They definitely need to go to jail be charged for lying and putting stress on your mental health as well as you should get your child full time custody and be reimbursed for everything they have done people don’t actually know how much of a toll this takes on some of us parents the harshest punishment should be served to them to think again about making false allegations and lying
A pointless question…women are never at fault…didn’t you know that?!?! Im a man with cptsd so no I am not being abused by a covert narcissistic wife…cos that’s just a myth to the law and society
you are very right, cafcass are awful, so is family court. they are paperwork oriented not child. Cafcass needs to be investigated by independent company. They lie and then the courts believe them. Total sadness for the child.
@@diannethebutterflyeffect2225 they are not fit for purpose as they dont hold any qualifications...says things like "he said the right sort of things" whilst ticking a box on their form...in my case the fact my kids dad didnt do the court ordered perp programme the first time he was told to wasnt checked. He said he did it but was too pissed to get anything out of it
What’s funny is that these traits are exactly what my twin sister has in her personality, except she is the lying accuser in our case. What a messed up world we live in that we have to deal with this.
@@sammylaib1319 Mine got caught. She made a mockery of genuinely abused woman. Parental alienation PROVEN, she got legal aid on the strength of a load of lies that were dismissed as just that, a load of lies. Not only were the kids victims of child abuse by this woman,the judge said I was a victim of controlling abusive behaviour..and funny enough this gender biased video gave me vital tips to catch my ex out.
Everything you said in your first 10 minutes hits very hard for me. Because it is what my ex wife has been acusing me of falsely for the last 6 years. She has accused me of SA all of my children and she has taken away all my communication. The only recourse I have is to take her to court and fight the system of abuse the state allows. I can’t afford a place of my own, my credit is destroyed and I miss my children very much. She promised me when my first son was an infant that if I ever thought about leaving her or speaking out against her she would take my son away. After not speaking to my mom for almost 9 years I restarted my relationship with her because I was depressed and Isolated from everyone I used to love. We were divorced shortly after I made a stand and refused to end my relationship with my mom for her and my children. And when I made the decision to leave her I thought I was doing the smart thing, we have no order of custody. All I can share with you is the shadow they have left and nothing makes her happier.
in my case, i had won a child arrangements order, then 3 months later my ex refused return of child, lied for 2.5 years, still on going, refusng contact to me, the mother, and causing me to have alsorts of assesments mental helth drugs anything, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, third court case and scotts statements going thru, lies will be found out but what then, will i finally have my son bk
I went to the court twice. My ex did represent himself in court without his solicitor probably the solicitor knew he was lying. He just kept lying to judge. Lies get short legs, he was caught lying in court, the judge shouted at him. That was my best moment last year.
Does that mean that some judges care to look at the father's behaviour? It seems like at least some judges ignore any abusive behaviour from the father, no matter how strong the evidence is, and just listen to the father immediately when he says "parental alienation" and "she is insane" and demand the woman prove she is mentally healthy and is not trying to hurt the father but just protect the child. I am so scared, I am just starting, but what I hear from women that have been through this, what I read in the paper (see judge tolson) is terrifying me. Do women stand any chance of protecting their children? Do some judges actually care about the children?
@@JustAskingForAFriendOfAFriend do not worry about it. Just try your best. I have been to the court as a litigant in person. Just be honest The judges are humans too. They can see straight way who plays the game. Good luck!
So basically every possible defence or challenge a man can present is a sign of him being an abuser. This has got to be the most sexist video I have ever witnessed.
If you are 'non abusive' then you'll be able to understand the video for what it is. If you feel the video 'is sexist' then you have to reflect on your perception for such comment
great videos and info for everyone involved in family court proceedings,ive just binge watched the videos on the channel, and found them very informative on most aspects were people would be confused or even worried about. im a none abusive male who has had numerous encounters within the family courts since 2009 i've secured residency of my son on 2 separate occasions since 2009 to date with over 5 years of litigation experience, the more recent court appearances included a guardian ad litem and solicitor, representing the child. i think it would be good useful knowledge and a informative video if you was able to give your views on guardians being requested in family court proceedings, and their role. specifically when there has been serious allegations made between parties. i recently filed for another c.o.a live with for my daughter where all contact had been stopped and will have the same guardian representing my daughter who represented my son, from different mothers. pd12j was automatically followed from the first hearing due to the allegations raised by both myself and the mother even though it was my application to the court c100 with a c1a the guardian has only just been appointed so the next hearing will be the first with a independent cafcass worker making recommendations to the court.
The moment you mentioned the "Patriarchal Society" I tuned out. It's clear you're pushing a political narrative rather than being objective and rational.
It’s not political to acknowledge there are things in place that have been built upon and maintained over hundreds of years of male dominance. Stop being a snowflake, as a consequence of our patriarchal society three women are being murdered every fortnight in the UK and 80%+ of young women in this society have been sexually harassed/assaulted/abused.
