2+ years of chasing and studying all sorts of modalities related to identity in terms of expression, and you've managed to shift my understanding of myself in 15 minutes. Thank you so much for making this.
The favourites chart and “guided meditation” type thing was super fun and helpful, i come back to this video whenever I feel unsure of my identity and that’s very helpful as a young person who’s still developing myself and finding who I am, I tend to lose myself in trends and other people’s identities so this video really helps me
I agree @@jobunny919 small channels come across as more authentic, the content is more impactful and interesting and the feel is cosy, like we are all part of a secret niche treehouse club 🥰 not saying big channels can't possess a similar energy but I do find as I watch a small channel go bigger, the energy definitely shifts to something more mass appealing and broad/shallow.
The favorites list was relatively easy but the house visualization looked unclear and changing when I tried! Like my subconscious had a vague idea but couldn’t quite make up its mind about specifics
For me understanding my own energy made me find my aesthetic. I'm provocative by nature not in an overt way but subliminally. I've noticed this because people(strangers even) have strong reactions to me. Bad and good. Also I've noticed I mainly attract people with darker (unconventional) minds. People say I look innocent but fear me in secret. They get nervous to talk to me usually its the 'normal' people. People have said to me that they thought I was a witch or had supernatural powers. That's how I realised that my beauty type/aesthetic is dark, mysterious, provocative(erotic), and soft. This is a part of me I cannot change as it's innate. My aesthetic is abnormal and very sexual. I look like a doll more like a love doll naturally and my skin tone makes me look uncanny/'other worldly' as I'm muted cool toned and dark skinned. I would describe my aesthetic as in ethereal-dark-bimbo. Paying attention to how people reacted to me made me build a character in mind and build a story for that character this made it easy to imagine outfits for. (as you said) Also taking pictures with other people made me see how different I was from others in style. Looking at myself objectively made it easy to categories myself into a aesthetic. Finding people that looked like me helped a lot as it's easier to analyse them.
I like your outer world analysis that you've figured, and your innate one that you believe you have since people perceive you that way merge and give way to a similar persona.
I imagined a soft gothic house full of blacks and different shades of purple, antique polished furniture, little trinkets like gems, lots of books, band posters on the wall. No surprises there😄 but it made me realize how little how my white, beige and pastel home fits my aesthetic
Your videos are absolutely amazing, this one was really helpful and the thing of finding your own aesthetic instead of just picking one is purely authentic, your ethereal series is spectacular! I would recommend to check the lines of your clothes to match with your Kibbe body type. You're beautiful.
Oh I love Kibbe types. I'm a romantic. It's honestly something that helped me soo much with my style and consciously helps me choose outfits and pieces that look 10/10 on me. It's scary how all the top 10% favorite outfits in my wardrobe were the ones that fit my body ttype the best according to the Kibbe. I reccomend it for anyone who is confused on personal styling.
I have really bad trouble finding my aesthetic so I just created my own. it's called MarieAntoinetteCore which is really messy. It's a mix of kawaii, dark academia, light academia and stuff mostly associated with Marie Antionette. like head-chopping or cake.
I have an idea of who I am. I feel we are constantly told what we are suppose to be. We are suppose to be _______ but 10 or 30 years later we are suppose to be the complete opposite because the first one went out of style. As if human states of being and personalities are just styles we swap when a new one comes along. I think I'm beginning to figure out who I want to be. I actually have a pretty good idea of who she is thanks to this video and the etheral video (the tree example). 3 years ago I would've scoffed and thought that person would be completely unattainable but now everyday I slowly try to embody that and honestly it becomes easier as my brain accepts it more. It's really a beautiful thing to find out who you are at the core of your being, even if that too changes eventually. 💕
I think going through phases is an integral process of finding who you are too! Because even after you’re past it, you still have pieces you take with you or you learn something.
Thank you for posting this I really enjoyed the way you talked through step by step, I feel like you helped me clarify something in me today regarding finding my identity and my asthetic. So crazy I have been really enjoying your current vids on beauty and ur ideology and philosophy around it but for some reason I had not subscribed, and couple of months later now I saw this video because I searched up “how to find my asthetic” . Anyways, I have subscribed now. Sometimes the algorithm does its job for the good. Love that.
