Transforming Anger Into Loving-Kindness ~ A Teaching by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
- In this short clip, Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche - a Tibetan lama and best-selling author of The Joy of Living - teaches how we can use meditation to discover our basic goodness and transform anger into loving-kindness. This clip is drawn from DVD teachings that are used in the Joy of Living meditation workshops at Tergar Meditation Centers around the world. To take a free, self-guided intro to meditation course, visit learning.tergar.... Or, for more information about Mingyur Rinpoche and his teachings, please visit www.tergar.org, where you will find information about events and retreats, and also a free online intro to meditation course. Enjoy!
This video includes subtitles in Spanish and Portuguese.
Mediation has truly saved my life
Same here
How..can yu explain a lil bit abot yur experience..
Ditto!!
@@nowornever07 tell me plz
@@nowornever07 it was rough in the beginning but so far it actually helps.
I like the idea that anger is just another side of loving kindness. We get angry with other people when we want to control them for, we think, their own good, but they resist or don't understand. We need to turn this wrong attitude into one just of wanting the best for others without our having to exert control.
Well said!
What you are describing reminds me of non-attachment. We would probably benefit the most from loving-kindness without clinging to a certain outcome, especially when that outcome is, like you mention, outside of one's control. To have the wisdom of the latter - the extent of our control in the present moment - would be another skill worth developing.
If I understand Buddhism correctly, the pathological desires (tanha) that lead to unnecessary, if not all, suffering (dukkha) can be characterized by the following 3 poisons:
* Delusion (ignorance, confusion)
* Attachment (greed, lust)
* Aversion (Anger, hate, disgust)
Reassuringly, the more wholesome desires (chanda) that can free us from some, if not all, suffering can be characterized by the following 3 antidotes:
* Non-Delusion (Wisdom)
* Non-Attachment (Generosity)
* Non-Aversion (Loving-Kindness)
For a long time, I severely misunderstood the 3rd noble truth. I thought his holiness was advocating for the complete absence of desire. However, now I believe that, during this lifetime at least, this is impossible. The best thing we can do while we are bound to all the impermanent conditions of our reality is to curate our desires to the best of our abilities.
Yes 👏
"How nice!"
Iam blessed iam lucky that in this era i can get such great teachings online 🙏
"You want to do better", so true. Anger is always anger at one's own weakness.
Oh wow, well said. Thank you
I started crying hard when I realized that everyone's innate nature is good.
So you think Hitlers innate nature was good? Not trying to be smart about this, just trying to understand your view
@@medicalanimal1479 Maybe his nature was good before age 4. His father beat him up regularly, as I heard. That probably had a distorted effect on him, which contributed to his personality.
@@medicalanimal1479 mental illness is real.
@@medicalanimal1479 There are always bad apples, bad seeds in life and nature but MOST people have good in them😉
Some people are actually bad but most people are innately good
This is one of the most empowering messages I have ever listened to.
Thank you - healing words. I had an angry heart and this wisdom was a medicine.
You are not alone. Angry impermanent. So lets we diligenly practice love and compassion to ourself and all sentient being. If we full love and compassion then we peace mind, calm and patient. Have bless day .
Thank you Rinpoche! Even as a christian I very much love and cheerish Buddhism. I pray for Your long life and preservationnof Dharma in this degenerate time!
goodness me, this has lifted so much weight from my heart right now!
cool deal namaste
I have realized that a lot of my anger, resentment, anger, fear guilt, and sadness is love and compassion for myself at the core because they are there to push me to so better and because I am not being my true potential.
me too. I'm just really frustrated
How nice 😊💜
Hello,
i am just reading a Tibetan book of life and death.Packed with wisdom
Thank you Mingyur rinpoche
It is one my favourite books !!
Watching this video knowing that Mingyur RINPOCHE took off to the Himalayas as a wandering Yogi recently, inspires me beyond words and reminds me of the importance to increase practice, EMAHO! May he be protected and free from all obstacles!
Mingyur Rinpoche's teaching are so amazingly clear. I'm taking this into my practice today.
Rejoice
This is why we have to be so careful these days when everyone wants to "cancel" someone just for having different feelings or opinions than theirs. It's often not as extreme as people fear. But, even in the case of outright, more extreme hatred, if it is met with more hatred and extremism, it can't help, and we are seeing that. I am so grateful for this message and the perspective shift. I'm sad so many people claim they want to help change the world to a more compassionate place, yet they are still saying and doing things to others that encourage the opposite. Things are so intense and reactive these days, we definitely all need this wisdom. I pray we absorb it well for the betterment of humanity (myself included!) 💖
Controlling our emotions is probably the hardest thing, specially when we're angry, jealous or needy. I hope I get to find the loving compassion within these negative emotions.
