The truth is, not many people would. They would say that he was weak and that he took the coward's way out. They would call him selfish. They wouldn't think about how long he likely agonized over the idea of it. They wouldn't know about how many times he considered it before he finally did it. They wouldn't know about how many times he almost did but backed down.
Kevin knew, that NO ONE WOULD CRY.... Not real tears, only to use his death in their own agenda, whatever it was. For if someone was to really cry, then they would address why men are killing themselves, much more, than women are. Yet in truth? no one actually gives a damn.
Being a man can mean so many different things, for me it’s when I was told by an 90 year old ww2 vet “being a man ain’t about crying or being scared, it’s about being terrified and sobbing while still being able to stand for something good and to Protect those you love, that’s being a man” It was a few years ago at an ww2 event but I wrote down a few of his “quotes”
It's nice to hear that the greatest generation of men also cried. Yes they endured much more than we can imagine but we see soldiers as people who don't cry and "soldier" on
If it makes you feel any better, I, a transmasculine person and also a feminist am actually omw to buy flowers to hand to men on the street because I read that quote before! I hope that youll meet an actual feminist one day, we're actually pretty cool :]
It’s a humble request to such women please do not superimpose ‘victimhood culture’ on men ( this is just to strengthen their own case of women’s oppression , by arguing that society treats both sexes unfairly and repressively ) , women are not treated fairly is accepted but the fact that men are expected not to cry and all is a ‘legitimate societal move’ to protect its own existence ;
@Madness 1.0 o0 well she's not our 'savior' but I mean, gotta give her a lil credits where due, makes for a good change compared to what we hear in general, she's still a simply imperfect human, I just like what she says =]
@Madness 1.0 dude, are you shitting me, when in your fkin life did you ever stopped crying because your tear conducts are 'smaller' and 'it's PHYSICALLY harder [for men] to cry' ?
@Madness 1.0 yeah I thought throughout the video, "my dad wasn't a drinker or abusive but he still taught me that crying isn't gonna solve anything. You overcome the challenge and you learn. When people say man up, they are saying be stronger than you were last time. Life isn't gonna pat you on the back when you cry. And that is why we tell our sons or our fathers tell us, suck it up. Not because we don't have compassion for their pain, but we teach them that they need to be independent. We don't tell our 7 year old to suck it up. We tell them at 12 when they graze their knee. We don't tell them when they are getting bullied and have no friends to suck it up. We are there for them. Bruh that paragraph was too much
It's so ironic how these things are taken much more seriously when a woman is talking about them in third person than when a man is talking for himself.
When a member outside of a community speaks in favor and support of that community, it will always mean more, because everyone knows they don’t have personal stakes in the matter
As a young man in my early 20’s this video hits hard. I’m pretty stoic and rarely show emotions around friends and family, but this video had me in tears.
This is the only female speaker (or otherwise) that I've seen or heard that seems to understand or acknowledge. Might as well be a grain of sand on a beach.
@@fredminpin Factual Feminist (Christina Hoff Sommers) Suzanne Venker Dr. Helen Smith Karen Straughn They out there. They just get silenced by mainstream media and it's lemmings or gatekeepers on Talk shows like "The Veiw"
The fact that us men could not say this ourselves without being marked as sexists and creeps just shows how and society has got these days, thank you Helly Shah
I think all the men who gets thrown in prison or get their life destroyed in another way because of false accusations of rape actually do deserve a hero like this.
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Most feminists don't want the focus to be on humanity. They want the focus to be on women, so that women can perpetually paint themselves as the biggest victims of every wrong in the entire world.
derek96720 well yes. If they were about humanity then their are humanists not feminists. The problem of feminism is the lack of a counter organization (masculinism or meninism idk how it should be called) that does the same things about the other sex. Then they are going to counter each other therefore bringing balance to the social world.
@@coolthief8375 The men's right's movement IS that counter organization, but feminists and the media try to paint the MRM as if they're one step away from being women-hating terrorists.
I think it's pretty rich for a feminist to condemn fatherlessness, however obliquely. Fatherlessness is overwhelmingly the outcome of feminist 'reforms'. You kick the father out of the home and them condemn him for never being there.
2:59 “A man is a human too” hit me hard. It made me realize that when someone tells you to be a man, they are contradicting themselves because by extension, they are asking you to be human.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real that’s just it. It’s harder to figure out BEACAUSE we’re human. In fact, I remember once hearing a quote to the effect of “We are so painfully free”.
we let it out for a split second then we force it back into the jar and set it on the shelf of anger in our chest. and wonder who is gonna pay for this in the future. oh billy boy best comedian ever in my opinion.
Yup. Unfortunately, while she means it well, to even see any effect it would require for people to care about when men have it bad. That is certainly not the case thus it will fall on deaf ears
I haven’t known a single woman whose opinion of me didn’t sour to some degree when I showed vulnerability. Whether physical, mental, emotional, financial… I actually got more pressure from my mom to “be a man” than my dad growing up. The only ones I really share my emotions with are my homies. Cuz their respect and care doesn’t just come and go.
@Eric Baillie Strong as in like fake strong, like you want to cry but stay strong because of expectations. You can be strong, and that’s fine, but a lot of guys stay “strong” even though they want to cry, because “men aren’t suppose to cry.”
@Eric Baillie Omfg, no one does that. I meant that you need to let things out. You can take your mom to he hospital and still cry. It’s totally normal.
@@crystalfelicia9924 damn why are you so hateful? It's not literal you know it's about valuing men in some form. flowers if used to make people, maybe women, to understand it better. Cuz people like you haven't learned to value men a little. Giving to them wouldn't sound so bad as you make it sound.
@@crystalfelicia9924 flowers aren't feminine, flowers are natural, like everything else, liking things is natural, don't look at a man with a little makeup and think he's less of a man
She is backing herself up from the unavoidable backlash that is coming to women. Do you really think you can trust any woman with your secrets and emotions? You do know that all women alive today carry the genes of those who married the men who killed their former husbands and fathers since the stone age, right?
I just want to hug this woman and cry As a 16 yo life already has got to me like Im 40, having 2 failed suicide attempts that no one knows about, always in battle in what i should do and what i feel like doing,what society wants me to be as a person ? A man needs to be strong ik but I can only handle too much as a person,my father can only can handle too much as a person "oh are you a child?" "Oh you need to grow up" thats what ppl day to me when i do something that i like those are the toxic words everyone says ppl think the society is male dominent its truely not like jordan peterson said: most ppl who commit suicide are men, most ppl who die in wars are men , most ppl who do wrost in school are men, most ppl who are in prison are men Should i go on ???? Where is the dominence here ? Do women like to suffer ? Do women enjoy getting hurt? Im not against femenism but i think the wrong type of it are making men weaker and weaker heck even men themselfs are bowing down to that toxic idea This type of feminism is making men look like monsters that are enjoying hurting women that simply is not true And just a reminder Im a minor If im getting hurt from this wrong kind of feminism then adults are screwed And women dont care why they should ? Why tina over there needs to know when she mocks me in front of my friends thats enough motivation for suicide for me Why should my mom care about my dad coming home at 2 am and having work crunches Why you should care about your brother having no gfs ? A guy slaps a woman in the face "This man is disgusting" "he should burn in hell" HE fucking HE is what they say before understanding wtf goin on Little they know that the woman cheated on hus husband 5 times So if you have a husband or a son or a bf or a brother or a friend Just open uo to them a bit and you will know how much a man can cry
As a man, this made me cry out of happiness. As a man, this made me feel not more like a man, but a human being. To any other man, woman, boy, girl, whomever, whatever who’s heart was touched by this woman’s speech, you are all awesome.
I as a woman, **Young Boys & Men don't know & don't support their own Men's Rights.** - In last 5 years **officially** 53% to now 64% of all rape cases are *False* ( without molestation) Real Severe Rape cases are extremely low. ( Not telling Rape not exists ) - **Rich& Middle class Girls/ Women get Allowances from govt & orgs, Reservation in institutions, give Less Fees, get Reserved seat** but **No EQUALLY Talented General Middle class Boys/Men get it.** - No Laws ( negligible ) for Men Rights, forget about Protection. - Statistical info shows 98.6% **High paying Women marry a much Richer Husband.** - "Official data shows 87%, it is the **Men who support Fake/False Women and kill or lynch Innocent Men to death**" 👉It is not against Poor, Innocent, Deserving Girls/Women but to give **equal rights to Boys/Men**👈 **Men/boys Stop falling for women. Support & Fight for Men's Rights. You don't know how tough for you all to be a Man **
The men don't cry part left me staring at the wall. While I didn't have my mother or a girlfriend die on me, my grandmother who I knew as the kindest and most understanding person I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, died of cancer. When she died in her bed, most of our local family was there to be with her, I had to step outside because I didn't want it to be true. At the funeral I kept telling myself not to cry, holding back tears, my eyes and sinuses felt pressured. It wasn't until after the funeral that my uncle who saw me just trying to not interact with anyone that he decided to walk up to me and give me a hug. I had never cried so much up until that point. In the following years of high school, I felt extrememly stressed and had a constant feeling of anxiety, which then took hold as depression. In the 11th and 12th grade I constantly contemplated whether or not I should just kill myself, practicing tying a nooses and wandering if anyone actually cares. Sure I had plenty of 'friends' but those who I could actually trust were few and I rarely spoke to. I ended up playing a lot of games and making a few friends online, and honestly it's only because I made those friends that I didn't take my own life, because playing games with them gave me something to look forward to the next day.
WhateverIRightNextIsBollocks and everyone should. of course males and females require different things from each other but it should be about accepting the differences and embracing them as equals and uniting as a human race rather than segregating.
Franz Huber obviously males and females are different but it should be about accepting the differences and embracing them as equals and uniting as a human race rather than it being men vs women. that’s fr really immature if you think we should be segregated like that.
As a man, I wish I saw this video much sooner. In 2019, I left my home and forced myself to live in homeless shelters while hopping around to 2 different cities here in Canada. Some nights, I was sleeping on the streets of these unfamiliar cities - one night was on my 22nd birthday. It was a very harrowing experience and I've scarred myself. Why did I do this to myself? Because I felt compelled to brutally punish myself - this is what I deserved as a man apparently. Because society constantly gave me the message that I had never suffered enough to cry, that all my problems were trivial and invalid. The last person to give me that message happened to be a woman - and that was the first time I had ever tried opening up about my problems to anyone. She told me I had nothing to worry about because I live in a first world country. It broke my heart. I had never been given a space to speak about the issues in my life before. So my message to the world was "You wanna see me burn? Okay then, I'll make myself burn." I am now in such indescribable emotional pain, even though this happened 3 years ago. I have not recovered, and probably won't for many years. All I can say is, we are blessed to still have women like Helly.
