Because when their entire existence is built on lies, it makes their life crumble beneath them. Leaving them back at square one. Which is the broken child they left behind in pursuit of a self serving lifestyle
I need to realize that I am not being rejected because of something wrong with me, but because of something I know that is correct. I can't get those mixed up any more. Truth-Teller now is my middle name!
@@Richard-n2w1g Yes! I need to remember that things are opposite of how they seem in quite a few different ways. This is the result of realities built on lies decade after decade.
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
Remember the BLACK SHEEP IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL OF ALL THE SHEEP! Her wool stays true vs. easy to change with dye and other processes to mask its true nature! “No one is more hated than (S)he who tells the truth!”
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
The story of my childhood. My parents tried their best to break me. They sent enabling relatives and friends to guilt trip me. The smear campaigning isolated me. Even my teachers were roped in to humiliate and punish me for my ‘defiance’. When they attempted to turn my own children against me, I chose to cut off all ties, walked out of their life and was blessed with peace and healing. It’s not a loss to rid yourself of darkness. Love and light to everyone here!❤️
That makes two of us . Exactly. Now they hoovering. Narc sis invites me and kids .We don't go. Two narc bros called and said they missed me. Me going no contact.
My mom turned my 3 older kids against me. They act just like her because they grew up around her dogging me. I’ve tried everything to show them I love them, their children. I’ve apologized for wrongs I’ve done. But when they don’t get their way they start acting like her. I choose me!
i’m an unapologetic truth teller. always being told to shut up and not be invited to celebrations, not be a part of my family, that i’m “too difficult to be around.” i’m not going to stay quiet when they’re being a-holes. but then again, i don’t have to live with myself the way that they have to. do whatever good you can do, when others may not be able to help themselves. especially when there's children being manipulated by toxic adults. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
They re a cult, I too wondered why I was left out, prob made their blainten uglinesses and stupidities stand out even more, my successes and hard fought for happinesses and educations hard contrasts next to them, they would had same parents them who even invited them to their weddings😂😊😅
i don't have kids, but my buddy has a boy (10) and a girl (8). from time to time i go watch their soccer/hockey/dance events. i am one of the few friends/relatives that goes to their events. funny thing about the buggers, they have the memory of an elephant. they def are developing an opinion of who they like and who is bad. they can see who is real, and who is fake. i don't get involved with the politics of their relatives. but when i am around, and if i am to see some of their toxic adult relatives trying to manipulate the kids, i wouldn't hesitate to step in and protect them. cheers, steven
@@carparthero it's a different world today and def not easy. It is changing quickly day by day. Kids seem so far more advanced than when I was younger. So if you can be a friend. uncle-like figure to them especially at their age, it is reassuring to them if they know you will be there and have their back if they need help. That's what it takes and I truly believe you sound like the type of guy who would step up to the plate and take care of matters. You're a survivor, so you have the tools for tough situations.
@@lorenebaxter-e8c thanks for your kind words. actually, my buddy's mom who is now 75 (i am 50) did a lot for me back in the 1980s thru mid 2000's when i was a kid and as a young adult. i had a difficult family situation with 2 narcissist parents. so this is way to pay back or show appreciation for what she did. from time to time i go visit her and the kids when they are at their grandma's place, bringing them pizza for all of us. of course the grandma refuses to take any credit for what she did for me. the kids are slowly developing their own social skills and friendships with kids their age. so while i am around, i don't want to be too much of a nuisance either. i do let them know that if there is a problem, they can let me know. for the most part their family situation is good. there is the narcissist grandfather but he is too self-absorbed to be involved much with his kids and grandkids. cheers, steven
To tell the truth in some situations it’s very dangerous!! My mother did that and she had to fly to a distant country otherwise she would have been killed by my father. These narcissists feel threatened by the truth to a point that they become violent. Thank you for your video; I can relate to it.
I remember her always telling me to tell her the truth. And as soon as l was telling her the truth, she was becoming furious and was screaming and insulting and then wasn't speaking to me for 3-4 days. Then l had to ask sorry and bend the knee in order to appease her. The same goes for her children , parents , siblings and relatives. So everybody lies to her beacause very simply she can't handle the truth. Thanks God Almighty because He pulled me out of this HELL
Absolutely true, Danish. Truth teller here (and a truth seeker) since I was a little kid. I could never stand seeing others being abused, always standing for vulnerable victims because I know what it's like being bullied, calling everything by its name. Lies are a heavy burden while the truth will set you free. Narcissists are cowards bound enslaved to their lies and constantly fearful of being exposed. Piece of mind is priceless. Thank you for speaking out the truth about narcissism, you're a true warrior.
You just spoke for me and who I’ve been my whole life. I took beatings meant for my siblings because I knew my narc parent just wanted something he could spend his rage on. It always hurt me more to watch it happen and knowing my turn would come. I’ve always been a truth teller and I’ve always paid dearly for it. I will never change in this because I have to live with the real me every single day and the truth is essential for living, growing, healing. I would rather be cast out for being who I really am than trying to fake &/or lie my way into giving myself cover and being part of the toxic miasma that life with narcs & their enablers.
@@SailBale007 exactly. There's nothing better than being mindfully aware of who you are, embrace and accept your own self with your virtues and flaws than being someone fake full of lies, hate and deceit. Keep strong.
When you're on to them.They gaslight you. Making you out to look crazy. Also blaming you for their actions so you have no support. They really are pathetic people
Yes. It’s so bizarre when they gaslight you when there’s no one else to fool. Like when they try to convince you that they didn’t say something they said to you or do something they did to you. “I didn’t say that. I would never say that.” “That’s not what I did. You’re remembering it wrong.” So sincere. Looking at you like they’re concerned for your sanity. It’s just unbelievable. Good luck bro.
Very interesting point. Truth teller here, and against all odds I can't be anything else. Sure have lost a lot of people in my life. But that's ok. "When God removes people from your life: Let them go." Thanks for all you do Danish ❤
This entire week I was gaslighted while I was calling my covert narcissist out on his behaviour, the unkept promises and empty words....that was a totally crazy experience. I was literally going insane while proving my point to him. So devastating 😢.
No need for crazy making from the bcs they cant handle the truth. In my experience these people learn nothing in lide! They have no desire to learn rather driven by a sick need to cause and enjoy pain. I dont think narcissism is the proper name, they are more like sadists. Take care of yourself You are not alone❤️
Time to start planning and get out. Remember the narcissist can NOT change and cannot feel empathy and cannot love. The longer you stay, the more difficult it is.
Yep. Me, too. I feel your pain. You are not alone. I hope you know it was not your fault. When I went no contact I left everything behind including my entire extended biological family. Wishing you peace and healing on your journey of recovery.
Yes, my narcissist mother would get so angry and punish me verbally abusing for speaking truth which is contradiction to her and all examples mentioned here apply.
Had that too. When i finally got old enough, i told the neighbors i was not being fed. Well, word got back to my mother that the truth was told and all hell broke loose. The truth had been told.
I have no single family member or my siblings by my side because my narcissistic mother divided the family and us as siblings. I've never met my nephew. Am completely alone and the only family I have are my 2 kids in this world.
You’re not alone. I was in the same boat as well. You don’t wanna be interlinked with those demonic spirits anyway. Consider yourself the one that got away. Love yourself enough to realize that you DESERVE to be free away from those karmic narcs. God bless you and your children
I'm in your exclusive club, too. The victimisation of the victim is cruel, and too many uninformed people out there will do that to your face. I've gone the total no contact thing with birth family, (24yrs) and backstabbing has destroyed extended family contact. So alone. But not out. Actually flourishing. I hope one day the grandchildren will track me down. I hope they remember their loving Nana, for their lives must be hell with two narc parents. I had thought the overt was bad enough, but the covert are truly something else. Big learning. Faith in God has grown to be truly comforting. Keep loving despite all, brave survivors.
