hanifa didn't say such conditions to keep in marriage contract...
And most importantly..
Simple thing is thier ..
If she put such clause in nikah naama what is the use of that ??
If someone wants to marry second,,he will ,, he don't care about contract...
If someone doesn't want second wife ,,no need to put condition in nikah naama...
Why you cannot see simple logic..
Are you 10th fail ??
@@usamasohail3294 Wrong. It is not haram to express your preference. Polygamy is not fard, it is a choice, the same way eating dates is a choice and not fard. The prophet pbuh ate dates, it is sunnah to eat like him, however if someone personally doesn't like dates and expresses his preference for not wanting to eat dates, that is not haram. What is haram is to say eating dates is impermissible, likewise, whats haram is to say polygamy is impermissible because now you are making something halal haram. But there is nothing haram about expressing your preference when it comes to something that is sunnah.
Ladies it is very simple..if you have no problem then stay...if you don't want to wait your turn to spend time with your husband then please leave..yes leave.. most women can now provide for themselves. Please dont stay and be unhappy and resentful . Let him practice this halal lifestyle and you can move on.
My ex husband married me but he was talking to girls but he still married me, he didn't provide for me then after a year of marriage he went Pakistan and got married to another girl, then he divorced her. After sometime he got a girl pregnant, he told her a big bag of lies about me and this Muslim girl didn't know about me but he was still with me. I found out and got divorced but he was cheating on her with other girls and she was pregnant, moved her out of London so she dont find out about me. SubhanAllaah
Now my husband lied and tricked me into polygamy marriage, I cry and I'm so upset how a man cant lie and trick me into polygamy marriage SubhanAllaah. The other wife dont know about me, he moved her out of London Tooting area to Blackpool in 2019 summer time, so I dont leave him, now he tells me their is no wife "Sakina", I said because you moved her to Blackpool so I cant tell her now and the wife didn't even question him, the mans moved you out of London SubhanAllaah.
I'm warning you sisters please!!!
Be careful sisters, dont trust noone. Most Muslim brothers have other girls and that's how it is nowadays SubhanAllaah. My was husband had me and her then he was talking to other girls for marriage, he didn't tell these girls he was married with children.
He was talking to girls online and his family took him to see other girls at their homes "CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT" you know your son is married with children and your taking him to see other girls for marriage SubhanAllaah.
Alot of guys are married or have secret wives and secret girlfriends and secret children SubhanAllaah Ya Allah so please be careful, be careful. I cry so much because I love him, unconditional love Allah swt put in my heart for my husband.
Now I'm suffering with mental health issues, emotional abuse too because he was married I got a infection from him too from him having sex with the wife and that's how I found out he was married to another woman SubhanAllaah. The wife still dont know about me Terrible. Warning th-cam.com/video/mkJF6G-I-Cg/w-d-xo.html
@@JahannamHellfire ya Alllah sister. You have really suffered . I hope that you get help for any issues you are struggling with. There is no shame in that. We have great muslim mental health professionals who you can have sessions with via skype. Time to take care of you my dear sister. May Allah light up your way and reward you for all you have endured Ameen
@@manalmorsi6527 I use my story to warn other sisters because my husband is a cover narcissist and a hypocrite but you wouldn't believe how sweet, kind and charming he is to others you wouldn't believe how fake he is behind closed doors! So sweet and charming to get women in his bed Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah. May Allah swt guide and bless you ameen. They don't want to provide for the wife and children SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah.
@@JahannamHellfire In Shaa Allah sister you are now happy and away from headaches. now you can move on with life and find happiness may Allah reward you in this life and the next.
Yet you cannot divorce a man if he wants to live a halal life, that in turns makes you are hypocrite. Women need to understand that men may want more wives.
WALLAHI, it's so unfair that we have to feel the pain of seeing our husband in someone else's arms. Falling for someone else while we are still here. Even if they treat us equally (which they don't btw) it's so unfair to see him with another woman. If he want to help out the other widow, he can make a charity. He can help her in different ways. But I can't change Allah's rules. He knows better
If my husband ever marry another woman i willl denfinitly leave i wouldn't give the marriage second thought.
@@DowsiyMSahal me too!! Even if he asked for it! If he only asks for it that means he's telling me am not enough straight to my face
@@ramsistube3244 damn right girl, they think we are weak and not able move on or live without them.. I told my husband before we got married I don't want to share him with another woman and if he wants that we shouldn't get marry now . the choice he made is to marry me and not to have second wife so in the years coming if he get married to another women then I am out in his life . No body would change my mind kids or without kids
@@akingturtle its not called "weak imaan" its called having feeling and not wanting to share your husband. nowadays a man will marry more than one because of his lust/sexual desires not bcs he wants to help them.
@@akingturtle how is she selfish. If my husband is with another woman, i'm gonna leave his dumb ass
Honestly, not only getting a second wife, but him asking for it is just hurting so much. How does he feel like to share his wife? That's exactly how we feel. I feel bad for the sister wallahi. I'm not telling her to do this but I would divorce him straight away, the second his asked for a second wife. If I'm not enough, then why marry me in the first place.
You can't get a khula if your reason for divorcing your husband is that he wants a second wife UNLESS you have stipulated it in your nikkah beforehand.
thank you for understanding. the men are always trying to get mad at us for being jealous but we have feelings too and we have the right to feel a way. We are the one who have to be the second wife not them
how does it feel to be a son to a mother, son to a father, a brother to a simblings?
Is not that share as well?
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@bloxyedits I will 100000% be writing it in my nikkah
and now i don’t want to get married. problem solved 💕
Same sis💗💗
@@imanfatima7862 maybe you girls want to fall into haram
@@karimtemri1664 lol nah bro, these girl are just gonna be cat ladies 😜
@@karimtemri1664 not marrying doesn't make you a sinner
@@imanfatima7862 true but its the sunnah
I'm sorry but this wasn't very comforting.
What's he supposed to say tho? Her husband wants something halal and she's upset about it. The only one who can give her comfort is Allah and her Husband.
@@kingkatiin2658 ok, so as a woman, who doesn't have an issue with polygyny, there are many factors as to why a woman wouldn't be ok with it. Maybe her husband is failing in some aspect in their own marriage and the thought of him getting another wife is disheartening. Maybe she spent her whole youth building her husband into the man he is today and he's going to be offering this man to another woman when she had to deal with all his flaws for so long. That's disheartening as well. Maybe he doesn't support her when it comes to other things outside of financial or maybe even financial within reasonable means. Just because something is "HALAL" doesn't mean that it's comforting. Yes, as believers, we have to accept what Allah and his messenger have said, but as humans, there can still be feelings that you aren't 100% comfortable with something because of your own human flaws, not because Authoo billah from this but you felt Allah said something wrong. Being told that as a woman, maybe you aren't good enough in the bedroom is not a comfort. As women, we are constantly beating ourselves up about everything, our looks, our performance, our ability our shortcomings and to have it smashed in our faces constantly by men is hurtful and adds to the argument of the west. What about men? They fail to.look.their best for us women. They fail to perform well in the bedroom many times, leaving us to wonder if this is really how sexual intimacy should be? They fail to perform well when it comes to our treatment. They fail to recognize their shortcomings and to up and decide to.marry again is hurtful. So there are other things that need to be addressed here. We all KNOW it's halal. That's not the issue. The issues can be manifold. Why not offer her words if true comfort instead if making her feel worse?
@@TheBlackHijabi91 Well the man you were describing doesn't sound too good of a man. And definitely not someone I would marry my daughter to first off. And to be fair the lady didn't specify why she didn't want her husband getting a second wife. The Prophet PBUH wasn't always rich, there were times where he couldn't afford food and his wives were all nagging him and he almost had to divorce them. And he had to divorce one of his wives because she was too Jealous and even Aisha RA was a very jealous women even tho she was young. So jealousy and it not feeling right is a part of being human.
If the situation is as bad as you make it seem then have a heart to heart talk with him and if that doesn't help divorce is halal for a reason.
@@TheBlackHijabi91 Don't get too attached to this dunya, if someone over you is being oppressive or isn't giving you your right InShaAllah you'll get rewarded for your patience by Allah SWT
@@TheBlackHijabi91
Salam Aalaykum~
I understand what you mean by the discomfort but what you have described for a man, isnt a man of sunnah.
‘Ikramah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Verily, I love to beautify myself for my wife, just as I love for her to beautify herself for me, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: They have rights similar to those over them.” (2:228)
Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá 14264
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ahmad Shakir
Ibn Qudamah said, “Sexual intercourse with one’s wife is an obligation upon the husband as long as he does not have an excuse… It is recommended for him to play with his wife before intercourse, to arouse her desire so she gets enjoyment out of intercourse as he does.”
Source: al-Mughnī 7/300-304
The 2 hadith above shows that Muslim men should also beautify themselves for their wives, and that they should even work towards making the wife feel good during sexual intimacy. There are even times where Muslim women asked Prophet Muhammad SAW that their husbands werent having sex with them and the women wanted divorce and the Prophet SAW allowed it. The wife's needs are just as important as the husband and if youre unsatisfied with how your husband treats you then its time you talked with each other.
