Why you can't get over them
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 เม.ย. 2021
- Karina writes, “Hello Susan. Wondering if you can share some light. I found out that the only guy I have ever loved, has now had a child and engaged. I feel so empty. Because he used me as a rebound, but the chemistry was so strong. I feel so embarrassed that I held on for all these years. Being 32, single, still living at home and haven’t had a relationship since 2012. How do I overcome this?”
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They are on a pedestal because you put them there. And they are only on your pedestal:)
Absolutely!
Man..I wish this was true..He's not only on my pedestal. I know of three who were whining for him to come back at the time when we were FWB. And several of them calling him occasionally (one of them being his ex 10 years ago). What all of us have in common is that we are pretty miserable and immature. Running away from real life. Guess he was our escape, but anyway none of us is able to forget him. So, unfortunately, this is definitely not always true.
I thought I never could get over my obsession but now it is over and I am free. It feels so nice.
Hi how did you manage it
It’s not particularly the person I miss. It’s the feeling of losing the person who was nearest to me. Who knew everything of me.
I completely understand. It’s very hard to lose someone so close that you allowed yourself to be vulnerable with. Now is the time to do some inner work and make your resume of life even more fantastic!
I understand. Yesterday I was thinking to myself what Susan said in other videos: "it's not the person. It's the dream." When the most recent person you wanted your dream with has gone that's hard. But he is only that: the most recent person who failed to live YOUR dream with you. That dream still lives in you. You now have a better understanding of what you want. And there'll be somebody who wants the same thing as you :)
When I think of going back to my most recent Ex, the thought just puts me right off. It's taken me a while to get to this point. Like you say Da Ta and the other comment here- it's not particularly them we miss, it's the dream.
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We are friends only now ,but I still miss the daily conversations of how is your day?I call but worry if I am being too needy
I was single for 8 years, just going on dates now and then and ready to never love again, until I found a great girl at 30. Another bus came and it was worth the wait! We were together for 4+ years, and after the break up it was a tough few months. But at least now I have the knowledge that she wasn't the last bus.
That’s beautifully said! So happy to hear that you have that knowledge now!
I hope i didn't miss the first and only bus. years later it still feels that way.
💪👍 yesss... this is life ☮️💟
@@CC-br9qg It does, I thought so, too. But eventually I caught the next one and it made this break up a lot.. well, not easy, but manageable. I trust hope now and didn't years ago.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 FACTS!!!! Very well articulated!
When you said that the relationship was significant to her but not to him - that hit hard. To think the person that means a lot to you doesn’t care about you is a tough pill to swallow. On my end, I am dating as I work through the heartbreak. The only thing is, I haven’t come across a guy that comes close to my ex. It feels like a disappointment after disappointment. However, I am working hard on being optimistic! The diamond in the rough won’t be so easy to find :) thank you, Susan!
It's not that the person on the other end doesn't care; they don't care AS MUCH as the person they left. In Karina's case, I'm sure he had feelings for her. It's never black and white. There is always grey.
I feel the same way. My first and only boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. We were together 3 years. He said he fell out of love with me. But before that he was everything I wanted in a life partner. Checked every single box. Took me 23 years to get my first boyfriend (which according to him i swept him off his feet in the beginning). Now, at 26 years old, I feel as if no guy will even come close to how loving and amazing my ex was. How will I ever sweep a guy off their feet again? I don't think it is possible. But right now I'm on a path of trying to focus and learn how to love myself. It's a very tough situation trying to be okay with the fact that the person i love so much - is now out of my life for good. It hurts beyond words
Please don’t think this way or it will manifest into existence. Of course there are plenty of people even better than your ex. Stop being a victim
@@alanna4148 You are grieving and that's ok, it takes time. One day you will say enough I move on, who knows maybe at that time he will reach out again, but then you will be the one who decides to take him back....or not ;)
“There is no ‘the one’ there’s ‘the ones’”
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Absolutely!
It's been 3 years and i still can't get over someone i barely dated for long :( i think its a fantasy
I thought I lost the "love" of my life but now I realize I deserved much better because he really wasn't all that great. What I took from my experience from him was this...I will always have love for this man because my experience with him gave me to myself. I learned so many things about myself, my worth, value, my strength and his weaknesses. No longer is he on that ridiculous pedestal.
