INFP Anger
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Something about INFPs is that it’s very hard to make them angry. So if you succeed in making an INFP angry, then you should know that you are a very annoying person!
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I love how you start the video with “If you succeed in making an INFP angry, then you are a very annoying person.” That cracked me up.
The funniest thing about the intro for me is that I'm an INFP and I'm an angry bean.
@@Momotaro6513 that means everyone is annoying
Made me LOL too 😂
That was a bit rude though, INFP here that’s why
Mm... I don't know. Kinda mean and insensitive imo.
"Crying while expressing their anger" hit me so hard😭.
It only goes on untill someone hurt you offen enough to make you stop caring about their feelings.
I thought everyone did that if they were pissed enough
Damn True
Very true, i was so angry one day, and my tears were like a big Fountain, and another day i was so angry i didn't know if i was gonna cry or laugh..😂😂 So i did both! 🤣🤣 And my Mom is to blame! 🤣🤣
Yup, and the other party was like "stop crying" and I was like "I can't!" INFP anger everyone, always mixed with guilt.
"if you anger them, they'll either just stay quiet and move on, or start to avoid you" lol sounds right
Someday, years ago I gone out of home, in a argue with mom. Was 1am. She become worried so much that called to my grandfather, when I come back, less than 30min after quit, I felt really guilty cause she was in a terrible mood condition. Other time, I become catatonic, really, I couldn't move myself and my eyes after crying.
I'm all of the above
As an INFP-T I've realized that in general I build resentment for someone every time they wrong me or my beliefs but instead of lashing out I tend to essentially catalogue the smallest faults they make. If that person doesn't wrong me for a while or apologizes I kinda just forget about it and move on but if they continuously anger me and get me to a point where I "explode", I often bring up everything they've done to me in immaculate detail and I make it near impossible to argue against me by pointing out flaws in their logic. When this happens the feeling that overcomes me can only be described as hatred towards that person (no matter how close we are) because I tend to only think about their flaws in that state. It really does feel like some sort demon that gets unleashed and the guilt and regret that follows has caused some of the most harmful periods of my life
Im exactly like this and I'm at my anger and hatred phase w a person lmao I hope to solve this once and for all bc it honestly became a cycle to get mad at this person
this !! yeah this is me, but the problem is that this happens with my family more than anybody else in my life
Ever try to do that with an INTP? You can't. They are always right.
@@kaelangford1530 Unless you fall almost dead center between INFP and INTP, like I do :p
Why so same
"...Then you are a very annoying person"
me thinking back to the times where I snapped. Yup they really were lol!
I have emotional outbursts with my family all the time adn I end up crying...but with other people I'm exactly how this video explained how an INFP expresses their anger...my family and I have very different outlook on things my parents especially they're kind of close minded and don't consider other people's opinions...that makes me very angry...
@@entropy59122 ayoo I thought I was the only one(╥﹏╥)⊂(・﹏・⊂)
I used to question my personality type just because how different I am in these two different environments, that is my family and the outside world
Don't worry, sometimes it's just their mindset to raise us in the best way
@@palakmishra999 right
I get annoyed more than angry but just very annoyed it is either everyone I know is extremely annoying or I just have anger issues because of how much I get annoyed.
Yes, gosh that's so true
What’s with the stereotype that INFP’s love everybody and are doormats? I hold grudges and I do not forgive easily. It’s part of my self preservation
Well, you could be an outlier. No one is going to fit every stereotype. Or you could perhaps be mistyped, no offense.
But from all I know typically us INFPs are extremely willing and eager to forgive anyone who’s willing to apologize.
That being said, if your talking about certain individuals with repeat offenses and not trusting them again. I don’t think any of us are so quick to forget.
Defitley a nature versus nurture deal. Child abuse can definitely crack us in ways. I speak from experience. I am the same way. I recongnize it as a flaw and work on it. But yeah self preservation wins out.
I am like that too, but than again I feel terribly bad for holding those feelings. And I do my best to shake it off and put a smile. I would rather put a fake smile on than causing a conflict and being hurt even more because of the conflict. And how I made everyone feel bad.
It's a spiral shitty situation 😒😕
That makes sense within INFP behavior. I'm exactly like that, resentful when let down too much. Being a doormat leads to rage and resentment. Watch this.
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I am totally like as it's described in the video.
When I get angry, I just cry, I can't even yell at people, whenever i try my voice cracks and tears start streaming down my cheeks... sometimes I confront people when it feels necessary
Oh god that's me 😀
When I'm angry I throw heavy bricks at a tree in my backyard.
@@yasminl3732 that's scary lol
@@lmao4148 Me too. I find it frustrating, but any strong emotion, sadness, anger or happiness and I'll start crying. Would good to have an off switch or at least be able to turn the dial down a bit.
Exactly
I am also an INFP and I do get angry but I cant be loud or scream at anyone I would feel guilty immediately..so I cry in silent 😅 also does any of you INFPs get called naive or dumb just because you cant explain how you feel with words? Those emotions are difficult to explain and cant fully explain it.
Sorry for my bad english 🙈
Feelings are abstract, so of course it would be difficult to describe them, don't listen to people who are too "naive" to get that 😉
In all seriousness though, having a difficult time describing abstract matters that even call for an in-depth analysis of your own state of emotions ... is absolutely normal. Taking your time to give a proper answer isn't naive or dumb, neither for yourself nor the other. Just talk to the right people, those who'll help you analysing instead of condemning your attempts. Supportive people are true friends, ignore the rest.
