7 Things that INFPs Experience as Children
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INFPs are often dreamers from a very young age, finding it hard to stay focused sometimes. This can make being in school a bit challenging for them, since their minds cannot seem to remain focused in one place.
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Ditto no you're not the only one. TH-cam and internet it's a wonderful thing. We live in the age where you can sell teach yourself just about anything. Totally agree I also am pleased because it explains past things that didn't turn out so well that it actually wasn't my fault I am who I am it's a really also I have adult ADD and I'm an impact and
I'm an INFJ according to the Briggs Mires personality evaluation that's Based on the suicide colleges Charles Gustav Chung when the founding fathers of modern-day psychology of the late 19th and early 20th century. Along with being an Empath which I was already aware of but now that too explains things as well as the add that manifested from 10 year severely toxic relationship with a covert narcissist 👁️that's a bad mix. But unfortunately family Court does not recognize p a s syndrome AKA parent alienating syndrome. And they don't categorize people as a Narcissist. But when I try to explain my personality traits they set me up with a court appointed mental health expert that looks like she's just started and if this person was 30 years old I will be surprised. And me being 60 years old a youthful 60 and as I am saying things like well I have a personality known as infj personality type based on personality evaluation and she would think I had extra head growing thought I was making things out in other words just broken court system that hasn't even spoke to me set me up with the psychological evaluation because I'm quirky and I said no I've been diagnosed for years ago with adult ADD now I find out my personality right and since I can read and comprehend and really really smart I don't need to go to mental health professional to do self analysis because you know nobody knows you like you. Seriously a no-brainer you can take the Briggs Meyer online be honest with yourself and wham bam it's a broken system and I think my calling is to try to fix it or help with others that kill some calling to write the wrong do what they can for the betterment of all. I wish there was a club where I knew the members were of like personalities and keep my eye 👁️ ✴️🛸☄️👐 and hope there is one that I can join. Either everything's a miracle or nothing's a miracle.
Yes life is a miracle.
am i the only one who watches videos like these to feel good because these videos understand me more than the people around me?
No😔
True.. i would send INFP vids to a few friends becoz i want them to understand me but most of them have no interest in it🤣
Those are my words 🙃
Same
Same. It’s weird how accurate it is.
When I was 9 or something I dreamed to be an Artist but my parents and my teacher said, "Artists are broke." I didn't believe them but in the end I follow my parents's dream, to be a teacher. It's sad, sometimes I still feel nauseous before I enter the class. But that's okay.
From teaching, finally I saved some money and bought an iPad 1 year ago, I'm a freelance illustrator now. So happy
I'm so happy for you! It's something I've always struggled with too. I've been drawing my whole life, and as a kid always wanted to draw for a living. No one took me seriously, and I had a coworker in high school laugh at me when I told her my dream. She had never even seen any of my drawings. So now I'm paying the bills with a normal job. Last year I saved up enough to buy a new computer and tablet, and I've working hard at getting better in my spare time. Maybe one day I'll have the confidence to get paid for my drawings :)
❤️❤️❤️
Congrats! Also trying to be an artist here, currently suffering through grad school so that I can land a stable job before I chase my art dream. Rooting for you💕💕💕
It's great that You follow Your path! Great :-)
Aw that's so beautiful I'm so happy for you!! 🦋
as an INFP-T, when i was a kid - i cry when I'm happy, cry when I'm sad, cry when I'm angry, cry when I'm stressed, cry when my anxiety kicks in! i cry to everything 🤣🤣
When’s your birthday?
@@tsmith4023 feb 5 , 2003, last born, 4 sisters, dad died when i was 10, mum died when i was 13, and yeah I hardly cried now ever since!
I feel you - I am kinda similar (INPF-T, too) and also tend to cry easily. But I can only cry when I'm alone. If someone's there with me and maybe even tries to comfort me, I automatically freeze up and it's like having a robot in front of you. I get rid of all the sadness in that instance, just to let it out later when I'm alone
I'm not like this when I was young, I'm like this now
I was quite an active kid...I was introverted but I was also active...
INFP: Aw, you made me think about my childhood & made me cry!
Omg so true
My 14 year old daughter is an infp and I’m an intp. I try to keep her world fair without interfering to the point of hindering her development. Any advice ladies?
@@jaredwolfe4901 Yes. I realize that as an INTP, it might be difficult for you to understand your daughter's emotions and sensitivity because you're inclined to perceive them as irrational -- but to whatever extent you can, please make an effort to avoid passing any value judgments on her emotions and especially the more painful ones such as anger and sorrow. Put less effort into investigating WHY she might be feeling upset and more time into reassuring her that even though you might not understand what she's feeling and don't like seeing her upset, you can see that this is important to her and that is enough for you because you love her.
This is sonething I dearly wish my parents -- ISTJ father, ENFJ mother -- had been able to do for me. There was never any doubt in my mind that my mother loved me -- I did have some doubts about my father for several years -- and I realize in hindsight that they meant well and did the best they knew how based on their experiences up to that point (I was their first and only child)...but since neither one of them was very emotional, I think the intensity of my feelings made them uncomfortable or even maybe scared them a little and they didn't really know what to do with me. My mother's said in recent years that she had never intended me to think I had to suppress my feelings as she was encouraged to do as a child...but it's very difficult to teach your child anything you weren't taught yourself! As a child, when I cried because I felt hurt, my father would often leave the room -- I thought it meant that he was disappointed in me -- whereas my mother would usually attempt to talk/reason me out of it and encourage me to distract myself in some way. The conclusion I unfortunately drew from this was that there was something wrong with feeling angry or sad (even though neither of them ever said that in so many words).
@@OreadNYC thank you very much for your thoughtful response. It makes my stomach hurt thinking about how you must have felt. I hope I am able to avoid your parents’ inadvertent mistakes thanks to your advice.
@@OreadNYC istj would be a rough father to have I would think. I love istj, I understand why they come across like they do, but most people don’t and I feel bad for them.
I'm 22 now and still sit and daydream at work thinking about how things could be.
What is your job?