I feel like every room in my house needs to have its own aesthetic to represent the different facets of me. However to describe most rooms: flowery, bright, vintage, statues, wallpapers, french style, lots of pastel colors, high walls, bouquets, books, candles
The house guided meditation was so good! I ended up in a white Victorian townhouse, filled with luxurious fabrics, lots of wrought iron, old books, and papers everywhere, and so many flowers and dark floral patterns, plus many antique trinkets. I think i landed on 19th Century French Poet-core. Je m'en vais lire un peu de Baudelaire en buvant de l'absinthe
Also the escape place got me thinking of how the "5 elements" come into play into one's aesthetic. Mine is a waterfall in the mountains, so lots of earth primarily, with quite a bit of water and air (movement), and many red and pink flowers (fire), so something like a very flowy linen dress with a floral pattern would make sense on me as it encapsulates that same ratio of elements. Someone who prefers a hot beach might want an equal balance of fire and water: maybe red leather pants with a silk turquoise blouse.
Great advice! For me, Pinterest worked very much. I made boards with things I liked with the goal of getting to know myself and get out of the trends programming. It has been a few years process for me and I slowly got to change my clothes and find my style based on what I actually like and what reveals parts of me. I have boards on colours, textures, specific wardrobe items, shoes, art, furniture, design, architecture, places. Some of them are private, the most of them actually, to give me the feeling of privacy and intimacy between myself and the things i like. I created this dreamland of my own, where I feel between my things and it reminds me of who I am and what I like. Sounds like a commercial, but pinterest its just a platform. It's like the oldschool pin board or inspiration board or notebooks filled with decoupage and collage.
I really fell back in love with Pinterest the past year or two. A MUCH better platform for this kind of thing and the results really feel tailored to you. And you always seems to get something special every time you open the app.
I ended up imagining my childhood home, which is not quite as effective I think, but the points you made and the purpose of the exercise was really beautiful, keep it up!
I honestly have taken multiple popular tests that have helped me figure out my persona. I looked for a pattern, and there usually is one for almost everyone. My results were INFP, 4w5, paternalistic conservatism, lawful neutral or neutral, archetypal persephone/hestia or hekate, RLUEI, natural ingenue, and everyman/creator/magician. We even play out clichés or tropes. Mine are damsel in distress, defiant captive, the hermit, psychopomp, naive cynic, spoiled sweet, sugar and ice, the ingenue, housewife, aloof ally, and innocently insensitive (among others throughout my life). There's an overall pattern here... I settled on these aesthetics: farmcore coquette or farmer's daughter, dark coquette or dark soft girl, morute, prairie girl - all that with neko tendencies Dark coquette or farmer's daughter would be my core aesthetic (and my secondary).
I've seen so many videos about finding aesthetic but I still don't know my aesthetic because I have a lot of insecurities and as I'm underage and my parents want me to dress their way so I won't be able to wear the clothes I want.
My house was so colorful and virbrant it would be called a epilepsy trigger. The kitchen had lovely streaks of red amoung the black and whites. The curtains were light blue and it was sunny out. The living room also had vines with beautiful pink spider lilies all around. That is very opposite to the black, white, and grey I usually wear.
i love your channel, it really helped me with my self confidence. just found it like last week but you are very knowledgeable. you deserve more followers because each video you make is very high quality
Definitely my new fave channel 🙏 🩷representing classical music world and community I have to tell you, that we usually struggle with the personal style part of our stage presence. Me included 💀 I feel confined by the personal style „rules” and „traditions” of my music genre and I long to present in a more personal way, although it may affect the way more conservative audience judge me 😂 I find your videos deeply inspiring not only in that matter but also in broader, artistic sense. 🩷 Looking forward to more videos 🩷🩷
Wow this was amazing. I’m going to repeat this for a while. This inspired me to create music and things that will add an ambiance to aesthetic. I have seen how I have evolved but also been unknowingly consistent. Ty ❤
Ngl I’m not done watching but the script and trying to really visualize and feel that home makes me almost sad that I probably won’t get something exactly like that, it’s the first time I imagined it this way and I want it to be real so bad TT, I wanna go there and never return
Thank you so much for this video, I've never reallu been able to tell who I really am but this video really opened my eyes to it, especially the last excersize, thank you so much 😊💓
Lovely video. I envisioned my own home that rests in reality, so either I lack enough imagination or I am just that good at manifesting my dreams. I think it is the latter, because I have always felt the strong desire within to create a space without that feels more co.fortable and welcoming and reflective of all that I adore & hold dear :) However, this exercise was still very helpful to me because it made me tweak just a few details. I added in a few extras :) I am thoroughly enjoying your content.