"And if you have reason to fear that you might not act equitably towards orphans, then marry from among [other] women such as are lawful to you - [even] two, or three, or four: but if you have reason to fear that you might not be able to treat them with equal fairness, then [only] one - or [from among] those whom you rightfully posses. This will make it more likely that you will not deviate from the right course." (Surah an Nisaa - Women, 4:3)
Allah states in the verse above that if a Muslim man can not treat his wives equally, then for him is allowed only one wife. If a Muslim man cant even proper rights to one wife, how is he going to even get a second wife? If he gives rights to his second wife and not to his first. He is committing a sin.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever has two wives and favours one of them over the other, will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides leaning.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1141), Abu Dawood (2133), al-Nasaa’i (3942) and Ibn Majaah (1969). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb (no. 1949).
Allah is all wise and just. Allah does not make this deen difficult on anyone. So never think for a moment that Allah favors men over women. It is people who have set high standards for women when it comes to becoming wives. If you find in your husband something that bothers you. Then you definitely have the right to talk to him about it. Of course be patient with him but Allah gave you rights, and your husband has to abide by them~
A wise Man said " If you dont love peace and tranquility and a sense of calmness then get a second wife"
I don't understand
@@amerahhamdi5232 thank you
@@amerahhamdi5232 but it still doesn't change the fact that men will do us wrong. Since its a test, we will take it to get rewarded inshallah (but don't ask about the pain) But what I don't get is that when men go to jannah, they get to have two wives and I'm like I just don't get it! I just don't! When allah (sw) creates a man, why isn't one woman good enough for him. Like why two wives? You can't love to people at the same time! But when I say this, I fear I'm going against allah but still it's what i feel. You don't know how much I get irritated, angry and a feeling to cry I get when I talk about this. Anyway there's nothing I can do about it so.... yeah.
@@ramsistube3244 Saying things like " I'll be happy to see you go to Jahannam 😊" shows me what's really inside your heart, Hatred, and Anger.
@@omarkhan9515 I have hatred for husbands doing their wives wrong. If you do a woman wrong and she suffered through duniya and when the here after comes you get punished for what you did? Why wouldn't I be greatfull about it if it's what you deserve! You've given what you deserve. Look, still you're level of maturity isn't as equal to your age so please don't talk to me and don't reply to this!
There are more hadiths, i'd like to hear more of them. Also, its not right to be negligent of the first wife's feelings and opress her. Multiple marriages should be something discussed before marriage. Not all women would agree to marry a man under that condition.
I see from the looks of your picture,if that's you, you're negligent first and foremost,to yourself. Also you're oppressing your self by exposing your self to the world the way you do. "We oppress them not,but they oppress them selves" Sura Gaafir.
will d would you like if your wife had another husband?
People change
Women can tell the man in the nikah contract that he cannot marry any other women without her permission.
@@hasibabdullah3463 it is haram in Islam but sharing husband is not
Where is the comfort in saying "hey, others cheat too, but this cheating is legal so that's good" it still breaks a heart that was supposed to be protected by the husband!
Halal side chicks
Allah Orders men to be just to their wife and be kind to them, and by a husband taking another woman and the wife hurting, this is not kindness, this is suffering. And this is a sin. Please, I urge every woman to be educated in the quran so she knows her right and her worth.
Gaslighting and manipulating women into polygamy marriages
Narcissist do such things and destroying the frist wife and children! Narcissist
@Mona lisa's smile you are not a Muslim, stay out of this conversation
A women cannot stop him from marrying another but she has the right to divorce. If you cannot except it then leave. Personally i would. And women plz dont feel obligated to stay just bcz its halal doesnt mean u have to accept it. And men while its halal think about the pros and cons and if you are able to fufill ur duty. Allah warned you to stick to one bcz he knows most cannot fufill their duty and this may lead u down a path of sins. Allah Knows best and may he bless us with the best.
you know i read all these comments and i understood nothings
but your comment is the only one that i understand and think is true thank you!
Yep that is true. You as a man are committing in a very big thing as a second marriage. And you cant do that without communicating with the first wife in details as why you want to marry again. And if the woman doesn't want to you just cant or if you go your way expect a divorce. Personally im a male but if i was a woman i would divorce him in a second no matter what
You do not have the right to get divorced with the reason being that your husband wants to marry a second wife. Educate yourself on divorce, if you leave him without a valid reason - you are still his wife and you will be until he divorces you. Fear Allah.
@@irfanupwork8851 yes she can take divorce if a woman doesn't like her husband anymore and she is not feeling for him any more. How could someone stay without love and respect with someone. When a woman came to Prophet (PBUH) that my husband loves and he is very righteous but I don't want to live with him because I don't like him and can't fulfil marriage obligations. Prophet (PBUH) asked her to give dowry back whatever she received from her husband and ordered the husband to let her go. In Quran there is clearly mention in the verse that you can't keep any woman by force. Increase your knowledge of Islam. Women has this God given right and no one can take it away from her. And there is a reason behind it because she doesn't love him anymore. You can't force someone to love you. What Hadith are you referring I know where are you coming from but Hadith didn't mention she can't get divorce for whatever reason. It's only for the woman to tell them even though you have this God given right but if you are happy with your husband then think over it. And if you take divorce without any reason then Allah will ask you but In this world divorce will be established. Same Is for men that don't give divorce without any reason if you do then Allah will ask husband too Period !!
Encouraging breaking of marriages. Trying to poison minds of other women
Why is it that women have to accept a man for his flaws but if we lack anything a man can go and marry a second wife to fulfill what it is his wife lacks! that’s not fair and times have changed . What if your husband is infertile and we ( women ) want kids why can’t we leave him and marry another man just like a man does to us. And in this generation that we live in today women have rights and can provide for themselves without a man.
Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
@@JahannamHellfire Ok tell me how is a women be able to handle for men. Physically sexually and emotionally. How can she do all that tell me. She is on her period so she can’t have sex with for a week. Men are polygamous by nature.
@@umar9174 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
@@JahannamHellfire salty and whining all the time ur filled with being toxic towards all men. Ur not getting married and i hope u don’t ur gonna ruin the man life by always accusing him of something.🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@umar9174 You hypocrites and narcissist!
He basically told her that shes lacking and her husband can cheat in a halal way. How is thay comforting? This is why we need female scholars and speakers. Men cant seem to empathise
She asked for comfort and not a lecture about the weaknesses of men. What a insensitive man.
21 Tips To Help Erase Sins - Prophet Muhammed SAW
1) Repenting(can erase any type of sin)
2) Performing Prayer(only minor sins)
3) Performing Wudhu (ablution)(only minor sins)
4) Attending the Jumu ah Salah (Friday Prayer)(only minor sins)
5) Waiting for Prayer(only minor sins)
6) Doing good deeds(only minor sins)
7) Performing Umrah and Hajj(only minor sins)
8) Saying ‘Ameen’ after the Imam(only minor sins)
9) Calling out Adhaan(only minor sins)
10) Walking to the Prayer Place(only minor sins)
11) Giving charity(only minor sins)
12) Asking forgiveness from others on wronging them(any sin as long as it is something in wronging others, not about your personal sins with Allah(سبحانه و تعالى))
13) Reciting Salawaat (Blessings) on Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.S)(only minor sins)
14) Being kind to animals(only minor sins)
15) Praising Allah after Eating Food(only minor sins)
16) Removing Obstacles from the Road or Way(only minor sins)
17) Hide Other’s faults and sins(only minor sins)
18) Observing Patience during Hard Times(only minor sins)
19) Making some dhikr(only minor sins)
20) Saying ‘Subhan-Allah’ 100 times(only minor sins)
21) The best duaa for seeking forgiveness is to say :
“Allahuma Anta Rabbi, la ilaha illa Anta, khalaqtani wa ana ‘abduka, wa ana ‘ala ‘ahdika wa wa dika mastata tu, a udhu bika min sharri ma sana tu, abu u laka bini matika ‘alayya, wa abu u laka bidhanbi faghfir li, fa innahu la yaghfirudh-dhunuba illa Anta.”
