5 Evil Psychological Tactics a Narcissist Uses to Break You
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 มิ.ย. 2024
- Book Your Seat: Workshop on Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent www.emotionalabuserecovery.co...
chapters
00:00 introduction
02:12 1.They give you a lot of silence
04:04 2. They use hyper suggestibility
06:24 3. They use honesty to bulid rapport
08:10 4.Instead of using "I" they use "we"
09:57 5.They indebt you with a lot of favours
11:56 ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS !
Book Your Seat: Workshop on Heal After Surviving a Narcissistic Parent www.emotionalabuserecovery.com/pna
Hi sir....you are telling the narcisist tactics...but tell how to respond their behaviours in every situation....example: they are using triangulation technique to abuse victim...how to perfectly respond st that situations.. ..please make a video thank u.....
I would like to book a seat, how much is it?
Many people out there who need help but can't afford it.
I wish someone replied to my message, help needs to be more accessible.
Just my request if someone can reply, but I never usually get a reply, I feel very depressed and not heard.
Research about blood groups and understand that narcissists are not made, neither are good people just made, these are mysteries formed in blood, that's why not all children of the same parent can be narcissist, at the same time, two imperfect parents can give birth to a really good child or is far much better than both parents cos a child gets some genes from either parents and the child who gets only the bad genes ends up a narcissist and while another child will get both good and bad but since good gene is dominant, this child will have empathy and ability to be truly good more often meanwhile other children only inherit the good genes from either parents that's if non of the parents have pure narcissistic genes and end up a very good child that everyone admires not Just the parents. So in the physical world, narcissistic people will be seen seeking attention etc because to them it's a way of being with others and in their heads it's normal while normal people view this abnormal and this also confuses the narcissist thinking the world is just being rude and cruel as they only believe in perfection and do opposite of others expectation. They are not only mean to others but also to self without even noticing in most cases. So, in my opinion, only God can heal them cos even when they realize this, it's very hard to change, it's like telling a bad person to become a narcissist when going through trauma or pampering.
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning. Hallelujah🎉🎉🎉♥️
I explain it like this they promise you a dream and deliver a nightmare in every area of your life.
Perfect way of putting it.
🎯🎯🎯🎯
That's it! It's a big nightmare. It's unfortunate there is no cure.
Excellent and very accurate!
True
1. Silent treatment
2. Hyper-suggestibility
3. Honesty - to build rapport
4. 'we' language - to dump responsibility
5. Indebting with unasked favours
Score: all 5!
All but 4 :( 😠
YES! 🤮
“Narcissists gives you the silent treatment.”
This is music to my ears because I’m a massive introvert. That’s called a favor 🤣
Yup..finally they stfu
Comprehension is key ..we are speaking of narcissists not friends..lol
theres silent treatment and theres stonewalling
my mom gives me the silent treatment when i do/say something she doesn’t like or agree with. even if i breathe funny she will give me the silent treatment but doesn’t really do that to her other children. she will also buy me things instead of apologizing and then guilt me and make me feel bad when i don’t want to do something she wants me to do. if narcissism had a competition she would be the reigning champ
NEVER ACCEPT THE HOOVER
Why
Well unless you want to keep disrespecting yourself, yes❤❤
AMEN
@@lemaxx2638it is creepy with a narcissist
Twice I was hoovered
Evil instinct is their mental base!
My dad always looked like he was thinking "How do I make people around me look like sh*t while making myself the victim/hero? What trap will I set? What pit shall I dig?" 🤔
My friends would say "What's up with your dad? He's weird. He doesn't move like a human." 😂
Exactly! They can ooze the evil so much that just remembering how their nauseaous touch felt makes go 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮😱😱😱😱😱
they CHOOSE evil, no one made them, everyone has free will.
Narcissists are demons 👿 Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👋
🎯🎯🎯🎯
Satan is the master of deception. People need to learn to recognize the embodiment of evil. Denying that a family member could be tangible evidence of the evil that walks among us is destroying Christians. It isn't "nice" to say what we see. I'm convinced most Christians wouldn't recognize a demon if it bit them on the butt at the family reunion 😆 cuz they do...