I have got a twin sister. She's an ENFP, and I'm an INFP, so there are similarities between our personality types. When were children we created a whole fantasy world with politics, war and economy, several kingdoms, unique laws etc, and it was amazing.
You were incredibly lucky :)
Whaaaaaaa im an infp and my older sibling is also an enfp! Seriously, we fight a lot, but become the best of buddies when we share our fantasies!
You should try writing a story in it together now as adults! I created a world for my story that got published in Swedish. Now translating it into English myself. Writing is such joy for us INFPs 😄
1) neglect, criticism --> often feel intensely, sensitive. Need to be accepted
2) imaginative, idealistic: daydream of future, want to experience something new
3) loving and affectionate, but need their own space.
4) need to feel independent. Room to make mistake, have the trust of the parents
5) sometimes hard to stay focus. Fantasy filled childhood. So completely distracted don't hear you
6) art and story is extremely personal. Often hesitant, because they pour heart into creation
7) struggle to fit in. But learn to be themselves
As an INFP I agree with all of them. Though I have always known when to stay focused on something, when I don't need to stay focused on something important I can indeed fantasise a lot. I also need a good reason to do something jn order to get motivated which makes school really hard. I just don't see the real purpose in it, ofcourse i know it's to get a job so I can buy food to stay alive and eventually die. But the thing is; I don't see the purpose in that. I just want to enjoy my live and not get a weird as job just to stay alive and then die you know? Well that was my INFP live story, have a great day byee
Create TH-cam videos, get monetized and develop an affiliate plan then once you start to make money online, you don't need that job. You are so creative so let your creative juices flow on videos. That is what I'm doing. keep being real.
Wow wow yes please nobody has put this in words for me before. I agree very much and I'd love to be able to talk to you about this, it feels incredibly alone with this specific feeling. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has pretended that they have a purpose for so long that they're able to believe in it themselves. I don't believe in the concept of money and work, I find the whole structure of world economy absolutely cuckoo and it's so infuriating that it exists and that I can't make myself fit within it. Anywhere I am, I don't feel like I'm fulfilling that specific purpose, and that causes a lot of self-doubt. But I know I'm fed this message of everyone needing a purpose from society. I just want a bookshop cafe and a cottagecore life man.
I feel that. School was especially hard because I have ADD. I had no motivation for school growing up because I saw the pointlessness of it all. I got crappy, passing grades doing the bare minimum because I knew, at the end of it all, I was going to get the same diploma/degree as all the try-hards in my class. I told my dad when I was 15 that I wanted to be a Game Designer. He looked disappointed and said "I always figured you for more of an engineer or something smart like that." He probably had no idea how that random statement affected my life decisions. But it did. I went to college for Computer Engineering and, after 6 long years and 3 changes in my major, I ended up with a degree in Game Design. However, the entire time college felt pointless. I had no motivation and no focus. And in the end, I was right. I now work in IT. All the schooling I did ended up yielding nothing. I got my job current based on my experience from the part-time job I had during college.
Now life is about doing the same crap every day to get money to buy food to live, until I die. Yay. I'm working on becoming a multi-millionaire now because I know maintaining a job my entire life is pointless if I just have money. I can budget the rest of my life. Make money until I reach a certain amount, and then live a simple lifestyle without having to work ever again. My goal is to get a lot of money, so I don't have to think about money.
I agree! I don't see the purpose of what I'm studying too but yeah I need a job..
You guys just speaking my thaughts
This is so accurate and (to me) so sad. My parents rejected, critized, diminished and destroyed me for all those qualities. They wanted a robust, loud, brutal boy, instead they got a sensitive, quiet dreamer. They could not see my qualities, although these strenghts were obvious, like e.g. my very high IQ. Many people liked me a lot, but my family could not value my personality. I´m over 40 now, but this wound will never heal.
I’m so sorry
I’m not very good at giving advice and I’m really sorry you had to go through this but I think this experience taught you that even if the closest people in your life could not accept who you are, you learnt to accept yourself nonetheless and you didn’t change for anyone. I really admire that.
From a fellow INFP 🙃
@@mentallyunstableram I agree with your sentiments. I went through similar things and I did change to suit them. To @Christopher Denner, I think accepting yourself and forgiving them is the path to your healing. You don't have to hang around them, but I have found forgiving my dad, sister and brother has helped me to heal a great deal.
@@ProductCreationFormula Thank you all for your compassion! Forgiving my parents is the most difficult thing for me, there was so much neglect, abandonment, malnutrition and psychoterror during my childhood. When I left home at age 19, I was physcially and mentally wrecked and it took me years to recover a bit. I don´t see them often nowadays, last time was 1.5 years ago, and call them rarely. They´re full of remorse today, as they always thought I was too weak for everything, but it turned out that today I´m the most successful person (career-wise) this entire family has even produced, although or perhaps because I´m an INFP. I think people always underestimate the INFPs dedication, willingness to suffer, and enormous endurance, which are traits that can make us very successful, but in our typical quiet way. I can proudly say I have never taken advantage of anyone, never needed any "connections" to succeed - my career achievements are fully based on hard work and dedication. Today my father is so proud of me, but all I have for him is disdain. And a deep depression due to my childhood that lacked almost everything a child needs.
ouch, the deep scar
So used to rejection, I just learn to accept it.
That isn't cool when that happens is it? I understand and feel for you.
Hey dear, be positive! 💕💕 I was rejected, exploited, tortured several times, pls dnt lose your spirit to grow. 🌱🌱🌱. You can be more amazing, you are amazing too.. in my family, only one person knows my feelings, you know that?! But I forgive them, and listen to their problems, we can't hate or intentionally hurt anyone 💕💕💕. But pls dnt stand torturing anymore 💕💕🌱🌱🌱. Love you.
@@rameshcppodcasts Thank you for such a nice message..God bless you and your family..❤️❤️❤️
@@rameshcppodcasts in your family only 1 person knows your feelings? That's enough to stop someone from breaking down and you should feel lucky! In my dysfunctional family, I was the scapegoat, and EVERYONE came to the party where I was the piñata. So yh, feel yourself lucky.
