Many men don't have the financial wherewithal to fight for custody. They give up knowing in many jurisdictions they historically haven't got a chance unless they spend 6 figure's in a rigged judicial system. A lot of the time they're blindsided, haven't got somewhere to take the kids & are trying to keep their job in the middle of the chaos, bc corporations don't care about your personal life. Ms highly critical & contemptuous cites figures based in this. Yes it's changing slowly but most guys know the deal, are out of the home, struggling to find any accommodation at present & fighting to not lose everything assets wise. Getting the kids is priority for W0men bc they will provide ongoing financial support & are an easy weapon to use against the enemy they've created in the e×.
Women don’t get it the creator is an anomaly! Look at Tinder stats, divorce rate, and the 600,000 additional passport increase for 2024! 2025 hopefully we can break the 2,000,000 passport kings leaving America permanently for the American dream because it’s not in America anymore! America is in decline and whimpering into the halls of history! LOL
I bought my wife and children two houses, two cars, education savings plans...and when she filed for divorce she demanded full custody and got it and I had to sell ALL MY assets to give her more than half. And btw, she didn't have to work a day since having our first baby and for 10 years after that while I worked full time AND took care of our children as she refused to even make their breakfast, pack their lunches or take them to school/pick them up - I never even got a single thank you but I did get a screaming banshee that more than doubled her weight.
You nailed it. I lost my house, my business and had to pay the legal costs when my ex refused to let me see my kids. Even though it was already court ordered shared custody, she got away with all the BS of denying me to see my kids. It cost me thousands just to be able to see my own kids even after the court ordered it. The law is so biased against men in divorce that I would recommend that men should NEVER ever get married. NEVER! It's a contract to your death! As a matter of fact, I now look at the grooms wedding as his funeral.
It is insane that family courts can send a man to jail for quitting their job. In no other circumstances would Americans accept the government forcing labor, but if you quit your job and miss a payment for alimony or child support they suddenly are criminals.
And yet the women receiving this money aren't required to work. It should be mandatory that they become gainfully employed or lose the alimony and child support/custody.
Let me assure you, no woman wants to broach this subject with me. 24 years ago my first wife left me to selfishly pursue her own freedom, actually she was running away from her problems. I fought for and got custody of our 3 teenager children and raised them as a single dad. It was tough, but it was also important to me to give them the best start in life. I have put in the years of effort to earn the right to not take any bullshit from bitter women who complain all men are trash. I’ll stand my ground and tell them they are wrong. Funny thing, I’ve not had to do this, guess word got out. Sara is right on when she identifies this bitching as blame shifting. Bitter small minded women trying to escape their guilt.
You're a legend, lad. Much respect. 👏🏻🗿 Question, if I may ask...did your ex-wife try to contact you guys, get back together, etc., after the divorce and after you getting the full custody of your children?
@@Roddy_Zeh Roddy, My ex-had a boyfriend that she eventually married. She never wanted to get back together, thank goodness. I was resisting her manipulations so she switched to an easier target. Her plan involved moving to a city 2 hours away to attend college. After a year and a half of that she flunked out, lied about still being enrolled, I caught her and cut back on the funding. She filed and ran. Had she wanted to return she knew I would insist on her getting a job and be a good wife and mother. She was not interested in any of that. To illustrate what kind of person she is, she abandoned her 11 year old daughter then refused to talk to her on the phone. Brutal and callas.
@@markam306 First of all, thanks for answering. 😁👍🏻 Damn, that was ice-cold...😞 I'm sorry for what you and your children had to deal with. Judging by your first comment, despite all the struggles and challenges, you managed to overcome them all and came out victorious in the end, having raised your children. I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I'm legitimately happy for you all. 🙏🏻 And at least your children know her true colors. I don't think they'll want anything to do with her, even many more years later, if she try to reach out for whatever reason. All the best to y'all and may good fortune find the path to your lives! 👏🏻😁
Congratulations you're a stand-up kind of guy and a bad part is you had to fight to begin with to get them to show what kind of man you was that's wrong in the court system
Sara spittin' fire and brimstone at the savages. That was effing spectacular to actually witness a woman with empathy for a change. Tis unfortunate it is so rare.
My divorce was finalized in 2002 and custody was finalized in 2003. That is because the initial custody was structured as 50/50, but after the ruling, my ex refused to see or communicate with our children in any way, shape, or form for almost nine months. The kids took it very hard and in 2003 I was awarded sole physical and legal custody of our children. My ex was then ordered to pay child support, so she quit her high paying job to avoid that obligation. She continues - to this day - to tell the kids (now adults) that everything was my fault, that I am a horrible person, and has ended up poisoning her relationship with them. They can only stand being around her for a couple hours at a time. Both of my children have told me that they are very grateful for how I raised them and they can now, as adults, appreciate what I did for them throughout their lives. (That is the best feeling in the world.) I don't think "resent" is the proper word for how I feel about my divorce and my ex's behavior afterwards. But "unpaid labor"? Get real.
Every single good man I know (including myself) has been utterly screwed over in a divorce. We are talking handsome, hard-working, devoted, "I would take a bullet for you" loyal, men. Let that sink in. Every. Single. One. Eff modern women.
