The notion of a perfect marriage or relationship is a fallacy; every relationship is unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nevertheless, I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we were able to mend our relationship. It was a tough time, but we survived.
The depth of your words strikes a chord with me, and I genuinely hope my feelings mirror yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot envision my life without her; my love for her runs deep. I yearn for her return, and I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to make it a reality. We've explored different avenues, including therapy, in our quest for reconciliation.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
So glad to have come across this podcast, just to listen and witness vulnerable reflection, self awareness and growth. Men growing men… fellowship and sharpening one another.
56:52 I get that too and it's touchy. Yes I feel like that would be my response as well because I'm going through something similar. If you chose to "do something else" then you're defintiey missing out on something amazing & as well you are forsaking your vows. I think both things are true in that moment & circumstance. The other person can still feel like they "want to go do something else" & at the sametime be violating their vows by their actions. We don't always love or like or agree with God & what He chooses to do in orchestrating our lives. He gives us space to vent and be disappointed yet it never warrants leaving Him. As long as it isn't malicious or manipulating I don't see anything wrong with saying both, you're missing out on somehting amazing & just know you're leaving & forsaking your vows. I know sometimes people say those things so that you can "fight for them" or show you want it. I get it and I don't like those kinds of tests either. If I'm showing your throughout our relationship that I'm fighitng for our marriage & investing in them & you want to drum up a test to see if I'm going to fight for it as a good idea, then that's not a good idea you should think of a better one. Women are more prone to do that then men. I've had that done to me months ago with a statement of "yeah I think we may be done" because I heard it several times before & I asked follow up questions all the other times & pleaded my case to why we should stay & this time I simply said "ok" & she got shocked and said "dang so you just going to say one word? It's like you've been waiting on me to say that so you can say OK like you did. I don't like those games or what people call "shit tests"
15:56 I get the sentiment of testing & at the same time no one wants to be tested in those ways on a consistent basis to the point of feeling you have to prove your love or protection or devotion to her consistetnly almost as if she as amnesia and has to be reminded like that. We're human too we're not robots. We can reach points where it's too much where it is overbearing.
@@KDBowe Thank you brothas for having the conversations and comprehending what each other was saying. I was glad to be part of it. Can't wait for more. I'll be there.
39:53 Great question. Yes I would say I'm easy to love. Another great qustion people should ask themselves is if you could date or marry yourself or treat yourself the way you treat others. I'm definitely under construction & allowing Holy Spirit to work on me to be the man God can be pleased with and trust in.
Its never a progressive idea to get with your side woman. In my early 20s i loved my side woman but when my relationship was over i couldn't be with my side woman. Due to having some form of integrity, i mentioned to her "why would you want to be with a man who's a known cheater?". You and i both had someone else. I don't wanna live like that. She hated it but respected it as an older woman
1:12:31 FACTS that's real & that's what I want to know. Who is checking her. Men are used to getting checked from an early age from everyone. We expect it no matter how harsh or meaningful. Who is checking her??
@@sunnysuney5845 That's easy to say yet we all know life happens and people change in different ways. The person and character the may have had or displayed for years before a certain event happened could be drastically different after said even & they become a person you don't know. No it's not the norm yet it does happen. No one should have to "handle" or "check" someone with regularity, yet some are so abrassive that they just don't care.
Man with the glasses, balled head and opened shirt still to this momen is NOT taking any responsibility by any means necessary. He'll find himself divorced again if he doesn't do the inner work.
The notion of a perfect marriage or relationship is a fallacy; every relationship is unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nevertheless, I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we were able to mend our relationship. It was a tough time, but we survived.
The depth of your words strikes a chord with me, and I genuinely hope my feelings mirror yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot envision my life without her; my love for her runs deep. I yearn for her return, and I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to make it a reality. We've explored different avenues, including therapy, in our quest for reconciliation.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I promise you will not regret it
Bravo. Great conversation
So glad to have come across this podcast, just to listen and witness vulnerable reflection, self awareness and growth. Men growing men… fellowship and sharpening one another.
38:15 Amen knowing & acknowleging you are enough is important indeed.
awesome set and very high quality production. good stuff!