It can be overwhelming, I know and I'm sorry for all of you. I'm only here because I'm having one of those days.
You are loved and understood by me❤
We feel smothered if we can’t be sincere...
Yes 💕
Yeah i feel suffocating everytime I feel like im going against my standards
I've been told so many times that I'm too sensitive that now I just want to isolate myself and never open up to anyone again. I'm a 25 yr old and I feel so immature because I'm always daydreaming and crying. There is so much crying and I can't help it.
Awww❤️
hey there's nothing wrong with crying or going into ur mind a lot! I even cried watching this video haha. You don't have to keep ur emotions in, thats's rlly not healthy at all and I say that from experience . . . just cry when you feel like it. In my eyes, having the bravery to cry whenever you need to regardless of the situation, I'd say that makes you strong.
Only insensitive people are going to call others "too sensitive". There isn't anything wrong with your being sensitive, and accusations like this make a profound statement about the accuser.
Stay true to yourself.
We are incredibly melancholic.In order to grow you need to open up, be more sociable and extend your comfort zone. I say this with love as an older Infp whose life is much better now but not what I imagined because I went through a decade which delayed my emotional development even further. Don't say you can't help it, you can. If you cannot you need therapy. Honestly, getting out of comfort zone has improved my life significantly. If you need a friend, even an online one, I will be that person. I do work fulltime and have a long commute but will always respond when I can. Just please, prepare to be brave and have a much better life as a result.
@@antoinettenovella1630 can you be my friend? 😁
“They often feel like they don’t completely fit in” I’ve never fit in and have thought this since I was in the second grade
Whole video: relatable af
7/7
Honestly wish my family and so many other people I know could watch this so they could Finally understand.
@Britney Lawson Considered that.
That's why it's important in life to master your emotions.
I want to send this video to my parents at the same time afraid of their reaction and criticizm .....can relate?
as an INFP', specially infront of my parents i tend to act like i don't care and don't give a shit ,but when I'm by myself I'll cry wipe the tears off and put on a happy smile and be with people
when I was a child, I used to cry so hard every night hearing little kitten meowing because I was afraid their mom couldn't find them.
Yes, I was playful as a kid. I played around my dad all the time. Until he told me to stop since it was annoying. I dont even remember what I'd been doing, I do remember grabbing his arm for his attention, and that it was at his bedroom door. I never understood why it stuck with me either, as a kid, should,nt I have ignored or forgotten it, but, that was the last time I played around with him. Got a little brother later and he bacame my dads favourite son. I know because the little kid told me that he said so. He was like 4 so I wasn't mad. I had grown into a proper and silent INFP at this point in highschool and I withdrew form him since that day and even more in highschool so I guess I could understand my dad, but, those words still felt like a brick to the face. An INFP is a mixed hotpot of emotions behind a mask whatever we are expected to show at the time. An INFP is everyone elses soundboard with seemingly few being available to hear us out. An INFP has an endless storyline playing out behind their eyelids. An INFP can geek out and talk endlessly if you can convince them that you have an actual interest in something they are into. However, if you brush off something that an INFP is into, especially if you asked, one of two scenarios will play out. If you arent someone they are close to, the INFP will drop it, laugh and never bring it up again, ever. If you are someone they are close to, then it'll hurt. It might hurt even more depending on how important the topic is to them as well as how you show it.
I enjoyed reading your comment. Good writing and I can relate as I'm INFP.
When I was growing up everyone use to call me a crybaby and now everyone says I’m too sensitive IM LIKE I CANT HELP IT trust me I’ve googled how not to cry and how not to let things get to you
Compromise? Never. I have always been myself. As a child, usually friendless because of that, but always myself.
I've never had good friends as a kid only one or two friends...and I'm that way now as well...I can't get close to only one person...
Same
Isn't that nice when you're not FORCED to compromise, I imagine. Feel yourself lucky.
0:42 This had only stopped when I took online class and slowed during year 7:
I cried for no reason everytime a teacher gave criticism told me to write faster etc. I didn’t know why I was crying because personally I didn’t want to care that much, like, I literally write super slow but apparently my eyes love to make it rain and even when I try to hide it, somehow people always seem to know I’m crying and soon the whole class is just like why are you crying? Don’t cry it’s just a small thing and I’m here unable to answer because I dont even know why I cried either and it doesn’t stop even when I want it to.
I still cry when I argue.
Bud, you're not alone! This one time I didn't finish my art homework because I forgot (lol), teacher asked me nicely why I didn't finish it that time (I always finish my art homework and always get praised for it), and I suddenly have tears rolling down my cheeks when I could've just gave the common response, "I forgot, I'll finish it and pass it up tomorrow". I think it was because I suddenly felt this big wave of emotions, how I think of myself as a failure and disappointment in the teacher's eyes at that moment. My teacher let me calm down silently in class luckily.
But obviously I actually don't make a big deal about it after calming down. I know it's nothing much to even cry about, but it's that big wave of emotions hit and my imagination goes wild, I can't control my tears.
Me too, all the times with the teary eyes lol
Honestly same, I'm really slow at writing and whenever someone points it out like my friends or teachers i feel so embarrassed but i can't just suddenly write faster, once i even made the whole class wait for me because i was copying so slow and because everyone was stareing at me and i even trembled a bit and almost cried, after that my notes were unreadable and i had to copy them all over again,, i really need tips on how to write faster... I'm such a crybaby ಥ‿ಥ
@@kimkimi8094
Maybe u can try writing with a timer .
That is all so very true. I remember as a kid I would sit and play by myself for hours and my older brother would laugh at me and say "are you talking to yourself again? You know that is a sign of insanity right?" He was 7 years older than me and when you're only 7 a 14 year old boy looks like an adult to you, so you take him seriously. I know I was always talking to myself and playing by myself, not going out to play with other kids, but having a ball with my action figures and my toy cars. My brother called them dolls and called me a sissy and teased me constantly. My father and brother and sister were very much alike. So I copped it all around. My mum was my best friend and my saving grace. Excellent video by the way.
