Just getting fired was too little punishment. That sister should've been banned from ever working in healthcare ever again. She's gone far beyond just evil, she's straight up DANGEROUS.
Other than being fired, she needs to be blacklisted, never allowed to work in healthcare, blasted on social media for her heartless behavior, and even sued for emotional damage to medical patients.
i'm sure that's guaranteed for the reason she was fired. She'll most likely lose her license to pracrice and can never work in the field again in any other form of job.
The fact the sister says she wished to teach the teenager a lesson, and the fact the baby died and that she dosed someone makes you wonder if she had a part in what happened to the poor thing
Story 1: a "Nursing Dose" is basically a nurse giving more/less than what the physician prescribed. Nurses can give meds, but can only give what the doctor ordered. OP sister is the type of nurse that should of never passed the NCLEX or even work in a hospital setting. She deserved much worse than what she gor!
To add on: since we don't know what that medication was, it could very well have had an effect on the baby. So many medicines have limitations for pregnant or breastfeeding mothers that I would very much call it a possible homicide
It's very likely that this monster played a part in the baby's death. She deserves jail time, but at the very least, she needs to get her license pulled.
I was literally just about to comment this lol I'm glad other people picked this up (plus, it helps me understand when someone is doing bad or being the bad guy, because I often can't pick up social cues oop)
I think the sister in story one might be a literal psychopath or something. That's not just being careless that's going out of your way to cause more misery.
@@MidnightRose. The best way to explain it is that there's so little difference aside from origin that they call sociopathy secondary psychopathy, a secondary psychopath generally can't cope with the change in brain function, leading to impulse control issues.
1) Ironic considering the fact that she literally WORKED IN HEALTHCARE. 2) I don't think therapist would be able to crack a case like that. This woman sounds rotten to the core.
@@roberthunter5059 She sounds more sadist than psychopath, psychopaths typically don’t feel much empathy, but they aren’t usually actively cruel unless they benefit from it.
My mom literally almost died during giving birth to me bc of a nurse's negligence so the first story hit hard and I hope that woman gets everything that she deserves
I was 9 weeks premature at 2 pounds, my parents were told multiple times that I was not going to make it, I was so small that when I was brought home I had to wear cabbage patch kids clothes, my moms body also acts negatively to childbirth so she was also dieing during childbirth, she is alive
My mom's doctor told her I was dead and to have an abortion 😅 Thankfully, she got a second opinion. Heart was a little weaker than normal, and I still have a very minor heart defect, but I'm mostly very healthy!
As a nurse we can administer most medications prescribed by doctors. But when she says “Nurses Dose” she means saving up pain meds that someone didn’t need (which she should report and drop into a bin to be destroyed) or she is possibly stealing medication from another patient. She uses that saved med to give someone they dub annoying to get them to stop talking. I absolutely have and will never do this but I have heard about it before. There are psycho nurses yes, but there are way more caring nurses out there. ❤
Story 1: I've never been more emotional towards a r/ post, but damn this hit me where it hurts. I don't give the sister 5/5 buttholes NO NO, SHE'S GETTING 1,000,000/1
Literally. This is the second ever story to make me genuinely so mad. I almost think he shouldn't have posted the story because of how genuinely horrid it is.
@@tacosauce8639yeah, I agree, but I get why he posted it. People need to be aware that monsters exist in all types of jobs. Most women, when they're giving birth, are at their most vulnerable. They should be protected, everyone assumes that they should be safe for that event, at least. The realization that a woman would do something like this is... beyond imagination. People need to be aware that monsters in the medical field do exist. (My sister had a pretty traumatic birth a little while ago, she almost died, needed blood transfusions and ended up having to get an emergency c-section. Her nurses were amazing, they were focused 100% on her comfort and her baby. She's going to be having her second soon, and the thought of someone like this nurse being in the same hospital as my sister... nauseating. )
Nurses can not just give out controlled substances as they see fit. Pretty much every hospital uses a computer system to account for every milliliter and tablet of drugs administered or wasted. From Tylenol to Fentanyl. Hospitals do NOT frick around these days.
Yeah, the reason they don't fuck around anymore is because there has been cases where nurses would administer unapproved medicine specifically to kill the patients. I actually remember a case where, in Australia, I believe, some nurse was working in a senior home, and she would administer massive doses of insulin to patients she didn't like so they wouldn't bother her on the night shift. Or something like that, I'd have to look up the case to remember it clearly, but I remember the insulin part because I'm diabetic, and I'm supposed to take insulin, and going through hypoglycemia and falling into a coma because of it is utterly terrifying.
@@AmyoftheFlowerField there’s been many many nurses who’ve killed patients purposely with drugs, hence why most hospitals pushed to her weighted machines that account for every little dose & you must put details in to get meds out so there’s a “paper trail” to follow to connect who took what etc. that & also nurses being addicts & dealers was another big reason for those machines too.
... story 1 was atrocious. OP's sister is not only violating HIPAA, she's really showing her true colours and showing how toxic she is towards people, ESPECIALLY pregnant mothers. Why the heck did she end up there if she can't even keep her mouth shut??? I hope she loses her job and get blacklisted for life. Oh and OP is a massive NTA. I hope the stress from this ordeal hasn't affected the pregnancy.
It's sounds like she's targeting pregnant women specifically. And in their most vulnerable moment at that. Probably not a coincidence this AH wanted to be a nurse...
Unfortunately it’s not a HIPAA violation unless patient identifiers we’re used. So the hospital wouldn’t be able to fire her for that reason, but I’m sure the employee handbook has policies about professionalism that she is violating left and right, and the “nurse dose” will absolutely get her canned.
@Alyssa C Patient identifiers aren't restricted to legal identifiers like name, age, address, etc. It can also include medical information and treatment plans that can be used to identify the patient. The teenage patient especially had a lot of details revealed, which definitely leans towards a HiPAA violation.
The first story had my jaw on the floor. How can someone be so vile to women going through so much pain? Especially the teenager…omg…that was just straight up cruel
My reaction was to be froze by a long minute to even process how someone can be so evil to a teenegar in his most vulnerable moment of his entire life.
Very few things genuinely surprise me, anymore. Let alone enough to actually cause me to stand there with mouth agape like a suffocating fish. But this JUST ABOUT DID IT!
Seriously, my first was born at 29 weeks and his mother delivered him herself in an empty bathtub because there was no time to do anything else. He decided it was time and that was that. I will never forget being told, "You can come here and feel the head coming out if you don't believe me!".
I've never been more shocked at an AITA story than this first one. I feel so bad for the women who had to suffer under that nurse's abuse while giving birth, especially the teenage mom. I hope they all recover well. That sister has no heart and no soul either. Losing her job is the least amount of punishment she deserves.
She deserves Life in Prison for Violating the Nightangale Oath multiple times and Manslaughter (The dead Infant) as well as breaking and Entering, Harrassment Etc
Also giving the birth procedure information to anyone outside of working hours, I'm pretty sure is both illegal and a HYPAA violation, imho: she got off easy losing her job, she could've got sued, blacklisted, or possibly face jail time
@@Josh_the_jester Yes, it is illegal and a HIPAA violation. Too bad that the sister/husband couldn't get it on video/audio. That "nurse" ... excuse me, ex-nurse, should be charged and jailed for the full length of time possible. What a vile AH B.
Hearing stories about nurses like her upset me so much. Especially the comments she made about the woman who gave birth prematurely. I have a double womb, carrying to term is going to be extremely difficult for me when I eventually try to have children. I’m at much higher risk for late term miscarriages and premature births. Hearing negative jabs about “not being able to do what your body is designed for” stings and I feel for that woman so much.
First story, no wonder OP was so horrified about her sister's actions. Knowing that OP is pregnant actually makes everything another 10x worse. Her sister needs to be blacklisted from the medical field, pay for actions, and OP needs to get a restraining order on her ASAP. With how she reacted, I fully believe that she'll attack OP.
there's a massive difference between kissing up to a patient and being empethatic. I spent a good amount of time in the hospital and apathetic nurses are genuinely worrying, and the patient will always notice, make no mistake. I've been in a position where I was scared to ask with help going to the bathroom after having a part of my foot amputated.
also there is a MASSIVE difference between ranting about work stress and just flat out insulting every single patient she has and basically saying they deserve what happened to them. What she is doing is not ranting. She is just being a spiteful cunt that deserves to be fired and banned from any medical profession for life, or hell any profession that requires human interaction.
I agree. Was recently in the ER, and the nurses and doctors were so kind and friendly. I could tell that they were stressed and having to do so so much, but they gave me the time I needed, and they were so compassionate. It's the most compassion I've ever felt from a stranger. This heavily contrasts to the last time I was in in-patient care. The social worker was the kindest person there. Nurses were either apathetic or pissed off by parents. The main doctor was cool, but he was around for 30 mins a person or day. One of the young girls were being sexually harassed by a nurse for a bit until they were transferred. The difference is palpable. (Although they did bring in a very cute dog.14/10 certified good girl!)
@@breestringham1063 I’m glad your most recent experience was better. My mom is often in the hospital and I find myself standing between her and apathetic nurses more often than not. Her most recent visit was really good though - definitely overworked and understaffed, but her nurses were still kind and attentive, she remembers all their names.
Reason why I decided not to go into health care. I am really good with knowing the anatomy and how the body works but I do not have the right bedside manner to be in health care. I respect those in health care because it does take a very special empathetic person to be in that profession and I treat them with the utter respect.
But see a nurse is job is to being the kind of their patients. If you can't be kind to people and you can't deal with people in the worst situations of her life don't be a nurse. The most important part of a nurse's job besides the care they give is the compassionate comfort. Is having a good bedside manner
What concerns me is what that lesson was in the nurse story that Ops sister wanted to teach that teen mom especially after hearing about that Lucy Letby case. Some nurses can be extremely evil. A case should definitely be opened against ops sister.
1st story, my mom is in mid 50’s and has been a nurse for many years. She absolutely despises people like this as the nurses are people who are he to help and not people to hurt. It’s honestly disgusting what the sister in story 1 did.
I love the stories where rslash doesn't know who is going to be the bad guy until about halfway through the story so he gradually slips deeper into the "choosing beggar voice" as he goes.
Especially when he starts out neutral and then starts forming conclusions. I know he reads more stories than he airs: I'd love to hear a few when he gets really into the bad guy/good guy voices, but then some development reverses the conclusion and he has to go from Karen voice back to sweet granny voice or something.