@@Winternightsnowflower thank you for your helpful answer😊
yes i can so relate with not being able to express myself and feeling like no matter how hard i try people just dont get me
Yes! My dad always says, that I'm naive, and even tho, I try to be altruistic, noble, and kind to everyone, I may seem freaky. Just when I try to tell him, how it is important to me to be nice and atleast try and understand everyone.
@@hazelbruwer3755 I'd say, you guys have to meet the right people. INFP - INTP conversations for example work out very well in my experience, I have several INFP friends. It's just easier to exchange ideas, thoughts etc. between certain types.
I used to have major anger issues when I was younger. INFP anger is very violent. A lot of the times when we INFPs get annoyed people think we are angry cause we may raise our voice and yell and insult but we are just annoyed and maybe even simmering but not angry. We go from 100-1000 real quick once we actually get angry and my parents described my anger fits as straight up furious as when I would have them it was like I thought something was too evil and an abomination against all existence so I tried everything in my power to physically destroy it. That’s just me tho so idek
Someone who gets it.
I feel INFP get portrayed as airy figures but I feel angry on a daily basis especially when I feel something is morally wrong.
I don't really allow myself to express anger at persons. I have damaged inanimate objects in banging throwing fits of rage. But with people. I leave them or silent treatment them until my temper cools. Then it is logical "you wronged me" discussion time.
This is also me... I rarely getting angry at someone maybe there's 2 times i get angry and violent... Im just pissed and annoyed, but when someone push me too hard i would get angry and i hate it when im angry, it's just like i would hurt someone physically 😭😭 (sorry for my bad english)
the good old post-rage guilt, still happens sometimes sadly. More like micro-outbursts but irritating non the less for the friends receiving them.
When I get angry(infp here) which is very rare- I either cut someone out of my life. Or if it's real anger like someone insulted my family- I will definitely speak up!
i am the exact same way
You cant cut them out if they are your brother
Both for me. I typically get quiet and withdraw, not out of fear of the person or situation, but of my more than capable anger. But, if I do snap, have my buttons pushed too many times and patience tested beyond limits, the anger comes forth. Not violent anger, never violent unless necessary to defend oneself, but truth telling words and perspective. The person I was, the one in your corner, disappears and now becomes your rival. I will tear you down verbally, crush your ego, point out what you can’t or won’t introspect and hold up the mirror. Guilt hits hard afterwards, but after so many chances, there is no more patience left. Like a cornered animal, it’s survival mode of the mind, and I refuse to allow myself to be destroyed.
@@TVUHF13 Very nicely put 🤙
Heh I bite
Pretty accurate video. One thing I missed was the INFP's 'Hulk Smash'-ability. You can take things very, very far with an INFP. When they're angry, they often try to manage it. But if in a very rare scenario, you somehow get them genuinely mad to the point they lose self-control, wow you need to hide. INFP's are very good at sensing the emotions of others, and they will use their abilities in a destructive way. They will drop a nuclear bomb on your soul and shatter everything in front of them. It's a very scary side, and absolutely something the INFP will try to avoid at all cost.
Agreed. INFPs are willing to take a lot and tend to have a very long fuse, but once the spark finally reaches the powder keg...oh, boy. I can remember a couple of times when that has happened to me and I've gone all "nuclear holocaust" on the other person (although in at least one case, I still think it was richly deserved).
"If you succeed in making an INFP angry, then you're a very annoying person" he said.
Made me think, is that means me and my sister is annoying person for each other? Bcs heaven knows we fight quite often about anything bcs what we believe ALWAYS clashed each other and we are both an INFP. Hooray, i guess.
Hehehe i can relate. I annoy my little sister too (we're both infp-t). But nothing makes my sis cry like my annoying big bro (infj).
Annoyance & anger aint the same thing though. It's easy for INFPs to get annoyed but VERY difficult for an INFP to get angry. INFPs could easily find each other insufferable if their beliefs are near complete opposites. But for 2 INFPs to snap at each other with voice raised & shit, i'd say that's a rare sight. Judging from what you've written here alone, your case is more the former than the latter.
@@FalconWindblader perhaps they're both turbulent type ( infp- t) like me n my sis
Only one person in my life has made me truly angry and guilty of that fact at the same time and that's my ISTJ father. Not only is he diametrally different from me, but expects me to change to be to his liking. So inflexible. But at least I'm aware of this and ignoring it.
@@luxestrella8779 yeah, you're correct. Me and my sis are INFP-T
Damn, I am an INFP and it’s so freaking accurate. One person enraged me and I was angry and crying alone for days, couldn’t comprehend why I deserve such rude treatment, then I decided to never talk to that toxic and disrespectful person ever again, Now it’s been half a year, and it’s the best decision I made.
My biggest struggle as an INFP is to deal with conflict and confrontation without feeling like crying and guilty of being angry because I'd come off rude. I'm trying to get more expressive and less critical of myself, i.e. accepting myself, it's a climb up the hill, slow one. My nature does keep me within my own cage, but it sucks to be in it, and it's such a weird reality to want to be in it. I know I take a long time to process emotions and thoughts, and sometimes it can make others feel like I'm not normal enough to respond in the moment. It's just me not liking the intensity of the conflict and trying my best to make the situation as peaceful as possible.