(O Allah! You are my Lord. There is no god except You. You have created, I am Your slave, I hold to Your Covenant as far as I can. I seek refuge in You from the evil of what I have done. I acknowledge the favours that You have bestowed upon me and I confess my sins. Pardon me, for none but You has the power to pardon)(all sins can be erased if this dua used with the conditions of repentence there are 5:
1-Repentence is for Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) sincerly
2-Regreting your sin
3-Intending never to do it again
4-Stop doing it
5-Asking Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) for forgiveness, and there are many ways but the best one is mentioned above
Well i think everyone forgot one thing which is EQUALITY. what if the husband CANNOT show any equality between them. Is islam with being UNFAIR? Lies? i think not. My mother stood with my father throughout her years, she sold her gold to pay for his postgraduate studies .. until he married ..my mom was hurt but she is peaceful and invited her over several times to eat by us, her young daughter was kept by us for her to go to her work and slowly after years she had my father doing WHATEVER she wants and started to buy multiple houses for his second wife without my mother even knowing..my mtoher lives few meters away from his second wife which is living in a HUGE modern house with a maid and a driver while my mother is older, living in a broken old small house alone (as my father stays most of his time with his second wife reasoning this as he has meetings there while his second house does not have a huge meeting room).. we keep this a secret from my mother so she won't get hurt as she always defends my father.. is this also OKAY in your eyes? did our prophet not order men to behave well with women, treat them well, be kind before he dies sallalahu alaih wasalam.. i think if you breach men about HOW important it is to behave well and treat their wives right is better than justifying multiple marriages without explaining their responsibility they have on their shoulder when doing so!! we are in constant hurt from my fathers behaviors and injustice towards my mother.. hasbona allah wa nim al wakeel
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Sister that’s completely against the religion ! He is breaking the Islamic rules of having 2 wives and sharing wealth . Your mother can get a divorce , please convince her to take him for everything he’s worth ! Disgusting sinner
This is the reason why I hate polygamy marriages now, too much injustice in polygamy!
Ur father doesn't deserve your mother at all. I wish she got someone better who's worthy of her
@@amira9381 dumb comment. Encouraging divorce?
I see a lot of negative comments from my fellow muslim sisters which is against the sunnah of our beloved Nabi saw
Another time islam must stay in moderno time
Oh come on. The negative comments are facts and reminder for the women to be carful. So many man takes many only out of list and are unfair and destroy lives.
Wow now he’s victim blaming the wife.
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@JahannamHellfire agreed
@@samsamiii509 Saying "Men are Polygamous by Nature" is against Islam..?
Why do almost all Scholars claim that men are polygamous by nature with no Islamic claim? This makes men think it's okay to open doors and feel for multiple women, when in the west, where everyone is treated "equally" women are equally polygamous, cheating on their husbands, for "fun" not for "love or emotional" reasons as many put it.
This means that both sexes are vulnerable in the same way.
I think the society allows men to behave this way or think this way, because it's a male dominated world, and they supressed women since the beginning of time, when in the end, both men and women are the same, committing the same sins. However, the world makes it okay for men to be this way, claiming its their nature. Ever wonder why Muslim parents will abandon their daughters forever if they caught them speaking to a guy but will not do anything if their son goes out and sleeps around with women? Why is that? In the Shariah, both is a sin, both are haram!
True women may be of more fitnah towards men, because women have more awrah to cover, yet they fail to, but most men are naturally in hijab, hence the reason for lesser fitnah for women.
The Polygamy allowed also speaks about helping widows or orphans, anyone who can clearly study the Quran can understand that. The Sahabah and Prophets mostly married older women who had children from other men who had died. If men want to follow the example of the Prophet, they should follow it in the way he practiced it. Wars were common, many women were left without homes or men to take care of them. Had Allah disapproved, we would suffer social issues.
There are many many many men who are happy with one wife, who dare not think about other women. Even having a thought of a non-mahram while married is a huge sin, how can one approach the thought of Polygamy knowing this is wrong? We see here the clear reasons for Polygamy. Some claim their wife is too fat or too old so they want to get another wife? It's because women are too busy with children they don't have time to even think of getting another man. Though the arab world makes it look like women have no physical desires or feelings.
The fact that society has suppressed this, is proof why they claim "Men are Polygamous by nature" I would like to see any type of proof from Islam that this is true? Men were more free to do whatever they pleased, this is the real reason, before Islam and after Islam. It's not a religious view, its a social view.
We Muslims are taught to follow the Quran and refer to sunnah and hadeeth, if men want to remarry, then why dont they read the verse on polygamy and refer to the sunnah and hadeeth? There are clear hadeeths that our Prophet pbuh the sahabah remarried older women to help them and be noble men for the sake of allah subhanwaltala, not for sexual reasons as Scholars put it these days.
Also when Hazrat Ali wanted to take a second wife for the reasons I put above, it made Hzt Fatima upset and Prophet pbuh forbade Hazrat Ali remarrying a second wife.
So if anyone can show a claim from ISLAM that men are polygamous, I would like to see. Please don't bring sciencists' claims into this, because even they claim things that go against Islam.
Yes it is right what he did. Women are just so feministic today and whining
@Rasmalai So if a man does polygamy he is lustfull🤣🤣🤣🤣 u women are just looking to destroy this ruling in Islam which guess what it will never work.
As a few others, I didn’t find the words in this video comforting or educational or fair. This is a tricky situation to be begin with, however saying things like, better he not commit adultery but actually re-marry seems to show a lack of understanding of the woman’s emotional concerns (while paying attention to the man’s).
Exactly sis. Barakallahu feeki. See this is why we need more women scholars and more serious study around women's issues for the male scholars. Allah SWT is The Compassionate and does not just leave His female slaves out to be depressed as this video clearly does. The sister asked for comfort but was given almost a reprimand! Allah help us and guide us.
@@shoxkay you guys should drop that belief anyways because what God would make such a thing legal and not care about the women he created? I'll tell you what God a man pleasing God that don't care about the women's feelings but only men feelings. But the God I serve doesn't allow men to marry multiple women. Also the God I serve says Love your wife and submit to her as she submit to you and both become one flesh spiritually. The God you guys serve is only for men's pleasure. My God is Jesus Christ and he said these things because he know that women only wants to be their mans' only partner he comes home to. If you muslim women would see that Jesus is more than just a prophet he is our lord and savior you guys wouldn't have to deal with men that that feels like you aren't enough. All women deserve to have their own husband. You women are not our play toys or play mates. Y'all have feeling too and the true Christ followers understands we only can be with one women. Doesn't matter how sexually active us men are we can not be with another women to compensate for our strong sexual desires. We have to control ourself and be holy like our heavenly father is holy.
Im sure the emotional concerns are devastating. However adultery is the greatest of the sins. So it makes sense to marry another to avoid that. It is simply allowed by Allah as a halal means
so trueeee i don't have words its not comforting its hurtful even more ....
@@umnasaif8875 It is okay to feel this way sister. The mother of the believers, the wives of the prophet ﷺ also felt this way. As long as you maintain patience and have tawakkul in Allah's words, it will be good for you
He should have told her before he married her!
They lie and trick women into polygamy marriages!
No... that is not from the sunna
@Rasmalai Not all dumb
@@JahannamHellfire I don’t know where u live but acting like all of the men do this. Please go see a doctor.
@@karimtemri1664 no? Your saying he shouldn’t have told her? Divorce is frowned upon in Islam it’s best to prevent it don’t force a women in a relationship she doesn’t want to be in.
Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
وأحب له أن يقتصر على واحدة وإن أبيح له أكثر لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً
I prefer a man to limit himself to one wife, even though it is permissible for him to marry more, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: If you fear you will not be just, then only one. (4:3)
Source: al-Bayān fi madhhab al-Imām al-Shāfiʻī 11/189
Ibn Qudamah writes:
والأوْلَى أن لا يَزِيدَ على امرأةٍ واحِدَةٍ ذَكَرَه في المُجَرَّدِ لقولِ اللهِ تعالى فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً ولِقَولِه سُبحانه وَلَنْ تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَنْ تَعْدِلُوا بَينَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ
The preference is to not marry more than one wife, as mentioned in Al-Mujarrad, due to the saying of Allah Almighty: If you fear you will not be just, then only one. (4:3) And due to His saying: You will never be able to be just between your wives, even if it is your ardent desire. (4:129)
Source: al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr 20/24
Ibn Khatib said:
جُمْهُورُ الْأَصْحَابِ اسْتَحَبُّوا أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ
The majority of our scholars recommend not marrying more than one wife.
Source: al-Inṣāf 8/16
Al-Buhuti writes:
وَ يُسْتَحَبُّ أَنْ لَا يَزِيدَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ إنْ حَصَلَ بِهَا الْإِعْفَافُ لِمَا فِيهِ مِنْ التَّعَرُّضِ لِلْمُحَرَّمِ
It is recommended not to marry more than one wife if he can maintain chastity with her, as it might expose him to what is forbidden.
Source: Kashshāf al-Qinā’ 5/9
Al-Mawardi writes:
وَاسْتَحَبَّ الشَّافِعِيُّ أَنْ يَقْتَصِرَ عَلَى وَاحِدَةٍ وَإِنْ أُبِيحَ لَهُ أَكْثَرُ لِيَأْمَنَ الْجَوْرَ بِالْمَيْلِ إِلَى بَعْضِهِنَّ أَوْ بِالْعَجْزِ عَنْ نَفَقَاتِهِنَّ
Al-Shafi’i recommended that a man limit himself to one wife, even though it is permissible for him to marry more, in order to protect himself from wronging them by inclining more to some of them or being unable to spend equally upon them.