Story 1: It says a hell of a lot about the family environment alone, that OP is the first and only person to try shutting down that vile nurse. Definitely NTAH!!! Edit: I think the nurse may have violated some HIPPA laws, idk.
I'm inclined to believe sister, being the psychopath that she is, twisted the story as "OP called me a bully for not wanting to ass-kiss my patients" to the family
Second Story: It made me so happy to hear him say that at the end. Literally nobody gets to come before a person like OPs sister. Not even your future spouse. If they don't like, clearly they don't like OP enough for her to take on the burdens of marriage.
first story gave me chills. there is no words to describe the anger i feel. i was 16 when i gave birth to my son and lost him the same night i was lucky as the staff we're amazing
Story 2: when I got married, my father was already passed. My mother walked me down the aisle and we both cried a bit as she walked me. It was such a huge thing to me. It's OPs wedding too. The marriage certificate isn't signed yet. Really consider if this is a family/person you want to marry, OP.
Hear, hear! A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds! And tradition has been used as an excuse for some absolutely, appallingly blinding stupidity. What could be more appropriate than honoring a sister like her? I’m amazed at how many people don’t recognize that a controlling reaction during wedding planning can be the sign that this person isn’t what you thought and that you found out in time.
@@BeeWhistler yup if this is how they act for such an important event and this is hoe they treat you iver such a non issue, how are they gonna treat you the rest of your life?
Yeah, I'm with Rslash on this one...I'd be reevaluating whether I want to marry this guy. It's the brides choice who walks her down the aisle, and the fuss he and his family are making about it is a red flag signaling more controlling tendencies to come.
My aunt walked my mum down the isle. It was beautiful. My mum made me a bridesmaid and her best friend the maid of honour, my sister was the flower girl and my step-dad's little sister was also bridesmaid. It was beautiful and I cried because I got to see the start of a new phase of my life. My mum is out of an abusive relationship (a story for another day) and is now in a healthy relationship, she's so much happier now!
*Story 1:* All I can say is HOLY SHIT that sister has multiple screws loose. My jaw LITERALLY DROPPED OPEN at how she told her teenage patient her baby “deserved to die.” HOLY F-K.😳
That nurse from the first story like I'm speechless... I genuinely did not think a person could be so evil. She's the literal incarnation of the devil in human flesh
Story 1, "Wrong Career," This one goes beyond points out of 5. It sounds like she *caused* that girl to lose her baby, between the thing about the drugs, and then it sounds like she was basically admitting to it. This woman needs to be more than fired, she needs to be removed from public for the safety of society.
Now now, hold it one moment, we don't know if the nurse ACTUALLY had a hand in the child's demise. Think about who birthed it. A teenager. Infant mortality rates can spike higher with younger mothers, just like it tips over into higher spikes for older mothers past a certain age. While I personally don't believe that teenager needed a baby, and yes, the nurse saying that to her face was wrong----we have literally Z E R O proof that the nurse had a hand in a baby's death. Let's just lay down the torches and pitchforks for a minute, shall we?
@King Blanketfort she drugged this poor girl while she was stuck there with a larger dose than was allowed if it was allowed it could have gotten to the kid we're not told how or when the kid died
Dude.... I'm literally sobbing right now... I was a teenage mother & my beautiful, perfect innocent daughter passed a little more than 4hrs after I had her. I held her for a really long time after she stopped breathing, just hoping with everything in me that somehow she would come back to me. I had a mental breakdown when they finally took her from my arms,& (I don't actually remember doing it) apparently I lunged at a nurse. Didn't touch her, as I was still pretty numb in my legs from meds. I was going to be forced into a 72hr hold until that nurse & a doctor who helped me give birth found out when they came to work the next day. Those angels make a HUGE DEAL about them releasing me & THEY DID! I cannot fathom having a nurse as evil as OP's sister. The thought terrifies me & she absolutely deserved to lose her job. What evil...
Im so sorry you had to go through this. Hope it has been somewhat healed over time, and that you received the help you needed in the aftermath. Much love to you
@@sebastianviuf Thanks for the kind words. I won't lie... There isn't a single day that goes by that I don't think about her. She would be 7 in September,& I constantly wonder what she would be like. What would be her favorite food, or color? Would we get along? Would I have made the right choices to raise her into a good person? It's hard knowing I'll never get to know that, but as the years have gone by it has gotten easier to face the world each day. It was a slow process, but I don't breakdown anymore when I see something that makes her come to mind & [except when her birthday is nearing] I don't wake up in the middle of the night crying. It's little progress, but progress all the same, right? Also, I want to note that even though she isn't here, she still saved my life. After she passed I spiraled really hard. I wasn't out to do anything that'd directly cause me to... "join her" if you catch my drift, but I kinda went out of my way to be reckless. I wouldn't admit it (not even to myself) But I think I was hoping someone/something would come along & do that for me. However, I woke up one day about a week before her birthday & thought to myself, "Look at how you're living. Would your baby girl be proud to call you her mother? Would she even want to see you at all like this?" It broke my heart to admit the answer was a no. The moment I asked myself that was the moment I decided to quit drowning in my sorrow & grief. Instead, I decided to live my life to the fullest, or at least enough to experience all the amazing parts of it for us both. I cleaned myself up,& she's literally the only reason why. She's with me every day, always carried in my heart. I'm not perfect by a long shot,& I still mess up here & there... I just hope she would be proud of what I've tried to do in life. I cherish every second I was graced with her,& even though it will never have been long enough, I hold on to & am comforted by the hope that one day [once I've kicked the bucket] we'll somehow reunite. Sorry for the wall of text, btw... I tend to rant when it's about her. Hope you don't mind too much.
@@NikiValentine No i absolutely dont mind! Im at loss for words because of bravery and honesty you show in this text. So dont take my short response for indifference 😅 Im happy you powered through. Even though it has been so difficult. My mother lost her fifth child due to an unwilling abort. And even someone i never got the chance to meet was a trauma that took some time. Not compare by any means, but its to say i have a feeling how difficult it is to an extend. Hope you know what i mean ❤️
I'd be catching charges left and right if I heard my sister, or any family member, talking about patients like that. OP should RECORD her sister's comments and send it to any hospital or healthcare position she applies at. Absolutely abhorrent, there's venting and then there's being a POS human being, period. She literally drugged her patient so she wouldn't have to deal with her. Oh my god. Yes, Rslash, that was hella illegal and unethical.
For Story 1, My jaw dropped at work while listening to this. I played it loud so my coworkers could hear literally the same reaction. I didn't know what evil sounded like until I heard this story. Op is Not only the Bad guy but She is a hero for Reporting her and Fighting against Her sister's Argument. I would've threw hands ngl.
Oh heck no... 8:10 break that scale. That's not 5 out of 5. That's 15 out of 5. You do NOT... EVER... EVER... Tell a teenage girl that she's a slur, especially when they experience a miscarage... This former nurse deserves karma. That's not stress, it's strait up bullying. 😡
Not just a miscarriage. Either the baby died as she was giving birth or a stillborn, meaning she had to birth a dead baby, or her own child died shortly after birth. Imagine having to birth an already dead child, or your own baby dying just after birth, and your nurse is that monster.
Story 2: my family had this same situation. My sister got married in 2020 and she asked myself and my brother to walk her down the aisle and I was also the maid of honor, our father isn’t in our lives and we didn’t have any male relatives, she needs to stay firm with this. She has every right to pick who gets to walk her down the aisle
IMO this is a look into their future- husband and his family dismissing her wishes and opinions and going with what they want. It may even appeal to them that she doesn't have any living male relatives. It will only get worse with marriage
Story 1: Nurses often have a range of what's prescribed so that doctors don't have to do multiple orders. Similar to how an advil bottle will say 1-2 pills. A "nurse dose" is intentionally giving more than needed within said range
@MyFiddlePlayer When it comes to something like labor, where the pain can be really varied they often have a pretty wide range to work with. I'd even go so far as to say overdose amounts for patients with very low tolerances(Like a young teenager for example)
And that automatically places her on the, "should never be allowed in healthcare," category. Man, like you don't have to like the patients, but at least don't abuse them!
@MyFiddlePlayer Theres a reason why that is being taken so seriously. Nurses giving much higher doses than required has caused death in patients. Because doctors prescribe under the assumption that nurses(who are trained to make these judgement calls) will be able to do their job and make minor judgement calls. There's a possibility that the "nurse's dose" is what caused the complications that killed the baby. Obviously, there's no proof of this available to us. But it could've been a contributing factor to the baby dying
@@autisticnation7140 Agreed though I doubt it contributed in the death as it would have had to have overdosed the baby right before birth and I would think that would easily prove the bitch guilty and she'd be in even more trouble.
I honestly thought that the sister in the first story was admitting to contributing to the death of the infant based on what she said in the update. With how she wanted to “teach her a lesson” to that teenager and what she said… I’d be concerned.
Yeah, "nurse dose to shut her up" + teen first time mom and death of an infant, there something fishy about it. Nurse dose means more that was prescribed sometimes over any allowed doses. And stuff they use to help and aid delivery is very finicky is dosage and effect.
Story 1: I read that there are two types of people that get into the medical field. Those that want to actually help people, and those that like having the control over someone's life. OP's sister is most definitely the second type. I really should file that complaint about the hospital I was at. Story 2: "traditional" White wedding huh. Did the groom already have relations with the bride? Then it's no longer a white wedding. And has the groom popped his V card? Hmmm. OP's sister IS her family and its a role for the Bride's family to give her away. I went to an older person's wedding and her 2 adult kids "gave her away". Story 3: OP needs to stop wearing herself as a hat.
As someone going into healthcare, the lack of regard for her patients, her lack of empathy, her violations of hippa,,, all of it in that first story makes my blood boil. How can you go into a field solely about caring for others without the single thought for them breaks my heart. I hope she never goes into healthcare again. Op was totally right reporting that, and its vile no one else in the family spoke up about that.
@@BadassHater1 Sometimes, I'm not only pissed off at someone for being a massive AH, but people who supports this person, especially your close family or friends, that makes it even worse! This proves they would do the same thing in a heartbeat if they were in her position.
That first story..... wow.... I've not had my jaw drop and eyes pop outta my skull from shock in so long I didnt think it was possible!! But at the update line about that teen who lost her baby, my immediate thought was the baby OD'd cuz of that "nurses' dose". Overall, that so-called nurse need to be in federal prison not just for that, but all the HIPPA violations.