There are people who need others who have walked in their shoes before them. I truly believe, as is said, the surest way to find happiness is to lose yourself in service to others. I pray you close the door of hurt behind you and that you have a life of connection, peace, and happiness.
"he wondered who would cry." I had to pause the video on that one and just... sit and think about that one. An uncle of mine committed suicide, and, given the generation and location he grew up in, I often wondered if what he was thinking when he went through with it was something along these lines. Rest in Power, Uncle. We all cried, for what it's worth.
That line game me pause too. So sad. I would like to see the NFL bring awareness to male suicide like they do breast cancer or domestic violence. Seems like they should be using their platform of a mostly male audience to reach out to more boys and men.
ZACHARY FRENCH you aren’t alone in that line of thought. I’ve asked myself that countless times, often when trying to get in contact with those whom I’d deemed friends. My advice is that if you feel like the answer is no, then keep lines with those you currently associate with open while you seek a group in which you do feel like would miss your passing.
@@patryder8923 I'm actually Guyanese, but yeah, all my American friends have had this type of unfortunate event happen in their family or a friend's family, too. It's really rampant.
In Britain the only people to put forward legislation to try and combat male suicide and other male issues... are feminists and liberals. Men don't care. I've never seen a guy that's said anything like this, that's been silenced? Which ones?
@@Redfoxx-pg7km that's the issue, nobody's gonna give a shit so why bother talking about it at all at this point? there was a situation on a ( im not sure on this one) british tv show where a man was being abused by his wife, and the audience straight up laughed at him, this is the same for alot of topics.
@@kagekun101 the whole audience probably didn't; But yeah, There are massive problems with men not being able to seen as a victim. People don't take it as seriously. They're told to not be weak or cry. Be a man. Man up. This is a problem that starts when theyre pretty young. This is very basic feminist theory. It's not women's theory... It's how the patriarchy effects SOCIETY. That includes men.
@@kagekun101 I'd have to watch for context but yeah. It's really bad and taken much less seriously. People still laugh at rape in general, quite a lot though too. Some people are absolutely fucked in the head. Inconsiderate and blind to other people's struggles.
When my first wife ran away with her boyfriend, and left our 3 year old child with me, I cried. A lot. And then I got back up, and continued the mission. I finished my M.A. Got another job, raised my kid, till she was 17. She got into a good college, made something of herself, has 2 kids now, with a good husband. And my ex called me up, not long ago, just wanting to talk. And I just said "no". Gosh that felt good. Like the guy in the Truman show: goodbye, and good luck.
Your story was basically the same as mine but my child was 2. I bought him up since he was 2 and hes now 25. Hes done really well for him self and I pushed him all the way though College etc and trained him in martial arts all hes life where he become ranked in Europe. Of course someone told hes mum and shes taking all the credit for hes achievements lol. I know so many men that raised their kids by there self. Its so messed up and that never used to happen decades ago. Im happy you managed to keep your child as I did as I knew one man that wifes left him and their kid and 8 years later wanted the child and she got the child back even though she walked out on that child for so long. That was so messed up and totally broke my mate mentally.
Russian Bot men aren’t allowed to speak up for themselves. Technically, this comment is wrong, because men have spoken up for themselves, but they got ignored and labeled as misogynists. So, were they really allowed to raise awareness to their issues? I don’t think so.
@@user-ig-gg26j and you experience that men have it easy comes from what? The lens of how a women’s struggles? You can’t project the female struggle and assume it’s the only struggle or the worst struggle that exist. It’s like a men saying, women have it easier, and they don’t even live life as a woman. Do you even live life as a man to even know that to begin with? or does your observation comes from your own experience of bad men, or so called feminism analysis. I advice that if you’re womanizing a lens experience, which means to brush or paint any male struggle as incomparable or irrelevant just bc they don’t have the same struggle as a woman, then learn and research make struggles. But you and I might be from different culture where you see the privileges of men, I’m talking about issues concerning American men
Women have more rights than a man if anything though, at least in America. If women really want to fight with women’s rights they need to fight in places like Saudi Arabia and other places in Europe.
Also I’m not saying she fights for rights in America, just saying that because a lot of feminists are from America and fight for things like “manspreading” or a wage gap that is presented in a way that makes it seem like society decides they’re worth less when that’s not what the gap is
Yep, and the more you can provide the higher up the mating scale you are. As soon as something goes wrong and you have a blip in providing, you'll be single.
When a friend of mine cried as a young boy, his father would hit him until he stopped crying. As an adult he needed professional help and slowly learnt to cry again. Now he has turned from a hard man into a strong man.
you're a fool she isnt talking highly about men at all she's a brainwashing machine and you've fallen for it. these are feminist talking points when men actually talk about what concerns them. none of this shit comes up. this is what feminists tell men to care about.
It's not even highly... This is supposed to be normal. I hope other men and women catch on... But then again many of us are so programmed that we can't even comprehend this message.
@@rogthepirate4593 LOL no she does not deconstruct them you are hopeless she tells men what men care about THOSE things that men are supposed to care about. those are things feminists told men to care about. MEN DO NOT CARE ABOUT THEM read the comments. the men agree with me. thousands of comments saying she's a chameleon in these posts.. she's the enemy of men. not the friend. she THINKS shes our friend but she has no idea
@@4400seriesFAN I just want to say that if you're ever feeling that way, please consider calling a hotline. I started on antidepressants/antianxiety meds several months ago after a really bad night and realizing that it was the closest I ever felt to actually wanting to commit suicide. They've really helped, most notably with how those thoughts are much less vivid/obtrusive and my emotional lows are much less frequent, less extreme, and more easily handled. I also just feel happier generally. I've started seeing a therapist as well. I still have shitty days, and get scared when i feel bad and that maybe the meds arent working or that im doing something wrong if I feel bad, but the thought of suicide is much farther away and it's more something I think about in the sense that "I used to think about it." Its so much better. In the beginning, I thought, man, is this how "normal" people feel? Because so much had calmed down inside of me. But I really hope you dont feel that way ever again. It hurts, its exhausting, and its scary, even if you try to tell yourself it's not. So please know that people care about you, even if it's just me as a stranger on the internet, and that I tried to get help for myself and its helped me a lot, so I wish the same for you.
@@allterraincapybara6749 Thank you for reaching out to me! The thing is that when you feel like killing yourself, you don't want any help. You refuse to take it. You want to actually kill yourself. It takes too much energy to convince yourself that you are wrong and this will go away again. But yeah, I got some help and I'm exactly as you wrote for yourself. Distant thoughts and "I was thinking of that, lol"... Thanks, again!
Consider that a good lesson. Your wife is trash, as hard as this breakup was for you, this will help you learn to make better choices when it comes to women and companionship next time. And I mean this all in a friendly and empathetic way.
I just went through the comments and every man here basically worships her. What she has said isn't anything new, but it just goes to show how much men have been suffering. If one woman is all it takes for them to be like that. One person is all it takes to bring hope. It's sad.
I’ve been doing my own research as of late, asking everyday feminists and vocal icons in the feminist community and I’ve got to say...it’s absolutely destroyed my faith in feminism. I was on the fence for the longest time and I came out so demoralized I couldn’t even be on the internet for three days. Seeing something remotely centrist or even with the slightest positivity in it makes me so happy. I can physically feel the joy rising in my body.
@@Llolprosthisisastupidname723 I went into my investigation expecting equality and understanding like they’ve claimed, but a vast majority of the people I interviewed were pretty much the personification of what they deny to be. I interviewed close to two hundred people and about all but ten were nothing but the embodiment of toxic femininity and mind set. They talk about equality but the only issue they recognize across the aisle (on the men’s side) is that men can’t express their feelings. As if it’s the only issue men face. Not to mention the generalized ignorance that just keeps circulating in those circles, for instances, there were over twenty people (probably the worst of the people) that I interviewed that genuinely believed that men who commit crimes against women don’t face any prison time at all. I’m not saying every feminist is like this, but having dipped my feet into the community I can feel confident in my summary that the feminism movement is inherently gynocentric and those that argue otherwise are either disingenuous or so blissfully skewed to one side that they don’t know what a responsible middle ground or what equality is.
@@Youboremenow Just the main stuff; the lack of support for domestic abuse for men in the country, the history of the national suicide hotline and domestic abuse hotline having sketchy support for potential male victims, the heavily skewed justice system with 7/10 judges siding with women before the case starts, how lawyers are encouraged to take everything from men they can, the fact that mother exclusive custody is at an all time high and father exclusive and joint custody are at a historic low, and finally the manufactured stigma on forming mra groups. Most of the time they were just ignored or brushed off and rounded back to female issues. At worst I got “those are not important to feminist issues” and surprisingly often “the issues facing women have been more drastic and prevalent than what men have been facing”. However, there was a fair couple that were receptive to it and actually thought about the issues I brought up, though they didn’t give me an answer definitively.
"When Kevin failed in 5th grade, he didn't cry. When Kevin's mother left him, he didn't cry. When Kevin's girlfriend died, he didn't cry. When Kevin committed suicide he wondered who would cry." I am unpleasantly familiar with that last bit. The number of times I've wondered who would cry, or if anyone would care enough to cry if I just up and offed myself is astronomical. Been struggling with suicidal ideation for 25 years. To this day, I can't genuinely turn to anyone to express the hurt. Every day is just another bottle of emotions I've stuffed away.
I was thinking that when I considered it, I realised that I would be missed by a lot of people who I have served with and I knew that I would never see my nephew (who wasn't even a year old at the time) growing up into the man he is today.
I know exactly 1 person that would even give a fuck if i died. And guess what? Its another man. And when i say give a fuck, i dont mean would cry because of it, but even know that i did it. Fuck humanity is the only thing i can say to todays world
I would cry. I don't even know you, but I would cry. It's terrible and hurts me deeply when someone feels so alone that they feel the only way to end the agony is taking their own life. So, yes, I would cry.
@@JonathanWilson83 as would I. I've been in that spot before, I would never want someone else to feel like that, especially if I'm able to do something about it
I would. I love u man and i don’t even know you. Stay strong! We and the lord have your back! God bless, and may u be filled with happiness peace and joy by the lord, Amen!✝️🙏❤️
@@d4n380 she is a "hero" because she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy. No one ever said all women are out to get men. Why randomly assume everyone is acting out of malice?
@@BringOnTheBleach "she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy". So can 98% of the human population, doesn't make her any more special than your average don. It's also called sarcasm, dont play dumb you know exactly what I meant.
Imagine living in a world where your worth is decided by how many times you urinated in the opposite gender, who btw have no effing clue how it feels like to be you
Yeah. In the end, while she probably means well, nothing will change. Showing that we men have it bad too is meaningless since people do not care about when men have it bad, thus it falls on deaf ears
@@wothin If it makes you feel any better, there are other people out there who feel the way she does, myself included. Hopefully in time more people will think about what she's said
Most women don't understand a man's pain and sadly I believe fewer care. Society doesn't understand or care. But this lady does and she tells it like it is. From all of us men thank you.
