How To Guard Your Heart?
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Another KEY practice for women is to not fantasize about that person in your head. A lot of times women create these fantasies about that person, which creates an emotional soul tie.
true!
That is so true cos I experienced this on a online relationship...we hadn't even met personally and I was already emotionally affected by that man. I learned a hard lesson. I felt like a fool 4 real.
Sharhonda Smith Always look at the positive....you now know better!
You must have missed that part when I said that in the video? Lol.
Starts at 8:43
A man is a accessory NOT a necessity!! That’s deep...
Amen!!! Love that what Ms.Gaskins said.
Lynn Jones love it!!!!!
Too bad most of us don't really believe that 😌
Amen And Amen Again
Same with a woman
Wow - the person who cares the least has the most power...
So if you both stop caring you both win 😭
My mom told me this years ago & it’s so true
I learned this the HARD way.
The only way that I have been able to carry out what Tony mentioned is with a man I'm have no interest in and I'm not attracted to. I don't date alot and I see I'm no good at it.
@@Th3lite Flip your mindset.
💯 not sleeping with someone changes the whole game. If or when that person decides to leave you react completely different than you would’ve had you slept with them
This right here is the absolute TRUTH and most don't even realize it...
FACTS!
It does
So true for a woman. My god. 🙌🙌
Totally!! 🙌🏾
Ladies when a man gets upset for you not sleeping with him, tell the Lord thank you! Now if a man is willing to stick around and not pressure you...game changer! That could be your husband. Stay off you byke and build your 3B's! 💖🌸
Cher H That part
@@Glamrocs 💯
That's my motto from now on - stay off your byke and work on your 3B's... 🙌🏽
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@@e.n.m7508 get it Queen! No one will take care of you like you! 🌼💖
I follow the rule: "Keep my legs close and my eyes open". It makes miracles in my love life! Be Blessed Tony and Your Beautiful Family! Sending you lots of love!
Angelica Gabrieli hallelujah now!!
Listen to Tony what he's telling us is true. Stay off ya back! It's not worth it ladies. We have so much more to lose.
Amen 💯
Yes
Yes sister!
Thanks for clarifying its back and not “bike”??? Lol
@@Mindsetolympics Girl he is country. Yes he has been saying back 😆 I only knew that cuz I'm country
Lol am the only one who binge watches Tony's videos to the point where I want to practice how to do the two flipping finger thing.. When he says "on your bike"😂
Lol. Already practiced.
I’m guilty I did it
Got it down pat. 😂
Lol yeesssss🤣🤣🤣
Nope! 😂 I've did it too! What's wrong with us? 😂
The 5 F's : Faith, Family, Finances, Fitness, Friends.. don't neglect any of these things for a man or woman.
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
Definitely true all those have greatly helped me out 😊
“You can’t take nothing as true until you bump into the evidence.” TG
I’m feeling a bit emotional today. I’m 27 y/o and just want to thank you for being a virtual “father” for a lot of us young adult women/girls. Some of us know but needed to hear this from men in our lives.
Blessings
Don’t neglect your priorities for a man. Lesson learned. Great video. Be blessed everyone
I remember hearing this lady tell her daughter, who was currently messing with a married man, say, "It's fate and destiny, that's your man." I was absolutely blown away. God will NEVER send you a married man. Smh. I know this and I'm a young grasshopper.
Yes! Ladies PLEASE never make a man/your man your entire world and change your entire schedule for him. If he’s your husband than he can move up to #2 but please keep God #1!!!! 🙏🏽💯
Ruby L He should be #3. God, me, and then him.
healed2011 That’s a yes and a no at the same time. Yes, you should absolutely love yourself but when married you two become one and are to serve one another. Definitely love yourself though. You’re important to God so therefore you should.
@@healed2011 Amen! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
I used to be the girl who said the Lord sent... 😂😂 I was blind but now I see Tony. The Devil send people to
Amen!
Thank you, yes
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Talk about it 🤠
No lies told. Sleeping with someone clouds ur judgment...There have been a few instances where I almost slept with guys I’ve spent hours talking to on the phone with everyday for months, gone on multiple dates, & spent lots of time with only to find out despite all of that, some of them had BMs they were still messing with, never mentioned they had a baby on the way despite our lonnggg phone conversations, and 1 of them even had a WIFE he never told me abt. Smh but I believe that the reason that it was so easy for me to walk away & be turned off by them was not only my morals, but also because I never slept with any of them. Time reveals who ppl truly are especially when u don’t sleep with them. U lose nothing, its a fact(.)