Source: al-Ḥāwī al-Kabīr 11/417
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
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Well women by nature feel jealous sharing their man with other women
@@elegancepublicschool8191 i don't have a problem with jealousy. even the wives of the prophet were jealous, like Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her). But I don't know if you have read the other comments, but there are women in this comment section who hate this law (marrying 2,3 or 4 women) and are trying to misuse it, like saying it is only allowed when your first wife gives permission or when you cant get a child with the first wife. they say that these are the only reason polygamy is allowed. this pure batil and nonsense. Also you said "Tell me if polyandry was allowed ... wouldn't you be jealous too?" First of all, what do you mean with "if polyandry was allowed? in Islam this is prohibited and it will never be allowed. even if it is allowed in a western country, as a muslim you can't practice it, because it goes against your religion. so this doesn't make any sense what you are saying. Also it doesn't make any sense for a woman to have 4 husbands. what is the point of this? it is not in the nature of women to have more than 1 husbands. also how do you know who the father of the child is when she is pregnant? are you going to do a DNA test everytime? Also don't compare men and women in this matter. men are more aggressive in nature, so if there was polyandry, there would be without any doubt physical fighting and this is because of testosterone. But the max that can reach with women is jealousy. 99% of the women are only jealous if they are in a polygamous marriage. and as I said earlier, jealousy is natural
@@ibnnader8373 there I edited it and you're right I should've never said it in the first place
I mean if someone doesn't like polygyny then they shouldn't follow it instead of objecting what Allah has made halal...
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@@ibnnader8373 dont get married son of a bitch
nah it's instant divorce. better alone than disrespected like that
how is it disrespectful?
@Touhami For me yes
@Touhami so non muslims can't have opinions on islam? It's like saying not to say anything about rules of your country that don't concern you, of sports that you don't practice and so on lol
Plus my parents are muslims and they will never allow me to marry a non muslim, so I guess it kinda concerns me
@Touhami prophet didn’t marry for his lust ! But he married widow and divorce to support them and take responsibility! Understood ! His only virgin wife was Aisha , that marriage was also Allahs decision not his own.
Ik this sounds so messed up but seeing this kind of unfair stuff on muslim women and just the general mindset of muslim cultures makes me very doubtful of islam.. my faith is getting weaker everyday
This is not unfair.
Think about it. Judaism, Christianity. And islam all belive in polygamy. Not only that islam gives actual rights. Its not like women can be used. If you read the prophecies, the prophet muhhamed gave so many prophecies that came true. So islam is true.
then go study your religion. that's why you have weak Iman. you know nothing
this is clearly unfair .. no one in this world can bear the pain of heart break no one likes to share their love .but men these day theu are misusing Islam and hurting their wives
Thats okay, islam will be fine with or without you
One heart can not keep two women.
@Somo Tales Yes they can.
Yes they can
No they cant! You can only love one person!
@@7887abdullah why you lying no religion actually accepts it except Islam because It’s whicked and sure I have two husbands and we are happy 💕
@@JahannamHellfire so we can have only 1 child?
Our prophet did married many women, but for your kind information, he didn't did it for lust. Most of the wives of prophet Muhammed (peace and blessing be upon him) after khadija (first wife) were either widows or divorcee.
And if a man wants to marry a second women out of lust, his just will never end if he will marry 1000 women, because lust is endless.
And nowadays marry virgin and younger women in the name of sunnah. 😂
100%❤️💚💜
man has right to merry four wives
merrying more women is sunnah not so called onr in the name of sunnah
Dont make things very complicated.
1. First sometimes multiple marriage is necessity. All women does not feel about it.
2. It is just permissible not sunnah
3. At the time of marriage you can give condition he should not do another marriage. If he does you can break marriage contract.
4. If you feel really bad to stick in a marriage that you feel you cannot fulfil the responsibility. You can break the contract....so relax...
"It is just permissible not sunnah."
Hahaha. Way to go with your zero study of Islamic History. At least know something about Muhammad (ﷺ) himself before saying stuff out of ignorance.
@@saifmustafa665 I am not standing 1 step before becoming KAFIR like some people,
If for 97 men 100 women(USA) are there then only 2-3% people can do another marriage. What kind of sunnah only 2% people can do. Sunnah is for whole Ummah.
Some people waiting to be Kafir, Idiot and no knowledge of sunnah and world can only talk like this.
If just 10 % men do multiple marriages it will break the system
the most painful thing to a wife/mother is for a man to cheat or to do this
But it isn’t cheating? I’m sure there’s far more painful things btw (death, loss of income, dried up relationship/divorce, etc).
There Is adultery and there Is what Allah made halal for us. They are completely different.
@@shadowstorm5261 you just want variety of sex kindly stfu
@@redman6790 it isn't cheating but it falls in the same category, when a husband comes to his first wife and tells her he wants to marry again he is blatantly saying that he doesn't feel for her anymore both sexually and emotionally, why else would he want a second wife? (i'm talking in context with todays time mostly men do it for this reason and not to help a widow) and it is EXTREMELY PAINFUL for the first women. As a man YOU don't get to decide whats " more painful" , losing the love of your life with whom you vowed to spend the rest of your life with is far more painful than whatever shitty examples you gave of income and shit.
@@barirahusmani9522 no it can be purely physical. I can be madly in love with a woman but if she has no sexual appetite I would want to marry another so I can fulfill my desires. There is nothing honorable in being celibate or suppressing your desire if you have a halal option
Whoever don't agree with polygamy can freely choose a different religion noones forcing anyone to stay in the religion you're either guided or misguided
This is why you should educate your women so that if something like this happens to them they can opt for divorce and pray to Allah to bless her with another husband for whom she will be enough. Rather than the woman wanting to or uncontrollably commit some form of kufr such as getting attracted to some other man, having an affair to be satisfied herself, despising him, lashing out and killing him oor the second wife or their children or her children or committing suicide or loosing Iman or getting struck with paralysis because of the shock. Also, kindly have it written in the marriage contract before signing it that the woman has the right to take up divorce (khula) in case the husband wants to or takes a second wife for whatever reason or reasons and that he needs your permission, if you say no he has to oblige. Whatever you put in the marriage contract will become valid and legal.
Allah has made women with need for loyalty from her husband, and Allah will not put her in hellfire for parting ways for the sake of her (and others around her) wellbeing, sanity and wanting to look for the kind of love she wants to have. Dis Allah say that she needs to stay married to that man under any circumstance? Did Allah say that a woman has no desires of her? Did Allah say any where that a man's desires Trump a woman's desire? Dis Allah say that a woman should have sabr and treat it as her fate and not do anything about it? Didn't Allah give the women the right to part ways from the man for WHATEVER REASON OR REASONS. This is enough for me to know that Allah does no injustice and HE will never ask a woman to live a life of a dead woman, depressed, sick and unhappy. Did Allah say that a woman has to live with a husband even if she's unhappy? She can be unhappy for whatever reason or reasons. Don't tell women what to do. Let them do what they want. If they want to stay,let them, if they want to leave and fine some other man to marry let them, that is besides the point if she succeeds or not, at least she stands a chance. Stop blackmailing woman into staying just because there are men want to fulfill their desires by marrying more. Has Allah said anywhere that a woman should have no desires?
kufr isnt any of what you said..
You cannot divorce someone just based on them wanting another wife
@@guilhermefernandes6067 actually she can ask for it or get a khulaa based on that if she cant put up with it :)
@@potato0269 No she can't as the man marrying another wife is halal and there are no laws to supersede that. For a divorce there has to be a legitimate reason, being jealous or bitter unfortunately isnt a valid reason.
You may choose to leave but remember Islam wouldn't accept that divorce.
@@guilhermefernandes6067 I dont remember saying its not halal, and she can ask for divorce or get khula if it affects her mental health then she has every right to leave, whats the point in staying with a person who u no longer love.mental health is a legitimate reason. But a woman who has a problem with it should stipulate that he cant in their marriage contract and then he cant or it annuls the marriage
Alhumdullilah! What can be WHAT CAN BE more sacrificial then Prophet Ibrahim AS without any complaint or crying or without getting emotional (in a questioning manner) before Lord of this entire unverse "Allah Almighty". He was ready to sacrifice ( slaughter ) his beloved son. Oh! Allah make me love you more than anything and to follow the deen of Ibrahim. As he AS was not among mushrikeen.
Polygamy is adultery
The only sunnah that most muslim men want to follow to the word, even when they can't provide for the first one and her kids
ima just give an insight from my perspective if anyone finds it beneficial or not.
in my opinion a man should be allowed to have more than one wife if
1) he is able to stay just
2) if the wife he already has is okay with it
3)if he could handle a second wife in the first place
im not trying to insult anyone here, what im trying to say is be careful because having a second wife means the man needs to be even more responsible.
personally i would say that most men in the modern day are unable to handle more than one wife, and this is coming from a guy.
but hey what do i know im just a 16 year old
even if shes not ok with it, Islamically he can still go ahead and marry another woman, a woman whos not ok with it should just stipulate it in her marriage contract and the man has to abide by it or it annuls the marriage
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@JahannamHellfire i never said that a woman has no right to object to her husband marrying a second wife, i do support the fact that the wife can object to her husband marrying a second wife. And plus i didnt talk about it in the sense its a sunnah i was talking about it in a case where the husband is a proper practicing muslim who is doing his basic fard and basic sunnah such as fasting in monday and thursday and the 2 rakat before fajr.
