My boyfriend and I were talking about his goals to be successful in business, and I asked "what happens if you become super successful, would you still love me?" and he said “I wouldn’t be successful if I didn't love you” and it reminded me of what you are always talking about, how loving a woman the right way brings success to a man. I am so grateful for him and love him so much. I believe I found him by taking your advice and watching your videos before we ever met (when I was single in the trenches of dating lol). Just wanted to bring a nice relationship success story to the comments from a subscriber!
Unfortunately, yes they can. This sadly happens more often than not and especially in today’s social, the times we are in. They can marry as a business deal - money involved, a kid(s) involved, the look of it, family or societal pressure, he’s using the woman, security - mainly financial security, men marrying women for her to be his beard, etc.
I was married and definitely was NOT IN LOVE. it was based on circumstances. I grew to love him....but I never had any respect for him....and still don't. He needs God. I just pray God foes something with his heart to be a better human being 💯
As a sister Christian, please do not misconstrue the Bible. A woman is not made for the abuse of a sinful man and his disgusting decisions. Remember, the Bible also says a man is to LOVE his wife as he loves himself and in turn loves God. This is why people are leaving the church in droves because too many men have tried to make women believe they have to suffer. Comparing a sinful man and how he lives with a God-fearing man and how he should live like God directed him to are two totally and completely different things.
Yes. God didn't create men to do the wrong things that they do. That's the result of the fall and men's willingness to submit to the flesh and satan. The struggle is real. Women must be aware and on high alert when dealing with them. This is why I appreciate these types of videos.
Yes. N always keep keys etc near the door/ where u can get to them quick . I gt attacked while packing n leaving during an argument. I wish I would have just snatched my keys n just left. Could have been avoided. I didn’t tell him but he saw and lost it. Just leave everything.
How many times can a woman handle cheating? How many times can a woman handle betrayal? If her heart was pure as gold. Loving him was all she could do. Her love was genuine, but he betrayed her many times. Crushing her soul as if nothing happened.
The thing of it is, a woman serves her purpose in Life Much Better if she reserves the "overcoming aspect of her spiritual gifts" for adversities Outside the home ie advocating for her child's education, not cool at all when she is being drained by a weak, immature man that leads to an early grave most times. Put no man before the GOD of your understanding, live and be happy 😊❤😊😊😊
Dealing with a man places you in physical risk … including loss of life. Men are emotional and deal with emotions by aggression. Brother Tony telling us truth. Think about what he is saying.
That part about a man who doesn’t allow himself to fall in love is a huge reason why relationships are not succeeding. Because the percentage of dismissive avoidants is a significant number and it’s men and women. Not just men.
Two weeks ago I left a man I loved specifically for this reason. He was avoidant and too scared to love me back ( I could tell he reaalllllyyyyy liked me) but he ended up sabotaging it by flirting with low vibration women. I left as soon as I realized what was happening. Yes, it hurts and I cried a lot but I know it’s for the best. He has to get rid of that barrier or he won’t EVER be able to love another woman no matter who she is.
@@BashaerB-h2c I left an avoidant 11 months ago. I moved out while he was at work. We broke up for the 3rd time. I had to finally protect my mental health and self respect. I loved him deeply and still do. I went no contact and had to unfollow his musician son who is a fabulous singer and I pray for his success. My ex was becoming disrespectful and I tried to be patient, but got tried. This time I will work on me to heal and just not look back because he said he didn’t want to change who he is and I decided to respect it and leave. Blessings to you and stay strong because they have to realize their trauma before any success in love.
@@BashaerB-h2c when a man falls in love with a woman he becomes weak and treats her like his god those relationships never work out long term because it’s against the order of god
Im 53 & grew up really naive and to this day whenever I hear Tony say a man will sleep with his wife's Mother or Sister, it makes me sick to my stomach! I be wanting to through up. Its just unthinking and so evil. Tony's a man & a Godly man- so i know he's telling truth
Another good video. Off topic here, but do yall notice how Tony can be nosey and still keep talking😂😂 Eyes just be wandering and he never lose track of what he talking about. I be wanting him to turn the camera to see what he be looking around at.
I love my man so much and I always have issues when things get rough. I’m so glad I watched this video. I’ve never yelled at him or called him out of his name but I have done stupid things to abuse him emotionally that I was not aware of. He made me very aware and he went OFF. I almost lost him. He was really standing on business 😭😭 like one foot out the door and somehow, I got another chance with him. I’m going to cherish this and the way he loves me. Thank you for this video. I’m going to make sure I love him right.
How a woman talks to a man is so important. I saw in a blog sometime last year where someone said emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse and the women were actually saying they should be able to speak or talk to a man however way they feel, cursing or shouting , calling him names and it should be acceptable as long as he doesn't put his hand on them because as the man he should know his own strength. So yes alot of women know what disrespect looks like, they just feels when it comes to men they are justified or within their right to do so as long as he doesn't touch her. To that I say this: while I do not condone violence of any kind, when you purposely provoke people or purposely choose to be disrespectful you don't get to choose how they respond, because you don't know what people are capable of.
