SUP PEOPLE! Just wanted to say THANK YOU again for watching! If you haven't yet, i'd 100% recommend reading through the description. I broke down a couple things that, I feel, need to be articulated pretty clearly about this particular video. All in all, I DONT want you to feel the pressure or need to follow through with every single thing I did to gain weight. This is what worked for me, and that doesn't mean it's what has to work for you :) Let me know what your thoughts are, everybody! Thanks again!
Yo this is so inspiring, I’m like 109 at 5’10” and feel stuck in the ED ways, I don’t like being this skinny but I feel like it’s near impossible to gain weight. But seeing your journey definitely pushes me to be more healthy!
@@rhysdolan7378 well i have ARFID so there’s a category of safe foods that I just really leaned into and tried adding more variety. Getting past the first week of eating more definitely was a mental and physical rollercoaster just with your stomach getting so small but once you get past it’s easier hope that helped
Hey man! This video was so helpful, esp for looking at this in a logical way! I was wondering if you could do a video exploring the fear and anxieties surrounding food and weight gain, as, particularly amongst guys, I feel like that aspect of eating disorders isn't talked about so much. I know you mentioned in this video, but I just feel bleh - like I'm definitely stagnating and I feel like I'm in the same 'I need to gain weight efficiently mindset' but I can't get out of that :/ Thanks a tonne if you can, Cam! that rhymed :D
Pi V YES absolutely. Love the idea, and the topic. That’ll be one of the next ones that I go for.. it’s been on my list, but has been one that I want to dedicate a decent amount of time to building out. That’ll be out over the next couple weeks 😎 As always, thanks so much for bein here Pi V!
Cameron, during your recovery, did you ever get to a point where your appetite decreased a lot after getting to a certain point? I’ve been at this point for the past 3 weeks where I have a very small appetite, but still cram down the 3,000-4,000 calories knowing that if I don’t eat enough, those ED demons will wreck my day.
Hey Carter! Wanted to thank you for the question - it's definitely a good one 🙌🏼 My appetite definitely decreased a significant amount after coming out of the 'immediate refeed' when recovery first started. And it kind of makes sense, right? The body's been in this state of starvation for so long, and a typical response after diagnosis is to introduce a LARGE amount of food, which in-turn kind of wakes up a seemingly-dormant metabolism! After that initial phase of refeeding kind of died down, I found myself not near as hungry as I was when recovery first started, but still having to eat the same amount of calories.. And, for me at the time, I needed to keep that intake up for a significant amount of time. What I usually talk to people about is the fact that you can't necessarily trust your hunger for a while after being in an eating disorder - it's like the ED has messed with the hunger too much for it to be relied on.. and kind of as a response to that, that's where a solid meal plan, weight gain plan and calorie count comes into play Not gonna lie, there were MANY moments where I had to force myself to eat.. to the point of it being uncomfortable. But I had to accept that recovery wasn't necessarily about being comfortable (Heck, if recovery was left up to my eating disorder, I would have just dropped all of the weight again!), but that recovery, no matter what, was about gaining weight consistently over time. If I had to eat 3000 calories a day to stick to my weight gain goal, then that's what it needed to be. Not ever day hit that 3000 calorie goal, but especially at first, the thing that's more important than hunger is whether the weight gain is still happening if it needs to happen :) I know that's a lot.. BUT I really hope it's helpful!! I definitely plan on putting videos out soon talking more about this subject, but again thanks so much for your question - hope you're doing well!
Carter Chavira What you’re feeling is definitely normal!! And I’m so grateful that the channel / the videos are able to help :) if you ever need anything, please feel completely free to reach out!