Well done😊👏👏I'm in the process... It's really possible to get over someone you had love or obsession towards
She was my best friend and made me believe she actually liked me. Saying she wanted to be in a relationship, she made me open up and then just threw me out like garbage. I wish I could forget she ever existed.
I know the feeling... it feels so unfair. And such pain/shock. Slowly it’s getting less over time but it’s hard, still...
@@1chienandalou yeah I have been 3 months no contact now. It has gotten better but still hurts a lot I just can’t wrap my head around what happened.
Sadly, this happens more than you think. There is no easy solution but I suggest taking some time everyday to appreciate what you have and think and BELIEVE that the one who will be your perfect partner is out there just waiting for you. It’s time you cut the emotional cord between the two of you and let the right energy find you
@@SusanWinter you are right Susan it’s time I moved past this situation. I have been working on myself daily in areas that I was not so great in, I could’ve done some things better but I thought I deserved a chance.
So hard to forget and move on. I had no Idea that she thought so little of me. I loved her so much, that I only thought she loved me. Long story, but it was21 years of marriage. I thought we both intended to love each other fo eternity.
After being with somebody that you loved for so long, it's hard to picture yourself happy with somebody else.
It's been 3 years.
Even though I know we are no longer compatible... I still miss him. It’s been a year and I know I need to leave him in the past... 😣
Everyday you get stronger. It is very common to miss past loves. They came and left your life for a reason and ultimately helped you to grow!
Yes! Find the learning. There's always something there for you to grow. Just a silly example: after my ex left I learned I really appreciate a clean floor around the toilet. Oh, and I also like men who like me enough to fight through their fears to be with me. He couldn't do that. Now he says he wants to be friends. Thanksbutnah... the love was there. Once. And now it's gone. So why stay in a place where what you want can't be found?
I know the feeling. I'm 98% over them and it.
@@bamereg I agree! I don't know if my person wants to be friends or more. I have to be friendly, I have to see them. I wouldn't say friends.
I'm so sick of hearing about strong chemistry! You cannot build a happy, healthy relationship on this magical, dreamy thing called chemistry. You have to have two emotionally mature adults first.
yes u need chemistry to even get started??
Wishing them well helped me reframe the only one I felt strong about like that.
It’s been a year but while I’d love to try again, I wish him love and happiness.
You’re right Susan. It’s about not being the victim, picking up the lessons learned, getting them off that pedestal and going on to live your best life.
I’m glad I found your channel which I never imagined I would need. Thank you, Susan 💙
I totally understand her 💔 I’m not better than her ofcourse 😅🤦🏻♀️ here is my message for you girl: be kinder to you and step by step find your own path through the life, create a new life! Your brain is so powerful, you can’t even imagine. Just be braver and patient with yourself 🤗💓
Thank you Susan. You know how to connect with people and I like how you analyze things.
Oh, Sus... you are like 15 years too late w/ this video post. My 2006 self needed to hear this. I hope this gets someone sooner.
Thank you for your impeccable words.
Your 2006 self may not have been ready to hear this information! Everything happens for a reason and the universe will reveal that purpose in due time. Just keep an open heart ♥️
@@SusanWinter I am just waiting to know the reason from the universe why mine has left me
You always find the right words. And it ain't easy. Thank you because you are always so essential to me
I really appreciate that you are trying to help through the internet. It really helps to listen to what you have to say! Keep it up
I love her analysis so much.
Yes, quite agree with you Susan, there are lots of "ones". I think all too often people think there is only one love out there that ticks all the boxes. Nooooooo! There's plenty of fish in sea so don't get stuck with the first bite! 💖💖💖👍👍👍 🇬🇧 🇬🇧
And throw the little fish back if they won’t make a proper meal!
There are plenty of fish in the sea but there are only a few for me so that statement is not reverent.
Yes, so many fish but so few actually are anything.
Just wanted to say thank you so much Susan for your wisdom and compassion! Thanks to this video (that I watched over and over again when I was feeling heartbroken and down), I was able to pick up the pieces, move on, not be a victim, and eventually find someone that was better suited for me. Found someone that “wants what I want, and wants it with me” 🙏❤️
Struggling so bad to get over being dumped. Thanks so much this help me a lot.
This is really good advice I needed to hear. Thank you!
Omg hits close to home.. real heart breaker that.. good news is, you're in the right place here on youtube :)
keep following this channel our relationship coach she is truly amazing!!!
