@@hqelias frequency (distracts from the flow of the story). also i tend to look up things i already know but i'm not *absolutely sure* i know, because i have a crippling lack of confidence in my own brain apparently
Timestamps and notes ⏱️📝 00:43 Mistake #1: Not reading for fun 02:42 Mistake #2: Boxing myself in 04:14 Mistake #3: Not walking away 05:58 Mistake #4: Not talking about books
@@jamesb7924 what do you recommend? I've been using goodreads for two years now, but if there is a better alternative, I'd be happy to make the change :)
Go on a date where one person reads to the other person. Probably won’t work with most relationships, but it’s really fun if you find the right person and the right book.
Booktube has made reading a productivity contest to me and I want to get out of that and be able to read for fun again. I‘m currently reading The Great Gatsby and not beating myself up for taking more time to read because I like to savor the great wording☺️
Recently i came to realize two things about booktube: 1) i watch it instead of actually reading; and 2) i get hyped for a lot of books which ultimately don't meet my expectations
I was never an avid reader but my fascination with books grew and I wanted to become one. So in 2020, I started pushing myself to read a book every 2 weeks or if I was too busy one week, I had the option to defer it. All of this was to get my toes wet. Thus far in 2021, I have read over 110 books and enjoying it. That quote really fits my journey 📖
I have often had people asking at work why I read so much, as though I have exams to write. Their wonder mostly comes as a surprise to me: reading is supposed to be for exams only? A kinda transaction? I only enjoy reading and learning new things. That's it. Well, Cicero said it's the duty of the human spirit to know. How about that for why I read?
Notes from video for future self: 00:41 Mistake1: Not reading for fun: School turns reading into a chore, a transaction. Remind yourself of why you liked reading as a kid. 02:40 Mistake 2: Boxing myself in: Only sticking to what I'm confortable with. Not seeing value in certain books. Explore! 04:11 Mistake 3: Not walking away: Forcing yourself to finish a book. It's not giving up! It frankly doesn't make sense. 05:58 Mistake 4: Not talking about books: Helps ideas solidify. Others' point of views. Writing a review or journaling if not.
I really like what you say about regaining that childhood mindset of exploring through reading and going places that you really enjoy. I used to do that so often as a kid and I don't do it anymore. I really want to get back there. Thanks for posting!
Remember why you’re reading in the first place. Would you still read a certain book if you weren’t allowed to tell anyone else you were reading it? Let this question be your guide for deciding what to read. The clarity it provides will ensure that you are truly reading for yourself - and nobody else.
I read Fantasy, Horror, and Sci-Fi, and I’m down for whatever just sounds interesting to me. I never read as a “chore,” I genuinely read whatever I think I’ll enjoy.
@@Jamie-ur6xy Well the issues are more deeply described than in his videos and the nature of the book itself isn’t primarily funny so it is definitely a different experience. Some passages are longer and harder to grasp, but if you enjoy reading in general then I think that his book offers amazing points and addresses very important issues in a great (and sometimes even funny) way. I enjoyed it a lot, give it a chance and you’ll see 🙂💛 I too don’t like most of the self-help category because it doesn’t seem to help in any way, the authors don’t feel like people who have something of quality to offer (or they have one good thought and use 300 pages to talk about it over and over again) whereas Peterson has experience as a psychologist and understands what he’s talking about. :) It is more a book about common sense than some whimsical advice on how to make your life better.
@@petrasodomkova yep well put. I am always wary of self help books, it is an easy trap to fall into, reading lots of them but not actually applying any practical changes to your life/daily routine. Atomic Habits was quite interesting, although I didn't resonate too much with his message of 'tiny changes' (sometimes its good to drastically change your approach to life)
I'm having one of my best reading years right now, my new hobby is making the books I'm reading everyone's problem, I will talk to anyone who'll listen and my friends are happy about it because it makes them want to read more too!
I wish I had friends like that too. Most of my friends get a blank expression on their faces when I talk about books. They just wait until my words stop before they change the subject.
This reminded me of how much I loved reading and also how I agree that the mindset of having to read rather than as an activity of exploration had stifled my love of reading. I also just really like the idea of talking about books and exploring different perspectives, I’ve never talking about reading(outside of class) and would really like to try that. I really like you videos, thank you.
