I love how the cheating husband is like “how can she be over 20 years so fast?” If she knew about your affair “for some time,” she already went through those emotions, alone, and has already started the process of moving on. I mean, she’s practically been dating someone else.
I love how the first thing that comes to his mind when finding out about her affair is “how can she be over 20 years so fast?” when he had been literally cheating for 6 years. Like, who tf threw 20 years down the drain? Or at least who did it first?
@@rivendriftwood it could be, but unfortunately there really are people like this. There are tons of people who lack any kind of self awareness and literally only live in their own feelings, it’s like they are incapable of empathy.
Is this what it felt like to wake up and look forward to Saturday morning cartoons? Because I wake up and look forward to Saturday morning reddit stories from Shayne.
Yes it is exactly the same from what I remember as a kid. I felt the same type of joy for Saturday morning cartoons as I do when a new reddit video comes out every saturday
The fiancé in the second story is awesome. He didn't lose his cool over the text and instead helped her draft a calm and considered response. Then when the idiot blew up and responded, he took the phone and handled everything so that she wouldn't have to think about it/deal with the stress on her wedding day.
nah ya'll already know when he took the phone and went to a diff room that call sounded like the most vile COD lobby. And that would be absolutely justified
I feel so bad for the girl whose boyfriend says she stinks. I’ve ALWAYS been so paranoid of smelling awful and if someone constantly said I stink I wouldn’t even be around them. Gaslighting someone into constantly believing they’re constantly gross when they’re hygiene-conscious is breakup worthy at best. I honestly can’t say I would’ve remained civil in that situation tbh. I would’ve screamed my head off.
The fact that he didn't end his scheme after she visited MULTIPLE doctors let's you know that man is unhinged- "I don't want my girlfriend to leave me, so I'll gaslight her into spending hours a day doing insanely unnecessary things then continue while she spends days/weeks seeking medical assistance for something that isn't actually happening".
@@summer1468 Yeah and while it's not all men, it's definitely most of them. They just think women keep them around BECAUSE we know about their feelings and while women like that do exist, it's honestly just better if men will just ask and be honest. But again I feel like just like this guy, anyone like him will just accuse you of leading them on no matter how much you make it clear that you just want to be friends.
Story 3: what kind of friends don’t check in to make sure you’re okay when you’re running an HOUR behind schedule? Also I would be double checking that someone let them know about the change in time.
Yea especially if she’s been consistently on time for the past 2ish years and all of a sudden is awol for an hour… like at least send a “hey where are you” text
For real... For such a comical misunderstanding to happen there has to already be an issue in the friend groups communication or how they treat each other cuz that's just insane. Id understand maybe if it was a one on one meet up because then you've basically just wasted someone's day, but if there's already a group there one person missing shouldn't make you that mad. Plus OP missed the brunch the week before for an appointment but they were willing to push the brunch forward for a different persons appointment? It's all just so weird
my best friend’s dad did a similar thing. he’s in a polygamous relationship with two women and lost respect for his wife when he found out she was doing a similar thing
I just can't stop laughing at the psycho throwing up in the carpet like a cat spitting a hair ball because his wife is treating him the same way he treats her 💀
Tbh, I doubt what he's saying is true I like to think he's more delusional and thinks himself as really good at writing, so he's writing the post like a dramatic novel To which uhh, okay weirdo
@@Industry-insider That’s not the issue, the issue is they’re putting down an expectation that she’s gonna be a stay at home wife and mother, and if it’s not good enough they won’t really be considered family by the others.
Fun fact, the affair story was addressed by the wife in her own post! And she said he lied in his post and had gone to her about opening up the marriage. She hesitantly agreed but he flipped when she found her new guy. The update is insane! Please find it if you all can! (Two hot takes did this same story that’s how I found it)
Good on OPS husband in the second story. Seemed like he was so supportive and wholesome in making sure this wasn’t a problem from their wedding, and potentially after. She chose the right man for sure.
100% agree but I think Chanse was more coming from the perspective of “we currently don’t have the ability to have these difficult conversations about polyamory in previously monogamous relationships.” Which is a good point but doesn’t defend OP’s behavior since while those conversations are tough they still need to have them. Not mentioning the fact that OP had a disconnect between love and sex with his wife and affair partner which from the pov of an aroace person, uh isn’t polyamory?
Fr I was confused why he brought that up.. It didn’t even sound like he wanted polyamory, Where everyone is in a relationship, the guy wanted his nice wife and a side piece to have sex with. He didn’t see the other woman as a relationship.
@@OliverStarfallhe was not looking for an excuse, but an explanation. explanations answer shitty behavior, it answers all our behaviors and improves relationships generally. That being said, i think he was being optimistic more than anything.
@@KingOfGaymes that is a version of polyamory, and he likely wouldn't have engaged in such a shitty bullshit version of all of that structure of belief if our culture afforded the concept to him and his wife as not inherently the deepest form of betrayal to even think of it.
The husband in the last story specifically saying bumble is INSANE, especially when bumble is an app where the woman has to be the one to reach out, so not only has he come up with a lie specifically to hide his apparent stalking but he then made it out like the boss reached out to him first??? Im so shook that one was nutty
Men can actually reach out first on bumble I think it's probably a pay-to-do or subscription thing, but you get 3 or 5 uses for free when you register (not sure, only ever used 2 of those free ones before I noticed that dating app's aren't the thing for me)
I’m glad they had a women supporting each other moment and she kept her job that she loves 😂 horror story dodged a goddamn bullet could have gone MUCH worse…AND she kept her job :)
I was actually watching a video from a woman who was a diagnosed sociopath and she was explaining that the reason why she doesn’t cheat on her partner or anything is more because she respects him rather than because she loves him
My favourite genre of reddit stories is cheating men writing in in emotional distress because they found out that their wives/girlfriends were also cheating on them ESPECIALLY if they did out of revenge. i LIVE for the hypocrisy and the excuses they try to make up for themselves.
@@blairwaldorf-bass8180 its also about gendered expectations and the general idea that women cannot separate sex and love, that women should by default be more loyal/considerate, etc etc
There is another update to the last story. Unfortunatly , the boss gets back together with OP's ex-husband as she had become pregnant in that 6 weeks. The boss just avoids OP at work but is not mean or anything to her so OP practically hit her low point when she realized it. Hopefully , there was a better update after that
@@Aussie_Stitch The way I understood that is that the boss got back together with him after finding out that she was 6 wks pregnant. She probably felt that she couldn't handle all of the parenting in addition to her job, plus thought he deserved a place in their future child's life and didn't want that to be through animosity, hurt feelings, and divided time. Plus we already know that he is an expert at gaslighting so he'd probably try to turn their child against her as soon as possible. Just sad on sad. I feel so bad for op. None of that is her fault. The boss too, as she kinda got stuck between a rock and a hard place, but the guy is just the worst kind of person.
right!!!!!!! op wrote so many phrases in the update that made me wanna punch him in the face. like him saying she threw 20 years away. YEAH CAUSE U HAVENT RIGHT. OF COURSE U THINK ITS OKAY WHEN U DO IT U ASS
It's very important to realise that love, like, respect and trust are all factors of a relationship that should be assessed. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you like them. Just because you trust and like someone, doesn't mean you respect them, and just because you like, trust and respect someone, doesn't mean you love them.
@@jamer2010 it's not showing that person you love them. But some parents love their children while actively disrespecting them and admitting that they dislike them.
@@mrfrogkingg That's not love. If you hurt, neglect, disrespect someone, ect..... That's not love. Just saying you love someone doesn't mean you love them. Idk why that's so hard for you to understand.
@@jamer2010 I understand that now, I don't know why I said the other stuff. I'm seriously confused about what my parents want from me, and how I feel about them, so I guess I was projecting.
The last story blew my mind. This man was married, got a second gym membership behind his wife's back just so he could stalk another woman, and was still claiming he didn't do anything wrong, wasn't a stalker, and would have stayed faithful to his wife if she hadn't left him. F**k off sir. You were already cheating in your mind even if you didn't sleep with the woman until after your divorce.
@@floridamattsreviewsvlogsan3892 Honestly he was giving unhinged murder energy, and I was soooo worried for OP's safety. While a confrontation would've been emotionally satisfying, I'm so glad she got him out of her home ASAP.
@@floridamattsreviewsvlogsan3892 I think she did exactly what she was supposed to. Divorce him and saved another woman from ending up in a relationship with a psycho.
Right? Admittedly I don’t agree with some of his points but at least I can understand why he believes that way. He can also see both sides which is something not a lot of commentators do. They could not have find someone better. This makes me appreciate shayne a lot more now.
That "test" is just unimaginable. I love that the OP's family proposed their own "test" in response. The _real_ test was that OP's fiancé just couldn't deal with that Uno reverse card. His family set the bar super high, he perpetuated it, her family did the same back and he tripped at the first and lowest hurdle. Glorious.
Fr!! I couldn't get past how HUMILIATING such a test would be, especially for someone who doesn't regularly do housework. Yet she should just do it because it's a "tradition"??
I was thinking how hilarious it would have been if they had Charlie and the Chocolate Factory-ed her and her response to the test was the test itself. Like if when she refused it and went off they were like "YES! Finally he brings home a girl that has a backbone and is willing to stick up for herself." It's too bad they just turned out to be trash.
Once Kimmy and Amanda are over their wedding stress and recovery from all the excitement I would love to see them react to bridezilla posts, there’s so many that I’d love the perspective of two women dealing with wedding stress and planning and all that Edit: ong thank you for liking my comments I didn’t think others would agree
I come from a "prank family". When my oldest niece announced her engagement she said he was a little nervous about meeting everyone in the family because he wasn't sure how we would react because he is black (my family is mixed white and Native American). I told him, it's not that he's black we have a problem with, it's the drinking problem. He was stunned, "What drinking problem? I don't even drink beer!" "Everytime I see you, you've got a Pepsi in your hand! This is a Coke family." He took it well!
I think that if you know that your bf doesn't expect you to be a housewife, just indulge his family or whatever. Especially because you don't live in the same country. They are not going to be a daily part of your life.
