It's Not You: Navigating a World of Narcissism | Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Chase Jarvis LIVE

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  • @chrisknowles7443
    @chrisknowles7443 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Dr Ramini is the absolute best in this area of mental health for sure!!!!

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Dr. Ramani rock and rolls

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Facts.

  • @dgno02
    @dgno02 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Thank you Dr. Ramani! Narcissistic father, supervisors, and now ex-husband has f***ed me up. I need your wisdom & experience. It's literally life saving comfort. I listen to you all the time to learn, grow, and get through this.

  • @DianeKopesky
    @DianeKopesky 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    This is my first exposure to Dr. Durvasula. I was married to a narcissist for 29 years. This entire discussion has been so helpful. I am going to buy the book. Thank you so much.

    • @Lena-so2lq
      @Lena-so2lq 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Check out Narc Con, great community. Sam Vaknin ive listened to for years. If i hadnt discovered these people, idk where i would be! ❤

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @peterfitzpatrick7032
      @peterfitzpatrick7032 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Her "Dr. Ramani" YT channel is full of vids specialising on narcissism... I found it so helpful that I was more than happy to order her book as soon as it was launched... its the least I could do... of course, I subbed and liked her too... 🙄😂

    • @npdsurvivorsmith9962
      @npdsurvivorsmith9962 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Listen to her TH-cam podcast too - she posts every day - 1.6 million followers. Very helpful

    • @mariapearce8617
      @mariapearce8617 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was with someone for six an half years an in the end the relationship was like a game of cat an mouse I didn't understand it but listening to DR Ramini other podcasts I think my ex was narsasistic I get it ,! I've been through it !!!

  • @Bs6223
    @Bs6223 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    Ihave been listening to dr ramani for weeks. I am so greatful for her passion in this. I am planning on buying her book. I express my want for help , i dont need a anti depressent or have someone again negate my feelings. I need tools to know how to heal myself, and finding dr ramani has given me a sense that my life was not me not being forgiving enough, enough in whatever was used to negate my voice, my life, my pain and hurt was significant and she has acknowledged that i am enough, that i can have a life with this knowledge that can be full. I am not looking for perfection in myself or anyone else. I am working on me forward better despite my history. She speaks to all facets of life. It has been a journey of pure amazement for me. People dont understand and i tell them you are lucky you dont. My mind has bloomed. I am so greatful. thank you

    • @Bs6223
      @Bs6223 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I feel that as Dr. Ramani said out of fear we do not speak . Her knowledge on this subject is not only through her pursuit to educatation but through experience. The loss of ourselves is so true. Such a sad truth. That we feel if we just morphed ourselves, say nothing, question the truth we slowly become shells . The unrelentless moments that clearly are not the reality that we fear to address. I get not speaking up, i understand at times our choices are not always choices we want to make. So in that grief, shame come in like small droplets of rain. Slowly overtaking out self esteem, our voice , dreams. I pray that anyone that is going through this can hear these podcast, find a way to save ourselves.

    • @awesometulips9427
      @awesometulips9427 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Try her online support group for a month ($25) and see if it is useful to you. For me it was empowering/validating a place of support when I needed it. She is great, isn't it 😄❤❤❤

    • @jilllandrum4849
      @jilllandrum4849 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Dr Ramani & wonderful sexual assaults survivor therapist have both literally saved My life! I've been through a Dad, boyfriend, roommate, and girlfriend who were ALL EXTREMELY life alteringly damaged me and my life forevermore 😢. Thanks 🙏👍🙏 Dr Ramani U rock!! Please 🙏🤞🥺🙏 please don't every stop and I agree completely & totally with EVERYTHING she said especially about the changes that EVERY area of society NEEDS changed & reformed ASAP!!!

  • @DebParker-ux8nu
    @DebParker-ux8nu 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Dr Ramini is timely and spot on!

  • @lornai7171
    @lornai7171 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Dr Ramani tells it like it is. All hail the empaths! Great interview 😍

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So true!