Personally, when I was little I didn’t read AT ALL. When I became 14 I started reading the Maze Runner series for fun. I read the whole trilogy and never forced myself to read a single page because I enjoyed it. Next was my first non-fiction, Shoe Dog (which I actually saw in your reading list). This one was so good; storytelling and business perspective was so interesting. Since then, reading became something I did only for myself. Up to this day I've read the Whole Harry Potter Series (started last summer), many other non-fiction and I'm now starting Mistborn. All of them in English, while my native language is Spanish, which helped me in achieving C2 Proficiency English Level Certificate this year at 16. Reading is such a great thing, John.
In retrospect, only buying books in Russian, when I don’t speak a word of Russian, wasn’t a great idea And what’s the deal with those silly looking letters in their words?
My reading mistakes, >Thinking I have to complete the book even though I am not enjoying. > Not taking notes early on > Reading again and again a paragraph I couldn't understand. (Its okay to not understand a para or two) Tips > I used to buy books judging on the back side of the cover, but I found out that if I read the 1 pg of the book, i will get to know if a book hooks me or not. > Journaling the feeling while a book
Sometimes it’s good to park and revisit a book years later. I was slogging through Dombey and Son in my 20’s and finally quit but luckily kept my copy. Absolutely LOVED it in my 30’s!
When it comes to talking about books, I used to think that if I wanted to talk about them, I either needed to read wildly popular books that everybody has read or start a book club with formal discussion questions. It wasn’t until I was watching some of withcindy’s videos that it occurred to me that I should just find reader friends with whom I can read books and discuss and get excited about.
I've struggled a lot when I start reading a book that I don't enjoy and take forever to finish cause I'm not enjoying it. Really tough to put a book down and move on.
I have a hard time putting down a book and not finishing... I think it's the fear I'm missing out on something and if I just push a little farther I'll gain value. I'm reading A Little Life right now and going through it because everyone speaks so highly of it.
Are you doing speech therapy or something, I saw a video of you from a few years back and you slurred your S's, but in this vid and your newer ones, it's so much less noticeable.
Mistake 1) Not reading for fun. Mistake 2) Boxing myself in. Mistake 3) Not walking in. Mistake 4) Not talking about books. Didn't realize that I've been making ALL these mistakes! Helpful video as always, John :)
Number 2 was happening to me before. I was into much more non fiction book, i thought reading novel or short story book was a complete waste of time. Until i read Memoirs of a Geisha. It was fun and i enjoy every second of reading it. And it shapes some perspective for me too. Now and then i try to be more open minded to other books
you made me start reading again with your first videos about books you read back in the day. when it comes to reading i tend to have a "seasonal reading" habit; i read for a month or two months straight and then i won't touch a book for another month or so. i feel like you have to be in a right state of mind to take something in and forcing yourself to read stuff when you're not often becomes exhausting.
I used to read so much as a kid, and was well beyond my grade level. Now, I havent read a book in years. I will try to learn to read again thanks to you.
What helped me to find my lost love for books was reading children books. They are short, entertaining, beautiful. Everytime i feel like i read just to be more productive and i lose the spark, i go read my favorite children books and i feel much better
I love your videos so much. I feel like reading was a habit growing up and now that I don't read that often, whenever someone asks my favourite hobby. I instinctively reply with reading lol. I feel like I understand the 'transactional' reading concept, which is not fully explorative and more or less algorithmic if that makes sense.
I’m currently 13 years old and am living in China which has the big disadvantage that most books in bookstores are written or translated into Chinese characters, however my School has an international library meaning I can read books there in german, english, french, Korean and Chinese. My biggest reading mistake was confining myself to a certain language because of comfort. As a native German speaker I confined myself to the German section of the library which was two shelves full of very worthwhile books, but after the first year in school I ran out of interesting books to read so I was forced to move on to the English section which opened up another world of literature and information for me. I found for example a group of non-fiction books in the English section about Nazi Germany written by Hitler or associates of Hitler translated from German into English. These Books would have been mostly illegal to be sold or at least rather hard to access in my native country Germany. To summarize, do not limit yourself to read in one language if you can because reading literature from other countries in their own language gives you a whole world of new information, perspectives, culture and a better understanding of the language itself.
{ John Fish, these past days I had no inspiration, I’ve been very bored , and stressed. I always use TH-cam and was always bored. But when I saw your videos I automatically addicted. It would be an honor if you could just notice me or just say hi. }
Ah, the compulsion to finish a book you started. I've only just recently allowed myself to drop books when they just don't do it for me, for any of possible reasons..