As an infp. have to say this is spot on.
I get more sad, hurt, disapointed than i get angry, and always see the best in people. so when someone annoys or anger me, i stay quiet or just avoid them.
I also don't like upsetting anyone in anyway possible, and feel that negative feeling are just a waste of time and energy.
My gf is also an infp: she gets angry when something is not aligned with her value system, such as I: there is definitely a Te function that can point out harshly the errors of others
I never thought of channeling my anger by tiring myself physically though. I would like to try that more, by exercising, lifting weights.
Overall i think we infps need to know how to deal with conflict and communicate it more, as well as unleash it in healthy ways
**ENFJ has entered the chat** 😂
P.S. (I'm an INFP not an ENFJ but the stereotype is that ENFJs help INFPs express their emotions in healthier ways).
Which INFP loves science but expresses it in an artistic way...I mix art and science...
I'm using art to explain misunderstanding neurological conditions!
@@Umeshukitsune yes!!! I plan on creating an artistic painting of Isaac Newton with scientific elements and the solar system...I just don't have the resources right now...do u like to learn about astronomical phenomena?
Funny XD I’m doing art prev and now science XD
the last time I got loud and yelled as someone was more than 1 year ago. I got a task at work and was told to do it "as good as possible", so I spend a lot of time on it and tried to do it as good as possible. Then the guy that gave me the task asked why I wasn't finished yet and I said "you wanted it done as good as possible, or as fast as possible?" And he told me "I wanted it done fast AND as good as possible". And I told him "ok then can you show me an example of how detailed/perfect you want it to be? And he refused to show me an example and told me to just get it done quickly. And that's when I flipped my lid and got loud. If you want me to do something I will do it, but don't ask me for perfection and then complain that it takes time. I wasted over 1 week of my life on this mundane stupid task and tried to do it as good as possible (because i was told to) and what I got for it was complaint. Yes I still work there. At least starting next week I don't do full time anymore. I'll try to use the additional time to start working on an art portfolio ...or something... (which i've been saying for the last 5 years....). The biggest source of anger is probably me being angry at my lack of selfconfidence and discipline.
Very relatable. Especially that “couldn’t give an example” part. Like, if you can’t be bothered to tell me what you want then don’t expect me to do it.
Also I too am most angry with my own lack of discipline. Too much procrastinating 😢
It's just a bit different for me. As long as I'm just slightly angry or annoyed I will try to leave the situation, become quiet and very reserved/cold. However, when someone is continually pushing my personal boundaries, for instance by threatening me with violence, or when someone is insulting or trolling me and I have no escape, then I will totally flip out. This takes a lot, but then I will scream my lungs out and throw stuff (but not at the person who angers me, still dont want to hurt them of course). This happens very rarely and the people who witnessed and know me were very surprised by the intensity...
I’m so with you on this! I don’t think I’ve been so angry to throw things when in the same room as someone else but like you said in those particular situations my anger gets INTENSE. I start off very quiet and cold - and this is something my boyfriend has expressed to me that when I get angry he gets genuinely scared… Not because I get loud, but because I just shut down and it’s as if I hate him (which in the moment will sometimes feel like that). I find when I shut down it’s usually because I’m trying to stop myself from getting angrier or prevent myself from saying something to the other person I might regret. What I’ve also realised is often I’ll just need a good 10-20 minutes to articulate how I’m feeling.
I tend to have anger issues because of my upbringing and my family. While I don't show much my emotions when I'm in a place where I don't know anyone, as soon as I gain confidence and get to know better my new circle, I start to show my sassy side, or may even snap when someone's not listening or acting foolish. I think that your country's culture also influences in your behavior a lot, so I may appear more outspoken than the average INFP.
As someone who grew up with parents who had no idea of how to cater to emotional needs of others & got lashed at so much that i got my emotions repressed, that it ain't until way later in adulthood that i realized how much anger i had inside, i could relate. we who're forced to defend our inner core from a hostile environment at a very young age tend to get more outspoken, cuz we damn know that it's the only way we get to defend ourselves inside.
@@FalconWindblader I was just thinking if my upbringing was why I was also outspoken. Nice to see my kind
Yep, absolutely!
Same here
I like that the actual video is a panorama of a forest. Very appealing to INFPs like myself.
Me as an INFP and a Libra.
Situation #1:-
*Being insulted by someone*
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INFP: This is fine.
Libra: Agreed.
Situation #2:-
*Insulting his/her friends, family and loved ones*
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INFP: I'm sorry... Would you say that again. *Sharpening the knife*
Libra: Oho... Really? *Cocking the shotgun*
I'm an inpf libra too
SAME! INFP LIBRA
OMG I FELT THAT ONE AS A FELLOW INFP/LIBRA
Horoscopes are bullshit.
same here!!
If you got an INFP angry you must be a very annoying person, or their child that keeps ignoring the rules.
I am an INFP and I have to agree with the video. INFP approved📌
Idk if this is normal for INFPs or not, but I am exactly like this with everyone except my parents. I raise my voice and act angry if I am because I'm so much more comfortable with it, not because I want to hurt their feelings but I'm less afraid of doing so than I am with literally everyone else (I don't have any siblings lol)
Just wondering if anyone else can relate to that?