Yes it is but we are way ahead of modern woman , remember this knowledge will save us a lot of pain , men are bad not all, start creating a beautifull life single and don't be afraid to die alone.
Forget this world. I’m determined to make it to heaven and get as many back with me as possible. If I get married along the way then praise God! If not, PRAISE GOD!!
Tony is speaking from the Bible about a man seeking revenge. “For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation; he will refuse though you multiply gifts.“ Proverbs 6:34-35 ESV
I think guys are afraid to fall in love once they've had their heart ripped out by a woman they were in love with. They don't want to be hurt again. I can't say I don't relate though! Love and prayers for all trying to heal❤❤🙏🙏
This is so great to hear. My partner and I are 8 months into our relationship and we both agree we’d be fantastic as a married couple. We communicate so well and we align on values and such. But he isn’t in love with me yet. I am in love with him but only for a couple months. He’s been very open about his “struggle” with falling in love because he’s never experienced it in past relationships. But his actions speak so loud! He’s the best man I’ve ever known and he truly does all he can to ensure I’m happy and we’re in a healthy relationship. I’m being patient but I read a lot men should be in love with a couple to six months and I worry he just won’t fall in love with me. So again, this is so heartening to hear. I know he cares for me deeply based on how much time and effort and attention he puts in. He just asks for time and patience. But I do want to be truly loved and I hope it happens with him!
hey mr gaskins, the bible also told the man to love their wives as Christ loves the church. and a woman is called to respect their husbands. Ephesians5:25-29.
I genuinely don't believe I have ever fell in love with a man. I have shared romantic interests for them but nothing more evolved within my emotions. As a 42-year-old woman, I am not sure if that is normal, healthy, or how to describe it.
This is so true. And tragic. My Mother was killed trying to leave her husband. Her case is still open from 2018, and I know he killed her. Listen to Tony, ladies. 😔 PLEASE.
There is some degree of truth in your rationale of why men are scared to fall in love but please don’t leave out the rest of the truth…men know they were never taught nor personally chose to be faithful so men are scared to fall in love because they know the karma is just lurking around a corner waiting to pounce on them. They are deathly scared of being hurt exponentially greater than they have done all the women they purposely deceived, manipulated and disrespected.
Coming from a woman with not the most experience with long term relationships, just wanted to recognize you for giving me “rules” of what to and not do in healthy long term relationships. The info of the fact that some men just don’t fall in love was something i needed to hear as well. Thanks 😊
You are absolutely right 💯 I've been through domestic violence situations. I'm blessed that God has kept me!!! God 🙏🏽 is sending messages through you. 🎉Praise God 🙌🏽 for the confirmation.
This video is 100% true. I live in the Middle East and all this applies to a T. I’ve seen it over and over again women ALWAYS loose when they disrespect a man even if he deserves it. Men on average are much more petty, vengeful and spiteful. A good man will walk away (rare).
Thank you, YT Son, for this message today. I an here cooking and listening to you talking about common sense every day scenarios. Things that I would not think of if I needed to. Thanks for your help.
Thank you Father FOR USING THIS BROTHER CUZ THE MORE I HEAR AND SEE THE MORE I KNOW satan out here like a vulture and a lion waiting to devour The devil is a LIAAAAAAAAAA NOT TODAY OR EVAAAAAA
I know a man and he's married to my aunt. They've been married for over 45 years. But he is always an abusive husband to her but she has continued to stay. My aunt isn't disrespectful towards him and he hits her. Why she stayed in that marriage for this long...hmmm I couldn't. I don't think a man will always hit a woman only if she disrespects him..she was the bread winner for years. I believe he was abusive in the beginning mainly because he felt beneath her.
No I never cheated and he cheated took him back many times until I was just tired. I can see him now and don't have a word to say. But me and his daughter still have a relationship as well her mom and her husband 😆 who have helped raised her to become a beautiful woman through time I first met her at the age of 6 to now she's in grad school working 2 jobs and a believer in Christ Jesus. I don't have children but God blessed me with at the end of it all a long lasting relationship through my ex child.