This is amazing, thank you for putting up this content out there, I like your stance and attitude about things. Also your lip pencil/lipstick (!), dying to know where it is from, we kinda like the same colour palette!
My problem with trying to do the visualization is that I'm too logical. My mind goes "Oh I stepped on something? Okay logically It would be a leaf and its daytime because that's a safe time to walk. and if its a leaf it must be a tree lined neighborhood so it must have these type of homes." I never think of what I like but what makes sense 💀
Soooooo.. Im 25, turning 26 in a month, and I’m on my period just spent all morning crying cause I feel like such a loser 😅 I used to just be okay not caring how I look, and being grungy was my aesthetic, I used to be super gangster and cholla before that but now.. fuck I just feel like I’m stuck in little boy clothes. I don’t really feel comfortable wearing super preppy stuff either I’m too insecure about my body still, I don’t have anything against pink or girly girls I healed all that. I hope watching this helps, I just wanted to vent real quick in case anyone feels the same and feels alone, also I love your look ❤
I've been having trouble finding my aesthetic. I really like the 2010s Internet style, because I like memes. But I think I may also be Liminal Space, because I like looking at peaceful pictures that can sometimes be disturbing as well. I can't decide.
The visualization section had me scrambling around with discomfort and frustration. Lol Lotta angst when it comes to having a place to call home, apparently.
Ok So my asthetic is like I named it tomboyy2k so like seen in Tiktok and pinterest its like really revealing now bae IDK revealing I don't like revealing I wear baggy clothes and y2k jewelry I have a cottagecor-ish room I don't wear make up and I am saying tomboy cuz IDK ITS MY VIBE..And I also wear cottage core clothes somewhere but y2k jewelry is a must
Hey so i thought the same and realised the only problem with it is that there's barely any time to imagine all the stuff, especially the details that are so important.I think there are guided meditations which help you put yourself into this "dream life" but I just listened to the whole "asmr",played some music and imagined everything the same way but just giving myself more time.Hope this helped,have a nice day:D
2+ years of chasing and studying all sorts of modalities related to identity in terms of expression, and you've managed to shift my understanding of myself in 15 minutes. Thank you so much for making this.
Wow❤🎉
that list of favourites has really made me realise how little I know about myself
The favourites chart and “guided meditation” type thing was super fun and helpful, i come back to this video whenever I feel unsure of my identity and that’s very helpful as a young person who’s still developing myself and finding who I am, I tend to lose myself in trends and other people’s identities so this video really helps me
WHY DON'T U HAVE MORE SUBSCRIBERS??
YOUR CHANNEL IS FASCINATING
Working to get into the algorithm's good graces hahaha! thank you so much
@@HeavenSentHoney people don't deserve this content :)
Most of my favorite channels are smaller channels. Smaller channels prioritize valuable information. Larger channels prioritize numbers.
I agree @@jobunny919 small channels come across as more authentic, the content is more impactful and interesting and the feel is cosy, like we are all part of a secret niche treehouse club 🥰 not saying big channels can't possess a similar energy but I do find as I watch a small channel go bigger, the energy definitely shifts to something more mass appealing and broad/shallow.
The one thing I realized with this exercise is how much I enjoy Art Deco & surrealist decor. 😅
You and me both gal
The favorites list was relatively easy but the house visualization looked unclear and changing when I tried! Like my subconscious had a vague idea but couldn’t quite make up its mind about specifics
For me understanding my own energy made me find my aesthetic. I'm provocative by nature not in an overt way but subliminally. I've noticed this because people(strangers even) have strong reactions to me. Bad and good. Also I've noticed I mainly attract people with darker (unconventional) minds. People say I look innocent but fear me in secret. They get nervous to talk to me usually its the 'normal' people. People have said to me that they thought I was a witch or had supernatural powers.