Same here! It seems only my mom and gf of many years get to ever see this side of me, which makes me feel kinda bad for them ngl. The less I know a person the more anger just makes me freeze, 90% of the time anyway
@@Latrimie awh yeah exactly, but I mean everyone else does that right so I don't think you should feel bad, I suppose it probably just shows how much more comfortable you are with them which is kind of a compliment in a strange way 😅
I've always been curious about whether I would be that way with someone I'm going out with since I have friends I've known since childhood who I'm not even like that with ahah
Yeah me too, and my mom always says that " you only know to get angry at us" beacuse i never get angry to someone outside my family, even to my freinds.
thats me, I start crying when I raise my voice even against my parents tho
I'm more careless with my family, of course I try not to hurt their feelings but, I feel more free for doing so. (Loll I don't mean like be evil and completely don't care) but I'm more free of doing things I want and more free about caring about their feelings. But I barely could express my feelings even to my family.
I vent out my anger by punching walls but once I punched a tree because there were no walls nearby, went back and said sorry to the tree. My friends thought I lost it cuz it was like a whole paragraph of an apology including an explanation as to why I punched it
As an INFP. I don’t think I talk to plants enough.
Maybe you just don’t often catch yourself doing it?
That’s so sweet..and very aware and self aware of you…I’m sure the tree appreciated it and forgave you❤️
I totally get that about the tree! I would never want to hurt anything because I was angry, and as far as memory serves, I never have. Forgive? If it's a minor thing yes, but for crimes..not that easy.
Yeah, I totally agree, getting angry is really hard if you are an INFP, even if I have a 101 ways of revenge that you deserve because you annoy me, I also have 1001 reasons on how I should just keep calm and avoid conflict so I won't hurt you or hurt myself.
This feels as if someone is explaining how my brain works, that's actually very nice and helpful.
Personally, as an INFP, I know I retreat when I'm angry; I feel like I first need to calm down to understand why I'm angry and upset, before I tackle the situation, which often lead to the anger disappearing before I approach the person or situation (it just changes into understanding and empathy, or contempt, disgust, or disappointment).
It's not even that it's about the anger, it's about being upset, which I've learn just doesn't help in any situation, it just leads often to more problems, and not being able to communicate, so I prefer to retreat to calm down before approaching the situation.
So yeah, if I'm actually angry, damn you did something very hurtful. Strangely enough it's more often on someone else's behalf, I'm not always good in being angry on behalf of myself.
That or I am already aware of why I'm angry, and am able to put it perfectly into words. In this case I'm usually only expressing my anger if I know it can be helpful to the situation; sometimes being angry shows someone they need to respect boundaries or need to be aware they did something very wrong.
If it's better to say this when I'm calm, I'll calm down and explain it in a calmer state of mind (which is usually the case, most of the time being angry doesn't help and it just puts people on their toes, or they're getting in a defensive state, and you're not able to communicate either way).
Or I'm not in the situation I can retreat to order my thoughts. In this case I'll probably cry while being angry.
Strangely, I get angry very easily at THINGS when I'm stressed or in a bad mood. But, very rarely do I get angry at people. I can usually see their side and see what they're doing as non-malicious or justified. But things that have nothing to do with people that don't go my way, I can get very angry very easily. Anyone else like that?
I had a very infp moment and deleted the paragraph I had written for fear of being judged or ignored. I just want to say that this really describes me very well in the good and the bad ... we must better express our emotions and not assume that others should understand us without us telling them what has bothered us. I like to be patient and never seek confrontation, but you have to know how to express yourself. Its a win-win... outside the internet, it is rare that people understand these ways of being, the world works differently and you have to know how to function in it.
Me INFP, talking to myself about 1h after something happened: "shit! That was annoying! I should have said this and that! Ok, it's a bit late, but should I say it now? Nah...that would be an argument and it would take a lot of talking. Let's just ignore this person until they realise by themselves what they did". The other person: "Rude INFP: why are you ghosting me?"
yes,yES,YEESSSS
I normally just think of someone-thing to say if it ever happens again
Apparently im a INFP with anger issues cause i get annoyed so easily, i dont confront people but im not as peaceful as this vídeo makes it sound. My parents have to listen me complain about one of my coworkers almost everyday.
Spot on! As an INFP male, I often regret after having an outburst. The people that annoy me will definitely be hit by quite offensive/hurtful remarks from me when they managed to make me angry.
I can relate to the anger management very clearly; when you have this personality type you know how to be passive aggressive on many different levels.
The dilemma is only that not emphatic people won’t get your subtle expression; my tip: scream your shit out while you drive, it will work I promise ;)
I had a very dear INFP friend who suffered extreme abuse as a child and therefore had anger issues. Speaking from this experience, though it is an extreme one, a lot of times people will be very aware that you are being passive aggressive. However, passive aggression puts responsibility for your emotions onto other people. Every time they mess up, even by accident, they get punished for it, and they never know when things are safe again. They have to be perfect in order to avoid punishment, because there is no communication. Without communication, perfection is the only way to avoid being punished.
That is an incredibly heavy burden to put on another living thing, especially if they care about you. Please don't be passive aggressive on purpose. Unless your goal is to drive people away.