I remember holding my crying sister when my parents got a divorce... I wanted to cry with her too just not stop the tears from flowing.. But i cant... I had to stay strong cause my beloved sister was looking at me to be the one to lean on. I hugged her and forced myself to say itll be okay... Even though i was scared out of my mind. I remember holding my tears when my grandma died.. She was the only person i could tell everything to now i have noone, cause my mom and sister were crying i had to be the one to make sure the place was presentable for everyone else coming to mourn her for the Honour of my mom and sister. Oh how i wish i could just fall to my knees and mourn my beloved grandma i wanted to cry and hold nothing back... But i couldnt... I had to be a man. Im so very tired of this but in the end i have to be a shoulder to cry on and someone to lean on for comfort.. So i cant cry... I cant show that. If i did who will they lean on anymore.....
I get it man. Don't cry in front of others. But you have to remember to have alone time... Get it out of your system. Time to process emotions is invaluable. It can really help to bring clarity and free the soul.
They would lean on you. There is comfort in knowing that someone understands what it is you'er going through, in shedding tears together, in being able to hold up each other. Crying is not a weakness, showing emotions does not hinder your ability to support or offer comfort. It is simply a message telling your sister you know what she going through and will still be there for her.
the fact that she's from india makes this message so much stronger. Edit: holy crap, this blew up and I didn't even notice. good job youtube notifications... xD Now for everyone not getting the comment: In most parts of India womens rights are pulled to the dirt. Rape is widely accepted, if you have a higher position in politics, buisness or health care you often get weird looks and the "traditional" idea of women keeping house and kids in order is often seen as self-evident. So for her to stand up for men's rights takes a special bit of courage and, in a way, intellegence.
@krishna op India is not the worst country for women but it's not a good country for them either but only thing I know is that our country vilanises men so bad we're known as only horn dogs in foreign countries and I've never seen a single femenist talk about men suicide in India.
You realize that she IS a feminist right? The feminism stand for equal treatment and rights for both men and women. So sad that so many people have so many misconceptions about this 😥
Best quote for me "We need to liberate our souls, from what it is to be a he or a she and see what it is to be you and me." So much compassion and empathy in just that one sentence.
I hate this bc I was expecting to be annoyed from another “feminist” that just trashed on men, instead I got hit with emotions and shed a few tears at 6am bc I cant sleep. Thank you
I mean, not the first, but yeah. Feminism was just poorly named. People like this would be better off calling themselves equalists. Feminism had a bad name these days.
You should fight for equity not equality. Search into the feminist movement and its history, as it was always against the patriarchy and social norms and not against men. Don't fall for fake outrage presented by the media.
@@valentinmoaga221 Equity = equal outcome, Equality = equal opportunity. Nope, hard pass on that. I really don't want a doctor who didn't show up to classes or pay attention during his internship to be performing open heart emergency surgery on me just because the outcome of a medical program is guaranteed regardless of skill, education, and effort.
@@endlessthoughtspartitionma1349 Don't do it, there is so much to live for. That is just a thought, you can change it, if it's starting to eat you, you should tell someone, but to someone who cares, and really, someone cares about you. You are not worthless
Careful........ she’s a hero Edit: the sentence I said was a meme, I intended it be taken as a humorous joke, while you guys can’t even take a joke, hero or heroine but this comment was meant to be a meme!
i love how my dad has never said any of this "men don't cry, be a man" bullshit my entire life to me or my older brother and has always showered both of us with support he is golden
Man, this makes me feel a lot better, I spent the entirety of my grandmothers funeral holding back tears. I couldn’t stop myself felt very embarrassed. This really shouldn’t be this way, thank you for standing up for us. Also you dropped this 👑👑
Crying is healthy. And opening up to your emotions let's you use them in empathy, making you a more caring partner and better lover (from own experience).
I think the common misconception is that men are born with a sense of entitlement, when in all actuality we're born with a sense of longing for purpose.
I felt that especially Considering I’m Turning 18 Soon and I don’t have a Damn clue what I’m gonna do with in terms of where I’m gonna go in my life and .....god It’s terrifying.
@@pizzavictory113 - Don’t worry if you aren’t sure. Life is long and you have lots of time to find yourself so don’t stress if you’re not sure of what you want to do or where you’re going. If you live your life just working to make today better than yesterday, and always striving to do the right thing no matter the situation, then a lot of life will just take care of itself. I remember the day my 19 year old self was driving down the highway out of my home town to go to college. I was leaving everything I was familiar with and going somewhere I knew no one and would be completely on my own. Now I’m retired and I can say the last 38 years have brought me on all kinds of adventures around the world, I’ve met many many interesting people and I managed to get married and now have a wonderful daughter who is a year younger than you. The world is an amazing place full of opportunity. There are many adventures waiting for you to live them. You just have to take the steps. Don’t be fearful of the unknown, let it instead be energy that drives you!
When she said men also cry and society thinks men don't cry. My heart melted that time I mean.. just tears came down from my eyes when she said that.i have huge respect for her.
As a man, I was taught to NEVER show weakness, fear, or emotion, to be hard as steel. I am now 70, and until a year ago when I had a stroke, and lost most of my emotional control, I had never shed a tear, or allowed myself to really feel. Even when my parents died, even when my wife died, I could only do as taught from the time of my youth. Swallow and bury the pain, and hurt. NEVER show it. Now it terrifies me to not be able to control it. When I do show it now, it seems to only bring shame, and makes me want to hide.
Can I say thank you so much for writing this. My dad is 71 and I have carried the pain of his emotional absence all my life. I always knew it was partly a generational thing but your post made me truly realise that emotional repression is a cage that tortures the man inside it. Im sorry to hear of your struggles, but Im grateful that you shared them.
You were programmed like us all, boys are this and girls are that. But girls gained the world, while we just did what we were told until we are no longer relevant.
2 days ago my 77 year old grandpa was killed in a car accident. I can never remember my grandpa crying when I was growing up but the past couple years he would always shed a teer when talking about anyone in our family. I realise now it was from him knowing the time we spend on this planet with our family and friends is not endless and we need to cherish every moment. I will never forget my grandpa Dave and his endless memory of stories and sayings.
*Real* men *decide for themselves when and why* they cry, regardless of what any wimp might say of it. I mean, how does *someone else* tell *you* how to be you? Don't fall for it! Thank you, miss Shah!
For the crying thing. Cry when you feel the need to. Don't be ashamed. But cry with a person you love and trust. And cry with someone who understands. After you're done, understand why you cried, and with the calm that comes after crying, what you can do to not cry about it ever again. If they are tears of joy, then cry whenever you want my man
Most women stand up for men. You should probably stop listening to crazy feminists if you think most people are like that. Most of the radical feminism is garbage misinformation, supposed to be sensational and make us worried so we listen to more news about it and they make more money out of it.
@@denizkaragullu6239 Masculine and feminine gender roles are a result of inherent differences between the sexes. There are plenty of outliers, but that doesn't change the averages.
Just for all those out there, you have no idea how much a hug, a simple compliment, or even a nice comment means to a man. I was given a flower by a woman when I was buying groceries and that I looked nice. That was 21 years ago and I still remember the day.
She didn’t try to make men seem like victims or women like victims, she kept it at a level of people are people no matter what gender they are, which honestly is what I want in this world to be seen as an individual not a part of a collective of my gender. I’m a male, I like video games, sleeping, and enjoying it life my way. I don’t like physics class in school, waking up late for important events, or when people do things that make something someone else is doing more difficult. I am different then anyone else and I am the one who decides where I go in life. I am not a victim I am not a victimizer. I am a person, if anyone else feels like you want to be seen as a person and not apart of a community or collective, like this, or don’t because this like or no like doesn’t decide how you think and only you decide what you do. God Bless you all.
No. You are a failure. You choose to live a life void of all meaning because you dont have the courage to take life on, so you hide away in your room. How dare anyone, in a western society, to squander away their potential. Millions would cut off their arm to have the chances you do in life, and millions have died for you to have those chances, for you to actively avoid reaching your utmost potential is immoral. I say to you, man up.
born free I may be a failure in your eyes but at least I get to make that choice, because I am a single person not a collective like I was sayin in my comment. I am confused on why your calling me a failure when I never said I was successful or anything along those lines, and I understand there’s millions who would give their arms or legs to have the opportunities I have, and it is unfortunate that there are millions who don’t have these opportunities but if you cried every second there was an injustice in the world or anytime you had something someone else doesn’t then you would never stop crying and never take care of your own life. And if your so much of a “look at me I’m standing up for the little guy” kind of person then tell me how many times you’ve personally sheltered homeless people you don’t know personally in your house or taken a meal to a random poor person in the street. You wanted to make this about the privileges I have and I do have a lot of privileges and blessings that others may not have. Think of it this way, there will always be someone poorer or in a worse situation and there will always be someone richer. You say this to me when I could just as easily make the argument I’m unfortunate compared to the likes of Bill Gates or Elon Musk or one of the other billionaires of the world. I don’t hate you, I disagree with your ideology and your method of enacting it but if you get some kind of “feel good high” out of calling a 16 year old a failure and saying that he chooses a life void of meaning then your life must be pretty bad to harbor this much hatred in your heart. I hope you find whatever it is your looking for in your life, as for me I have God and it doesn’t matter what you say because it only matters how God sees me and he sees me as His child and his creation that he knew before I was born and that’s good enough for me. And I truly hope God touches your heart. Because: Jeremiah 17:9
@jestersMadhouse Crying is fine. I'm not a man myself but I dont cry very much cause it always ends in a horrible breakdown. But it releases stress, bro
It’s sad that whenever I try to explain this to some women, I get called a ‘pick me girl’. No Jennifer, I’m not standing up for men to please them or to get them to like me, I’m doing it because I believe they deserve as much support and appreciation as women do. Bring men up without bringing women down. Bring women up without bringing men down. We should work together to bring each other up and stop this gender/sex war of who’s the worst and who’s the best. Edit: Just wanted to add, that when a man stands up for women, he gets called a ‘simp’ and if it’s a woman standing up for men, she gets called a ‘pick-me’ or a woman who just wants to please a man. Like we need to normalise treating each other right, imagine praising a man for treating a woman like a human being? Or a woman treating a man like a human being? It’s just sad that we need to praise such basic human rights, when it should be the norm
This gender equality thing has become a competition between men and women; trying to decide who suffers more, who is better, who is evil… I wish we could do like her, standing up with each other and trying to understand the struggles of the other gender.
