Do you think self care is really now consumerism and overconsumption? What is your meaning of self care? Also what percent is your phone 🔋on right now? I'm on 64% but it's 10:40 p.m. lol
I remember when my self care routine used to be one body lotion and one face cream. I was even using my body lotion on my face. Ever since I started doing the whole scrub, cleanser, serums thing my skin in now f$&ked up more than ever. Now I keep having to change products to correct the problems the previous products have caused.
@Queen-xq4dj I have had a similar experience when I was younger. I have VERY SENSITIVE SKIN and spent so much money trying to clear it up in the past with products. I now seem a dermatologist and aesthetician because I have no clue what I'm doing. I do understand this is a privilege to see my aesthetician for treatments and not a necessity so I'm am blesses and grateful. I hope you are able t find something that works well for your skin! I know how annoying this can be.
Ikr. Started investing instead of consooming and for the first time in my life I actually feel like I am doing something for me. I wish I could get the money back of every product I ever bought, it was worthless. Except for books and some pretty clothes, and my all time fav essential makeup, it all wasn't worth it.
NOW THAT IM WATCHING IT AGAIN I JUST NOTICED THAT PROBABLY ISNT SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN😭⁉️ like miss girl glycolic acid is suppose to remove dead skin cells not melt off your skin
I’m not sure where she’s from based on her accent, but at least in America I feel like that’s because debt is so normalized. Everytime I use my credit card, I enter debt. It’s encouraged to enter debt to go to school. Most people won’t be able to buy a house or car without entering some sort of debt (a loan is a form of debt). So while I don’t know if she was raised in a similar environment, but at least for Americans, I completely understand why they don’t see stuff like afterpay as debt- it’s just like a credit card, and your parents needed those to get approved for a home loan, so what’s the big deal? (sarcasm, in case you didn’t realize, 740$ in afterpay is a big deal).
@@neonradiusso true because outside the west (U.S especially), where credit cards are not really a thing, debt is mostly from loans and such so it's easier to see those as debts but when you're used to needing to have a credit card just to get a credit score to buy a house etc, it can be difficult to understand
DUDE this is why I don’t trust afterpay. I remember I started seeing it as an option and immediately distrusted. Like if I am going to go into debt over something… it’s going to be a large purchase like a car (and even then my ass is avoiding those luxury vehicles that put people in money pits 😭). I’m not gonna finance some name brand slides or some BPAL perfume cause if I don’t have the money for it then I don’t need it right now.
I did AfterPay twice for some bigger tech items (my computer needed replacement parts) and even though I could afford the payments, it felt like my soul died every time that pay date came
Exactly I am trying to get out of it now. It is like an addiction. People trying to convince you hoarding is a Hobby or collection but it is really is hoarding. I am realizing this.
I don’t look at myself as a hoarder. My cousin did tell me I was a hoarder after I let her come in my bedroom. She saw all of the fragrances and the baskets of products from Lush that I had bought during co vid. A hoarder doesn’t give things away they keep everything. I have given away lots a lots of new items that I bought and never used. I never invite people in my bedroom anymore 😂
I think “self care” has really become a way of consumerism and overconsumption. My definition of self care is just that, things to take care of myself such as basic hygiene(toothpaste, body wash, shampoo, etc) and gym membership. When I buy these self care products they’re $20 max and I buy them every 3-4 months, only buy when I run out.
It's refreshing to see someone with a practical approach to self-care! It's getting wild out here. By all means if people can afford it TRULY I see no issue but MOST can't keep up with all these products coming out and luxury services.
@@SocialSymoneExactly hopefully you can make a series of these videos to keep us on our tolls. The way people are bombarding us with consumerism is wild. We need you to knock us back unto reality.
yes! self care isn’t buying $100 skincare, it’s brushing your teeth twice a day so you don’t spend thousands on dental care later in life or getting a physical from your primary care doctor every year
My self care involves being debt free, growing through reading books and listening to helpful podcasts or videos, having a tidy and clean living space, getting plenty of sleep, eating at home as much as possible, and enjoying simple treats like a cup of coffee or tea and a homemade goody.
Same here. Having nutritious meals, excercising, getting enough sleep, spending time with loved ones. Not getting myself into debt except my mortgage . That’s the ultimate self care.
It's bc we live in the internet age where we get things so much faster. Online shopping is my struggle (but also going to stores lol) oh well im working on it
I agree. I had a period of not being able to delay gratification after a sudden death in my family - I took "buy it now, what if you're dead tomorrow" to the extreme. Luckily I went nuts on craft supplies that I still use today, and not perishable overpriced trend products. Still, not being able to wait for something or try out something else is really bad, because the next "what if..." is always right behind it.
Oh I know many families already in the gutter because of overconsumption. Usually the woman who can't stop spending clothes, shoes and home decoration.
I paused the video at 3:30. Getting botox before the age of 25 is honestly so nuts. Not only is her face going to be permanently frozen in certain areas once she hits her mid-40s if she continues to get injected regularly with that toxin, she also will have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on a treatment she never needed in the first place. The beauty industry has to be growing rapidly with the rise of social media and increased pressure to look "perfect."
It’s actually not about her age. All people age differently and have diffenent muscle movement, so one person can really have those forehead wrinkles at 20 if the muscles are very active and another person will not have those wrinkles visible at 30.
to add on to the person above me, i have always have smile lines. bc i well, smile a lot XD. but i don't like them. they've always made me look old so i get her wanting botox at such a young age.
Self-care has been twisted into a strategy to get people (often women) to buy things they don't need and weren't even thinking of buying. Really crazy how much these impulse purchases are usually the opposite of self-care in the end. Recently I'm also seeing the word "hygiene" being used in the titles of videos of this kind, while showcasing products that aren't even remotely necessary for basic hygiene. It's all manipulating people into feeling that splurging on this stuff is a good thing. PS: the girl in the video adding up the list for "the cost of being a hot girl" needs to realize that none of this is "the norm to get in your 20s". Most people in that age range don't have the disposable income to do that. I wish people like this would join the real world. Oh, and if your forehead slightly wrinkles when you move it, that means you're a normal young human, not that you "need" botox.
I couldn't agree more! It's like they're trying to convince us that buying a face cream will solve all our life problems. If only skincare could pay our bills or helps pay for all those products too 😂
As a recovering shopping addict, I am on a strict no buy to pay back some debt (incurred from self care products). Now that I'm looking at what I actually need and should spend my money on, I only use maybe 5-6 products versus the 20 I was using before. My skin and Wallet are much happier.
HELL YES!! As someone who has a job in sales with skincare/cosmetics, I love hearing that people will actually use the things that they buy until they run out. I’m so proud of you!
@@vannisworld No, I'm probably not the target audience for this video. I mainly just have shampoo, body wash, and sunscreen for when I go outside haha 🤣
I'm turning 27 this year and I can't deal with the shame that comes with being broke all the time. All my "nice things" don't fix the financial insecurity and shame.. and this video made me realise just that! Girly thank you so much! You gave me an epiphany and inspiration to be financially responsible. THAT is self-care!
Check out Caleb Hammer and his Financial Audit videos. Some of his guests make over $100,000/year and can’t get out of debt because they have zero control over their behaviors. Then, check out the Dave Ramsey live episodes to learn how to change behaviors! 😀
The finger tapping on products drives me insane😂 maybe because I equate that with something they are trying to get you to buy, not sure but I hate it lol
@Laurelend the worst part with the lotion sounds is that they're squirting out at least 5 x more product than you actually need to use at one time, just for the sound + to shove it in your face even more
This is why I only take advice from dermatologists and professional makeup artists. I feel they’re more real and less about shoving products in your face. I don’t follow any of these influencers anymore. I stopped following the beauty community in 2018 because it was too much over consumption and I had thousands of pounds worth of expired makeup and it was a disgusting waste and disrespect to the planet.
My only skincare routine is cleanser moisturiser sunscreen. Thats it. Maybe weekly homemade facepacks or scrub for good skin health. I even saw a tiktok where a lady used at least 10 products JUST FOR SHOWERING like lade why you need body butter on top of ur moisturiser and body oil? Now yound girls will think they will need these stuff to look better
What’s interesting is a lot of professional makeup artists will say, “You don’t need all this unless you’re building a pro kit”. They also tend to rely on much cheaper products - think William Tuttle foundation or Cetaphil. I’ve never seen many say, “You NEED the biggest jar of La Mer!”
Y’all ever notice how things that are considered “self-care“ are just normal things that people should be doing as part of their daily lives? Grocery shopping for healthier foods and cooking at home, going for a walk, socializing with family and friends, dedicating time to hobbies and passions that you like. Modern society treats self care as a luxury and not as something that is vital to our well being. The better we take care of ourselves the better we can take care of those around us.
I don't like showers at all so I take long baths every other day. I light candles, I read, I listen to music, I watch TH-cam or Netflix, I shave, massage my head, slowly wash and massage my face, just sit and breathe and think and relax. None of that requires specialist products. At all! Just time to myself 🥰
I really appreciate these videos. I'm 34 and I love that you're targeted to young women that you don't need to keep up with social media and the rest of everyone else because what's seen as "normal" is just really fake and mostly these people are in debt.
No problem at all! I am so glad these type of videos are helpful to you. My goal is always to help SOMEBODY and I am grateful to be able to do that and appreciate you for listening. You are VERY correct, nobody has to conform to that madness. People who really like you, will like you for you regardless IMO. I hate seeing the youth overspending to keep up with what's online. 💕
@SocialSymone Exactly, please do more videos like this one. People are trying to keep up with the "Jones," but there are no more "Jones" to keep up with. Thank you for trying to help up keep money in our accounts.
@SocialSymone Especially with Tictok selling and making things go viral for extra consumption. It has become a home shopping network on that app. I am glad I really don't use it.
I am learning this over consumption. I have minimalist journey in January. I am moving, and you all should see things I haven't even touched (makeup, skincare, and perfume (in which I was avid collectors of over 400 bottles). I have stopped purchasing so many items. I have unsubscribed from emails and Facebook groups to help my transition.