  • @cyberninjasworld
    @cyberninjasworld 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Dr Ramani a true influencer, thank you❤

  • @serenaknight9858
    @serenaknight9858 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    The damage to the victim is real.

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      For my point of view it was blessing to the victim,they think they destroy people it turn out they push them to their purpose,god is always with the good for them the devil is their partner what I loss

    • @nellbell071679
      @nellbell071679 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very, very real.

    • @aprilwilcox5065
      @aprilwilcox5065 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lived it and still damaged from it

    • @mn9120
      @mn9120 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Look at Ramani. Nobody represents that better than her.

  • @roberth2627
    @roberth2627 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Have seen a couple these of interviews with Dr. Ramani.Have to say this is the best, I've seen..Thank You BOTH.!!

  • @christinakuczora4862
    @christinakuczora4862 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The good doctor so accurately diagnoses, discusses and explains many exact situations I’ve found myself in over my lifetime with a narcissistic mother, boyfriends, husband and friends. I’m astounded how accurately she described what I’ve experienced/lived with these disordered people. It’s like she knows me and is talking about MY life!

  • @janne8253
    @janne8253 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Dr. Ramani, full of experience, best words to describe, full of energy and passion for the first and most important topic of this and following generations (because for the first time in history we are connected through the internet, our generation is not alone to deal with emotional abuse, and information is for free through yt), saved so many souls, still underestimated, she is the most important person for people all over the world who suffer heavily and enables people to become sane and afterwards more aware of the problem itself and themselves again...much love and strenght to her, deep respect for her work, Janne from Germany 😘

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A lot of knowledge in this vid
      Narcissist r scum and everyone should know about them

  • @jesusfaith2232
    @jesusfaith2232 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thanks for your truth Dr R ❤

  • @jesusfaith2232
    @jesusfaith2232 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Your are the best, thanks for your great work !

  • @maevebutler4641
    @maevebutler4641 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    DrRamini is the world's leading psychologist re - Narrcissist's and how the abuse from these personalities style can impact their victims . The woman has saved my soul and my sanity with her daily videos on her TH-cam channel
    Thank you for this interview ❤

  • @patrickbinford590
    @patrickbinford590 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Dr Ramani is so interesting: a true public intellectual, who is not averse to helping us in the world of popular media. This is an effective combination. But more importantly, she is a true healer, from the category of being a psychologist while doing that. She's also practical because she's dealing with the everyday things that people are dealing with in helping them. In helping these people that she's helping. So she also is, imho: a practical psychologist.

  • @towardsgrowth8
    @towardsgrowth8 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you so much for your work! This was a nice discussion with a lot to agree with. When I first heard the label narcissist, I was one of those who said "it is a cruel name calling, they went through a lot in childhood, they don't deserve that", I even said that I have never met anyone like that in my life until I realized that my mother is a narcissist. A lot of things started to make sense and I am slowly recovering myself.

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Omg the radical acceptance of grief... does it ever end? Almost 43 I feel it will never end. Been dealing with these people since before birth. I finally see. I am working on it with an amazing trauma therapist. But it still feels like it's never going to end.

  • @tobytopaz921
    @tobytopaz921 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    so wished everyone would understand,
    got one of those...

  • @GiantSlayer-rr1vu
    @GiantSlayer-rr1vu 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dr Ramani you have really put in the work to get that double best-seller. Thank you so much, YOu blessed my life

  • @jillijewel8922
    @jillijewel8922 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    one time a few months ago one of the most narcissistic person i know was listening in yt about narcissism and I was so triggered, I felt like throwing up and all a bit dizzy. it was because i feel like she was trying to study narcissism so she could play a victim again. cuz her son did that to me..., used the spiritual gurus i shared to him, against me when he was trying to discard me. Since i thought he was a part of my tribe to (stupidly thought we could)change the system in our family, i was so open to him and shared what he needed to know to be empathic until he no longer needed me and discarded me in such subtle manipulative ways. it was a nightmare...but now that his mom was learning about narcissism, I was panicking. Then after a few days......she suddenly stopped. Like it was boring her. And then i realized, her son also could not stand Dr. Ramani....or videos that showed true compassion. I realized it was probably because they really cannot relate...and that they would rather listen to spiritual gurus and meditations to selfishly FEEL at peace while the rest around them is burning down from the fires they created.