We dont need any woman for that my friend the men just got softer more like women as the time went i realised that when i went to see my grandparents where the male is the head of the house but woman is actually not weak not dumb just respects him as a person not everyone of us deserves respect thats the problem basically what you are not seeing the problem is something entirely different the problem is big companies taking feminist serious and all the trans people serious so they can appeal to them and not loose money now theres is always a strong woman role stronger than men in movies, youtube changing ads filtering everything feminists are propably young women who dont know sht i dont hate on women i just hate on the dumb women ( you will say call them dumb you misogenist and sht ) well if you say that you are a part of the problem
Dimitris Rigas would you be fine with me saying that this is the kind of mentality we need? Because it is. You may not realize how many cultures with fucked up believes exist.
@@TandokuMotoVlogs everyone on here is overlooking the fact that she wants to change men too. Why though? If we arent being assholes and are not raping people then whats the problem? She wants us to be softies. Well i want the dating game to completely swap and make it so women chase men and are not controlling. Oh wait, these are natural things similar to oh i dunno, not being a giant crybaby of a man?
Whenever my “feminist” friends try and start shit about men having it so easy. I always say the scales are not tipped they are broken everyone has it rough.
@@starwarfan8342 probably doesn't know what that even means, to them its buzzwords and victimism of vindication to problems they didn't actually expierience ,but perpetuate because it is easy to do.
In some ways fear or herd mentallity and a lot of the fake feminists are pretty much using the cause as an excuse to act out. To be fair there are those whom are taking things to extremes as well, point is bad apples can ruin a batch and there are very few that are actually good and well intentioned. Just we hear a louder majority.
A man is only allowed to cry in front of his child two times in their life. When they're born, and when they're watching the end of Terminator 2 with them.
"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?"
Right in the soul with that one.
He would cry. As he saw the truth of the world from up above or down below.
The truth is, not many people would. They would say that he was weak and that he took the coward's way out. They would call him selfish. They wouldn't think about how long he likely agonized over the idea of it. They wouldn't know about how many times he considered it before he finally did it. They wouldn't know about how many times he almost did but backed down.
@@DerrickUltima if he had individuals dependent upon him, he was weak. If not, then i cant blame him for deciding this world wasnt worth living.
Kevin knew, that NO ONE WOULD CRY.... Not real tears, only to use his death in their own agenda, whatever it was. For if someone was to really cry, then they would address why men are killing themselves, much more, than women are. Yet in truth? no one actually gives a damn.
Kevin is dead, he doesn't wonder anymore...
Being a man can mean so many different things, for me it’s when I was told by an 90 year old ww2 vet “being a man ain’t about crying or being scared, it’s about being terrified and sobbing while still being able to stand for something good and to Protect those you love, that’s being a man”
It was a few years ago at an ww2 event but I wrote down a few of his “quotes”
It's nice to hear that the greatest generation of men also cried. Yes they endured much more than we can imagine but we see soldiers as people who don't cry and "soldier" on
For me being a man means being born with a penis and testicles.
Could you share these quotes
Dawidek Everyone it seems like we've got a transphobe here
@@bjek343 A penis, testicle and no boobs?
"When Kevin committed suicide, he wondered. Who would cry?"
Felt that hard
The truth is that very few, if any will... nobody cares for a man the way he cares for others... when the tool is broken, they throw it away.
Yeah
I think I may have felt this entire video a little to hard
@@eazye857 me too, man.
That hit hard
Girl, you're one in a million.
billion.
@@ChuckSploder trillion
@@alloyoopproductions9804 Quintillion!
Infinity
@@prakashpoojary6116 Aleph-5
"A man will get his first flower when he dies."
I felt that.
If it makes you feel any better, I, a transmasculine person and also a feminist am actually omw to buy flowers to hand to men on the street because I read that quote before! I hope that youll meet an actual feminist one day, we're actually pretty cool :]
I can only send you virtual flowers so.. 🌸🌸🌺🌺 Hope you having a happy day or night wherever you are.
Wow felt that too
@john yea guess what im trynna do bro- But yea I get your thought
It’s a humble request to such women please do not superimpose ‘victimhood culture’ on men ( this is just to strengthen their own case of women’s oppression , by arguing that society treats both sexes unfairly and repressively ) , women are not treated fairly is accepted but the fact that men are expected not to cry and all is a ‘legitimate societal move’ to protect its own existence ;
She stands up for us when no one asked her to. Fellas treat her with love and respect bc she is the hero we didnt know we had.
True words
@Madness 1.0 o0 well she's not our 'savior' but I mean, gotta give her a lil credits where due, makes for a good change compared to what we hear in general, she's still a simply imperfect human, I just like what she says =]
Pretty weird, coming from the Joker 😂😂😂🤣
@Madness 1.0 dude, are you shitting me, when in your fkin life did you ever stopped crying because your tear conducts are 'smaller' and 'it's PHYSICALLY harder [for men] to cry' ?
@Madness 1.0 yeah I thought throughout the video, "my dad wasn't a drinker or abusive but he still taught me that crying isn't gonna solve anything. You overcome the challenge and you learn. When people say man up, they are saying be stronger than you were last time. Life isn't gonna pat you on the back when you cry. And that is why we tell our sons or our fathers tell us, suck it up. Not because we don't have compassion for their pain, but we teach them that they need to be independent. We don't tell our 7 year old to suck it up. We tell them at 12 when they graze their knee. We don't tell them when they are getting bullied and have no friends to suck it up. We are there for them. Bruh that paragraph was too much
It's so ironic how these things are taken much more seriously when a woman is talking about them in third person than when a man is talking for himself.
It's sad
yeah if it was a man saying it it would probably be brushed off as "Oh man up you have it great" not trying to be rude to her though
Of course, just highlighting an aspect of this situation. She's still right and did an amazing speech.
When a member outside of a community speaks in favor and support of that community, it will always mean more, because everyone knows they don’t have personal stakes in the matter
There are a ton of male figures who talk about this stuff, I honestly have no idea what you're talking about.
As a young man in my early 20’s this video hits hard. I’m pretty stoic and rarely show emotions around friends and family, but this video had me in tears.
This is real equality, when everyone can acknowledge the problems and struggles of each other and be kind and empathetic about those struggles
This is the only female speaker (or otherwise) that I've seen or heard that seems to understand or acknowledge.
Might as well be a grain of sand on a beach.
@@fredminpin
Factual Feminist (Christina Hoff Sommers)
Suzanne Venker
Dr. Helen Smith
Karen Straughn
They out there. They just get silenced by mainstream media and it's lemmings or gatekeepers on Talk shows like "The Veiw"
The fact that us men could not say this ourselves without being marked as sexists and creeps just shows how and society has got these days, thank you Helly Shah
True
I was called sexist for saying the men have it harder, but when a women says it oh boy they attack us
@Timmy L maybe but that doesn't make me sexist
@Timmy L well so if a women say they have it harder that sexist aswell right?
@Timmy L im talking about in general not about which race
She's not the hero we wanted,
She's the hero we needed.
The hero we need but we don't deserve
She's definitely the hero we wanted, though.
I think all the men who gets thrown in prison or get their life destroyed in another way because of false accusations of rape actually do deserve a hero like this.
Hey! so I've recently created a blog where I write poetry. It would mean so much to me if you took take a moment to check it out :) If you're jobless or bored or actually interested, please feel free to take a look!
Here's the link: ihadastorytoo.wordpress.com
Actually i wanted a hero like that
She is standing for us when no one is standing for us 🥺🥺🥺.... "Thank you" is a very small word for you Helly 🥺🥺
"This time, let us make it about humanity."
As a man I have felt this for the longest time. I am a man, but we are all human.
Most feminists don't want the focus to be on humanity. They want the focus to be on women, so that women can perpetually paint themselves as the biggest victims of every wrong in the entire world.
derek96720 well yes. If they were about humanity then their are humanists not feminists. The problem of feminism is the lack of a counter organization (masculinism or meninism idk how it should be called) that does the same things about the other sex. Then they are going to counter each other therefore bringing balance to the social world.
@@coolthief8375 The men's right's movement IS that counter organization, but feminists and the media try to paint the MRM as if they're one step away from being women-hating terrorists.
Real human bean.
And a real hero...
@@derek96720 hopefully the future will be more accepting of all types of humans
“This is not a debate about feminism or a million other isms, Instead learning about kindness and empathy” best words in this video
Ivan Carmona hol up
*empathy. Apathy is not caring, empathy is different. :)
Bro, i started to read this at the same time that she was saying it
Crazy
Not actually what she said tho
She said "kindness and empathy".
Fix your comment.
“Be a man, said the father that was never there”
Damn I felt that hard
Vortex in my soul, I felt that.
I think it's pretty rich for a feminist to condemn fatherlessness, however obliquely. Fatherlessness is overwhelmingly the outcome of feminist 'reforms'. You kick the father out of the home and them condemn him for never being there.
Jeff that’s some real Hit. You on point. Cause and Effect always
@@jeffjones7108 or maybe your dad just cba with you lol
Jeff Jones or it’s because the man just leaves it happens a lot more often than you think
2:59 “A man is a human too” hit me hard.
It made me realize that when someone tells you to be a man, they are contradicting themselves because by extension, they are asking you to be human.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real that’s just it. It’s harder to figure out BEACAUSE we’re human. In fact, I remember once hearing a quote to the effect of “We are so painfully free”.
“Men drop dead at 55 from 5 decades of not being able to admit a puppy is cute or that they want a cookie” -Bill Burr
I wish more people see your comment, this is spot on.
How about saying that babies and children are cute af without being looked at like a fucking predator or like a pedo 🤦🏻♂️
we let it out for a split second then we force it back into the jar and set it on the shelf of anger in our chest. and wonder who is gonna pay for this in the future. oh billy boy best comedian ever in my opinion.
@@cascadinggainz6043 His sets seem like he's coming up with everything on the spot, I also love Bill.
@@Mohammad-on5qo .... Yup... Why worry about having grandkids... I won't be allowed near them... 🤷🤷♀️🤷♂️
Finally, someone who understands.
Humanity needs more people like her
Yup. Unfortunately, while she means it well, to even see any effect it would require for people to care about when men have it bad. That is certainly not the case thus it will fall on deaf ears
It's called a real woman. She understand men are important and society is trying to kill us off.
@@beefnacos6258 she is tryin to kill us off .. wtf did u watch
@@M-dv1yj u ma man
A sexy Woman who does not need to be a Feminist Wamen.
"shave his non existing moustache" I felt that
My non existent mustache can't feel it
But I got one...
when i was 13 i had a moustache
I haven’t known a single woman whose opinion of me didn’t sour to some degree when I showed vulnerability. Whether physical, mental, emotional, financial… I actually got more pressure from my mom to “be a man” than my dad growing up. The only ones I really share my emotions with are my homies. Cuz their respect and care doesn’t just come and go.
"men don't cry" I do cry but in the darkness when there's no society to shame me and say "be a man."
A real man is a man who can be human. Can cry, can show emotion. Not some fake strong person.
