What Society Says To Men- Helly Shah | Spoken Word Poetry
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- "I always felt like men were born with a sense of entitlement in this world. Until now, until this."
This poem is a commentary on the conditioning men receive since childhood and how it shapes their social interactions.
Written & Performed By- Helly Shah
Production House- Abhedya Artworks (www.abhedya.in)
Shot By- Pratik Bhadekar
Edited By- Navaldeep Singh
Shot At- The School of Thought, Andheri (W)
Special Thanks- Forum Shah
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feminists should take note; THIS IS what a strong woman looks like.
strong enough to take a stand for humanity ,not just separating agendas.
This. Well said sir.
she is oozing gynocentrism. nah. i dont like this video and im a man.
You realize that she IS a feminist right? The feminism stand for equal treatment and rights for both men and women. So sad that so many people have so many misconceptions about this 😥
Feminism is great, but not the modern feminism we are used to today...
@@Adam-sw4iw what aspect of modern feminism would you be referring to?
This is called a feminist. Someone who clearly fights for women's rights but gives a shit about men too. A good person. Clap it up.
👏👏👏
She called men dogs.
Women have more rights than a man if anything though, at least in America. If women really want to fight with women’s rights they need to fight in places like Saudi Arabia and other places in Europe.
Also I’m not saying she fights for rights in America, just saying that because a lot of feminists are from America and fight for things like “manspreading” or a wage gap that is presented in a way that makes it seem like society decides they’re worth less when that’s not what the gap is
@@chandlercolvin9396 sounds about white
Girl, you're one in a million.
billion.
@@ChuckSploder trillion
@@alloyoopproductions9804 Quintillion!
Infinity
@@prakashpoojary6116 Aleph-5
As a young man in my early 20’s this video hits hard. I’m pretty stoic and rarely show emotions around friends and family, but this video had me in tears.
It's so ironic how these things are taken much more seriously when a woman is talking about them in third person than when a man is talking for himself.
It's sad
yeah if it was a man saying it it would probably be brushed off as "Oh man up you have it great" not trying to be rude to her though
Of course, just highlighting an aspect of this situation. She's still right and did an amazing speech.
When a member outside of a community speaks in favor and support of that community, it will always mean more, because everyone knows they don’t have personal stakes in the matter
There are a ton of male figures who talk about this stuff, I honestly have no idea what you're talking about.
The ironic part of this video. If a man were saying any of this, everyone would be calling him an incel and a creep.
Imagine living in a world where your worth is decided by how many times you urinated in the opposite gender, who btw have no effing clue how it feels like to be you
@@meghanachauhan9380 Tf u on about
@@meghanachauhan9380 who's urinating in who?
Dovey Milton I don’t think so
@@meghanachauhan9380 wait a second kiddo ask your parents about the birds and the bees
She is standing for us when no one is standing for us 🥺🥺🥺.... "Thank you" is a very small word for you Helly 🥺🥺
2:59 “A man is a human too” hit me hard.
It made me realize that when someone tells you to be a man, they are contradicting themselves because by extension, they are asking you to be human.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real that’s just it. It’s harder to figure out BEACAUSE we’re human. In fact, I remember once hearing a quote to the effect of “We are so painfully free”.
"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?"
Felt that hard
The truth is that very few, if any will... nobody cares for a man the way he cares for others... when the tool is broken, they throw it away.
Yeah
I think I may have felt this entire video a little to hard
@@eazye857 me too, man.
That hit hard
"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?"
Right in the soul with that one.
He would cry. As he saw the truth of the world from up above or down below.
The truth is, not many people would. They would say that he was weak and that he took the coward's way out. They would call him selfish. They wouldn't think about how long he likely agonized over the idea of it. They wouldn't know about how many times he considered it before he finally did it. They wouldn't know about how many times he almost did but backed down.
@@DerrickUltima if he had individuals dependent upon him, he was weak. If not, then i cant blame him for deciding this world wasnt worth living.
Kevin knew, that NO ONE WOULD CRY.... Not real tears, only to use his death in their own agenda, whatever it was. For if someone was to really cry, then they would address why men are killing themselves, much more, than women are. Yet in truth? no one actually gives a damn.
Kevin is dead, he doesn't wonder anymore...
I haven’t known a single woman whose opinion of me didn’t sour to some degree when I showed vulnerability. Whether physical, mental, emotional, financial… I actually got more pressure from my mom to “be a man” than my dad growing up. The only ones I really share my emotions with are my homies. Cuz their respect and care doesn’t just come and go.