Thanks boo :D now to get a driver's licence, it's worth it just for that imo
'Scream your shit out while you drive'...lol, so HRH (Alex) is doing the right thing after all...
I'm an INFP.. Very accurate 😎😎😎..
I am an INFP and agree with the video but I do have inner turmoil.
Aries: You know you should fight or let’s be blunt
INFP: There should be harmony.
Aries: But I am right.
INFP: Look just ignore them and internalize it for more anger later.
Aries: Done!
Also an INFP/Aries combo... It's exhausting in our brains lol
Me reading this comment: Who the fudge is Aries?
Aries Sun and Mercury/ and Also INFP..
The inner struggle is always way too real 😤😤😤😤😤😭😭😭😭😭🥺🥺😐
It’s always walking the line between
Aries: say it and be straightforward and get this over with! Let it out and let it go!
INFP: Well… they aren’t worth causing wasted energy over.. just let it go..
Aries: Don’t let them disrespect you and don’t let think they can get away with it!
INFP: Choose your battles… this ain’t it… let it go and ignore them..
Aries: It’s on!
INFP: meh not worth the energy..
Me as an INFP and a Libra ♎. Both of it have similarities with each other.
1) Despise injustice
2) Slow to anger
3) Great at hiding emotions
4) Didn't care to embrace the dark side
Me: Well, s*it....
Infp/scorpio... huh... neat...
“People often don’t take them seriously”
That is indeed the only thing pretty much ever that gets me angry lol
Yes, I approve this video a hundred percent. You REALLY don't want our rage. Please don't make us angry. We give people lotsa chances. -True Blue INFP
I'm an INFP and I get angry often. This is another way of telling how mentally unstable I am. I am easily annoyed and often have outburst of emotions. Then, I realize how wrong I've dealt with it and resort to self-blaming and gaslighting.
This is me too
When I get angry I say something random and then cry......and then I overthink the conversation....think what else I could have said....🤣
🤣🤣🤣
I'm an INFJ Personality type and I can see that INFP is also very similar to me, with a few exceptions. I laughed at the beginning because that is spot on to myself. It's very hard to make me upset because I always look at the big picture of everything, when someone talks to me. If I get angry it's because the other person is disrespecting me, beyond my kindness to accept and understand. Being taken advantage of my kindness is a big NoNo
The secret to not burst out of anger ? -I am constantly irritated so it spreads out evenly 😑
I'm really certain I'm an INFP after watching this lol...such a true description of INFP anger and what causes it! Thank you.
As an INFP, i can get angry when seeing people mistreating library books with cutting pages or using a sharpie to take notes, when seeing people pouring poisoned chemicals into the ocean, or any injustice happening on anyone/anything regardless of who or what they are. But, the way I can express the anger is probably sobbing or getting depressed for a long time.
As an INFP, I legit never get super angry. Sure, I can get annoyed or drained, but anger takes a lot for me to get to. I can mostly rationalize why people do certain things (people get overwhelmed, have some shit going on, might've been raised certain ways, we're just from different experiences, etc). So this whole thing was a callout.
It is ✨INTENSE✨
*yells and sobs*
Anger made me become an activist. I'll never stop fighting for what i believe in
🙏
It hurts me when I get angry. I hate feeling anger. But if I do get to that point, that someone needs to really make it up for me to trust them again. People say I cut people out without warning, but I learned my lesson the hard way to not let negative emotions intervene. If someone has that negative and toxic energy, I cut them out after giving them too much chances.
What is anger? It's a negative emotion. INFP's experience intense emotions, they are also trying to avoid conflicts. This can explain why their response is passive aggression or getting silent.
Intense emotion + avoiding conflict=passive aggressive.
This is all true for me. But I'm gonna learn to expose myself expressing anger and other "negative" emotions more frequently because NOT MANY DESERVE kindness.
INFP here. I just recently felt I had to withdraw from a friendship. I'm used to empathize and listen to people. Even to the point where I myself don't matter anymore. My friend knows this. She knows that to me it's most important to be authenticly me. No matter what emotion or situation. She knows I long to be accepted for who I am, not what I can or can't do.
And I know neither she nor I do very well in regard to our mental health. I wish I could be there to support her.
But she kept on criticizing that I did not say something "productive" and said that it's "no use" to her when I say I understand... that she should be gentle with herself and that I like her the way she is. She tends so state that she is all alone and has noone, so she needs to soldier on by herself.
It hurts. And with time I felt I had to walk on eggshells... that I had to get her to "move forward".
But that's not who I am. And in my past I learned the hard way that I can't move other people... only myself. Although it is not my responsibility to do that. She is the only one who can move herself. I can simply be along for the ride.
I told her as much... and that I no longer feel I can be myself around her. That I can't be the person she wants...
I hope she is ok. But I can no loger do that to myself.
Right! I like how you included relaxing scenery transitions with soothing yet energizing music so those watching won't beat themselves up while knowing It's all true
It's here in the comments where I expect to meet many of my kind. It's beautiful knowing that I'm not alone.
Me (INFP): Mom and I had a horrible fight yesterday.
Mom (ISTJ): Fight? What fight?
INFP-T and diagnosed Borderline here (I fall more under the nonclinical "Quiet Borderline"); sometimes I just feel like my personality type is because of my personality disorder. 😂 It sounds *literally* the same.
