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- Have you ever wondered how to be more likable, how to get people to like you, or how to make friends easily? Before we learn about the psychology tricks on how to be more likable, we should first know about the things that make people dislike us. Thankfully, psychology is here to help you learn more about human behavior, why we do the things we do, and how to improve yourself.
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Yes!
yesss
Hello hello I need help💞
Recently I've been going through a really hard time and- idrk how to pray
I sound dumb I know but like legitimately I need help in how to pray I just want everything gone
Face Reveal when will you do that?
I love this style of animation, it's cute
2 things my father taught me
1: never take advantage of someone’s kindness
2: never let people take advantage of you
Your dad is a wise man.
That’s good advice there buddy
@@misterhot9163 thank you I agree
Lol....wow now giving praise for the things you have gone through and the trials it took to get there in 2020 is BRAGGING. Go sit down somewhere.
@@Keylit328 did you reply to the wrong comment ? Or I am just missing something
me: *reads title*
also me: *feels personally attacked for no reason*
Lol
i've seen you comment the same thing on 3 different videos- are you a bot?
Why do you feel that way?
Yup, feels the same
lmao me
I learned the hard way to stop telling people my plans. They will always look for something. It's better to walk in silence.
Exactly right.
Absolutely 💯
yes. and when i do tell, it's 99% im gonna do it.
Exactly. Less talk and more action.
Me too. I ruined my life trying too.hard to be accepted . Im starting over at 40. It has been a rough life. It didn't need to be....at all. God take the wheel
1. Do not reveal your plans...and just do what it necessary for yourself/ team
2. Speak only when necessary...this way you will not be interrupted.
3. Just and always tell the truth
4 . Give respect...don't expect it
5. Actions speak more than words.
that sounds like a peoples pleaser
@@eskabanofficial I know what you mean and at the same time I do not agree. Telling the truth... (pun intended) sometimes it is necessary to meet other people half way if it is important for the team or personal advantage.
What is it better: Tempered steel or hardened steel?
Thanks for these. At the end of the day the only one we can control is us.
@@umamichelle yepp...more or less...how we are reacting...we give or take power from the things happening.
The second isn't true. People who respect others and themselves can speak about casual things that don't matter. This would only apply in work-related scenarios, I believe.
"How do you do I just graduated from Harvard law." Dang...that was kinda funny
Kinda funny? It was hella funny, especially the animation 😂
@@spica. What's actually sad is that there are REAL people who do that habitually... and about EVERY little victory... like they conquered Rome single handed or something. It's okay to bask in the warm and healthy appreciation of an accomplishment, even finishing law school should qualify, because a LOT of people don't make it... SO yeah, it's normal to want to shout off the mountain tops when you do something "big" enough to brag about...
BUT acting like "getting a driver's license" is a lifetime achievement award level of exciting to every other adult who drives is not. ;o)
Real friends share the joy with you
The diploma says Bachelor of Arts in law. As far as I know there is no such thing. A degree from Harvard Law should be a Juris Doctor (JD). This person may very well be a fraud as well as a braggart, a dangerous combination.
@@spica. Well, I pointedly said "not to overdo" it. Getting a license to drive a vehicle, lost its luster to me before I'd had it a year... and driving was becoming a chore.
What the video indicated was rushing everyone in sight and acting like a milestone (to be sure) was the very meaning of life.
Encouragement and celebratory superlatives allowed, getting a license is something that should be family and friends audienced, too... mostly. I can promise that cashier at Wally World who's driven for ten years and doesn't know your name is faking her smile. It's cool and all, but not her thrill to enjoy. THAT was my point... and where it gets "cringey" with the over-share. ;o)
When you realize no.2 is the reason that you got social anxiety...
When you wanna talk to someone but their conversation just never ends so in the end you got tired and left...
Edit:
Me,as an HSP...I can't really hold a conversation for so long...that why I tend not to talk to others
ikr?
Won’t stop it lol
Sorry to hear! Conversations can be daunting! How are you coping with social anxiety?
@@Psych2go hmm?I just don't really mind it that much...If they don't wanna talk then don't...then trying to be stoic(stoicism)...and lastly talking to my (only)friend often
I always assume, that if people want only talk to me and don't care about what i got to say, it means, that they are not worth of getting stressed or angry. If you must ASK for someone's attention, it meens, that they won't give it to you without asking, so, basically... they aren't even worth trying. At least in personal, private life relations. If you are at work, and it's about your boss or co-workers, then it's something else. They MUST listen to you as well, because communication at work is mandatory thing. I know, it's pure obviousness, but still many people need help with understanding that.
1. Allowing others to interrupt you easily (draw a line)
2. Interrupt when others are still talking
3. Pushing opinions to others like sales (or beliefs)
4. Not following through (less talk more action)
5. Being inconsiderate
6. Being dishonest and lacking integrity
7. Bragging too much
8. You treat people based on personal gain
Thanks for the great tips 😍
Thank you 🕊
Thank you ......finished in 30 seconds 😂
Except last one every thing is me
9. Being disrespectful to people just because that's what you do/you feel intitled to!! !!
Thanks
Simple rumors can make people lose respect for you, even if those rumors are not true. Earning someone’s respect is only worthwhile if that person is respectable
It's the people who don't respect themselves do not respect others.
Find new people.
Agree. Happened to me recently with a person I respect, but she doesn't seem to respect me in return...
Exaclt
@@countyourblestings1220 Excell
No.9: *Allowing people to leave your room without closing the door*
Lol true 😂
HAHSHAHAAHAHS LMAO TRUE
Or not closing cabinet doors or pushing in chairs when you've left the table.
THIS.
Word
Me having a conversation with parents:
*parents interrupt and carry on like I was never there*
My parents having a conversation:
*I interrupt them*
"HOW DARE YOU INTERRUPT US!"