And i do agree with you we shouldnt change the religion to suit our needs, infact we should focus on trying to follow the religion wether its with us or against us.
@@leomata7096 Sorry I'm just saying
@@JahannamHellfire it's okay just next time please dont lump an entire gender together
Multiple marriages, u may say it halal, but you don't know insecurity and tension it creates for the first wife. You are not understanding in the women point of view. It also a way for man to oppress their wives emotionally. For an example if there is any disagreement between 1st wife and husband, the husband will run away to another women for emotional dependence. Multiple marriages also create atmosphere of envy and jealousy between wives, also divorcing the person is not easy. like how alcohol was banned in Islam, polygamy for men should be banned.
Dude or sis whatever, you think you are still Muslim? 😂
exactly this is so basic men know everything but they act dumb in this matter bcz they are selfish and lustful they want to use Islam for their own benefit only they don't care about the rights of their wives
He is saying that it is better to marry than committing zina. It is halal to have multiple wives,the sheikhs words are not confused. My mother will be a second wife,when then man asked her for marriage she was reluctant because of the first wife she doesn't want any hard feelings for her or her children. She wants only happiness for everyone. Even though the man doesn't have to ask permission to take another wife she made him tell his first wife about them. This is the sincerest example that I can give you. My mother has suffered from my fathers past treatment and she knows the heart of a women.
I couldn't hurt a women by marrying her husband! No way.
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@@JahannamHellfire
zina rather second? One brush
@@bismillah9517 women aren't sex toys mate! You're mothers sisters and daughters into polygamy marriages for halal sexy fun!
Just be straight, tell the women that u don't have a say in that matter....
Hypersexually is not a male problem. Women can can be hypersexual too(nymphomania). So, If sexual gratification is the cause of 2nd,3rd or even 4th marriage for a man then what about the women whose husbands can't fulfill their desires .(I don't support polygamy for women though)
It's Narcissist men who do polygamy
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 but it's halal, isn't it?
what? you want that woman to commit adultery and kufr? stupid question.
delete the comment. it's not beneficial to anyone
Thank you Sheikh. Some people may not like it but Allah is the Only One. And His law is above everything.
exactly akhi 💪
easy for men to say lol- you'll are full of lust and nothing else
The 4th alternative is to learn what love really is and how to love by staying married to the first and only wife. She is given to you from God so that you become a better person, work on your flaws, be patient, be loyal, pray to God to give you strenght, and not be egoistic. How will you achieve these chasing your always changing desires?
To the lady who asked the question: unfortunately you married a man who is at the moment immature and egoistic. Be yourself, you are beautiful, important and you are enough for him, he is lucky to have you. He need to learn from own mistakes. Try to reason with him. Do not aree on something that brings you down. We are all here in this world to learn how to love.
Reading the comments really is painful (intellectually).
If you’re a Muslim woman and you attribute negative to what your god made permissible (halal) you’re doubtful.
In Islam, it’s perfectly fine to marry up to 4 women IF you can adequately provide for all of them mentally and financially as a man.
noones saying its not fine if its practised correctly.Women just feel hurt by it and dont wanna share their man, theres jealousy which is understandable, a woman can stipulate that he not marry any other woman in her marriage contract and he has to abide by that or it annuls the marriage
@@potato0269 it doesn't annul it the second he does it.
even if he does it it is not annuled.
If he does it the wife has the right to divorce from this point. or she may let it go and continue the marriage
@@shadowstorm5261 it does annul according to islam qa the scholars say this but also assim al hakeem has said she may choose to stay with him if shes okay with it however the marriage was agreed upon WITH that condition so it is rather tricky
@@potato0269 this is from islamqa. They say it doesnt annul it straight away, but she has the right. like I said before.
Firstly:
If the wife stipulates that her husband should not take another wife, this is a valid condition and he must adhere to it; if he does take another wife, she has the right to annul the marriage contract.
That is because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (2721) and Muslim (1418), that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The conditions that are most deserving to be fulfilled are those by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.”
And because he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions, except a condition that makes something permissible forbidden or makes something forbidden permissible.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352) and Abu Dawood (3594). It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
@@potato0269 it does not apply automatically. they are given the right to annul once the condition has been broken.
This islamqa question was:
If she stipulated that he should not take another wife, does he have to adhere to that?
No woman likes to another woman bed with her husband but in west men cheated wife than they go for Devorse💔 🙄🥺
Even biwi Hajra didn't liked it , Ammi Ayesha siddiqua didn't liked it ! That doesn't meant it is not beneficial to women !
there is a difference between marrying again and cheating. also why bring up the west? they aren't any better
When polygamy is done right it is a beautiful thing of course if she agrees. There are women out there who don’t mind. The man is taking care of women. Salty women always say men don’t marry women who are widowed and who fell in haram but repented and etc. That is why we need polygamy WHEN DONE RIGHT.
very few women dont mind lol
@@potato0269 ur wrong in the ease their are a lot.
@@umar9174 nope, ahah
@@potato0269 ur wrong u live in the west it is so obvious.
@@umar9174 i live in the west but I've been to the east and noone ik of has more than one wife lol
OMG!! The comment box is almost filled with extreme feminists as i was concerned. May Allah guide us our Muslim Brothers & Sisters and also help brothers to treat equally their multiple wives.
Likely monafiqin
@@karimtemri1664 how can you tell them munafiqeens if Allah subhanuta'ala permitted men to do so.
@@gonivai207 im saying these extreme feminists are monafiqin
@@karimtemri1664 oh i am sorry about the misunderstanding.
Shutup y’all don’t need a second wife. Men and women are 50/50 in population.Yall don’t even care about sunnnah. Just for ur desires. I really hope ur not married becuz ill feel bad for ur wife.
Cause he is a narcissist and greedy
Indeed. They gaslighting and manipulating women into polygamy marriages nowadays...
Ladies just stipulate in your marriage contract that your husband can’t take another wife, that’s it . It is totally allowed in Islam. And always demand higher mehar and make sure you fully collect the amount.
@Touhami stipulate a condition doesn’t make something haram that is halal ! I know that, it’s just not doing it or staying away from it.
If your doctor tell you can’t consume sugar because it may harm doesn’t make sugar haram, you just have to avoid it. And by the way you also can’t change if anything allowed by Islam not anyone.
If the wife stipulates that her husband should not take another wife, this is a valid condition and he must adhere to it, That is because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (2721) and Muslim (1418), that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The conditions that are most deserving to be fulfilled are those by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.”
And because he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The Muslims are bound by their conditions,
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1352) and Abu Dawood (3594). It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
This condition does not make something permissible forbidden; rather it restricts the man’s power and gives the wife the right to annul the marriage. Such conditions were made at the time of the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them).
@Touhami you r a nonsense! And also arrogant , jealous!
@Touhami just admit you're wrong.
@Touhami yes they can but a woman can also do that. Even if they do put that condition in a man must ask his wife for a second wife. Or divorce and marry another.
As time keeps moving forward the stipulation will not exist. Probably in the next few years. Because men will decrease more in number meaning that they will have more partners. There are more women then men already. They just don't realise that
@Touhami bro. Women CAN add that in their nikkah nama that they don't want their man to marry a second time and after that a man CAN NOT marry a second tjme without permission frm the first one and if he does it anyway then it annuls their marriage. Simple. Allah has given men right to marry 4 times but Allah has also given women the right to put conditions in their marriage contract. Islam dods not favor men only.
Why everything is for women. Did men can see his wife with someone else. It’s simple. Gender may different but both had same feeling why they hurt women that much?
I’m really sorry to say to those who are against polygamy, that it’s not for you to dispute. Astaghfirullah. In fact, it can be seen as bad as nullifying our Islam if we reject that that has been made permissible by Allah swt. Authu Billah
Allah swt has put this in place, and Allah swt knows best.
No, we shouldn’t hurt the feelings of sisters in Islam, or anybody for that matter.
Perhaps the shortfall is that we’re seeing it from a personal perspective? That we are using our own emotions as our guide أَسْتَغْفِرُ الله?
As believers we want for others what we want for ourselves., otherwise we have no faith.
There are tons more women than men in this world, thus, leaving sisters without husbands. Do we we think it’s ok for the Ummah as a whole if we have single sisters struggling on a daily basis, because we’re too focussed on our pride and (perhaps) selfishness?
It’s nothing to do with self worth, as many would say sisters in polygamy have none. It’s that they wish for other sisters to feel that same sense of security we all want. But of course, the husband has to be a good Muslim, firstly, then just InshaAllah.
May Allah swt help us thrive as an Ummah, and to understand this world is temporary. Allahumma Ameen ya Rabb’Al Al’Ameen
I divorced my husband because of polygamy marriages...
a lot of them say that men "marry the second wife out of lust." - Which is dumb
What do the men marry the first wife based on then?
because of her good grades? give me a break. it's the same reason as the first and the last wife they marry. all men marry a woman they are attracted to physically. I don't know why that is so hard for some people to understand.