That's fantastic! Simplifying your life can bring so much clarity and peace. Best of luck on your minimalist journey! I had a similar thing with hair products. I was shocked how deep into it I got. Being conscious is the best thing for you in the end. 💕💕💕💕
I wish you the best of luck in your journey! Whew chile, them moves can be an eye opener, can't they?! Been there and here to let you know it gets better🙂
I actually like watching them (I don’t pay attention to the product) because i go through bouts of depression and seeing such gentle care makes me inspired to care for myself even if it’s just for a day or two. But i don’t normally focus on the products i just like the lighting, soft sounds and texture they show me.
@@moonshineaudios5740 I don’t mind the self care part, and that’s wonderful that they can help you in that way! Sometimes it’ll remind me to do the same. But the constant tapping and scrapping, and rubbing irritates me like no other. I might be broken idk lol
Thank you for sharing! Consumerism is terrible for the environment too. We don't see the trash after we get rid of it, but it goes somewhere and the planet and our future generations of humans will suffer.
First: stay away from social media. You can do it. It's not hard. Second: the only self care is free time in nature. And that's free. Thank you for your work and bringing attention to this first world problem. We should be ashamed.
I recently found out that I don't need all that products that influencers are trying to sell us. I was shopping at mall, looking at clothes, haircare, skincare, makeup, perfumes, and thought "this makes no sense at all, it's all the same and I have these things at home already". Because who needs 10 th crop top which looks almost exactly the same? And who needs a thousands of different blushes, when an old eyeshadow palette does just fine? Why would I buy hundreds of skincare products, when my skin is not very problematic? It all just takes space.
Honestly, this is why me and my family shop at thrift stores for clothes. Sure, places like Goodwill don't have as much quality control, but there are plenty of places like Savers for example, that do. And you get those products cheaper than you would get them new. Especially, ESPECIALLY when it comes to kids clothing! I have a 1 and 2 year old, and we've never bought a new outfit for them, because the prices for new baby clothes is INSANE. You go to a used kids store, which we have 2 in our area, and the clothes are usually in like-new condition. Not shabby at all - again because of good quality control. People don't need to spend as much money on new things, as they think they do. And it certainly won't add to long-term happiness and fulfillment, because at the end of the day, it's just stuff.
the blush thing is true. i have an eyeshadow palette and i use a magenta and light pink mixed together as my blush :D. looks really cute. and is always my go to
blush is a little different in that its not as pigmented as eyeshadow, bc its meant to be a more subtle, diffuse color (and the reds dont stain the skin as much after). however its not difficult to just blend out eyeshadow. now i DO have many shades of blush but thats because i like wearing brightass rainbow makeup so its useful to have several shades depending on what color scheme im going for; but i would never expect everyone to do the same as me! my use is niche as someone who practically does costume makeup.most people just need a couple shades that look good on them
Self care is so much more than physical care. Ultimately if you are stressing yourself out by trying to fit in your everything shower into your schedule, or stressing yourself out from the financial situation you’re putting yourself in due to the self care, you are not truly caring for yourself. A lot of us need to invest in therapy, meditation, and prioritizing peace.
Nothing about a bathroom says "self care" to me. The heat from the hair dryer. Hitting my elbow against the bath. The low blood pressure from the warm water. The sweat from styling my hair. Nope I want the least amount to do with bathrooms.
It's a never-ending cycle because there is always something new. The same thing with makeup and hair. Remember the natural hair product junkie craze? All the makeup palette releases? Now it's body care and fragrances! All of these errands are just spending more money.
The idea of self care being tied to consumption has such a strong tie to the idea that you can buy a persona. Like, its no longer a slow roll of building up your likes and dislikes, its micro trends, destash, haul, restock, destash over and over, fast paced as hell with the rise and fall of different aesthetics. They both rely on insecurity to drive sales on the newest shiniest thing, make sure to use their promo code! Its so draining emotionally and financially, but then it sucks you in by promising to remedy that with an even newer and shinier product.
Self care to me is taking my epilepsy meds and making sure I eat daily and having a decent sleep schedule 😂 I’ve always had a decent skincare routine since I was a teen in the 00’s to keep my eczema under control and I keep saying it’s INSANE to me that people think 20 different face oils and supplements is ‘self care’ and I see the constant shorts and they remind me SOOO much of the used car salesmen that you mentioned that my dad always warned me about and oh boy does the finger tapping annoy me 🙈🙈 love your videos, can’t believe I’m this early haha
You are doing things that really help YOU be the best you. I like you aren't looking for this world to tell you how to do what you know is what works for you. If people can sell you to a "t" how to be THEY WILL! Sadly, so much of our youth doesn't know better BUT it not too late for anyone to become aware. And they are the real used car salesmen, Gotta avoid 'em at all cost 😂 And I feel you on the tapping! I get MAD when I hear it, it's unsettling! lol and I appreciate your love and support, it am truly grateful. And yes your are EARLY!! I am usually in the comments a lil right after the video to chat with yall so I hope to see you again in a future one 💕💕💕💕
I deleted my social media accounts for the overconsumption that was put on my feed. I even changed the content I consume on TH-cam to avoid finding out the new trends. I already know what works and don’t.. No need to change..
Self care is where you take your time with people around you, reflecting, doing hobbies, hanging out with friends, cooking and cleaning. Not buying stuff or doing things for yourself only.
i see what you mean, but a 30-second clip solely focusing on skincare is not representative of the other things an influencer does in a day :) do u get what i mean?
No I need my alone time. I'm a teacher, I spend time with people all day. I come home and need that time to myself 😂 if I had kids of my own, I can see how cooking for them, doing hobbies together etc would be nice too...but my baths are just for me and that's okay
At one point, I just referred to this as being a product junkie which I have been guilty of doing. I still have things to throw out, and heck that could be done today. Half of the stuff I don't use because they don't work, but some influencers swore by them...
I was too! I feel EVERYTHING you said! Wasted so much for natural hair care it's a shame! I could afford it, but I hold myself accountable for buying things to find the better or best stuff. I never want to do that again!
@SocialSymone exactly 💯 like honestly once I stopped over spending I found the products that work for me and now I just stick to those (praying to the high heavens that they don't change the formulas or discontinue them). Just find what works for you and stick to them, you'll save so much. My hair and skin routine is so simple now yet it actually works
I feel like it says a lot that “self care” is almost entirely centered around visible self improvement versus things like, oh idk, recognize what behaviors we accidentally hurt people with or learning how to let go of childhood shames
If we deleted and got off social media, we would know exactly how to care for ourselves and realize none of them would really cost anything. We wouldn’t be looking to influencers or advice from TikTok/youtube/ig. Society no longer knows how to think or care for themselves without the opinions of others and that’s incredibly dangerous.
I also want to bring up the concept of race and self care. Women, especially black and indian, have struggled with being called gross or disgusting due to western ideologies. Its affected the way I've grown up because I am so worried about being called the smelly indian girl or the indian girl that stinks. Its become more of an obsession over others opinions on me and a need for constant validation by purchasing something. I’ve realized that I don't need an extensive skincare routine or a 10 stop body care routine to be clean. And finding beauty in your race will be more important then focusing on the flaws.
Women on the whole are told they stink. Look at all the “feminine hygiene” products. As if our privates are supposed to smell like sunshine and apples. 😂🙄
Self care is not hygiene. Self care is learning effective communication, financial literacy, prioritization. If you struggle with cleanliness then self care would be working through finding the root of the issue and ways to mitigate it; it’s not the actual bathing part
I agree AND disagree. My bath routine is 100% part of my self care. It helps me relax, helps me sleep...but it's because of what I do, not because of what I buy. I light candles, I read, listen to music or watch TV on my laptop. I massage my head when I wash my hair, I slowly massage my face when I wash it. I don't think these people understand that it's not what you buy but how you treat yourself. But I am also prioritising the things you listed too! As with everything in life, it's all about balance!
I agree with the other forms of self care, however hygiene is part of that too. When someone is depressed and not taking care of themselves. The first thing to go is usually hygiene. Mental health professionals will assess this and encourage hygiene practices to improve mindset and emotional wellbeing. Only feeding your mind and neglecting the body is ridiculous. Without nurturing the body with the right kind of love - you’ll have a guaranteed future of health issues. 12 years in the medical field as a nurse, then as a doctor.
Skip the products everyone, and with the money you save, buy a gym membership. It will do so much more for your body and mind than any product ever could.
As someone who is STILL dealing with an online shopping addiction, I just want to say thank you for this! While I've gotten considerably better over the years, it's a CONSTANT battle. I recently got an offer for free shipping on a product and was ecstatic and immediately went to my cart and filled it up. Old me would've hit the checkout tab and went on about my day. Luckily reformed me has decided that I am going to use that offer for the one item I initially wanted but couldn't find at the store and didn't want to pay shipping for. I reminded myself that before this offer I truly only wanted ONE item. I will purchase it (on sale!) and be content😌
As someone with adhd buying stuff DO scratch my brain sometimes but I am so happy you didnt just say DONT BUY STUFF as it really does feel like an itch sometimes. The going an buying a coffee or a pastry is such a good option as you do scratch the itch and whilst you enjoy the loot you also get a moment to reflect
Just deleted a bunch of things off my Amazon list I was about to buy. While listening to this I realized the gratification would only be temporary but I’ll be permanently out of that money. So thank you ❤️
i always go back to maslow's hierarchy of needs. at the top we have self-actualization, and that's what i've been striving to achieve in the past few years. maybe it's through therapy, but i've learned that what self-care truly means for me is discovering who i really am as a person and doing things that make me feel better mentally: making art, journaling, connecting with my ethnic roots, reading. even with all the struggles i have, i've found that self-actualization is what has made me happier than every purchase ever has.
I had a slight problem with overbuying skin care products. at the beginning of this year I made a promise to myself that I was going to use all my skin care that I have before I purchase anymore. The only thing that I was able to spend a little bit on was sunscreen. I had hundreds of facial masks and now I'm down to about three boxes. So proud of myself for using what I have first.
