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After years of frustration and games, I realized that playing these games is literally the worst thing to do. You can’t have a real relationship without both people being honest and loving. How hard is that? If that is not sufficient then time to get out. This man has a lot to add and his advice works. You can’t manipulate your spouse, they have to be the most important thing not name God, in your life. After that change things start to move in a positive way.
Hi Isiah, Thank you for your comment and support. But we must also remember that making our partners important is not enough. We must also keep learning and growing to adapt to the ever changing environment to assure that as our partners needs and wants change, then so can we, and to keep providing them with the safety and security that our partner is desiring. What do you think?
This is good advice but being on the receiving end of the cheating + lying of my partner, I doubt all that he says. He may have been genuine but I couldn't rebuild because of the depth of pain he has caused. He did it twice without any empathy on my part. He became frustrated because I didn't believe his changes + would curse at me + blame shift. The environment wasn't safe + I abandoned the relationship. Sometimes prevention is better than a cure for some of us.
This is genius for me! But for a femal its just common sense because they are more emotional based. If they don't trust you then your logical words won't do a thing. Gotta build trust through action and emotional appeal first. Thank you so much!
I’ve been listening to my conservative Hispanic family concerning my separation and possible divorce. It’s almost night and day what they said compared to what you said
Hi Adam, Most likely their conversation was guided by bad paradigms that most people have built up over the years... Once you learn to look at your situation from a different perspective, you can learn to turn things around and re-attract your partner. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
I have been doing this for about 3 months now but she has no emotions to get back together, she sees my changes and acknowledges them, but doesn’t want to be anymore than friends. Guess I’ll just keep on working on me.
If this is your first time here keep watching and keep coming back. I thought I got it the first time I watched but coming back after watching other videos over three months and the information takes on a new and more meaningful character.
Great video! I'm hopeful that when we are communicating I can outline my process and stick to it to so we can learn to trust one another again. Thanks.
I dont think i can leave a door open. Thats my wife. If we separate and she lays with anyone else. I wont take her back. People dont realize what a marriage is, its not a game. It's a vow between us and God. No matter how bumpy or rocky it gets, ya suppose to stay until we die or someone commits adultery. Everyone on this am not happy, it never promises you to be happy. And if we both are living right and not unequally yolked. Put God as the center of the marriage, only then will we really be happy. Too many people into the world. Love your spouse as you love God. And you can't go wrong. Work as a team. Don't make no decisions along. Literally treat the other person like your other half. Don't exclude them from anything unless they tell you too.
Thanks Geoffrey for this wonderful video. I love watching your videos because it helps me to become better in handling my relationship. I still have struggles with my relationship with my wife but I won't give up and I will keep learning.
Can you help to talk about being forced to separate because of the pandemic and not having a fix end date to that separation. We are a bi-national couple, Singapore (F-27) and Brisbane (M-32). It’s been 6months of separation, we’ve continued our relationship online which we had never plan to do, but we finally decided recently to take a break/breakup/no contact until a date is finalised for us to see each other. His company has agreed to bring him over to me, but they’ve been delaying the move for a year thanks to the pandemic, plus my country has created more restrictions on foreign employment. I suspect it might be another 6months earliest till he’s actually here. During our online relationship, he became extremely withdrawn/reserve and says he’s extremely affected by it, he can’t concentrate or thrive at work. He’s quiet and prefers to keep to himself.. less emotions whatsoever. He says he can’t feel too much or else he won’t cope. I understand, but have communicated that I feel like sometimes I dating a wall. As for me, my head and heart is somewhere else. I wasn’t present and I wasn’t living in myself for that few months. Even though we are so good together, we decided to take a ‘break’ or ‘break up’ because this constant uncertainty is too taxing for the both of us. We decided no contact to break the bad cycle or that negative feeling of having to associate the phone with the relationship. Obviously this isn’t the typical relationship problem where someone did something wrong... it simply can’t be fixed till the situation changes. Our mentality is: how can you be together if you aren’t together? I mean you can try. But not having a finalised plan kills the hopes and beliefs. If there was a fixed date it would be a 100x different. Many people in the world now are going through tough times with the same problem as me.. this sense of not knowing is causing a lot of strain to even the most strongest bonds and the best communication. We agreed to trust the process, that this is a good step for the both of us to improve our mental health, even if it’s the need to breakup. We have agreed to do no contact as it keeps things clean cut and simpler. I would like to get your sensing on if this is the right strategy. We went for breakup, as I think he might be pressured if we went for ‘take a break’ cos in his mind.. he doesn’t want to give himself any hope as he’s scared of being disappointed. I want him to be happy and I want this to work out, so if it takes us not speaking for a few months then even though I miss him like crazy, I’m ok with that. I guess I couldn’t find any advice online that talked about my situation. Usually one party has to trip up for there to be a relationship problem, but in our case we’ve done and tried and done so well, and yet it’s still so difficult.