Hi Cameron! :-) I can definitely see how this would be useful for people who are trying to gain weight as muscle, and why it was an effective for you to heal. I always wanted to be small and dissapear, because I hated taking up space, and drawing attention to myself because I fe!t like people would judge me. :-/ It took me 8 years to give myself permission to eat, and i ended up becoming overweight, before I realised I was still "re-feeding" myself 15 years later, and I didn't have to any more, as it had become detrimental to my health, because like you cam I'd given myself permission to eat after eight years without restriction and with abandon but now I can't stop. So I couldn't track what I was eating I don't think if I'm being honest, if I were to eventually work out and lift weights, which I'm not ruling out, as I'm considering that to be a healthy way to get into shape versus dieting again and running, or cycling and swimming which I have a sinking feeling would bring me back into an eating disorder because I'd take it too far, and it would become an obsession and that is why I've avoided doing ANY exercise at all. I do however not want to be overweight anymore though I know that, because the weight keeps creeping on, especially as I'm 38 now, and my metabolism has slowed down, so i dont lose weight easily like i used to in the past, so I feel like I'm stuck in a cycle of not knowing what to do for the best, and its affecting my health now on the opposite spectrum. :-/ I've noticed I'm now not as agile, I get out of breath easily, and am tired all the time amongst other ailments, I'd like to be sporty and have an athletic physique but I doubt it will ever happen for me now. For me eating what I want is a healthy mindset now like you said it is for you, but what do you do when you can't stop? If I tracked what I ate even if it wasn't calories and was carbs, fat, protein, etc, it would lead me down a triggering road I think. How do I deal with my anxiety and depression enough to get past the fact that I need to do exercise and lose weight/put on muscle? I've not found a way around that yet. :-/
YOOOO, holy moly, SO sorry i'm just getting back to you on this (Took a sort of 'hiatus' away from TH-cam for a couple weeks, but im JUMPIN BACK IN! The roadblock you described is TRULY a difficult one. Because: 1). You have to be VERY mindful of the eating disorder 2). You have to be VERY mindful of where working out can put you 3). There's a LOT of stress that can come as a result of all of this (Not working out AND being mindful of the ED) I think it's super important that you know which direction you want to move in. If it really is losing weight, I would really process through that before you make the decision to move forward. Asking things like, 'Who am I doing this for? Am I doing it so others will have a better view of me? Or am I doing this for ME?" Processing through that decision, and why you would to head in that direction, is very important. I dont think that exercise is the solution here (FOR NOW!). I really think that exercise will come once you're able to really get a solid grip on everything surrounding it (Food, being where you want to be, being happy mentally) - All of those things CAN be achieved without exercise (I dont think that exercise should be relied on as the one thing to help make things better) But I think I would really consider take SMALL (VERY SMALL) steps in the direction that you want to go in (Which might be, in this case, losing weight) So what would a small step look like - well, maybe it WOULD involve tracking, BUT - you have a very small goal to reach, and you hold yourself accountable to ONLY reach that goal. (Maybe it's losing something like 5 lbs. over a couple months, something VERY slow so you know that it wont slip out of control) I think the eating disorder side of everything is going to try to convince you that you can ONLY work in absolutes (As in, 'If you lose weight, you WILL lose control') - but it doesn't have to be that way! Finding a solid support system, or putting specific (and SLOW) things in place can really help put some solid 'failsafes' for you, just incase something does happen. Or maybe it's writing down signs that might pop up if things start to go south, and if you look over those signs and see them happening, you promise to put everything on pause for a little bit Overall.. VERY tough spot, one that (I really think) might need some good solid professional help (if it's good help!), but also one that doesn't have to involve the extreme :) I know that probably didnt give you EVERYTHING you wanted.. but I hope there was some good insight in there
Laurel Karolina What’s up, Laurel! Haha, I really appreciate that 🙌🏼 and yes! I have that topic next for me to flush out, since a number of people have asked about it recently. I’ll try to put a video out about it over the next couple weeks :)
Not disagreeing, but how is it not a form of restriction if you want something but it 'puts' you over a certain number of (g) at a given point in time? So eat the yogurt tonight because you had to much fat today to enjoy ice cream? But good video, I'm in mid recovery and still haven't 'let-go'. Thank again.