Thank you Ms. Susan. 😊
Thank you Susan 🙏
I adore you! I love your videos. And this particular one is the one I needed most. Thank you so much 😊❤
Amen 🙌 people who are stuck need to hear this!
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I agree with this how many of us have been through that? Took me along time to get there to realize that I am worthy of love , letting go of the past and loving my self first. Addressing to the one who wrote the question I hope you come to realize that his moving on is a blessing in disguise you may not seen this in the years that have passed by punishing yourself of endless heartache, he taught you a lesson and it’s up to you to pick up yourself and heal from this and you can. You are worthy ! i really do wish you well and you find peace, love again!
Wow I’m so glad I found this channel💜
thanx for being out there Susan! ❤️🌸
Any time!
Stop thinking about all those beautiful moments...and remember the last week together. There your EX for a reason. 😉
Just what I needed to hear. I kept telling myself the same thing too. I just can't imagine putting myself out there again. It takes so much hard work to build a relationship with someone special and then they leave.
You need to start doing what feeds your soul and you would be surprised as to what and (who) you might find along the way. Know your boundaries, pay attention for red flags and don’t be afraid to walk away from something that isn’t serving you. It will do more harm than good in the long run.
@@SusanWinter Thanks! I needed to hear this
Perfect timing! Needed to hear this. Thank you xxx
Oh I do dearly love hearing about synchronicity. Thanks for dropping me this note
Almost 7 months into a new, healthy relationship and still struggling with an older 4-year codependent relationship that almost gives me nightmares.
Your videos help a lot!
Tanay I am so happy to read your commentary. If you find one of the videos especially helpful, please watch it over and over again until it sinks in. We've all been there. But now we have tools to dig ourselves out and get beyond relationship that has us stuck
You don't know the definition of cheating.
Having TRAUMA and struggling to cope with it is not cheating.
Heaven help whoever dates you. They're in for a toxic whirlwind.
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VERY HELPFUL! I'm finally not eating my own tears for breakfast, lunch and dinner. THANK YOU!
You're so welcome!
Brilliant Susan , so true ! I’ve been down this road and on the loop, it’s a time waster ! Decide you’ve suffered enough! Time to deconstruct the framed mind photo on the pedestal of the one, has to be see for what it is / was. It’s only the beginning of a new chapter onward to the rest of your life ! Take your win nuggets and move forward.
Love it!!
Needed this. Thank you
We've been together for 1,5 year, and he was my first true love, true relationship I had. We broke up 2,5 years ago, but I still think of him a lot. Breaking up with him was the hardest thing in my life. I realise we were incompatible, and I don't want him back. Dating pool is so small here, I couldn't find anyone yet, but I really want to. Sometimes I get so desperate, it hurts. But the hope is there.
I always think that time is a healer, but 9 years ruminating about an Ex? Please do as Susan advises- take your power back. Know your worth.
I split from 'the one' almost 6 years ago now. I still think of him now and again but it wasn't perfect and nothing seldom is. I know IF by some strange destiny we got back together (which won't happen), it wouldn't be the same. It's like when I see a film I haven't seen in over 20 years, it's not quite the same as when I saw it for the first time.
Very good video. Helpful.
U talk like an elder sister to this young girl! Really lovely ❤
Omg Susan,
How did you know I needed to hear this topic today? You are so right! There are many fishes in the sea and I needed to take him off the pedestal. I absolutely love your channel and your words of wisdom! We learned so much from you. Sometimes I wonder if you have wings on the side...
You’re a sweet angel coming from heaven. We love you.
Thank you kindly! I am so glad that you found my video helpful :)
Although there is plenty of "the ones" for all of us, If were still stuck on the last one our hearts can't be fully open to receiving and seeing the new one right in front of us, they'll never be 'good enough' because we're still holding on. So taking the time to heal is much needed!
Now this was a great one
Oh how I needed this Susan, thank you! I’m getting over him but he’s still on my mind a lot. Like you said in this video it was a short term yet really significant affair for me, but for him not so much. I think that’s what hurts me the most...realizing that he’s fine with discarding me when I thought I was of equal value to him. I now realize that his love bombing had me confused and thinking otherwise. Thanks for helping me make sense of the situation and move forward 🙏🏼
Same here. Love bomb, love bomb love bomb ghost. He lives in the same building and has been on holidays for 3 weeks and his plants are dying a slow death by neglect. How could I ever like a person who can't be bothered to take tare of a couple of plants, let alone himself? He's not the right person to look after me. I have found somebody who is -> me! And you can too. The lesson in this for me is that love bombing and future faking are red flags. And I know how much it hurts to be in it for real, only to find out that the other person isn't. That's not your fault. You did the best you could. And you can do that again. By looking after yourself and by moving on.