Small steps, can't explain all of them but timing by showing by example to change the environment cycle of fear. Get rid of the fear. Is what I got out of this. Smallin steps is what my grandmother said in my life.
i follow your videos but just a friendly suggestion, make them shorter and more concise. simplify your message because so many layers and complexity tend to miss the message
Appreciate the comment and note taken. I made it shorter, people said it was not detailed enough. I made it more detailed, people say it's too long. Most people like it, some people don't -- can't please em all no matter what I do :) At the end of the day, I'll leave it up to my viewers to re-watch and study my videos if they want to, which many people seem to do and are able to find value in the complexity and richness in the videos. Whether you see the length and complexity as a threat or an opportunity is completely up to you my friend!
As a woman who discovered most of your insight through trial and error, I cant fathom my husband not doing the same. He is more accountable and intellectual than me, but refuses to face reality of our marraige. I found your videos last night and asked to discuss a seperation plan this morning...
My question would be to the "what if she doesn't see my changes" is, what if it's a long distance relationship, you've made the anxietal neediness and pleading mistake, more than once, and shes now taking space to herself?
Is there any hope seperated for over a year. Living in different places. Two kids together. Went months without talking at all. Now we just parent together. Communicating for the past 4 to 5 months. Wife has know interest in getting back together but still legally married.
she broke up and told me weeks after to ask answers about what i did or what i didnt when we were together. If i dont respond she feels conflicted about what to feel. i know responding those questions is a logical respons not emotional one but maybe first answering those questions and then adding an emotional approach isnt a bad idea right?
Sorry, but it's not an emotional response to interpret that someone who has failed to follow through multiple times won't follow through again. It's not confirmation bias. Don't you remember the old saying " the definition of insanity is doing the same thing every time and expecting a different result?" Often, this cycle has reached the point where she quite logically feels that trusting you one more time is just insanity. It's really selling women short and emphasizing a bogus perception that women are less logical about that. It's entirely logical to base your perception of someone's future behavior based on past patterns. Also, if she does see changes, she will feel they are temporary and will also be very bitter and angry if she's given you multiple, frank chances to change before. Not saying that this is close to everyone's story, but what I hear a lot from my divorced women friends is that they have begged to go to counseling and said many times before that they weren't happy and not sure the marriage would make it. They don't respond to the 326nd promise of change because they assess that a) the chances are too high that this is a temporary ploy to get her to stay which will disappear like the water in a kiddie pool in Death Valley once their spouse feels safe to be their old self again, and b) even if it isn't, is it worth it to stay with someone who only thinks seriously about your happiness when you are ready to leave? There are some jerks who thrive on threatening to leave in order to keep their partner in line, but far more often in this scenario the person has really had to make peace with the fact that things aren't going to change and the relationship has to end in order to end their pain. They just want to get it over with and heal. If you have been minimizing their concerns and dismissing their pleas, you have to respect them, let time and actions speak for your changes and not go near the same old platitudes, and accept that it still might be too late, and the changes you make will have to benefit you in a new relationship. You may now have to begin the process your partner had to go through when you ignored them.
Hmm - I am struggling to understand this. Your tone suggests that we are divergent in our viewpoints, but if you watch this video deeply, and watch many of my other videos to put this into context, I think you'll find that we're actually in alignment. I am all for making your changes 100% real, and my job is to show men the right ways to grow and change themselves without all this manipulation, etc...