Since when is basic human decency "kissing up" to people? OP said she was unsure because she's not a nurse, well I am! and If I heard another nurse talk like that I'd be in HR faster than you could blink. That language is unacceptable.
Rslash, there are stories like the first story, where people deserve more than 5 bad guys. The sister is an absolutely horrible human being. She deserves at least 7/5 bad guys.
Story 2: I'd be very concerned if my partner didn't respect my wishes of wanting my sister to walk me down the aisle. I'd communicate that if these deeply important wishes were not respected, it makes me question the entire marriage. If that isn't respected, then what other BS am I going to have to deal with once married?! I know there are hardships in every relationship, but that feels like a big red flag. Especially having his family jump in with their opinions. Have my back dude!
Those were my thoughts, too. The thing is, both him and his family just assumed that his father was going to walk her down the isle. They didn't ask, they practically planned it for her. While it might not seem like a big deal to some, this definitely gives me an inkling that there will be issues down the road and if I were in the bride's shoes, I would definitely be rethinking the marriage.
Definitely. Being “traditional” isn’t a problem per se, but if this means trampling the woman’s wishes and boundaries then it does. FIL walking her down the aisle isn’t typical either so why not relent on this little issue? The wedding is not going to be ruined by a woman taking a woman to her husband….
I really hope OP in the first story has a good pregnancy and does everything in her power to protect herself and her family from that heartless excuse of a sister. That sister is not worth keeping around
The first story just gave me flashbacks to last year, when my niece was stillborn (they did manage to bring her back to life though) and my sister nearly died due to an incompetent nurse. Terrifying that these kinda people actually get to work in this profession
First Story: If I had gone through any of what OP's sister put mother's through during delivery, I would have been further traumatized by an intense experience. The sister is a horrible person, that poor teenaged girl must have already been terrified through the entire experience. To not only lose your baby, but then be told that you deserved it? I cried, how devastating that must be...
Story 1: Here’s the thing. When you start learning about healthcare in school, one of the most important things that they teach you is EMPATHY. It’s one of the number one rules of going into any path in healthcare. You need to be empathetic to your patients. The fact that the sister has no empathy at all means she never should have been a nurse. Ever.
4:03, not a nurse myself but my Uncle is a Nurse Practitioner. I asked him for you and he told me that Nurses can only assist in administering prescribed medications. A Nurse Practitioner can administer medication though.
Story 3: I started off with a lot of sympathy for OP because if they were as close as she says, I’d be devastated by the distance too. But the absolute lack of any kind of compromise? Completely dismissing her SIL’s workload and stress? Absolutely not! YTA 🙄
The sister who goes on 3 trips a year including her in-law's, but isn't willing to make the trip to see her own family. Just tells her entire family not just this sibling to travel out to her for the major holidays (you know the expensive ones) honestly I think both sides are full assholes.
@@tomithy_lo being a parent doesn’t stop after 5 o’clock, working parents basically have two jobs. Who knows what kind of vacation benefits they get too, so maybe it’s harder for OP to take time off.
@@sarahkinsey5434 I was on the side of OP here. My comment was pointing out that the sister OP is writing the story about is able to visit her in-law's on free time, but won't visit her own blood during vacation time, but expects those same family she won't visit to spend extra on travel during holiday season so that they can be there for her on her conditions. She isn't willing to meet half way so I think she isn't purely innocent like rslash and the previous commentor do.
*First OP:* People like OP's sister are why I dread going for a physical. OP is NTA. Wow. 5/5 Ahs isn't a high enough score for OP's sister. She's pure evil. *Second OP:* OP should stand firm in her decision. OP is NTA. *Third OP:* And here comes the Karen voice, lol. If I had to choose between a 7-hour drive to see my in-laws and I one week trip to Hawaii or Cancun, I'm choosing the latter. It's not like OP's brother and SIL never visit OP and her family. OP is TA.
2:23 Hey there. Used to work as an EMT. The “nurse” in this story is fully able to be sued, have her license stripped, and be prohibited from all medical positions in the future. She went against HIPPA by providing private information on patients and also MASSIVELY broke federal law by increasing a dosage intentionally, which could have had fatal results depending on which med and the patients previous medical history. That thing deserves to be buried in the pile of shit that seemed to raise it. No person with a shred of actual humanity should be allowed to work in these fields after even ONE act like what occurred in the first part of the story, and the fact that this wasn’t reported to the medical board and the “nurses” job as soon as the issues started happening is enough to give OP 1.5 outta 5 for me. I think that OP should’ve spoken about this sooner, but the argument doesn’t make you a bad guy. Your sibling deserves a punishment worse than death, for all of the damage she’s caused.
6:33 holy shit… so this update, that death could very well have been caused by that monster administering a higher dosage of that drug. I thought that thing was bad before, but now it’s likely responsible for at least one newborn death, potentially more that we’re not discussed. Legal charges need to be brought swiftly and harshly.
Story 1: I’m not a RN, but I am a Certified Nurse’s Aide. I’m not allowed to give medicine no matter what but also yes, RSlash. You’re right, only certain nurses can give medicine out. (Most of my family are in the medical field)
I also work as a HCA (Health Care Aide). I am clear with my patient's what tasks I can/cannot do. I often offer a hot blanket or ice pack and or a change of position in bed to help with their pain. Then I let the nurse know their patient wants pain meds.
@@avashnea sure they can give medication that's been subscribed to them by a doctor. But what they can do and what they're legally not allowed to do and what is a HIPAA violation is change that dosage.
@@LLandS18 FYI-HIPAA has absolutely nothing to do with what nurses can or can't do or medications. HIPAA only has to do with the patient's private health info
nah, ∞/5 (in case it doesn't show up... infinity/5) I hope that psycho stubs her toes on an object every single day. I hope that she one day, sooner than later, feels all that pain and suffering that she caused to others, but triple. Screw that psycho and throw her into an insane asylum for life.
I agree. Only a soulless psychopath would say the things she said to that poor girl. OP's sister is just a demon walking around in human skin and I think it's high time someone sent her back to Hell where she belongs.
First if you read any criticism of the way I wrote this, don't critise them. I screwed up big time the first time I wrote it. The story with the nurse sister: she is horrible. Pregnancy and delivery can be horrible even deadly to women. It's bad what women go through. The story where OP wants her Doctor sister-in-law to visit: she is very selfish. That sister-in-law is so busy. She deserves to have people come to her now. When things calm down she can go and visit others. And visiting peole 2 hours away is easy. 7 hours away is a 2 day trip.
A “nurse’s dose” means the nurse gave extra medicine than what the doctor ordered, usually referring to pain meds or antipsychotics. It’s not legal but it does happen quietly here and there in extreme case. It’s usually not traceable since even if they gave extra, they still document they gave the correct amount ordered, so unless the patient suffers from overdose effects, it usually goes under the radar.
Story 1: clearly that sister who’s a nurse hasn’t been pregnant to know what it’s like to conceive a child. And if she has, I have to say that damn she’s even more pure evil. I’m also surprised she even got in to be a nurse in the first place
Albert Wesker would be disgusted with her and he attempted to bootstrap humanity's next phase of evolution by blowing a mutagenic pathogen into the earth's atmosphere.
Just as I wrote in the "Nightengale oath" RSlash looked it up. My mum is a retired nurse. She has a framed copy of the oath she gave in 1962. She took it very seriously, and as a unit head she would have bounced this nurse before this happened 😮
Nursing is a caring profession. If you don’t care, you don’t belong in the profession. Nobody expects nurses not to get stressed and frustrated at times, and they get to vent (within ethical boundaries), too. But this sister has gone way beyond that into routinely disrespecting the people she’s supposed to care for-and that’s completely leaving out the misadministration of meds, which is unethical and all kinds of illegal. She is in the wrong profession.
Story #1: I'm worried that the sister's actions may have caused the baby's death. I wonder if she is so vile because she is unable to have her own children and is lashing out.
Story 2: There is only one person in this story who gets to determine who gives OP away. And that person is OP. To hell with the in law’s misogynistic “traditions”.
The sister in that second story is so amazing. To give up so much at 19 to make sure her half sister could avoid the foster care system is such a selfless choice. Op gets a 0/5 ahole, her fiance and his family is 1/5 the ahole, and the sister's father is 4/5 the ahole for not supporting his daughters sacrifice. Also I'd give OP's sister a negative 5/5 ahole score. Such an amazing sister!
Goodness gracious the sister from the first story scares the life out of me. Evil doesn't even begin to cover it! I just hope that poor teen girl is recovering alright. As well as her other victims... Makes ya wonder how they got the job in the first place o_0 Can only imagine the whole team is ☠️.
it not even how, its the why , because she seems to HATE be the one delivering babies and the woman's company, why she choose that job ? i don't think is for money, or maybe she's just like that with woman and not man? that sounds even worst. i'm also worried about the teenage mother, the sister say she "is going to teach that brat a lesson" that sound like she is going to hurt her, that been emotionally or physically (well maybe not physically,but definitely emotionally) , i feel like she need to be fired and the teenage and op should ask for a restraining order. to be honest the sister feels dangerous to me. i have family members and friends who work in medicine field and non of them talk about their clients that way, like if they hate them just for been there
In terms of how she got the job; for any job position there are people who can coach people on how to navigate the interview and how to get the job. My guess is she turned on the charm, told them what they want to hear and wait for the job offer.
So just by doing a tiny bit of research the sister could have directly lead to the baby's death by giving her too much pain medications, some of which are known to cause miscarriages.
@AdorableFloof1999 it wouldn't cause a miscarriage during labor. It would cause fetal demise however. It's not a miscarriage once labor takes place and thr baby dies during labor
CNA here - She gave enough identifying information about her patients to have violated HIPAA, which is why she probably lost her job and why her license is probably on the line as well. I wouldn't be surprised if she loses her nursing license over this.
The sister gets a 6/5 from me, losing a child is very traumatizing and just casually dropping something like that in such an evil way is psychotic. She should not be a nurse at the very least. That poor girl has my condolences and I hope she has the resources she needs to recover well. I personally know people and am even related to one who have lost children. It has affected them permanently, like rest of your life permanently. If someone said that to them they'd be in a wheelchair for the rest of their life. Parents please appreciate your kids cause I know mine do me as their only surviving kid. And stand up to the bad nurses while appreciating the good ones, there good ones work hard and deserve praise.