Chronically Late story: Okay maybe it's just me but the friends in that scenario are ALL garbage. All it took was being late ONCE in two years and they were SO quick to write her off???? Also- those friends were all sitting around for over an hour, there is NO WAY her tardiness did not come up, so why did the friend who was supposed to update her not say anything? I'm imagining them all sitting around going "man why isn't she here, she knows this starts at 10", which should have been followed by the friend who was supposed to give the updated info saying "oh my gosh! I never told her, let me call her real quick" - OR SOMETHING, LIKE HOW DID THIS NOT COME UP. Trash friends to write her off so quickly, I would not stay friends with any of them imo
Yea it doesn't make sense I think most likely thing is OP is being deceptive... like apparently they didn't eat for the entire 1 hour and 15 minutes they were waiting for her? Out of, what? Compassion? Why would they do that choreographed move to leave then? And why would they make an elaborate plan to update OP about the time when they could also just post in group chat either way? Itd be a reminder as much as a heads up. I think this story treats the friends as NPCs and personally think its more likely there's stuff OP didn't say or just made it up. Either way I think there is enough sketchy things about the story that talking about it should always have a preface like, "IF the OP is telling the truth, then ..."
honestly, even if it was a genuine accident that they forgot that ENTIRE time, theres still no excuse for that massive blow up. great to know that one, tiny mistake that's almost if not completely impossible to avoid, could end like that? it'd just feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells from that point on. every single time you plan on going out with friends, you'd have to spam them every day, to make sure the times stay the same, the length of time it'd take for them to answer be nauseating, and the extreme anxiety while on the way to the meetup point. just looking at the story from face value, they'd be accidental assholes, but honestly fuck those guys. they're awful.
i was more surprised none of them bothered to text her "hey where are you?" or something after 30 mins passed. like? whats the point of the group chat then?? lol
Exactly, even if it was a mix up they aren’t you’re friends if they try to embarrass you like that. Is understandable to be upset but those girls are very shady.
@cheyennemarie7075 well, i feel like it's sort of more likely to be a group of girls than a group of guys. it could be a mixed group, but guys couldn't be bothered with that sort of pettiness. they would text and call the op an asshole or something, not stay and wait an extra hour just to attempt to embarrass someone like that.
@@arthurisacannibal3986 Nah cus I've met guys who are just as petty as the bitchiest of girls, especially if they feel economically superior than you. Guys are bitches too.
Props to the last girl for not only getting out a relationship with a psycho, but also for saving her boss from unknowingly continuing a romantic relationship with her literal stalker Spoiler alert Edit: with the most recent episode, the second part of this comment aged like milk 😬😬😬
I wish her family had her back instead of making her feel like she was overreacting. This woman was just reading the signs, and reading them 100% correctly. The fact that he got a secret gym membership at her boss' gym completely confirms everything she thought was happening.
Fron the start of that i was like girl fuck that man u gotta tell your boss so when the twist was he joined her gym 6 months ago i was like yea and you know that creep was prob specifically using the equipment around her and was prob creeping on her and ish ew.....but i love the boss and honsestly the op should of straight told him she didn't say he was a creep she explain everything to her boss and her boss being the smart bad ass queen she is came to her conclusion herself that he was a disgusting creep
Something that really pissed me off about the 6 year affair story is that he started cheating because she got in a bad accident and couldn't satisfy him anymore. It is proven that men are more likely to leave their chronically ill partners. He didn't see his wife as a person.
The entire story was all "my needs, my kinks, my satisfaction, my love, my wants, my feelings, me me me". Dude genuinely has only thought about himself his entire life and can't handle the uno reverse card that's been played on his life.
My ex literally said while breaking up with me "I can't even take care of a dog how do you expect me to take care of you?" Sent me into a spiral of depression and felt like no one will ever love me and stay with me. My dad also started cheating on my mom and blamed her for it because she wasn't satisfying his libido enough.
I think the lady who had an affair doesn’t feel anything because she went through the heartbreak when she found out, moved on, and fell in love with someone else. He’s going through the emotions she’s already healed from.
Chanse gets this dissociative look on his face when he's rly thinking and obviously upset and he gets all quiet and then shares his thoughts at the end and I love it
I just gotta say this about the one with the bestie in love with her right before the wedding: Her fiance (now husband) was amazing in his support of her. While she was too distraught to do anything, he took care of blocking the former friend and notifying people in the wedding party so they could keep things smooth for her on their wedding day. A true partner looking out for his partner.
and the fact that he took the initiative respectfully, didnt demand to handle it but didnt hover and be useless. He saw his partner in distress and helped her with zero hesitation or expectation, even on their wedding day. Just...if thats not True Love idk what is!
Right?? Like, when I think of men being protective in a hot way, I don't picture a guy fighting, I picture a guy saying "I got you", protecting your emotions and being a fucking chad like the guy in the story.
@@Rita-kx3yr the way I think about it, love can be an emotion, but *loving someone* is a choice and a made of actions. You can feel the emotion of love towards someone while being kind of shitty towards them, but *actively loving someone* or *being loving towards them* - that includes respect and honesty and fairness and being a good person towards them and consistently prioritizing their happiness and well-being.
The second story is absolutely disgusting, how the friend just absolutely insulted her and saying she led him on while she was in a relationship with the guy who she got engaged to and eventually married to. Props to her now hubby for being so understanding and handling things for her!!!
Honestly, that "best friend" was giving full Nice Guy™️ energy. Like, full 3 act play of foolishness - "hanging out in the friendzone", then "last minute Hail Mary confession", then finally "fine, I didn't like you anyway, your loss". And yet, these guys think this act is somehow endearing? 🤔
He literally thought that she led him on for 10 years??? Is he insane (I mean clearly yes) Also a very sad reality for many women to find out that their closest/best friend has literally only hung out on the sliver of a chance to sleep with her. I would be crushed to pieces. I could accept that a friend has feelings and move past it with them, but the friend leaving would hurt so bad. Like was our friendship nothing to you
Haven't seen it yet but I commented in another video how the "friend zone" is a myth. It's a concept conjured up by people(mostly men) who don't have the guts to shoot their shot and instead try to show the woman how "nice" he is. When this somehow works they will complain "it's like having a girlfriend without the benefits" to which I respond, "you mean having a friend? Which is what she is treating you like because that's how she views you?" At the end of the day the people that pull this crap are outright predatory. They are using the premise of friendship to get into a person's pants rather than genuinely offer friendship without any quid pro quo. But then these are the same people who will disparage their object of "affection" when those feelings are not returned or perceived to not be how they want. It's an incredibly toxic trait and I will likely edit as a response to this after having seen it. Still on the first story and WOW... Edit: yeah sadly I was right ... wow what a train wreck that situation was. Glad things worked out.
@Chicken Sandwich No edit required, you hit the nail on the head without even hearing the story. 1000% Nice Guy™️ behavior, straight from the playbook.
@@chickensandwich8808 The friend zone isn't a myth it's literally just a term for unrequited feelings which are very real. Maybe try feeling some sympathy for people who are put in a very difficult emotional situation. People don't choose who they have a romantic inclination towards--stop viewing things as a sex/friend binary. There's stuff in between that.
The fact that the boyfriend in "the test" blew up when her family tried to give him a test is RIDICULOUS. And when I heard the test from his family I literally said out loud "can he build a house?"
The most eyebrow raising thing about the cake eater story is that the guy thinks the ONLY reason the wife could possibly have an affair is to get back at him for HIS affair. Like, it can't POSSIBLY be that he's somehow deficient.
@@dakotawindom she posted in her own reddit thread that he started the affair first, then asked of they could have an open relationship, then flipped out when she, with her knowledge her husband has agreed to an open relationship, had a relationship with another person.
As someone who literally spent 7 years with a mentally abusive partner, I immediately knew the first one was going to be about the boyfriend gaslighting her. My ex made me question my entire life and being everyday. He made me feel insane. The moment that she said that she felt crazy I just know. That is so screwed up.
You definitely see some generational bleed in that one. Judging by how op described his reaction it certainly didn't seem like he knew he was gaslighting and traumatizing. I do believe he did actually care about her and had insecurities that he didn't know how to deal with other than emulating his dad. He grew up with a dad who actively taught him that emotionally and verbally abusing your partner is a good thing and saw women as an object to own. Having that as his normal growing up it's no wonder his father's insecurities and abusive habits bled into him even though he didn't fully understand what he was doing. Obviously this isn't an excuse, the boyfriend is responsible for his actions and breaking up was the right thing to do. However I don't think he was evil and malicious like your ex was , I think there is hope for him in future relationships if he seeks therapy and unpacks what his dad taught him.
yeah, I was like, to begin with, no matter what the "stink" is from, he is being so rude and pretty much abusive about it. if a partner actually has such a bad BO that they cannot seem to control, even when they become so frantic they develop insane cleanliness habits, you don't just keep waking up in the morning and completely deadpan telling them "ew you stink"?? like wtf sorta bs is that? even if it was actually just her smelling bad his actions were not okay.
@@RiveroftheWither Most abusers probably got it from their parents tbh. I'd assume few abusers go "yeah, I wanna hurt this person right now to make myself feel better". People generally aren't evil on purpose even if they are monsters. Most of them are probably so brainwashed by patriarchal and abusive ideals that they think what they're doing is fine and that everyone does it. That makes absolutely no difference though. An abuser is an abuser, no matter the intent.
@@RiveroftheWither wdym he didnt know he was gaslighting her? He literally admitted that his father TOLD him to do this as a way to make your partner stay with you. Y'all need to give men more credit bc most men aren't that stupid
As a polyamorous person-NO. These misconceptions are so problematic. Open relationships do not work if a couple is on the rocks; it requires a super stable relationship with open communication. It’s not a band-aid to slap down and call it a day. And if no conversation has happened between all parties, it’s not an open relationship-it’s cheating.
Hundred percent, but I think it was only mentioned as a way to try to broach the subject of them both having cheated, not as a way to be that is at all healthy or okay. Ethical non-monogamy is not a fix for extramonogamous affairs; the trust has already been violated, you definitely can't now shift to a relationship style that requires *more* trust and communication! It's the other way around: consider bringing up non-monogamy when you first feel that way, so that you *don't* end up violating your partners' trust when you get over your head later 😑
Yeah, a relationship is an agreement between all parties about what's going on in it. It requires open communication, and it requires every person involved being explicitly aware of all aspects of that relationship. Monogamy is an agreement between two people. Bringing anyone else in without both being aware and consenting before that new person is even approached is cheating. Being in a monogamous relationship, then cheating, then trying to manufacture some poly scenario isn't a healthy way to approach it, even if both parties are cheating. Dude was so scummy being comfortable in his 6 year affair (which he managed to paint himself as the victim of in his explanation, yikes, bringing up his daughters when his decision to cheat (and continue to cheat) was his own choice), but the second his wife does it he acts all emotionally damaged and carpet-barfy. Dude's a selfish monster. Chanse was trying to be open minded, but missed the mark on that one. It happens. The guy was clearly okay with cheating on his wife for a protracted period of time. He was not looking for a poly relationship, he was looking to cheat on his wife. Doesn't matter how much he says he loves her. He doesn't respect her enough to be honest about cheating on her. That's not someone who would communicate well enough to maintain an open relationship. It's someone who is only thinking about their own gratification.