I am extremely grateful to you Tony for your transparency about the truth about men and their refusal to fall in love with a woman. From a woman’s perspective, a man who cheats on his wife that he claims to “love” means he truly does not love her in the true sense of the word. True love means you never hurt the person you love, but cheating hurts the innocent wife. That cheating husband does not even care about his wife. No wonder God tells husbands to love their wife. God knew men do NOT truly love their wife. Now that I know this truth, I see marriage as being completely pointless, meaningless, and a waste of time. Thank you immensely Tony. I will continue to avoid men until I die happily and peacefully alone. My intuition always told me to avoid men completely, and I obeyed my intuition. Thank you for helping me to avoid unnecessary heart ache from a man. Men are extremely NOT worth the pain whatsoever. Thank you God and thank you Tony for protecting me from men and their cruel, unnecessary pain. I will replay this video many times to never forget the deliberate cruelty of men. The reason why divorce and cheating happens is solely due to -> MEN REFUSING TO LOVE THEIR WIFE. Marriage is a joke upon women. Thank you for giving me peace of mind Tony. Thank you God for revealing the TRUTH about men refusing to love their wife. Thank you Tony for confirming the truth that God revealed in Ephesians 5. Amen. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️ It looks like the devil and men actually won the war against God when it comes to destroying marriage and the family. The truth that men refuse to love their wife means the game has been won by men and the devil. This truth sets women free from being harmed, used, and abused by men. All we women need to do is to avoid men, marriage, and motherhood to protect ourselves. This following scripture is what men disobey and how they damage women and marriage: Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church and delivered himself up for it: …28. So also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. God will punish men for hurting and damaging women and marriage as their payback.
Mines came from a single parent home, his mom divorced his dad cause he was an alcoholic. I just dont think he can be in love. He has vices, drinking, gambling, and porn...I've tried, but we keep going back and forth, on and off ...
Honestly, even I (a woman) am afraid to fall “in love” because of the exact same reasons : (1) cheating and (2) disrespect BECAUSE I SAW IT IN MY PARENT’S MARRIAGE. I know most women stay in relationships after the above two have come to pass in their lives but the offences are far to great for me to reconcile with the person especially the first one. Mr Gaskins , I have a question , you said that A man has to be led by God to fall “in love” with a woman , but , you also said that man of God also is not perfect (which is true), so is it possible for a man of God to be in love with you and still cheat on you? Is there any hope for woman to have a man be 100% faithful to her for the entirety of them being together till death do they part? I don’t mean to come off as a weeping willow but Marriage , which is supposed to be a holy covenant, seem more like hell on earth than heaven on earth. Is there any hope for a woman to be loved the way Christ wanted a man to love his daughter ? Thank you Yours sincerely
Tony as usual you're speaking hard truth. Although it's definitely not a woman's preference But it doesn't diminish it from being true. GOD Bless you & your wife & sons & ministry. 🤔😒🤐🥺😟😥😭
This is so true. I was talking crazy and he was sleeping with someone in my building. All I have to say is when I found out I went crazy then charges on me were filed.
@cuteblue2212, okaaaaay and also men still already married and getting engaged to someone else 😮. Someone Please explain that one. Plus the other woman knows he is still married and she knew he was married when they were sneaking around. He lied to her and never told her the real, whole TRUE story. Myyyyy GOD what is going on in this world. QUEENS, REAL QUEENS Never, EVER stoop down. Real QUEENS stand tall, classy, and carry and have INTEGRITY about themselves.
In south africa there was an olympian called oscar pretorius, he was called the blade runner, we as a nation loved him but he ended up killing his girlfriend at his home on valentines day. He shot her in his own home where a women is supposed to feel safe.
I have disrespected a partner, out of frustration at what I believed to be his grown boy behaviour. That is the two wrongs option so I see my error. I could have taken the high road and communicated clearly and said I am going to leave, but I did not bc it was just that it seemed really hard to take the soft answer path, when it means once again you will be all alone. I was so tired of being alone. I am the queen of solitude. Enough was enough, I thought. I'm going to stay, why should I have to be alone bc he isnt mature. I am going to stay but he is going to pay. Big mistake. He didn't cheat, but I think he is finally out of love. He doesn't call, he doesn't inquire anything. He keeps the conversations short. Tony is right about the years it takes for a man to fall in love though. He really took a while to start truly feeling me. But I wasn't healed from past hurt and neither was he, and there were triggers for both of us that became stumbling blocks. Now I said I didnt want to be alone. But I realise there is more than one way to be alone. If I am gonna be alone, I don't need someone else to be alone with. Same thing I thought about sex- I thought it was a waste for me to be celibate indefinitely. But they waste SO much of you when they MOSTLY engage you sexually. So you don't escape waste by not being celibate. And it seems once you give them that (before commitment and marriage) then to them, there's nothing else to value or seek or investigate in you the woman. To me that's obviously ridiculous but not to them. Princella said men are not capable of love. TG has now said men are not created for love. I don't believe everything Princella says. But in this their statements seem to have some resonance. This confusion I've had with why men don't value love as much, and why they won't do as much as you the woman, for love, nor will they value you if sex is either too early or too late for them, is finally all starting to make a whole lot of sense. We are just so different. Has its benefits, but then the drawbacks are like damn.
Here I am again taking 📝 . So excited that Im in the growth club 🎉🎉 I'm ready to reach my next level 🥳🙌🏼. Thank you Uncle Tony, God bless you and Happy Birthday 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I will not try to yell or carry on in public with my man. I have, but that was out of pure anger and being pushed. Will not do that again because it is not classy. He has yelled at me in public and regretted it.