I'm dealing with an ex who was abusive. I left her dad and like he always threatened he kept our 5 year old daughter (My first born) He said no one would let me keep her so don't try it with him. Also it was his name on the house although I paid thousands when I lived with him. I've luckily found my knight in shining armour now and we have a 4 months old girl together .The issue with my ex though is that he's not someone to upset or even try court with. He's a very good liar and can scream and swear at me and our daughter but then get out of the car and just change to being sweet (very frightening)if people asked why I was upset he'd say oh you know what she's like then I'd have to wait until we got home. He said he would get the best lawyer if I tried so I wait...btw although I have my baby I think of my daughter every day and I miss her all the time
Dealing with my ex and I'm worried that won't have enough time during the meeting or the hearing to prove her narcissistic personality behaviour and the pattern kept repeating it got even worst lately as she lied to everyone about everything
Unfortunately this is hard to prove as much as u want to expose them unfortunately only a professional can do that and diagnose them for who they are I wish it was that easy for people to believe the truth that u know but without evidence and all that
Thanks for such informative content. One subject that I would be interested in, when the father has an extensive criminal background for "violence". How is this used in CAO proceedings? Surely this is an indicator of violent tendencies.
And what if he’s changed but the ‘ex’ uses his past to manipulate the court proceedings! How then is he supposed to be accepting of his new found character and personality? If he/she makes loads of headway but others are not willing to accept their change and instead use it to their advantage, why did they change in the first place?
Thank you so much for these videos. I’m really grateful that you raised the SRA upholding the law when you as an officer of the court is aware that your client is lying and not being able to represent them in the future. This helps me greatly. If you do read my comment, could I ask if it’s just you that can’t work with the disclosing client or is it the firm? Many thanks Mel
How about a lawyer aiding his client in trying to steal everything from the other party, but when caught says, oops, that must be a typo, and walks away Scott free
I so needed to hear this! I did a Claire’s law after my 3rd & last beating.. The report was horrendous I can’t disclose much bt 30yr history DV in that time spent 12yrs in prison IPP I had no idea.. My point is.. he knows the system & is used to courts etc..im not 😢 I’ve no police record or ever been in a crown court, I haven’t the experience. I feel like I’m going to be fed to the wolves.. Id gratefully appreciate any advice.. ❤
Yes my ex went to court for access and denied the abuse saying I wanted money when he threatened to stop the money if I stopped contact. Clearly drunk when he put together his statement as got his sons birthday wrong, and everything he claimed had evidence to prove otherwise. Didnt think he would have his record looked into and his charge sheet as long as his arm dissected. Narcissists dont change
I don't understand why she needs to be so sexist. This also happens in same sex relationships. - Not all family lawyers/barristers are not the same and do not refuse to represent a person because they lie. We are all people and not everyone acts the same. Also fact-finding on family court is based on a criminal standard. And Judges will often err on the side of caution and say they "prefer someones evidence".
There an free app called “on record” which would be helpful in accumulating evidence for court. As an aside you should really switch up the genders. I hear what you say about the domestic abuse model but you are putting off half your viewers!
i never knew that the applicants have priviledge. I couldnt work out why my sisters liked in the family court and brining in the old historic information.
This is brilliant information. Keep factual. Change terns to abusing and non abusing snd stop these trolls taking the gender issue. Keep going, this is what the public need and more importantly the children whom youre assisting by family court assistance. Please tell me how I can contact you directly for advice / representation
Engage & Prosper Thank you for the well thought out and constructive observation and advice (seriously!) 😊 Best way to contact me is through the channel’s email in the first instance - survivordiaries.uk@gmail.com. Thanks again.
my ex's solicitor contiues to represent ex in court even though they have repeatedly submitted, condradicting and misleading statements on behalf their client 'whilst under oath' to judges. Who's duty is it to report them, how do we go about it? It is because of unethical solicitors/barristers and the mere fact that they cheat the system gives them a huge advantage in these cases. in my case a prolonged sepeartion between father and child... 3 years and counting, many factors, some of it solicitors some of it the family courts themselves with their admin errors/ judge shortages.
Sounds like lass I'm in with. I'm 3rd 1 shes taken through this not seen daughter in 15months. She told me one of the dads tried getting his daughter to touch him. Next minute I'm the one getting punched. And my baby daughter as I was holding her. This happened 3 times. Then she told me the other daughters dads non mol was finished and she was telling him he could by pictures of the daughter hes touched up. Got intouch with him didn't I. She got him in trouble with police and obviously stopped him seeing baby.
Last year I left my ex partner and took our daughter with me because her mom kept going out drinking and then coming home and being aggressive...after I left I applied to the family court for custody of our daughter I still wanted my daughter to see her mom but I wanted custody until her mom sorted herself out...before we went to court though she got our daughter back by getting me arrested by lying and saying that I'd hit her 3 weeks before I left her...she lied loads to the court saying I'd hit her etc we did one hearing and then she went behind the courts back and started letting me have our daughter...I stopped going to the court hearings in the end because my daughter's mom had stopped drinking so I was happy withy daughter being with her...she was granted custody...I've been having my daughter every weekend from Friday until Sunday...6 weeks ago me and my ex partner had a arguement and now she's stopped me seeing my daughter again because she's using her as a weapon her excuse is I've hit my daughter...I've had to take her to court again my court date isn't until another 4 weeks though...this time around I recorded some of our phone calls were she's threatening me and also recorded other people threatening me on her behalf I've contacted the police there investigating it all...I'm worried about court because in my experience from last year if you mention anything that makes the court question if you've done anything to a child you don't get to see your child...last year they wouldn't even let me see my daughter in a contact centre...I can kind of prove that my daughter's mom didn't stop me seeing her because she thought I'd hit her because on the day we fell out she was telling me on whattsapp that I knew she didn't mind me having our daughter...it's really worrying as a man in the family court and it isnt easy
For various reasons, I threw my kids' dad out when they were very young. He managed to get a (local authority) flat just a few minutes' drive away but only visited them when it suited him, often making arrangements but not turning up as promised, so I stopped his access and forced him to go and see a solicitor. I subsequently received a letter from that solicitor in which he stated "I am disappointed to learn my client has not been able to see his children for three months." I replied, typing 6 sides of A4, giving a background to the whole situation and explained that at the time of writing, it had only been 5 weeks since I'd thrown him out. In other words, the father had been living with us for 2 of those 3 months so had lied to the solicitor. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when next the father visited the solicitor to discuss this.