Chanse had a real L take on that one. He was too concerned with defending polyamory in a situation it wasn't even relevant in to where he completely missed what a nasty narcissist the dude was being
yeah, I didn't like that he introduced the idea of polyamory in that story, because that's not it... cheating can't be turned around like "oh lets just fix it by agreeing to sleep with other people"?? the disrespect, the lying, the broken trust, the dehumanization of his partners, where he literally gave them percentages of satisfaction. ew. no. cheating is cheating. he just wanted to still have a formidable partner he is settled with and has a life with while getting a bit of action behind their back, no harm as long as they never find out.. and the way he got so upset by HER cheating, jesus...
@@rickyricardo9710 To be fair, he did seem to understand that after the next info came forth. He was just trying to see it as a silver lining thing I think... still a bad take but yeah.
I think what Chanse was trying to say is that something along those lines may have been something he wanted but had no way of accessing because just trying to talk about it could've ruined their relationship, but then he took the worst possible route to getting there. Especially since that was before the story progressed the exact way it did with the "only I can cheat" type shit
I hope that the girl in the first story decided to go to her ex-boyfriend's mother and tell her everything. That woman is being abused for years by her husband, and maybe that will be the wake-up call she needs.
I think it’s so interesting that the stalker husband chose Bumble as the dating app for his lie. Because on Bumble, only the women can message first. Only the women can initiate conversation. I think picking Bumble for his lie was 100% intentional. He was trying to make the op think that the boss CHOSE him.
I was extremely ill for eight years. My husband was by my side every moment. He was extremely worried. He took all the responsibilities for taking care of our children and home. He never complained and only tried to support me and be my biggest cheerleader. I know I would have died if my husband went and had an affair at the hardest time of my life. Our love only grew for each other. Our trust got even stronger. My husband is selfless. It is unbelievable that there are men that put sex before respect, honor, and love.
yep, just get 3 of the cast together, put together a list of some stories, and begin reading & reacting. Sure there's some behind the scenes editing, but nothing physical changing should def make it quick & easier than most things
Shayne is the best suited cast member to host these. He is always so understanding of both sides and always focuses on good, honest discussion. Great stuff Shayne! 😎
For the tradition one: It would’ve been a cute family tradition if they had the couple have to work together to make a dinner and desert for the family and that could’ve been super cute
1:14:47 "TWO MEMBERSHIPS!" The way she looks at Chance right after😂 This moment is so funny to me. The crew laughing in the background really makes the joke. Angela had been saying chaotic quips throughout the whole video, but this one really got me.
When Shayne first said "cake eaters", I was thinking about another kinda cake and that there might be a twist where the wife surprised him that she loves to eat "cake" on the low too and BOOM they both are eating hella cake together😂
@@princesharp1223 It means adulterer. It's a reference to the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it too" and these guys are going "I BEG TO DIFFER!" To no avail.
@@janine2957 yeah. The boss later gets pregnant and has a "long distance boyfriend" but turns out it's the ex husband. Op finds out in a facebook post.
The guy making excuses for why his affair was ok reminds me of a Kennie JD quote that goes something like: “if you cheat on me, and I find out you didn’t even love her… You made me live a lie, compromised my health, and broke my trust over you’re nut?? Just to get off? That’s worse to me. You never cared about my feelings. You don’t respect me let alone love me” and I couldn’t agree more
I called the woman also having an affair on her husband. There's no way a woman is with her husband for 6 years and didn't figure out he was in an affair. She found out, stayed for the kids and got her own piece of cake.
Yeah, she def kept it together for the family, fell out of love and fell for someone else, and him accusing her without coming clean was just the final straw
I really love the dynamic of Angela making a reference ("Ding dong The Witch is dead!") completely out of pocket and Chance just giving her a "Hmm?" look.
The one where all her friends left her at lunch really hurt my heart 😞 imagine all your friends leaving you like that after you tried really hard to make an effort to be there. I know it was a misunderstanding, but in the moment I would have cried so hard lol especially if I had ADHD making life even harder
Yeah living with disabilities is really hard! It’s all just people thinking your weird, stupid, silly, childish, and selfish? But it’s trying to figure out how to be doing something… Like everyone else got a guidebook to life that we just didn’t receive..
As a fellow psychology degree holder, I feel like I would love to see a podcast that’s Shane sitting down with different people and just being real. I love to have those kinds of conversations where we walk away feeling more human. Maybe I just miss smoshcast
@@JSargeK people w psych degrees typically end up being someone with a drive to understand and empathize with everyone and move through life with more patience but also healthier boundaries. I also really enjoyed Courtney on the podcast, that was probably my favorite thing she’s been involved in because she has an interesting story to tell but she’s got her vlogs now what kind of scratch that itch
Empathizing with other means you should be a childfree person. And if you aren't, then you aren't any better or more understanding than anyone else. And your thoughts are just as basic as others.
it really does terrify me too. the best thing to do though is to learn from these stories and run like hell the second you see a red flag, even if it seems like nothing. where there’s smoke there’s fire
@@impressivesmoshAnd have a strong support system (family, friends, therapist, something) so that they have an outsider's view and don't have the bias you would have towards your partner/partner-to-be. Love does blind people, even the smartest.
These two are my absolute favorite guests! So happy to have been introduced to them and to enjoy their guesses of what happened next in the stories lol
He contradicted himself. He said he met his affair partner because of their kink. Then he said he discovered they had the same kink after they were together.
reddit stories do feel like bedtime stories, if bedtime stories had the purpose of making you lie awake in bed whispering "what the FUCK" to youeself over and over instead of sleeping
The bride test one made me immediately think of the family in Ready or Not. Tip - don't marry someone whose family reminds you of a horror movie. Kinda an obvious red flag but here we are I guess
Oh wow, that's even worse than where my brain went. I went to stuff like old animes where people are desperate to marry into the rich influential old family that lives in that mansion on the hill, so they're willing to do ANY ridonkulous things the heads of the family say to do. :P (For example, I think this happens in "Nihao My Concubine" from Ranma 1/2. I remember something about an "Anything-Goes Flower Arranging Contest.")
The more I watch these videos the more I learn how to communicate well, how to be patient, a lot about red flags in people and myself. So glad I found this channel.
That first story reminded me of a story I read in a book about toxic parents. It is so eerily similar to the girl who developed this cleaning ritual because her father always told her she was dirty. Turns out it was the father projecting because he had impure thoughts about his own daughter and she didn't find out until she was an adult. That story stuck with me because of how absolutely vile it was.
I did feel kind of bad for the boyfriend in that first story. He really just didn't seem like he knew any better? It's so sad how much that kind of stuff gets passed down to kids who feel like the only thing they can do is trust their parents. His dad was insecure and passed that down to his kid.
@@EmilytheBaleester yeah, it is so tragic. And having to unpack a lot of childhood trauma as an adult is hard if you don't know where to start. Hopefully this started him on his journey to re-evalute what he was taught as a child.
by the way y’all the accident that made sex not available for his wife for a year was a miscarriage of their child. that’s why he called it an accident, because he KNEW the fact that his entire reason for this starting (50:47) was so completely disgusting on his part.
I called the brunch story OP having ADHD, or at least that it would come up in her post. It is so hard to be on time for me. Good on her for having all those systems in place to be on time. For those who don't know, ADHD has been defined as "Time blindness" having trouble being on time is a common struggle for people like us.
Yes to this. Time blindness has nothing to do with respect. It is a serious brain function issue and takes so much energy to try to be on time for everything
Agreed y'all. I felt that too. I wasn't dx until a few yrs ago (mid 30s) and was already working on solutions for the time blindness before I even had a name for it. It takes me twice as long to do normal tasks and is so friggin exhausting. Plus, having to try to get your parents' time blindness under control as well is just...ugh.
Plus, can't forget the one two punch of executive dysfunction and time blindness! I use alarms and schedules for even the most menial tasks or things go off the rails. Everything has steps, and those have to go in order, and while helpful, it's hella exhausting.
About the "family traditions" one: how come they are going to get married and the boyfriend knows about the traditions yet failed to tell her beforehand? I feel like this is something that should have been talked about before they told his family the news. Like, he knew what was coming, and had the power to understand what she felt like prior to the convo with the parents and therefore completely avoid it if necessary. Edit: about the update - it did not shock me that the guy is a misogynist. Look at his family and their traditions...
The "best friend confession before the wedding" story was crazy!!!!! She really dodged a bullet, & I'm glad that her & her (now) husband worked everything out rather than keeping it under wraps! Good for her!
Angela saying she has a thing about friendships of 5+ years being able to blow up so quickly without even trying is something I needed to hear so bad. One of my friends wouldn’t invite me to things she was inviting everyone else to, so I finally confronted her about it. She was defensive, kept saying I had to understand her being defensive because I was “accusing”her of hurting me (never accused her, just said what she did hurt whether the intention was good or bad) (honestly, I don’t understand being defensive when somebody comes to you hurt. you listen to their feelings and see how you can change your behavior so you don’t hurt them again. Then if you still feel it’s unfair, you can voice your own feelings kindly.). By the end, I was completely gaslighted into being the only one apologizing because “I did not come to her the first time it happened”.
Don't be sorry, the comment section is for whatever people want to share. I had a falling out with a long term friend in a situation somewhat similar--long story somewhat short called her out for being rude after I drove 4.5 hrs into town for the holidays and then another 45 minutes to hang out with her and she was on her phone lying about messaging people constantly right to my and another friend's face and then gaslit me about how rude I was to imply she was a liar. Anyway, the big takeaway I got after literally months of offering olive branches just to make amends and let bygones be bygones was that you don't have to be friends with everyone and sometimes the best thing to do for yourself is to cut people out even if they have been around for a long time. Not sure if you had to do that or are considering it, but for me at least she just kept proving to me that I made the right decision to stop trying to be friends.
thats so shitty! if you've been friends for 5+ years you would think she would understand where you were coming from or at least try to hear you out! i had a very similar situation with one of my friends, I wish I could tell you it ended peacefully but I'm a wimp so I just sort of distanced myself from them (something I know can be difficult with friend groups!) when I realised talking to them just became them putting the blame on me (they once said they didn't invite me places bc I'm always so "busy" which is not a nice thing to hear when they aren't even asking you if you're available!)