My step sister got divorced from her first husband and he was awarded custody of the kids along with everything else he wanted. Mind you this was in the late 1970s in Colorado. She bitched long and loud to my dad and her mom about how he took her to the cleaners, "he lied and on and on." I can't help but wonder what he had on her that he got such a favorable ruling in family court? I'd LOVE to ask him but sadly he's deceased.
My ex wife must be reading from the same playbook as the rest of these goofies. But I do appreciate having a advocate like Sara trying to stick up for up.
Gentlemen, keep this in mind. In today’s society, “abuse” is often accused when you say “no” to some whim or something impractical. Some things I, as a narcissistic abuser have said “no” to: - boob job - lower back tramp stamp tattoo - Kia Telluride, couldn’t afford $600-$700 per month payment, but we could afford $300 per month for a low mileage Sorento, to replace her aging Sorento - camper, “but my ‘friends’ have one” - jet skies “but my friends…” - Razor “but my friends…” - RV “but my friends…” - larger house that would either be half empty or overflowing with crap we didn’t need “but my friends…” Never mind, yep she’s right, I am an “abusive narcissist”. 😂
If the courts would treat a marriage contract, like an actual contract. I for one will refuse to pay alimony. You want it? I gave everything I own to the local sports league. Put me in jail! I’d rather be there than pay for an ex. 😊
I resent having ten years of my life I can never get back wasted and having someone I loved completely, in spite of pure hell, rip my heart out and show it to me.
Thank you Sara. You are a treasure of a woman. I've been having to fight in court for 8 years to be in my son's life and yes, it was the other person that initiated it all yet I'm always accused of being the a**hole. My son is in my life on the weekends but I have had to fight for it while supporting two households as you put it.
I saw a video the other day of a man who had to sell his stuff to pay child support. I was so grateful that I’m not in that position, but peace and blessings to the men who are I hope you make it back to freedom.
I have a friend who was going thru custody for his child. He got his court notice the day he was due in court. He was at work at the time and didn't get it till he got home. He showed me his court date and the mail stamp on the envelope. There was no way that letter would have gotten to him in time for him to make it to court. He lost his rights because of it. Their are a lot of dirt bags out there. But it goes both ways.
Absorder of costs? My ex made around 30k a year and managed to spend at least 40k every single year. Promised me no child support payments would happen and we'd just split costs. Changed her mind without even informing me (that's called lying kids) and even though we have 50/50 custody i still have to pay that cow almost 350 a month.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate your work. I would say more than anything, we resent showing up with sincerity, integrity, and honesty, and we fight through her insane bullshit for years, trying harder and harder to just get an ounce of love back for every pound we give, only to have her utilize the legal system to try to destroy us, spitting venom at us the entire time. We're heartbroken and horrified that someone we invited into our inner sanctum could turn out to be so hateful and vile.
I appreciate this so much. Today has been a rough day mentally, bullying online is tough today. I appreciate your kindness.but also stay strong 💪🏻 you got this. Never give up on what’s important to you.
@saraeatononshorts Just remember that you are genuinely loved by thousands. It's not a love granted to you by how you were born, it's a love you've earned with your genuine courage, your sincere empathy, and your willingness to speak up when almost no one else was willing. You strike me as someone who is genuinely humble, so let me assure you, the good you have already done is tremendous. Your life matters. You truly matter. The haters are just a sign that you're messing with their racket, and that's a good sign.
As far as the NOT SHOWING UP AT THE DIVORCE COURT . . . . What's the point, you know you're going to lose everything anyway . . . So, I needed to work, so that's what I did, I went to work that day. My lawyer went to the Divorce Court and gave me the BAD NEWS, LATER. When I was SHOCKED at what the JUDGE TOOK FROM ME . . . . . My Divorce Attorney LAUGHED IN MY FACE!!!!!!! He said: "Men ALMOST ALWAYS ALWAYS GET SCREWED OVER . . . . WHAT DID YOU EXPECT ?" I can tell you . . . It was a RUDE SLAP IN THE FACE ! I was down FOR MONTHS . . . I LIVED IN SOME "RAT HOLES" for YEARS with the Child Support Payments . . . After 3 years. . . I got used to it. BUT . . . . IT SERIOUSLY SEVERELY CHANGED MY LIFE . . . . and I bare, Not only emotional scars, but the FINANCIAL SCARS TO THIS DAY. Ahhhh. . . . it's Life. 👍 I'd say . . . if you can avoid a live in arrangement AVOID IT THEN . . . and don't get married . . . PROBABLY BEST TO NOT HAVE KIDS . . . BECAUSE THEN WOMEN CAN REALLY DIG THEIR CLAWS INTO YOU FOR YEARS . . . And HALF THE TIME YOU CAN'T SEE YOUR KIDS FOR ONE REASON OR ANOTHER . . . Good luck men . . . BE CAREFUL REAL CAREFUL - HONESTLY, it's pretty much A WAR ZONE - dealing with women.