Fr 😂
INFP-T here✋🏻 got diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD one year back. I don’t know where infp ends and ADHD starts…. FR😅
I live in a family of ISFJs and I’ve just recently realized how much of a struggle it’s been my whole life because I process my emotions in a different way and now I’m going through a break up and I’m sad and also angry. I’ve been pretty bitter at life and my sister apparently can’t understand why I’ve been crying everyday about it and why I’ve been moody and I’m very mad about it because apparently my pain isn’t enough. My whole life my feelings have never been taken seriously and so now apparently a break up doesn’t warrant my immense grief. I lost my best friend and now I am utterly alone in life and I’m scrambling to pick up the pieces and find friends because I realized that I poured so much into the relationship that I was left with nothing, no friends. And apparently I can’t process grief through anger. Apparently the only acceptable way for me to process my grief is to cry one day of my life and then act like nothing ever happened. Like I don’t understand how I can’t be upset over the fact that I lost my best friend that I have been talking to regularly and everyday for a YEAR. I do NOT understand that. My feelings have been invalidated for 22 years of my life and apparently my situation doesn’t warrant my grief. That is immensely distressing. I’m very upset because now I feel like I finally have the guts to stand up for myself and express myself and I keep on getting shot down. I’m trying to be strong. Anger is a stranger that I’m trying to come to grips with.
Im so sorry, that must be all kinds of hell.. I dont have any advice but do you need someone to talk to?
So I'm going to go out on a limb here to discuss with my fellow INFP tribe (LOVE YOU GUYS🦋) and ask if there are others who do have an anger issue? I was more of the typical INFP when younger. I cried a lot. I was called a cry baby and felt so intense that I didn't understand why I was so different. It's important as parents, now that I have four children, to help each one learn about their personality type so they don't have to grow up wondering why they do, say and make decisions in a certain way.
Back to the point (sorry🤭😒)
Now that I'm in my 40's and just started about a year ago to dive into learning who I am due to being in an insane narcissistic personality (husband) marriage and clawing my way back to sanity. I have anger issues. I can be very quick to get frustrated, I raise my voice to much and can go from 0-100 like that!
So when I would listen to utube video's, you typically hear how we are shy, peacemakers and avoid conflict....love harmony. All is correct and I fit that description at my core.
I do believe that If you are an INFP/Empath and have anger issues that contradict the description of INFP, it may be because narcissistic personalities sniff us out and game on...it is such an insane breakdown of yourself and you are violated on such a disgusting level that it brings out a rage that my family and friends have seen and have been taken back by. I think we have been violated so deeply, feel we aren't heard so we scream so loud so we can be noticed and we can sense the meanness in society like a thick blanket and I can't stand it to the point it feels like if I don't expel it from my body I feel it's going to eat away at me as if diagnosed with cancer. Can anyone else relate?
As another INFP/ Empath who escaped my Abusive Narcissistic Personality Disorder EXhusband and got divorced after 10 years total together.. 3 years married.. and have been free from him for 2 years now.. I can heavily relate to the anger and outward expression.. I also used to be a typical INFP and leaving him was the best thing I did.. it takes time to rediscover yourself and who you really are when so much of your own true self has been denied and made to hide to feel safe and to survive… I recently have started seeing my true self come back out naturally after taking time to heal and accept.. and acknowledge everything that happened… some days are much more rough than others.. but I hope you can find peace and comfort.. you are not alone
Hm, uh I'm a 26infp male and I used to get angry a lot as a child, and i would always cry when I did. I didn't like people being mean...or stupid.
I don't really remember the last time where I've felt genuine anger...heck it couldvd been last week i dunno. The only thing I do when I'm angry is thing very angrily and be quiet. And okay the guy is literally saying that in the video right now lmaaao. I only feel mildly annoyed and sad most of the time now...unless i smoke weed then I feel great.
Getting out of a situation like this now..it's a tad bit too emotionally abusive.
Oh wow, same..? Never thought that way tho. I was also called the crybaby, and that led me to not let myself cry anymore (and really hide it when i do, to the point of not making any sounds) and also anger issues down the line (although the passive-agressive type).
But as i said, only now i realized that these two are maybe related? Thanks the insight and hope youre doing well
I relate to everything you said. I really feel seen honestly. Right now I'm at a point of trying to balance my assertiveness and rage with my need for peace and positivity. I'm trying not to be too much of either at the wrong time. Its really a journey.
I am an INFP and get angry very often (yes sadly i know) and am very confrontational (although every confrontation pains very much). INFP -- turbulent type acc. to 16 personalities. However my partner also is an INFP and for her all that is true. She doesn't get upset easily at all.
Depends on how you handle the anger and how intense it is. I am classified as an INFP-T, too, and I don't think I've met someone with the same personality type as me because everyone just seems so different compared to me. My mom is basically ENFP, so we share some similar personality traits.
I'm 58 and only just discovered MBTI , so listening to this is like my personality has been laid bare like an open book , it's so on point it's uncanny.
Since childhood if someone got angry with me I'd go quite or if they made me angry I'd just be silent , they are " friends " I've never talked too again because they wronged me and I'm fine with that, I don't need people in my life that I can't trust.
I have taken the test multiple times and get either INTP or INFP, and relate very strongly to both of those types.