I had a falling out with a friend of about 6 years. It was a pretty big blow up but at the end of it, we realized it was for the best. I realized that our friendship was just one of convenience. We hadn’t been able to talk openly in a long time and I always felt worse after hanging with them. Unfortunately we were roommates. It’s been a couple years now and I’m much happier without this “friend” in my life.
If your friend would have been honest with you and told you why, no matter what the reason, would you be defensive like you mentioned they were or try to be understanding?
49:25 I love how supportive Chanse is being with Angela in this episode. He really seems to have a good balance of pumping her up and teasing and I love him for that
Agree! Instead of testing them, they should sit down together, cook and maybe teach some family recepies. Would've been so much nicer and create relationship with family
Tbh I’m glad the test was what it was, like that commenter said; it could’ve easily turned into “you’re such a good housewife, you should give up on your life and dreams so I can have washed socks for free!”
39:50 I'm THRILLED that she decided to quit because most of the time people just don't wanna leave an established relationship bcs how much time and affection they've spent.
The fact that the last story has ANOTHER another update is crazy- THE BOSS IS PREGNANT WITH THE EX'S KID. She stayed with him after ALL THAT and shes having his KID !!!!! 😭😭😭😭
I 100 percent predicted the ADHD diagnosis. When they set they set tons of reminder etc and sometimes that still doesn't work I knew it must be ADHD or neurodivergence. I'm autistic and struggle with the working memory part of executive function and have forgot important things like driving lessons, support work appointments, bringing gifts I got to birthdays etc despite usually setting many reminders. It's not purposeful or careless.
No It’s, not carelessness. It’s humiliating to not be able to function properly and just be on time. Sure you build up a workable coping stray, but every once in a while there comes a time when it fails for whatever reason. That’s where communication with the people in your life becomes incredibly important. I’ve been so lucky to find a group of friends who are extremely supportive, and that makes all the difference in the world.
Seriously. I can't believe I operated my whole life not knowing I had ADHD and the amount of shame I've lived with is astounding. I truly thought I was a useless broken flaky ahole, when in reality I've been overwhelmed and exhausted and barely keeping it together.
Before hearing the results on the test one, I just wanna point out something. Even if they wouldn’t reject her if she failed the test, I bet that they will bring it up any chance that they can. They might even try to say it’s a joke, but she will feel like garbage. And in the moment that she fails, she will feel inferior to the women in his family. I would feel like shit in that situation, and I can cook well enough. And I’ll probably would have dodged it as best I could by laughing it off and saying maybe if I felt as uncomfortable if she does I bet that they would reject her if she failed it, and they would start putting ideas into her fiancé’s head, or they would start suggesting other women that they deem “appropriate”
These Reddit stories always make me realize how incredible mundane and boring my life is. Like in my 26 years of life I haven't experienced an ounce of the drama these people have. Better that way I guess haha
bro I CANNOT do drama. these reddit stories all sound hellish to me. if someone in my life will show me even an ounce of being unnecessarily over the top and prone to do weird shit its ba-bye from me. what a headache it must be to try and keep yourself afloat in this crazy world while also dealing with some real crippling bullshit... couldn't be me honestly
I feel this. I've be adjacent to drama, like friends and family members but never really me. I mean I've had fights with friends but nothing with cheating/lying/betrayal. It was more of misunderstands.
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I love how the cheating husband is like “how can she be over 20 years so fast?” If she knew about your affair “for some time,” she already went through those emotions, alone, and has already started the process of moving on. I mean, she’s practically been dating someone else.
I love how the first thing that comes to his mind when finding out about her affair is “how can she be over 20 years so fast?” when he had been literally cheating for 6 years. Like, who tf threw 20 years down the drain? Or at least who did it first?
This has to be a bait post, right? How can a person be so unaware is beyond me.
@@rivendriftwood it could be, but unfortunately there really are people like this. There are tons of people who lack any kind of self awareness and literally only live in their own feelings, it’s like they are incapable of empathy.
@@rivendriftwoodhope so but sadly their are men out there who are like this who think it’s okay for them to cheat but for women it’s disgusting
@@Apathist1408 yep classic narcissist
Is this what it felt like to wake up and look forward to Saturday morning cartoons? Because I wake up and look forward to Saturday morning reddit stories from Shayne.
SAME LMFAO.
I was literally refreshing the channel every 15 minutes
Yes it is exactly the same from what I remember as a kid. I felt the same type of joy for Saturday morning cartoons as I do when a new reddit video comes out every saturday
Well said well said
Same 😂😂
The fiancé in the second story is awesome. He didn't lose his cool over the text and instead helped her draft a calm and considered response. Then when the idiot blew up and responded, he took the phone and handled everything so that she wouldn't have to think about it/deal with the stress on her wedding day.
For sure, also I’m sure he has some choice things to say to the guy himself
W fiance. The "best friend" is such a shitty person.
he sounds like a dream
He sounds like a genuinely lovely guy. I hope they are happy.
nah ya'll already know when he took the phone and went to a diff room that call sounded like the most vile COD lobby.
And that would be absolutely justified
I feel so bad for the girl whose boyfriend says she stinks. I’ve ALWAYS been so paranoid of smelling awful and if someone constantly said I stink I wouldn’t even be around them. Gaslighting someone into constantly believing they’re constantly gross when they’re hygiene-conscious is breakup worthy at best. I honestly can’t say I would’ve remained civil in that situation tbh. I would’ve screamed my head off.
The fact that he didn't end his scheme after she visited MULTIPLE doctors let's you know that man is unhinged- "I don't want my girlfriend to leave me, so I'll gaslight her into spending hours a day doing insanely unnecessary things then continue while she spends days/weeks seeking medical assistance for something that isn't actually happening".
14:00 friend guy: “you lead me on!”
The girl: *literally has a fiancé and is getting married very soon*
To men even being friends with them is leading them because they believe in friendzone.
@@KN-hg2nv maybe men need to wake up and realize that if you’re in the friendzone you probably don’t have a chance
@@summer1468 Yeah and while it's not all men, it's definitely most of them. They just think women keep them around BECAUSE we know about their feelings and while women like that do exist, it's honestly just better if men will just ask and be honest. But again I feel like just like this guy, anyone like him will just accuse you of leading them on no matter how much you make it clear that you just want to be friends.
Friend guy is a grade A asshole. You weren't a friend you were waiting in line!
@@KN-hg2nv Unfortunate reality of many (maybe most) male-female friendships.
Story 3: what kind of friends don’t check in to make sure you’re okay when you’re running an HOUR behind schedule? Also I would be double checking that someone let them know about the change in time.
Exactly
Yea especially if she’s been consistently on time for the past 2ish years and all of a sudden is awol for an hour… like at least send a “hey where are you” text
For real... For such a comical misunderstanding to happen there has to already be an issue in the friend groups communication or how they treat each other cuz that's just insane. Id understand maybe if it was a one on one meet up because then you've basically just wasted someone's day, but if there's already a group there one person missing shouldn't make you that mad. Plus OP missed the brunch the week before for an appointment but they were willing to push the brunch forward for a different persons appointment? It's all just so weird
@@junglejin3096 It definitely screams a toxic friend group where OP is the outsider
I feel this story has to be fake lmao it all seems so fabricated but so small too that I'm doubting it
This man having a six year affair and then SCREAMING, CRYING, *THROWING UP* when he finds out his wife is having a six month one is hilarious
Literally both ‘Rules for thee and not for me’ and FAFO. 😂
I know like why does he think hes better than everyone else?
dude YES. like omg what a freaking weirdo🤣 serious control issues with this one
my best friend’s dad did a similar thing. he’s in a polygamous relationship with two women and lost respect for his wife when he found out she was doing a similar thing
Him having a "kink" is a clear sign he is mentally ill and is a full on pervert
I just can't stop laughing at the psycho throwing up in the carpet like a cat spitting a hair ball because his wife is treating him the same way he treats her 💀
Narcissists can always dish nasty crap but they can never take it.
Tbh, I doubt what he's saying is true
I like to think he's more delusional and thinks himself as really good at writing, so he's writing the post like a dramatic novel
To which uhh, okay weirdo
ITS NOT JUST ME BUT ITS SO FUCKING FUNNY
Im so proud of these women for walking out and knowing they deserve more
Yeah they shouldn’t be able to cook that’s misogynistic
Yeah all these posts the women don't deserve people like that, all these guys had creepy responses too
@@Industry-insider That’s not the issue, the issue is they’re putting down an expectation that she’s gonna be a stay at home wife and mother, and if it’s not good enough they won’t really be considered family by the others.
@@Industry-insider I mean why should she have to cook? If the husband wants nice food that bad he can ask his sisters/sister in laws to teach him.
@@frootsnacc6790 I don’t see why that’s seen as such a bad thing, yeah she should choose but who the fuck would rather be at work than with your kids
Fun fact, the affair story was addressed by the wife in her own post! And she said he lied in his post and had gone to her about opening up the marriage. She hesitantly agreed but he flipped when she found her new guy. The update is insane! Please find it if you all can! (Two hot takes did this same story that’s how I found it)
He was a narcissist.
WHATTT which episode was that in??
OMG link…?!
Send the link please!
What twohottakes video?? I wanna read the update from her pov so bad
Good on OPS husband in the second story. Seemed like he was so supportive and wholesome in making sure this wasn’t a problem from their wedding, and potentially after. She chose the right man for sure.
I was worried he would go ballistic like the family tradition guy
What a good man, I wish those people well
yeah, I really appreciate how he handled that situation, and she handled it so maturely. good couple 👍
the both of them are so emotionally mature and calm it's insane. props to them tbh, i hope they're doing well
That disgusting incel of a “friend” will actually believe HE was betrayed. I feel dirty after hearing that one.
Polyamory is not an excuse for affairs. As a person who is polyamorous, that's just not an excuse.
100% agree but I think Chanse was more coming from the perspective of “we currently don’t have the ability to have these difficult conversations about polyamory in previously monogamous relationships.” Which is a good point but doesn’t defend OP’s behavior since while those conversations are tough they still need to have them. Not mentioning the fact that OP had a disconnect between love and sex with his wife and affair partner which from the pov of an aroace person, uh isn’t polyamory?
Fr I was confused why he brought that up.. It didn’t even sound like he wanted polyamory, Where everyone is in a relationship, the guy wanted his nice wife and a side piece to have sex with. He didn’t see the other woman as a relationship.
@@OliverStarfallhe was not looking for an excuse, but an explanation. explanations answer shitty behavior, it answers all our behaviors and improves relationships generally. That being said, i think he was being optimistic more than anything.