What is considered abusive for children? Is brainwashing your children abusive? Is paying your child to stsy in the home, so they will hide mail from one parent, or steal off that parent, or hide the fact that the person not in the home, has been living a secret life for ten years, is that abusive? Haven't spoken to my boys in five years, but the thing is, he waited until they were almost adults to do it.
Do the SRA endorse solicitors behaviour in misleading court by tainting court bundles, making deliberate omissions in order to get favourable outcomes for their client knowing full well of their conduct and actions? Secondly, false allegations of DA/DV in application to get legal aid. Is this seen as misleading the court?
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You have an underlying presumption that the liar/abuser is the father. Men and women are the same animals, women are just as capable of being abusive liars. You paint a very lovely moral picture the reality is that the courts are known to be biased. I know a case where the court not only believed a lying mother but ignored and dismissed the actual Social Services evidence which clearly dismissed her allegations. Family lawyers are paid huge amounts and do you know any example of them being called to account.
Now I see why things is the way it is in uk she never even one good point on a man behalf everything was calling the man a liar and going in every way they can find to get him sad I’m going through this right now for the first time in my life and trying to make it seems like some killer and never been in court are had nothing like this in my life
Hang on how about my case in begged my ex to see my child she didn't answer unsuspecting she then filed harrasment charges against me and because I have a criminal record already not related to any violence by the way I was sent to jail when in addition they served me a three year restraining order altho I don't understand that as I've never been in trouble for violence in her first statement to the police on the harrasment charge she has co firmed this saying I was controlling but not violent the three years pasted she immediately applied for a no molestion order and got it too but in this statement she says I was always violent to her I have both copies of the statements on the non molestation order it says I'm know to the national domestic abuse place but I've never even spoken to a socail worker or carcass I've had no contact from anyone ever so what do I do I have two statements that completely contradict each other I've never met my child we split up before she was born I know nothing at all about her not even her date of birth so what can I do to fight back against this lair
If you are innocent prove your ex wrong. If the domestic abuse register has mysteriously plucked your name out of a hat, then contest it to get it removed. Domestic violence is more than physical assaults. Gaslighting, manipulating, financial and coercive control all fall under the same umbrella.
A) being controlling is domestic abuse. B) steroids lead to rage C) there is no smoke without fire D) if you genuinely havent done anything wrong you can take your ex to court for a small fee and unless she has evidence against you it will be a straightforward process so the 500 word sentence shitting yourself is over nothing unless you are lying to yourself E) when parents do the right thing there are rarely any issues so ask yourself if you fall into that category or if you have mental health issues you havent addressed which makes you fail at relationships. A lot of the time, when we carry childhood issues and trauma and dont learn to forgive ourselves and others, we repeat the same patterns until we wise up enough to change our own behaviour instead of projecting onto others
@@limitlesspossibilities444 yes i agree, no allegations are ever startigic malice. and your right the courts are just as willing to take seriously fathers allegations as the mothers.
I just want to say this to everyone including myself I’m sorry we all have to go through this I still can’t believe this myself that this person or people could do this to all of us I just want to say I have believed all the lies and accusations I still to this day believe maybe I am abusive maybe I am the narcissist all the things I was accused of I doubt myself regularly iv gone to therapy counseling men behaviour change program’s single parenting programs done dv programs the lot even though myself and the people I worked with said they don’t see any of those things in me many months ago I was out and about not a care in the world but all this has just made me turn into a hermit crab I only leave the house to get things I need because I’m scared this is going to happen again this has taken a very big part of me away
I am sorry, but I cannot watch this. Consider this: a father who has been at the other end of what you describe, with an ex-wife who is narcissistic and has abused the father both mentally and physically, has abused their son both mentally and physically, has also abused the benefit that a solicitor lends as an officer of the court, and similarly abused CAFCASS officers over the years, until one CAFCASS officer who understood narcissistic personality disorder. Your inability to express these ideas without giving examples that are only showing a man to be the abuser is encouraging the false understanding and false assumption that men are the only abuser. Furthermore, although you mention a male dominated society, I put it to you that, in family matters in court, the mother is advantaged greatly by a system that, like you, cannot, seemingly, frame an argument in which the female is the abuser, as you describe the abuser to be here. I would like to add here that as you explain so forcefully that a solicitor, as an officer of the court, may not legally continue a lie, no matter how that lie might help a case, you might seem to be telling prospective female clients to *not tell you* that they are lying or have lied in previous proceedings, as it is more than your job is worth to go along with a known lie. The mother of the child abused the legal system thus from when the son was 3 years old, until recently when he is 13 years old. The only thing that stopped her blatant lies was a female judge's utterance that "if you want to pursue the idea that the father is the abuser then I will have to consider a custodial sentence, do you understand?". She had already been given an unpaid work order by this judge. I understood your introduction to which you added "that will have to do" but it does not "do". My only child, has recently told me that he does not want to get married, and does not want to have children after what he has been through. In the same conversation he told me that his mother told him that problems started when he was born; another of her damaging lies. I was a battered husband who was told by his wife that she would "work on our relationship" for seven years prior to his birth. But, yes, his mother was very charming in our courtship years, I agree with you there. It is your own appeal to the idea that women are disadvantaged in a male-dominated society that is abhorrent here. Your cases will stand on their own strengths regardless of sexist description. I might go as far to say that painting a picture of your female client being the victim in a male dominated society is tantamount to perpetuating a lie; the very thing you say will not be considered by a solicitor as officer of the court.