Hello my name is Klarissa. Whenever you start to tell the truth the narcissists start to smear your name. When you tell the truth people always think you're crazy, or not normal. And they get more enablers to gain up on you when you start to speak the truth of something they did wrong. The video related to me. Thank you for helping with the videos.
Before I figured it out, my family narcs broke into home over the course of several years. They stole and vandalized. They successfully gaslighted me at the time. Today I know better but the scars are there permanently. No one believed that it was my family.
@@fingerfret8645 I'm sorry that you had to go through this.In my experiences of my own life. Family members are the worsts narcissists. They have stolen money, materialistic belongings.Will Lie, smear campaigns when then they have wronged me. Will destroy relationships/connections I had with outside people. I have arrived at this when people do not believe about family members doing this type of wickedness. That let's me know not to waste my time on them either. Clearly they themselves are predators with this mind set. I had a situation a while back where I had some crazy narc neighbors. They were breaking into my place, and vandalizing. My family members try to gas light me. Telling me that those people were not doing that to me. They did not believe me etc. My family members ARE the same predators as those people. That's why they take up for them.
Those who wish to but cannot control us smear us, I'm sure they do this thinking our smearing of them is on our agenda but it's very much the furthest thing from our minds, mainly cuz we have one plus lives too!
@@fingerfret8645yrs back, still wanna be narc hubby's neighbour I was locked out of his place, I wanted to go over and turn the heat up (he was working aft. shift)... I called my older brother to help me get in, no prob, even brought his young son.... Malignant covert mom lied to overt narc bro that my boyfriend, my neighbour accused bro stolen hundreds and this lie lived for 30 yrs, hearing this hubby and I laughed, we'd never heard of any of it and had it been true we knew my husband would have made me pay it back! My bro's no prize but he could have said something, I'm no contact all around, 1st his wife, my ex bff who chose him upon seeing him but I'm tired of her crap and now him, he kept putting off going no contact with our older overt coke head sis... I told him he didn't want to hear it but it was his ego which kept her coming around then she brutalized his son, our cous too whom I'm no contact with, they love drama but try to convince you otherwise say the truth sayers!
All narcissists have a severe sense of entitlement.. never accountable for anything. But if you dont follow the rules.they become angry beyond words. They have this mentality. RULES ARE FOR THEE, NOT ME!
this is my contribution to you for being a truth teller🙏🏾💜💖 as I also was one to my narcissist ex husband & indeed I broke the chains for my sons.. appreciate your work.. greetings from Germany 🇩🇪🖤
I love the idea of building a deep bond with my authentic self. This brings along with it an acceptance that I am seeing, feeling, and ready to reveal, the truth. I feel like having that engraved on something so I can always know that truth-telling is the best part of my authentic self.
I was the first born. I was told by both my parents that it was my responsibility to take care of my 2 younger siblings. long into adulthood. so much life threatening abuse from toddlerhood on. and soul crushing betrayal. we all now have scars physical and emotional in our 60s and 70s. I risked all to protect my siblings who became enablers to my narc father. I got it from both sides. my raging narc father, passive mother, and jealous resentful siblings because "I made waves" I fought fiercely, FOR THEIR SAFETY. and spoke the truth about what was going on. but I found myself labeled as the problem. yet in my 50's my narc dad and my sister exposed themselves . the TRUTH JUST FELL OUT one day. and not of my doing. in the end I had my father's respect. he saw that I acted with committed integrity to his death bed. a blessing. and I succeeded in miraculous ways in my career. blessed with intuition and out of the blue opportunities. at 66 yrs old I moved 3 states away from my siblings. for a quality life and friends with hearts and integrity.
@@Jo-my2od im in the process of writing a trust/will. the friends of 60 years will get my home. and not the ruthless or chicken siblings. it is such a freeing exercise..
I have learnt a lot from you, your story and videos. Standing alone for your truth against the entire family is neither bad nor impossible that I have learnt from you and this inspiration has became game changer for me. Thank you so much sir 🙏
My ex-husband turned both of my kids against me. It's been 3 years and my son was the first to see through his lies, (he is 30), but I am still trying with my daughter, who is 24. I recently painted a picture on a card of a dandelion and wrote, "dandelions are a sign of strength and endurance" and sent it to her. (I haven't painted in 30 years). It worked. She has now called me and we went to dinner recently. I try not to talk about her father, but when she brought him up, I simply said, "every mean thing he says about me is only a projection of what he has done to me". This is the truth, and I have learned to accept this is what he does. Period. I only hope she will eventually see through his lies and not hate me anymore. I miss my kids so much. It is the worst thing he has done to me! Beside the lying, cheating, controlling my money, not believing I'm disabled because of arthritis, but because he turned my children against me.😢
My ex narc and narc mother worked together to alienate my children from me. My middle child has returned, however, I walk on eggshells b/c the old tapes start playing in her head if I say the wrong thing. My other two don’t want anything to do w/me. Sadly, my health has been destroyed by the abuse and my middle child finally saw first hand how ill I am. It’s tough on her b/c her siblings have refused to help her at all when I end up in the hospital. They don’t even need to see me, I get they hate me. I wish though that they would ask her if they can do anything for her. Just so she doesn’t feel this is all on her😢
This is soooooooo true Danish, this has been my life, but I am much happier living this way, the truth will always be the truth you can never ever change it, love it embrace it and it will guide you in the right way!!!!!!
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
For me, it’s because of religion and “Im your mother” and “she’s your mother”. I’m supposed to tolerate her behavior because if I don’t I won’t go to heaven.
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
We honor our parents by not enabling their bad behavior or allowing them to continue their abusive ways with us or any others under our protection. We honor them by giving them clear boundaries and consequences, if they are not remorseful, repentant and willing to work towards ending their abusive ways.
You're a guide for me I have destroyed and abused because I speak the truth and reality I saved others from my mother's evil planing and now I m suffering a lot
Danish you are so spot on! My covert narcissistic neighbor is so enraged because of me being a truth teller and having such solid boundaries that he has filed many completely absurd false police reports on me and my husband! It’s horrible, truly a living hell having him and his wife as neighbors!
Omg . This is Beyond a coincidence that you are discussing this today . I went thru this today since 6 am. I am extremely sick in bed with a fever and asthma etc and she started up on me at that hour with abuse because I told her the truth. I said I think you should apologize . It went on for hours ..I thought the messages would stop and they wo
I'm really sorry you're going through that. They are impossible and willing to say or do anything to get their way!! And they don't play! Take care of yourself FIRST.🙏 {I learned that the very hard way}
Messages stopped.lost ten pets . Two Shitzu twins from Sweden and 8 cats all due to various narcissists. No accountability ..it has been like losing ten children. And the owner of my building is Harrassing me ,just raised my rent and no one else slanders my name to my friends and to the man I once loved . Threatening me now while I am in bed with a fever and asthma complications with evictions . He allowed noisy criminals neighbors who were arrested and then let out to be noisy resulting in my last pet getting sick ,never before me having bad accidents severely hurting my back and threatening to evict me . He raised the rent does no repairs and only me by the equivalent of 500 dollars a month. I can't afford this .he told one friend I will have to move out at least an hour and a half away where there are no stores or pharmacies . All while I am really sick. He now plans to tear this landmark building out without warning having lied and said he would not and evict over 300people in the winter and tear this beautiful building in January . May his Evil plans be thwarted , destroyed and his evil that he has done to others return on his own head. I prayed and prayed for him and he only gets more evil
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹 ⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
My Narc would tell me " you were supposed to join me in the story" but when say its not the truth, he starts shear campaign with the kids that I'm wicked & dont value my family.