My experience of narcs has changed my entire life. I do not even have d energy to deal with humans
Sorry to hear this.. if you have children concentrate on them.........they're innocents bring peace!
What the narcissist meant for evil towards you, God intends to use for blessing.
I am done with that full blown narcissist, he was physically, emotionally, mentally abusive. Now i need to recover from this huge anxiety i am facing.
That last one is so true and the worst of all is that other people say: oh but that person did so much for you, how can you be so ungrateful." Those "favours" were all a trap.
Exatly.
I was first told about narcissistic behaviour in about 2001. I was being treated for depression following a horrible marriage to a woman who's behaviour I had never encountered before. I told the psycologist, ' She was not a psychopath or a sociopath but there was always something I couldn't put my finger on to, about her. When I did not do exactly as she wanted, the abuse would start. Silent treatment weekly was a favorite. Blaming me for everything, while she could do no wrong. Disrespecting me and humiliating me in public or in front of my friends. Constantly searching through my private papers. Avoiding physical contact. The manipulation and lies. And she told me she had married beneath her standing. She was a bank teller. I am a farmer with 1000 acres!. Its all designed to destroy a person. Me.
Just the same treatment my father was getting from my mother. Plus instances of physical violence. He has moved out but only after retirement. Unfortunately he does not believe what I say.
I am so sorry God bless you all 🙏🏽
This is why the best selling book in the world is “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES.” 🤷🏼♀️
Prayers and blessings ❤️ 🙏
I wish I knew about narcissism. I married him in 2001.
The secret is do not allow their evil to get in! Refuse to believe it!
I despise my narcissistic family.
I have a narcissistic family as well. My siblings and father not my mom though
Plan for your future to become strong independent financially and mentally, once you have resources and job you can leave anytime
I have one too. I haven't seen them in over 35 years.
@yuu_miran I was lucky then, my family was also narcissistic, but I was 9 when I went far from my family and I became totally independent. Interestingly peoples need encouragement, but life teaches you all.
@Ark-ys2up oh my wow I am sorry to hear that
My brother continuously told me “you’re old” and “you’re going to die” and “you’re finished” and “you’re crazy”.
Hundreds of times he said those terrible things to me and haven’t even mentioned the horrible things the rest of my “family” said to me every day. Now, as a retired person, finally no contact with all of my family has given me peace of mind for the first time
It's quite illogical that narcissists blame you for being sensitive but they abuse you for being so. In logical thinking any healthy person would be nicer or at least would try not to be harsh when dealing with a sensitive person but in the contrary, being sensitive it's a reason for them to be more abusive like parents who think mistreatment builds up character.
Exactly! This thought is what finally draw my attention to my narcissistic covert relatives whose treatment made me feel so pathetic, stupid, simply sick in my head. Now, after the latest phone call from my aunt each and every her statement is like a mathematical formula to me which equals to a simple solution ‘Can you please express your thoughts and views in another way, more respectful and kind?’ And if it was me, would I talk like this to any other person? In the end your inner genuine light and kindness will be the tool that will make you see how toxic is everything that comes out of the narc’s mouth.
In my experience the narc came from parents who think that abuse creates character. It’s pretty obvious why he believes abuse of a sensitive person is ok.
Sounds like my mother.
So true
"Deep psychological trance." Which is why you go on automatic and your brain stops working.
"Psychological strangulation." Disregulates you to the point of not being able to function in a normal way.
And people say, "Well why did you stay?" You literally are not able to make calm, rational decisions and you fail to see any way out. I mean it's literally like you don't have a choice.
All 5, Danish! In the middle of a dark triad narc cult family 😫😫😫
We did not choose it but we can leave.
Spot on Danish! Brilliantly described. Narcisists are evil hypnotists.