Same man, same
I'm currently 16, and my older brother likes to expose my daydreaming as "insanity" to my mother, and she on-and-off believes it. She'd sometimes ask me if I'm hearing things, and has a hard time believing me when I say I am not. I am not insane when imagining that I'm dancing on a stage while alone in the kitchen. I am not insane when I compliment myself in the mirror as a playful joke. I am not insane when moving items around whenever I am anxious. It always bothers me when I am called out for it, and misunderstood by my older brother with the fragile masculinity, or my mother who is very openly a transphobe. We all have "flaws" and such, just let me be. Never do I judge you guys and your current issues. If anything, I'd be glad to help you out with them.
Glad you had your mother as a saving grace. She may have suffered trauma as well by having a husband, son and sister that were callous and far from self-aware.
@@antoinettenovella1630 You are probably right.
As a child I was able to do lucid Dreams ~
I'm INFP and as a kid, despite all the things said in the video, I was also quite rebellious. I've never acknowledged it until now and I've never really said it but there were a lot of "rebellious" moments. Like, for example, at school when we had an arts class our teacher told us to color the flowers orange and the whole class agreed, well, except me. I decided that they should be pink. My teacher wasn't too happy about it as she'd wanted us to learn that there are certain rules we have to follow and so on. But I didn't care and I was even proud of it because I'd done the task my way. There were a lot of moments like this. Also, I've never really understood why everyone has to, for example, stand/sit at certain places, I mean I didn't understand why everyone's assigned their own places to be.
I'm also INFP and have a strong, rebellious personality. I was a very good, quiet girl, but stubborn and had my moments in which I had the urge to do my own thing, no matter what. I think it's a normal side of someone who needs to express and needs space and freedom, yet it's being told what to do for reasons not understood.
Haha love that! I remember I got in trouble for something similar in art class when I was in elementary school. You’re not alone!
INFP here also. I was 11-12 and we were asked to paint a waterfall. Most of the kids painted a generic frontal view. I was the only one with a long flowing river. Connected by not 1 but 3 waterfalls, and a bridge.
INFP W/ADHD. I always tell people I’m a great rental but you sure as hell don’t want to buy me. It sucks.
omfg I'm using this now LMAO
Any other INFP who cried while watching this? I just felt this so much. 7/7 were accurate for me. While my dad understood me and was always gentle with me, my mom never understood me (and she still doesn't most of the time). She'd yell at me and pull my hair for all sorts of things (despite how calm I was and how very rarely I'd cause trouble) and make me cry then yell at me again for crying. Somehow, this wound never healed and now I can't cry or allow myself to be vulnerable in front of anyone. The worst thing is when I remind mom she gets angry at me and guilt trips me saying "oh, you had the worst mom ever, didn't you? It's like I'm your evil step mom." Like, seriously, when I was an adolescent I often wished she'd just die and every time I wished that I'd feel really bad and cry myself to sleep.
Gosh I'm so sorry u went through that. As an INFP (who also cried with this) with an ENTJ dad and an INTJ mother I get how misundesrtood u must've felt. My parents have never been physical with me to the point of yanking my hair but their words (most of the time my mother's, not really my dad) rlly hurt. She thinks I have to be this emotionless, responsible person that always does everything perfectly in order to succeed, because that's been their goal throughout their lifes, xNTJs always strive to be the best or for success when in reality, i just wanna follow my passion and be who I am, and if that means I'm a little sensitive crybaby, who is "irresponsible" at school (I can't stay focused fml), and can't stay in the real world for more than 10 minutes then so be it. As hard as it may be to accept, you really don't need your mother's approval, I know that me and everyone in the comment section can tell you that you're doing great and that you're doing your best! Just keep going, there's gonna be countless ppl out there who will understand and accept u!
My mom abused me a lot but I let it go now because she had a mental illness. She caused a lot of damage to my heart and called me degrading names and did some bad stuff to me.
This made me cry...I am 14 and this is literally my life.
I Can not explain how much I want to show this to my parents but being me or INFP I just can't. I am not sure why but I just cannot no matter how much I want to.
Idk anything. Anymore.
You are so lucky that you typed yourself so early. I'm 20 now and if I knew I was INFP at 14 years old, life would be so much easier. Instead I always tried to fit into my family of thinkers and I felt so inferior and less valuable because I knew I am not like them, I can't do things just because they are logical or practical, if they don't serve any purpose to me emotionally, I simply can't do it.
My advice would be to use the knowledge of your type to understand yourself and the way the world around you is. Research about other types. Try to define your parents' types. When you categorize everyone, you will feel much more secure. I'm speaking from my experience, since I always felt confused with why no one understands me on the same level I understand everyone around me (deep emotional way). When you find out that for example your mom is ISTJ, when she wants to put you in a box, you will be able to tell to yourself - "aaah, yes. that's very ISTJ of her." Believe me, this helps a lot! You will no longer be a confused little bundle of emotions. :D
It's always much more beautiful to have someone else understand you, but for us INFPs, its better to find a way to understand everyone else. We are very much capable of it, with all that empathy we possess. And this is a good way to use your empathy as your strength.
And in true INFP fashion, I will be always answering in this comment section when a notification pops up, so if you need anyone to talk to, feel free to write to me here :)
Have a nice day and continue pursuing your passions cause I know you are full of them!
@@minanikolic1456 Thank you so much for taking the time to re ply to my comment, it means alot to me. And I agree with all that you said, I do consider myself lucky in such terms that I am aware of my identity and personality at a young age. 1 reason for it is because I have always been very keen to know who I truly am, and why do different, to know where I stand amongst ather people because I'm sure not with them. So I desperately kept searching for answer to this question, introvert and extrovert were too broad, I wasn't just an introvert, I was so much more than that, so much different than any introvert or person I've ever stumbled upon. I was the weirdest. But I kept searching and then found these MBTI types and found myself in the exact alignment with INFP, I knew it before even giving any kind of test or quiz. It was me. And still I took one test after and ofcourse I was INFP. I was happy, more than ever to find out that even just lesser percentage but like minded people like me do exist and that I am not weird, I am unique. It was one of the best things. And YES my mom IS an ESTJ just my complete opposite, but I can cope better with it now. I don't know about my dad he is kinda reserved, he doesn't know that side of me either so it doest really bother meas much. Thanks once again for caring to write. I am sure I will come back here and talk again. Till then see you. 🖤✨
r/iam14andthisisdeep
Sorry i had to
Looking back the early years were baffling, bewildering, & confusing, interspersed with periods of awe & wonderment, and years later little has changed.