  • @cristianmihai4818
    @cristianmihai4818 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Empty shell is the feeling you have after narcissism abuse....0% battery left....

  • @tijeraslack3
    @tijeraslack3 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks to Dr. Ramani for speaking on CPS and also the DV system. If this topic of narcissism is not understand, it becomes a very hot mess.

  • @venusb248
    @venusb248 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Absolutely! I always said that narcissistic abuse needs to be taught at school 👏👏👏❤

  • @OasisJones
    @OasisJones 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    2:05 Ramani’s background
    8:43 social media
    14:03 signs of narcissism
    17:41 social structures
    19:55 public figures
    23:05 peak performance
    30:01 sex tape
    31:45 path forward
    34:19 narc education
    38:46 heal and transform
    40:11 being successful
    45:34 celebrity
    53:31 acceptance
    54:56 grief
    57:52 protect children
    59:32 suffering
    1:01:46 home life
    1:04:40 message to narcs
    1:07:49 sorry

  • @TZach1987
    @TZach1987 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dr ramani we love you 💕 thank you for this wisdom you are putting out into the universe!!! i feel so not alone. as an infj im drawn to narcissists to “help” them and currently working thru this pattern

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    So cool

  • @okokok7081
    @okokok7081 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Good intervju.

  • @donaldacoey1436
    @donaldacoey1436 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You're absolutely right it should be taught in school save a lot of us from a lot of Heartache

  • @TammyBayFaker
    @TammyBayFaker 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m a new subscriber here - and Chase, I immediately appreciate how well you listen and allowed Dr. Ramani to talk. I like your thoughtful, insightful and relaxed style.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Tammy, thanks for the feedback and welcome! 🤗

  • @afraidtosay1
    @afraidtosay1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm enjoying the man's face who's enjoying Dr R talk.

  • @bekindloved
    @bekindloved 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you 💕 Dr very interesting and informative thanks

  • @GaliciaSekulska
    @GaliciaSekulska 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Go Dr. Ramani… some comedic talent coming through with this one 🙌 Laughter is the best medicine, so thank you for that. Might be on the woo woo side so to speak, but totally picking up on some past lives doing standup comedy. 🙏💕🌌

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I still believe it started with Cain and Able

    • @redhead8777
      @redhead8777 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      SSL: I so agree this problem of narc relationships are definitely described in The Bible! But I believe it begins before in Adam & Eve + Serpent or possibly even the casting down of satan himself (who tried to USURP the very goodness/love/beauty of God & HIS CREATION himself. This narc mindset & behavior is nothing less than evil personified - in each one of us. Each of us has this dualistic nature. Some fight against it and some are using it fully. It IS WRITTEN. The Bible also teaches in the last days that these behaviors will be very prevalent (as they seem to be now). Most of the people I know that exhibit highest narc traits are non-believers who hide behind "feelings," "labels", and "outward finger pointing at others" (casting stones). However it is definitely exhibited by some believers/wolves as well. I suppose they are the fake (possibly just immature) Christians who are in the Church in order to maintain the appearance of a false self evil parading as good (satanic wolves in sheeps clothing). I find it is a constant battle to maintain purity of thought amongst it - but I believe (wholly) that it is the mission of the True Believer until Christ returns ("Father forgive them, they know not what they do". - Jesus). I have been personally attacked by the demonic activity & wounded by it. I've been on my knees in repentence & prayer to fight against this (for days) and prayer is answered. The Biblical answer is prayer & forgiveness & keeping the faith until the end. With deep & due respect and admiration, This is where I veer from Dr. Ramani's advice to abandon the sick. We must be strong in prayer for each other to remain in God's word and presence, while we are walking the walk of trying to help others understand that JESUS IS THE ANSWER to this problem. I know it is the secular world view that is increasing this problem. THAT is what being a Christian is all about. We remember Constantly that LOVE is the greatest of these. I KNOW how hard it is to forgive self & others for these demonic wounds which we All cause and receive. In my mind, anyone who him/herself thinks they are not a dealer of narcissistic behaviors (self preservation/desperation - some worse than others) is deluded. Everyone: Be kind, loving & forging & Pray With The Sick if they will allow you to; or, Pray For Them if they won't allow you to. This acts as an exorcism of demonic overtake. We as a society cannot have hope & goodness if we don't have The Real hope for THE light at the end of the tunnel (Jesus). God bless each person to have their eyes and ears opened to these Biblical Truths. Thank you Dr. Ramani for making the symptoms of the demonic which are caused by Trauma (within every person) SO Clear ❤.