@@GeoffreySetiawan It's the terminology. By writing her reaction off as confirmation bias, you are (probably unconsciously) implying that she's a) making an error in judgement rather than making a practical assessment and b) by putting the emphasis on her "emotional reaction' it's not only a mislabel, but it can play into ugly dynamics that a lot of women experience in marriage where husbands dismiss their concerns as emotional or their requests for change as irrational/over things that are not important. Confirmation bias is interpreting new evidence as confirmation of a previous belief - someone making a new promise wouldn't be new evidence here. Sustained change would be, but that's not the point of the process they are at yet. You mentioned that everyone makes decisions based on emotions despite their belief that they use logic which I 100% agree with, but some men unconsciously buy into the social myth that women are more emotional and men are more logical. This can lead to them dismissing their wife's concerns as irrational and emotional - if it doesn't make logical sense to them, then it doesn't make sense at all and she's wrong, even though both parties are making emotional judgement calls probably to the same extent in the situation. Problem solved: she just needs to evaluate the situation rationally and stop being a nag. I want to point out this is a behavior/manipulation that both sexes use, but due to social conditioning it's a very easy trap to fall into for men. The objective truth is that if something bothers someone (they aren't being listened to, someone won't stop and be a full partner who evaluates what needs to be done and figures out a way to get it done but instead wants to be a volunteer who is told what to do when, thus increasing the overwhelmed partners mental load for very little reduction in practical load, etc.) then it is important. I feel like the way you are phrasing this plays a little too closely into that social stereotype to see the woman's decision to distrust as another emotional and irrational decision and this might be part of what landed the husband in this position in the first place. Your plan of action might lead them to the right outcome - has a good chance of it, in my opinion - but there's a big perception trap that can shade how men perceive their wife's thought processes that your language could steer them a little more clear of than it does here. I get that the overall message here is show and not tell, which I agree is the point. When someone's trust is broken you don't rebuild with words, you rebuild with sweat, results, and time. But if you're prone to thinking the other person is just being emotional and needs to be led gently to rationality, it's going to be very hard to pull that off without condescension. And it's completely rational to think that the 5th promise is going to be as false as the first based on actual experience - phrasing it as confirmation bias can be problematic for those who need to break the habit of seeing "my logic right vs. her emotions wrong" where value judgements are concerned. However, this only applies in those cases where the husband can look back and see that the wife was trying hard to communicate how serious the problem was before it was too late. If she wasn't being clear about how unhappy she was, that's a whole new can o' worms.
@@darylebrown3253 Lots of (false) assumptions being made here, and many misinterpretations of semantics. Either choose to see the forest, or get lost in the trees. Up to you :)
@@darylebrown3253 If you are so inclined, feel free to take a look at how much clarity all our clients get, especially when they finally learn to understand these principles as they are meant to be understood. Client Review Videos: th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html Client Review Screenshots: drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@darylebrown3253 I completely agree with your perspective. My husband plays the 'women are emotional' card way too much for me to not be committed or divorced. At this point, I don't feel safe with myself.
Hello Geoffrey, Your videos are really awesome and inspiring. My situation went a little far, my wife lost trust after 2 separation and my promises to change but I didn’t really change. So now, she doesn’t want to have anything with me. She refuse to communicate, she blocked from everywhere. And whatever I do, is with no success. So I am stuck and I don’t see any way to reach her. So I am about to give up. Any help will be so appreciated
Hi Madison Kessi, Come learn here how this break down, why she feels hopeless and what you can do to restore hope within your partner and the relationship once again. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
The last couple of days have been good. Today we went shopping together and was great. I asked her if she could take me to the store to pickup prescription. No problem. The pharmacy said it was sent to a different pharmacy location in the chain. She flipped out. That I gave them the wrong address, that is why I'm leaving you. 38 years of bullshit. So now I'm at a loss.
@@ablewilling2778 seek the right convictions in the bible so you can understand. It's hard to find a good marriage counselor, listening to bad influences can ruin your marriage as well.
G ok... so you’ve answered half my question (which god). I asked this because there are thousands of proposed gods throughout human history. So you’re proposing the Abrahamic god Yaweh. Ok what about the other part of my question... how do we know that the god you are proposing is real? (Because the bible is not valid evidence... any religion can point to their holy book as evidence. And if we ask why should anyone believe the book... it always comes down to some form of ‘because the book says that the book is true’... see the problem here?
@@ablewilling2778 I hear what you mean, I meant the God of the bible. There are people that claim the name of the God in vain, they say holy holy but are not righteous. The bible can give you wisdom and the strength to fight for righteousness. I cannot be my own Hod cause I know I'd be doomed.
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After years of frustration and games, I realized that playing these games is literally the worst thing to do. You can’t have a real relationship without both people being honest and loving. How hard is that? If that is not sufficient then time to get out. This man has a lot to add and his advice works. You can’t manipulate your spouse, they have to be the most important thing not name God, in your life. After that change things start to move in a positive way.
Hi Isiah,
Thank you for your comment and support. But we must also remember that making our partners important is not enough.