My ex didnt have representation then he woke up and realised he couldnt lie to court and get what he wanted because of evidence then quickly got representation
No. The accused represents themselves because unlike the “ Victim” they don’t get access to free legal representation. And can’t afford to waste thousands of pounds.
So are you representing the liar up until fact finding, not knowing if there telling the truth or not?!? And if your client is proven in fact finding to be lying….. what is your stance then in proceeding with representation??
@@theresaoriordan5061 just moved into my own place divorced him ... got custody and exposed him big time ...I used dr Ramani strategy... got 70 % of the house just because I knew how to play the game with manipulator... the best way is : manipilate the manipulator 😜
Good video but very one sided.... things are not that simple .i have been abusive in my relation for a period of 4 year mainly emotional abuse .but the allegation against was describing me like a serial killer, my partner turn 4 years of conflict into 2o years, and my partner was definitely manipulation my children against me. in the end the. NMO WAS FAR FOR DESTRUCTIVEE AND ABUSIVE , than my behaviour.
Not if he is telling the truth and can prove it with evidence as with anything else dealt with in court. Nothing to worry about if you arent guilty is there?
@@limitlesspossibilities444 Rubbish, I suddenly became an abuser and had always been exactly at the point my ex was caught cheating and the marriage over.
@@limitlesspossibilities444 So explain to me, how do you prove the non existence of something non existing? How do I prove that I did not rape my ex wife? By providing the court with what exactly? You argue like someone makeing false allegations would ("let's just persist with my spurious claims and hope that the balance of probabilities will be in my favour") In her video she basically says that women tell the truth in any event and every response of the man other than admitting the abuse makes him a liar and if he attempts to make any sort of justification he is a persuader. Knock out argument which could not be more nonsensical. This woman clearly has issues, is a frustrated feminist with a victim mentality and uses normal relationship arguments as a platform to blow up a baloon of domestic abuse that is filled with a lot of thin air. I think we should leave the domestic abuse claims to the real abuse victims as these people lose their platform if all the pseudo victims take up the space, shall we?
@@hiaslayer your right, its old hat stuff, you cant prove a negative, so these dullards above stating "if your innocent just prove it"...lost cause. The damaged or politisized host knows that the female can prompt massive action from the state just by creating unproven allergations, then the male is unable to prove a negative.
@@mkworkgroupis1739 100% agree but as long as a proven false allegation is not being punished, nothing will change ala "Let's throw some mud, if something sticks, great, if not, whatever...." I recommend "Foundations" by C.A. Childress to really understand those damaged goods. The book is about parental alienation but goes into much detail why the narcissistic/boarderline personality acts like he/she acts. Basically they are adults who stopped mentally developing at the infant stage.
Are you actually putting your side on the opposite side of all men??? How can you be so sure all the opposite side of men are not liars? What are actually trying to tell?
What do you think should happen to people who lie in court about being domestically abused ?
They should go to jail and made to pay back every penny of the legal aid money they have stole from the system
They definitely need to go to jail be charged for lying and putting stress on your mental health as well as you should get your child full time custody and be reimbursed for everything they have done people don’t actually know how much of a toll this takes on some of us parents the harshest punishment should be served to them to think again about making false allegations and lying
A pointless question…women are never at fault…didn’t you know that?!?!
Im a man with cptsd so no I am not being abused by a covert narcissistic wife…cos that’s just a myth to the law and society
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@@devilangel6243 amen! Same here
The liar is almost always social services and cafcass.
you are very right, cafcass are awful, so is family court. they are paperwork oriented not child. Cafcass needs to be investigated by independent company. They lie and then the courts believe them. Total sadness for the child.
Is it this bad? I am going through this right now and is very painful
@@bertrandanon2176 it worst than you know. fight for your kids.
@@diannethebutterflyeffect2225 they are not fit for purpose as they dont hold any qualifications...says things like "he said the right sort of things" whilst ticking a box on their form...in my case the fact my kids dad didnt do the court ordered perp programme the first time he was told to wasnt checked. He said he did it but was too pissed to get anything out of it
Absolutely true!!!!
What’s funny is that these traits are exactly what my twin sister has in her personality, except she is the lying accuser in our case. What a messed up world we live in that we have to deal with this.
My sister too
Narcissist's deserve an Oscar but by gaining knowledge about them they become so predictable , it's laughable really.
Narcissists give such amazing performances!!
My ex deserve an Oscar for her performance of lying pure narcissistic person
@@sammylaib1319 Mine got caught.
She made a mockery of genuinely abused woman. Parental alienation PROVEN, she got legal aid on the strength of a load of lies that were dismissed as just that, a load of lies.
Not only were the kids victims of child abuse by this woman,the judge said I was a victim of controlling abusive behaviour..and funny enough this gender biased video gave me vital tips to catch my ex out.