If you’re on Deen it’s bigger than any of that. Yes, there are benefits but none which could ever equate to working towards the Akhira (Ameen)
Allahu alam
السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
May Allah swt make us of those who see beyond our own personal desires and accept it from us. آمين يا رب العالمين
What if the man what’s to marry a second wife in a different country? Have 3 children and wife in another country? How will that man treat both equally?
He cant
Why and how?
if the woman agrees on terms that he sees her certain number of times a year or this time of the year then that's ok. it's what they have agreed to
Allah knows best
The thing is, if he marries the other woman, her children will have the same rights (in terms of child support and inheritance) as my own children. But if he just have an affair with the other woman without marriage, whatever children comes from that union is illegitimate, and does not have any rights to my husband's money and inheritance. So logically, why would I allow the other woman and her children benefit from my husband's money, by allowing her to marry my husband?
It is not in ur hand for permission. This is why Allah swt did nit give u right to give permission because u would ruin another women’s life
Allah said: (2:256) famously declares "There is no compulsion (forcing) in religion... You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@Rasmalai see that depends how u look at polygamy does not destroy the marriage it is how the women thinks and looks it as a perspective just because u have jealousy that foes not mean u act on it
Your children's honour and dignity is preserved
@Pareeshy so your just selfish. You would rather he cheats on you and support zina? You would also get the sin. Not easy for some women to find husbands, what is she's divorced or widowed? You are ok with her comitting zina?
It’s so hard 🥺but this Dunia is a test. May Allah give me a man who only has eyes for me, amin🤲🏻
Man made religions will only have laws that are beneficial for him and him alone.
@@jeethuutube said by a guy whos scriptures are wrote by brahmins😅🤣🤣🤣
@@ziyadzvk5871 you are wrong. Vedas are not written by brahmins. Half knowledge is dangerous my friend. Learn Vedas and come to true path of Almighty.
@@jeethuutube whos that almighty?
@@ziyadzvk5871 there is only 1 almighty
The weirdest thing ever heard!
Wow, how you mold things to whatever profits men.! Good going !
unfortunately many scholars are like this which is y i love mufti menk hes honest and fair and speaks for everyone
@@nor332 he has the same opinion as this scholar. he just dodges the question loads. if he said the same thing (which he would) all the feminists that support him would go crazy
These scholars are doing these questions live from all types of questions.
Mufti menk just uploads short speeches and holds lectures. no q and a. Its all controlled in a way so he doesn't have to speak on it.
@@shadowstorm5261 he does he calls men out and feminism has nothing to do with women having the right to not wanting to be in a polygamous relationship and have the right to divorce. The man can marry more than one but the woman can divorce and I don’t like sheikhs who shame women who won’t stay in that type of relationship.
To all men out there who say women are so selfish and not accepting her husband having a second wife is lack of imaan.let me tell even the wives of prophet muhammed(pbuh) get jealous of each other.there is an incident where ayisha (pbuh) throw sweets on another wife of muhammed (pbuh)(don't know which wife exactly) just out of jealousy.she saw the other wife giving and sharing sweets with muhammed (saw). And some other incidents.if even they get jealous u men consider it as lack of imaan.then all women in the world is like that.
There was still respect. Obviously there will be jealousy. But in the end the ruling stays as halal. People must be patient.
Polygamy is nothing but a desire and who follows desires narcissist men!
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 um, the prophets had multiple wives. And the companions.
@@afgissa7471 Are you prophet Muhammad pbah? No none of you are!
@@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444 Allah gave men the ability in the quran. What about the companions. And all the scholars you had multiple wives? Are they all bad?
Please stick to your wife unless you have big problems than Devorse
Recent revert here, I was about to get married and he said he wanted monogamy. Then he throws curveball at me saying he doesn’t want monogamy. It’s over. I’m sorry, I’m not denying Allah’s words and rules, I just can’t stand to see the man I love running to some other woman. I’d rather die.
So, basically you are okay with the rights given to women in Islam but not with the rights given to husband in Islam 👍👍👍
In western country men can't feed two wives & their children unless woman work feed their kids or wailfare feed them or rich husband
People do it, the wives share one household.
@@happybird7HAHAHAHAHAHAHA GOOD LUCK SHARING A HOUSEHOLD, LET ALONE A HUSBAND! I would rather stay alone my whole life than be a second wife to someone.
IM SO GLAD I FOLLOW ABRAHAM and don’t have to deal with this bull shit
I understand what the speaker is describing but I will say the wording is wrong. I believe the speaker needs to look into how he is delivering the words. Also if someone live in a country where polygyny is not permitted by the law of the land there is a different ruling for it I believe.
Whos ruling do you follow?
@@dontoni8041 I follow Quran and Rasul (S) sunnah. I do not blindly follow any sheikh. I am Sunni and in the Hanafi Mazhab.
@@IqraSeeker Is that a fact? How do you follow Quran and Sunnah but you're in the Hanafi Madhab?
@Hasib Abdullah i know few ppl that have a second wife. No one is makin a scene of it. What if you have a second wife in a different country. These laws in this country permits adultery and homosexual marriage etc. Im not being extreme, just excersin my basic islamic rights
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us,
two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran...
And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran...
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
Deeds that reward a person equal to hajj if he does them correctly and sincerly
1. Perform Ablution properly and go for each obligatory salat in Masjid
2. After praying salat Fajr in congregation, then wait (15-20 minutes) till after sunrise to perform two superogratory rakat
3. Perform Umrah in the month of Ramadan is equal to Hajj
4. Going to Masjid to learn/teach beneficial knowledge
5. Saying SubhanaLlah 33, AlhamduliLlah 33, Allahu Akbar 33, and then say La ilaha ill-Allah wahdahu la sharika lah, lahu’l-mulk wa lahu’l-hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadir
The problem is most-if not ALL-women's lives revolve around (only) their husband's [life] these days.
A man, very early on in the marriage, disconnects from emotional vulnerability or an over-reliance and fixation in his wife, as much as he may 'love' her, he sees himself as a self-reliant individual, not bound to exclusivity.
A woman, on the other hand, dedicates herself in perpetuity to this man. If she was to do what he does and separate herself and be self-sufficient, mentally and emotionally, and he then decides to take another wife, it would not disconcert her as much.
Society will always disparage women; first wife, second wife, third wife, whatever you choose to be. Just be you. Be your own person.
"The problem is most-if not ALL-women's lives revolve around (only) their husband's [life] these days." - What is bad in that?
"A man, very early on in the marriage, disconnects from emotional vulnerability or an over-reliance and fixation in his wife"
For the most part that isn't true. and if it was, like you said these are the early stages, it would grow and a man would be more connected and can be emotionally vulnerable after some time. Afterall, it takes a while to build complete trust and love. though some people have that from the get-go.
@@shadowstorm5261 It's not bad or wrong at all. My life revolves are my husband, too. I prioritise him and put him first in everything, in all aspects of our life together. Having said that, I give him the space and time he deserves to be himself. I do not expect him to dedicate himself to me the way that I do with him.
I'm not sure what your point is, but in my humble opinion, the reason it hurts women or they are against it, is because we never see it coming. If you resign yourself to "he is an amanah from Allah to me, he isn't mine" and dedicate yourself to the purpose of your creation, then it becomes sahal, easy on you.
Before marrying a second wife and ruining the first marriage in some cases, why not go to couples therapy first
What do people think, if a wife is not able to have a child (because of genetic problem) and the husband is able to have a child (medically confirmed), do you think he should have the chance of having a second wife? Divorce for the first wife will mean that she will have a difficult life. This is in context of arranged marriage
I think this is a case to consider a second wife, as long as the first one is ok with it.
Don't divorce and consider a second wife is best. This will likely be best for the both of them
It is his right to have children too.
Yes, he should get a second wife. And keep the first wife as well
It doesn't matter, kids or not. Polygamy is adultery
what about if the reverse is true, should she kick him to the curb and get a real man
On the authority of Umm Haani’ bint Abi Taalib (رضي الله عنها). She said: “The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ , walked past me one day so I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, I have become old and weak - or something similar to this - so tell me of a good deed that I can do while I am sitting.’
*He ﷺ said: “Say ‘Subhaan Allaah’ 100 times for it is equivalent to freeing 100 slaves from the offspring of Ismaa‘eel; and say ‘Al-Hamdu li-llaah’ 100 times for it is equivalent to 100 horses saddled with reins ready to carry fighters in the cause of Allaah; and say ‘Allaahu Akbar’ 100 times for it is equivalent to 100 camels slaughtered for the sake of Allaah; and say ‘La Ilaah Illa Allaah’ 100 times.” Ibn Khalaf (the narrator from ‘Aasim) said, “I think he said: ‘…it fills what is between the heavens and the earth,
and on that day out of all the deeds that are risen to Allaah, none will be better than yours except for a person who said what you said.’*
[(Musnad Ahmad) Al-Munthiri, Al-Haythami, and Al-Albaani classified it as
Hasan (good)
It's a delicate matter to be discussed. But the women should know that they can take the taqlid in their nikah contract where the husband would be considered as divorcing the wife if he is to get married to a second.
What Allah has ordained has so many wisdom that the small human mind could never comprehend. But Allah has also shown us women the ways to face the situation.