We must also keep learning and growing to adapt to the ever changing environment to assure that as our partners needs and wants change, then so can we, and to keep providing them with the safety and security that our partner is desiring.
What do you think?
You sir just saved my marriage when everyone else on youtube kept trying to convince me to walk away.
Thank you for this from the bottom of my heart.
This gives me hope. How is ur relationship today?
Praying your relationship just keeps getting better 🙏
How is your relationship now?
This is good advice but being on the receiving end of the cheating + lying of my partner, I doubt all that he says. He may have been genuine but I couldn't rebuild because of the depth of pain he has caused. He did it twice without any empathy on my part. He became frustrated because I didn't believe his changes + would curse at me + blame shift. The environment wasn't safe + I abandoned the relationship.
Sometimes prevention is better than a cure for some of us.
This is genius for me! But for a femal its just common sense because they are more emotional based.
If they don't trust you then your logical words won't do a thing. Gotta build trust through action and emotional appeal first. Thank you so much!
I’ve been listening to my conservative Hispanic family concerning my separation and possible divorce. It’s almost night and day what they said compared to what you said
Hi Adam,
Most likely their conversation was guided by bad paradigms that most people have built up over the years...
Once you learn to look at your situation from a different perspective, you can learn to turn things around and re-attract your partner.
If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
I have been doing this for about 3 months now but she has no emotions to get back together, she sees my changes and acknowledges them, but doesn’t want to be anymore than friends. Guess I’ll just keep on working on me.
If this is your first time here keep watching and keep coming back. I thought I got it the first time I watched but coming back after watching other videos over three months and the information takes on a new and more meaningful character.
Great video! I'm hopeful that when we are communicating I can outline my process and stick to it to so we can learn to trust one another again. Thanks.
Love it! Consistency is key to breaking through.
I dont think i can leave a door open. Thats my wife. If we separate and she lays with anyone else. I wont take her back. People dont realize what a marriage is, its not a game. It's a vow between us and God. No matter how bumpy or rocky it gets, ya suppose to stay until we die or someone commits adultery. Everyone on this am not happy, it never promises you to be happy. And if we both are living right and not unequally yolked. Put God as the center of the marriage, only then will we really be happy. Too many people into the world. Love your spouse as you love God. And you can't go wrong. Work as a team. Don't make no decisions along. Literally treat the other person like your other half. Don't exclude them from anything unless they tell you too.
Thanks Geoffrey for this wonderful video. I love watching your videos because it helps me to become better in handling my relationship. I still have struggles with my relationship with my wife but I won't give up and I will keep learning.
Keep going dude! And let me know when you're ready to join Relationships Revival! We can really take your knowledge to the next level!
4:39 I’m going through this right now. It’s fascinating how a for comment from me can turn negative by y wife because of confirmation bias.
Can you help to talk about being forced to separate because of the pandemic and not having a fix end date to that separation. We are a bi-national couple, Singapore (F-27) and Brisbane (M-32). It’s been 6months of separation, we’ve continued our relationship online which we had never plan to do, but we finally decided recently to take a break/breakup/no contact until a date is finalised for us to see each other. His company has agreed to bring him over to me, but they’ve been delaying the move for a year thanks to the pandemic, plus my country has created more restrictions on foreign employment. I suspect it might be another 6months earliest till he’s actually here. During our online relationship, he became extremely withdrawn/reserve and says he’s extremely affected by it, he can’t concentrate or thrive at work. He’s quiet and prefers to keep to himself.. less emotions whatsoever. He says he can’t feel too much or else he won’t cope. I understand, but have communicated that I feel like sometimes I dating a wall. As for me, my head and heart is somewhere else. I wasn’t present and I wasn’t living in myself for that few months. Even though we are so good together, we decided to take a ‘break’ or ‘break up’ because this constant uncertainty is too taxing for the both of us. We decided no contact to break the bad cycle or that negative feeling of having to associate the phone with the relationship. Obviously this isn’t the typical relationship problem where someone did something wrong... it simply can’t be fixed till the situation changes. Our mentality is: how can you be together if you aren’t together? I mean you can try. But not having a finalised plan kills the hopes and beliefs. If there was a fixed date it would be a 100x different. Many people in the world now are going through tough times with the same problem as me.. this sense of not knowing is causing a lot of strain to even the most strongest bonds and the best communication. We agreed to trust the process, that this is a good step for the both of us to improve our mental health, even if it’s the need to breakup. We have agreed to do no contact as it keeps things clean cut and simpler. I would like to get your sensing on if this is the right strategy. We went for breakup, as I think he might be pressured if we went for ‘take a break’ cos in his mind.. he doesn’t want to give himself any hope as he’s scared of being disappointed. I want him to be happy and I want this to work out, so if it takes us not speaking for a few months then even though I miss him like crazy, I’m ok with that. I guess I couldn’t find any advice online that talked about my situation. Usually one party has to trip up for there to be a relationship problem, but in our case we’ve done and tried and done so well, and yet it’s still so difficult.