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THE TWO POINTS THAT YOU MENTION ABOUT BEING DISRESPECTFUL AND UNFAITHFUL CAN MAKE YOU MAN LOOSE LOVE, BUT… Why is it that men generally don’t like taking accountability for their own actions, beca women are not made of stone either, there also some cases where you hear women committing suicide over a man, or killing the the lover of her man Which I don’t is healthy, neither it is kill your own kids because your wife cheated on you, the Bible also says that men shall love their wives like Chris loves the church, so getting hurt goes sides ways, women are NOT made of stone, we also get hurt with betrayal, rather we stranger or not, I love you brother Tony, thanks for the video
Ephesians 5:22-33 MEV Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. In this way men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord cares for the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Tony is right with ex narc, I always thought I was the one who had the upper hand in our arguments and sad to say I did disrespect him but out of him also not respecting me. He would stay quiet and not do much. The whole time I thought he was not affected by what I said, he cheating on me…
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My boyfriend and I were talking about his goals to be successful in business, and I asked "what happens if you become super successful, would you still love me?" and he said “I wouldn’t be successful if I didn't love you” and it reminded me of what you are always talking about, how loving a woman the right way brings success to a man. I am so grateful for him and love him so much. I believe I found him by taking your advice and watching your videos before we ever met (when I was single in the trenches of dating lol). Just wanted to bring a nice relationship success story to the comments from a subscriber!
I heard a man tell his wife that he loves her, but not in love with her. I really didn’t know that a person can even marry you and not be in love.
People do this often. They do not marry because they are in love. A lot of men marry for status and a lot of women marry for "security."
Unfortunately, yes they can. This sadly happens more often than not and especially in today’s social, the times we are in. They can marry as a business deal - money involved, a kid(s) involved, the look of it, family or societal pressure, he’s using the woman, security - mainly financial security, men marrying women for her to be his beard, etc.
@@MissPetrina1most dont want love. They want transaction. Online everyone talk about everything but character
This is most marriages that I see.....transactional or settling
I was married and definitely was NOT IN LOVE. it was based on circumstances. I grew to love him....but I never had any respect for him....and still don't. He needs God. I just pray God foes something with his heart to be a better human being 💯
I’m over it. Love for me turned into a manipulative situation. I will never again allow someone to claim to love me and use it against me. ❌
Yes and never give more to a man who is not giving u more than u give.
As a sister Christian, please do not misconstrue the Bible. A woman is not made for the abuse of a sinful man and his disgusting decisions. Remember, the Bible also says a man is to LOVE his wife as he loves himself and in turn loves God. This is why people are leaving the church in droves because too many men have tried to make women believe they have to suffer. Comparing a sinful man and how he lives with a God-fearing man and how he should live like God directed him to are two totally and completely different things.
Yes. God didn't create men to do the wrong things that they do. That's the result of the fall and men's willingness to submit to the flesh and satan. The struggle is real. Women must be aware and on high alert when dealing with them. This is why I appreciate these types of videos.
You can never tell certain men that you’re prepared to leave them , you have to leave without a trace or else, you have a next guest coming.
Yes. N always keep keys etc near the door/ where u can get to them quick .
I gt attacked while packing n leaving during an argument. I wish I would have just snatched my keys n just left. Could have been avoided. I didn’t tell him but he saw and lost it. Just leave everything.
How many times can a woman handle cheating? How many times can a woman handle betrayal? If her heart was pure as gold. Loving him was all she could do. Her love was genuine, but he betrayed her many times. Crushing her soul as if nothing happened.
Exactly
He literally just sat up here and said women were created to handle abuse. Like wtf.
The thing of it is, a woman serves her purpose in Life Much Better if she reserves the "overcoming aspect of her spiritual gifts" for adversities Outside the home ie advocating for her child's education, not cool at all when she is being drained by a weak, immature man that leads to an early grave most times. Put no man before the GOD of your understanding, live and be happy 😊❤😊😊😊
@@Wewereneveryoungikr..not this woman..🙄
lol I’m cheating back, telling him the other dude was better in bed and LEAVING!!😂if I got cheated on
Dealing with a man places you in physical risk … including loss of life. Men are emotional and deal with emotions by aggression. Brother Tony telling us truth. Think about what he is saying.
Never take it for granted. Many women continue to idolize men and take these things for granted.
That part about a man who doesn’t allow himself to fall in love is a huge reason why relationships are not succeeding. Because the percentage of dismissive avoidants is a significant number and it’s men and women. Not just men.
Two weeks ago I left a man I loved specifically for this reason. He was avoidant and too scared to love me back ( I could tell he reaalllllyyyyy liked me) but he ended up sabotaging it by flirting with low vibration women. I left as soon as I realized what was happening. Yes, it hurts and I cried a lot but I know it’s for the best. He has to get rid of that barrier or he won’t EVER be able to love another woman no matter who she is.
