I had never heard of loving detachment before, and you explained it so well! My biggest fear is that if I practice loving detachment with my husband, that he may continue to do unhealthy things, like eat unhealthy food, and that will possibly shorten his lifespan. So because of this, I tend to nag him to get him to eat right and to take his medications. I’m on the fence about what to do.
This is a tough one and lots of people (including me) have had to confront this dilemma. The consequences of your husband not taking care of himself hurt you, not just him, and you want him to be healthy, of course! But he's an adult and can make his own decisions. In fact, he probably dislikes being nagged, which makes him more resistant to eating healthy--he doesn't want to do "what he's told." You're best bet here is to explain how you feel and what you are going to do, *one time.* And then let him decide whether he is going to follow through or not. _For example, I want you to eat healthy so you are as healthy and happy as possible because I love you. I'm going to continue to make healthy meals and offer you healthy snacks, but I'm no longer going to insist that you eat them or nag you about not eating unhealthily. It's up to you whether you decide to eat healthy or not. And if you don't eat what I make, that's great because it leaves more for me!!_
I had never heard of loving detachment before, and you explained it so well!
My biggest fear is that if I practice loving detachment with my husband, that he may continue to do unhealthy things, like eat unhealthy food, and that will possibly shorten his lifespan. So because of this, I tend to nag him to get him to eat right and to take his medications. I’m on the fence about what to do.
This is a tough one and lots of people (including me) have had to confront this dilemma. The consequences of your husband not taking care of himself hurt you, not just him, and you want him to be healthy, of course! But he's an adult and can make his own decisions. In fact, he probably dislikes being nagged, which makes him more resistant to eating healthy--he doesn't want to do "what he's told." You're best bet here is to explain how you feel and what you are going to do, *one time.* And then let him decide whether he is going to follow through or not. _For example, I want you to eat healthy so you are as healthy and happy as possible because I love you. I'm going to continue to make healthy meals and offer you healthy snacks, but I'm no longer going to insist that you eat them or nag you about not eating unhealthily. It's up to you whether you decide to eat healthy or not. And if you don't eat what I make, that's great because it leaves more for me!!_
@@drjulieshafer Thank you so much for your insight, that helps a lot!