I've heard/read influencers talk about elaborate skin care routines being an "investment" that will save you money in the future. Invest hundreds on skincare products now and save thousands on cosmetic procedures later. It's a classic sales tactic to make people justify a big expense that they don't have an immediate need for.
the people who are like ' how did I spend $$700 at sephora??' Do they need to learn self-control? I'm hoping it's an act really. I think the term self-care is losing meaning. I never really saw all of this as self-care, only as overconsumption. Going on a nice walk, I'd like to take someone's dog with me self-care. Taking an Epsom salt bath with 1 candle and meditation music playing, self-care. Bringing a charcuterie board, bottle of wine, 30 candles, and two movies, excuse me what? I like baths but, not bath bombs, and sitting in the bath too long is bad for your skin.
I remember when the self care/improvement posts on social media were workout challenges, reading more, learning a new skill, etc. Now it’s just about spending more money on products you don’t need, which is insane in this economy
Your video is godsend. I have been craving buying stuff and it’s now obvious that my social media needs to go (except for my TH-cam subscriptions which don’t include anyone pushing me to buy stuff).
I love this video! Recently I realised that I’ve subconsciously started buying more and more stuff (mostly skincare and makeup), not in a concerning amount but still I realised that those products I bought three months ago are not even 1/3 used and most of the time I don’t see myself reaching for them. I also had a list in my note of all the skincare I wanted to try and some of them were really expensive (I try to really manage my finances cause I’m a student and I don’t have infinite money so thank god I didn’t buy those). The point is I finally understood that I was just wasting my money and good products, I stopped buying new stuff and I deleted that note (and I’m trying to stay less on social media). Now the rule is that I have to finish the product I already have before buying new ones! If you are struggling keep watching these videos, they will give you a dose of reality
Listen it is good that you're not going to be buying new stuff you won't use but it is also pretty normal for a product to not be a third used after 3 months? You use really little with each use, it is not rare for products to last for years.
I really had to check myself to stop buying another lip care product and realized I don’t need so many to keep my lips hydrated… those influencers really just promote toxic over consumption.
I only use face wash, vitamin c serum, moisturizer and SPF. These work well on my skin. I’ve tried different products and routines. Sometimes minimal skin care routines are better.
Same but I use a gentle (drugstore) retinol and a salicylic acid serum. It seems to work very well for me and everything I’m currently using in my routine I’ve repurchased… so I have very much decided it works and I like it, and I’m maintaining the same routine and not out buying random new stuff.
Unfollowing anyone that tells me that something is life changing or that I "need" something - is my own self care. I run my life, I control what I view online. I would rather buy groceries and meaningful things that bring me happiness (traveling without using debt, journaling, painting, dancing). That is self care. Do not fall for the crap online, use your head, use your own judgement.
Self care can be so expensive for me, i am definitely cutting down on a lot and only sticking on things that i know work for my skin, being acne prone has led me on an expensive journey to find a solution 😅 but i also learning to cut back and just enjoy life
I feel you, I've done the same before. I just see the experts about it now, saves mkre time and mkney cause I dont know what I'm doing 😂 But i hope you find what works best for you 💕💕💕
Not gonna lie the afterpay shit makes me SO happy my parents instilled the fear of credit cards in me at a young age even if that’s also caused me a lot of anxiety (granted, anxiety that has probably kept me in less debt than I would have been in but still). I saw that the first time and I was like “fuck no”; if I can’t afford a moisturizer or something right now I do not need it. I will be saving debt for the big ticket purchases I can not afford to buy outright if I need to go into it.
Finally visited a dermatologist and cut out all the 10-20 step bullshit skincare items all over Instagram. Although many people cannot afford such services, there are a lot of dermatologists on youtube that are incredibly helpful.
I started getting a massage every six weeks to help combat chronic stress. Is it expensive? Yes, but it’s actually something beneficial for my health and mental wellness so I consider it to be a good investment 🎉
I don’t know if you will see this but I really needed to find your channel. When I was laid off last year I used self care to spend 20k plus using credit cards and my savings. I am now making more money and I have a fiance. He pays our bills and I am paying my debt off. I wish I would’ve seen your channel first. You are such an amazing black women!!
I got rid of social media because it was overwhelming seeing the overconsumption happening but I’m not even safe on TH-cam anymore seeing people spend thousands for back to school or other things. It’s definitely stressful 😭
Great video. I've been operating on the mindset of I'm generally miserable so buy a little treat, a reward at the end of the week. I then lost everything I owned and justified excessive spending with well I meed to replace. But ultimately none of it was making me happier, the new skincare item didn't work any miracles, the expensive pretty shampoo from japan nothing more than any other I've used. And I look back and see money spent. Thousands that could have probably bought me my own home, a major need now. I see my path but everything is honestly so fucking depressing it's hard to stick to.
Thank you so much for talking about this, I’m so tired of overconsumption of products and life styles that it’s refreshing to see someone talk about anything else. I fell into that trap and now I’m slowly getting out of this hell, and I know I’ll feel better. Thank you again for reaffirming this, I really appreciate it.
My definition of “self care” used to be getting a new tattoo or piercing. I felt good about it, because I was “buying” a product/service that’s permanent and doesn’t contribute to overconsumption. Now that I’ve essentially run out of space, I’ve had trouble stopping myself from buying actual products. Now I just fill my cart, look at the total, and exit the tab :)!
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, it's great to see how perspectives change overtime. but it seems now you are making changes that will help you in the future.
I've been trying to reframe my self care as decluttering, putting my clothes away entirely, clearing off surfaces, etc. Because one of my biggest stressors in my home is bumping into things and not being able to find what I'm looking for. So if I really want to take care of myself, i should be focused on making my habitat more relaxing to be in lol
this is why I hate tiktok, most of the women on there are already beautiful and ever had acne problems, like me. I've always struggled with acne since fourth grade, now as a 17 year old female I'm trying to clear up my skin. Another thing is that my mom told me a story of how she was in serious debt b 19 because she used a credit card and feel into the negatives. overconsumption is going to increase unless influencers realize they are telling a dream that is only gonna make them hated..
Im so happy someone spoke on this. Im tired of these shorts with girls slapping products worth 1000's of dollars. It's all an illusion and totally useless.
Honestly, this is why I quit Sephora and this whole influencer thing makes me sick bro. I could not in good faith sell products to ppl genuinely struggling I knew would not work or they didn’t need. The best makeup artists literally reccomend using blush as lip stick, vice versa, eyeshadow as highlighter etc. you do NOT need a product for every single step. I hate this omg. Thank you for this video 🙏
I always leave this comment on these types of videos and so I'll say it again: anyone who knows anything about psychology or therapy would know that self-care contains at least four parts and only one of them is the physical element of it, and at the same time, that physical element of it is not having every smell of the same soap, it is genuinely taken care of yourself in a way that is needed or relevant or Etc. I'm so ready to leave therapy buzzwords behind in 2024, as an educator that's my take
The idea of buying and using 17 beauty products as an act of self-care is insane. Like sure if your skin is THAT bad, but like her skin just looked slightly irritated. The only cost I have for myself is my nails. I would love to do them on my own one day, just because I like doing things for myself, but as a single mom not needing to do anything at all for like two hours and focusing only on myself during that time is vital for my mental health. What I do as a form of self-care is create. Like making a bracelet for myself, or even editing my stories. If I don't get out my creativity somehow it ends up making me sad and depressed.
It was getting irritated, she did a followup video and she has calmed down on all the products. She says she was pretty much trying to figure out what works for her and made a mistake doing all that. I applaud her her her accountability and honesty! I'd love to know how to do nails too! I just wear mine bear, but I used to keep them done but I was looking for ways to save and it was THE 1ST things to go lol. I hope you learn, it could save so much! These are some great ideas! The creativity is a great outlet! I like using it as a release as well 💕
@@SocialSymone Oohh! That makes a lot of sense. I hope so too! I haven't found regular polish that LASTS and since I get gel nails I don't necessarily wanna do that at home. I'd rather eat the cost, then risk getting an acrylate allergy. I don't think enough people make art and it shows. So many more people will be happier if they drew or painted regardless if it's good or not
I cleared my face with working out, cutting out alcohol + junk food + sugar, and 4 products (toner, cleanser, vitamin c, sunscreen, & retinol @ night) anything beyond that is overkill.
Girrrrlllll since i found put with don’t even really need toner i cut that out like 5yrs ago too. 😅 Mild cleanser, VitC&E serum, moisturiser, SPF night: Mild cleanser, Tretinoin, Moisturiser End off
yes, everyone should try an elimination diet before any product because it is free! i figured out i am milk protein intolerant, and quitting dairy got rid of the acne i had had for like 15 years
As someone who was born with skin conditions and A LOT of allergies, I have never been able to wear makeup, use 99% of beauty products, or even wash my hands with normal soap. I struggled a lot throughout school feeling as though I wasn't clean enough as I couldn't use all the fancy products the girls in my grade used. I technically have a morning, midday, and night skin routine however it's something that was created by doctors and purely for medical purposes. I HAVE to moisturise my entire body about 3 times a day, but I don't get to use creams in cute packaging with pretty smells, instead I get massive tubs of unscented cream in medical packaging. As I left highschool these things started to not bother me anymore, but it's horrible to think that I was convinced I wasn't clean enough and made fun of not being trendy because of skin conditions and allergies. I was never on the beauty side of social media so it makes me sad thinking about kids who may be in a similar situation to me now having those feelings reinforced by these sorts of videos...
Thank you for shining a light on this. All you young girls need is a gentle cleaner and a good moisturizer with spf 30. Anything more is a gimmick. Once you get older then you can start adding hyaluronic and retinol.
700$ debt for "self-care" products?!!! I've spent the same amount in 2023, and that's including vitamins, paracetamol and other stuff for my 1st aid kit, contacts and compression socks. And I still think that I've overspent. 😅
i needed this a lot more then i thought i did. I have been more self aware of the things that I was purchasing and started to cut down but still didnt realize that i buy stuff to make me feel better and say its self care. even if the things i buy are cheap its not self care and unnecessary. thank you and i will be going on a FREE self care walk through the park instead.