Good question - So think of IIFYM, with the goal of weight gain, as having minimums instead of maximums. So with those three categories (Protein, fat, carbs), your goal is to hit the MINIMUM number of that each day. So instead of, "eat the yogurt tonight because you had to much fat today to enjoy ice cream", it's, "I hit my fat goal today, and can also have that ice cream" It's basically a different way of structuring food tracking, that really helped me get rid of the, 'I have a ceiling that, once I hit it, I can't go over' to, 'I have a floor, and can go OVER that minimum" At first, it was all about just getting the minimum, and not choosing to eat that ice cream that I was 'allowed' to eat - I basically stuck at the minimum for the longest time.. But as I found that I had control over the food, and the macros, and because I pictured it as a floor rather than a ceiling, I started eating that extra ice cream anyway. I started eating more at each meal, eating more snacks, things like that So in this case, I got rid of the 'puts you over' mentality! Hope that helps, really great question though. Going slow, taking everything one step at a time, is the BIGGEST thing here - as time goes on, you'll get more and more control over the eating disorder as you gain weight (even if it's slowly!)
You have been a big help I've discovered in regards to a male recovery angel. But when it comes to my eating 'issue' it's seems to be a " I don't have a problem eating, its not eating". I makes excuses such as time, work, school, I just ate' I shouldn't be hungry' etc. You have been most informational and most helpful and I look forward to the advise you up out in future time. Thank you,
I really appreciate all of those words of encouragement, THANK YOU 🙌🏼 It truly is words like that that keep me going. Do you have any questions you've been looking to have answered in regards to confronting the eating issue? Would love to help talk through things if I can!
It's difficult for me to say that everyone at every incremental height should be a certain weight. I truly believe it's a bit more individualized (Not taking into account extremes). Eating disorders are characterized by one's mentality, and relationship with food / perspective of one's self, rather than a body weight that can be characterized by something like the BMI scale! That being said, I'm about 5'10", and for me, 130lbs. was too low (Didn't feel well, body wasn't functioning as it should have) At my lowest, in middle school, I was revolving around 100-115, BUT again - Most of being unhealthy came from my behavior, and the weight drop came as a result of that behavior!
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SUP PEOPLE! Just wanted to say THANK YOU again for watching! If you haven't yet, i'd 100% recommend reading through the description. I broke down a couple things that, I feel, need to be articulated pretty clearly about this particular video. All in all, I DONT want you to feel the pressure or need to follow through with every single thing I did to gain weight. This is what worked for me, and that doesn't mean it's what has to work for you :)
Let me know what your thoughts are, everybody! Thanks again!
Its rare to see men talk about this. Thank you because I needed someone relatable who understands.
Yo this is so inspiring, I’m like 109 at 5’10” and feel stuck in the ED ways, I don’t like being this skinny but I feel like it’s near impossible to gain weight. But seeing your journey definitely pushes me to be more healthy!
How are you now? Same boat
@@rhysdolan7378 well i have ARFID so there’s a category of safe foods that I just really leaned into and tried adding more variety. Getting past the first week of eating more definitely was a mental and physical rollercoaster just with your stomach getting so small but once you get past it’s easier hope that helped
Hey man! This video was so helpful, esp for looking at this in a logical way!
I was wondering if you could do a video exploring the fear and anxieties surrounding food and weight gain, as, particularly amongst guys, I feel like that aspect of eating disorders isn't talked about so much. I know you mentioned in this video, but I just feel bleh - like I'm definitely stagnating and I feel like I'm in the same 'I need to gain weight efficiently mindset' but I can't get out of that :/
Thanks a tonne if you can, Cam!
that rhymed :D
Pi V YES absolutely. Love the idea, and the topic. That’ll be one of the next ones that I go for.. it’s been on my list, but has been one that I want to dedicate a decent amount of time to building out.
That’ll be out over the next couple weeks 😎 As always, thanks so much for bein here Pi V!
Cameron, during your recovery, did you ever get to a point where your appetite decreased a lot after getting to a certain point?
I’ve been at this point for the past 3 weeks where I have a very small appetite, but still cram down the 3,000-4,000 calories knowing that if I don’t eat enough, those ED demons will wreck my day.
Hey Carter! Wanted to thank you for the question - it's definitely a good one 🙌🏼
My appetite definitely decreased a significant amount after coming out of the 'immediate refeed' when recovery first started. And it kind of makes sense, right? The body's been in this state of starvation for so long, and a typical response after diagnosis is to introduce a LARGE amount of food, which in-turn kind of wakes up a seemingly-dormant metabolism!