He would break up with me for the weekend and then love bomb me till I came back. He would go days and weeks of not talking to me when we got married. The most hurtful things he has done and denied is say he never wanted all our kids,he tried to choke me and then gaslight me. He did all the damage to the relationship with his cheating and belittling me and worked against me when raising the kids. He was always blaming me for his poor behavior. He would use my trauma of my parents divorce against me and tell me my family didn't love me. He would mention all he worked and threw in my face everything he did for me. The month before my surgery for a mass on my kidney he was kicking me out of the house knowing I have no one else to depend on or no other forms of medical care. I was a shattered mess for many years and now I am learning how to begin a new life in many ways.
Yes my husband did all, including the last worst one. Bringing food food all the time when i never asked for it, but when i asked him to get my antibiotics? He was raging about not having time. Something i truly needed.
He just bought himself food & didn’t want to eat alone. Heard it before
I've had a whole life full of Narc's most of it didn't stick! Stronger and More Powerful than ever at Being Myself.Wasn't easy!Always getting better and stronger everyday and everyway.🙏💜🙏❤️
My remaining narc relatives have been giving me silent treatment for a year or so only contacting me with short messages for some official reasons. Perhaps they think im suffering but im already beyond that. With God’s support I dont feel lonely anymore, Im not afraid to be in a crisis and left with no support from them, I trust God wont let me go through crisis until Im getting better. They still come into my nightmares but I dont care.
Stand strong. You are the winner.
Definately experienced the last point. Person is highly manipulative but does "favors" you didnt ask for and when I say I didnt ask for a particular favor/or fidnt need the information they respond saying thats why nobody wants to help you(who everybody is I dont know"
Then the person asks me a favor involving hours and hours and when I answer I cant for some reason because I' have previous plans/committments they respond saying I always help you and you never help me when I need it.
The longest silent treatment I experienced was 3 days and nights. We lived in the same house. I did everything I was asked. I was kicked in the back until I left our bed the first night and was only allowed back in when the "punishment" was over.
The first thing that was said at the end of this time was "If you would just do what I say I wouldn't have to punish you like that. Just obey me and we can live together peacefully."
Such an excellent presentation Danish. The traumatizing narcissist did all of these things to me (1) pressuring me to buy a mountain bike that I never considered buying on the pretext of it being a "loan" (2) pressuring me to write a fraudulent tax receipt for $1200 for consulting services that I never provided and then saying, "After all I've done for you." (3) using his directorship at a charity that provided housing support to those in need to intimidate men who were on the waitlist for support to abandon their friendship with me (4) threatening to call my family if I didn't cooperate with his dirty schemes (5) calling the police to evoke a mental health check when I tried to go no contact (6) calling my landlord on the pretext of his concern for me, when I tried to go no contact.........and on and on.......
These people are paranoid, delusional, and dangerous.
1-silent treatment 1:20
2-hyper-suggestibility 3:12
3-use honesty to build rapport 5:32
4-when taking responsibility instead of using "I" they use "we" (pseudo-reflection) 7:21
5-indebt you with a lot of favors you didn't ask for so they can use it against you later 9:05
Thank you Danish❤
He has used number 5 against me.
I have been married for 33 years and I am just opening my eyes, learning that my husband is a narcissist. He is lying, cyber cheating, and his past betrayals are lining up. I don't know what to do, where to go...I don't have family anymore and I don't have friends since we moved to a new city. I don't want to live this way anymore!
Get help from behavioral health organizations and make new friends. Go to church and get counseling from them. Reach out.
There are also decent shelters that can help protect you and get you back on your feet. Mainly cry out to God. He is A present help in times of need. He will guide you out and heal you. Help you not be attracted to these types of people.
They know what you like. The things you love. They offer them up to hook you, then they withhold them to punish you when you don’t obey. Everything they do is calculated. They are constantly plotting and planning to control all situations.
one of the scariest things is my mom would commit tons of financial & emotional abuse…but she acts like nothing happened when we’re together..but when she’s “alone” or think im gone..that evil smirk comes out right on her face…her arms crosse..she knows everything she’s doing..😬😬..but the second i come back…she’s the “normal” mom she was 10 minutes ago…and she had the nerve to say i have DID..crazy
Exact same evil psychology of father. All narscis behave exactly the same.😮
@@SoothingBrez i could get into all the red flags… there’s at least 20.. but for some reason whenever i’m with her… i almost completely forget all the pain she put me in.. and act like it never happened…once i leave..my heads spinning again
@@SoothingBrez i trust my ears and my eyes… she may say “she never said those things..” and i’m seeing things… nope i saw it clear as can be.. i see exactly what she’s doing but it almost seems impossible to wrap my head around the idea
wow, the evil smirk and crossed arms while talking about how all my brothers and sisters are losers.