I am very quiet when in group of people (happens rarely, but meh), but I try and treat everyone pleasantly and with respect, even the people I secretly find annoying as I don’t wish to hurt anyone’s feelings. However if that person starts annoying others as much as myself, I am the one to tell them off for it, leaving everyone shocked I dared to even speak - and above all, it was something angry which no one really gets to see me as. Thankfully though, on the few times I’ve had words with annoying people, they changed their behaviour and haven’t annoyed me or others again. Shock treatment sadly works, and makes me actually feel proud of myself for being the one to have the guts to inspire some sort of change in someone.
the crying while expressing anger is so true, I have never been able to express my anger without crying
"they feel negative feelings are a waist of energy and time" this is true in my case so spot on i find myself struggling more and more to be around people who cant see "the bright side of life" i have one friend in particular i love her so much but when i have spend a lot of time with her i find myself having to recover mentally for days after...
Wouldn't an angry INPT be likely to think of a great revenge, calming down as it is played out in the mind and thus never putting it into practice?
sometimes, but then it resolves out quickly. there isnt a time to take in and ponder on it incessantly
I just did this exact sequence, hahaha INFP-T
yup crazy accurate
I am really like this before I got pregnant. But after pregnancy, I became a dinosaur INFP mom. hahahaha
So true in every way. PIss me off repeatedly and that soft outer side melts away to a solid unbreakable hard and harsh core.
I get annoyed easily
About what, is it usually about stupid deeds or about obvious solutions that the person ignore or maybe something else, more personal?
Idk why but when I get angry I either stay quiet or if it's just too much I don't yell whatsoever.. I just say something that would really.. Really hurt them. Then kinda regret it later.
I'd say that, for me personally, yes i do automatically prefer to see the best aspects of someone but i'm not in any way blind to their flaws as such. I just never bring it up depending on how genuine they are because i like to see them as a whole, with both their strengths and weaknesses, and i put a lot of value on the intention. But if i happen to burst in anger i can start listing every small mistake they've made in the last 10 years. I spend a lot of time examining everyone's attitude and flaws but i hardly share with anyone any thought I'm having on them. So my understanding of how they work and think can be surprising for some people who think that we aren't that interested in them due to our quiet nature and the fact that we don't feel the need to express our thoughts and ideas. And when i seek revenge on someone (which basically never happens), that makes it even more satisfying. It's like "of course i can see through you dude, i just have the decency not to bring it up every time you do something dumb or annoying". Only thing i didn't relate to in this vid is the crying while bursting out in anger. When that occurs i do tend more to laugh. Which can be confusing. When i reach my limits i don't even feel remorse afterwards, which always happens on small scale conflits. Anyway, just something that seemed interesting. The point is, don't think we INFPs forgive you instantly when you're annoying. We just like to refer to your overall attitude and look beyond the small stuff when it comes to "judging" you.
When I am truly angry (which has rarely happened),
I tend to cry out of frustration. I really despise feeling that way.
This is why I believe MBTI Personalities more than Zodiac signs because they're more accurate.
As a suspected INFP ,perhaps this is why it often seems to me Iike others get so easily and uneccesarily angered sometimes.
I am very sensitive-- when I'm mad, I always cry, and I hate it--
Very few people in my long life have seen me angry but if I am pushed to the point of rage.......RUN
Damn it...so true. I wouldn't say that I seldom feel angry but I very rarely allow myself to express it. What makes it more difficult in my case is the fact that my parents (ENFJ mother, ISTJ father) had difficulty understanding my emotions and intensity as a child and especially the less comfortable ones like anger or sadness. I realize that they meant well and I never had any doubts that my mother loved me (I did have some doubts about my father at one point in my life). However, they clearly didn't know how to to deal with my emotions -- in part because they were first-time parents. In hindsight, I realize that they probably just wanted me to be happy and perhaps thought that my anger or sadness meant they had failed me in some way (which would naturally be difficult for them)...but that wasn't how I perceived it at the time.
Whenever I became upset as a child, my father usually left the room -- I thought it meant he was disappointed in me -- whereas my mother would attempt to reason with me and talk me out of it as if I were a small adult and not a child. What I unconsciously took away from this, unfortunately, is that it's not good to be so emotional and sensitive and that feeling/showing anger and/or sadness in particular (since I do tend to cry when I'm angry) is also not good. This only made my anxiety worse -- I'm an HSP as well so I was practically born with anxiety -- and I became prone to depression. After all, if you believe that it's not good to feel angry or sad yet you still do...then you often end up feeling worse. For all the good it does me, I sometimes wish that other people could be a bit more sympathethic to my emotions instead of criticizing, judging, and ridiculing
Psychology is so interesting. I've never been this sure about myself until i found out about personality types. I am an infp, and finally i know that I'm not the only one like this.