After that initial phase of refeeding kind of died down, I found myself not near as hungry as I was when recovery first started, but still having to eat the same amount of calories.. And, for me at the time, I needed to keep that intake up for a significant amount of time. What I usually talk to people about is the fact that you can't necessarily trust your hunger for a while after being in an eating disorder - it's like the ED has messed with the hunger too much for it to be relied on.. and kind of as a response to that, that's where a solid meal plan, weight gain plan and calorie count comes into play
Not gonna lie, there were MANY moments where I had to force myself to eat.. to the point of it being uncomfortable. But I had to accept that recovery wasn't necessarily about being comfortable (Heck, if recovery was left up to my eating disorder, I would have just dropped all of the weight again!), but that recovery, no matter what, was about gaining weight consistently over time. If I had to eat 3000 calories a day to stick to my weight gain goal, then that's what it needed to be. Not ever day hit that 3000 calorie goal, but especially at first, the thing that's more important than hunger is whether the weight gain is still happening if it needs to happen :)
I know that's a lot.. BUT I really hope it's helpful!! I definitely plan on putting videos out soon talking more about this subject, but again thanks so much for your question - hope you're doing well!
Cameron Yoder thanks so much! It is definitely comforting to know what I’m feeling is normal. Your channel is a HUGE help for me :)
Carter Chavira What you’re feeling is definitely normal!! And I’m so grateful that the channel / the videos are able to help :) if you ever need anything, please feel completely free to reach out!
My question is can I go all in to recover as soon as possible?
Hi Cameron! :-) I can definitely see how this would be useful for people who are trying to gain weight as muscle, and why it was an effective for you to heal. I always wanted to be small and dissapear, because I hated taking up space, and drawing attention to myself because I fe!t like people would judge me. :-/
It took me 8 years to give myself permission to eat, and i ended up becoming overweight, before I realised I was still "re-feeding" myself 15 years later, and I didn't have to any more, as it had become detrimental to my health, because like you cam I'd given myself permission to eat after eight years without restriction and with abandon but now I can't stop.
So I couldn't track what I was eating I don't think if I'm being honest, if I were to eventually work out and lift weights, which I'm not ruling out, as I'm considering that to be a healthy way to get into shape versus dieting again and running, or cycling and swimming which I have a sinking feeling would bring me back into an eating disorder because I'd take it too far, and it would become an obsession and that is why I've avoided doing ANY exercise at all.
I do however not want to be overweight anymore though I know that, because the weight keeps creeping on, especially as I'm 38 now, and my metabolism has slowed down, so i dont lose weight easily like i used to in the past, so I feel like I'm stuck in a cycle of not knowing what to do for the best, and its affecting my health now on the opposite spectrum. :-/
I've noticed I'm now not as agile, I get out of breath easily, and am tired all the time amongst other ailments, I'd like to be sporty and have an athletic physique but I doubt it will ever happen for me now. For me eating what I want is a healthy mindset now like you said it is for you, but what do you do when you can't stop? If I tracked what I ate even if it wasn't calories and was carbs, fat, protein, etc, it would lead me down a triggering road I think. How do I deal with my anxiety and depression enough to get past the fact that I need to do exercise and lose weight/put on muscle? I've not found a way around that yet. :-/
YOOOO, holy moly, SO sorry i'm just getting back to you on this (Took a sort of 'hiatus' away from TH-cam for a couple weeks, but im JUMPIN BACK IN!
The roadblock you described is TRULY a difficult one. Because:
1). You have to be VERY mindful of the eating disorder
2). You have to be VERY mindful of where working out can put you
3). There's a LOT of stress that can come as a result of all of this (Not working out AND being mindful of the ED)
I think it's super important that you know which direction you want to move in. If it really is losing weight, I would really process through that before you make the decision to move forward. Asking things like, 'Who am I doing this for? Am I doing it so others will have a better view of me? Or am I doing this for ME?" Processing through that decision, and why you would to head in that direction, is very important.