During my divorce, every lawyer i had told me NOT TO WASTE MY TIME AND MONEY ON A CUSTODY BATTLE. I knew my ex was an abusive psycho and was powerless to stop her. I was proved right over time, and now my ex is a bitter alcoholic with no relationship with my kids. SERVES HER RIGHT.
I saw this when I was a child in the mid-70s. I've never married. My father was the calmest, most easy-going person when he was single, but so uptight whenever he was married.
*Men do contest the hearings, but can't afford the retainer for a lawyer, so they lose to the ex who does have a lawyer.* She has been planning this years in advance, so the allegations of DV are ready.
I did most of the "unpaid labor" in my marriage before my divorce. I don't resent that at all. I can cook and clean just fine. What I do resent is giving a massive chunk of my paycheck every month to a woman who did nothing to earn it.
@@nneisler I am good looking but I am barely making ends meet. Therefore i am not attractive to a younger women. I dont think i will ever get into another relationship. Women only take and never give. I am done. The little i have left in ressource and energy, i keep for myself for my stability. I have nothing more to give.
Holy sh*t! I know where you’re coming from. My kids were devastated as well. What also broke me was my wife was cheating and my kid’s pain didn’t matter to her. It was the most evil and vile sh*t I’ve seen in my life. She never cried and carried on like life was normal.
Wow. 😮 I felt that. That was a solid rant. She had my undivided attention. As men that have been through some or all or more of those sorts of things, you automatically wonder what life would have been like with someone with an attitude like this. It seems so foreign.
I don't resent my spouse for filing for divorce after having helped her while she went from high graduate to college graduate. I even tried to help her get a doctorate degree but she was kicked out of that program. I tried taking care of her while she suffered both mental and physical health problems. And I still don't resent her. I always wanted her to be happy. Turns out she just needed to get away from me to he happy. I'm definitely a lot less stressed not trying to do everything for someone who never appreciated it. I'm also glad I'm not a woman, they appear to be perpetually unhappy.
You are right on, with a lot of things, I've went through it, it's a devastating betrayel when your ex turns into a monster and trys to destroy your character and trys to take everything from you
I would NEVER get married without a prenup. Divorcing me would NOT be their payday. I'd stay single for life before getting married without a prenuptial agreement.
Don't give her the prenup. Tell her that on x date we have an appointment with your lawyer. Tell her that she will need to get a lawyer to represent you. Give her enough time to find a lawyer. Then together you can sit down and work it out. You don't want to just blindside her with a document and ask her to sign. If you do that she can later say "she didn't understand" or "she was under emotional duress". Things like this matter if you want your prenup to stand up in court. Take your time. Do it the right way. Work it out together in a fair way with her there in the process with her lawyer.
@@JohnSmithEx I wouldn't blindside anyone. I would record if need be. I would tell them upfront same as here, there's 0 chance of marriage without a prenup, if that'd be a deal breaker then we could go our seperate ways 🤷♂️.
I think every man that listens to your videos from time to time instantly wishes you lived 2 miles away from them, were single and would hopefully fall in love with them. Whoever your man is he is truly a lucky man Sara Eaton.
@@Farhan_049 Yes, agreed. Men eventually realize that they are simply a means to an end for a Woman, that has nothing to do with actual love or affection.
Wow! She's answerd every question I've ever had. Just think, I was so beaten down that I carried unnecessary pain and guilt due to being gaslighted. It's witch craft at its finest.
Can we please have more women like you ?🙏🥺😢😭 please raise your daughters in your skills you are absolutely pure gold and i love you for your view point 🥺 it feels completely unrealistic to me that a woman like you even exist 😭 you are a 10/10 and who ever your husband is please give him a high five from me and tell him he found the perfect woman 🥹
Women demand that men communicate their emotions and be emotionally available… but the reason we don’t is because we know as soon as we do it will force that woman to have to acknowledge that she probably had something to do with how we feel and she will not take responsibility for it , if it was something she had a hand in causing… so we deal with it in silence because it is better than fighting or being told that we are being dramatic, or being gaslighted! Fuck it I’m so done!
A woman once wanted a divorce judge to award HER for years of unpaid labor. Things like Daycare, Teacher's salary, Chef's Salary, Maid's Salary, Nurse's Salary and the list went on. The judge smartly denied it because it would've opened a Pandora's box of things the men could've been compensated for in a divorce proceeding. So to answer the question, YES men resent not being compensated for labor. We also are resentful for lack of consideration for who paid for what during a marriage.
Marriage has become an Unrealized Gains tax - The divorce laws that have marital assets split 50/50 are a man-tax on the supposed unrealized gains of the woman (I’m assuming a stay-at-home wife scenario). She “could have” had a career and made lots of money, but he convinced her to marry him, so now she supposedly deserves to be rewarded with half of his assets. Never mind that… 1. Most women marry UP to get someone of better financial potential to begin with, and that gain is ignored. 2. She might have never had a career and made lots of money, but that is not considered. 3. She may have already wasted a lot of his money, but that is not considered. 4. He could have made even more money if he had not married her, but that is not considered. The 50/50 claim is a scam disguised as a moral good that is often a terrible injustice to men. Stop the Unrealized Gains Tax on married men!
