I am a 68 year old INFP and yes life does get a lot better. I don't like conflict but I can assert myself. I have a much better understanding of myself and the world around me. I love being an old INFP.
I agree! Learning not to take things so personally, and learning how to assert yourself helps so much. To all younger infps who struggle- don't think something is wrong with you, that's just how we're made to feel a lot of the time. When you start to understand that the only thing that is wrong is not valuing and accepting yourself enough, things start to get a lot better:)
I am a 72 yr. old female INFP. Yes, it gets better as you've moved through life and understand and accept your personality and (for lack of a better word) quirks. I bounced around in several jobs before, in my early 30's, I was asked to join the staff of my veterinary clinic. I'd found my place and stayed there for 25 years. Regarding 'the dark place'. I struggled with a very deep dark place after the death of my husband. I longed for that dreamy, creative, excited about the smallest things person I used to be. It's been almost three years now. In the last few months, I've watched for long moments as bumble bees fed on flowers, or as they slept on leaves after a cold night. I had a rush of joy at hearing a new call from an owl one morning. I've decided at this point in life that I love being an INFP. I never made a lot of money, but I didn't care. My life has been full of wonder, and I am happy with that.
sorry to hear that about your husband and thank you for sharing about your journey. it sounds very INFP. vet, dark place, dreamy creative exploration, joy in just watching the small things, not making a lot of money, full of wonder...
@@GeekPsychology Thank you. During that raw period of grief after the death of my spouse, I went into a world of intense self-reflection. I'd already been self-reflective anyhow, but this was all consuming. After three years, those raw edges have softened and I'm becoming 'myself' again. My husband never took the MBPT tests, he thought it was stupid. After his death I decided to take the test as if I were him. Dicey at best, I thought I knew him quite well (we'd been married for 46 years). I took multiple tests and there was some overlap of course, due to me taking the test, not him. My conclusion at this point is that he was leaning heavily toward being an INFJ. I think that might explain how well we meshed, but also how vigorously we butted heads sometimes. Still, the marriage was good, we made it through some very bad times and stayed together for 46 years.
@@PamelaW-t8y thanks for sharing your story.. it's full of hope to me ..l hope to be in peace and happiness (l am not good at English so forgive me mistakes 😅)
@@mahaabdalla6641 Thank you for your comment. I'm glad my post was helpful for you. Nothing needs forgiving. I understood your English perfectly. I would like to share with you my favorite poem about Hope. “Hope” is the thing with feathers By Emily Dickinson “Hope” is the thing with feathers - That perches in the soul - And sings the tune without the words - And never stops - at all - And sweetest - in the Gale - is heard - And sore must be the storm - That could abash the little Bird That kept so many warm - I’ve heard it in the chillest land - And on the strangest Sea - Yet - never - in Extremity, It asked a crumb - of me.
Everyone told me as a kid that I had "an old soul", always felt kind of beyond my peers so to speak, but when adulthood came everyone around me treated me like I was still a kid, myself included granted. It's quite a rollercoaster of existence lol
@@GeekPsychology Freedom truly comes from knowing who you are so that you can build on your strengths and better one your weaknesses. And comming to terms with being the odd one out and always being misunderstood
As an 40 year old INFP I can say it took a long time to figure out what worked best for me. In fact, I am still exploring. But I can say for certainty, meditation is a godsend. Its literally working from the inside out. I highly recommend any INFP to start a meditation practice. Everything else changes because of it.
I agree 100% with this, I am now in my late 40s (INFP Male) and when I was young, I hated how I was wired but today life is good, I have my home, I have a job I love and a wife that is great to me and has been there for me through good and bad for 25 years. The only advise I have is don't be afraid of taking chances, I regret things I did not do much more than things I did do.
The longer we have to understand ourself - the better it gets... But you need to align with your strengths and fill your gaps! Thank you Matt for all your efforts to explain all the INFP aspects for everyone!
This is very true. Growing into my INFP’dom at the same time as learning to not give too many shits about what other people think has been magical 🧚 (45f)
Very true and I can relate. After finishing my law degree in the UK I moved to Taiwan for several years. Only when I was 35 did I qualify as a lawyer. Since then I have been moving from strength to strength (though not without huge challenges and difficulties obviously).
One could argue such is true for any type. It is no coincidence that I went through the anguish that recently found its way inside my skull. Without the aid of my dominant function (Fi), coupled with extreme limitations on my aux(Se), I was completely lost to the world. I found some solace in my demon function (Ti), but the reasoning seemed so hollow, devoid of purpose and meaning. It was not my intent to find what I did. In fact, I had abhorrently and vehemently denied this aspect for ages. Citing the fact that I knew this was the path created for me before the stars were even born. I'm not fully certain this has anything to do with a particular function, but things began to click, and the walls I had erected around myself began to crumble. I begged for some sense of direction, some semblance of purpose, some meaning behind all this that has scarred my mind and vessel. In the words of Benjamin Burnley, it was as if I had been broken so badly that I was born to burn. Yet I find that everlasting light has shown upon me. As I awaken, as I arise, I can still hear the call of life. I put down my arms as my shields eroded, and I embraced the light of Christ.