This is really wonderful ...I have been feeling anger with politicians and scientists in my country at the coronavirus times and I see how it is because there is loving kindness there in it ..
Already feel transformation....and understand that they ...the politicians and scientists believe their thoughts so they cannot help what they do ....
I love his vibe. This was a wonderful talk. His talk about how to meditate is priceless. Thank you for being you.
this dude is amazing
i agree
I hope my friend and teacher and student Justins anger can transform to loving kindness, he probably wont wanna watch this video, but ill meditate on it, wishing him well, may he be fully healed!
Such calm and compassion in your voice dear rinpoche🙏🏻 going through the worst I've ever been and a breakup at the verge of marriage.. Two weeks into the breakup, I attribute most of my sanity that's left to the calmness I receive from your directions🙏🏻
May you feel better these days!♥️✌
Sending you good vibes ♥️🥳
We spend all our time lost in thought. Recognizing anger in the mind and body in a state of mindful awareness inherently shortens the half life of said anger. In other words don’t add fuel to the anger and hatred fire. You have to think of reasons why you’re angry to remain angry. You have to think of reasons why you hate to continue hatred. Simply acknowledge the feelings of anger and hatred as another appearance in consciousness and you will find it dissipates.
Absolutely incredible.
Finding answers makes me happy. I am happy to be addicted to life
Okay this just made me ball my eyes out
Beautifully presented, never thought of hatred like this. Yes I have myself a lot due to hatred I had for myself
Thank you!❤
Wonderfull thank you such a reassuring talk and gentle voice thank you again
Wonderful clear words for when things seem difficult. Return lovingkindness to love and kindness.
This needs more views!
thank you for the message.
How nice indeed..thank you
I am 57, brilliant, smoked pot all my life, and have done nothing to help anyone except play pretty guitar.
I have so much to give. I want peace so I can help others.
No more pot.
Thank you guru. I will be watching all your videos.
Thank you for sharing another inspirational message.Just today I ask myself the question .What do I really want within my heart?The answer was joy,peace of mind, health.Uncondition love dispels all defendants.
Yepp. It's wisdom in this. Anger can be out of love or fear. Love and the betterment of humanity is what all need to aim for.. Thanks
Thank you for the teachings. It was exactly what I needed to hear
This is what I look for: See love within anger; and anger transforms into love
Thank-you.
thank you rinpoche 🙏🏻
Obrigada Mestre!
Thank you for your wisdom. Respect.
Thank you.
Sir, Loving kindness good explained everyone person looking for love .Thank you so much ,All is well
Thanks for your compassion
Absolutely amazing.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💚 🙏
When i was looking for stuff to help my anger for some reason i instantly new the best people would be monks, love you guys
Brilliant!
He talks about hatred for others and hatred for self, then gives a really good example and explanation of turning hatred for self into loving kindness, by recognising that at the base of it, hatred for self might be an expression of a need to be better. So, the need to be better is what on the surface seems like self hatred. Can anyone give a similar example or explanation of how to turn feelings of hatred for others into loving kindness? What aspect of loving kindness could be at the base of hatred for others? Especially feelings of hatred towards other people who have harmed or wronged you.
@@MingyurRinpoche Thank you for your reply.
Isaac A do you know how to answer the question now? Really struggling with it and the person you replied to deleted their comment.
he's so calming and relaxing. this is how a true monk should be. his other recent videos though I'm not a big fan he speaks to loud lol.
beautiful....
Thank you Master 🙏
Hatred, you dont have to do nothing about it. Dont even comment is it good or bad, just observe it. Watch it with kindness and patience, it will transform into compassion, because awareness is like a transforming force. Turns shite to gold.
GURUJI I LOVE U
How Nice!😊
Thank you for this teaching.
Thank you for this beautiful explanation. I know its true
Healing words.. thank u so much for the post..
Very beautiful sir. Thank you so much.☺️☺️
Long Live Rinpoche La
kyab su chio
Tashi Delek.
Wonderful Teaching.
Thank you 😊 🙏
VOW! VERY GREAT, BEAUTIFULLY APPRECIATIVE, EXCELLENT 👏👏👏👍👌😊
Nice video. I really appreciate the message you are trying to get across. I wish we were all capable of understanding each other at a conceptual level rather than just through linguistics and body language though. That sure would clear up a lot of miscommunication!
wow I think evry one need to her this really ifs fantastic many thanks
Thank you
thank you :)
love every video
Thank you for sharing
Nicely explained
Loving kindness for ugliness!