My tips: *Do not buy Anything Online! *Use cash only! *Do not splurge on yourself until all your bills are paid! *Do not borrow money or get loans for "stuff" *Do not shop when you are sad (or having a lot emotions that day) *Do not buy new stuff (as in anything that has not been out for atleast a year then read reviews) *Do not buy anything if you have not looked around, price checked and looked in 2nd hand stores first! Hope this helps and yes this is what I do ❤
as much as i loveee a facemask and a lil treat.. that's not what self care really is... self care is sleep. self care is eating good foods. self care is meditation, taking breaks, showing yourself love and compassion when you're feeling down. it's awesome to buy things that make us feel good, and make our skin look good, and our hair smell good.. but maybe we should consider spending your money mindfully and not over consuming as self care as well!
I thank God I'm a minimalist at heart. Aside from trying to find lower cost options of staples, I rarely buy new/trendy things. I only buy things I can test and return. Once I find something that works, I stick to it.
I'm a social worker and we constantly have self care pushed on us because our workplace health and safety risks are related to mental health and trauma. Recently a survey came out asking staff what self care activities we need at work, the examples on the survey were team lunches, meditation etc. The feedback from staff were role clarity, manageable case loads and clear communication from management. Team lunches make us feel better for half an hour. Good work conditions actually support our wellbeing long ter. That's what Audre Lorde was talking about. Caring for ourselves and each other is a powerful act of resistance
I love this video. It changed my mindset as a 16 year old who is bombarded with videos like this 24/7 NO JOKE. I never really fell for it since I think really hard before I buy but I buy the products that I need and that’s it. Yesterday I was considering spending £20 on that “life changing” summer Fridays lip balm. I’m so glad I have control. If anyone wants a tip for online shopping put things in your cart then wait for a week or 2 . If you truly want it you buy it but usually by then you realise you don’t need it at all and you save money and use it for something important!!!! Ps. Your skin is glowing
I’m 26, getting married in a few months. My future mother in law got some Botox done a few months ago, and she was speaking to the doctor about the next time she should do it because she wanted it done again before our wedding. So after they talked about it, the doctor was like “well what about the bride? Is she going to come in?” And my fiancés mom was like oh no, she’s too young for Botox, and the doctor was like oh honey you’re never to young for Botox… when she told me that I was like yeah absolutely not. I’m not at all concerned about aging. My paternal grandmother was like 65 before she started really looking her age. I think I’ll be okay 😂 But that’s how they get you.
Love the section about retail therapy. I never thought about how indulging in it trains your brain into accepting spending money as easy dopamine. This is a really thoughtful video
I'm loving your videos! I've been building a playlist over many years of overconsumption and overspending videos and these fit perfectly. I've also found a few documentaries on credit card companies; the tactics they use to take advantage of human psychology are pretty shocking 😬😬 and that was before bn&pl! 😅
Your support means the world to me! It's awesome to hear that you're enjoying the content and finding it relevant to your interests and helpful 💕 The buy now pay later stuff is wild and yes it's very shocking the mind games that are being played.
this video was honestly such a calling, i struggle with over spending and impulsive buying and im trying to fix it, so when this video popped up on my recommended i felt heard and seen to the bad spending habits i desperately need to get rid of. its just one step forward, but even figuring out why i spend so much in the first place is an important first step. thank you for this video, i really needed it 💗💗
For me real self-care is getting outside and just listen to the birds and feel the wind on my face. Or pick up my fantasy novel and read the day away. Just unplugging. When I start wanting to spend a bunch of money on stuff, I know that’s when I need to get away from the phone
So happy to have found my CLAN here! I wholeheartedly agree with you Symone and I’ll also add how most consumerism is targeted only for women. It’s all about trying to make us feel uncomfortable with our appearance/ existence as if we are not/ won’t ever be good enough!😢
My skincare : Night -micellar water - Cleanser -toner -serum -cream -clay mask once a week -sheet mask once a week -lip balm Day - serum the same as last night -sunscreen -lip balm
I have 3 shampoo - deep cleaning and 2 gentle clean. Same with skin care - few cleaning, acids and moisture products. And one cream + spf cream. Ofc i check from time to time what is new in shops, add smth to wish list. But having 100 of items is literally waste of money- you cannot use all products before expire date. And creams are still chemicals, so there is the reason why it's better not to used expired products. Sadly there are some stories, when people decided to use expired eye shadows or creams - they all had bad irritation and chemical burns.
I also have a wish list. I check it monthly & when the items on my list go on sale then I buy them. I think the best thing no one says is to have a wish list
you put everything into perspective for me thank you so much. as a teenager in such a commercialized world, it's refreshing to get reminded that i don't need all of these things, and i should just focus on becoming my own person
Omg these people are overdoing it. I will say I have used afterpay but I pay it off within 6 months and I make sure its less than 200 bux total. Booking a vacay on layaway is insane I just wouldn't go because I wouldn't be able to enjoy it knowing how I got there. Another great video!
I agree! It's wild out here!!! 😂 I'd be scared to go cause what if you catch a flat or have an emergency and don't REALLY have the money. I can somewhat understand not wanting it all to come out "at once" but you can't stop what is going to happen overtime anyway IMO. Might as well feel it now than later. The issue is many people think it's "free money" and aren't responsible. And thank you!!!
As a person who have acne problem for a loooooong time. Every time I bought that fancy popular skin products that were supposed to make my skin perfect, just ended with worse acne or did just nothing. The ONLY person who help me with my skin is a good DERMATOLOGIST, who advises me products which help specifically with my skin, my problems and etc. and it’s NEVER expensive fancy products.
My self-care is continuously buying pounds of peanuts to feed my local crows and get feathers and eucalyptus seeds from them. They recognize me and follow me for blocks and they bring me a lot of joy with their silly antics
I do agree totally with you. Social media unfortunately embrace this trends and people are often confused what it means to care after yourself. The same goes with fad diets or unnecessary supplements. In the end there are businesses that profit from it heavily. I am fighting currently with my obsession of buying perfumes and it is not easy to ditch it.
The amount of self care steps for facial routine is baffling. The only barrier you are destroying is your skin. These facial products make it so that you have to go back for more. They ruin your face permanently for this reason.
Do you think self care is really now consumerism and overconsumption? What is your meaning of self care? Also what percent is your phone 🔋on right now? I'm on 64% but it's 10:40 p.m. lol
I remember when my self care routine used to be one body lotion and one face cream. I was even using my body lotion on my face. Ever since I started doing the whole scrub, cleanser, serums thing my skin in now f$&ked up more than ever. Now I keep having to change products to correct the problems the previous products have caused.
Real self care is eating ice cream at 2am in your underwear and not caring about what anyone thinks haha. (My phone is on 10%)
@Queen-xq4dj I have had a similar experience when I was younger. I have VERY SENSITIVE SKIN and spent so much money trying to clear it up in the past with products. I now seem a dermatologist and aesthetician because I have no clue what I'm doing. I do understand this is a privilege to see my aesthetician for treatments and not a necessity so I'm am blesses and grateful. I hope you are able t find something that works well for your skin! I know how annoying this can be.
😂 I think I'm Lactose. They taste so good but give me gas lol and 10%!? NOW, YOU KNOW BETTER!!! 😂
I def think self-care is more about trying to impress others.
Self-care = being financially literate and financially responsible
This 100%! There's no sort of habit you can support if you literally have no money. Material things don't pay the bills.
Facts! This is the real definition
Great point!
Ikr. Started investing instead of consooming and for the first time in my life I actually feel like I am doing something for me. I wish I could get the money back of every product I ever bought, it was worthless. Except for books and some pretty clothes, and my all time fav essential makeup, it all wasn't worth it.
Yes! This!
Comparing the influencers to used car salesmen makes so much sense!
I'm glad that was helpful! It helps to now how to better del with what we see that way. 💕
Exactly 💯
Oh my God, this is a perfect comparison!
did anyone notice the clip of the girl with the 17 step skincare routines skin color go from her normal tone to fire red…that can’t be safe 😭
NOW THAT IM WATCHING IT AGAIN I JUST NOTICED THAT PROBABLY ISNT SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN😭⁉️ like miss girl glycolic acid is suppose to remove dead skin cells not melt off your skin
@@RoseMari888RIGHT she probably using every single day too which your not supposed to do 😭😭😭😭
That was my first thought is her skin is sooo red it’s so irritated
Her skin looked super irritated
I noticed that right away! Skin turning light pink is normal but her face was bright red. I don’t know what she’s doing but it doesn’t seem healthy.
I've challenged myself to use what I already have. I recently finished a ChapStick tube and I am so proud 😁
It's sooo satisfying! I recently finished a gloss and some perfume and I was so happy. It's even better than buying new stuff.
I got so close, and then I accidentally washed and dried it because it was in a pocket. I was so bummed!
I always lose mine before it gets finished 😅
that is so impressive dude I've never been able to finish one I either lose it or drop it on the floor 😭
I love this, it’s such an underrated feat
That girl at 11:27 who said after pay will put her in debt one day... You're in debt now. You're $741.40 in debt.
SERIOUSLY!!! She is in so deep she may not even notice. SHE HAS BEEN IN THE DANGER ZONE!
I’m not sure where she’s from based on her accent, but at least in America I feel like that’s because debt is so normalized. Everytime I use my credit card, I enter debt. It’s encouraged to enter debt to go to school. Most people won’t be able to buy a house or car without entering some sort of debt (a loan is a form of debt). So while I don’t know if she was raised in a similar environment, but at least for Americans, I completely understand why they don’t see stuff like afterpay as debt- it’s just like a credit card, and your parents needed those to get approved for a home loan, so what’s the big deal? (sarcasm, in case you didn’t realize, 740$ in afterpay is a big deal).
@@neonradiusso true because outside the west (U.S especially), where credit cards are not really a thing, debt is mostly from loans and such so it's easier to see those as debts but when you're used to needing to have a credit card just to get a credit score to buy a house etc, it can be difficult to understand
DUDE this is why I don’t trust afterpay. I remember I started seeing it as an option and immediately distrusted. Like if I am going to go into debt over something… it’s going to be a large purchase like a car (and even then my ass is avoiding those luxury vehicles that put people in money pits 😭). I’m not gonna finance some name brand slides or some BPAL perfume cause if I don’t have the money for it then I don’t need it right now.