@@BashaerB-h2c I left an avoidant 11 months ago. I moved out while he was at work. We broke up for the 3rd time. I had to finally protect my mental health and self respect. I loved him deeply and still do. I went no contact and had to unfollow his musician son who is a fabulous singer and I pray for his success. My ex was becoming disrespectful and I tried to be patient, but got tried. This time I will work on me to heal and just not look back because he said he didn’t want to change who he is and I decided to respect it and leave. Blessings to you and stay strong because they have to realize their trauma before any success in love.
@@BashaerB-h2c when a man falls in love with a woman he becomes weak and treats her like his god those relationships never work out long term because it’s against the order of god
@@BashaerB-h2cmen shouldn’t fall in love because then he looks at his woman as his god
@DuffWilliams
That’s 100% false unless you’re dealing with a traumatized man with major unresolved issues.
Im 53 & grew up really naive and to this day whenever I hear Tony say a man will sleep with his wife's Mother or Sister, it makes me sick to my stomach! I be wanting to through up. Its just unthinking and so evil. Tony's a man & a Godly man- so i know he's telling truth
Another good video. Off topic here, but do yall notice how Tony can be nosey and still keep talking😂😂 Eyes just be wandering and he never lose track of what he talking about. I be wanting him to turn the camera to see what he be looking around at.
@@October_Baby😂😂😂😂
Right! Like, “what we looking at? I wanna see!”😂
So if somebody took a stupid pill and tried to run up, he's supposed to get got? No, he's supposed to be aware of his surroundings 💯
Latrav08 you got it right!
Yes!!!💯😄😄😄
I love my man so much and I always have issues when things get rough. I’m so glad I watched this video. I’ve never yelled at him or called him out of his name but I have done stupid things to abuse him emotionally that I was not aware of. He made me very aware and he went OFF. I almost lost him. He was really standing on business 😭😭 like one foot out the door and somehow, I got another chance with him. I’m going to cherish this and the way he loves me. Thank you for this video. I’m going to make sure I love him right.
How a woman talks to a man is so important. I saw in a blog sometime last year where someone said emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse and the women were actually saying they should be able to speak or talk to a man however way they feel, cursing or shouting , calling him names and it should be acceptable as long as he doesn't put his hand on them because as the man he should know his own strength. So yes alot of women know what disrespect looks like, they just feels when it comes to men they are justified or within their right to do so as long as he doesn't touch her. To that I say this: while I do not condone violence of any kind, when you purposely provoke people or purposely choose to be disrespectful you don't get to choose how they respond, because you don't know what people are capable of.
The wind can blow hard & a man will say his feelings change.
Tony as a decent godly woman…. This is so exhausting. 😢
Yes it is but we are way ahead of modern woman , remember this knowledge will save us a lot of pain , men are bad not all, start creating a beautifull life single and don't be afraid to die alone.
@@Didi-fr5ic Exactly
Forget this world. I’m determined to make it to heaven and get as many back with me as possible. If I get married along the way then praise God! If not, PRAISE GOD!!
Tony ought to be sitting at 1M subscribers as of right now because 👀🗣️
Wrong page. I’ve never had 775k … you’re confusing me with someone else
@@TonyGaskins she was saying this as a compliment… because you know what you’re speaking on… 😉
Tony is speaking from the Bible about a man seeking revenge. “For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation; he will refuse though you multiply gifts.“
Proverbs 6:34-35 ESV
Tony Gaskins NEVERRRR miss 💯 again, He told NO liessss!!!
I think guys are afraid to fall in love once they've had their heart ripped out by a woman they were in love with. They don't want to be hurt again. I can't say I don't relate though! Love and prayers for all trying to heal❤❤🙏🙏
We all have to try again at some point. They CAN BE so weak and cowardice, and this is why I struggle to respect them.
and they need to leave women alone until they go to therapy.
I concur
That's why I can't fall "In Love" anymore
This is so great to hear. My partner and I are 8 months into our relationship and we both agree we’d be fantastic as a married couple. We communicate so well and we align on values and such. But he isn’t in love with me yet. I am in love with him but only for a couple months. He’s been very open about his “struggle” with falling in love because he’s never experienced it in past relationships. But his actions speak so loud! He’s the best man I’ve ever known and he truly does all he can to ensure I’m happy and we’re in a healthy relationship. I’m being patient but I read a lot men should be in love with a couple to six months and I worry he just won’t fall in love with me. So again, this is so heartening to hear. I know he cares for me deeply based on how much time and effort and attention he puts in. He just asks for time and patience. But I do want to be truly loved and I hope it happens with him!