I like the way that you communicate with your viewers, Danish. You’re honest about yourself and what you’ve been through and how it’s affected you. You understand narcissism firsthand-not just from textbooks and professors. Thank you!
Very true. It happened to me in my job. I started thinking " is it me". I resigned , as they were making my life hell. Gas lighting me as well. Thankyou for your help and your honesty. John (Australia)
You are talking to me today, to me in the relationship with my boss. I reached my retirement but want to still work, so I meet the point I can speak up. She is mismanaging and covering up and I know my work perfectly. I stand up and surprising I am not getting back fired by her, she is still ugly to others but not to me. This confirms that if you strong, know your job, and have nothing to lose, the narcissist boss gets afraid of you and roles switch.
I dont know your area of expertise but self employment is a great option. Being your own boss, operating in your truth, is very freeing. Take an inventory of your skills and contacts. There are people and groups who will help you.
Danish YOU Are The Best. In simple words YOU ARE EXPLAINING THAT HELP ME DEAL WITH MY DEVIL SISTER WHO HAS DESTROYED WHOLE FAMILY. SINCE MY SISTER IS NARCISSIST. I ONLY DISCOVERED IS VERY LATE .THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS INFORMATION AND PLEASE CONTINUE.
Sometimes it's not about courage but self protection. Truth tellers are firstly truth see-ers. We have to know when it's safe to speak. Please keep yourself safe.
Spot on! I'd much rather be the blacksheep. No follower is best way to be. Know yourself so you can best try hard not to get sucked in but sometimes it happens so unknowingly, that its horrific.
My relatives too don't contact me after I called out my Malignant narcissist mom and malignant narcissistist stepdad on how they abuse me. . . people don't want to hear the truth , they don't want to stand up to the narcissistists because then they will have to admit it is what they are too or they don't want to face what you are
Same, Danish. Narcissistic father, covert narcissist mother. My brother is a grandiose narcissist, and my little people pleasing sister will do anything to avoid conflict. They've collected in Florida...I think I'll stay in Illinois.
You are so brave to have stand up for yourself and not go with the intimidation of your narcisitic parents even you lost your family. I had a smiliar story with my family and i identify a lot with you. Thanks for sharing your experience ❤
The problems started when I was telling him my truth in our relationship. He told me I was complaining and nagging, treating him like garbage, disrespectful, ungrateful and attacking him.. Meanwhile I was telling him that I was hurting and I was telling him why😢
Thank you! I like your videos and I send you empathy and love! My mother is also a covert narcissist!father is a grand narcissist! What really important is, never loose hope! It is breaking the chains and building a new future out of scratch! It is never easy to break the circle. In this way you break in pieces and then starting over. Many people think, they don't have to set children into this cruel world. But actually it is really wrong not to! Especially because you broke the cycle! Your generation will be wiser, normal raised and truth tellers too! God protects those who stay with the truth! To strenthen up and then go out and speak loud!
Both my parents did and do their best to destroy me, everything and everyone I have in my life. May it be my family, friends, my work, my belongings, my peace. Even they did their best to isolate me from all. Still I managed to find a very good husband and in-laws. But guess what? They even tried to make my husband run away, for me to not get married at all. But I cannot keep my mouth shut when I see or hear something wrong 😢 I left ultimately. Stayed in another country for months, far away from my home. Now I m back, but they dont let me live :( they even call my husband behind my back. I still know that they did bec his behaviour changes for some time after these calls till the impact vanishes. But that time is sometimes really bad. I feel like I cannot even breath in his presence without risking a fight 😢 we are married for almost 11 years now.
I was /am the truth teller as the scapegoat of both parents and most all of my my siblings (very many). This continues today despite the fact that I moved away decades ago and both parents have passed away long ago.
But you, and we, know now. How could we know without help and support. it is never too late to learn from Danish! Truth tellers just cant think like these narcs!
My narc husband had to cheat and go through mortification because I was a truth-teller. His entire mask changed to the exact opposite from what he presented to me. I left. He was shocked and expected me to stay. I left him Ali e and to be with the low vibration mistress. I know he’s suffering because he does not have my light to draw from. It’s only been a month but I feel better. And yes he’s going through his smear campaign against me and threatening to call crush me in divorce court. Thankfully I have texts and proof of his affair and lies to his friends and family. His karma has already started, foreclosure prevention, lost his job. Ect.
Also a narc doesn’t necessarily= a liar. My mother was one, no question of it. But she was also famous for bluntly speaking the truth to people. Yes she was definitely a rare hybrid of sorts that one!
Oh yes. Narcissists are a rare breed of extremely clever and supremely stupid. There's a kind of bluntness they have, to be able to see through BS and scams for example because they're experts at that themselves. See that scene in the new series of Ripley where he points out the 'scam' of the robbed woman in the street. Ripley is such a brilliant portrayal of the narcissist, well actually psychopath in that case.
I resonate with what you're saying so much, I never really knew much about npd but from a young age I could tell there was something wrong with my dad.. I would hardly see my dad growing up, he always uses the excuse that his dad used to disappear too so stop crying and it wasn't too bad.. then whenever I was with him he would talk so much shit about my mom and stepdad that I believed him, I caused so many problems with my mom and my step dad(who I actually call my dad now a days) but they were actually there for me thru the thick and thin, even thru all my screaming at them because of things my narcissistic father instilled in me.. then when I got to about 14 he would show up even more when I started smoking weed wanting to get some, and whenever I wouldn't be able to find any he would have some excuse why he couldn't show up until I found some.. then when I finally found the courage to call him out on that he ended up disappearing for a few months and came back like nothing happened, still to this day whenever I call him out he brings up other shit other people in our family did, and how he's innocent by comparison... never any real talking about how he affected me, always left feeling more drained after seeing him. Then the last time I saw him I was firm in my boundaries and he started putting his shoes on my couch until I yelled at him to take them off since that is disrespectful, and he gave me a side eye but ended up doing it because he's older now and he knows he can't just push me around like he used to, and right before he left he started saying all this completely wild things about my uncle, my grandma, even my own sister(his daughter) and told me not to say anything about it, but I found it was all untrue. (He's been disowned by the family because of his ways.) Just a last ditch attempt to dig his hooks back into me, but I'm standing strong in my resolve of no contact, I really appreciate your videos and letting people like us know we're not alone, and that we're not as crazy as they'd like to make us out to be. Much love to anyone that can relate, you're not alone ❤
Love you danish bhai u are a gem 💎for us... I am dealing with this abuse and i am unable to decide what to do in my career,, my mind is not allowing me to decide how I can come out of it and while thinking about all of these things a constant headache is started
My goodness! I've experienced smear campaigning against me. I've been cut off from both of my families due to both my mom and father lying on me. It's taken me some time to heal from this offense. It still hurts. Who can comprehend it? Your parents!😮😢 The truth was never told in my house or by my parents. My mother rages when I speak the truth. As the black sheep i caught hell!
Danish so sorry you experienced this. ❤ what a wonderful way to heal others through your pain. Yes. My parents are covert Narcs amd Ive lost all extended family members. Didnt even ask me of ot was true!! Mever asked me my side of anything. I realized theyve been lying on me since childhood. 😮it's just weird. Anyway, i commend you❤
They dislike the truth. Get very angry - everybody is at fault but not them... Yeah I know it all. BUT: No matter what I will always tell the truth (I am a very direct and honest person and yeah I am not liked but I like myself because of that. And for me that is all what matters. People don´t like the truth - narcissists can´t handle it at all.