I did AfterPay twice for some bigger tech items (my computer needed replacement parts) and even though I could afford the payments, it felt like my soul died every time that pay date came
Honestly i feel like im just looking at a bunch of hoarders
I can see why you may say this. Sadly alot of people "see more products" as "aspirational".
Exactly I am trying to get out of it now. It is like an addiction. People trying to convince you hoarding is a Hobby or collection but it is really is hoarding. I am realizing this.
@@SocialSymone People also fear if missing out too (FOMO) on items that has gone viral. That is a while other video though.
@@donnac.3273 i hope you have a great day. 🌸💕🫶
I don’t look at myself as a hoarder. My cousin did tell me I was a hoarder after I let her come in my bedroom. She saw all of the fragrances and the baskets of products from Lush that I had bought during co vid. A hoarder doesn’t give things away they keep everything. I have given away lots a lots of new items that I bought and never used. I never invite people in my bedroom anymore 😂
I think “self care” has really become a way of consumerism and overconsumption. My definition of self care is just that, things to take care of myself such as basic hygiene(toothpaste, body wash, shampoo, etc) and gym membership. When I buy these self care products they’re $20 max and I buy them every 3-4 months, only buy when I run out.
It's refreshing to see someone with a practical approach to self-care! It's getting wild out here. By all means if people can afford it TRULY I see no issue but MOST can't keep up with all these products coming out and luxury services.
Good plan.
@@SocialSymoneExactly hopefully you can make a series of these videos to keep us on our tolls. The way people are bombarding us with consumerism is wild. We need you to knock us back unto reality.
@donnac.3273 That's a great idea! I may have to! These videos seem to help alot of people. 💕
yes! self care isn’t buying $100 skincare, it’s brushing your teeth twice a day so you don’t spend thousands on dental care later in life or getting a physical from your primary care doctor every year
My self care involves being debt free, growing through reading books and listening to helpful podcasts or videos, having a tidy and clean living space, getting plenty of sleep, eating at home as much as possible, and enjoying simple treats like a cup of coffee or tea and a homemade goody.
Same here. Having nutritious meals, excercising, getting enough sleep, spending time with loved ones. Not getting myself into debt except my mortgage . That’s the ultimate self care.
Instant gratification will be the downfall of many people.
Thank you. I need to work on letting go of instant gratification
It's bc we live in the internet age where we get things so much faster. Online shopping is my struggle (but also going to stores lol) oh well im working on it
I agree. I had a period of not being able to delay gratification after a sudden death in my family - I took "buy it now, what if you're dead tomorrow" to the extreme. Luckily I went nuts on craft supplies that I still use today, and not perishable overpriced trend products. Still, not being able to wait for something or try out something else is really bad, because the next "what if..." is always right behind it.
Oh I know many families already in the gutter because of overconsumption. Usually the woman who can't stop spending clothes, shoes and home decoration.
Hear hear
The guy who said "You shouldn't be going nowhere if your bills aren't paid!" Facts!! This guy should be a financial advisor.. I'd be his client!
It's just common sense
I paused the video at 3:30. Getting botox before the age of 25 is honestly so nuts. Not only is her face going to be permanently frozen in certain areas once she hits her mid-40s if she continues to get injected regularly with that toxin, she also will have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on a treatment she never needed in the first place. The beauty industry has to be growing rapidly with the rise of social media and increased pressure to look "perfect."
It won’t be permanently frozen, it will just be very soft and squishy 😅 Muscle atrophy, The dynamic wrinkles will look like a Shar Pei dog.
I agree
It’s pathological at that age
It’s actually not about her age. All people age differently and have diffenent muscle movement, so one person can really have those forehead wrinkles at 20 if the muscles are very active and another person will not have those wrinkles visible at 30.
to add on to the person above me, i have always have smile lines. bc i well, smile a lot XD. but i don't like them. they've always made me look old so i get her wanting botox at such a young age.
Self-care has been twisted into a strategy to get people (often women) to buy things they don't need and weren't even thinking of buying. Really crazy how much these impulse purchases are usually the opposite of self-care in the end. Recently I'm also seeing the word "hygiene" being used in the titles of videos of this kind, while showcasing products that aren't even remotely necessary for basic hygiene. It's all manipulating people into feeling that splurging on this stuff is a good thing.
PS: the girl in the video adding up the list for "the cost of being a hot girl" needs to realize that none of this is "the norm to get in your 20s". Most people in that age range don't have the disposable income to do that. I wish people like this would join the real world. Oh, and if your forehead slightly wrinkles when you move it, that means you're a normal young human, not that you "need" botox.
I couldn't agree more! It's like they're trying to convince us that buying a face cream will solve all our life problems. If only skincare could pay our bills or helps pay for all those products too 😂
This one girl tried to sell her audience a “tongue scraper”….like do y’all not use your toothbrush to clean your tongue?
@@evaphillips2102they say we aren’t getting the same results cuz we aren’t getting “deep” like bby atp go to the dentist
I think it's designed to keep women from accruing wealth.
@@raylayaaaathe fact is that’s completely wrong. brush does a better job than a tongue scraper
As a recovering shopping addict, I am on a strict no buy to pay back some debt (incurred from self care products). Now that I'm looking at what I actually need and should spend my money on, I only use maybe 5-6 products versus the 20 I was using before. My skin and Wallet are much happier.
HELL YES!! As someone who has a job in sales with skincare/cosmetics, I love hearing that people will actually use the things that they buy until they run out. I’m so proud of you!
That's good, but do you really need 6 products?
@@TheRealCatof for day and night, yes. Do you have a skin care routine?
@@vannisworld No, I'm probably not the target audience for this video. I mainly just have shampoo, body wash, and sunscreen for when I go outside haha 🤣
@@TheRealCatofsame
I'm turning 27 this year and I can't deal with the shame that comes with being broke all the time. All my "nice things" don't fix the financial insecurity and shame.. and this video made me realise just that!
Girly thank you so much! You gave me an epiphany and inspiration to be financially responsible.
THAT is self-care!
❤❤❤yeah
good luck !! u got this :]
Check out Caleb Hammer and his Financial Audit videos. Some of his guests make over $100,000/year and can’t get out of debt because they have zero control over their behaviors. Then, check out the Dave Ramsey live episodes to learn how to change behaviors! 😀
The finger tapping on products drives me insane😂 maybe because I equate that with something they are trying to get you to buy, not sure but I hate it lol
It's soooo annoying, same with the gross lotion sounds . Influencers are just sheep.
It's the equivalent of someone jingling keys in front of your face.
@Laurelend the worst part with the lotion sounds is that they're squirting out at least 5 x more product than you actually need to use at one time, just for the sound + to shove it in your face even more
@@Laurelend ughhh i'm so glad it's not just me. Gave me the chills in a bad way
I thought it’s just me 😂 i am fed up with those finger tapping. Every single video 🤦🏻♀️
This is why I only take advice from dermatologists and professional makeup artists. I feel they’re more real and less about shoving products in your face. I don’t follow any of these influencers anymore. I stopped following the beauty community in 2018 because it was too much over consumption and I had thousands of pounds worth of expired makeup and it was a disgusting waste and disrespect to the planet.
My only skincare routine is cleanser moisturiser sunscreen. Thats it. Maybe weekly homemade facepacks or scrub for good skin health. I even saw a tiktok where a lady used at least 10 products JUST FOR SHOWERING like lade why you need body butter on top of ur moisturiser and body oil? Now yound girls will think they will need these stuff to look better
What’s interesting is a lot of professional makeup artists will say, “You don’t need all this unless you’re building a pro kit”. They also tend to rely on much cheaper products - think William Tuttle foundation or Cetaphil. I’ve never seen many say, “You NEED the biggest jar of La Mer!”
Everyone's a "professional makeup artists" these days...
Y’all ever notice how things that are considered “self-care“ are just normal things that people should be doing as part of their daily lives? Grocery shopping for healthier foods and cooking at home, going for a walk, socializing with family and friends, dedicating time to hobbies and passions that you like. Modern society treats self care as a luxury and not as something that is vital to our well being. The better we take care of ourselves the better we can take care of those around us.
Can't self care just be putting lotion after showering? And the face mask once in a while? That's all i ever did. And taking therapy
It definitely is. Just taking a shower is self care because many depressed (and others) people can't even manage that
This!!❤
Yes it is and can be! 😁👏💜
The lotion is a luxury.
I don't like showers at all so I take long baths every other day. I light candles, I read, I listen to music, I watch TH-cam or Netflix, I shave, massage my head, slowly wash and massage my face, just sit and breathe and think and relax. None of that requires specialist products. At all!
Just time to myself 🥰
I really appreciate these videos. I'm 34 and I love that you're targeted to young women that you don't need to keep up with social media and the rest of everyone else because what's seen as "normal" is just really fake and mostly these people are in debt.
No problem at all! I am so glad these type of videos are helpful to you. My goal is always to help SOMEBODY and I am grateful to be able to do that and appreciate you for listening. You are VERY correct, nobody has to conform to that madness. People who really like you, will like you for you regardless IMO. I hate seeing the youth overspending to keep up with what's online. 💕
@SocialSymone Exactly, please do more videos like this one. People are trying to keep up with the "Jones," but there are no more "Jones" to keep up with. Thank you for trying to help up keep money in our accounts.
@SocialSymone I will, I am so glad you find them so useful! It's hard to keep up with all the madness somethings cause there's always something lol 💕
@SocialSymone Especially with Tictok selling and making things go viral for extra consumption. It has become a home shopping network on that app. I am glad I really don't use it.
I am learning this over consumption. I have minimalist journey in January. I am moving, and you all should see things I haven't even touched (makeup, skincare, and perfume (in which I was avid collectors of over 400 bottles). I have stopped purchasing so many items. I have unsubscribed from emails and Facebook groups to help my transition.