@@KingOfGaymes that is a version of polyamory, and he likely wouldn't have engaged in such a shitty bullshit version of all of that structure of belief if our culture afforded the concept to him and his wife as not inherently the deepest form of betrayal to even think of it.
you sure?
The husband in the last story specifically saying bumble is INSANE, especially when bumble is an app where the woman has to be the one to reach out, so not only has he come up with a lie specifically to hide his apparent stalking but he then made it out like the boss reached out to him first??? Im so shook that one was nutty
I MISSED THAT! no wonder the boss had that reaction when OP mentioned the app 🤯
I completely forgot that fact about Bumble, and damn if that's not the extra nail in his coffin.
Men can actually reach out first on bumble I think it's probably a pay-to-do or subscription thing, but you get 3 or 5 uses for free when you register (not sure, only ever used 2 of those free ones before I noticed that dating app's aren't the thing for me)
he also wanted her to tell her boss that he wasn't creepy or a stalker while he was actively stalking her boss!!
I’m glad they had a women supporting each other moment and she kept her job that she loves 😂 horror story dodged a goddamn bullet could have gone MUCH worse…AND she kept her job :)
"Respect is more powerful than love."
Shayne's mom dropping the wisdom.
True. Makes sense with how full of wisdom Shayne is now ❤
If you truly love someone, you respect them first.
Immediately paused the video to let it resonate
just like in Scott Pilgrim movie. Power of self respect is stronger than power of love
I was actually watching a video from a woman who was a diagnosed sociopath and she was explaining that the reason why she doesn’t cheat on her partner or anything is more because she respects him rather than because she loves him
My favourite genre of reddit stories is cheating men writing in in emotional distress because they found out that their wives/girlfriends were also cheating on them ESPECIALLY if they did out of revenge. i LIVE for the hypocrisy and the excuses they try to make up for themselves.
The “I bawl my eyes out and threw up on the carpet” SENT ME 💀
@@braydenswinhart THE CACKLE I LET OUT ISTG
It's like bro it's only wrong if they hurt you but you can cheat all you want and that's ok it's just sex like SHUT. UP. 🤣🤣
Lmfao it’s because they can’t imagine someone having the audacity to do it to them back.
@@blairwaldorf-bass8180 its also about gendered expectations and the general idea that women cannot separate sex and love, that women should by default be more loyal/considerate, etc etc
There is another update to the last story. Unfortunatly , the boss gets back together with OP's ex-husband as she had become pregnant in that 6 weeks. The boss just avoids OP at work but is not mean or anything to her so OP practically hit her low point when she realized it. Hopefully , there was a better update after that
that is literally the saddest thing ever
noooo way, rllyy???
"Hi reddit. AITA for getting pregnant from my stalker after being warned by his ex wife?"
@@Aussie_Stitch The way I understood that is that the boss got back together with him after finding out that she was 6 wks pregnant. She probably felt that she couldn't handle all of the parenting in addition to her job, plus thought he deserved a place in their future child's life and didn't want that to be through animosity, hurt feelings, and divided time. Plus we already know that he is an expert at gaslighting so he'd probably try to turn their child against her as soon as possible.
Just sad on sad.
I feel so bad for op. None of that is her fault. The boss too, as she kinda got stuck between a rock and a hard place, but the guy is just the worst kind of person.
@@Just1Noraeh the boss kind of dug her own hole, especially since she had been cheated on.
"I would have chosen her over affair partner in a second" YOU DIDN'T! YOU DIDN'T FOR SIX YEARS YOU LUNATIC!
right!!!!!!!
op wrote so many phrases in the update that made me wanna punch him in the face.
like him saying she threw 20 years away.
YEAH CAUSE U HAVENT RIGHT. OF COURSE U THINK ITS OKAY WHEN U DO IT U ASS
EXACTLY!!
I so bit my hand when he read that...
He didn’t even tell her his kink, just assumed she wouldn’t be into it and used that to justify breaking trust for over half a decade.
This......This...and more this
To think "i know i truly love my wife" while youre actively hurting her every single day, that really ain't love
It's very important to realise that love, like, respect and trust are all factors of a relationship that should be assessed. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you like them. Just because you trust and like someone, doesn't mean you respect them, and just because you like, trust and respect someone, doesn't mean you love them.
@@mrfrogkingg If you don't like or respect someone then you don't love them. That is not love.
@@jamer2010 it's not showing that person you love them. But some parents love their children while actively disrespecting them and admitting that they dislike them.
@@mrfrogkingg That's not love. If you hurt, neglect, disrespect someone, ect..... That's not love. Just saying you love someone doesn't mean you love them. Idk why that's so hard for you to understand.
@@jamer2010 I understand that now, I don't know why I said the other stuff. I'm seriously confused about what my parents want from me, and how I feel about them, so I guess I was projecting.
The last story blew my mind. This man was married, got a second gym membership behind his wife's back just so he could stalk another woman, and was still claiming he didn't do anything wrong, wasn't a stalker, and would have stayed faithful to his wife if she hadn't left him. F**k off sir. You were already cheating in your mind even if you didn't sleep with the woman until after your divorce.
I wished the OP would have called him out when he confronted her after she had told her boss everything. Would have been much more satisfying.
@@floridamattsreviewsvlogsan3892 Honestly he was giving unhinged murder energy, and I was soooo worried for OP's safety. While a confrontation would've been emotionally satisfying, I'm so glad she got him out of her home ASAP.
@@floridamattsreviewsvlogsan3892 I think she did exactly what she was supposed to. Divorce him and saved another woman from ending up in a relationship with a psycho.
His wife was just as bad. She was also having an affair. They are both assholes.
Literally… that story pissed me off so much
That 'family tradition' sounds like the start of a sequel to 'Ready or Not'
This is such a great show for Shayne to host, his psychology degree gives him a bit of insight and he tends to have pretty rational opinions
Love him
Right? Admittedly I don’t agree with some of his points but at least I can understand why he believes that way. He can also see both sides which is something not a lot of commentators do. They could not have find someone better. This makes me appreciate shayne a lot more now.
@stellamariefanboy.6768 Now I'm curious what you don't agree with.
Just to get another opinion on these stories.
was about to say that this show gave him a platform that to use his degree and basically reading people without actually having his own real patient.
He’s honestly extremely good at reading people. It’s crazy. He’s a genuinely healthy person.
That "test" is just unimaginable. I love that the OP's family proposed their own "test" in response. The _real_ test was that OP's fiancé just couldn't deal with that Uno reverse card. His family set the bar super high, he perpetuated it, her family did the same back and he tripped at the first and lowest hurdle. Glorious.
Fr!! I couldn't get past how HUMILIATING such a test would be, especially for someone who doesn't regularly do housework. Yet she should just do it because it's a "tradition"??
Thank goodness she got out of that bs. "Good riddance to bad rubbish" my Nana used to say
I was thinking how hilarious it would have been if they had Charlie and the Chocolate Factory-ed her and her response to the test was the test itself. Like if when she refused it and went off they were like "YES! Finally he brings home a girl that has a backbone and is willing to stick up for herself." It's too bad they just turned out to be trash.
Perpetuating the sexism in a culture/relationship as a "test"... nope. Walk away.
Would have been the icing on the cake if she told SIL about his little comment and snapped her out of being "the perfect housewife" 🤢
Once Kimmy and Amanda are over their wedding stress and recovery from all the excitement I would love to see them react to bridezilla posts, there’s so many that I’d love the perspective of two women dealing with wedding stress and planning and all that
Edit: ong thank you for liking my comments I didn’t think others would agree
Great idea!!
aaah yes!!!
Amazing idea
THIS PLEASE
thissss!!
I come from a "prank family". When my oldest niece announced her engagement she said he was a little nervous about meeting everyone in the family because he wasn't sure how we would react because he is black (my family is mixed white and Native American). I told him, it's not that he's black we have a problem with, it's the drinking problem.
He was stunned, "What drinking problem? I don't even drink beer!"
"Everytime I see you, you've got a Pepsi in your hand! This is a Coke family."
He took it well!
This is hilarious 😂 I love it!!
Family’s reaction proves that its not some fun test and they feel very strong about her being a housewife
And why didn’t her fiancé tell her about it before dinner instead of it being sprung on her by the sister and future mil?
I think that if you know that your bf doesn't expect you to be a housewife, just indulge his family or whatever. Especially because you don't live in the same country. They are not going to be a daily part of your life.
@@nadiacalembe1546 see he says he doesn’t expect her to, but after she refused his true colors came out. She dodged a bullet
@@TalenynWrenmaybe he uhhhh FORGOT?
It is some fun test her fiance literally said that she wouldn't have been rejected if she failed the test
Chronically Late story:
Okay maybe it's just me but the friends in that scenario are ALL garbage. All it took was being late ONCE in two years and they were SO quick to write her off???? Also- those friends were all sitting around for over an hour, there is NO WAY her tardiness did not come up, so why did the friend who was supposed to update her not say anything? I'm imagining them all sitting around going "man why isn't she here, she knows this starts at 10", which should have been followed by the friend who was supposed to give the updated info saying "oh my gosh! I never told her, let me call her real quick" - OR SOMETHING, LIKE HOW DID THIS NOT COME UP.
Trash friends to write her off so quickly, I would not stay friends with any of them imo
Yea it doesn't make sense I think most likely thing is OP is being deceptive... like apparently they didn't eat for the entire 1 hour and 15 minutes they were waiting for her? Out of, what? Compassion? Why would they do that choreographed move to leave then? And why would they make an elaborate plan to update OP about the time when they could also just post in group chat either way? Itd be a reminder as much as a heads up. I think this story treats the friends as NPCs and personally think its more likely there's stuff OP didn't say or just made it up. Either way I think there is enough sketchy things about the story that talking about it should always have a preface like, "IF the OP is telling the truth, then ..."
tbh I kinda think they did that on purpose. if they didn't plan to at first someone probably figured what happened and decided to not tell anything.
honestly, even if it was a genuine accident that they forgot that ENTIRE time, theres still no excuse for that massive blow up. great to know that one, tiny mistake that's almost if not completely impossible to avoid, could end like that? it'd just feel like you're constantly walking on eggshells from that point on.
every single time you plan on going out with friends, you'd have to spam them every day, to make sure the times stay the same, the length of time it'd take for them to answer be nauseating, and the extreme anxiety while on the way to the meetup point.
just looking at the story from face value, they'd be accidental assholes, but honestly fuck those guys. they're awful.
i was more surprised none of them bothered to text her "hey where are you?" or something after 30 mins passed. like? whats the point of the group chat then?? lol
☝🏼This
The brunch story is so weird. Massive side eye to the group of friends who just waited till she arrived to leave.