Thank you Danish!! Truth is a Divine characteristic: Jesus said He is the Truth, the Way and the Life! In the end, Truth will always win over lies and hate! We live in a world overrun with proud, selfish, arrogant people who put themselves on a pedestal and expect worship from everyone around them. But, only God deserves our worship. I personally know the pain of rejection, isolation and betrayal. I have lived with my narcissistic family for 67 years. Even after going no contact they still want to return to continue their chaotic drama. Shut the door on these losers, get rid of any guilt... if anything parents and siblings who abused us should carry the weight of their own shame for their evil deeds towards us. Break free of the scapegoat roles assigned to us by evil parents. Find peace and invite God in🙏
As a truth teller, i wish i had been able to not feel that drive to tell the truth outside the family. It was valued in many work places, other places dont value it. So in 2024 society hates truth telling in general, as so many want desperately to believe and follow certain political narratives, or trends. So now like when a young child i need to once again learn silence.
But the time will come when you will not be able to keep silent anymore. Depending on the situation of course. Sometimes, it's simply about sneaking away in the night because you've said your piece, perhaps over and over again without any effect. Narcissistic people and corporate entities who are in that mindset don't WANT to hear the truth. They wouldn't understand it anyway, so really it's a waste of breath. There are other ways to make a point and the biggest one is to leave, in whatever form that may take.
I want to leave but I will end up in debt which he took using my name. Once I said I will leave you in response he said " I will destroy you" I don't know what to do, I don't trust anyone.
oh no...he's got you in a position...can you call the samaritans or another helpline that can advise you? I can't remember any off the top of my head, are there any family based law firms giving free advise?
Did you sign it? Or agree it? If you didn't I think you have case. My friend got out of such a mess - it wasn't easy - get advice on the quiet - and get yourself and anything or anyone you care about out - say nothing - be careful and safe please
In the end, nothing and no amount of money is worth living in fear and living a life of suffering. I had to lose everything to gain my sanity. Truth is freedom 💪🏽
Could you tell us the difference between a narcissist and an autistic person? I think many persons do not know this. Thank you for all the clear facts!
an autistic person is not someone who purposefully does bad things to manipulate you, autistic ppl are 'normal' in that they are harmless, they have their own probs but they are not purposefully a problem to others. I know plenty of autistic ppl who are just fine.
Not related disorders at all imo. It's hard to even say what "the difference" is because it's totally different, some autistic people aren't even verbal.
@kalkhan816 I'm autistic myself. High functioning. But i heard that people often see similar traits in autistic people as they do in narcissists. Now, the well-known Dr Ramani had something to say about the difference in behaviour and intention, but I also would like an explanation from Danish Bashir. Just to hear someone else's opinion.🙂
@tunkytunky for others, it apparently is, as Dr Ramani discussed this topic. I just wanted to hear Bashirs view of it all. I have high functioning autism, that's why I want to hear about this.
😮My sad story. I became a victim of narcissistic parental abuse and I will be dead soon. My mother has placed the blame of my father's death on me but he died abroad while taking his own life. She somehow manipulated everyone around me to believe her lies. In our country no one will believe when we try to tell bad things about parents. She has Human rights commision people, Judges and ministers under her control. She has warned me that I will be taken by the special task force and make dissapear soon. It is a very common thing in our country. She said many bad things to my father before died now she shifted the blame on me and said there is nothing I can do about my end.
I'm so sorry for your situation. Mass cultural narcissism is a hard one to fight against. Most people prefer to stay living in ignorance and false lives. It can become like a disease that spreads through the fabric of society. I hope this site like Danish offers is at least some support for you. 🙏❣️
I told the narcissist, you romanticize adulterous affairs, man he was mad. He thought it made him look like a big man. I told him you need to face reality. He started a smear campaign about me 🙄
Tudi jaz sem mogla zapustiti vse za sabo in začeti znova zaradi prav takšnih težkih izkušenj.Bilo je neznosno.Prisiljena zapustiti celo lastno državo.Na mojo še večjo nesrečo in naivnost ter empatija,in iskreno govorjenje ker drugače nisem znala-v tej državi sam padla v roke narcisistu,nasilnežu in moje življenje je ratalo pekel..večna borba..eeehh... Hvala ti za video.Lep pozdrav.J.
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“ Truth tellers were born to break the chains” . We are the chainbreakers💪⛓️💥
Thank you so much 🙏🏻
I had a therapist tell me I am a chain breaker! Never knew it was a common concept!
@@sacredwaters9 Yes it is !! Your therapist spoke the truth ! Good for you ⛓️💥
No matter who the Narcissist is ,truth telling is s THREAT. Plain and simple
Because when their entire existence is built on lies, it makes their life crumble beneath them. Leaving them back at square one. Which is the broken child they left behind in pursuit of a self serving lifestyle
I need to realize that I am not being rejected because of something wrong with me, but because of something I know that is correct. I can't get those mixed up any more. Truth-Teller now is my middle name!
@@Richard-n2w1g Yes! I need to remember that things are opposite of how they seem in quite a few different ways. This is the result of realities built on lies decade after decade.
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹
⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
@@Richard-n2w1g Yes. True. OMG ! What are they ? I was born in a narc family cult. I suffered every narc trait.
Remember the BLACK SHEEP IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL OF ALL THE SHEEP! Her wool stays true vs. easy to change with dye and other processes to mask its true nature!
“No one is more hated than (S)he who tells the truth!”
Love fairy tales and the emperor has no clothes' a classic!
Excellent Point!
I like to be called the black lion. I may be an outcast for telling the truth, but i will fight to the death
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹
⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
thank you. love those words.
“ The truth will set you free” 🕊️
In the end, yes. But what a long and painful road.
We are whistleblowers without whistleblower protection.🤔
Yea and corporate whistleblowers are not well protected in the cases I have seen or if help comes it comes much too late.
💜🙏💜🗣️⚔️
True whistle blowers never are!
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹
⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
Amen
The story of my childhood. My parents tried their best to break me. They sent enabling relatives and friends to guilt trip me. The smear campaigning isolated me. Even my teachers were roped in to humiliate and punish me for my ‘defiance’. When they attempted to turn my own children against me, I chose to cut off all ties, walked out of their life and was blessed with peace and healing. It’s not a loss to rid yourself of darkness. Love and light to everyone here!❤️
That makes two of us . Exactly. Now they hoovering. Narc sis invites me and kids .We don't go. Two narc bros called and said they missed me. Me going no contact.
Three!! ❤
FOUR!
Sounds like you have defiant disorder. Problematic behaviour..
My mom turned my 3 older kids against me. They act just like her because they grew up around her dogging me. I’ve tried everything to show them I love them, their children. I’ve apologized for wrongs I’ve done. But when they don’t get their way they start acting like her. I choose me!
i’m an unapologetic truth teller. always being told to shut up and not be invited to celebrations, not be a part of my family, that i’m “too difficult to be around.”
i’m not going to stay quiet when they’re being a-holes. but then again, i don’t have to live with myself the way that they have to.
do whatever good you can do, when others may not be able to help themselves. especially when there's children being manipulated by toxic adults.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
They re a cult, I too wondered why I was left out, prob made their blainten uglinesses and stupidities stand out even more, my successes and hard fought for happinesses and educations hard contrasts next to them, they would had same parents them who even invited them to their weddings😂😊😅
keep shining your light. The adults may not see it, but over time, I believe the children will see and appreciate you for who you really are.
i don't have kids, but my buddy has a boy (10) and a girl (8). from time to time i go watch their soccer/hockey/dance events. i am one of the few friends/relatives that goes to their events. funny thing about the buggers, they have the memory of an elephant. they def are developing an opinion of who they like and who is bad. they can see who is real, and who is fake.
i don't get involved with the politics of their relatives. but when i am around, and if i am to see some of their toxic adult relatives trying to manipulate the kids, i wouldn't hesitate to step in and protect them.
cheers, steven
@@carparthero it's a different world today and def not easy. It is changing quickly day by day. Kids seem so far more advanced than when I was younger. So if you can be a friend. uncle-like figure to them especially at their age, it is reassuring to them if they know you will be there and have their back if they need help. That's what it takes and I truly believe you sound like the type of guy who would step up to the plate and take care of matters. You're a survivor, so you have the tools for tough situations.