That's fantastic! Simplifying your life can bring so much clarity and peace. Best of luck on your minimalist journey! I had a similar thing with hair products. I was shocked how deep into it I got. Being conscious is the best thing for you in the end. 💕💕💕💕
Wishing you luck on your journey to minimalism!! Just remember that it's a process and that it looks different for everyone ❤
@@kellygreengables3936 Thank you so much. Very appreciate your support.
Good luck! :)
I wish you the best of luck in your journey! Whew chile, them moves can be an eye opener, can't they?! Been there and here to let you know it gets better🙂
I hate those asmr videos. I immediately skip when they start tapping on the package 😂
Same
I actually like watching them (I don’t pay attention to the product) because i go through bouts of depression and seeing such gentle care makes me inspired to care for myself even if it’s just for a day or two. But i don’t normally focus on the products i just like the lighting, soft sounds and texture they show me.
@@moonshineaudios5740 I don’t mind the self care part, and that’s wonderful that they can help you in that way! Sometimes it’ll remind me to do the same. But the constant tapping and scrapping, and rubbing irritates me like no other. I might be broken idk lol
@@_smartyshorts Same, the noises drive me crazy 😆
Me too!
Thank you for sharing! Consumerism is terrible for the environment too. We don't see the trash after we get rid of it, but it goes somewhere and the planet and our future generations of humans will suffer.
Exactly if you return something to Sephora or Ulta is goes in the trash.
@@donnac.3273omg!! I just can’t imagine all the waste and pollution!!😮
First: stay away from social media. You can do it. It's not hard.
Second: the only self care is free time in nature. And that's free.
Thank you for your work and bringing attention to this first world problem. We should be ashamed.
I recently found out that I don't need all that products that influencers are trying to sell us. I was shopping at mall, looking at clothes, haircare, skincare, makeup, perfumes, and thought "this makes no sense at all, it's all the same and I have these things at home already". Because who needs 10 th crop top which looks almost exactly the same? And who needs a thousands of different blushes, when an old eyeshadow palette does just fine? Why would I buy hundreds of skincare products, when my skin is not very problematic? It all just takes space.
Honestly, this is why me and my family shop at thrift stores for clothes. Sure, places like Goodwill don't have as much quality control, but there are plenty of places like Savers for example, that do. And you get those products cheaper than you would get them new. Especially, ESPECIALLY when it comes to kids clothing! I have a 1 and 2 year old, and we've never bought a new outfit for them, because the prices for new baby clothes is INSANE. You go to a used kids store, which we have 2 in our area, and the clothes are usually in like-new condition. Not shabby at all - again because of good quality control. People don't need to spend as much money on new things, as they think they do. And it certainly won't add to long-term happiness and fulfillment, because at the end of the day, it's just stuff.
the blush thing is true. i have an eyeshadow palette and i use a magenta and light pink mixed together as my blush :D. looks really cute. and is always my go to
blush is a little different in that its not as pigmented as eyeshadow, bc its meant to be a more subtle, diffuse color (and the reds dont stain the skin as much after). however its not difficult to just blend out eyeshadow. now i DO have many shades of blush but thats because i like wearing brightass rainbow makeup so its useful to have several shades depending on what color scheme im going for; but i would never expect everyone to do the same as me! my use is niche as someone who practically does costume makeup.most people just need a couple shades that look good on them
Self care is so much more than physical care. Ultimately if you are stressing yourself out by trying to fit in your everything shower into your schedule, or stressing yourself out from the financial situation you’re putting yourself in due to the self care, you are not truly caring for yourself. A lot of us need to invest in therapy, meditation, and prioritizing peace.
Nothing about a bathroom says "self care" to me. The heat from the hair dryer. Hitting my elbow against the bath. The low blood pressure from the warm water. The sweat from styling my hair. Nope I want the least amount to do with bathrooms.
It's a never-ending cycle because there is always something new. The same thing with makeup and hair. Remember the natural hair product junkie craze? All the makeup palette releases? Now it's body care and fragrances! All of these errands are just spending more money.
Yes, and then all those de-cluttering videos, which I truly hate. So stupid and wasteful.
I've learnt the hard way that buying the latest product doesn't actually make life better in any real lasting way.
This is true!!! 💕
True and sometimes you don,t use it
The idea of self care being tied to consumption has such a strong tie to the idea that you can buy a persona. Like, its no longer a slow roll of building up your likes and dislikes, its micro trends, destash, haul, restock, destash over and over, fast paced as hell with the rise and fall of different aesthetics. They both rely on insecurity to drive sales on the newest shiniest thing, make sure to use their promo code! Its so draining emotionally and financially, but then it sucks you in by promising to remedy that with an even newer and shinier product.
Underrated comment
Self care to me is taking my epilepsy meds and making sure I eat daily and having a decent sleep schedule 😂 I’ve always had a decent skincare routine since I was a teen in the 00’s to keep my eczema under control and I keep saying it’s INSANE to me that people think 20 different face oils and supplements is ‘self care’ and I see the constant shorts and they remind me SOOO much of the used car salesmen that you mentioned that my dad always warned me about and oh boy does the finger tapping annoy me 🙈🙈 love your videos, can’t believe I’m this early haha
You are doing things that really help YOU be the best you. I like you aren't looking for this world to tell you how to do what you know is what works for you. If people can sell you to a "t" how to be THEY WILL! Sadly, so much of our youth doesn't know better BUT it not too late for anyone to become aware. And they are the real used car salesmen, Gotta avoid 'em at all cost 😂 And I feel you on the tapping! I get MAD when I hear it, it's unsettling! lol and I appreciate your love and support, it am truly grateful. And yes your are EARLY!! I am usually in the comments a lil right after the video to chat with yall so I hope to see you again in a future one 💕💕💕💕
Rel so much! I’m also on epilepsy meds, going to reformer pilates class, trying to start jogging with the focus on limitating the shopping spend.
I deleted my social media accounts for the overconsumption that was put on my feed. I even changed the content I consume on TH-cam to avoid finding out the new trends. I already know what works and don’t.. No need to change..
Self care is where you take your time with people around you, reflecting, doing hobbies, hanging out with friends, cooking and cleaning. Not buying stuff or doing things for yourself only.
I hope somebody heard you today!! 💕
I think self care can definitely include things only for yourself ❤
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i see what you mean, but a 30-second clip solely focusing on skincare is not representative of the other things an influencer does in a day :) do u get what i mean?
No I need my alone time. I'm a teacher, I spend time with people all day. I come home and need that time to myself 😂 if I had kids of my own, I can see how cooking for them, doing hobbies together etc would be nice too...but my baths are just for me and that's okay
At one point, I just referred to this as being a product junkie which I have been guilty of doing. I still have things to throw out, and heck that could be done today. Half of the stuff I don't use because they don't work, but some influencers swore by them...
I was too! I feel EVERYTHING you said! Wasted so much for natural hair care it's a shame! I could afford it, but I hold myself accountable for buying things to find the better or best stuff. I never want to do that again!
@SocialSymone exactly 💯 like honestly once I stopped over spending I found the products that work for me and now I just stick to those (praying to the high heavens that they don't change the formulas or discontinue them).
Just find what works for you and stick to them, you'll save so much. My hair and skin routine is so simple now yet it actually works
Amen! Less is more 💕 Definitely money in your pocket 😉
I feel like it says a lot that “self care” is almost entirely centered around visible self improvement versus things like, oh idk, recognize what behaviors we accidentally hurt people with or learning how to let go of childhood shames
Well put. It’s become just another check mate in the capitalist book of screwing people over for gain.
If we deleted and got off social media, we would know exactly how to care for ourselves and realize none of them would really cost anything. We wouldn’t be looking to influencers or advice from TikTok/youtube/ig. Society no longer knows how to think or care for themselves without the opinions of others and that’s incredibly dangerous.
I also want to bring up the concept of race and self care. Women, especially black and indian, have struggled with being called gross or disgusting due to western ideologies. Its affected the way I've grown up because I am so worried about being called the smelly indian girl or the indian girl that stinks. Its become more of an obsession over others opinions on me and a need for constant validation by purchasing something. I’ve realized that I don't need an extensive skincare routine or a 10 stop body care routine to be clean. And finding beauty in your race will be more important then focusing on the flaws.
Women on the whole are told they stink. Look at all the “feminine hygiene” products. As if our privates are supposed to smell like sunshine and apples. 😂🙄
Self care is not hygiene. Self care is learning effective communication, financial literacy, prioritization. If you struggle with cleanliness then self care would be working through finding the root of the issue and ways to mitigate it; it’s not the actual bathing part
I agree AND disagree. My bath routine is 100% part of my self care. It helps me relax, helps me sleep...but it's because of what I do, not because of what I buy. I light candles, I read, listen to music or watch TV on my laptop. I massage my head when I wash my hair, I slowly massage my face when I wash it. I don't think these people understand that it's not what you buy but how you treat yourself. But I am also prioritising the things you listed too! As with everything in life, it's all about balance!
Speak for yourself. Taking care of myself is a part of my self care. I just don’t believe I need 101 products to do so
I agree with the other forms of self care, however hygiene is part of that too.
When someone is depressed and not taking care of themselves. The first thing to go is usually hygiene. Mental health professionals will assess this and encourage hygiene practices to improve mindset and emotional wellbeing.
Only feeding your mind and neglecting the body is ridiculous. Without nurturing the body with the right kind of love - you’ll have a guaranteed future of health issues.
12 years in the medical field as a nurse, then as a doctor.
Skip the products everyone, and with the money you save, buy a gym membership. It will do so much more for your body and mind than any product ever could.
So true!
I agree! HEALTH IS WEALTH!
Or take a nap. Nobody gets enough sleep anymore.
True enough sleep, gym, healthy eating will save you alot@@farahng2867
Sure. But that doesn't mean people don't need moisturizers and sunscreens. Just don't go extreme in any direction.
As someone who is STILL dealing with an online shopping addiction, I just want to say thank you for this! While I've gotten considerably better over the years, it's a CONSTANT battle.