Exactly, even if it was a mix up they aren’t you’re friends if they try to embarrass you like that. Is understandable to be upset but those girls are very shady.
@@GobliMobli Interesting assumption that it's a group of girls, considering there's nothing in the story to suggest that
@cheyennemarie7075 well, i feel like it's sort of more likely to be a group of girls than a group of guys. it could be a mixed group, but guys couldn't be bothered with that sort of pettiness. they would text and call the op an asshole or something, not stay and wait an extra hour just to attempt to embarrass someone like that.
@@arthurisacannibal3986 Nah cus I've met guys who are just as petty as the bitchiest of girls, especially if they feel economically superior than you. Guys are bitches too.
Yeah this group just doesn't like that person anymore full stop. Time for new friends
I love that Angela and Chance are sitting on the couch in a blanket like they're watching a Lifetime or Hallmark movie 😂
Props to the last girl for not only getting out a relationship with a psycho, but also for saving her boss from unknowingly continuing a romantic relationship with her literal stalker
Spoiler alert
Edit: with the most recent episode, the second part of this comment aged like milk 😬😬😬
I wish her family had her back instead of making her feel like she was overreacting. This woman was just reading the signs, and reading them 100% correctly. The fact that he got a secret gym membership at her boss' gym completely confirms everything she thought was happening.
@@L2Sentinel agreed, I wonder if op’s ex was manipulating them or something so that only op saw his crazy side
literally! my mouth was hanging open the entire time
Fron the start of that i was like girl fuck that man u gotta tell your boss so when the twist was he joined her gym 6 months ago i was like yea and you know that creep was prob specifically using the equipment around her and was prob creeping on her and ish ew.....but i love the boss and honsestly the op should of straight told him she didn't say he was a creep she explain everything to her boss and her boss being the smart bad ass queen she is came to her conclusion herself that he was a disgusting creep
@@angelhalliwell7348 I also love the boss but op absolutely did not owe an explanation to her creepy ex
I love how Angela will grab anything from the set and use it to make whatever she’s saying that much better
Loved her candle swinging! It's like she united everyone who was feeling the same!
She's a great actress as well. Saw her in black Friday on TH-cam and it was so good
@@meganlaugharne126 wait, are you telling me she is a StarKid??? How did I never notice???
@@Claraimal yeah she's Lex
If I tried that, I would just knock everything over 😭
Something that really pissed me off about the 6 year affair story is that he started cheating because she got in a bad accident and couldn't satisfy him anymore. It is proven that men are more likely to leave their chronically ill partners. He didn't see his wife as a person.
The entire story was all "my needs, my kinks, my satisfaction, my love, my wants, my feelings, me me me". Dude genuinely has only thought about himself his entire life and can't handle the uno reverse card that's been played on his life.
AND THEY'D KNOWN EACH OTHER FOR FOURTEEN YEARS WHEN HE STARTED CHEATING WTF
I don't really think it says something about men rather unfaithful people show their true colors when the going gets tough
My ex literally said while breaking up with me "I can't even take care of a dog how do you expect me to take care of you?" Sent me into a spiral of depression and felt like no one will ever love me and stay with me. My dad also started cheating on my mom and blamed her for it because she wasn't satisfying his libido enough.
Yeah fuck men they should be forced to stay with a women until SHE decides he can leave her
Chanse and Angela have some of the most expressive faces and body language. I love them both so much. I hope they never leave.
Ikr I was loving all the looks they kept giving each other too lol
I think the lady who had an affair doesn’t feel anything because she went through the heartbreak when she found out, moved on, and fell in love with someone else. He’s going through the emotions she’s already healed from.
Chanse gets this dissociative look on his face when he's rly thinking and obviously upset and he gets all quiet and then shares his thoughts at the end and I love it
Shayne's psychology degree is really coming out with this series, I love it.
for reallllll
So take that, Damien
/j
Lol he reminds me of the guy from CinemaTherapy (Jonathan “Johnno” Decker) when he gets like that
Angela randomly singing "DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD" and instantly regretting is the moment i will always cherish in my heart 😂
I just gotta say this about the one with the bestie in love with her right before the wedding: Her fiance (now husband) was amazing in his support of her. While she was too distraught to do anything, he took care of blocking the former friend and notifying people in the wedding party so they could keep things smooth for her on their wedding day. A true partner looking out for his partner.
and the fact that he took the initiative respectfully, didnt demand to handle it but didnt hover and be useless. He saw his partner in distress and helped her with zero hesitation or expectation, even on their wedding day. Just...if thats not True Love idk what is!
Right?? Like, when I think of men being protective in a hot way, I don't picture a guy fighting, I picture a guy saying "I got you", protecting your emotions and being a fucking chad like the guy in the story.
"Respect is more powerful than love", that is such a good quote, wooo.
I feel like real love should include respect
@@Rita-kx3yr Agreed, I don't think love is real if there's no respect. It's not about what's more 'powerful' it's that love is meaningless without it.
@@Rita-kx3yr the way I think about it, love can be an emotion, but *loving someone* is a choice and a made of actions. You can feel the emotion of love towards someone while being kind of shitty towards them, but *actively loving someone* or *being loving towards them* - that includes respect and honesty and fairness and being a good person towards them and consistently prioritizing their happiness and well-being.
i dont think respect is a choice but disrespect certainly is
The second story is absolutely disgusting, how the friend just absolutely insulted her and saying she led him on while she was in a relationship with the guy who she got engaged to and eventually married to. Props to her now hubby for being so understanding and handling things for her!!!
Honestly, that "best friend" was giving full Nice Guy™️ energy. Like, full 3 act play of foolishness - "hanging out in the friendzone", then "last minute Hail Mary confession", then finally "fine, I didn't like you anyway, your loss".
And yet, these guys think this act is somehow endearing? 🤔
He literally thought that she led him on for 10 years??? Is he insane (I mean clearly yes) Also a very sad reality for many women to find out that their closest/best friend has literally only hung out on the sliver of a chance to sleep with her. I would be crushed to pieces.
I could accept that a friend has feelings and move past it with them, but the friend leaving would hurt so bad. Like was our friendship nothing to you
Haven't seen it yet but I commented in another video how the "friend zone" is a myth. It's a concept conjured up by people(mostly men) who don't have the guts to shoot their shot and instead try to show the woman how "nice" he is. When this somehow works they will complain "it's like having a girlfriend without the benefits" to which I respond, "you mean having a friend? Which is what she is treating you like because that's how she views you?"
At the end of the day the people that pull this crap are outright predatory. They are using the premise of friendship to get into a person's pants rather than genuinely offer friendship without any quid pro quo. But then these are the same people who will disparage their object of "affection" when those feelings are not returned or perceived to not be how they want.
It's an incredibly toxic trait and I will likely edit as a response to this after having seen it. Still on the first story and WOW...
Edit: yeah sadly I was right
... wow what a train wreck that situation was. Glad things worked out.
@Chicken Sandwich No edit required, you hit the nail on the head without even hearing the story. 1000% Nice Guy™️ behavior, straight from the playbook.
@@chickensandwich8808 The friend zone isn't a myth it's literally just a term for unrequited feelings which are very real. Maybe try feeling some sympathy for people who are put in a very difficult emotional situation. People don't choose who they have a romantic inclination towards--stop viewing things as a sex/friend binary. There's stuff in between that.
The fact that the boyfriend in "the test" blew up when her family tried to give him a test is RIDICULOUS. And when I heard the test from his family I literally said out loud "can he build a house?"
The most eyebrow raising thing about the cake eater story is that the guy thinks the ONLY reason the wife could possibly have an affair is to get back at him for HIS affair. Like, it can't POSSIBLY be that he's somehow deficient.
God, can you imagine if it came out that she'd actually had an affair because she had a kink that he wouldn't be into, and it was the same kink?
@@MagmaRiverthat would be both the funniest and saddest thing ever… I’m sad that I will never know
@@hannahsanchez3648 kink of the magi
Yeah, but as far as we know that is why she did it.
@@dakotawindom she posted in her own reddit thread that he started the affair first, then asked of they could have an open relationship, then flipped out when she, with her knowledge her husband has agreed to an open relationship, had a relationship with another person.
As someone who literally spent 7 years with a mentally abusive partner, I immediately knew the first one was going to be about the boyfriend gaslighting her. My ex made me question my entire life and being everyday. He made me feel insane. The moment that she said that she felt crazy I just know. That is so screwed up.
You definitely see some generational bleed in that one. Judging by how op described his reaction it certainly didn't seem like he knew he was gaslighting and traumatizing. I do believe he did actually care about her and had insecurities that he didn't know how to deal with other than emulating his dad. He grew up with a dad who actively taught him that emotionally and verbally abusing your partner is a good thing and saw women as an object to own. Having that as his normal growing up it's no wonder his father's insecurities and abusive habits bled into him even though he didn't fully understand what he was doing.
Obviously this isn't an excuse, the boyfriend is responsible for his actions and breaking up was the right thing to do. However I don't think he was evil and malicious like your ex was , I think there is hope for him in future relationships if he seeks therapy and unpacks what his dad taught him.
yeah, I was like, to begin with, no matter what the "stink" is from, he is being so rude and pretty much abusive about it. if a partner actually has such a bad BO that they cannot seem to control, even when they become so frantic they develop insane cleanliness habits, you don't just keep waking up in the morning and completely deadpan telling them "ew you stink"?? like wtf sorta bs is that? even if it was actually just her smelling bad his actions were not okay.
@@RiveroftheWither Most abusers probably got it from their parents tbh. I'd assume few abusers go "yeah, I wanna hurt this person right now to make myself feel better". People generally aren't evil on purpose even if they are monsters. Most of them are probably so brainwashed by patriarchal and abusive ideals that they think what they're doing is fine and that everyone does it. That makes absolutely no difference though. An abuser is an abuser, no matter the intent.
@@RiveroftheWither wdym he didnt know he was gaslighting her? He literally admitted that his father TOLD him to do this as a way to make your partner stay with you. Y'all need to give men more credit bc most men aren't that stupid
@@RiveroftheWither like the fact that he thought it's okay or normal doenst mean he's not fully aware of what he's doing.
As a polyamorous person-NO. These misconceptions are so problematic. Open relationships do not work if a couple is on the rocks; it requires a super stable relationship with open communication. It’s not a band-aid to slap down and call it a day. And if no conversation has happened between all parties, it’s not an open relationship-it’s cheating.