I don't know about other INFPs, but when I was young I didn't daydream about how the world should be all that often. But I DID imagine myself turning into a fairy and impressing my crush LOL all the time! Usually for a couple hours before I fell asleep, and sometimes during the day, especially when I was supposed to be doing homework I'd catch myself staring at a wall for half an hour daydreaming instead of working...
NUMBER 7 IS ALREADY GETS ME. My mom always says that whenever my family having a chat and makes some jokes, i always take it seriously, and she thinks i was being too sensitive. I AM SENSITIVE MOM, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!
Lol
Omg, the way my childhood was the opposite of what it was supposed to be, *now everything makes sense*
We are all born unique
The problem is
Some people are
doing their best
to become
SOMEONE ELSE
instead of doing their best to become
the BEST VERSION OF THEIR OWN SELVES...
-John Russel
Recalls transitioning from Montessori school to public school and always letting everyone else go first in line... Being teased by my family for preferring to read than be part of a party, yet loving being able to absorb the surroundings of a big family gathering.... daydreaming for hours on my own. ❤️
As a kid parties traumatised me so I totally get it.
I am currently 18 years old and all that's been said are completely accurate!! Maybe I am still a child 😯🤷♀️. I still need to grow and mature more. Expand my comfort zone.
The point is, the inner child inside of you is never going to grow old, and as long as you don't abandon it, is going to be within you for your entire life.
This doesn't have anything to do with being immature, though, but it's the innocence of this inner child that can bring you comfort even during dark times, and even though things are bleak on the outside, just turn to the light on your inside.
I'm 48 now (soon to turn 49), but this inner child is still present.
@@Robidu1973 that’s true
@@Robidu1973 yep. We shall cherish our inner child self, since you can’t turn your backs anymore just to become a child again.
I thought everyone thought and felt as I did, but I found I was always different. I felt like I was living in an alternate world that was invisible to others. I lost myself in a world that I just could not navigate well. After several careers and a bad marriage, I finally found a career where my INFP personality could feel at home. I am very happily married now to an ENFP, and have been a professional counselor for 18 years. I am a follower of Jesus, and this has given my life a depth and richness I never could have imagined, even in my INFP imagination.
Jesus is amazing! God will make a way and is the only one who can truly fulfill you.
@@aurograce2983 I agree, I've been a follower of Jesus since I came to faith in Him 52 years ago!
I'm no longer a follower of Jesus as per se. But I remember that feeling, you feel you have a purpose. Don't let go of the faith, but never despise your judgement and intuition either.
All this was completely true for me. One of my greatest struggles as a child in the 60 was with "rules for the sake of rules," rules that were unkind, unjust or that seemed to exist for no purpose except as a meaningless show of authority. I could sit still if I was writing, reading a good book or making art, but unfortunately, at the time speed reading or going through a series of soulless reading "packets" tended to be the norm, and for me speed reading was like speed eating, because books were meant to be savored and pondered over, not rushed through to determine the bare gist of the story.
I've always said one of my parents' best qualities was that they never gave me a rule without a reason for it. I've only recently found out this is an INFP thing, but I always knew it was important to me. For example, my father explained that the reason I had to tell him what direction I was planning to set off in when I went on my "adventures" was so he would know where to look if I got lost and didn't come home. Soon after he explained that, my brother and sister and I did get lost on a walk and just as I was starting to be deeply afraid, Dad pulled up in the car, not angry that we were hours later than we were supposed to be, but just glad to have found us. "Get in," he said, "Tea's ready."
100% relatable! Not just to an infp kid but also to an infp adult.
We are often described as old souls with child like demeanours. We have the ability to be both.
While this video is focused on INFP children, as an adult INFP north of 50 I can attest that all of this still applies.
I relate to this soooo much. I’m 15 now (infp and an hsp) and I feel the same. I want to share my emotional side with my family and close friends but I just can’t. They know my happy cheerful side but they have no idea about my vulnerable side. I indirectly tried telling them that “do you know mbti personalities” “I’m an infp…..what are you” “do you know what being an hsp means” “what do you think about people who are hsp”. I expected them to take some interest in it and search about it… but no one did. I never cry in front of anyone. They think that I’m the type of person who doesn’t cry easily but in reality I cry soooo easily, it’s just that I can control my tears for some time.I only cry when I’m alone and if I want to cry then I go to a place where I can be alone. I don’t like bottling up my emotions so I make sure to realise them but only when I’m alone.
I like people but I want to connect with them first. I don’t like making friends just for the sake of making friends.. it feels meaningless.
So I have a small group of good close friends. My parents are worried for me becoz of this (being introverted). Did this happen with you all in your childhood or now?
Iam also an (Infp and HSP)person and sometimes I find it hard to explain myself😅
I spent about a year of my childhood as an infp believing that I have superpowers (I literally got into meditating and stuff thinking that it will help me control it) and thought that one day I'll find someone with powers like mine and we will basically live a storybook together
I love this and you
this reminded me when I heard that my closest friend said I was "too emotional and sensitive" I remember I felt so bad and completely shut me down. It hurted even more not being myself than her comment, now, I learned to accept who I am and I'm much happier about myself
The irony of the video mentioning the INFP's tendency to struggle with staying focused on one thing. I've been watching this video in chunks because I keep pausing to do other things.