@@lorenebaxter-e8c thanks for your kind words. actually, my buddy's mom who is now 75 (i am 50) did a lot for me back in the 1980s thru mid 2000's when i was a kid and as a young adult. i had a difficult family situation with 2 narcissist parents. so this is way to pay back or show appreciation for what she did. from time to time i go visit her and the kids when they are at their grandma's place, bringing them pizza for all of us. of course the grandma refuses to take any credit for what she did for me.
the kids are slowly developing their own social skills and friendships with kids their age. so while i am around, i don't want to be too much of a nuisance either. i do let them know that if there is a problem, they can let me know. for the most part their family situation is good. there is the narcissist grandfather but he is too self-absorbed to be involved much with his kids and grandkids.
cheers, steven
I was the scapegoat in my narcissistic family, I went through all you said. Now I am no contact . I am now happy and peaceful.
To tell the truth in some situations it’s very dangerous!! My mother did that and she had to fly to a distant country otherwise she would have been killed by my father.
These narcissists feel threatened by the truth to a point that they become violent.
Thank you for your video; I can relate to it.
So true, must use wisdom in everything
Totally agree. Sadly @@UnderHisWing7
I remember her always telling me to tell her the truth. And as soon as l was telling her the truth, she was becoming furious and was screaming and insulting and then wasn't speaking to me for 3-4 days. Then l had to ask sorry and bend the knee in order to appease her. The same goes for her children , parents , siblings and relatives. So everybody lies to her beacause very simply she can't handle the truth. Thanks God Almighty because He pulled me out of this HELL
As long as you stand in the truth , you have that on your side. I believe in the 🌍 truth above all thing's 🙏
Is it just me or does the expression the truth shall set you free have super big strong plus kinda double meaning to others here, free from? 😈!
Absolutely true, Danish. Truth teller here (and a truth seeker) since I was a little kid. I could never stand seeing others being abused, always standing for vulnerable victims because I know what it's like being bullied, calling everything by its name. Lies are a heavy burden while the truth will set you free. Narcissists are cowards bound enslaved to their lies and constantly fearful of being exposed. Piece of mind is priceless. Thank you for speaking out the truth about narcissism, you're a true warrior.
You just spoke for me and who I’ve been my whole life. I took beatings meant for my siblings because I knew my narc parent just wanted something he could spend his rage on. It always hurt me more to watch it happen and knowing my turn would come. I’ve always been a truth teller and I’ve always paid dearly for it. I will never change in this because I have to live with the real me every single day and the truth is essential for living, growing, healing. I would rather be cast out for being who I really am than trying to fake &/or lie my way into giving myself cover and being part of the toxic miasma that life with narcs & their enablers.
@@SailBale007 exactly. There's nothing better than being mindfully aware of who you are, embrace and accept your own self with your virtues and flaws than being someone fake full of lies, hate and deceit. Keep strong.
@@a.williams.scorpiopower Thank you and you remain strong as well.
When you're on to them.They gaslight you. Making you out to look crazy. Also blaming you for their actions so you have no support. They really are pathetic people
Yes. It’s so bizarre when they gaslight you when there’s no one else to fool. Like when they try to convince you that they didn’t say something they said to you or do something they did to you. “I didn’t say that. I would never say that.” “That’s not what I did. You’re remembering it wrong.” So sincere. Looking at you like they’re concerned for your sanity. It’s just unbelievable. Good luck bro.
Very interesting point. Truth teller here, and against all odds I can't be anything else. Sure have lost a lot of people in my life. But that's ok. "When God removes people from your life: Let them go."
Thanks for all you do Danish ❤
Cheers to the truth tellers!! We not living in a demonic spell anymore! We see the truth and know the light. Praying for ALL of you real bad
I'm so happy I found your channel. Thank you for doing what you do.
This entire week I was gaslighted while I was calling my covert narcissist out on his behaviour, the unkept promises and empty words....that was a totally crazy experience. I was literally going insane while proving my point to him. So devastating 😢.
No need for crazy making from the bcs they cant handle the truth. In my experience these people learn nothing in lide! They have no desire to learn rather driven by a sick need to cause and enjoy pain. I dont think narcissism is the proper name, they are more like sadists. Take care of yourself You are not alone❤️
The whole point of gaslighting is to make you doubt yourself and your sanity!!! Literally. It’s crazy making behavior at its finest.
@@cherylberk4593yup sadists
@cherylberk4593 thank you very much. I agree, they are sadists. God bless you and all the survivors! Let's stay strong 💪
Time to start planning and get out. Remember the narcissist can NOT change and cannot feel empathy and cannot love. The longer you stay, the more difficult it is.
This was one of the reasons I was physically abused. They didn't want you to speak out.
Yep. Me, too. I feel your pain. You are not alone. I hope you know it was not your fault. When I went no contact I left everything behind including my entire extended biological family. Wishing you peace and healing on your journey of recovery.
Keep doing the amazing work Danish🕊️You are the biggest truth teller about narcissistic personalities 👍
Yes, my narcissist mother would get so angry and punish me verbally abusing for speaking truth which is contradiction to her and all examples mentioned here apply.
Had that too. When i finally got old enough, i told the neighbors i was not being fed.
Well, word got back to my mother that the truth was told and all hell broke loose.
The truth had been told.
My narc mom wud say " I don't want to hear it".
I have no single family member or my siblings by my side because my narcissistic mother divided the family and us as siblings. I've never met my nephew. Am completely alone and the only family I have are my 2 kids in this world.
You’re not alone. I was in the same boat as well. You don’t wanna be interlinked with those demonic spirits anyway. Consider yourself the one that got away. Love yourself enough to realize that you DESERVE to be free away from those karmic narcs. God bless you and your children
I'm in your exclusive club, too. The victimisation of the victim is cruel, and too many uninformed people out there will do that to your face. I've gone the total no contact thing with birth family, (24yrs) and backstabbing has destroyed extended family contact. So alone. But not out. Actually flourishing. I hope one day the grandchildren will track me down. I hope they remember their loving Nana, for their lives must be hell with two narc parents. I had thought the overt was bad enough, but the covert are truly something else. Big learning. Faith in God has grown to be truly comforting. Keep loving despite all, brave survivors.
Keep it that way! Build your own family. Keep them babies away from your family.
Hello my name is Klarissa. Whenever you start to tell the truth the narcissists start to smear your name. When you tell the truth people always think you're crazy, or not normal. And they get more enablers to gain up on you when you start to speak the truth of something they did wrong. The video related to me. Thank you for helping with the videos.
Before I figured it out, my family narcs broke into home over the course of several years. They stole and vandalized. They successfully gaslighted me at the time. Today I know better but the scars are there permanently. No one believed that it was my family.
@@fingerfret8645 I'm sorry that you had to go through this.In my experiences of my own life. Family members are the worsts narcissists. They have stolen money, materialistic belongings.Will Lie, smear campaigns when then they have wronged me. Will destroy relationships/connections I had with outside people. I have arrived at this when people do not believe about family members doing this type of wickedness. That let's me know not to waste my time on them either. Clearly they themselves are predators with this mind set.
I had a situation a while back where I had some crazy narc neighbors. They were breaking into my place, and vandalizing.
My family members try to gas light me. Telling me that those people were not doing that to me. They did not believe me etc.
My family members ARE the same predators as those people. That's why they take up for them.
Those who wish to but cannot control us smear us, I'm sure they do this thinking our smearing of them is on our agenda but it's very much the furthest thing from our minds, mainly cuz we have one plus lives too!