@@MI6-W family drama..one thing i don’t get myself in..
It will be 3yrs since my husband died, and I'm sharing that I'm just barely getting a grip on ME again.
But I'm having a hard time getting in the mindset to get a job. I'm wondering if I can apply for disability. I'm 63yrs old and went through this abuse forever 20yrs of my 40yrs of my marriage. This is Soo scary. I'm getting shaky just typing this. Thank you for your channel💜
Start volunteering to get into the mindset.
God bless you danish, I think you are the only person who understands narcissists and narcissism so deeply in the true sense. Good work keep going. Thanks a lot 😊
The silence, is the worst.
Yes ! He would do something wrong and say "we" need to fix this get help with that. So sick.
They give silence when you do what they want as well. They may speak with you with no real connection. It is very manipulative. They guard from showing you any appreciation. They wouldn't want you to be comfortable. They don't want you to be healthy and self-confident.
And they are always projecting themselves on you
I was under the illusion that they were regular, kind persons. My scant proof for this was their harsh judgment of my faults or anything thing about me. I was confused, being lied to routinely. No one needs to tell me I should have gotten out sooner. I see it now. Happy healing, all. ❤ Thanks for giving us the chance to heal, Danish Bashir. 🧡
He tried to tell me I was damaged. I quickly told him I’ve never said that especially about myself. But he did try to tell me that nothing happened the way I thought and said it did.
Hi Andrea. I just read your message and I feel like crying. I am so sorry that you were called Damaged when you are not. I am a Born Again Christian who has detached myself from my best friend of over 10 years. I have not spoken to her in months because God started showing me who she really is. I was not sure for a long time because I kept feeling sorry for her. But thank God that God pulled me out at the right time and since then God has been healing me little by little, and He's recently starting to put people in my life that love me for real and are full of love, patience, kindness and understanding which I never got from my ex- best friend, only in small short doses which looking back now I can see the majority of it was not real. How are you doing today? Are you still with this narcisstic person?
I went no contact with my ex narcissist we lived together and in two week breakup she's already sleeping around...
I've heard something similar said to me too but I asked " if I am XYZ , then what does that make you for being with me ?" And the person got angry 😂
All of these happened to me with covert narcissist and my mother covert narcissist 😂😂😂😂
Thanks, each n every word in your speech is true. Deep analysis of evil human behaviour.
Danish, thank you. Stay blessed.
Ex Nar: He even had a book about hypnotic language. He'd make weird faces at me while I'd read or draw because my full attention wasn't on him. He'd even pick his nose and when I'd look at him, he'd act as if nothing was happening. Love bombing until it made me want to vomit after a while and all the gifts...so many gifts...At first he'd gift me things I wanted, then it became him getting me the types of gifts he wanted me to have until it was problematic. One of the weirdest people I have ever been around and that's saying a lot. Thank God I got away.
When they say something really unbelievable over and over.
"I'm a very deep person" 🤣🤣🤣
#5 except he stole thousands of dollars from me and then expected gratitude he got a small refund on another card! Listening to you Danish a second time on this video. 🙏🏼
Same mine never bought me one thing in our two and half years of dating but I spent over thousands of dollars and he would make statements like you don’t make a lot of money when he didn’t have a job
Thank you Danish, you have such a a way that explains things but also imparts such wisdom. I'm going through the stages of grief realizing both my parents were narcissistic. My mom is definitely the altruistic type. I now realize why I feel so sick after holidays and my birthday. She has used these platforms to uplift herself while subtly downgrading mine. Keep up the awesome videos. You have changed my life.