I relate to this so much. Also on top of this, not to be too biased or anything, but it's kinds more understandable that i interrupt my parents than the other way around. This is because whenever they say something to me, they often repeat themselves too much and I can actually guess correctly what they're going to say, while I actually vary the topic I'm talking to them about
Oh same
Hinami Josef Kaneki Same bro :')
I relate to it but it's always my sister and my mom. They would be talking and I would add on to the conversation and they would either ignore me and keep going. Making me repeat myself until they tell me they heard me the first time. Or they would just stop the whole conversation and we would be left sitting in silence.
It makes me feel very left out and like I dont matter. As a twin their is already alot of competition but I feel like I'm the less loved twin all the time.
-seesaw- kpop oh dear I empathise with you. In a different way my mom only gets involves and excited in conversation that has to do with her interests. If it’s mine I will never try to mention anything as she will either guilt trip me for my wrongs ( spending too much time looking at crap like dance/singing) or criticise the actors in the show/ or how the story doesn’t make any sense, isn’t realistic etc. I hate talking to her because it’s always her, her, her and I gotta watch my words or responses otherwise it’d break into a fight real quick
"Everyone needs a house to live in, but a supportive family is what builds a home."
lel
I totally agree
Amen amen. I walk alone. God give me courage to take action in my life. Ive no one . I grew up privileged but money doesn't buy happiness. I needed love
its true. i am allowed to live in my moms house but i am not allowed to express my feeling withouy getting emotionally abused
@@gotcha9983 Youre alone. God didnt give you a good life. why still talk about him.
Respect is something you give to yourself. People have a choice whether to like you or not. Stop trying get people to respect you. I rather have respect for myself than to be liked. That is the key way to get people to understand you.
What about other people that thinks the same as you?
Do you every try to understand another person?
@@PowerK1 When you try to do that, people dismiss your efforts as being insecure, needy, desperate, and clingy. Is there even a point in trying if they're just gonna feel like they're above you?
When you show them that you're in fact better than they are, that's when they start to listen.
@@PowerK1 What about em?
@@PowerK1 Respect has nothing to do with trying to understand another person. I don't base my value on what people think of me. I base my value on the type of person I am. Focus on yourself and better the individual you are and focus less on what people think of you. I dont follow behind of try to get people to like me. But I will treat others with dignity and courtesy. If I dont do that I cant respect myself. My respect comes from me. I know the difference between right and wrong. And I feel it when I dont treat people right. So respect yourself.
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1. allowing others to interrupt you easily
2. interrupt when others are speaking
3. pushing opinions onto others
4. not following through
5. being inconsiderate
7. being dishonest, and lacking integrity
8. bragging too much
Thank You!
9. Treating people based around your personal gain
9. Spoiling the entire video. Like seriously? Wow.
Where's number 6?
nuTAElla 7 is 6
Other ways people loose respect for you
1# Begging for forgiveness
2# Being a know it all
3# Hot Heads
4# Arguing about silly things on the internet
5# Poor sportsmenship
@Saida Agourram Then you're obviously not open to new ideas.
@Saida Agourram did you know that i was going to respond to you? i bet you didn't know that
@Saida Agourram did you know that Trump is the president of America? i bet you didn't know that
@Saida Agourram people always tell me that i have no sense of humor but ok
@Saida Agourram Sorry I just hate it when people act so arrogant and are never open to new ideas. It's so irritating.
1. Allowing others to interrupt too easily
2. Interrupt when others are still talking
3. Pushing opinions on others like sales
4. Not following through
5. Being inconsiderate
6. Being dishonest and lacking integrity
7. Bragging too much
8. You treat people based on personal gain
"The saying goes: treat others like you want to be treated.
But perhaps we got it all backwards?
Maybe the expression should say...
Treat yourself
with the same love and respect
you want to show others"
EDIT: Thank you for reading :). I learned this quote from Jay Shetty TH-cam video called "We're All Guilty Of This." The full title is quite long so I shorten it so excuse me for doing it. Anywho, I wish you all well!
Now it goes perfect!
* insert hugs bunny meme* n o
@rajat king Being confident is okay, you can't stop your own cham, but don't be too bossy....
I really don't think "treat others as you would like to be treated" works very well, because not everyone wants to be treated the same. Some people want others to inquire about their troubles, and others want people to mind their own damn business, just for example. Also, I think a huger problem is being inconsistent between people (of otherwise similar levels of familiarity). For example, there is the popular myth that women are more empathetic than men. In actuality, women are more empathetic to other women, but not so towards men (very generally) Meanwhile, men (very generally) act as if everyone is their own moral agent, which for some reason is unappreciated by women that want to be coddled. This comes back to treating others how you'd like to be treated.
Exactly because others don't always treat you how you treat them. Especially when you treat them positively and they shit on it.
Here’s my tip: don’t be the funny kid at school. People don’t take you seriously and often don’t respect you or understand you. Even after you stop.
I was a quite kid that absolutely hated loud obnoxious kids. I hated those days. Lol
No more Orange juice thank you that is the exact person I am
Asya Cacan I feel you.
@@Lovesickasyy There's nothing wrong with taking secrets to the grave.
There is a girl in my class who has an unapropriate home enviroment. She lacks attention so she tries to be the funny kid. She is often bullied, so me and a few of my friend tried to help her multiple times, in every approach possible, and told her to stop. She didn't change at all. Please don't act like her...
As an introverted female, not letting people interrupt me has been one of the hardest lessons of my life, but I finally learned how to hold my ground in a conversation. Basically, this video is absolutely spot on; just continue speaking, do not acknowledge the interrupter until after you have finished your sentence. THEY will realize that they are looking like a jerk for interrupting YOU.
● Being innocent
● letting others impress you easily..
Listening to their suggestions and accepting them easily
● Accepting others' jokes and insults on you...
● Being a helping hand to people who only TAKE your help ..
These make others loose respect for you too! Like though I take other's jokes , they don't accept when I crack one!