When an INFP (now 65) I finally got it. Trust your gut and use boundaries to protect yourself. Good luck
Holding back or holding off until there’s a proper time & place for serious discussion has been, at times & by some, perceived negatively & been treated negatively - damned if you do damned if you don’t - at this point I’m learning to “Let Go & Let Life Be Their Teacher” bc if my character hasn’t shown up as solid & sincere “It’s Not Me, It’s You - someone’s gotta protect the heart & energy source of the mediator, healer, harmonizer, inspirer, seeker, valuer, dreamer, philosopher…. we barely have any space in this world as it is, & that’s not good enough, the world needs happy healthy INFP’s.. Value yourself, Accommodate yourself, Protect yourself, Love yourself 💯♥️ INFP/A
Okay so Im an INFP and I actually have a very explosive temper sometimes. Much like Zuko in Avatar the Last Airbender (if you know who that is). INFPs are VERY passionate people so to say we dont have tempers is kinda silly haha
Agreed. People need to stop treating NF types like mythological creatures. We are human, gosh darn it! The angriest person I know is an INFP. But she is also the gentlest. She can be both, because she is not a slave to her emotions.
Guys I'm starting to think our "explosive reactions" might only be explosive to us...
when i'm angry (which is very rare) i would either ignore/being quite & cut the person out of my life or just being angry that makes people scared
I clicked here because I don´t usually see this type of videos, it´s always like "infp when is sad" and "when infp is down" but never a "when infp feels anger" It´s so interesting and cute to see some different videos!
And not gonna lie,, I wasn´t expecting that this video were so relatable but inmediatly in the 1st point I thought "Oh, I actually do this" XD
Anywayys yes I´m an infp-t, thanks for the video, really liked it! And sorry for my english,,
Unethical injustices get me FIRED UP.. when someone defends it and backs and/or wants it law & hypothetical that makes me loose my sht & turn into someone most people regret troubling!!
That's exactly it ^^ it is very rare that i actually get seriously angry. I still remember two times, once in primary school when i was forced to sit next to someone i hated and who kept annoying me during class- i snapped and began hitting him in front of the class. Second time in middle school when i chased some people with a table (i was mocked a bit too much)... Each Time it only lasted a few minutes before i bursted into tears... It's very typical.
Such an accurate description!
An ESTP always bullied and annoyed me at work and if my anger pushed me to the limit I will break his Skull, it always takes time to plan every step.
- INFP
I came here because INFP are supposed to be the best type for me to be with. I ended up seeing a video of where me and my ex lived. At 0:22 that is Chateau de Duingt on the Lac D'Annecy in France.
As an INFP there's usually 2 reasons when I go quiet. As stated in the video getting angry or needing time to recharge myself, so I may stop responding completely for a time for people that I don't count into my innermost circle
Today I learned I am a very annoying person
I'm the quietest softest person you'll probably meet, I enjoy harmony and never start fights for the heck of it. I am sympathetic to people and always try to be in their shoes. The other day I was hurt really badly by a family member and was screaming and crying at them like I never have before. I even scared myself lol. My lines were crossed big time
I can’t believe a video talking about personality made me cry lol. You were very accurate.
As an INFP I am extremely passive-aggressive and when I am really mad, I'll just cry.
Love you bro, enjoyed your content. I am an INFP and you are absolutely true.
I'm an Infp. I love calm and peace so try my best to avoid situations or people who cud possibly destroy that. Since it is impossible to avoid them all the time in real life, I do get irritated and burned out. People misunderstand me all the time including my own family which hurts me. I stay quiet for most part even when someone insults me wrongfully, I don't speak up because that would destroy the peace and calm. But when people push me too much I do burst out. And when they push me to the farthest, that's when all hell breaks loose. I hate it and feel guilty even though it was too muoh for me. At such situations I want to run away from everything where I cud find peace. But since running away is not always possible, I recuperate alone in the room. I want to talk to my closest friends about it but sadly they don't take me seriously nor are willing to listen or understand so I don't share much. So I distract myself and calm myself to whatever takes my mind off of it. In my case I like to stop thinking about I , so I watch something on ithe nternet so my eyes and ears are occupied. If my mind is loud. I play music really loud and to divert my brain iplay some logic game so my brain has better work to do other than think about the painful event. So yeah, an angry infp is right here - me!
"Beware the fury of a patient man" - John Dryden
I just realized that INFPs is a sword personality because INFPs get emotional but the thing is INFPs don't like hurting people since they're afraid of their natural weapon which is the sword because it does harm. Basically if INFPs let the enemies get to their emotions then INFPs will unleashed their natural weapon out of anger with vengeance.
I've always imagined anger as a volcano. Different people tend to have different eruptive styles and the six styles of volcanic eruptions often fit in very well.
For me, I'm definitely pelean. A consistent and painfully slow build-up of massive pressure, triggered by a landslide moment, and i release literally everything until I collapse in on myself. Everything in my path burns in the blink of an eye.
I do get angry very fast and explode but immediately regret it.
Honestly, that is so me because I do end up regretting it if I could think properly. I try not to let the anger get too intense because lacking self-control can be a very bad thing in those situations.
I get angry and then after calming myself down I regret for being angry and wonder why I got angry
It’s not really hard to make us angry..we just don’t scream and shout like other people.
Lol jokes on you. I am infp and I am always angry and I don't particularly care about people and I am selfish.
Yeah like why do people think infp's are all like that. Im infp 8w9, strange combination, I know, and get angry very often and very easily and nope, I don't keep emotions in. It might be just my ennagram tho, but idk :P
I'm a 4w9, I absolutely do not hold back when I'm pissed lol
It's videos like this that make me doubt my type. I get angry often and quickly, and then it goes away just as fast. Whether or not I express my anger depends on a lot of factors, but more often than not, I do.