The explanation of happiness is a choice we make every day, and it s like a muscle that you have to "work out" to master this skill. It s a very complete course and yet easy explained and science based with simple examples. I recommend all my family and friends to study this. Im much happier now, i see happiness every day on the little, quotidian things, and above all, im very grateful and fulfilled.
Happiness varies from day to day . I can be happy at some point everyday. If I start feeling depressed, I’ll exercise and then I’ll feel great actually. Get a nice shower, stay neat and clean. Maintain my appearance the best I can and it gives me self respect. I’m happier now in my 60’s than I’ve ever been in my life . This is freedom. Being a teenager was freedom because we have no financial stress but we have school stress. Now as long as you are financially independent and physically fit life is good every minute. But a good part of that is from the sacrifices I made in the years before that because I visualized this in my thirties. When you reach the age where your parents passed away then it your time to just enjoy a peaceful, fun life. Be kind, be happy, be generous in whatever way you can and it will come back to you. You reap what you sow. God bless
That's not always true. You decide who your friends are. Your friends may not know their habits are unhealthy, or maybe they're not smart enough to know the impacts of the bad habits. Anyone who encourages you to do something they know to be harmful is not a good friend and either needs support in their own crisis, or is a bad match for you.
I struggle with my wellness sometimes. the high and lows come but right now after three years of recovery and actually listenning, truly studying , has helped me grow and that i am in control of my happiness... by being humble and above all striving for what is right... idk how to write well but im trying my best daily to do what i need. im thankful to come accross this video , its proven to me that I AM ON THE RIGHT PATH TO MY RECOVERY... DONT GIVE UP IF YOUR TRYING > WE ARE ROOTING FOR YOU!~
Very simplified western-centric perspective. It works in our modern materialistic Western world - to a degree. He said it requires you to “be strong”, so requiring willpower, discipline, work, which is all well and good. What if one year,after practicing all these, he still isn’t happy? That’ll probably get him into a downward spiral. Equanimity with how things are is the Buddhist perspective, so he gets close to that idea. One aspect he misses is, look at why you want certain things - that why could give you clues as to what you’re truly seeking. I do agree that the journey, the search is an essential part of life, and embracing that rather than focusing on the final point does bring more happiness.
The point Arthur is making is simply doing anything for happiness is going to lead to unhappiness, so your goal should always be towards progress instead of happiness
Faith. I could work on that. Family- what if your family is toxic or they don’t care about being your family. And say you’re dealing with conditional love? Friends? Everyone is fake and shallow. It be nice to have REAL friends. But how does one make REAL friends in their forties? Or when your life is work, home, sleep, repeat? And maybe I can do the last one. But still I want more. I want a f*cking raise. I work hard. Very hard. And regardless of whether I get my license or not…I deserve a raise.
only Prof Brooks is able to breakdown the maths of happiness from all my googling. my own simplification is: Happiness = Enjoying Entertainment/Food + Keep Exercising /Learning + Being Contented/Appreciative.
Fascinante yo supe de este hombre maravilloso gracias a un libro de Andrés opennheimer hace referencia a su trabajo y aquí estoy, una cosa buena me trajo a otra mejor.❤❤
Friends with good habits & healthy attitude. People who are grateful and see the good & positive. Stay away from people who have victim mentality. Always looking for drama & complaining& ungrateful.
A fantastic talk! I have been studying and teaching the science of happiness for 5-years and I truly valued how you framed the formula and the way you talked about how we need to go back to our baseline with our emotions. Go contrary to our nature is powerful and not talked about enough. I also LOVED the Dalai Lama quote that you shared. I studied with Dr. Ben-Shahar who used to be at Harvard and hope to study with you one day.
Buddhist story and joke Story: someone tells a Buddhist monk “I want happiness” and the monk says ok 1. You must remove “i” for that is the ego 2. You must remove “want” because that’s desire 3. You’re left with “happiness” Although to be fair happiness can be be defined differently like success, freedom, and love Joke: What the did the Buddhist say to the hot dog vendor? “Make me one with everything” 😅😂
I think there are some really good points in this talk, but only a privileged person can say that politics is "trivial" - politics can be life or death. And not all family relationships are necessarily beneficial for everyone - there are plenty of toxic and abusive families out there, and 'chosen family' can be just as important and meaningful.