Also many a times I've helped ppl and stood with the ones who do not help me when I need them! Basically as a film dialogue says ' TAKE RESPECT , GIVE RESPECT ' There are ppl who are not gonna respect you whatsoever..so stop respecting them.. that is just ignore their presence and be a strong hearted individual and not a weak innocent person!!
Narcissist People NEVER give respect.
I subconsciously did some of them. I'm glad I am learning to better my way of thinking and note that there is a time for everything. My main thing is I don't like crowds but I love small groups of positive minded people.
you guys have been posting a lot recently and i’m loving it! don’t mind me trying to make self improvements! 🥴
This comment need way more likes uwu
lucy_bailey_ 11 give it some time 🥱🥴
&ur gonna achieve all these goals! 🤎
Thank you so much!! We hope our videos help!! What other topics would you like to watch next?
Party Surprise hi
Respect the right to think for yourself. That's a new one for me. Thx.
Yes, we can do it.
It just seems like most people lack human kindness and integrity and they are quick to be mean in some kind of way that's why I have really closed in to myself and stay away from people. I enjoy my own company. Thank you for the video❤️
I recently found out i have ADHD, and a symptom of that is interrupting others. For years i thought that was just how conversations worked because if i didnt but in sometimes i would forget what i was saying.
"the dog ate my computer"
yeah, but it took him a couple *Bytes*
Wow, that's "ruff"
Sense of humor, good thing
@@BlueEyedVibeChecker it's you replying to your own comment 2 months later for me👁️👄👁️👌🏼
Silver-Eyed Vibe Checker LMAOO 😂 This was so bad it's great 👏🏾😂
Lmao
Not interrupting: *loses respect*
Interrupting: *loses respect*
_I Was Thinking The Same Thing_
The mental gymnastics of all this is just aggravating
Interrupt sometimes but not too much. Don't interrupt if it will cause you to lose respect but do interrupt if you want respect. Respect your right to interrupt but don't interrupt. Interrupting is respectful unless it isn't. You will lose ALL respect when you interrupt. That is why interrupting is so important. ALWAYS INTERRUPT.
I got it, the solution is to not have conversations at all!
Right thats like counterintuitive
I’ve gotten better at not being interrupted but I may have started interrupting a little too often. And I’m always astounded at people posting their goals on social media - it’s like you’re setting yourself up for ridicule. Great video!
When I was working on project in my uni with my class mate. We had long and a bit intensive conversation. I never meant to lose respect for her, but at some point she raised voice and said me to not interrupt her. It was very detaching and cold. Sometimes we don't need to take ourselves to seriously.
I honestly just lost respect and trust for someone else and I can never look at them the same way
What if they want to work on themselves after? Would you still give them a chance?
Psych2Go The thing is he had done the exact same thing to some other people. But I was blinded by our friendship, and he turned around and stabbed me in the back. If he said he would willing to change I still don’t know if I could trust him. He was a big part of my life and now he’s gone, I want to believe he would change but I’m scared he’ll do it again.
@Arcane Raven I had a friend like that me and her were friends for 6-7 years we met in second grade and was my closest friend but started talking and ditching me for my ex-girlfriend who cheated on me and they were two of the three that made me loose hope. I decided I needed a break and told her. When I did all of the flags went off and it was like losing a sibling but I'm doing a lot better now and taking counseling for my anxiety and I'm actually lucky that anxiety is all I got tho I'm so scared new people that when making an interaction with them ( mainly in person ) I have a panic attack 😖. But it dose get better and life is worth living!
I know, I saw someone at the store today with an N-94 mask. Some people really have the nerve...
You know i have such a high wall between me and people because id trust them too much amd then fck i get backstabbed and lets face it i kinda had it coming so nowadays i stay as far away as humanly possible from people nomatter how lonely i get
Respect is one of the most important things to form friendships and relationships. The moment I lost respect for my ex was the moment I could no longer put in the effort to make things work. That's also the case with friendships.
Do you ever just want a cabin in the mountains and just sit there away from everyone forever
Maybe if you don't get respect from others it may be a good idea
You just read my mind I have thought that so many times and I know it sounds a little bit selfish but it is not bc we are looking for freedom and not being judged so the only way you can gain it is by being disappeared away from the people
Yes but you have to have the courage of your own convictions. Sometimes it's the other person who is at fault, not you. Plus with the best of intentions we all have weaknesses and flaws. Being a principled/ kind person makes life's journey a little smoother. Some people will always see that as a weakness. But that's their loss.
As a bipolar dishonest flake pain pill addict I'm too far gone so I just never leave my room.. Every time I get sober and try and embrace the world really awful things happen like rape car wreck being robbed at gunpoint or having a machete put to my throat for asking an old tenant for that 2 month's over due rent
That would be unhealthy. A better alternative is to live in a cabin for a while and then spend time with a person you can trust.
If someone can't be happy for me, we have nothing in common. 😊
Note that none of this counts when you’re dealing with a narcissist... I don’t do most of the things on this list and have tried to become very conscious of interrupting and being interrupted so that I don’t contribute to that cycle but it doesn’t matter with narcissists, they won’t respect people who don’t fit into the box they’ve made for them
My sister is a narcissist. Thats why I very rarely speak to her.
Very true! Living with a narcissist for 25 + years!
They don't respect the people who fit into their boxes, either.
Left a narcissistic ex of 8 years. You’re better off blocking them and walking away like they never existed cause nothing you say to them will they ever listen as they talk over you..
So true. Best to avoid them at all costs.
People who gives you no value..They keep disrespecting you no matter what you do.
I was taught,, some people mistake kindness for weakness.. So some try to take advantage of this, stay strong.
The next time I'm interrupted, I'm going to say, "Mr. Vice President, I am speaking."
Awesome!
Good one! 👍
Lolol!!!
Lol
It's good one lol
My brain: *I’ll take your entire stock*
Jontron?
@Duck Sauce I prefer Josephi Krakowski.
3:51 YOOO CLARISSE GOT THEM ANIMATION SKILLZ
Yes, she's very talented! :) Would you like to see more?