Men resent divorce because it proves that she was never worth marrying in the first place... We provide EVERYTHING to obtain and sustain a decent lifestyle for our woman and children but lose all we've been sacrificing ourselves for when she decides shes bored and wants to sleep with other people while neglecting her duties as a wife and mother.
Imagine sitting at home all day doing literally nothing compared to your partner and then wanting money for said lazing around. 🙄 Ladies, washing dishes and laundry, cooking... these are not "labor". They are basic functions of survival. If you were not present, the mans life would be unchanged. If the man isnt present, your life goes to complete choas.
Right. Children under 10 can be taught to do most of the cleaning, and over 10 they can be taught to do most of the cooking. I was a widower with children, so I know both sides. The female side is incredibly simple (but still important).
I'm retired at 27, went from Grace to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤
I watch your videos often and I agree with you 99% of the time and it's not because I am a man it is because you do your research and you have the facts
I started proceedings in court against my ex so I could have 50 percent shared care . She was a serial adulterer , she was a very lazy mother , a poor house keeper but she was still their mother and deserved to see her children 50 percent of the time . She on the other hand thought she could control my contact with my children . She had zero ability to put the children first and the judge awarded me exactly what I wanted . I met another lady and we raised the children together and now they are adults making their own way . The ex ? Well she’s in her 50s been married and divorced 2 times and is still rudder less in life . If only I had and older head on my young shoulders back then .
I didn't fight because I didn't want to put my kids through the bs because I thought she was a good mom. That is, until her new husband abused my kid and she sided with him.
MGTOW is growing so increasingly men ain’t paying for anything but our own peace and prosperity, and I’m here for it.
I showed up for custody hearings, fought for and got full custody. Also defended it to the state supreme Court. All 9 judges agreed. Thank God!
*When you got full custody, did you get child support from the mom?*
Your kids are with you. Everything else is f-ing secondary. God bless you sir. Enjoy your life to the fullest.
@@anthonyhuber-permanentlyre7808 Highly unlikely.
Courts only enforce it against men!
Many men don't have the financial wherewithal to fight for custody. They give up knowing in many jurisdictions they historically haven't got a chance unless they spend 6 figure's in a rigged judicial system. A lot of the time they're blindsided, haven't got somewhere to take the kids & are trying to keep their job in the middle of the chaos, bc corporations don't care about your personal life.
Ms highly critical & contemptuous cites figures based in this. Yes it's changing slowly but most guys know the deal, are out of the home, struggling to find any accommodation at present & fighting to not lose everything assets wise.
Getting the kids is priority for W0men bc they will provide ongoing financial support & are an easy weapon to use against the enemy they've created in the e×.
I've never been married, so I can't comment on divorce. Men are generally the romantic ones. Women move on in a heartbeat.
I tested this by looking at who the writers were of love songs sung by female singers. It's insightful.
Congratulations , as getting a wife is much like having a venomous snake as a pet.
@@geneotrexler8246I absolutely hate snakes. Only thing I really hate on the face of this earth and I'd rather have a pet snake then a woman
That’s because the only thing women care about is money!!!!
Modern women do not love men! They only love money!!!!
Sara, it's nice hearing a woman say these things out loud. Gives men faith that some women get it.
But women like that are so few and far between and probably taken.
Women don’t get it the creator is an anomaly! Look at Tinder stats, divorce rate, and the 600,000 additional passport increase for 2024! 2025 hopefully we can break the 2,000,000 passport kings leaving America permanently for the American dream because it’s not in America anymore! America is in decline and whimpering into the halls of history! LOL
We do resent, only its because we wasted our time on someone we thought cared but clearly didnt.
Absolutely 💯 true 😢
I bought my wife and children two houses, two cars, education savings plans...and when she filed for divorce she demanded full custody and got it and I had to sell ALL MY assets to give her more than half. And btw, she didn't have to work a day since having our first baby and for 10 years after that while I worked full time AND took care of our children as she refused to even make their breakfast, pack their lunches or take them to school/pick them up - I never even got a single thank you but I did get a screaming banshee that more than doubled her weight.
"Absorber of costs" ?, since when is it cheaper to have a wife, as opposed to being a single man.
Are u high? Cheaper to be married? Wow
Amen!
You nailed it. I lost my house, my business and had to pay the legal costs when my ex refused to let me see my kids. Even though it was already court ordered shared custody, she got away with all the BS of denying me to see my kids. It cost me thousands just to be able to see my own kids even after the court ordered it. The law is so biased against men in divorce that I would recommend that men should NEVER ever get married. NEVER! It's a contract to your death! As a matter of fact, I now look at the grooms wedding as his funeral.
Sara is fired UP! I love it!
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥.....
Yeah I think I think this woman or this subject really pisses her off
Where is our paycheck for all the unpaid labor a man provides to a vvoman all this time ?
Exactly.. in these situations, usually the woman is living rent free, groceries free, utilities free etc
Being the gardener, the auto mechanic, the plumber, the electrician, the mover, the painter, et. al.
@@norseman4763today. The men are all that and the homaker.
I would have given this video 1000000 thumbs up if I could!
Best line from the Movie Jack Reacher " I'm not a h00ker ---- well then, I really Can't afford you.."