That's how I realised that my beauty type/aesthetic is dark, mysterious, provocative(erotic), and soft. This is a part of me I cannot change as it's innate. My aesthetic is abnormal and very sexual. I look like a doll more like a love doll naturally and my skin tone makes me look uncanny/'other worldly' as I'm muted cool toned and dark skinned. I would describe my aesthetic as in ethereal-dark-bimbo.
Paying attention to how people reacted to me made me build a character in mind and build a story for that character this made it easy to imagine outfits for. (as you said)
Also taking pictures with other people made me see how different I was from others in style.
Looking at myself objectively made it easy to categories myself into a aesthetic.
Finding people that looked like me helped a lot as it's easier to analyse them.
I like your outer world analysis that you've figured, and your innate one that you believe you have since people perceive you that way merge and give way to a similar persona.
I imagined a soft gothic house full of blacks and different shades of purple, antique polished furniture, little trinkets like gems, lots of books, band posters on the wall.
No surprises there😄 but it made me realize how little how my white, beige and pastel home fits my aesthetic
Your videos are absolutely amazing, this one was really helpful and the thing of finding your own aesthetic instead of just picking one is purely authentic, your ethereal series is spectacular! I would recommend to check the lines of your clothes to match with your Kibbe body type. You're beautiful.
Kibbe body type?? looking this up right now
Oh, it's a whole universe, I think Alyart is the best to explain it. Knowing your body and face can enhance your style and essence. Good luck!
@@esmeraldapreza so excited thank you!
Oh I love Kibbe types. I'm a romantic. It's honestly something that helped me soo much with my style and consciously helps me choose outfits and pieces that look 10/10 on me. It's scary how all the top 10% favorite outfits in my wardrobe were the ones that fit my body ttype the best according to the Kibbe. I reccomend it for anyone who is confused on personal styling.
@@HeavenSentHoney also the style id calculator from truth-is-beauty really helped me :)
I have really bad trouble finding my aesthetic so I just created my own. it's called MarieAntoinetteCore which is really messy. It's a mix of kawaii, dark academia, light academia and stuff mostly associated with Marie Antionette. like head-chopping or cake.
and there's like 0.00000001 % of Americana mixed in
That’s how you do it
I have an idea of who I am. I feel we are constantly told what we are suppose to be. We are suppose to be _______ but 10 or 30 years later we are suppose to be the complete opposite because the first one went out of style. As if human states of being and personalities are just styles we swap when a new one comes along. I think I'm beginning to figure out who I want to be. I actually have a pretty good idea of who she is thanks to this video and the etheral video (the tree example). 3 years ago I would've scoffed and thought that person would be completely unattainable but now everyday I slowly try to embody that and honestly it becomes easier as my brain accepts it more.
It's really a beautiful thing to find out who you are at the core of your being, even if that too changes eventually. 💕
I think going through phases is an integral process of finding who you are too! Because even after you’re past it, you still have pieces you take with you or you learn something.
@@HeavenSentHoney very true😌
this felt so comforting. your attentiveness to each of us through your intention is deeply felt & appreciated
Thank you for posting this I really enjoyed the way you talked through step by step, I feel like you helped me clarify something in me today regarding finding my identity and my asthetic. So crazy I have been really enjoying your current vids on beauty and ur ideology and philosophy around it but for some reason I had not subscribed, and couple of months later now I saw this video because I searched up “how to find my asthetic” . Anyways, I have subscribed now. Sometimes the algorithm does its job for the good. Love that.
I feel like every room in my house needs to have its own aesthetic to represent the different facets of me.
However to describe most rooms: flowery, bright, vintage, statues, wallpapers, french style, lots of pastel colors, high walls, bouquets, books, candles
The house guided meditation was so good! I ended up in a white Victorian townhouse, filled with luxurious fabrics, lots of wrought iron, old books, and papers everywhere, and so many flowers and dark floral patterns, plus many antique trinkets. I think i landed on 19th Century French Poet-core.
Je m'en vais lire un peu de Baudelaire en buvant de l'absinthe
Also the escape place got me thinking of how the "5 elements" come into play into one's aesthetic. Mine is a waterfall in the mountains, so lots of earth primarily, with quite a bit of water and air (movement), and many red and pink flowers (fire), so something like a very flowy linen dress with a floral pattern would make sense on me as it encapsulates that same ratio of elements.
Someone who prefers a hot beach might want an equal balance of fire and water: maybe red leather pants with a silk turquoise blouse.