@@sonnymacmyers6485 this woman’s biased af for real 😂😂
Everything you said in your first 10 minutes hits very hard for me. Because it is what my ex wife has been acusing me of falsely for the last 6 years. She has accused me of SA all of my children and she has taken away all my communication. The only recourse I have is to take her to court and fight the system of abuse the state allows. I can’t afford a place of my own, my credit is destroyed and I miss my children very much. She promised me when my first son was an infant that if I ever thought about leaving her or speaking out against her she would take my son away. After not speaking to my mom for almost 9 years I restarted my relationship with her because I was depressed and Isolated from everyone I used to love. We were divorced shortly after I made a stand and refused to end my relationship with my mom for her and my children. And when I made the decision to leave her I thought I was doing the smart thing, we have no order of custody. All I can share with you is the shadow they have left and nothing makes her happier.
in my case, i had won a child arrangements order, then 3 months later my ex refused return of child, lied for 2.5 years, still on going, refusng contact to me, the mother, and causing me to have alsorts of assesments mental helth drugs anything, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, third court case and scotts statements going thru, lies will be found out but what then, will i finally have my son bk
I went to the court twice. My ex did represent himself in court without his solicitor probably the solicitor knew he was lying. He just kept lying to judge. Lies get short legs, he was caught lying in court, the judge shouted at him. That was my best moment last year.
The Jeremy Kyle Show
You won. Your child lost.
Does that mean that some judges care to look at the father's behaviour?
It seems like at least some judges ignore any abusive behaviour from the father, no matter how strong the evidence is, and just listen to the father immediately when he says "parental alienation" and "she is insane" and demand the woman prove she is mentally healthy and is not trying to hurt the father but just protect the child.
I am so scared, I am just starting, but what I hear from women that have been through this, what I read in the paper (see judge tolson) is terrifying me.
Do women stand any chance of protecting their children?
Do some judges actually care about the children?
Which judge was it?
@@JustAskingForAFriendOfAFriend do not worry about it. Just try your best. I have been to the court as a litigant in person. Just be honest The judges are humans too. They can see straight way who plays the game. Good luck!
Liars are not only the presumed proprietors there is also false allegation of abuse
Facts ✌🏽
It does not matter, perjury is never dealt with on both sides.
🚺 & 🚹 freely commit perjury. 🤷
You've just described my ex "the liar" and "persuader" to a T.
Things have gone way OTT right now :(
So basically every possible defence or challenge a man can present is a sign of him being an abuser.
This has got to be the most sexist video I have ever witnessed.
Exactly only a patriarchal society can put this witches in check.
Most lawyers are sexist.
If you are 'non abusive' then you'll be able to understand the video for what it is. If you feel the video 'is sexist' then you have to reflect on your perception for such comment
Bang on. Every word when you describe the persecutor and their behaviour traits!!! 👏
great videos and info for everyone involved in family court proceedings,ive just binge watched the videos on the channel, and found them very informative on most aspects were people would be confused or even worried about. im a none abusive male who has had numerous encounters within the family courts since 2009 i've secured residency of my son on 2 separate occasions since 2009 to date with over 5 years of litigation experience, the more recent court appearances included a guardian ad litem and solicitor, representing the child. i think it would be good useful knowledge and a informative video if you was able to give your views on guardians being requested in family court proceedings, and their role. specifically when there has been serious allegations made between parties. i recently filed for another c.o.a live with for my daughter where all contact had been stopped and will have the same guardian representing my daughter who represented my son, from different mothers. pd12j was automatically followed from the first hearing due to the allegations raised by both myself and the mother even though it was my application to the court c100 with a c1a the guardian has only just been appointed so the next hearing will be the first with a independent cafcass worker making recommendations to the court.
What if what he is saying is true and she was a lier.
She will not address this comment as it goes against her agenda.
The moment you mentioned the "Patriarchal Society" I tuned out. It's clear you're pushing a political narrative rather than being objective and rational.
It’s not political to acknowledge there are things in place that have been built upon and maintained over hundreds of years of male dominance. Stop being a snowflake, as a consequence of our patriarchal society three women are being murdered every fortnight in the UK and 80%+ of young women in this society have been sexually harassed/assaulted/abused.
Yeah I prefer patriarchal society to materialistic hedonist liberal one.
I'm dealing with an ex who was abusive. I left her dad and like he always threatened he kept our 5 year old daughter (My first born) He said no one would let me keep her so don't try it with him. Also it was his name on the house although I paid thousands when I lived with him. I've luckily found my knight in shining armour now and we have a 4 months old girl together .The issue with my ex though is that he's not someone to upset or even try court with. He's a very good liar and can scream and swear at me and our daughter but then get out of the car and just change to being sweet (very frightening)if people asked why I was upset he'd say oh you know what she's like then I'd have to wait until we got home. He said he would get the best lawyer if I tried so I wait...btw although I have my baby I think of my daughter every day and I miss her all the time
Dealing with my ex and I'm worried that won't have enough time during the meeting or the hearing to prove her narcissistic personality behaviour and the pattern kept repeating it got even worst lately as she lied to everyone about everything
Going through this right now
Unfortunately this is hard to prove as much as u want to expose them unfortunately only a professional can do that and diagnose them for who they are I wish it was that easy for people to believe the truth that u know but without evidence and all that
Thanks for such informative content.
One subject that I would be interested in, when the father has an extensive criminal background for "violence". How is this used in CAO proceedings?
Surely this is an indicator of violent tendencies.