Sis. I'm there now. He is available but I'm not willing to compromise or have regrets. Time will tell
Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper facts! preach girl, I had learned this the hard way! Legs closed and eyes open💯
Sara Coleman yes, take ur time & guard ur heart “for out of it are the issues of life.” When ur heart is disturbed, ur mind is disturbed & it’s hard to function. Ur doing right by taking ur time. U literally have to guard it like u would guard ur child. Just like we don’t leave our children in the hands of just anyone that we don’t know, we have to watch who we give our hearts to. It really does matter...
Every time I look back, I thank God I never went thru with sleeping with those men because I probably would’ve regretted it. As I see some of them in my TL, neither of them deserved it plus it turns out they weren’t who I thought they were..Not sleeping with ppl gives u power to detach quickly if u need be 💯
It took me awhile to realize BMs means baby mama. I'm an older woman who was a nurse. BM means something entirely different to me lol.
"A man is an accessory not a necessity" ~Sheri Gaskins 🌸❤
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@@DynamicallyDC 💯
Cher H 👏👏👏👏👍
@@shan4145 💯
Period!
"I'm glad to be in her world and not her world"- Tony Gaskins
Guard Your Heart🧡
Tony said he done knocked your spine out of place now you can’t see straight!! When I say he be telling it like it is!! 💯
Veronica White 😂😂😂 right
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I'm telling you!! And its true!!🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Chile yess!! I died!!! And came back to hear the rest! 💀⚰️💀
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You can only give what a person has earned... period
Reciprocity ✔
I’ve had to go through a lot of disappointments in 1 and a half years to get here. My heart is so guarded. I’m not sleeping with no one until a ring is on my finger and the vows has been said!!. Sex controlled me for a while but never again y’all!
I’ve learned to never give someone more than they give you... learned to love yourself more than the thought of him an you will b ok 👌🏾
Guarding your heart requires discipline and self love. If you truly love yourself you will guard your heart to the utmost because you recognize it's value and you understand that from it flow the issues of life. Stay in reality not fantasy. We have to remember too that we are what we eat/consume and that goes for more than food, it includes what is read, watched, seen, and listened too. These things shape our mentality, spirituality, speech, and thought processes just like food affects our health. Good advice Tony!
Yes self-love💕
@@charmaineparks7149 AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
AMEN ! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT!
I remember neglecting my priorities, then one day, I said “no more ma’am”. I’m truly happy that I saved this video !
I'm 20 turning 21 in May and I have never been in a relationship before not even situation ships (Because of other priorities like university and jobs) . And thank God I discovered your channel at the age that I am and I have truly learnt soo much about the dating world and in a way my sense of self respect, what I should tolerate, my value everything has been made so much clearer. Thankyou very much for your videos!
Sweet! I wish I was your age getting this knowledge! Awesome, go on TONYGASKINSACADEMY.COM he has a free self love course on there. Check out the other courses as well to see what can help build you. You can also join the bless tribe in the description for $1.99 a month as well. God bless you talk to you later
@@CaramelKissez I will definitely check it out, thankyou!
@@ttig90 you're more than welcome my bday is May also, the 28th. Hopefully the 19 will be cleared or I'm doing a pick up delivery lol! 🧡🧡
@@CaramelKissez I'm may 27th! Also yes haha
SO PROUD OF YOU!!! STAY ON THE COURSE. YOU WILL BE GOOD!!!
Tony cracks me up!! He needs a comedy show!! But he still giving out those nuggets.
We ultimately guard our hearts through lessons learned and applied. Understanding our self worth will keep us out of those places and spaces that are detrimental to our hearts.
I absolutely realized how my self love and worth is connected to everything I do and every decision I make.
Amen
Life lessons are the best teachers for everyone and everything.
@@truthseeker3967 Yes ma'am I do Love Jesus and I am a good man. Thank you for your compliment.
@@chrisparker6249 You' re welcome- - Ive appreciated some of your comments-
@@truthseeker3967 It's beautiful to know my words brought some kind of encouragement to your life.
I also don't allow sexual discussions. Im not offensive I simple state: "I may not be the type of woman you're expecting. This conversation makes me uncomfortable especially seeing as i don't know you in that way" either he amends behavior or agrees. Heart unwounded. No love loss.
Good Point !
❤️❤️❤️ this
My mom is nodding her head, approving this message.
The way you nailed how women talk about their crush made me giggle. 😊
“You have to be able to focus on you.” Yes Tony, we really have to develop ourselves and make our purpose a priority. Thank you.