@@Psych2go yess 😍
@@Psych2go YES
@@Psych2go we miss the plants
Aside from letting people interrupt you most of these are malicious personality traits which are obvious, I think the most important info is letting people know that the subtle loss of respect can be caused by kind acts or being too nice to people whom are undeserving of it, have boundaries, don't let people walk over you and most importantly respect yourself. This is advice that I still have trouble following myself, but that I believe it is important.
Some people like to own the floor. They are selfish and really need to learn how to shut up.
Yep everyone is an asshole to me for no reason
@@pz1007 same
@@pz1007 either they're just being straight-up assholes (more likely imo) trying to prove something/ overcoming securities, or you're not being dominant enough- although it can be a fine line I suppose- not that I'm an expert.. the universe/ people probably don't hate you, the universe and nature are indifferent to us (people are a part of nature, much as I hate to admit it) but ultimately it's nothing personal tho, the universe and nobody owes us anything and vice versa, so we can make out of it what we want
The world really is as cruel, if not more, than we think and even the most kind hearted giving people are selfish... But we are all loads more resilient and strong in tough times than we can ever comprehend, I have learned that many a time in tight spaces/ times in life
@@Dman9fp well hey I do I'm in school I tried to fight and raise my voice but my principal will kick me out though and my dad will beat my ass (disaplin me)
@@pz1007 No matter how illogical school rules are, can't win there. Just a waste of energy. Almost amazing how I never got suspended or in any notable trouble, but then again I was under the delusion there was a "permanent record"-- honestly isn't all bad tho, never know when something on social media or being in the wrong crowd could bite back one day... But for sure too can't expect to go to college/ cross T's, dot all the I's, perfect grades and just be handed a job after getting a degree. Degrees are the bare bones minimum nowadays, about skills and experience, or at least certifications and passion/knowledge- how I got my foot in the door... Bit of side tracking and didn't expect to be talking to someone in grade school-- but can't just assume everyone is out to get ya.. they have their own motivations, sometimes I guess they can't just make exceptions even if they seem warranted or more rational than outright banning something or whatever the issue was
I mostly relate to number 1. I've gotten better at it, and am becoming more comfortable with myself, but I can't help but pause if someone else begins talking. Its impolite of them, but I don't want to make a scene or create discomfort, even though I feel annoyed/hurt.
Same. I always felt like it was rude to interrupt someone when they were talking.
Marina Medina I used to do that but now if someone interrupts me I just keep talking and generally they will stop :)
yes. its frustrating. how does that reflect my personality but not theirs? something's not right here.
@@sparklingfashion6276 RIGHT?? Thank you! 👏👏👏
I'm just coming clean on what flaws I have and I'm always trying to get better but these things also have some explanations.
1. Allowing people to interrupt me. This is one I have trouble with even when I try to speak up, I have anxiety that I'm taking cousling for to help with it
2. Inurupting others. When in a conversation I don't mean to do this I apologize and let the person continue, this happens because if I'm in a conversation and don't get my point out when I think of it I end up on a topic that they were talking about 30 minutes ago and I get questioned on Why I don't say it or how I was rude to interrupt.
3. Not going through with things. My parents do think I may have a small case of A.D.D. where I zone out for a really long time and to my surprise find myself doing something else
As well as a few more that weren't in the video.
Accidentally coming off rude.
At my school ( Jr. High ) it is very common some one will be nice and I'm to scared to show a reaction so they get mad at me. Now people at my school claim a can't speak so they would know I have anxiety. (I'm not meaning to sound rude😓)
Not talking/ being alone.
I can be hanging out with someone and not say a word and it's relaxing it feels comfortable to me but people normally don't like this. For part 2 (being alone) I tend come of as if I'm not in the conversation or sometimes walk away to charge my 'battery/energy' because I gain energy from being alone while talking takes away energy.
A dark sense of humor. I've only made a few friends and they never really stay because of this. They say the timing can be inappropriate and seem insensitive when truthfully I'm trying to lighten the mood. I am working on this and it seems affective so far
I'm confusing. I can get some grades that arnt the best but I've only seen the matrix once and completely understoond it at the age of 12. 😅
Those are some of my flaws if you actually cared enough to read this please tell me what some of your flaws are. ( you don't have to ) 👋😀
I'm shocked that I can actually relate to some of these valid points you make.
I strongly relate to being alone point. I also recharge my energy that way
You are really strong :) I don't really like being around people for some reason.
Yeah everyone has bad habits I don't fully agree with this video
@@ciarara1839 I prefer to be around dogs. They are the epitome of what humans should be.
I've been guilty of all of them at some point in my life and equally I've lost respect for people who have done the same to me. Moral of the story is, don't worry too much about what others may think about you because it's all subjective. You can't please everyone and everyone can't please you
I am really working on not worrying about what others think about me. The thing that gets me is when you find out or have a strong inkling that you've been talked about negatively by people who have real dysfunction going in there life compared to the minor issues of those they try to bring down.
For instance, after graduating college, I chose to move back home, save money and go without keeping up with the Joneses, in order to have a nice cushion for my older years and not be struggling paycheck to paycheck. Also, I cut ties with people I've gone on dates with when I see red flags, instead of continuing on with them making excuses for their bad behavior. This has lead to my dating life not being very exciting. But I rather wait until "the one" comes along who is worthy of my time and doesn't play games........basically a quality person who I'm evenly yoked with. Then I found out that my name came up in conversations and my whereabouts were discussed and talked about as if I were strange. The kicker is that those people had either had kids out of wedlock, were shacked up with men for years and never married (even though all they've wanted was to be married since teenagers), living paycheck to paycheck and/or no savings. So in there minds, I'm the oddball for not having dysfunction and preparing for my future so that I can have my own back. Yet, they have done a ton of things backwards and have the nerve to talk about me. It pisses me off that they don't see their dysfunction but talk about me as if I'm an alien.