Yeah the dating world is doomed. Men just want a perfect wife! Good luck ladies! 🙏🇵🇸
They want a perfect wife without being the perfect husband
@@la6136 yep! Literally nothing is good enough! I have a friend who did it all and nothing made that man happy
@@CyberSecurityFashionDesignerHe probably wants a man
@@gailjones7044 🤣🤣🤣
hey mr gaskins, the bible also told the man to love their wives as Christ loves the church. and a woman is called to respect their husbands. Ephesians5:25-29.
Let us all be prepared to love, respect, and honor- this is of God.
I genuinely don't believe I have ever fell in love with a man. I have shared romantic interests for them but nothing more evolved within my emotions. As a 42-year-old woman, I am not sure if that is normal, healthy, or how to describe it.
Yeah…I ain’t waiting up to 5 years lol. I’ll just always keep my heart open for someone else who can fall in “love” faster.
This is your best video on your channel Tony. All women must listen to this video and this video must go viral!
I had a husband who cheated but when i filed for divorce he retailed
. People like that are selfish
You are stating real facts Mr. Gaskin ✅✅
Be blessed Sir! I'm ready for class! Much love from the Netherlands!🇳🇱
Forgot one. Invalidating his feelings. It will result in the man loving her but know he cant be in love with her to show that vulnerable side to her
That's another good one.
Absolutely!
WELL THAT'S WHY BOTH PEOPLE SHOULD MENTION THE THINGS THAT BOTHER THEM IMMEDIATELY.... 4-5 MONTHS/ YEARS LATER.😢
I’ve seen it too, and it’s makes me uncomfortable. Have vulnerable conversations to also know his triggers.
This is so true. And tragic. My Mother was killed trying to leave her husband. Her case is still open from 2018, and I know he killed her. Listen to Tony, ladies. 😔 PLEASE.
So sorry 😞
❤❤I sure hope justice is served
I'm so sorry to hear that, sending my condolences ❤🙏🏾
Sorry to hear that and thank you for sharing. God bless you.
My sympathies to you🤍...my aunt was beheaded by her abusive husband when she tried to leave him😢
Happy Birthday Uncle Tony!!! You have been a great help to me and many other people around the world! God bless you and your family!
I must be a man cause I am not conditioned for betrayal, deceit or “unconditional” love at all 😭
I appreciate the moments when you share personal moments to actually help us and be so real and honest. God bless you Tony!
The authenticity is real!
There is some degree of truth in your rationale of why men are scared to fall in love but please don’t leave out the rest of the truth…men know they were never taught nor personally chose to be faithful so men are scared to fall in love because they know the karma is just lurking around a corner waiting to pounce on them. They are deathly scared of being hurt exponentially greater than they have done all the women they purposely deceived, manipulated and disrespected.
OR HE CAN CHEAT BCUZ HE ALREADY HAD 4-5 WOMEN LINED UP.
A very happy birthday to you, Tony!! 🥳🥳🥳 God bless and keep you and the fam 🌸
He was never in love if it’s that easy to fall out of love, also he never knew what love really was.
Coming from a woman with not the most experience with long term relationships, just wanted to recognize you for giving me “rules” of what to and not do in healthy long term relationships. The info of the fact that some men just don’t fall in love was something i needed to hear as well. Thanks 😊
“Legion talking” 🤣, funny but great video!!
You are absolutely right 💯 I've been through domestic violence situations. I'm blessed that God has kept me!!! God 🙏🏽 is sending messages through you. 🎉Praise God 🙌🏽 for the confirmation.
This video is 100% true. I live in the Middle East and all this applies to a T. I’ve seen it over and over again women ALWAYS loose when they disrespect a man even if he deserves it. Men on average are much more petty, vengeful and spiteful. A good man will walk away (rare).
Men get bored very easily.
Thank you for your truth, Tony. When I get married again (hopefully), I will remember to always respect him. God bless you and yours, Man of God. ❤
I think this is one of the best videos I’ve seen this year.
Thank you, YT Son, for this message today. I an here cooking and listening to you talking about common sense every day scenarios. Things that I would not think of if I needed to. Thanks for your help.
Mr. Tony you are absolutely correct!!
Thank you Father FOR USING THIS BROTHER
CUZ THE MORE I HEAR AND SEE THE MORE I KNOW satan out here like a vulture and a lion waiting to devour
The devil is a LIAAAAAAAAAA
NOT TODAY OR EVAAAAAA
Yeah, I love how guys forget to tell me I'm their girlfriend just because we're talking. Lol Then blow a gasket if I talk to another guy.
That's because they're full of crap...if they haven't asked you to be their girl and you haven't said yes then they know where you two stand...
@@kayjeffs3741 Why they freak out over other guys, I don't get it!
@@kayjeffs3741 And tbh it would be weird if they told me that after all I did was talk to them. Lol
Girl! What about the ones that tell you that y'all are not in a relationship every chance he gets but flips when you entertain someone else, boy bye!!