I just want to hug this woman and cry
As a 16 yo life already has got to me like Im 40, having 2 failed suicide attempts that no one knows about, always in battle in what i should do and what i feel like doing,what society wants me to be as a person ? A man needs to be strong ik but I can only handle too much as a person,my father can only can handle too much as a person
"oh are you a child?" "Oh you need to grow up" thats what ppl day to me when i do something that i like those are the toxic words everyone says
ppl think the society is male dominent its truely not like jordan peterson said:
most ppl who commit suicide are men, most ppl who die in wars are men , most ppl who do wrost in school are men, most ppl who are in prison are men
Should i go on ????
Where is the dominence here ?
Do women like to suffer ?
Do women enjoy getting hurt?
Im not against femenism but i think the wrong type of it are making men weaker and weaker heck even men themselfs are bowing down to that toxic idea
This type of feminism is making men look like monsters that are enjoying hurting women that simply is not true
And just a reminder Im a minor
If im getting hurt from this wrong kind of feminism then adults are screwed
And women dont care why they should ?
Why tina over there needs to know when she mocks me in front of my friends thats enough motivation for suicide for me
Why should my mom care about my dad coming home at 2 am and having work crunches
Why you should care about your brother having no gfs ?
A guy slaps a woman in the face
"This man is disgusting" "he should burn in hell" HE fucking HE is what they say before understanding wtf goin on
Little they know that the woman cheated on hus husband 5 times
So if you have a husband or a son or a bf or a brother or a friend
Just open uo to them a bit and you will know how much a man can cry
dont worry
at your 20 you will be almost completly free from emotions
Because its teenage bro you will forget mist of it by 20
It’s gotten so bad that we need a woman to speak for us, because we aren’t allowed to speak up for ourselves.
This is dead on.
This is so true
Holy shit this hits me
Both genders need to support the other but some people just can't put their bias aside. Maybe one thinks they've been through so much that bringing the other down will "fix" it and make it up for what they've been through but that's just a cycle of trying to be above the other.
It's not bad at all actually.
“Men drop dead at 55 from 5 decades of not being able to admit a puppy is cute or that they want a cookie” -Bill Burr
I wish more people see your comment, this is spot on.
How about saying that babies and children are cute af without being looked at like a fucking predator or like a pedo 🤦🏻♂️
we let it out for a split second then we force it back into the jar and set it on the shelf of anger in our chest. and wonder who is gonna pay for this in the future. oh billy boy best comedian ever in my opinion.
@@cascadinggainz6043 His sets seem like he's coming up with everything on the spot, I also love Bill.
@@Mohammad-on5qo .... Yup... Why worry about having grandkids... I won't be allowed near them... 🤷🤷♀️🤷♂️
As a man, I wish I saw this video much sooner. In 2019, I left my home and forced myself to live in homeless shelters while hopping around to 2 different cities here in Canada. Some nights, I was sleeping on the streets of these unfamiliar cities - one night was on my 22nd birthday. It was a very harrowing experience and I've scarred myself. Why did I do this to myself? Because I felt compelled to brutally punish myself - this is what I deserved as a man apparently. Because society constantly gave me the message that I had never suffered enough to cry, that all my problems were trivial and invalid. The last person to give me that message happened to be a woman - and that was the first time I had ever tried opening up about my problems to anyone. She told me I had nothing to worry about because I live in a first world country. It broke my heart. I had never been given a space to speak about the issues in my life before. So my message to the world was "You wanna see me burn? Okay then, I'll make myself burn." I am now in such indescribable emotional pain, even though this happened 3 years ago. I have not recovered, and probably won't for many years. All I can say is, we are blessed to still have women like Helly.
There are people who need others who have walked in their shoes before them. I truly believe, as is said, the surest way to find happiness is to lose yourself in service to others. I pray you close the door of hurt behind you and that you have a life of connection, peace, and happiness.
She's standing up for us. It made me almost cry. I think she deserves a freakin award, like some human rights shit.
Nobody speaks for guys like this, all respect
Boys we need 24/7 protection on her, she is a rare one
You mean aside from all the men that already have? I'd hate to live in your bubble.
Russian Bot men aren’t allowed to speak up for themselves. Technically, this comment is wrong, because men have spoken up for themselves, but they got ignored and labeled as misogynists. So, were they really allowed to raise awareness to their issues? I don’t think so.
@@russianbot4966 ok 40 year old virgin.
Steven Crowder
I highly suggest him
@@user-bv4vf9so1e aye im a 20year old virgin olive oil xD😂
The fact that us men could not say this ourselves without being marked as sexists and creeps just shows how and society has got these days, thank you Helly Shah
True
I was called sexist for saying the men have it harder, but when a women says it oh boy they attack us
@Timmy L maybe but that doesn't make me sexist
@Timmy L well so if a women say they have it harder that sexist aswell right?