Great advice! For me, Pinterest worked very much. I made boards with things I liked with the goal of getting to know myself and get out of the trends programming. It has been a few years process for me and I slowly got to change my clothes and find my style based on what I actually like and what reveals parts of me. I have boards on colours, textures, specific wardrobe items, shoes, art, furniture, design, architecture, places. Some of them are private, the most of them actually, to give me the feeling of privacy and intimacy between myself and the things i like. I created this dreamland of my own, where I feel between my things and it reminds me of who I am and what I like. Sounds like a commercial, but pinterest its just a platform. It's like the oldschool pin board or inspiration board or notebooks filled with decoupage and collage.
I really fell back in love with Pinterest the past year or two. A MUCH better platform for this kind of thing and the results really feel tailored to you. And you always seems to get something special every time you open the app.
I ended up imagining my childhood home, which is not quite as effective I think, but the points you made and the purpose of the exercise was really beautiful, keep it up!
I honestly have taken multiple popular tests that have helped me figure out my persona. I looked for a pattern, and there usually is one for almost everyone. My results were INFP, 4w5, paternalistic conservatism, lawful neutral or neutral, archetypal persephone/hestia or hekate, RLUEI, natural ingenue, and everyman/creator/magician.
We even play out clichés or tropes. Mine are damsel in distress, defiant captive, the hermit, psychopomp, naive cynic, spoiled sweet, sugar and ice, the ingenue, housewife, aloof ally, and innocently insensitive (among others throughout my life). There's an overall pattern here...
I settled on these aesthetics: farmcore coquette or farmer's daughter, dark coquette or dark soft girl, morute, prairie girl - all that with neko tendencies
Dark coquette or farmer's daughter would be my core aesthetic (and my secondary).
Would you share the quiz names? I find them so fun to take, and it’d be interesting to see what pattern I’d find in my results ✧
I've seen so many videos about finding aesthetic but I still don't know my aesthetic because I have a lot of insecurities and as I'm underage and my parents want me to dress their way so I won't be able to wear the clothes I want.
Wear the clothes you want when you're alone in your room. Buy them secretly. Sometimes you gotta work with what you have.
06:28 (bookmarking for myself for when I get back x)
♡
Oh wow! I really enjoyed the personal approach you took. Also, your makeup is gorgeous!!
Thank you!
@@HeavenSentHoney not me giggling and kicking my feet because you noticed me
U ate with this thank u so much🙏🙏
My house was so colorful and virbrant it would be called a epilepsy trigger. The kitchen had lovely streaks of red amoung the black and whites. The curtains were light blue and it was sunny out. The living room also had vines with beautiful pink spider lilies all around. That is very opposite to the black, white, and grey I usually wear.
I love your videos! Also, your voice reminds me of young Amanda Bynes it’s so comforting 🥰🌸💕
i love your channel, it really helped me with my self confidence. just found it like last week but you are very knowledgeable. you deserve more followers because each video you make is very high quality
i look forward to your videos so much!!
Finally my aesthetic being represented!! I love your videos ❤️
🥲❤️
Definitely my new fave channel 🙏 🩷representing classical music world and community I have to tell you, that we usually struggle with the personal style part of our stage presence. Me included 💀 I feel confined by the personal style „rules” and „traditions” of my music genre and I long to present in a more personal way, although it may affect the way more conservative audience judge me 😂
I find your videos deeply inspiring not only in that matter but also in broader, artistic sense. 🩷 Looking forward to more videos 🩷🩷
Wow this was amazing. I’m going to repeat this for a while. This inspired me to create music and things that will add an ambiance to aesthetic. I have seen how I have evolved but also been unknowingly consistent. Ty ❤
Ngl I’m not done watching but the script and trying to really visualize and feel that home makes me almost sad that I probably won’t get something exactly like that, it’s the first time I imagined it this way and I want it to be real so bad TT, I wanna go there and never return
Thank you soooo much for this! It made me so happy and I loved the asmr exercise!! This is super helpful
You’re welcome babe!