@@fingerfret8645yrs back, still wanna be narc hubby's neighbour I was locked out of his place, I wanted to go over and turn the heat up (he was working aft. shift)... I called my older brother to help me get in, no prob, even brought his young son.... Malignant covert mom lied to overt narc bro that my boyfriend, my neighbour accused bro stolen hundreds and this lie lived for 30 yrs, hearing this hubby and I laughed, we'd never heard of any of it and had it been true we knew my husband would have made me pay it back! My bro's no prize but he could have said something, I'm no contact all around, 1st his wife, my ex bff who chose him upon seeing him but I'm tired of her crap and now him, he kept putting off going no contact with our older overt coke head sis... I told him he didn't want to hear it but it was his ego which kept her coming around then she brutalized his son, our cous too whom I'm no contact with, they love drama but try to convince you otherwise say the truth sayers!
@@fingerfret8645 totally bad behaviour on their part...awful
All narcissists have a severe sense of entitlement.. never accountable for anything.
But if you dont follow the rules.they become angry beyond words.
They have this mentality.
RULES ARE FOR THEE, NOT ME!
So spot on.
Danish, I'm so so sad that this happened to you. It is so good that you've been a blessing to so many. Thank you
I am going through this right now at work..am being shunned and sheer campaigned has stated. Well let the gsmes begin.
this is my contribution to you for being a truth teller🙏🏾💜💖 as I also was one to my narcissist ex husband & indeed I broke the chains for my sons.. appreciate your work.. greetings from Germany 🇩🇪🖤
I love the idea of building a deep bond with my authentic self. This brings along with it an acceptance that I am seeing, feeling, and ready to reveal, the truth. I feel like having that engraved on something so I can always know that truth-telling is the best part of my authentic self.
I was the first born. I was told by both my parents that it was my responsibility to take care of my 2 younger siblings.
long into adulthood.
so much life threatening abuse from toddlerhood on. and soul crushing betrayal.
we all now have scars physical and emotional in our 60s and 70s.
I risked all to protect my siblings who became enablers to my narc father.
I got it from both sides.
my raging narc father,
passive mother,
and jealous resentful siblings
because "I made waves"
I fought fiercely, FOR THEIR SAFETY.
and spoke the truth about what was going on.
but I found myself labeled as the problem.
yet in my 50's my narc dad and my sister exposed themselves . the TRUTH JUST FELL OUT one day.
and not of my doing.
in the end I had my father's respect.
he saw that I acted with committed integrity to his death bed. a blessing.
and I succeeded in miraculous ways in my career. blessed with intuition and out of the blue opportunities.
at 66 yrs old I moved 3 states away from my siblings. for a quality life and friends with hearts and integrity.
No you’re supposed to take care of the whole family being born the first not just your siblings that’s how they raised me .
@@Jo-my2od I kept saying " im not the family trash can". and was told I was selfish. at least I can laugh at the absurdity of it now.
@@life-rethought yes I was told I was selfish once I cut them off financially.
@@Jo-my2od im in the process of writing a trust/will. the friends of 60 years will get my home. and not the ruthless or chicken siblings. it is such a freeing exercise..
0:47 Same here from my narc family. They don't want to hear it. If you still tell them , they will not accept it.
I have learnt a lot from you, your story and videos. Standing alone for your truth against the entire family is neither bad nor impossible that I have learnt from you and this inspiration has became game changer for me. Thank you so much sir 🙏
My ex-husband turned both of my kids against me. It's been 3 years and my son was the first to see through his lies, (he is 30), but I am still trying with my daughter, who is 24. I recently painted a picture on a card of a dandelion and wrote, "dandelions are a sign of strength and endurance" and sent it to her. (I haven't painted in 30 years). It worked. She has now called me and we went to dinner recently. I try not to talk about her father, but when she brought him up, I simply said, "every mean thing he says about me is only a projection of what he has done to me". This is the truth, and I have learned to accept this is what he does. Period. I only hope she will eventually see through his lies and not hate me anymore. I miss my kids so much. It is the worst thing he has done to me! Beside the lying, cheating, controlling my money, not believing I'm disabled because of arthritis, but because he turned my children against me.😢
My ex narc and narc mother worked together to alienate my children from me. My middle child has returned, however, I walk on eggshells b/c the old tapes start playing in her head if I say the wrong thing. My other two don’t want anything to do w/me. Sadly, my health has been destroyed by the abuse and my middle child finally saw first hand how ill I am. It’s tough on her b/c her siblings have refused to help her at all when I end up in the hospital. They don’t even need to see me, I get they hate me. I wish though that they would ask her if they can do anything for her. Just so she doesn’t feel this is all on her😢
This is soooooooo true Danish, this has been my life, but I am much happier living this way, the truth will always be the truth you can never ever change it, love it embrace it and it will guide you in the right way!!!!!!
They call the police and threaten you with harrasment if you tell anyone else the truth.
Excellent video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my marriage of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
So I guess WE are family who have no family. Peace and love! Smear campaign started on me while I was in cognitive dissonance.
For me, it’s because of religion and “Im your mother” and “she’s your mother”. I’m supposed to tolerate her behavior because if I don’t I won’t go to heaven.
Yes, the "Honor you mother and you father" is very difficult in these situations. Try 'To thine own self be true" instead ❤️
thats spiritual abuse
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹
⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
I know this same experience, they use this rule to then justify their abuse, such a shame
We honor our parents by not enabling their bad behavior or allowing them to continue their abusive ways with us or any others under our protection. We honor them by giving them clear boundaries and consequences, if they are not remorseful, repentant and willing to work towards ending their abusive ways.
"They try to destroy everything" even trying to determine where you can live... - this really hit home
I can relate. Experienced the exact same thing.
You're a guide for me I have destroyed and abused because I speak the truth and reality I saved others from my mother's evil planing and now I m suffering a lot
Danish you are so spot on! My covert narcissistic neighbor is so enraged because of me being a truth teller and having such solid boundaries that he has filed many completely absurd false police reports on me and my husband! It’s horrible, truly a living hell having him and his wife as neighbors!
Thank you .
You are a very brave man..
So true. We call it the black sheep for telling the truth. I prefer the black lion coined. We have fought every battle
Being the "truth teller" is a one way ticket to being the narcissists scapegoat.
Omg .
This is Beyond a coincidence that you are discussing this today .
I went thru this today since 6 am.
I am extremely sick in bed with a fever and asthma etc and she started up on me at that hour with abuse because I told her the truth.
I said I think you should apologize .
It went on for hours ..I thought the messages would stop and they wo
They did not harrassing on and on escalating.
So I said I am in blocking the number .
And did
I'm really sorry you're going through that. They are impossible and willing to say or do anything to get their way!! And they don't play! Take care of yourself FIRST.🙏
{I learned that the very hard way}
@@sherrymurphy855 Thank you .
I lost all my beloved pets
Messages stopped.lost ten pets .
Two Shitzu twins from Sweden and 8 cats all due to various narcissists.
No accountability ..it has been like losing ten children.
And the owner of my building is Harrassing me ,just raised my rent and no one else slanders my name to my friends and to the man I once loved .
Threatening me now while I am in bed with a fever and asthma complications with evictions .
He allowed noisy criminals neighbors who were arrested and then let out to be noisy resulting in my last pet getting sick ,never before me having bad accidents severely hurting my back and threatening to evict me .
He raised the rent does no repairs and only me by the equivalent of 500 dollars a month.
I can't afford this .he told one friend I will have to move out at least an hour and a half away where there are no stores or pharmacies .
All while I am really sick.
He now plans to tear this landmark building out without warning having lied and said he would not and evict over 300people in the winter and tear this beautiful building in January .