@Timmy L im talking about in general not about which race
iv'e not felt love in over 9 years,yet i felt every word of this video. thank you
Everyone liking your comment is trying to give you the love you were missing for the past 9 years
Now that's who u call a real Queen 👸
Innocent little dove.
Yeahhhhh
Guy:*Helps A Woman*
Society:SIMP
Guy:*Helps A Guy*
Society:Gay
Guy:*Does Nothing*
Society:Pathetic
This comment feels like cognitive dissonance at its finest. I want you to find me specific real-world examples of the first 2 things you said happening. Do that, and I'll apologize for being wrong and become a pessimist like you.
@@MeatyJesus good
@@MeatyJesus next time you see some random guy help a lady with a broke dawn car you ever notice its never a ugly girl or a girl with kids
Ok who have the gun? I wanna die cuz this stupid society
Society chodu h khskar indian society tabhi hum sirf developing nation h developed ni aur happiness index mai last side se 10th rank h humara
"A man will get his first flower when he dies."
I felt that.
If it makes you feel any better, I, a transmasculine person and also a feminist am actually omw to buy flowers to hand to men on the street because I read that quote before! I hope that youll meet an actual feminist one day, we're actually pretty cool :]
I can only send you virtual flowers so.. 🌸🌸🌺🌺 Hope you having a happy day or night wherever you are.
Wow felt that too
@john yea guess what im trynna do bro- But yea I get your thought
It’s a humble request to such women please do not superimpose ‘victimhood culture’ on men ( this is just to strengthen their own case of women’s oppression , by arguing that society treats both sexes unfairly and repressively ) , women are not treated fairly is accepted but the fact that men are expected not to cry and all is a ‘legitimate societal move’ to protect its own existence ;
She's the kind of hero that this planet needs
A real women will always appreciate a real man , period
It's nice seeing a woman talking about men like this
Shes a woMAN
Wtf would she know?
@@apropercuppa8612 Hearing her talk Imma bet that what she knows is more then you do.
She is backing herself up from the unavoidable backlash that is coming to women. Do you really think you can trust any woman with your secrets and emotions? You do know that all women alive today carry the genes of those who married the men who killed their former husbands and fathers since the stone age, right?
Thats one out of four billion. Don't hold your breath.
She's not the hero we wanted,
She's the hero we needed.
The hero we need but we don't deserve
She's definitely the hero we wanted, though.
I think all the men who gets thrown in prison or get their life destroyed in another way because of false accusations of rape actually do deserve a hero like this.
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Actually i wanted a hero like that
To be a man is to endure our suffering through dignity.
We live in a strange world , but it’s nice to be recognised once in a while
Some women say “be a man” and then turn around and say being a man is toxic
Lol
Says the toxic man.
Often when people say be a man, they're trying to get you to do something they want you to do. It's kind of like calling someone chicken. It's done to manipulate and to enduce a certain response that's beneficial to them.
Ry Bones didn’t ask
David Boucher what she is describing is the negative effects of toxic masculinity
“This is not a debate about feminism or a million other isms, Instead learning about kindness and empathy” best words in this video
Ivan Carmona hol up
*empathy. Apathy is not caring, empathy is different. :)
Bro, i started to read this at the same time that she was saying it
Crazy
Not actually what she said tho
She said "kindness and empathy".
Fix your comment.
"It's not just ok to be a MAN, It's necessary"
- J.P
As a woman who always stands up for men, this brought me to tears
Me2 girllll
@@vianguyen1588why you guys stand up for men? Their lives are always being easy.
@@user-ig-gg26j and you experience that men have it easy comes from what? The lens of how a women’s struggles? You can’t project the female struggle and assume it’s the only struggle or the worst struggle that exist. It’s like a men saying, women have it easier, and they don’t even live life as a woman. Do you even live life as a man to even know that to begin with? or does your observation comes from your own experience of bad men, or so called feminism analysis. I advice that if you’re womanizing a lens experience, which means to brush or paint any male struggle as incomparable or irrelevant just bc they don’t have the same struggle as a woman, then learn and research make struggles. But you and I might be from different culture where you see the privileges of men, I’m talking about issues concerning American men
“When Kevin committed suicide he wondered ‘who would cry?’”
*Dude that hit too close to home*
yes, sir bin ladder
Osama Bin Ladder why did i think of Kevin from home alone
yeah sure bin ladder
Are you alright.
@@Ameritude no cuz ya killed him
She protec
She attac
But most importantly
She got men’s bacc
Edit:thanks for 1 thousand likes lol that’s awesome
She knows de way. She is the true queen
Ok buddy that’s a dead meme
Chris.M
Oops sorry my meme wasn’t funny 😟.