YMR - "If you see love within the hated the hated automatically transforms into love "
Buddhism is The Way
Very nice teacher 😊
Please help🙏! I'm overwhelmed by rage😖!! And also the deep sadness associated with compassion. I'm very unwell.
This one is beautiful! But didn't cut through. P'raps one of you can point me towards practices designed to help...
I stumbled upon this video because I typed in "why is growth hard"
I came upon "don't be hard on yourself" and then this one. I listened and was like "damn it even anger isn't bad" It's just telling me I really want to do better. You see I don't like myself very much because I know I'm smart and can do SOMETHING with my life but my dumb-ass doesn't want to move along with my life and it's annoying. I want to give up.
THANKS
Words of wisdom! I can be very angry. I can feel allot of rage sometimes! But... I do not want to Hurt others of course. I do not use violence and am against it. I only want what is right and good in life...
So in a way, my anger or rage can be transformed into a strong force of loving compassion!
So.. Anger is a gift?... (Rage Against The Machine. - Freedom.)
If it is used in compassion, for what is right and good? I think it might be. If anger is used in compassion then it is a more "aggressive" form of compassion. That might be the answer! Thanks
I've watched a lot of your videos, but this is probably my favorite one.
So easy, yet so hard.
fantastic!
Every concept holds its opposite; I learned this in a critical theory course years ago. In the work I do now, I recommend that students of English learning new vocabulary remember the principle to double their acquisition. (Always learn the antonym for a word if it has one because it will be easy to remember with respect to its opposite.) I love that Mingyur Rinpoche applies this basic idea to an epistemology of love.
Constantly chant : Namo Amitabha
I’m doing away with expectations they were causing me to be angry about everything
I love the content but it’s hard to really hear him. It would be awesome to have subtitles. ❤️
lol Thank you!!😅💝
Wonder if he plays Call of Duty?
It would be amazing if he was the biggest trash talker and yelled down the mic all the time.
Nah just kidding, he probably plays Overwatch and mains Zen.
@Carlossalfailure underrated comment haha
May the dislikers find their own peace
wow .. this is good
❤
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Please turn to the Lord Jesus Christ Yongey. He is the fullness of God in human flesh and he came to save sinners, which applies to all of us. I would ask you to please call out to Him and when we turn to Him and believe the gospel (the good news) he gives us His Holy Spirit to live inside us. We must be born again to enter the Kingdom of God
Is there a way to add English subtitles, please? I'd like to show this to my clients and I think some of them will have a hard time understanding some of the words. Seeing the written words along with your voice would be helpful for them. Such a powerful message. Thank you!
Shall u like me to transcribe it for you
@@Sh0n0 are we able to submit our own transcripts? If so, I would also be happy to transcribe it. Thank you for asking :)
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Great teaching. Can someone tell me what is the source of this teachings (finding a benevolent root of anger)? Is it in some Sutra, or maybe even some Pali Sutta?
I don't think he explained this one too well. I've seen a few clips and I like what I've seen up until now, but I was looking for a more detailed or helpful exposition here. No, unless we're fundamentally sadistic, which most of us are not - we don't actively want to hate; surely we're just venting because we're frustrated about being misunderstood or some wrong that's been done to us; in which case, let's face it - we want to do damage - to teach a lesson. That seems to be human nature. I don't see how this clip helps us tranform anger into love.
Isn't wanting to teach someone a lesson = wanting for that someone to be better? This video explains how deep down, the root of our frustrations is actually love and compassion, and not some evil, rotten reason as we might think. When you realize this, the guilt and the negative feelings disappear and you find yourself transforming even your worst anger into an assertive, calm action. Everyone should be aware of the miscommunications between the world and their perception of it.
I have a question :)
1.What about hatred for a technological device and 2.what about hatred for habits someone does (or does not do). For example:
1. You are trying to watch a youtubevideo and slow wifi-connection prevents this from happening. How can I turn this kind of hatred into loving kindness?
2. My brother never cleans up after himself and I hate the fact that he does that. How can I turn this into loving kindness?
i sincerely hope you woll read my questions and answer them. i would love to hear from you!😁
Is this what's called Tantra in Buddhism?
I would love a long video of him explaining this kind of meditation, is there any?
Hi Leonardo,
Thank you for your question. The teachings on transforming negative emotions are a little more advanced. If you take Joy of Living 3, Awakening Wisdom, there is some additional information in there. Or you can read the book Joyful Wisdom.But a lot of this is taught in the Path of Liberation Buddhist teachings. You can find more information at learning.tergar.org.
Best wishes,
Beth K.
Tergar International
@@MingyurRinpoche u are the best! Giggling 🤭 and learning allowing both to be!