When I was a kid, all I remember was when I cried or when I play/read alone or when we're having trips. I would lock myself in our room since they like teasing the child me. I would slide notes under the door saying no one loves me, no one cares, I'm adopted aren't I, I'm a useless child of yours, etc. and when I think abt it, it's just sad. When I noticed that as a young child, I hated how toxic I got treated. Whenever they would tease or scare me, I would cry, or show emotion that they want to get from me, I knew it gives them the satisfaction, so I just do it to give them that. (My declamation practice paid off 😂)
The insults that I've heard when I was still a child made me the most insecure bijj that I am today
when I was 7 years old.... whenever I see someone crying I felt terrible and worried... and i didnt want anyone to feel like that so I tried to hide my tears as hard as I can.. It all worked until 5th grade.... when my teacher asked me how I was so confident in acting my role... from then on I became a teary mess as I had to lie to my teacher, and now the greatest ways to express these feelings are doing art and writing..... and now I'm really sensitive and the slightest thing would make me cry
I'm an INFP and I agree with everything you said. It was very accurate and now I'm crying because nobody have ever understand me in this specific point, THANK U
I was definitely sensitive. When I look back on my memories I don't necessarily see a childhood with lots of light and happiness i mean i see that too but things i remember most are the things i was scared of. I was terrified of people that wore glasses, if i saw it i would freak out and start crying. I also was scared of the sand, i didn't want to touch it or the same thing, i would cry. I was scared of people i was unfamiliar to aswell. Like if one of my dad's friends came over i would cry, It scared me. My dad's friend was nice and even handed me candy but it just melted in my hand as i cried. I was also terrified of the rubber chicken at my uncle's. I hated the way it sounds, i still hate it. It disturbs me to this day and i hope i never see it again, i was also scared of loud noises. I know basically every child was scared of the tolite flushing and so was i. I would even wait until the end of the day at school to use the toilet at home up untill second grade. of course i was a very shy kid aswell, hiding behind my mom. I think i was pretty imaginative aswell. I know a lot of kids in elementary school were like this but i was very different from other kids, the way i did things, people didn't get it. I wanted to make friends but no one wanted to. Its actually pretty strange that i say that because nowadays i don't have any desire for friendship, i feel like people are very different from me anyways and most people don't really understand me it feels. i connect better with my own family. coming back to my early childhood, i once woke up with "night terrors" my sister said i was screaming but i didn't remember any of it. If i slept in my parents bed i would always have this nightmare of a red car running me over. I'm not sure if four year olds typically have dreams like those but i know i did. But besides all that i was generally a very sensitive person as young child. Even now i am but it's not as intense. I would describe the way I felt things during my early childhood as way more amplified. But now i feel like I see the world through the lenses of a human that's had more experience on this earth. Anyways, yeah that's how I describe my childhood. ( And by the way, i wasn't like this because of anyone. My mom and dad are very warm and loving people. It was just the way i was.)
As a 4 year old I had dreams for example that I died and became a skeleton but still walking and unable to pass away. Or that I just broke into 2 halfs (upper and bottom) and tried to stick them together again with a scarf so mom wouldn't notice....
Am I the only one to cry in 1 sec after the video started........feels like this video understands me more than anyone in this world....😭
Also, if people are telling you something and you, as an INFP, don't react immediately (guess what: We actually need time to properly process the request, and processing won't start until we have received the entire request), you are quickly labeled to be dim-witted, dorky, or whatever else people tend to come up with.
Then they wonder why we are shutting down, and once that happens, people tend to shame us for being "too sensitive".
Athough it hurts at first, it nonetheless is absolutely revealing.
Also, if people are chaffing you about something that they perceive to be odd about you (like being perceived to be too slow/clumsy/incompetent/whatever), they quickly get miffed once you turn the tables on them and do the same about something that you have noticed about _them_ . Hypocrisy, anyone?
Being able to completely relate feels like if others could understand the same thing then it would be great...
As a child ( I am a teen now) I used to cry a lot when people hurted me but at the same time I was very agreesive with teachers and would rebel. Other students seeing me rebel kinda bullied me more.. I don't like my classmates or friends that much and I think I need to accept the fact that humans are a little more flawed than I think they are. Being the most sensitive type it's bound for us to find people who are insensitive especially when being edgy is now the new norm. It could me a great deal to love myself because my parents were abusive back then and also I was tremendously hated by everyone at school. I end up being a maladaptive daydreamer instead and retreat into my own world. My own world has always given me a lot of happiness than anything else.
I don’t know what I am anymore but I do know that I was punished for crying
Thanks for posting this - my family have so misunderstood me - it’s nice to find a’home’ with other infps 💖
I forced myself to forget about my childhood so I don’t remember really anything off the top of my head, it has to come to me randomly.
I never had trouble sitting still in school as a child. Going back to school as an adult, that's a different story. I struggle SO much. Also: as a child I can't remember not fitting in. I had a lot of friends. I've encountered this problem later on. Tried to be something I'm not. I let go of that resently, and feel much happier. I still miss having a few close friends though... Good video. I believe my daughter is infp too... She definitely has that Fi going on!
Very accurate and it puts into a new perspective my boring childhood without enough stimulus, where expression, enjoyment and feelings in general were not well looked upon; plus my repressive and overprotective parents who wouldn't let me be myself nor fit in with the world as I had to be superior to everyone else; plus having a genius older brother who's example I felt forced to match in order to please my parents; etc, etc, etc. No wonder I was always stressed, no self-esteem, often upset and 'managed' by my parents like a thing as they wouldn't listen or try to understand my feelings, and I became increasingly uncommunicative. Like a snowball, it all started to get out of hand as I started to rebel as a teenager and receiving abuse for it, until I was completely broken inside and attempted suicide to free myself from such suffocation at age 19. My life never got any better and God knows exactly when I started suffering from C-PTSD. I've always known I'm very deeply sensitive, but now I know I'm an INFP, I can comprehend even more how all the abuse I received affected me so deeply! Thx for the video, it helps me understand myself better.
I really appreciate that this video has beautiful footage of nature rather than silly stock footage of people like so many other videos.