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me toooooooo😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉
      And don’t forget the devil

  • @NikitaNair
    @NikitaNair 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So many questions i had since years got answered by Dr Ramani. She is an angel sent by God

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She is wonderful soul and courageous not an angel,angel are flawless

    • @Tom-xz3jz
      @Tom-xz3jz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh yea

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ramani I LOVE you

  • @Spartacus2474
    @Spartacus2474 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr. Ramani has helped me in so many deep ways. Tks Doc. NowI know my former boyfriend used to loudly say I was holding him back, etc.

  • @jessetheskeptic601
    @jessetheskeptic601 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is the best interview I've heard yet with Dr. Ramani. I like that she discussed her introversion and gave us some insight into her beliefs on the general state of affairs in our society. I don't typically read self help style books, but I just ordered Do You Know Who I Am?; fingers crossed it's not full of fluff. 😅

    • @npdsurvivorsmith9962
      @npdsurvivorsmith9962 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don’t miss her TH-cam Channel- she has 1.6 million followers. She posts daily. Read comments too

  • @kittykitty4245
    @kittykitty4245 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you 4 giving her a platform🖎

  • @marlanaferro1558
    @marlanaferro1558 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Be on guard for initial compliments, especially with regards to beauty.

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    For the narcissists watching, go to the 1:00 mark, she addresses you and what you can do

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Minute 51 omg ty

  • @ms.robinson485
    @ms.robinson485 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Go middle school teachers 👏🏾 love the shout out!!!

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      yasss! 🙌🏼

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don't know his name. But I am convinced that the most recent judge I had to sit in front of...... Actually understood narcissism. He offered to talk to me after court. But my brain was screaming no. I definitely should have. He was pushing hard for a very extended restraining order against my husband. I only asked for 2 months What I thought was enough time to get me out. It wasn't enough time. So I left everything behind. I really wish I had that sit down with the judge after the court session. He got away with everything he did to me. I had bruises on my body that the hospital sent me in for CT scans..... I just needed to go and hide

    • @rozwilcher
      @rozwilcher 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank God you still got our alive

  • @carolclark5776
    @carolclark5776 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I heard a commercial talking about st Petersburg Florida being one of the top ten places to live. There are tons of narcissitists there. There are also nice people.

  • @gfp163
    @gfp163 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    15:25 Look at me, isn't my breakfast interesting... Wow, I love it! Just that one little comment about a narcissist happens to be is so funny to me, in spite of all the misery that a narcissist causes. It's nice when you can get a laugh from hearing about such a rotten subject. Comedians should really hammer on the subject of narcissism. Then, people that just don't realize what's going on with narcissism may end up waking up to what narcissism really is and avoid being taken advantage of before it's too late. May the Wizard of Oz have a broken curtain rod.