True
😂
Man, this makes me feel a lot better, I spent the entirety of my grandmothers funeral holding back tears. I couldn’t stop myself felt very embarrassed. This really shouldn’t be this way, thank you for standing up for us. Also you dropped this 👑👑
🧡 your grandma knew. She felt those tears you had inside.
Best quote for me "We need to liberate our souls, from what it is to be a he or a she and see what it is to be you and me." So much compassion and empathy in just that one sentence.
I hate this bc I was expecting to be annoyed from another “feminist” that just trashed on men, instead I got hit with emotions and shed a few tears at 6am bc I cant sleep. Thank you
Nobody to this coment: men don’t cry wyta
men: is this...systematic oppression ?
but shouldn't men do not cry?, but yes a great speaker she is, hit all of us
I don't think any woman ever spoke this highly about men in public.... Hat's off to you Ma'am ✌️
Abhe chutiye books wagera by pda kr pta lg jayega
@@rajeshsingh-mv7zn Suggest Kr Bhai Konsi Book
She didn't say anything good about men....she asked for change.
@@amritraj9230 bro it will be my honour if you will read this book "the manipulated man" a redpill for men.
You are generalizing over there
When she said men also cry and society thinks men don't cry. My heart melted that time I mean.. just tears came down from my eyes when she said that.i have huge respect for her.
This women is so cool. She is an inspiration to young girls like me. So many times my brother and I have heard about double standards and in reality man or women we should treat each other equal. Women should be allowed to fight and men should be allowed to cry. We ALL are human, we ALL have ideas and desires, we ALL feel emeotions. We should not let the past define us, do not let idiots past actions define an entirety or a gender. Men nor Women are born bad we were raised in a society or experienced an event that taught us that. Let’s be better, not keep these stereotypes of men just because that’s what we hear. My brother is an amazing boy and he should not be thought of as someone who is greedy, who is automatically a cheater, violent. He is kind and smart and treats me with so much respect. I hope in time we learn to treat and think of both man and women as people and not their genders. Good job standing up for both genders girl 🎉❤
Guys, we need to protect this one.
She’s rare.
Edit: wow
Please we need to
True she is queen we will spit on the fake queens
She's a unicorn. Protect her and keep her safe so that one day we could have more of her on this planet
Agreed
I would like but it’s at 420 rn
She stands up for us when no one asked her to. Fellas treat her with love and respect bc she is the hero we didnt know we had.
True words
@Madness 1.0 o0 well she's not our 'savior' but I mean, gotta give her a lil credits where due, makes for a good change compared to what we hear in general, she's still a simply imperfect human, I just like what she says =]
It truly says a lot about our society
Pretty weird, coming from the Joker 😂😂😂🤣
@Madness 1.0 dude, are you shitting me, when in your fkin life did you ever stopped crying because your tear conducts are 'smaller' and 'it's PHYSICALLY harder [for men] to cry' ?
Most women don't understand a man's pain and sadly I believe fewer care. Society doesn't understand or care. But this lady does and she tells it like it is. From all of us men thank you.
For the crying thing. Cry when you feel the need to. Don't be ashamed. But cry with a person you love and trust. And cry with someone who understands. After you're done, understand why you cried, and with the calm that comes after crying, what you can do to not cry about it ever again. If they are tears of joy, then cry whenever you want my man
Being a man can mean so many different things, for me it’s when I was told by an 90 year old ww2 vet “being a man ain’t about crying or being scared, it’s about being terrified and sobbing while still being able to stand for something good and to Protect those you love, that’s being a man”
It was a few years ago at an ww2 event but I wrote down a few of his “quotes”
It's nice to hear that the greatest generation of men also cried. Yes they endured much more than we can imagine but we see soldiers as people who don't cry and "soldier" on
For me being a man means being born with a penis and testicles.
Could you share these quotes
Dawidek Everyone it seems like we've got a transphobe here
@@bjek343 A penis, testicle and no boobs?
Sometimes the youtube algorithm does wonderful things
Nope. Some times TH-cam algorithm does horrible things
@@noname-sk3hl ?
@@whywouldyoucare239 adi Stefani ?
@@noname-sk3hl Why did you say nope?
@E Camp What? The guy who commented.
you are a queen. you deserve a crown. this basically changed my view of the world.
you know there are the golden bunch of women that actually understand this is one of them
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In other words, all the Demunist Commiecrats
"STOP MANSPLAINING, ANWSERING MY QUESTION IS CONSIDERED MANSPLAINING
flyback 2me why??
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Careful, she's a hero.
Truly.