@Eric Baillie Strong as in like fake strong, like you want to cry but stay strong because of expectations. You can be strong, and that’s fine, but a lot of guys stay “strong” even though they want to cry, because “men aren’t suppose to cry.”
@Eric Baillie It gets everything out, sometimes a good cry is needed.
@Eric Baillie Keeping all of your feelings bottles in is not good.
@Eric Baillie Omfg, no one does that. I meant that you need to let things out. You can take your mom to he hospital and still cry. It’s totally normal.
"A man will get his first flower when he dies."
that hit me so hard
i hope you find people that love and cherish you. good luck x
Its feminine, flowers! Do they want their first dress and make up too?
That's fine. I'd rather get tools... Or plants that produce edible fruits.
@@crystalfelicia9924 damn why are you so hateful? It's not literal you know it's about valuing men in some form. flowers if used to make people, maybe women, to understand it better. Cuz people like you haven't learned to value men a little. Giving to them wouldn't sound so bad as you make it sound.
@@crystalfelicia9924 flowers aren't feminine, flowers are natural, like everything else, liking things is natural, don't look at a man with a little makeup and think he's less of a man
It's nice seeing a woman talking about men like this
Shes a woMAN
Wtf would she know?
@@apropercuppa8612 Hearing her talk Imma bet that what she knows is more then you do.
She is backing herself up from the unavoidable backlash that is coming to women. Do you really think you can trust any woman with your secrets and emotions? You do know that all women alive today carry the genes of those who married the men who killed their former husbands and fathers since the stone age, right?
Thats one out of four billion. Don't hold your breath.
I just want to hug this woman and cry
As a 16 yo life already has got to me like Im 40, having 2 failed suicide attempts that no one knows about, always in battle in what i should do and what i feel like doing,what society wants me to be as a person ? A man needs to be strong ik but I can only handle too much as a person,my father can only can handle too much as a person
"oh are you a child?" "Oh you need to grow up" thats what ppl day to me when i do something that i like those are the toxic words everyone says
ppl think the society is male dominent its truely not like jordan peterson said:
most ppl who commit suicide are men, most ppl who die in wars are men , most ppl who do wrost in school are men, most ppl who are in prison are men
Should i go on ????
Where is the dominence here ?
Do women like to suffer ?
Do women enjoy getting hurt?
Im not against femenism but i think the wrong type of it are making men weaker and weaker heck even men themselfs are bowing down to that toxic idea
This type of feminism is making men look like monsters that are enjoying hurting women that simply is not true
And just a reminder Im a minor
If im getting hurt from this wrong kind of feminism then adults are screwed
And women dont care why they should ?
Why tina over there needs to know when she mocks me in front of my friends thats enough motivation for suicide for me
Why should my mom care about my dad coming home at 2 am and having work crunches
Why you should care about your brother having no gfs ?
A guy slaps a woman in the face
"This man is disgusting" "he should burn in hell" HE fucking HE is what they say before understanding wtf goin on
Little they know that the woman cheated on hus husband 5 times
So if you have a husband or a son or a bf or a brother or a friend
Just open uo to them a bit and you will know how much a man can cry
dont worry
at your 20 you will be almost completly free from emotions
Because its teenage bro you will forget mist of it by 20
As a man, this made me cry out of happiness. As a man, this made me feel not more like a man, but a human being. To any other man, woman, boy, girl, whomever, whatever who’s heart was touched by this woman’s speech, you are all awesome.
I as a woman, **Young Boys & Men don't know & don't support their own Men's Rights.**
- In last 5 years **officially** 53% to now 64% of all rape cases are *False* ( without molestation) Real Severe Rape cases are extremely low. ( Not telling Rape not exists )
- **Rich& Middle class Girls/ Women get Allowances from govt & orgs, Reservation in institutions, give Less Fees, get Reserved seat** but **No EQUALLY Talented General Middle class Boys/Men get it.**
- No Laws ( negligible ) for Men Rights, forget about Protection.
- Statistical info shows 98.6% **High paying Women marry a much Richer Husband.**
- "Official data shows 87%, it is the **Men who support Fake/False Women and kill or lynch Innocent Men to death**"
👉It is not against Poor, Innocent, Deserving Girls/Women but to give **equal rights to Boys/Men**👈
**Men/boys Stop falling for women. Support & Fight for Men's Rights. You don't know how tough for you all to be a Man **
@@equalrights2690 lot of data not enough sources
Simp
The above data is from Indian Legal Govt Report.
You are too
The men don't cry part left me staring at the wall. While I didn't have my mother or a girlfriend die on me, my grandmother who I knew as the kindest and most understanding person I have ever had the pleasure of meeting, died of cancer. When she died in her bed, most of our local family was there to be with her, I had to step outside because I didn't want it to be true. At the funeral I kept telling myself not to cry, holding back tears, my eyes and sinuses felt pressured. It wasn't until after the funeral that my uncle who saw me just trying to not interact with anyone that he decided to walk up to me and give me a hug. I had never cried so much up until that point. In the following years of high school, I felt extrememly stressed and had a constant feeling of anxiety, which then took hold as depression. In the 11th and 12th grade I constantly contemplated whether or not I should just kill myself, practicing tying a nooses and wandering if anyone actually cares. Sure I had plenty of 'friends' but those who I could actually trust were few and I rarely spoke to. I ended up playing a lot of games and making a few friends online, and honestly it's only because I made those friends that I didn't take my own life, because playing games with them gave me something to look forward to the next day.
We make some of our best friends from 1,500 miles away. I'm glad you stayed strong. keep on fighting.
God bless your soul
Continue playing games!!
Video games are not violent. Quite the opposite!
@@jobee589 right bro I love video games 😎
“make it about humanity” this is how we should have thought all along.
@Franz Huber "HUMANITY" does exist but a lot of us are terrible we can't stand together to create humanity :-)
@Franz Huber AHAHHAHAHAHA
It’s how some of us do think
WhateverIRightNextIsBollocks and everyone should. of course males and females require different things from each other but it should be about accepting the differences and embracing them as equals and uniting as a human race rather than segregating.
Franz Huber obviously males and females are different but it should be about accepting the differences and embracing them as equals and uniting as a human race rather than it being men vs women. that’s fr really immature if you think we should be segregated like that.
As a man, I wish I saw this video much sooner. In 2019, I left my home and forced myself to live in homeless shelters while hopping around to 2 different cities here in Canada. Some nights, I was sleeping on the streets of these unfamiliar cities - one night was on my 22nd birthday. It was a very harrowing experience and I've scarred myself. Why did I do this to myself? Because I felt compelled to brutally punish myself - this is what I deserved as a man apparently. Because society constantly gave me the message that I had never suffered enough to cry, that all my problems were trivial and invalid. The last person to give me that message happened to be a woman - and that was the first time I had ever tried opening up about my problems to anyone. She told me I had nothing to worry about because I live in a first world country. It broke my heart. I had never been given a space to speak about the issues in my life before. So my message to the world was "You wanna see me burn? Okay then, I'll make myself burn." I am now in such indescribable emotional pain, even though this happened 3 years ago. I have not recovered, and probably won't for many years. All I can say is, we are blessed to still have women like Helly.
There are people who need others who have walked in their shoes before them. I truly believe, as is said, the surest way to find happiness is to lose yourself in service to others. I pray you close the door of hurt behind you and that you have a life of connection, peace, and happiness.
"he wondered who would cry."
I had to pause the video on that one and just... sit and think about that one. An uncle of mine committed suicide, and, given the generation and location he grew up in, I often wondered if what he was thinking when he went through with it was something along these lines.
Rest in Power, Uncle. We all cried, for what it's worth.
That line game me pause too. So sad. I would like to see the NFL bring awareness to male suicide like they do breast cancer or domestic violence. Seems like they should be using their platform of a mostly male audience to reach out to more boys and men.
ZACHARY FRENCH you aren’t alone in that line of thought. I’ve asked myself that countless times, often when trying to get in contact with those whom I’d deemed friends. My advice is that if you feel like the answer is no, then keep lines with those you currently associate with open while you seek a group in which you do feel like would miss your passing.
I wonder how many Americans do _not_ have a male relative or friend who committed suicide. I don't know any.
@@patryder8923 I'm actually Guyanese, but yeah, all my American friends have had this type of unfortunate event happen in their family or a friend's family, too. It's really rampant.
jablue - My condolences and yes, that WAS a powerful verse.
Love this. What’s sad is that it takes a woman to say this and she’s heard, but when a man talks about this he’s silenced.
In Britain the only people to put forward legislation to try and combat male suicide and other male issues... are feminists and liberals.
Men don't care.
I've never seen a guy that's said anything like this, that's been silenced? Which ones?
@@Redfoxx-pg7km that's the issue, nobody's gonna give a shit so why bother talking about it at all at this point? there was a situation on a ( im not sure on this one) british tv show where a man was being abused by his wife, and the audience straight up laughed at him, this is the same for alot of topics.
@@kagekun101 the whole audience probably didn't;
But yeah, There are massive problems with men not being able to seen as a victim. People don't take it as seriously.
They're told to not be weak or cry.
Be a man. Man up. This is a problem that starts when theyre pretty young.
This is very basic feminist theory. It's not women's theory... It's how the patriarchy effects SOCIETY. That includes men.
@@Redfoxx-pg7km well, not literally the whole audience, but it was very clear that a large ammount of the audience laughed, which is messed up
@@kagekun101 I'd have to watch for context but yeah. It's really bad and taken much less seriously.
People still laugh at rape in general, quite a lot though too.
Some people are absolutely fucked in the head. Inconsiderate and blind to other people's struggles.
When my first wife ran away with her boyfriend, and left our 3 year old child with me, I cried. A lot. And then I got back up, and continued the mission. I finished my M.A. Got another job, raised my kid, till she was 17. She got into a good college, made something of herself, has 2 kids now, with a good husband. And my ex called me up, not long ago, just wanting to talk. And I just said "no". Gosh that felt good. Like the guy in the Truman show: goodbye, and good luck.
Good for you brother!
@amit kumar amm he called her "my first wife" which indicates he has married someone else by the time of writing this
Good job mate
Your story was basically the same as mine but my child was 2. I bought him up since he was 2 and hes now 25. Hes done really well for him self and I pushed him all the way though College etc and trained him in martial arts all hes life where he become ranked in Europe. Of course someone told hes mum and shes taking all the credit for hes achievements lol. I know so many men that raised their kids by there self. Its so messed up and that never used to happen decades ago. Im happy you managed to keep your child as I did as I knew one man that wifes left him and their kid and 8 years later wanted the child and she got the child back even though she walked out on that child for so long. That was so messed up and totally broke my mate mentally.
Now that a man
She's standing up for us. It made me almost cry. I think she deserves a freakin award, like some human rights shit.
