Man I've just started watching your videos last week. I wasn't really searching for something like this you just popped up. I like hearing intellectual people talk while I'm working/cooking or whatever and honestly I don't have game really so why not. Man the very few videos I've watched I applied in online dating because that's all I can really do at this point in my life. I realize most of what you teach is for in person with some tips for online but man it's already improved for me. Granted you can't judge improvement over a week but it certainly feels like it has. Anyways you got a subscription from me and I appreciate what you're doing!
I love that he's asking the question in regards to how to better converse with people in general, not just girls. Some dudes get so caught up in how to talk to girls that they neglect the fact that talking to literally anyone offers a tremendous wealth of practice for when girls come along too.
Be non reactive to non reaction, game is holistic the convo is part of the bigger picture. As Todd says left her find things out, rather than telling her.
Hey, man! Love the video! Side note: you don't have to do a sound effects every time something happening on the screen (like bullet-points appearing). Some people like myself are just listening, and those sound effects only make your words less understandable.
Awesome video man, appreciate it. I'm talking to a girl right now that I like, and carrying on conversations has always been difficult for me. Keep up the strong work.
This verbalizes why I am quite insecure. I have all those "symbols" but among people, for some reason, I am not viewed socially as this high person if it makes sense. I am the silet (I dare to say strong because I am emotionally pretty strong) guy, but it seems to me that girls nowadays want that entertainer guy who as Todd says is well received by others socially. A lot of these dudes have endless stories to tell because they were in endless social situations. While me...I was crawling out of depression alone since I was like 16 till about 25. So I lack some experience, even some 23 year old girls seem much more experienced than me. And when people see me down because of this, because I cannot find a girl, they just list all these "token" things like good job, car, good looking, funny etc. And it is extremy difficult for me to do something with this. Because with new people I am this quiet guy but once we are in a social circle and we know one another, I open up and I am the best me.
You can use others' experiences by saying “There was a guy or There was a girl who” And add their experiences to make a point. What matters is just the story to continue the conversation and how relevant it is to your conversation.
How bad is it to after teasing a girl for a bit say “I’m just fucking with you” sometimes I feel like that’s what makes them suddenly feel comfortable and with some I feel like that’s when I lose the tension
i love the podcast as video format. really pleasant turn. however i dislike the soundeffects on every animation and the frequence of animations ( a little to many/much) The animations are smooth tho.
Hey Todd! I like your vids a lot, but the presentation and sound effects on this one are a little distracting. Cheers & keep up the good content! You helped me a lot the past year :)
Small talk is a skill. It`s not something people are born with. People who lag behind is not genetic, it`s most often because of childhood trauma or upbringing in families where there there where shameing for talking. Whats important is to learn this skill IN THE FIELD. That is start talking to random strangers and get over aproach anxiety. What you are thinking in your head is just the mind " shattering". You are NOT your mind, you are what you do. That is the mind can be negativ, but you can still overwrite it and still do the positiv ACTION. To exercise, start having a gameplan. Learn active listening skills. What im talking about here is standard conversations skills. Flirting is something WAY different, but in reality alot is the same. The main difference is that in flirting YOU need to make the subcommunicasjon about sex. This is whats called " sex talk". A easy way to do this is to take it out in " meta" by saying things like " who do you think are most horny blondes or brunetts?", ore " Do you think girls with high heels are more horny than girls who dont use them?". In reality it realy dont matter what you say as long as there is to premisses 1: she dont think you are a creep 2: the conversasjon is about sex or flirting on a level that she cant know 100% that you are thinking about her.... this creates the tennsion that they love. And again, it`s important to practice ALOT. Think of it as a game, the more you do it the more you level up. Most often people belive " value" is a conversasjon where they talk alot and they feel that they are the charming person. Make them feel that way. Practice by flattering people in normal situasjons for small things, in a non flirting way. And SMILE alot!
How outrival older guys in game. I'm 20 years old and often have to compete with 30 year old men for a girl.. Is it just "have better game than him" or is there more specific advice to it? Thanks for your work, it changed my life! :)
Hm... I'm assuming you're asking this question because you assume that you being so relatively early in your aspirations and career, hence bank account, makes you of less value? In short, it does, but any girl around your age isn't expecting you to be a boss. If you're fun and easygoing but have ambitious goals for your future, and are working hard to acheive those goals, then she's going to admire your ripe potential and confidence towards acheiving it. Granted, a girl around your age likely isn't thinking about settling down but if you have stronger ambition and drive than the average 20yr old, while still knowing how to have a good time and not take yourself too seriously, then she'll still be turned on by your tremendous self-worth.
dont worry if your story is good or not you have all the stories from your entire life to tell her, it is not limited no matter how the sotry is recived it allowed more time with the girl and her get to know me, to experience me lower the bar for what is a good and effective conversation praise female responsivness competence confidence it's about symbols - car itself doesnt matter evoultionary. its the sucess it represents not everything that comes out of your mouth has to be golden
He is probably waiting for the pandemic to end. That's my guess. And honestly i don't even blame him, why would you publish a product that helps one become good at social interactions when social interactions are as limitied as ever.