And what if he’s changed but the ‘ex’ uses his past to manipulate the court proceedings! How then is he supposed to be accepting of his new found character and personality? If he/she makes loads of headway but others are not willing to accept their change and instead use it to their advantage, why did they change in the first place?
Thank you so much for these videos. I’m really grateful that you raised the SRA upholding the law when you as an officer of the court is aware that your client is lying and not being able to represent them in the future. This helps me greatly.
If you do read my comment, could I ask if it’s just you that can’t work with the disclosing client or is it the firm? Many thanks Mel
How about a lawyer aiding his client in trying to steal everything from the other party, but when caught says, oops, that must be a typo, and walks away Scott free
Is there an alternative model that outlines to the Dominator that can be used for female to male abuse?
Get he book that the freedom programme follows. Works both ways...
Yea my wife
Absolutely 👌💯, thank you for your work 💡⚖️❤️ x
I so needed to hear this! I did a Claire’s law after my 3rd & last beating.. The report was horrendous I can’t disclose much bt 30yr history DV in that time spent 12yrs in prison IPP I had no idea.. My point is.. he knows the system & is used to courts etc..im not 😢 I’ve no police record or ever been in a crown court, I haven’t the experience. I feel like I’m going to be fed to the wolves.. Id gratefully appreciate any advice.. ❤
Could you please make a video reg how discredit the social and case workers
Yes my ex went to court for access and denied the abuse saying I wanted money when he threatened to stop the money if I stopped contact.
Clearly drunk when he put together his statement as got his sons birthday wrong, and everything he claimed had evidence to prove otherwise. Didnt think he would have his record looked into and his charge sheet as long as his arm dissected.
Narcissists dont change
Do they bring up his criminal record or do you have to make the court aware of this? Please advise
Did it work?
Did the judge listen?
Is your child safe?
I am so scared, he hurt my kids and I am scared that the judge won't care
❤ thank you for making these videos
I don't understand why she needs to be so sexist. This also happens in same sex relationships. - Not all family lawyers/barristers are not the same and do not refuse to represent a person because they lie. We are all people and not everyone acts the same. Also fact-finding on family court is based on a criminal standard. And Judges will often err on the side of caution and say they "prefer someones evidence".
There an free app called “on record” which would be helpful in accumulating evidence for court.
As an aside you should really switch up the genders. I hear what you say about the domestic abuse model but you are putting off half your viewers!
I thought " why are you speaking about my ex!" I hope the social services need to be trained for understanding these narcists.
i never knew that the applicants have priviledge. I couldnt work out why my sisters liked in the family court and brining in the old historic information.
This is brilliant information. Keep factual. Change terns to abusing and non abusing snd stop these trolls taking the gender issue. Keep going, this is what the public need and more importantly the children whom youre assisting by family court assistance. Please tell me how I can contact you directly for advice / representation
Engage & Prosper Thank you for the well thought out and constructive observation and advice (seriously!) 😊 Best way to contact me is through the channel’s email in the first instance - survivordiaries.uk@gmail.com. Thanks again.
my ex's solicitor contiues to represent ex in court even though they have repeatedly submitted, condradicting and misleading statements on behalf their client 'whilst under oath' to judges. Who's duty is it to report them, how do we go about it? It is because of unethical solicitors/barristers and the mere fact that they cheat the system gives them a huge advantage in these cases. in my case a prolonged sepeartion between father and child... 3 years and counting, many factors, some of it solicitors some of it the family courts themselves with their admin errors/ judge shortages.
Sounds like lass I'm in with. I'm 3rd 1 shes taken through this not seen daughter in 15months. She told me one of the dads tried getting his daughter to touch him. Next minute I'm the one getting punched. And my baby daughter as I was holding her. This happened 3 times. Then she told me the other daughters dads non mol was finished and she was telling him he could by pictures of the daughter hes touched up. Got intouch with him didn't I. She got him in trouble with police and obviously stopped him seeing baby.
Last year I left my ex partner and took our daughter with me because her mom kept going out drinking and then coming home and being aggressive...after I left I applied to the family court for custody of our daughter I still wanted my daughter to see her mom but I wanted custody until her mom sorted herself out...before we went to court though she got our daughter back by getting me arrested by lying and saying that I'd hit her 3 weeks before I left her...she lied loads to the court saying I'd hit her etc we did one hearing and then she went behind the courts back and started letting me have our daughter...I stopped going to the court hearings in the end because my daughter's mom had stopped drinking so I was happy withy daughter being with her...she was granted custody...I've been having my daughter every weekend from Friday until Sunday...6 weeks ago me and my ex partner had a arguement and now she's stopped me seeing my daughter again because she's using her as a weapon her excuse is I've hit my daughter...I've had to take her to court again my court date isn't until another 4 weeks though...this time around I recorded some of our phone calls were she's threatening me and also recorded other people threatening me on her behalf I've contacted the police there investigating it all...I'm worried about court because in my experience from last year if you mention anything that makes the court question if you've done anything to a child you don't get to see your child...last year they wouldn't even let me see my daughter in a contact centre...I can kind of prove that my daughter's mom didn't stop me seeing her because she thought I'd hit her because on the day we fell out she was telling me on whattsapp that I knew she didn't mind me having our daughter...it's really worrying as a man in the family court and it isnt easy
Hopefully, the recorded evidence will help prove the truth. Perhaps that's already happened as your comment is a few months old.