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Very interesting however I do agree with Chad Powell's statement and pointer:
1. Never take advantage of someone's kindness
2. NEVER LET PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU EITHER
3. NEVER LET OTHERS BE KIND WITH OTHER MOTIVES TO CREATE A NEVER ENDING SITUATION
4. Also never let others make promises on a never ending basis for their own convenience.
5. Be kind but with sincere heart.
As a high school teacher, it is critical that I must respect my students for a better learning environment. I can't demand respect from my students, I must earn it.
No. You need to yell at your students in order to get respect. Also, you need to start sounding like Daffy Duck when you get angry. This will get you the respect you want and need.
A timid , shy , unconfident person is result of being a push over for the most their life . Letting mfs walk all over you through out your life and not standing up will make you that way ( males or females. ) . Everytime you don't assert yourself in all possible situations you slap yourself in face and your self esteem and self confidence / worth takes hits . So time to stand up or else your own self respect is in others mercy . I've always asked myself why I was timid and lacked confidence . Well just recently I've finally came to the full realization that that was the primaral factor . 👊
Very true!! I recently had a "wake up" call, after going through a deep self evaluation. I started thinking about every time, since a child, that I let people get away with insulting or bullying me. I would think about this, from time to time over the years, but this recent time was like someone screaming in my ear because it really hit home. It had always been hard for me to accept that I was not as strong as I could've been. Then recently, this is when I accepted that I couldn't control what they did or said to me in the past, but I could have controlled my responses, which happened to suck unfortunately. Most times I didn't stand up for myself and if I attempted to, my comebacks were not great. I would always think about the perfect comeback after the moment had passed. All of this led me to realize that not standing up for myself contributed to depression I've suffered with. I've gotten better with standing up for myself over the past several years. But now I am on high alert for anybody that says anything negative to me and make sure to handle it in the moment, so that I don't add to the list of regrets I already have. Just going through this process in my head has helped me to heal a little and feel more confident because I took the first step, which was being truthful with myself and accepting that I did the best I could in those moments, even if my best was weak as hell. 😕 And let me tell you that DOING A DEEP SELF REFLECTION IS A DOOSIE because you can't run from the truth deep down inside. Now, I'm in the 2nd phase which is not repeating the timid behavior of the past and checking people on the spot when they come at me the wrong way.
@@moonsyoungestsun6550 exactly 💯. Nib that shit in bud immediately , if not it escalates to worst disrespect . People will test you , don't let it slide or they'll become blood thirsty and ruthless . If the confrontation escalates to a fist fight well a black eye and bruises will heal , but you'll look in the mirror and say " I respect you " . Immediately , expeditiously , on the spot . Cant tolerate no bullshit or disrespect from no one because we're all equal , worthy and deserve respect . You'll see overtime the healing , self esteem , self respect , self worth and confidence start grow gradually. I was bullied too in my childhood and that shit stays on your mind forever , dwelling and dwelling . Those negative thoughts lead to depression . You're like " damn I went out like bitch and a coward " . Just embrace the adrenaline and build the self respect on times of checking . Check out The 50th Law book by 50 Cent and Robert Greene . Its about fear , confrontion and etc. He mention how in a school playgrowund a kid is bullying another kid and the victim says " please I don't want to fight " and guess what the bully does ? Sock yo ass and go home with a black eye because you gave the bully the confidence and permission to do so . You're not willing to defend yourself. So if you don't respect yourself, nobody will . Honor , dignity and reputation is everything. Hustle Harder , Hustle Smarter by 50 Cent a great book as well by the way .
eh I have none of those anyways 😎
its the other way around
Very true, I should draw a line. My respect is a reflection of how I behave others.
I was too nice for my own good in the past. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to use my good nature against me, asking me to do favors for them. I started to resent the kids I was compassionate to, and I found myself craving validation from them.
I think these tips are very good. I would like to add a consideration however. Respect has a passive and an active aspect. That is, there is a difference between NO respect and Disrespect. No respect is a neutral state where someone does not know you well enough to have an opinion about you; whereas Disrespect is negative and usually takes a more active (deliberate) form. Don't confuse the two.
Respect is like love. Should you have no respect or love for yourself makes it harder for you to show respect and love to another person or persons.
Me: *talks*
Friend 1: *interrupts once*
Me: “*annoyed, begins to talk again*
Friend 3: *interrupts*
Me: *slightly more annoyed, begins talking again*
Friend 2: *interrupts*
Me: “sO yoU haVe cHosEn dEatH”
Ikr🤣
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same but I feel like a hypocrite if I get mad, since I do that too sometimes.🙈😖
😂😂
But there's no need to be mad just tell him "could you stop interrupting me this is my time."
Be clear And rise ur voice when u talk and be serious and nobody will interrupt ya 🌚..
@@tabtab.teeb3 actually, when im interrupted i suddenly feel invisible. unless i start choking them just to talk, no matter how loud i am they don't let me talk. if they do notice me they just tell me to quiet down and i hate it.
I have been in special ed all my life because I was never like the rest, I used to do all those things because I didn't know it was wrong now, thanks to my bluntly honest, but sweet friends, I've changed those ways, I just had to be shown the light.
Be aware also that society rewards the narcissistic bully .
That's ok.
Accept it and cope .
Always do right .
"Right may not be profitable or expedient but it will satisfy your soul "
Maya Angelou.
Be true to yourself even when there's no support 💜
Great video!!
Thank you 😊
Society does not reward narcissistic bullies. Where did you get a warped idea like that?
I lost respect to the (most of) staff of my high school. And here's why
They didn't do anything to the kid who accused my little brother of rape. Which almost lead him to kill himself. (His okay btw) and expelled the victim because he was defending himself from a fist fight. On top of that we have a restraining order and they broke it.