I believe that God lead me to Tony Gaskins channel not only for self development and knowledge but to properly prepare for me for my husband. I was that woman who would always make herself available and the one who would be quick to hop on my “bike” . However the love that I have for myself and what I’m trying to accomplish became priority over everything. Im still learning and growing but these videos confirm for me that I’m on the right path . God bless 🙏🏾
"9pm-10pm booked with the blessed tribe live" 😂😂😂 All facts!
Cher H Facts
@@Glamrocs 😁💯💖
I’m in love with my life!!! My interests, my passions, my mental health, my spirituality, my blessings, thank you God for keeping my faith strong and my dreams big ❤️
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Y’all better jump on A Women’s Influence! Lord have mercy! I am listening to the audiobook at work trying not to hoop and holler! This book is so anointed! Tony and Sheri did the thang!👍🏾👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😘❤️❤️👏🏾🕎
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@@CaramelKissez you are on it!!! I donated the book today;. I got the invoice today. I hope it blesses someone who really couldn't afford it , due to this 19. ❤
@@montricec8795 Sweet! May God bless your heart for that 💓
Caramel Kissez I already have! I love this book!!!❤️❤️❤️
Whew I needed to hear this!! This is so me y’all “picturing us in the Bahamas” 😂😂“ letting him live rent free in my head all day” Yesssss my lil brother Tony Gaskins be right on point every time!!! 💯💯I gotta start guarding my heart ❤️ Be Blessed!!
SocialButterfly Neka We all live and learn
Glamrocs Makeup yesss definitely a learning experience 💯
A clown had me "d**kmatized" on and off for 6 yrs. Nothing ever came of it and it was a waste of time. He was also a friend for almost 10 yrs. He knew all my secrets and things I'd done, and same here with him. Toxic at it's worst but I still miss his friendship. But God's Love and my own self love and respect helped me to close that door forever and it's great!! 😁👸🏽 😎✌🏽
Tae S. Literally identical story to the t as you put with time and all.. but finally I said nah I can’t hold my self back anymore.. I asked God to give me the grace to let go.
And this is one of those videos you wind up watching 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 times. Powerful message! 👍👍
On your back = spine out of place + vision messed up (lol)
Some of them are the 'devil' in disguise. I agree with you Tony, 100% about (some) men. We as women should and must not become so vulnerable to a man's smiling face. Have 'faith' in yourself as a 'woman' . Blessings
It's quite funny and ironic that I used to do all those things (that Tony suggests) naturally but got shamed for it. They told me I'm being "too independent" and "selfish" because I wasn't willing to compromise on my schedule or as they said "not willing to make room for a man in my life". And apparently men are turned off by those types of women because they seem too "rebellious", "stubborn" and "masculine" and won't likely be a "submissive wive" and "men like to feel strong and being the leader" so "never come off as too strong and independent cuz men also want to feel needed and not emasculated"."Men dont like too successful independent women and rather see them as threat and competition" they said, but I wasn't willing to dumb down or hide my light under a bushel in order to be accepted and loved by a man! I often hear men are turned off by women with "I don't need a man (financially)"-attitude because they want to feel needed. But on the other hand they complain about gold diggers. So it seems you can't win with men either way
The right man, that is your husband, will not make you feel little for being you and doing what you gotta do.
Do you!
Right its too much of a riddle to get a good man 🙄 the bottomline is there are exceptions to every rule but there has to be balance...Look at what women have to go through 😭😭
A man is a like an Accessory. That has been my motto since Mrs. Gaskin stated that lol. Not in a negative way but it is a positive way to look at dating. Love it!
It’s 1:30am here in Australia. I was about to sleep until I saw a new upload. I mean like...... I guess one more video to watch for the night ain’t gonna hurt 👀 😂 God bless you Tony, thankyou for continuously blessing us with your content. Alofas to you and your wife. ✨
Sleep well, God bless🧡
Caramel Kissez thankyou very much! And the same to you, God Bless ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@CaramelKissez I pray God blesses you really good just for your commitment and dedication to Mr Gaskins channel
@@womanofgod2948 God bless you🤗🧡
Xtiol Tillz I’m also from Australia I’m so glad I found his channel
As You Continue To Pour Into Others May God Continue To Pour Into You!
May Blessings Richly Abound To You & Your Family.
(Colossians 3:23-24)
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT +
On point Tony!! 💎 They give you one hr of conversation, if that, and you end up giving 3 hrs of your energy for the price of one from fantasizing and daydreaming for two hours. Take nothing as the truth until you bump into the evidence and stop giving what hasn't been earned! 🙌🏾
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Every video, every book, and every time you speak Tony.. is literally getting me closer and closer to the woman I need to be. Thank you so much! 🙏🏽
I wish I could have a secret ear bud everytime I meet a guy so these videos can play in my ear. And do as Tony say
Write it in your journal. Keep it with you when your talking.