Hundred percent, but I think it was only mentioned as a way to try to broach the subject of them both having cheated, not as a way to be that is at all healthy or okay. Ethical non-monogamy is not a fix for extramonogamous affairs; the trust has already been violated, you definitely can't now shift to a relationship style that requires *more* trust and communication! It's the other way around: consider bringing up non-monogamy when you first feel that way, so that you *don't* end up violating your partners' trust when you get over your head later 😑
Yeah, a relationship is an agreement between all parties about what's going on in it. It requires open communication, and it requires every person involved being explicitly aware of all aspects of that relationship. Monogamy is an agreement between two people. Bringing anyone else in without both being aware and consenting before that new person is even approached is cheating. Being in a monogamous relationship, then cheating, then trying to manufacture some poly scenario isn't a healthy way to approach it, even if both parties are cheating. Dude was so scummy being comfortable in his 6 year affair (which he managed to paint himself as the victim of in his explanation, yikes, bringing up his daughters when his decision to cheat (and continue to cheat) was his own choice), but the second his wife does it he acts all emotionally damaged and carpet-barfy. Dude's a selfish monster.
Chanse was trying to be open minded, but missed the mark on that one. It happens. The guy was clearly okay with cheating on his wife for a protracted period of time. He was not looking for a poly relationship, he was looking to cheat on his wife. Doesn't matter how much he says he loves her. He doesn't respect her enough to be honest about cheating on her. That's not someone who would communicate well enough to maintain an open relationship. It's someone who is only thinking about their own gratification.
Chanse had a real L take on that one. He was too concerned with defending polyamory in a situation it wasn't even relevant in to where he completely missed what a nasty narcissist the dude was being
yeah, I didn't like that he introduced the idea of polyamory in that story, because that's not it... cheating can't be turned around like "oh lets just fix it by agreeing to sleep with other people"?? the disrespect, the lying, the broken trust, the dehumanization of his partners, where he literally gave them percentages of satisfaction. ew. no. cheating is cheating. he just wanted to still have a formidable partner he is settled with and has a life with while getting a bit of action behind their back, no harm as long as they never find out.. and the way he got so upset by HER cheating, jesus...
@@rickyricardo9710 To be fair, he did seem to understand that after the next info came forth. He was just trying to see it as a silver lining thing I think... still a bad take but yeah.
I love how Shayne can explain everything and articulate himself well.
LOVE Angela and Chanse as a duo. They give me major "sleepover gossip" vibes. Easily my fave episode
As a polyamorous person, the cheating husband story is NOT polyamory. Thats just gross cheating. Has nothing to do with being poly
I feel like not enough people understand polyamorous relationships and open relationships are NOT the same thing
I think it could have to do with him having suppressed poly... And then just being a massive dick
Also not enough people talk about how important communication and TRUST are to make a polyamorous relationship or open relationship WORK!
I think what Chanse was trying to say is that something along those lines may have been something he wanted but had no way of accessing because just trying to talk about it could've ruined their relationship, but then he took the worst possible route to getting there. Especially since that was before the story progressed the exact way it did with the "only I can cheat" type shit
They really forgot the "amorous" part
I love that Angela's big reaction in the entire episode is "2 memberships?!"
I mean. I understand that. One membership is expensive depending on the gym so 2 is insane!
I hope that the girl in the first story decided to go to her ex-boyfriend's mother and tell her everything. That woman is being abused for years by her husband, and maybe that will be the wake-up call she needs.
The first one is 100% gaslighting and abusive behavior. Good on her for dumping his ass!
YUPPPPP my exact thoughts
I think it’s so interesting that the stalker husband chose Bumble as the dating app for his lie. Because on Bumble, only the women can message first. Only the women can initiate conversation. I think picking Bumble for his lie was 100% intentional. He was trying to make the op think that the boss CHOSE him.
Tbh I think we need more plot twist episodes. This was absolutely insane.
I was extremely ill for eight years. My husband was by my side every moment. He was extremely worried. He took all the responsibilities for taking care of our children and home. He never complained and only tried to support me and be my biggest cheerleader. I know I would have died if my husband went and had an affair at the hardest time of my life. Our love only grew for each other. Our trust got even stronger. My husband is selfless. It is unbelievable that there are men that put sex before respect, honor, and love.
These are probably the videos that require the lowest budget but to me they are so damn entertaining. Also Shayne is such a great host for these.
yep, just get 3 of the cast together, put together a list of some stories, and begin reading & reacting. Sure there's some behind the scenes editing, but nothing physical changing should def make it quick & easier than most things
So we’re not gonna talk about the husband in the second story- he was so good in the situation, props to him 😭
Shayne is the best suited cast member to host these. He is always so understanding of both sides and always focuses on good, honest discussion. Great stuff Shayne! 😎
For the tradition one:
It would’ve been a cute family tradition if they had the couple have to work together to make a dinner and desert for the family and that could’ve been super cute
In the end, she's just not there to fulfill his 50's stepford housewife fantasy that his family seems to enforce.
1:14:47 "TWO MEMBERSHIPS!" The way she looks at Chance right after😂 This moment is so funny to me. The crew laughing in the background really makes the joke. Angela had been saying chaotic quips throughout the whole video, but this one really got me.
And his supportive older brother nod reminds me of my own brother
When Shayne first said "cake eaters", I was thinking about another kinda cake and that there might be a twist where the wife surprised him that she loves to eat "cake" on the low too and BOOM they both are eating hella cake together😂
Omg same! 😭 I was so confused for a moment
Saaame omg
What does cake eater mean
@@princesharp1223
It means adulterer. It's a reference to the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it too" and these guys are going "I BEG TO DIFFER!" To no avail.
That last story broke my heart. I hope that woman is okay. She's better off without him and I hope she knows that.
The boss ends up having a kid with the husband
@@idonteatspiders2986what?
@@janine2957 yeah. The boss later gets pregnant and has a "long distance boyfriend" but turns out it's the ex husband. Op finds out in a facebook post.
@@idonteatspiders2986 are you sure????
@@lemontea.mp3579 unfortunately, yes. Shayne read that update in the episode with Damien and Angela. Big OOF
The guy making excuses for why his affair was ok reminds me of a Kennie JD quote that goes something like: “if you cheat on me, and I find out you didn’t even love her… You made me live a lie, compromised my health, and broke my trust over you’re nut?? Just to get off? That’s worse to me. You never cared about my feelings. You don’t respect me let alone love me” and I couldn’t agree more
I called the woman also having an affair on her husband. There's no way a woman is with her husband for 6 years and didn't figure out he was in an affair. She found out, stayed for the kids and got her own piece of cake.
Yup!
Yeah, she def kept it together for the family, fell out of love and fell for someone else, and him accusing her without coming clean was just the final straw
I love how the other cast members are always just as invested in these stories as the rest of us are. This series is perfect, for us AND for them.
I really love the dynamic of Angela making a reference ("Ding dong The Witch is dead!") completely out of pocket and Chance just giving her a "Hmm?" look.
Me and my best friend come out with it occasionally and other people are like hmmm? 🤔 😂
The one where all her friends left her at lunch really hurt my heart 😞 imagine all your friends leaving you like that after you tried really hard to make an effort to be there. I know it was a misunderstanding, but in the moment I would have cried so hard lol especially if I had ADHD making life even harder
Yeah living with disabilities is really hard! It’s all just people thinking your weird, stupid, silly, childish, and selfish? But it’s trying to figure out how to be doing something…
Like everyone else got a guidebook to life that we just didn’t receive..
As a fellow psychology degree holder, I feel like I would love to see a podcast that’s Shane sitting down with different people and just being real. I love to have those kinds of conversations where we walk away feeling more human. Maybe I just miss smoshcast
I think he's a naturally good conversationalist and I think it as a degree really helps that aspect of him shine through
@@JSargeK people w psych degrees typically end up being someone with a drive to understand and empathize with everyone and move through life with more patience but also healthier boundaries. I also really enjoyed Courtney on the podcast, that was probably my favorite thing she’s been involved in because she has an interesting story to tell but she’s got her vlogs now what kind of scratch that itch
High key missing Smoshcast too! 😭
Empathizing with other means you should be a childfree person. And if you aren't, then you aren't any better or more understanding than anyone else. And your thoughts are just as basic as others.
I miss the Smoshcast too! I keep hoping someday they’ll do it again
Chance yelling "YES BITCH!" after here about the affair, and the girl knowing, HAD ME DYING 😂😂
it terrifies me how many secret male narcissists there are. This is my nightmare
Just as many female ones. People in general are narcissistic now a days.
it really does terrify me too. the best thing to do though is to learn from these stories and run like hell the second you see a red flag, even if it seems like nothing. where there’s smoke there’s fire
@@impressivesmoshAnd have a strong support system (family, friends, therapist, something) so that they have an outsider's view and don't have the bias you would have towards your partner/partner-to-be.
Love does blind people, even the smartest.
These Reddit stories consistently push me towards the gay side of my bisexuality lol
You know what to look out for.
These two are my absolute favorite guests! So happy to have been introduced to them and to enjoy their guesses of what happened next in the stories lol
He contradicted himself. He said he met his affair partner because of their kink. Then he said he discovered they had the same kink after they were together.
Ooh good catch!
Right!
I remember thinking "how do you even meet someone because of a kink when u are married, unless you already have every intention of cheating?"
He also said his wife wasn’t into it… but in the update mentioned how his wife didn’t KNOW about it….
@@janieussery7172he is lying every way so people help him Ajshsbhs
Is contradicting yourself considered a sign of lying?
smosh saturdays with reddit are now just a part of my weekly routine lol a nice treat for the end of the week
Never understood when cheaters get absolutely pissed about being cheated on.
Ego and double standards. So gross
Yeah, total hypocrites.
Respect is more powerful than love. Damn Shayne's mom. That's deep
This is the best series on Smosh. Like a podcast but on acid. Also, Angela is the best Smosh member. Like a normal Smosh member, but on acid.
i dont think so man, i think you're just on acid lmao
"Did someone mentioned Malic acid?" - Garret probably
Something tells me you've never taken acid hahaha
@@mac_sourLike a normal commenter, but on acid
I've watched smosh on shrooms before, it is weirdly comforting
My favorite one so far. Shaynes voice is weirdly calming like somehow I feel as if I’m being read a twisted bedtime story.
reddit stories do feel like bedtime stories, if bedtime stories had the purpose of making you lie awake in bed whispering "what the FUCK" to youeself over and over instead of sleeping
The bride test one made me immediately think of the family in Ready or Not. Tip - don't marry someone whose family reminds you of a horror movie. Kinda an obvious red flag but here we are I guess
I THOUGHT THE SAME THING 😂 when he said "family tradition" I was like 🧐
Oh wow, that's even worse than where my brain went. I went to stuff like old animes where people are desperate to marry into the rich influential old family that lives in that mansion on the hill, so they're willing to do ANY ridonkulous things the heads of the family say to do. :P
(For example, I think this happens in "Nihao My Concubine" from Ranma 1/2. I remember something about an "Anything-Goes Flower Arranging Contest.")
lol i thought exactly the same! and when shane said to 'make it sillier' i lost it because like why not hide n seek then
The more I watch these videos the more I learn how to communicate well, how to be patient, a lot about red flags in people and myself. So glad I found this channel.