In my opinion both people are the butt holes because OP shouldn’t be expecting that much when they’re working really hard at the same time they could at least visit a tiny bit 0P almost always has to visit them and only when it’s holidays that the OP have to pay for stuff to give it to them it’s kind of weird
Pooping while giving birth has to be the least disgusting thing a nurse has experienced or has yet to experience. Its honestly not the bad too, isnt it actually expected for each mother to do that too ?
I've never been pregnant but I'm the son of a teenage mom and I almost lost my mom and my youngest brother when she was giving birth to him, the first story made me nauseous, just imagining how painful it would have been if my little brother didn't survive, and knowing how hard it was on my mom to be pregnant with me while still in school, I hope that young girl is doing well in her grief journey, I can't even imagine her pain, and I hope that ex nurse rots in hell
That teenager will never forget whatever it was that was said to her. Traumatized isn’t even enough to cover it. I really hope legal action is taken against the hospital (for allowing the behavior) and the sister.
Story 1: The sister doesn’t haft to kiss up to her patients, she just has to be nice to them, it’s human decency, would it kill her to show a bit of kindness. 👀
Jesus that nurse needs to be fired and banned from the profession. If she is capable of this, god i hope she doesn't kill those babies. The very fact that op has to ask if she is in the wrong makes me wonder if her family still sides with that "nurse"
Story 1: OP needs to make a complaint to the state board of nursing, assuming they're in the US. I say this as a nurse, because it sounds like making a report and having the OP's sister's practice investigated might save someone's life.
Story 2: if we want to talk about tradition then let's talk about it. One, there are many traditions including one where both parents were the bride down the aisle, that's because this spot even specifically for a man, it's for a significant parents figured giving their child away as a gesture of trust between a parent and their child's partner saying "I trust you to take care of my child" . Second, this choice is one of the few things the bride and groom don't both need approval on, this is your family you could walk down by yourself and it wouldn't matter what your groom thinks, unless this is someone who did something to his family he has no right to try Vedo your decision. Lastly it's not doing anything to him, he won't die if you walk with your sister.
Damn do I love it when rSlash starts a story with his normal voice then, when he discovers it's written by a jerk, his voice changes. That is peak narration :)
Story 1: I'm a nurse, and I can say that the sister's comments and actions are far beyond just 'venting about work' it goes against against the very ethics and principles at the core of nursing. Her actions are reportable and could cause disciplinary action on her license, or even lose her liscene. And yes we can administer pain medication.
I was "given away" by my best friend and witness (which would be our equivalent to an MOH), a woman. I didn't even think of asking my husband about it, as it was my walk down, but he never would have thought of objecting either. He wouldn't have cared if I had walked down by myself, as long as I walked down to marry him. These people just remind me of how lucky I am.
I'm in school for Medical Coding right now. Lesson 1 was about how talking about a patient's information, even when just among friends and not using identifiable information, is extremely illegal. The sister "venting" is a major breach of patient privacy. Sometimes you can get away with it if your friends or family don't care or you post it as anonymously as possible, but at any moment she could have been reported even if she wasn't being so cruel. Op gets an easy 0/5, her sister gets 5/5 on the bad guy scale AND the stupid scale.
Omg I love when rslash slowly switches to Karen Also she slipped in that story, towards the end she reveals that they "never help with childcare". Op doesn't care about having a relationship, op cares about having a rotation of free babysitters to take advantage of
I've heard of people in health care using dark humor to cope with the stress and trauma often involved in working in health care, but the comments made by the sister in story 1 are so far beyond the pale.
God, that first story makes me feel so bad. The day I gave birth to my daughter in 2021, I had this night nurse that was absolutely terrible. Because my daughter wouldn't latch on for breastfeeding, she kept saying things like "you're not doing it right," "it's because you're bad at being a mother" and since my fiancé was present with me and I was exhausted and just wanted to sleep, I had him take care of our baby while I tried to get rest. He ended up sleeping more than I did and I almost fell over several times when getting up to take care of her and the nurse said that my fiancé shouldn't be the one taking care of our daughter because HE needed rest. I ended up sleeping less than a total of 4 hours that night and my fiancé got 7-8. When a doctor came in and asked how I was doing, I just said that I was in pain still and I was exhausted. The night nurse interrupted me, saying that I had gotten a full night's rest when I didn't and just started saying that I'm lying and exaggerating things. After everyone had left, my fiancé held me for a full half hour while I cried. I ended up filling a complaint to the hospital about the nurse, but I'm not sure if anything was ever done about it.
For that last story: how much you wanna bet that the OP just wants more free babysitting? Also, my only sister is a surgeon who lives with her husband an hour away from me and the rest of the family. I can attest that her work hours can be absolutely RIDICULOUS. She's always invited to holidays and family gatherings, but we understand that she often can't make it. That doesn't mean she doesn't love us, she just wants to unwind at home. A simple phone call or text from time to time is enough.
I think it's more of an ESH kind of situation. Towards the end OP became a little entitled and hypocritical. However, if her SIL has time to take trips to two different vacation hotspots as well as visit her family, then she can definitely make time to visit her husband's family. There was definitely somewhere all of them could have compromised a little bit.
I’m inclined to give the SIL the benefit of the doubt. I think she’s just doing what she has to do to keep from burning out, and I think visiting OP feels like a chore. They’re just too nice to say it.
Just getting fired was too little punishment. That sister should've been banned from ever working in healthcare ever again. She's gone far beyond just evil, she's straight up DANGEROUS.
she's got a record, though
Other than being fired, she needs to be blacklisted, never allowed to work in healthcare, blasted on social media for her heartless behavior, and even sued for emotional damage to medical patients.
HIPPA violations like that basically guarantee she'll never work in Healthcare again.
@@GiordanDiodato She shouldn't have a license anymore
i'm sure that's guaranteed for the reason she was fired. She'll most likely lose her license to pracrice and can never work in the field again in any other form of job.
The fact the sister says she wished to teach the teenager a lesson, and the fact the baby died and that she dosed someone makes you wonder if she had a part in what happened to the poor thing
Yep
makes one think doesn't it.
My guess is that the monster is at least partially responsible for what happened to the baby. The monster deserves every bad thing she gets and more.
Giving her a higher dose than prescribed would absolutely cause the child to die. The sister should be arrested for murder.
Especially if the baby died after she was dosed. Could be directly related, and yeah, that is horrible.
Story 1: a "Nursing Dose" is basically a nurse giving more/less than what the physician prescribed. Nurses can give meds, but can only give what the doctor ordered. OP sister is the type of nurse that should of never passed the NCLEX or even work in a hospital setting. She deserved much worse than what she gor!
To add on: since we don't know what that medication was, it could very well have had an effect on the baby.
So many medicines have limitations for pregnant or breastfeeding mothers that I would very much call it a possible homicide
@@Sofia-qr6rg and may have had the potential of harming the mother also.
Not only that. Their a chance she could get sue from the teen family.
@@alinasanchez278 honestly that would be the least of her worries
It's very likely that this monster played a part in the baby's death. She deserves jail time, but at the very least, she needs to get her license pulled.
Always love when Rslash is reading a story and slowly slips into the Karen voice when he realises they’re 100% the bad guy
lmao it gets me every time. You can feel his genuine reactions through his voice alone
Same I was going to say this like that woman does not understand
I was literally just about to comment this lol
I'm glad other people picked this up (plus, it helps me understand when someone is doing bad or being the bad guy, because I often can't pick up social cues oop)
Me too I did a double take as the last were 0 out of 0 for op
Especially in the last case. J*sus, I'm planning on being an uncle someday but if I'd get that kind of comments there'd be very serious words
I think the sister in story one might be a literal psychopath or something. That's not just being careless that's going out of your way to cause more misery.
Sociopath actually, Psychopaths can mask amd function really well in society sociopaths can't
@@velvetdarksoul8741 not an expert on ASPD but I’ve heard that psychopaths are born and sociopaths are created through a type of trauma
She has absolutely no redeeming qualities, not even Hitler would touch her with a 10 foot pole
@@MidnightRose. The best way to explain it is that there's so little difference aside from origin that they call sociopathy secondary psychopathy, a secondary psychopath generally can't cope with the change in brain function, leading to impulse control issues.
I wish that were a case but there are way too many bullies in nursing... acting like that is inappropriate, unprofessional, and disgusting
Story 1: Absolutely vile. Kissing up to them? She’s tearing them apart AS THEY’RE GIVING BIRTH. She seriously needs therapy
No, she needs to be fired, blacklisted from every hospital, not be allowed to work in medical care, and possibly sued for emotional damage.
1) Ironic considering the fact that she literally WORKED IN HEALTHCARE.
2) I don't think therapist would be able to crack a case like that. This woman sounds rotten to the core.
Therapy doesn't work on psychopaths.
@@roberthunter5059 She sounds more sadist than psychopath, psychopaths typically don’t feel much empathy, but they aren’t usually actively cruel unless they benefit from it.
@@MayHugger probably dips into machiavellianism
Story 1: I've seen so many mean girls go into health care and talk shit like this. OP'S sister has a special place in hell for her
OP's sister is a rival to Cruella de vil
There's being mean. And then there's being a literal spawn of Satan. You can guess which one is OP's sister at this point.
@@BadassHater1 hey just because I run hell doesn't mean I want to be lumped in with that much crazy
I am currently working on building a special place in hell for her I'm going to enjoy it their punishment more than I should
When my mom was giving birth to me the nurse kept commenting on how big my mom's hemorrhoids were and how they were the biggest she has ever seen...
My mom literally almost died during giving birth to me bc of a nurse's negligence so the first story hit hard and I hope that woman gets everything that she deserves
I agree. This woman is a genuine psychopath and she's headed for the circle of hell where all those monsters are headed.
I was 9 weeks premature at 2 pounds, my parents were told multiple times that I was not going to make it, I was so small that when I was brought home I had to wear cabbage patch kids clothes, my moms body also acts negatively to childbirth so she was also dieing during childbirth, she is alive
Sorry to both of you, but I’m glad you made it! The world needs more people like you!
My mom's doctor told her I was dead and to have an abortion 😅 Thankfully, she got a second opinion. Heart was a little weaker than normal, and I still have a very minor heart defect, but I'm mostly very healthy!
Same I wasn’t breathing at birth and had to be resuscitated three times. So yeah that woman is the definition of evil.