@@CaramelKissez I actually have one. It's a super size note pad lol
Spend time in the presence of God.
Truth personified! This man is speaking the truth. Glad I tuned in. CONFIRMATION
I finished 10 steps to self love last night and am now reading through Proverbs, 1 Chapter daily.
Stay off your back - the best advice EVER.
Guard heart = keep legs close/keep pants zip + Don't let no one live rent free in your head + Don't make the person your World + Let them earn your love & trust.
Bless you Tony for the wisdom☺️👍✝️🙏🏾
Happy Monday blessed tribe👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼🤗😁🙂
@CaramelK 🙏💃💃💃Happy Monday sis
Good Morning 🙋🏽
Happy Monday. 🙌🏽
Hello Ladies
Be Blessed 🙏🏽🙏🏽 Like Tony say we need to build in the 3 B’s (Body, Brain 🧠 & Brand) and know that a man is an accessory/addition to our life. Thank you Sheri Gaskins for that word. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm so glad you said "now ur husband or wife is 1st". All these single dads have the mindset "you gotta understand my kids come 1st attitude" it just turns me off bc I've dated single dads and they take it too far.
I actually wish more single parents, especially mothers, took their parenthood more seriously. Too many are so quick to neglect their kids for someone who winds up being a loser anyway.
This was 100% on point. " The person who cares the least, has the most power" This hit me sooo hard, bc he was the one didn't care that he lost me.
This message was right on time for me. I just met someone and I'm trying to feel him out. Thank you for the great advice. Be Blessed!
Are y'all still together
@@chickwitthagoodies No...found out he has a porn addiction and a "Handgela" problem.
Thanks so much .. I've been listening to you .. for 4 months .. my friends think I'm so weird for fully listening to a coach at 23 .. but I've been in and out of relationships .. without having sex .. for at least 3 months now !! Thank you God .. so much for your existence...
Putting words in Gods mouth he sent me my husband when you know he didn't, lol, keep dropping them truths Tony.
Well damn I’ve been bamboozled to many times . I’m over it !
Same
😂😂😂knocked ya spine outta place and messed up ya vision...Tony Tony Tony😂😂
You blessed me and I had to take that slap to the face when you said he didn't give up his life and time or anything for me, I did all of that, I appreciate that. Thank you Mr Tony Gaskins
I promise you, each time I come on your channel, the title of your video pertains to my current or past situation and definitely preparing me for my next. You are hearing from God Tony!! 😊
Guard your heart above all else for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23
Let me tell you something here this has to be God's work. Been up at 2:30a.m. listening, talking, and pray with God. One of the messages given to me was to get back organizing my life. So I got up out the bed started back writing in my planner, getting my life back in order. This has to be God🙏🏽🤗 💞 be bless & continue to be a vessel.
Mr. Gaskins you are a game changer, a life saver. Thank you for your work.
I felt this deep in my soul. It brought me to tears. Although I haven’t mastered ALL of this yet, I am happy to say I am still learning and have only looked back to see how far I’ve come thus far. Tony, is it possible to fix some of these mistakes that I’ve made with someone that I’m currently dating?
Anything is possible. If he already got the peach cobbler their is a high chance he will not want you to stop what was started. You'll have to do the necessary steps to heal you. MYMENTOR.LIFE/TonyGaskinsjr to book his specifically for coaching.
Caramel Kissez Look at you sis coaching 🙏🏾 Tony would’ve said the same thing.
@@Glamrocs 🙏🏽🙏🏽💓
Caramel Kissez Thank you sis. You’re so right! I appreciate it🙏🏾
@@Kyera4u you're welcome 🤗🧡
lol lol seeing that TG made a shirt on 'caveats and nuances' after binging his videos is just so funny
Good morning blessed tribe... yes things have been better with me since I decided to be celibate again. You can't miss what you never had🤷🏾♀️ can't help but 🤣 everytime Tony says on ya byke
12min in Tony is on point today. I have been stagnant the last few weeks. Fear. God you are with me. Thank you Tony thank you Blessed Tribe.
You're doing amazing Queen! Keep going! 🌼❤
You definitely see what a person is really about when good sex is left out the picture, I can separate the two but most can't, so I agree with everything said!!! Its definitely sad when kids are brought into the world because of these irresponsible unions!