@@chrisjfox8715 it was sarcasm... it is about making progress It doesnt matter you invest 7 days or 1h or even 20 min when objective is accomplished is accomplished
@@rexlakiviliruf7563 na bro If you even go out for the weekend once a month but take solid action, you'll figure it out. Best is to go to someone trust worthy. Either go with Todd, Sasha day game, the naturals lifestyle is super bullet proof and Alex the four week natural are og guys . Like when you have a pro coaching u properly not some bs boot cam you'll skip years of reference experience and years of pain and sadness. They'll explain the inner outer game amazingly explain women and all properly. Two years going out even once a week but also going for pro coaching for endless women where ever u go
Todd, for literally your entire Pick-up coach career you dismissed the idea that status symbols have an influence on the success with girls or that they would be necessary for having success with girls. From your humble beginnings in Project Hollywood all the way to now the "looks and money are irrelevant"- statement was a mantra of yours. In THAT light, your example of the sports car and what it says about a man is at the very least ill-picked.
There's not a "line", there's a "difference". Qualifying yourself is not a cocky behavior... in fact it's the opposite of a cocky behavior. Refusing to qualify yourself, or better yet, not caring to do so, is actual cocky behavior.
@@AskToddV I didnt mean line as a sentence, maybe border is a better word. For example calling yourself cute, smart etc, in my opinion it can looks like you want to impress her.
@@bencefarkas2479 No you are setting a frame that you are cute, smart etc when you act cocky funny. This will provoke one of two reactions, she can either accept it or challenge it. If she accepts it, you are increasing your value and have more social capital to escalate with the girl and if she challenges it, hold your frame by passing the shit test. Its neither subtlety nor directly impressing her, your frame is your world ie who you are. If you aren't congruent with this frame best to avoid it.
@@gunlock177 What you said is clear but can be deceptive. For exempla I say: I am cute - She shit testing like: Oh are you this type of guy? - For example :Yes cause i was modelling or yes every girl telling me that etc. In the beginning i tought i hold my frame but i just qualified myself. Now I can see clearly but maybe in different situations I cant.
@@thefreedomclub5287 How much did he charge you an hour? $1000-1500? Of course he'll be nice to you. You don't need somebody to teach you how to socialize with somebody. Just treat women like you treat a human being.
@@untouchable360x No, the one time I was on World Summit and at the end of the night I got talking to him. We were at the same hotel so he invited me to breakfast and we ended up for about 2 hours - no charge.
If you've ever wondered what to say to girls... and more specifically what is good, effective, high-value, conversation... this video is for you!
Man I've just started watching your videos last week. I wasn't really searching for something like this you just popped up. I like hearing intellectual people talk while I'm working/cooking or whatever and honestly I don't have game really so why not. Man the very few videos I've watched I applied in online dating because that's all I can really do at this point in my life. I realize most of what you teach is for in person with some tips for online but man it's already improved for me. Granted you can't judge improvement over a week but it certainly feels like it has. Anyways you got a subscription from me and I appreciate what you're doing!
“It made more of a history of you together with nothing weird happening” that’s powerful
be normal, don't be weird... sounds kind of silly that this is "high value" these days
Ended-the-fed most guys starting out need to understand context before anything else
@@DESTRAKON what you mean?
I love that he's asking the question in regards to how to better converse with people in general, not just girls. Some dudes get so caught up in how to talk to girls that they neglect the fact that talking to literally anyone offers a tremendous wealth of practice for when girls come along too.
my appreaciation for Todd's psychological insights deepens from month to month👌🏼 these videos are unbelievable valuable when you approach regularly
Be non reactive to non reaction, game is holistic the convo is part of the bigger picture. As Todd says left her find things out, rather than telling her.
Hey, man! Love the video! Side note: you don't have to do a sound effects every time something happening on the screen (like bullet-points appearing). Some people like myself are just listening, and those sound effects only make your words less understandable.
Agreed :)
I didn't even notice the sounds lol
Todd I love your work but the sound effects are very distracting
Unfortunately very true... 😓
I agree
Hhhhh push pull method
Awesome video man, appreciate it.