Yes! In the beginning he was very honest even about things most people wouldn't be honest about. Little by little he would mix honesty with little lies or half truths that would make me go hmm - but I had gotten so used to his refreshing honesty I never doubted his word or questioned it. Then he got more dishonest in which it was so blatant I started doubting everything he said which infuriated him. He got to the point where all he did was lie. I'll never forget when I first met him, another woman who knew him said to me, "Just ask him, he is very honest, he will tell you." Due to this and his honesty in the beginning it took me a while to acknowledge he was starting to lie a lot.
Thank you for these videos. You are helping here, to exactly understand what was the life lived...
God heal all of the victims 🙏
Wow. Hypersuggestability. I was told my hobbies werent important. It effected me in deep ways.
Experienced all of this! So true
I felt number 4 with my narcissistic mother.
This is so true. Sadly they prey on caring, loving people. I left and he has found another victim. I hope she will see the signs and free herself.
If you don’t have the law of Almighty God, you can be governed by any demon!!!!!!!!!
You are saving my life! I have always been blessed and cursed by being extremely empathetic for my entire life. I cannot stand seeing people or even animals in fear or pain. I’ve struggled with abuse from a narcissistic sibling, a “best friend” of 40 years and now a daughter in law who has turned my son against me, using my grandchildren as hostages.
I’ve come to hate myself and feel best when I’m isolated. It all came to a head 10 mos. ago after a very traumatizing incident where I was demonized & abused for an act of loving kindness.
I discovered your channel about 4 mos. ago. As soon as I am triggered by memories or have any contact with these people, I listen to you for education & advice. Today I decided that this is the moment for healing to begin. I know it won’t be easy, but I can do it with your help.
THANK YOU!!!!
Those last words to keep out the rest who give free advice...that's Spot-on
II’ve been through everything you talked about in this video but here is my share: I realized that when he gave me the silent treatment I use that as my me time and a break from the chaos, which he would always come back like a little boy and apologize. This happens every 28 days like a woman’s cycle.
He would use sleep deprivation to get his way, but otherwise cause drama just to get a high he needed. Thank goodness for my head finally found my way out. Now I have peace in my life.
I know you read a lot of comments an cant remember my story but you been with me for 5 months ❤ and just to let you know .. he came back .. first started to try to impress me .. i wasn't impressed 😊 next started the bullying...ok 😃😊 thats nice.... I pulled out my list of boundaries 😊😊😊 then all of a sudden like a fart in the wind 🌬️ 🍃 .. gone... Just gone... Its been 4 days now..... Thanks for all the great advice ❤❤❤❤ i dont think he will be back❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
He used to repeat how honorable a man he was like trying to convince himself. So interesting to watch. I left last week I respect myself more than that.❤Thank you
Wow! Thanks for validating me. Dealt with all points made.
I wish. Danish I would listen such videos in early 1992...he used me all the way..I was just 18 the most lovely beautiful girl..and in the the end I experienced each of your word...and that experience bit by bit shattered me into pieces..but now of 32 years...I'm trying together myself with the help of such videos and asking and bow down towards Allah SWT...Omg I sacrificed my life my personality ..my high morals..my son not wanna be involved in this drama so I stopped talking about..in this world if a person is married to such narcissist...it's hell it's hell it's hell....may God protect us from such evil..may they vanished away from this world.but unluckyly they have long lives..then sensitive people!
Thanks Danish pls keep this work on a thousands of people would be helped and think to live again❤
The taking me out to places I didn't normally go , then turn around and use it to justify their abuse
You're awesome THANK YOU FOR BEING ON OUR SIDE❤❤❤❤❤
So much understanding, very grateful!!!!!
Number 2 was horrific
Thank you Danish .for your guidance and support..God bless
Thank you Danish, these thoughts help me to the place of total acceptance, with no blame or shame to myself for "staying so long." I am moving in two months, looking forward to being closer to my support system.
Danish, listening to you there will be Not Much Leftovers who act in a so called Human Way. The people who never expierenced Narcissitic abuse can not understand where you have bin gone true. And they will give you such answers. I personal don,t talk about it at all decided its the best way to do.