Thank you!
56:52 I get that too and it's touchy. Yes I feel like that would be my response as well because I'm going through something similar. If you chose to "do something else" then you're defintiey missing out on something amazing & as well you are forsaking your vows. I think both things are true in that moment & circumstance. The other person can still feel like they "want to go do something else" & at the sametime be violating their vows by their actions. We don't always love or like or agree with God & what He chooses to do in orchestrating our lives. He gives us space to vent and be disappointed yet it never warrants leaving Him. As long as it isn't malicious or manipulating I don't see anything wrong with saying both, you're missing out on somehting amazing & just know you're leaving & forsaking your vows.
I know sometimes people say those things so that you can "fight for them" or show you want it. I get it and I don't like those kinds of tests either. If I'm showing your throughout our relationship that I'm fighitng for our marriage & investing in them & you want to drum up a test to see if I'm going to fight for it as a good idea, then that's not a good idea you should think of a better one. Women are more prone to do that then men. I've had that done to me months ago with a statement of "yeah I think we may be done" because I heard it several times before & I asked follow up questions all the other times & pleaded my case to why we should stay & this time I simply said "ok" & she got shocked and said "dang so you just going to say one word? It's like you've been waiting on me to say that so you can say OK like you did. I don't like those games or what people call "shit tests"
Good to see the build Brother
Rilla! What’s good fam? Thank you bro
Excellent build amongst men. Salute to the discussion
Thank you!
15:56 I get the sentiment of testing & at the same time no one wants to be tested in those ways on a consistent basis to the point of feeling you have to prove your love or protection or devotion to her consistetnly almost as if she as amnesia and has to be reminded like that. We're human too we're not robots. We can reach points where it's too much where it is overbearing.
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Finally, Men who are emotionally mature 👍🏿
It’s a journey, that’s for sure
Oh hes the real derwin davis 😂
9:45 good point. I've been there. I want to do any and everything within reason to give to her yet she isn't appreciative of it.
So sad to say that this has been me in my marriage…
1:02:25 that's true it either attracts or repels. Marriage Helper talks about that and with P.I.E.S. Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual
Bro, thank you for watching and engaging in the conversation! It’s wonderful to see that you put so much thought & effort into being present. 👊🏾
@@KDBowe Thank you brothas for having the conversations and comprehending what each other was saying. I was glad to be part of it. Can't wait for more. I'll be there.
Thank you for a Godly prospective on this subject ❤️✊🏽
39:53 Great question. Yes I would say I'm easy to love. Another great qustion people should ask themselves is if you could date or marry yourself or treat yourself the way you treat others. I'm definitely under construction & allowing Holy Spirit to work on me to be the man God can be pleased with and trust in.
Its never a progressive idea to get with your side woman. In my early 20s i loved my side woman but when my relationship was over i couldn't be with my side woman. Due to having some form of integrity, i mentioned to her "why would you want to be with a man who's a known cheater?". You and i both had someone else. I don't wanna live like that. She hated it but respected it as an older woman
That is something! Your truth most will not admit to. Glad you shared that. Even tho I believe you loved both. Can't take from either. It just was.
Good podcast guys!
We are to blame for certain things. Please don't shy away from that.
Indeed
1:12:31 FACTS that's real & that's what I want to know. Who is checking her. Men are used to getting checked from an early age from everyone. We expect it no matter how harsh or meaningful. Who is checking her??
Find some equally yolked and you won't have to do much checking.
@@sunnysuney5845 That's easy to say yet we all know life happens and people change in different ways. The person and character the may have had or displayed for years before a certain event happened could be drastically different after said even & they become a person you don't know. No it's not the norm yet it does happen. No one should have to "handle" or "check" someone with regularity, yet some are so abrassive that they just don't care.
@@knowledge5106_ saying the same thing. Once you know better you do better. No sense to keep that pressing on. Make the change.
@@knowledge5106_ that's true
Would you be open to be on my podcast?
Yes sir.
Man with the glasses, balled head and opened shirt still to this momen is NOT taking any responsibility by any means necessary. He'll find himself divorced again if he doesn't do the inner work.
I’d be interested to know what you mean by that?