I'm talking to a girl right now that I like, and carrying on conversations has always been difficult for me.
Keep up the strong work.
whats the problem youre facing? where do you lead the convo, docyou talk about a thing or about you or about her?
This verbalizes why I am quite insecure. I have all those "symbols" but among people, for some reason, I am not viewed socially as this high person if it makes sense. I am the silet (I dare to say strong because I am emotionally pretty strong) guy, but it seems to me that girls nowadays want that entertainer guy who as Todd says is well received by others socially. A lot of these dudes have endless stories to tell because they were in endless social situations. While me...I was crawling out of depression alone since I was like 16 till about 25. So I lack some experience, even some 23 year old girls seem much more experienced than me. And when people see me down because of this, because I cannot find a girl, they just list all these "token" things like good job, car, good looking, funny etc. And it is extremy difficult for me to do something with this. Because with new people I am this quiet guy but once we are in a social circle and we know one another, I open up and I am the best me.
Same. Based. Have you improved at all this past year & how?
You can use others' experiences by saying “There was a guy or There was a girl who” And add their experiences to make a point. What matters is just the story to continue the conversation and how relevant it is to your conversation.
Seriously what hair product do you use on your hair ? I currently using Kevin Murphy night rider.
Really good idea to invest in making the vids more interactive and in the montage. Now it's even more enjoyable to watch
Man, your video production improved so much, I appreciate your hustle, keep going!
@Todd Can you do a video on ethics in game?
This is insightful, an eye-opener. Thank you!
Wonderfully insightful! 👍👌👏
How bad is it to after teasing a girl for a bit say “I’m just fucking with you” sometimes I feel like that’s what makes them suddenly feel comfortable and with some I feel like that’s when I lose the tension
What are the valuable traits? For example, social competency is one. I guess not over-texting demonstrates high self-esteem. What are the others?
i love the podcast as video format. really pleasant turn. however i dislike the soundeffects on every animation and the frequence of animations ( a little to many/much) The animations are smooth tho.
just toooo many
Hey Todd! I like your vids a lot, but the presentation and sound effects on this one are a little distracting. Cheers & keep up the good content! You helped me a lot the past year :)
Todd, you are so smart!
Small talk is a skill. It`s not something people are born with. People who lag behind is not genetic, it`s most often because of childhood trauma or upbringing in families where there there where shameing for talking. Whats important is to learn this skill IN THE FIELD. That is start talking to random strangers and get over aproach anxiety. What you are thinking in your head is just the mind " shattering". You are NOT your mind, you are what you do. That is the mind can be negativ, but you can still overwrite it and still do the positiv ACTION. To exercise, start having a gameplan. Learn active listening skills. What im talking about here is standard conversations skills. Flirting is something WAY different, but in reality alot is the same. The main difference is that in flirting YOU need to make the subcommunicasjon about sex. This is whats called " sex talk". A easy way to do this is to take it out in " meta" by saying things like " who do you think are most horny blondes or brunetts?", ore " Do you think girls with high heels are more horny than girls who dont use them?". In reality it realy dont matter what you say as long as there is to premisses 1: she dont think you are a creep 2: the conversasjon is about sex or flirting on a level that she cant know 100% that you are thinking about her.... this creates the tennsion that they love. And again, it`s important to practice ALOT. Think of it as a game, the more you do it the more you level up. Most often people belive " value" is a conversasjon where they talk alot and they feel that they are the charming person. Make them feel that way. Practice by flattering people in normal situasjons for small things, in a non flirting way. And SMILE alot!
This is good advice 👍
Solid advice !
The guy who asked the question is a level 3 deciple for sure
I LOVE THIS!!!! THANKS TODD!!!
Very useful advice
Value is in the eye of the beholder. But,,, it starts with you before it starts socially. How do you sell yourself? 👍
How outrival older guys in game. I'm 20 years old and often have to compete with 30 year old men for a girl.. Is it just "have better game than him" or is there more specific advice to it?
Thanks for your work, it changed my life! :)
Hm... I'm assuming you're asking this question because you assume that you being so relatively early in your aspirations and career, hence bank account, makes you of less value? In short, it does, but any girl around your age isn't expecting you to be a boss. If you're fun and easygoing but have ambitious goals for your future, and are working hard to acheive those goals, then she's going to admire your ripe potential and confidence towards acheiving it. Granted, a girl around your age likely isn't thinking about settling down but if you have stronger ambition and drive than the average 20yr old, while still knowing how to have a good time and not take yourself too seriously, then she'll still be turned on by your tremendous self-worth.
YES, just better game and don't use your age as an excuse
Social > Literal... So, if you have a lambo but nobody knows about it... Is it even high-value?