Sure it happens for all of us. But I know that many INFPs don’t believe things will get better. And many of us feel broken. I was talking to an ENFJ friend and he said “do people actually feel like that?” My mind grinder to a halt when I realized that not everyone goes through that. :o I’m glad you got benefit from Ti. That can be a tricky one. It’s helped me too. Maybe that’s why Beebe talks about the 8th function has being a daimon and having transformational energy. ;)
@GeekPsychology I can understand, my brother (INFP) is still stuck where he has been for all of his life. I try to help where I can, but at the same time, I know I can't remove the splinter from his eye while there is a plank in mine. He has always looked up to me for reasons I'll never understand, but perhaps I can show him by doing the things the Lord has asked me to do.
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I started my masters in a foriegn country. I have to do part time job to support myself. My seniors told me that i am slow and I should not be asking things again and again
🎶🎵Francios van Coke- Dit raak beter🎶🎵🇿🇦( it gets better) chorus goes " dit raak better as jy ouer raak, en my kop voel minner duer mekaar( it gets better as you get older, my head feels less messy/ confused) 😅infp song😅have a listen
I am a 68 year old INFP and yes life does get a lot better. I don't like conflict but I can assert myself. I have a much better understanding of myself and the world around me. I love being an old INFP.
I agree! Learning not to take things so personally, and learning how to assert yourself helps so much. To all younger infps who struggle- don't think something is wrong with you, that's just how we're made to feel a lot of the time. When you start to understand that the only thing that is wrong is not valuing and accepting yourself enough, things start to get a lot better:)
thanks for sharing!
I am a 72 yr. old female INFP. Yes, it gets better as you've moved through life and understand and accept your personality and (for lack of a better word) quirks. I bounced around in several jobs before, in my early 30's, I was asked to join the staff of my veterinary clinic. I'd found my place and stayed there for 25 years. Regarding 'the dark place'. I struggled with a very deep dark place after the death of my husband. I longed for that dreamy, creative, excited about the smallest things person I used to be. It's been almost three years now. In the last few months, I've watched for long moments as bumble bees fed on flowers, or as they slept on leaves after a cold night. I had a rush of joy at hearing a new call from an owl one morning. I've decided at this point in life that I love being an INFP. I never made a lot of money, but I didn't care. My life has been full of wonder, and I am happy with that.
@@PamelaW-t8y So sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best for the rest of your journey!
sorry to hear that about your husband
and thank you for sharing about your journey. it sounds very INFP. vet, dark place, dreamy creative exploration, joy in just watching the small things, not making a lot of money, full of wonder...
@@GeekPsychology Thank you. During that raw period of grief after the death of my spouse, I went into a world of intense self-reflection. I'd already been self-reflective anyhow, but this was all consuming. After three years, those raw edges have softened and I'm becoming 'myself' again. My husband never took the MBPT tests, he thought it was stupid. After his death I decided to take the test as if I were him. Dicey at best, I thought I knew him quite well (we'd been married for 46 years). I took multiple tests and there was some overlap of course, due to me taking the test, not him. My conclusion at this point is that he was leaning heavily toward being an INFJ. I think that might explain how well we meshed, but also how vigorously we butted heads sometimes. Still, the marriage was good, we made it through some very bad times and stayed together for 46 years.
@@PamelaW-t8y thanks for sharing your story.. it's full of hope to me ..l hope to be in peace and happiness (l am not good at English so forgive me mistakes 😅)
@@mahaabdalla6641 Thank you for your comment. I'm glad my post was helpful for you. Nothing needs forgiving. I understood your English perfectly. I would like to share with you my favorite poem about Hope.
“Hope” is the thing with feathers
By Emily Dickinson
“Hope” is the thing with feathers -
That perches in the soul -
And sings the tune without the words -
And never stops - at all -
And sweetest - in the Gale - is heard -
And sore must be the storm -
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm -
I’ve heard it in the chillest land -
And on the strangest Sea -
Yet - never - in Extremity,
It asked a crumb - of me.
I hope so. Im almost 34 and ive never felt more lost in my life.
do you know where you want to go?
Same here im almost 33 and Im still not sure what I want to be when I grow up.