I recently got an offer for free shipping on a product and was ecstatic and immediately went to my cart and filled it up. Old me would've hit the checkout tab and went on about my day. Luckily reformed me has decided that I am going to use that offer for the one item I initially wanted but couldn't find at the store and didn't want to pay shipping for. I reminded myself that before this offer I truly only wanted ONE item. I will purchase it (on sale!) and be content😌
As someone with adhd buying stuff DO scratch my brain sometimes but I am so happy you didnt just say DONT BUY STUFF as it really does feel like an itch sometimes. The going an buying a coffee or a pastry is such a good option as you do scratch the itch and whilst you enjoy the loot you also get a moment to reflect
Just deleted a bunch of things off my Amazon list I was about to buy. While listening to this I realized the gratification would only be temporary but I’ll be permanently out of that money. So thank you ❤️
do you not have a job
i always go back to maslow's hierarchy of needs. at the top we have self-actualization, and that's what i've been striving to achieve in the past few years. maybe it's through therapy, but i've learned that what self-care truly means for me is discovering who i really am as a person and doing things that make me feel better mentally: making art, journaling, connecting with my ethnic roots, reading. even with all the struggles i have, i've found that self-actualization is what has made me happier than every purchase ever has.
I had a slight problem with overbuying skin care products. at the beginning of this year I made a promise to myself that I was going to use all my skin care that I have before I purchase anymore. The only thing that I was able to spend a little bit on was sunscreen. I had hundreds of facial masks and now I'm down to about three boxes. So proud of myself for using what I have first.
I've heard/read influencers talk about elaborate skin care routines being an "investment" that will save you money in the future. Invest hundreds on skincare products now and save thousands on cosmetic procedures later. It's a classic sales tactic to make people justify a big expense that they don't have an immediate need for.
self care has turned into treat yo self.. there is no difference
I agree!!!
the people who are like ' how did I spend $$700 at sephora??' Do they need to learn self-control? I'm hoping it's an act really. I think the term self-care is losing meaning. I never really saw all of this as self-care, only as overconsumption. Going on a nice walk, I'd like to take someone's dog with me self-care. Taking an Epsom salt bath with 1 candle and meditation music playing, self-care. Bringing a charcuterie board, bottle of wine, 30 candles, and two movies, excuse me what? I like baths but, not bath bombs, and sitting in the bath too long is bad for your skin.
"how did I spend 700 dollars at Sephora and return all of this shit in two days?!"
The $75 girl I got bc my hair was falling out and I got some k10
Oil and serum
$75. I cried but my stylist suggested it. Hair fell out anyway
I remember when the self care/improvement posts on social media were workout challenges, reading more, learning a new skill, etc. Now it’s just about spending more money on products you don’t need, which is insane in this economy
Your video is godsend. I have been craving buying stuff and it’s now obvious that my social media needs to go (except for my TH-cam subscriptions which don’t include anyone pushing me to buy stuff).
I love this video! Recently I realised that I’ve subconsciously started buying more and more stuff (mostly skincare and makeup), not in a concerning amount but still I realised that those products I bought three months ago are not even 1/3 used and most of the time I don’t see myself reaching for them. I also had a list in my note of all the skincare I wanted to try and some of them were really expensive (I try to really manage my finances cause I’m a student and I don’t have infinite money so thank god I didn’t buy those). The point is I finally understood that I was just wasting my money and good products, I stopped buying new stuff and I deleted that note (and I’m trying to stay less on social media). Now the rule is that I have to finish the product I already have before buying new ones! If you are struggling keep watching these videos, they will give you a dose of reality
Listen it is good that you're not going to be buying new stuff you won't use but it is also pretty normal for a product to not be a third used after 3 months? You use really little with each use, it is not rare for products to last for years.
I really had to check myself to stop buying another lip care product and realized I don’t need so many to keep my lips hydrated… those influencers really just promote toxic over consumption.
This is a true wake-up-call, almost all of the videos that pop up on my page r “self care tips”, “items you need”, and more like this
I only use face wash, vitamin c serum, moisturizer and SPF. These work well on my skin. I’ve tried different products and routines. Sometimes minimal skin care routines are better.
Sam except i also use tretinoin (retinol) at night.
Same but I use a gentle (drugstore) retinol and a salicylic acid serum. It seems to work very well for me and everything I’m currently using in my routine I’ve repurchased… so I have very much decided it works and I like it, and I’m maintaining the same routine and not out buying random new stuff.
Unfollowing anyone that tells me that something is life changing or that I "need" something - is my own self care. I run my life, I control what I view online. I would rather buy groceries and meaningful things that bring me happiness (traveling without using debt, journaling, painting, dancing). That is self care. Do not fall for the crap online, use your head, use your own judgement.
As a proud Sephora shareholder, this video depresses me and makes me feel good at the same time
I’m an ELF shareholder. No guilt and I’m very happy with my gains. ;)
How do you become a Sephora shareholder?
I love that you referenced the Word of God. Gluttony in every form is a sign we are searching for fulfillment in everything but God.
I agree and thank you! The true answers are in places some are not looking IMO 💕 God put it in my spirit to add that.
Self care can be so expensive for me, i am definitely cutting down on a lot and only sticking on things that i know work for my skin, being acne prone has led me on an expensive journey to find a solution 😅 but i also learning to cut back and just enjoy life
I feel you, I've done the same before. I just see the experts about it now, saves mkre time and mkney cause I dont know what I'm doing 😂 But i hope you find what works best for you 💕💕💕
Not gonna lie the afterpay shit makes me SO happy my parents instilled the fear of credit cards in me at a young age even if that’s also caused me a lot of anxiety (granted, anxiety that has probably kept me in less debt than I would have been in but still). I saw that the first time and I was like “fuck no”; if I can’t afford a moisturizer or something right now I do not need it. I will be saving debt for the big ticket purchases I can not afford to buy outright if I need to go into it.
Right, that is a risky game..
Finally visited a dermatologist and cut out all the 10-20 step bullshit skincare items all over Instagram. Although many people cannot afford such services, there are a lot of dermatologists on youtube that are incredibly helpful.
I started getting a massage every six weeks to help combat chronic stress. Is it expensive? Yes, but it’s actually something beneficial for my health and mental wellness so I consider it to be a good investment 🎉
I don’t know if you will see this but I really needed to find your channel. When I was laid off last year I used self care to spend 20k plus using credit cards and my savings. I am now making more money and I have a fiance. He pays our bills and I am paying my debt off. I wish I would’ve seen your channel first. You are such an amazing black women!!
I got rid of social media because it was overwhelming seeing the overconsumption happening but I’m not even safe on TH-cam anymore seeing people spend thousands for back to school or other things. It’s definitely stressful 😭
Great video. I've been operating on the mindset of I'm generally miserable so buy a little treat, a reward at the end of the week. I then lost everything I owned and justified excessive spending with well I meed to replace. But ultimately none of it was making me happier, the new skincare item didn't work any miracles, the expensive pretty shampoo from japan nothing more than any other I've used. And I look back and see money spent. Thousands that could have probably bought me my own home, a major need now. I see my path but everything is honestly so fucking depressing it's hard to stick to.
Thank you so much for talking about this, I’m so tired of overconsumption of products and life styles that it’s refreshing to see someone talk about anything else.
I fell into that trap and now I’m slowly getting out of this hell, and I know I’ll feel better.
Thank you again for reaffirming this, I really appreciate it.
My definition of “self care” used to be getting a new tattoo or piercing. I felt good about it, because I was “buying” a product/service that’s permanent and doesn’t contribute to overconsumption. Now that I’ve essentially run out of space, I’ve had trouble stopping myself from buying actual products. Now I just fill my cart, look at the total, and exit the tab :)!
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, it's great to see how perspectives change overtime. but it seems now you are making changes that will help you in the future.
I've been trying to reframe my self care as decluttering, putting my clothes away entirely, clearing off surfaces, etc. Because one of my biggest stressors in my home is bumping into things and not being able to find what I'm looking for. So if I really want to take care of myself, i should be focused on making my habitat more relaxing to be in lol
this is why I hate tiktok, most of the women on there are already beautiful and ever had acne problems, like me. I've always struggled with acne since fourth grade, now as a 17 year old female I'm trying to clear up my skin. Another thing is that my mom told me a story of how she was in serious debt b 19 because she used a credit card and feel into the negatives. overconsumption is going to increase unless influencers realize they are telling a dream that is only gonna make them hated..
Im so happy someone spoke on this. Im tired of these shorts with girls slapping products worth 1000's of dollars. It's all an illusion and totally useless.
Honestly, this is why I quit Sephora and this whole influencer thing makes me sick bro. I could not in good faith sell products to ppl genuinely struggling I knew would not work or they didn’t need. The best makeup artists literally reccomend using blush as lip stick, vice versa, eyeshadow as highlighter etc. you do NOT need a product for every single step. I hate this omg. Thank you for this video 🙏
Thank God I have sensitive skin. I could never use more than 3 products cause my skin would freak outtt
Same girl same my picky skin don,t need bougie they need no fragrance and a reasonable price
I always leave this comment on these types of videos and so I'll say it again: anyone who knows anything about psychology or therapy would know that self-care contains at least four parts and only one of them is the physical element of it, and at the same time, that physical element of it is not having every smell of the same soap, it is genuinely taken care of yourself in a way that is needed or relevant or Etc. I'm so ready to leave therapy buzzwords behind in 2024, as an educator that's my take
Very good take here! 💕💕💕💕
The idea of buying and using 17 beauty products as an act of self-care is insane. Like sure if your skin is THAT bad, but like her skin just looked slightly irritated. The only cost I have for myself is my nails. I would love to do them on my own one day, just because I like doing things for myself, but as a single mom not needing to do anything at all for like two hours and focusing only on myself during that time is vital for my mental health.
What I do as a form of self-care is create. Like making a bracelet for myself, or even editing my stories. If I don't get out my creativity somehow it ends up making me sad and depressed.