May his Evil plans be thwarted , destroyed and his evil that he has done to others return on his own head.
I prayed and prayed for him and he only gets more evil
⚠️❤️Children are going to disappear around the world, then His adult TRUE believers. It is Jesus coming back to pick up His people! Make Him your Saviour! Do not stay for apocalypse!❤️🥹
⚠️❤️👉We are about to see Russia attacking Germany, Alaska experiencing two devastating earthquakes (magnitude 7.6 and 7.3) and the fall of Freemason Temple in Philadelphia.🙌 👉Only God knows the future. Jesus has now revealed all those details to his prophets right now! 👉CHILDREN will disappear around the world, then His true believers! Jesus promised 2 000y ago that He will come back for everybody who accepted His payment ( His death) for all sins. He will literally pull us out of this world so that we don't have to stay for the Judgment ( the Apocalypse). You can still call out to Him to save you after kids are gone, He will rescue you too❤️ Make sure to make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you❤️🥹 What saves us is trust in what He did on the cross: He died for our sins and then defeated the death by rising 3 days later! He made it very simple, He has done it all for us so don't add anything to it! 🙌❤️
My Narc would tell me " you were supposed to join me in the story" but when say its not the truth, he starts shear campaign with the kids that I'm wicked & dont value my family.
I like the way that you communicate with your viewers, Danish. You’re honest about yourself and what you’ve been through and how it’s affected you. You understand narcissism firsthand-not just from textbooks and professors. Thank you!
Excellent video! It’s devastating! My mother and husband’s intent is to destroy me, in every way possible. Very sad.
Very true. It happened to me in my job. I started thinking " is it me". I resigned , as they were making my life hell. Gas lighting me as well. Thankyou for your help and your honesty. John (Australia)
Thank you so much for telling your truth, because it is helping my to be proud of my truth even though I am the "Black Sheep"
You are talking to me today, to me in the relationship with my boss. I reached my retirement but want to still work, so I meet the point I can speak up. She is mismanaging and covering up and I know my work perfectly. I stand up and surprising I am not getting back fired by her, she is still ugly to others but not to me. This confirms that if you strong, know your job, and have nothing to lose, the narcissist boss gets afraid of you and roles switch.
I dont know your area of expertise but self employment is a great option. Being your own boss, operating in your truth, is very freeing. Take an inventory of your skills and contacts. There are people and groups who will help you.
Omg, you know where I come from, I'm so sorry this happened to you too my friend.
Thank you, this was what I needed to hear.
Danish YOU Are The Best. In simple words YOU ARE EXPLAINING THAT HELP ME DEAL WITH MY DEVIL SISTER WHO HAS DESTROYED WHOLE FAMILY. SINCE MY SISTER IS NARCISSIST. I ONLY DISCOVERED IS VERY LATE .THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS INFORMATION AND PLEASE CONTINUE.
I thank you for opening up about your situation. I'm encouraged. I still can't open up and hope to get the courage to do so.
Sometimes it's not about courage but self protection. Truth tellers are firstly truth see-ers. We have to know when it's safe to speak. Please keep yourself safe.
I found it relative it happened to me today he became monster when all truth unveiled
Spot on! I'd much rather be the blacksheep. No follower is best way to be. Know yourself so you can best try hard not to get sucked in but sometimes it happens so unknowingly, that its horrific.
You are simple to listen to and strait to the point, much appreciated! 👍
This is why I talk to my relatives as little as humanly possible.
My relatives too don't contact me after I called out my Malignant narcissist mom and malignant narcissistist stepdad on how they abuse me. . . people don't want to hear the truth , they don't want to stand up to the narcissistists because then they will have to admit it is what they are too or they don't want to face what you are
sooo right
Liars don’t like truth.They distorts and inverts truths for their benifits
Ex family no contact 4ever
Same, Danish. Narcissistic father, covert narcissist mother. My brother is a grandiose narcissist, and my little people pleasing sister will do anything to avoid conflict. They've collected in Florida...I think I'll stay in Illinois.
Danish, thank you for your courage as a truth teller🏆👏👏
Yes sir, you are telling 100% true, i had same type of experience from my narcissist wife 🙏
This is POWERFUL! Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Danish!🎯💚
I’ve seen it first hand, it’s like you’re speaking my words for me. I don’t know how they live with themselves
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You are so brave to have stand up for yourself and not go with the intimidation of your narcisitic parents even you lost your family. I had a smiliar story with my family and i identify a lot with you. Thanks for sharing your experience ❤
The problems started when I was telling him my truth in our relationship. He told me I was complaining and nagging, treating him like garbage, disrespectful, ungrateful and attacking him..
Meanwhile I was telling him that I was hurting and I was telling him why😢
Thank you! I like your videos and I send you empathy and love! My mother is also a covert narcissist!father is a grand narcissist! What really important is, never loose hope! It is breaking the chains and building a new future out of scratch! It is never easy to break the circle. In this way you break in pieces and then starting over. Many people think, they don't have to set children into this cruel world. But actually it is really wrong not to! Especially because you broke the cycle! Your generation will be wiser, normal raised and truth tellers too!
God protects those who stay with the truth! To strenthen up and then go out and speak loud!
Both my parents did and do their best to destroy me, everything and everyone I have in my life. May it be my family, friends, my work, my belongings, my peace. Even they did their best to isolate me from all.
Still I managed to find a very good husband and in-laws. But guess what? They even tried to make my husband run away, for me to not get married at all.
But I cannot keep my mouth shut when I see or hear something wrong 😢
I left ultimately. Stayed in another country for months, far away from my home.
Now I m back, but they dont let me live :( they even call my husband behind my back. I still know that they did bec his behaviour changes for some time after these calls till the impact vanishes. But that time is sometimes really bad. I feel like I cannot even breath in his presence without risking a fight 😢 we are married for almost 11 years now.
Hits home. Wanted to listen while I multitasked but HAD TO SIT DOWN! 😂🙏🏾
I was /am the truth teller as the scapegoat of both parents and most all of my my siblings (very many). This continues today despite the fact that I moved away decades ago and both parents have passed away long ago.
Thank you Danish.
Hallelujah God is still working wonders,| place myself in position for such miracle.The best thing I've seen today on TH-cam thanks a lot..
❤❤❤❤ thank you so much Danish for another brilliant video. NOTHING, not status, nor money is worth living in fear and suffering.
I feel that pain my friend.. Oh if we only knew then
But you, and we, know now. How could we know without help and support. it is never too late to learn from Danish! Truth tellers just cant think like these narcs!
@@cherylberk4593 your absolutely right
So true , they made me feel like i was the deluded one 😮
Used abused dehumanized 39 years nearly died. Walked away 4 years ago never going back. I pray for my niece and nephew to escape my sister 🙏
My narc husband had to cheat and go through mortification because I was a truth-teller. His entire mask changed to the exact opposite from what he presented to me. I left. He was shocked and expected me to stay. I left him Ali e and to be with the low vibration mistress. I know he’s suffering because he does not have my light to draw from. It’s only been a month but I feel better. And yes he’s going through his smear campaign against me and threatening to call crush me in divorce court. Thankfully I have texts and proof of his affair and lies to his friends and family. His karma has already started, foreclosure prevention, lost his job. Ect.
Also a narc doesn’t necessarily= a liar. My mother was one, no question of it. But she was also famous for bluntly speaking the truth to people. Yes she was definitely a rare hybrid of sorts that one!
Oh yes. Narcissists are a rare breed of extremely clever and supremely stupid. There's a kind of bluntness they have, to be able to see through BS and scams for example because they're experts at that themselves. See that scene in the new series of Ripley where he points out the 'scam' of the robbed woman in the street. Ripley is such a brilliant portrayal of the narcissist, well actually psychopath in that case.