Mistake #1 IMO is DEAD ON correct! I remembered HATING to read books in the 4th and 5th grade. Yet, during AP Literature and onwards, reading became a powerful way to introspect and I loved it. Eventually, I realized it was because I was forced to read long, "awarded" books (Newberry) at a tight scheduled pace...and then get tested on them through "Accelerated Reader" (AR) tests, where the questions that come up have little to do with the themes I interpreted from the book and A LOT about being able to memorize small, minute details from what seems like the most boring chapters. Well, here I am reading biographies from the likes of Walter Isaacson, MUCH longer books than I was reading to just be able to handle those AR tests. I'm not reading cover to cover and I actually jump through chapters, BUT these are the chapters that invigorate me to try and become my own da Vinci or Feynman
Talking about my jumpy reading style, a major part of that was guided by what Mark Cuban said about reading - "Even if I gain one, single new idea from reading a certain book, it's worth buying it." Hence, I never had the problem of your mistake #3, because I have already gained that brilliant new insight from that one chapter. Even better, if I felt I'm losing grasp of that idea, I can come back!
my worst reading mistakes:
1) exclusively reading fanfiction
2) starting 10 books and finishing none of them
3) googling definitions every 5 minutes
oh MOOD
Yaasss
Why is the third one a mistake? I'm trying to start a reading habit so it'd help
if you don´t know a word and can´t understand it even with the context, it´s good you search the meaning :)
@@hqelias frequency (distracts from the flow of the story). also i tend to look up things i already know but i'm not *absolutely sure* i know, because i have a crippling lack of confidence in my own brain apparently
Timestamps and notes ⏱️📝
00:43 Mistake #1: Not reading for fun
02:42 Mistake #2: Boxing myself in
04:14 Mistake #3: Not walking away
05:58 Mistake #4: Not talking about books
Saved me tons of time
God bless you! You are a nice fellow!
You’re an angel!
Mistake #2 translation: Read either non-fiction and fiction books.
☺️ THX!
John: Talk about books with your friends
Me: looks around and finds no friends or people who read*
Goes on and reads alone anyways*
ayeeee ya can always turn to r/books. Always supportin my bros
Kkk u r fun
Me: *shares about what I learned for the hell of it*
Friends: *replies with a tone that suggests they know more about the topic*
the fact that you haven't created a Goodreads account yet annoys me 🧍🏻♂️
(2)
(3)
share your goodreads account here and let's be mutuals.
@@jamesb7924 what do you recommend? I've been using goodreads for two years now, but if there is a better alternative, I'd be happy to make the change :)
@@jamesb7924 So what site is it?
Go on a date where one person reads to the other person. Probably won’t work with most relationships, but it’s really fun if you find the right person and the right book.
Sounds beautiful!! I think about book dates a lot
Woww.....
That's a fascinating idea!
I think that could be magical... unless the person doing the reading is Mr. Collins from Pride and Prejudice 🤭
Booktube has made reading a productivity contest to me and I want to get out of that and be able to read for fun again.
I‘m currently reading The Great Gatsby and not beating myself up for taking more time to read because I like to savor the great wording☺️
Great point--I'm in the same boat
John was on a Booktube TH-cam video with Bryan Stevenson discussing "Just Mercy" Feb 6, 2020 th-cam.com/video/pUe3pxoAIAY/w-d-xo.html
Recently i came to realize two things about booktube: 1) i watch it instead of actually reading; and 2) i get hyped for a lot of books which ultimately don't meet my expectations
"Read what you love until you love to read"
naval ravinkant
I was never an avid reader but my fascination with books grew and I wanted to become one. So in 2020, I started pushing myself to read a book every 2 weeks or if I was too busy one week, I had the option to defer it. All of this was to get my toes wet. Thus far in 2021, I have read over 110 books and enjoying it.
That quote really fits my journey 📖
I have often had people asking at work why I read so much, as though I have exams to write. Their wonder mostly comes as a surprise to me: reading is supposed to be for exams only? A kinda transaction? I only enjoy reading and learning new things. That's it. Well, Cicero said it's the duty of the human spirit to know. How about that for why I read?
How’s the saxophone going
Notes from video for future self:
00:41 Mistake1:
Not reading for fun: School turns reading into a chore, a transaction. Remind yourself of why you liked reading as a kid.
02:40 Mistake 2:
Boxing myself in: Only sticking to what I'm confortable with. Not seeing value in certain books. Explore!