Let's not blame Allah, yet learn and study more on the matter. It is his right to get married again and it is also the women's rights to get divorce if she would see it fit.
May Allah guide us all. And I also sincerely hope that whenever this question is asked to knowledgeable people on religion matters, they are guided with the clarity of mind and wisdom to tend to it.
If women are to be treated lowly.. MasyaAllah what calamities can befall the entire world. May Allah strengthen us in faith and wisdom. Amiin.
If only a woman could marry 4 husbands and the husband had the right of divorce, would you support that? It would fulfill the conditions of your first paragraph
I mean men, if you see us woman being with other men, do you feel calm? We both are human it’s so painful to see someone we love in the arm of someone else, i can never accept the concept of polygamy in Islam. I dont know what reason God allowed it. If it’s for certain conditions, it can have solution without doing polygamy, or if it’s for the sake of war condition, there’s no mentioning in the quran. Means it’s very wide and can be used even for lust.
No one would ever want to share their lover to someone else, i want men imagine that. Sometimes this weaken my iman..
Two words: Andrew Tate
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in islam the wives get their rights, but the hijabi car ladies don't get it.
What does andrew tate have to do with this? Stop mocking the words of the lord SWT
It's Allowed by the creator stop commenting and try except this is for the best stop being ignorant
It's funny how most women who won't let their husband get a second wife, would have no problem with becoming the second/third/forth wife of a man with very high value, social life, economics, etc..
Yes, if a man like someone that existed during the prophets time, then I would have no problem with it. Now a days, there's no man I respect enough where I will be okay and support his pursuit in a second wife. From dayooths, to mama boys, to abusive/controlling, and very very low emotional intelligence, it's safe to say that Men have lost their way and would be a detriment to their second wife rather than " charity or to help a widow". Men aren't probably marrying for that reason and marrying to fulfill some type of perverted fantasy they have
@@ayahsimrin5026 Your comment alone goes to show you have such an EVIL sick twisted view on men, read back your comment and please heal, no one would write such a hateful comment if they were raised in a loving home with a loving father.
@@mohamedadan6678 what did I say that was wrong? Did I lie?
U mad? Does this situation sound familiar? It's the truth, so many women get abused. And men don't like to hear that women are speaking up because they can't control women anymore
@@ayahsimrin5026 great excuse to justify the fact that you hate the Sunnah of polygamy
If we read tafsir of aayat 3 surah nisa, Allah prohibiting the selfish men to marry orphan girl and giving them advice to marry girl of your choice whether two or three or four only if you are just among them or marry slave girl (without Meher) ( as they don't want to give Meher) or contained with one.
It's Highly demotivating not to practise polygamy. Polygamy is highly discouraged in Islam just like slavery, you're allowed to have slaves but not encouraged. As it's mentioned in Hadith prophet ordered men who have multiples wives like 10 give talaq to 6 and have one but they disliked so prophet told them max you can have four by doing justice only.
Sheikh here are all promoting Arab Culture not Islam.
islam promoted polygny so you are wrong. Allah starts the verse by saying marry 2, 3 or 4. It was also praised as something righteous so you are wrong.
Also islam does promote salavery along with buying and selling slaves. Islam also promotes Freeing slaves in may conditions
The comment section is sick and full of people with no iman
Don't let it get to you. Just watch on the sidelines.
They may be divorced when they are older and have an instant change of mind.
@@faridaayafarie7232 are you a man?
you are the one with no common sense and less knowledge.
come back when you are a man and understand how men work.
There is no legitimate reason for a second wife,and please stop this comparison,illogical explanation
After reading the comments, I understand why Prophet (S) saw the hell full of women.
@@faridaayafarie7232 Because of this plus other sins. Use some common sense you fathead.
@@faridaayafarie7232 "because of others sins REMEMBER that. Have some common sense and better knowledge than talk."
the prophet said they are there because they were ungreatful to their husbands. that's why they are there.
stop these mental gymnastics
Polygamyl has shattered normal family system.
I couldn't understand how come they ask about their rights and when men ask about theirs they go bonkers. No matter what you do they will never be satisfied. Muslim women caught in dual mind here between sharia rights and western culture and they want both.
Western culture is satan
well said brother. women are enemies of other women as well as themselves but they do not realize it and still talk about women rights !
Mu’adh ibn Anas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever recites the entire chapter, ‘He is Allah, the One’ (112:1) (Iklas ) ten times, Allah will build a palace for him in Paradise.”
Source: Musnad Ahmad 15610
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
Thankyou God for Hinduism 🙏
In Hinduism, draupadi had 5 husbands. I hope you don't get married to a woman who is convinced with this concept. 😂
@@hammad1210 In Islam huge number if people chose to become terrorist! I hope you don't take that path and start killing innocent kids and women just because they are not Muslims
That are okay with people eating dead body 🤣🤣
@@jeethuutube go and learn first , learn why Islam come up with number 4 on marriage ??go and learn ur own religion and treatment of women.
@@ziyadzvk5871 I'm a Vedic student and religious comparative researcher thankyou 😊 , and I can safely say Sanatan Dharma is the only true Dharma in the face of earth. Everything else is man made and political agenda. Hare Krsna 🙏
If a woman is harsh and treat her husband like a slave. Can we blame the man about asking for a second wife?
Muslim women and men should realize their responsibility as a husband and wife before blaming each other. Both have certain rights that Allah (swt) has given to them.
If you look at the comments, the women who don't approve the man to have a second wife and is upset about the verdict and wisdom of the Quran and Sunnah by reverting to their emotions are examples of "Muslim women" brothers to avoid as there are tons of other women who understand their Deen and don't have a problem sharing their husband. All those who talk about their opinions I thank you on telling on yourself and the strength of your imaan. The west really has gotten a grasp on the minds of some Muslim women today espically feminism
It's not like that
Women have jealousy
We're all humans afterall
I don't want my husband to marry a second time. And it is my right to have that in the marriage certificate. This right is also given by Allah that we can add a clause for the man to not marry a second time.
Your comment is dosgusting mind your own business what we will agree it our choice
It’s man’s innate nature to want more than one wife. SubhanAllah I’m convinced their wired that way. Hence in the Quran they are allowed up to four. I will prefer a husband to have feelings for me and me alone but hey this is how it 😅
The prophet (PBUH) was not wired that way. He married one wife for decades and did not remarry until after she had died. And most of those marriages afterwards (when he was 53-56) were for political/war reasons because of his special status, not because of his personal desires or "nature". I am not saying polygamy itself is wrong but its important to note that polygamy was common among the kaffirs at the time they had no limit to how many wives they can take, and Islam came to limit it DOWN to 4 and only make it permissible based upon certain conditions and responsibilities (giving rights to the women)...so that man does not just fall into his greed and lust, or animalistic "innate nature". Most men today do not have what it takes to do polygamy in the way that it has been made permissible. It takes a fair, just, mature, strong and honorable man to handle such a responsibility to make polygamy successful and maintain the balance and peace of such a household.
@@heregoes8839poligamy is allowed for man natural desire, nothing wrong to marry for sexual desires more wives
I am a husband and I spoke to my wife my honest intentions of having a second wife. She soon called my manager, called my school and my relatives. I lost my job and my career all this years I worked so hard to earn halal money. She left me in this state and she will not rest. This is what my wife did to me. If you think this is funny or a joke then remember that Allah is watching you.
lol what did she tell your manager? its hard to believe
even though its a made up story, lets say its real.
my brother its good that you decided to take a second wife, now your first wife true colour is known.
(note: just because your husband take a second wife doesn't mean you loose all your rights)
how would you feel if your wife sat you down and told you she wanted to have sex with another man,
@@emma647 easy: she can have divorce
yes it will be heartbreaking, I am a man , an my wife is my asset, no man like that.
when a man marry other wife, he's not marrying her only, but responsibility too.
men and women are not equal, diff in physical and psychologically too
Be happy brother, you saw her real face. Now you’re free and you’ll have better life. If you lost job you’ll find better job inShaAllah. Allah with you and inShaAllah you’ll find strongest iman that wife will never leave you. May Allah gives all of us patience.
Well two things, she can make a contract in her marriage contract saying she doesnt wants a second wife and he has to oblige it that’s unfortunate for guys but this possible, there is nth wrong in polygamy if it’s done right and if the women is getting her due rights and she is just a bit jealous this is not a ligetimate reason to leave but if she fears sins such as not giving him his rights or feeling too much of jealousy she can leave
It's ridiculous that men refer to the last ten years of the prophet and say they want to follow sunnah. The multiple wives in that period of his life were rather strategy than sunnah. If they want real sunnah, why aren't they referring to the 25 years he spent wirh only one wife?
So many people in this thread transgressing against Allaha and his rulings. Indeed the feminist movement infiltrated our sisters.
So many misguided women in the comment section trying to change the law of Allah to fit their own desires, if Allah has allowed something then that’s the end of it. There’s no more argument to be had.
Women can add a condition to their marriage contract that the man can not marry a second time. This is also a right given by Allah to women.