As a nurse we can administer most medications prescribed by doctors. But when she says “Nurses Dose” she means saving up pain meds that someone didn’t need (which she should report and drop into a bin to be destroyed) or she is possibly stealing medication from another patient. She uses that saved med to give someone they dub annoying to get them to stop talking. I absolutely have and will never do this but I have heard about it before. There are psycho nurses yes, but there are way more caring nurses out there. ❤
Story 1: I've never been more emotional towards a r/ post, but damn this hit me where it hurts. I don't give the sister 5/5 buttholes NO NO, SHE'S GETTING 1,000,000/1
Literally. This is the second ever story to make me genuinely so mad. I almost think he shouldn't have posted the story because of how genuinely horrid it is.
I felt really bad for the Op and that mother.
@@tacosauce8639yeah, I agree, but I get why he posted it. People need to be aware that monsters exist in all types of jobs. Most women, when they're giving birth, are at their most vulnerable. They should be protected, everyone assumes that they should be safe for that event, at least. The realization that a woman would do something like this is... beyond imagination. People need to be aware that monsters in the medical field do exist. (My sister had a pretty traumatic birth a little while ago, she almost died, needed blood transfusions and ended up having to get an emergency c-section. Her nurses were amazing, they were focused 100% on her comfort and her baby. She's going to be having her second soon, and the thought of someone like this nurse being in the same hospital as my sister... nauseating. )
Nurses can not just give out controlled substances as they see fit. Pretty much every hospital uses a computer system to account for every milliliter and tablet of drugs administered or wasted. From Tylenol to Fentanyl. Hospitals do NOT frick around these days.
Yeah, the reason they don't fuck around anymore is because there has been cases where nurses would administer unapproved medicine specifically to kill the patients. I actually remember a case where, in Australia, I believe, some nurse was working in a senior home, and she would administer massive doses of insulin to patients she didn't like so they wouldn't bother her on the night shift. Or something like that, I'd have to look up the case to remember it clearly, but I remember the insulin part because I'm diabetic, and I'm supposed to take insulin, and going through hypoglycemia and falling into a coma because of it is utterly terrifying.
@@MsNoPixelthat case was wild
@@AmyoftheFlowerField there’s been many many nurses who’ve killed patients purposely with drugs, hence why most hospitals pushed to her weighted machines that account for every little dose & you must put details in to get meds out so there’s a “paper trail” to follow to connect who took what etc. that & also nurses being addicts & dealers was another big reason for those machines too.
I went to go make this exact comment! I'm so glad you beat me to it! You mentioned everything I wanted to touch on. Have a great day
My niece had a premie due to a detached placenta. This is a major medical issue. This b-nurse deserves to go to jail.
... story 1 was atrocious. OP's sister is not only violating HIPAA, she's really showing her true colours and showing how toxic she is towards people, ESPECIALLY pregnant mothers. Why the heck did she end up there if she can't even keep her mouth shut??? I hope she loses her job and get blacklisted for life.
Oh and OP is a massive NTA. I hope the stress from this ordeal hasn't affected the pregnancy.
It's sounds like she's targeting pregnant women specifically. And in their most vulnerable moment at that. Probably not a coincidence this AH wanted to be a nurse...
Unfortunately it’s not a HIPAA violation unless patient identifiers we’re used. So the hospital wouldn’t be able to fire her for that reason, but I’m sure the employee handbook has policies about professionalism that she is violating left and right, and the “nurse dose” will absolutely get her canned.
@@alyssac7314 Considering the hospital could identify which patient the teen was based on what OP said, it's definitely a HIPAA violation.
@Alyssa C Patient identifiers aren't restricted to legal identifiers like name, age, address, etc. It can also include medical information and treatment plans that can be used to identify the patient. The teenage patient especially had a lot of details revealed, which definitely leans towards a HiPAA violation.
@@thebosshouse more of a light HIPAA violation
The first story had my jaw on the floor. How can someone be so vile to women going through so much pain? Especially the teenager…omg…that was just straight up cruel
My reaction was to be froze by a long minute to even process how someone can be so evil to a teenegar in his most vulnerable moment of his entire life.
Very few things genuinely surprise me, anymore. Let alone enough to actually cause me to stand there with mouth agape like a suffocating fish. But this JUST ABOUT DID IT!
The absolute pain in rslashs voice when he learned what happened to the teenager. Made me sad.
This is also probably one of the few times I've heard him cuss after YT changed their algorithm
As a mother of a 23 and 26 month premie twins the first story made my blood boil when she told her to do a better job like wtf
Seriously, my first was born at 29 weeks and his mother delivered him herself in an empty bathtub because there was no time to do anything else. He decided it was time and that was that. I will never forget being told, "You can come here and feel the head coming out if you don't believe me!".
I have to ask: how does that work? I've only ever heard of premies being taken out together.
23 and 26 month? So they are 2 years old? Why still use the months to measure their age lol
@@firewizardrunepro developmental differences and habit, I'm sure.
I though you meant 23 kids omg
I've never been more shocked at an AITA story than this first one. I feel so bad for the women who had to suffer under that nurse's abuse while giving birth, especially the teenage mom. I hope they all recover well. That sister has no heart and no soul either. Losing her job is the least amount of punishment she deserves.
She deserves Life in Prison for Violating the Nightangale Oath multiple times and Manslaughter (The dead Infant) as well as breaking and Entering, Harrassment Etc
Also giving the birth procedure information to anyone outside of working hours, I'm pretty sure is both illegal and a HYPAA violation, imho: she got off easy losing her job, she could've got sued, blacklisted, or possibly face jail time
@@Josh_the_jester Yes, it is illegal and a HIPAA violation. Too bad that the sister/husband couldn't get it on video/audio. That "nurse" ... excuse me, ex-nurse, should be charged and jailed for the full length of time possible. What a vile AH B.
Hearing stories about nurses like her upset me so much. Especially the comments she made about the woman who gave birth prematurely. I have a double womb, carrying to term is going to be extremely difficult for me when I eventually try to have children. I’m at much higher risk for late term miscarriages and premature births. Hearing negative jabs about “not being able to do what your body is designed for” stings and I feel for that woman so much.
First story, no wonder OP was so horrified about her sister's actions. Knowing that OP is pregnant actually makes everything another 10x worse. Her sister needs to be blacklisted from the medical field, pay for actions, and OP needs to get a restraining order on her ASAP. With how she reacted, I fully believe that she'll attack OP.
there's a massive difference between kissing up to a patient and being empethatic. I spent a good amount of time in the hospital and apathetic nurses are genuinely worrying, and the patient will always notice, make no mistake. I've been in a position where I was scared to ask with help going to the bathroom after having a part of my foot amputated.
also there is a MASSIVE difference between ranting about work stress and just flat out insulting every single patient she has and basically saying they deserve what happened to them.
What she is doing is not ranting. She is just being a spiteful cunt that deserves to be fired and banned from any medical profession for life, or hell any profession that requires human interaction.
I agree. Was recently in the ER, and the nurses and doctors were so kind and friendly. I could tell that they were stressed and having to do so so much, but they gave me the time I needed, and they were so compassionate. It's the most compassion I've ever felt from a stranger. This heavily contrasts to the last time I was in in-patient care. The social worker was the kindest person there. Nurses were either apathetic or pissed off by parents. The main doctor was cool, but he was around for 30 mins a person or day. One of the young girls were being sexually harassed by a nurse for a bit until they were transferred. The difference is palpable. (Although they did bring in a very cute dog.14/10 certified good girl!)
@@breestringham1063 I’m glad your most recent experience was better. My mom is often in the hospital and I find myself standing between her and apathetic nurses more often than not. Her most recent visit was really good though - definitely overworked and understaffed, but her nurses were still kind and attentive, she remembers all their names.
Reason why I decided not to go into health care. I am really good with knowing the anatomy and how the body works but I do not have the right bedside manner to be in health care. I respect those in health care because it does take a very special empathetic person to be in that profession and I treat them with the utter respect.
But see a nurse is job is to being the kind of their patients. If you can't be kind to people and you can't deal with people in the worst situations of her life don't be a nurse. The most important part of a nurse's job besides the care they give is the compassionate comfort. Is having a good bedside manner
What concerns me is what that lesson was in the nurse story that Ops sister wanted to teach that teen mom especially after hearing about that Lucy Letby case. Some nurses can be extremely evil. A case should definitely be opened against ops sister.
1st story, my mom is in mid 50’s and has been a nurse for many years. She absolutely despises people like this as the nurses are people who are he to help and not people to hurt. It’s honestly disgusting what the sister in story 1 did.
Disgusting is putting it lightly. OP's sister is just pure evil. Plain and simple.
I love the stories where rslash doesn't know who is going to be the bad guy until about halfway through the story so he gradually slips deeper into the "choosing beggar voice" as he goes.
He blended the entitled voice in soooooo smoothly.
Lol me too.
Yeah it's like a gradual enlightenment.
Am I the only one who loves how his voice goes from normal to entitled when reading a story? 😂
Especially when he starts out neutral and then starts forming conclusions. I know he reads more stories than he airs: I'd love to hear a few when he gets really into the bad guy/good guy voices, but then some development reverses the conclusion and he has to go from Karen voice back to sweet granny voice or something.
Of course not. I'm pretty sure the voices are in the top 3 reasons we watch his videos
Nah dude- legit choked on my drink from laughter when I heard him switch voices 💀🖐🏽
It’s my favorite thing tbh
I'm wheezing at the part that he slowly turns to a Karen voice 😂😂
Story 1: It says a hell of a lot about the family environment alone, that OP is the first and only person to try shutting down that vile nurse. Definitely NTAH!!!
Edit: I think the nurse may have violated some HIPPA laws, idk.
HIPAA health information portability and accountability act
I'm inclined to believe sister, being the psychopath that she is, twisted the story as "OP called me a bully for not wanting to ass-kiss my patients" to the family
Second Story: It made me so happy to hear him say that at the end. Literally nobody gets to come before a person like OPs sister. Not even your future spouse. If they don't like, clearly they don't like OP enough for her to take on the burdens of marriage.
first story gave me chills. there is no words to describe the anger i feel. i was 16 when i gave birth to my son and lost him the same night i was lucky as the staff we're amazing
I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing compares
@@rhaenfals7661 thank you x
I’m really sorry that’s so heartbreaking
@@Ivorila Thank you he'd be 19 years old now but im grateful hes with his father and not alone
So sorry for both of your losses, may they rest in peace 🙏
Second story: she deserves to be up there since she did what a man was afraid to do, and that was to raise her sister.