Another great line from that movie: “The cheapest woman tends to be the one you pay for.” Absolute truth there!
It is insane that family courts can send a man to jail for quitting their job. In no other circumstances would Americans accept the government forcing labor, but if you quit your job and miss a payment for alimony or child support they suddenly are criminals.
its called being a slave.
America treat men like this because they wont let there pay pigs get away.
And yet the women receiving this money aren't required to work. It should be mandatory that they become gainfully employed or lose the alimony and child support/custody.
@@drl5002💯
Pretty sure we have a word for that...
Forcing a man to work and stealing what he makes.
Oh yeah!
Slavery!
So much for the land of the free.
Your videos are probably saving lives at this point, please keep making them!
All they want is a BANK ACCOUNT..😂😂
Definitely. Don't get a joint account.
True, from my experience.
Let me assure you, no woman wants to broach this subject with me. 24 years ago my first wife left me to selfishly pursue her own freedom, actually she was running away from her problems. I fought for and got custody of our 3 teenager children and raised them as a single dad. It was tough, but it was also important to me to give them the best start in life. I have put in the years of effort to earn the right to not take any bullshit from bitter women who complain all men are trash. I’ll stand my ground and tell them they are wrong. Funny thing, I’ve not had to do this, guess word got out.
Sara is right on when she identifies this bitching as blame shifting. Bitter small minded women trying to escape their guilt.
Mad respect to you
You're a legend, lad. Much respect. 👏🏻🗿
Question, if I may ask...did your ex-wife try to contact you guys, get back together, etc., after the divorce and after you getting the full custody of your children?
@@Roddy_Zeh Roddy,
My ex-had a boyfriend that she eventually married. She never wanted to get back together, thank goodness. I was resisting her manipulations so she switched to an easier target. Her plan involved moving to a city 2 hours away to attend college. After a year and a half of that she flunked out, lied about still being enrolled, I caught her and cut back on the funding. She filed and ran. Had she wanted to return she knew I would insist on her getting a job and be a good wife and mother. She was not interested in any of that.
To illustrate what kind of person she is, she abandoned her 11 year old daughter then refused to talk to her on the phone. Brutal and callas.
@@markam306 First of all, thanks for answering. 😁👍🏻
Damn, that was ice-cold...😞 I'm sorry for what you and your children had to deal with. Judging by your first comment, despite all the struggles and challenges, you managed to overcome them all and came out victorious in the end, having raised your children. I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I'm legitimately happy for you all. 🙏🏻
And at least your children know her true colors. I don't think they'll want anything to do with her, even many more years later, if she try to reach out for whatever reason.
All the best to y'all and may good fortune find the path to your lives! 👏🏻😁
Congratulations you're a stand-up kind of guy and a bad part is you had to fight to begin with to get them to show what kind of man you was that's wrong in the court system
Sara spittin' fire and brimstone at the savages.
That was effing spectacular to actually witness a woman with empathy for a change.
Tis unfortunate it is so rare.
My divorce was finalized in 2002 and custody was finalized in 2003. That is because the initial custody was structured as 50/50, but after the ruling, my ex refused to see or communicate with our children in any way, shape, or form for almost nine months. The kids took it very hard and in 2003 I was awarded sole physical and legal custody of our children. My ex was then ordered to pay child support, so she quit her high paying job to avoid that obligation.
She continues - to this day - to tell the kids (now adults) that everything was my fault, that I am a horrible person, and has ended up poisoning her relationship with them. They can only stand being around her for a couple hours at a time. Both of my children have told me that they are very grateful for how I raised them and they can now, as adults, appreciate what I did for them throughout their lives. (That is the best feeling in the world.)
I don't think "resent" is the proper word for how I feel about my divorce and my ex's behavior afterwards. But "unpaid labor"? Get real.
Every single good man I know (including myself) has been utterly screwed over in a divorce. We are talking handsome, hard-working, devoted, "I would take a bullet for you" loyal, men. Let that sink in. Every. Single. One. Eff modern women.
It's always us, who love fiercely, getting the short end of the stick.
That's why I've gone MGTOW before they destroy me.
My step sister got divorced from her first husband and he was awarded custody of the kids along with everything else he wanted. Mind you this was in the late 1970s in Colorado. She bitched long and loud to my dad and her mom about how he took her to the cleaners, "he lied and on and on." I can't help but wonder what he had on her that he got such a favorable ruling in family court? I'd LOVE to ask him but sadly he's deceased.
My ex wife must be reading from the same playbook as the rest of these goofies. But I do appreciate having a advocate like Sara trying to stick up for up.
Gentlemen, keep this in mind. In today’s society, “abuse” is often accused when you say “no” to some whim or something impractical.
Some things I, as a narcissistic abuser have said “no” to:
- boob job
- lower back tramp stamp tattoo
- Kia Telluride, couldn’t afford $600-$700 per month payment, but we could afford $300 per month for a low mileage Sorento, to replace her aging Sorento
- camper, “but my ‘friends’ have one”
- jet skies “but my friends…”
- Razor “but my friends…”
- RV “but my friends…”
- larger house that would either be half empty or overflowing with crap we didn’t need “but my friends…”
Never mind, yep she’s right, I am an “abusive narcissist”. 😂
If the courts would treat a marriage contract, like an actual contract.