04:11 Mistake 3:
Not walking away: Forcing yourself to finish a book. It's not giving up! It frankly doesn't make sense.
05:58 Mistake 4:
Not talking about books: Helps ideas solidify. Others' point of views. Writing a review or journaling if not.
thank. need more ppl like u 😀😎
Tq, dude.
*5 things to quit right now:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself*
A madman doesn't doubt himself too. Not a very good advice.
These things seems to be like Hey ''not a great advice" but still we make these mistakes.
You just spoke to me!
6. Social media.
You are a spam @ahmet-personal....
You are commenting everywhere without context
"The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go." -Dr. Seuss
The more you read, the more depressed you’ll be
@@RezeHB 😂 why lol
That whole book is a masterpiece!
Hey, Fish, you thinking about creating a podcast or something?This would be a interesting thing no?Hugs from Brazil.I'm big fan.
++++
É nós 🇧🇷
I really like what you say about regaining that childhood mindset of exploring through reading and going places that you really enjoy. I used to do that so often as a kid and I don't do it anymore. I really want to get back there. Thanks for posting!
This is exactly how I feel too. I will most definitely start reading again this month and just enjoy it.
Remember why you’re reading in the first place. Would you still read a certain book if you weren’t allowed to tell anyone else you were reading it? Let this question be your guide for deciding what to read. The clarity it provides will ensure that you are truly reading for yourself - and nobody else.
I read Fantasy, Horror, and Sci-Fi, and I’m down for whatever just sounds interesting to me. I never read as a “chore,” I genuinely read whatever I think I’ll enjoy.
John's worst reading mistake: thinking self help books was good literature.
Then you certainly haven’t read 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B. Peterson.
@@petrasodomkova is it actually good? read a bit of my friends book and it didn't seem as engaging as his TH-cam content
@@Jamie-ur6xy Well the issues are more deeply described than in his videos and the nature of the book itself isn’t primarily funny so it is definitely a different experience. Some passages are longer and harder to grasp, but if you enjoy reading in general then I think that his book offers amazing points and addresses very important issues in a great (and sometimes even funny) way. I enjoyed it a lot, give it a chance and you’ll see 🙂💛
I too don’t like most of the self-help category because it doesn’t seem to help in any way, the authors don’t feel like people who have something of quality to offer (or they have one good thought and use 300 pages to talk about it over and over again) whereas Peterson has experience as a psychologist and understands what he’s talking about. :) It is more a book about common sense than some whimsical advice on how to make your life better.
@@petrasodomkova yep well put. I am always wary of self help books, it is an easy trap to fall into, reading lots of them but not actually applying any practical changes to your life/daily routine. Atomic Habits was quite interesting, although I didn't resonate too much with his message of 'tiny changes' (sometimes its good to drastically change your approach to life)
@@petrasodomkova no, and i dont plan on it. He’s a misogynistic white supremacist.
I'm having one of my best reading years right now, my new hobby is making the books I'm reading everyone's problem, I will talk to anyone who'll listen and my friends are happy about it because it makes them want to read more too!
Scully , my fav
thats amazing and ur so lucky to have the friends that u do!
I wish I had friends like that too. Most of my friends get a blank expression on their faces when I talk about books. They just wait until my words stop before they change the subject.
This reminded me of how much I loved reading and also how I agree that the mindset of having to read rather than as an activity of exploration had stifled my love of reading. I also just really like the idea of talking about books and exploring different perspectives, I’ve never talking about reading(outside of class) and would really like to try that.
I really like you videos, thank you.
Personally, when I was little I didn’t read AT ALL. When I became 14 I started reading the Maze Runner series for fun. I read the whole trilogy and never forced myself to read a single page because I enjoyed it. Next was my first non-fiction, Shoe Dog (which I actually saw in your reading list). This one was so good; storytelling and business perspective was so interesting. Since then, reading became something I did only for myself. Up to this day I've read the Whole Harry Potter Series (started last summer), many other non-fiction and I'm now starting Mistborn. All of them in English, while my native language is Spanish, which helped me in achieving C2 Proficiency English Level Certificate this year at 16. Reading is such a great thing, John.
Hey Mario, who are you? I would like to know where you got the "C2 Proficiency English Level Certificate". Thx
Good for you person 👍🏽👍🏽
@@erik01032 I’m Spanish I did it at my school.
Love the warm atmosphere when you talk about books reading, just like the time when you were in your Harvard dorm room ❤️
his hair grows really fast... what is this man's secret...