Exactly!? I hope OP left that guy 😒
@@MissShiniSato Jesus Christ the vitriol you have towards this story.
Story 2: when I got married, my father was already passed. My mother walked me down the aisle and we both cried a bit as she walked me. It was such a huge thing to me. It's OPs wedding too. The marriage certificate isn't signed yet. Really consider if this is a family/person you want to marry, OP.
Hear, hear! A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds! And tradition has been used as an excuse for some absolutely, appallingly blinding stupidity. What could be more appropriate than honoring a sister like her? I’m amazed at how many people don’t recognize that a controlling reaction during wedding planning can be the sign that this person isn’t what you thought and that you found out in time.
@@BeeWhistler yup if this is how they act for such an important event and this is hoe they treat you iver such a non issue, how are they gonna treat you the rest of your life?
Yeah, I'm with Rslash on this one...I'd be reevaluating whether I want to marry this guy. It's the brides choice who walks her down the aisle, and the fuss he and his family are making about it is a red flag signaling more controlling tendencies to come.
My aunt walked my mum down the isle. It was beautiful. My mum made me a bridesmaid and her best friend the maid of honour, my sister was the flower girl and my step-dad's little sister was also bridesmaid.
It was beautiful and I cried because I got to see the start of a new phase of my life. My mum is out of an abusive relationship (a story for another day) and is now in a healthy relationship, she's so much happier now!
I would be reevaluating my future relationship with the future in-laws,
*Story 1:* All I can say is HOLY SHIT that sister has multiple screws loose. My jaw LITERALLY DROPPED OPEN at how she told her teenage patient her baby “deserved to die.” HOLY F-K.😳
She didn't actually say that though. rSlash said it but it wasn't in the actual story, so not sure why rslash said it.
@@dtz1000 the sister implied it, the “if she was older” part
@@dtz1000 it was hard implied
Let’s not forget the “wanted to teach her a lesson” part and the “nurse dose”.
@@stevenandcarminabeedle9089 or the part about the premature baby ( that’s the part where I was stunned)
I love Rslash’s transition from serious storytelling to entitled person voice
It’s like a slow reveal that has me hooked on his storytelling
The moment when he realized that this story is the story of a Karen and switched to Karen voice... Brilliant!
That nurse from the first story like I'm speechless... I genuinely did not think a person could be so evil. She's the literal incarnation of the devil in human flesh
Story 1, "Wrong Career," This one goes beyond points out of 5. It sounds like she *caused* that girl to lose her baby, between the thing about the drugs, and then it sounds like she was basically admitting to it. This woman needs to be more than fired, she needs to be removed from public for the safety of society.
They need to take her ass to court and have her nursing license revoked this is entirely beyond any reasoning
@@jplayzow Yeah, I was trying to imply prison
@James Nash Both is good there is certainly an argument to be made that she contributed to the death so I would like to see it played out in court
Now now, hold it one moment, we don't know if the nurse ACTUALLY had a hand in the child's demise. Think about who birthed it. A teenager. Infant mortality rates can spike higher with younger mothers, just like it tips over into higher spikes for older mothers past a certain age. While I personally don't believe that teenager needed a baby, and yes, the nurse saying that to her face was wrong----we have literally Z E R O proof that the nurse had a hand in a baby's death.
Let's just lay down the torches and pitchforks for a minute, shall we?
@King Blanketfort she drugged this poor girl while she was stuck there with a larger dose than was allowed if it was allowed it could have gotten to the kid we're not told how or when the kid died
Dude.... I'm literally sobbing right now... I was a teenage mother & my beautiful, perfect innocent daughter passed a little more than 4hrs after I had her. I held her for a really long time after she stopped breathing, just hoping with everything in me that somehow she would come back to me. I had a mental breakdown when they finally took her from my arms,& (I don't actually remember doing it) apparently I lunged at a nurse. Didn't touch her, as I was still pretty numb in my legs from meds. I was going to be forced into a 72hr hold until that nurse & a doctor who helped me give birth found out when they came to work the next day. Those angels make a HUGE DEAL about them releasing me & THEY DID! I cannot fathom having a nurse as evil as OP's sister. The thought terrifies me & she absolutely deserved to lose her job. What evil...
OP's sister should be in prison, and blacklisted
Im so sorry you had to go through this. Hope it has been somewhat healed over time, and that you received the help you needed in the aftermath. Much love to you
@@brendanboomhour7606 I couldn't agree more! She seriously disgusts me.
@@sebastianviuf Thanks for the kind words. I won't lie... There isn't a single day that goes by that I don't think about her. She would be 7 in September,& I constantly wonder what she would be like. What would be her favorite food, or color? Would we get along? Would I have made the right choices to raise her into a good person? It's hard knowing I'll never get to know that, but as the years have gone by it has gotten easier to face the world each day. It was a slow process, but I don't breakdown anymore when I see something that makes her come to mind & [except when her birthday is nearing] I don't wake up in the middle of the night crying. It's little progress, but progress all the same, right?
Also, I want to note that even though she isn't here, she still saved my life. After she passed I spiraled really hard. I wasn't out to do anything that'd directly cause me to... "join her" if you catch my drift, but I kinda went out of my way to be reckless. I wouldn't admit it (not even to myself) But I think I was hoping someone/something would come along & do that for me. However, I woke up one day about a week before her birthday & thought to myself, "Look at how you're living. Would your baby girl be proud to call you her mother? Would she even want to see you at all like this?" It broke my heart to admit the answer was a no. The moment I asked myself that was the moment I decided to quit drowning in my sorrow & grief. Instead, I decided to live my life to the fullest, or at least enough to experience all the amazing parts of it for us both. I cleaned myself up,& she's literally the only reason why. She's with me every day, always carried in my heart. I'm not perfect by a long shot,& I still mess up here & there... I just hope she would be proud of what I've tried to do in life. I cherish every second I was graced with her,& even though it will never have been long enough, I hold on to & am comforted by the hope that one day [once I've kicked the bucket] we'll somehow reunite.
Sorry for the wall of text, btw... I tend to rant when it's about her. Hope you don't mind too much.
@@NikiValentine No i absolutely dont mind!
Im at loss for words because of bravery and honesty you show in this text.
So dont take my short response for indifference 😅
Im happy you powered through. Even though it has been so difficult.
My mother lost her fifth child due to an unwilling abort. And even someone i never got the chance to meet was a trauma that took some time. Not compare by any means, but its to say i have a feeling how difficult it is to an extend. Hope you know what i mean ❤️
I'd be catching charges left and right if I heard my sister, or any family member, talking about patients like that. OP should RECORD her sister's comments and send it to any hospital or healthcare position she applies at. Absolutely abhorrent, there's venting and then there's being a POS human being, period. She literally drugged her patient so she wouldn't have to deal with her. Oh my god. Yes, Rslash, that was hella illegal and unethical.
For Story 1, My jaw dropped at work while listening to this. I played it loud so my coworkers could hear literally the same reaction. I didn't know what evil sounded like until I heard this story. Op is Not only the Bad guy but She is a hero for Reporting her and Fighting against Her sister's Argument. I would've threw hands ngl.
Oh heck no... 8:10 break that scale. That's not 5 out of 5. That's 15 out of 5. You do NOT... EVER... EVER... Tell a teenage girl that she's a slur, especially when they experience a miscarage... This former nurse deserves karma. That's not stress, it's strait up bullying. 😡
Not just a miscarriage. Either the baby died as she was giving birth or a stillborn, meaning she had to birth a dead baby, or her own child died shortly after birth. Imagine having to birth an already dead child, or your own baby dying just after birth, and your nurse is that monster.
Story 2: my family had this same situation. My sister got married in 2020 and she asked myself and my brother to walk her down the aisle and I was also the maid of honor, our father isn’t in our lives and we didn’t have any male relatives, she needs to stay firm with this. She has every right to pick who gets to walk her down the aisle
IMO this is a look into their future- husband and his family dismissing her wishes and opinions and going with what they want. It may even appeal to them that she doesn't have any living male relatives. It will only get worse with marriage
Story 1: Nurses often have a range of what's prescribed so that doctors don't have to do multiple orders. Similar to how an advil bottle will say 1-2 pills. A "nurse dose" is intentionally giving more than needed within said range
Thank you for clarifying.
@MyFiddlePlayer When it comes to something like labor, where the pain can be really varied they often have a pretty wide range to work with. I'd even go so far as to say overdose amounts for patients with very low tolerances(Like a young teenager for example)
And that automatically places her on the, "should never be allowed in healthcare," category. Man, like you don't have to like the patients, but at least don't abuse them!
@MyFiddlePlayer Theres a reason why that is being taken so seriously. Nurses giving much higher doses than required has caused death in patients. Because doctors prescribe under the assumption that nurses(who are trained to make these judgement calls) will be able to do their job and make minor judgement calls.
There's a possibility that the "nurse's dose" is what caused the complications that killed the baby. Obviously, there's no proof of this available to us. But it could've been a contributing factor to the baby dying
@@autisticnation7140 Agreed though I doubt it contributed in the death as it would have had to have overdosed the baby right before birth and I would think that would easily prove the bitch guilty and she'd be in even more trouble.
I honestly thought that the sister in the first story was admitting to contributing to the death of the infant based on what she said in the update. With how she wanted to “teach her a lesson” to that teenager and what she said… I’d be concerned.
Yeah, "nurse dose to shut her up" + teen first time mom and death of an infant, there something fishy about it. Nurse dose means more that was prescribed sometimes over any allowed doses. And stuff they use to help and aid delivery is very finicky is dosage and effect.
I hadn't even thought of that but that bitch of a nurse may have played a part in it omg
Story 1: I read that there are two types of people that get into the medical field. Those that want to actually help people, and those that like having the control over someone's life. OP's sister is most definitely the second type. I really should file that complaint about the hospital I was at.
Story 2: "traditional" White wedding huh. Did the groom already have relations with the bride? Then it's no longer a white wedding. And has the groom popped his V card? Hmmm. OP's sister IS her family and its a role for the Bride's family to give her away. I went to an older person's wedding and her 2 adult kids "gave her away".
Story 3: OP needs to stop wearing herself as a hat.