*In dying breath*: ''She is.. the chosen one''
@@KandiKontent equality*
d u c k
@@KandiKontent BRING EQUACKITY TO THE WORLD
Lets preserve her in Formalin
She will bring peace.
Nobody speaks for guys like this, all respect
Boys we need 24/7 protection on her, she is a rare one
You mean aside from all the men that already have? I'd hate to live in your bubble.
Russian Bot men aren’t allowed to speak up for themselves. Technically, this comment is wrong, because men have spoken up for themselves, but they got ignored and labeled as misogynists. So, were they really allowed to raise awareness to their issues? I don’t think so.
@@russianbot4966 ok 40 year old virgin.
Steven Crowder
I highly suggest him
@@user-bv4vf9so1e aye im a 20year old virgin olive oil xD😂
"Be a man, said the father who was never there"
Hit me hard.
forreal forreal
Jack Jitab did he leave for the milk carton again
ijike Gaming nah bruh...cigarettes.
Damn near everything she said hit home so directly I broke down alone in my room.
And the mom's who could never be a father.
As a woman who always stands up for men, this brought me to tears
Me2 girllll
@@vianguyen1588why you guys stand up for men? Their lives are always being easy.
@@user-ig-gg26j and you experience that men have it easy comes from what? The lens of how a women’s struggles? You can’t project the female struggle and assume it’s the only struggle or the worst struggle that exist. It’s like a men saying, women have it easier, and they don’t even live life as a woman. Do you even live life as a man to even know that to begin with? or does your observation comes from your own experience of bad men, or so called feminism analysis. I advice that if you’re womanizing a lens experience, which means to brush or paint any male struggle as incomparable or irrelevant just bc they don’t have the same struggle as a woman, then learn and research make struggles. But you and I might be from different culture where you see the privileges of men, I’m talking about issues concerning American men
This is called a feminist. Someone who clearly fights for women's rights but gives a shit about men too. A good person. Clap it up.
👏👏👏
She called men dogs.
Women have more rights than a man if anything though, at least in America. If women really want to fight with women’s rights they need to fight in places like Saudi Arabia and other places in Europe.
Also I’m not saying she fights for rights in America, just saying that because a lot of feminists are from America and fight for things like “manspreading” or a wage gap that is presented in a way that makes it seem like society decides they’re worth less when that’s not what the gap is
@@chandlercolvin9396 sounds about white
"Men only matter if they can provide something first"- Chris Rock
That is our nature. Can't argue.
I feel that.
Yep, and the more you can provide the higher up the mating scale you are. As soon as something goes wrong and you have a blip in providing, you'll be single.
Indeed
That is why I only provide for me and only for me.
When a friend of mine cried as a young boy, his father would hit him until he stopped crying. As an adult he needed professional help and slowly learnt to cry again. Now he has turned from a hard man into a strong man.
Isn't that the same tho
@@absanchez777 I think what he's implying that his friend, can cry now, but also is a better man
@@absanchez777 no, being hard is just being numb whereas being strong is the ability to handle emotions.
@@Steyreon Emotions suck and serve little useful purpose.
Steven Bass I agree with that wholeheartedly, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy to not express them
iv'e not felt love in over 9 years,yet i felt every word of this video. thank you
Everyone liking your comment is trying to give you the love you were missing for the past 9 years
I haven't heard a women speak this highly about men in a while. Makes it even crazier when you listen to the amount of compassion in her voice
you're a fool
she isnt talking highly about men at all
she's a brainwashing machine and you've fallen for it.
these are feminist talking points
when men actually talk about what concerns them. none of this shit comes up. this is what feminists tell men to care about.
It's not even highly... This is supposed to be normal. I hope other men and women catch on... But then again many of us are so programmed that we can't even comprehend this message.
@@thenarrator1984 yes. They are feminist talking points. Which she deconstructs. Pay attention.
@@rogthepirate4593 LOL no she does not deconstruct them you are hopeless
she tells men what men care about THOSE things that men are supposed to care about. those are things feminists told men to care about. MEN DO NOT CARE ABOUT THEM
read the comments. the men agree with me. thousands of comments saying she's a chameleon in these posts.. she's the enemy of men. not the friend. she THINKS shes our friend but she has no idea
@@gamelord this message is garbage.
The Kevin thing...
that was so poetic. He didn't cry, then Who would cry.
Perfectly spoken. By a hero
uP
Yeah, this is my main thought when I'm leaning towards killing myself... :(
@@4400seriesFAN I just want to say that if you're ever feeling that way, please consider calling a hotline. I started on antidepressants/antianxiety meds several months ago after a really bad night and realizing that it was the closest I ever felt to actually wanting to commit suicide. They've really helped, most notably with how those thoughts are much less vivid/obtrusive and my emotional lows are much less frequent, less extreme, and more easily handled. I also just feel happier generally. I've started seeing a therapist as well.
I still have shitty days, and get scared when i feel bad and that maybe the meds arent working or that im doing something wrong if I feel bad, but the thought of suicide is much farther away and it's more something I think about in the sense that "I used to think about it." Its so much better. In the beginning, I thought, man, is this how "normal" people feel? Because so much had calmed down inside of me.
But I really hope you dont feel that way ever again. It hurts, its exhausting, and its scary, even if you try to tell yourself it's not. So please know that people care about you, even if it's just me as a stranger on the internet, and that I tried to get help for myself and its helped me a lot, so I wish the same for you.
@@allterraincapybara6749 Thank you for reaching out to me! The thing is that when you feel like killing yourself, you don't want any help. You refuse to take it. You want to actually kill yourself. It takes too much energy to convince yourself that you are wrong and this will go away again.
But yeah, I got some help and I'm exactly as you wrote for yourself. Distant thoughts and "I was thinking of that, lol"... Thanks, again!
Dang I can’t like this comment because... 420
“careful, she’s a hero”
lol I'll risk it
Liking your comment is not enough
She's the kind of hero that this planet needs
The last time I cried my wife was telling me she's leaving me for someone she called 'asshole' in my presence a few years ago.
While I do feel for you
You're better off
Your so much fucking better off without her in your life then mate
Stay strong bro! You'll get through it! ❤️
Her loss
Consider that a good lesson. Your wife is trash, as hard as this breakup was for you, this will help you learn to make better choices when it comes to women and companionship next time.
And I mean this all in a friendly and empathetic way.
“When Kevin committed suicide he wondered ‘who would cry?’”
*Dude that hit too close to home*
yes, sir bin ladder
Osama Bin Ladder why did i think of Kevin from home alone
yeah sure bin ladder
Are you alright.
@@Ameritude no cuz ya killed him
I just went through the comments and every man here basically worships her. What she has said isn't anything new, but it just goes to show how much men have been suffering. If one woman is all it takes for them to be like that. One person is all it takes to bring hope. It's sad.
I’ve been doing my own research as of late, asking everyday feminists and vocal icons in the feminist community and I’ve got to say...it’s absolutely destroyed my faith in feminism. I was on the fence for the longest time and I came out so demoralized I couldn’t even be on the internet for three days. Seeing something remotely centrist or even with the slightest positivity in it makes me so happy. I can physically feel the joy rising in my body.
Holy cow what happened?
@@Llolprosthisisastupidname723
I went into my investigation expecting equality and understanding like they’ve claimed, but a vast majority of the people I interviewed were pretty much the personification of what they deny to be. I interviewed close to two hundred people and about all but ten were nothing but the embodiment of toxic femininity and mind set. They talk about equality but the only issue they recognize across the aisle (on the men’s side) is that men can’t express their feelings. As if it’s the only issue men face. Not to mention the generalized ignorance that just keeps circulating in those circles, for instances, there were over twenty people (probably the worst of the people) that I interviewed that genuinely believed that men who commit crimes against women don’t face any prison time at all. I’m not saying every feminist is like this, but having dipped my feet into the community I can feel confident in my summary that the feminism movement is inherently gynocentric and those that argue otherwise are either disingenuous or so blissfully skewed to one side that they don’t know what a responsible middle ground or what equality is.
@@nodishtoodeep3053 could I ask what issues you brought about that disproportionately affects men. And what the typical responses are?
@@Youboremenow
Just the main stuff; the lack of support for domestic abuse for men in the country, the history of the national suicide hotline and domestic abuse hotline having sketchy support for potential male victims, the heavily skewed justice system with 7/10 judges siding with women before the case starts, how lawyers are encouraged to take everything from men they can, the fact that mother exclusive custody is at an all time high and father exclusive and joint custody are at a historic low, and finally the manufactured stigma on forming mra groups.
Most of the time they were just ignored or brushed off and rounded back to female issues. At worst I got “those are not important to feminist issues” and surprisingly often “the issues facing women have been more drastic and prevalent than what men have been facing”. However, there was a fair couple that were receptive to it and actually thought about the issues I brought up, though they didn’t give me an answer definitively.
A real women will always appreciate a real man , period
"When Kevin failed in 5th grade, he didn't cry. When Kevin's mother left him, he didn't cry. When Kevin's girlfriend died, he didn't cry. When Kevin committed suicide he wondered who would cry." I am unpleasantly familiar with that last bit. The number of times I've wondered who would cry, or if anyone would care enough to cry if I just up and offed myself is astronomical. Been struggling with suicidal ideation for 25 years. To this day, I can't genuinely turn to anyone to express the hurt. Every day is just another bottle of emotions I've stuffed away.
I was thinking that when I considered it, I realised that I would be missed by a lot of people who I have served with and I knew that I would never see my nephew (who wasn't even a year old at the time) growing up into the man he is today.
Take care bro🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I know exactly 1 person that would even give a fuck if i died. And guess what? Its another man. And when i say give a fuck, i dont mean would cry because of it, but even know that i did it. Fuck humanity is the only thing i can say to todays world
same except dosnt have suicidal thoughts yet
Men who cry a little are attractive to women.
"He wondered who would cry" wow okay this actually sent tingles as it's something that has been going through my brain since I was 11.
I would cry. I don't even know you, but I would cry. It's terrible and hurts me deeply when someone feels so alone that they feel the only way to end the agony is taking their own life. So, yes, I would cry.
@@JonathanWilson83 as would I. I've been in that spot before, I would never want someone else to feel like that, especially if I'm able to do something about it
You are not alone😢....still here though...51...and it is as good as it gets ☺️
I would cry, because for every scar on your wrist is a reminder that I should have been there for you.
I would. I love u man and i don’t even know you. Stay strong! We and the lord have your back! God bless, and may u be filled with happiness peace and joy by the lord, Amen!✝️🙏❤️
*“Careful, shes a hero.”*
@ Woooow shes a "hErO" because she backs men? Fucking hell your acting like every woman is out here to hate men.
@@d4n380 the feminism of this time is all about that if you think about it. It's about revenge.
@@d4n380 she is a "hero" because she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy. No one ever said all women are out to get men. Why randomly assume everyone is acting out of malice?