This is a gem 🙌
Thank you so much for this video, I've never reallu been able to tell who I really am but this video really opened my eyes to it, especially the last excersize, thank you so much 😊💓
Lovely video. I envisioned my own home that rests in reality, so either I lack enough imagination or I am just that good at manifesting my dreams. I think it is the latter, because I have always felt the strong desire within to create a space without that feels more co.fortable and welcoming and reflective of all that I adore & hold dear :) However, this exercise was still very helpful to me because it made me tweak just a few details. I added in a few extras :) I am thoroughly enjoying your content.
This is amazing, thank you for putting up this content out there, I like your stance and attitude about things. Also your lip pencil/lipstick (!), dying to know where it is from, we kinda like the same colour palette!
I saw that house. I was there. I loved it! Thank you.🙏🏼
Bes TH-cam channel ive come across today.. i willwatch all your videos from now on... Subscribed ❤
What a unique video. This was cool.
My problem with trying to do the visualization is that I'm too logical. My mind goes "Oh I stepped on something? Okay logically It would be a leaf and its daytime because that's a safe time to walk. and if its a leaf it must be a tree lined neighborhood so it must have these type of homes." I never think of what I like but what makes sense 💀
Soooooo.. Im 25, turning 26 in a month, and I’m on my period just spent all morning crying cause I feel like such a loser 😅 I used to just be okay not caring how I look, and being grungy was my aesthetic, I used to be super gangster and cholla before that but now.. fuck I just feel like I’m stuck in little boy clothes. I don’t really feel comfortable wearing super preppy stuff either I’m too insecure about my body still, I don’t have anything against pink or girly girls I healed all that. I hope watching this helps, I just wanted to vent real quick in case anyone feels the same and feels alone, also I love your look ❤
You are goddess ooohhhhh! Thank you, it was very helpful and very terapeutic ❤
Thank you!! So sweet. You’re welcome love.
I know this is kinda unrelated but I really like ur makeup
These videos are perfect! You said you were a Virgo in another video. Do you have any Scorpio in your chart?
Scorpio in Mars
I've been having trouble finding my aesthetic. I really like the 2010s Internet style, because I like memes. But I think I may also be Liminal Space, because I like looking at peaceful pictures that can sometimes be disturbing as well. I can't decide.
HSH I love your channel so much ❤
ahhhhh your videos are just WOOOOOW, i just found u couple days ago 💓
Extremely helpful I surprised myself.. I didn’t think that was actually me .. but it is .. guess I’m not living in a farm house
This really helped thank you 🥺💗💗💗
I LOVED THIS!
The visualization section had me scrambling around with discomfort and frustration. Lol
Lotta angst when it comes to having a place to call home, apparently.
Ok So my asthetic is like I named it tomboyy2k so like seen in Tiktok and pinterest its like really revealing now bae IDK revealing I don't like revealing I wear baggy clothes and y2k jewelry I have a cottagecor-ish room I don't wear make up and I am saying tomboy cuz IDK ITS MY VIBE..And I also wear cottage core clothes somewhere but y2k jewelry is a must
Can u tell me how you found your colour? And all those questions??
I love how random this is…the best
loveee this🥰💗
I searched for how to find your aesthetic and when I saw your make up and instantly clicked, didn't even start the video yet.
You are genius. Thank you. 🙏🏻💕
My living room looked completely different than my bedroom lol
that intro was particularly funny
i finally found u again! just a question , did u ever do any kibbe or essence videos?
thank u so much for this.
❤️❤️❤️
Hello please could you send me the list as I couldn't screenshot it, it was only on my screen for a second!
Thanks to this video now I'm sure to be a copy of Morticia Addams
thank you
You look so damn cool
Visualization:
Homey
Peaceful
Relaxed
Pops of Colored Decor
Muted Color Furniture
Slightly Cute
Vintage
merci
Downtown Y2K coquette mcbling
Hi💕💕💕
Hey gal :)
Why was everything in baby blue and white?😂😂
if you get this a lot im sorry but you sound like Amanda Bynes, if I didn't know it was your video id think I was watching a video of Amanda
Generally didn't help especially the whole "asmr"
Hey so i thought the same and realised the only problem with it is that there's barely any time to imagine all the stuff, especially the details that are so important.I think there are guided meditations which help you put yourself into this "dream life" but I just listened to the whole "asmr",played some music and imagined everything the same way but just giving myself more time.Hope this helped,have a nice day:D
@@jessl2039 thank u for the information
brainrot
yummy