That first story reminded me of a story I read in a book about toxic parents. It is so eerily similar to the girl who developed this cleaning ritual because her father always told her she was dirty. Turns out it was the father projecting because he had impure thoughts about his own daughter and she didn't find out until she was an adult.
That story stuck with me because of how absolutely vile it was.
I did feel kind of bad for the boyfriend in that first story. He really just didn't seem like he knew any better? It's so sad how much that kind of stuff gets passed down to kids who feel like the only thing they can do is trust their parents. His dad was insecure and passed that down to his kid.
@@EmilytheBaleester yeah, it is so tragic. And having to unpack a lot of childhood trauma as an adult is hard if you don't know where to start. Hopefully this started him on his journey to re-evalute what he was taught as a child.
If Chanse doesn't go "ANGELAAAAA!" this episode, I will riot.
That should be his Catchphrase 😂😂😂
"GROUNDLINGS" 👐👐👐
Its a matter of time until smosh put it on a tshirt
i want a shirt of it
he said it with his eyes.
You CANNOT discuss an open marriage and then reveal an affair 😫
by the way y’all the accident that made sex not available for his wife for a year was a miscarriage of their child. that’s why he called it an accident, because he KNEW the fact that his entire reason for this starting (50:47) was so completely disgusting on his part.
I called the brunch story OP having ADHD, or at least that it would come up in her post. It is so hard to be on time for me. Good on her for having all those systems in place to be on time. For those who don't know, ADHD has been defined as "Time blindness" having trouble being on time is a common struggle for people like us.
Yes to this. Time blindness has nothing to do with respect. It is a serious brain function issue and takes so much energy to try to be on time for everything
ADHD is so flipping tiring.
@@stampandscrap7494relatable! 😅
Agreed y'all. I felt that too. I wasn't dx until a few yrs ago (mid 30s) and was already working on solutions for the time blindness before I even had a name for it. It takes me twice as long to do normal tasks and is so friggin exhausting. Plus, having to try to get your parents' time blindness under control as well is just...ugh.
Plus, can't forget the one two punch of executive dysfunction and time blindness! I use alarms and schedules for even the most menial tasks or things go off the rails. Everything has steps, and those have to go in order, and while helpful, it's hella exhausting.
17:30 Hey, how about some props to the amazing fiance who handled that shit like a godsdamned champion.
Right? How would she ever choose the other guy
I mean it’s fake
@@Debbiefromcompliance Source?
About the "family traditions" one: how come they are going to get married and the boyfriend knows about the traditions yet failed to tell her beforehand? I feel like this is something that should have been talked about before they told his family the news. Like, he knew what was coming, and had the power to understand what she felt like prior to the convo with the parents and therefore completely avoid it if necessary.
Edit: about the update - it did not shock me that the guy is a misogynist. Look at his family and their traditions...
Is like the 'Ready or Not' horror film plot... In both cases the boyfriend is a coward misogynist asshole
I love how these videos strip down the cast to three people, it makes it so that people's personalities and interactions really shine
The fact that these are now once a week brings me unbelievable amounts of joy
The "best friend confession before the wedding" story was crazy!!!!! She really dodged a bullet, & I'm glad that her & her (now) husband worked everything out rather than keeping it under wraps! Good for her!
Angela saying she has a thing about friendships of 5+ years being able to blow up so quickly without even trying is something I needed to hear so bad. One of my friends wouldn’t invite me to things she was inviting everyone else to, so I finally confronted her about it. She was defensive, kept saying I had to understand her being defensive because I was “accusing”her of hurting me (never accused her, just said what she did hurt whether the intention was good or bad) (honestly, I don’t understand being defensive when somebody comes to you hurt. you listen to their feelings and see how you can change your behavior so you don’t hurt them again. Then if you still feel it’s unfair, you can voice your own feelings kindly.). By the end, I was completely gaslighted into being the only one apologizing because “I did not come to her the first time it happened”.
That was sooooo long and I’m really sorry, just have been hurting really bad
Don't be sorry, the comment section is for whatever people want to share. I had a falling out with a long term friend in a situation somewhat similar--long story somewhat short called her out for being rude after I drove 4.5 hrs into town for the holidays and then another 45 minutes to hang out with her and she was on her phone lying about messaging people constantly right to my and another friend's face and then gaslit me about how rude I was to imply she was a liar. Anyway, the big takeaway I got after literally months of offering olive branches just to make amends and let bygones be bygones was that you don't have to be friends with everyone and sometimes the best thing to do for yourself is to cut people out even if they have been around for a long time. Not sure if you had to do that or are considering it, but for me at least she just kept proving to me that I made the right decision to stop trying to be friends.
thats so shitty! if you've been friends for 5+ years you would think she would understand where you were coming from or at least try to hear you out! i had a very similar situation with one of my friends, I wish I could tell you it ended peacefully but I'm a wimp so I just sort of distanced myself from them (something I know can be difficult with friend groups!) when I realised talking to them just became them putting the blame on me (they once said they didn't invite me places bc I'm always so "busy" which is not a nice thing to hear when they aren't even asking you if you're available!)
I had a falling out with a friend of about 6 years. It was a pretty big blow up but at the end of it, we realized it was for the best. I realized that our friendship was just one of convenience. We hadn’t been able to talk openly in a long time and I always felt worse after hanging with them. Unfortunately we were roommates. It’s been a couple years now and I’m much happier without this “friend” in my life.
If your friend would have been honest with you and told you why, no matter what the reason, would you be defensive like you mentioned they were or try to be understanding?
49:25 I love how supportive Chanse is being with Angela in this episode. He really seems to have a good balance of pumping her up and teasing and I love him for that
I like how Shayne narrates/reads these stories! He reads so clearly. Hoping for more reddit stories! Kudos!
For the 4th story: It could be a fun tradition but instead of a test, it should be a stress-free learning experience
Agree! Instead of testing them, they should sit down together, cook and maybe teach some family recepies. Would've been so much nicer and create relationship with family
@@patrycjuszkaa0129 Exactly! That would have build a great and useful bonding experience
Tbh I’m glad the test was what it was, like that commenter said; it could’ve easily turned into “you’re such a good housewife, you should give up on your life and dreams so I can have washed socks for free!”
“Carpet barfer” took me completely out. 😂
39:50 I'm THRILLED that she decided to quit because most of the time people just don't wanna leave an established relationship bcs how much time and affection they've spent.
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The fact that the last story has ANOTHER another update is crazy- THE BOSS IS PREGNANT WITH THE EX'S KID. She stayed with him after ALL THAT and shes having his KID !!!!! 😭😭😭😭
No!😨😭😭
that is an abusive household in the making
Holy shit
YOURE KIDDING! NONONONONOOO
Very important: was conception *before,* or *after* Boss found out?
Smosh reading Reddit is like drinking coffee in the morning. Just a routine for istg
Lol.. Angela’s energy is just top tier.. “& SHE BREAKS INTO SONG!” 😂😂 I’m so mad that I literally said the same thing.. lol
I love Angela's energy, like she's been coked out of her damn mind 24/7 for the past two years.
ADHD ! 😁
She’s kinda obnoxious but I still like her. Just a little too much and she ruins it sometimes with her dramatics
@@hijabibeautiful valid, I can see why
@@hijabibeautifulYeah, she’s like that one relative who oversteps boundaries but you love her and you know she means well
The sheer disappointment in Chanse's face for the 1st guy. 😂
Chance’s faces were so good in this.
@@wildwesley9328 yes! his face is always perfect, but his expressions 😙👌 magnifique
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I 100 percent predicted the ADHD diagnosis. When they set they set tons of reminder etc and sometimes that still doesn't work I knew it must be ADHD or neurodivergence. I'm autistic and struggle with the working memory part of executive function and have forgot important things like driving lessons, support work appointments, bringing gifts I got to birthdays etc despite usually setting many reminders. It's not purposeful or careless.
No It’s, not carelessness. It’s humiliating to not be able to function properly and just be on time. Sure you build up a workable coping stray, but every once in a while there comes a time when it fails for whatever reason. That’s where communication with the people in your life becomes incredibly important. I’ve been so lucky to find a group of friends who are extremely supportive, and that makes all the difference in the world.
Seriously. I can't believe I operated my whole life not knowing I had ADHD and the amount of shame I've lived with is astounding. I truly thought I was a useless broken flaky ahole, when in reality I've been overwhelmed and exhausted and barely keeping it together.
Before hearing the results on the test one, I just wanna point out something. Even if they wouldn’t reject her if she failed the test, I bet that they will bring it up any chance that they can. They might even try to say it’s a joke, but she will feel like garbage. And in the moment that she fails, she will feel inferior to the women in his family. I would feel like shit in that situation, and I can cook well enough. And I’ll probably would have dodged it as best I could by laughing it off and saying maybe if I felt as uncomfortable if she does
I bet that they would reject her if she failed it, and they would start putting ideas into her fiancé’s head, or they would start suggesting other women that they deem “appropriate”
These Reddit stories always make me realize how incredible mundane and boring my life is. Like in my 26 years of life I haven't experienced an ounce of the drama these people have. Better that way I guess haha
Same! I'm proud to say I go out of my way to avoid drama in my life and so far so great 😂
bro I CANNOT do drama. these reddit stories all sound hellish to me. if someone in my life will show me even an ounce of being unnecessarily over the top and prone to do weird shit its ba-bye from me. what a headache it must be to try and keep yourself afloat in this crazy world while also dealing with some real crippling bullshit... couldn't be me honestly
I have two AITA stories I can think of out of my 27 years. I do my best to avoid drama... When it involves me, otherwise I love drama.
Same! I'd off myself if I dealt with any of them 😂😂😂
I feel this. I've be adjacent to drama, like friends and family members but never really me. I mean I've had fights with friends but nothing with cheating/lying/betrayal. It was more of misunderstands.