It was getting irritated, she did a followup video and she has calmed down on all the products. She says she was pretty much trying to figure out what works for her and made a mistake doing all that. I applaud her her her accountability and honesty! I'd love to know how to do nails too! I just wear mine bear, but I used to keep them done but I was looking for ways to save and it was THE 1ST things to go lol. I hope you learn, it could save so much! These are some great ideas! The creativity is a great outlet! I like using it as a release as well 💕
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Oohh! That makes a lot of sense. I hope so too! I haven't found regular polish that LASTS and since I get gel nails I don't necessarily wanna do that at home. I'd rather eat the cost, then risk getting an acrylate allergy.
I don't think enough people make art and it shows. So many more people will be happier if they drew or painted regardless if it's good or not
I cleared my face with working out, cutting out alcohol + junk food + sugar, and 4 products (toner, cleanser, vitamin c, sunscreen, & retinol @ night) anything beyond that is overkill.
No moisturizer?
That's 5 products and it's an overkill already. Anything beyond cleanser and moisturizer with SPF is. Eat vitamin C rich food if you need it so much
Girrrrlllll since i found put with don’t even really need toner i cut that out like 5yrs ago too. 😅
Mild cleanser, VitC&E serum, moisturiser, SPF
night: Mild cleanser, Tretinoin, Moisturiser
End off
yes, everyone should try an elimination diet before any product because it is free! i figured out i am milk protein intolerant, and quitting dairy got rid of the acne i had had for like 15 years
As someone who was born with skin conditions and A LOT of allergies, I have never been able to wear makeup, use 99% of beauty products, or even wash my hands with normal soap. I struggled a lot throughout school feeling as though I wasn't clean enough as I couldn't use all the fancy products the girls in my grade used. I technically have a morning, midday, and night skin routine however it's something that was created by doctors and purely for medical purposes. I HAVE to moisturise my entire body about 3 times a day, but I don't get to use creams in cute packaging with pretty smells, instead I get massive tubs of unscented cream in medical packaging.
As I left highschool these things started to not bother me anymore, but it's horrible to think that I was convinced I wasn't clean enough and made fun of not being trendy because of skin conditions and allergies. I was never on the beauty side of social media so it makes me sad thinking about kids who may be in a similar situation to me now having those feelings reinforced by these sorts of videos...
Thank you for shining a light on this. All you young girls need is a gentle cleaner and a good moisturizer with spf 30. Anything more is a gimmick. Once you get older then you can start adding hyaluronic and retinol.
700$ debt for "self-care" products?!!! I've spent the same amount in 2023, and that's including vitamins, paracetamol and other stuff for my 1st aid kit, contacts and compression socks. And I still think that I've overspent. 😅
i needed this a lot more then i thought i did. I have been more self aware of the things that I was purchasing and started to cut down but still didnt realize that i buy stuff to make me feel better and say its self care. even if the things i buy are cheap its not self care and unnecessary. thank you and i will be going on a FREE self care walk through the park instead.
@@krishnasuthar8278 I'm proud of you. THIS IS GROWTH 💕💕💕
My tips:
*Do not buy Anything Online!
*Use cash only!
*Do not splurge on yourself until all your bills are paid!
*Do not borrow money or get loans for "stuff"
*Do not shop when you are sad (or having a lot emotions that day)
*Do not buy new stuff (as in anything that has not been out for atleast a year then read reviews)
*Do not buy anything if you have not looked around, price checked and looked in 2nd hand stores first!
Hope this helps and yes this is what I do ❤
Watching you changed my perspective, I’m currently strategising on how to pay off my car faster. I started spending less too. love from South Africa ❤
as much as i loveee a facemask and a lil treat.. that's not what self care really is... self care is sleep. self care is eating good foods. self care is meditation, taking breaks, showing yourself love and compassion when you're feeling down. it's awesome to buy things that make us feel good, and make our skin look good, and our hair smell good.. but maybe we should consider spending your money mindfully and not over consuming as self care as well!
Soooooo true! To me that's real Luxoury
I thank God I'm a minimalist at heart. Aside from trying to find lower cost options of staples, I rarely buy new/trendy things. I only buy things I can test and return. Once I find something that works, I stick to it.
I'm a social worker and we constantly have self care pushed on us because our workplace health and safety risks are related to mental health and trauma.
Recently a survey came out asking staff what self care activities we need at work, the examples on the survey were team lunches, meditation etc.
The feedback from staff were role clarity, manageable case loads and clear communication from management. Team lunches make us feel better for half an hour. Good work conditions actually support our wellbeing long ter. That's what Audre Lorde was talking about. Caring for ourselves and each other is a powerful act of resistance
When I need to pamper myself I mostly go to shops like Dollar Tree or 5 Below. I always have some self care stuff, but never got broke. 😀
I love this video. It changed my mindset as a 16 year old who is bombarded with videos like this 24/7 NO JOKE. I never really fell for it since I think really hard before I buy but I buy the products that I need and that’s it. Yesterday I was considering spending £20 on that “life changing” summer Fridays lip balm. I’m so glad I have control. If anyone wants a tip for online shopping put things in your cart then wait for a week or 2 . If you truly want it you buy it but usually by then you realise you don’t need it at all and you save money and use it for something important!!!!
Ps. Your skin is glowing
I’m 26, getting married in a few months. My future mother in law got some Botox done a few months ago, and she was speaking to the doctor about the next time she should do it because she wanted it done again before our wedding. So after they talked about it, the doctor was like “well what about the bride? Is she going to come in?” And my fiancés mom was like oh no, she’s too young for Botox, and the doctor was like oh honey you’re never to young for Botox… when she told me that I was like yeah absolutely not. I’m not at all concerned about aging. My paternal grandmother was like 65 before she started really looking her age. I think I’ll be okay 😂 But that’s how they get you.
Wow that really makes me side eye the doctor for saying that lol botox is indeed not everyone
You know they would inject botox into toddlers if they could
It’s always a new skincare product every week they throw at us 😒
Love the section about retail therapy. I never thought about how indulging in it trains your brain into accepting spending money as easy dopamine. This is a really thoughtful video
I'm loving your videos! I've been building a playlist over many years of overconsumption and overspending videos and these fit perfectly. I've also found a few documentaries on credit card companies; the tactics they use to take advantage of human psychology are pretty shocking 😬😬 and that was before bn&pl! 😅
Your support means the world to me! It's awesome to hear that you're enjoying the content and finding it relevant to your interests and helpful 💕 The buy now pay later stuff is wild and yes it's very shocking the mind games that are being played.
this video was honestly such a calling, i struggle with over spending and impulsive buying and im trying to fix it, so when this video popped up on my recommended i felt heard and seen to the bad spending habits i desperately need to get rid of. its just one step forward, but even figuring out why i spend so much in the first place is an important first step. thank you for this video, i really needed it 💗💗
For me real self-care is getting outside and just listen to the birds and feel the wind on my face. Or pick up my fantasy novel and read the day away. Just unplugging. When I start wanting to spend a bunch of money on stuff, I know that’s when I need to get away from the phone
So happy to have found my CLAN here! I wholeheartedly agree with you Symone and I’ll also add how most consumerism is targeted only for women. It’s all about trying to make us feel uncomfortable with our appearance/ existence as if we are not/ won’t ever be good enough!😢
My skincare :
Night -micellar water
- Cleanser
-toner
-serum
-cream
-clay mask once a week
-sheet mask once a week
-lip balm
Day - serum the same as last night
-sunscreen
-lip balm
Same!!!!!!!! Also gut health is the cheapest way to clear up skin issues.. even cleaning your phones and washing pillow cases....
What about makeup
Your overconsumption is getting out of hand, contact someone who can help. That's not normal
هذا اول فيديو اشوفه لهذي القناه و اخيرا احد يتكلم عن هذا الهوس بشكل منطقي..رح اتابع كل فيديوهات القناه بقدر ما اقدر❤
I have 3 shampoo - deep cleaning and 2 gentle clean. Same with skin care - few cleaning, acids and moisture products. And one cream + spf cream. Ofc i check from time to time what is new in shops, add smth to wish list. But having 100 of items is literally waste of money- you cannot use all products before expire date. And creams are still chemicals, so there is the reason why it's better not to used expired products. Sadly there are some stories, when people decided to use expired eye shadows or creams - they all had bad irritation and chemical burns.
I also have a wish list. I check it monthly & when the items on my list go on sale then I buy them. I think the best thing no one says is to have a wish list
you put everything into perspective for me thank you so much. as a teenager in such a commercialized world, it's refreshing to get reminded that i don't need all of these things, and i should just focus on becoming my own person
Omg these people are overdoing it. I will say I have used afterpay but I pay it off within 6 months and I make sure its less than 200 bux total. Booking a vacay on layaway is insane I just wouldn't go because I wouldn't be able to enjoy it knowing how I got there. Another great video!
I agree! It's wild out here!!! 😂 I'd be scared to go cause what if you catch a flat or have an emergency and don't REALLY have the money. I can somewhat understand not wanting it all to come out "at once" but you can't stop what is going to happen overtime anyway IMO. Might as well feel it now than later. The issue is many people think it's "free money" and aren't responsible. And thank you!!!
Imo self care is doing things that will directly help you as a person. So you CAN buy things for self care but the buying itself is not self care.
Bingo! 🏆
As a person who have acne problem for a loooooong time. Every time I bought that fancy popular skin products that were supposed to make my skin perfect, just ended with worse acne or did just nothing. The ONLY person who help me with my skin is a good DERMATOLOGIST, who advises me products which help specifically with my skin, my problems and etc. and it’s NEVER expensive fancy products.
My self-care is continuously buying pounds of peanuts to feed my local crows and get feathers and eucalyptus seeds from them. They recognize me and follow me for blocks and they bring me a lot of joy with their silly antics
I do agree totally with you. Social media unfortunately embrace this trends and people are often confused what it means to care after yourself. The same goes with fad diets or unnecessary supplements. In the end there are businesses that profit from it heavily. I am fighting currently with my obsession of buying perfumes and it is not easy to ditch it.
The amount of self care steps for facial routine is baffling. The only barrier you are destroying is your skin. These facial products make it so that you have to go back for more. They ruin your face permanently for this reason.