SeXiSt
STOCKS
If you change that to he this might be the most disliked video ever
Not all hero’s wear capes
We need such type of poems in our textbook
This gender equality thing has become a competition between men and women; trying to decide who suffers more, who is better, who is evil… I wish we could do like her, standing up with each other and trying to understand the struggles of the other gender.
It has been made a competition by conservatives and no one else.
Wow, a feminist that actually believes in equal rights. Finally.
Edit: why did this just blow up lmao
One of the rare few at this point. She is to be respected.
I can respect feminist that fight for equal rights but not feminist that only think women have power
Maybe we should start calling it equalism?
I never thought that feminism ( the logical and empathetic “good” kind ) harmed any gender lol.
But I never had time to look into the issues of the “feminist” world.. had too many traumas to deal with and money to earn 🙃
She's not a feminist, she's an egalitarian. Please don't insult a good person with that word
WOW
Finally, someone who understands.
Humanity needs more people like her
Yup. Unfortunately, while she means it well, to even see any effect it would require for people to care about when men have it bad. That is certainly not the case thus it will fall on deaf ears
It's called a real woman. She understand men are important and society is trying to kill us off.
@@beefnacos6258 she is tryin to kill us off .. wtf did u watch
A sexy Woman who does not need to be a Feminist Wamen.
@mihuts/\Nive not many men here tho , lmfao
I won't comment praising her for what truely good she has done to remove those misconceptions 😭. But what I can really do is give her a subscription ❤️.
this is the content this society needs!!
glad someone came up
“Real men don’t cry” - While swallowing that lump in my throat and struggling not to cry I realize I’m victim to this.
Exactly... always swallow your Emotion... FCK that
@@raoulbremer idk it not bad
Raoul Bremer who wants to be called a wimp tho only cry at the stuff that’s really bad
*Real* men *decide for themselves when and why* they cry, regardless of what any wimp might say of it. I mean, how does *someone else* tell *you* how to be you? Don't fall for it!
Thank you, miss Shah!
@@ca1444 that's the conditioning
Careful........ she’s a hero
Edit: the sentence I said was a meme, I intended it be taken as a humorous joke, while you guys can’t even take a joke, hero or heroine but this comment was meant to be a meme!
Not the hero we deserved... But the hero we needed
@@tomasgresko1599 yes
Yes she is
She's looks like Yennefer from The Witcher Netflix
IROHHHH
Just for all those out there, you have no idea how much a hug, a simple compliment, or even a nice comment means to a man. I was given a flower by a woman when I was buying groceries and that I looked nice. That was 21 years ago and I still remember the day.
Thanks for the tip.. will use it
This made me cry, thank you so much for this. It was truly beautiful and I cannot thank you enough
“Be a man, said the father that was never there”
Damn I felt that hard
Vortex in my soul, I felt that.
I think it's pretty rich for a feminist to condemn fatherlessness, however obliquely. Fatherlessness is overwhelmingly the outcome of feminist 'reforms'. You kick the father out of the home and them condemn him for never being there.
Jeff that’s some real Hit. You on point. Cause and Effect always
@@jeffjones7108 or maybe your dad just cba with you lol
Jeff Jones or it’s because the man just leaves it happens a lot more often than you think
*“Careful, shes a hero.”*
@ Woooow shes a "hErO" because she backs men? Fucking hell your acting like every woman is out here to hate men.
@@d4n380 the feminism of this time is all about that if you think about it. It's about revenge.
@@d4n380 she is a "hero" because she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy. No one ever said all women are out to get men. Why randomly assume everyone is acting out of malice?
@@BringOnTheBleach "she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy". So can 98% of the human population, doesn't make her any more special than your average don. It's also called sarcasm, dont play dumb you know exactly what I meant.
Been a man for 20 years, first speech that got me teary eyed
As a man once said "She is the chosen one, she will bring balance"
*In dying breath*: ''She is.. the chosen one''
@@TheGrowthMindset777 equality*
d u c k
@@TheGrowthMindset777 BRING EQUACKITY TO THE WORLD
Lets preserve her in Formalin
She will bring peace.
And not a single toxic feminist will remember a word of this.
Thats not true.
notapartofthissystem ok Yes it is
She's pushing the same narrative as toxic feminists by equating masculinity to "years of conditioning and apathy" and the letting go what it is to be a he or she, battling the concepts of masculinity and femininity. It's the same androgynous gender crazed ideology packaged in such a way to make it more appealing to non-feminists.
@@hallowelt6412 he means toxic feminists
shbshashahah
The passion and accuracy she has is real and spot on.
Not only is this a very heart-touching and compassionate message, but rhymes and rhythms are so natural and fluid. This is what poetry should be. Thank you.