Love that I can learn a good lesson, and get a good laugh in too. Tony is wise and funny 😂 best combination
I hate that when you don't have time immediately for some guys, they be like 'wow you're always so busy, you don't have time for me..'. But I'm still not canceling plans or ditching priorities for them!
Hey Tony. And everyone. Be blessed now✌🏽
This was really good. It help me as single women to not give all my time a way to a man. It’s okay to keep busy
Facts give them the same energy they give you if he gives you limited amount of time that is what you give him a limited amount of time
30:14. Had to rewatch that segment a few times. You keep bringing me to tears. Loved ones don't even know how to tell you these things.
So impressed how you pack so much profound advice in a single hour.
"You didn't know what to say on this subject." Tony, this the best video I have heard and seen you make! Thank you so much for this one. God be the glory 🙏🏾
God bless you🧡
I am that person who picture us in the bahamas, and them screenshots to siblings. i need to stop
He kills me with u get on ur 🚴😂
Good afternoon Tony thank you for your message God Bless you and your wife. Was with a man twenty years married for ten years he cheated we are divorce now I'm 57years old will not be on my back God will bless me with the right man Guarding my heart be blessed
Happy Monday family!
Happy Monday 👋🏼
I so heard you when you say to let them fall in your world, no matter how it may be. Too often, I drop EVERYTHING for a man to see him. I definitely will practice a man coming into my life as an addition, not a necessity! Thank you, Tony! Man this hurt my heart in the right places today🥴🥴😪❤
Be BLESSED ❤️
I love the new book....!!!!! Such a blessing to my heart, spirit, and soul. 💛
Pls write a 5 star review on the book, God bless
God is really using You! Wisdom, Knowledge, and Understanding prevails pouring out of you. You and your wife are a great team and example to others. Thank you Both!👍🔑🔥👑🌟🙏
That just gave me clarity! I would talk to guys & they’d ask when I’m free sometimes it’ll be a week out & I actually never hear from them again. Now I know why...
At 36 I finally get it whew!!!! I’ve watched this video multiple times and each time I’m learning & learning each time
when he handed the water over LOLLLL that took me out ...- tony is hilarious ///// This is good teaching
Morning Blessed Tribe! Have a blessed week! 🌸❤
Morning Cher🧡
@@CaramelKissez morning beautiful! 🌸❤
❤️🙏🏾
@@Glamrocs hey my beautiful bestie! 🌸
Good Afternoon Ladies 🤗❤️.
Peace and blessing 🌅❤️
Thank you tony.....two weeks listening to you I have a learnt what know one told me 5yrs ago.
Tony, this right here is the absolute TRUTH. Ladies, "LISTEN" you will save yourself heartache and time if you guard your heart "aka" body like you do your social security number and pin to bank card. You don't give that to any and everybody. 🤔
@ TYEECE MARSHALL - I love your analogy! I will use (if you don't mind) when sharing Tony's message to my sphere of influence.
God Bless you Tony! Truth always leaves us in good standing. Let the relationship find me. On my grind for purpose. Purposefully busy, yes
You are so right about the schedule thing. I was studying and he called me to see if I wanted to go out to eat and watch the game. I told him no maybe next time I’m studying and he don’t even try it anymore, because he knows it’s not happening and now he ask me what’s my plans for the future instead of just coming up with last minute plans and I let him know if I’m available.
I truly appreciate you uploading these videos everyday. It has been helping me through my healing process and building my brain. My dad was not in my life as he should have been when I was growing up and my mom made a lot of mistakes with relationships that I witnessed which failed me with my experiences with men in the past. I am fighting to break that cycle now so my two boys can grow up to be man of god and a husband 🙏🏾🤍
“You’ll drop your WHOLE child”, I’m dead 💀😂😂💀
Jesus! Thank you for this Important message. May you and your family continue to be Blessed and Safe 🙏😷.
I done been in TG boot camp! These men ain’t ready fa me now! I’m so thankful for you Tony Gaskins, only if you knew...
I agree with this 💯. I learned a hard lesson in “letting myself go” in exchange for a relationship I was more invested in than I should have in the very beginning. The sacrifice manifested itself in contributing to deceitful, addictive behaviors many years later.. A huge lesson and price to pay in undoing the damage. Never give a man more than he gives to you.
Bro Tony you tooooo funny in this video today lol 😂😂 but it's nothing but the truth with guarding your heart.
Mr. Gaskins, I believe the late Ann Landers would give you a big hug for your wise words of today. I grew up reading her column in the newspaper and she said much the same thing. As I tell my daughter, it's a matter of dignity and self respect.