In retrospect, only buying books in Russian, when I don’t speak a word of Russian, wasn’t a great idea
And what’s the deal with those silly looking letters in their words?
It is so satisfying to talk with others about a story you loved!
Hello jonh, llevo 2 dias sin dormír porque tengo que entregar un proyecto, muy importante, good video :))
Buenas suerte con su proyecto senor ojala que este proyecto va a estar bien
@@mangss9602 hola, justamente lo acabo de entregar,
Por cierto do dormí en 3 días,ni yo sé cómo aguante ._.
Pero el proyecto salió perfecto :))
My reading mistakes,
>Thinking I have to complete the book even though I am not enjoying.
> Not taking notes early on
> Reading again and again a paragraph I couldn't understand. (Its okay to not understand a para or two)
Tips
> I used to buy books judging on the back side of the cover, but I found out that if I read the 1 pg of the book, i will get to know if a book hooks me or not.
> Journaling the feeling while a book
Sometimes it’s good to park and revisit a book years later. I was slogging through Dombey and Son in my 20’s and finally quit but luckily kept my copy. Absolutely LOVED it in my 30’s!
I've never tried that... Might have to pick a DNF back up someday.
When it comes to talking about books, I used to think that if I wanted to talk about them, I either needed to read wildly popular books that everybody has read or start a book club with formal discussion questions. It wasn’t until I was watching some of withcindy’s videos that it occurred to me that I should just find reader friends with whom I can read books and discuss and get excited about.
So we'll put! Sharing stories you love with people is SO satisfying!
For the last two years every book I have read I’ve only read about 20% of it and never touch it again. Any tips?
I've struggled a lot when I start reading a book that I don't enjoy and take forever to finish cause I'm not enjoying it. Really tough to put a book down and move on.
I have a hard time putting down a book and not finishing... I think it's the fear I'm missing out on something and if I just push a little farther I'll gain value. I'm reading A Little Life right now and going through it because everyone speaks so highly of it.
Assalamu alaykum, hi guys from uzbekistan khiva
Reading came back to me only recently and I’m happy I saw this so that I can avoid the same mistakes! :)
As teachers, we actually try to teach both - that reading can be for fun and/or for information.
Are you doing speech therapy or something, I saw a video of you from a few years back and you slurred your S's, but in this vid and your newer ones, it's so much less noticeable.
Early squad where ya at 🙋❣️
Please do a book shelf tour!!
I am guilty of mistake 3 constantly. But I still can't make myself walk away from a book i've started.
Mistake 1) Not reading for fun.
Mistake 2) Boxing myself in.
Mistake 3) Not walking in.
Mistake 4) Not talking about books.
Didn't realize that I've been making ALL these mistakes! Helpful video as always, John :)
Number 2 was happening to me before. I was into much more non fiction book, i thought reading novel or short story book was a complete waste of time. Until i read Memoirs of a Geisha. It was fun and i enjoy every second of reading it. And it shapes some perspective for me too. Now and then i try to be more open minded to other books
I just want to say that you are the best male TH-camr ♥️♥️
Thank you for inspiring me and so many other people 😊💕💕
John and sankho's video uploading on same day.... Aaahhhhhh.... Thanks God. 🍃
Crazy good video, good job John!
Much love from Brazil 💖🇧🇷🇧🇷🇧🇷
Please upload videos like this
Hey, great video!
Would love to see more videos about CS topics and life in school.
great video! I see myself committing some of this mistakes too, thank you so much
Beautiful video, thank you
*Pain of regret is so much worse than the pain of discipline.*
Thank you, John! Great content
Loved this video :) so true
you made me start reading again with your first videos about books you read back in the day. when it comes to reading i tend to have a "seasonal reading" habit; i read for a month or two months straight and then i won't touch a book for another month or so. i feel like you have to be in a right state of mind to take something in and forcing yourself to read stuff when you're not often becomes exhausting.
I used to read so much as a kid, and was well beyond my grade level. Now, I havent read a book in years. I will try to learn to read again thanks to you.
The way I talk about books now is by gifting family and friends books. I also made my tiktok and instagram accounts more focused on books.
What helped me to find my lost love for books was reading children books. They are short, entertaining, beautiful. Everytime i feel like i read just to be more productive and i lose the spark, i go read my favorite children books and i feel much better
mistake 4 : that's why i always check the reviews before and after reading on goodreads.