With me. I have a brain disorder that makes me faint (it's not epailpys) they lied to me saying I've failed my year level. Because I was taking to many days off (and yet they send me home when I have an episode?) And the final straw was when they refused to let me back at school to say that I've stop fainting. (Which is impossible). Mom actually took me shopping as it was the first period when it happened. Even on the good staff wanted to call the education department for this. (They were called before for my brother and the principal has now got a mark) When I left that hell of a school. I found out ON PAPER (not by the downloading thingy which I didn't get) that I was getting Bs and C+... This is a PUBLIC school. And now I feel better 😅
Yikes, that's really bad. Hope everyone affected is ok now
Just report to the police
Bullying is a very bad thing
Shouldn’t that be reported
@@ellenawesome5533 me and my brother are okay now because we're out of there. And like I said we only called the education department for my brother. I honestly think mum has done the same if not the staff I mentioned did it but I don't know if we can report it now since My brothers incident was back in 2015? And mine was only last year (3 weeks before school was supposed to end)
@@velocity8937 but we did call the police for what the bully has done and they actually took our side. (because we had Papers and the one time they tried to say my Dad threatened to kill them.... At that time we were in another state 😂) they haven't bothered us again
I really relate to #8 because everyone just uses me for their schoolwork because people know I'm smart and they only reason people want to be around me is so that they can copy my answers and I hate it. That's why I work alone in paired projects
I related to #8 like you did when I was a child and teen. I was in your predicament as well, but unlike you, I was too naïve to acknowledge it.
Wanna know what gets on my nerves? My mom is in a conservation. And I wait until she's done, it looks like she's done so I start talking and then she starts talking again. And sometimes I get yelled at for "iNtErrUptinG".
Same thing with my husband.
Same ting with my daughter.
1. Allowing others to interrupt you easily (draw a line)
2. Interrupt when others are still talking
3. Pushing opinions to others like sales (or beliefs)
4. Not following through (less talk more action)
5. Being inconsiderate
6. Being dishonest and lacking integrity
7. Bragging too much
8. You treat people based on personal gain
Me: *being nice loyal to everyone*
Everyone: Nope
I understand, been there done that.
Honorable mention:
Being the husband of a Karen
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LMAO 😂
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Lol bruh😂😂
😂😂😂 this comment is so true tho
I love being imperfect it makes others bond
The teachers at the school where I work as humble employee, take over the conversation like it's nothing when a cleaning lady is talking to a teacher. They also come in the library and interrupt when I talk to the librarian. They are not first looking or listening if the conversation is not very important. They feel they should be served "now" because they are the most important people in the school.
It's so attractive when a person says "I don't know" and "what do think?"
Apparently
But then people start to think that you only suck ideas from others and ca not come up with anything your self.
@@777VOID-1 uh... no. I’ve said “I don’t know,” plenty of times and I’ve also thought about an out of the box idea. I’ve had many ideas stolen from me from fake friends
"I'm sorry" is another good one & reinforce the statement/s with action to show you mean it.
When parents don't apologize for doing toxic things, like threatening to get rid of you or down right insulting you and your siblings, and then when you call them out they make excuses for themselves to put themselves in the right
Then they make you eat your brussel sprouts. The horror!!!
@@Kelle0284 i haven't eaten brussel sprouts in years, but i know they are nasty
@@s.sumbrella7616 I used to hate them when I was a kid. Now I love them. I know. I'm weird.
@@Kelle0284 it's whatever
@jeff jones ikr LOL.
Person: The dog ate my homework.
Teacher: It was an online assignment.
Person: ... I meant the dog ate my computer.
Me: 😂
Lol
Teacher: But you're standing in front of the camera
Please add "constantly complaining regardless of the mood of the person who "has" to listen" to the list.
Is it true, that people who cant say "No" and always saing "Yes". Like helping always on no matter which day or time and so on, getting less respect too?
That is a sign of someone who does not respect themselves, yeah.
Yes. I'm guilty of that. Through therapy, I've realized it's a serious issue with deep roots from childhood. I've been working hard on stopping that now. What made me snap out of it was one of my co-workers said that he always comes to me for help because I never say no. It made me feel like shit. I've been a little selfish ever since.
My friends always get irritated when they ask something of me and instead of saying no I try to kinda jokingly say no (i mean like someone asks to ride my bike and I say no sorry I lost my keys :/) so I think it’s just if you can’t flat out say no
That was me and still is me. I learned to say no ever since earlier this year, but haha I'm still not used to it so I kind of carry on to say yes... It just doesn't feel like being yourself when you can't say no but always say yes and most of the time it's because you want to please other people but then the end route is that you feel like a prisoner and you can't say what you want to say anymore.
One time in school, it was a DT lesson when we were practising lockdown. This girl kept wanting to go out and get her snacks because she bought those snacks just for the lockdown. I was blocking the door and she was disrespecting me by stamping her feet on mine and standing on top of my feet. A boy came over and I repeatedly told her to stop but she gave me a 'I don't care' face and carried on so the boy told her to stop as well. She did, but came on again. So I grabbed her legs and told her to stop and wowee she was beginning to threaten me. So my friend told me that she can go and block the door and I looked at her with quite a serious face because I was angry at the time and that was like the first time I ever said no to her. She was...shocked, I would say. So long story short the girl stamping on my feet didn't go out to get her precious little snacks. But to be honest, she is really disrespectful and everytime someone tells her to shush or anything she rolls her eyes and such.
So yeah that's one of my story...hehe
@@grace2070 thats quite interesting. I think the girl learned her lesson :D
Thank you for sharing.
So you still struggling with that problem?
Some toxic people would call your boundaries disrespect...when you choose to not use the internet for a couple of days they get mad when you say you believe you’re not what they think you’re they get mad
“sometimes it’s okay if they lose respect for me as long as I didn’t lose respect for myself”
Sometimes being nice gets to the point where you start to resent others. Sometimes the niceness that you show to others comes at the expense of your own happiness and well-being. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your kindness and use your good nature against you.
3:51 smoothest animation on this channel ever.
Glad you like it! Would you like to see more of her animation? :)
@@Psych2go Yes! More of that please.