Everyone told me as a kid that I had "an old soul", always felt kind of beyond my peers so to speak, but when adulthood came everyone around me treated me like I was still a kid, myself included granted. It's quite a rollercoaster of existence lol
i resonate with that.
life is weird :P
Same thing here people used to always call me that but now I am 32 and I feel like the youngest soul in existnece.
matt you genuinely look like you’re in your early 20’s wow no way you’re 40
1984 ^^
Thank you thank you. I only discovered myself in 2024. Im 39. Learning about INFP being a swiss army knife of personalities. Its liberating.
you're welcome. what about it is liberating to you?
@@GeekPsychology Freedom truly comes from knowing who you are so that you can build on your strengths and better one your weaknesses. And comming to terms with being the odd one out and always being misunderstood
As an 40 year old INFP I can say it took a long time to figure out what worked best for me. In fact, I am still exploring. But I can say for certainty, meditation is a godsend. Its literally working from the inside out. I highly recommend any INFP to start a meditation practice. Everything else changes because of it.
meditation is great
i think we're always still exploring -- and that's great. i would hate to have figured everything out.
I agree 100% with this, I am now in my late 40s (INFP Male) and when I was young, I hated how I was wired but today life is good, I have my home, I have a job I love and a wife that is great to me and has been there for me through good and bad for 25 years. The only advise I have is don't be afraid of taking chances, I regret things I did not do much more than things I did do.
great advice
The longer we have to understand ourself - the better it gets... But you need to align with your strengths and fill your gaps! Thank you Matt for all your efforts to explain all the INFP aspects for everyone!
yup!
you're welcome
This is hopeful, optimistic and inspiring. Exactly what some of us needed to hear right now!
glad to hear it
This is very true. Growing into my INFP’dom at the same time as learning to not give too many shits about what other people think has been magical 🧚 (45f)
there ya go!
Very true and I can relate. After finishing my law degree in the UK I moved to Taiwan for several years. Only when I was 35 did I qualify as a lawyer. Since then I have been moving from strength to strength (though not without huge challenges and difficulties obviously).
challenges shape us :)
that's cool that you qualified as a lawyer!
This is so true its hard to find a perfect career path
worth the effort tho!
Uplifting and encouraging as always. Thank you for your work. I always feel better after listening ❤
I'm sorry, 40?! Bro, you look like you just hit your 30s!
:) i don't feel like it!
One could argue such is true for any type. It is no coincidence that I went through the anguish that recently found its way inside my skull.
Without the aid of my dominant function (Fi), coupled with extreme limitations on my aux(Se), I was completely lost to the world.
I found some solace in my demon function (Ti), but the reasoning seemed so hollow, devoid of purpose and meaning.
It was not my intent to find what I did. In fact, I had abhorrently and vehemently denied this aspect for ages. Citing the fact that I knew this was the path created for me before the stars were even born.
I'm not fully certain this has anything to do with a particular function, but things began to click, and the walls I had erected around myself began to crumble.
I begged for some sense of direction, some semblance of purpose, some meaning behind all this that has scarred my mind and vessel.
In the words of Benjamin Burnley, it was as if I had been broken so badly that I was born to burn. Yet I find that everlasting light has shown upon me. As I awaken, as I arise, I can still hear the call of life.
I put down my arms as my shields eroded, and I embraced the light of Christ.
Sure it happens for all of us.
But I know that many INFPs don’t believe things will get better. And many of us feel broken.
I was talking to an ENFJ friend and he said “do people actually feel like that?” My mind grinder to a halt when I realized that not everyone goes through that. :o
I’m glad you got benefit from Ti. That can be a tricky one. It’s helped me too. Maybe that’s why Beebe talks about the 8th function has being a daimon and having transformational energy. ;)
@GeekPsychology I can understand, my brother (INFP) is still stuck where he has been for all of his life. I try to help where I can, but at the same time, I know I can't remove the splinter from his eye while there is a plank in mine.
He has always looked up to me for reasons I'll never understand, but perhaps I can show him by doing the things the Lord has asked me to do.
Hope it helped ^^
✅ INFP Masterclass: Learn skills to help you be a happy INFP infp.geekpsychology.com
✅ FREE 5-Day INFP Personality Type Tutorial INowFeelPositive.com
And i want my creativity to work out
what would that look like?
I started my masters in a foriegn country. I have to do part time job to support myself. My seniors told me that i am slow and I should not be asking things again and again
are you slow? i am and always have been! let's call it "thorough" from now on :P
🎶🎵Francios van Coke- Dit raak beter🎶🎵🇿🇦( it gets better) chorus goes " dit raak better as jy ouer raak, en my kop voel minner duer mekaar( it gets better as you get older, my head feels less messy/ confused) 😅infp song😅have a listen
You know what i think ill finally pursue the goal i always wanted to! Ill let you k ow if it works out
plz let us know!
oh good bc i’m 15 and i feel disgusting!! 🤗
How come?