"Men only matter if they can provide something first"- Chris Rock
That is our nature. Can't argue.
I feel that.
Yep, and the more you can provide the higher up the mating scale you are. As soon as something goes wrong and you have a blip in providing, you'll be single.
Indeed
That is why I only provide for me and only for me.
"men don't cry" I do cry but in the darkness when there's no society to shame me and say "be a man."
A real man is a man who can be human. Can cry, can show emotion. Not some fake strong person.
@Eric Baillie Strong as in like fake strong, like you want to cry but stay strong because of expectations. You can be strong, and that’s fine, but a lot of guys stay “strong” even though they want to cry, because “men aren’t suppose to cry.”
@Eric Baillie It gets everything out, sometimes a good cry is needed.
@Eric Baillie Keeping all of your feelings bottles in is not good.
@Eric Baillie Omfg, no one does that. I meant that you need to let things out. You can take your mom to he hospital and still cry. It’s totally normal.
This is refreshing and enlightening. We as a society need to unlearn these ugly expectations we have had for men for so long. Men are humans too. ❤️
People need to hear this, OUT LOUD.
the fact that she's from india makes this message so much stronger.
Edit: holy crap, this blew up and I didn't even notice. good job youtube notifications... xD
Now for everyone not getting the comment: In most parts of India womens rights are pulled to the dirt. Rape is widely accepted, if you have a higher position in politics, buisness or health care you often get weird looks and the "traditional" idea of women keeping house and kids in order is often seen as self-evident. So for her to stand up for men's rights takes a special bit of courage and, in a way, intellegence.
Let's get this lIlY sIgH off and replace her with this gem
Id love to say thats unrelated but whenever a woman cant walk alone in the day never mind after dark in india i sorta get what your sayin
What do you mean?
Karens boutta get pissed at u bud watch out
@krishna op India is not the worst country for women but it's not a good country for them either but only thing I know is that our country vilanises men so bad we're known as only horn dogs in foreign countries and I've never seen a single femenist talk about men suicide in India.
A woman defends men of the society.
Social media pseudofeminists : *surprised pikachu face*
You mean feminazis
Actually, immature adults who have twitter
Feminism was never meant to be for equality and the "fem" indicates that.
@@filipportman5981 internet stupidity
@@filipportman5981 I think that the actual feminists support equality and want equal rights for men. But of course in there are some extremist feminist who might not want that, but they don't represent the majority of feminists.
@@IamThat00 they do represent the majority of feminists, feminism is predicated on the existence of a patriarchy without that it turns into misandry. Otherwise, name one thing that feminists have done in the 21st century for equality, because I can name many things they've done that threatened gender equality
Damn this almost made me cry. Great to see that there are still people who understand.
This made me cry my eyes out. It is hard to be a human, male or female lost in the world not knowing exactly where and how you should be in almost every way.
Strong words.
You really are that easy to manipulate?.
When my first wife ran away with her boyfriend, and left our 3 year old child with me, I cried. A lot. And then I got back up, and continued the mission. I finished my M.A. Got another job, raised my kid, till she was 17. She got into a good college, made something of herself, has 2 kids now, with a good husband. And my ex called me up, not long ago, just wanting to talk. And I just said "no". Gosh that felt good. Like the guy in the Truman show: goodbye, and good luck.
Good for you brother!
@amit kumar amm he called her "my first wife" which indicates he has married someone else by the time of writing this
Good job mate
Your story was basically the same as mine but my child was 2. I bought him up since he was 2 and hes now 25. Hes done really well for him self and I pushed him all the way though College etc and trained him in martial arts all hes life where he become ranked in Europe. Of course someone told hes mum and shes taking all the credit for hes achievements lol. I know so many men that raised their kids by there self. Its so messed up and that never used to happen decades ago. Im happy you managed to keep your child as I did as I knew one man that wifes left him and their kid and 8 years later wanted the child and she got the child back even though she walked out on that child for so long. That was so messed up and totally broke my mate mentally.
Now that a man
Whenever my “feminist” friends try and start shit about men having it so easy. I always say the scales are not tipped they are broken everyone has it rough.
Lol my feminist friend cut me out because she couldn't handle it. Said I was perpetuating "rape culture."
@@starwarfan8342 probably doesn't know what that even means, to them its buzzwords and victimism of vindication to problems they didn't actually expierience ,but perpetuate because it is easy to do.
In some ways fear or herd mentallity and a lot of the fake feminists are pretty much using the cause as an excuse to act out. To be fair there are those whom are taking things to extremes as well, point is bad apples can ruin a batch and there are very few that are actually good and well intentioned. Just we hear a louder majority.