Apparently no
dont worry if your story is good or not
you have all the stories from your entire life to tell her, it is not limited
no matter how the sotry is recived it allowed more time with the girl and her get to
know me, to experience me
lower the bar for what is a good and effective conversation
praise
female responsivness
competence
confidence
it's about symbols - car itself doesnt matter evoultionary. its the sucess
it represents
not everything that comes out of your mouth has to be golden
Follow your dreams
Much love Todd
I feel like im so demse i just cant think of anything good to say unless im vibing off of other conversation
Just what I needed! Love your work Todd :)
Tod, u are awesome. I have a cuestión . Is it useful to say “U will be a good as my girlfriend” ?
4:44 say things you want to say because , awaiting for her response
The guy asking the question sounds like Julien Blanc lol
Great
Pretty sure verbal game academy is never coming out. It's been over a year, dude.
He is probably waiting for the pandemic to end. That's my guess. And honestly i don't even blame him, why would you publish a product that helps one become good at social interactions when social interactions are as limitied as ever.
@Moan like 24/7 right? 😄
@@rexlakiviliruf7563 not necessarily. An hour or two everyday plus 2-3 nights a week can be incredibly powerful if you remain disciplined about it.
@@chrisjfox8715 it was sarcasm... it is about making progress It doesnt matter you invest 7 days or 1h or even 20 min when objective is accomplished is accomplished
@@rexlakiviliruf7563 na bro If you even go out for the weekend once a month but take solid action, you'll figure it out. Best is to go to someone trust worthy. Either go with Todd, Sasha day game, the naturals lifestyle is super bullet proof and Alex the four week natural are og guys . Like when you have a pro coaching u properly not some bs boot cam you'll skip years of reference experience and years of pain and sadness. They'll explain the inner outer game amazingly explain women and all properly. Two years going out even once a week but also going for pro coaching for endless women where ever u go
4.20,4.33,2.24,3.06,4.15,8.13,12.00,12.40
Say what you mean and what you say, cus those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind
loved animations hated the sound effects
How to find a gf while living in rare country side?
Thanks todd
Todd, for literally your entire Pick-up coach career you dismissed the idea that status symbols have an influence on the success with girls or that they would be necessary for having success with girls. From your humble beginnings in Project Hollywood all the way to now the "looks and money are irrelevant"- statement was a mantra of yours. In THAT light, your example of the sports car and what it says about a man is at the very least ill-picked.
Todd never said it DOESNT matter, just that you shouldn’t let it hold you back, it’s not the biggest factor
Those sound effects are annoying. Screw up my concentration on what you're actually saying
First
Bro, stop. No-one does anymore it's annoying 🙄
@@aromero9243 hes 13 years old, its fine
How to be cocky and arrogant without qualify yourself to a girl or impreas her? Where is the line?
There's not a "line", there's a "difference". Qualifying yourself is not a cocky behavior... in fact it's the opposite of a cocky behavior. Refusing to qualify yourself, or better yet, not caring to do so, is actual cocky behavior.
@@AskToddV I didnt mean line as a sentence, maybe border is a better word. For example calling yourself cute, smart etc, in my opinion it can looks like you want to impress her.
@@bencefarkas2479 No you are setting a frame that you are cute, smart etc when you act cocky funny. This will provoke one of two reactions, she can either accept it or challenge it. If she accepts it, you are increasing your value and have more social capital to escalate with the girl and if she challenges it, hold your frame by passing the shit test. Its neither subtlety nor directly impressing her, your frame is your world ie who you are. If you aren't congruent with this frame best to avoid it.
@@gunlock177 What you said is clear but can be deceptive. For exempla I say: I am cute - She shit testing like: Oh are you this type of guy? - For example :Yes cause i was modelling or yes every girl telling me that etc. In the beginning i tought i hold my frame but i just qualified myself. Now I can see clearly but maybe in different situations I cant.
The pick up artist or scam artist who teaches people how to talk, reads of the script? And cant look at the camera for 5 second?
I get shitty vibes from him. The way he talks doesn't seem like a guy with a lot of game.
@@untouchable360x I've seen Todd game and hung out with him once or twice. The guy is the real deal - great a game, really nice guy and super smart.
@@thefreedomclub5287 How much did he charge you an hour? $1000-1500? Of course he'll be nice to you. You don't need somebody to teach you how to socialize with somebody. Just treat women like you treat a human being.
@@untouchable360x No, the one time I was on World Summit and at the end of the night I got talking to him. We were at the same hotel so he invited me to breakfast and we ended up for about 2 hours - no charge.
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