@@BringOnTheBleach "she can tell the difference between equality and supremacy". So can 98% of the human population, doesn't make her any more special than your average don. It's also called sarcasm, dont play dumb you know exactly what I meant.
Now that's who u call a real Queen 👸
Innocent little dove.
Yeahhhhh
The ironic part of this video. If a man were saying any of this, everyone would be calling him an incel and a creep.
Imagine living in a world where your worth is decided by how many times you urinated in the opposite gender, who btw have no effing clue how it feels like to be you
@@meghanachauhan9380 Tf u on about
@@meghanachauhan9380 who's urinating in who?
Dovey Milton I don’t think so
@@meghanachauhan9380 wait a second kiddo ask your parents about the birds and the bees
If I wasn't such a man I *might've* cried.
😭🙏 thats hella funny bro, same. ✌️
@@dmstudios5486 Lol glad you laughed bro. :) Im just trying to make people laugh on a video that depresses them.
Good one
Yeah. In the end, while she probably means well, nothing will change. Showing that we men have it bad too is meaningless since people do not care about when men have it bad, thus it falls on deaf ears
@@wothin If it makes you feel any better, there are other people out there who feel the way she does, myself included. Hopefully in time more people will think about what she's said
I like this woman. I wish her peace and happiness.
She dont gaf about men
@Richard Ikin I like you
@@Naturestheway did you watch the video?
I agree
wholesome
Most women don't understand a man's pain and sadly I believe fewer care. Society doesn't understand or care. But this lady does and she tells it like it is. From all of us men thank you.
I remember holding my crying sister when my parents got a divorce... I wanted to cry with her too just not stop the tears from flowing.. But i cant... I had to stay strong cause my beloved sister was looking at me to be the one to lean on. I hugged her and forced myself to say itll be okay... Even though i was scared out of my mind. I remember holding my tears when my grandma died.. She was the only person i could tell everything to now i have noone, cause my mom and sister were crying i had to be the one to make sure the place was presentable for everyone else coming to mourn her for the Honour of my mom and sister. Oh how i wish i could just fall to my knees and mourn my beloved grandma i wanted to cry and hold nothing back... But i couldnt... I had to be a man. Im so very tired of this but in the end i have to be a shoulder to cry on and someone to lean on for comfort.. So i cant cry... I cant show that. If i did who will they lean on anymore.....
I get it man. Don't cry in front of others. But you have to remember to have alone time... Get it out of your system. Time to process emotions is invaluable. It can really help to bring clarity and free the soul.
Stay strong bro
@@Liam_McManly ya like have a healthy outlet through which you dispose the emotion any hobby
They would lean on you.
There is comfort in knowing that someone understands what it is you'er going through, in shedding tears together, in being able to hold up each other. Crying is not a weakness, showing emotions does not hinder your ability to support or offer comfort. It is simply a message telling your sister you know what she going through and will still be there for her.
Stay strong brother 💪🏽
the fact that she's from india makes this message so much stronger.
Edit: holy crap, this blew up and I didn't even notice. good job youtube notifications... xD
Now for everyone not getting the comment: In most parts of India womens rights are pulled to the dirt. Rape is widely accepted, if you have a higher position in politics, buisness or health care you often get weird looks and the "traditional" idea of women keeping house and kids in order is often seen as self-evident. So for her to stand up for men's rights takes a special bit of courage and, in a way, intellegence.
Let's get this lIlY sIgH off and replace her with this gem
Id love to say thats unrelated but whenever a woman cant walk alone in the day never mind after dark in india i sorta get what your sayin
What do you mean?
Karens boutta get pissed at u bud watch out
@krishna op India is not the worst country for women but it's not a good country for them either but only thing I know is that our country vilanises men so bad we're known as only horn dogs in foreign countries and I've never seen a single femenist talk about men suicide in India.
I see this woman as a god send. Standing up not for women’s rights, but for equality. There is no overpowering of a certain gender here. It’s great.
She's the harbinger of knowledge and wisdom and will light the way with a holy flame to burn all misconceptions away
Bruh she called men dogs.
SCP-079 no she said people call men dogs when they aren’t. Get your facts straight before you comment.
@@groovygoblin4152 r/ImVirgin
@@alterr3728 So am I :D virgin Bros!
To be a man is to endure our suffering through dignity.
He wondered who would cry
Hits home pretty hard
feminists should take note; THIS IS what a strong woman looks like.
strong enough to take a stand for humanity ,not just separating agendas.
This. Well said sir.
she is oozing gynocentrism. nah. i dont like this video and im a man.
You realize that she IS a feminist right? The feminism stand for equal treatment and rights for both men and women. So sad that so many people have so many misconceptions about this 😥
Feminism is great, but not the modern feminism we are used to today...
@@Adam-sw4iw what aspect of modern feminism would you be referring to?
You go, girlfriend.
Seriously, though, that was a refreshing take in this backwards world
Best quote for me "We need to liberate our souls, from what it is to be a he or a she and see what it is to be you and me." So much compassion and empathy in just that one sentence.
Sometimes the youtube algorithm does wonderful things
Nope. Some times TH-cam algorithm does horrible things
@@noname-sk3hl ?
@@whywouldyoucare239 adi Stefani ?
@@noname-sk3hl Why did you say nope?
@E Camp What? The guy who commented.
" A man should be a man when his father comes home drunk and raises his hand " you got me you got me good
I hate this bc I was expecting to be annoyed from another “feminist” that just trashed on men, instead I got hit with emotions and shed a few tears at 6am bc I cant sleep. Thank you
Nobody to this coment: men don’t cry wyta
men: is this...systematic oppression ?
but shouldn't men do not cry?, but yes a great speaker she is, hit all of us
Been a man for 20 years, first speech that got me teary eyed
The first person fighting for ACTUAL equality. Not just women's rights
Yes, we need this.
I mean, not the first, but yeah. Feminism was just poorly named. People like this would be better off calling themselves equalists. Feminism had a bad name these days.
You should fight for equity not equality. Search into the feminist movement and its history, as it was always against the patriarchy and social norms and not against men. Don't fall for fake outrage presented by the media.
Exactly. Women already have all the rights men do. I think men deserve to be more free to show their emotions.
@@valentinmoaga221 Equity = equal outcome, Equality = equal opportunity. Nope, hard pass on that. I really don't want a doctor who didn't show up to classes or pay attention during his internship to be performing open heart emergency surgery on me just because the outcome of a medical program is guaranteed regardless of skill, education, and effort.
"When Kevin committed suicide"
"He wondered, who would cry"
I seriously felt it.
me 2 since my name is kevin and i tought about suicide many times already in the past 5 years.
Kevin overdosed on anti-depressants
I feel the same. Men shouldn't cry.
@@endlessthoughtspartitionma1349 Don't do it, there is so much to live for. That is just a thought, you can change it, if it's starting to eat you, you should tell someone, but to someone who cares, and really, someone cares about you. You are not worthless
I’m feeling it now man....
Crying right now but out of joy seeing a woman talk about this.
Sour Pickle so true bro
Just don't cry ....hustle hard to bring a change ...
and you would only be wasting your life there dont cry .......fight dont stop ......push
@Death Metal 😑
@Death Metal well, then you're not human 🤦🏻♀️
"It's not just ok to be a MAN, It's necessary"
- J.P
Careful........ she’s a hero
Edit: the sentence I said was a meme, I intended it be taken as a humorous joke, while you guys can’t even take a joke, hero or heroine but this comment was meant to be a meme!
Not the hero we deserved... But the hero we needed
@@tomasgresko1599 yes
Yes she is
She's looks like Yennefer from The Witcher Netflix
IROHHHH
I have huge respect for this woman because she actually has empathy for the struggles in both sides
Like everyone should. It's sad to see how people who can't put aside their bias or prejudice are doing to others.
exactly dude
i love how my dad has never said any of this "men don't cry, be a man" bullshit my entire life to me or my older brother and has always showered both of us with support
he is golden
*the chosen one*
1-908-1295E Same here.
1-908-1295E Our Generations are becoming weaker
@@siyem2051 what do you even mean?
Arthur u got beat lol
Man, this makes me feel a lot better, I spent the entirety of my grandmothers funeral holding back tears. I couldn’t stop myself felt very embarrassed. This really shouldn’t be this way, thank you for standing up for us. Also you dropped this 👑👑
🧡 your grandma knew. She felt those tears you had inside.
Finally a woman who understands. I’m so sick of this world
ikr! and also the fact that we need women to speak for us just proves how cruel society treats us men
@@shelbylover1359 yes
also roma army, shes an awesome person
@@shelbylover1359 I love shelby as well.
Me to
My uncle’s first name was Kevin, he took his life almost 10 years ago. Almost cried.
be a man and cry, crying is healthy
Damn
@@infinitcheez sometimes you cant
Onion Man we’re here bro
Crying is healthy. And opening up to your emotions let's you use them in empathy, making you a more caring partner and better lover (from own experience).
I don't think any woman ever spoke this highly about men in public.... Hat's off to you Ma'am ✌️
Abhe chutiye books wagera by pda kr pta lg jayega
@@rajeshsingh-mv7zn Suggest Kr Bhai Konsi Book
She didn't say anything good about men....she asked for change.
@@amritraj9230 bro it will be my honour if you will read this book "the manipulated man" a redpill for men.
You are generalizing over there
you know there are the golden bunch of women that actually understand this is one of them
I think the common misconception is that men are born with a sense of entitlement, when in all actuality we're born with a sense of longing for purpose.
Men are born with an entitlement to the unfair feelings of guilt, shame. and feeling like we are evil, simply because we were born one way.
Thats on being human. Everyone is searching for a purpose.
I felt that especially Considering I’m Turning 18 Soon and I don’t have a Damn clue what I’m gonna do with in terms of where I’m gonna go in my life and .....god It’s terrifying.
@@pizzavictory113 - Don’t worry if you aren’t sure. Life is long and you have lots of time to find yourself so don’t stress if you’re not sure of what you want to do or where you’re going. If you live your life just working to make today better than yesterday, and always striving to do the right thing no matter the situation, then a lot of life will just take care of itself. I remember the day my 19 year old self was driving down the highway out of my home town to go to college. I was leaving everything I was familiar with and going somewhere I knew no one and would be completely on my own. Now I’m retired and I can say the last 38 years have brought me on all kinds of adventures around the world, I’ve met many many interesting people and I managed to get married and now have a wonderful daughter who is a year younger than you. The world is an amazing place full of opportunity. There are many adventures waiting for you to live them. You just have to take the steps.
Don’t be fearful of the unknown, let it instead be energy that drives you!
I get what you are saying, but being born longing for a sense of purpose isn't inherently a male thing.
Real men love women like this, compassionate women.
Andy McCurdy shut up with your "real" man bs
@@zerosaber257 +
This goes against what she said
Zero Saber yes Real men that aren’t going around pretending to be feminists they in order to get into a females pants
Humans love humans like this
Guys, we need to protect this one.