I am so glad that I can be of help Paul!
@@bamereg Thanks for your kind words, much appreciated. Sending you strength 💛
Susan, you’re an angel! I was almost getting over him and being healthy again, but I’ve had a backset recently. Thankfully this video is going to help getting back on my feet again! I appreciate it!
I’m so happy to hear that you’ve found this helpful! I’m sure that it’s been very difficult and to have set backs are frustrating. The future has great things in store for you!
Susan Winter, you’ve been more than helpful! Each one of your videos touches an important part of my soul. And so does your book! I’ve been loving it! It’s been my shelter lately. Thanks and God bless you!
'There's no the one, there are ONES' - I LOVE this
I wanna thank you so much. Realising that every women can give me those feelings I miss, I will get a better partner and I will love again combine it with shifting my awareness from thinking of memory’s to the present moment really made me free finally thank you so so much ❤️❤️
You're the best. Thank you for this!!!!
Thank you for following!
Thank you for this. I have never ever been so impacted by anyone like I have "her". Am working hard on getting over her and there are days that I am fine and other days when I find myself praying with all sincerity that she'll come back......sigh
Susan I love you to bits. Maybe one day I’ll tell you my story. Thank you for this video ♥️
Thank you Lynda! I'd love to hear your story one day should you wish to share it with me :)
Video on forgiving yourself? Not necessarily about sleeping with someone but maybe for self betrayal, for settling, for *you* being the toxic one and thinking you have a million second chances (because you gave them those)?
There are. There were live shows on this topic not long ago.
needed this! have been very affected by my ex breaking up with me. he was my first true relationship & now we've become strangers. it's sad but i have to believe there's better out there
I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
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Susan you are amazing.... I always go to your videos if I start to slip....
Thank you Warren, I am glad you find my videos helpful :)
This helped. This is literally my story. It’s very true. That’s the story I tell as well.
Jadw, I am so happy to read this
@@SusanWinter your videos help so much. I know it’s very common to get stuck. It’s taking me almost 2 years to get unstuck. Slowly getting there. ❤️
Thanks for the great video
Great video Susan. One of the worst relationships I had, was emotionally abusive yet I still miss the good parts
Missing the good parts isn't an issue, as long as you don't miss the person who brought you the bad parts
Exactly the same here! xx
@@SusanWinter except that those people have good parts too. It's impossible to separate. However I don't miss his constant moaning and negativity. 😂
24 years later. Yes, 24 years. We were "together" 20 years ago, once. He remembers every detail of that time. Last time we saw each other was 13 years ago. We had a phone conversation 4 months ago, chemistry is so strong, we know each other, have history. Now, it's long distance. But, he is afraid of the feelings he has..is fighting them. I will be blocking him. I can't do this anymore. Yes, 24 freaking years of this!
Well that's exactly my case. Met in 1992...years no contact /feelings etc.Nrt again and again years apart. And chemistry But.. after all I do think it was just a very talented manipulation for years.
Dont know if you believe in twinflames, but that might be the case with you
@@Kraniosakral Yes, quite possibly. Plus, I'm an Astrologer and we have many obvious aspects that may explain this as well. Especially Saturn's delay/blocking nonsense and Pluto for the sexual/chemistry. Btw, we are talking again...can't stay away. He's planning to travel here in a few weeks. First time we'll see each other in 13 years. Crazy stuff.
@@sterling1386 how did it go
@@Lotusbloom22 I ended it recently. It was emotional torture. Now, it's the grieving, getting him out of my head/heart process...intense stuff.
Susan, looking radiant as always 😍
You’re so sweet!
waw , you are soo good....you have helped me greatly since I have joined your Chanel. especially didnt know i was dealing with narc
So true i also thought but then i found a much better one. 10 times better...
Brava Susan!! Great job explaining the reframing of the situation. The power is in this woman’s hands, and with the right help, she can definitely move forward!
Thank you so much Adam!
I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
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Ugh I went through this in 2019-2020 big time. It is so easy to frame it as life altering and different and to just wait and wait and wait
Same! xx
How are you feeling now. Are you better? I am going through situation like that now. My gf left me Last week in search of finding someone new.