It’s amazing Denis for sharing it with us.
Our neighbors exposed the Oldman narcissist down the street and he got really mad, beyond mad😊
100%!! I called him out all the time then he would say I think I’m perfect. No, I’m a decent human being..
I resonate with what you're saying so much, I never really knew much about npd but from a young age I could tell there was something wrong with my dad.. I would hardly see my dad growing up, he always uses the excuse that his dad used to disappear too so stop crying and it wasn't too bad.. then whenever I was with him he would talk so much shit about my mom and stepdad that I believed him, I caused so many problems with my mom and my step dad(who I actually call my dad now a days) but they were actually there for me thru the thick and thin, even thru all my screaming at them because of things my narcissistic father instilled in me.. then when I got to about 14 he would show up even more when I started smoking weed wanting to get some, and whenever I wouldn't be able to find any he would have some excuse why he couldn't show up until I found some.. then when I finally found the courage to call him out on that he ended up disappearing for a few months and came back like nothing happened, still to this day whenever I call him out he brings up other shit other people in our family did, and how he's innocent by comparison... never any real talking about how he affected me, always left feeling more drained after seeing him. Then the last time I saw him I was firm in my boundaries and he started putting his shoes on my couch until I yelled at him to take them off since that is disrespectful, and he gave me a side eye but ended up doing it because he's older now and he knows he can't just push me around like he used to, and right before he left he started saying all this completely wild things about my uncle, my grandma, even my own sister(his daughter) and told me not to say anything about it, but I found it was all untrue. (He's been disowned by the family because of his ways.) Just a last ditch attempt to dig his hooks back into me, but I'm standing strong in my resolve of no contact, I really appreciate your videos and letting people like us know we're not alone, and that we're not as crazy as they'd like to make us out to be. Much love to anyone that can relate, you're not alone ❤
Love you danish bhai u are a gem 💎for us... I am dealing with this abuse and i am unable to decide what to do in my career,, my mind is not allowing me to decide how I can come out of it and while thinking about all of these things a constant headache is started
My goodness! I've experienced smear campaigning against me. I've been cut off from both of my families due to both my mom and father lying on me. It's taken me some time to heal from this offense. It still hurts. Who can comprehend it? Your parents!😮😢
The truth was never told in my house or by my parents. My mother rages when I speak the truth. As the black sheep i caught hell!
Danish so sorry you experienced this. ❤ what a wonderful way to heal others through your pain.
Yes. My parents are covert Narcs amd Ive lost all extended family members. Didnt even ask me of ot was true!! Mever asked me my side of anything. I realized theyve been lying on me since childhood. 😮it's just weird. Anyway, i commend you❤
They dislike the truth. Get very angry - everybody is at fault but not them... Yeah I know it all. BUT: No matter what I will always tell the truth (I am a very direct and honest person and yeah I am not liked but I like myself because of that. And for me that is all what matters. People don´t like the truth - narcissists can´t handle it at all.
Thank you for the videos.
God bless you.
From JANESVILLE, WI
Thank you for this video.
Thank you Danish!!
Truth is a Divine characteristic: Jesus said He is the Truth, the Way and the Life! In the end, Truth will always win over lies and hate! We live in a world overrun with proud, selfish, arrogant people who put themselves on a pedestal and expect worship from everyone around them. But, only God deserves our worship. I personally know the pain of rejection, isolation and betrayal. I have lived with my narcissistic family for 67 years. Even after going no contact they still want to return to continue their chaotic drama. Shut the door on these losers, get rid of any guilt... if anything parents and siblings who abused us should carry the weight of their own shame for their evil deeds towards us. Break free of the scapegoat roles assigned to us by evil parents. Find peace and invite God in🙏
As a truth teller, i wish i had been able to not feel that drive to tell the truth outside the family. It was valued in many work places, other places dont value it. So in 2024 society hates truth telling in general, as so many want desperately to believe and follow certain political narratives, or trends. So now like when a young child i need to once again learn silence.
But the time will come when you will not be able to keep silent anymore. Depending on the situation of course. Sometimes, it's simply about sneaking away in the night because you've said your piece, perhaps over and over again without any effect. Narcissistic people and corporate entities who are in that mindset don't WANT to hear the truth. They wouldn't understand it anyway, so really it's a waste of breath. There are other ways to make a point and the biggest one is to leave, in whatever form that may take.
I want to leave but I will end up in debt which he took using my name. Once I said I will leave you in response he said " I will destroy you" I don't know what to do, I don't trust anyone.
oh no...he's got you in a position...can you call the samaritans or another helpline that can advise you? I can't remember any off the top of my head, are there any family based law firms giving free advise?
Did you sign it? Or agree it? If you didn't I think you have case. My friend got out of such a mess - it wasn't easy - get advice on the quiet - and get yourself and anything or anyone you care about out - say nothing - be careful and safe please
In the end, nothing and no amount of money is worth living in fear and living a life of suffering. I had to lose everything to gain my sanity. Truth is freedom 💪🏽
Could you tell us the difference between a narcissist and an autistic person? I think many persons do not know this.
Thank you for all the clear facts!
an autistic person is not someone who purposefully does bad things to manipulate you, autistic ppl are 'normal' in that they are harmless, they have their own probs but they are not purposefully a problem to others. I know plenty of autistic ppl who are just fine.
@@kalkhan816 is it harmful if the autistic child has a narcissistic biological father?
Not related disorders at all imo. It's hard to even say what "the difference" is because it's totally different, some autistic people aren't even verbal.
@kalkhan816 I'm autistic myself. High functioning. But i heard that people often see similar traits in autistic people as they do in narcissists. Now, the well-known Dr Ramani had something to say about the difference in behaviour and intention, but I also would like an explanation from Danish Bashir. Just to hear someone else's opinion.🙂
@tunkytunky for others, it apparently is, as Dr Ramani discussed this topic. I just wanted to hear Bashirs view of it all.
I have high functioning autism, that's why I want to hear about this.
True that. It’s my experience as well.
Same here Danish! That s what they do tell the truth!
😮My sad story. I became a victim of narcissistic parental abuse and I will be dead soon. My mother has placed the blame of my father's death on me but he died abroad while taking his own life. She somehow manipulated everyone around me to believe her lies. In our country no one will believe when we try to tell bad things about parents. She has Human rights commision people, Judges and ministers under her control. She has warned me that I will be taken by the special task force and make dissapear soon. It is a very common thing in our country. She said many bad things to my father before died now she shifted the blame on me and said there is nothing I can do about my end.
I'm so sorry for your situation. Mass cultural narcissism is a hard one to fight against. Most people prefer to stay living in ignorance and false lives. It can become like a disease that spreads through the fabric of society. I hope this site like Danish offers is at least some support for you. 🙏❣️
I told the narcissist, you romanticize adulterous affairs, man he was mad. He thought it made him look like a big man. I told him you need to face reality. He started a smear campaign about me 🙄
I live in New Zealand. I was born in England. That's as far as I could get away from my family. I'd move to Mars if the option was available.
Im reminded of the song by jill scoot goes to the light comes to the light all will be revield
Tudi jaz sem mogla zapustiti vse za sabo in začeti znova zaradi prav takšnih težkih izkušenj.Bilo je neznosno.Prisiljena zapustiti celo lastno državo.Na mojo še večjo nesrečo in naivnost ter empatija,in iskreno govorjenje ker drugače nisem znala-v tej državi sam padla v roke narcisistu,nasilnežu in moje življenje je ratalo pekel..večna borba..eeehh... Hvala ti za video.Lep pozdrav.J.
Težko je.. Res težko🙋🏻♀️🍀
Wauw thank you Danish! can you tell us please more about how you went no contact, what happened that you took that decision?