I'm a person who wouldn't show anyone my drawings, not even people I trust.Becuase since I have. as sister that also draws, I compare my own drawings to her and I feel like her drawings are way better Than mine.On time, my mom was going through my sketch book.And then she came across a drawing that I was super embarrassed about, so I screamed and ask her to stop looking through it.But she continued anyway.I started screaming and crying and my father told me," You're so sensitive, it's just some drawings"I was immediately quite after that, and I just kept silent He never even asked me if I have anything I struggle with.He just continued to watch football..For them to just say that is something I hate, and I also like a Kpop band, they really helped me with myself and I am extremely grateful but my mom says things like" don't judge people on their looks" and then proceeds to tell me they all look like girls and that they are fake, in which I got really angry about, but I kept it in.They just insult thing that are extremely important to me and then they ask what did I do wrong?They compare me to my older sibling an sometimes I don't understand my older sibling myself.I dream to be a mangaka (a manga comic artist) but my mom wants me to be. a lawyer and she goes on and on about how artist won't make it, which I hate.I'm 12 now and I still fell ashamed to show my drawings to anyone.
Me trying not to cry cuz I’m in public 💔🙂
One of the reasons why I didn’t remember book titles or authors when I was a kid... I just read all the freaking time
Yep and yup…blessing or curse I’m not sure. What shocks me is how people seem so unaware of their own feelings and they see your emotional awareness as freaky.
Wow, this is so relatable. 7/7 accurate. One thing I am really grateful for is my parents and family accept me as someone with high imagination when I was a kid. Still, there are times that I feel really unsatisfied like being ignore when I was sad because they think I am just over sensitive. Of course that was when I was a kid. As I grew up (21 now) I learn to hide my true emotion and very rarely show others my true feelings. And even they accept it when I was a kid, my family starts to think I am to imaginative as a grown up now. So, I now rarely tell all my imagination to them. I try to understand that everyone have their own struggle and that also make me fell better. Point No 1 also very relatable. Being myself. I struggle greatly during the transition of trying to accepting myself and to learns that it is ok to be myself and stop thinking about what others think of me. Still struggling with that, but I can manage it better now than during my high school.
I wish the best for all INFP out there.
this made me cry.
Just reading the comments and thinking about it makes me sad. I loved being by myself and creating imaginery friends as a child. I love music and art and creating. I'm 26 now and I'm in a band and I work as a graphic artist, and still to this day I create ongoing stories in my head and interact with the characters. As a child I was always unfocused and doing what I felt like which I remember I had to see a psychiatrist, though I can't remember what for. I don't think of myself as an emotional INFP but as a child I was always crying aha, I remember the kids used to make fun of me because I would be crying for some reason but I had completely forgotten about that until now...
INFP struggle to conform. My respone was to act INFJ for cover.
this video gave me an idea And I am gonna embarrass myself for doing it But Yolo xD nice video can confirm all things said
Wait what are you up to?
I have long chucked my rose coloured glasses into the bin. Life has jaded me too much
*starts to understand what led to my mental disorders* 🤣
when I'm still a child, I love imagining fantasy stories in spare times until now
The more I learn about my personality the more puzzle pieces are coming together....if that makes sense. I always felt like something was wrong with me. My parents did their best, but there were times they could have handled me better. I struggled with being angry, a lot. Still do. As a kid I got scoldd alot for my temper "Holly stop it!!". I wish someone had taken the time to be patient with me, held me, and talked to me about what I was angry at and help me work through the anger instead of just telling me to make it stop. As a parent I try to do better with my kids, but I cringe sometimes thinking "am I doing or saying things to my kids that are harmful?" I think we all do our best, hopefully anyway. I know my mom found me challenging, she has said my husband was good for me, like I needed someone special. Guess she isn't wrong, but still rubs me the wrong way. Also I never felt listened to.
So accurate. I wish the world was kinder to us. I find it comforting though reading trough these comments and watching these video. It helps me to feel like there are others out there that understand me, a community.
God I just got called out. I got into a pretty bad argument with my family one time where they were upset at me for not taking their advice. I understand they took it as me not valuing or respecting their input. That wasn't the case, obvs. I just remember a very specific moment I had after that argument where I was getting my feelings out and im pretty sure i screamed, "if I'm making a mistake, just let me make my own mistakes." As i was walking down some empty road. Like That was what I was the most upset about at the time. I think I just want to be trusted to be able to handle my own shit and have the room to ask for help if I need it. Otherwise I feel like people just don't think I can handle everything myself. Now, I started to realize that people don't always do shit out of thinking you're incompetent, though some do, people just wanna help. I'm still figuring out how to interpret the difference between wanting to help vs. Assuming incompetence, but, y'know! Growth. But yeah, just to validate you on how right you are. Point 5 really punched me in the fucking face lmao
For I wasn’t known as sensitive but I used to live in my imagination and daydreaming lol
Also my family always told me that I wasn’t a child who’s hard to deal with
4:17 in 5thgrade, I had a song stuck in my head, and we were all sitting on the carpet. I started hoping my head, and a couple minutes later the teacher is calling my name and everybody is staring at me. Yep.
Oh shoots. My emotions were stifled. I chopped them off went through a heartless I don't care and I don't need phase phase while I was a teen. My parents were very morally flawed and critical and loved conditionally (I wouldn't love you if you're not biologically mine)... who tells that to a teenager.
That was so amazingly accurate it was crazy. Have to play this for my boyfriend 😁
As an INFP child, I used to have two imaginary friends, bunch of elfs living in my bathroom which I talked to, then each bathtime I was a Siren or a Golden Fish, I very often imagined I could fly - whenever I went - by foot, by bike, by car, I always imagined I was flying in the air there. I imagined how the world would be if there was less gravity. I imagined the time in certain way which I still kinda use to orient myself in months/events. As soon as I could read, I would read A LOT of fantasy books. In my primary school I started to write one myself, I had imagined entire plot, kingdoms, races of creatures etc but never really sat down to write it all down - only few first chapters. I also wrote poetry since I basically could write.