  • @Smartbeautifulawesome
    @Smartbeautifulawesome 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Everyone’s angry nowadays weird stuff everywhere…actually I think TV is just people to express themselves for art and helping people etc. I think people are really trying to make a difference telling stories, something inside them that is driving that

  • @sharicoburn5475
    @sharicoburn5475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr Ramani and others, the Bible new testament jesus speaks about putting others first. Thags all a narcissist needs to do. Its a heart thing.

    • @susankeith326
      @susankeith326 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Narcissistic people cannot and will not put others first.

  • @chriswalls5831
    @chriswalls5831 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Bunch of them out here

  • @davidalanbinder4238
    @davidalanbinder4238 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus

  • @daisy7066
    @daisy7066 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Existed since all of humanity"? I find it difficult to believe that just because narcissism is prevalent in the US that means it's always been around!

    • @christinakuczora4862
      @christinakuczora4862 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If you are not familiar with the 7 Deadly Sins of Catholicism - check them out. Many believe they cover the character shortcomings/weaknesses of a narcissist.

    • @mgenihamed5710
      @mgenihamed5710 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Pharaoh was a narcissist during the time of Mosses

    • @sharicoburn5475
      @sharicoburn5475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What do you think genghiss khan, napoleon, Hitler, pol pot, etc etc were???

  • @susankeith326
    @susankeith326 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When I look at fb pages and the entire account is mostly selfies, it's pretty obvious the person has strong narcissist traits. I don't accept friend requests from such people.

  • @Spartacus2474
    @Spartacus2474 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The biggest problem in Brazil concerning how to approach abuse aka narcissistic abuse is taking it as a religious matter. NOPE. It is a HEALTH LEGAL MATTER.

  • @danielborrowdale3903
    @danielborrowdale3903 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A good talker can spin anything but if you watch what they do and it doesn't match or they have different rule's for themselves walk away don't try to fix or help.

  • @IAm-rw7gz
    @IAm-rw7gz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @ChristopherLarson-c4n
    @ChristopherLarson-c4n 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know it is a Spiritual Battle from invisible realms (Righteous live by Faith in Jesus), but in my case, being groomed and sexually abused between ages 0-5 (Human Character cemented) and living quite a Narcissist life myself in addictions, boundaries are difficult. If when people are suffering a person hurts with them, this is empathy, correct? I do possess this. But, I am like a Narcissist MAGNET. I single and not interested in becoming untangled in a romantic relationship, until I a fully healed. However, I have a passion to protect the innocence of children from Predators and Predatory behavior. As such, if the Lord Jesus is willing, I am planning to pursue acceptance into a very prestigious University to finish that M.B.A, but with concentration in Marketing-Non Profits. I attempted Pastoral Counseling at Liberty University, a fantastic school with very rigorous Graduate programs in an advanced pace (Semesters split in two). My question is, am I putting myself into a shark tank that is likely to destroy me by even considering such (N.D.)?

  • @covert_warrior
    @covert_warrior 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Near the end.... I wish I could say F offf.... but I agree don't. Do the work like the rest of us are

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amen, wwhoo AmememA 😂😂😂

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Redirect RED RIDICULOUS

  • @dottyp137
    @dottyp137 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤

  • @上口秀文-c4y
    @上口秀文-c4y หลายเดือนก่อน

    NARCISSISTIC PARENTS DIDN'T TOOK THERE IS CHILDHOOD TRAUMATIC FOR VINDICTIVE THEM. BUT THEN TO WHEN THEY'VE FORGOTTEN ANYMORE. ALL THE NARCISSISTIC PARENTS STOPPED COMPLYING ANYMORE. MY PREFERENCE INVESTED

  • @Daniel2Ghost
    @Daniel2Ghost 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Donkashane

  • @gerardcremin
    @gerardcremin 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    👀 'promo sm'

  • @superherobookfan1838
    @superherobookfan1838 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Was that sex tape comment really necessary? I felt it was highly disrespectful to a Doctor.

  • @pierre931
    @pierre931 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    luckly its me the narcisist and the fool,god is crazy too

  • @keb7933
    @keb7933 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She talks too fast 😟