Please do!
@@Psych2go Please jUsT dO iT
It's so eye-catching!
Not respecting yourself is one of the biggest reasons others won’t respect you.
A friend constantly interrupts and talks and talks. Sometimes I say: Let me finish. Another friend brags and shows off every chance she gets. If there is no opportunity to brag, she just creates a situation. Luckily, during this pandemic I almost don't see her. She brags through whatsapp. A lot of times I just don't answer.
In casual conversation, if someone interrupts me I just stop talking and smile politely. And when they're done, I just walk away. I won't waste my energy trying to get back on my topic or trying to "show them" that I was already talking. You just showed me you're not worth talking to. Formal conversations, I just put up my hand and say, "Please, if I may?" If they don't respect that, then the conversation is over.
I let people interrupt my conversations because iv'e already lost respect for them the moment they interrupted.
Lol
*Automatic disgust*
Exactly....lol
This always happens to me. That's why I prefer to be alone. Lol
Right?! I just turn my back and walk away.
So being proud without being selfish . Something balanced
amazing video! loved every point, all of them are true.
i think 'being inconsiderate' was explained narrowly though. you can be inconsiderate by not knowing or remembering people's names, by not doing your job right, whether you're paid for it or not, and whether it was in your job description or not.
going to be watching this video from time to time! worth the time and effort
Thank you for the tips! Really appreciate these videos you make, they honestly help me out a lot 😊
Excellent points. My husband never liked it when people would waste his time. On one occasion, he was supposed to meet with 2 volunteer superiors in an organization he belonged to and they didn't show up. So, he sent them a bill for his 2 hours of wasted time. He said that he did not expect to paid, but just wanted them to realize that his time had value. They never did that again.
On the other hand he always wrote down his commitments in his calendar -- and lived by it. He said that it didn't matter if it was the U.S. President or his long-time friend; they all had to "get on the square". That way, they could see that he respected their time as well.
How to follow the 8 things:
1. Cover your ears if somebody tries to interrupt you if you somehow are unable to speak during when other people are talking over you (like the speech jammer effect) but also when you're done with your turn, return to the interrupter.
2. Do the same thing, only when necessary, like when you're telling a story at camp for example and people interrupt you because it's long, just continue talking, and if you get in trouble, try as many possible ways as you can to show this, such as printing a piece of paper that shows the video and this comment.
3. Introduce opinions, not force opinions. This one is self-explanatory.
4. Try not to procrastinate on new year revolutions, instead just try to see if it works out or not before saying it didn't work, and if people feel disappointed, maybe change it a little bit and tweak it a few times.
5. Try to return to the interrupter after finishing your conversation, like I said in #1.
6. Be honest, this one is also self-explanatory. I dislike my ex-friend because he kept lying and said "I don't like youtube because they are noobs at fortnite" yet he watches it. He says "I'm the best at fortnite" but he's not actually the best at it. Somehow, his friends believe him, like stupid idiots.
7. Don't brag/show off your achievements and advancements too much. This one is again, self-explanatory.
8. Respect others and yourself. Follow the golden rule, which is treat others you want to be treated. If you treat people nice and you get bullied, bully them back, if they treat you nice, treat them nice back.
I agree with No. 8. Usually, I give back from what I get from other people. For instance, I'm nice when someone is nice to me. But when people give me trouble, they'll know what they'll get.
In order for others to respect you, you must first respect yourself
thank you. i feel so ashamed i have done these in the past and yet i am pleased I have watched this and it's really reminded me not to ANY of them by any means necessary. i find it hard not to share my views for human rights on social media but i do understand and try to avoid the bragging thing online.
People interrupt me a lot & I can't stand it but I don't know exactly how to respond to it, I get really shocked/speechless when someone does it. What do I do?
Keep talking. Power through and finish your thought. Don't raise your voice like you're yelling, but your voice should sound firm and hard. Hard eye contact helps a lot. I deal with people at work like this a lot. You have to radiate big dick energy or else people will just keep talking over you. It's such a shitty thing to do, but sometimes you gotta be shitty.
I would say excuse me let me finish finish what I was saying . The more you do it the easier it gets .and say it in a calm way good luck
When this happens, I simply say "could you please not interrupt me?" Or "could you let me finish?". Of course it depends a lot on the context, and who's interrupting me. But usually I say that.
People interrupt me all the time too, but thats okay, because I'm long-winded and most of what I say absolutely smacks of absurdity.
@@Carol-qt1ix i am 41 years old and my mother will interrupt ME and say in anger, gritted teeth and closed-ish mouth "Can you let me finish?!?!!" She found out i was talking and reconnecting with one of my childhood best friends and she had the nerve to call her and chats her up saying that i needed to develop a spine because i haven't left my husband. Im still not sure, so i am trying to listen to jsut The Father and His Spirit. He may want me to overcome and go through suffering. He may want me to leave, Idk, but to call MY friend and talk about your own daughter in such a demeaning way is devastating......
A lot of this video is a huge part of my seclusion from IRL meetings and voice chats. Especially allowing people to interrupt my conversation, and interrupting a conversation. Those two are like the bane of my social engagements and I'm always weak to it. It's why I like to talk one on one, or not at all. Then, since I'm also scared of not being able to follow plans on a scale of a New Year's Resolution, and breaking promises, I also prefer not to make promises, stick to the trust, respect, and tolerance. I'm not going to make the same mistake as I once did.
Thank you for this video!!! I feel like I let people walk all over me in conversations, barging over what I’m saying and not letting me finish
Basically don't be a narcissist. Good luck finding someone who isn't in 2020.
Fifty years of telling people it's okay and even Good For Everyone to be a selfish, greedy, blinkered, public twit.
It's called politeness and it's a mindset, it actually still exists, but more often outside of America, obviously
@@jelenad6367 Pretty much why I want to leave this dump.