@@elsaken2840 Yes they can and if he breaks that , it gives her the right to divorce, doesn’t mean it’s haram for him. And these modern women cannot handle the right Allah gave men to marry for any reason more than once.
@@elsaken2840 on a lecture from Abu taymiyyah, I remember he said , that men can add clause to it.
Triggered feminists, please understand. Allah is not in need of you. When you are critical of something that Allah has made permissible and what the greatest man that ever lived himself practiced, please imagine yourself in front of Allah and his messenger when you are saying this. And remember it was Iblis who thought he knew better and tried to rationalize why he shouldn't bow to Adam. Don't be one of the arrogant and misguided.
This doesn't have to do with feminism though. The most righteous women, our mothers, such as Aisha RA, felt jealousy towards the prophet SAW. The prophet SAW prevented Ali from marrying another woman with Fatima because he feared that her sadness and pain will tempt her to fall into sin. It is in women's nature to have jealousy for those who they love and to want to be the only loved ones
@@hiok-vj4gt exactly but or prophet saw. still married even he knew our mother Aisha r.a. was jealous. So its not a reason to not get married as our prophet saw. was a living Qur'an.
Men prefer to follow islam of convenience when it comes to remarrying.
Nobody cares about providing or nurturing their wife or children
But they debate about it proudly and belittle other things like cheating 1st wife and lusting on other women who arent mehram in garb of this provision that they can marry them anytime...
Easier said than done
Thats y Prophet SAW didn't allow hazrat Ali to remarry
He said if fatima is in pain
I'll be in pain
Means !!???
You willfully are putting your first wife to pain and are justifying it with your saviour of lust "provision for more wives"
Unless its an act of charity or some other unavoidable circumstance like not having children
its not any big sawaab to marry again ... Rather injustice!!
haha
are you afraid you will be in a polygamous marriage?
we men clearly know the responsibility that comes along with this.
who said a man will go around and run behind other women? he's a Muslim, he can have his second wife by halal way.
why did prophet Muhammad saw didn't allow Ali (r) for that marriage ??/ 😊
Why so much importance is given to men's choices and satisfaction? Why no one speaks about what if the girl is not happy with the man. Why she can't marry multiple men? Why she need to take a divorce and marry second man? Whereas the man need not inform the first wife if he wants to marry second. What an injustice? Seriously. This one partiality makes me think Quran is not fair. Or we have interpretted it wrongly.
I accept in olden days when man is the only bread winner they might have married many women. But now the situation has changed. I feel marriage has more meaning than just adjusting and living together for the food. We r not animals. We have emotions.
How a man will feel if his wife has multiple husbands??? Emotionally it breaks down the human being. How come Islam normalize this with regard to women? Pls clarify
Educate yourself in Islam.
Spot on...
Please stop hurting the feelings of women. If you want to marry again, divorce the other if she refuses to have competition with your love. 😢
My husband keeps cheating on me, not physically but she always has some woman on the side, that he flirts with, at first ot was just on phone but now he actually goes out too. When i finfd out he stops and then does it again after few momths. He keeps asking these women to be his second wife. Know that i am a good wifem these are not my words but his words, his parents words his whole family sees that.. I just cannot tolerate a second wife ans i told him i will not stop you from marrying but then i cant live with you. I just cant, i have lived years crying over his nature again and again, i wont for the rest of my life.
men are so selfishhh . May Allah give u sabr and this is heartbreaking
@@umnasaif8875 Fake Muslim...🤡
I feel like dying inside my man love another woman wants to marry two can anyone help please
@@Sabzworld77you call a man names and then say in'sha'Allah in the same breathe, the irony.
@@Sabzworld77 that's why I said, the irony is palpable. Majority of ♀️will be in hell for a reason. 😂😂
keep him so busy in the bedroom that he wont have energy to think about another woman. If he cant keep up you can tell him he cant even satisfy one woman how is he going keep up with 2? Most of you women nowadays dont even know how to make your husbands happy, its so easy if you know it, men are simple. Intimacy, food, obedience, respect and positivity. If you make an effort I garantuee 99% of men would not even think about a 2nd wife and will make you the happiest wife. But feminism teaches you obedience is slavery so you fall for that and create miserable marriages
As salamu Alaikom warahmatulahi wa barrakatu.my husband he want to marry again. He meet the girl from games online.and my husband financially has problem .even our own house we don't have
What should I do
Jazakhalahu khair
Allah said: And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].} [Quran 4:129]
Allah said
Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded.
Surat An-Nahl 16:90
And Allah says
O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do.
Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8
“A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196)
A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to.
It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it.
No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter.
By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
"I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, 'Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.'" (Bukhari, No. 4887)
@@JahannamHellfire Jazakhalahu khair
Chastity is defined as "controlling oneself from forbidden desires due to the love of Allah The Almighty in response to His command, as well as for seeking His reward in return."
Islam has always been keen to establish chastity in the Muslim community and has thus legislated many laws that reduce the strong impact of these desires and control them; it has also encouraged remaining on the straight path and warned against transgressing the defined boundaries by following these base desires.
Islam has preserved people’s honor and protected lineages from being mixed. Therefore, fornication and adultery are forbidden and classified as major and destructive sins. Islam has even forbidden everything that could lead to these sins, such as immoral exchange of looks between the two sexes, depraved words, seductive moves, a man and a woman being in seclusion in a room, and anything else which could lead to this awful sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a great sin, and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him)."} [Quran, 17: 32]
Islam does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it.
Allah The Almighty commanded His Messenger to take a pledge from women who entered Islam to refrain from fornication and adultery. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bai`ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children… then accept their pledge."} [Quran, 60: 12]
Allah The Almighty made the punishment for these sins vary from lashing to stoning to death, along with the humiliation which results from informing the community of the perpetrators of this sin. Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {"The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allah, if you believe in Allah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment. [This is for unmarried persons, but if married, the punishment is to stone them to death]."} [Quran, 24: 2]
The Prophet set the penalty for adultery and fornication as follows: "If the parties (committing fornication) are unmarried, they should receive a hundred lashes and be put into exile for a year. If they commit adultery after they are married, they should receive a hundred lashes and then be stoned to death." [Muslim]
Since Islam has comprehensively forbidden fornication and adultery, it has also blocked all ways that lead to it. It does not have laws which contradict one another as is the case with man-made legislation which has set penal laws for adultery and fornication but has facilitated every means that lead to it. Moreover, there are some societies that see no harm in allowing fornication and adultery and have set no penal laws for those who commit them. Other societies differentiate between committing this act in the marital home and outside of it; they only consider committing it the marital home as a crime and not if it is committed away from it! Islam, on the other hand, comprehensively forbids fornication and adultery and everything that leads to it.
The evil consequences of fornication and adultery
Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said,
"Fornication and adultery combine all evils; weakness in commitment to the religion, lack of piety, corruption of manhood and the decrease of praiseworthy jealousy. You will never find an adulterer or fornicator who is pious, fulfils his promises, is truthful in his speech, maintains friendship or has jealousy over his wife; he will be characterised by lies, deception, betrayal, accepting prohibitions and not being mindful of Allah." All these characteristics are consequences of fornication and adultery.
There are also other consequences such as:
• Incurring the wrath of Allah The Almighty.
• Corruption of one's wife and children.
• Poverty and gloominess of the face, which will be apparent to people.
• Darkness of the heart.
• Becoming insignificant in the eyes of people and in the sight of Allah The Almighty.
• Loss of the characteristics of chastity and righteousness and becoming known as a sinful, betraying adulterer or fornicator.
• Not being classified as a believer in general.
• Being decried as an evil person.
@@JahannamHellfire In Shaaa Allah Bi'ithnillah
Ask Allah to make him loyal to you after tahajjud.
I swear people, especially women, making dumb and emotional arguments instead of seeing the Wisdom behind Allah's ruling.
It’s a messing how muslim men most of them are not there for his wife his kids yeat he wants another one they want marriage but run away from responsibility I have seen soo money of them doing this
@Touhami no one can do this because in the glorious Quran Almighty Allah said sura nisa 129 “ no matter how much you try you can never do justice among your wives “ . If Allah said that who r you to say !
@@Ana-wb9nw what are you on feminists on about?
In my opinion... You should discuss with your 1st wife and her family before marriage about your plans for polygamy... It's Definitely a sunnah... Then why we should hide... Allah knows the best...
Else please wait for a little bit... Inshallah we can have as many wives we wish for in Jannah... Its just a matter of sabar.. Alhamdulillah Subhanallah Allah knows his creation better ❤
All this scholar spoke about is the mens right to his sex drive....why didnt he open his mouth and speak up for the womens rights to love and affection daily too and if he wants to follow this he must visit all his wives daily and not leavd her alone every second day....if scholars stopped speaking up only for men then maybe women would have gotten their rights too in polygamy and we would be open to it but we all alone in this practice.
ooh cat lady got offended
hahaha , you want to rewrite Quran??
To all the ladies, you are the ones who raise men as a mother you are fine him marrying twice or more but as a wife u don't, kindly fix it it's in your hand raise kids who can sacrifice their feelings for the betterment of others at times.