I know a man and he's married to my aunt. They've been married for over 45 years. But he is always an abusive husband to her but she has continued to stay. My aunt isn't disrespectful towards him and he hits her. Why she stayed in that marriage for this long...hmmm I couldn't. I don't think a man will always hit a woman only if she disrespects him..she was the bread winner for years. I believe he was abusive in the beginning mainly because he felt beneath her.
Happy Birthday, Tony G! May God continue to use you and bless you in all you do! 🎉
Organized pimp is crazy 😂
The break down is always next level. I, as always, appreciate the details. 🔥
No I never cheated and he cheated took him back many times until I was just tired. I can see him now and don't have a word to say. But me and his daughter still have a relationship as well her mom and her husband 😆 who have helped raised her to become a beautiful woman through time I first met her at the age of 6 to now she's in grad school working 2 jobs and a believer in Christ Jesus. I don't have children but God blessed me with at the end of it all a long lasting relationship through my ex child.
God has blessed you.AMEN
I am extremely grateful to you Tony for your transparency about the truth about men and their refusal to fall in love with a woman. From a woman’s perspective, a man who cheats on his wife that he claims to “love” means he truly does not love her in the true sense of the word. True love means you never hurt the person you love, but cheating hurts the innocent wife. That cheating husband does not even care about his wife. No wonder God tells husbands to love their wife. God knew men do NOT truly love their wife. Now that I know this truth, I see marriage as being completely pointless, meaningless, and a waste of time. Thank you immensely Tony. I will continue to avoid men until I die happily and peacefully alone. My intuition always told me to avoid men completely, and I obeyed my intuition. Thank you for helping me to avoid unnecessary heart ache from a man. Men are extremely NOT worth the pain whatsoever. Thank you God and thank you Tony for protecting me from men and their cruel, unnecessary pain. I will replay this video many times to never forget the deliberate cruelty of men. The reason why divorce and cheating happens is solely due to -> MEN REFUSING TO LOVE THEIR WIFE. Marriage is a joke upon women. Thank you for giving me peace of mind Tony. Thank you God for revealing the TRUTH about men refusing to love their wife. Thank you Tony for confirming the truth that God revealed in Ephesians 5. Amen. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️
It looks like the devil and men actually won the war against God when it comes to destroying marriage and the family. The truth that men refuse to love their wife means the game has been won by men and the devil. This truth sets women free from being harmed, used, and abused by men. All we women need to do is to avoid men, marriage, and motherhood to protect ourselves.
This following scripture is what men disobey and how they damage women and marriage:
Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church and delivered himself up for it: …28. So also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
God will punish men for hurting and damaging women and marriage as their payback.
If he cheats on his wife he doesn’t love himself!
@@carlinebaker1565 If he cheats on his wife, he selfishly loves himself, but he does not love her.
You speaking facts! Mr. Gaskins.
Mines came from a single parent home, his mom divorced his dad cause he was an alcoholic. I just dont think he can be in love. He has vices, drinking, gambling, and porn...I've tried, but we keep going back and forth, on and off ...
Thank you, Tony 🙏🏼✨
Honestly, even I (a woman) am afraid to fall “in love” because of the exact same reasons : (1) cheating and (2) disrespect BECAUSE I SAW IT IN MY PARENT’S MARRIAGE.
I know most women stay in relationships after the above two have come to pass in their lives but the offences are far to great for me to reconcile with the person especially the first one.
Mr Gaskins , I have a question , you said that A man has to be led by God to fall “in love” with a woman , but , you also said that man of God also is not perfect (which is true), so is it possible for a man of God to be in love with you and still cheat on you?
Is there any hope for woman to have a man be 100% faithful to her for the entirety of them being together till death do they part?
I don’t mean to come off as a weeping willow but Marriage , which is supposed to be a holy covenant, seem more like hell on earth than heaven on earth.
Is there any hope for a woman to be loved the way Christ wanted a man to love his daughter ?
Thank you
Yours sincerely
This video was very much needed and so much knowledge thank you
Tony as usual you're speaking hard truth. Although it's definitely not a woman's preference But it doesn't diminish it from being true. GOD Bless you & your wife & sons & ministry. 🤔😒🤐🥺😟😥😭
This is so true. I was talking crazy and he was sleeping with someone in my building. All I have to say is when I found out I went crazy then charges on me were filed.
Tony can you please make a video about men who are already in relationships but still with wandering eyes.
@cuteblue2212, okaaaaay and also men still already married and getting engaged to someone else 😮. Someone Please explain that one. Plus the other woman knows he is still married and she knew he was married when they were sneaking around. He lied to her and never told her the real, whole TRUE story. Myyyyy GOD what is going on in this world. QUEENS, REAL QUEENS Never, EVER stoop down. Real QUEENS stand tall, classy, and carry and have INTEGRITY about themselves.
I have been in this position , his looking for his wife and its not you..