@@Ominiumshadow24 you mean the US? Hm, so interesting... I'm from southern Europe and I have to say I see the difference in attitude, upbringing etc between Europeans and Americans... I think when they are selfish, they are selfish about different things, in different ways, different body language, everything is very visible. But we are here also getting a bit lured into this american style of harsh capitalistic selfishy materialistic approach to anything, as time is passing by. It's a carrot in front of nose saying "look how the successful countries succeded, certainly not by nurturing kind, warm, giving, altruistic traits in people. So, let us all just become more 'professional' and emotionless..."... And it reflects to private thoughts as well. But first of all I think it doesn't even work in the US and... Why not taking some other successful country for an example anyway? Scandinavia for example. And why to compare and what is the definition of success anyway? Also mentality of a place is a worthwhile factor to take into account... So if a place is historically or traditionally conditioned to have set of values that don't fall into material level of existence, those people might naturally to this day be less prone to act selfishly or in greedy manner. If you want to move abroad, maybe first roam around the world if you have opportunity, or learn from online reportages, simply to see different things and see what could work for you and what would not. Also have in mind grass indeed might be greener elsewhere but it might come with unexpected baggage in other areas of... "garden" of that future life elsewhere. Sometime a mentality offers lovely general altruism in society, but the culture is suffocating and it makes a foreigner suffer with all it's overwhelming traditional roles and expectations. It's hard to find perfect environment, but it's possible to find better environment for *oneself*.
@@jelenad6367 I've wanted to look into Iceland. I just need to save more money. Very well said...
Is TH-cam tryna tell me something cus like 😗🤔
Alana Trené story of my life 😂😭
What are your thoughts after watching this?
@@Psych2go I feel like I do all of these but at the same time I feel like I don't. I might be overthinking lol
@@Psych2go I think people were losing respect for me and that I wasn't standing up for myself 😔
@@alanatrene8178 if you're not standing up for yourself maybe its because you just dont have the technique to do so if you haven't been taught how to. I am not trying to teel how but i can tell you who can, a therapist. I see a therapist, its like having a coach/teacher helping me work through my situation. I you can finsd and see a therapist, they can help you communicate, give you tools to navigate so many situations we find ourselves in. You one of Gods children, a creature of light let no one hide that light especially you
Even though you show your friend A LOT of respect, they still disrespect me and idk why. Its like i'm a rat in a maze...
Their not your real friend let those fake ass friends go.
Friendship should have mutual gain and loss with both sides mentally. If someone doesn’t respect you when you respect them and it makes you feel unappreciated it’s best to leave that person
Distance yourself and eventually cut ties with them. You deserve better than people who don't respect you as a person.
Bazaha Bazha sadly they’re not ur real friends.. I know it’s difficult to leave toxic relationships but in the long run you’ll realize that it was for the best! Sending love ✨
You'll encounter such people in your life, its your job to clarify your boundaries, and if disrespect continues, find new friends.
Yes I need to stop talking about what I’m going to do to others, bc sometimes it’s not feasible to follow through,,I can relate to that one-:))
Treat everyone with respect until they prove themselves to be your enemy.
This is so true, because it's what has happened to me. I lost my respect from my friends by bragging about my new plans and not getting it done. And it was impossible to gain their trust back. But we are all different human beings and we don't want to be forced to do what other people tells on me to do. And same for my friends. They couldn't stand my oppressing behaviour. At first I just did it for fun, but then it became a habbiy eventually making all my friend leave me. Just like I want to be cheered they want to be cheered to. They want to be respected and be praised for what they have done. That's what they expected from me which I couldn't give. I regret that a LOT.
Well, people always talk even though I was talking first and I just stay silent cause if I butt in, they'll say: "hey I was talking wth"(because for them I'm just nothing) and they would think that I'm weird and like stay away from me🙃🙃🙃
@Saida Agourram thanks for the advice 🙂 I'll keep it in mind
@@marydenniseafable6086 are you an aspie ?? That happens a lot to me too.
@@deepmallikakonwar4970 I think I'm a little of an aspie cause I actually have a hard time especially when I interact with someone I don't know and I don't usually give eye contact
I kinda found the Interrupting part confusing because its like mentioned, typically at times we do interrupt or get interrupted, but regular convos since after high school dont typically go that route. I do agree with and understand everything else!
Being interrupted is the main annoying one I deal with. Someone said I keep repeating myself which was why her tune me out sometimes, but I wouldn't have to repeat myself if I wasn't derailed by being interrupted. And then when I say something about that, I'm still ignored until I start to get so annoyed that I have to yell and then am seen as being emotional and easily angered even though it took me a long while to get to that point.
Lesson of depressed people:
Never have too much friends.
I agree, In my opinion it’s way better having less friends so that means deeper connections and less opinions thrown at you.
Thing 1: you dab...every single time you speak.
Dabbing was never cool to begin with, dunno why people just dab.
LMAO YEAH
@@ana7icia some just do it for the meme
others are just idiots
I knew I was doing something wrong
Stealth ikr
Thank you so much for this. I’ve struggled all my life having autism and so many have stoped hanging out with me and I could never figure out why. So many days sad and wish I could keep friends and their respect for me. But because of videos like these I can thrive in life and someday hope to be involved in these kinds of videos.
Now I know why I have no friends, I can even add another 8 additional things I do to lose respect from other people, but besides that I'm generally a pretty good person.
My 'bad' habit is interrupting people and I know I am doing it and often apologise. It is so annoying for me (and also them). I guess I need to mentally 'step back' and let them finish. I think it comes from wanting to join in and agreeing with others and also I don't want to forget what I wanted to say! It is not meant in a nasty way... stay safe all ❤️
Being motivated and positive minded sometime make other person lose their respect to you.maybe because anyway their are negative and toxic.thats my opinion
This lady's voice is so calm and relaxing. 😌 They should make a device where we could hear it daily to keep our inner peace.
😂 yeah
Don't treat people based on personal gain
Dont be overbearing with your beliefs
Don't brag about your achievements.
My key takeaways from the video.
Thank you❤