Saludos desde Perú😊
I love john’s reading videos, they’re always insightful and useful ❤️❤️
following from Bangladesh 🇧🇩
I'm a University Student.
thanks for your support and suggestions.
Best wishes ❤️
I love your videos so much. I feel like reading was a habit growing up and now that I don't read that often, whenever someone asks my favourite hobby. I instinctively reply with reading lol. I feel like I understand the 'transactional' reading concept, which is not fully explorative and more or less algorithmic if that makes sense.
Read One Piece
I’m currently 13 years old and am living in China which has the big disadvantage that most books in bookstores are written or translated into Chinese characters, however my School has an international library meaning I can read books there in german, english, french, Korean and Chinese. My biggest reading mistake was confining myself to a certain language because of comfort. As a native German speaker I confined myself to the German section of the library which was two shelves full of very worthwhile books, but after the first year in school I ran out of interesting books to read so I was forced to move on to the English section which opened up another world of literature and information for me. I found for example a group of non-fiction books in the English section about Nazi Germany written by Hitler or associates of Hitler translated from German into English. These Books would have been mostly illegal to be sold or at least rather hard to access in my native country Germany. To summarize, do not limit yourself to read in one language if you can because reading literature from other countries in their own language gives you a whole world of new information, perspectives, culture and a better understanding of the language itself.
{ John Fish, these past days I had no inspiration, I’ve been very bored , and stressed. I always use TH-cam and was always bored.
But when I saw your videos I automatically addicted. It would be an honor if you could just notice me or just say hi. }
Hey John. I just found your channel. I would challenge you to read Quran in English Translation.
Ah, the compulsion to finish a book you started. I've only just recently allowed myself to drop books when they just don't do it for me, for any of possible reasons..
Subscribe this channel. This guy deserves a million subcribers.
Reading Don Quixote right now. It's been on my book shelf for some time now. It's a great read so far and I'm only a hundred pages in.
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May you share how to make hierarchy notes specifically? thanks very much
Looking at the delta between my life and his, John Fish is already goated as far as I'm concerned
It keeps unsubsribing me from ur channel 2 times alread
Would LOVE to hear more of your bookish thoughts!!
Can you do a video for develop a better speed of reading?
Not me watching videos about reading books with like 6 books around me I want to read all at once 💀
What are your thoughts on Yuval Noah Harari's books?
Thanks for your advice JF
What was the first poetry anthology you were referring to here? I just started reading essential poetry of Poe.
Reading fiction is fun but many people read nonfiction to get educated and it can be more laborious
Where do you find people to have these discussions with?
Hey dude just wanted to know what type of camera do you use? Thank you
Your video always refreshes my mind.
Do u think reading helps with loneliness?
Audio books aren't the same as reading.
If you do not have anyone to talk to then write about what you read.
Could you have subtitle for your video, bro
Video quality good john fish..
♡
top sci fi books of all time pls! would love to get those recs from u
Got it. I Will follow Your suggestions.
OMG u look like marty from gilmore girls
Working my way through noise right now
Are you related to Stanley Fish?
i clicked video faster than light
Seems like you lost so many weight
You have changed John than 2018...
In a better way...like an older brother...❤️❤️❤️
I wish ı have friends who reads .
Damn he is sponsored by amazon
*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
*―C. S. Lewis*
You are Elon musk of books👍🏾
You look like young Rhett Shull
Mistake #1 IMO is DEAD ON correct! I remembered HATING to read books in the 4th and 5th grade. Yet, during AP Literature and onwards, reading became a powerful way to introspect and I loved it. Eventually, I realized it was because I was forced to read long, "awarded" books (Newberry) at a tight scheduled pace...and then get tested on them through "Accelerated Reader" (AR) tests, where the questions that come up have little to do with the themes I interpreted from the book and A LOT about being able to memorize small, minute details from what seems like the most boring chapters.
Well, here I am reading biographies from the likes of Walter Isaacson, MUCH longer books than I was reading to just be able to handle those AR tests. I'm not reading cover to cover and I actually jump through chapters, BUT these are the chapters that invigorate me to try and become my own da Vinci or Feynman
Talking about my jumpy reading style, a major part of that was guided by what Mark Cuban said about reading - "Even if I gain one, single new idea from reading a certain book, it's worth buying it." Hence, I never had the problem of your mistake #3, because I have already gained that brilliant new insight from that one chapter. Even better, if I felt I'm losing grasp of that idea, I can come back!