Yeah everyone has it rough until you start a only fans
Or stream on twitch and get millions of simps
Socially, yes. Biologically speaking it does suck more to be a woman tho.
Very good speech, I as a man hear someone in front of the door and get fear as an automatical reaction, that they could hear the video.
The most perfect description. Thank you ma'am
Strong women have the ability to stand up for themselves. Stronger women have the ability to stand up for everyone.
Well said
Amen!
Bro, your profile picture remainds me of "Morpheus, drikin a 40 in a death basket" 💀💀💀💀💀
The same with men
✨P R E A C H H H H H H H✨
If I wasn't such a man I *might've* cried.
😭🙏 thats hella funny bro, same. ✌️
@@dmstudios5486 Lol glad you laughed bro. :) Im just trying to make people laugh on a video that depresses them.
Good one
Yeah. In the end, while she probably means well, nothing will change. Showing that we men have it bad too is meaningless since people do not care about when men have it bad, thus it falls on deaf ears
@@wothin If it makes you feel any better, there are other people out there who feel the way she does, myself included. Hopefully in time more people will think about what she's said
so much strength in her speech. Beautiful, I will share it everywhere
Men should cry, but no need to cry in front of others, men need to be composed and strong. Everyone says, especially women, that men should cry and show emotion but the moment they cry and show that emotion, subconsciously and consciously they seem pathetic to them, especially to women. Now some moments merit you showing emotion to your partner like if someone dies or something really horrible happens, you can cry and be embraced, but there are so many damn things that happen that do not merit crying in front of others even if you feel bad. Now, it's not that we can't rely on others and get help, we need it, but in our own way, a dignified way.
She is standing for humanity and not separating genders, take notes feminists
I am a feminist. But I like describing feminism as the equality to both genders. I agree with every word she said. I do not pick sides.
@@j0sz_206 well then why are u a feminist and not an equalist.. Not a humanist... Why does the word FEMINISM have to define equality
@@j0sz_206 think he ment like more far right feminists. 🤷♂️dunno
@mdx you can’t change society if you don’t change people. even if it’s not one of the most important points you still need to start somewhere to invoke change.
@@SuprotipOfficial feminism:
noun [ U ]
/ˈfem.ɪ.nɪ.zəm/ US
/ˈfem.ə.nɪ.zəm/
the belief that women should be allowed the same rights, power, and opportunities as men and be treated in the same way, or the set of activities intended to achieve this state
This is the definition of the cambridge dictionnary.
It is called feminism and not humanism because humanism has been for a long time only related to men.
Of course nowadays everyone include women in humanism but it has not always been the case.
Plus feminism explicitly refer to women because it is a revendication for women to have equal rights not just men.
Feminism does not mean oppressing men. It means equal rights between men and women (by thus meaning that women should also be part of humanism for instance).
Some "feminists" will advocate that women need to rule over men. Those are not feminist. Every people who wish equality for all human is feminist and ultimately every feminist is humanist.
This beign said I agree that the word is badly choosen.
Love this. What’s sad is that it takes a woman to say this and she’s heard, but when a man talks about this he’s silenced.
In Britain the only people to put forward legislation to try and combat male suicide and other male issues... are feminists and liberals.
Men don't care.
I've never seen a guy that's said anything like this, that's been silenced? Which ones?
@@Redfoxx-pg7km that's the issue, nobody's gonna give a shit so why bother talking about it at all at this point? there was a situation on a ( im not sure on this one) british tv show where a man was being abused by his wife, and the audience straight up laughed at him, this is the same for alot of topics.
@@kagekun101 the whole audience probably didn't;
But yeah, There are massive problems with men not being able to seen as a victim. People don't take it as seriously.
They're told to not be weak or cry.
Be a man. Man up. This is a problem that starts when theyre pretty young.
This is very basic feminist theory. It's not women's theory... It's how the patriarchy effects SOCIETY. That includes men.
@@Redfoxx-pg7km well, not literally the whole audience, but it was very clear that a large ammount of the audience laughed, which is messed up
@@kagekun101 I'd have to watch for context but yeah. It's really bad and taken much less seriously.
People still laugh at rape in general, quite a lot though too.
Some people are absolutely fucked in the head. Inconsiderate and blind to other people's struggles.
Thankyou from the bottom of my heart! You appreciated me share my feelings and now I'm proud to be a man.
The thing is, rejecting feminism doesn't help. Not all men and women grow up the same, but if you deny a patriarchy you deny a century-old system. I think men and women should be equal so I understand women are disadvantaged in many ways still.
The problem is when people sees a man slapping a women, they will defend her without hesitation. And when a women slaps a man , then the question is ' what did he do to her that she slapped him'.
that's some Bill Burr stuff right here, very good, explained it perfectly.