Hello! This is Curtis from Ohio and I just wanted to give you a suggestion about that suit that you’re wearing that suit jacket seems to be fitting you uncomfortable or you seem to be uncomfortable in it somehow. I would suggest getting a bigger jacket or unbuttoning it when you’re up there talking and moving around. You looked constrained by it.
I find I'm most happiest when working towards goals, which is mostly financial freedom and higher quality standard of living. Is this considered "work" 🤔
Great to know how rich Ivory tower people are dealing with unhappiness. I guess everybody else struggling with insanely high rent, insurance cost, food cost, taxes of every conceivable kind should just “not want stuff”. Normal people can’t get out from under thousands of dollars per month of bills which they cannot opt out of. You cannot get off the treadmill. You’re not allowed.
So that formula explain why people suddenly get rich, for example lottery. Their life will become miserable soon. As the haves having more… the wants goes up even more… so even less satisfying… at the end of the day all money spent and back to poor.
My mission is Arthur C Brooks, please no more spread out about some negativity had to be done, cause not everyone has good understanding especially the kid, its dangerous if they heard what Arthur statement without parents, Arthur.. I say to you, the negativity so easily to come up everytime everywhere by anyone, automaticly.. So pls don't ask to show off the negativity by fully awareness, must better ask about the love... Nit everyone wanna it
The suffering, faith, or life philosphy argument has already been made by Jordan Peterson; not new at all. The reverse bucket argument is a negative assertion, instead of an affirming one. Has the author thought that perhaps his method could better be construed and applied as Sheryl Crow sang it long ago: "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got." Ridding yourself of cravings for things, people, experiences, etc that you truly enjoy, and from which you gain satisfaction, do give you purpose. Denying yourself is just being austere. Want what you've got, appreciate it, share it, enjoy it. Reductive minimalism is what this author poses. And attaching it all to the concept of a "personal brand" is where it all falls apart. You are a person, an individual, not a "brand". A brand is made to sell, made to entice, made to stir cravings, made to stir emotion. All of those things are contrary to what the author says and writes. Sorry, but his argumentation is flawed.
God loves you and takes care of you for the arrival of this message to you. God exists and He is the one who controls the universe. The biggest loss that a person can lose in this life is to live and die without knowing God and His Messenger Muhammad and the Islamic religion is the last religion after the Torah and the Bible. I advise you who read this message to read The Qur’an is translated in its own language, and after that, you can decide whether you are convinced of it or not. What is your feeling after death, and you see what awaits you from God’s torment, an eternal loss of intelligence to know and read, and you have the judgment after your conviction.
glad you find comfort in a book that was written after Muhammad died by his brothers. Religious and sacred books are about others experiences. Using them as a guide helps one live a better life. I find peace in knowing I do not know anything but the moment. If I am not content, it is my disconnect with the eternal. Seek and you will find.
I highly recommend his course on managing happiness. It changed my life! And it s 100% free.
What insights from his course changed your life?
The explanation of happiness is a choice we make every day, and it s like a muscle that you have to "work out" to master this skill. It s a very complete course and yet easy explained and science based with simple examples. I recommend all my family and friends to study this. Im much happier now, i see happiness every day on the little, quotidian things, and above all, im very grateful and fulfilled.
Bunch of bs
@@valescaladeira did you not already understand that it's part of being human
@@valescaladeira Thank you for encouraging others who want to learn new wellness skills!
7:00 Treadmill
8:00 Haves/Wants ratio
12:00 *Faith, family, friends and work*
Happiness varies from day to day . I can be happy at some point everyday. If I start feeling depressed, I’ll exercise and then I’ll feel great actually. Get a nice shower, stay neat and clean. Maintain my appearance the best I can and it gives me self respect. I’m happier now in my 60’s than I’ve ever been in my life . This is freedom. Being a teenager was freedom because we have no financial stress but we have school stress. Now as long as you are financially independent and physically fit life is good every minute. But a good part of that is from the sacrifices I made in the years before that because I visualized this in my thirties. When you reach the age where your parents passed away then it your time to just enjoy a peaceful, fun life. Be kind, be happy, be generous in whatever way you can and it will come back to you. You reap what you sow. God bless
this man is a great public speaker
Healthy friendships- Anyone who introduces you to bad habits is not your friend.
