How To Get An INFP To Love You

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2024
  • Set goals for 2024 in our monthly workshop & get a handwritten quests card: patreon.com/erikthor In this video, I wanna talk about the basics of how to make an INFP love you, by making them feel safe to open up around you, and by allowing them to be a little crazy, free, and creative without judgement, as well as some don'ts when dealing with the INFP personality type.
    #infp #infplove #infps
    Become an Actualized INFP with Erik Thor!
    My name is Erik Thor and I have always had a lot of love for INFPs. You have all helped me more than you know and your energy continues to be an inspiration to me in my own life. I wanted to make this channel because I don't really have time to on my main channel anymore. This channel is dedicated to talking about the INFP - introverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving personality type, but without stereotypes.
    The goal is to help you get the most out of personal growth and find your own path in life. I'm against labels and for insight into the unique things that make you who you are, and to me, the MBTI is just a tool. I use Jungian psychology to help guide people in the goal of individuation, integration, and personal growth.

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  • @lastgunman5270
    @lastgunman5270 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    How to get them to love the INFP is the real question :D

  • @purple9687
    @purple9687 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Watching this to make me love myself more 💅

  • @Jungslab1312
    @Jungslab1312 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Excellent points, especially where you pointed out the need for patience. The thoroughness is fundamental component of INFPs. If you're trying to rush them, you're putting them in places where they shouldn't be at all. Fish shouldn't be graded on their ability to climb a tree.

  • @leahcortez8685
    @leahcortez8685 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for making these things plain. as an ENFP, you helped me see how some of my behaviors that I may lay down as exciting, can present as competitive to an INFP man.

  • @jeplica7011
    @jeplica7011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I used to trust and open up , but it takes alot now. And i learned that theres a tricky infatuation period of 3 to 6 months where oxytocin seratonin dopamine vasopressin adrenaline are in high gear,. And if you're fooled into making any commitments, the real person shows up and you hate everything about each other

    • @Montanero
      @Montanero 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm sorry to hear that. I can imagine what it's like. I wish you happiness and fulfillment in what's to come.

  • @delanebredvik
    @delanebredvik ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Fun to watch this and feel "seen."

    • @Mindsetolympics
      @Mindsetolympics 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ikr like someone actually cares about the infps 😂😂

  • @lilnikitoska4056
    @lilnikitoska4056 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Guys, let's be honest with ourselves - being an infp, it's very difficult for us to find a girl with whom we have a good relationship. Personally, I have already managed to be a little disappointed in this whole story with romantic relationships. Before I found out about MBTI, I thought that I was some kind of abnormal, I didn't fit men's standards. Now it's better in this regard, but to be honest, I don't really hope to find a person who could understand me. I hope that at least everyone else is doing much better, and you have more chances for a positive relationship ❤

    • @squirrelsyrup1921
      @squirrelsyrup1921 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hope things are going well for you bro

    • @lilnikitoska4056
      @lilnikitoska4056 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@squirrelsyrup1921 it's better now, thanks)

    • @imeprezime9098
      @imeprezime9098 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are not alone.. Don't make a mistake like i did and completely shut the door due to continuous disappointments. I was alone for too long before i met my partner. Give it enough time and the right person will find you. Most likely when you least expect it 🤍

    • @hhbased
      @hhbased 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I have never read a comment that was more accurate about my whole life and how i feel, wtf. As a male infp i also always felt abnormal etc. When I was young i remember a girl, that had a crush in me, saying that im different and special compared to all the other boys. I took it almost as an insult back then, because at that time i just wanted to be a normal cool guy. Im 28 now and had 6 relationsships already, none of these lasted longer than half a year. A lot of girls find me attractive, interesting or mysterious and are intrigued in the beginning but after a while they always lose interested, say that we better are friends or say that they just dont understand me. Being a male INFP feels a bit like being an Alien to be honest :P

    • @lilnikitoska4056
      @lilnikitoska4056 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@hhbased SAME, BRO. But I'm 21 yo and almost all girls who I ever liked can feel me like a friend from the beginning, or don't understand at all... I'm working for my character, and now I think that I'm handsome enough, and I became a little bit of a normal person lol. I'm a self-confident now, but anyway that's not enough for women. Idk what should I do... But now I feel like being alone is not bad, at least now...

  • @jeremiahshackelford9656
    @jeremiahshackelford9656 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I want to give this man a hug. So thoughtful and honest.