I for one will refuse to pay alimony. You want it? I gave everything I own to the local sports league. Put me in jail! I’d rather be there than pay for an ex. 😊
If you refuse to pay alimony for your own child, it kind of proves, why you are worthy of divorce and paying alimony in the first place
@ alimony is support for an ex. Child support is support for a kid. She isn’t my responsibility I don’t have to pay her bills. She can get a job.
@jankom.7783 I know plenty of mothers who just spend the money on themselves
@@Smokeybuhda 100%
@@jankom.7783 Alimony is for the ex, not the kids.
Facts. They are your friends.
I love this woman!
Thank you!
I resent having ten years of my life I can never get back wasted and having someone I loved completely, in spite of pure hell, rip my heart out and show it to me.
Thank you Sara. You are a treasure of a woman. I've been having to fight in court for 8 years to be in my son's life and yes, it was the other person that initiated it all yet I'm always accused of being the a**hole. My son is in my life on the weekends but I have had to fight for it while supporting two households as you put it.
Thank You, Sara. I struggle a lot with today’s dating and your videos remind me that being single is actually really nice.
Marriage is grand. Divorce is a hundred grand. That is enough to resent.
I saw a video the other day of a man who had to sell his stuff to pay child support. I was so grateful that I’m not in that position, but peace and blessings to the men who are I hope you make it back to freedom.
I have a friend who was going thru custody for his child. He got his court notice the day he was due in court. He was at work at the time and didn't get it till he got home. He showed me his court date and the mail stamp on the envelope. There was no way that letter would have gotten to him in time for him to make it to court. He lost his rights because of it. Their are a lot of dirt bags out there. But it goes both ways.
Absorder of costs? My ex made around 30k a year and managed to spend at least 40k every single year. Promised me no child support payments would happen and we'd just split costs. Changed her mind without even informing me (that's called lying kids) and even though we have 50/50 custody i still have to pay that cow almost 350 a month.
I can't tell you how much I appreciate your work. I would say more than anything, we resent showing up with sincerity, integrity, and honesty, and we fight through her insane bullshit for years, trying harder and harder to just get an ounce of love back for every pound we give, only to have her utilize the legal system to try to destroy us, spitting venom at us the entire time.
We're heartbroken and horrified that someone we invited into our inner sanctum could turn out to be so hateful and vile.
I appreciate this so much. Today has been a rough day mentally, bullying online is tough today. I appreciate your kindness.but also stay strong 💪🏻 you got this. Never give up on what’s important to you.
@saraeatononshorts Just remember that you are genuinely loved by thousands. It's not a love granted to you by how you were born, it's a love you've earned with your genuine courage, your sincere empathy, and your willingness to speak up when almost no one else was willing. You strike me as someone who is genuinely humble, so let me assure you, the good you have already done is tremendous. Your life matters. You truly matter. The haters are just a sign that you're messing with their racket, and that's a good sign.
As far as the NOT SHOWING UP AT THE DIVORCE COURT . . . .
What's the point, you know you're going to lose everything anyway . . . So, I needed to work, so that's what I did, I went to work that day.
My lawyer went to the Divorce Court and gave me the BAD NEWS, LATER.
When I was SHOCKED at what the JUDGE TOOK FROM ME . . . . .
My Divorce Attorney LAUGHED IN MY FACE!!!!!!!
He said: "Men ALMOST ALWAYS ALWAYS GET SCREWED OVER . . . . WHAT DID YOU EXPECT ?"
I can tell you . . . It was a RUDE SLAP IN THE FACE ! I was down FOR MONTHS . . . I LIVED IN SOME "RAT HOLES" for YEARS with the Child Support Payments . . . After 3 years. . . I got used to it.
BUT . . . . IT SERIOUSLY SEVERELY CHANGED MY LIFE . . . . and I bare, Not only emotional scars, but the FINANCIAL SCARS TO THIS DAY. Ahhhh. . . . it's Life. 👍
I'd say . . . if you can avoid a live in arrangement AVOID IT THEN . . . and don't get married . . . PROBABLY BEST TO NOT HAVE KIDS . . . BECAUSE THEN WOMEN CAN REALLY DIG THEIR CLAWS INTO YOU FOR YEARS . . .
And HALF THE TIME YOU CAN'T SEE YOUR KIDS FOR ONE REASON OR ANOTHER . . .
Good luck men . . . BE CAREFUL REAL CAREFUL - HONESTLY, it's pretty much A WAR ZONE - dealing with women.
Your lawyer was a swindler, you should've shown up.
You're SO pissed & SO right! Thank you very much.
No no , thank you!
During my divorce, every lawyer i had told me NOT TO WASTE MY TIME AND MONEY ON A CUSTODY BATTLE. I knew my ex was an abusive psycho and was powerless to stop her. I was proved right over time, and now my ex is a bitter alcoholic with no relationship with my kids. SERVES HER RIGHT.