That's not always true. You decide who your friends are. Your friends may not know their habits are unhealthy, or maybe they're not smart enough to know the impacts of the bad habits. Anyone who encourages you to do something they know to be harmful is not a good friend and either needs support in their own crisis, or is a bad match for you.
Happiness comes from within yourself ❤️
This guy is incredible. Impactful!
I struggle with my wellness sometimes. the high and lows come but right now after three years of recovery and actually listenning, truly studying , has helped me grow and that i am in control of my happiness... by being humble and above all striving for what is right... idk how to write well but im trying my best daily to do what i need. im thankful to come accross this video , its proven to me that I AM ON THE RIGHT PATH TO MY RECOVERY... DONT GIVE UP IF YOUR TRYING > WE ARE ROOTING FOR YOU!~
Awesome! And we're rooting for you, too.
Wow happy that its proven to you. I m always so sad these days Hope you stay happy.
You're a legend
Dr Arthur is amazing! I love his work. We need his talks now more than ever.
yep!
lovely. I have been following Arthur's works for a while and what he says makes complete sense.
Very simplified western-centric perspective. It works in our modern materialistic Western world - to a degree. He said it requires you to “be strong”, so requiring willpower, discipline, work, which is all well and good. What if one year,after practicing all these, he still isn’t happy? That’ll probably get him into a downward spiral. Equanimity with how things are is the Buddhist perspective, so he gets close to that idea. One aspect he misses is, look at why you want certain things - that why could give you clues as to what you’re truly seeking. I do agree that the journey, the search is an essential part of life, and embracing that rather than focusing on the final point does bring more happiness.
Because he is Western
And it's actually an eastern concept... So...
The point Arthur is making is simply doing anything for happiness is going to lead to unhappiness, so your goal should always be towards progress instead of happiness
i dont get how this only have views as of 12/29/2022. this is golden
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Don't focus on the numbers
Maybe...Always from Servanthood within the contentment of true Salvation. Eternal life in Christ
Flop
Excellent talk !
I will be taking your class at Harvard. Thank you for offering this course!
Faith. I could work on that. Family- what if your family is toxic or they don’t care about being your family. And say you’re dealing with conditional love? Friends? Everyone is fake and shallow. It be nice to have REAL friends. But how does one make REAL friends in their forties? Or when your life is work, home, sleep, repeat? And maybe I can do the last one. But still I want more. I want a f*cking raise. I work hard. Very hard. And regardless of whether I get my license or not…I deserve a raise.
Maybe you have to step out of the box you’ve chosen, and try another.
Simplified Living..
Get close.
only Prof Brooks is able to breakdown the maths of happiness from all my googling.
my own simplification is:
Happiness = Enjoying Entertainment/Food + Keep Exercising /Learning + Being Contented/Appreciative.
Fascinante yo supe de este hombre maravilloso gracias a un libro de Andrés opennheimer hace referencia a su trabajo y aquí estoy, una cosa buena me trajo a otra mejor.❤❤
Thank you for your talk Arthur. The work you so is so amazing. Thank you!😀
Friends with good habits & healthy attitude. People who are grateful and see the good & positive. Stay away from people who have victim mentality. Always looking for drama & complaining& ungrateful.
Simplified living 👍
A fantastic talk! I have been studying and teaching the science of happiness for 5-years and I truly valued how you framed the formula and the way you talked about how we need to go back to our baseline with our emotions. Go contrary to our nature is powerful and not talked about enough. I also LOVED the Dalai Lama quote that you shared. I studied with Dr. Ben-Shahar who used to be at Harvard and hope to study with you one day.
Buddhist story and joke
Story: someone tells a Buddhist monk “I want happiness” and the monk says ok 1. You must remove “i” for that is the ego 2. You must remove “want” because that’s desire 3. You’re left with “happiness”
Although to be fair happiness can be be defined differently like success, freedom, and love
Joke: What the did the Buddhist say to the hot dog vendor? “Make me one with everything” 😅😂
Very good
I think there are some really good points in this talk, but only a privileged person can say that politics is "trivial" - politics can be life or death. And not all family relationships are necessarily beneficial for everyone - there are plenty of toxic and abusive families out there, and 'chosen family' can be just as important and meaningful.