  • @stephyLynn7
    @stephyLynn7 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When we are stressed….tell us to breathe and breathe with us… tap into our physical world to pull us out of our heads: send us flowers, sweets, dinner, a candle…. Something to ground us. ❤ we’re like kids who need a nap and a snack and a hug lol

  • @tinkershell1856
    @tinkershell1856 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This is so good and so thoughtful ❤❤❤ definitely do not overplan with us! ☺️

  • @hhbased
    @hhbased 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Some comments here are 100% accurate about my whole life and how i feel, wtf. As a male infp i also always felt abnormal etc. When I was young i remember a girl, that had a crush in me, saying that im different and special compared to all the other boys. I took it almost as an insult back then, because at that time i just wanted to be a normal cool guy. Im 28 now and had 6 relationsships already, none of these lasted longer than half a year. A lot of girls find me attractive, interesting or mysterious and are intrigued in the beginning but after a while they always lose interested, say that we better are friends or say that they just dont understand me. Being a male INFP feels a bit like being an Alien to be honest :P

  • @peachesandpoets
    @peachesandpoets ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Very good. I think for many reasons we can be prone to attract narcissistic personalities and can be manipulated. But I do think once a "healthy" (whatever that means) realizes it, they will protect themselves, perhaps to an extreme. This was all very helpful

    • @Mindsetolympics
      @Mindsetolympics 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That’s what I’m saying how can you know when you’ve arrived at healthy?

    • @melonbreadz6998
      @melonbreadz6998 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Mindsetolympicswhen you can set healthy boundaries for yourself, and you wont let someone run you over and use you :0

  • @Kurokitty23
    @Kurokitty23 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    All these points are correct

  • @RelyableLerilay
    @RelyableLerilay ปีที่แล้ว +5

    3:20 ah yes, randomness

  • @AlienFoodWizard1
    @AlienFoodWizard1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome vibes ☮️💕🖖🏼

  • @Thatonelonelyfrog
    @Thatonelonelyfrog ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel seen thank you!

  • @jeplica7011
    @jeplica7011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Honestly you can behave any way or no way,. It depends completely on what your nosse breath smells like. And if you can actually accept the whole shebang without trying to change them and offer strength in weaker areas, reciprocally that's all.

  • @jeremiahshackelford9656
    @jeremiahshackelford9656 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @lukemullineux
    @lukemullineux ปีที่แล้ว

    Nice

  • @aaaabbbb8650
    @aaaabbbb8650 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i am intj
    I am struggling with my infp gf, i love her, but when she starts asking me Questions and points out my mistakes, I feel helpless
    Whenever I say something in my defence, she says "again you are comparing / explaining etc"
    I don't know how to talk with emotions
    She said you should understand, but for that also she i should know where i am going wrong
    But she is not ready to open up
    Please help

    • @actualizedinfp
      @actualizedinfp  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Sorry to hear, I think, if you start out by acknowledging when she is right before you explain, that might make it easier to breach. Otherwise you both have a right to your experience of a situation the most important thing is you make her feel respected and listened to. What do you do to comfort her when upset? What do you do to put her at ease? How do you show her that you are listening and that you consider her point of view? You are allowed to process things rationally but remember that doesnt mean you dont have emotions. So do acknowledge that they are there. Even for a second go “Am I angry right now?” “Am I sad right now?” and then you can dissect that afterwards. Or first approach it logically but then when done stop and consider how this situation impacted your energy, motivation, confidence, etc

    • @actualizedinfp
      @actualizedinfp  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      oh and read the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse to make sure you both fight fair in arguments. and remember its normal to fight in relationships!

    • @aaaabbbb8650
      @aaaabbbb8650 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@actualizedinfp now i can see my mistakes, she once said indirectly, i never acknowledge her, doesn't matter what she does. But deep down I admire her thoughts, it's just i never expressed
      thanks bro

    • @crystalangel1471
      @crystalangel1471 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      As an infp lady, I can relate to her. We needs lots of affirmation, and what you really think about us (positive ones). We are sensitive to criticism and comparisons. We hate those, because we are unique in our own personality, there is no reason for comparison or getting harshlg competitive against us.
      We appreciate simple gestures, affirmative words, helping us grow, constructive criticism with a loving tone of voice (not comparisons).
      We are nonconformists and will not budge when it comes to our passions and values..

    • @aaaabbbb8650
      @aaaabbbb8650 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@crystalangel1471it's hard for me to expose my love in words. If there is a problem i just tell her the best way to get out of the problem and be there for her.
      I can't express my love in words but i can show it in my actions
      I cook for her,
      I keep track of her medicines and therapy,
      I help her in all of her problems when none of her friends is there
      Isn't it sufficient to prove my love for her ,