Even later on, in high school, I was keeping a diary which was in the form of me talking to imaginary character which I imagined in my free time anywhere I was. My entire childhood I just loved being in nature pretending I was an elf (even started to learn some elvish!) or sitting in the back seat at a car when my mom/dad drove somewhere, watching landscapes, and lights and colors on the way, dreaming away. Even now, probably best way to relax for me is to go for a walk alone and get lost in my head. I remember once I was plying that kind of game with my friend - where we were supposed to share to each other two weird thoughts we had each day. When I told him my weird thought was that I saw a river and I imagined there's river lady sleeping there and the waving plants under the water was her hair, he was like 😳
So, yeah. Cheers, everyone. :)
I am an INFP who loves writing but never got a chance to publish a novel. Before when I was a teenager, I used to write in a notebook in my spare time. My mother once got mad at me because I got tons of notebooks that I bought. She told me that writing is just a waste of time. That I could not benefit from it. That it has no value. It actually left a scar in my heart. I felt like my confidence in that particular area has been shattered. Although I am still into writing today, my enthusiasm as a teenager never returned. I would write a few chapters but then I couldn't finish them because of the fear that I am not good enough.
In the 4th reason of pleasing parents that is so true "please their parents" sadly my parents are never satisfied with anything. So i wondering if other INFPs had the same devastating results of parents being disappointed even when you accomplished something your proud of. Cause it really affected me negatively
I have been watching your channel for a while now and I can't say how thankful I am for it. It's so sweet to know how I've felt since forever into words and know others are like me as well. Thank you so much, you are a blessing.
Thank you!
When I was very little I was an ENFJ now I’m INFP
I wish my parents had watched this before bringing me up.
It's hard for me to focus on watching coz my mind went down to memory lane. Lol
Looking back, I now remember I love to draw and started writing poems in high school. I didn't reminisced that much because my childhood wasn't really that exciting and full of sunshines. I grew up building walls around me, away from childhood nightmares. An infp with trust issue here. I probably won't allow men to be in my life ever again. But truly I'm happier in my own little world of imagination.
Yeah, this infp was there for my parents when they were sick and old.... My brothers and sister who were organized and focused when we were kids sure weren't there for them when they needed them. But, even tho the rejection never healed, i was there and did my best for my folks till the end.
Wow. It’s disconcerting how much I relate to this. I only wish I knew about being an INFP at a much younger age.
Jeez wish I would've found this as a kid. I always felt strange and alone. I guess tons of people are like me
Can an INFP come from a healthy and supportive family?
Yes. I did. I had parents who celebrated my creativity, respected my need for solitude and understood that the reason for rules needed to be explained. My mother has passed on now, but I am now 50 and my father still constantly tells me how proud he is of my creativity and idealism. School was less kind to me and the bullying I suffered there has ruined my life, but home was always a safe and loving place where I was understood.
yes
@@helenwood8482 I'm the opposite, home feels less like home to me, because whenever I got problems and try to open up (as a kid), my mother would just straight up say "that's your problem!" and neglect me. So then I learnt to bottle up my thoughts and emotions, I could either only write in my journal or talk about it to strangers on the Internet if I'm at "home".
My friends at school are quite wonderful people though, I never got bullied even though I was the short, chubby and ugly kid in class. (I got healthier weight now tho ^^) We chat in class about almost everything, and that makes them understand me even more than my family.
My best friend is the one who knows me the most, we pour our thoughts out on each other, we always take turns to listen each others' problems. And I'm really grateful to have a friend like her.
yeah they can. Although my parents have never really understood and have often called me stuff like "dramatic" due to my sensitivity, or that I don't care about the real world due to my daydreaming, their toxic traits stop there. They have always been really supportive of my dreams and my creativity. I think I'm kind of in the middle between having a toxic (emotionally speaking) family and a healthy one, but either way, I don't think families are the core of your personality.
@@aiti1028 okay. an I say I relate to this cause my mother doesn't understand me emotionally wise even growing up she did I appreciate her and my my sister but man when someone just doesn't understand you shit sucks I was told several times "why are you crying I should be the one crying but you don't see me crying" and shit like that so I feel you and it's not like I can stop the tears either tbh they just go by itself 😔
I wonder if there is a correlation between the INFP type and ADHD?
been wondering the same thing tbh I have ADD though and don't worry I did get tested when I was younger but I was thinking about this as well tbh :0
For real
I relate to this all 😢🤗
I think the pandemic intensified my INFP qualities...thanks for the video now I feel validated
Oh! Its similar to infj.. This was my childhood so i basically changed frm an infp to infj.. Woow
Thanks mom and dad :(
Gratefulness Beautiful Joyfulness Magical Awareness ✨ 💛 Magical Miracles Beautiful Divine Beings ✨
My imagination is so accurate that it scares me
looking forward to that self-acceptance, whenever the f its finally due -_-
You have to drive it yourself. Some pointers as an older infp where I learnt the hard way that the vehicle of self-acceptance can be steered rather than apathetically obtained, is self-awareness. Know what you are good at, know your weaknesses and the grey matter in between and work out what self-acceptance looks like to you. If you get it wrong you can always tweak it. For example you may incorrectly forecast that you would accept yourself if you found success in a certain job but once obtained find it brings you no added value in the self-acceptance stakes. You tweak it. You work at it. We tend to be quite good at self-analysis but are also incredibly self-critical. Ask yourself - what would a self-accepting version of me encompass which I lack now?
I remember when growing up my whole family called me crazy, I don’t know why but what I do know I used to play a lot by myself and talk a lot to myself. Very creative. I was the middle child where my oldest was 5 years difference and my brother was 4 years apart. It was impossible to always play with either. That’s in the past that sometimes I remember.🤷🏻♀️
in short. twitter is not for us infps lol
Guys we are incredible=)
I can't tell how accurate this is like no.3 is literally me I wondered if anyone was same like me who daydream like crazy,my parents and friends sometimes can me deaf becoz I don't really hear when they call me even we are in same room becoz I am just lost in my whole world
There is this one time where my parent ask my teacher to separate me from my bestfriend just because we love to imagining things while making comics.. but i still sit beside her eitherway..😃