Yes, they used these against me all the times... It's like you said if they say I'm crazy or a c-nt was just once or twice it would be so hurtful. And that "We" crap it's just creepy to me...
Thank you Danish
You nailed this species .
No3 hyper suggestibility is juuuuuuust unbearable .
No 5 unwanted unconsensual favours is 🚩 red flag whoever needs to hear that
Yes, it seems that I have fallen for all of these manipulations. That sounds about right. Going forward, that won't be happening anymore... Thank you for showing us these things, Danish.
My ex was a narcissist and used the money angle to try to keep me with them longer through guilt and obligation. When I did finally leave they said how I was the one who took advantage of them financially, when it was their idea to give me the money and gifts that I never even asked for or wanted even. I took them so they wouldn't get their feeling hurt by my not accepting their gifts.
Believe it or not I've had an ongoing issue with someone who is able to park close to my unit and sit in his car transmitting thoughts that I pick up on in my sleep. From being in my home to having me see a woman in a wedding dress. They are so deeply insecure they can't open their mouth and talk to you for fear of rejection and marriage is the perfect prison.
I have to open my eyes to this so I am glad you are talking about being broken and how they actually do it to you. I am still on medication from when I was completely down and out and could not get away.
All of them. I have a psychologist in my home. She is my aunt who lives with me.
Yes, so true! They will never understand what we've gone through... :(
Experienced all of this, it's absolutely true .. actually experiencing on daily basis..
Thank you Danish! These relationships are SO complicated and your channel helps clear it up a bit.
Yeah, it is very hurtful when people make comments like that.
The other day, my perpetually drunk mother told me it was my fault I was raped, because I ‘let it happen’ & if it had been her, she would’ve fought the person off. Yeah, I used to think that too, until it actually happened to me. She failed to realise the one time I had been raped by 1 person, they had drugged me & the other time it was multiple people.
Yes, because it’s just ‘so easy’ to fight off a MAN when ur a petite, young female (esp when drugged) & it’s just so easy to fight off more than 1 PERSON!!🙄😏
My ex wants to indebt everyone around him in order to use them when he wants to. I find it disgusting, how can he do that to others, and to me of course. I went through all five points but four and five are the worst.
They don't listen when you tell them what you don't like in their behaviour and blame you for their mistakes. Because they never want to admit their mistakes they project them on you. It is an impossible situation and this situation will repeat itself as long as you live with such a person.
The indebting of favors💀🙆🏻♀️ you will owe them later on. Its to get power over you..
Everything mentioned in this video is accurate! Thank you so much Danish for bringing awareness to the many different tactics Narcissists use against us.
I was in a long term relationship with a narcissist and i couldn't even tell that he was a narcissist. and when he was controlling me, manipulating me, hurting me, he always said that i was the one who's responsible for his bad behavior not him. I did research about narcissist like for months and months then i finally realized that it was him not me. i even thought I'm the narcissist. now i have broken up with him like two weeks ago and and he is still hurting me saying hurtful things and using my weaknesses which only he knows against me via texts and emails... i didn't have the strength to leave him because he made it seem like i would never survive without him and i believed him. he says he misses me in one text then the next text is telling me that screwed up everything we had. its really confusing and exhausting right now. you're videos are the reason that keeps me going forward. because no one understands my situation cause he has convinced the whole world by acting nice.
flying monkey step dad tried to take me out to dinner multiple times… i’m done with my mom, i can’t anymore
I love your simple eloquence
You can try making a video on how the narcissists want you to take responsibilty for their decisions...using various manipulation tactics to trap you into such situations
Danish, all $ exactly the way you have explain.no wonder everyone says 'you don't appreciate him 'he is struggling to make you and ur children comfortable.meanwhile mentally I am draining.Vampires
I have stopped accepting His actions of doing things for me, tell him I can't afford anything he does for me. Get me a glass of ice I never asked for, I now owe him something .
Danish you are brilliant. I learn something every time. It was thru your insight I was able to identify my families problems. The 3 of them- parents plus sister. Mother overt narc father and sister covert narc. I have experienced all 5 at one time or another between the 3 of them. I am now 64-parents are dead and my younger sister is a covert narc. I live my life without her and her manipulation quite well!