She’s rare.
Edit: wow
Please we need to
True she is queen we will spit on the fake queens
She's a unicorn. Protect her and keep her safe so that one day we could have more of her on this planet
Agreed
I would like but it’s at 420 rn
When she said men also cry and society thinks men don't cry. My heart melted that time I mean.. just tears came down from my eyes when she said that.i have huge respect for her.
Strong women have the ability to stand up for themselves. Stronger women have the ability to stand up for everyone.
Well said
Amen!
Bro, your profile picture remainds me of "Morpheus, drikin a 40 in a death basket" 💀💀💀💀💀
The same with men
✨P R E A C H H H H H H H✨
As a man, I was taught to NEVER show weakness, fear, or emotion, to be hard as steel. I am now 70, and until a year ago when I had a stroke, and lost most of my emotional control, I had never shed a tear, or allowed myself to really feel. Even when my parents died, even when my wife died, I could only do as taught from the time of my youth. Swallow and bury the pain, and hurt. NEVER show it. Now it terrifies me to not be able to control it. When I do show it now, it seems to only bring shame, and makes me want to hide.
Can I say thank you so much for writing this. My dad is 71 and I have carried the pain of his emotional absence all my life. I always knew it was partly a generational thing but your post made me truly realise that emotional repression is a cage that tortures the man inside it. Im sorry to hear of your struggles, but Im grateful that you shared them.
You were programmed like us all, boys are this and girls are that. But girls gained the world, while we just did what we were told until we are no longer relevant.
God watch over this man
2 days ago my 77 year old grandpa was killed in a car accident. I can never remember my grandpa crying when I was growing up but the past couple years he would always shed a teer when talking about anyone in our family. I realise now it was from him knowing the time we spend on this planet with our family and friends is not endless and we need to cherish every moment. I will never forget my grandpa Dave and his endless memory of stories and sayings.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
“Real men don’t cry” - While swallowing that lump in my throat and struggling not to cry I realize I’m victim to this.
Exactly... always swallow your Emotion... FCK that
@@raoulbremer idk it not bad
Raoul Bremer who wants to be called a wimp tho only cry at the stuff that’s really bad
*Real* men *decide for themselves when and why* they cry, regardless of what any wimp might say of it. I mean, how does *someone else* tell *you* how to be you? Don't fall for it!
Thank you, miss Shah!
@@ca1444 that's the conditioning
For the crying thing. Cry when you feel the need to. Don't be ashamed. But cry with a person you love and trust. And cry with someone who understands. After you're done, understand why you cried, and with the calm that comes after crying, what you can do to not cry about it ever again. If they are tears of joy, then cry whenever you want my man
This is the first woman that I have seen that is actually standing up for us. I can already feel tears of joy in my eyes
Really? You should look up Cassie Jaye
Candice Owens. Lisa Haven there are some good ones. You gotta go look. Cause msm isn't going to show them
Google Janice Fiamengo
or The HoneyBadgers
Wait, why can't men stand up for themselves? Women stand up for their selves and then they have to stand up for you too huh?
Most women stand up for men. You should probably stop listening to crazy feminists if you think most people are like that. Most of the radical feminism is garbage misinformation, supposed to be sensational and make us worried so we listen to more news about it and they make more money out of it.
More women should listen to this because it's nothing but the truth.
@simon behrendt I think "femininity" and "masculinity" are constructed by society, since it always changes with time and age. But I am open to debate
@@denizkaragullu6239 Yeah, remember way back when when the merchant vessels had entirely female crews?
@@denizkaragullu6239 Masculine and feminine gender roles are a result of inherent differences between the sexes. There are plenty of outliers, but that doesn't change the averages.
There is no thing as "masculinity" or "femininity", the only thing here is "humanity".
"Real men don't rape" oh shit must have been a ghost then...
We’re all living creatures with emotions. I don’t know why so many people think otherwise.
Yet war and government exist
Have you looked in the mirror
Im a zebra
Don't species assign me
I'd rather not be human, if it's all the same to you...
Just for all those out there, you have no idea how much a hug, a simple compliment, or even a nice comment means to a man. I was given a flower by a woman when I was buying groceries and that I looked nice. That was 21 years ago and I still remember the day.
Thanks for the tip.. will use it
She didn’t try to make men seem like victims or women like victims, she kept it at a level of people are people no matter what gender they are, which honestly is what I want in this world to be seen as an individual not a part of a collective of my gender. I’m a male, I like video games, sleeping, and enjoying it life my way. I don’t like physics class in school, waking up late for important events, or when people do things that make something someone else is doing more difficult. I am different then anyone else and I am the one who decides where I go in life. I am not a victim I am not a victimizer. I am a person, if anyone else feels like you want to be seen as a person and not apart of a community or collective, like this, or don’t because this like or no like doesn’t decide how you think and only you decide what you do.
God Bless you all.
No. You are a failure. You choose to live a life void of all meaning because you dont have the courage to take life on, so you hide away in your room. How dare anyone, in a western society, to squander away their potential. Millions would cut off their arm to have the chances you do in life, and millions have died for you to have those chances, for you to actively avoid reaching your utmost potential is immoral. I say to you, man up.
@@bornfree8073
Says the one wasting his time ranting about somebody else's lifestyle.
born free I may be a failure in your eyes but at least I get to make that choice, because I am a single person not a collective like I was sayin in my comment.
I am confused on why your calling me a failure when I never said I was successful or anything along those lines, and I understand there’s millions who would give their arms or legs to have the opportunities I have, and it is unfortunate that there are millions who don’t have these opportunities but if you cried every second there was an injustice in the world or anytime you had something someone else doesn’t then you would never stop crying and never take care of your own life.
And if your so much of a “look at me I’m standing up for the little guy” kind of person then tell me how many times you’ve personally sheltered homeless people you don’t know personally in your house or taken a meal to a random poor person in the street. You wanted to make this about the privileges I have and I do have a lot of privileges and blessings that others may not have. Think of it this way, there will always be someone poorer or in a worse situation and there will always be someone richer. You say this to me when I could just as easily make the argument I’m unfortunate compared to the likes of Bill Gates or Elon Musk or one of the other billionaires of the world. I don’t hate you, I disagree with your ideology and your method of enacting it but if you get some kind of “feel good high” out of calling a 16 year old a failure and saying that he chooses a life void of meaning then your life must be pretty bad to harbor this much hatred in your heart. I hope you find whatever it is your looking for in your life, as for me I have God and it doesn’t matter what you say because it only matters how God sees me and he sees me as His child and his creation that he knew before I was born and that’s good enough for me.
And I truly hope God touches your heart.
Because: Jeremiah 17:9
I'm a man, i didn't cry listening to this, i felt like it though.
Same
Same . It reminded me of what my family and my exs told me when I was going through a hard breakup and depression . Almost killed myself
Same
@jestersMadhouse
Crying is fine. I'm not a man myself but I dont cry very much cause it always ends in a horrible breakdown. But it releases stress, bro
HOSHI星 I literally can’t cry. It’s weird like the last time I cried I was like 10 years old and my dad told me not to be a pussy and man up.
It’s sad that whenever I try to explain this to some women, I get called a ‘pick me girl’. No Jennifer, I’m not standing up for men to please them or to get them to like me, I’m doing it because I believe they deserve as much support and appreciation as women do. Bring men up without bringing women down. Bring women up without bringing men down. We should work together to bring each other up and stop this gender/sex war of who’s the worst and who’s the best.
Edit: Just wanted to add, that when a man stands up for women, he gets called a ‘simp’ and if it’s a woman standing up for men, she gets called a ‘pick-me’ or a woman who just wants to please a man. Like we need to normalise treating each other right, imagine praising a man for treating a woman like a human being? Or a woman treating a man like a human being? It’s just sad that we need to praise such basic human rights, when it should be the norm
But that sad parts is that guys will call them simps
THANK YOU! It's only getting worse with Tiktok where it's so much easier for these kind of people to communicate.
EXACTLY! When I try to explain this to feminists they say Im wrong and start attacking me haha
Your awesome keep up the level headedness.
@Daikon thank you ma'am,you dropped your crown queen
This gender equality thing has become a competition between men and women; trying to decide who suffers more, who is better, who is evil… I wish we could do like her, standing up with each other and trying to understand the struggles of the other gender.
It has been made a competition by conservatives and no one else.
This is not the woman we deserve, it's the woman we *need.*
We dont need any woman for that my friend the men just got softer more like women as the time went i realised that when i went to see my grandparents where the male is the head of the house but woman is actually not weak not dumb just respects him as a person not everyone of us deserves respect thats the problem basically what you are not seeing the problem is something entirely different the problem is big companies taking feminist serious and all the trans people serious so they can appeal to them and not loose money now theres is always a strong woman role stronger than men in movies, youtube changing ads filtering everything feminists are propably young women who dont know sht i dont hate on women i just hate on the dumb women ( you will say call them dumb you misogenist and sht ) well if you say that you are a part of the problem
Did you just call her dark?????? Racist!!1!
Just kidding, just kidding
actually we do kind of deserve her
Dimitris Rigas would you be fine with me saying that this is the kind of mentality we need? Because it is. You may not realize how many cultures with fucked up believes exist.
@@TandokuMotoVlogs everyone on here is overlooking the fact that she wants to change men too. Why though? If we arent being assholes and are not raping people then whats the problem? She wants us to be softies. Well i want the dating game to completely swap and make it so women chase men and are not controlling. Oh wait, these are natural things similar to oh i dunno, not being a giant crybaby of a man?
Whenever my “feminist” friends try and start shit about men having it so easy. I always say the scales are not tipped they are broken everyone has it rough.
Lol my feminist friend cut me out because she couldn't handle it. Said I was perpetuating "rape culture."
@@starwarfan8342 probably doesn't know what that even means, to them its buzzwords and victimism of vindication to problems they didn't actually expierience ,but perpetuate because it is easy to do.
In some ways fear or herd mentallity and a lot of the fake feminists are pretty much using the cause as an excuse to act out. To be fair there are those whom are taking things to extremes as well, point is bad apples can ruin a batch and there are very few that are actually good and well intentioned. Just we hear a louder majority.
Yeah everyone has it rough until you start a only fans
Or stream on twitch and get millions of simps
Socially, yes. Biologically speaking it does suck more to be a woman tho.
A man is only allowed to cry in front of his child two times in their life. When they're born, and when they're watching the end of Terminator 2 with them.
U forgot about when you get hit in the balls for the first time
What about the Sam and Frodo climbing Mt. Doom?
And the scene in I Am Legend where the dog dies
@@__-bw5gb Shit, ok those two movies can count...maybe.
Or maybe even tony stark's death scene?
you are a queen. you deserve a crown. this basically changed my view of the world.