Divorce was the most amazing blessing i ever had. Thank you so much
I saw this when I was a child in the mid-70s. I've never married. My father was the calmest, most easy-going person when he was single, but so uptight whenever he was married.
*Men do contest the hearings, but can't afford the retainer for a lawyer, so they lose to the ex who does have a lawyer.*
She has been planning this years in advance, so the allegations of DV are ready.
I did most of the "unpaid labor" in my marriage before my divorce.
I don't resent that at all. I can cook and clean just fine. What I do resent is giving a massive chunk of my paycheck every month to a woman who did nothing to earn it.
You COMPLETELY NAILED IT! Congrats on your deep insights, I've just discovered your channel and love it! Keep the good work. Greetings from Mexico.
That woman is ignorant.
Most are.
"It is known"
Ignorance would be an improvement, what she believes is the opposite of the truth.
HALLALUUUUYYAAAAA.! 😇❤️🥰❤️. GOD. BLESS YOU..!!
Not getting to see my kids everyday broke me.
I still wake up in the middle of the night crying. Because i bottle up everything inside like real men do. But the pain is still real.
Get a young girlfriend - it will help with the pain
@@nneisler I am good looking but I am barely making ends meet. Therefore i am not attractive to a younger women. I dont think i will ever get into another relationship. Women only take and never give. I am done. The little i have left in ressource and energy, i keep for myself for my stability. I have nothing more to give.
Holy sh*t! I know where you’re coming from. My kids were devastated as well. What also broke me was my wife was cheating and my kid’s pain didn’t matter to her. It was the most evil and vile sh*t I’ve seen in my life. She never cried and carried on like life was normal.
@@celuiquipeut6527women are going to take something but it doesn’t have to be your money. Sometimes all they wanna take is the D
Lawyer told me it would be an uphill battle and very costly. Women are viewed as victims, so the get preferential treatment from the courts
Wow. 😮 I felt that. That was a solid rant. She had my undivided attention. As men that have been through some or all or more of those sorts of things, you automatically wonder what life would have been like with someone with an attitude like this. It seems so foreign.
Thanks!
You are so loyal to my platform, I thank you so much.
I don't resent my spouse for filing for divorce after having helped her while she went from high graduate to college graduate. I even tried to help her get a doctorate degree but she was kicked out of that program. I tried taking care of her while she suffered both mental and physical health problems. And I still don't resent her. I always wanted her to be happy. Turns out she just needed to get away from me to he happy. I'm definitely a lot less stressed not trying to do everything for someone who never appreciated it. I'm also glad I'm not a woman, they appear to be perpetually unhappy.
Miss. Sara thank you for telling it like it truly is in the real world. Keep up the good work
You are right on, with a lot of things, I've went through it, it's a devastating betrayel when your ex turns into a monster and trys to destroy your character and trys to take everything from you
Thank you my sister. Finally a good woman that speaks the truth
Thanks Sara. I appreciate you
The support on this platform has literally saved my life! I should be thanking you. Thank you!
The support on this platform has literally saved my life! I should be thanking you. Thank you!
I would NEVER get married without a prenup. Divorcing me would NOT be their payday. I'd stay single for life before getting married without a prenuptial agreement.
Unfortunately, pre and post-nups are contestable and get thrown out pretty often.
@MrHyperion2011 I stand by my comment.
Don't give her the prenup. Tell her that on x date we have an appointment with your lawyer. Tell her that she will need to get a lawyer to represent you. Give her enough time to find a lawyer. Then together you can sit down and work it out. You don't want to just blindside her with a document and ask her to sign. If you do that she can later say "she didn't understand" or "she was under emotional duress". Things like this matter if you want your prenup to stand up in court. Take your time. Do it the right way. Work it out together in a fair way with her there in the process with her lawyer.
@@JohnSmithEx I wouldn't blindside anyone. I would record if need be. I would tell them upfront same as here, there's 0 chance of marriage without a prenup, if that'd be a deal breaker then we could go our seperate ways 🤷♂️.
@@JohnSmithEx. Why go through all that just to be married? Just remain single.
I think every man that listens to your videos from time to time instantly wishes you lived 2 miles away from them, were single and would hopefully fall in love with them.
Whoever your man is he is truly a lucky man Sara Eaton.
Of course. There should also be alimony coming back the other way in some form.
Omg! Good sane and intelligent women do exist.
Thanks for speaking up for us.❤
OMG, Sarah you make me cry with joy!!!
Sarah is a unicorn, where can I find one like her.
Your a legend Sara ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
What do we look like contesting custody for a being you pushed out of you?
But
You have no problem trying to steal a house you didnt buy
I think a lot of men resent marriage for all the sex that isn't happening.
Could be one of the reasons, but not the primary one.
Mostly, we are hurt by the realisation that the woman of our dreams never cared for us.
@@Farhan_049 Yes, agreed. Men eventually realize that they are simply a means to an end for a Woman, that has nothing to do with actual love or affection.
@@Farhan_049 well, those are both kind of bundled together
Wow! She's answerd every question I've ever had. Just think, I was so beaten down that I carried unnecessary pain and guilt due to being gaslighted. It's witch craft at its finest.