Can relate to Karina's story. Similar situation with me. She got married to someone in her family and has a kid. I found out anyway she didn't meet my expectations so I try and use that to help me move on however I still think about her and it's been just over a year since I heard the news. I know I can find someone better but liking someone who showed mixed signals for 7 years it would take time to move on.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I think you should check out some of my other videos on “hot and cold”. That might help you understand what was going on at the time! You deserve love and appreciation.
Oh...I love you Susan thank you.!!!
Thank you so much :)
Thank you for being part of my healing journey 💛
I am honored to be a part of your journey!
@@SusanWinter 💛
This is so relatable, I’m 31 and at home, that part alone makes me feel like I’m not alone. Thanks for answering this one Susan
Im 37 so don't feel bad im working to get my own tho no bf roomates just me i know its hard but we cant beat ourselfs up ya know
@@mikealan1984 good for you! I guess us millennials have to realize we’re living in different times and this is normal. Best of luck to you 💕
@@alexishatcher7843 u 2 babe its not where we are at its where we are going always remember that
Thank you so much Alexis!
I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
Thanks for the new video 🥰🙏
My pleasure!
I love your top, Susan!
Thank you Kes!
You focus on self - decisions. Learn to be practical
Brilliant ❤️
“There’s no the one, there are ones”.. or dear it’s so true!!! 👏🏻 I had a few “ the ones” in my life.. they were quite a bunch 😆 learned the hard way they were just ones..
Preach Susan
My boyfriend of 1.5 years broke it off two months ago. The issue being timing, I'm still in college with a year to go still and he graduated back in the fall of 2020. He does wanna live out our lives together but doesn't know if that is the right choice for both of us in the grand scheme of things. He didn't want the physical distance as well as busy schedules making either of us feel not loved. He also wants us to grow individually and go wherever our careers take us, to be our own people. He doesn't want either of us to hit a point of being pulled away from job opportunities or settling for less or just following the other around. Naturally, I agree with us having a focus still on career and I do understand where he's coming from, he's looking out for us after all. But I still see us having a relationship while growing as individuals. I want to and have been trying to fight for it, but to no avail.
We have kept up the communication daily as best friends because we want to keep being in each other's lives, because we care so much for each other. He also kept the possibility open to the future of us getting back together, if/when the timing and circumstances are better.
It did happen 2 months ago as I said, the wound is very fresh. I still cry and hurt every day over the memories I cant go back to and all the things I wish I could still tell him as his partner. Note he is hurting just as much as I am and is profoundly sorry for putting me through pain like this.
It's far too early/soon for me to date again, naturally, I don't want to. I don't feel like ever dating again because I wanna be with him. I'm still holding on for when we can be together again because I love him so much. Part of me feels like he secretly wants to hold on to, to just watch me grow and then come back to me.
Who knows where this will go and where we will end up. While yes I am greaving and hurting, I'm still trying to have some hope that ill be his girl again.
Hi Susan. Just here to listen. :)
Thank you for stopping by and for your comment
@@SusanWinter Anytime Susan!
Thank you. I would love to hear more about this. I am finding my power back, but it is very tough.
You're welcome Annette!
@@SusanWinter Someone from my past contacted me 5 years ago, and it has been so heavy and full of grief. I went through major head surgery back then and am wondering if it awakened trauma. I was good and happily married with 4 step adults before he called and told me about his unhappy marriage. I have been working on myself and working with a coach, but not gaining the traction I would like to move forward emotionally.
@@annettekramek2917 I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
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Indeed many more buses are coming for sure I can attest to this it's a fact.
I love the video
Wow. Thank you.
You're welcome!
Wow her situation is exactly mine! I can’t move on. And can’t stop social media stalking trying to find out who is with now that is better than me 🥲 I don’t know how to get over him.
The social stalking has to stop. You’ll never move past your ex. Remember that just because he may have moved on, they are not better than you. They are who he is with in the present and that is okay. It hurts but if you keep hanging on to his energy, you will never be open enough to allow your next partner to find you. No more blocking your future. Erase the apps. Give away his stuff and go celebrate the version of you that he missed out on
@@SusanWinter thank you Susan 🙏🏻
Brilliant advice. Also, you're so Pretty. 🥰
Thank you so much!!