For various reasons, I threw my kids' dad out when they were very young. He managed to get a (local authority) flat just a few minutes' drive away but only visited them when it suited him, often making arrangements but not turning up as promised, so I stopped his access and forced him to go and see a solicitor. I subsequently received a letter from that solicitor in which he stated "I am disappointed to learn my client has not been able to see his children for three months." I replied, typing 6 sides of A4, giving a background to the whole situation and explained that at the time of writing, it had only been 5 weeks since I'd thrown him out. In other words, the father had been living with us for 2 of those 3 months so had lied to the solicitor. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when next the father visited the solicitor to discuss this.
This is literally what I am facing
I wouldn't want to be represented by a lawyer using my personal difficulties as a hammer to drive into her own particular nail.
What is considered abusive for children? Is brainwashing your children abusive? Is paying your child to stsy in the home, so they will hide mail from one parent, or steal off that parent, or hide the fact that the person not in the home, has been living a secret life for ten years, is that abusive? Haven't spoken to my boys in five years, but the thing is, he waited until they were almost adults to do it.
Do the SRA endorse solicitors behaviour in misleading court by tainting court bundles, making deliberate omissions in order to get favourable outcomes for their client knowing full well of their conduct and actions? Secondly, false allegations of DA/DV in application to get legal aid. Is this seen as misleading the court?
why is no one listening to the children.
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False allegations is the liar
Me again. Not all men are like this. Not all solicitors are like you.
You have an underlying presumption that the liar/abuser is the father. Men and women are the same animals, women are just as capable of being abusive liars. You paint a very lovely moral picture the reality is that the courts are known to be biased. I know a case where the court not only believed a lying mother but ignored and dismissed the actual Social Services evidence which clearly dismissed her allegations. Family lawyers are paid huge amounts and do you know any example of them being called to account.
I've been told that women can't be a nark... DV is not good both ways but trust women can be just as bad as men
Sorry, your partner was abusive. I'm glad you ask your clients for evidence.
Now I see why things is the way it is in uk she never even one good point on a man behalf everything was calling the man a liar and going in every way they can find to get him sad I’m going through this right now for the first time in my life and trying to make it seems like some killer and never been in court are had nothing like this in my life
I wish you were my solicitor. Thanks for the videos.
The woman is usually the liar. I can vouch for that.
Hang on how about my case in begged my ex to see my child she didn't answer unsuspecting she then filed harrasment charges against me and because I have a criminal record already not related to any violence by the way I was sent to jail when in addition they served me a three year restraining order altho I don't understand that as I've never been in trouble for violence in her first statement to the police on the harrasment charge she has co firmed this saying I was controlling but not violent the three years pasted she immediately applied for a no molestion order and got it too but in this statement she says I was always violent to her I have both copies of the statements on the non molestation order it says I'm know to the national domestic abuse place but I've never even spoken to a socail worker or carcass I've had no contact from anyone ever so what do I do I have two statements that completely contradict each other I've never met my child we split up before she was born I know nothing at all about her not even her date of birth so what can I do to fight back against this lair
If you are innocent prove your ex wrong. If the domestic abuse register has mysteriously plucked your name out of a hat, then contest it to get it removed. Domestic violence is more than physical assaults. Gaslighting, manipulating, financial and coercive control all fall under the same umbrella.
A) being controlling is domestic abuse.
B) steroids lead to rage
C) there is no smoke without fire
D) if you genuinely havent done anything wrong you can take your ex to court for a small fee and unless she has evidence against you it will be a straightforward process so the 500 word sentence shitting yourself is over nothing unless you are lying to yourself
E) when parents do the right thing there are rarely any issues so ask yourself if you fall into that category or if you have mental health issues you havent addressed which makes you fail at relationships. A lot of the time, when we carry childhood issues and trauma and dont learn to forgive ourselves and others, we repeat the same patterns until we wise up enough to change our own behaviour instead of projecting onto others
@@limitlesspossibilities444 yes i agree, no allegations are ever startigic malice. and your right the courts are just as willing to take seriously fathers allegations as the mothers.
I just want to say this to everyone including myself I’m sorry we all have to go through this I still can’t believe this myself that this person or people could do this to all of us I just want to say I have believed all the lies and accusations I still to this day believe maybe I am abusive maybe I am the narcissist all the things I was accused of I doubt myself regularly iv gone to therapy counseling men behaviour change program’s single parenting programs done dv programs the lot even though myself and the people I worked with said they don’t see any of those things in me many months ago I was out and about not a care in the world but all this has just made me turn into a hermit crab I only leave the house to get things I need because I’m scared this is going to happen again this has taken a very big part of me away
Don’t hear one side story and make a judgement..