"Precisamos aprender a querer o que temos, e não ter o que queremos..."
Dalai-lama sobre ter satisfação na vida.
Sheryl Crow’s not getting what you want / it’s wanting what you’ve got… ; )
God i really need this
The formula for satisfaction has been published by others previously like Alain De Botton
Well said👍
Hello! This is Curtis from Ohio and I just wanted to give you a suggestion about that suit that you’re wearing that suit jacket seems to be fitting you uncomfortable or you seem to be uncomfortable in it somehow. I would suggest getting a bigger jacket or unbuttoning it when you’re up there talking and moving around. You looked constrained by it.
New concept, and I like it. But I still want a pool. The point is, can I be happy without it?
But does wanting less have no self development..? I haven't truly got it yet😢
I wonder if he got this theory of what is happiness before or after he was successful in his life.
I find I'm most happiest when working towards goals, which is mostly financial freedom and higher quality standard of living.
Is this considered "work" 🤔
Great to know how rich Ivory tower people are dealing with unhappiness. I guess everybody else struggling with insanely high rent, insurance cost, food cost, taxes of every conceivable kind
should just “not want stuff”. Normal people can’t get out from under thousands of dollars per month of bills which they cannot opt out of. You cannot get off the treadmill. You’re not allowed.
Move.
I'm willing to bet you're overweight
So that formula explain why people suddenly get rich, for example lottery. Their life will become miserable soon. As the haves having more… the wants goes up even more… so even less satisfying… at the end of the day all money spent and back to poor.
Joy of the Lord...Jesus ecxeeds all happiness
This is undeniable and irrefutable.
No one else put off the by dead fish?
My mission is Arthur C Brooks, please no more spread out about some negativity had to be done, cause not everyone has good understanding especially the kid, its dangerous if they heard what Arthur statement without parents, Arthur.. I say to you, the negativity so easily to come up everytime everywhere by anyone, automaticly.. So pls don't ask to show off the negativity by fully awareness, must better ask about the love... Nit everyone wanna it
With stable satisfaction could you not fall into conformism in some way?
He’s so very overrated!
Don’t waste your money.
He is on to something though
the class is free.
Someone needs to work on managing their happiness
The smell of turkey cooking isn’t happiness for the turkey. Js
I hate my family
The suffering, faith, or life philosphy argument has already been made by Jordan Peterson; not new at all. The reverse bucket argument is a negative assertion, instead of an affirming one. Has the author thought that perhaps his method could better be construed and applied as Sheryl Crow sang it long ago: "It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got." Ridding yourself of cravings for things, people, experiences, etc that you truly enjoy, and from which you gain satisfaction, do give you purpose. Denying yourself is just being austere. Want what you've got, appreciate it, share it, enjoy it. Reductive minimalism is what this author poses. And attaching it all to the concept of a "personal brand" is where it all falls apart. You are a person, an individual, not a "brand". A brand is made to sell, made to entice, made to stir cravings, made to stir emotion. All of those things are contrary to what the author says and writes. Sorry, but his argumentation is flawed.
what a weird body language lmao
What a concept 😂😂😂 telling people to pay you so there happy
God loves you and takes care of you for the arrival of this message to you. God exists and He is the one who controls the universe. The biggest loss that a person can lose in this life is to live and die without knowing God and His Messenger Muhammad and the Islamic religion is the last religion after the Torah and the Bible. I advise you who read this message to read The Qur’an is translated in its own language, and after that, you can decide whether you are convinced of it or not. What is your feeling after death, and you see what awaits you from God’s torment, an eternal loss of intelligence to know and read, and you have the judgment after your conviction.
glad you find comfort in a book that was written after Muhammad died by his brothers. Religious and sacred books are about others experiences. Using them as a guide helps one live a better life. I find peace in knowing I do not know anything but the moment. If I am not content, it is my disconnect with the eternal. Seek and you will find.
John 3:16 please remember He, by His Name is the Only Way. Jesus the Christ, Lamb of Godand Lord of Lord's Amen
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World's most respected religious figure = Jesus Christ > Dalai Lama
Dalai Lama is a respected person you can go meet. So you don't have to fantasize what he said ... because you hear him say it
Jesus never existed, he's a myth.