“He’s such a good “🫨mwlalala” man lol you crack me the hell up Tony
It’s a Legion lie omg🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right! 😂😂😂
Hi Tony and everyone.. Be blessed and stay safe..
In south africa there was an olympian called oscar pretorius, he was called the blade runner, we as a nation loved him but he ended up killing his girlfriend at his home on valentines day. He shot her in his own home where a women is supposed to feel safe.
Dont make no difference to me anymore. That explains why these men are so jacked up..
I have disrespected a partner, out of frustration at what I believed to be his grown boy behaviour. That is the two wrongs option so I see my error.
I could have taken the high road and communicated clearly and said I am going to leave, but I did not bc it was just that it seemed really hard to take the soft answer path, when it means once again you will be all alone. I was so tired of being alone. I am the queen of solitude. Enough was enough, I thought. I'm going to stay, why should I have to be alone bc he isnt mature. I am going to stay but he is going to pay.
Big mistake. He didn't cheat, but I think he is finally out of love. He doesn't call, he doesn't inquire anything. He keeps the conversations short.
Tony is right about the years it takes for a man to fall in love though. He really took a while to start truly feeling me. But I wasn't healed from past hurt and neither was he, and there were triggers for both of us that became stumbling blocks.
Now I said I didnt want to be alone. But I realise there is more than one way to be alone. If I am gonna be alone, I don't need someone else to be alone with. Same thing I thought about sex- I thought it was a waste for me to be celibate indefinitely. But they waste SO much of you when they MOSTLY engage you sexually. So you don't escape waste by not being celibate.
And it seems once you give them that (before commitment and marriage) then to them, there's nothing else to value or seek or investigate in you the woman. To me that's obviously ridiculous but not to them.
Princella said men are not capable of love. TG has now said men are not created for love. I don't believe everything Princella says. But in this their statements seem to have some resonance. This confusion I've had with why men don't value love as much, and why they won't do as much as you the woman, for love, nor will they value you if sex is either too early or too late for them, is finally all starting to make a whole lot of sense.
We are just so different. Has its benefits, but then the drawbacks are like damn.
Preach, Tony
Just a sad state of affairs all the way around, I'm tryna hold out hope tho
Alot of women betray because they dont know how to leave the relationship
This video was a great eye opener. Thank you
Here I am again taking 📝 . So excited that Im in the growth club 🎉🎉 I'm ready to reach my next level 🥳🙌🏼. Thank you Uncle Tony, God bless you and Happy Birthday 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Definitely a good freaking question
Thanks for helping me to grow 🪴🪴🪴😅 I will keep this video and watch it for growth.
Thank you Mr. Gaskins 😊!!!!!
We are to submit to each other according to Ephesians
I will not try to yell or carry on in public with my man. I have, but that was out of pure anger and being pushed. Will not do that again because it is not classy. He has yelled at me in public and regretted it.
Unrequited love
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THE TWO POINTS THAT YOU MENTION ABOUT BEING DISRESPECTFUL AND UNFAITHFUL CAN MAKE YOU MAN LOOSE LOVE, BUT… Why is it that men generally don’t like taking accountability for their own actions, beca women are not made of stone either, there also some cases where you hear women committing suicide over a man, or killing the the lover of her man Which I don’t is healthy, neither it is kill your own kids because your wife cheated on you, the Bible also says that men shall love their wives like Chris loves the church, so getting hurt goes sides ways, women are NOT made of stone, we also get hurt with betrayal, rather we stranger or not, I love you brother Tony, thanks for the video
WHAT IF HE'S A STALKER AND YOU DON'T KNOW ? WHAT IF YALL DON'T LIVE TOGETHER ?
Oh hell no.... my eyes were only on him and only him. I married under God. It's only us three
Okaaaaay, RIGHT!!!!!
So if men aren't designed to love what's the point in relationships? 🥴
In home sex n some man place to stay
Ephesians 5:22-33 MEV
Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. In this way men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord cares for the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Thanks Tony 😂 this is true and funny
You don't really sound like a changed man. Your 'past life' is still very much part of you.
AND KIDS GROWING UP IN FOSTER CARE LEARNING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS TOO. AWAY FROM BIOLOGICAL PARENTS. AND SO THE SAGA CONTINUES....😮
Tony is right with ex narc, I always thought I was the one who had the upper hand in our arguments and sad to say I did disrespect him but out of him also not respecting me. He would stay quiet and not do much. The whole time I thought he was not affected by what I said, he cheating on me…
You teach him 😂 Keep Teaching TG ❤
I love what you said keep it to yourself haha
You should do a Q&A session
What if the man is doing the things you say to the woman but expects you the woman to stay in love
The Bible always says ye submit one to another as well
That’s right!!!!!
Talking all that crap is gonna make him sleep around and go missing
I believe you Mr.T because a man will not allow himself to fall for a woman if he feels she has had too many sex partners.