As someone going into healthcare, the lack of regard for her patients, her lack of empathy, her violations of hippa,,, all of it in that first story makes my blood boil. How can you go into a field solely about caring for others without the single thought for them breaks my heart. I hope she never goes into healthcare again. Op was totally right reporting that, and its vile no one else in the family spoke up about that.
Story 1I heard this one before. Op did the right thing. I hope the sister gets black listed. She really is evil.
The fact that some of OP's family members support that woman is just as messed up. If not more.
@@BadassHater1 it’s beyond fricked up really
I felt like crying. And what I wonder the most is why on earth she wanted to be a nurse.
@@BadassHater1 They get 5/5 buttholes too regardless if they knew the full story for encouraging a sexist nurse abusing her powers.
@@BadassHater1 Sometimes, I'm not only pissed off at someone for being a massive AH, but people who supports this person, especially your close family or friends, that makes it even worse! This proves they would do the same thing in a heartbeat if they were in her position.
The transition from regular people to Karen will always be hilarious.
That really sells it for me every time XD
That first story..... wow.... I've not had my jaw drop and eyes pop outta my skull from shock in so long I didnt think it was possible!!
But at the update line about that teen who lost her baby, my immediate thought was the baby OD'd cuz of that "nurses' dose".
Overall, that so-called nurse need to be in federal prison not just for that, but all the HIPPA violations.
The OP got so lucky with her husband, good thing that he stood up for her and helped her out. It was important that someone did.
Since when is basic human decency "kissing up" to people? OP said she was unsure because she's not a nurse, well I am! and If I heard another nurse talk like that I'd be in HR faster than you could blink. That language is unacceptable.
Rslash, there are stories like the first story, where people deserve more than 5 bad guys. The sister is an absolutely horrible human being. She deserves at least 7/5 bad guys.
Absolutely, how many patients has she traumatized
The perfect score! 😂
Nah she deserves a .50bmg/5 bad guys
No she deserves 10 or higher
@@AustinBlack28
10 per every patient she insulted
Story 2: I'd be very concerned if my partner didn't respect my wishes of wanting my sister to walk me down the aisle. I'd communicate that if these deeply important wishes were not respected, it makes me question the entire marriage. If that isn't respected, then what other BS am I going to have to deal with once married?! I know there are hardships in every relationship, but that feels like a big red flag. Especially having his family jump in with their opinions.
Have my back dude!
Those were my thoughts, too. The thing is, both him and his family just assumed that his father was going to walk her down the isle. They didn't ask, they practically planned it for her.
While it might not seem like a big deal to some, this definitely gives me an inkling that there will be issues down the road and if I were in the bride's shoes, I would definitely be rethinking the marriage.
They're misogynistic assholes that showed just how disgusting they really are as people.
Definitely. Being “traditional” isn’t a problem per se, but if this means trampling the woman’s wishes and boundaries then it does. FIL walking her down the aisle isn’t typical either so why not relent on this little issue? The wedding is not going to be ruined by a woman taking a woman to her husband….
I really hope OP in the first story has a good pregnancy and does everything in her power to protect herself and her family from that heartless excuse of a sister. That sister is not worth keeping around
The first story just gave me flashbacks to last year, when my niece was stillborn (they did manage to bring her back to life though) and my sister nearly died due to an incompetent nurse. Terrifying that these kinda people actually get to work in this profession
“They’re very traditional“ equals “they’re very misogynistic“
Girl, run
That nurse sister in story #1 is definitely 5/5 bad guys, just on account of how she treated and talked about the teen mom alone.
First Story: If I had gone through any of what OP's sister put mother's through during delivery, I would have been further traumatized by an intense experience.
The sister is a horrible person, that poor teenaged girl must have already been terrified through the entire experience. To not only lose your baby, but then be told that you deserved it? I cried, how devastating that must be...
That nurse is the reason I'm too scared to ever get pregnant. You never know who will try to hurt you or kill your baby in such a vulnerable position.
Story 1: Here’s the thing. When you start learning about healthcare in school, one of the most important things that they teach you is EMPATHY. It’s one of the number one rules of going into any path in healthcare. You need to be empathetic to your patients. The fact that the sister has no empathy at all means she never should have been a nurse. Ever.
4:03, not a nurse myself but my Uncle is a Nurse Practitioner. I asked him for you and he told me that Nurses can only assist in administering prescribed medications. A Nurse Practitioner can administer medication though.
If charges could be filed nurse sister deserves it. Thanks rslash for the stories
Story 3: I started off with a lot of sympathy for OP because if they were as close as she says, I’d be devastated by the distance too. But the absolute lack of any kind of compromise? Completely dismissing her SIL’s workload and stress? Absolutely not! YTA 🙄
The sister who goes on 3 trips a year including her in-law's, but isn't willing to make the trip to see her own family. Just tells her entire family not just this sibling to travel out to her for the major holidays (you know the expensive ones) honestly I think both sides are full assholes.
Yeah why are they only visiting her family each holiday? Rslash casually just brushed over that part
@@tomithy_lo being a parent doesn’t stop after 5 o’clock, working parents basically have two jobs. Who knows what kind of vacation benefits they get too, so maybe it’s harder for OP to take time off.
@@sarahkinsey5434 I was on the side of OP here. My comment was pointing out that the sister OP is writing the story about is able to visit her in-law's on free time, but won't visit her own blood during vacation time, but expects those same family she won't visit to spend extra on travel during holiday season so that they can be there for her on her conditions. She isn't willing to meet half way so I think she isn't purely innocent like rslash and the previous commentor do.
@@tomithy_lo I was agreeing with you, I guess I didn’t say that oops
*First OP:* People like OP's sister are why I dread going for a physical. OP is NTA.
Wow. 5/5 Ahs isn't a high enough score for OP's sister. She's pure evil.
*Second OP:* OP should stand firm in her decision. OP is NTA.
*Third OP:* And here comes the Karen voice, lol. If I had to choose between a 7-hour drive to see my in-laws and I one week trip to Hawaii or Cancun, I'm choosing the latter. It's not like OP's brother and SIL never visit OP and her family. OP is TA.
I totally live for rSlash's Karen voice. One of the best things of his channel.
I love it when halfway a story the narration goes from "Normal person telling a story" to full Karen as we realize who the true antagonist is! 😂
2:23 Hey there. Used to work as an EMT. The “nurse” in this story is fully able to be sued, have her license stripped, and be prohibited from all medical positions in the future. She went against HIPPA by providing private information on patients and also MASSIVELY broke federal law by increasing a dosage intentionally, which could have had fatal results depending on which med and the patients previous medical history. That thing deserves to be buried in the pile of shit that seemed to raise it. No person with a shred of actual humanity should be allowed to work in these fields after even ONE act like what occurred in the first part of the story, and the fact that this wasn’t reported to the medical board and the “nurses” job as soon as the issues started happening is enough to give OP 1.5 outta 5 for me. I think that OP should’ve spoken about this sooner, but the argument doesn’t make you a bad guy. Your sibling deserves a punishment worse than death, for all of the damage she’s caused.
6:33 holy shit… so this update, that death could very well have been caused by that monster administering a higher dosage of that drug. I thought that thing was bad before, but now it’s likely responsible for at least one newborn death, potentially more that we’re not discussed. Legal charges need to be brought swiftly and harshly.
Story 1: I’m not a RN, but I am a Certified Nurse’s Aide. I’m not allowed to give medicine no matter what but also yes, RSlash. You’re right, only certain nurses can give medicine out. (Most of my family are in the medical field)
Nurse practitioner yes?
ALL nurses can administer meds.
I also work as a HCA (Health Care Aide). I am clear with my patient's what tasks I can/cannot do. I often offer a hot blanket or ice pack and or a change of position in bed to help with their pain. Then I let the nurse know their patient wants pain meds.
@@avashnea sure they can give medication that's been subscribed to them by a doctor. But what they can do and what they're legally not allowed to do and what is a HIPAA violation is change that dosage.
@@LLandS18 FYI-HIPAA has absolutely nothing to do with what nurses can or can't do or medications. HIPAA only has to do with the patient's private health info
The sister in the first story deserves SIX out of five badguys.
nah, ∞/5 (in case it doesn't show up... infinity/5)
I hope that psycho stubs her toes on an object every single day. I hope that she one day, sooner than later, feels all that pain and suffering that she caused to others, but triple.
Screw that psycho and throw her into an insane asylum for life.
I agree. Only a soulless psychopath would say the things she said to that poor girl. OP's sister is just a demon walking around in human skin and I think it's high time someone sent her back to Hell where she belongs.
First if you read any criticism of the way I wrote this, don't critise them. I screwed up big time the first time I wrote it.
The story with the nurse sister: she is horrible. Pregnancy and delivery can be horrible even deadly to women. It's bad what women go through.
The story where OP wants her Doctor sister-in-law to visit: she is very selfish. That sister-in-law is so busy. She deserves to have people come to her now. When things calm down she can go and visit others. And visiting peole 2 hours away is easy. 7 hours away is a 2 day trip.
Wtf?
@pianoboy836 why wtf?
How this op selfish to defend moms
Did you… not read the post?
Did you mix up the sister and the op?
A “nurse’s dose” means the nurse gave extra medicine than what the doctor ordered, usually referring to pain meds or antipsychotics. It’s not legal but it does happen quietly here and there in extreme case. It’s usually not traceable since even if they gave extra, they still document they gave the correct amount ordered, so unless the patient suffers from overdose effects, it usually goes under the radar.
I love how during the 3rd story rSlash slowly starts changing his voice into his Karen voice as he’s reading it.
Story 1: clearly that sister who’s a nurse hasn’t been pregnant to know what it’s like to conceive a child.
And if she has, I have to say that damn she’s even more pure evil.
I’m also surprised she even got in to be a nurse in the first place
even Cruella de vil is disgusted with her and she wanted to make a fur coat out of puppies
Pregnant or not has nothing to do with it.
Albert Wesker would be disgusted with her and he attempted to bootstrap humanity's next phase of evolution by blowing a mutagenic pathogen into the earth's atmosphere.
Something inside her snapped.
Just as I wrote in the "Nightengale oath" RSlash looked it up. My mum is a retired nurse. She has a framed copy of the oath she gave in 1962.
She took it very seriously, and as a unit head she would have bounced this nurse before this happened 😮
I feel like she should have the kiss up to her patients. She’s in this career for a reason she might as well give a shit about them.