I dont think that exercise is the solution here (FOR NOW!). I really think that exercise will come once you're able to really get a solid grip on everything surrounding it (Food, being where you want to be, being happy mentally) - All of those things CAN be achieved without exercise (I dont think that exercise should be relied on as the one thing to help make things better)
But I think I would really consider take SMALL (VERY SMALL) steps in the direction that you want to go in (Which might be, in this case, losing weight)
So what would a small step look like - well, maybe it WOULD involve tracking, BUT - you have a very small goal to reach, and you hold yourself accountable to ONLY reach that goal. (Maybe it's losing something like 5 lbs. over a couple months, something VERY slow so you know that it wont slip out of control)
I think the eating disorder side of everything is going to try to convince you that you can ONLY work in absolutes (As in, 'If you lose weight, you WILL lose control') - but it doesn't have to be that way!
Finding a solid support system, or putting specific (and SLOW) things in place can really help put some solid 'failsafes' for you, just incase something does happen. Or maybe it's writing down signs that might pop up if things start to go south, and if you look over those signs and see them happening, you promise to put everything on pause for a little bit
Overall.. VERY tough spot, one that (I really think) might need some good solid professional help (if it's good help!), but also one that doesn't have to involve the extreme :)
I know that probably didnt give you EVERYTHING you wanted.. but I hope there was some good insight in there
Do you have any tips on eating more when your stomach is so shrunken/small?
I am amazed you don't have more subscribers! Can you talk about extreme hunger and how you responded to It?
Laurel Karolina What’s up, Laurel! Haha, I really appreciate that 🙌🏼 and yes! I have that topic next for me to flush out, since a number of people have asked about it recently. I’ll try to put a video out about it over the next couple weeks :)
Not disagreeing, but how is it not a form of restriction if you want something but it 'puts' you over a certain number of (g) at a given point in time? So eat the yogurt tonight because you had to much fat today to enjoy ice cream? But good video, I'm in mid recovery and still haven't 'let-go'. Thank again.
Good question - So think of IIFYM, with the goal of weight gain, as having minimums instead of maximums. So with those three categories (Protein, fat, carbs), your goal is to hit the MINIMUM number of that each day. So instead of, "eat the yogurt tonight because you had to much fat today to enjoy ice cream", it's, "I hit my fat goal today, and can also have that ice cream"
It's basically a different way of structuring food tracking, that really helped me get rid of the, 'I have a ceiling that, once I hit it, I can't go over' to, 'I have a floor, and can go OVER that minimum"
At first, it was all about just getting the minimum, and not choosing to eat that ice cream that I was 'allowed' to eat - I basically stuck at the minimum for the longest time.. But as I found that I had control over the food, and the macros, and because I pictured it as a floor rather than a ceiling, I started eating that extra ice cream anyway. I started eating more at each meal, eating more snacks, things like that
So in this case, I got rid of the 'puts you over' mentality!
Hope that helps, really great question though. Going slow, taking everything one step at a time, is the BIGGEST thing here - as time goes on, you'll get more and more control over the eating disorder as you gain weight (even if it's slowly!)
You have been a big help I've discovered in regards to a male recovery angel. But when it comes to my eating 'issue' it's seems to be a " I don't have a problem eating, its not eating". I makes excuses such as time, work, school, I just ate' I shouldn't be hungry' etc. You have been most informational and most helpful and I look forward to the advise you up out in future time. Thank you,
I really appreciate all of those words of encouragement, THANK YOU 🙌🏼 It truly is words like that that keep me going.
Do you have any questions you've been looking to have answered in regards to confronting the eating issue? Would love to help talk through things if I can!
@@CameronYoder If I come to some I will inform you, thank you for your support.
@@CameronYoder I also meant to ask did you ever have a "earn the right to eat" mindset? If you did how did you deal with it?
hi love, just found your channel and I absolutely love it💞 i post videos about my eating disorder too, hope we can support each other!
Hey how tall are u? 130 is underweight for what height
It's difficult for me to say that everyone at every incremental height should be a certain weight. I truly believe it's a bit more individualized (Not taking into account extremes). Eating disorders are characterized by one's mentality, and relationship with food / perspective of one's self, rather than a body weight that can be characterized by something like the BMI scale!
That being said, I'm about 5'10", and for me, 130lbs. was too low (Didn't feel well, body wasn't functioning as it should have)
At my lowest, in middle school, I was revolving around 100-115, BUT again - Most of being unhealthy came from my behavior, and the weight drop came as a result of that behavior!
Can I even eat M&M’s if it fits my macros? lol