You’re exactly right that’s exactly how I feel! Thank you🙏
Can we please have more women like you ?🙏🥺😢😭 please raise your daughters in your skills you are absolutely pure gold and i love you for your view point 🥺 it feels completely unrealistic to me that a woman like you even exist 😭 you are a 10/10 and who ever your husband is please give him a high five from me and tell him he found the perfect woman 🥹
Women demand that men communicate their emotions and be emotionally available… but the reason we don’t is because we know as soon as we do it will force that woman to have to acknowledge that she probably had something to do with how we feel and she will not take responsibility for it , if it was something she had a hand in causing… so we deal with it in silence because it is better than fighting or being told that we are being dramatic, or being gaslighted!
Fuck it I’m so done!
Sara, you're spot on with this
Thank you again Sara. Much love and support to you! 🤗🤗🤗😘🥰
OMG. Thank you Sara. I love U!❤
I am so glad you are making these videos.
Sara...tell us what you REALLY think. 😂
You're spot on. Too many (not all) just milk the system and sponge off the former husband.
A woman once wanted a divorce judge to award HER for years of unpaid labor. Things like Daycare, Teacher's salary, Chef's Salary, Maid's Salary, Nurse's Salary and the list went on. The judge smartly denied it because it would've opened a Pandora's box of things the men could've been compensated for in a divorce proceeding. So to answer the question, YES men resent not being compensated for labor. We also are resentful for lack of consideration for who paid for what during a marriage.
Marriage has become an Unrealized Gains tax - The divorce laws that have marital assets split 50/50 are a man-tax on the supposed unrealized gains of the woman (I’m assuming a stay-at-home wife scenario). She “could have” had a career and made lots of money, but he convinced her to marry him, so now she supposedly deserves to be rewarded with half of his assets. Never mind that… 1. Most women marry UP to get someone of better financial potential to begin with, and that gain is ignored. 2. She might have never had a career and made lots of money, but that is not considered. 3. She may have already wasted a lot of his money, but that is not considered. 4. He could have made even more money if he had not married her, but that is not considered.
The 50/50 claim is a scam disguised as a moral good that is often a terrible injustice to men. Stop the Unrealized Gains Tax on married men!
@@kevingeorge1095 Or men need to stop getting married!
Preach sister!
Men resent divorce because it proves that she was never worth marrying in the first place... We provide EVERYTHING to obtain and sustain a decent lifestyle for our woman and children but lose all we've been sacrificing ourselves for when she decides shes bored and wants to sleep with other people while neglecting her duties as a wife and mother.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you Miss Sara
Imagine sitting at home all day doing literally nothing compared to your partner and then wanting money for said lazing around. 🙄
Ladies, washing dishes and laundry, cooking... these are not "labor". They are basic functions of survival. If you were not present, the mans life would be unchanged. If the man isnt present, your life goes to complete choas.
Exactly they would be doing it regardless
Right. Children under 10 can be taught to do most of the cleaning, and over 10 they can be taught to do most of the cooking. I was a widower with children, so I know both sides. The female side is incredibly simple (but still important).
Sharp and accurate, once again
Preach.
I'm retired at 27, went from Grace to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤
Amen, Sister. I went through all you discussed.
Absolute truth..
Zero self-awareness in the first woman. None.
Majority of women today are like that.
Thank u Sarah
Holy crap! this lady gets it!
I watch your videos often and I agree with you 99% of the time and it's not because I am a man it is because you do your research and you have the facts
Spot on !
“How about trying to make your marriage work”. This is the biggest issue these days. Women seem to think marriages are disposable.
I don't know that I would be better off, had my father obtained custody.
I do know, my mother should never have had custody.
This one cuts deep. So correct, and I swore I would never weaponize my kids through the course of the divorce
In court, a mother's love is assumed and a man must proven with ever dollar he has.
I got 100% custody after a three year fight. The mom got away with not paying child support for over a decade.
I started proceedings in court against my ex so I could have 50 percent shared care . She was a serial adulterer , she was a very lazy mother , a poor house keeper but she was still their mother and deserved to see her children 50 percent of the time . She on the other hand thought she could control my contact with my children . She had zero ability to put the children first and the judge awarded me exactly what I wanted . I met another lady and we raised the children together and now they are adults making their own way . The ex ? Well she’s in her 50s been married and divorced 2 times and is still rudder less in life . If only I had and older head on my young shoulders back then .
Mis Sara i will have to start download your videos and public it in my social media thank you so much
It is usually the woman that wants to get married and the woman that then want to get divorced.
“Let’s be so for real” ❤
I didn't fight because I didn't want to put my kids through the bs because I thought she was a good mom. That is, until her new husband abused my kid and she sided with him.
well said!
Thank you 😊
Let's be very honest, in California, us males are guilty from birth until proven guilty.
Amen!!!
Well Sara, you seem to really get us. I hope this translates in your own relationships as a healthy experience.
Thank you. Exactly. I loved all that I put up with. She didnt
well said......
Boy is she clueless.
She isn't actually clueless -- she's in denial.
@ You are now validated through your comment!
100% true. A woman with 0% accountability is a child.