Women beats a man .👍
Man beats a women .🚓
To be fair that is typically because the former is a more dangerous situation than the latter, but yeah in the latter case we should stop assuming it's the man's fault
@@theshermantanker7043 how is it more dangerous?
@@cezanneshaik3611 It's going to be way harder for a girl to handle it if a guy is the one being violent
"shave his non existing moustache" I felt that
My non existent mustache can't feel it
But I got one...
when i was 13 i had a moustache
You hit all 5 points. Thank you for standing up for us when it feels like I can't stand for myself.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my TH-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
On a serious note: shes not a feminist shes an equalist. I dont know if thats a real thing but it makes sense
This should be the new term, as "feminism" has left a bad taste in so many mouths. I'm so glad I'm growing up in a world where people are finally opening their eyes.
Egalitarian
Argo there are a lot of close eyes so we need to push stronger
That what feminism actually means equality for all genders. People get it confused because it has fem in it and crazy girls be hating on men.
Technically she is a feminist, since she’s advocating for equal gender rights and appreciation. However, I do think that the term has become a bit of a taboo and some “rebranding” of the movement would be beneficial
"A man will get his first flower when he dies."
that hit me so hard
i hope you find people that love and cherish you. good luck x
Its feminine, flowers! Do they want their first dress and make up too?
That's fine. I'd rather get tools... Or plants that produce edible fruits.
@@crystalfelicia9924 damn why are you so hateful? It's not literal you know it's about valuing men in some form. flowers if used to make people, maybe women, to understand it better. Cuz people like you haven't learned to value men a little. Giving to them wouldn't sound so bad as you make it sound.
@@crystalfelicia9924 flowers aren't feminine, flowers are natural, like everything else, liking things is natural, don't look at a man with a little makeup and think he's less of a man
Honestly, I love that more and more people are talkin about this.
The sad but beautiful thing about this is that message will be better received from the lips and voice of a Woman .
I appreciate us Men I appreciate Women . Yaw are my Sisters and Brothers and yaw will always be . Be there for one another .
“careful, she’s a hero”
lol I'll risk it
Liking your comment is not enough
This is real equality, when everyone can acknowledge the problems and struggles of each other and be kind and empathetic about those struggles
This is the only female speaker (or otherwise) that I've seen or heard that seems to understand or acknowledge.
Might as well be a grain of sand on a beach.
@@fredminpin
Factual Feminist (Christina Hoff Sommers)
Suzanne Venker
Dr. Helen Smith
Karen Straughn
They out there. They just get silenced by mainstream media and it's lemmings or gatekeepers on Talk shows like "The Veiw"
I am a transgender man. I was born with "female" genitalia and therefore everyone assumed I was a girl and I was raised under societal norms which were considered "female". After struggling for years I managed to come out and live as my true self, and the moment I started passing as male and society started treating me as a man I was like "WTF? This is how men are viewed and treated?" Having only known the thetreatment as female I had not realized how much men are discriminated against on so many levels, especially emotionally and no one sees it. I am still very happy to be able to live as a man. I am a feminist, I am 100% for gender equality on all levels and I aknowledge that women face many challenges that men don't. What many people don't realize is that men face a lot of challenges women don't. And you only really see it when you have experienced both sides (which few people do). Men are vulnerable, they have many battles to fight on their own, their feelings are often are not taken seriously. I teach kindergarten and I know for a fact that the feelings of boys don't differ from girls. They cry just the same until some asshole tells them they need to stop, they carry around dollies and take care of them until they are told to toughen up and leave that to the girls. They are scared and shy and vulnerable until the aknowledgement of their very identity is threatened and they start hiding for fear of being riddiculed or not taken seriously. And the worst part: society is still blind to it.
Thanks for sharing your story king 👑❤️❤️❤️
Glad to have you share your story, I may not be able to fully understand your situation, being a straight man from birth, but I'm proud of you, believe me
It's terrible how differently society treats women and men.
It got to this point in time, when straight guy since birth, like me, is thinking sometimes what it would be like to "become" a female (physically), just because it could be a little bit easier in everyday life.
What were the biggest challenges that society threw at you when you were finally seen as a men?
As a boy for my whole life I am propably used to most and don't even know that woman don't have to face those problems.
(They have others of course)
Ps:
A less serious side question.
Born as a woman and then coming out as a man. Is that called "Trans woman", or " Trans man"? I am always confused what gender a person currently has when I read them saying that they are one of those two.😅
@@mz00956 I'm not sure, but I think that trans woman was born as a man, trans man was born as woman
this is beautiful