Small steps, can't explain all of them but timing by showing by example to change the environment cycle of fear. Get rid of the fear. Is what I got out of this. Smallin steps is what my grandmother said in my life.
i follow your videos but just a friendly suggestion, make them shorter and more concise. simplify your message because so many layers and complexity tend to miss the message
Appreciate the comment and note taken. I made it shorter, people said it was not detailed enough. I made it more detailed, people say it's too long. Most people like it, some people don't -- can't please em all no matter what I do :) At the end of the day, I'll leave it up to my viewers to re-watch and study my videos if they want to, which many people seem to do and are able to find value in the complexity and richness in the videos. Whether you see the length and complexity as a threat or an opportunity is completely up to you my friend!
Please don’t shorten them!
Yes please don’t shorten I don’t know where I’ll be in my relationship but if anything I’ve watched quite a bit and it helps
If I had to sit down and talk to someone I choose you! You got it you completely got it🧢🧢
As a woman who discovered most of your insight through trial and error, I cant fathom my husband not doing the same. He is more accountable and intellectual than me, but refuses to face reality of our marraige. I found your videos last night and asked to discuss a seperation plan this morning...
My question would be to the "what if she doesn't see my changes" is, what if it's a long distance relationship, you've made the anxietal neediness and pleading mistake, more than once, and shes now taking space to herself?
Is there any hope seperated for over a year. Living in different places. Two kids together. Went months without talking at all. Now we just parent together.
Communicating for the past 4 to 5 months. Wife has know interest in getting back together but still legally married.
she broke up and told me weeks after to ask answers about what i did or what i didnt when we were together. If i dont respond she feels conflicted about what to feel.
i know responding those questions is a logical respons not emotional one but maybe first answering those questions and then adding an emotional approach isnt a bad idea right?
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Sorry, but it's not an emotional response to interpret that someone who has failed to follow through multiple times won't follow through again. It's not confirmation bias. Don't you remember the old saying " the definition of insanity is doing the same thing every time and expecting a different result?" Often, this cycle has reached the point where she quite logically feels that trusting you one more time is just insanity. It's really selling women short and emphasizing a bogus perception that women are less logical about that. It's entirely logical to base your perception of someone's future behavior based on past patterns. Also, if she does see changes, she will feel they are temporary and will also be very bitter and angry if she's given you multiple, frank chances to change before. Not saying that this is close to everyone's story, but what I hear a lot from my divorced women friends is that they have begged to go to counseling and said many times before that they weren't happy and not sure the marriage would make it. They don't respond to the 326nd promise of change because they assess that a) the chances are too high that this is a temporary ploy to get her to stay which will disappear like the water in a kiddie pool in Death Valley once their spouse feels safe to be their old self again, and b) even if it isn't, is it worth it to stay with someone who only thinks seriously about your happiness when you are ready to leave? There are some jerks who thrive on threatening to leave in order to keep their partner in line, but far more often in this scenario the person has really had to make peace with the fact that things aren't going to change and the relationship has to end in order to end their pain. They just want to get it over with and heal. If you have been minimizing their concerns and dismissing their pleas, you have to respect them, let time and actions speak for your changes and not go near the same old platitudes, and accept that it still might be too late, and the changes you make will have to benefit you in a new relationship. You may now have to begin the process your partner had to go through when you ignored them.
Hmm - I am struggling to understand this. Your tone suggests that we are divergent in our viewpoints, but if you watch this video deeply, and watch many of my other videos to put this into context, I think you'll find that we're actually in alignment. I am all for making your changes 100% real, and my job is to show men the right ways to grow and change themselves without all this manipulation, etc...