This is my case in a nutshell
Women never lie, obviously 🙄
Good info but u sound like ur coming from mothers side, I was abused by my female partner
my exes took my children sicial works alienated us on lies
I am sorry, but I cannot watch this. Consider this: a father who has been at the other end of what you describe, with an ex-wife who is narcissistic and has abused the father both mentally and physically, has abused their son both mentally and physically, has also abused the benefit that a solicitor lends as an officer of the court, and similarly abused CAFCASS officers over the years, until one CAFCASS officer who understood narcissistic personality disorder. Your inability to express these ideas without giving examples that are only showing a man to be the abuser is encouraging the false understanding and false assumption that men are the only abuser. Furthermore, although you mention a male dominated society, I put it to you that, in family matters in court, the mother is advantaged greatly by a system that, like you, cannot, seemingly, frame an argument in which the female is the abuser, as you describe the abuser to be here. I would like to add here that as you explain so forcefully that a solicitor, as an officer of the court, may not legally continue a lie, no matter how that lie might help a case, you might seem to be telling prospective female clients to *not tell you* that they are lying or have lied in previous proceedings, as it is more than your job is worth to go along with a known lie. The mother of the child abused the legal system thus from when the son was 3 years old, until recently when he is 13 years old. The only thing that stopped her blatant lies was a female judge's utterance that "if you want to pursue the idea that the father is the abuser then I will have to consider a custodial sentence, do you understand?". She had already been given an unpaid work order by this judge. I understood your introduction to which you added "that will have to do" but it does not "do". My only child, has recently told me that he does not want to get married, and does not want to have children after what he has been through. In the same conversation he told me that his mother told him that problems started when he was born; another of her damaging lies. I was a battered husband who was told by his wife that she would "work on our relationship" for seven years prior to his birth. But, yes, his mother was very charming in our courtship years, I agree with you there. It is your own appeal to the idea that women are disadvantaged in a male-dominated society that is abhorrent here. Your cases will stand on their own strengths regardless of sexist description. I might go as far to say that painting a picture of your female client being the victim in a male dominated society is tantamount to perpetuating a lie; the very thing you say will not be considered by a solicitor as officer of the court.
Every effect has a cause.
What is the Liar assumed to be a “He” smh
Is this why the abuser self represents themselves?
My ex didnt have representation then he woke up and realised he couldnt lie to court and get what he wanted because of evidence then quickly got representation
They are so arrogant when they havent been held accountable....
No. The accused represents themselves because unlike the “ Victim” they don’t get access to free legal representation. And can’t afford to waste thousands of pounds.
@@tamunosakiwestscott-bloack2229 and also they have all the evidence sent to them so they can say do what they want
No it's because solicitors fees are expensive
Thank you ❤️
Zero accountability.
Why is it “he” ??
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It's odd that you seem to assume the lies is the man. How is that appropriate?
So are you representing the liar up until fact finding, not knowing if there telling the truth or not?!? And if your client is proven in fact finding to be lying….. what is your stance then in proceeding with representation??
She takes the money regardless
Yes the narcisist oh yeah the are so good
Yes, the covert narcissists are the worst. Such convincing, pathological liars!!
@@theresaoriordan5061 just moved into my own place divorced him ... got custody and exposed him big time ...I used dr Ramani strategy... got 70 % of the house just because I knew how to play the game with manipulator... the best way is : manipilate the manipulator 😜
@@np7678 that is fantastic. I would love to know the tactics that you used.
Girls love the dominator nowadays
She sees the truth 🥳👏
Good video but very one sided.... things are not that simple .i have been abusive in my relation for a period of 4 year mainly emotional abuse .but the allegation against was describing me like a serial killer, my partner turn 4 years of conflict into 2o years, and my partner was definitely manipulation my children against me. in the end the. NMO WAS FAR FOR DESTRUCTIVEE AND ABUSIVE , than my behaviour.
I went through this for 8 years and if you are experiencing abuse, you will have all the evidence...never delete msgs and take photos of injuries
Your not doing the sisterhood any favors. Try to be just a little bit fair
Long Life to patriarchal society.
So if a man tells the truth he is a liar or a persuader.
Not if he is telling the truth and can prove it with evidence as with anything else dealt with in court. Nothing to worry about if you arent guilty is there?
@@limitlesspossibilities444 Rubbish, I suddenly became an abuser and had always been exactly at the point my ex was caught cheating and the marriage over.
@@limitlesspossibilities444 So explain to me, how do you prove the non existence of something non existing? How do I prove that I did not rape my ex wife? By providing the court with what exactly? You argue like someone makeing false allegations would ("let's just persist with my spurious claims and hope that the balance of probabilities will be in my favour") In her video she basically says that women tell the truth in any event and every response of the man other than admitting the abuse makes him a liar and if he attempts to make any sort of justification he is a persuader. Knock out argument which could not be more nonsensical. This woman clearly has issues, is a frustrated feminist with a victim mentality and uses normal relationship arguments as a platform to blow up a baloon of domestic abuse that is filled with a lot of thin air. I think we should leave the domestic abuse claims to the real abuse victims as these people lose their platform if all the pseudo victims take up the space, shall we?
@@hiaslayer your right, its old hat stuff, you cant prove a negative, so these dullards above stating "if your innocent just prove it"...lost cause. The damaged or politisized host knows that the female can prompt massive action from the state just by creating unproven allergations, then the male is unable to prove a negative.
@@mkworkgroupis1739 100% agree but as long as a proven false allegation is not being punished, nothing will change ala "Let's throw some mud, if something sticks, great, if not, whatever...." I recommend "Foundations" by C.A. Childress to really understand those damaged goods. The book is about parental alienation but goes into much detail why the narcissistic/boarderline personality acts like he/she acts. Basically they are adults who stopped mentally developing at the infant stage.
Are you actually putting your side on the opposite side of all men??? How can you be so sure all the opposite side of men are not liars? What are actually trying to tell?
Militant feminism - so what of the cab rank rule? I rather fancy the this is video only serves to promote a certain ideology.
If you are a non abusive man? I think you have an issue with men.
Why you always show men as a suspect and women as victims??🤔
This woman is so bitter and anti man
you lost me on "Patriarchy''
this so bias on a woman's view