Yeah, I don't know what the aunt, uncle, and dad are talking about, you literally HAVE to kiss up to your patients as a nurse.
not even kiss up just don't say anything
@@icydays1 Or better, BE NICE TO THEM!
@@icydays1 That's what I was thinking. You don't have to kiss up to a patient, but you ARE required to be civil and professional.
Nursing is a caring profession. If you don’t care, you don’t belong in the profession. Nobody expects nurses not to get stressed and frustrated at times, and they get to vent (within ethical boundaries), too. But this sister has gone way beyond that into routinely disrespecting the people she’s supposed to care for-and that’s completely leaving out the misadministration of meds, which is unethical and all kinds of illegal. She is in the wrong profession.
15:20 give that sister-in-law a -5/5 bad guys she's a hero to us all
I love it when he swiches from the normal voice to the entitled voice midway though a post
The sister in the first story is a literal monster i almost wonder if she's infertile and takes it out on patients or just plain evil
more on evil i think
I'm thinking both.
Honestly I hope she's infertile. A woman that cruel and heartless shouldn't ever reproduce.
i think shes just evil
I’m infertile & I would never do this. She’s just a psychopath.
I literally gasped out loud at the first story. That sister.... I am so mad about it, I can't even formulate a thought. JFC
Story #1: I'm worried that the sister's actions may have caused the baby's death. I wonder if she is so vile because she is unable to have her own children and is lashing out.
Story 2: There is only one person in this story who gets to determine who gives OP away. And that person is OP. To hell with the in law’s misogynistic “traditions”.
Nothing makes me giggle more is hearing him talk regularly and slowly fade to a Karen or ‘entitled-person’ voice.
13:34 see what I mean
The sister in that second story is so amazing. To give up so much at 19 to make sure her half sister could avoid the foster care system is such a selfless choice. Op gets a 0/5 ahole, her fiance and his family is 1/5 the ahole, and the sister's father is 4/5 the ahole for not supporting his daughters sacrifice. Also I'd give OP's sister a negative 5/5 ahole score. Such an amazing sister!
Goodness gracious the sister from the first story scares the life out of me. Evil doesn't even begin to cover it! I just hope that poor teen girl is recovering alright. As well as her other victims... Makes ya wonder how they got the job in the first place o_0 Can only imagine the whole team is ☠️.
I think she's like an uncharacteristically evil and edgy anime villain that is evil for the sake of it tbh, no reason at all.
it not even how, its the why , because she seems to HATE be the one delivering babies and the woman's company, why she choose that job ? i don't think is for money, or maybe she's just like that with woman and not man? that sounds even worst.
i'm also worried about the teenage mother, the sister say she "is going to teach that brat a lesson" that sound like she is going to hurt her, that been emotionally or physically (well maybe not physically,but definitely emotionally) , i feel like she need to be fired and the teenage and op should ask for a restraining order.
to be honest the sister feels dangerous to me. i have family members and friends who work in medicine field and non of them talk about their clients that way, like if they hate them just for been there
In terms of how she got the job; for any job position there are people who can coach people on how to navigate the interview and how to get the job. My guess is she turned on the charm, told them what they want to hear and wait for the job offer.
Story 1, the sister said she wanted to "teach her a lesson" so my question is, did she cause the baby to die in some way?
I think because she gave certain medicines and tortured the mother that the baby died before arriving in the world
This thought popped in my mind too tbh
So just by doing a tiny bit of research the sister could have directly lead to the baby's death by giving her too much pain medications, some of which are known to cause miscarriages.
That was my first thought too.
@AdorableFloof1999 it wouldn't cause a miscarriage during labor. It would cause fetal demise however. It's not a miscarriage once labor takes place and thr baby dies during labor
There is a NOTABLE difference between not taking anyone’s $h!t and being just plain cruel.
CNA here - She gave enough identifying information about her patients to have violated HIPAA, which is why she probably lost her job and why her license is probably on the line as well. I wouldn't be surprised if she loses her nursing license over this.
The sister gets a 6/5 from me, losing a child is very traumatizing and just casually dropping something like that in such an evil way is psychotic. She should not be a nurse at the very least. That poor girl has my condolences and I hope she has the resources she needs to recover well. I personally know people and am even related to one who have lost children. It has affected them permanently, like rest of your life permanently. If someone said that to them they'd be in a wheelchair for the rest of their life. Parents please appreciate your kids cause I know mine do me as their only surviving kid. And stand up to the bad nurses while appreciating the good ones, there good ones work hard and deserve praise.
I also didn’t think the full five was enough.
Last story: I love hearing rslash slowly progressing into his Entitled Karen voice as he decides OP is being ridiculous
same XD
Literally came into the comments to say just that
I know! I went, ‘uh oh ‘! 😂😂😂
Oh yeah. That was magical.
In my opinion both people are the butt holes because OP shouldn’t be expecting that much when they’re working really hard at the same time they could at least visit a tiny bit 0P almost always has to visit them and only when it’s holidays that the OP have to pay for stuff to give it to them it’s kind of weird
Wow that first story. I can only wish the best for OP and that she makes sure her family stays FAR away from her crazy sister.
Pooping while giving birth has to be the least disgusting thing a nurse has experienced or has yet to experience. Its honestly not the bad too, isnt it actually expected for each mother to do that too ?
I've never been pregnant but I'm the son of a teenage mom and I almost lost my mom and my youngest brother when she was giving birth to him, the first story made me nauseous, just imagining how painful it would have been if my little brother didn't survive, and knowing how hard it was on my mom to be pregnant with me while still in school, I hope that young girl is doing well in her grief journey, I can't even imagine her pain, and I hope that ex nurse rots in hell
That teenager will never forget whatever it was that was said to her. Traumatized isn’t even enough to cover it. I really hope legal action is taken against the hospital (for allowing the behavior) and the sister.
Story 1: The sister doesn’t haft to kiss up to her patients, she just has to be nice to them, it’s human decency, would it kill her to show a bit of kindness. 👀
Based on this post I'd say yes it actually would.
So basically what the aunt, uncle and dad meant is that she shouldn't have to be nice. Dude, doesn't any people have any decency now?!
That first story holy shit there are just no words for how evil thdt sister is. No contact with her forever is the best move.
Jesus that nurse needs to be fired and banned from the profession. If she is capable of this, god i hope she doesn't kill those babies. The very fact that op has to ask if she is in the wrong makes me wonder if her family still sides with that "nurse"
Story 1: OP needs to make a complaint to the state board of nursing, assuming they're in the US. I say this as a nurse, because it sounds like making a report and having the OP's sister's practice investigated might save someone's life.
Story 2: if we want to talk about tradition then let's talk about it. One, there are many traditions including one where both parents were the bride down the aisle, that's because this spot even specifically for a man, it's for a significant parents figured giving their child away as a gesture of trust between a parent and their child's partner saying "I trust you to take care of my child" . Second, this choice is one of the few things the bride and groom don't both need approval on, this is your family you could walk down by yourself and it wouldn't matter what your groom thinks, unless this is someone who did something to his family he has no right to try Vedo your decision. Lastly it's not doing anything to him, he won't die if you walk with your sister.
Damn do I love it when rSlash starts a story with his normal voice then, when he discovers it's written by a jerk, his voice changes. That is peak narration :)
Story 1: I'm a nurse, and I can say that the sister's comments and actions are far beyond just 'venting about work' it goes against against the very ethics and principles at the core of nursing. Her actions are reportable and could cause disciplinary action on her license, or even lose her liscene. And yes we can administer pain medication.
I was "given away" by my best friend and witness (which would be our equivalent to an MOH), a woman. I didn't even think of asking my husband about it, as it was my walk down, but he never would have thought of objecting either. He wouldn't have cared if I had walked down by myself, as long as I walked down to marry him.
These people just remind me of how lucky I am.
I'm in school for Medical Coding right now. Lesson 1 was about how talking about a patient's information, even when just among friends and not using identifiable information, is extremely illegal. The sister "venting" is a major breach of patient privacy. Sometimes you can get away with it if your friends or family don't care or you post it as anonymously as possible, but at any moment she could have been reported even if she wasn't being so cruel. Op gets an easy 0/5, her sister gets 5/5 on the bad guy scale AND the stupid scale.
Omg I love when rslash slowly switches to Karen
Also she slipped in that story, towards the end she reveals that they "never help with childcare". Op doesn't care about having a relationship, op cares about having a rotation of free babysitters to take advantage of
I've heard of people in health care using dark humor to cope with the stress and trauma often involved in working in health care, but the comments made by the sister in story 1 are so far beyond the pale.
God, that first story makes me feel so bad. The day I gave birth to my daughter in 2021, I had this night nurse that was absolutely terrible. Because my daughter wouldn't latch on for breastfeeding, she kept saying things like "you're not doing it right," "it's because you're bad at being a mother" and since my fiancé was present with me and I was exhausted and just wanted to sleep, I had him take care of our baby while I tried to get rest. He ended up sleeping more than I did and I almost fell over several times when getting up to take care of her and the nurse said that my fiancé shouldn't be the one taking care of our daughter because HE needed rest. I ended up sleeping less than a total of 4 hours that night and my fiancé got 7-8. When a doctor came in and asked how I was doing, I just said that I was in pain still and I was exhausted. The night nurse interrupted me, saying that I had gotten a full night's rest when I didn't and just started saying that I'm lying and exaggerating things. After everyone had left, my fiancé held me for a full half hour while I cried. I ended up filling a complaint to the hospital about the nurse, but I'm not sure if anything was ever done about it.
13:59 when RSlash's slowly voices turns into karen voice lool
For that last story: how much you wanna bet that the OP just wants more free babysitting?
Also, my only sister is a surgeon who lives with her husband an hour away from me and the rest of the family. I can attest that her work hours can be absolutely RIDICULOUS. She's always invited to holidays and family gatherings, but we understand that she often can't make it. That doesn't mean she doesn't love us, she just wants to unwind at home. A simple phone call or text from time to time is enough.
I think it's more of an ESH kind of situation. Towards the end OP became a little entitled and hypocritical. However, if her SIL has time to take trips to two different vacation hotspots as well as visit her family, then she can definitely make time to visit her husband's family. There was definitely somewhere all of them could have compromised a little bit.
I’m inclined to give the SIL the benefit of the doubt. I think she’s just doing what she has to do to keep from burning out, and I think visiting OP feels like a chore. They’re just too nice to say it.