@@GeoffreySetiawan It's the terminology. By writing her reaction off as confirmation bias, you are (probably unconsciously) implying that she's a) making an error in judgement rather than making a practical assessment and b) by putting the emphasis on her "emotional reaction' it's not only a mislabel, but it can play into ugly dynamics that a lot of women experience in marriage where husbands dismiss their concerns as emotional or their requests for change as irrational/over things that are not important. Confirmation bias is interpreting new evidence as confirmation of a previous belief - someone making a new promise wouldn't be new evidence here. Sustained change would be, but that's not the point of the process they are at yet. You mentioned that everyone makes decisions based on emotions despite their belief that they use logic which I 100% agree with, but some men unconsciously buy into the social myth that women are more emotional and men are more logical. This can lead to them dismissing their wife's concerns as irrational and emotional - if it doesn't make logical sense to them, then it doesn't make sense at all and she's wrong, even though both parties are making emotional judgement calls probably to the same extent in the situation. Problem solved: she just needs to evaluate the situation rationally and stop being a nag. I want to point out this is a behavior/manipulation that both sexes use, but due to social conditioning it's a very easy trap to fall into for men. The objective truth is that if something bothers someone (they aren't being listened to, someone won't stop and be a full partner who evaluates what needs to be done and figures out a way to get it done but instead wants to be a volunteer who is told what to do when, thus increasing the overwhelmed partners mental load for very little reduction in practical load, etc.) then it is important. I feel like the way you are phrasing this plays a little too closely into that social stereotype to see the woman's decision to distrust as another emotional and irrational decision and this might be part of what landed the husband in this position in the first place. Your plan of action might lead them to the right outcome - has a good chance of it, in my opinion - but there's a big perception trap that can shade how men perceive their wife's thought processes that your language could steer them a little more clear of than it does here. I get that the overall message here is show and not tell, which I agree is the point. When someone's trust is broken you don't rebuild with words, you rebuild with sweat, results, and time. But if you're prone to thinking the other person is just being emotional and needs to be led gently to rationality, it's going to be very hard to pull that off without condescension. And it's completely rational to think that the 5th promise is going to be as false as the first based on actual experience - phrasing it as confirmation bias can be problematic for those who need to break the habit of seeing "my logic right vs. her emotions wrong" where value judgements are concerned. However, this only applies in those cases where the husband can look back and see that the wife was trying hard to communicate how serious the problem was before it was too late. If she wasn't being clear about how unhappy she was, that's a whole new can o' worms.
@@darylebrown3253 Lots of (false) assumptions being made here, and many misinterpretations of semantics. Either choose to see the forest, or get lost in the trees. Up to you :)
@@darylebrown3253 If you are so inclined, feel free to take a look at how much clarity all our clients get, especially when they finally learn to understand these principles as they are meant to be understood.
Client Review Videos:
th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Client Review Screenshots:
drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing
@darylebrown3253 I completely agree with your perspective. My husband plays the 'women are emotional' card way too much for me to not be committed or divorced. At this point, I don't feel safe with myself.
Hello Geoffrey,
Your videos are really awesome and inspiring. My situation went a little far, my wife lost trust after 2 separation and my promises to change but I didn’t really change. So now, she doesn’t want to have anything with me. She refuse to communicate, she blocked from everywhere. And whatever I do, is with no success. So I am stuck and I don’t see any way to reach her. So I am about to give up.
Any help will be so appreciated
Hi Madison Kessi,
Come learn here how this break down, why she feels hopeless and what you can do to restore hope within your partner and the relationship once again.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
The last couple of days have been good. Today we went shopping together and was great. I asked her if she could take me to the store to pickup prescription. No problem. The pharmacy said it was sent to a different pharmacy location in the chain. She flipped out. That I gave them the wrong address, that is why I'm leaving you. 38 years of bullshit. So now I'm at a loss.
Handsome
Trust God, not men
Which god. And how do we know it’s real?
@@ablewilling2778 seek the right convictions in the bible so you can understand. It's hard to find a good marriage counselor, listening to bad influences can ruin your marriage as well.
G ok... so you’ve answered half my question (which god). I asked this because there are thousands of proposed gods throughout human history. So you’re proposing the Abrahamic god Yaweh. Ok what about the other part of my question... how do we know that the god you are proposing is real? (Because the bible is not valid evidence... any religion can point to their holy book as evidence. And if we ask why should anyone believe the book... it always comes down to some form of ‘because the book says that the book is true’... see the problem here?
@@ablewilling2778 I hear what you mean, I meant the God of the bible. There are people that claim the name of the God in vain, they say holy holy but are not righteous. The bible can give you wisdom and the strength to fight for righteousness. I cannot be my own Hod cause I know I'd be doomed.
G but again... what reason do we have to think that the bible is true?