I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
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Wh🅰️TSAA🅿️ Him directly.
thanks susan
You're most welcome!
Best way to get over someone is to get with someone else!! Facts!
Not when u are emotionally broken
@@eveheart2876 FACTS
Ugh, really? I bet it wouldn’t feel as nice if *you* were the person someone got with just get over somebody else, if you were *only* a rebound... Kinda like the OP’s letter.
Don’t put this person on a pedestal forever and hold yourself back and move on because they have long done so isn’t The same as a blanket advice to get with someone else. “Facts!!” 🤨
Thank you
You're welcome!
Is she using the “only one” as an excuse to stay stuck, not looking for others. Like the closed loop.
Hello there Alex my wonderful Thursday Moderator and client!! Yes, she is using the 'only one' as an excuse. But she is unconscious of the fact and not doing it on purpose. She has locked her mind into an impression of this man that makes him perfect. Without adding the other tones and shades, he will remain perfect and therefore "the one that got away."
It does become that way when you get older. I just lost the love of my life at 67. There will no one else for me .
I am 18 years old and I met this boy when I was 16, he was the first person who showed me attention, we never had something together but I felt this bond. He has a girlfriend and is happy, as you said I feel very stuck. It‘s even more difficult to let him go because his my brothers best friend. Sometimes I think we‘re only not together because of my brother which vice verca gives me hope. It‘s so difficutl. Can somebody help me letting him go?
I love your videos Susan! But what if you never dated him but secretly like someone... I think he likes me too but he is emotional distant, he's probably insecure and scared to open up, I don't know but I am so tired of waiting, feeling insecure if he likes me or not and seeing him on this pedestal.. I think that he only has the guts to make a move if I give him the green light but what if I'm wrong? And I see him weekly (in a place we both come and I don't want to leave that place... ) I want to let go and focus on me again but every time a see him those mixed feelings are back..I already think of going different times to avoid him but that's not really handy with my week scedule and I really love going there..😔 how do I cope with that?
I think the loop of being a victim and not going out again is an excuse to stay home. For me at least. I am introverted and dating is very stressful for me. Being the victim is way more comfortable. I am trying to change that
You know the phrase “life begins outside your comfort zone”? It’s important to know your boundaries, work on what you appreciate about it yourself and do what you love. Maybe don’t go to a bar for a date. Maybe it’s a walk in the park or something quiet that isn’t so stressful. Allowing yourself to stay a victim is allowing them to still have an energetic hold over your life. You’re worth more than that. Make a list of all the things you’ve personally wanted to do and go out and embrace the world and your new life!
@@SusanWinter thank you for your advice! :) i will make that list!
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GAWDaMIT! this is goig to last forever aint it?!
I do not believe my ex is the only one I’ll ever love, I’m the best person he could have ever had. True I loved him, but I’m focused on myself, and I know the love of my life will come soon. Looking back at my ex now I remember the type man I don’t want.
Hi Susan, I'm back again looking to bring back the confidence to move on. My choices continue to be the wrong choices and it's hard to forgive myself. I want to have hope for a future with someone but I seem to live in constant pain and heartache which is exhausting. I'm nearly 75 years old but I'm an active and young at heart person. Can you help me please.
It takes time. Just imagine there are 7 billion people in the world lol
I love you Susan!! I'm in some kind of in-between place where I don't miss the guy but I think because he ghosted I'm still "looking" for him subconsciously. Like where the f* did he go? I don't want anything to do with him but I'm always anxious I'll run into him. I think every blue car is his. I'm always looking for his face in a crowd. It's exhausting.
I don't want to see him ever yet it's like I'm hoping he'll be there? Or maybe I'm just afraid of him and I'm trying to make sure he's not there?
Any thoughts on why I'm behaving this way and how to forget about him? Thank you xox
I refer you to the man who helped me bring back my ex
Dear Susan, your videos always help me. Where can I send a question for the videos?
Hi Florencia, if you visit my website susanwinter.net/contact/ you can submit a Q & A video request :)
@@SusanWinter Oh thank you SO much for your answer and all your wonderful videos. It's been extremely helpful.
I know a man who can help manifest your ex back without delay. He's an expert who did mine a few years ago ok.
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I’m in the same damn thing except I had a child with her was married for 28 years raised two kids built a home and I So damn stuck.
There is some audio issue. The audio is not clean. There is something in the background making strange noise.
Where do I ask a question? I really need advice !