The only thing I would like to add is Note: these people sound really intelligent and clued up in the psychology department
It’s all learned behaviour they don’t understand these big words or that they’re using tactics etc , they’re just self absorbed and selfish to the core
And we usually tell them how we have been hurt in the past and they rinse and repeat
They are actually very boring and dull not dark and mysterious
And their mantra is I love you
I was gifted with spiritual gifts my entire life. I am always always right about the things I know. However whenever I know something about them… they tell me it’s wrong. My feelings are not right. I can’t just take my imagination as facts. Here’s the thing though.. every time I knew someone was going to die they really die. Every time I knew someone was a sexual predator they actually ended up getting arrested for SA. I can’t explain these things but I know… the narc is the only person ever who tells me that I am wrong.
But Danish, he doesn't know I love being alone. It's a big mistake of him to do. My space is important to me. No narcissist can win with me. He ends up suffering alone with his nonesense. Capricornians love being alone. He's actually a nuisance when he is around. Of course, not everyone is like me. I hope the others can do the same. At one time, he went home in his country for a visit, and I went to Spsin with my friend. Ha ha 😂 He can not make me suffer.
I know this dependency preying very well. During the last period of cooperation with a narcissist, I used this mechanism to get rid of him permanently. I noticed this bastard using this trick and I used it against him. The funny thing is that a narcissist likes to copy your behavior but doesn't know what to do when you start copying him 🤪
Thanks to this channel, I learned my lessons
So correct! Thank you❤️
So many things resonates in this from dealing with narcissistic parents , family , violent behaviour ex partners and now from my own children( which feels like the worst kind as being beaten and abused ,seems i was able to see it for what it was and heal through it eventually 😔🙄) the worse betrayal has been from the adult children who take take take and never help with anything still ,expecting,me to do things for them , in many ways ( which sadly i have actually gone broke and in deep financial debt now as well as helping in so many ways with barely a thanks) they give all the empty promises of help ,paying me back ,etc , yes they pay me back with doing nothing except for gaslighting , ignoring,and shifting the blame onto me saying im the toxic one im being over dramatic,i should be the one who should be ashamed,
Often he would get furious with me and give me the silent treatment which would last from a week to 2 weeks. Most of the time I had no idea what I did wrong and he would refuse to tell me. Our relationship was mostly long distance and we would talk through dm. When he was giving me the silent treatment, he still demanded I stay with him in DM, just to be there, and if I left due to him not talking to me other than yes and no responses, he would curse me out and tell me what an awful person I was that I didn't stay with him while he wasn't speaking to me. 😳🙄😶
I just need to thank you from the very depth of my soul for your content. There is no scale of measure to truly define how Your content has helped me work through the trauma bond and every other issue that came along with moving on and recovering from the abuse. You are doing the lords work. ❤
Undergone all silent treatment making me feel guilty the last one
I think all..but mostly these three
Thank you
All five. All the time. Every day. Every night. 24/7/365. I don't know if I am the narcissist, or my husband is. Either way, I'm stuck in this nightmare that's been going on for over thirty years of my life as I claim to have too much invested if I leave. I never used to suffer with depression until he came into my life, then the separation started. Then the lies. And now I am isolated from everyone I ever knew, and I don't know if it's my fault or his. I have been watching your videos for a while now, some are helpful, and others provoke feelings I haven't had for years. Thanks for the helpful videos.
💎💎💎💎💎Exceptional video
Omgosh this has been my life for 17 years 😢 except for the violence ive experienced all the other tactics.I thought I knew about narcissism until I just watthis video! The way you've explained these tactics, I'm in shock. I cant work bc of his jealousy. I don't have money or a vehicle, I have 3 kids nowhere to go except a dv shelter. But I've made a plan and I'm getting out, at least I didn't marry him. Prayers pls, Thank you Danish ❤
The silent treatment😮 and talk the whole day to other people besides you...texting colleagues you are in my thoughts but no empathy for me I have to support myself emotionally..